A Law of Attraction skeptic told me once that people who follow Law of Attraction are 30 TIMES more likely to file for bankruptcy. While I don’t put stock in statistics, I understand why so many Law of Attraction followers end up in financial straits. A couple client experiences back my knowing up.
One client lived as though he had more money than he does. Rather than living frugally, he spent from his savings and maxed out his credit cards, expecting his stories about money would turn around in his expected time frame. Not only that, he hadn’t paid attention to how much money was coming in, and how much was going out each month. So he was flying financially blind. Now, he’s struggling a bit because his small income from his artistic performance plus his social security are almost completely consumed by credit card debt payments and basic needs like rent and food.
Another client, who also is an artist, had a similar but different experience. This client creates beautiful, hand-woven items from rags. Inspired by my Broader Perspective, I bought one from her to gift to another client. I knew that client would enjoy the artistic expression. At the time, the artist didn’t have their pricing understood. Nor did they know how much it would cost to ship the thing. I bought the item before the client finished it for what I thought was a reasonable price. The artist finished it, then shipped it. The shipping was almost as much as what she asked me to buy the thing!
Generational beliefs about money
I’m clear about how this YCYOR business works, therefore I am keen on my money flows. So when the artist asked me to cover the high shipping cost, I said I would. But I told them I wouldn’t pay it until after tax season. My taxes this year were more than I expected due to my growing client practice, which, in itself is a surprising and delightful outcome of my Positively Focused practice. I thought I had saved enough for taxes. I miscalculated. So I was in austerity mode to cover the balance. Paying for unexpected, high shipping costs for an art item wasn’t on my priority list.
My decision upset the artist. When we talked about it this week, the client asserted that I was not doing the Positively Focused practice. I should pay them now, they said, and just know the money would show up.
But that’s not how this YCYOR business, the Positively Focused practice nor Law of Attraction works. And this misunderstanding gives credence to the 33X statistic.
Money is one of the most challenging manifestations for many people to become a match to. That’s because so many of us (me included) have old beliefs that run counter us being a match to money. A lot of beliefs. Often, those beliefs are GENERATIONAL. Further, these beliefs come with a lot of momentum. So soothing all that momentum will take a while.
How long will it take?
Don’t be a statistic
That’s the question. The answer is; we can’t know. But we can know that it will happen in delightful and surprising timing, aka “divine timing”, which usually means much longer than most people think or want to believe it will happen. So a person thinking they can just spend money because the universe is going to magically soothe all their resistant beliefs and, in short order, give them more money to spend, that person really doesn’t underhand how any of this spiritual stuff works. Especially around money.
Anyone striving to align their life with how the Universe works, be it through Positively Focused, Seth’s teachings or Law of Attraction must first understand key elements of those practices typically not shared in social media, by influencers or in movies like The Secret. When it comes to money, one of the most important things to do as one lines up with more money is to live within one’s means. Live frugally. Thinking money will come in if we freely spend money makes no sense at all. That’s because there’s a ton of beliefs and momentum each one of us has about money that created the money relationship we have. Those beliefs work counter to that expectation that money is coming.
Money is coming. But it’s going happen in divine timing, which is always longer than we think it’s going to happen. That’s why when what we want does happen, it feels like a surprise and a delight.
And if we don’t soothe that nonsensical belief, the one telling us we can spend freely when we don’t have a lot of money, we’ll end up a statistic.
Don’t be that guy.