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How To Joyfully Get What You Want

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The reason it takes so long for what we want to become what we have, is because we want what we want. That sounds crazy, I know. But when a person becomes positively focused, they realize wanting what they want becomes the biggest impediment to getting it.

That’s because wanting what one wants focuses a person on the desire to have the thing. I know that sounds like the most obvious thing to do. The problem is, wanting something puts attention on the fact that it’s not there.

That is why one wants something after all – or at least one reason – one doesn’t have it, right? But one wants it.

But when a person thinks they are wanting what they want, what they’re actually doing is putting attention on the fact that they don’t have it.

An important thing to consider when doing this “you create your reality” business is, one doesn’t get what one wants, one gets what one focuses on, or puts their attention on. So it’s really important knowing where one puts one’s attention.

Yearning burning desire sucks.

Most of us think when we feel strong desire, that desire tells us we want what we desire. Often, desire feels like “yearning“. Sometimes people will say “I want X so bad!”

The problem with wanting something so bad, or yearning for it, is that strong desire or yearning tells the person their attention is in the wrong place.

And when one’s attention is in the wrong place, they can’t get what they want.

This is why people work hard to get what they want. They have split energy. They want what they want, but they don’t get “wanting” works against them.

Another reason people must work hard is resistance. But we can throw “wanting” into the “resistance“ bucket. It acts just like resistance.

How it can work

Getting what one wants requires focusing on what it feels like to get what one wants. That sounds super crazy, doesn’t it? Isn’t focusing on what one wants focusing on what one wants? If not, what does it feel like to want what one wants?

It feels like having what one wants. Creating the reality where one has what they want, requires creating the incipient reality from which the wanted emerges.

Do that and evidence of what is wanted reveals itself.

In the following video I give a detailed description of how this all works. It is one of the core elements of the “magic“ of deliberate creation.

Only it’s not magic. It’s just how life works when one is positively focused.

20 minutes of wisdom…

Life can be fun. It can be easy. Life can be full of experiences where one witnesses their desires fulfilling themselves. That’s how life is supposed to be. For in the self fulfillment of desires one realizes one’s worthiness. That worthiness feels like self-appreciation, self-love, deservedness.

It feels like the universe has you at the center of it and it’s showering you with everything you desire.

And, of course, that’s exactly what’s going on.

When one discovers the Charmed Life of living positively focused, life becomes joyful, easy and fun.

That’s how everyone on the planet today knew life would be like before they came here.

The question is: is yours?

The Little Things Lead To Great Big Things

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I know my big desires are on their way because, more and more, I see little, surprising things happen which tell my being Positively Focused works.

For example, I lounged languidly on my couch this evening while enjoying a book and listening to classical music via my Bluetooth headphones. Engrossed in the book and enjoying the music felt wonderful, peaceful and rewarding.

A desire to shower earlier than usual came to me. It was an impulse, something I talk about all the time with my clients. When a person gets an impulse, the best thing to do is follow it immediately. Learning to do this takes a while, but once one understands why, and does it, the benefits are huge.

I felt this impulse grow over about five minutes. Its growing intensity indicated something special ready for me, a delight formed by my Personal Trinity, flowing, ready for my discovery.

I texted my housemates. Usually I shower around 9:30 in the evening. Showering earlier might disrupt my housemates’ plans. I didn’t want to do that. They both gave the all clear. One of them planned a bath later. She thanked me for letting her know.

Positively Focused makes the blind see

Note the synchronicity – the little indication of perfect timing – in me, wanting to shower early, my housemate wanting to bathe later.

But then came the next little sign.

As I prepared, my headphones’ low battery indicator chimed. They had 10 percent of their charge remaining. That was the second sign. Following my impulse had me take a shower just as my headphones needed charging, which meant, my headphones could charge fully while I showered.

My Personal Trinity leads me through my impulses to manifestations happening all the time. Seeing the small ones allows bigger ones to be visible by me.

I know this sounds inconsequential, but I also know it’s highly consequential. Little things like this happen all day, every day. People think “thoughts create reality” is bunk because they don’t know how to see the little things happening all day, every day proving that thoughts do indeed, create reality.

They can’t see these little things because believing “thoughts don’t create reality” blinds the believer. They can’t see such signs because they don’t believe they exist.

Some people who stand with one foot in “thoughts create reality” and the other in “thoughts don’t create reality” can see signs, but they write them off as coincidence, or chance or “confirmation bias”. I wrote about this phenomena – called split energy – in detail here.

Either way, both groups miss out.

Miss out on what?

I know paying attention to impulses, immediately acknowledging them, recognizing the co-incidence of the impulse and the result, and celebrating that, primes my awareness to seeing other signs. What signs?

Signs indicating my bigger desires are also being real-ized by me. The more I appreciate these little things, by writing and sharing blog posts about them, the more quickly those bigger things flow into my life.

Your bigger desires are fulfilling themselves. The question is, are you tuned to seeing them doing that? If you’re Positively Focused you are. Photo by Skyler King on Unsplash

It’s hard focusing one’s big desires into reality, especially if the desire-er wants something they don’t believe is possible. It’s easier starting with seeing little indicators and celebrating them. Over time, confidence grows.

Then, before one knows it, evidence of ALL their desires show themselves, turning a person’s ordinary life into a Charmed Life.

Not celebrating the little things, the person misses out not only on those, but also the joyous, fun, easy unfolding of the big things they want.

I’m not that kind of person though. That’s why I’m Positively Focused.

The Love Life Shows Me Every Day

This is a positively focused series called “journal entries” for when I experience something I write about in my journal I think others might benefit from reading. This is a continuation of that series.

From my journal – Thursday, Apr. 15, 2021

I love being on my freedom adventure

I love finding what I like, attending to it, then watching it reveal itself to me. I like soothing resistance so what I like reveals more of itself to me. I like pointing out what I want, seeing Universe shape to that, then seeing that show itself to me.

I like when it happens in dreams. I like when it happens in wake state. When it happens in wake state I like it even more. Wake state realization feels great. Dream state feels best though. I know that’s because little resistance happens when I’m there, but I also know I can enjoy dream state feelings in wake state to the degree I soothe my resistance….particularly resistance I have about resistance.

Life affirms me and my desires

I like so many things showing themselves to me. I appreciate appreciating that. Seeing those things tells me I’m succeeding at lowering my resistance. That feels good knowing that.

But it’s even better-feeling seeing results of lowered resistance. In lower resistance I see what I want, happen.

That’s affirming.

My life is affirmed. Love Universe has for me is affirmed. My deservedness is affirmed. My worthiness is affirmed. My divinity is affirmed. I am affirmed.

My life: eternally more

And in all that affirmation, I know, for certain, I create my reality.

There’s always more to know, there’s always more joy to come, there’s always more to appreciate. More is my eternal life, always moving into more. Always seeing fruits of my desires showing themselves to me.

And so I relax in my now, increasingly clear. There is no rush. There is no pressure. There are no deadlines. All is well. Life is good.

And so am I.

How To Create Reality Easily Matching Any Desire

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The reason nearly everybody has such a hard time with life experience is they resist what they want. Instead of being Positively Focused about life, they focus on everything going wrong.

A client recently had an experience worth sharing. It not only shows how stories create reality, it also shows why people don’t see connections between their thoughts and realities their thoughts create.

Not seeing those connections is why many folks live lives of compromise, of professionally unsatisfying, or lonely or anxiety-ridden, depressing lives. People feel powerless about doing something about such lives. When they do try, they fail.

You might think “my thoughts don’t create my reality”. If you don’t believe thoughts create reality, that thought, “my thoughts don’t create my reality.” creates a reality where it looks like your reality isn’t being created by your thoughts. 😳

That’s why it’s important knowing beliefs create reality. It’s also important knowing how to read the signs telling you what beliefs are creating what reality.

So let’s now turn to our client’s story.

A woman creates while not knowing she’s creating

Selene, who happens to be transgender, came to her session in good spirits. She had a good winter holiday, spent at home with family. The farm where she lives sits on cold, frozen farmland, but inside her home, good cheer, good food and family filled the space and warmed Selene’s heart.

That good cheer extended to her father, mother and sister, all of whom laughed and ate and celebrated. It was a good holiday, which marked a big change in her life. Usually holidays in Selene’s family are not fun.

A couple days before her session, a customer entered the Starbucks where Selene works, ordered a drink, then took off his mask. He started drinking his beverage in the store. That violated Starbucks’ COVID-19 policy.

Thoughts create reality wherever you are, even in a coffee shop. (Photo by Vaishnav Chogale on Unsplash)

Selene saw the customer and politely explained to him that, one, he couldn’t remove his mask while in the store and, two, he could not drink his beverage inside.

The man looked Selene up and down, then said “Are you trying to control what I’m doing sir?” in an intentional misgender.

Selene has enough positive story momentum though, so being misgendered didn’t phase her. Then she heard her assistant manager behind her say “Sir, Selene is a woman, not a man. You must leave now.”

As the unruly customer turned to go, Selene added “It’s also illegal to retaliate against workers when they enforce statewide COVID policy.”

Not seeing the connections…until they’re seen

In her session a couple days after this experience, Selene wondered aloud why she experienced this. She thought such an experience wouldn’t happen since she’s been telling positive stories, evidenced by such a good holiday with her family.

Why did this unruly man enter her life? Why did she have such a confrontation, she asked.

I remained silent.

A moment later, Selene started talking about something else, thinking she changed the subject. Little did she know, she was about to answer her own question.

Selene said she read an article on the internet. It described a new law now in effect in her area. It protects workers from retaliation when they enforce COVID-19 policies at work.

I looked at Selene silently. She got my look and smiled. It didn’t need saying, but I said it anyway:

After reading the article, Selene said, she liked the new law. She told me she thought about how cool it would be to have an experience where she could use it.

I looked at Selene silently. She got my look and smiled. It didn’t need saying, but I said it anyway:

“There is no mystery about this experience,” I said. “You were in your positive momentum of the holidays, feeling good, in joy with your family. Then you read this article and felt confidence in the new information. Feeling confident, you declared wanting to use that law. So you created an experience consistent with your declaration: an opportunity to use it.”

It’s obvious once seen

Life always shows how thoughts create reality. Most miss the connections, because they don’t believe that’s what’s happening. So when something happens now, they forget past nows wherein a thought was entertained that creates what’s happening now.

Once you know how to see the clues, they’re obvious.

Here’s the formula using Selene’s example:

  • Selene felt wonderful from previous nows with her family. Those previous nows were born of work she’s been doing through her sessions.
  • In her wonderful feeling, she attracted a news story specifically about her work as a customer-facing employee. It’s likely Selene had an unexpressed desire to feel more protected at work around COVID and her gender. Thus her life experience revealed this news to her.
  • In the revealing, Selene felt better about her work as a customer-facing Starbucks employee. That confidence took it a step further: it had her express a desire for an experience matching that confidence, which would bolster said confidence.
  • Then she dropped the whole idea. She thought about it no further. She didn’t share the article. She forgot it until she brought it up in our session.
  • In forgetting it and not sharing it, she allowed momentum of her story to grow without any competing stories interfering.
  • So, in only a few days, she got exactly the experience she wanted.

It always works this way…or it can

How thoughts create reality.

This is how beliefs always create reality. Knowing this, any reality imaginable can be created. The reason many people have a hard time getting anything they want, is because they resist what they want by focusing almost totally on what they don’t want.

They focus on sucky relationships they have or had. They focus on people on the other side of a political divide. They complain about things the government, their spouse, parents or children do. They complain about their boss or their job. The plain old complain. 😂

Such thoughts can’t create happy lives.

If instead people emphasized all the positive things in their lives, things they enjoy about their lives now, their parents now, their spouses now, their job, boss, and children now, their lives would gradually include more of those things.

Having anything is easy when you know how to do it and believe the how. But if you think thoughts aren’t creating reality, then it’s near impossible.

The easy way to have anything wanted: think thoughts that feel good.

I Love Living With My Head In The Clouds

I awoke in bliss. I’m laying here in my bed feeling wonderful. I just finished the practice I advise my clients do each moment they have an opportunity to amplify vibrational momentum.

I came out of dreams, reveled in their detail, beauty, and meaning, then reveled in the wonderful feeling I feel being aware of my dreamscape, how expansively loving and custom curated dreamscape experience is.

Next, I focused on my feelings. I amplified those feelings by riffing off of how good they feel when I feel them. In doing so, the feelings amplified themselves. Now I’m floating in the clouds. There I see cool things. Like this.

I love when nature bares her beauty to me.

Living in the clouds signifies strong connection with All That Is. I love feeling this. I love knowing this. I know also when I do this and feel this I set the “tone” for the day. My day reflects the Charmed Life I’m living.

It also makes feeling this way more accessible next time. Before long it’s my dominant being state.

I love knowing all of this.

Life Amazes When You’re Positively Focused In The Now

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I love it when universe shows me that I am the center of it all, and that it has all its eyes on me. I love it too when being Positively Focused produces for me the Charmed Life I guarantee my clients get. What happened this morning is a perfect example of how that looks.

The following seems incredible. But it is what happens when one chronically connects with one’s Broader Perspective, then lives from that perspective, rather than from the limited human perspective.

The incredible becomes every day

This morning, as with every morning, I focused myself into a highly Positively Focused place. I love starting the day this way because when I do so, the rest of the day matches that focus level.

It was no surprise then that one of my clients, Holly, reached out to me right after I came out of my morning practice. The exchange we had was wonderful.

Holly had been facing old belief constellations triggering fear in her emotional Being. We talked about these feelings over the weekend, through which she gained ground on these old beliefs. She felt better after we talked.

So this morning Holly did what I encourage most of my clients do: she found a better feeling place through focusing on thoughts. She felt so good about what she found, she shared it with me.

My client sharing her wonderful awareness.

I love interacting with my clients. I love it when we interact with one another between sessions, because then we both can relish and revel in manifestations happening ongoingly in each others lives.

By reveling in ongoing manifestations, we create the upward spiral of benefit that results from the revelation.

In other words, the more my clients and I appreciate manifestations we see, the more manifestations we will see. And the more manifestations we will see, the more manifestations we will want to see.

And if we keep reveling in manifestations as they occur, it is not very long before we begin experiencing the Charmed Life I guarantee.

The Charmed Life shows up in real time

What Holly shared with me was striking, wonderful and yet expected. After all, I guarantee results produced from Positively Focused sessions. So Holly’s result was no more surprising than any other client results. It’s just what happens.

What happen next though, not only proved that, it also was so delightful it not only prompted delight on my part and Holly’s part, but also prompted this blog post.

I’m getting ahead of myself 😄

Back to this wonderful manifestation: So I immediately wrote back to Holly, feeling the same mirth and joy she felt:

My responses and her loving my response as I loved hers. Everything happening perfectly.

Of course, Holly reveled in my response of reveling in her sharing. Can you see the upward spiral beginning?

Then this happened

Next Holly shared something that took this awesome experience we both shared to a whole new level. She related a conversation she had with a friend of hers, who also happens to be a Positively Focused client:

A Client raves to Holly about her experience with being my client 🤣

When she shared this, I got the impulse to check my calendar. I checked it and noticed that a potential client, “Scott” had scheduled a free one-on-one session for this afternoon. Then I got the impulse to suggest to Holly that she share Taylore’s experience with Scott who Holly knows.

Since I received an “impulse“ to do that, I didn’t care whether or not she follow through on the suggestion. Here’s what she wrote in response nonetheless:

Holly considers my impulse.

Meanwhile, I wrote an introductory text to Scott thanking him for setting up a free session and confirming our time this afternoon. The exchange was quite extraordinary, given the context of my conversation with my current client, Holly:

Welcoming my newest client and the extraordinary response he made given my ongoing conversation with my current client. This allowed Holly to share Taylore’s comment with him in person before our free 1:1 session.

What was happening?

Holly and I were seeing in real time the massive coordination occurring in non-physical reality. Here was my Broader Perspective, Holly’s Broader Perspective, Taylore’s Broader Perspective, and my potential new client’s Broader Perspective all coordinating in real time a series of events that delighted both Holly and I. It was an awesome demonstration of how the universe works.

So I wrote back to Holly and shared what Scott said. Of course we both laughed at the unfolding manifestation.

Scott’s request to reschedule enabled Holly to share Taylore’s experience with him.

And of course, since I encourage my clients to revel in manifestations, and since I’m not a hypocrite, I wanted to revel in this unfolding manifestation too. I knew if Holly also reveled in it, we would collectively amplify the revelation.

Me doing the work, and my client doing the same.

And of course, my new potential client Scott, appreciated the unfolding as well, even though he had no idea what was going on on the other side of the exchange.

The universe is always delivering to us everything we are wanting in real time. The only thing keeping that stream from being realized by us are thoughts and beliefs standing in the way of allowing that stream.

What thoughts and beliefs? You may be thinking them now. They sound like:

  • This is all coincidental
  • This is confirmation bias happening
  • This is just luck
  • This doesn’t happen all the time
  • This is nothing, if this works, why aren’t you rich?

All of these responses are thoughts and beliefs that will prevent you from seeing these delicious events as they are: the Universe responding to your command.

I love learning to soothe beliefs standing in the way of me seeing how I’m the center of the Universe. I also love showing my clients how to do the same.

Doing so we discover fabulous lives unfolding right before our eyes. Lives consistent with the Charmed Life I guarantee from being Positively Focused.

How To Make Your Sorrows Into Joy – Now

It doesn’t take long to turn sorrow, tears and anguish into joy, elation and happiness. A little time being Positively Focused will do it. For some, it happens in an instant. Especially with a little assistance.

But if a person doesn’t understand why they feel sadness – or any other unwanted emotion – changing moods is near impossible. That’s why so many are depressed, chronically anxious and using prescription medicines such as Prozac to mask their emotional states.

That’s too bad because emotional states say something worth knowing, if one knows what to do with such feelings. Such feelings lead to Charmed Lives when used for what they’re there for.

What are emotions for?

Ask yourself: what are emotions for? If you think they’re just there so you can know how you’re feeling, or how certain events or people are “making” you feel, then you’re way off.

There’s way more value to them than that.

We have emotions because they tell us moment-by-moment where we are relative to our greater knowing. When a person learns that, then practices using their emotions for that purpose, their life becomes a Charmed Life, guaranteed. Desires, even long-held ones, fulfill themselves.

Before they know it, a person finds happiness around every corner. That’s the promise at Positively Focused. What’s cool is, such happiness can happen instantly, even when a person is in misery.

Taylore, one of my newest clients shows how it’s done in this video. In just a few moments, while thinking about the exact same subject, she goes from feeling tear-filled, sad and miserable to being happy, free and empowered.

All emotions are positive because they tell us important things. But unwanted emotions, such as feeling powerless, don’t have to be in our lives. Still, it’s hard going from powerless to joy and love when powerlessness is one’s dominant emotional state. It’s easier getting to “worry” or “disappointment”, as Taylore does here…just before she leaps through to joy.

Anyone can do this

There’s nothing magical to enjoying magical lives. All that’s needed: perspectives which spawn magical lives right out of whatever life a person has. Only such lives aren’t magical. They are what life promises everyone.

So why doesn’t everyone have such experiences? Well, they are, only their negative beliefs stand between that glorious experience and the magical experience that is their natural life. Only it’s not magic.

A thrilling adventure is what everyone expected before they were born. Why on earth would anyone want to come to miserable lives for 80 years or more? No one, originally.

But many people suffer needlessly because they deny opportunities offered to them constantly that opens doors to thrilling adventure, freedom, happiness and joy.

All it takes is a person willing to be Positively Focused despite whatever is happening in their now. In time, they’ll see life shape to that positive focus. Then, before they know it, they are living proof of what I claim: that people are gods in human form, creating their lives moment by moment.

Turning your life into a Charmed Life is easy…(Drawing by the author)

It started with a story

Taylore’s epiphany started with an experience with her son I didn’t let her share with me. I had no interest hearing her sob story because I’m Positively Focused. Instead, I spoke over her tears, following my Broader Perspective which focused on stories she told herself about what she looked at about her son.

Her stories were what were causing her emotion, not her son. I knew if she changed her stories, she’d experience an amazing lesson. And guess what?

That’s what happened.

Every person’s life reflects back to them stories they are telling themselves. Every story will become “true” if told often enough. So why not tell only positive stories?

Because people don’t know they create reality through their stories. So they tell stories about “what is” constantly, rather than what they want to see.

I’ll believe it when I see it

That’s a trap. If you wait for the world to show you your dreams, in order to believe your dreams are possible, you’re going wait for a long, long time. Instead, choose your dreams over reality. See them, and the world will show you they’re worth believing because the world will include them, fully fulfilled.

That can only happen when you’re Positively Focused.

How Long Before My Life Gets Better?

I’ve added yet another running series “Q/A” to my Positively Focused blog. It’s…well…about answering questions I get through the internets and sharing those answers with others as they may help others feel inspired and more connected to the God they are.

Question: How many days does it take to manifest something like a better life?

Short answer: it depends.

An objective reality doesn’t exist. So it’s not possible to answer such a question with a specific number of days and expect that to be “the average number of days“ or “ the least amount of days” that would be accurate for everybody.

The only reality that exists is the one perceivable by the perceiver. In other words, physical reality is a 100 percent subjective experience. The same is true when creating. 

So the number of days it takes to manifest something like a better life depends on the person’s subjective experience, their constellation of beliefs, which includes how much they doubt or believe what it is they’re trying to create.

If a person has a lot of doubts or resistance about what they’re trying to create, it’s gonna take much longer than if they have pure focus on what it is they’re wanting and they believe what they’re wanting is possible.

Also, it depends on what it is one wants. If somebody wants to create something they believe is easy, which is the same thing as saying something they have no resistance about, it can manifest in a few hours. But most people don’t have such pure focus on topics they consider to be “serious“ or things they really, really want such as “a better life”.

So, the number of days it takes depends on the desire, and how much resistance someone is holding about the desire. It can take a few hours, or it can never happen.

The good news is, evidence it’s happening is immediate, if you know where to see it. And in seeing the evidence, one gets encouraged. Encouragement speeds up the process, so before you know it, your life IS better.

How To Enjoy The One Thing That Overcomes Split Energy

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A common experience among newer Positively Focused clients is “split energy”. Here’s why resolving split energy is not only important, it can be a joyful process and create a life worth loving.

But first, let’s look at what split energy is, why it happens and why so many people don’t know about split energy and thus struggle with it.

What is split energy?

Split energy happens when belief and desire conflict with one another. It can also happen when a person stands in two conflicting belief constellations.

For example, some of my clients want to believe the idea that “you create your reality” leads to a heaven-on-earth life. But beliefs such as “there is an objective reality beyond human control” conflict with that.

Another example: many people want lives where money isn’t an issue, or where they have lots of money. At the same time though, they believe “money doesn’t grow on trees” or “the only way I can get income is through a job”, or “debt is just a fact of life”. These beliefs conflict with a life where money is plentiful. The conflict creates split energy, which feels like confusion, anxiety, uncertainty, or feeling emotionally stuck.

My mentor adds an awesome perspective:

Continuing to tell stories of shortage only continues to contradict your desire for abundance, and you cannot have it both ways: You cannot focus upon unwanted and receive wanted. You cannot focus upon stories about money that make you feel uncomfortable and allow into your experience what makes you feel comfortable. A different story will bring different results: My thoughts are the basis for the attraction of all things that I consider to be good, which includes enough money, and health, for my comfort and joy.

– Abraham

To summarize: Split energy happens when a person wants something, but doesn’t believe it is possible. Or when past beliefs conflict with a desire.

Split energy means having a foot in beliefs that conflict with other beliefs or desires. Split energy often feels like confusion, uncertainty and anxiety. (Photo by Sherise VD on Unsplash)

Why it’s a struggle

Many people struggle with split energy while not knowing they’re struggling, which is why split energy is a struggle. They think negative emotions indicating split energy – confusion, feeling uncertain, anxiety, insecurity – are just parts of life.

But life is supposed to be fun, easy and filled with self-fulfilling desires. Actually, that’s what’s happening all the time, even for someone with split energy.

A person with split energy, however, creates over and over, realities containing and reflecting back to them the combination of their split energy. That’s why nothing seems to change for the person, or why things change, but often stay the same or get worse.

In other words, life SUCKS when split energy dominates. 🙄

It’s more common than you think

Many popular communities generate split energy situations among their members. Religions are a major culprit. Religions as sometimes practiced, contradict beliefs that are normal, wholesome and good. But some people in these organizations create split energy when their natural, normal, wholesome desires contradict religious doctrine.

For example, a person who finds transgender women attractive, but who also is Christian or Jewish might struggle with religious beliefs contradicting their desires. Their religious upbringing keeps them feeling unworthy, fearful, in shame, and in self reproach because religious teachings do not allow or agree that certain desires are natural, normal, wholesome and good.

You are god in a human body

Another example: it’s very difficult for a Christian or a Jew, for example, to believe they are God in a human body creating reality as they move through life. Creating reality is God’s job, religions say. Many also claim a HUGE gap exists between “being human” and “God”. So human thinking they’re God borders on blasphemy!

It’s also difficult for some Christians to accept that they can fulfill all their desires themselves, especially desires Christianity tells them are sinful or bad or will send them to hell.

A major source of split energy are religions combined with an authentic self at odds with religious doctrine. (Photo by Dejan Livančić on Unsplash)

I know some people practicing religious-inspired beliefs do not have that experience. So I’m not saying that religion is bad across-the-board. If you are a believer, a Christian or a Jew, or whatever, and you’re happy, then enjoy your happy life. 😌

People do come to me though from these communities seeking what I offer: freedom from struggle, emotional and physical pain, anguish sometimes and even fear and hopelessness born of split energy generated from their desires conflicting with their religious beliefs.

Clients brought up in religion literally have one foot in their religious beliefs, and another foot testing the waters of something they know holds promise. They want to be Positively Focused.

But their old beliefs, their dominant, practiced ways of being, learned through their religion, conflict with what they feel: that they are an eternal, enlightened, God in human form.

Other split energy sources

Religion isn’t the only source that can create split energy. Beliefs adopted from one’s parents or one’s culture often contradict the Positively Focused approach, or what some of my clients affectionately call the “perrydigm” 😌.

One of my client’s parents, for example, raised her to believe a woman must serve her family to the exclusion of her own desires. She is a powerful woman and is embracing her Positively Focused approach with relish. As a result she is moving quickly through soothing these old beliefs, as these text conversations illustrate.

And yet she finds it fascinating how much her old beliefs cause resistance in her which feels like a “struggle” to her. Her old beliefs tell her being Positively Focused and serving her own selfish desires is bad and wrong. When in fact there’s no better way to be than Positively Focused and selfishly pursuing one’s desires.

Why selfishness is good

Putting both feet in the Positively Focused camp results in maximum connection to one’s Broader Perspective. It is that maximum connection that allows all that one desires effortlessly into one’s life.

It creates joyful, exuberant lives, as Positively Focused people see their lives shaping to new beliefs, morphing from the old beliefs and creating Charmed Lives.

Charmed Lives lead to self love. And when one loves oneself, it is simple, easy, and joyful loving others. Being selfish you become the most generous person anyone knows, because you see others as reflections of yourself, which they are.

Integrating one’s beliefs so that they all reflect a Positively Focused perspective creates wonderful epiphanies, seemingly amazing coincidences. Clear indisputable manifestations are so convincing, they are undeniable. And in that undeniability one releases resistance born of bogus beliefs.

Joyful non-resistance

Releasing resistance, the Positively Focused person uncovers natural joy. That joy is godliness, the God in human form everyone is.

So, the more one stands with both feet in the Positively Focused camp, the more Charmed their life becomes. All my clients experience this to one degree or another.

While the “perrydigm” is a cute play on my name and what I offer, my client’s desire, however weak or strong, moves the Universe in their favor. Not me.

The Universe stands ready to deliver to anyone life consistent with their godliness, their worthiness, their natural connection joyful being.

Everyone experiences joyful lives. Bogus beliefs mask that experience. Split energy results. Cleaning that up starts from a clear desire for joy. The rest happens automatically.

Life Can Work So That It’s Easy

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Frustration sometimes happens when I think I’m not getting what I want. It’s frustrating only because I’m thinking a bogus belief: that I’m not getting what I want.

But that’s now how reality is created. I create reality by my attention, not by what I want. So to get what I want, I must put my attention on that.

Or, I can focus attention on what it feels like having what I want – even when I don’t have it – and by putting attention there, gradually tune my thoughts and beliefs to what I want. Doing that, I see what I want coming easily.

Proof tells me it’s working

Many things already happened proving this works. More clients showing up, publishing deals happening, money coming into my life without me having to do anything to get it, and, most important, I feel extremely happy.

A couple people ask: “well if this works so well, how come you’re not a millionaire?

The answer is: I’m not in a hurry. Fine tuning my life, my way of being and my beliefs so that money flows in that quantity is happening. But life isn’t magic. I can’t create around my own beliefs.

The only reason I’m not a millionaire yet is because I’m not quite a full-blown match to that. But I’m getting there.

How do I know? I see evidence everywhere. What evidence? I’m not as frustrated and impatient about that as I was in the past; as I said, money is flowing to me in awesome ways; I already received impulses (which I acted upon) that position me to have that reality and I see those becoming more and more valuable every week.

So I AM a multi-millionaire. One that is gradually coming into reality from my future. Good stuff! 😃

Moving through to love, joy fun

I love knowing that, because knowing that I can feel the (self) love, joy and fun of living in the now, while seeing evidence of my millions coming to me.

People suffer from frustration, impatience and sometimes even anger over not getting what they want all the time. The way out is recognizing what those emotions say, then doing something about it.

Do that, and (self) love, joy, fun, happiness – everything we’re wanting – comes easily. And when I’m a match to love, joy fun and happiness, then everything I want must come too.

That’s how life works.