Is There Really No One Right Way? A Spiritual Paradox

Twice now two different people expressed the same, very interesting, spiritual belief. The first person shared it many years ago. I’m writing about it now because the second person shared it this past week.

The belief is a form of resistance, I believe, and also an assertion. An assertion embodying what we all know in our core selves. But mixed with the resistance, the belief, when expressed as an assertion, sometimes can come out like mild defensiveness.

The first person, from many years ago, uses this belief like a mantra. The belief, by the way, is “there’s no one right [spiritual] way.” The implication of this belief being that every spiritual approach is valid. Every way serves someone.

I wonder though if this belief is really accurate and whether the speakers really believe it. When I hear these two people express it, it sounds to me as though the speakers are justifying something. The justification, in my listening, is the paradox: the “right” way (for the speaker) is that there is no one right way.

Any way I like

“There’s no one right way”, in other words, allows the speaker to do it their way, which is fine. They don’t have to adhere to another way, even if that way would be more effective for getting what they want. I’m not suggesting there may be a more effective way than their way. What I am suggesting is “there’s no one right way” allows the speaker to stay with what they’re doing. Even if they’re not happy.

Again, I’m ok with that. Do you, I say. Live your life, your way.

But the paradox, again, is, that, even for the person who believes “there’s no one right way”, there actually IS one right way, especially for that person. The one right way for them is, “any way I like.”

I wonder if people who believe this experienced rather intense coercion in their past. Maybe a parent, or some other perceived authority, forced them to do things a certain way, maybe against their will. And that experience caused the speaker to rebel internally, to resist, in other words.

That resistance built up momentum to the point where any perceived attempt to have them do something they may not want to do triggers that past experience as the belief “there’s no one right way”. Someone with momentum behind such an experience would consider any attempt to encourage them to do something differently, even if doing it differently would benefit them, to be something “I don’t want to do”.

Interesting. That, paragraph above I just came out of my fingers while writing this post. I hadn’t thought about that before.

A conundrum

So the belief “there’s no one right way” falls somewhat flat for me. There is one right way, especially for the person who believes “there’s no one right way”. After all, there’s no other “way” the speaker could employ. For they, and everyone else, can only do something one way at a time.

The challenge is, everyone exists in their own reality. They are sovereign in that reality, meaning they, and they, alone create the experience they’re having. That means, their way is the one right way in their reality. But what’s the deal with “right”?

The “right/wrong” dichotomy is a false one, isn’t it? Someone standing in the “right/wrong” vibration is experiencing distortion therefore, are they not?

I would guess this first person, and the second person who expressed this belief last week, will probably not acknowledge this. But to me, the belief allows the person to skirt the idea that there is only one way – theirs – while claiming to accept that there are other, viable ways. But isn’t “there IS one “right” way” also a “way”? And if there is no one right way, then “there IS one right way” is also a valid “way”, is it not?

I find this belief, therefore, to be a conundrum.

One way?

Ultimately, there is one way of spiritual life. And by “spiritual life” I’m referring to All That Is and how it operates through all realities, including the physical one. That way is the paradoxical acceptance of “all ways”, with no single way being “better” or “righter” than another.

But that means, that in any given instance, there is “one way” as far as All That Is is concerned: It’s the way whatever is currently happening is happening. And, as a point of consciousness expands, I believe that consciousness evolves more and more to a “way” of being that allows only, really, one way to dominate.

That way is best represented by the word “joyful”. I wanted to write “love”, but we humans bring too much distortion to that word so we miss the point.

All That Is approaches All That Is in one way: joyfully, lovingly. Every other way leads to that. So, really, there is only one way. Right or otherwise. And that makes this “there’s no one right way” a kind of human copout, doesn’t it?

What Happened When One Text Proved We’re All Connected

A joyful confirmation happened yesterday. It happened with a client between sessions. What happened completely confirmed everything clients and I talk about in the Positively Focused practice.

While writing one of these posts yesterday, I got the feeling this client needed encouragement. My Broader Perspective is connected to his Broader Perspective. So I can sometimes tell how he’s doing even if we’re not talking in the moment. It’s the same connection through which I caused a client to step out of “having allergies” as a reality, and into being “allergy free”. Here’s a link to the short story about that. A longer, more detailed explanation will go live in a few weeks.

Back to this client.

So my Broader Perspective, while I was writing the post yesterday, said “reach out to [him] give him a taste of what you’re wanting him to do.” This client is resisting a process that is part of the Positively Focused practice. He’s resisting it because his negative momentum is strong. So strong he can’t overcome it enough to do the process. Ironically, it’s through the process that he’ll overcome it. So the client finds himself in a stuck-paradox. One he’ll break through eventually.

The process involves expressing appreciation for things about his life. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet some clients struggle with it. A lot of times it’s because clients are so oriented to fixing problems and being nose-to-the-grindstone in life, they don’t know how to be appreciative. Or they think it’s dumb. Or, like this client, their dominant negative momentum prevents them from doing it for a time.

When my Broader Perspective told me what it did, I jumped to it. These days I know it’s in my best interest to respond whenever my Broader Perspective calls. So I dashed out a long list of statements as though he were writing it and texted it to him:

By the time I finished this text, I felt high-flying even before I sent it. Even before he responded. But when he did respond, it was a massive moment of confirmation for us both. It proved how accurate this practice is. And it showed how connected we all are. Here’s how he replied followed by my response right after his:

We are all connected. Our society convinces us of the opposite though. We become insecure about, then fearful about others, which then amplifies the separation. In just a little while though, in just a little time spent in a higher vibration, we can uncover the connection that exists, not only between ourselves and All That Is, but with other humans and animals as well.

We come back into our fullness. There we find the mystical, seemingly magical power of co-creation combined with our sovereign clarity. And in that clarity we can offer others reflections that touch them at the deepest parts of what they are. Which is what happened between me and this client yesterday.

Why Inner Peace Outshines Material Success

What if everything we want we want because we’ll feel better when we have it? What does that mean about our desires?

I spent the day yesterday with a friend of over 20 years. A startup entrepreneur, he’s got at least a couple million in the bank. He lives in the suburbs, in a beautiful, large, traditional house he owns outright. He has three lovely sons, all grown. His marriage to his wife has lasted over 50 years. Even though they’re rich, they’re also frugal. Both their cars have over 100,000 miles on them. One, a passenger van looks like it has over 100,000 miles on it. The other, a beetle, is the wife’s car. It’s immaculate.

Every time I hang out with this guy, I’m impressed with who he is. He focuses his life on giving back: to his family, his community. His startups are nearly always about creating prosperity for the most disadvantaged. The latest idea of his has to do with teaching entrepreneurship to the formerly incarcerated. And, should those businesses succeed, he invites those business owners to contribute a portion of their revenues to help build other companies that will support similar causes.

My life is decidedly different. I live in an urban area, in an apartment I rent. The diversity around me is incredible. I can get anywhere I need to in at most, a 20 minute walk, 10 minute bike ride or via public transportation. If necessary, I can rent a car for longer trips, although that hardly ever happens. And, my apartment is tiny compared to my friend’s home.

Our lives couldn’t be much different.

“It’s so refreshing”

But what stands out the most, for me, is how satisfied I am with all of my life. Not just my personal trappings, but life in general, including what’s happening here in the United States. My satisfaction, borne of the Positively Focused practice, affords me a deep peace in knowing everything is unfolding as it should. And, a knowing that life is getting better for everyone, even when it looks like it’s not.

But my friend and his wife are struggling with the “what is” of life. They’re suffering in seeing what’s happening, extrapolating a future from how they’re interpreting what’s happening into one that affords bleak misfortunes for their children, and their friends’ children. In other words, for all their material, apparent success, they can’t find the most important success of all: peace of mind.

Which is why when I shared what I see about what is and the future, the wife said “I’m so glad to hear your positive perspective on life. It’s so refreshing.”

We are joy incarnate

Materially, my wealth doesn’t compare to my friend’s. And yet, when I returned home from spending the day with him, I felt richer than ever. Not because I live in grand stature, but because my experience of life is determined by nothing other than my connection to All That Is and the joyful, sovereign, happiness that springs from that relationship alone.

Indeed, when I got home, I reveled in my own company, in my tiny apartment. I enjoyed seeing the trees in front of the building I live in and the sun splaying through their leaves. The sounds of my neighborhood felt so alive and vibrant. And in that witnessing, I knew many of the desires I once had, and still kind of have – for more money, for example – pale in comparison to the joy I feel in my own skin, in my own life.

I don’t need anything more than what I have (my life) to feel joyful, to feel peace, to feel I have all I want. And in that space, that vibration, I know anything else I desire is mine. Because I am that which I desire most.

You can enjoy a life condition as I just described. It can not be found in things. It’s not available to those pursuing what society tells us we should have. But through pursuing those things, everyone slowly realizes how relatively unsatisfying that pursuit is. And how much more value an inner-derived sense of peace offers.

Finding peace through the pursuit of the fleeting satisfaction found in material consumption is a valid path toward ultimate peace. Most people live their lives on that path. But you can take the shortcut to deep satisfaction by finding that joyful state that is YOU, right now.

An Easy Way To Prove Manifestation Works

Yesterday I lost a sweater. I don’t even remember the last time I saw it. It was cool outside, and I wanted to wear it. So I opened the closet and looked where it should be.

It wasn’t there. I started to turn my apartment upside down. I wanted to wear it on a walk.

Then I stopped myself. I stopped myself because I knew what you’re about to read. I also knew that the more I might try to find it, the more “lost” it would become.

That’s the thing about vibration. Especially around little things like losing something. If we say to ourselves “XYZ is lost”, and then turn the house upside down, it’s highly likely we’re not going to find it.

Why?

Because when we go around trying to find it, we amplify the vibration “XYZ is lost”. Then we align ourselves with the probable reality in which the item can’t be found.

Such silly-seeming examples like this happen all the time. For example, a person will swear they misplaced their sunglasses….only to find them moments later…resting right where they left them: on their head! Or they’ll “lose” their keys, only to discover them later right where they left them: still in the front door lock (that’s happened to me more than once.)

Easy, light-hearted

Insignificant events such as losing something are great opportunities to prove that we create our reality. We create our reality through the thoughts we think, which aligns us to the alternate reality we are thinking about. The next time you lose something, rather than turning the house upside down, stop looking for it. Stop thinking about it. Turn your attention to something else.

When you do that, your Broader Perspective will inspire you. Soon thereafter, it will say “look over there!” And when you do, you’ll see the item you once thought was “lost”. That will happen because you’re now aligned with the reality in which the item is present.

This has happened to many clients over the years. And it has happened to me before, and again, with my sweater yesterday. So yesterday I relaxed into the knowing that the sweater was in my possession. I stopped looking for it, in other words (after turning my apartment upside down! LOL).

Later that day, I took my backpack to the grocery store. It’s the one I always take to fill with groceries. Mind you, I actually looked in that very backpack and did not see the sweater!!!!

I got milk, eggs and butter, then walked to the checkout counter. The checker rang up my things as I took my pack off and opened it. When I did, I looked in the pack and, there, rolled up, at the bottom of the pack, was my sweater!

This was a perfect, easy, rather light-hearted demonstration that my vibration, my thoughts and my focus create everything I desire. Including turning lost things into found things.

The next time you “lose” something, try this. You might be amazed.

Enlightenment Isn’t Hard—We’re Just Out of Practice

Yesterday I wrote about how devotion is a prerequisite of spiritual growth. How does that align with what I often write about, which is how effortless this Positively Focused practice is?

Feels like a contradiction, doesn’t it? Well, it’s certainly a paradox, one of many that comprises this You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) business.

The Positively Focused practice IS effortless. Once we develop momentum behind new ways of being, new habits form and effortlessness does ensue. Before then, however, some “work” is needed. At least it feels that way.

But why? If the practice is effortless, why is work needed at all?

The “work” I’m referring to involves contending with momentum already existing within us. Momentum born of unconsciously-formed beliefs. Beliefs creating our reality, a reality we don’t like and thus feel bad about. The “work” involves creating a new reality that replaces the one we don’t like.

Daily devotion feels great

“Contending with” means creating new beliefs, starting with new thoughts or stories, that, in time, will develop an associated momentum. Gradually, our life experience reflects that new momentum proving the new reality’s emergence. I write “gradually” as a kind of paradox too, because evidence shows up immediately. We just need to learn where to look to see the evidence.

These initial steps feel like “work” (and may feel “hard”) because our existing reality has momentum. We create new momentum in the midst of that old momentum. And the experience of that juxtaposition feels “hard” or like “work”.

This Positively Focused practice is all about telling better-feeling stories. “That juxtaposition feels “hard” or like “work”” is a story. A better story describing that same experience is: “it feels better and better to focus on the reality that’s emerging, rather than the reality that is.”

Both stories refer to the exact same experience. One conjures a feeling of “hard work”. The other? A feeling of ease, pleasure, effortlessness.

So it’s all in the story. It’s all in the devotion. A daily devotion. Spiritual growth is effortless, the moment we revise our stories about how that daily devotion feels is when “effortless” begins.

How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome And Be Happy

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TL;DR: A client transformed from feeling like an imposter to embracing self-love and confidence. By shifting focus inward, he overcame suicidal thoughts, found authenticity, and now thrives in the Charmed Life.

A surprising number of clients express having once experienced “Imposter Syndrome”. Usually, they make such statements after getting over that syndrome. Often, Imposter Syndrome precedes thoughts about killing themselves. Both the syndrome and wanting to kill one’s self point to a tremendously good thing. But most people can’t see the good; they only see the not good.

That’s why I do this work. I love it when people “suffering” from such conditions find their empowerment through those same conditions. On the way to building a permanent happiness in their lives, they find their empowerment and their confidence too. Sometimes, clients let me share their stories. In that way they become shining beacons for others. Their example helps others improve their lives.

Such is the case with the client who allowed me to share a segment of his recent session. In this session, he raved about his progress and about how much he loves who he has become. In that becoming, he’s not only learned to own his bad-assery, he also has found his authenticity feels better than trying to please people by being a chameleon.

Let’s look more closely at his story.

“I was making all that money…but still wanted to kill myself.”

Cain is an Positively Focused advanced client. As a result, he’s not only living the Charmed Life, he’s an example to others about what’s possible through the Positively Focused practice.

Before discovering Positively Focused, he was making a lot of money, but he still wasn’t happy. A big part of his unhappiness was feeling like an imposter, not feeling he fit in anywhere and struggling with being happy. But don’t take my word for it. Hear it directly from him. The video below comes right from our recent 1:1 session.

As you can tell, Cain has found an extraordinary level of self-love. Self love happens naturally once a person reaches for and achieves the Charmed Life I write about in this blog. The Charmed Life is the natural way of living. Living this way we’re free to be ourselves, no matter what other people think about us.

But very few people live their lives this way. Or they’re living a counterfeit version of it, where what they’re actually doing is reacting to what other people think of what they’re doing by living in a certain way as a kind of rebellion toward others’ opinions. That’s not the Charmed Life.

At their wits’ end

People can live according to how others think they should live for a long time. They can live their entire lives that way. But rarely do those people find happiness.

They may make a lot of money, like Cain was doing. But inside, they’re suffering. Some of those people end up wanting to kill themselves. Some actually do. About a third of my client roster comprises people who once thought about killing themselves. But everyone of them is now finding permanent happiness.

Why do so many people come to Positively Focused or something like Law of Attraction wanting to kill themselves as many of my clients have? I think it’s because they are at their wits’ end. They try everything else first because it doesn’t occur to them that the solution to their problems lies inside them.

So they try doing everything else they can. When that doesn’t work, their last stop tends to be something “woo”, like Law of Attraction or Positively Focused. They give up trying to “do” their way out of their problems, in other words. They try being. And then they get what they always wanted: Permanent happiness, a.k.a the Charmed Life.

You can have it too. And now it’s even more affordable. I’ve created new Cohort sessions that include up to a 60 percent discount on 1:1 session rates. Click here to learn more and start your journey to the Charmed Life my clients are discovering.

Why Spiritual Growth Feels Hard (And How to Make It Easier)

Spiritual growth is a flame we feed with focus. The light we seek waits not in grace bestowed, but in daily devotion — where each breath becomes a match to our divine becoming.

A client over the weekend realized this, although not so poetically. He claimed he was either “lazy” or “bad at the [Positively Focused] practice” because he felt so negatively. I begged to differ. “How can you be lazy or bad at the practice when you’re not doing the practice?” I asked.

Now this client, a veteran of the practice for many years, has a LOT of negative momentum born of pretty intense past experiences. And, he’s made TREMENDOUS progress in expanding out of really negative beliefs, and their corresponding negative emotions, into a more chronic, happy state.

But times do occur where he still feels really bad. Those feelings and associated old beliefs surface, then he succumbs. The reason he succumbs, and I told him this, is because he doesn’t do the practice.

So what is “the practice”?

We must do the homework

In addition to attending sessions wherein I offer guidance, clients are given a series of “homework assignments”, practices or processes. These processes help them connect with their Broader Perspective. But they also establish a foundation of vibrational alignment by developing habits of focus. Without doing these assignments, clients become an untethered sail in the midst of a vibrational mistral.

That was this client’s experience and explained why he felt lazy or bad at the practice. The problem wasn’t laziness or poor performance. It’s that he hadn’t been doing the practice at all. So he’s been like an untethered sail.

And yet, he keeps coming to sessions. Why?

Because in session I hold a very high vibration. One that makes people feel good when they collapse into it. That exposure alone can create enough positive momentum in a person’s life to see positive results. But the real results show up when people do the homework.

And this is why spiritual growth feels hard. It’s because the aspirant must devote themselves to the practice daily. The Positively Focused homework makes spiritual growth easier.

We all enjoy free will. That means we don’t have to do anything, even when our experience of life is near always awful. No one will bestow spiritual growth upon us, or a better life upon us. We must do it ourselves through a daily devotion, a daily practice.

And for many, “devotion” can feel hard. It’s not, but it can feel that way. That’s why people like me exist. People who can light the way for others to follow, to accompany them through their storms. To tether their sail to our stable vibrational halyard, when focus wavers under strong vibrational winds.

How To Live Happily Ever After For Regular People

Happily ever after is not just a story book tale. It can be the story of everyone’s lives. But it takes focus. After all, what does “live happily ever after” actually mean?

Is it riches and wealth? Is it a partner for life? Maybe an animal companion or a great occupation? Is it playing video games all day? Being high all the time?

I can tell you many people have one, some or all these conditions and more. And they’re not happy. Let alone happy “ever after”.

So what is living happily ever after?

It means in every moment one experiences happiness. And that happiness continues on and on and on and on…right up to one’s transition (and beyond, actually). The kind of happiness that looks like that, most people don’t enjoy.

That’s because one must choose to be happy. And they must choose it again, again and again and again…right up to one’s transition. The problem is, and I’m sure you know this, dear reader, most people don’t deliberately choose their state of being in any given moment. Most don’t think they can choose an emotional state. Instead, they let circumstances choose the emotion for them.

That’s not a recipe for happily ever after. That too is why so many think happily ever after only applies to story books. Not to “reality”.

But it does apply to reality too. If we develop the habit of choosing happiness, choosing to be positive, no matter what’s happening, then we can enjoy living happily ever after. It’s not easy making happiness habitual. Not at first. Like any habit though, continued practice makes it easy. So easy it becomes a habit.

Want proof that it’s possible? Look at your life now. Maybe you, like so many, let circumstances dictate how you feel. It seems instantaneous and is…because you’ve allowed it to become habitual. That’s proof that you can allow happiness to become habitual too. So you have evidence it’s possible.

My clients are living the possibility. This explains why they keep coming back. It also explains why they feel so good about life. Because happiness (positivity) is habit forming. And there’s nothing like a habit. A habit that feels good.

Happily ever after is available to everyone. Suffering and sadness (or any other negative emotion) is optional. Are you ready to make your way to happily ever after? Consider becoming a client. I’d be happy to show you the way.

The Jedi Path: How Focus Makes People Powerful

It’s so obvious to me that beliefs create reality. My own three-decade experience and over seven years working with clients and observing their experiences prove this undoubtedly. When clients start getting this, and it takes a while, they really turn on their power.

I often compare this YCYOR business to being a Jedi. Mastering the YCYOR way is similar to learning how to use the Force. So are the abilities that accompany such mastery. Once a person understands how the Universe works, they also get the power they possess. Then they can use that power.

They can use that power for whatever they want.

It doesn’t matter if others consider “what they want” “good” or “evil”. A new client, who is really gifted at this practice, recognized this in our recent session. She’s mixed race, in her 30s and very progressive. Yet, when we met, she brought up Donald Trump. She wanted confirmation of her conclusion that Trump is a powerful manifester.

Of course he is. It’s obvious when we observe his actions and what he says. For the most part he doesn’t care what others think. He doesn’t even care about what most of us would call “reality”. He creates his own. And he holds that creation until the world around him reflects that creation.

All the time in the world

I sense similar potential in the young woman client. She can create anything she wants, once she soothes beliefs that have her doubt what she wants as well as doubt herself. This is true with many clients.

Another, advanced practice client, who I once compared to Anakin Skywalker, just today understood what I’ve been telling him for years: That he has the potential to create great “good” or the opposite of that. In other words, his Jedi abilities are strong:

That’s how much potential he has. It’s not coincidence that he, too, is in his late 20s. Young, in other words.

The Universe and how it works isn’t bothered by human ideals of moral, immoral, good or bad. Look around. That should be obvious. As yet another young client recently said, “the Universe is indifferent to what you want, it just responds to your vibration,” meaning you’re going to get what you focus one not what you “want.” This client, too, is on the leading edge, is young and full of potential.

I’ve said this to many clients old and young alike: It’s a total misunderstanding that “adults” are here to teach children. The opposite is actuality: children come in as the leading edge. They’re here to take what adults have made, and leap into what’s becoming. In other words, they’re here to show adults what expansion now looks like.

Almost all parents don’t get that. So they push young people off their trajectory. And thus, it takes longer for “what’s becoming” to become.

Which is another good reason why we’re all eternal.

Turning Hell Into Light: How Contrast Fuels Expansion

A lot of contrast happened this week. Mastery of the Positively Focused practice transforms contrast, what ordinary people would call “negative” experience, into fuel for expansion, so this week offered a lot of fuel for my expansion.

And expand I did. That expansion included more detailed integration of old beliefs. Old beliefs having to do with money, tying money to my self-worth, and soothing species-level beliefs where they coagulate in the collective consciousness.

That location, where the coagulation happens, is what people would call “the underworld”. That is, if religion didn’t confuse people about what that place is really about. But because most people are confused by religion, and therefore fear that place, they avoid having any awareness of it.

Not me. That’s because we can’t fully expand without re-integrating fully into ourselves, our contribution to that coagulation. And I’m committed to my full expansion. So that means visiting the underworld and doing my part to untangle all that. Also, I have a larger agenda than just expanding myself. I apparently am also about expanding all of humanity.

That explains no less than three forays into the underworld this week alone. I’m going to write a detailed post about what that looked like. But I can assure you, the density of that level of consciousness is….harrowing….

But the light I brought to that region was transformative, which turned MY experience of the underworld into something less hellish.

Life is always a reflection of our dominant vibration. “Life” includes nonphysical experiences. And the underworld is part of life. That I experienced that world the way I did tells me something about the power of my vibrational mastery. It tells me my dominant focus is so strong, I can even turn hell into a reflection of my luminous consciousness.

That’s pretty profound.