The reason nearly everybody has such a hard time with life experience is they resist what they want. Instead of being Positively Focused about life, they focus on everything going wrong.
A client recently had an experience worth sharing. It not only shows how stories create reality, it also shows why people don’t see connections between their thoughts and realities their thoughts create.
Not seeing those connections is why many folks live lives of compromise, of professionally unsatisfying, or lonely or anxiety-ridden, depressing lives. People feel powerless about doing something about such lives. When they do try, they fail.
You might think “my thoughts don’t create my reality”. If you don’t believe thoughts create reality, that thought, “my thoughts don’t create my reality.” creates a reality where it looks like your reality isn’t being created by your thoughts. 😳
That’s why it’s important knowing beliefs create reality. It’s also important knowing how to read the signs telling you what beliefs are creating what reality.
So let’s now turn to our client’s story.
A woman creates while not knowing she’s creating
Selene, who happens to be transgender, came to her session in good spirits. She had a good winter holiday, spent at home with family. The farm where she lives sits on cold, frozen farmland, but inside her home, good cheer, good food and family filled the space and warmed Selene’s heart.
That good cheer extended to her father, mother and sister, all of whom laughed and ate and celebrated. It was a good holiday, which marked a big change in her life. Usually holidays in Selene’s family are not fun.
A couple days before her session, a customer entered the Starbucks where Selene works, ordered a drink, then took off his mask. He started drinking his beverage in the store. That violated Starbucks’ COVID-19 policy.
Selene saw the customer and politely explained to him that, one, he couldn’t remove his mask while in the store and, two, he could not drink his beverage inside.
The man looked Selene up and down, then said “Are you trying to control what I’m doing sir?” in an intentional misgender.
Selene has enough positive story momentum though, so being misgendered didn’t phase her. Then she heard her assistant manager behind her say “Sir, Selene is a woman, not a man. You must leave now.”
As the unruly customer turned to go, Selene added “It’s also illegal to retaliate against workers when they enforce statewide COVID policy.”
Not seeing the connections…until they’re seen
In her session a couple days after this experience, Selene wondered aloud why she experienced this. She thought such an experience wouldn’t happen since she’s been telling positive stories, evidenced by such a good holiday with her family.
Why did this unruly man enter her life? Why did she have such a confrontation, she asked.
I remained silent.
A moment later, Selene started talking about something else, thinking she changed the subject. Little did she know, she was about to answer her own question.
Selene said she read an article on the internet. It described a new law now in effect in her area. It protects workers from retaliation when they enforce COVID-19 policies at work.
I looked at Selene silently. She got my look and smiled. It didn’t need saying, but I said it anyway:
After reading the article, Selene said, she liked the new law. She told me she thought about how cool it would be to have an experience where she could use it.
I looked at Selene silently. She got my look and smiled. It didn’t need saying, but I said it anyway:
“There is no mystery about this experience,” I said. “You were in your positive momentum of the holidays, feeling good, in joy with your family. Then you read this article and felt confidence in the new information. Feeling confident, you declared wanting to use that law. So you created an experience consistent with your declaration: an opportunity to use it.”
It’s obvious once seen
Life always shows how thoughts create reality. Most miss the connections, because they don’t believe that’s what’s happening. So when something happens now, they forget past nows wherein a thought was entertained that creates what’s happening now.
Once you know how to see the clues, they’re obvious.
Here’s the formula using Selene’s example:
- Selene felt wonderful from previous nows with her family. Those previous nows were born of work she’s been doing through her sessions.
- In her wonderful feeling, she attracted a news story specifically about her work as a customer-facing employee. It’s likely Selene had an unexpressed desire to feel more protected at work around COVID and her gender. Thus her life experience revealed this news to her.
- In the revealing, Selene felt better about her work as a customer-facing Starbucks employee. That confidence took it a step further: it had her express a desire for an experience matching that confidence, which would bolster said confidence.
- Then she dropped the whole idea. She thought about it no further. She didn’t share the article. She forgot it until she brought it up in our session.
- In forgetting it and not sharing it, she allowed momentum of her story to grow without any competing stories interfering.
- So, in only a few days, she got exactly the experience she wanted.
It always works this way…or it can
This is how beliefs always create reality. Knowing this, any reality imaginable can be created. The reason many people have a hard time getting anything they want, is because they resist what they want by focusing almost totally on what they don’t want.
They focus on sucky relationships they have or had. They focus on people on the other side of a political divide. They complain about things the government, their spouse, parents or children do. They complain about their boss or their job. The plain old complain. 😂
Such thoughts can’t create happy lives.
If instead people emphasized all the positive things in their lives, things they enjoy about their lives now, their parents now, their spouses now, their job, boss, and children now, their lives would gradually include more of those things.
Having anything is easy when you know how to do it and believe the how. But if you think thoughts aren’t creating reality, then it’s near impossible.
The easy way to have anything wanted: think thoughts that feel good.