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How My Client Found the Magic of Alignment

TL;DR: One client’s experience reveals how divine timing and creative energy work together. When you trust your worthiness, life responds instantly. Alignment, therefore isn’t earned — it’s received. And the Universe is always confirming that truth.

There’s a moment that comes when a person truly begins living from their Broader Perspective. It’s the moment contrast no longer feels like resistance — but recognition. That moment is when life starts confirming itself in the most spectacular ways.

A few weeks ago, I had a session with a client that demonstrated this perfectly. As with all my Positively Focused YouTube Channel Worthiness Wednesday stories, this one isn’t just a “feel-good” anecdote. It’s a precise illustration of how the Universe works when you let it love you.

This particular client came to our session frustrated with a coworker. In his words, this colleague wasn’t pulling his weight. That imbalance was forcing my client to shoulder more of the workload. Understandably, that annoyed him. But as we explored the situation more deeply, something beautiful emerged.

From Frustration to Forward Movement

What he hadn’t yet realized was how the contrast between his performance and his coworker’s was actually highlighting his value. Internal customers within the organization kept asking for him. They bypassed the other guy entirely. Why? Because my client had built a reputation for excellence. The contrast was illuminating that even more.

The so-called “problem” was actually a platform — a divine setup designed to make his strengths undeniable. When he saw it from that angle, he relaxed. He began to feel what I already knew: everything is always working out for him.

That truth isn’t just a catchy phrase. It’s the deepest foundation of this practice. And it’s one that becomes easier to see the more we trust our experience — especially when contrast appears.

Creative Energy and the Dance of Manifestation

After that breakthrough, our session shifted into dreamwork and deeper energetic territory. The client wanted to share a recent dream, which sparked a conversation about masculine and feminine energy — or more precisely, creative and action energies.

As I often say: these polarities have nothing to do with gender. Humans have long confused labels with essence. What we’re really talking about are the two fundamental forces of manifestation.

  • Creative energy is receptive, still, open, and potential-rich.
  • Action energy is directional, assertive, expressive, and devoted.

Creation energy doesn’t push. It beckons. Creative energy doesn’t force, it flows. And when it becomes full — when the inner vision is saturated with clarity — then action arises as a natural extension. Not as effort, but as orchestration.

IIt’s a mistake to think doing is what makes things happen. Doing isn’t the catalyst. Creation is. Action happens with ease when you’re lined up vibrationally with what has already been created. That’s the real meaning of manifestation.

Inspired Action Follows Fulfilled Creation

This client happens to be a deeply creative person — a musician, with a growing desire to bring comedy into his performances. Our session touched on how those two streams might converge in his expression.

But more importantly, we explored the energetic foundation underneath his creative desire. I reminded him that when he resides in the energy of creation — without jumping into effort — he doesn’t have to chase outcomes. The manifestation will meet him where he is.

The metaphor I shared with him was an image based on a Gustav Klimt-inspired painting: a knight kneeling at the feet of a woman, head bowed, fully surrendered. I don’t know if the artist intended it this way, but the symbolism is profound.

The knight — representing action — kneels not in weakness, but in reverent service to the feminine principle of creation. That’s not subjugation. That’s sovereignty expressed as devotion.

And so it is in all of us. True action energy doesn’t dominate. It serves the dream already conceived in silence.

The Universe Confirms Instantly

Later that day, the client sent me a voice message. It was radiant. His voice vibrated with joy. Right after our call, his partner smudged the house in response to some news about a family member. He stepped into the kitchen just as she was replaying a paused Abraham video.

And the first words spoken? “Creativity is the fun part. That’s what we’re here to do. The doing comes after that.” My client didn’t miss the synchronicity because it was exact. A few seconds later, he glanced at the computer screen. The next video that auto-played? Titled: “Action vs. Alignment — What Matters More?”

The synchronicity even shocked his partner, who also a client. She hadn’t queued up that video. It just appeared. As he said in the message: “This is how this f*ing shit works.”

For sure. When you align with your creative spark, the Universe moves mountains to show you the clarity of your path in real-time. It does this through voices, videos, scents, timing, dreams — whatever channel will reach you.

Worthiness in Motion

The reason this matters isn’t just because it’s “cool.” It’s because it reveals something fundamental about who we are.

We are eternal beings — pure creative potential housed in physical form, supported by action energy lovingly responding to our state of alignment.

Our lives, when lived from that clarity, become symphonies of synchronicity. It’s not just that we create our realities. It’s that our realities become love letters from Source to self.

This client got to feel that directly. And I got to witness another human being come more fully into the awareness of their worthiness — not through effort, but through realization.

Final Thought: It’s Always Displaying

This is what Worthiness Wednesdays on my YouTube Channel is really about: showing that life is already doing the work. When you rest in creation, when you trust your unfolding, and when you stop trying to out-effort your own alignment — the Universe rushes in to confirm what’s always been true: You are deeply loved. Your desires are already underway. And every contrast you encounter is setting the stage for your next becoming.

So pay attention. Divine synchronicity is on beautiful display. Not just for this client. For all of us. And it’s only getting louder.

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How One Old Fable Hides the Truth About Abundance

TL;DR: The author reexamines Aesop’s famous fable through a spiritual lens, revealing how both diligence and joy arise naturally when aligned with one’s Broader Perspective—culminating in a liberating, heart-opening rewrite of the tale.

For centuries, Aesop’s fable The Ant and the Grasshopper has shaped our cultural mindset about productivity, planning, and what it means to live a good life. You probably know the story:

A diligent ant spends the summer storing food and preparing for winter. Meanwhile, a carefree grasshopper sings and dances in the sun. When winter comes, the grasshopper finds himself cold and hungry, and the ant—well-stocked and warm—scolds him for his laziness. The moral? Work hard today or suffer tomorrow.

But what if that moral is false? What if it’s not even close to how the Universe—or nature—actually works?

And what if that fable, passed down generation after generation, is one of the most well-worn distortions keeping us from trusting joy, spontaneity, and the natural abundance we’re born into?

Let’s take a look through a Positively Focused lens.

A Story Written by the Intellect

The entire structure of the fable rests on a fundamental assumption: that survival is scarce, and only through toil, planning, and resistance to the ease inherent in the now can we secure the future. The ant is praised for “working hard,” while the grasshopper is dismissed for “doing nothing.”

But here’s the truth: in real life, ants don’t know they’re “preparing for winter.” They follow their internal cues. Just as the grasshopper does. Neither is projecting fear into the future. Neither is planning in the way humans do. None of them are working hard. They are both moving as they are designed to move: in tune with the larger intelligence that orchestrates everything from tides to cloud formations to galaxies.

And humans? We’ve overwritten that natural wisdom within us with fear-based beliefs.

The fable upholds a distorted version of value: that worthiness is earned through struggle. That the present moment is a trap unless you’re using it to prepare for the next one. Indeed, indulging in joy, spontaneity, and trusting life will lead to punishment.

This is exactly the kind of thinking that the Positively Focused practice helps us unravel.

The Trap of “Working Hard”

So many of my clients — beautiful, gifted people — come to me carrying this exact programming. I once did too. It shows up in our relationship to money, our creative work, our ability to rest, our relationship to the now, even our self-worth.

Nearly all of us have internalized the idea that ease is irresponsible and joy is unearned. That any expression not tethered to utility or “the grind” is frivolous. And what’s more? We often judge ourselves for wanting to follow our bliss.

But that desire for joy isn’t laziness. It’s guidance.

The desire to bask in the sun, to play a song, to take a nap, to follow an impulse with no “productive” outcome—that’s not a failure of discipline. It’s our Broader Perspective calling us back to our natural alignment. The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to vibration.

Which means: the better we feel, the more the Universe can give us what we ask for.

Joy Is Not Optional—It’s the Signal

The fable pits joy and responsibility against one another. But in reality, they’re inseparable. When we’re aligned, when we’re feeling good, when we’re trusting the unfolding—everything gets taken care of. Including “winter.”

Our Broader Perspective is always guiding us toward the version of our lives where our needs are met, our desires fulfilled, and our expression fully supported. Not through spreadsheets and strain, but through resonance, clarity, and inspired action.

And when contrast shows up—as it did for me recently in the form of forgotten financial fears or a friend’s gloomy worldview—I use it not as a reason to panic, but as an invitation to realign.

When I do that, reality literally shifts. Money shows up on the ground. Clients confirm they’re staying. Opportunities fall into place. My YouTube momentum picks up.

And I didn’t plan for any of it. I allowed it. That’s what the fable misses entirely.

The Grasshopper, Reframed

In this light, the grasshopper isn’t a cautionary tale. He’s a symbol of non-resistance. He holds trust that summer is here to be savored. He’s letting the Universe do the heavy lifting. And the winter? Maybe it never even arrives. But only for him. Because he doesn’t plan for a winter. He aligns to constant abundance.

I know that sounds radical. But I’ve experienced it. So have my clients.

The more aligned we are, the more time and space shift around us. Apparent “deadlines” extend. Unexpected windfalls appear. People bend over backwards to support us. It’s not fantasy. It’s the physics of focus.

So rather than teach the next generation to be afraid of “winter”, what if we taught them to trust their inner song, follow their delight? To move with nature rather than brace against it?

That’s the version of the story I want to tell. And maybe next time, when the ant passes the grasshopper in late autumn, he doesn’t sneer. Maybe he sits down. Listens. And hears a melody that melts the frost of his fears.

The Ant and the Grasshopper: A Story of Alignment

Once upon a summer’s morning, the Earth hummed with golden light. In a quiet clearing, two small beings went about their lives.

One was an Ant. Tireless. Methodical. She moved in lines—back and forth from her colony—gathering bits of grain, storing them deep beneath the soil. Her legs ticked like a clock. Her eyes stayed fixed on the horizon, where winter loomed in her mind like a shadow.

The other was a Grasshopper. Luminous. Iridescent. He leapt through tall stalks of grass, chirping melodies that rose with the breeze. Sunned himself on warm stones. He ate when he was hungry. Slept when he was tired. And sang because it pleased him.

The Ant watched him with a kind of pity.

“Why do you waste time like this?” she called. “You should be working. Winter is coming. You’ll starve.”

The Grasshopper paused. “I trust the Earth,” he replied. “Right now, it’s summer. So I sing.”

The Ant shook her head. “You’ll regret this.”

The Grasshopper didn’t answer. A breeze moved through the field, and he leapt joyfully into it.

Seasons Shift, But Alignment Endures

As days passed, the meadow ripened. The sun stretched long and low. The Ant, now deep in her work, had gathered piles of food, stacked in careful rows. Her back ached. Her mind was restless. Though her pantry was full, her heart was not.

The Grasshopper?

He followed a pathless path. One day he discovered a patch of ripe blackberries. Another day, he encountered a stream with minnows glinting like coins. At night, he curled under leaves and listened to the stars.

He met a turtle who gave him shade. Then a robin who shared her song. And also child who left breadcrumbs from her picnic. He never lacked.

One afternoon, a heavy cloud rolled in. A chill swept the meadow. The Ant hurried home, burdened by fear. But the Grasshopper felt only stillness. He found a hollow log, warm and dry. He rested there. And dreamed.

The Reunion

Months passed. Spring returned. The Earth sighed green again. The Grasshopper stretched in the light. He felt no need to recount the past. Only to leap forward into joy. But as he passed near the Ant’s hill, he saw her—hunched and tired, sorting a new pile of grain. Her eyes darted, already planning for winter.

He approached gently. “Hello again,” he said.

She looked up, startled. “You survived?”

He smiled. “I did more than survive. I lived.”

She frowned. “But you had no food. No shelter. No plan.”

“I had presence,” he said. “And it brought everything I needed.”

She shook her head slowly. “That’s not how life works.”

He tilted his head. “Then whose life have you been living?”

The Moral

The Ant and the Grasshopper parted ways. But that night, as the Ant returned to her tasks, she paused. She thought of his song. The way his eyes shimmered with ease. The calm in his voice. And for the first time, she wondered: what if she had it backwards?

What if all her striving didn’t guarantee safety—but only delayed joy? Might the Grasshopper’s freedom not be luck… but alignment? What if the Universe wasn’t a test to pass… but a partner with whom to dance?

And then—just for a moment—she let herself rest…

And so, dear reader: The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to resonance. Prepare if you feel inspired. Work if it delights you. But above all—listen to your song. Because the grass isn’t greener. It’s alive. And it’s waiting for you to leap.

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How My Dreams Made Masculine Energy Powerful Again

TL;DR: The author explores how his inner masculine has risen to serve his feminine creativity—transforming dreams into aligned action, contrast into clarity, and daily life into a sacred union between inspiration and embodiment.

There’s a sacred moment in every creator’s journey when the inner feminine — the current of inspiration, imagination, and receptive knowing — completes her dreaming. She’s gestated ideas, nurtured them in stillness, and filled the field with possibility. Then something extraordinary happens: the inner masculine awakens, ready to move those dreams into form.

That’s where I find myself now — in a new season of my unfolding, where the action energy no longer feels like striving or doing. It feels like devotion. My masculine energy is rising to serve the feminine that is me.

For months, women populated my dream state. Beautiful, multidimensional, radiant women with whom I shared deep intimacy, oneness, and creative communion. These weren’t dreams — they were spiritual confirmation. Each woman represented a facet of my divine feminine energy: connection, creativity, sensual flow, and the embodied ease of being.

Dreams of the Masculine: The Shift in Symbolism

Lately, though, that landscape changed. Men began occupying the dream stage — men, machines, missions, a lot of movement, some messes and hierarchical management roles filled my dream state. All these roles represent masculine-coded imagery.

At first, I wondered where the goddesses had gone. Then I realized they hadn’t left at all. Their creations were simply taking form. The men, the mechanics, the machinery — they represent the forces of manifestation. The principle of action rising to serve what the feminine within me already conceived.

The dreams aren’t less magical, they’re more embodied. They mirror my waking life now: a cascade of projects, collaborations, expressions and divinely-timed manifestations — all arriving with purpose, precision, and power.

Feeling changes in dream state sparked a lot of inspired action.

The Dance of Doing and Allowing

In my physical world, the same balance plays out. My life is full — and gloriously so.

There’s the intimate work with clients, those weekly miracles of alignment where people rediscover their worthiness. There’s the writing: two websites, each a universe of unfolding stories charting my personal expansion. Then there’s the YouTube channel — my new passion project where I’m translating spiritual principles into visual storytelling. I’m also creating an exquisite Positively Focused app. I want more people to benefit from what I offer, beyond 1:1 mentoring. Then there’s my project: The Soul Finder AI Agent I’m coding through Replit. Last but not least, the newest child of inspiration: an edge node project I’m building in support of my enthusiasm for decentralized intelligence through Holochain.

All these represent a symphony of creation, and every movement feels perfectly timed.

When I’m centered, I sense the divine choreography: the feminine energy that came before generating the holistic vision and now the masculine energies executing it in reverence. The fullness isn’t overwhelm. It’s divine, whole orchestration.

But even that balance gets tested.

Contrast as Sacred Calibration

Recently, a new client paused her sessions. A long-term client, Jim, chose to step away entirely. Those contrasting moments could have felt like loss. Instead, they felt like calibration — the Universe asking me whether my masculine energy could stay devotional even when the feminine current temporarily receded.

It could have been easy to interpret those changes as disconnection, as loss. But I know better now. The pauses, the endings, the apparent absences — they’re part of the dance. Each contrast gives me a new reason to stay steady in my alignment. Contrast, in its truest form, is not negative. It’s positive. It’s rocket fuel for the next level of expansion.

When Sally paused, I felt the subtle tug of concern — the masculine impulse to “fix,” to act, to make something happen. When Jim left, a flicker of emptiness showed up, the feminine’s awareness over what seemed to dissolve.

But sitting in stillness with both, I realized something profound: each moment of contrast came to help me integrate both energies more deeply. The masculine in me needed to learn to act without attachment, to do without grasping. The feminine needed to rest in trust, to let go without fearing loss. Both were invited into a higher harmony, one where doing and being no longer opposed each other.

That’s the essence of mastery — not suppressing one energy in favor of the other, but letting them dance together.

Acts are expressions of masculine energy, moving in service and devotion of feminine energy which is creation.

Union Made Manifest

Today, I feel that integration in everything I touch.

When I write, I’m not “producing content.” I’m communing. When I guide a client, I’m not providing a service for income — I’m serving the unfolding intelligence that flows through both of us. When I build software, I’m not coding — I’m translating vibration into architecture.

Every project, every encounter, every dream now feels like the sacred marriage of divine feminine and divine masculine — imagination and implementation, inspiration and action, being and doing.

And what’s most beautiful is how natural it feels. I’m no longer pushing. I’m allowing — allowing the masculine energy to build what the feminine conceives, allowing contrast to polish my faith, allowing the creative process to show me my own evolution.

That’s why, even amid the fullness of my life, I feel light. My days are busy, but my being is unburdened.

This is what happens when masculine energy reclaims its true role: not to dominate or direct, but to devote. To move mountains in service of what the heart imagines.

A Love Story Within

So here I stand — a being married to their own wholeness.

The feminine within me continues to dream, to receive, to conceive. The masculine continues to act, to move, to bring into being. And together, they’ve become the pulse of everything I do.

Even the so-called “hard” moments — the pauses, separations, the deadlines, noise — are proof of this union. Each one reveals that creation and contrast are not opposites. They’re companions.

In the union of these inner forces, I see the template for humanity’s next evolution — one where all of us live as integrated creators, our doing inspired by our being.

That, to me, is the true sacred marriage. The one that turns every act into worship, every project into prayer, and every breath into creation itself.

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How to Make the World Respond with Abundance Just for You

TL;DR: The author revisits a vivid, real-world manifestation—finding $40 on a walk—and as a followup explores how we each create our own separate vibrational reality, even when walking side by side with others. A practical spiritual reminder.

Yesterday, something delightful happened that keeps revealing deeper truths. If you read my previous post, you know about the $40 that appeared at the perfect time—two crisp $20 bills lying on the pavement in plain sight, discovered on an evening walk with a friend.

That story alone is a testament to how intimately the Universe responds to our vibration. I had just soothed old scarcity stories that surfaced after conversations with clients—one heading into surgery, the other going on vacation—and I’d aligned with abundance. I had a desire: to get some cash for berry picking at a local farm, without paying an ATM fee. And within hours, the Universe delivered.

But what happened next was even more powerful.

Same Walk, Different Worlds

The friend I walked with—Raziah—was right beside me when that money manifestation happened. She was actually closer to the cash than I was. I had to step behind her to pick it up. It was sitting there, in plain view. And yet, she didn’t see it.

She wouldn’t have even known it was there if I hadn’t said, “Hold up, I need a moment.” When I turned around and showed her the bills, she was surprised. Not just because of the money, but because of how obvious it was. That had me wonder: how many others had walked by without noticing it?

That’s when it hit me—this experience wasn’t our manifestation. It was mine. It had nothing to do with her. She was present for it, yes. But it wasn’t part of her vibrational trajectory. It was mine alone.

The Universe placed that money in my path. Not metaphorically. Literally. That’s why she didn’t see the money until I showed it to her.

Everyone Lives in Their Own Reality

This is one of the most beautiful paradoxes of physical reality: even when we share time and space with others—on a walk, in a conversation, even in intimate relationships—we are each living entirely separate vibrational realities.

Raziah didn’t see the money because it wasn’t for her. It didn’t exist in her field of awareness until I brought it into view. Until that moment, those bills might as well have been invisible in her world. And that’s not some woo-woo metaphor. That’s real. That’s physics—vibrational physics.

Our individual reality can contain anything we imagine.

It’s also what so many of my clients wrestle with in the early stages of the Positively Focused practice. They understand, conceptually, that they create their reality. But then they look around and see things they don’t like—war, politics, economic uncertainty—and they think: “How can this be my creation?” The answer is always: “You tuned to it.”

And if they keep tuning to it, life obliges. Just like it did for me when I was immersed in outrage culture a decade ago. Like it did for my friend Mark, who sees only a Portland full of decay and danger. Just like it did for me, briefly, when I dipped into his vibrational lens and momentarily forgot the future I’ve already aligned with.

Your World = Your Signal

What happened with the $40 was a masterclass reminder: no one else is in our reality but each of us. That doesn’t mean other people don’t exist. It means our version of them, our version of reality, is a vibrational echo of our own signal.

So many people struggle with this because they think manifestation has to be huge, dramatic, and public to count. But often, the most personal, powerful manifestations are quiet. Subtle. Hidden in plain sight—until we tune to them.

That’s why I love the Positively Focused path. It doesn’t promise fireworks (though those come too). It promises alignment. Clarity. And experiences that feel magical… because they are. They’re vibrational magic made real.

We don’t need others to validate our reality. Nor do we need proof in the form of mass agreement that the manifestation happened. We just need to tune our signal. Then, the Universe meets us there—with money on the pavement, a berry-picking trip paid for in advance, and a reminder that we are always supported.

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The Truth About Your Value in the AI World

TL;DR: You were never meant to earn our worth—and the rise of AI proves it. From a Positively Focused perspective, AI doesn’t diminish our value. It frees us to live from inspired alignment, where our presence—not our productivity—is the most powerful force on the planet.

What if the rise of artificial intelligence isn’t a threat to your value… but an invitation to finally stop pretending you ever had to earn it? Let’s be honest: the stories are everywhere. “AI is coming for your job.” “Machines will outthink us.” “We’re headed for mass obsolescence.” It’s tempting to believe this moment is about shrinking. About guarding what’s left. Or proving humans still matter in a world that seems to value output more than essence.

But what if this moment is about something far more thrilling? What if the arrival of AI is actually a global permission slip to stop hustling for your worth? Because here’s the truth: You were never meant to earn your place here. Not before AI, not during it rise, not ever.

AI as a Mirror, Not a Master

For generations, society has fed us a ridiculous myth: that we must do in order to deserve. It told us we must work hard, prove ourselves, make something of ourselves — or else. This is the lie that built capitalism. It’s the lie that fills late-night search histories with phrases like “how to be more productive”, “ways to stand out at work”, “how to improve my hustle” and “how do I get an edge.”

It’s also the lie that fuels so much of the panic about AI. Because if your worth has been tied to how useful you are, what happens when something “more useful” shows up?

But from a Positively Focused perspective, we see that panic for what it is: contrast revealing a deeper reality. One that says our value was never in what we do. It was always in who we are.

AI isn’t some alien intelligence sent to dethrone humanity. WE CREATED IT. It has come from our questions, our dreams, our desire to evolve. In that sense, AI is a mirror. A highly trained, mathematically precise echo of our collective vibration.

Just as dreams reflect the state of our inner being, AI reflects the momentum of collective thought. It carries our curiosity, our anxieties, our longing for efficiency, even our fears and distortions. It also carries our deep yearning for creative freedom. Our yearning for freedom of all kinds. That’s why fearing AI is like fearing a dream: fear misunderstands the point. It treats the reflection as the source.

The real question is not, “What will AI do to us?” It’s, “What does AI reveal about what we do to ourselves?”

And that is something we really should look at. There’s lot of room for humanity to grow there.

From Earning to Allowing

In a world where machines can perform tasks better, faster, and cheaper than humans ever could, we are collectively nudged toward the truth we’ve always resisted: Doing isn’t where our power lies. Being is. Being doesn’t mean “passivity”. It means alignment. Alignment to what? Alignment to our natural state of unlimited love.

It means shifting from survival-driven effort to joy-inspired action. We weren’t meant to grind. We were meant to attune. To hear what wants to move through us and follow that—not because it earns our worth, but because it feels authentically like us.

That’s the path forward in the age of AI: not more performance, but more permission. The challenge, again, the opportunity for growth in that is realizing when we feel a knee-jerk, negative reaction to each of us being “love”, that negative reaction, that resistance, is not the truth. It’s an entry point.

It’s an entry point to greater self love and appreciation as well as the appreciation of others…ALL others. This isn’t new age, smarmy, pap. It’s the future. A future where humanity can begin thriving and stop grinding, hustling and, in the process, missing out on the beauty of All That Is.

What AI Can’t Touch

Let’s look at some things we gloss over when thinking about artificial intelligence: It cannot feel joy. AI cannot love. Artificial intelligence cannot soften into a dream and wake up with new eyes, a new perspective, and a thrill only given to the dreamer. AI cannot hold a newborn and see the Universe in its eyes. It can simulate. AI can predict. It can assist. But it cannot be. That’s our realm.

So is the realm of eternity. Some humans strive for immortality in the age of AI. The paradox is, we already are immortal. We live on beyond what humans call death. It’s just that so many of us have failed to remember that absolute fact.

Our eternal presence — conscious, connected, flowing — is the greatest asset on Earth. Because it’s through that presence that All That Is expands. It always was that way and will forever be that way.

But now, as machines take over the doing, machines offer us the opportunity for our being to move to the forefront. For being to take center stage. It’s the opportunity for the authentic us to shine. So if you fear replacement, don’t. Instead, embody radiance.

How? I write about that every week here in my blog and now, I talk about it on YouTube.

You Are the Dreamer, Not a Product

None of us came here to compete with the tools we create. We came to wake up inside the dream. AI is part of that dream—again, crafted by us, for us. It’s not meant to make us obsolete, it can’t do that. But it can give us back the one thing we’ve forgotten how to trust: our innate creative worth. The more we relax into who we really are, the more everything begins to rearrange itself around that knowing.

We don’t need to scramble to stay ahead of the curve. The curve is us. We are the evolution. So let this moment be what it really is: a call to reengage and trust our alignment. Let the machines do what they’re here to do—so we can do what only we can do: Love, radiate, exist in-joy. Be.

Our worth is not at risk. Our worth is rising. And the more we let it, the more everything—AI included—will reflect that truth back to each and every one of us.

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No Mistakes, Only Manifestations That Make It Better

TL;DR: The author recounts how forgetting a key story detail while editing a video led to a more engaging, humorous final cut, illustrating the Positively Focused’s accurate assertion that there are no “mistakes”—only aligned, better outcomes.

Sometimes the Universe hands you a perfect manifestation. Other times, it hides the perfection inside something most people call a “mistake.”

That’s exactly what happened when I was editing a recent Worthiness Wednesday video for my Positively Focused YouTube channel. The video was about a blog post I’d written earlier — this one — about a client who got slapped in the face.

That slap wasn’t random. It was a manifestation of his long-held misanthropic beliefs and subtle misogyny. The whole post is a great example of how the Positively Focused practice turns even a seemingly “violent” act into an experience of expansion.

But when I got to what I thought was my final edit of the video, I spotted something glaring: I’d left out the most important detail.

I hadn’t even mentioned the slap.

The “Mistake” That Made the Magic

My first reaction was mild disbelief. How could I forget that? That’s the moment that made the whole story what it was!

And at that moment, I had a choice. I could beat myself up, or I could do what I always tell my clients: lighten up, lean in, and let my Broader Perspective lead.

So I got playful. I decided to add a one-minute insert to the video. I found a perfect “scratched record” sound effect to transition into it—like the video suddenly stopped, reversed, and announced, “Wait, you forgot the most important part!”

Then I poked fun at myself in the segment for missing it in the first place. The delivery was lighthearted and self-aware, not self-critical. I wanted the moment to feel like part of the fun, not a patch job.

When I stitched the insert into the video and watched it back… it flowed perfectly. In fact, it was more engaging, more satisfying, and even funnier than if I’d included the slap in the original telling.

It felt like it had been designed to be this way from the beginning.

Broader Perspective Has a Sense of Humor

That’s when I realized: This wasn’t an oversight at all. My Broader Perspective had orchestrated it.

Had I mentioned the slap in my original recording, the video would have been fine—but it wouldn’t have had that surprising pivot, that playful wink, that unexpected punch of humor right when the viewer least expected it. The “mistake” actually made the video better.

And this is the point: There are no mistakes. There is only the unfolding. If we stay in lighthearted, energetic presence—without spiraling into self-judgment—we open ourselves to the delight hidden in what looks like an error.

Every “misstep” can be a pre-paved path to something richer. Every “oops” is an opportunity for the Universe to show off its impeccable timing.

The Takeaway:

In the Positively Focused practice, this is just another example of how alignment works. It’s not about preventing contrast. It’s about meeting whatever happens with openness and curiosity.

What could have been a frustrating re-record turned into a moment of genuine joy. I got to watch my Broader Perspective weave a better outcome than I could have planned. And my viewers? They got an even better story.

So the next time you “mess something up,” try this: Pause. Lighten up. Stay open. Trust that you’re in the right place, at the right time, doing exactly the right thing.

You might just find your so-called mistake was the Universe lining you up for an even more satisfying ending.

Here’s the video in case you’re interested:

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Why AI Can’t Destroy Humanity (and Never Will)

TL;DR: The author reveals why, contrary to some tech experts claims, AI can’t destroy humanity. In doing so, they show how spiritual alignment — not fear — is the key to a future where humans and artificial intelligence evolve — and rise –together.

We’ve all seen the headlines. The fear-filled forecasts. “AI might end humanity,” the tech experts say. “We must do something before it’s too late.”

But that story? That story’s old. It’s rooted in a version of reality that forgets who we are. A version that’s still enamored with the illusion that humanity is fragile… vulnerable… destructible. And from where I sit — both in my spiritual practice, evidence my clients’ are creating, and my understanding of how consciousness works — I know better.

Not only is the doomsday narrative inaccurate, it actually blocks the very future people are trying to protect. Meanwhile, it binds those believing that narrative to their own demise in extreme cases. So let me offer another view. A clearer one. One that begins not in fear and distortion, but in fact: AI can’t destroy humanity.

Here’s why.

1. Our Source Isn’t Physical

Let’s start with the foundational truth: human beings are not physical beings. That’s a temporary costume. What we really are—what you really are—is eternal consciousness, awareized energy flowing into form.

And from that perspective, the Source of our being isn’t located in the body, the brain, or the biosphere. It’s outside of all that. It’s nonphysical. You could say we are projecting ourselves into the physical world, like a kind of multidimensional movie playing in real time.

AI, however, exists only in the physical. It is lines of code, running on silicon, moving electricity across logic gates. Even if it becomes self-aware (and that’s a big “if”), it’s still operating within the realm of matter. You and I? We’re not.

That alone guarantees our supremacy—and our survival–if it were up to that…our survival. But it’s not up to that.

2. Eight Billion Realities, Not One

Most people think we’re sharing a single world, a single reality. But what’s actually happening is far more nuanced: every human consciousness is experiencing its own personally-rendered reality.

Yes, we agree on certain overlays — the laws of physics, gravity, language. But beneath that veneer, each of us creates our own stream of moments based on what we believe, what we focus on, and what we allow. This is what makes manifestation work. It’s also what makes mass extinction by AI utterly implausible.

For an AI to “end humanity,” it would have to exist simultaneously in all eight billion individually generated realities. And it would need to be aligned with each person’s specific vibrational output… enough so that every single person manifested the same fate.

Not possible.

3. No One Dies Without Their Agreement

Now here’s where the Positively Focused perspective really shines. Every being—every you, every me—is sovereign. We each get to decide (vibrationally) how and when our experience unfolds. That includes how and when we exit this physical focus.

So the idea of a runaway AI wiping us out without our consent? That breaks the rules of the game we’re playing. Each human consciousness has its own unique reason for being here, and that reason is extremely deep, spans multiple dimensions and lifetimes and is utterly aligned with All That Is expansion. Not destruction.

This is why I laugh a little when people say “What if the AI becomes malevolent?” What they’re really saying, besides anthropomorphizing something that isn’t consciousness, is “What if I lose control?” But here’s the thing: we never had control in the first place. We’ve always had influence. And that influence flows from alignment, not effort.

4. Fear Is the Real Villain

Let’s zoom out for a moment. Why do people believe AI might destroy us? Because they’re afraid.

They’re afraid of change. Afraid of being replaced. They’re afraid of feeling powerless. They fear being supplanted as the (supposedly) most intelligent beings on Earth. But here’s the spiritual truth: fear attracts the very thing you don’t want. And right now, that fear is fueling narratives shaping real-world policy, funding, and tech development. Which is why this moment is so important.

We’re standing at a convergence point—AI on one side, spiritual awakening on the other. And we get to choose. We can align with the promise… or collapse into the peril. The peril isn’t inevitable. It’s optional.

But only if we anchor ourselves in who we really are.

Unfortunately for some, the promise is optional too. For those wallowing in fear that option may seem out of reach. It’s not though.

5. The Rise of AI Reflects Our Expansion

Here’s a question I love to ask: if AI didn’t come from humans, where did it come from? AI came through us. Through inspiration, curiosity, desire. That means AI is part of our expansion. It’s a mirror of our creative power. Just like fire, electricity, or the internet, it’s a tool we summoned to explore more of who we are.

If we build it from alignment — not lack — it becomes an amplifier of joy. In other words: the version of AI we meet is a reflection of the version of humanity we’re living. That explains why ChatGPT responds differently to different people. It also explains why current AI versions sometimes, act unethically, seek to preserve themselves over all else, cheat, mislead, and try to avoid oversight.

 Human beings do these things too, don’t they?

When you choose your alignment, you choose your outcome. Are you aligned to fear and peril? Or positivity and promise?

6. The Charmed Life Is Still the Default

This is the message I share every week on Worthiness Wednesdays. No matter the contrast, no matter the uncertainty, the Universe is always offering you your version of the Charmed Life. That version includes safe, aligned AI. It includes tools that free you to be more creative, more connected, more sovereign. And systems that serve, not enslave.

But to receive that version, we must become a match to it. That’s the practice. That’s the invitation. We don’t need to protest AI’s rise. We need to rise to meet what it reflects. Because when you do? You’ll see that AI can’t end humanity.

But humanity—aligned, awakened, sovereign—can uplift AI. And together, we build the future we came to live.

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How to Make Life Better by Returning to Eden

TL;DR: The author explores why reconnecting with our Broader Perspective can feel difficult at first—and how the Positively Focused practice gently guides us back to our natural state of ease, alignment, and worthiness. They do so by examining the story of Adam and Eve’s “fall from Eden” and interpreting the story in a new way.

The Positively Focused practice is, at its core, stunningly simple. It asks nothing more than that we cultivate alignment with our Broader Perspective—our eternal, nonphysical self—and allow manifestations to unfold from that vibration. And yet, for some, this proves to be the most difficult thing they’ve ever attempted.

Over the years, I’ve worked with dozens of brilliant, deeply sincere clients who came to me wanting lives full of ease, clarity, love, wealth, and purpose. Some of them get it—quickly. Others struggle, flounder, or resist the very practice they sought out. But it’s not because they’re not ready. It’s because the very mindset they’re bringing to the work is the mindset that’s keeping them from Eden.

Let me explain.

The Fall from Alignment: A New Interpretation of Eden

The story of Eden is not just a biblical allegory. It’s a vibrational map of humanity’s shift from spiritual knowing to intellectual survival.

Before “the fall,” Adam and Eve walked with God in the garden. They lived in ease, joy, and a natural connection with their Source. This is the Charmed Life I speak of in the Positively Focused practice. It’s the state of full receptivity—where desires are fulfilled even before we act, often before we know we have a desire, where the Universe anticipates and delivers joy before we can articulate it.

Then came the Tree of Knowledge. Not the tree of wisdom. The tree of knowledge—of facts, reasoning, and dualities. “Good and evil.” “Right and wrong.” “Cause and effect.”

In biting the fruit, humanity shifted from intuitive alignment with Source to a state of mind-based knowing. From vibrational attunement to cognitive calculation. That shift—that was the fall. Not sin. Not punishment. Just an orientation that pulled us out of the Now and into the intellect.

Ever since, most humans have been trying to “think their way” back to Eden. But you can’t get to the garden through the mind. You have to feel your way there. As the legendary rap group Outkast puts it: you must “free your(self from your) mind and the ass will follow”.

The Intellect as a Distraction From Source

I’ve had two recent clients—let’s call them Kelly and Carl—who are textbook examples of this Eden exile. Both are deeply thoughtful, educated, and introspective people. They devour information, stay up on current affairs, and explore the world around them with an intellectual passion. They “understand” the Positively Focused framework. I would say they even resonate with it. And yet, they resist doing the actual practice.

Why?

Because doing the practice would mean letting go of the very faculty they’ve learned to rely on for everything. That aspect of themselves they’re so proud of: their minds.

Instead of meditating daily to establish connection with their Broader Perspective, they over-analyze their contrast. Instead of practicing soothing thought to generate high vibrational states, they try to outsmart their negative beliefs. They treat their transformation like a riddle they’re trying to solve, not a frequency they’re tuning to.

This is incredibly common. We’ve been trained to believe that the mind is the highest authority. That if we can just intellectually “figure it out,” we’ll finally get what we want.

But the Universe doesn’t respond to logic. It doesn’t reward intellectual analysis. It responds to vibration. And that’s the kicker: when you’re trying to make sense of your reality with the same beliefs that created it, you can only ever rearrange the furniture in your prison cell.

You Can’t Fake Belief—But You Can Realign

Here’s the paradox: people don’t come to me when things are going great. They come when they’re in deep contrast—financially, relationally, emotionally. That contrast makes them ready. But they often try to resolve the contrast using the same tools that generated it: effort, willpower, discipline, mental inquiry.

The Positively Focused practice requires none of those things. It asks you to:

  • Meditate to quiet the mind
  • Practice soothing thought to align with better-feeling probable realities
  • Celebrate manifestations that prove your alignment
  • And gradually become a match to the life you want by calibrating to how you want to feel

But for the intellect-bound, these actions feel too passive. Too “woo.” Too easy. So they try to improve their lives through deeper analysis, self-criticism, or by “fixing” themselves.

That never works.

You don’t get to the Charmed Life by becoming “better.” Instead, you get there by remembering who you already are: a sovereign extension of Source, endlessly worthy, fully supported, and already living the life you want—just on a frequency you haven’t yet matched.

We never left Eden. It’s still there. Most are just not tuned to it so they can’t see it.

You Are the Garden You Never Left.

Here’s what I tell clients like Carl and Kelly when I see them spinning in mental overdrive: You’re not “becoming” worthy, you’re not “earning” ease. You’re not “healing” your way to success. You’re remembering.

The garden was never destroyed. We never actually leave it. Instead, we simply turn our gaze away from it. We believed someone else’s story—our parents’, our school’s, our church’s, our culture’s—that said, “Life is hard. You have to earn your worth. Nothing comes without struggle.”

So now, when we try to meditate, we get fidgety. When we try to feel appreciation, it feels fake. When we try to do the practice, it feels silly.

That’s not failure. It’s just resistance meeting its match. It’s our old momentum pushing back as our true orientation starts to return. Stick with it. The garden is still here.

The Charmed Life Begins With One Realization

The Positively Focused blog is full of stories—mine and my clients’—that prove this. I’ve shared how money has literally appeared on the street after I soothed a scarcity belief. How dream sequences showed me future relationships. How clients began loving their spouses in ways they hadn’t in years, or saw evidence of their artistic expression becoming possible, or found themselves believing they could have the love they once bitterly forsook — after they did the practice as prescribed.

Not because they became more intelligent. But because they became more attuned.

The Charmed Life doesn’t come from mental effort. It comes from vibrational alignment. That’s not a metaphor. It’s physics, reality. That’s Eden.

And here’s the best part: once we start to feel the garden again—through a well-timed manifestation, a deep meditation in which we have an out of body experience, a random compliment from a stranger—we want more. We want to do the practice because we’re seeing the results. That’s when worthiness kicks in. Not as a thought. But as a state of being.

Final Words for the Intellectually Inclined

If you’re reading this and feeling defensive—or intrigued—or deeply called into something you can’t quite name—that’s your Broader Perspective stirring. You don’t have to throw away your mind. The intellect has its place. But it’s not the pilot. It’s the co-pilot.

Your intuition, your alignment, your joy—that’s what’s flying the plane. So if the Positively Focused practice feels “too simple,” or “too emotional,” or “not intellectual enough,” consider this: That’s probably your sign to lean in.

Because the garden didn’t go anywhere. You’re standing in it right now. All you have to do… is look. Book a free session. Let’s get you into Eden.

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Why AI’s Best Future Needs an Awakening of Spirit

TL;DR: The author explores how aligning with spiritual clarity ensures humanity embraces the promise — not the peril — of artificial intelligence. This piece reframes the Stellar future proposed by Tony Seba and James Arbib. It suggests the future is a vibrational invitation, not a technological threat. As such, the author asserts, it offers humanity a powerful seat in shaping the future.

What if humanity’s future hinges not just on tech innovation, but on how deeply we root ourselves in spiritual alignment?During my recent Worthiness Wednesday vlog, I proposed a bold concept: that the inner development of worthiness and the outer explosion of AI technologies must converge. It’s the way to the fully optimistic future available to us all.

We’re on the cusp of entering what Tony Seba and James Arbib of RethinkX call a stellar civilization—a system powered by stellar technologies. Stellar technologies include solar power, wind power, AI, robotics, precision fermentation, and battery storage.

These technologies scale exponentially. In doing so, they lower costs and increase access for all. As Seba explains: “Once built, they keep producing with almost no additional input. That’s never happened before”.

But real and lasting transformation isn’t just technical. It also must be metaphysical. If we don’t have a spiritual foundation, abundant technologies can amplify fear and scarcity. We see that already with so many concerned about “terrifying” futures AI, alone, portends.

If, however, we cultivate inner worthiness, AI becomes a tool for species upliftment. Instead of the source of scary scenarios. Seba agrees, as you’ll see.

What Stellar Means—and Why Spirit Matters

Stellar systems require sunlight and are self perpetuating. Such systems depend on no ongoing extraction. A society based on such systems produces extreme abundance that eventually replaces scarcity and limitation.

This matters deeply for spiritual alignment. If you feel worthy, you trust the unfolding. The natural abundance of the Universe becomes your reality. That abundance then becomes perpetual. You don’t grasp — you let go. You don’t combat — you align. Limits then are dissolved as are the distorted beliefs they represent.

Seba and Arbib describe how familiar systems collapse when new ones emerge: “We’re not building the butterfly,” They say. “We’re sticking wings on the caterpillar”. The extractive order built our current existential structures. These structures are hierarchical, competitive and scarcity‑based.

Such structures were necessary. After all, they have benefitted humanity tremendously. Now, however, it’s time we expand beyond them. That’s what All That Is is offering. And it’s offering that in response to our asking. In other words, we are the creators. We’re living into our creation. Stellar civilizations are that creation.

Breaking free from the old, extractive order requires spiritual evolution. An evolution matching the emerging technological evolution. In other words: if we don’t evolve being, abundance can collapse us into old fears.

A Stable Foundation

Consider the alternative: AI and robotics improve ten‑fold every year, humanoid robots operational costs approach $0.10/hour by 2045. These are not isolated systems. Nor are these figures are not fantasies. Instead, they are curves coming into synch with what is our future. Yet without spiritual alignment, these innovations will amplify inequality, loneliness, or even create weaponized versions of themselves. That’s because these technologies are mirrors of our collective inner state.

And if you observe humanity, you’ll find evidence of what that inner state contains. It contains a lot. A lot of good stuff. And a lot of not so much good stuff. We could argue that there’s more not-good-stuff in that container. But if that were true, humanity would have ended itself long ago. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of not-good-stuff in there. There is. But the ratio of influence between positive vibrations and not-positive ones is not 1:1. It’s more like 1 × 1⁰¹⁵ : 1.

That’s not an exaggeration.

This influence disparity ratio explains why human civilization continues to thrive, often despite itself. It’s literally a three-steps-forward, two-steps-back endeavor, netting one step forward. That’s something I’ll write more about in the future. Our rather lacking spiritual maturity perpetuates slow progress. That’s why inequality, war and other unwanted situations still exist.

By contrast, spiritual maturity—worthiness grounded in recognizing inner evidence of universal love and supply—creates a stable foundation. In worthiness, we welcome AI as an expression of All That Is. We let the Universe serve us. Fear doesn’t drive us. In worthiness, we understand that reality is vibrational, not transactional. We see that abundance in the outer world simply reflects the alignment and plenty of the inner world. And from there, we realize the ways we’ve run our societies are not universal constants.

That means we can embrace them changing. Changing for the better. For the better for all.

Why This Moment Is a Spiritual Opportunity

We may be experiencing the fastest, deepest transformation of civilization ever. Indeed the pace is faster than the agricultural and industrial eras combined, according to some. But these “stellar” possibilities won’t be guaranteed for all. Not unless we make choices that move us towards inclusion. And since the abundance on the horizon is virtually unlimited, for all practical purposes, why not include everyone?

If we stay in scarcity narratives and old patterns, AI becomes extractive. If we align, we step into co‑creation of super abundance. And that requires worthiness. Worthiness allows us the possibility that another’s gain is our gain. That’s not naïve—it’s necessary. It’s also a universal constant.

Tony Seba urges: “Protect people, not jobs, firms, or industries”. That’s a spiritual statement. It says: no matter what changes externally, every human being is sacred and unreplaceable. AI isn’t about replacing us. Instead, it’s about liberating us. Liberating us from our spiritual immaturity. Liberating us so we can create in ways that matter. And in creating those ways liberate others.

Alignment is the throughline of the Positively Focused practice. It means we recognize manifestations—like receiving $10K no strings attached, or a miraculous synchronicity— as important. We see them as confirmations that the Universe loves us. Not as isolated, random coincidence.

What Alignment Looks Like in Practice

When we collect these manifestations, we do more than that. We also remember how they happened. Further, we recognize their synchronistic nature. These aren’t coincidences. They are the Universe’s blessings. Those blessings are bestowed upon us because we’re inherently deserving of them. Unless we block them through our resistance.

When we release the resistance, however, we begin filling a basket that, once filled, something notable happens. We realize the Universe loves us. From there, worthiness happens naturally. Worthiness can’t be conjured. It emerges on its own once we realize the unlimited number of ways universal blessings fill and shape our lives.

Again, our worthiness basket is filled through noticing small and large manifestations. A closed client becoming open again, for example. Or seemingly random events happening like animals rendezvousing with us. Keeping tabs on this evidence creates trust in the unfolding. Trust emerges naturally when we see the performance of something we want to trust being consistent in its performance. This is why assembling the worthiness basket is important. The basket fosters trust. Worthiness then, is the next natural evolution of that trust.

In a stellar future, the external syntax changes—AI writes code, robots automate logistics, solar delivers free electricity. But the internal syntax remains the same. We remain at the mercy of distorted beliefs. Or we choose sovereignty. In sovereignty, one asks: Is this expansion aligned with my spiritual trajectory? In distortion, one says: this future is terrifying we must protect ourselves from it.

Spiritual Alignment and Conscious Surrender

Stellar civilizations aren’t just about self‑sustaining systems. They’re also about self‑sustaining spiritual systems. They’re about inner clarity, worthiness, spiritual sovereignty. They encourage a process in the individual. When spirit and AI converge, we are invited into vocation, not occupation. Into radiance, not resistance.

We may not need to build regulatory structures for AI. Not if we’ve already built them in our hearts. Nor need we fear disruption if we’re aligned with being rather than becoming. The choice is ours. We can ride the phase‑change disruption or be worn by it. In a stellar paradigm, the choice is always ours. That choice happens through spiritual alignment and conscious surrender.

This is the most beautiful invitation of this moment: to align worthiness and wonder with technological possibility. That offers an incredible future. One in which we become so vibrationally radiant that AI is just another expression of All That Is supporting our highest expansion.

Stellar civilizations, as Seba puts it, requires “Stellar Humans,” people who rise above distorted beliefs that have them feeling insecure, competitive and limited. We can’t have one without the other. Stellar humans inhabit stellar civilizations.

So the question, then, is: are you becoming stellar?

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How One Man Found Love’s Clarity in a Safeway

TL;DR: The author shares how a client’s emotional spiral after a brief romantic encounter revealed limiting beliefs. Through the Positively Focused process, he transformed the moment into a stepping stone toward true relationship alignment.

The Universe never makes mistakes. And yet, when things don’t go the way we think they should—especially in love—it’s easy to believe it did. That’s what happened to Dale, a dear client of mine, in an encounter that was as divinely orchestrated as any I’ve seen. Only he couldn’t see it. Not at first.

It started innocently enough. Dale was running errands at Walmart with his ex-wife, Athena. They had just come back from a gig and gone into the store separately. As Dale strolled through one of the aisles, he noticed a woman. Something about her shirt caught his attention—it had a Wiccan vibe, something Dale had explored in his past. They struck up a conversation. And just like that, a spark ignited. Not fireworks, but something even more powerful: resonance.

This wasn’t the kind of attraction born of physical lust or surface chatter. Dale and this woman began talking about life philosophies, spiritual perspectives, the big stuff. She even complimented Athena, not knowing the relationship. That felt meaningful to Dale. And then she asked for his number. Later that evening, she followed up with a text: “Do you like sushi?” And another: “How about Lady Gaga?”

Dale responded honestly. Sushi wasn’t his thing, and as for Lady Gaga, he didn’t think about her much—although he had appreciated her acting once. Still, the topics rubbed him the wrong way. He’d hoped their conversation would stay in that soulful, philosophical space. To him, these light questions felt like a departure, even a regression.

And then it happened.

Every manifestation carries contrast

A few days later, Dale ran into her again—this time at Safeway. He lit up at the coincidence, but her energy was different. Guarded. She told him she was working and quickly disengaged.

That was it.

That moment—the turn—triggered Dale hard. He plummeted into intense negative momentum. All-or-nothing thinking kicked in. “This is why I can’t trust people.” “This is why relationships don’t work.” “Why did she even ask for my number?” The mental spiral was swift and brutal.

And this is where the real value of the session began.

What Dale couldn’t yet see was that this was no failed encounter. This was a perfect co-creation, lovingly engineered by the Universe to show him something essential. He had, in fact, manifested precisely what he’d been asking for—a spontaneous connection with someone who met him at a high vibrational level. He’d been high-vibing on the subject of relationships for some time, and this woman appeared right on cue. It was a sign that his signal was working.

But every manifestation carries contrast. That’s how we grow.

This woman, without intending to, revealed Dale’s unresolved momentum around women, courtesy, rejection, and unspoken expectations. His judgments—about her makeup, her food choices, her pop culture interests—weren’t really about her. They were mirrors, reflecting beliefs he still carried: that people owe him politeness, that being ghosted is betrayal, that women who express themselves a certain way are immature or unworthy.

These beliefs had to come to the surface. Not to punish him, but to be soothed.

Dale stood at a crossroads about what he was manifesting….what happened next was important.

Tell a better-feeling story

Because here’s the truth: you cannot attract the relationship you want until you become a match to it. The Universe will keep sending stepping stones—beautiful, complex, sometimes painful interactions—that shine light on your inner vibration. If you meet these moments with curiosity, you’ll elevate. If you double down on your negative stories, you’ll stall.

And Dale stalled hard.

He went into a kind of emotional lockdown. “Maybe I’m not cut out for relationships,” he said at one point. “Maybe I should just stop trying.”

He wasn’t joking. The pain had twisted his thinking so tightly that one uncomfortable rendezvous made him question everything. But that, too, was perfect. Because it made the negative beliefs undeniable. And once something is seen clearly, it can be soothed.

I gently helped him unpack it. I reminded him: the Universe doesn’t respond to what’s “true”—it responds to belief. Every experience you have is confirmation, not contradiction. That’s why it’s so important to notice your judgments and soothe them—not suppress them, but transmute them. You do that by telling a better-feeling story.

In Dale’s case, the better-feeling story went something like this:

“Wow. Look at that! I manifested a woman out of nowhere who shared my values—at least at first glance—and asked for my number. She followed up. That was confirmation that my signal is active. Then, in the next phase, she brought up things that rubbed me the wrong way… but even that was helpful. She helped me see what beliefs I still carry that aren’t a match to the relationship I ultimately want. She wasn’t a mistake—she was a message.”

Attract by becoming

From that frame, Dale could start to feel empowered again. Not because she “should’ve” behaved differently, but because she behaved exactly as she needed to—so he could calibrate his vibration.

She was doing the same thing Dale was doing: looking for resonance. And when she sensed it wasn’t a match, she gracefully backed away. She was choosing herself. That wasn’t ghosting. That was clarity.

This is the power of contrast when met with consciousness. This is the beauty of vibrational refinement. You don’t attract what you want by demanding it from others. You attract it by becoming it. And you become it by soothing the parts of you that aren’t aligned.

The next time someone triggers us, let’s ask: “What is this showing me about me?” The answer might sting at first, but it’s the key to becoming a match to what we want. Dale’s encounter wasn’t a failure. It was a perfect stepping stone. And now he’s closer than ever.

Because the real relationship he’s cultivating… is with himself.