Wonderful Manifestations Happen Best By Living Happy

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It’s amazing how fast things will manifest in resistance’s absence. And on manifestations where very little resistance exists, things wanted happen in a matter of days. Like this cool manifestation I created this past spring.

Manifestations can happen in an instant. For most of us though, manifesting something we want hardly ever happens. And for things we really, really want, manifestation never happens. That’s why so few believe “manifesting” things is “a thing”.

The reason manifesting hardly ever happens or never happens for most people is because of resistance. Resistance can look like many things. Usually, resistance gets created when a person thinks they’re thinking about what they’re wanting to manifest. But instead, they’re thinking about the absence of that. So when what they want doesn’t happen, they think manifestation isn’t working.

It’s working, though. In this case, the person is manifesting what they’re focusing on, which is the absence of what they want. So they get what they focus on, not what they want: the absence of the wanted thing.

That’s why so many think manifesting things doesn’t work. They don’t know what they’re doing.

But with a few months practice, anyone can create the Charmed Life, the life wherein everything someone wants, happens in such obvious ways, “you create your reality” becomes more than a New Age saying. It literally becomes daily life.

Personal experience abounds

My own life reveals how accurate this is. Yes, things I really want I see more evidence of. I write every week about how things I want manifest. One day a reader said “you always write about little things happening” implying that the little things aren’t that big of a deal.

But they are a big deal. Manifesting little things is really important. Through those little things, I’ve gained confidence. I see tons of wonderful manifestations happening. Because of that, my awareness has expanded to allow me to be able to see evidence of those bigger things most people want – money, relationships, etc. – happening too.

Not only am I feeling more confident they’re happening, others express seeing evidence of them unfolding too in my life and theirs as a result of being my client. So all this evidence soothes disbelief I have about bigger things bing possible.

In the meantime, I use little things that happen near instantly, or in a few days, to build my appreciation of my own Charmed Life. When I do that, I feel lighter and more in love about life.

This all means those little things aren’t little anymore. They represent big indicators of the bigger things coming and they prepare me for them too. For that reason, I celebrate when little things happen. Which is exactly what I did as winter turned to spring earlier this year.

Something lost means something bigger coming

One day in late May I rode my bike to my local Safeway. May where I live brings cool mornings and more temperate afternoons. It’s shirt sleeve riding weather after say 3 p.m. But before that, at least for me, it’s jacket, gloves and a winter cap riding conditions.

On this day I wore all three. At Safeway, I locked my bike, got my groceries, then headed back to my bike. By the time I finished shopping, the weather turned warm. So instead of putting on my winter riding gloves, which are windproof, waterproof and warm, I put on my summer gloves which decidedly are not.

Little did I realize I left my winter riding gloves in the shopping cart. With gloves on my hands, I didn’t think to check the cart. I got on my bike and pedaled away.

It wasn’t until days later that I discovered what happened. They were my favorite riding gloves. I had them for three years. They cost me $50.  Though disappointed, I didn’t let my carelessness totally bum me out. Instead, I knew the fact that I left them behind meant someone else needed them more than me. I also realized Universe was bringing me a replacement.

That’s exactly what happened

As May turned to June, the weather dramatically improved. Indeed, on the week in question, the weather promised its first above 80 degree day. On sunny days I love riding to the beach to bask on hot sands while writing a blog or reading. This was going to be my first day to do that this year. So that was my plan.

I loaded my bike with all my gear and headed out for the beach. Not four blocks from where I live, on the way to my lovely spot, an amazing thing happened.

Once I crossed a main street, a postal truck stopped in my path. I slowed behind and waited, then it turned left down a side road. When it turned I saw these two black things in the road. As I got closer to them, they came into view. It was these bad boys just lying in the middle of the road.

Showers Pass is a top-of-the line winter and rain biking brand. I already own a riding jacket made by the same brand and I love it. Imagine seeing these in the middle of the road. I picked them up and tried them on. Of course, they fit perfectly!

As I said, I paid $50 for those gloves I lost. These cost a bit more and feel way better on my hands.

The rest of my ride to the spot I rode on my own little cloud nine. Rather than riding all the way to the beach, I stopped at a little lake filled with ducks, turtle and nutria. It was the perfect, private quiet spot for me to revel in this wonderful replacement.

A perfect recipe

I knew rendezvousing with these gloves was the response to my Positively Focused attitude about giving up my older ones. The minute I recognized them as gloves, I just knew what was happening. That’s why I felt so amazing when it happened.

How this happened matched perfectly the recipe for manifesting something one wants. First, I didn’t stew on the fact that I lost something. Instead, I knew that somehow, some way, something better would replace what left my life. I also appreciated that whoever now had my old gloves would enjoy them and, needed them more than me.

Then I pretty much forgot that I left them behind altogether. That allowed my Broader Perspective to go to work coordinating something better to flow in to my life. Because I wasn’t stewing, I had no resistance around having “lost” my old gloves. In other words, instead of focusing on what I don’t want (losing my gloves), I focused on what I wanted (knowing something better was coming).

And that’s what happened.

This seems like a small thing, not really worth talking about. But it’s important to know these little experiences, recognize them and amplify them. That’s because these little things will build within me trust and belief that if these little things can happen, the bigger, more wonderful manifestations are happening too, which is true.

They’re only taking longer because I harbor more resistance (disbelief, for example) about those than about these smaller things. But with each smaller thing that manifests, I gain more belief in the bigger things. And at some point, each increment of more belief, must add up to enough belief to overcome the disbelief. Then the bigger thing I want, will pop into my life experience.

It must, because that’s how this “manifesting business” works!

How To Easily Prove People Never Die

Positively Focused Q-A

Question: How do you know a person never dies? Is the soul really eternal? How can you prove this?

This question leads to a kind of Unified Theory of Eternal Life. What a worthy and considerable question!

Why is it worthy? Because a person’s “soul”, All That Is and the Universe want the person to know they’re eternal. They also want them knowing each person creates their reality as they live life. Only then can one live an authentic life.

That’s because if a person fears death, or what happens after death, life gets colored by that fear. Many people fear death. That fear generates much anxiety. And anxiety blocks authentic living.

While seeking proof will reveal proof, such proof doesn’t exist in “objective” form. That’s because life (even “after-life”) is 100 percent subjective. So proof reveals itself only in life’s subjectivity. In other words, only you can prove it to yourself. And when you do, evidence you find will come through intimate, personal experience.

Being subjective, such experience won’t convince others. Therefore, proving it definitively to others won’t work. All the evidence is first-person experiential.

First things first

Physical life experience – particularly the external-seeming, objective aspects – are projections of the soul’s experience onto itself. So the being experiencing physical life experiences an experience of self projected into the awareness of itself. That projection looks and feels as an apparent “objective” reality.

Why does it appear that way?

So the experiencer can experience “more” of itself as well as fulfill “intentions” central to who and what “self” is. So seeing proof of an eternal soul first requires knowing what you just read. That information gives context to proof you’ll find. The proof, in other words, will look like life experiences. Those experiences will “prove” convincing.

You also need lots of patience. Proof rarely comes in a flash. And when it does, it is often missed or it’s bewildering or incomprehensible. Like a barely remembered dream in the morning, if you don’t know how to recall it, or replicate it, you can’t hold onto it.

But with patience, the gradual, unhurried nature of All That Is will reveal everything (anything really) you’re wanting to know.

Making proof visible instead of impossible

Next tip: you’re surrounded by evidence of your eternal nature. You just can’t see it right now. Seeing the proof necessitates orienting your perception so evidence shows up in your perception. Instead of perception showing you the absence of the evidence. The absence of evidence is what you see when you think you’re mortal. Which is why people think death is real.

“Orienting” your perception doesn’t mean “doing something” in physical reality. Instead, it means “allowing yourself to realize” what you want to know. “Doing something” and “allowing yourself to realize” represent two distinct things.

Bear with me while I continue adding more context.

One way eternal life seekers complicate matters happens when they think or believe in ways making seeing proof difficult if not impossible. The word “soul” for example, generates belief constellations that work against “allowing yourself to realize”. I wrote about this before, here.

Beliefs are communicable too, just like some diseases. They get passed on through language primarily. You’ll notice you talk to yourself almost constantly. Much of that internal dialogue confirms and reconfirms beliefs, many of which work against seeing answers sought. So the next step involves realizing how language and beliefs muddle perception, then cleaning up language and belief.

Practical example time 😊

For example, look at the following two statements:

  1. I want to see evidence that the soul never dies
  2. I want to be the realizer of my eternal nature

Notice the action-oriented nature inherent in statement one. It also presumes no visible evidence. The speaker wants to see what they don’t see.

This statement affirms evidence’s absence instead of affirming evidence’s abundance. The perceiver wants to see something she currently does not, the “does not” component gets emphasized above all else. It creates “disbelief”.

Notice statement two is passive. The speaker speaks to evidence showing itself to her. Further, her statement expresses desire to become something, not see something. It also affirms existence of what she wants to realize. She understands her eternal nature is a thing and she expresses her desires around experiencing that.

These subtle distinctions make all the difference.

The word “proof” is problematic as well. “Proof” is adversarial. It says “show me because I don’t believe it.” Wanting proof affirms your doubt. It also offers confrontation. “PROVE IT” is the energy of the word “proof”.

See the subtlety?

Let’s put this all together

Ok, so now you have a sense of four important premises:

  1. Evidence you want will occur as 100 percent subjective. It will only convince you. No one else.
  2. Desired evidence surrounds you. Wanting to create evidence or discovering it distracts you from experiencing it. You’re wanting to realize the already-existing evidence. Or better said: you’re wanting to realize your eternal nature, which already always has/is existed/existing.
  3. How you frame your request will either support your intent or defeat it.
  4. Your beliefs will hinder or help you become the realizer of the answer to your question.

So now, the process is simple: you simply ask for the answer in a way that supports getting the answer…then hold to knowing the answer shows itself.

What happens next: you’ll experience events confirming your intent. Things start happening showing that you’re eternal. But you must keep the four points in mind. Also, you must constantly question thoughts and reactions which will stop the evidence flow dead in its tracks.

The evidence becomes evident

For example, one day at a bus stop or someplace familiar, someone you know may join you. You’ll strike up a conversation and this person may say something – mention a newspaper or magazine article, a website, a book, or tv show – that will cause within you an “a-ha!” moment. What they say will sound perfectly timed and related to your intent. Perhaps they will mention the show God Friended Me, for example, or the Netflix show, The Good Place, both having themes in eternal life. And then one of many different things might happen:

  1. You will totally miss the relevance between the shows (and their premises) and your request. Here Universe and All That Is gave you a clue. But your beliefs will block the connection. So you’ll say something like “huh, interesting” and let the mention pass.
  2. Maybe you’ll think “hmm, I just read a blog about seeing my eternal nature and here is someone telling me about a TV show about god and the afterlife.” And your mind then might go: “this is a coincidence” and you’ll miss the relevance.
  3. OR….You may feel goose pimples or a shiver down your spine and think “This is no coincidence. This is evidence showing itself….” Then you’ll get excited….You might go home later and watch either show, enjoy the premise offered and then, be inspired to casually research online the word “serendipity”….

Do something like number three and you’re on your way.

Seeing overwhelming evidence

The seeming chance bus stop encounter began the realization. But if you aren’t alert, you’ll miss it. That’s how subtle Universe works. Your job remains maintaining alertness and expectation.

Keep this up and you’ll experience all kinds of evidence. They literally surround you:

  • You may be invited to an Ayahuasca event or a meditation session
  • Someone may start talking about eternity or life extension at a function you attend
  • A dream might happen where you experience events implying an eternal being
  • More events will happen confirming real what science calls “pseudoscience”.

And then, at some point, you’ll notice old beliefs gradually shifting. You’ll move through life differently. Your changed beliefs and lifestyle reveal more serendipitous opportunities making disbelief harder:

  • Dreams will become more and more lucid and engaging
  • You’ll start to want to know what your dreams are about
  • You’ll start playing with this whole idea that “you create your reality” and you’ll start getting evidence of that showing up all over your life
  • Then, really amazing things will start happening. Things that, in the past, you would have said “that’s coincidence” or “that’s impossible” or “random” or “confirmation bias” or some other nonsense. Only now you won’t say those things because they happen so often there’s too much of them proving they’re real.

By then you’re on your way.

The rest of the path is up to your realization. Keep it up and you will eventually realize what every sincere person realizes: life and everything in it, including you, is eternal and death is not the end. It’s only the beginning of more life.

Why Some People Get No Results From “Manifesting”

Positively Focused Q-A

Question: What is the best method of the Law of Attraction? Why Do these methods work for some and do not work for others?

I’ve already answered the first question here and here. I want to focus on your second question. It’s more important.

Law of Attraction works in every case. If it worked for some and not for others, it wouldn’t be what the word “Law” implies. BTW, Law of Attraction is not really a “law”. That word suggests someone created this process by which all things must comply. No one did that. It’s always been, just like you and me.

Since Law of Attraction does apply to everyone and everything, it must be “working” for everyone and every thing (which it does). So why do some get what they want and others don’t?

Everyone gets what they focus on

It’s an extremely important question. The answer is, everyone IS getting what they want. But you must understand what “what they want” means in order to understand why everyone’s getting what they want, even those who think they aren’t getting what they want, or thinking Law of Attraction isn’t working.

The Universe doesn’t care about what a person wants. All it’s doing is fulfilling desire. It seems like those two things, desire and getting what you want, are the same.

But from the universe’s perspective, they are not.

Desire from universal perspective, is energy, focused. Getting what you want is a choice. Desire is what summons life force. “Getting what you want” is the result of channelled desire. So desire supersedes getting what you want. It is a larger concept. Getting what you want expresses a focus of desire turning into a result. Does that make sense?

Having made that important distinction, it’s easy to see why Law of Attraction seems not to work for some people. Law of Attraction is fulfilling desire. But it’s also responding to resistance, which is a kind of blocking force humans add to the process of getting what they want through beliefs that are contrary to what they want.

When Law of Attraction kicks into gear, it “knows” what a person is focusing on, and going to work to coordinate that into reality. But if a person is focused more on what they don’t want, or if they’re focused in a way that creates resistance against what they want, then they’re going to get what they’re focusing on: lackluster, or no results at all, or so it seems.

It works who don’t believe

So what one focuses on is what one gets. Not what they want. Unless they focus purely on what they want. For example, someone who believes Law of Attraction doesn’t work, and so tries to make Law of Attraction work as a way of proving it won’t work, will get results proving it won’t work because that’s what they’re focusing on. Even if they try to get what they want, but their predominant beliefs say “Law of Attraction doesn’t work”, they won’t get what they want because their beliefs put resistance in the way, which keeps them from getting what they want.

Those who refuse to test it, and just believe “it doesn’t work”, will see all around them evidence of it not working. They’ll also rendezvous with people with similar results, as Law of Attraction is drawing to them what they’re focused on.

The same is true for someone who, for example, wants a boyfriend, but doesn’t believe they are attractive enough, or smart enough, or successful enough.

Or they might not believe such a boyfriend exists, or that he exists in their local area, or if he does, that person won’t find them interesting. Thoughts matter, in other words.

Negative results are positive

When someone uses Law of Attraction and they don’t get what they want, that’s Law of Attraction giving that person pertinent information.

How does someone know where their focus is, if it’s off, and they can’t tell that it’s off? The answer: They can’t.

So this is another scenario in which Law of Attraction is working, even when people think it’s not. In this case, it’s showing the manifest-er where their dominant focus is, which is very important, isn’t it? That way, they can do something about their faulty “aim” so to speak.

So there’s no evidence Law of Attraction works for some and not others. It works for everyone. If someone thinks it’s not working, they should look at what they’re thinking and focusing on.

Law of Attraction is working. It’s just giving them what they’re focusing on. That’s not necessarily what they want.

But it is, in a way, because by getting what they don’t want, at least they know what they need to do next: focus on what they want better than they have up to now.

Why The Great Results Create Better Futures

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In part one, “Why Manifesting Great Results Means Going Slow” I introduced natural time and distinguished that from clock or assembly line time. Then I described how natural time works as a function, or interval when one thing turns into another. I described how natural time flexes and flows, with its nature highly dependent on consciousnesses experiencing it.

I also described how desires, existing in nonphysical, become physically manifest with assistance from a fertile mind. As promised in the first part, in this post, I’ll illustrate how natural time works alongside desire and consciousness to allow said desire into full fruition.

I’ll use Copiosis as the example. Copiosis is a private company whose mission is to implement a new Viable Systems Model-based socio-economic innovation, then inspire the world to embrace the future it creates. In that future, all of humanity lives free from debt-based economies, socio economic domination and government control. The planet naturally gets restored and humanity moves into a thriving and resilient future. This idea came to me 12 years ago. When I received it I knew I would steward it to full manifestation. This video gives an overview:

Natural time subjectivity

By the time I declared Copiosis as the global economic reality, that global phenomenon already existed as a full-blown reality in nonphysical. It was a desire evolving from nonphysical into my consciousness.

As I wrote in the previous post, this idea came to many others simultaneously. I know this because since creating Copiosis in 2013, many people have written saying they wanted to do the same thing. This idea seeded itself in many people at once. Apparently, I was the only one willing to take it as far as I have.

The length of natural time, or the interval between my declaration and the full-blown manifestation of Copiosis on Earth, is 100 percent flexible. Whether it takes forever, or sooner than that depends on me and my perception. My “perception” includes whether my mind represents fertile ground for the idea to evolve further into its full-blownness.

Fertile ground means my belief constellation must offer a vibration harmonious to the idea. If it’s not, the interval will lengthen. If I “prune” and nurture the ground, that interval will contract.

One’s belief constellation determines whether or not what is manifesting takes hours, days or never happens.

When evidence is invisible

I also wrote in part one how no two people experience the same interval of natural time. That’s because everyone experiences their own version of physical reality, shaped by their belief constellation. Copiosis illustrates this principle too. Many people think it’s taking forever for it to happen. Like this guy, who thinks Copiosis is impossible:

But others, who at first may have been skeptical or doubtful, now see evidence of Copiosis happening everywhere. I too see enormous evidence of Copiosis happening, including higher-qualified people offering support and other resources coming to us all in divine timing, including millions of dollars.

The point is, when someone receives an idea or a desire, the minute that happens, that desire exists full-blown. But the receiver must believe the desire is possible to line up with and allow that full-blown version into their experience.

And this is where so many people get manifesting wrong. It’s also why so many believe manifesting doesn’t work.

You’ll see it when you believe

Even though Copiosis exists full blown in nonphysical, it can never happen that way in physical reality. An interval of some length must happen. That’s because physical reality includes a built-in resistance which makes all manifestations gradual. That’s on purpose. Instant thoughts-to-things manifestations would make reality quite unstable.

So, yes, the impossible, daunting, unfeasible looks that way when an observer considers something outside of what they believe possible. The message in the picture above comes from someone who doesn’t believe Copiosis is possible. In their disbelief, they can’t find evidence proving their disbelief inaccurate. All they can see is evidence supporting what they believe.

For that observer, Copiosis IS impossible, daunting, unfeasible. But that doesn’t mean it actually is. The perception is the fundamental flaw. Because anything is possible. Even upending our current global economy in favor of a better one.

The reason Copiosis offers value beyond time-constrained feasibility perceptions is because it’s already done and eager for its unfolding. Copiosis as an ideal, like all thoughts, is a living thing. It reaches for its own fulfillment. So its desire facilitates its unfolding. It is therefore inevitable.

Divine timing’s got this

Its value exceeds any limited perceptions. Because limiting perceptions, by definition, introduce resistance in the observer, thereby limiting the observer’s ability to perceive the value. That’s why emancipation, suffrage, political freedom and all these other massively worthy ideals take so long. The observers don’t hold pure focus on the ideal, then let the universe do its work.

Instead, they focus on limitations of the idea, which are being superimposed by the consciousnesses considering the idea. Then they fight against what is, which perpetuates what is. “What you resist, persists”, right?

Heady stuff, I know.

So how much time it takes for Copiosis to flesh out fully, subjectively depends on that through which it emerges. Were I of different contemplations, contemplations which offered less resistance, Copiosis could happen far faster. It’s not a problem that it is taking what it is taking though because divine timing’s got this. 

But we also must consider the readiness of all other points of consciousnesses that will bump into the idea as their perception moves around and the idea emerges. That’s another source of resistance that must soothe.

Those who will try to prevent it from happening – our of fear, jealousy or some other negative emotion – will aid its emergence though. Because anything you resist will get bigger. Our job at Copiosis is not to resist others’ resistance. Meanwhile, Copiosis is becoming known around the world:

Why thoughts become things

A massive element about to fall into place is the remaining element needed to show others Copiosis is emerging. But I don’t need that element in place to know Copiosis is done. I know it’s done because I understand how thoughts turn to things. As Peter Gabriel put it in the song Mercy Street, All all things made solid and real were once just dreams in someone’s head.

Thoughts become things because all thoughts desire to become things. We humans play the role of conduits through which things become so. I love knowing this. I love playing with the process, which includes natural time, and seeing all manner of things becoming real in my life experience.

Showing others how to do the same in their lives takes my evidence body to a whole new level. Their results amplify my own, which bolsters my certainty that anything is possible. The great results I desire are done. And they flow to me, then through me, then from me into the real world as easily as an exhaled breath. Natural, in divine timing and as effortless as breathing.

Why Manifesting Great Results Means Going Slow

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Why do some things seem impossible, daunting and unfeasible? Are they really? To understand why nothing is impossible, daunting or unfeasible, one must know how thoughts become things.

Peter Gabriel, an English musician, singer, songwriter, record producer and activist gets it. He penned a song called “Mercy Street“. Its first two versus give clues:

Looking down on empty streets, all she can see
Are the dreams all made solid
Are the dreams made real

All of the buildings, all of the cars
Were once just a dream
In somebody’s head

In this post I’ll introduce one aspect of that knowing of how thoughts become things: The nature of time. In part two, I’ll use something I’m creating that some people think is impossible as a model illustrating how thoughts turn to things and nothing is impossible.

It’s important first knowing that all experience is subjective. No two points of consciousness share the same experience, even when two people focus on what they may think is the same thing. In this way, each human creates their unique experience. Time participates in shaping each experience.

Time to know time

“Time” is an important component in thoughts turning to things. If a person wants to deliberately create their reality, they must grok time as a cooperative element.

It’s obvious most people don’t understand time. Look around. Impatience, haste, deadlines and other artifacts of our socio-economic system show how humans push against and fight against time. If they knew what time was, their impatience, haste and eagerness to beat time would vanish.

Understanding time allows a person great freedom and flexibility. That’s because in understanding it, a person finds more joy in life. Such joy eludes those moving through the world using the social construct known as time.

The social construct that is time works against people’s ability to express their natural creative abilities. (Photo by Djim Loic on Unsplash)

So what is time? It is an interpretation springing from a human point of consciousness. As that consciousness considers “what is” becoming something else, natural time happens. Natural time is that interval between “what is” and the something else it becomes. This time is not the same time people most commonly think about.

Nearly every human does this “considering” thing. So everyone thinks everyone else shares the experience they experience. But each person’s experience is unique. Nothing gets shared. Including the interval called time.

This natural time, the interval, has nothing to do with clocks.

Time created in insecurity

The social construct we call time is something domineering humans put in place to regulate how people get things done. Look back at history and what happened when domineering cultures met other cultures still connected with natural processes.

Those domineering cultures often got impatient and angry when those other cultures operated on the natural knowing of time. So those domineering cultures, in their collective insecurity and frustration, forced other cultures to disconnect from what they knew.

Thus we have “monochronic” time. In it, people get things done in a coordinated way, using time increments segmented into small precise units. This coordinated time is called “clock time” (by Eckart Tolle) or “assembly line time” (by Seth). This kind of time is the common, agreed-upon phenomenon through which everyone coordinates their activity all around the world.

But that time is based on insecurity, born of disconnection. It’s why westerners were once highly frustrated with Mexicans, Native Americans or Australian Aboriginals. When such people met, they gathered on natural or polychronic time. They met when moved. This often infuriated insecure westerners impatient to “get things done”. Fury, anger and impatience indicate powerlessness and insecurity.

Variable speed polychronic time

Polychronic time gets closer to the interval that is natural time. Again, this interval happens while a current manifested thing changes into something else. The word “time” doesn’t accurately capture the experience though because the word “time” implies something fixed and linear. “Fixed” and “linear” are attributes of clock time, not natural time. That’s why “interval” fits better.

Clock time possesses three other attributes: apparent past, present and future. Each flows from one to the other. The interval between manifestation, however, is highly flexible, nonlinear, and all happening in the now. One thing turning into another can happen in an instant. Or it can take eons. And since it’s all happening now, past, present and future don’t exist. Clock time creates past, present and future. Natural time is now, now, now.

While you may not have experienced past, present and future as happening at once, I’m certain your experience includes witnessing time’s flexibility. Natural time also enjoys variable speeds at which it passes. How long or short natural time’s interval lasts, depends on the consciousness experiencing it.

How “fast” time passes depends on one’s resistance about what is becoming. With little resistance, one manifestation turns into another quickly. With high resistance, manifestations might never happen. The interval can stretch into forever. Or pass so fast, you’re surprised it’s happened so quickly.

Time, natural time, expands or contracts depending on the consciousness experiencing it. (Photo by Mathew Schwartz on Unsplash)

Instantaneous time happens

Natural time exists in infinitesimal quantities in the place from which we come. I call that place “nonphysical”. Everything happens there instantly. That’s because resistance in that place is so low, it’s not worth considering.

You’ve already experienced how time can fly by or crawl. Your state of being shapes the interval. Absorbed in an activity, the interval contracts. When bored out your ass, the interval expands.

The Universe is consistent. So if your experience of natural time shows you its variable speed, stretching and contracting, then a place must exist where time goes so quick things happen in an instant.

We know, then, theoretically a place exists where time essentially doesn’t exist. Everything happens at once there. That place can be experienced. But let’s call it theoretical for now.

Good reasons exist for why time functions differently here compared to in nonphysical. But let’s not bother with that. Instead, let’s see now how putting all this theory to work works.

Simultaneous early manifestation

When a person receives a desire, that desire came from someplace. The desire exists before it shows up in the person’s mind. Where it exists is the same place we come from and where time is practically nonexistent: the nonphysical.

So a desire “manifests” first in the mind of a person. That desire wants full expression. Usually desires show up in more than one mind. That way, it enjoys a higher probability of becoming fully expressed. We hear of stories where one creative sues another. The plaintiff claims defendant “stole” a creative’s idea. Sometimes it’s a film idea, or a book concept or a melody, for example.

Usually, the plaintiff gets angry because they didn’t act on the idea, but the defendant one did. Such situations happen because a single idea shows up in many people’s minds at once. But usually only on person will take it to completion.

The minute that desire shows up in the mind, in nonphysical, all resources needed for its full expression, exist. Resources are like desires. They come from the same place desires do. In that place, everything happens instantly. So when a desire exists in nonphysical, so must all resources needed for its full expression.

The minute a desire shows up in the mind, in nonphysical, all resources needed for its full expression, exist. Deliberate creators know their job is to relax and let the desire fulfill itself. (Photo by Vu Thu Giang on Unsplash)

Fertile ground or dead end?

But when a desire shows up in a mind, other thoughts already exist there. These other thoughts create an atmosphere either conducive or detrimental to the desire. That atmosphere will largely determine whether the person receiving the desire acts or not. “Atmosphere” can also be called “momentum”.

Consider a person who believes life is hard, money comes from working for another, people are greedy and “I am not worthy of my dreams.” Such a person isn’t likely to receive a desire inconsistent with what they believe. But let’s say they do. And the desire they get is “create a nonprofit for dogs.”

Don’t you think that person’s immediate reaction to that desire would likely be one of the following?

  • That’s crazy. I can’t do that!
  • Where would I get the money?
  • No one will support that
  • I’m too busy trying to pay my bills
  • I can’t quit my job
  • How would I do that?

These thoughts exist quite comfortably in the atmosphere created by thoughts like “I am not worthy of my dreams,” life is hard, money comes from working for another, people are greedy. So if the desire shows up, odds are it won’t get expressed.

But for the person who understands how dreams are made real, as Peter Gabriel put it in “Mercy Street”, the desire flourishes. That flourish gets aided by time. I’ll cover how in my next post.

Why Depression Can Produce Great Good

Positively Focused Q-A

Question: Is there a spiritual explanation for depression?

Yes.

But first: If you are experiencing life-threatening circumstances and don’t want to die, you should seek professional advice.

Understanding the explanation requires having further background in spirituality. But we’re going to skip that because this answer may already go long.

Depression is a signal the depressed person is sending themselves. Most people don’t understand this, so instead of listening to the signal and doing something about it, they instead “cover up the signal.”

Let’s say you’re coming up to a railroad crossing. A train is coming. The lights on your side of the tracks are flashing red.

Would you cross the tracks when the light says stop? (Photo by Jude Infantini on Unsplash)

Would you ignore the signal and cross the track? Of course not. You’d get killed.

Depression is like the flashing light. It is telling the depressed person something. The depressed person should stop and take action based on what the signal is saying.

Most depressed people receive the signal and don’t know what it’s saying. So they keep doing what they’re doing instead of doing what the signal is telling them to do (in this case, changing the thoughts the person is thinking. More on that in a bit).

What depression tells people

Most depressed people will disagree with this, but it doesn’t make it less accurate: Depression is not that serious. It’s just a really strong signal.

It just so happens that as signals go, it’s one of the most intense. Usually, a person who experiences depression was oblivious to earlier, less intense signals received on the way to “depression”.

In other words, they didn’t listen to the less intense signals, so now they’re getting one of the most intense.

Had they heeded the less intense ones, they wouldn’t have ended up depressed. And, it would have been easier to do something about the signal.

So what is this signal telling the depressed person? It’s telling them they have beliefs and thoughts that are at odds with the “what-is-ness” of life. That’s all it is.

By “what-is-ness” we mean the dominant state of All That Is which includes the spiritual realm and the physical realm. BTW, everything is spiritual. But since people don’t acknowledge that, it’s important to mention both the “physical world” (which is all spiritual) and the “spiritual world”. Sometimes redundancy is needed.

Depression tells the depressed person something important. Most of them miss that message thought. (Photo by Hailey Kean)

Beauty, positivity and joy available everywhere

The dominant state of All That Is is positive expansion, eagerness, enthusiasm, joy, ecstasy, etc. It knows everything is always working out towards positive expansion, fulfillment, expression, awareness, etc. This is not theoretical or just “spiritual”. It is the actual state of things.

Humans create their reality. They can create any reality they want. When they are creating a reality consistent with what they are as physical embodiments of All That Is, they resonate or feel in tune with All That Is.

How does that feel? Positive, expansionary, eager, enthusiastic, joyful, ecstatic, fulfilled, etc.

But when a person creates a reality inconsistent with all the above, they feel consistent with that creation. Anger, frustration, annoyance….all the way down to depression.

Feelings are important. Many people don’t understand their function as signals. They help a person know what they are creating.

Feelings help keep us on track

So a person who feels depressed has chronically created a reality inconsistent with what they are. Reality creation occurs first in vibration, then in thought form, then in a received thought before the creation becomes physical reality. In each of those stages, an emotion/feeling is received by the person doing the creating. This helps the person catch their creation early on, before it springs into physical reality.

If a person keeps creating along lines inconsistent with All That Is, eventually they will get harsher or more and more intense signals…until they get the message.

So depression is not anything mysterious or serious. It is only a signal a person is receiving.

This example may be illustrative.

Let’s say as a child, a young woman was sexually abused by her father. The first time it happened, the child may have felt out of sorts. By the fifth or so time it happened, her internal awareness that something is not right is already in high gear.

Now, she has an opportunity to act. She knows what to do, even though she’s a little girl. But she doesn’t because she’s unclear.

That’s the first signal: unclear or confusion.

Uncertainty momentum creates more momentum

Now, let’s say the father threatens her. Let’s say he says “you tell your mom and I’m going to kill you.” Or something less extreme “honey, keep this a secret between you and me. Don’t tell your mom.”

The young girl knows intuitively she should say something. But now she’s confused because her dad is telling her to keep this secret.

So the situation continues. She starts feeling more uncertainty. That’s a signal.

Note that this little girl’s mood will change. She’ll gradually lose the joy, freedom, happiness and enthusiasm for life. These emotions go away because of her thoughts are turning to beliefs – “conclusions about her world” and about what she has experienced:

  • “this should not be happening”
  • “I don’t understand”
  • “I don’t want this to happen any more”
  • “I feel out of control”
  • “I feel like this is wrong”

Eventually, this clarity will turn on itself and she will begin thinking different thoughts:

  • “I’m angry at my dad”
  • “I hate my dad”

Then she will turn her thoughts on herself:

  • “This is my fault”
  • “I must have done something to deserve this”
  • “I’m a bad person for letting this happen”

The positive, constructive anger expressed at her dad is now turned inward on herself. Action she could have taken to express her anger, or even earlier, her lack of understanding (which is a very light signal), now is not available.

Less intense signals ignored become more intense signals

Self blame, turns to discouragement about life. Discouragement turns to anger (at herself), anger turns to rage (at herself and her dad and perhaps her mom for not noticing and stopping him) which extends to life in general. Rage at life in general turns to insecurity/guilt/unworthiness.

Now, in this “vibration” where signals being received are insecurity/guilt/unworthiness, the young woman, who may be in high school by now, is long into creating a reality matching these signals. The momentum of that reality is so strong by now, it’s pretty much running the show.

As a result, they may experience increasingly “negative” life experiences. But these are just signals too. She may start doing poorly in school. She might show behavior problems. She may start taking drugs. She may dress a particular way, or hang out with people who resonate with this reality she creates.

These life experiences, which she is creating, also generate a feedback loop. The more she remains in this state and does not do anything about the signals, the more of these kinds of experiences she will have.

The process works either way. Beliefs create the world you want to see, or the world consistent with your beliefs. That’s why it’s better to bring into alignment your beliefs and what you want to see.

Vulnerability and insecurity will become physical manifestations

This state of vulnerability might even create situations where she is further sexually abused. She may be raped. She may turn to prostitution. Or she may develop other signals we call “illnesses” such as Fibromyalgia, PTSD, “anxiety disorder” or other “traumas”. All of these are signals, not to others, to herself. Spiritually, emotions are the first level of signal. The other level is “life experiences”.

If she tries to treat the signals, that’s like trying to turn off the lights at the railroad crossing. She doesn’t get to the foundation of all her life troubles: underlying thoughts and beliefs that are being pointed to by the signals both in her physical reality and in her emotions.

If she is oblivious to the connection between her signals and her experiences, she will think the experiences are independent of her and the signals. She’ll compound her problematic beliefs, thinking:

  • “Men are scum”
  • “The world is scary”
  • “I’m afraid”

And create more thoughts consistent with her experience:

  • “I’m a loser”
  • “These are the only friends I can get”
  • “Sex is my only value”
  • “I’ll disappear by eating”

Reversal: omnipresent and available

At any time in this process the young woman can turn all this around. But it’s easier to do it in the early stages than it is after reality begins matching the signals.

By the time one reaches the depression signal, it’s much harder. But it’s not impossible.

BTW, all this is subtle. This is why counseling can help because it uncovers many of the original beliefs and experiences that generated the early stage signals. But a person doesn’t need counseling. They can turn this around themselves by focusing on how they’re thinking and change that while paying attention to the signals they’re getting – their feelings and their physical life experiences.

So hopefully you can see, depression has a spiritual origin, just like everything else in life. It acts as an indicator, helping the creator create life experiences consistent with what they are wanting.

And when they change their beliefs about life experience, life experience becomes the Charmed Life I write about. A text from a client who once was on the verge of suicide shows this:

The interesting thing is, the intensity of negative emotion indicates the equal opposite intensity of desire. In other words, those most depressed possess the potential for some of the greatest joys.

And that’s why “depression”, the signal, can produce great good. For when a person knows what you just read, and takes action based on it, great good will follow. That’s guaranteed because that’s how the Universe works.

Want to learn more? I got your back!

Being An Empath: A Good thing? Think Again.

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Someone wrote me recently asking if being an “empath” is real. They wondered how Law of Attraction works for empaths since no one, this person claims, can “absorb another’s feelings.”

It’s a good question. The question sits right among other questions people don’t want answers to because the answers, while accurate, confront commonly-accepted explanations about life and how it works.

Society accepts people calling themselves empaths. Lots of articles online describe its characteristics. Such articles also offer advice about being one. They suggest ways of negotiating struggles empaths have, and how to become an empath if you’re not.

For the record, I would NEVER recommend someone become an empath. Nor would I recommend anyone claim that word to describe themselves if they think they are one. Here’s why.

“Empath”: a slur hardly anyone knows about

A lot of empaths get bunged up when someone claims being an “empath” isn’t real. I had a business relationship turn sour when I told the person I considered doing business with that such a thing isn’t real.

I didn’t know back then what I know now.

Law of Attraction says anyone can create any reality they want. Hold a belief long enough, it says, and it will become “true” for the person holding the belief. Seth confirms this in their writings too. Their book “The Magical Approach” lays out exactly how Law of Attraction works although they don’t call it that.

The dictionary definition based on a science perspective. Not the best perspective when considering things outside of science’s purview.

So let’s take a gander at what’s happening with “empaths”, whether they’re real or not, how Law of Attraction works for them and why I would recommend no one call themselves an empath.

Looking at what it is

The definition I pasted above comes from mainstream culture. Its underlying message is the whole idea of a person who can “apprehend” the mental and emotional state of another is “paranormal”, meaning beyond the scope of normal scientific understanding. Alright then. Good start.

In other words, science will not be helpful here. Same holds true with Law of Attraction. People saying Law of Attraction is false will argue no scientific evidence exists supporting its veracity.

And the definition of the word used to describe empathic abilities.

Well, Law of Attraction is PARANORMAL, meaning it is “beyond the scope of science” and therefore out of science’s reach or purview. In other words, science has no say in the matter because Law of Attraction is out of its scope.

Now, an empath is someone who can perceive and understand (that’s what “apprehend” means in this context) what another feels or thinks. The key distinction between perception such as this, which we all have, and an empath, is that an empath perceives and understands what another feels or thinks as though what another thinks or feels are the empath’s thoughts and feelings.

Is that actually happening?

Maybe…

We all are one

On the one hand, at a level beneath ordinary conscious awareness we all are one. At the deepest level of our being, all of us share the same Source. It exists beyond the unconscious mind, as illustrated below. That 4th stage, far right, called Turiya in Yoga Theory, is that state of being.

A masterful diagram of human consciousness derived from “yogic science”. “A” represents waking consciousness, functioning through the body, the senses and our intellect/mind. “U” represents that part of the conscious we have active access to, which informs how we use section “A”. “M” represents that part of the consciousness which creates consistent behavior patterns in A and U. It is accessible through disciplined practices such as Positively Focused. “4th” represents the eternal, indestructible essence of what we all are.

So connections exist between us all, which, in theory, would have us able to perceive another’s mental or emotional state. This connection is accessible, but only with a lot of practice. Do empaths experience others’ experiences –  thoughts, feelings, etc. – as their own? Or is something else happening?

We all are one. And our feelings tell us something really important. Empaths miss this totally. (Photo by Brock Wegner on Unsplash)

Vibratory receptivity

Law of Attraction says everything has a basis in vibration. And, “that which is liken to itself is drawn”. Remember that.

We live in a vibrational environment, which our senses (see the left side of the picture above) interpret into objects and space. “Everything” includes us humans. We, therefore, are vibrational energy beings, who created our bodies as a way to expand into more and better via this “reality” which we also create, just like our bodies. I wrote extensively about why and how that is on Quora in case you’re interested.

Since we’re all one at the basis of what we are, and since we all are also vibration, it’s absolutely true each of us can harmonize with another’s vibration, or be open to grok another’s vibration such that we perceive the vibratory content of that person.

That’s part of what’s happening with “empaths”.

Sloppy vibrational focus creates “empathic abilities

But there’s a dark side to what’s happening with people claiming empathic abilities.This aspect needn’t happen and, frankly, shouldn’t. It happening gives rise to all problems empaths experience. It also kiboshes any chance of an empath experiencing the Charmed Life I write about.

In a nutshell, an empath experiences what they experience because they are sloppy in their vibrational focus. Empaths suffer from their “empathic abilities” because of this. I put “empathic abilities” in quotes because it’s not really an “ability”.

Rather, it’s a failure on the part of the “empath” to deliberately apply creative vibrational focus. Instead of doing that, they allow themselves to harmonize with what they’re observing. In other words, as the Law of Attraction says, they become liken to that which they observe, then get drawn into it (they become it).

Then the empath thinks they are doing something special. But they’re not doing something special. They’re doing something sloppily. Empaths allow their vibration to tune to that of another person. When they do that, they experience what the other experiences, but it’s their version of it, not what the person experiences.

That’s why I call “empath” a slur. Instead of describing something desirable, “empath” describes a state where one allows another’s vibration or something they’re observing to downwardly influence their own vibration.

Struggles empaths experience are self-inflicted. (Photo by Molnár Bálint on Unsplash)

Charmed Life or self-inflicted struggle?

Many “empaths” feel overwhelmed by their surroundings. Again, this is because they’re not focusing their vibration deliberately. Instead, they just “let it all in” the good, the bad and the ugly.

Not just that, they go even farther. They also let their vibration merge or come into harmonic alignment with that which they’re allowing in. In other words, the environment they’re in, vibrationally dominates them.

But they could tune and then, hold their vibration and dominate the environment thereby creating something better than what was there before.

If they did the latter, they wouldn’t experience “empathic abilities”, they’d experience the Charmed Life. That’s because when a person’s vibration dominates their environment, and their vibration is high, that environment MUST reflect back to the person their dominant, high vibration.

Abraham putting it plain. Empaths get created when people let their thinking get sloppy. Negative experiences they have are trying to tell them to knock off their sloppy vibrational management.

I could be an empath, but would NEVER use that term

In 1:1 sessions with clients I create a deliberate, vibratory “bubble”. There, I dominate the experience with my very high vibration. That’s why my clients always exclaim how much better they feel after their sessions. They also come to greater insights about their lives, because my focus brings them up to a high vibrational state from which they perceive life differently.

Here’s a client acknowledging results he got, and his appreciation, after just two sessions. Before joining me in my “bubble”, he was on the verge of suicide.

Having practiced this practice for over 15 years now, it’s very easy for me to perceive what another person feels. Sometimes I can tell what they’re thinking too. That’s because, I’ve cultivated the ability to perceive at the vibrational (Source) level, and allow that perception into mine. This skill heightens significantly in the bubble.

NEVER allow a client’s vibration to effect mine. Never. Ever. Doing so would not serve the client. And, it would be exactly what Abraham says not to do: allow what you observe to effect your vibration.

So to me, being an “empath” is real. But being one isn’t a gift or something someone wants to be, unless they don’t understand what being an empath is about. It’s just a person who is somewhat vibrationally attuned, being sloppy with their vibration.

I prefer being a vibrational snob. Doing so has served me well. In this brief video, Abraham describes why everyone should strive for vibrational snobbiness.

A vibrational snob is something you really want to be. Not an empath.

How Law of Attraction works for empaths

Law of Attraction works for everyone. Even those who believe it doesn’t work. For an “empath”, it’s amplifying the effect of their sloppy vibration management. Giving it (the sloppiness) a high-falutin’ word like “empath” further amplifies it, for now, the person believes they are something special.

And that focus adds momentum to their thoughts and actions. They are prone to do more of what they are doing and thus feel more of what they’re feeling (somewhat out of control, a victim of their surroundings, powerless to manage their feelings, tired, anxious, etc.).

But, such people come into the world with a great ability. If they deliberately manage their vibration, they can use their sensitivity to help others. The Star Trek character Deanna Troy, a supposed “empath” offers an example of what such people can be. She is stoic, aware, clear about distinguishing what she’s feeling and what SHE HERSELF FEELS. That’s a powerful distinction from most empaths I know.

In my experience, people who claim that title, tend to live lives of struggle, especially socially. Again, this is their doing, a product of sloppy vibrational tuning, amplified by their focus on the sloppiness.

So, yes, there is such a thing as “empath”. But it’s not something I would want to claim. Instead, I prefer vibrational mastery. That’s what I show my clients how to attain. Then we get to enjoy our Charmed Lives. Where everything we want happens.

Why Negative Energy Scares People, But Shouldn’t

Positively Focused Q-A

Question, if pure positive energy is infinite intelligence. What is pure negative energy?

That’s a great question. The answer is: there’s no such thing. What people call “negative” energy, isn’t a thing. “Negative” energy is defined by its relationship to positive energy. This requires deeper explanation.

For simplicity, instead of using the word “energy”, let’s use “light”. Using that word, we would say “pure positive light”. Rephrasing your question using our new word, we’d ask: well what is pure negative light? Or what is darkness?

But can you see how that doesn’t make sense? What IS darkness? Isn’t it “the absence of light?” Abraham from Law of Attraction fame uses this analogy often.

To make your bedroom dark at night, or for night to fall, there’s no “darkness” switch you turn on, nor is there something that replaces the sun making it dark. Nope. You turn off the light with the light switch, and the sun simply moves behind the earth which blocks the light.

Negative doesn’t exist

The same is true with energy. There’s no “negative” energy, there’s only the blocking of, or not allowing, or turning away from positive energy. Experiences that then happen when you do that feel bad.

That “bad” experience gets stronger, of course, just like any other “negative momentum” does and for the same reason. It strengthens in order to clue the person in to the fact that they’re no longer tuned to positive energy or no longer in the light.

In other words, when a person turns away from the light, Infinite Intelligence and their Inner Being along with Law of Attraction brings to that person “negative” experiences designed to tell the person what they’re doing.

That way they can turn back to the light, i.e. get back to positivity.

Doesn’t that make such experiences then, of the light?

We think so!

How Great Results Prove A Positive Focus Works

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There’s no doubt in my mind being Positively Focused creates the Charmed Life. The Charmed Life sounds magical, like wishful thinking, as someone once put it.

But when clients put the practice to the test, results come. They’re guaranteed, of course, because nothing contradicts tenets upon which the Positively Focused practice rests. Nonetheless, it’s so cool when clients produce results that seem, well, supernatural.

My newest client came to the practice battling suicidal thoughts that had him in a panic about his life. He’d experienced several “tragedies” in the last two years. For the last 20, he’d been loathing himself for his sexual interests. As a result of negative thinking about those things, he wound up considering life as not worth living. That’s when he contacted me.

Now, in only 11 sessions over 5 weeks, he not only is convinced his Broader Perspective is real, he’s creating mind blowing life experiences and has totally given up killing himself. Instead he’s revealing to himself his own version of the Charmed Life.

My newest client realizing for himself that what I share is accurate.

Creating “supernatural shit”

Two days ago, for example, (at the time of this writing) this client and I had a great 1:1 session. In it we talked about “tragedies” I touched on above. We started picking at them, turning around negative stories he told about them, so freedom from negative emotion could show up for him.

That night he texted me. I didn’t read it until the next morning. His text described quite an event:

My client expressed in his text what many people believe. They believe this kind of thing belongs in the “supernatural” category of experiences. But supernatural just means “beyond the scientific understandings of the laws of nature”.

I say repeatedly: science is very limited in what it knows. But its believers and practitioners believe it is the only source of dependable knowledge. So when something shows up that exists as real, but outside science’s narrow scope, science’s believers and practitioners will assert the thing false because science hasn’t blessed it as true. 🙄

Most of what humans want to know lies outside the scope of science. Why is there so much suffering, why do I seem to not fit in, why do I like this sexual practice mainstream society thinks is deviant? These meaty questions science can’t answer. Or they try by turning things into diseases or mental disorders and then medicate the experiencer to numb them back into the mainstream.

Experiences like my client described above may seem supernatural. But they distinguish the Charmed Life from ordinary life. In that life, the Charmed Life, one experiences things like this all the time.

Revelry for revelry’s sake

I enjoy living the Charmed Life. Part of that joy involves showing others how to create their versions of that life. Doing that, clients and I revel in the results. We don’t revel because of the results though. We revel because reveling feels great.

And when we revel, we focus. By focusing on the revelry, we seed future experiences worthy of future revelry.

Nothing compares to the Charmed Life. My clients get it and want more. So do I of course. Want to cultivate your own? I got your back!

The Easy Way To Love: Stop Looking

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The best way to find lasting love is to give up trying to find him or her and let him or her come to you.

I encourage all my clients in this direction because it’s fun, it’s easy and it works 100 precent of the time. You can’t say that for online dating, that’s for sure. It’s crazy so many people try that route when so few succeed.

But being Positively Focused about your life guarantees you’ll meet your match. That’s why I guarantee it. And it will happen in a fun and easy way.

Universe stands ready 

A client proved this recently in her own life. It happened so easy, it honestly knocked my socks off when she told me. Then I realized I had to share it with you all. It’s a textbook example of how cultivating a Positively Focused outlook works.

This client, let’s call her Diane, has been with me for about 34 weeks. We meet each week 1:1. She takes the practice seriously. She’s diligent about telling positive stories about everything. No wonder her life is filled with all kinds of amazing things happening.

Then again, they’re not amazing. It’s just what happens when one takes control of their life by telling stories about life consistent with the kind of life they want.

Buoyed by things going right in her life since taking on the practice, Diane pretty much stopped thinking about how, when or where she’d meet her match. Then she gave up looking for him through online dating sites. As a result of taking that off her mental plate, she also stopped blocking the Universe from giving her what she wanted.

She did that by not telling stories about her match (and other related topics) that created a reality where he remained absent.

Kissing a lot of toads

It’s easy to stop thinking about not having the love you want when your life starts giving you all kinds of great experiences. The paradox of that happening is, because you’re focused on the other great things happening, it’s easy for you to become a match to your Broader Perspective.

Matching that you hear impulses it constantly sends you. Follow them and you’ll eventually meet your match. The Universe will lead you right to the spot where your match is waiting.

Otherwise, you’re trying to do it yourself and, in trying to do that from your disempowering stories about dating, about your date-ability, about the whereabouts of your match, you take all kinds of routes that lead you on wild goose chases. Goose chases where you end up kissing a lot of toads. Sorry about mixing metaphors there!

But when you’re loving life, having fun, enjoying your own company, you turn into a cooperative variable in the equation that sums up to you and your match meeting. That’s what happened with Diane.

In fact, she didn’t even have to go anywhere. He came to her. Here’s how that happened.

Kiss that? No thanks. I’d rather be single, happy and let my perfect match come to me. (Photo by Laura Seaman on Unsplash)

Creating the Charmed Life

“I got a notification on my phone the other day,” Diane explained in our session. “It was a Facebook friend request from someone I didn’t know. I don’t accept friend requests from people who don’t have a picture on their profile. But my impulse said to accept it, so I did.”

An “impulse” is something everyone receives all the time. It’s a message from their Broader Perspective coming in response to a desire they’ve “put out” that their Broader Perspective received.

The impulse, when followed, leads to the unfolding manifestation of that desire. Should the person follow the impulse, they will eventually rendezvous with that fulfilled desire.

As one tells more and more positive stories about their life, they release resistance which creates “noise” that interferes with receiving impulses. As resistance subsides though, impulses come in loud and clear. The next step is following the impulses.

This is how the Universe, one’s Broader Perspective and the individual create “manifestations” culminating in the Charmed Life I write about here each week.

Impulses are the basis of the Charmed Life. But it all starts with being happy, i.e. the guaranteed results of a Positively Focused practice.

Not your job?

A human’s job is not to make things happen. That’s the Universe’s job. Broader Perspective’s job is to lead each individual to their fulfilled desire, which the Universe fulfilled.

So what’s the human’s job?

The human’s job is to create the desire which turns the Universe into more. Then the human receives the fulfilled version of that desire by following its Broader Perspective impulses. The receiving is always surprising and delightful. As such events fill one’s life, one discovers their worthiness, invincibility and the Charmed Life I mentioned above.

In this way, life becomes easy. Most people don’t know this. That’s why so many run around trying to make things happen while finding it very hard to make things happen that way! It’s why so many people give up on their dreams, or compromise on dreams and live lackluster lives. It’s also why so many are depressed, anxious, tired and alone too.

Diane developed a habit of hearing her Broader Perspective impulses with a determination I have yet to see matched by any other client. It’s no wonder then that her life overflows with examples of self-fulfilling desires, desires that delight and surprise her.

One great benefit of session time is we get to revel in all the delight and surprise. It’s fun hearing how clients gradually begin living the Charmed Life promised through this practice.

One advantage I enjoy is having my clients’ experiences amplify my own. They also confirm everything I know, which increases my confidence about what I share.

Ok back to what happened with Diane.

Positively Focused creates an upward joyful spiral
A bonus of my spiritual practice, in addition to it being my occupation, is the upward spiral delight of seeing my own personal practice results confirmed in my Clients’ results. I don’t need this to know being Positively Focused is the best life. But it’s sure nice seeing the confirmation nonetheless.

The impossible possible

The person making the Facebook friend request had a photo of a car on his profile because he was a car buff. Diane received an “impulse” to accept the request because of what happened next.

What happened next blew Diane’s socks off. Diane said the guy said he saw her profile and immediately wanted to get to know her. He thanked her for accepting his request, then started chatting her up. 

The chatting continued every day for a week. Turned out he was an oil rig worker, educated, happy and very interested in getting to know Diane.

But at our next session, she told me she was concerned because she didn’t think this guy, let’s call him Jeff, knew that my client was transgender.

That’s right. Diane is transgender. Most transgender women have many disempowering stories about guys, which is why most transgender women remain single, alone, lonely and mad.

I know this because through my sister blog The Transamorous Network I serve transgender clients the same way I do with non-trans people. About half my client roster is composed of trans and trans-attracted people.

When Diane told Jeff she was trans, Diane said Jeff “paid it no mind. He thought I was cisgender, but he said me being trans didn’t matter!”

Anyone who is trans, or knows transgender women knows how rare such an exchange is. Some might say such an exchange is impossible. And here was Diane, a trans woman, having exactly that experience. Being Positively Focused pays yo!

The Transamorous Network, my sister blog offers insight into thoughts and beliefs of the transgender community. Through The Transamorous Network, I offer the same material I offer through this blog, Positively Focused.

Negative stories, negative reality

Most of the time, according to transgender women who contact me, the men they meet are chasers. They’re looking for “chicks with dicks”, or, when they think the woman is cis, then find out they’re trans, they disappear.

Again, a transgender woman never need experience any of that. But it does happen when, again, transgender women tell negative stories about dating, themselves and men.

For example, another client I’m working with who is transgender currently enjoys a long-running, online, long distance relationship with one guy. She’s actually seeing a few men as a result of her Positively Focused practice which has her changing her stories too.

But she needs improvement, evident in this exchange.

“Even when I’m at my worst,” she said in one session. “He keeps coming back.”

“Why do you think he keeps coming back?” I asked.

“Because he just wants me to fuck him,” she said.

What a disempowering story. Of course, there’s no way a guy would want to keep talking to her because HE LIKES HER. And, what do you think the story “guys just want me because they want me to fuck them” says about the transgender woman thinking such a thought?

Well, it demeans the transgender woman as much as it demeans the men she meets, thereby kiboshing any chance of men even having a chance with her!

Every belief one thinks or expresses or even allows in their awareness carries an associated vibration which creates realities consistent with it. Some of the most damaging are thoughts one thinks about one’s self. (Photo by Sherise VD)

Diane’s dates improving

Diane enjoys a different trajectory. Having changed her stories about subjects related to meeting her match, her men encounters improved dramatically.

First she’d get cat-called at bars. Then men wanted her for “quickies” in the parking lot. Then, guys would approach her, but ghost her after that first encounter. After that, men started sticking around, but they weren’t the caliber of men Diane wanted.

Now, here Diane is getting the furthest forward version of what she wants. And she literally didn’t even leave the house to meet him! Nor did she spend any money dating online.

Furthermore, Diane wanted a guy who had more going for him than “hustling”. Many men she met in the past were street hustlers. Mostly they were into the drug trade and generally getting into criminal mischief.

But Jeff has a steady job. More than that, he wants to take Diane hiking and fishing, as he enjoys the outdoors. Sounds pretty normal, right? But to Diane, it’s not.

“That’s something I’ve been wanting to do more and more since starting becoming Positively Focused,” Diane said. “That he wants to take me out to do those things shows me this is all working out perfectly for me.”

That love you want is right there in front of you. If you can’t see it, or you feel you’re not making any progress towards it, it’s likely you have beliefs which create realities where the relationship that is there, isn’t there. It’s a problem I can help with. (Photo by Toa Heftiba)

What’s the future?

How this situation turns out makes no difference. The main thing happening is Diane is improving her dating stories. She’s seeing her improved stories creating connections reflecting to her that improvement. Diane acknowledges she still has stories she wants to improve, so Jeff isn’t the final match, offering everything she wants.

How does she know that? Because she’s still evolving as a person and in what she wants. As her life improves, as she uncovers what she really wants and goes after that, she becomes more of her authentic self.

As that happens, she becomes more confident and more certain of who she is. Meanwhile, she’s meeting this guy amidst that transition. So Jeff represents a match to who she is currently. Other men stand ready and waiting for her as she becomes more.

And that’s why I urge clients not to be impatient when creating their reality. For the longer a person enjoys what they have, without thinking what they have – especially with partners – is The One, the more they will see what they have improve more and more. Why? Because they are becoming more and more.

Diane’s example shows how easy finding a lover happens. The less energy and attention one puts on that, the more they just enjoy life, the easier finding that person happens.

But when someone thinks finding a partner is a challenge, a problem or impossible, that’s exactly how it will be. Thoughts create reality.

Why not think thoughts that make your ideal reality easy? If you’re ready to know how, I got your back!