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Thank “God” We’re All Eternal. That Makes Life Awesome.

The Creation of Adam by Michelangelo (Public Domain)

This week in the Positively Focused advanced practice group session, clients and I came upon a surprising view of humanity. It gave me a greater level of appreciation that we’re all eternal.

The conversation started with a client’s question about being a foster parent. Often, foster children she takes in come from difficult situations. Some worse than others. The client shared how she encourages these kids to “buck up”. She said she instills a sense of responsibility, of them needing to get up each day and overcome their laziness.

It was an awesome prompt. One that clarified for all of us how humanity perpetuates civilization-wide beliefs. Beliefs that discourage connection with our eternal selves. Beliefs perpetuating the world we see around us.

It’s a miracle humanity thrives the way it does while holding such beliefs. Especially given how unconscious we are of the power of our eternal nature. Without that eternal nature, humanity would have burned out long, long ago.

That’s why I thank “God” we’re all eternal. Of course, we’re all god in human form. So I’m actually thanking you, me and everything else. That includes animals, insects, plants and even “inanimate” matter, all of which is quite conscious and also god in physical form.

We can express our creative powers…now

Our divine natures is what makes humanity thrive. Indeed, it’s so powerful, it creates from the worst of us, the best of us. It creates the very futures later generations enjoy. Which explains why civilization improves generation after generation. Our worst moments, mass shootings or war, for example, are seeds of those futures.

But we don’t need tragedies creating better futures. Better futures can come out of joy too. Humanity still has a way to go to understand this. That’s ok, though because we’re all eternal. We have plenty of time to learn this.

But you and I can enjoy better futures today. We don’t need to wait generations. Nor need we suffer through tragedies. Human experience is recursive. What happens at macro levels, happens in identical ways at micro levels. So we individuals can create improvement for ourselves. Even while those around us struggle.

In doing so, we become shining examples of what’s possible. That’s the altruistic aspect of learning we’re god in human form. By transforming our lives into the Charmed Life, we live as examples for others. Then others, inspired by our example, strive for their Charmed Life.

Because we’re god in human form, we enjoy eternity and invincibility. There’s no doubt about this. Evidence is everywhere. But seeing it requires looking where the evidence is. That’s the conundrum.

Because if we don’t believe we’re eternal, that evidence escapes us. It’s there. We just don’t see it. To see it, we must believe it’s there. That’s because, as gods in human form, our creativity gets expressed in how we think and believe.

We are the “gods” creating life.

We forget…on purpose

When we come to earth, we come from some place. In that place we know our eternal nature. Of course, entering earthly existence requires blanking out that knowing. It also requires blanking out knowledge that earthly existence is as insubstantial as any other created reality. How else are we to take it as serious if we don’t do that? We must feel life on earth as real, all it’s dangers, all its tragedies, to enjoy the purpose of putting ourselves in the experience in the first place. So we forget our eternal status and accept earthly existence as all there is.

We needn’t KEEP forgetting though. Indeed lots of clues exist on earth to remind us what we forgot on purpose. This post, for example, is a clue.

Many enlightened people live alongside us. They offer clues too. Most of those folks aren’t famous. And they don’t push what they know on us. They remind us only when we’re ready.

Most of humanity, however, never gets ready. So they miss the clues. They see those enlightened people…and ignore them. Meanwhile, their insecurity focuses them on believing and doing what they’ve been told to believe and do. What they’ve been told then is what guides people for much of their lives, if not all of it.

Perpetuating the mediocre

The trick of human existence is a lot of us get stuck in the forgetting. Thank god we’re eternal though. That gives us all the time in the world to figure out the trick. Still, getting stuck believing earthly life is all there is becomes practically problematic. It causes us to miss life’s incredible offerings. Instead, we focus on life’s challenges. Doing so, we foster insecurity within us.

Then, as parents, we pass that insecurity on to the next generation. That generation does the same. We pass on bogus beliefs about life. But those beliefs, like all beliefs, create reality consistent with them. So it seems true that we should, for example, work hard. It seems true that we shouldn’t be lazy. It seems true people should earn a living. It’s just a fact that things aren’t free. Some are lucky, but I’m not, we think. There are rich and famous people, but I can’t be one. Etcetera, Etcetera.

Life then becomes mediocre for most of humanity. We enjoy it because that’s our nature. People will adapt to nearly any condition.

But we’re not here to adapt! We’re here to cause reality to adapt to our desires! After all, even when we adapt, that’s what’s happening. We believe “this is the way life is”. That belief creates reality consistent with it. Then we live in that reality, accepting it’s “true” while not knowing we created it. Not knowing life can be different.

In this way we perpetuate mediocre. We teach it to our kids. Then they do the same to their children. Then human civilization gets better, but at a much slower pace than it could.

But we individuals, at any time, can do life differently. We can remember!

What are we perpetuating?

Our purpose here isn’t to eke out a ho-hum life, while numbing ourselves with stimulants and depressives. Each of us is here to create something that’s never been created before. And when we do that, life becomes awesome.

But getting into human earthly existence requires coming through humans who precede us. So when we get here, having forgotten, through other humans who also have forgotten, there’s no one to remind us when we most need it: when we’re most impressionable. Nearly all parents are “bad” parents in this respect.

But how long must we keep believing what we were told? The answer: as long as we refuse to question what we believe. As long as we don’t question, we teach our kids as we were taught. We may offer some improved lessons. But the main ones remain: life is scary. People, especially strangers, are too. You have to earn your worthiness. You must please others. Money doesn’t grow on trees!

They say money doesn’t grow on trees. That’s because those folks don’t believe it does. (Photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash)

Well, yes, money does grow on trees. It does if you believe it does. What does this money aphorism mean? It means money isn’t freely available, right?

Rubbish! Money IS freely available. The world is awash in it! And there are some people getting it with no effort at all. It isn’t luck. It isn’t coincidence. Their beliefs make is so, as Shakespeare once wrote.

We create reality individually and collectively. That’s it. When we learn to see how we do that, we can make money grow on trees. We can fill our lives with love. Life can be a rambunctious adventure. There are no limits!

Getting it means testing it

Christian teaching admonishes us to not test God. Have faith instead, it says. The Positively Focused approach says the opposite. It says “test the hell out of it!”. It says “test your creative powers! Watch how powerful you are. Prove to yourself you stand at the center of the Universe and watch the Universe bend to your commands, because it does!”

In time, evidence from your tests will grow so voluminous, faith isn’t necessary. By testing it, you come to believe it. And when you believe it, you’ve got it. You then step into the world as a newborn. You’re born again. Not in the Christian sense, but in the sense of remembering your eternal nature.

That’s the bliss of the Charmed Life. We live as God in Human form, creating life as we live it. Enjoying and reveling in our creation as the Christian God did. We’re proud and appreciative. And we see others as eternal too. Even as they struggle.

Abraham says we can’t get sick enough to help someone get well. Nor can we get poor enough to help someone get rich. In the same way, we can’t convince others they are god in human form.

But we can show them.

We show them through our joyful example. That example doesn’t come overnight. But as it does, it becomes obvious. And along the way, we’re having fun.

Having fun. That’s life’s purpose.

Still with me? Then come on, let’s have fun together. Become a Positively Focused client and discover your eternal nature. Contact me, let’s get you started.

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What Happens When Life Delivered a Cool Gift

My Advanced clients are so inspiring. Even when they struggle, they create for themselves the Charmed Life. Being Positively Focused Advanced clients, most of them catch when they do this. Still, it can feel like a painful struggle. That’s only because they need more practice. More practice that solidifies their Positively Focused foundations.

An Advanced client today shared a story prompting this post. She’s progressing nicely. Her biggest desire for now is manifesting her lover. But she has many disempowering beliefs in the way. So her path to the lover is really bumpy.

And yet, today she shared a story indicating her progress. Even though she told her story through tears. Now, tears aren’t what people think they are. Tears are manifestations. They represent release of resistance. So crying isn’t a bad thing. Nor is it sad. It’s actually good. It only feels sad because we’re taught that it is sad.

As she told her story, she felt much better. That’s no surprise. Being sad is impossible when one stands in witness to their unfolding Charmed Life.

Here’s the story she told.

A fabulous experience of inner awareness

She’s currently getting to know a guy I’ll call “David”. David has a child from a previous marriage. He and my client, I’ll call “Jill”, were texting. Today is Jill’s birthday and it isn’t a good one according to her. That’s because she perceives herself as alone (she’s not). And she think she’s getting older, which, for her is a terrible thing. It’s terrible because the older she gets, she thinks the less time she has to find and enjoy her lover. In such beliefs, Jill can’t possibly feel happy and optimistic.

Which is why sometimes she’s not happy and optimistic.

Jill didn’t remember the wonderful nature of her sadness. That sadness is telling her something important. As we talked about that, naturally, Jill’s mood improved. Again, a human can’t be sad while standing in appreciation or empowerment, and as we talked that’s where I lead her.

Once getting there, she remembered what happened between her and David. Remembering this story in itself was a manifestation. She wouldn’t have recalled it had her mood not improved. So the story returning to her memory told her something important too. That’s another story though.

David is very busy. Not only does he have a child, he also works a lot. And, this weekend, the weekend of Jill’s birthday, he’s moving. So he’s doubly busy. David asked Jill if he could see a photo of her. She suggested they swap candid shots. So Jill, who was at a coffee drive-through, pulled out of the drive-through. She drove down the road then pulled over. There she snapped a couple pics. Then she sent them to David.

If you believe it long enough it becomes true

As is typical with text apps, Jill saw that David got her pics. Then she saw that familiar three dots at the bottom of the chat indicating that David was writing something. But he never sent that message. Here’s what happened next in Jill’s own words:

“At that moment,” She said. “I knew there were good reasons why he didn’t reply to my pics. But I made up really negative, really bad reasons why he didn’t. Reasons having to do with my appearance.”

“He didn’t like how I looked, I thought,” She said. “He thought I was fat. Or thought I looked too masculine.”

As Jill thought these thoughts, she said, her mood got more and more negative. Before long, she was angry and sad.

“I totally believed what I was thinking,” She said. “I just knew what I was thinking was true.”

Jill’s persistent negative talk has been around a while. So there’s a lot of momentum behind those beliefs. She knew what she was thinking wasn’t necessarily true. And yet, she thought she knew for a fact that they were true. In other words, her reality was confirming her persistent beliefs. After all, she had been in situations like this before. Situations where men ghosted her after she sent a pic.

In those situations, though, she never found out the real reason why they disappeared. So getting no explanation, she made up her own. This she repeated over and over, in situation after situation. Until her explanations became “truth” for her.

Anything we believe will prove true. Believe it long enough and, eventually, we’ll manifest evidence confirming the belief.

Creating deliberately

This is why I advise clients not to look at what’s true. Especially if what’s true isn’t what’s wanted. Instead I encourage them to look towards what they want. That’s because, for most of us, what’s true is inconsistent with our desires. So looking at what’s true causes that which is inconsistent with our desires to persist. Getting what we want, therefore, requires looking where our desires are. That place I call nonphysical.

Perceiving nonphysical is crucial to manifesting what we want. That’s why I spend so much time teaching how to do that in Positively Focused sessions. We can’t see nonphysical with our eyes though. We must learn to “see” it differently. When we do, we have our hands on powerful levers. Levers allowing us to create reality deliberately.

Jill knew what she was doing. Though convinced her beliefs were true, she said she was aware that she was creating a reality she didn’t want. Which is why when David finally did text her, she was not surprised: David had been busy, apologized for his delay and complimented her on her pics.

Jill said this was a powerful lesson for her. “I have to learn to rewire my thoughts so they’re more positive,” She said. I agree.

In every case, the love we want that hasn’t shown up hasn’t because beliefs we hold keep it away. (Photo Photo by Oziel Gómez on Unsplash)

Transforming the future

Being aware of what we’re doing when we’re creating unwanted is another crucial skill. Developing it first requires understanding how reality becomes reality. Then we use our awareness to interrupt that process. Then we learn to direct the process deliberately. That’s what Jill described.

That she knew what she was doing was awesome. That she used that awareness to improve herself was the cool gift the Universe gave her. Had she not had the experience and awareness, the gift would have slipped through her fingers.

We talked about different stories she could tell in place of automatic beliefs activated by habit. We can literally make up any story that feels better. It doesn’t have to be true. It just needs to feel better. In time, it will become true.

  • He lost his phone.
  • Someone stole his phone.
  • The phone got run over.
  • He’s just busy right now.

These four stories feel better than those Jill told herself. The third made Jill laugh. That was a great sign. All of them are not true. Except the last one. Yet they all had Jill feeling better. And that’s the goal.

By practicing this skill on any topic we automatically think negative thoughts about, we transform our future. We make the future compliant with out desires. Do that often enough and we’ll find the future including more of what we want.

What we want therefore becomes a foregone conclusion. They must manifest. That’s just how the Universe works.

Words aren’t as convincing as creating results in your own life that prove this. Maybe you’re ready to do that. Contact meand let’s get you on that path. Life is constantly gifting us. The only question is: are you receiving the gifts?

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A Practical Example Of How Thoughts Create Life Experience

Editors note: Many links in this post connect to my other blog, The Transamorous Network, where I offer Positively Focused material, oriented to the transgender community. This story also describes an experience a Transamorous network client experienced recently. It’s being shared here due to its revelatory nature.

Often clients offer great examples of how our thoughts create our reality. That happened just today (at the time of writing this).

This client’s experience also shows how faithfully our beliefs play out in our behaviors. In the behavior of others too. Even so, these often are invisible to us. Because we can’t see them, we can’t do anything about them. So having them show up in our reality is the best way to figure out what our beliefs are.

“Reality” includes our own behaviors. So in addition to how we feel and what we think, another great way of discovering beliefs creating our reality is by looking at how we act. And how people act toward us.

By doing that, we can deliberately create paths to everything we want, with very little effort on our part. This is the basis from which I work with clients. On the way to getting all they want, clients become empowered. They also become happy. This client is a perfect example.

Let’s take a look at the wonderful experience she offered.

Creating her dating reality as she goes

My client is using the Positively Focused practice to improve her dating life, among other things. Recently she stopped using online dating. I don’t encourage anyone to use online dating. Here’s why.

Besides, it’s just more fun meeting your perfect match through serendipity.

Anyway, the client, who I’ll call Sarah, now has several men she’s seeing. Most of them are casual. And a few of them involve actually going out on dates. That’s great because Sarah, who is transgender, has very strong beliefs about men not being willing to take her out. But because she’s changed those beliefs, men now take her out. Go figure!

One guy I’ll call Cleo, wants to take Sarah out. But he’s scared. He still resists his trans-attraction. So, he’ll text Sarah, telling her he wants to see her. Or text her about taking her out. Sarah likes getting these messages. But it irks her that he won’t followup. She wants him to take her out. He doesn’t though.

I explained to Sarah that Cleo represents a stepping stone along the path to the relationship she ultimately wants and will have. I also said the more she focuses on positive aspects of what Cleo offers, the more she becomes a match to that relationship she ultimately wants.

Sarah’s working on this. Some days she’s better than others. But what happened in today’s session was instructive. First some more context.

A relationship to beat all relationships

Sarah loves a man she really wants to be with. She and this guy, I’ll call Paul, have talked on and off for years. Paul really likes Sarah. But he too fears his trans-attraction. Yet he keeps coming back to Sarah. Sarah really wants to be with Paul. I assure her constantly she can be with Paul and will be. Once she becomes fully a match to him and vice versa.

But beliefs Sarah keeps active about relationships, about Paul and about herself keep her from becoming a match. I am working with Sarah to identify and soothe these beliefs.

One belief she has is, if she told Paul about her dating experiences, Paul will get angry at her and cut her off. Even though Paul has consistently told Sarah she should date other people. I told Sarah she should share what she does with these other men. Not to manipulate Paul, but, instead to authentically express what she’s doing. Which is something Paul already encouraged her to do. Paul would appreciate knowing she took his advice, I said. 

So Sarah really wants to be with Paul. Paul likes Sarah a lot and wants that too. But both keep beliefs active that keep the two apart. And Sarah won’t communicate authentically with Paul because she’s afraid she’ll lose him.

Ok, that’s the context. Now, back to Cleo. Keep in mind what you just read. See if you can put the pieces together about beliefs and how they created the reality you’re about to read before I explain it in the section after this next one.

Perfect manifestation played in real time

One day Cleo texted her. He complained that a lot of older cis-women were coming on to him. He said he had lots of opportunity to fuck these women. But he didn’t know what he wanted to do. Sarah told him he should enjoy these women. He should have sex with them, she said, if he wants to and thinks he will enjoy it.

The more a person can enjoy life, the more life will yield to them what they want. That’s the general rule of the Positively Focused approach. So I applauded Sarah for telling Cleo this. It’s also spot-on guidance.

A couple days later, Cleo texted Sarah. He shared news that he did actually follow Sarah’s advice. He said he had a great time doing it. Remember, Sarah encouraged Cleo to have sex with these women.

Here’s what happened next, in Sarah’s own words:

“After he told me,” she said. “I got mad. Then I picked a big, giant fight with him. He got really angry with me. Then he stopped talking to me.”

Can you see what happened here? It’s a perfect manifestation of Sarah’s beliefs about Paul and her playing out, in real time, in her behavior, and Cleo’s!

The evidence: plain as day

Sarah is playing out her belief about being authentic with Paul, with Cleo. Here Cleo is, doing what I suggest Sarah could do with Paul. Cleo is telling Sarah authentically what’s happening in his life. Notice how Sarah first responds to his authentic sharing. She’s empathetic. She offers really good advice: do what pleases you.

But then, when Cleo takes Sarah’s advice, Sarah gets pissed. We could replace Cleo with Sarah in this example, and Sarah with Paul. Doing that, we can see how Sarah is creating a reality revealing her beliefs about Paul and her. They’re playing out in perfect view for all to see.

If I tell Paul what I’m doing with these other men, he’ll get mad and stop talking with me. That’s Sarah’s belief about her relationship with Paul. And that belief has Sarah feeling fear. Even so, when Cleo does what Sarah’s afraid to do with Paul, at first, Sarah is compassionate. She offers great advice. But when he follows it, Sarah gets mad and picks a fight – exactly what she’s afraid Paul will do if she shares authentically what she’s up to.

What’s interesting though is the combination of realities playing out. At first Sarah is interested and compassionate. This tells Sarah that Paul would be interested and compassionate should she communicate authentically to him. But her fear dominates her behavior as a manifestation. So she gets mad at Cleo after first being interested and compassionate. That tells her she will match a version of Paul who equally gets mad. Unless she changes her beliefs.

The evidence here is as plain as day. It’s playing itself out in Sarah’s reality. Both in Cleo’s actions and her behavior too.

Power and leverage unveiled

This is the kind of thing we uncover in Positively Focused sessions. It’s the gold daily life contains about everything we want to know. Everything that will get us all the love we want. Or all the money we want. Or whatever else we want. Definitely all the happiness we can handle. And then some.

As we can see, physical reality is very sophisticated. The uninitiated have a hard time figuring all this out. That’s because we have a literal constellation of beliefs creating our ongoing, unfolding reality. A reality that includes behaviors of others. Others we create as specific versions for ourselves. As well as our own behaviors. Behaviors we’re often blind to.

All of this gives us clues about our inner-understanding. Our inner world constantly projects outward. It creates our realities all day, every day. Which is why a Positively Focused practice offers so much value. Through the practice, clients learn how to read the clues.

Just because we can’t see all this doesn’t mean it’s not happening. It is happening. And when a person starts seeing life through this lens, they come into incredible power and leverage. Power and leverage allowing one to deliberately create any reality they want. Including one in which anyone can enjoy anything they want.

Maybe you’re ready to get your hands on that power and leverage. Send me a note. Let’s get you started.

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How The Hidden Power Of Words Destroys The Daring Life

Photo by Glen Carrie on Unsplash

Not long ago, a client offered an excellent metaphor. They were curious about something we talked about in our session. Curiosity is a great place to be. Curiosity will take one very close to the Charmed Life I write about.

Fascination is better. So is amazement. But those emotions naturally show up as clients create more and more evidence. More and more evidence validating everything I tell them in their Positively Focused sessions. Before they know it, the evidence piles up so high, they find themselves in fascination and amazement. Fascination and amazement turn to wonder not long after that. That’s because when one realizes they are worthy of all they desire, and they see those desires happening, wonder becomes the lens through which they experience life.

But I digress. Let’s get back to that client’s metaphor. It’s really instructive.

Clarity in a metaphor

Here’s what they wrote:

“Just want to make sure I understood…if we think of the barrier between conscious and subconscious as the surface of the ocean with the air being conscious thought and water being subconscious thought, then these little doubts and fears that briefly surface in the conscious mind are like icebergs, with the little bit on top one perceives and the huge mass of it (i.e., the momentum) still lurking below, even after one thinks they got a handle on it. Is this a more-or-less apt metaphor?”

The ice berg metaphor gets used often in describing consciousness. Same goes for oceans. So my client’s metaphor was unsurprising. The metaphor itself is mostly accurate.

But we humans over exaggerate what’s going on in life. We also bring that tendency to examining nonphysical, which “consciousness” is. Often, when we do over exaggerate, we do so in a negative direction. In other words, we catastrophize life.

Language often contributes to the catastrophization. Language is powerful. Words we choose literally shape our experience. You’ll see what I mean by taking a deeper look at my client’s metaphor.

Limits put on the limitless

The words “conscious” and “subconscious”, taken together, offer an example of how language can limit experience. When people use these words, they create two things out of something that actually is one thing. It seems there’s a “conscious” part of us. It’s that part of our awareness we’re aware of it. We’re conscious of it. Then there’s the “subconscious” part. We’re aware we have it. But we apparently can’t consciously access it.

So there’s a part of us we can access. And there’s a part we can’t. Between those two, apparently, a barrier exists. Our consciousness cannot pierce that barrier, which is what keeps the “sub” in subconscious.

The words we use have great power. They literally create our limits. (Photo by Glen Carrie on Unsplash)

But there is no actual separation between what people call “conscious” and “subconscious”. There is no barrier between the two. And there really isn’t even “two”. What does exist is our ability perceive all of what’s there, or not. Inability to perceive doesn’t necessarily mean a barrier blocks our ability to perceive. Inability to perceive only means we can’t perceive. We’re not able to. That’s not the same as “cannot”.

In Positively Focused sessions, clients learn to reunite their “conscious” and “subconscious”. Again, they were never separate to begin with. But our beliefs impose a division that’s not there. In doing so those beliefs limit what’s possible.

In our sessions, clients gradually realize everything is possible. Self-imposed limitations relax then. When that happens, one’s human awareness allows more and more, deeper, conscious awareness. This is why a Positively Focused practice includes dreamwork. We train our awareness to expand through to deeper levels of that awareness.

The results are profound.

Making life more serious than it is

Of course, expanding, deepening awareness takes place in physical too. It’s what causes clients to become more bold about life. We become more daring. More authentic. Which is something our Broader Perspective wants. Because of that, we feel a tremendous sense of adventure about life. Adventure and joy, pleasure and fun richly colors our life.

Self-imposed limits can block deeper self-awareness. After all, something existing in the “subconscious” implies we can’t access it. But nothing exists beyond our access. If we can ask the question, we can know the answer. That opens profound implications for self-awareness.

The other interesting thing about my client’s metaphor is it introduces drama and ominousness to the affair. That “huge mass” lurking beyond our perceptions stands ready to upend our plans. And we can’t access it so what do we do?

The reality is, nothing like that is happening. Seriousness, drama, and dire consequences are human constructs. Nothing “serious” happens in our lives. Even when it looks like it is, that’s our interpretation. And any interpretation can change. That’s what clients learn. And when they do, their life gets way better.

That’s why I use “Belief Constellation” instead of common metaphors explaining consciousness. For, as with constellations in the sky, our consciousness and everything in it is all visible…if we’re willing to connect the dots between feelings and thoughts, then other thoughts connected to that, and then other thoughts connected to that, then other thoughts connected…etc. Nothing is hidden from us. It’s all available to see, revel in, then create more of what we want.

But enjoying that means learning how to do it deliberately and consciously. Including how we speak about our experience.

Want to know more? Let’s talk.

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Why We Are Here: A Great Hidden Gift

Why are we here?

Many people ask this question at some point in their life. But the correct answer lies beyond most people’s understanding. For most people, as Jack Nicholson said in A Few Good Men, “… can’t handle the truth!” 🤣 It’s just too beyond most people’s understanding.

We come into physical reality as humans as a great gift to All That Is. And to ourselves. Even if we don’t understand the reason why, we still get the magnificent gift.

No, it’s not heaven.

We come here, because the very act of coming is literally Universal expansion. It literally is All That Is focusing itself into becoming more of all that is. I know I’m using the word “literally” often in this paragraph. But it literally cannot be stated anymore clearly: our individual human experience is the process by which All That Is becomes more.

Universal expansion, therefore, occurs through the billions of consciousnesses here on Earth. Earth and elsewhere. So not only do humans contribute to it, but every instance of existence does too, whether humans believe that existence is sentient or not. That’s rocks. That’s water. Even air. It’s bacteria. It’s everything.

The best experience of this process happens when an instance of conscious adds to expansion while being consciously aware of its doing that. For in that sacred, glorious act, life becomes delicious. Which explains why animals don’t struggle or toil. They live in Joy.

And so can we.

It’s the Charmed Life

Even the word “delicious“ cannot adequately convey how satisfying that awareness is. But the Positively Focused practice creates this awareness. This awareness, produces the Charmed Life I write about. It starts with satisfying people’s desires. Satisfied desires form the basis of the Charmed Life.

But eventually, focus expands to include bolder initiatives. Initiatives leading to the bliss expressed above. Bliss born of an awareness that one is god in human form.

The Charmed Life is us living as All That Is. Meanwhile, our nonphysical cadre animates all we experience. It maintains our physical bodies, and, one by one, fulfills our desires. Desires which flow easily into our awareness. All in perfect timing.

The Charmed Life becomes ours when we’re aware of our purpose and living from there.

Even those words above don’t capture life’s fullness and delight. But as we continue being Positively Focused, our experience shows us what these words cannot describe.

That experience encourages bolder exploration. We want to see how far we can take this. There are no limits. That’s what makes the Universe unlimited too.

The impossible made possible

So physical life experience is All That Is expanding. Each of us are instances of All That Is participating in its expansion. The complete fullness can’t happen though. That’s because we are all eternal. We’re constantly becoming more. And there’s always more to become. We live, therefore, in perpetual incompletion. That too is a gift.

I can attest to gratification expanding awareness offers. It is this satisfaction that emboldens me. That’s why I pursue things people believe impossible. Only they are not impossible. They only seen that way from limited perspective. From broader awareness, however, everything is possible.

Sound amazing? I think so too! But knowing so is even more amazing!

Realizing that amazingness is part of Universal expansion. So extending one’s ambitions into the realm of the “impossible” represents understanding life’s great hidden gift. It also adds new into the Universe. Something All That Is constantly reaches for.

Because the new usually feels impossible. Until it is done.

The wonder of conscious participation

Our participation is a given. The only option is this: are we participating consciously? My clients are on their way to conscious participation.

I’d love to include you among us.

We come into this world for divine purposes. Universal expansion is the reason we’re here. Our participation is the nature of the Universe. Conscious realization of that has no peer. Extreme satisfaction, delight, and joy results from that. It is the Charmed Life I write about.

Experience it yourself. Contact me. Let’s get started.

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Why Negative Manifestations Offer The Best Gift

Last week I wrote about a Positively Focused advanced client. I shared her experience with a negative thought, one she worried would turn into a negative manifestation.

Because she’s an advanced practitioner, however, she understood something important. She understood her dominant positive focus would overwhelm any negative thoughts passing through her awareness.

That’s a really good place to be. A very empowering place too. From there, it’s easy to see the practical value of “negative” thoughts. They can amplify one’s positive momentum. If used correctly.

They also offer another important value. Those that turn into manifestations, give us information we really want. They tell us what is dominantly vibrating within us. I explained this in the previous post. That makes all “negative” manifestations actually positive ones.

And that means anything happening in our lives is positive. Either we’re getting what we want (positive manifestation) or we’re getting feedback on how to get what we want (“negative” manifestation). It’s an important distinction. Something every advanced client learns.

Using “negative” manifestation

Instead of “negative”, Abraham often calls these manifestations “unwanted”. But even that word lays negative value on such experiences. It’s instead important to see such manifestations as “wanted”. Without them, how do we know what’s going on in our vibration?

One way is to become sensitive enough to feel vibration. That takes practice. Developing that sensitivity is a hallmark of a Positively Focused practice. Two other ways help us understand what our vibration is too. One is how we feel. The other is what shows up, or doesn’t yet, in our lives.

Once we take the “negative” value judgement off of these manifestations, we can start playing with them. We can use them to see how consistent the Universe really is. Realizing that consistency can bolster our confidence and belief in the Universe. It can prove that we are blessed. That the Universe has our back and is literally at our command.

I enjoyed an experience recently proving this. It reminded me exactly what I wrote above: that the Universe responds to my thoughts. And the more consistently I think them, the more likely I will experience the content of them.

The experience involved a game I played. I did it kind of unconsciously. I knew what I was doing, but didn’t feel the need to really do anything about it. Wanting to see how it would play out, I let the experience unfold. Right up to the “unwanted/wanted” manifestation.

Here’s what happened:

You get what you think about wanted or not

I take long walks every day pretty much. Over the last several months, I had the thought of hitting my watch against a railing as I walked. I saw myself in my mind grazing my watch on an overpass guard rail, the safety rail along the Steel Bridge walkway, or posts along the waterfront. The thought, when it first came, wasn’t accompanied by any worry. In fact I just let the thought happen.

Then, however, that thought kept coming into my awareness. It wasn’t accompanied by any worry or concern, nor any strong interest in it happening. But there was a “wondering” if the crystal on my watch (it’s an Apple Watch) would scratch if I did graze it.

Well, one day, after about three months of entertaining this thought again and again, I was walking across an overpass and, sure enough, I got really close to the guard rail. When I did, I scraped my watch against the galvanized stanchion. Right on the edge of the watch face.

The second it happened I said “I did that!” because I HAD as a manifestation! I remembered how, over and over, I thought that thought about scraping my watch. And sure enough, it happened! Here’s a picture of the damage:

The blemish on my Apple Watch.

The Universe DOES respond to my thoughts

What’s really interesting is the mark I made was mostly cosmetic. I was able to get most of it off with a buff board. There’s still a blemish, but it doesn’t feel like a scratch when I rub my fingernail against it. It’s barely noticeable. But it does catch my attention. Why? Because I built up a lot of momentum over this manifestation over the past three months. How? By thinking I was going to create this.

Recently, I’ve been getting an impulse to go to the Apple Store. I think that’s because they may be able to get this blemish out. But the blemish is kind of cool. It reminds me that I do create my reality with my thoughts. Everything in my experience shows up because of what’s happening inside me. So I see this blemish as a cool reminder that the Universe does, indeed, respond to my thoughts.

The moral of this story is: a passing negative thought isn’t something to worry about. Especially if we already enjoy consistent positive momentum. “Worrying” about the thought manifesting will amplify it. As does thinking the thought repeatedly. But it will take some weeks or even months of focus (deliberate or otherwise) before the subject becomes reality. So we always have lots of time to adjust our thoughts.

If such a manifestation does happen though, it’s a nice reminder showing us where our reality comes from: The deep recesses of our being. Vibration, in other words.

Want to know more or are interested in the Positively Focused practice? Contact me.

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When A Great Actress Nails A Life Truth

Viola Davis is a diva. Her performances across a host of movies and television dramas make her one of the most under appreciated actresses of our time.

Which is why she surprised me on an Hot Ones episode I recently came across. Now, her appearance wasn’t surprising. What did surprise me was what she said at the end. Her final words were deep. Furthermore, they struck at the heart of our path as gods in human form.

In case you, like me, didn’t know, Hot Ones is a YouTube phenomena. The show features the typical celebrity interview format, but with a twist. Celebrities during the show feast on the spiciest chicken wings on the planet. Most celebrities can’t keep to their PR scripts when their lips and assholes are burning off. So Hot Ones interviews often are surprising, and because of that, enjoyable. I write “most” because Davis handled her wings like a champ.

While watching her devour those spicy nuggets, a common refrain showed itself in the comment section. A lot comments noted Davis’ words at show’s end. Rather than jump to the end, I watched the whole thing. It was inspiring, of course. Obviously, others thought so too:

Above: Commenters raving about what Davis said at the end.

Clarity begets success

What’s interesting is what she did share reflects the common to us all. She lays it out with such grace and power, making it hard to ignore. Perhaps that’s why her words touched so many.

And this is the thing. Davis’ success isn’t attributable to talent alone. Primarily, like all success, Davis enjoys her’s as a result of knowing who she really is. Then living from that place. Watching the interview, it’s clear she lives authentically. That’s the purpose of the Positively Focused practice: having people live joyfully from their authenticity as gods in human form.

So in a few sentences, Davis sums up the Positively Focused process. Therefore, dear reader, if you’re having trouble accepting what we talk about here, maybe take it from this diva. Here she is, speaking truth. We set the video up to start right where she begins sharing her wisdom.

Davis the diva laying down truth.

Clarity is a powerful thing. When a person understands what they really are, they can create anything they want in life. That includes fame as an actress. But first, one must release the penchant to compromise who we are in favor of others’ expectations. She calls that “becoming our ideal selves”.

Listen close to her words

We agree. And perhaps that’s why her closing statement impacted so many people in the comments. Everyone comes “…born into a world where we don’t fit in.” We then “…answer the call to adventure…” that is our daily life. Meanwhile, a “deep voice” within us tells us EXACTLY who we are. Living the Charmed Life happens when we “…have the courage to [be] that.”

I love the power and intensity with which she says all this. It’s definitely worth listening to many times. Some commenters agreed:

Everything Davis says I share with clients weekly, custom-tailored to their life specifics. I don’t use the word “courage” however. That implies risk and threat. But there is no risk or threat in living authentically. It’s all upside. Which my clients find out in a little while.

And guess what? As they do, they discover exactly what you just read. That’s because life IS all upside when lived authentically.

Maybe you’re ready to do that, but don’t know where to start. Of course, I can help. Contact me and let’s get started.

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A Practical Guide On How To Be A Shapeshifter

Photo by Mark Tegethoff on Unsplash

Most people don’t believe shapeshifting is possible. For such people, shapeshifting is impossible. Others want to believe shapeshifting is possible. Or they believe it is possible, but they don’t believe they can do it.

Our reality reflects back to us what we believe is possible. So becoming a shapeshifter requires introducing that idea into our reality. Reality springs from beliefs. So introducing the idea begins first with introducing it in ourselves as a belief. We must believe it’s possible, in other words. That’s one thing. Believing we can do it? That’s another.

Anything we believe possible becomes so. Shapeshifting is no different. But becoming a shapeshifter isn’t easy. That’s mostly because such a feat depends on strong belief. It also requires unraveling many other beliefs. Beliefs seemingly tangential to the subject, but very much connected to it.

Becoming a shapeshifter then is possible. But for most, it’s not. Not because it’s impossible. But because people can’t get beyond beliefs making it appear impossible. For those willing to change their beliefs though…

What it takes

So first, we must cultivate belief. Belief it’s possible. Then we must believe we can do it. From there, we must unpack related beliefs. One of many such beliefs is the belief in death.

Most people fear death. Even some who claim they don’t, do. Take awakening experiences as an example. Such experiences scare the shit out of most people. Me included at one time. Awakening experiences feel exactly like death. That’s because our consciousness expands in such experiences. The same thing happens at death. Consciousness expands beyond ordinary awareness.

Brains can’t process such expansionary experiences. And since they are pre-wired for keeping us in this reality, they freak out when confronted with alternate ones. That “freak out” is what I mean by “fear of death”.

In other words, if we freak out in the face of an alternate reality, we automatically snap back into this one. That won’t work when shapeshifting. Because the very act requires expansion. Including a very real, physical expansion. As well as an expansion into a bigger picture of All That Is.

Successfully shapeshifting also depends on our identity. We must disentangle our identity with camouflage reality. Camouflage reality is the physical-ness of our surroundings, including our body. As humans, we mesmerize ourselves. We convince ourselves physical reality is “real”. We do the same with our bodies. Our bodies are us, we tell ourselves.

That’s a problem. Because if we believe that, shapeshifting feels like death. It feels so much like that, such an act becomes impossible. If our body were to begin “shifting” that experience would be too frightening to an identity strongly tied to what we currently look like. So we must disconnect our identity from our body. So that our body can reorganize itself along our intent.

It takes a while

Shapeshifting therefore, isn’t about learning to do it. It’s about undoing beliefs making it undoable. Very strong momentum and collective belief perpetuates our deepest fears. Same goes for our strongest beliefs. Some such beliefs are so strong, we don’t realize we have them. Shapeshifting requires discovering these, then unpacking them. That process happens gradually. One by one, we soothe them. Until they no longer impede our intent.

This takes a while. A shortcut doesn’t exist. Along the way though, we come into fantastic realizations and abilities. The Charmed Life becomes our life. More of what we desire becomes ours. So the path is one of riches.

Shapeshifting is possible. It must not be seen as a destination or goal, however. Instead, it’s just another step along the way. The way towards realizing more of what we really are. That path is unending. So shapeshifting is a great indicator of progress. We must have accomplished quite a lot to manifest such an outcome.

Such an outcome is well within our grasp, however. I feel myself getting there. I feel my body wanting to show me. The more I do what I’ve outlined, the more in tune I become.

Because of that, I’m eager. But I’m also patient. Because I see evidence of the unfolding.

I’ll share more as I progress.

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Why We Want To Be Born As Human

We are literally aware-ized energy. We are everywhere always, all at once. Each of us flows endlessly forward, creating new realities as we go, then putting ourselves into them to explore them. All this action happens as a way of understanding all we are.

We never can do that though. We can’t ever know what we fully are. That’s because we constantly create more dimensions and realities. Every time we take an action, that action spawns new dimensional branches. Those branches are us. So we never fully understand what we are because we’re constantly creating more of ourselves.

Our ability to create is exactly the same power ascribed to god. That’s why I claim we all are god in human form. “Creation” happens through action, through our selves as aware-ized energy, aware-ized action. We can’t help but create. We do it unconsciously, automatically.

Where the fun comes in though, is when we do it on purpose.

Deliberate creation

The way we harness and use our creative energy purposefully is through our focus. Direction of attention channels that which we are, towards deliberate outcomes. Again, we create automatically. And we’re unconscious of that creation while in a body. So focusing our attention increases our awareness of what we are. After all, if I focus on creating something, then that thing happens, it confirms that I am everything I’ve described so far.

This is the wonderful value of deliberate creation. When a person realizes they create their reality, they get a lot more than that created outcome. They also support conscious expansion, that “knowing what we fully are”. Consciously becoming aware that we create reality is a divine act. It is aligned with the entire purpose of physical planes.

Not only does creating deliberately create conscious awareness of what we are, it also is a skill critical to existing in nonphysical. In that place, beyond time and space, our creations occur spontaneously. Anything we desire instantly appears. Without focus then, existence in nonphysical is highly chaotic. Things appear and disappear at incredible rates. Knowing how to focus changes all that.

We use physical reality, therefore, to practice focus. This explains why things sometimes take a while to manifest in physical reality. That’s on purpose. Physical reality is built on inherent resistance. Inherent resistance prevents instant manifestation. Time and space is a great place to practice therefore.

Learning then expanding

Earth appears as full of random events. But nothing happening here is coincidental or random. It all happens on purpose.

Human consciousness is vastly outnumbered here. That should be obvious. Birds, bees and plants are all conscious. So are rocks and soil. Bacteria and viruses too. They all have their own conscious intelligence. All these consciousnesses hold focus. They maintain “reality”. Doing so, they provide stable platforms for exploration. Here, human consciousness can become more. How? By learning to focus. Then learning to use that focus to create deliberately.

“Earth” is the gestalt consciousness. It is made up of all the consciousnesses “living” on it. “Human” is a gestalt consciousness too. It rides on top of billions of consciousnesses. Intelligence existing within the cells, organs, flesh and bones of our bodies contributes to human consciousness. The gestalt we all individually are.

We leave those consciousnesses behind when we’re done here. At death we return to where we came. But we’re more by then. We’ve expanded. We remember all we accomplished. And we revel in our individual awareness, now, as a part of All That Is. All That Is is the gestalt consciousness Christians call “God”.

Human consciousness is a beautiful unfolding. It is not the end state though. It is a process. A process of becoming. One that can be full of terror and fear. Or one filled with joy and amazement borne of becoming a deliberate creator. My clients are discovering the latter.

Perhaps you’re ready to discover it too?

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Birth Sucks Worse Than Death. Here’s Why.

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Imagine we’re existing in an eternal state. We’re everything, everywhere, all at once. Here, whatever we want happens, instantly. So we’re deliberate about our focus. Because our focus instantly creates that which we focus on.

We exist in bliss. Those around us do too. We experience a full sense of our immortality, our oneness, and yet maintain our individuality. Our past and our futures stretch out before us, available to us all at once. Infinite dimensions unfold from our consciousness too. We are gods becoming more.

Then, we decide we want to take this existence thing up a notch. We want to expand our consciousness. We want to become more than what we are. Looking for somewhere to do that, we notice beings of immense capability springing forth from this time-space reality, in a corner of All That Is, centered in a dimension known by its inhabitants as “Earth”. We decide then, that we want what those springing from that dimension have. So we focus ourselves to join them.

Being born is no laughing matter

Generally speaking, what I wrote above describes “life” prior to Earthly existence. Everyone on the planet starts as an infinite being of immense capability. A capability possessing tremendous capacity for more. Recognizing that, we choose earthy existence as a way of becoming more.

But getting here is not easy. Not only is it not easy, it’s highly traumatic.

Think about it. You start as an infinite being. You exist in an eternal state, totally aware and enlightened. Then you push yourself through your focus into fragments. Fragments capable of existing in a state of confinement unlike anything you knew before, aka human form.

It’s illusory, but you must convince yourself it is real. So in pushing yourself there, you forget everything you knew before you arrived. At first, your arrival is an approximation of your home. It’s comforting, warm, love-filled. But soon you’re thrust into three dimensional time and space through birth. Then, the first thing you immediately recognize is mortality.You’re instantly insecure. You’re tiny, with your existence dependent on these larger beings surrounding you. Strangers all, in a strange world. Beings who you perceive as an emotional mix. You pick up their hopes and fears, insecurities, worries, wonder and doubt. Often their behaviors don’t match their words…They claim to love, but often act unloving.

In nonphysical such obfuscation doesn’t exist. There, you’re instantly aware what others think and how they be. It’s pure transparency. But here, on Earth, your cognition is greatly diminished. It causes anxiety in you. Right alongside that fear born of insecurity. You’re mortal now. Human.

Welcome to life.

Is it any wonder we all cry when we take our first breath?

A common refrain

I remember many times as a child, looking to the night sky begging to return “home”. I sensed I didn’t belong here. The pain I felt was terrific. My certainty clear. I knew I came from somewhere far better than this earthly plane. And I wanted to go back.

Every one of my advance clients recalls similar childhood experiences. They recall emotional pain, depression, a yearning for where they came from, even though they couldn’t fully remember that place. Several remember thinking about killing themselves as a way of “going back.”

Those of us with a predisposition for spiritual realization retain faint memories of our origin. The forgetting doesn’t take. The memory of where we came from leaks through. And the bliss of that experience calls to us like a siren.

The good news of all this is those memories can be realized, in full, to the degree possible while in a body. Being fully aware of all we are AND being human is the best of both worlds.

Having such an experience is easier for some than others. The process of remembering not only returns us to that blissful awareness, it also makes clear why we chose to come here. It transforms earthly experience, in other words, into what we knew it could be when we chose to come here.

For we knew earthly existence would be joyful, highly immersive, expansion-inducing and full of opportunities to grow. With our awareness restored and expanded, we can then focus deliberately on realizing everything earthly existence offers. And we can do that with joy.

Death, a joyful return

Most people fear death because they don’t remember a time before their birth. For many, the “sacred forgetting” holds completely. So they believe death brings annihilation. Not liberation. They fear what they don’t remember. And that fear colors all their decisions while human.

Death actually brings a release of our earthly focus. We return to that eternal state, the state that is our original expanded consciousness. It’s why religions describe life after death as “heaven”. Of course we retain awareness of our earthly experience. But we’re renewed. We have expanded. We become more than we were before. So death is a gloriousexperience. A triumph, far less traumatic than birth.

Both processes can be joyful experiences. In absolute reality they are exactly that. They are book ends of a mystical experience. An experience cloaked in mortality, all the while being nothing more than a really, really vivid dream. One where we create all our experience with eagerness and joy.

As a child, I had only glimmerings of what I now remember. Back then, I forgot that I wanted to come. Now looking at the world with new eyes, I see how I knew this experience offered fantastic opportunity. My clients are beginning to see the same thing.

And in that awareness, I’m also seeing how my death, when it comes, will be the grand finale. The ultimate test of my growth. And my return to all that I am.

Death is nothing compared to the shock of birth. It needn’t be feared. It’s to be eagerly anticipated, while enjoying every moment of life until then.