Little Things Lead To And Create Big Things

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Some people think when practicing meditation or other manifestation process, that focusing on the big things – manifestations like jobs, money, and relationships – are the goal.

But it’s really the tiny things, those little, moment-by-moment realizations, that make the big things reveal themselves. And without those little things, the big things don’t happen. That’s because the prime objective of such a practice is joy, not manifestations.

For example, a client realized this recently as he advanced in his Positively Focused practice. He’s a musician, and as he thought about his upcoming practice one day, he made a remarkable discovery.

“Before my practice session,” he began. “I had the thought ‘well, what am I going to work on today?’ Then I thought ‘oh that sounds so depressing.'”

“So I said to myself ‘I’m just going to enjoy what happens.’ So I just started improvising and really got interested in this one particular thing and off I went.”

He continued. “What happened was I put the emphasis on enjoyment, and ended up enjoying working on something that needed working on, because of the enjoyment, rather than working on something I needed to work on, which would have been boring and unenjoyable.”

It seems this little realization isn’t much. But don’t be fooled. Such little things are precursors or harbingers of big things. And the more someone focuses on these little things, especially one’s feelings, the sooner bigger things happen.

In this client’s experience he learned that a joy-orientation instead of task-orientation creates outcomes just as powerful, but much more enjoyable, than task-orientation. It’s way more fun too!

It is law. If you’re chronically Positively Focused, your life must reflect that back to you.

The pay-offs are infinite

This kind of awareness, putting joy first, pays huge dividends. The greater one cultivates such an awareness, the more they realize we all live submerged in a sea of blessings, all happening specifically for our enjoyment.

This is the Charmed Life I write about. The experience of life as a moment-by-moment joyful experience. Were eveything one wants happens…effortlessly.

The Universe wants us all living in joy. That’s why discovering it feels so good. This client shared more of his unfolding experience later in the same session:

“There’s been a lot of moments,” he added. “Just in the last couple of weeks, where I’ve deliberately put my attention on the fact that me and society in general are all being pretty much taken care of all the time,”

“Aside from the amazing cosmic set-up allowing all this to happen,” He explained. “Even at the societal level [we’re taken care of].”

He went on describing things he realized indicate this. For example, even simple things, inventions like the rear view mirror, he said, make life so easy for everyone.

“All the things we take for granted, yet they’re made out of compassion the benefit of others…everything, everything is geared up to help each other. It’s amazing!!!”

We live among treasure troves

Indeed, these little things, like roads, traffic signals, standards and conventions, and inventions like rear-view mirrors, reveal how good life is. But only to those willing to take time to appreciate what’s really happening.

With these inventions, every one of us may move through life in relative comfort, ease and joy. We can pursue all kinds of activities. Activities bringing us satisfaction, pleasure and fulfillment.

Afterwards, my client and I marveled in his realizations. And we marveled for a purpose. Because by focusing on these little things, focusing on them and appreciating them for the blessings they are, our perception broadens until life reveals its secrets.

In every life instance, every waking moment, we stand among treasure troves. Troves everyone enjoys, or takes for granted.

But when one focuses on these little things, recognizing and appreciating them, they soothe resistance born of bogus beliefs about life. Those bogus beliefs make the troves invisible. Meanwhile, these little things, things bogus beliefs make impossible to see, add up to larger blessings. They add up to things we desire, like more money, better work, peace and happiness and, yes, even love.

Castles and buttons both seen easy

Over time though, as resistance gives way to a positive focus, one discovers their place at the center of the Universe. There the Universe reveals its conspiracies. There are co-created processes happening all the time that deliver to everyone everything they want.

The revelation transforms human consciousness. It creates in the individual an unshakeable certainty of one’s eternal, invincible and blessed nature.

Only those who line up with what they want get this gift. The giving of which comes through becoming Positively Focused.

Focusing on the little things is the first step. These little things Abraham calls “buttons”. Once they become visible, seeing those things we really care about, the greater manifestations, gets easier. Abraham calls those greater manifestations, “castles“.

But again, perceiving accurately the buttons unfolding in order to see castles unfolding one must cultivate that chronic positive focus. When cultivated, nurtured and maintained, resistance born of negative beliefs fades. Then, like my client, the Positively Focused person sees the bewildering reality of physical reality: the Charmed Life.

From there, buttons cause a giddy delight. Your gaze fills with them. Then and only then, riding on the momentum of evidence your Charmed Life exists, your castles start showing you steps leading to their unfolding. Like this other client expressing his wonder at how well the practice works:

A different client realizing his Charmed Life.

Are you ready?

So by deliberately focusing on life’s positive aspects, one gradually lives a chronic state of experiencing buttons lining a path leading to castles. The bigger, full-blown manifestations waiting for everyone in their version of the Charmed Life exist. The question is, are people ready to experience them?

Whether you are or not, I love being chronically Positively Focused. Like my clients, I see more and more evidence of unfoldings consistent with what I want. Nothing is off limits. Everything is possible. I create a life rich in abundance of all kinds.

It’s gratifying seeing my clients get there too. And when they appreciate getting there, I revel in their appreciation.

For as they do that, it confirms my own process, my own practice, my own expansion. Then our sessions become what they ultimately are: opportunities to revel together in the unfolding or our creation-rich Charmed Lives.

Are you ready for yours?

Being An Empath: A Good thing? Think Again.

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Someone wrote me recently asking if being an “empath” is real. They wondered how Law of Attraction works for empaths since no one, this person claims, can “absorb another’s feelings.”

It’s a good question. The question sits right among other questions people don’t want answers to because the answers, while accurate, confront commonly-accepted explanations about life and how it works.

Society accepts people calling themselves empaths. Lots of articles online describe its characteristics. Such articles also offer advice about being one. They suggest ways of negotiating struggles empaths have, and how to become an empath if you’re not.

For the record, I would NEVER recommend someone become an empath. Nor would I recommend anyone claim that word to describe themselves if they think they are one. Here’s why.

“Empath”: a slur hardly anyone knows about

A lot of empaths get bunged up when someone claims being an “empath” isn’t real. I had a business relationship turn sour when I told the person I considered doing business with that such a thing isn’t real.

I didn’t know back then what I know now.

Law of Attraction says anyone can create any reality they want. Hold a belief long enough, it says, and it will become “true” for the person holding the belief. Seth confirms this in their writings too. Their book “The Magical Approach” lays out exactly how Law of Attraction works although they don’t call it that.

The dictionary definition based on a science perspective. Not the best perspective when considering things outside of science’s purview.

So let’s take a gander at what’s happening with “empaths”, whether they’re real or not, how Law of Attraction works for them and why I would recommend no one call themselves an empath.

Looking at what it is

The definition I pasted above comes from mainstream culture. Its underlying message is the whole idea of a person who can “apprehend” the mental and emotional state of another is “paranormal”, meaning beyond the scope of normal scientific understanding. Alright then. Good start.

In other words, science will not be helpful here. Same holds true with Law of Attraction. People saying Law of Attraction is false will argue no scientific evidence exists supporting its veracity.

And the definition of the word used to describe empathic abilities.

Well, Law of Attraction is PARANORMAL, meaning it is “beyond the scope of science” and therefore out of science’s reach or purview. In other words, science has no say in the matter because Law of Attraction is out of its scope.

Now, an empath is someone who can perceive and understand (that’s what “apprehend” means in this context) what another feels or thinks. The key distinction between perception such as this, which we all have, and an empath, is that an empath perceives and understands what another feels or thinks as though what another thinks or feels are the empath’s thoughts and feelings.

Is that actually happening?

Maybe…

We all are one

On the one hand, at a level beneath ordinary conscious awareness we all are one. At the deepest level of our being, all of us share the same Source. It exists beyond the unconscious mind, as illustrated below. That 4th stage, far right, called Turiya in Yoga Theory, is that state of being.

A masterful diagram of human consciousness derived from “yogic science”. “A” represents waking consciousness, functioning through the body, the senses and our intellect/mind. “U” represents that part of the conscious we have active access to, which informs how we use section “A”. “M” represents that part of the consciousness which creates consistent behavior patterns in A and U. It is accessible through disciplined practices such as Positively Focused. “4th” represents the eternal, indestructible essence of what we all are.

So connections exist between us all, which, in theory, would have us able to perceive another’s mental or emotional state. This connection is accessible, but only with a lot of practice. Do empaths experience others’ experiences –  thoughts, feelings, etc. – as their own? Or is something else happening?

We all are one. And our feelings tell us something really important. Empaths miss this totally. (Photo by Brock Wegner on Unsplash)

Vibratory receptivity

Law of Attraction says everything has a basis in vibration. And, “that which is liken to itself is drawn”. Remember that.

We live in a vibrational environment, which our senses (see the left side of the picture above) interpret into objects and space. “Everything” includes us humans. We, therefore, are vibrational energy beings, who created our bodies as a way to expand into more and better via this “reality” which we also create, just like our bodies. I wrote extensively about why and how that is on Quora in case you’re interested.

Since we’re all one at the basis of what we are, and since we all are also vibration, it’s absolutely true each of us can harmonize with another’s vibration, or be open to grok another’s vibration such that we perceive the vibratory content of that person.

That’s part of what’s happening with “empaths”.

Sloppy vibrational focus creates “empathic abilities

But there’s a dark side to what’s happening with people claiming empathic abilities.This aspect needn’t happen and, frankly, shouldn’t. It happening gives rise to all problems empaths experience. It also kiboshes any chance of an empath experiencing the Charmed Life I write about.

In a nutshell, an empath experiences what they experience because they are sloppy in their vibrational focus. Empaths suffer from their “empathic abilities” because of this. I put “empathic abilities” in quotes because it’s not really an “ability”.

Rather, it’s a failure on the part of the “empath” to deliberately apply creative vibrational focus. Instead of doing that, they allow themselves to harmonize with what they’re observing. In other words, as the Law of Attraction says, they become liken to that which they observe, then get drawn into it (they become it).

Then the empath thinks they are doing something special. But they’re not doing something special. They’re doing something sloppily. Empaths allow their vibration to tune to that of another person. When they do that, they experience what the other experiences, but it’s their version of it, not what the person experiences.

That’s why I call “empath” a slur. Instead of describing something desirable, “empath” describes a state where one allows another’s vibration or something they’re observing to downwardly influence their own vibration.

Struggles empaths experience are self-inflicted. (Photo by Molnár Bálint on Unsplash)

Charmed Life or self-inflicted struggle?

Many “empaths” feel overwhelmed by their surroundings. Again, this is because they’re not focusing their vibration deliberately. Instead, they just “let it all in” the good, the bad and the ugly.

Not just that, they go even farther. They also let their vibration merge or come into harmonic alignment with that which they’re allowing in. In other words, the environment they’re in, vibrationally dominates them.

But they could tune and then, hold their vibration and dominate the environment thereby creating something better than what was there before.

If they did the latter, they wouldn’t experience “empathic abilities”, they’d experience the Charmed Life. That’s because when a person’s vibration dominates their environment, and their vibration is high, that environment MUST reflect back to the person their dominant, high vibration.

Abraham putting it plain. Empaths get created when people let their thinking get sloppy. Negative experiences they have are trying to tell them to knock off their sloppy vibrational management.

I could be an empath, but would NEVER use that term

In 1:1 sessions with clients I create a deliberate, vibratory “bubble”. There, I dominate the experience with my very high vibration. That’s why my clients always exclaim how much better they feel after their sessions. They also come to greater insights about their lives, because my focus brings them up to a high vibrational state from which they perceive life differently.

Here’s a client acknowledging results he got, and his appreciation, after just two sessions. Before joining me in my “bubble”, he was on the verge of suicide.

Having practiced this practice for over 15 years now, it’s very easy for me to perceive what another person feels. Sometimes I can tell what they’re thinking too. That’s because, I’ve cultivated the ability to perceive at the vibrational (Source) level, and allow that perception into mine. This skill heightens significantly in the bubble.

NEVER allow a client’s vibration to effect mine. Never. Ever. Doing so would not serve the client. And, it would be exactly what Abraham says not to do: allow what you observe to effect your vibration.

So to me, being an “empath” is real. But being one isn’t a gift or something someone wants to be, unless they don’t understand what being an empath is about. It’s just a person who is somewhat vibrationally attuned, being sloppy with their vibration.

I prefer being a vibrational snob. Doing so has served me well. In this brief video, Abraham describes why everyone should strive for vibrational snobbiness.

A vibrational snob is something you really want to be. Not an empath.

How Law of Attraction works for empaths

Law of Attraction works for everyone. Even those who believe it doesn’t work. For an “empath”, it’s amplifying the effect of their sloppy vibration management. Giving it (the sloppiness) a high-falutin’ word like “empath” further amplifies it, for now, the person believes they are something special.

And that focus adds momentum to their thoughts and actions. They are prone to do more of what they are doing and thus feel more of what they’re feeling (somewhat out of control, a victim of their surroundings, powerless to manage their feelings, tired, anxious, etc.).

But, such people come into the world with a great ability. If they deliberately manage their vibration, they can use their sensitivity to help others. The Star Trek character Deanna Troy, a supposed “empath” offers an example of what such people can be. She is stoic, aware, clear about distinguishing what she’s feeling and what SHE HERSELF FEELS. That’s a powerful distinction from most empaths I know.

In my experience, people who claim that title, tend to live lives of struggle, especially socially. Again, this is their doing, a product of sloppy vibrational tuning, amplified by their focus on the sloppiness.

So, yes, there is such a thing as “empath”. But it’s not something I would want to claim. Instead, I prefer vibrational mastery. That’s what I show my clients how to attain. Then we get to enjoy our Charmed Lives. Where everything we want happens.

How Beautiful Results Make Rich Lives

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A client applying themselves to the Positively Focused practice produces not only beautiful results, but also a life full of richness. That belief eventually becomes “knowing” once they produce overwhelming evidence being Positively Focused works.

In knowing, clients begin realizing they are creators — invincible, eternal beings. That knowing is a beautiful result. Because once someone gets to knowing, life shows them more of what they are. Then life turns into the Charmed Life.

Life isn’t about wonderful manifestations, the evidence a Positively Focused practice produces. Oh, it’s nice getting these. But life’s true purpose reveals itself when one KNOWS what they are. Then they see how powerful they can be as they move in alignment with life’s true purpose.

Client stories abound

A few years ago, I wrote in this blog how my Charmed Life produces so much evidence I could literally spend all day, every day writing about them. That evidence continues at an expanding, increasing pace. And, client evidence adds to that wonderful stream of proof that the Positively Focused practice works.

The more clients come into their Charmed Lives, the more I get to write about, amplify and savor their experiences in my own life, thus prepping my life field for even more of my own evidence.

For instance, recently a new client texted a wonderful experience he had. To ordinary human consciousness, this experience seems ordinary. But because the client has honed his perception, he interpreted it quite differently from an ordinary interpretation.

As a result, he got the gold in that moment he created. Yes, he created it. Like all of us, he created this experience so that he could revel in the joy of his expanding perception. Most people miss that part about life. I love that he got it so clearly. Take a look:

My client getting it through a Positively Focused perspective.

Every now: blessed

Ordinary human consciousness misses the joy, the fun, the insights and the glorious synchronicities indicating one creates their reality. Such synchronicities happen in every now-moment. They indicate connection to All That Is, which is what we all are. When someone tunes into that knowing, first starting with desire, then hope, then incipient belief, evidence they produce becomes overwhelming.

Then, a simple-seeming thought to go to a corner store in the middle of the night becomes what it actually is: inner guidance leading to enlightenment.

Some clients ask “is it really possible to have no negative things happen in life, ever?” Of course, the answer is “yes”.

If the answer was “no” then tenets of the Positively Focused practice would break down. Tenets of the Positively Focused practice say “this is how the Universe works.” If exceptions existed, “this is how the universe works” would be false.

Every moment is a blessed experience. But every person enjoys free will. That includes freedom to choose any perspective through which to experience life. Free will is an awesome thing. It comes with awesome responsibility though. A person can create hell on earth, for themselves and others. Or that person can create heaven on earth.

And everyone experiencing that heaven or hell can only experience that if they believe such that they tune into that heaven or hell. No one creates for another. Ever. But people can resonate with one another such that they share very similar life experiences.

Beautiful results come to all

I advocate for everyone creating heaven for themselves. That happens by telling positive stories about life experience. Do that consistently and life must show its beauty to you. Do that frequently and momentum builds. Then, one experiences a gradual cascade of beautiful results and a rich life.

Once there, there’s no going back. Life gets better and better, as it should. As it is. For we’re all expanding. And what we’re expanding into is all good. Because that’s what we all are: all good.

Ready to produce your beautiful results? I got your back!

Why Negative Energy Scares People, But Shouldn’t

Positively Focused Q-A

Question, if pure positive energy is infinite intelligence. What is pure negative energy?

That’s a great question. The answer is: there’s no such thing. What people call “negative” energy, isn’t a thing. “Negative” energy is defined by its relationship to positive energy. This requires deeper explanation.

For simplicity, instead of using the word “energy”, let’s use “light”. Using that word, we would say “pure positive light”. Rephrasing your question using our new word, we’d ask: well what is pure negative light? Or what is darkness?

But can you see how that doesn’t make sense? What IS darkness? Isn’t it “the absence of light?” Abraham from Law of Attraction fame uses this analogy often.

To make your bedroom dark at night, or for night to fall, there’s no “darkness” switch you turn on, nor is there something that replaces the sun making it dark. Nope. You turn off the light with the light switch, and the sun simply moves behind the earth which blocks the light.

Negative doesn’t exist

The same is true with energy. There’s no “negative” energy, there’s only the blocking of, or not allowing, or turning away from positive energy. Experiences that then happen when you do that feel bad.

That “bad” experience gets stronger, of course, just like any other “negative momentum” does and for the same reason. It strengthens in order to clue the person in to the fact that they’re no longer tuned to positive energy or no longer in the light.

In other words, when a person turns away from the light, Infinite Intelligence and their Inner Being along with Law of Attraction brings to that person “negative” experiences designed to tell the person what they’re doing.

That way they can turn back to the light, i.e. get back to positivity.

Doesn’t that make such experiences then, of the light?

We think so!

How Great Results Prove A Positive Focus Works

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There’s no doubt in my mind being Positively Focused creates the Charmed Life. The Charmed Life sounds magical, like wishful thinking, as someone once put it.

But when clients put the practice to the test, results come. They’re guaranteed, of course, because nothing contradicts tenets upon which the Positively Focused practice rests. Nonetheless, it’s so cool when clients produce results that seem, well, supernatural.

My newest client came to the practice battling suicidal thoughts that had him in a panic about his life. He’d experienced several “tragedies” in the last two years. For the last 20, he’d been loathing himself for his sexual interests. As a result of negative thinking about those things, he wound up considering life as not worth living. That’s when he contacted me.

Now, in only 11 sessions over 5 weeks, he not only is convinced his Broader Perspective is real, he’s creating mind blowing life experiences and has totally given up killing himself. Instead he’s revealing to himself his own version of the Charmed Life.

My newest client realizing for himself that what I share is accurate.

Creating “supernatural shit”

Two days ago, for example, (at the time of this writing) this client and I had a great 1:1 session. In it we talked about “tragedies” I touched on above. We started picking at them, turning around negative stories he told about them, so freedom from negative emotion could show up for him.

That night he texted me. I didn’t read it until the next morning. His text described quite an event:

My client expressed in his text what many people believe. They believe this kind of thing belongs in the “supernatural” category of experiences. But supernatural just means “beyond the scientific understandings of the laws of nature”.

I say repeatedly: science is very limited in what it knows. But its believers and practitioners believe it is the only source of dependable knowledge. So when something shows up that exists as real, but outside science’s narrow scope, science’s believers and practitioners will assert the thing false because science hasn’t blessed it as true. 🙄

Most of what humans want to know lies outside the scope of science. Why is there so much suffering, why do I seem to not fit in, why do I like this sexual practice mainstream society thinks is deviant? These meaty questions science can’t answer. Or they try by turning things into diseases or mental disorders and then medicate the experiencer to numb them back into the mainstream.

Experiences like my client described above may seem supernatural. But they distinguish the Charmed Life from ordinary life. In that life, the Charmed Life, one experiences things like this all the time.

Revelry for revelry’s sake

I enjoy living the Charmed Life. Part of that joy involves showing others how to create their versions of that life. Doing that, clients and I revel in the results. We don’t revel because of the results though. We revel because reveling feels great.

And when we revel, we focus. By focusing on the revelry, we seed future experiences worthy of future revelry.

Nothing compares to the Charmed Life. My clients get it and want more. So do I of course. Want to cultivate your own? I got your back!

How Easy Life Is When People Follow Their Knowing

I love it when Broader Perspective shows me examples perfectly illustrating how it communicates with me. This one comes from a dear friend of mine, Avin. Like me, he enjoys the Charmed Life. He consistently puts his Broader Perspective relationship first. In doing so, everything turns out perfectly for him.

Avin told me this true story to support his accurate assertion that, even when someone has a strong positive focus, expansion continues. What he meant was, there’s no time in this practice where someone “arrives” then has nothing more to gain. Expansion is infinite, meaning there’s never an end.

Tradition or vibration?

One evening Avin sat down at the dinner table with his family, which he does every evening. Family dinners are important in his culture. He makes it a point to attend every one. But Avin’s parents, staunch conservatives, listen to a radio talk show that near always features someone talking about how bad the world is. As a result, his parents often reside at rather low vibrations.

This evening his parents kept the show playing when everyone gathered at the dinner table. Avin told me he really didn’t want to have dinner with that show in the background. Not only was the subject matter negative and thus vibrating low, he felt himself merging with that frequency.

Like me, Avin is a vibrational snob. We take our vibrations quite seriously because we know, our vibration is the source of our life experience. We know the more we focus on high vibration, the better our lives get. So we care a great deal about moving through the world Positively Focused. 

Avin said he wanted to ask his parents if they could enjoy dinner without the show. But in addition to traditions like family dinners, Avin’s culture also venerates parents. Asking his parents to turn off the show felt, to Avin, like an affront to his parents. So he decided to tolerate the vibration and eat his salad.

In other words, he bit his tongue.

Cultivating a vibrational snob attitude is important because one’s life emerges from vibrational reality. This graphic details how.

A biting message

Not long into his salad, Avin felt a searing pain in his mouth. At the same time he heard a “crunch” as his teeth ground deeply into his tongue. He literally chewed into his tongue, tearing a great gash with his back teeth.

“I knew immediately this was the Universe,” he said. “And the message was clear.”

The Universe made his figurative gesture a literal one. He literally bit his tongue! The pain he felt made the message loud and clear: speak your mind rather than bite down on it.

Later that evening, Avin sat with the event. His tongue throbbing, he marveled in the exactness of the experience, how it resonated deeply with his knowing of how the Universe works.

“I thought about how perfect the experience was,” he said. “Then I reveled in how clearly I received the message.”

Together we laughed at the biting humor through which his Broader Perspective communicated. Avin said by the time he turned in for bed, his vibration was so high, he couldn’t sleep. So he listened to meditational music to help him catch some Zs.

It’s as real as me

I know my Broader Perspective constantly communicates with me. So many experiences happen in my life, like Avin’s here, but far less painful, I’m convinced I have a Broader Perspective and it helps me always. So do my clients. Like my newest client texted me this week:

Interesting addition: the day I’m writing this, I had my own lighthearted example of my Broader Perspective communicating with me. I rode to the store for groceries. I usually shop at Safeway for regular items, then Trader Joes for specialty items. One specialty item I usually get is popcorn kernels. But this time, while passing through the aisle at Safeway, I passed by the popcorn, stopped, picked up two bags and almost put them in my cart.

But then I had a second thought: “I have these on my list to get at Trader Joes.” I checked the Safeway price. It was the same amount as Trader Joes. In hindsight, I get my Broader Perspective wanted me to get these two bags. And for good reason.

I didn’t though. Instead, I put them back. I checked out, rode home, unpacked my bags. Then, two hours later, headed to TJs.

I arrived, got all my shopping done, except for the popcorn. I went to that aisle and….couldn’t find any. Maybe they moved them somewhere else, I thought. So I asked a clerk.

“Sorry,” she said. “That maker is having production delays. We don’t have any right now.”

I know now, so I know better

Like Avin, the message came through loud and clear. My Broader Perspective knew TJs popcorn supply was nonexistent. It directed me right to the popcorn at Safeway. I even picked two bags up. But I second-guessed my inner knowing. 🤣

Thinking about this later, I laughed to myself. Not only because of what happened, but that I realized what happened!

I mean, it’s really important in a Positively Focused practice to amplify experiences that show one’s Broader Perspective is real. Doing so prepares one’s perception for seeing future events in which one’s Broader Perspective is at work.

So realizing what happened, and acknowledging that I realized what happened, were two important steps in my own Positively Focused practice.

I know my Broader Perspective has my back. It’s always guiding me, leading me to everything I’m wanting. Even bags of popcorn!

Next time I’ll not second guess, but, in a way, I’m glad I did because having done so I clearly got that my Broader Perspective indeed is real and serves me everything I want.

Ready to connect with your Broader Perspective? If so, I got your back.

What People Get Wrong About Victim Blaming

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Do tragedies exist? Do circumstances beyond people’s control randomly happen? When can one fairly blame “victims” for what happens to them?

This post will unpack “Victim Blaming” and reveal a couple important points. The points are that one, victim hood doesn’t exist as an empirical fact. Secondly, no one need experience tragedy.

While unpacking all this, the post offers strong arguments why anyone thinking someone “blames victims” should rethink how they’re thinking.

It’s not that blaming the victim as a phenomena isn’t true. It’s just that claiming a person does that, severely harms the claimant. That’s because the person making that claim disempowers themselves when they claim “victims” exist. In other words, they make themselves a victim thereby setting up opportunities to experience victim hood.

Tragedies: do they happen?

When a person stands in the belief that “victims” exist, that belief validates the notion that “tragedies” exist. No doubt events happen wherein great suffering occurs. Often, such events happen with little or no warning. At least it seems that way.

I’ll get back to that toward the end of this post.

Situations happen all the time that one group or another calls tragic. Even our political leaders use that word in describing events that, indeed, seem tragic. Building collapses, earthquakes and other natural disasters, airplane disasters, pandemics, mass shootings, terror attacks, rapes, violent murders…the list goes on and on.

Suffering from tragedies happen. But need it?

From one perspective these events are tragic in the sense that it seems none of the victims asked to have that experience. They (the victims) just had “bad luck”, standing at the wrong place at the wrong time. The tragedy claims them. Then their suffering spreads to their survivors — friends and families. Those who experienced similar situations and those who sympathize with the tragedy through media coverage, a reenactment film, or social media suffer empathetically as well.

It’s understandable then, when someone says “these people manifested that experience” the vast majority of people will respond angrily. They will accuse the speaker of “victim blaming”. Then claim that Law of Attraction and “manifestation” and other empowering ideas are “unmitigated rubbish”. Which is how one person answered a question about Law of Attraction on Quora.

And yet it’s true

“Why would a person choose to be in a terror attack, die in a fiery plane crash, get raped or murdered!?” These people will cry. “That’s totally callus and impossible. It’s irresponsible to say such a thing! Not only does it disrespect the pain and anguish survivors go through, it perpetuates rape culture, misogyny and a host of other evils!”

And yet, victims don’t exist. Everyone creates their experience.

While this post details how, these words, while accurate, can only go so far. The best way these things get understood happens through practicing creating your reality in your daily life. Results you produce offer far more convincing proof than words on a screen.

So yes, it’s true. When a person experiences something like a tragedy, they chose that experience. We explain here in great detail. So bear with this very long post.

Things happen that appear tragic. But do they happen to everyone, or only those who invite them? (Photo by John Middelkoop on Unsplash)

What are you?

When a baby comes through the vagina, and for now, every baby comes in that way, humans think that being is innocent. They believe it arrived for the first time. It knows nothing about life on Earth. The infant needs nurturing, education and such.

And while the thing (the baby’s body) needs nurturing, the inhabitant knows the deal. It brings wisdom, not innocence, to Earth. Whether freshly out of the vagina or 80 years old, a human being represents an emanation from a being possessing vast capabilities.

That being stands as vast as its capabilities. It is eternal, having existed as long as All That Is has been around (it has never not been around). In addition to being eternal, that being also enjoys indestructibility, invulnerability and it exists in all dimensions simultaneously.

You, dear reader, are this being.

Again, words on a computer will not convince you. To know…or credibly believe this…a person must put into practice a process that proves what you’re reading as accurate. Telling positive stories does this. Evidence positive stories produce will, over time, provide such enormously convincing proof, you’ll give up your human experience, revealing what and who you really are.

I have arrived!!! When that baby comes through the vagina, and for now, every baby comes in that way, humans think that being is innocent. But it’s not at all that. (Photo: Alex Hockett)

The Sacred Forgetting

Back to our baby…

When this eternal, indestructible being looks into the dimension that contains planet Earth, they see great potential. We won’t go into detail about that potential. We’ll only say the potential is so great, it is literally irresistible.

However, to “come into” this experience and experience it fully, the being must “forget” its true nature. Also, the being, in all its beingness, is too great to “fit” into this dimension. So in addition to “forgetting”, it also must “squeeze” a portion of itself into this reality.

This all happens in the birthing process, shortly before or shortly thereafter, depending on the being’s choices. Some call it The Sacred Forgetting.

When the being sees this reality through the eyes of its creation “the body”, having forgotten temporarily its true nature, the reality of Earth is COMPLETELY OVERWHELMING. This can’t be overstated. For some, it is totally frightening. But the infant is still a creator, no matter how small or innocent it might look.

That’s enough about the baby for now. Now, let’s look at the Universe.

The wish granting jewel

First of all, all physical reality is an emanation of the eternal, indestructible being experiencing it. It has no substance other than that. Therefore, it is 100 percent subjective as an experience. It has no objective reality separate from an observer. And no observer experiences what another does. This graphic helps illustrate this. It’s taken from the book Seth, Dreams and Projections of Consciousness, by Jane Roberts.

The ultimate reality of physical reality and its relationship to the eternal, indestructible force or entity that you are. Your reality overlaps those of another, but the other experiences only theirs. And you experience only yours.

Since it is so that no one experiences what another does, the being emanating determines the emanation. In other words, reality exists as a projected emanation from what goes on “inside” the projector. The being experiencing the emanation projects the emanation, then observes what it projects.

This is crucial for the unfolding of All That Is. Because the unfolding of All That Is is 100 percent dependent on All That Is. “All That Is” is the vast collection of beings we described above. All That Is literally is a stream (like water shooting out of a hose) of intelligent, awareized energy. That “energy” is what we referred to as “beings” above.

Since beings comprise All That Is, their collective emanations constitute reality across all dimensions. Why is this? And why is it crucial? 

Everything plays a part

The reason reality is set up this way is because it facilitates “more and better”. More and better of what? More and better improvement, expansion, deeper unconditional love and appreciation. All those things are the purpose of the Universe. The Universe, therefore, exists in order to prompt or trigger these things.

So it is predisposed to these things because these things – love, improvement, expansion – are the basis of what intelligent, awareized energy is all about.

These beings could accomplish the purpose on their own. But it’s far more fun and immersive doing it across dimensional reality. And, since “improvement and expansion” are the name of the game, at some point way back in “time” these beings understood through their personal experience that “improvement and expansion” were more satisfying when they happened the way they do right now across space-time-realit[ies].

Now, we’re referring to the relationship between humans and the Universe. But the same dynamic exists between every instance of physical reality and the Universe. Not just humans. An ant enjoys a similar experience. So does a rock. Dirt too. Atoms too. The wind as well. These beings animate every instance of physical reality. Remember: you are one of them. That’s important.

So the Universe exists as a “process” whereby immensely powerful all-knowing beings use the “process” to expand into more and better. In doing so, everything becomes more and better. That evokes more and better, deeper feeling of love and appreciation, joy and empowerment among these beings.

Now let’s get back to that baby.

Physical reality on Earth is an emanation of consciousness, consciousness being the limited version of the being’s experience while in a physical body.

Separation, illusion, insecurity

Human perceptions create the illusion of separation. It looks, though eyeballs and other senses, like physical reality is separate from the observer. That’s on purpose.

The human forgot what it is. So in human form, this god (what else would you call it?) perceives the world from a human perspective. From that perspective, for example, it looks like there are other “humans”, some of which care a great deal about this baby, some who don’t care at all. Some might even want to harm it.

But initially, the baby is surrounded by humans offering care. This situation – birth conditions, including parental type, economic circumstances, ethnicity, religion and more – are conditions all decided and agreed upon. Every being involved, including the baby, agreed it would unfold the way it does.

In other words, no randomness occurs when a baby comes through that vagina. All conditions are known and everyone involved agreed to them. The baby is a creator. It always was before, it still is now and will forever be.

Abraham telling it like it is from Ester Hick’s daily email.

Dependency begins

The problem, and this is where all problems start (if you want to call them that), is the forgetting. Not only has the baby forgotten, so has its parents, the doctor, the nurse, the uber driver, the children who are now the baby’s siblings. Even though they all agreed in advance, all of them forgot that’s what happened.

So now, the baby comes in (or out). Reality’s bewildering nature so starkly shocks, it causes insecurity in the baby. The baby concludes that it must fend for itself.

But it has allies. Its parents, the nurses and doctors, midwives or doulas in those initial days care for it. It realizes then that it must rely on these larger humans to give it what it needs.

That’s problematic in a way because it sets up and reinforces something that is not happening but looks like it is: that the baby is dependent on bigger humans, humans who are separate from the baby and could, at any time, withdraw their support or offer dangerous expressions such as anger…and “punishment”. So one of the first things babies learn is how to manipulate adults into caring for them.

Onto emotional adulthood

From that early moment on, the now human has concluded (not learned), or adopted from others’ conclusions, that the world is separate from it and filled with others, some of whom care, but most who don’t. The human also concludes that they must be careful.

Remember, they’re insecure. They must be careful because at any moment, those who don’t care might come and do something that will harm them. Or those that do care will turn into those who don’t. That’s scary.

Even those with the best upbringing feel this way. We’re generalizing a bit for brevity’s sake. Generally, hardly anyone on the planet grows up free of the following emotions:

  • Insecurity
  • Anxiety
  • Worry
  • Doubt
  • Disappointment
  • Blame
  • Frustration
  • Annoyance
  • Boredom
  • Impatience
  • Jealousy/envy
  • Fear
  • Pessimism
  • Anger
  • Grief
  • Dispair
  • Depression

Occasionally, they’ll experience more positive emotions. But because humans generally exist in a state of insecurity, the emotions above represent their dominant life experience.

Now, we’re ready to talk about “manifestation”.

Where “reality” springs from

Without emotions, it would be very difficult to manage one’s manifestations. There are other factors, but emotions play a big role.

Remember, reality is an emanation that has no objective substance. It’s there to show the being what it has going on “inside” so it may steer to “more and better”. In doing that it gets more love, joy and appreciation.

So when an internal condition exists, that condition eventually gets reflected “out” into the emanation (reality). This is on purpose so the being, now in a human body, can tell what’s happening “inside”.

Because it is in a body, only a portion of its energies are in the emanation. “The emanation” includes the body. So its focus, in the beginning, is kinda fully engaged in negotiating through and around in the emanation, aka physical reality.

That’s why a human who doesn’t know what you’re reading believes the emanation is real. Interacting with it makes the being believe it is real. Beliefs associated with that belief tell the human that the way they get what they need happens through manipulating matter — people, circumstances and events. Doing that requires near full attention. And it’s exhausting.

Remember, reality is an emanation that has no objective substance. It’s there to show the being what it has going on “inside” so it may steer to “more and better”. In doing that it gets more love, joy and appreciation. (Photo by Greg Rakozy on Unsplash)

Linking thought and reality

But reality is an emanation. Humans can create any emanation they want. Indeed it’s what’s happening behind all the doing humans do. It only looks like the doing is what’s creating “outcomes”. And that’s because most humans believedoing creates outcomes.

Now, another word for the word “condition” used four paragraphs above is “vibration”. Everything is vibration. Hopefully you know this. Science has proven this, but please, don’t ever let science be the final word. It knows very little.

Physical reality as an emanation is composed of vibrating frequencies or conditions operating in a harmonic. That harmonic allows human senses to translate the vibrating frequencies the way they do – into objects and space. But those frequencies have their basis in the same “place” from which beings emerge through a vagina into the world. So conditions or vibrations are constantly moving forward, changing and expanding within the being that now is partially in a human body.

Reality springs as an emanation from thoughts people think. These thoughts harmonize vibrationally with others, and increase in frequency until they create the reality each person sees. (Art by me)

How manifestation works

When that internal vibration or condition changes, the emanations must change, matching the internal change. Then the body’s senses translate those changed emanations into changed conditions, circumstances and events matching the internal frequency change.

That’s what happens when “manifestation” occurs. And manifestations are ALWAYS occurring.

Every human does this. Every human exists eternally. It squeezed itself into a body. Each human being agreed to all the circumstances making its experience “real”. And, each person cooperates with all the others in agreement.

So physical reality happens on purpose. It serves expansion, more and better, and deeper levels of unconditional love which is the basis of All That Is. All That Is, of course, springs from the collective stream of awareized energy, the “being” which all humans are. Which is what you and we are.

So “manifestation” is a fancy word for the process by which internal conditions get projected into external emanations which match those internal conditions through vibrational harmonics, which are under the direct control of awareized, eternal, indestructible beings choosing to incarnate in a physical body. The process is designed to facilitate greater levels of unconditional love, a kind of evolution for these beings, of which you are one.

An overview of how manifestation works. (My graphic)

Manifestation: It is law

Any time a person puts their attention on their physical reality, then formulates a conclusion about what they’re putting their attention on that’s different from what they’re observing, they change the frequency of their internal vibration. When they do that, the emanation they’re looking at will change to match the conclusion because the conclusion represents a shift in vibration, vibration setting up conditions for the emanations. All other conditions being equal THIS MUST HAPPEN.

The same is true when a person simply changes their beliefs or changes their mind, or makes a statement inconsistent with observed reality. If they hold that vibrational harmonic long enough, their reality must change to match it and it will change to match it unless the emanator (the person) fails to hold the changed vibrational harmonic.

And this is why everyone who says manifesting is rubbish is right. Their belief, their internal vibration says “[manifesting or Law of Attraction] doesn’t work”. What do you think their reality is going to show them? It will show them that it doesn’t work.

By now you should logically arrive at the following: there are no tragedies. But we’re going to offer more to help you see the logic of that.

The Universe is predisposed to good. We already said that. Love, more and better all represent good. But there seems to be some “bad” going on. Why is that if the Universe is predisposed to good?

It’s because all that “bad” being created is on purpose and designed to lead people to the good.

Now think about that. Doesn’t that make the “bad” actually good?

Free will means a lot

It does. But people enjoy free will. Nothing can happen they don’t want to happen. They sit in the driver’s seat. They also forgot everything you’re reading. So they don’t know they create their reality and their reality is supposed to be filled with fun, good, happy love.

Go back and look at that list of emotions. Most people reside in the combination of these. Even those who say they don’t.

Emotions are early indicators of vibrational harmonics. And emanations (reality) ALWAYS match the internal, incipient condition(s) as late stage indicators. Emotions tell you whether or not the emanation you’re about to experience is going to be good or not when it shows up.

But when it’s not, that’s a good thing. That’s because external reality exists to help people understand whether they’re going in the direction of more and better, or not. And since every human enjoys free will, no one but the individual makes the choice.

So if I (as a human) am focused on conclusions that are predominantly negative, my reality will reflect that back to me. Not as a punishment or something bad, but as a clue telling me “look at and do something about your internal reality (my vibration)”.

But I’m free to not do that. If I don’t, my reality will keep emanating what I’m putting out.

Tragedies emerge from free will

If I’m in insecurity or fear most of the time, or anxious, for example, the world around me will reflect that back to me. Not as punishment, but so I can know that my internal vibration needs attending. And if I don’t do that, if I keep focusing on conclusions that are negative, I will get more and more of that, in greater intensity, including more and more circumstances reflecting my internal state back to me, like a positive feedback loop.

It’s hard to believe, but a person who is raped had strong vibration happening inside, that created earlier warnings in him or her that, had they heeded them and changed their trajectory earlier, they would have avoided the rape altogether.

The same is true for people experiencing strong emanations such as terror strikes, disasters and mishaps.

Again, you must put the practice to work in your life to convince you of this. These words will not do it. But evidence you create will.

A person in tune with their “higher knowing”, we call that one’s Broader Perspective, enjoys a kind of GPS mapper. Their Broader Perspective routes them around such experiences to the degree the person remains Positively Focused. Better said: one’s Broader Perspective constantly guides people to everything they want. Since hardly anyone “wants” to experience tragedies, such things aren’t included.

Tragedies happen in the mind of observers and the lives of those who invite them in. That means you needn’t experience one. (Photo by Dasha Urvachova on Unsplash)

When things “go wrong”

We’ll offer another perspective on “tragedies” of which there aren’t any 😊. That is, when such things happen, great good always comes from them, but not always immediately. Hopefully you can see this. One of the greatest tragedies, World War II, spurred some of the greatest advances in many, many fields, for example.

The point is, you can’t know, in your human form, why something happens to another. But it’s for certain what’s happening is on purpose and benefits the entity experiencing it. And, when that happens, the benefits spread to everyone else because everyone else is cooperating with everyone else as described above.

So nothing is ever going wrong, even though it may look like it. Conflicts, disagreements, protests, wars…it all represents eternal beings working out vibrational harmonics such that the end result is more and better, best described as an eternal, unconditional state of ever-becoming more…love.

The purpose of existence is simple: creating more love. (Photo by Fadi Xd on Unsplash)

Tragedy disempowers

No one ever need experience “tragedy”. Certainly such situations happen. But they need not be seen as “tragedies” as, surely, they are not. And, no one, absolutely no one, need experience something like that against their will. That doesn’t mean such situations don’t happen. When they do, people involved got there while not paying attention to what they created.

There always will be people struggling to gain their footing, and, in the process create emanations for themselves that look “tragic” to others.

The problem with concluding they are tragic is, when you do that, you tend to enflame your own sense of insecurity, which, if you hold long enough, will manifest into your own tragic versions.

Or, you can take the hint your emotions are sending you, shift your attention to something better-feeling and experience only increasingly positive experiences. That’s the nature of life’s promise to all beings. It also fulfills the basis of the practice my clients and I explore through Positively Focused.

The Best Way To Live: Focus In The Unfolding

Photo by Photo Boards on Unsplash

Everyone lives in the past. That seems like nonsense, but bear with me as I describe why that is. With just a little Positively Focused practice under your belt, clients realize how accurate that statement is. But if you don’t see life through Positively Focused eyes, “everyone lives in the past” sounds like nonsense.

But it’s not.

The reason everyone lives in the past is because they, through science and traditional education, learn a screwy perspective. We’re all taught “the present” is where we live. Things that happened “before” – that’s they past, we’re told. Things that haven’t happened – that’s the future. So people strive to live in the “present”, while sometimes referring to this commonly accepted past and future.

The best, and most satisfying way to live lines up with breaking free of traditional, common knowledge. Stepping out of traditional, commonly accepted knowledge, turns hum-drum, ordinary, uninspiring lives into the Charmed Life I write about.

Why change perspectives?

It seems we live in the “present”, in the “now”, our current experience. Birds fly about. Dogs bark. Cars whoosh by. Winds blow through trees. Yep, that looks like the present.

From a universal perspective though, this is not the present. This is the past. It represents ideas – thoughts and beliefs – that have manifestED. From a universal perspective, which is the same perspective your Broader Perspective has, humanity’s commonly believed “present” is not the present or the now. It is the past. It’s manifested.

Why is this so important? How does one benefit by changing perspective?

It’s important because every human is a creator. They create by observing, then drawing conclusions about what they observe. Conclusions, thoughts, desires, preferences…they all represent the same thing. That same thing represents cosmic focus, which channeled, moves all of creation toward fulfillment of that conclusion, thought, desire or preference.

That means, when a person looks at what people commonly agree is the present, which is past manifestation, and they conclude randomly about that, they create more of what’s manifested.

All kinds of things happen in the manifestED version of life, which is the past. But it’s the manifestING version of life everyone knew they wanted to live when they decided to become human. (Photo by Aditya Vyas)

“No” means “yes”

So if a person or a group doesn’t like what they see, and they rail against that, they create more of that. Pushing against anything in the manifestED means giving attention to and focus on that. Again, attention begins the process of creation. It doesn’t matter if “attention” one gives sounds like “I don’t like this”. The person giving attention will get what they don’t like.

The Universe doesn’t understand English (or any other language). It only understands vibration. Attention is vibration. It doesn’t matter if you look at something and say “I don’t want this”. Your vibration of attention, whether you like what you attend to or not, tells the Universe “give me more of this”.

This is why things like racism, wars, political division and such continue long after people want something better or different. Everyone’s looking at what’s happening, then concluding in ways that create more of what they’re looking at.

In other words, they live in the manifested past.

Such things take so long to change because humans also stand opposed to what they want, even when they think they are standing in alignment with what they want. Those wanted things are coming and will manifest, which is why, often, future generations benefit from what previous generations wanted. While those previous generations die off in a state of not getting what they want.

Then what’s a better way?

People creating their lives consciously know the commonly known present moment is actually the past. They spend little to no attention there. Instead, they stand in the Unfolding Present, the Moment of Becoming, as Seth calls it.

What is the Unfolding Present?

The Unfolding Present is the no-space space from where the new, the manifestING emerges. It is the instantaneous now, each now moment, fresh and full of creative vitality. And it’s a place one can experience with practice, just like they now experience the commonly-believed present moment, which is the past.

Now all moments contain creative vitality. But the Unfolding Present holds incipient creative vitality. It is the fountain from which creation springs. The Unfoldling Present exists someplace other than physical reality. Which is why a Positively Focused practice is necessary. Ordinary people cannot perceive this “now.”

Figuring it out

This “space” that is the Unfolding Present is a state of being. It’s the state in which children dwell before they’re indoctrinated into “growing up”. Some call it the “flow state”, others call it imagination.

How I prefer describing it is that place in which one knows one’s desires are done, and from that knowing, one relaxes into the IS-ness of being. That being-state feels WONDERFUL.

Figuring out how to be in that state is hard to grasp, I know. Now you can see why a Positively Focused is required. A person must figure out how to get there. It isn’t easy.

But getting there is inevitable, because that’s the basis of everyone’s Broader Perspective state. And everyone’s Broader Perspective wants them experiencing the real present moment, the Unfolding Present or the Moment of Becoming. Most don’t get there until they make their after-death transition. That needn’t be your fate though.

This illustrated guide offers a complete description of the Moment of Becoming, the actual present moment, and its relationship to All That Is. View the complete guide here.

The Charmed Life

The reason your Broader Perspective wants you there is because it is from there that all you want unfolds. Whether conscious of it or not, the Moment of Becoming or the Unfolding Present shoots out of you, turning the ManifestED into something else.

For most people “something else” looks like exactly what they’re looking at or focused on. Which is why the commonly accepted “present” looks stable. It’s also, as I wrote above, why social change happens slowly.

If one remains unconscious of this state, the Charmed Life remains concealed behind random creations, those manifestations springing from the Moment of Becoming that look a lot like everyone’s commonly accepted present or even the commonly accepted past. That’s why car makers, for example, often “renew” models they created for the first time decades ago.

Become conscious of this state though, and your foot comes off the brakes. A new momentum reveals itself, as well as a new way of perceiving. Then your Charmed Life reveals itself to you. From there, you discover, or rather rediscover, childhood wonder.

The world looks fresh, new, constantly. And, you also perceive your desires unfolding. As you focus more there, you give attention to that. As I wrote above, attention begins the creation process. So attention on what you want, instead of what you don’t, creates what you want, instead of more of what you have.

When you perceive that always happening, you live the Charmed Life while standing in its Unfolding. Nothing beats that.

The Charmed Life flows from those who practice a Positively Focused life. There, one discovers the Universe as a wish-granting jewel.

A personal advanced example 

This morning as I’m writing this, I’m thrilled with an experience I enjoyed coming from nonphysical. I came to at about 4 a.m.

Laying in bed, I perceived dreams wherein I taught myself an advanced version of what you’re reading about. In the dream, I felt deep satisfaction while standing in the “now” that contains all my current desires. Some of my desires are extraordinary. Some others represent experiences I know will thrill me as they manifest more.

But what I got in the dream state, then amplified while awake in bed, was standing in the fulfillment of those desires is the Moment of Becoming. And when I “stand” there, I don’t feel excitement, or thrill. Instead, I feel a calm, stable knowing. A knowing born from seeing my desires surrounding me, fully manifested.

This state of awareness makes me a match to my FULFILLED desires. Thinking about them as though I want them, as though I don’t have them, has me standing in the manifestED space. There, I can’t have fulfilled desire because if I still want them, I’m focused on the fact that they aren’t there/here.

As mentioned, it takes practice being in a body while focused on and living in the Unfolding. But I assure you, the feeling that comes with being there, fully-tuned to one’s Broader Perspective and living witness to one’s Charmed Life is, unmatched.

My experience with it lead me to offer what I’ve experienced to others. Now that a stable of clients produce their version of my results, their results confirm and amplify my own. Nothing matches this life, where my spirituality not only is my income, it also generates profound wonder of All That Is. 

You can have this too

Positively Focused creates an upward joyful spiral
The upward spiral of the Charmed Life. Every Positively Focused client eventually ends up here, guaranteed. (Illustration: My own work)

Two of my clients have begun the intermediate practice. They are blown away by experiences they had with earlier stages. Those stages and results they produced acted like positive feedback loops. I wrote about this upward spiral before.

When a person discovers this practice, then practices it, early results are instant. But they’re not so convincing because humans get trained out of understanding what’s introduced. Nevertheless everyone gets them, which is why I offer my money-back guarantee.

But those results kick off a process that’s one-way and inevitable. In a short while for some, a while longer for others, those initial results turn into more obvious results.

Taught how to see these, the client gets excited. Then they want more results, so they do the practice more. More practice amplifies their results, which means more and more convincing results happen.

Before long, clients stand convinced the Charmed Life is real. And the more they reach for it, the more it reveals itself. In time, the client is ready for more advanced practice.

Everyone comes into the world knowing the Charmed Life awaits them. But few get there because they accept indoctrination from others who are oblivious to what’s going on.

That’s ok. It’s usually not fatal. But that does lead to mediocre lives.

You don’t want one of those, do you?

PS – this post flew from my fingers after using the bathroom. I had felt the impulse come while in the bathroom and, because I practice following such impulses, I experienced delight watching this post flow. Thanks for reading it. I know you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed is manifested unfolding.

The Easy Way To Love: Stop Looking

Photo by Laura Seaman on Unsplash

The best way to find lasting love is to give up trying to find him or her and let him or her come to you.

I encourage all my clients in this direction because it’s fun, it’s easy and it works 100 precent of the time. You can’t say that for online dating, that’s for sure. It’s crazy so many people try that route when so few succeed.

But being Positively Focused about your life guarantees you’ll meet your match. That’s why I guarantee it. And it will happen in a fun and easy way.

Universe stands ready 

A client proved this recently in her own life. It happened so easy, it honestly knocked my socks off when she told me. Then I realized I had to share it with you all. It’s a textbook example of how cultivating a Positively Focused outlook works.

This client, let’s call her Diane, has been with me for about 34 weeks. We meet each week 1:1. She takes the practice seriously. She’s diligent about telling positive stories about everything. No wonder her life is filled with all kinds of amazing things happening.

Then again, they’re not amazing. It’s just what happens when one takes control of their life by telling stories about life consistent with the kind of life they want.

Buoyed by things going right in her life since taking on the practice, Diane pretty much stopped thinking about how, when or where she’d meet her match. Then she gave up looking for him through online dating sites. As a result of taking that off her mental plate, she also stopped blocking the Universe from giving her what she wanted.

She did that by not telling stories about her match (and other related topics) that created a reality where he remained absent.

Kissing a lot of toads

It’s easy to stop thinking about not having the love you want when your life starts giving you all kinds of great experiences. The paradox of that happening is, because you’re focused on the other great things happening, it’s easy for you to become a match to your Broader Perspective.

Matching that you hear impulses it constantly sends you. Follow them and you’ll eventually meet your match. The Universe will lead you right to the spot where your match is waiting.

Otherwise, you’re trying to do it yourself and, in trying to do that from your disempowering stories about dating, about your date-ability, about the whereabouts of your match, you take all kinds of routes that lead you on wild goose chases. Goose chases where you end up kissing a lot of toads. Sorry about mixing metaphors there!

But when you’re loving life, having fun, enjoying your own company, you turn into a cooperative variable in the equation that sums up to you and your match meeting. That’s what happened with Diane.

In fact, she didn’t even have to go anywhere. He came to her. Here’s how that happened.

Kiss that? No thanks. I’d rather be single, happy and let my perfect match come to me. (Photo by Laura Seaman on Unsplash)

Creating the Charmed Life

“I got a notification on my phone the other day,” Diane explained in our session. “It was a Facebook friend request from someone I didn’t know. I don’t accept friend requests from people who don’t have a picture on their profile. But my impulse said to accept it, so I did.”

An “impulse” is something everyone receives all the time. It’s a message from their Broader Perspective coming in response to a desire they’ve “put out” that their Broader Perspective received.

The impulse, when followed, leads to the unfolding manifestation of that desire. Should the person follow the impulse, they will eventually rendezvous with that fulfilled desire.

As one tells more and more positive stories about their life, they release resistance which creates “noise” that interferes with receiving impulses. As resistance subsides though, impulses come in loud and clear. The next step is following the impulses.

This is how the Universe, one’s Broader Perspective and the individual create “manifestations” culminating in the Charmed Life I write about here each week.

Impulses are the basis of the Charmed Life. But it all starts with being happy, i.e. the guaranteed results of a Positively Focused practice.

Not your job?

A human’s job is not to make things happen. That’s the Universe’s job. Broader Perspective’s job is to lead each individual to their fulfilled desire, which the Universe fulfilled.

So what’s the human’s job?

The human’s job is to create the desire which turns the Universe into more. Then the human receives the fulfilled version of that desire by following its Broader Perspective impulses. The receiving is always surprising and delightful. As such events fill one’s life, one discovers their worthiness, invincibility and the Charmed Life I mentioned above.

In this way, life becomes easy. Most people don’t know this. That’s why so many run around trying to make things happen while finding it very hard to make things happen that way! It’s why so many people give up on their dreams, or compromise on dreams and live lackluster lives. It’s also why so many are depressed, anxious, tired and alone too.

Diane developed a habit of hearing her Broader Perspective impulses with a determination I have yet to see matched by any other client. It’s no wonder then that her life overflows with examples of self-fulfilling desires, desires that delight and surprise her.

One great benefit of session time is we get to revel in all the delight and surprise. It’s fun hearing how clients gradually begin living the Charmed Life promised through this practice.

One advantage I enjoy is having my clients’ experiences amplify my own. They also confirm everything I know, which increases my confidence about what I share.

Ok back to what happened with Diane.

Positively Focused creates an upward joyful spiral
A bonus of my spiritual practice, in addition to it being my occupation, is the upward spiral delight of seeing my own personal practice results confirmed in my Clients’ results. I don’t need this to know being Positively Focused is the best life. But it’s sure nice seeing the confirmation nonetheless.

The impossible possible

The person making the Facebook friend request had a photo of a car on his profile because he was a car buff. Diane received an “impulse” to accept the request because of what happened next.

What happened next blew Diane’s socks off. Diane said the guy said he saw her profile and immediately wanted to get to know her. He thanked her for accepting his request, then started chatting her up. 

The chatting continued every day for a week. Turned out he was an oil rig worker, educated, happy and very interested in getting to know Diane.

But at our next session, she told me she was concerned because she didn’t think this guy, let’s call him Jeff, knew that my client was transgender.

That’s right. Diane is transgender. Most transgender women have many disempowering stories about guys, which is why most transgender women remain single, alone, lonely and mad.

I know this because through my sister blog The Transamorous Network I serve transgender clients the same way I do with non-trans people. About half my client roster is composed of trans and trans-attracted people.

When Diane told Jeff she was trans, Diane said Jeff “paid it no mind. He thought I was cisgender, but he said me being trans didn’t matter!”

Anyone who is trans, or knows transgender women knows how rare such an exchange is. Some might say such an exchange is impossible. And here was Diane, a trans woman, having exactly that experience. Being Positively Focused pays yo!

The Transamorous Network, my sister blog offers insight into thoughts and beliefs of the transgender community. Through The Transamorous Network, I offer the same material I offer through this blog, Positively Focused.

Negative stories, negative reality

Most of the time, according to transgender women who contact me, the men they meet are chasers. They’re looking for “chicks with dicks”, or, when they think the woman is cis, then find out they’re trans, they disappear.

Again, a transgender woman never need experience any of that. But it does happen when, again, transgender women tell negative stories about dating, themselves and men.

For example, another client I’m working with who is transgender currently enjoys a long-running, online, long distance relationship with one guy. She’s actually seeing a few men as a result of her Positively Focused practice which has her changing her stories too.

But she needs improvement, evident in this exchange.

“Even when I’m at my worst,” she said in one session. “He keeps coming back.”

“Why do you think he keeps coming back?” I asked.

“Because he just wants me to fuck him,” she said.

What a disempowering story. Of course, there’s no way a guy would want to keep talking to her because HE LIKES HER. And, what do you think the story “guys just want me because they want me to fuck them” says about the transgender woman thinking such a thought?

Well, it demeans the transgender woman as much as it demeans the men she meets, thereby kiboshing any chance of men even having a chance with her!

Every belief one thinks or expresses or even allows in their awareness carries an associated vibration which creates realities consistent with it. Some of the most damaging are thoughts one thinks about one’s self. (Photo by Sherise VD)

Diane’s dates improving

Diane enjoys a different trajectory. Having changed her stories about subjects related to meeting her match, her men encounters improved dramatically.

First she’d get cat-called at bars. Then men wanted her for “quickies” in the parking lot. Then, guys would approach her, but ghost her after that first encounter. After that, men started sticking around, but they weren’t the caliber of men Diane wanted.

Now, here Diane is getting the furthest forward version of what she wants. And she literally didn’t even leave the house to meet him! Nor did she spend any money dating online.

Furthermore, Diane wanted a guy who had more going for him than “hustling”. Many men she met in the past were street hustlers. Mostly they were into the drug trade and generally getting into criminal mischief.

But Jeff has a steady job. More than that, he wants to take Diane hiking and fishing, as he enjoys the outdoors. Sounds pretty normal, right? But to Diane, it’s not.

“That’s something I’ve been wanting to do more and more since starting becoming Positively Focused,” Diane said. “That he wants to take me out to do those things shows me this is all working out perfectly for me.”

That love you want is right there in front of you. If you can’t see it, or you feel you’re not making any progress towards it, it’s likely you have beliefs which create realities where the relationship that is there, isn’t there. It’s a problem I can help with. (Photo by Toa Heftiba)

What’s the future?

How this situation turns out makes no difference. The main thing happening is Diane is improving her dating stories. She’s seeing her improved stories creating connections reflecting to her that improvement. Diane acknowledges she still has stories she wants to improve, so Jeff isn’t the final match, offering everything she wants.

How does she know that? Because she’s still evolving as a person and in what she wants. As her life improves, as she uncovers what she really wants and goes after that, she becomes more of her authentic self.

As that happens, she becomes more confident and more certain of who she is. Meanwhile, she’s meeting this guy amidst that transition. So Jeff represents a match to who she is currently. Other men stand ready and waiting for her as she becomes more.

And that’s why I urge clients not to be impatient when creating their reality. For the longer a person enjoys what they have, without thinking what they have – especially with partners – is The One, the more they will see what they have improve more and more. Why? Because they are becoming more and more.

Diane’s example shows how easy finding a lover happens. The less energy and attention one puts on that, the more they just enjoy life, the easier finding that person happens.

But when someone thinks finding a partner is a challenge, a problem or impossible, that’s exactly how it will be. Thoughts create reality.

Why not think thoughts that make your ideal reality easy? If you’re ready to know how, I got your back!

The Best Future Comes From Positive Focus

Photo by Hush Naidoo Jade Photography on Unsplash

A client of mine enjoys gambling. She goes to her local casino every once in a while to wind down and play. A couple of my clients do this. It’s not something I find interesting, but what interests me about both clients is how often they win.

One client’s experience, let’s call her Lucy, shows how developing a Positively Focused practice gives one access to powerful insight, insight that reveals the future. And if one follows that insight, the future turns our great. I found it interesting her Broader Perspective used her gambling hobby as the backdrop.

Your role in All That Is

One day Lucy headed to her favorite casino with $100 in her pocket. She planned to gamble just that money then head home.

So she walked into the casino, and, the moment she was inside, she got an impulse. She said she heard it as plain as day. The impulse said “put it all on 11”.

As one develops a Positively Focused practice, that person connects with their Broader Perspective. That’s the part of everyone that remains in nonphysical while a portion of that perspective, that eternal, indestructible being, creates then inhabits the physical bodies we know as ourselves.

That Broader Perspective enjoys a birds-eye view of our unfolding life. It sees all  probable future realities that shoot out from us as we observe, interact with and interpret the world around us. From all we interact with, we create desires. And those desires become the fullness of All That Is.

Our Broader Perspective holds all of that and sends us signals – impulses – that, if followed, draw to us situations and circumstances consistent with fulfilled versions of those desires.

Obviously, great advantage exists for the person able to hear these impulses. Every Positively Focused client develops this ability. That outcome is guaranteed as well as several others. And when they do develop this ability, then consistently follow those impulses, their life becomes the Charmed Life I write about.

Inner guidance advantage

That’s what Lucy referred to when her impulse said “put it all on 11”.

What’s interesting about that impulse is Lucy’s Broader Perspective knew Lucy enjoyed the roulette table. So when Lucy received this impulse, she knew it meant the roulette table.

But it’s also interesting – and you may know this – that 11, the number her Broader Perspective offered, is known as a powerful numerological number. One signifying a “spiritual message”.

But Lucy is just starting to learn to hear…then follow…this highly advantageous inner guidance. So when she got the impulse, she felt super excited, she said.

“I knew this was guidance from Source or my higher power or whatever,” she said. “It came the moment I walked in the door. It was obvious it wasn’t a passing thought. I knew where it came from, you know what I mean?”

I did know.

Such impulses come to me all the time. My practice includes immediately following such impulses, no matter how trivial they feel. Even if nothing immediately obvious results, I know following as many as possible, as quickly as possible, makes it possible in the future to hear, then response in kind to future, more significant impulses.

Impulses one receives from one’s Broader Perspective is the sign everyone looks for. Follow them and watch the Charmed Life emerge effortlessly. (Photo by Austin Chan on Unsplash)

Fear, doubt: buzz killers

Lucy isn’t there yet. As she went from the entrance to the roulette table, doubts about the impulse rose from within her. “Doubt” is not as strong as “fear”, but both indicate beliefs or thoughts that are inconsistent with what one’s Broader Perspective knows about the subject under consideration. 

Every emotion is about that and only that.

But doubt and fear say “Hey! Mind your thoughts young Padewan, you’re blocking your connection to the force!”

Lucy feared this impulse might not be what she thought it was, she said. She feared putting “all” her money on one number. If she didn’t win, she thought, her visit would be really short…only a few minutes!

Little did she know, the doubt and fear she felt was part of a wonderful unfolding underway. An unfolding she couldn’t have predicted.

By the time she got to the table, her doubt had hold of her. But not all the way. Instead of putting all $100 on 11, she reasoned, she decided to put half of it down on 11 and keep the rest. This whole reasoning process happened in mere fractions of a second before she took her place at the table. So for those around her, she looked confident and determined.

To them she arrived, sat, pulled out $50 and confidently put it on 11.

Numbers and their meanings get introduced in advance stages of Positively Focused practice. Some think numerology is hooey. But when one delves deeply into spiritual matters, it begins making sense. (Photo courtesy Pinterest)

Knowing the future

What do you think happened? The wheel stopped…on 11. 

Lucy wasn’t the only one surprised. She said the whole table looked at her in shock, including the person running the table. Here this woman just arrived and in a split second put down a bet…and won!

Lucy won $1,500 off of a $50 bet in less than three minutes after entering the casino, less than three seconds after arriving at the table!

That was enough for her. She packed up her things and started leaving. Those nearest her tried to get her to stay, but Lucy had enough. She got what she wanted, even though she didn’t realize it would be so fun.

“I was overwhelmed with how easy it was, Perry,” she told me in our session following that weekend. “It was like I knew before hand what was going to happen. And it did!”

Lucy said, and I agreed, that following the impulse half way was better than following it fully because she learned something really important.

“If I had put it all on 11,” she explained. “The real gift wouldn’t have sunk in as strong. I followed it half-way and got the half-way result. So now I know I can follow my impulses, no question.”

Indeed. Had Lucy followed completely the impulse she received, she would have won over $3000 off a $100 bet in seconds.

But given the way it happened, Lucy got a lot more than three grand. Next time she receives an impulse, she now knew, she’d follow it to the wonderful, full, delightful and surprising manifested unfolding awaiting her instead of letting doubt kibosh that.

The partial version was still pretty cool though.

“I feel so taken care of,” She said. “Everything always works out for me.”

It’s the best future

The Universe ensures everything works out for everyone. And everyone can live the Charmed Life my clients and I do. All it takes is a little practice learning to see the world through “the mind and eyes of god” that Broader Perspective everyone has looking out for them and sending them signals leading to everything they want.

We all came here knowing this. And we all get knocked off course for a little while. We forget how powerful and all-knowing we actually are.

That’s because life experience is bewildering in its realness and tangible splendor. It doesn’t help that we come into the world through people equally out to lunch about what’s happening. So few know what you’re reading. That means parents, teachers, bosses and political leaders are all, for the most part, leading people in all kinds of crazy directions.

The best future comes from positive focus you share with your Broader Perspective. Recover that and find your Charmed Life. It’s easy. Need help? I got your back.