What Happens When You Follow Your Inner Being Guidance

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Editors note: This true story comes from a client who is six months into their 1:1 membership. It shows how connecting to one’s Inner Being transforms every part of life, making it an ideal romp of ease, fun and joy. Note how every step of the way leads to more and better. Every day is like this when Positively Focused. Italicized paragraphs have been added for context.

My mom and I are moving. She can’t get her beloved grand piano into the new house we’re moving into, she’s going to have to sell it, and buy an upright piano. She contacted a specialist who came and valued it at £5000, but from that, he would take commission and the cost of restoration.

This didn’t seem right to me and I had the thought “I’m sure this piano is worth more.”

A story is nothing more than a thought or a belief you’re thinking at any moment. Learning how to tie your stories to how you feel can lead to incredible life experiences. This client understood how to tie her stories to her emotions. What happened next happened because she knows what to do when a positive story comes to her.

Positively Focused makes connections clear

So a few days later I was shopping in my favourite wholefood and organic cleaning and beauty products shop. It is run by Jess – a friendly and enterprising South African man who I’ve always felt an attraction to.

I went in there to buy some cheap little Christmas gifts and got chatting as I normally do. Somehow the topic of music came up and he revealed that in a former life he had been a master Piano restorer, technician and salesman for the prestigious Kensington piano company in London.

Notice the tie between her previous experience with the former piano business operator and this former one. Note how connected the two experiences were…

He also revealed that he had left because of the underhand way piano businesses operate, and he had gone solo, building up an extensive and prestigious client base, including royalty, Yoko Ono and the Royal Academy of music in London.

I told him about my mum’s piano and after a few questions he said to me “I’m sure it’s worth a lot more.” I asked him if he would come and value it for a fee.

Knowing that I was also in the music business, he said to me “well I know everything there is to know about acoustic pianos. But I’m in the market for a vintage Fender Rhodes or Wurlitzer piano, and I know nothing about electric pianos. If you could get me a good electric piano from the 70s era, I’ll come and do the valuation for free.”

I put a post on Facebook, and within an hour or two my uncle, who happens to run a piano tuning and keyboard hire business, contacted me to let me know he had one available. I’ve put Jess and my uncle in contact and it turns out they both worked with the same piano restorer colleague many years ago.

Whenever two people come together, it’s always for mutual benefit. Whether trans-attracted or transgender, when you meet someone, mutual benefit always takes place. That doesn’t mean you experience the benefit, even though it did happen. In most situations, people miss benefits they got. It’s easy to see the benefits though when you know how stories create reality.

It gets better…

Two days ago Jess came and valued my mum’s piano and has already found a buyer for it for £10,000, double the original valuation. No need for restoration, and no commission.

Because this client waited and let the Universe orchestrate her outcomes, she got a wonderful, delightful outcome….but it did get better…

This morning I picked up the Wurlitzer from my uncle who happened to be in London on a piano tuning job … Jess and my uncle have not yet spoken about money, however Jess told me that he has some very lucrative business opportunities and propositions for my uncle.

When I picked up the keyboard this morning, my uncle asked me what price he should sell it for. I gave him my opinion but added he might want to consider Jess’s business proposition before charging him anything at all. If he gives you some really lucrative work, I said, maybe you’d like to give him the keyboard for free. He agreed.

The keyboard comes without legs. One or two Facebook posts later, I had sourced same exact model legs and could be in receipt of them within days. My plan is to give them to Jess for free. They only cost about £200, but we are making an extra £5000 on the basis of his goodwill.

So Jess gets to pass on his business and he gets a free keyboard. We get a free valuation and double our money! And I get to broker satisfaction for everyone!

Yippeee!

This client’s life increasingly includes, on the daily, experiences like this. Your life happens this way too. Want to learn to see your life that way? Contact me.

Why Spiritual Journeys Are Hard For Some People

Positively Focused is the way to go. Anguish can be good.
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All clients starting a Positively Focused path experience life falling apart. That’s because recalibrations happen almost at once.

Those recalibrations happen any time one begins a spiritual path true to universal premises. So “life falling apart” is a good thing, an indicator the path works, a indicator the path contains accurate wisdom.

Still, such recalibrations can be so frightful for some, without a mentor, they will abandon the path. Some even give up even while having someone guiding them.

One such client came to me in great pain. Her living situation sucks. She lives in a strong, patriarchal, Middle Eastern country. Her father sexually abuses this client, who is in her 20s. Neither her mother nor her siblings intervene.

At her wits end, she found Positively Focused, reached out and asked for guidance, which I gladly gave. She began the work with me three weeks ago.

After her second session, she bailed.

Her belief constellations pushed back so hard, she couldn’t handle tension existing between her strong existing beliefs about immediate reality, and her equally strong existing desire for more and better, aka a Charmed Life.

An early-stage client’s belief constellations trigger, just before she gives up.

Good news is, “giving up” always is temporary. One way or another, suffering ends. For everyone, death ends suffering. At death we give up resistance to what is and return to pure positive awareness, bliss and unconditional love, which is what we all are.

But for that rare number, suffering ends the moment they take charge of how they create reality. In other words, we need not wait until death to experience overflowing love.

But first one must learn

Tension between existing belief and existing desire is common. Such tension indicates realities one is creating are going to stay the same for a while, rather than become more and better. So it’s important knowing when one has both existing belief and existing desire simultaneously. This is the main reason why physical reality changes so slowly.

Eliminating this tension creates faster realize-ation.

Knowing this becomes obvious once one knows how to see the signs, practices, then witnesses obvious results.

Until then, spiritual seekers will shoot themselves in the feet by attracting thoughts that distract their attention, then express thoughts accurately reflecting their beliefs AND their desire…while not realizing that’s what is going on.

For example, a different client bemoaned his progress because he didn’t experience it as progress. His existing beliefs, the way he sees the world, and his existing desire, wanting more and better according to his circumstances, were in tension. The tension he felt, felt like pain.

What he said (via text) accurately expressed this pain:

A client clues into his obvious progress forward, after not seeing it at all.

But notice how he described his state of “slipping”. He expressed it so accurately and yet, totally missed the clue.

When I showed him the obvious sign, it broke through his resistance. He instantly felt better. Instant emotional improvement indicates massive progress.

Progress is always right in front of your face

Notice his statement’s accuracy. Notice he didn’t say “1 step forward, 2 steps back.” That would have told a different story, one where he was slipping.

But he wasn’t slipping. He was moving forward. He just didn’t see the obvious sign, until I pointed it out.

That’s funny because that happens a lot with people on spiritual paths. They can’t see evidence, even when it’s right in front of them.

It’s hard…until it’s not

A new client gets it.

Many clients tell me being Positively Focused is hard. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Having someone who knows the path helps a lot.

Walking the path without someone showing the way is possible. Some don’t need assistance. But most usually do, which is why I offer what I offer.

It’s painful at first recalibrating to one’s Inner Being, one’s Broader Perspective, rather than being aligned to old stories creating current reality. That pain is optional for those who assiduously use built-in indicators existing for exactly that purpose: making the path not only easy, but fun.

It gets easy for everyone though after momentum builds.

In spiritual practices, early on it can feel like things are going backwards. But even when it feels that way, it’s progress. Knowing that will bring needed relief when feeling frustrated.

I know this from personal experience. So do my clients. Well…most of them 😃.

The Sweet Spot Feels Sweet And Creates Better Nows

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It’s so fun being Positively Focused. I’m playing more, working less, enjoying more complaining less and the more I do this the better my life gets!

Just woke from a wonderful nap. It was a choice between that, going out for a walk in the cold, cloudless, sunny day, or making cookies. All good, fun things. Or I could have done worked on my projects.

I sat and felt how each felt, listening and feeling each idea for the best combination of alignment and pleasure.

The nap felt best. My dreams and how delightful I feel post-nap show me I made a great choice. My Broader Perspective loves it.

And so do I.

And I woke with plenty of time for my next client. With no alarm clock, or reminder chime waking me or anything!

And…LOL…I created this blog post effortlessly! So napping rendezvoused me with a perfect thing to write about, thus enabling me to work effortlessly! LOL. So fun!

Soul Mates Who Cause Us Pain Are The Best Teachers

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I’ve added yet another running series “Q/A” to my blog. Here I answer questions I get through the internets. I share them here with you as they may help feel inspired to be more Positively Focused.

Someone asked: Why do we have soul contracts with people that will eventually end up hurting us, killing us, or destroying our mental health?

Answer: First, they aren’t really “contracts”…

Connections we have with others represent the energy stream that we are. It seems we are individuals living in separate bodies, but beneath that interpretation, which feels so, and is very real….beneath that lies the actual phenomena of All That Is: a stream of awareized energy that we all are, divided into categories or families, if you will, subdivided into yet more categories, organized according to “harmonics”…vibratory patterns of awareized energy distinguished and organized around timeless “core values” or “intents”.

These “soul contracts” as you describe them are such organizations. They aren’t hard and fast “pacts” like a compact, rather they are resonance patterns or harmonics that can be felt. That’s why they feel like “contracts”: inescapable, irresistible.

Ok, that’s the pretty theory. Now for the practical answer…that you might not enjoy reading. 😊

It’s all about more and better

No one hurts, kills or destroys us mentally or otherwise. That’s our doing. Each being with whom we have significant contact exists within us as an inseparable aspect of that unique organization stream I mentioned above, rising and falling in harmony with our own core intents.

They serve an extremely valuable purpose in our lives. They help us shape ourselves into our ideal self. That image we know ourselves to be in nonphysical, that we wish to express in physical through our core intents. This ultimately leads to our Charmed Life.

Ideally, these relationships focus us inward. There we find our invincibility and unconditional love…for ourselves, for others and for circumstances. In that love we find our stability from which we pursue and realize our wildest desires as deliberate creators, our Charmed Life, in other words. In realizing our desires, we transform physical reality in ways we knew we would before we choose to come here.

However…in many cases, such as the ones you describe with “eventually end up hurting us, killing us, or destroying our mental health”, instead of finding freedom, joy and unconditional love, we focus on aspects of these partners that seem to drive us crazy. In doing that, we create increasingly amplified versions of those things, react to them and in our reactions, amplify those things even more. In that way we create a downward spiral of increasingly negative created reality conditions.

The fury, the exasperation, the anguish, and, yes, the circumstances that end up looking like “hurting us, killing us, or destroying our mental health” are actually OUR creation. They are what happens when we don’t use those relationships they way they are meant: as catalyzers for inner exploration and awakening.

A personal example will help

For example, my ex wife was such a person. She was horrible in many ways and an angel in others. It took great effort to take my attention from what I perceived she was doing “to me” and put it on my inner reality. I knew finding within myself the unconditional love I wanted was key. Neither she, nor anyone else could give me that.

Standing there, in that unconditional love, I could allow her to be as she chose to be…even when she slept with other men. Even when she and her friends railed against me. Even when she filed for divorce.

Everything she did was positive. It all served a positive purpose for me. Getting the positive aspects in those situations required cultivating an unconditional, stable love for her and for myself. I know I succeeded because, as I wrote above, I found my resonance with my eternity, my invincibility, my Inner Being awareness and thus my enlightenment.

I remember one night, not long before the divorce was final, where she and I stood in her living room on the verge of actual physical violence. That’s how out of balance we both were. It never came to real blows, but it certainly could have.

We co-create enlightenment

The point of all this is, no one does anything to us, we do it to ourselves through the interpretations we make about what we observe and the reality borne from them. Most people don’t know that so their interpretations go unexamined.

Instead of owning their created realities, including outcomes of hurt, death and diminished mental health, and doing something productive about that, they blame their partner, soul mate, “twin flame” or whatever. When all the while that other person had the potential of being a catalyst for enlightenment.

We each create our realities. No one does that for us. But some people help facilitate our creative abilities, if we are responsible enough to accept the catalyzing stimulus flowing from the awareized energy stream that is at once us and our “soul mates”.

The Positive Value Of Negative Feelings

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The power of being Positively Focused shows up most when feeling negative emotions. The following true story shows what to do when one feels such emotions.

I woke Sunday morning to powerful, clear dreams, but also felt negative emotion. It doesn’t matter what the emotions were about. What matters is what I did.

Here’s what I wrote in my journal in response to this realization. Doing something like this anytime negative emotion shows up makes a ton of difference:

Right this moment I am at the same time present to my powerful expanding self and my currently active beliefs.

I know the more I lean toward the first, not only do I create more of that, but the second soothes into its rightful place: subordinate to my dominant powerful desire. I appreciate therefore the combination, because in the combination I get to choose.

  • I get to choose leaning toward my desires
  • I get to choose focus, deliberate focus
  • I get to create a reality consistent with what I want
  • I know focusing feels really good as it does now
  • I know focusing on my desires is the gift the negative emotion brings
  • Therefore I appreciate the negative emotion
  • I know negative emotion was once positive belief
  • I can appreciate the negative emotion
  • I know the negative emotion is indicating beliefs I still hold are active
  • This is purposeful and good
  • I know those beliefs once served me
  • I can appreciate the negative emotion
  • I can appreciate the beliefs too

And as I sit here in my bed, first thing in the morning, I feel the power of my focus. I feel the shifting of the balance of my belief and desire.

  • I like what I’ve just done
  • It feels subtle but sure
  • I feel the shift from slight dominant negative focus to slight dominant positive focus
  • I appreciate that my positively focused practice allows me to recognize the subtle distinction
  • For now I can shift my entire reality experience toward more and better
  • This feels really good
  • This feels like positive emotion
  • “I’m feeling happier”
  • But that statement still contains a little bit of negative emotion
  • My happiness is relative to my previous negative feelings
  • “I feel happy”, feels better
  • It is focused specifically in the now, with no relation to the past
  • This is the work and I love it
  • My happiness now has turned to appreciation
  • Now my appreciation has turned into eagerness and passion
  • I love feeling eagerness and passion
  • Now my eagerness and passion has turned to love
  • I love feeling love.

So in this process I just went through, I received inspiration from previous awarenesses, which allowed me to know that the combination of negative belief and positive expectation will always be. For the combination allows an eternal being ensconced in the body, which is what I am, to choose.

To choose what? To choose what’s next.

So much happened in the last four minutes doing this practice. I love how much better I feel now just by speaking these words

  • I love how good I’m feeling
  • It feels really really good
  • It feels like joy
  • It feels like self transformation
  • If feels like fun
  • It feels like self love

I know the more I do this, the better my life gets. I also know the better my life gets, the better it can get, for there is no upper limit on how good things can be.

I feel so much better. I feel positively focused. I’ve literally changed my reality. I feel in love with life and in love with myself.

Positively Focused Makes Reality Better And More Fun

The power of being Positively Focused is undeniable. That’s why all my clients are in various stages of seeing evidence of their lives getting better and better, and more fun.

Here, a client fulfills a long-held desire: a wonderful experience with her daughter, the wonder of which even her daughter acknowledged. That acknowledgment surprised and delighted my client.

A mother re-creates her relationship with her daughter through being Positively Focused.

Not only that, but her grandchildren too got in on the act. They said “We wish you could stay with us all the time.”

How dear. 🥲

After months of struggle with her daughter, the client realizes the struggle is unnecessary. When she does, the struggle disappears. Where did the struggle come from? Where did it go?

It wasn’t always this way

Beliefs create reality. It’s undeniable. Not knowing this, people look out into physical reality, seeing their created reality as something objective, separate from them. They then draw conclusions about what they see.

These conclusions we call “thoughts”. Thought enough times, those thoughts become beliefs. In time, beliefs create realities consistent with them, then fade into the background. Beliefs are forgotten, yet they still exist in physical form, before our eyes as our personal, subjective reality. It’s the only reality a person has access to.

Everyone adopts beliefs from childhood onward. They do this while not knowing such beliefs create realities consistent with them. Before they realize it, a trajectory gets created where beliefs create realities continuously.

My client had entire belief constellations about her daughter formed in exactly this way. The constellation included beliefs adopted from her childhood, her experiences with her grandparents and parents, beliefs that created a version of her daughter consistent with them.

In only nine sessions this client transformed her relationship with her daughter. The struggle? Replaced with joy. You can see her happiness in her face, hear it in her tone and in her words. She ends the video with a statement that gets to the meat of the matter.

You create your reality. Learning how, then deliberately using that process makes everything possible. Including new relationships transformed from the toughest family situations.

Life can be fun and continuously better and better. Happiness, being Positively Focused, is the way.

Addendum: When I showed the clip and asked permission to use it from the client, she said: “Almost made me cry. You have my permission to use this. I hope someone might gain insight from my experience.”

Indeed, I know it will.

Mastering Life Mastery Creates Better Living Experiences

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This is a positively focused series called “journal entries” for when I experience something I write about in my journal I think others might benefit from reading. This is a continuation of that series.

From my journal – Monday, January 25, 2021

Waking this morning to the cacophony that is my being. The more I focus into all that I am, I discover so much more of what I am. I know this will never end. Sometimes I feel limited in my ability to accept my reality.

It’s just so much happening, all now, at the same time.

But then things happen, things like this morning, things like what happened in my dreams last night, things that just work out, and things that I have experience that allow my consciousness to stretch forward toward exactly what I think is limited. And in that stretch forward the limits fall; I find myself in a new perspective with an even broader view than before.

I’m finding comfort in the combination of that which will always be: simultaneous awareness of positive awareness, indicating satisfaction and joy in the now, and a reaching for more of what humans called “negative emotion”.

When examined, that phenomenon “negative emotion”, feels more like stress, or tension, a combination of two realities that when combined propel me into the more. So that feeling is a good thing, not a “negative” one at all.

I can tell the more I see this combination this way, the easier it is to break through or move through limits thereby allowing broader perspective and the increased momentum of feeling desires.

This is the process of deliberate creation and life mastery. I’m wanting to master life mastery. I know I am on the way to doing so, because all desires are done deals. My job is lining up with the fulfilled desire by enjoying the process of allowing the fulfilled desire into my awareness.

That’s real-ization.

It’s subtle, yet a distinct and important differentiator.

How I Create My Ideal Other People

Being Positively Focused is a lot like being a Jedi in real life. I create my ideal versions of other people who then give me what I want when they realize what I want is what they want.

Nutshelling it: When I work through my Broader Perspective, my Inner Being talks to their Inner Being so that what I want occurs to them as what they want too.

A true story showing how this works.

I live in a house I share with three others. When I first moved in, the other three people were quiet and kept to themselves. The landlord showed me my space, “the basement suite” they called it.

Of course, it was perfect. It represented a fulfilled desire coming in perfect timing, as I wanted a new, quiet living space after my ex and I split.

Over several months these original three housemates moved out. Three new people replaced them. People I didn’t enjoy as housemates.

The first was a party boy. He enjoyed drinking, playing loud music and having people over for loud conversations.

The next person was an “adult child”. He had family of origin issues that showed up as screaming at the top of his lungs for no reason, using other people’s property without asking, getting offended at the slightest provocation and not cleaning up after himself. Oh, he also peed in the backyard!

The third person was even worse. He was an Adult Child of Alcoholics, muttered to himself and didn’t respect the landlord’s established norms for living there.

His replacement oddly enough, expected others to clean up behind him. He left things all over the house, let his food get moldy in the fridge, and would leave dishes and utensils on the front porch instead of taking them to the kitchen and washing them.

What’s interesting was each of these people reflected a dimension of my ex. While living with her I developed strong co-creative momentum with her. So strong a momentum, housemates who moved in after I did reflected that momentum. In other words, my Moment of Becoming and momentum brought housemates after me matching experiences I had with my ex.

My ex is from a family of alcoholics. Slight provocations triggered her too. She enjoyed playing her music loud while ignoring other people’s interests. Occasionally she cleaned up behind herself, but often would leave things right where she had them last. I tried a lot of things to change her (not a good idea at all I realize now). All my attempts made things worse.

I’m happier no longer there.

Obviously though my Belief Constellation still included thoughts about her. I know this because each house mate brought experiences and behaviors matching my ex, or rather matching beliefs I still had active about my ex. Were my experiences with my ex less active in my Belief Constellation, different people would show up. These new housemates were not random coincidence.

I know everything in my reality reflects back to me Belief Constellation content. That’s helpful knowing because I can do something with that knowledge. Not knowing what I know, life seems random and separate. It never is though. My thoughts and my reality always match.

So every housemate served me: Each showed me I still had beliefs worth changing. In changing them, I could get a better reality.

Before that though…

At first, I let myself get annoyed about my new housemates’ behaviors. I know emotional reactions are never about what’s happening in my physical reality, they’re always only about my connection with my Inner Being and that is all.

Saying “each new housemate was annoying” or “my new housemates made me annoyed” are complete, inaccurate distortions.

I also know what to do when I feel annoyance. I didn’t do that at first though.

At first I tried coaxing different behaviors out of them. I tried asking the slob to clean up after himself, which, of course, he refused. I asked the ACA dude to stick to the house norms. He told me to fuck off. I asked the party guy to be more quiet. He complained about me to the other housemates, which exacerbated my relationships with them. I asked the backyard pee-er to stop doing a lot of stuff. He got better, but still did things I didn’t like. The other housemates didn’t like it either.

Since direct action didn’t work, and my frustration was getting unbearable, I did the only thing under my control. I changed what I paid attention to, I let go, I surrendered.

It was a radical choice, an interesting sociological experiment. The only recent experience I had creating new people from existing people was with my ex. But that was indeliberate creation. Now, life presented me a huge learning opportunity: Learn to create people you want in life experience deliberately, it said.

So that’s what I did.

Surrender isn’t giving up. It’s realizing where power exists. Real effortless power comes through allowing Universe to bring me what I want instead of trying to make it happen myself.

People always reflect back to me what I believe. I’m creating them for my benefit. I know whatever thoughts I’m thinking that I’m ignoring for some reason will come clear through how people both show up and how they treat me. My expansion never ends, so learning opportunities never end either.

Life is best when I follow the inner knowing of my Broader Perspective. When doing that I realize people always reflect back to me my beliefs. (See the full illustrated post here).

So people in my life experience all are helpers, giving me feedback, as does everything else in my physical reality. This feedback tells me “Universe will bring me what I want when I let it.”

I let it through being Positively Focused.

I am feedback for others as well. With many years Positively Focused practice, I feel the pull of other people’s focus. Feeling that pull, sometimes it’s hard maintaining my own focus. I end up being someone less than I want to be. But I know when that happens, I’m matching that other person’s reality, and doing so, give them what they’re wanting to know, even if they don’t know that.

These days it’s easier being authentic, loving me while feeling others’ pulls. My Positively Focused practice has perpetual momentum now. Most of the time these days, I set the tone of an interaction. People shape to my pull instead of me shaping to theirs.

Not so when I was with my ex. Back then, when out in the world, I found it easy staying positive and excited about life. But then I’d come home and almost instantly feel my mood shift when I re-entered the persistent negative atmosphere she and I co-created.

I benefitted a ton from that marriage. She did too. For me, marriage helped me prioritize my Inner Being relationship. As a result, I’m living even more of a Charmed Life than I lived before.

I love how all relationships have that potential: they can amplify one’s focus on the one place unconditional love comes from: the relationship between one’s self and one’s Inner Being.

Things got interesting

So instead of trying to cajole my housemates into compliance, instead of trying to get them to stop doing what I didn’t like. I did what I show my clients: I focused instead on what I wanted. Then I let my Personal Trinity coordinate a new reality. One which included versions of my housemates that matched what I wanted.

What I wanted was a calm, quiet, peaceful place where people subordinated their behavior to the goals of a mutually beneficial, peaceful living space.

I knew, and know even more today, that through my Inner Being relationship, I can be, do and have anything I want. I knew I already created probable versions of my housemates, versions matching what I want. I knew my Inner Being held for me a living situation filled with such housemates.

My job: tune myself to that probable reality alive in my Belief Constellation, so it would emerge through my Moment of Becoming in to my physical reality.

Here’s what I did.

  • First I clarified in my mind what I wanted. I knew it was there in my belief constellation. I just had more momentum behind what I didn’t want (experiences similar to living with my ex) as a result of still thinking about my ex.
  • I thought thoughts about what it would look like living in my ideal living situation.
  • I thought about how my ideal housemates moved through the house and…
  • I thought about and focused on how peaceful, harmonious and quiet it was in my minds-eye version of my living situation.

By envisioning these, I knew I cued up that probable reality matching my ideal, my Charmed Life. But I needed something more. Something critical.

Early in Positively Focused practice, the practitioner strengthens their perceptive skills through feeling emotion. People feel emotions easier than vibration. Emotions let me know what vibration I’m tuned to. Vibration is early-stage manifestation. I needed to tune my vibration via my thoughts to my desired reality.

So while thinking about my ideal living situation, I focused more and more on how that situation felt. Then I amped up those feelings by focusing on them and riffing on emotions in the same vicinity:

  • It feels nice living in this ideal situation
  • It feels peaceful living here
  • It feels like harmony
  • It feels like peace
  • It feels satisfying
  • It feels like home
  • It feels joyful
  • It feels right
  • It feels good…

Next, I completely ignored what my current housemates did. When Slob left his dishes in the living room, or on the porch outside, I ignored it. When Family-of-origin peed in the backyard, or screamed “FUCK!” in the middle of the day, I ignored that too.

Then I took it up a notch. I ignored my housemates. Whenever they were in the common areas – the living room, the kitchen – I stayed in my room. If I was in the kitchen and one came in, I made sure I had my headphones in and listened to a podcast or music.

Then I amped it up further. This is a bit hard to explain. I lived in the house as though my ideal housemates already lived with me. I felt how good that felt. I reveled in their presence. I focused on how great the place would feel with them with me.

How I create other people in five easy steps.

Then awesome happened

The fist thing that happened was ACA moved out. Unbeknowst to me, he contacted the landlord saying he needed to move out ASAP. He said his counselor said living alone would be a better living situation for him.

Next, Slob and Family of Origin started getting on each others’ nerves. Family of Origin started enjoying the house being clean and tidy. He also improved around cleaning up after himself.

Problem (for him) was, Slob’s living habits started getting on his nerves. So Family of Origin pointed out more often things Slob was doing. Exasperated, Slob started looking for someplace else to live. In a month, he was gone!

Perhaps you’ve seen my pictures on my website, so you know I’m brown-skinned. All my housemates up to this point were of the dominant culture. So you can imagine my surprise when my landlord introduced me to ACA’s replacement, another person of color. Let’s call him Andre.

Not surprisingly, Andre told me and the landlord he was looking for a cleaner, quieter and more peaceful living situation, which was NOT where he lived before. He said he liked keeping to himself and was super-respectful. Having toured the house, he already recommended ideas on improving the living situation.

After he moved in, the whole character of the living situation changed. Andre shared a bathroom with Family of Origin and right away Andre put his foot down about how Family of Origin left hair all over the bathroom and hardly cleaned up after himself (I have my own bathroom).

Next the landlord introduced me, Family of Origin and Andre to Slob’s replacement, another person of color and a college student I’ll call Lorenzo. Like Andre, he expressed living in a respectful, quiet place because he’s studying full time from home. Lorenzo and Andre’s energy both transformed the house’s culture. Family of Origin mentioned feeling uncomfortable living with three people of color, this being the first time that ever happened.

Not long after Lorenzo moved in, I heard him and Family of Origin having a slightly tense conversation about race. I went upstairs to see what was up. They were discussing whether a person of color could be racist. It was an interesting conversation I joined with eagerness. It went well, but I could tell Family of Origin was struggling with his “white fragility”.

Within two months, Family of Origin moved out too. His replacement: a kind, peaceful, hard working woman I’ll call Cindy. Cindy and I hit it off right away. Today, we share meals, watch movies together and talk eagerly about our passions. She’s a great fit. So is Lorenzo and Andre too!

Lorenzo and Andre moved out, but two new housemates I’ll call Jeff and Tomiko moved in behind them. They both are wonderful, peaceful, respectful and quiet people. And one of them is transgender which hits close to home.

Epilogue:

What happened here?

Several things unfolded in perfect universal coordination. One, I realized how my current, unwanted reality clarified beliefs in my Belief Constellation I wanted cleaned up.

Next, I surrendered to the unwanted by accepting rather than pushing against those things.

Then I ignored all those things, including the people creating them. Instead of giving what I wanted changed attention, I put attention on future realities containing what I wanted.

Doing all this, I tuned myself so that my now gradually matched my desires. On the way to that, my Inner Being coordinated with Inner Being’s of my old housemates. Through that coordination their Inner Being’s gave them impulses they felt were right for them. They came to their conclusions that served them. Conclusions that served me too.

My Inner Being simultaneously coordinated with people who matched what I wanted, people whose desires matched what I wanted too, and inspired them to me. The result: new people in my living situation matched with my desire and thus, an ideal living space.

Creating people consistent with one’s desires is fairly advanced, but possible for everyone. Cultivating Positively Focused momentum makes available nonphysical connections we share with others. Those connections exist for our use. When Positively Focused, that use ultimately matches me with people consistent with and in agreement with what I want.

It feels like mind control, but it’s not. I feel like a Jedi, but that’s at best, a fable. What’s really happening is I’m drawing to me people wanting what I want, for their own personal reasons that match my own. I call that co-creation between people. It’s so fun!

I Like Being Positively Focused – I Love Being Me

Life feels good when I'm Positively Focused
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Here’s a series of stories I tell often. They’re why I experience a consistent happy life born of Positively Focused thoughts.

These thoughts create life experiences consistent with what I want, while keeping experiences I don’t want from finding me. It’s like magic, or a spell, but it’s not that. It’s just what happens when I focus on good-feeling thoughts. You can do this too. Try these. See what happens. You know they’re working when you feel good.

  • I like feeling my way to better and better feeling experiences
  • I know I’m doing that when dreams delight me
  • I know I’m doing that when I feel ecstasy from dreaming
  • I know I’m doing that when reliving dreams long into the day comes effortlessly 
  • I know I’m doing that when I feel good
  • When I feel good frequently, I see my life match that
  • Things coming my way delight me
  • I feel ecstasy in things I get to do
  • I see Universe wink at me in moments of divine orchestration
  • I see more and more of those moments all the time
  • Until I see them in nearly every moment
  • I love being physical
  • I love being more and better
  • I love tuning to that and in doing so bringing more and better to the world through who I be and what I’m inspired to do
  • I love having and knowing and fulfilling my purpose
  • I love being me
  • I love being eternal
  • I love Broader Perspective 
  • I love loving
  • I love me 

Being Positively Focused Is Rare

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“If you depend on the behavior of another to be a certain way in order for you to feel good, you are on very shaky ground with regard to feeling good. For you cannot control how others be. But you can control what you think. And in controlling what you think, by focusing on thoughts that feel good, you discover people’s behaviors occur in such ways that feel good to you. And so you control other people‘s behavior, not by trying to control them, but by controlling your thoughts about them.”