TL;DR: The author shares a client session describing how feeling wrong is inherited, not innate—and how reconnecting with our Broader Perspective returns us to the sovereign joy we came here to live.
It happened during a client session this week involving a client I’ll call Cliff. We were talking about family—a common theme in-session—when I noticed something subtle. While Cliff shared about a recent visit with his sister, who also is a client, I could feel the tone shift. His words tightened. His energy grew heavier. He began justifying his actions, defending his emotional response to things I said in response to him explaining why things went the way they had.
And in that moment, I knew what was happening: not in Cliff’s mind, but in his vibration.
He was feeling wrong.
Of course, it wasn’t me who made him feel that way. I wasn’t judging him after all. But something in our conversation activated a familiar internal program—the one nearly every human inherits. And so I changed course, not to avoid the discomfort, but to gently address the source of it.
Where “Wrongness” Starts
I told Cliff something I wish every human could remember: No one is born feeling wrong. No baby arrives on Earth thinking they are bad, broken, or flawed. We come in as sovereign, freedom-seeking beings—extensions of Source Energy—aligned with the joy of exploring contrast, creating lives, and expanding reality itself.
So where does this learned wrongness come from?
It comes from the people around us, often our parents, who were taught the same distorted beliefs. Parents don’t mean to do harm. They’re doing the best they can, after all, with the beliefs their parents gave them. But when they experience something their child does and interpret it through their own lens of fear, powerlessness, or shame, they often project that onto the child.
“That’s not okay.”
“What were you thinking?”
“You’re being too much.”
These statements don’t just correct behavior, however. They shape beliefs. And over time, the child internalizes those very distorted beliefs: I must be bad. I must be wrong.
Cliff, like so many others, myself included at one time, learned to carry that momentum. He didn’t call it that. He just described feeling misunderstood, or overly sensitive, or like he must defend himself anytime someone questioned his perspective.
But beneath that? There stood a powerful being simply holding on to a learned belief. And the beauty of the Positively Focused practice is this: when clients see that belief for what it is, they eventually let it go.
We Are Sovereign Beings
Cliff thanked me in the moment I pointed this out. Not because I gave him advice, however, but because I reminded him of something his Inner Being already knew: he is not wrong. He never was.
Every human arrives in this life with sovereignty built in. Freedom is our baseline. Expansion is our purpose. The only reason we forget this is because we try to fit into systems that forgot too. When people act from the pain of feeling wrong, they often create more pain. That’s why the world looks the way it does. Wars, prejudice, self-sabotage, addiction—it all traces back to a fundamental misunderstanding of identity. People believing they are broken and trying to prove otherwise through control, domination, rebellion, or withdrawal.
But what if none of that is necessary? What if nothing ever went wrong?
What if what we’re all really craving is reconnecting with our Broader Perspective—the eternal, loving intelligence that never sees us as anything other than magnificent?
That’s the turning point Cliff found himself on. He didn’t need to fix anything, nor did he need to perform worthiness. He simply needed to remember he already is worthy.
Seeing Through the Eyes of Source
When we learn to connect to our Broader Perspective, everything changes. The inner critic dissolves. Defensiveness softens. Meanwhile, our relationships transform, not because others change, but because we no longer project our parents’ interpretations onto the present moment.
In Positively Focused, we don’t dig up “trauma” to “heal” it. We don’t analyze emotional “wounds” to justify why we hurt. Instead, we tune into alignment. We calibrate to clarity. And in that process, we naturally drop beliefs that don’t serve us—beliefs like; we are bad, or wrong, or not enough.
Cliff discovered this firsthand in this week’s session. Every client does eventually. The more they connect with their sovereignty, the more they experience the Charmed Life I talk about so often—a life where joy leads, clarity emerges, and manifestation becomes inevitable. Inevitable and effortless.
Living one’s Charmed Life doesn’t happen through effort or making it happen. It happens through allowing.
You Are Not Wrong. You Are Expanding.
If you’ve ever caught yourself feeling defensive, misunderstood, or suddenly small in the face of someone’s words or tone, ask yourself: What belief just got activated? Is it really about what they said? Or is it about something much older?
That question isn’t meant to lead you down a rabbit hole of intellectual analysis though. It’s meant to point you back to your sovereignty. Because you don’t need to fix your past. You only need to align with who you already are now.
Cliff is doing that. Many others are too. The results? Radiant. Precise. Joyful.
You can do it too. If you’re ready to release the story of being wrong—and replace it with a deeper knowing of your sovereignty, your power, and your connection to the Source that adores you—I invite you to take the next step.
Become a client. We got your back. Always.