There’s a great future just beyond our perception. And it’s coming through humanity’s anger, fear and insecurity. In fact, the more angry and insecure people get, the more power and impetus they add to the future coming.
But realizing that future requires some human beings turning their attention away from what’s making us angry and fearful. It doesn’t matter who and it really doesn’t matter if it’s a small group of people or just one. The more who do turn away from what angers or fears us, the more impetus grows.
Jesus talked about turning the other cheek. “Turn the other cheek” means literally turning our attention from what we don’t want, to what we want. Instead of looking at that thing we prefer not having and complaining about it, the phrase urges we stop looking at that and turn our attention to what we want.
Do that and in time we will have what we want instead of what we have now. It works for individuals and it works for civilizations.
Anger and fear keep us in place
Certainly the phrase “what you resist, persists” sounds familiar. Instead of turning the other cheek a lot of us keep what we don’t have by resisting it. And that’s why so much anger, fear and insecurity crowd public sentiment. In other words, a lot of people keep their cheeks turned towards things making them angry, afraid and insecure. So their future and our collective future, keeps turning into more of what we have: more that angers us and makes us afraid.
While we all know what we’d prefer, we also, mostly, keep looking at what we don’t prefer. That’s why Republicans are so angry, so much so some revert to violence thinking that will solve their angst. It’s why many progressives stand in despair as conservatives gain greater control over the nation’s political levers.
But so long as both sides keep looking at and amplifying what they revile, they’ll keep getting more of that.
The way out is through
Meanwhile, the world containing more of what we want, exists. The road to that world, the way out, is not one we walk. We can’t drive it. Nor can we see it. The way out comes through mental action. The mental action is turning the other cheek.
“What resists, persists” works both ways. That means if we look at aspects in today’s world that we appreciate, in time, we’ll see more of that. And, in not too long, that world will emerge full-blown, right from the world in which we live.
That’s right. That world we want, the new world, doesn’t lie in the future. It lies right here in our current world. It’s the Charmed Life amplified across massive numbers of people. And it starts with just one who decides the Positively Focused life is preferable to the status quo.
The microcosm reflects the macrocosm
This explains why I write this blog. The more who adopt the Positively Focused Charmed Life, the closer we get to allowing that great future into our life experience. Again, it doesn’t take many. And the few who take it on receive ample rewards. After all, the Charmed Life includes getting everything one wants with little effort. My own life convinces me of this and so do my clients’ lives.
Readers may know the Universe is a fractal phenomena. Every aspect of the Universe is contained faithfully in every particle of the Universe. So when one person experiences consistently the Charmed Life, that experience must eventually become everyone’s experience.
But only those who want it.
That’s why no matter how great the future gets, there may be those who don’t experience it. We all benefit from absolute freedom after all. That includes freedom to choose lives of pain, anger and insecurity.
I want to experience Charmed Live experiences as often as possible. I want as many who want to experience that to experience it as well. Introducing people to the potential inspires this blog.
So will you create your own Charmed Life and in doing so help create the future we want? My experience says not better life exists. So I encourage you to do it. Then watch your world become a small version of the great future coming.
When I’m looking at something that displeases me, I don’t feel good. When I don’t feel good that is telling me something I want to know. It tells me I’m not aligned with what’s true for me, what I want to be.
When I realign with what I want, I feel better. And doing that brings enormous power. That’s because I came here to show myself that I alone create my experience. It’s a powerful thing knowing that. Because when I stand in that, the world looks different. That difference is empowering.
Empowerment is the pinnacle of emotions because there, I see and experience an agency not available when I’m not there. I see things unfolding according to what I want. Seeing that, I feel even more empowered, more confident. Confidence amplifies empowerment which increases momentum of unseen forces. Those unseen forces are what some people call “luck” or “good fortune”.
Our birthright is our truth
But such words water down those forces because those words convey a lack of control. Luck comes randomly and good fortune is something seen as bestowed to a few.
But everyone enjoys benefits bestowed by unseen forces. Indeed they are our birthright. And when I line up with them, what I want unfolds naturally. So I stand in my truth, that knowing I came equipped with at birth.
Everyone comes into the world equipped with their truth. Trading that true truth in favor of other truths happens so often though, staying true to one’s truth is rare. That’s why people living their truth stand out. They look crazy or foolish. Or focused on childish things.
Until they accomplish something that stands out as much as they did. I like a recent message contained in an email from Abraham. It sums it up nicely:
Law of Attraction let’s everything be. If humans took this to heart, especially some Christians, the world could be less contentious than it is. They’d also enjoy the Charmed Life I talk about all the time on this blog.
Since I can’t choose for another what their truth is, it’s better for me to stand happily in my truths. That feels good to me. And when I feel good, I tend to let others be. That’s an interesting contrast to what we’re seeing in America today. Isn’t it?
It’s amazing how fast things will manifest in resistance’s absence. And on manifestations where very little resistance exists, things wanted happen in a matter of days. Like this cool manifestation I created this past spring.
Manifestations can happen in an instant. For most of us though, manifesting something we want hardly ever happens. And for things we really, really want, manifestation never happens. That’s why so few believe “manifesting” things is “a thing”.
The reason manifesting hardly ever happens or never happens for most people is because of resistance. Resistance can look like many things. Usually, resistance gets created when a person thinks they’re thinking about what they’re wanting to manifest. But instead, they’re thinking about the absence of that. So when what they want doesn’t happen, they think manifestation isn’t working.
It’s working, though. In this case, the person is manifesting what they’re focusing on, which is the absence of what they want. So they get what they focus on, not what they want: the absence of the wanted thing.
That’s why so many think manifesting things doesn’t work. They don’t know what they’re doing.
But with a few months practice, anyone can create the Charmed Life, the life wherein everything someone wants, happens in such obvious ways, “you create your reality” becomes more than a New Age saying. It literally becomes daily life.
Personal experience abounds
My own life reveals how accurate this is. Yes, things I really want I see more evidence of. I write every week about how things I want manifest. One day a reader said “you always write about little things happening” implying that the little things aren’t that big of a deal.
But they are a big deal. Manifesting little things is really important. Through those little things, I’ve gained confidence. I see tons of wonderful manifestations happening. Because of that, my awareness has expanded to allow me to be able to see evidence of those bigger things most people want – money, relationships, etc. – happening too.
Not only am I feeling more confident they’re happening, others express seeing evidence of them unfolding too in my life and theirs as a result of being my client. So all this evidence soothes disbelief I have about bigger things bing possible.
In the meantime, I use little things that happen near instantly, or in a few days, to build my appreciation of my own Charmed Life. When I do that, I feel lighter and more in love about life.
This all means those little things aren’t little anymore. They represent big indicators of the bigger things coming and they prepare me for them too. For that reason, I celebrate when little things happen. Which is exactly what I did as winter turned to spring earlier this year.
Something lost means something bigger coming
One day in late May I rode my bike to my local Safeway. May where I live brings cool mornings and more temperate afternoons. It’s shirt sleeve riding weather after say 3 p.m. But before that, at least for me, it’s jacket, gloves and a winter cap riding conditions.
On this day I wore all three. At Safeway, I locked my bike, got my groceries, then headed back to my bike. By the time I finished shopping, the weather turned warm. So instead of putting on my winter riding gloves, which are windproof, waterproof and warm, I put on my summer gloves which decidedly are not.
Little did I realize I left my winter riding gloves in the shopping cart. With gloves on my hands, I didn’t think to check the cart. I got on my bike and pedaled away.
It wasn’t until days later that I discovered what happened. They were my favorite riding gloves. I had them for three years. They cost me $50. Though disappointed, I didn’t let my carelessness totally bum me out. Instead, I knew the fact that I left them behind meant someone else needed them more than me. I also realized Universe was bringing me a replacement.
That’s exactly what happened
As May turned to June, the weather dramatically improved. Indeed, on the week in question, the weather promised its first above 80 degree day. On sunny days I love riding to the beach to bask on hot sands while writing a blog or reading. This was going to be my first day to do that this year. So that was my plan.
I loaded my bike with all my gear and headed out for the beach. Not four blocks from where I live, on the way to my lovely spot, an amazing thing happened.
Once I crossed a main street, a postal truck stopped in my path. I slowed behind and waited, then it turned left down a side road. When it turned I saw these two black things in the road. As I got closer to them, they came into view. It was these bad boys just lying in the middle of the road.
Showers Pass is a top-of-the line winter and rain biking brand. I already own a riding jacket made by the same brand and I love it. Imagine seeing these in the middle of the road. I picked them up and tried them on. Of course, they fit perfectly!
As I said, I paid $50 for those gloves I lost. These cost a bit more and feel way better on my hands.
The rest of my ride to the spot I rode on my own little cloud nine. Rather than riding all the way to the beach, I stopped at a little lake filled with ducks, turtle and nutria. It was the perfect, private quiet spot for me to revel in this wonderful replacement.
A perfect recipe
I knew rendezvousing with these gloves was the response to my Positively Focused attitude about giving up my older ones. The minute I recognized them as gloves, I just knew what was happening. That’s why I felt so amazing when it happened.
How this happened matched perfectly the recipe for manifesting something one wants. First, I didn’t stew on the fact that I lost something. Instead, I knew that somehow, some way, something better would replace what left my life. I also appreciated that whoever now had my old gloves would enjoy them and, needed them more than me.
Then I pretty much forgot that I left them behind altogether. That allowed my Broader Perspective to go to work coordinating something better to flow in to my life. Because I wasn’t stewing, I had no resistance around having “lost” my old gloves. In other words, instead of focusing on what I don’t want (losing my gloves), I focused on what I wanted (knowing something better was coming).
And that’s what happened.
This seems like a small thing, not really worth talking about. But it’s important to know these little experiences, recognize them and amplify them. That’s because these little things will build within me trust and belief that if these little things can happen, the bigger, more wonderful manifestations are happening too, which is true.
They’re only taking longer because I harbor more resistance (disbelief, for example) about those than about these smaller things. But with each smaller thing that manifests, I gain more belief in the bigger things. And at some point, each increment of more belief, must add up to enough belief to overcome the disbelief. Then the bigger thing I want, will pop into my life experience.
It must, because that’s how this “manifesting business” works!
Question: How do you know a person never dies? Is the soul really eternal? How can you prove this?
This question leads to a kind of Unified Theory of Eternal Life. What a worthy and considerable question!
Why is it worthy? Because a person’s “soul”, All That Is and the Universe want the person to know they’re eternal. They also want them knowing each person creates their reality as they live life. Only then can one live an authentic life.
That’s because if a person fears death, or what happens after death, life gets colored by that fear. Many people fear death. That fear generates much anxiety. And anxiety blocks authentic living.
While seeking proof will reveal proof, such proof doesn’t exist in “objective” form. That’s because life (even “after-life”) is 100 percent subjective. So proof reveals itself only in life’s subjectivity. In other words, only you can prove it to yourself. And when you do, evidence you find will come through intimate, personal experience.
Being subjective, such experience won’t convince others. Therefore, proving it definitively to others won’t work. All the evidence is first-person experiential.
First things first
Physical life experience – particularly the external-seeming, objective aspects – are projections of the soul’s experience onto itself. So the being experiencing physical life experiences an experience of self projected into the awareness of itself. That projection looks and feels as an apparent “objective” reality.
Why does it appear that way?
So the experiencer can experience “more” of itself as well as fulfill “intentions” central to who and what “self” is. So seeing proof of an eternal soul first requires knowing what you just read. That information gives context to proof you’ll find. The proof, in other words, will look like life experiences. Those experiences will “prove” convincing.
You also need lots of patience. Proof rarely comes in a flash. And when it does, it is often missed or it’s bewildering or incomprehensible. Like a barely remembered dream in the morning, if you don’t know how to recall it, or replicate it, you can’t hold onto it.
But with patience, the gradual, unhurried nature of All That Is will reveal everything (anything really) you’re wanting to know.
Making proof visible instead of impossible
Next tip: you’re surrounded by evidence of your eternal nature. You just can’t see it right now. Seeing the proof necessitates orienting your perception so evidence shows up in your perception. Instead of perception showing you the absence of the evidence. The absence of evidence is what you see when you think you’re mortal. Which is why people think death is real.
“Orienting” your perception doesn’t mean “doing something” in physical reality. Instead, it means “allowing yourself to realize” what you want to know. “Doing something” and “allowing yourself to realize” represent two distinct things.
Bear with me while I continue adding more context.
One way eternal life seekers complicate matters happens when they think or believe in ways making seeing proof difficult if not impossible. The word “soul” for example, generates belief constellations that work against “allowing yourself to realize”. I wrote about this before, here.
Beliefs are communicable too, just like some diseases. They get passed on through language primarily. You’ll notice you talk to yourself almost constantly. Much of that internal dialogue confirms and reconfirms beliefs, many of which work against seeing answers sought. So the next step involves realizing how language and beliefs muddle perception, then cleaning up language and belief.
Practical example time 😊
For example, look at the following two statements:
I want to see evidence that the soul never dies
I want to be the realizer of my eternal nature
Notice the action-oriented nature inherent in statement one. It also presumes no visible evidence. The speaker wants to see what they don’t see.
This statement affirms evidence’s absence instead of affirming evidence’s abundance. The perceiver wants to see something she currently does not, the “does not” component gets emphasized above all else. It creates “disbelief”.
Notice statement two is passive. The speaker speaks to evidence showing itself to her. Further, her statement expresses desire to become something, not see something. It also affirms existence of what she wants to realize. She understands her eternal nature is a thing and she expresses her desires around experiencing that.
These subtle distinctions make all the difference.
The word “proof” is problematic as well. “Proof” is adversarial. It says “show me because I don’t believe it.” Wanting proof affirms your doubt. It also offers confrontation. “PROVE IT” is the energy of the word “proof”.
See the subtlety?
Let’s put this all together
Ok, so now you have a sense of four important premises:
Evidence you want will occur as 100 percent subjective. It will only convince you. No one else.
Desired evidence surrounds you. Wanting to create evidence or discovering it distracts you from experiencing it. You’re wanting to realize the already-existing evidence. Or better said: you’re wanting to realize your eternal nature, which already always has/is existed/existing.
How you frame your request will either support your intent or defeat it.
Your beliefs will hinder or help you become the realizer of the answer to your question.
So now, the process is simple: you simply ask for the answer in a way that supports getting the answer…then hold to knowing the answer shows itself.
What happens next: you’ll experience events confirming your intent. Things start happening showing that you’re eternal. But you must keep the four points in mind. Also, you must constantly question thoughts and reactions which will stop the evidence flow dead in its tracks.
The evidence becomes evident
For example, one day at a bus stop or someplace familiar, someone you know may join you. You’ll strike up a conversation and this person may say something – mention a newspaper or magazine article, a website, a book, or tv show – that will cause within you an “a-ha!” moment. What they say will sound perfectly timed and related to your intent. Perhaps they will mention the show God Friended Me, for example, or the Netflix show, The Good Place, both having themes in eternal life. And then one of many different things might happen:
You will totally miss the relevance between the shows (and their premises) and your request. Here Universe and All That Is gave you a clue. But your beliefs will block the connection. So you’ll say something like “huh, interesting” and let the mention pass.
Maybe you’ll think “hmm, I just read a blog about seeing my eternal nature and here is someone telling me about a TV show about god and the afterlife.” And your mind then might go: “this is a coincidence” and you’ll miss the relevance.
OR….You may feel goose pimples or a shiver down your spine and think “This is no coincidence. This is evidence showing itself….” Then you’ll get excited….You might go home later and watch either show, enjoy the premise offered and then, be inspired to casually research online the word “serendipity”….
Do something like number three and you’re on your way.
Seeing overwhelming evidence
The seeming chance bus stop encounter began the realization. But if you aren’t alert, you’ll miss it. That’s how subtle Universe works. Your job remains maintaining alertness and expectation.
Keep this up and you’ll experience all kinds of evidence. They literally surround you:
You may be invited to an Ayahuasca event or a meditation session
Someone may start talking about eternity or life extension at a function you attend
A dream might happen where you experience events implying an eternal being
More events will happen confirming real what science calls “pseudoscience”.
And then, at some point, you’ll notice old beliefs gradually shifting. You’ll move through life differently. Your changed beliefs and lifestyle reveal more serendipitous opportunities making disbelief harder:
Dreams will become more and more lucid and engaging
You’ll start to want to know what your dreams are about
You’ll start playing with this whole idea that “you create your reality” and you’ll start getting evidence of that showing up all over your life
Then, really amazing things will start happening. Things that, in the past, you would have said “that’s coincidence” or “that’s impossible” or “random” or “confirmation bias” or some other nonsense. Only now you won’t say those things because they happen so often there’s too much of them proving they’re real.
By then you’re on your way.
The rest of the path is up to your realization. Keep it up and you will eventually realize what every sincere person realizes: life and everything in it, including you, is eternal and death is not the end. It’s only the beginning of more life.
The best way to create a better, happy life starts with learning how to do nothing. When people discover the power of doing nothing, life really starts taking off. In a short time, it not only gets better, life feels happier.
Most people instead get caught up in the “doing disease”. They think happy, better lives come from doing things that will, supposedly, make them happy. But what they find is, all that doing leads to a whole lot more doing. And rarely does the doing make the person happy.
So many think all we need “to do” is do more of what others are doing and we’ll find happiness. So that’s what we do. We work hard, sacrifice, put off joy now for joy later…
I know that path personally. I worked almost 30 years before I realized the secret to happiness was doing less.
Doing is drudgery
Before that realization, doing had me doing what everyone else did. It worked. Sometimes. Looking back, though, all that hard-earned money, lofty positions that looked good on paper but took their toll on my personal life satisfaction, wasn’t worth the happiness I enjoy now, doing a lot of nothing besides attending to my spiritual happiness.
I suggest it lies in the heart and mind, not in an external situation. Which means, of course, the difference between those fulfilled at work, doing, and those hating what they’re doing lies in what they’re thinking about what they’re doing.
The best way to change how one thinks first comes with understanding how one currently thinks. That’s where becoming Positively Focused starts.
Until a person figures out their thinking patterns and habits, it’s too easy to stay trapped in the doing the disease, trying to create a different result by doing the same things.
I’m glad I found the way out of all that. The way out being doing nothing. It seems crazy, but it’s true. Here’s why.
You match what you’re getting
First, the reason so many seek happiness through doing, yet fail to find it, is because they’re trying to get something they don’t believe they can have. Or they’re looking for it in the wrong place. I talk about this with every client. A person can’t find something they think they can’t find. That’s the case for keys, lost gloves and, frankly, a happy life.
If someone thinks life isn’t fun and easy, they can’t experience the fun and ease of life. No matter how hard they try creating that, it will evade them. A person just can’t create outside of their existing beliefs. And what a person believes often lies hidden in thoughts they’re thinking so often, they can’t consciously perceive the thoughts when they think them.
Insecurities proceed us all
The fact is, if a person thinks life is a struggle, people are out to get them (or don’t care about them), or that their life has no meaning or other similar thoughts, the insecurity or anxiety such thoughts trigger tells the thinker what they’re thinking about life, people or the meaning of life is inconsistent with how life actually is.
What’s more, those thoughts will create life experiences consistent with them. Life will occur as a constant struggle, people will be predatory and life will feel meaningless. And once such thoughts create life experience consistent with them, momentum behind those thoughts is so great, those thoughts continue creating life experience on their own. Until the thinker generates momentum in a different direction.
This is why life seems “the way it is”, like some objective reality. Instead of the subjective reality life really is. Life is a subjective reality under direct control of the person experiencing the reality.
Instead of taking control though, people become victims of that auto-created life. Which means becoming victims of their uncontrolled thinking processes. They try harder. They do more, push, struggle more, thinking if they do all that, they’ll finally get what they want.
It doesn’t work that way. Life gives what you think about. Not what you want.
Doing it different?
Doing nothing begins an important process. That process reverses momentum created when a person keeps doing the same thing over and over, while expecting different results. When someone calms themselves, relaxes and focuses inward, powerful processes get underway even though it seems like nothing happens.
And the more that person relaxes into doing nothing, the more effective they get. That’s because every person receives guidance through their intuition, their Inner Being or Broader Perspective. Doing nothing tunes one into all that timeless wisdom.
What really happens is, by doing nothing, the person calms down noise in their head. That way they start hearing clear signals their intuition sends all day, every day.
In time, the person realizes some profound insights. Like this client:
Uncovering such insights takes a while. And this is the challenge. So many people in our lives tell us doing nothing is lazy and time wasting. But it’s not that. It’s a profound state of being which tunes one back into their deeper knowing.
But if you listen to society, parents, educators and all those loud mouths in the peanut gallery, you’ll hear “stop being lazy”, “work harder”, “success is in the struggle”.
It works but it’s tough
Such approaches work. But do you really want to struggle through life? I don’t. I’d rather enjoy life while seeing my life bringing me everything I want with little effort.
People who struggle claim it’s worth the struggle. They look at and display scars they “earned” on the way to their success. I say give that approach up, especially when it comes to finding happiness.
Instead, figure out how to instantly become a match to the happiness so often sought but not found. When it shows up, you will be a match to it because the instant you create it, you ARE a match to it. You’re happy. Stay in that and a happy life becomes yours.
A better way exists. It starts with doing nothing, which really is doing a lot. Learning to do nothing transforms life. My clients know this. It’s time for you to know it too.
A lot of people find anxiety relief through medications. Nearly all those people don’t realize they don’t need medication to rid themselves from anxiety.
That’s because anxiety is a blessing. Left unchecked though, it can become a curse. It can enslave one in discomfort. So much discomfort the only choice that person thinks they have is relief through a pill.
The medical profession is only too quick to oblige people who suffer from anxiety. That’s why almost 20 percent of Americans find themselves with anxiety “disorders”.
But anxiety gets labeled a “disorder” needing “treatment” because so many don’t understand the benefit anxiety brings to those with it. Now, I already can hear the rebuttal:
“Easy for you to say,” some anonymous reader may offer. “You don’t struggle with anxiety.”
Well, I respond, listening to me might be a good idea then. Because you’re right, I don’t. Or if not me, take the example of a client who just today instantly caused their anxiety to disappear.
How emotions benefit
She came to her session complaining about sleeping poorly the night before. We explored the reasons and the main one was a “general anxiety.” I explained why anxiety shows up for her and suggested she could benefit from the benefits her anxiety offered.
We talked about that briefly, then we dove into an exercise which brought her near instant relief. I’m sharing that exercise here. But first, here’s why anxiety is beneficial.
Anxiety, like any emotion, tells humans something they must know. If they want fulfilling, happy lives, the must know what emotions tell them. But if you ask ten random strangers (or strange friends 😊) why we have emotions, i.e. what their purpose is, you won’t get good answers. Most people don’t know why emotions exist.
Emotions give us clues about how to get everything we want. I talk about this and how to use the clues with clients every week. It takes convincing, of course. That’s because other people convince us they know better than our emotions about what’s right for us.
But for those who use their emotions correctly, charting a path to happiness is inevitable. That’s why emotions – including anxiety – exist. They help us discover our happiness. They also light up the path to everything we want.
Negative emotions such as anxiety offer far more benefit than positive ones. But when used incorrectly or not at all, they can spell trouble. And when people mask them with drugs, their benefits get masked too.
How to get the benefit
The key to unlocking those benefits looks like using emotions for their intended purpose. That means using negative, or unwanted, emotions to chart a course to more positive, better feeling ones. That’s the purpose of the exercise I gave my client.
It worked near instantly. And, she could tell it worked that fast. Looking at her face and reactions, it was obvious.
The exercise involves a series of statements that begin with acknowledging the unwanted emotion then moving through that into better feeling emotions. Statements made are declarative, succinct and include increasing levels of emotion as those emotions show up.
My client asked that I make a recording as an aid for her so she can use the recording to practice. Once I did it, I realized readers of this blog could benefit too. So, here it is free of charge. Simply click on this link. It will direct you to a google drive where you can download it to your computer or phone.
The first minute or so offers instructions, then the remaining eight minutes offer the exercise.
Don’t be fooled
As simple as this may sound recorded, the exercise contains great power. Used alone, anyone suffering from occasional or mild anxiety can eliminate such experiences from daily life. Used in conjunction with other practices I offer in my Positively Focused sessions, even those with chronic, medicated anxiety can find so much relief over time, they can eventually get off their medication.
It’s hard when so many people give so much advice about things while not really understanding the purpose and origins of such things. Emotions are one such thing. Without understanding them, doctors, psychologists and psychiatrists do people a disservice.
I realize they’re doing their best and many sincerely want to help.
Of course, there are severe conditions existing where putting people on medications provides needed relief. And from there, a person can eventually perhaps discover ways to better manage chronic anxiety and other unwanted emotions, such as depression.
But for the vast majority of anxiety and depression sufferers, there are very good reasons why such experiences happen. They don’t have to happen. But unless one understands why they happen, finding the way out remains elusive.
Don’t be fooled. Anxiety needn’t be a constant companion. Discover your own inherent, natural relief from anxiety. Then use it for its intended purpose.
Then you’ll find yourself appreciating anxiety for what it is: a blessing. Not a curse. Want to know more? I can help.
It’s so fun helping clients discover they create their reality. I love participating in that unfolding. When such people discover their manifestation power, they realize they can create what they thought was impossible. Then their lives get really fun.
Of course, everything is possible. The only things keeping some things impossible are beliefs we hold. “That’s impossible” is a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Things change though when someone discovers they stand at the center of the Universe. There they realize they create everything around them. Including all the lovers they want…or the lack thereof. 🤷🏽♂️
Stories are powerful
One client’s personal experience showed how powerful, or disempowering, beliefs can be. She started practicing with me 36 sessions ago. Last week, something happened that amazed her.
During those 36 weeks, Jennifer (not her real name) uncovered many disempowering beliefs. They included beliefs about dating, about men, about men’s intentions. But they also included beliefs about Jennifer herself. These included beliefs like the following:
I’m not good enough to get what I want
I’m too fat to get the guy I want
Men only want me for sex
I’m too old
Time’s running out for me to find a guy
I never can find the right guy I want
Taken together these beliefs created Jennifer’s reality. What did that reality look like? One where men she met wanted her for sex only. Several often called her, but only when drunk. They demanded sexually explicit texts, wouldn’t talk on the phone, and when Jennifer pushed the issue, they would ghost her. Others made promises to meet in person, only to disappear later.
No wonder Jennifer, who happens to be transgender, formed negative beliefs about dating, about men and about men’s intentions.
It’s not that her beliefs weren’t true. After all, she formed many of them from past experience. But if Jennifer wants what she wants, she can’t expect to get it while holding beliefs about what she doesn’t want, no matter how true they are.
Beliefs are powerful. They can create more of the same. Or they can create what you want.
Choose: get what you want or be right
Jennifer had a choice. She could talk about what’s true and be right. Or she could create beliefs and talk about what she wants and get that.
For example, one belief she had about men was “I’ll never meet a nice guy locally”. Every guy she had met, she met through OKCupid. Desperation had her using online dating. No matter how many times I told her online dating works terribly, she kept using it.
That’s because she also believed it was the only way she met men. See how beliefs create reality? Her’s about not meeting local guys had her believing she could only meet men online. So that’s how she met them. And, the men she met there showed up consistent with her other beliefs. Especially beliefs about herself as a transgender woman.
The online experience only amplified her frustration, which in turn reinforced her beliefs. Again, Jennifer can’t entertain beliefs about her past and get what she wants. Instead, she must focus on what she wants. That’s what we focused on in the ensuing 36 sessions.
Evidence starts proving it works
Over time, Jennifer’s new, empowering beliefs started creating realities consistent with themselves. It was rough going at first. Often Jennifer reinforced her old ones more than energizing new, more empowering ones.
However, there’s something cool about telling positive stories. Such stories enjoy enormous creative potential. You see, the Universe wants everyone to enjoy what they want, no exceptions. So when someone lines up with what they want by telling positive stories about it, they become a match to that. Then, that person gradually starts seeing evidence of what they want showing up everywhere.
That’s what happened with Jennifer. For example, men started waving at her as she walked down the street. Every time it happened, she said, she looked behind her to see if the guys were waving at someone else. Nope, they waved at her.
Or the male barista at the drive up kiosk would chat Jennifer up, where before he would ignore her. Another time a gas station attendant complimented her nails. And another time, a male restaurant sever paid particular attention to her as he attended the table she sat at with friends.
Ordinary people chalk these examples up to “coincidence” or some other logical explanation. But there’s no such thing as coincidence and logic has nothing to do with it! Everything happens on purpose. The purpose is reflecting back beliefs one tells about what’s happening.
The more Jennifer got this, the more such things happened.
Evidence grows more insistent
Until one day while walking her dog at the local dog park, a man who also had his dog approached her. He said hi and Jennifer returned the greeting. They enjoyed a nice conversation while their dogs played. Afterward, the guy said “Oh, dude, I gotta go. I’m late.”
Now Jennifer interpreted that as the guy misgendering her. We don’t know what his intentions really were, but I told her telling such a story was not in her best interest.
“It’s better to make up a story that you feel better about,” I said.
“Like what?” She asked.
“Like ‘the guy was using “dude” like some people do. It’s just a figure of speech, like an exclamation”,” I replied.
At first, Jennifer didn’t like that new story. But after some cajoling she admitted it felt better than the knee-jerk story she wanted to tell.
I told her telling such stories would create the next evidence that would knock Jennifer’s socks off.
And that’s exactly what happened next.
It bowls you over
Jennifer had other beliefs not related to men and dating. These needed attention too. The combination of beliefs, what I call a Belief Constellation, creates everyone’s reality. Jennifer’s constellation included many negative beliefs about her work and her manager. Those beliefs kept Jennifer on edge, defensive and feeling like a victim.
Feeling on edge, defensive and victimhood makes one a match to situations that exacerbate feeling those ways. And not just work situations, dating situations too. That’s why we needed to soothe Jennifer’s work beliefs too.
That took a while, but the better Jennifer felt, the more she wanted to do the practice. In time, evidence at work convinced her more and more her new beliefs were working.
Her boss complimented her more and more. She gave Jennifer more responsibilities. When Jennifer announced she was looking for openings in other departments, her manager offered to reclassify her job so she could get more pay. Finally, her manager came out and told Jennifer how much she valued her and how much she wanted Jennifer to stay.
Evidence at work was bowling Jennifer over. It amazed her that simply telling positive stories could literally change her relationship with her boss!
Then one day Jennifer texted me from work telling me how a process I taught her – called PRE-PAVING – helped change her work experience. In the text, she misspells it as “preparing”:
Then it happened
Riding on that positive momentum created what happened next. Jennifer felt good about changes happening at work. So much so, she softened on the idea that she couldn’t meet men in person. She started acknowledging evidence showing she was meeting men. It’s just that she hadn’t soothed negative beliefs enough to have such men approach her in person.
That all changed rather suddenly.
A few days after a remarkably powerful session, Jennifer sent me a text. It was awesome:
Many layers prove how powerful this experience was for Jennifer. For one, she didn’t have to do ANYTHING to meet this LOCAL, GORGEOUS guy other than follow her intuition to take Rocco out for walk. Second, there’s NO WAY ON EARTH she could have deliberately sought out this guy. It could only happen this way, a perfect orchestration of her unfolding reality.
Third, the guy did all the work. He approached her and initiated a conversation. But most of all, what’s super awesome about this rendezvous, is through it, Jennifer realized yet another belief she needs to clean up:
“He’s out of my league.”
However, even though that happened, she still had an experience totally contrary to EVERY experience she had in the past.
Every encounter a stepping stone
It’s really important at the point of receiving this experience that Jennifer enjoy the experience. Negatively judging herself does no good. Neither does harsh self-criticism about not doing something she thought she should have done. Everything worked perfectly here because this rendezvous wasn’t meant to be the perfect match or the perfect lover.
What it was, was an experience clarifying for Jennifer where she is on the path to becoming the perfect match to her perfect lover. How else will she know what disempowering beliefs remain in her constellation, if she doesn’t get to see her constellation in action? This experience worked perfectly.
It encouraged her. It created more desire in her. The fact that it happened gladdened her, inspiring her to the possibility that more such experiences can happen. It was a local connection! Something she thought impossible. And it showed that gorgeous men show interest in her.
So many disempowering beliefs got a dose of positivity just through this one experience. And so long as she remains in all these powerfully positive interpretations, Jennifer makes herself a match to more such experiences in the future.
Every client gets it
I love it when these kinds of things happen for my clients. Every client enjoys this kind of progression on their way to the love, the life, their greatest desires.
Everything is possible. Including having a relationship matching one’s wildest dreams. Nothing stands in the way of whatever anyone wants other than beliefs a person tells that are contrary to what’s wanted.
Clean those beliefs up though and watch how remarkable life gets.
Life is a wish-granting jewel. No matter what one wishes for, one can have it. One only need become a match to it, then draw that which is wished for to them as they hold themselves as a match to it.
I show clients how to do that. It’s easy, it’s fun and it works. Every time. You ready for your true love, your version of the Charmed Life Jennifer’s creating? I can help.
The best way to get everything one wants in life is to pursue what’s wanted because pursuing it is joyful. This is especially true when wanting something most people think is impossible. Such as “manifesting” more money, a relationship or a better job.
That’s because most people will tell you their opinion on how to get those things. And rarely will they offer the “manifesting” path. They’ll tell you “the odds” of you “manifesting” that thing. The’ll tell you getting something that way is “wishful thinking”.
They’ll tell you to be “realistic”. Being realistic means “trying hard”. It means doing what others do. It involves focusing with the end in mind and “faking it till you make it.”
All of those ways can work. But look around at people doing it that way. It’s hard work. People hate the process. And hardly anyone gets what they’re after, because the path is so filled with struggle many or most give up on what they want. Or worse, they compromise. They settle for something “ok” instead of holding out for their dream.
Compromising is what happens when someone goes after something thinking the result is what they’re after. If, however, a person goes after something, knowing the journey to that thing is what matters most, the entire process and experience of the process changes. It’s no longer a struggle, it’s a joy. The process of doing becomes the purpose of the doing, not the means to the ends. And in that mind space, what one wants happens fast.
Your action isn’t the main attraction
Why does this happen? Because when the mind isn’t focused on the end goal, the mind becomes open to millions of avenues leading to the goal instead of the one way one thinks it must happen.
Think about it. When focused on a particular goal, say, finding a lover, usually people think of one particular way to get that lover. The main way they think it must happen has to do mainly with their taking action to “make something happen”.
But the majority of people who get what they want, especially really big things they want, hardly ever get those things through their hard work. And usually, if they’re honest when asked, those people attribute “success” to “luck” or “god” or some other force greater than themselves that made it all possible. There’s truth to their attribution. Your action is not the main attraction.
Often, these people reach a point in their “doing” where they realize they’ve done all they can. With nothing more they can do, they give up. They surrender to “come what may”. Typically, once they give up, once they surrender, that thing they want shows up. It’s not the surrender that makes that happen. It’s what happens when they surrender.
Surrender to the journey
When one surrenders, they give up actions, but also thoughts standing between them and the easy flow of what is wanted. In other words, the person no longer stands in the way of what they want. Instead, in giving up, they become a cooperative element in the unfolding.
Another way of “surrendering” is giving up focusing on the end goal and instead enjoying the process, doing what one’s doing for no other reason than the joyful doing of the doing. A client and I talked about exactly this recently. Take a listen:
I have several really big things I’m “manifesting”. They include things 99 percent of humans will say can’t be done. But I know those things on my list are as easy for me as an eternal being, with the power of the Universe behind me, to accomplish as it is to walk from one room to another. However, I must relax into the process of their unfolding, because I too have residual belief in their impossibility.
It’s not the “impossibility” of the things I want keeping them from happening. It’s the belief in the impossibility slowing things down. So for someone like me, who wants really big things showing up, I must focus relentlessly on the journey as the goal rather than the goal itself. That’s why I see, nearly every day, evidence of their unfolding.
Everyone can enjoy fulfilled wishes
Compared to what’s on my list, finding a partner or a job or whatever is easy as pie. All that’s required is giving up thoughts contrary to what one wants. Thoughts contrary to what one wants aren’t the only ones that must go though. Thoughts seemingly having nothing to do with the goal also must go. This is why it seems to take forever for people to “manifest” something.
They aren’t willing to surrender. Meaning, they aren’t willing to give up what they must to have what they want.
Anyone can have what they want no matter what it is because the Universe is a wish-granting jewel ready to deliver ANYTHING someone can formulate desire for.
All that’s required is focusing on the reason why one wants what they want rather than focusing on the thing wanted. Doing that will naturally put one in alignment with the wanted thing, so long as the reasons feel good.
If a person can remain in those good feelings, instead of thinking about how lonely they are, or how impossible the goal seems, they’ll get what they want. It’s that easy.
Feeling good is like finding
It’s easy because when a person focuses on why they want and feel good in that, the desire itself becomes more important than the fulfillment. They don’t need the thing they want, because they already feel good without it. So the desire’s fulfillment becomes irrelevant. When a person gets there, then having what they want is icing on the cake because they already feel as they will feel when what they want comes. Feeling good about what you want is as good as having it. And when you’re there, what you want must show up.
It’s not hard shifting that focus. It can happen in as little as five minutes. You know you’ve done that when you feel good right now, even without having what you want. And again, when you feel good, you’re closer to having what you want than you think.
If you want to know more about how this all works, set up a free 1:1 and let’s talk. Let’s discover how easy it is to have anything you want. It’s not as impossible as you think. All you need is more happy. Then everything in life will come on its own accord.
There’s great power in managing vibration so that one stands in a high flying state. Doing so, one can literally shape others’ experiences. One can also shape other people. A powerful example of that happened this week with a client.
This client finds himself profoundly affected by his Positively Focused practice, which spanned some four months. But this week, like many clients, he came having had a rough few days. So when he showed up to the session, he wasn’t ready for what happened.
When I help clients attain vibrational mastery, I create a vibrational bubble in which I hold the session. Every session feels the same because of this. The high vibrational state I create then hold during the session “pulls” clients from wherever they are, to where I am. That’s why, unlike traditional therapyor counseling, every client enjoys extremely satisfying sessions containing powerful insights and breakthroughs.
A compelling offer
This time, however, I brought a lot more vibrational mastery to the table than usual. That’s because I meditated prior to the session, using a process which increases one’s vibrational focus. I also used another process because I wanted to amplify the great feeling I felt after meditation.
By the time I came to the session, I was bouncing off the walls with intense, positivity, appreciation and joy. So much so, the client’s socks got blown off.
The disparity between where he was and where I was was so great, he had to join me. He literally had no choice because my mastery was so strong.
So when the client came into my bubble, his negative vibration had no place to go but outta here! 😂.
Which is why, after the session, he sent this:
Creating people on demand
When it comes to relationships, most people try to manipulate, convince, “love” (it’s not really that), bribe, blackmail or blame their partners into being someone they can be happy with. That hardly ever works. Indeed, the whole idea of “love languages” is part of the problem with relationships. Expecting someone to be a certain way so you feel better is a recipe for disaster. It’s also not loving.
Loving is unconditional. That means, no matter how a person might be, you still love them. That’s hard when vibrational mastery eludes you.
But with vibrational mastery, not only can you love a person no matter how they are, when you do, THEY CHANGE.
The best way to change someone is to come into alignment with the version of the person you want to experience. Then the person you’re with changes into that person. Vibrational mastery makes that possible.
Trying to change people through action or words hardly ever works. When it does work, it rarely lasts. It often also creates resentment. But using vibration, you can make any change you want permanent. And people love you for it.
It’s just like what my client experienced. And I wasn’t even trying!
Want a powerful relationship with those you love, those you work with and those you care about? Stop trying to change them. Attain vibrational mastery and watch how much power you have to produce wonderful results. Including creating versions of people who match your every desire.
A client echoed what many of my clients feel after learning how to cultivate a positive focus about their lives and things they want in life, including jobs, money, love, peace of mind and more.
A five-month veteran of the practice, his life transformed dramatically over this time. No wonder he’s doubling down on his Positively Focused life view, about relationships and about himself. He knows it’s the best way to get what he wants in every aspect of his life.
Furthermore, he knows the power behind why being Positively Focused works so well. It makes everything possible. Including turning around, in just a couple weeks, circumstances which had this client contemplating suicide.
Anyone can easily eliminate suicidal thoughts. It happens once someone understands then uses the power of being Positively Focused.
That’s what this client did. In a couple weeks, he no longer even thought about killing himself. Now, he’s so clear he’s god in human form, he’s glad he made the choice to connect with this practice rather than going to a therapist:
He’s right on another thing. Mass shootings in the US wouldn’t happen if people understood why emotions exist and where they come from. Ignorant of this, some get so far down emotionally, feeling powerless and insecure, shooting up a school, church or grocery store becomes their only hope at feeling power.
Such events needn’t happen. But so long as people don’t understand their internal, eternal nature, they will keep happening. So will suffering. Eckhart Tolle wasn’t playing when he talked about how unnecessary suffering can be:
Suffering: still necessary?
I love how clients get that suffering no longer need exist in their lives. I love then watching them tune their lives so their lives match stories they tell about how they want their life, instead of how it is.
The more they do that, the more powerful they get. Then the more free they get. Before long, life for them becomes adventurous. Then they get the life they knew was possible. Their life becomes the Charmed Life I write about here.
We suffer because we know, deep down, life as the great adventure. It contains everything we want, flowing to us easily. But for so many, that’s not the life they live.
I want everyone living their happiest life. Therapy does work for some. But it has a terrible success rate. Telling positive stories works 100 percent of the time. Positive story telling is one of the best kept life secrets.
Although it’s not a secret. People have shared this life approach for…ever.
Isn’t it about time you got in on the secret? If so, I can help!