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What Happened When One Text Proved We’re All Connected

A joyful confirmation happened yesterday. It happened with a client between sessions. What happened completely confirmed everything clients and I talk about in the Positively Focused practice.

While writing one of these posts yesterday, I got the feeling this client needed encouragement. My Broader Perspective is connected to his Broader Perspective. So I can sometimes tell how he’s doing even if we’re not talking in the moment. It’s the same connection through which I caused a client to step out of “having allergies” as a reality, and into being “allergy free”. Here’s a link to the short story about that. A longer, more detailed explanation will go live in a few weeks.

Back to this client.

So my Broader Perspective, while I was writing the post yesterday, said “reach out to [him] give him a taste of what you’re wanting him to do.” This client is resisting a process that is part of the Positively Focused practice. He’s resisting it because his negative momentum is strong. So strong he can’t overcome it enough to do the process. Ironically, it’s through the process that he’ll overcome it. So the client finds himself in a stuck-paradox. One he’ll break through eventually.

The process involves expressing appreciation for things about his life. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet some clients struggle with it. A lot of times it’s because clients are so oriented to fixing problems and being nose-to-the-grindstone in life, they don’t know how to be appreciative. Or they think it’s dumb. Or, like this client, their dominant negative momentum prevents them from doing it for a time.

When my Broader Perspective told me what it did, I jumped to it. These days I know it’s in my best interest to respond whenever my Broader Perspective calls. So I dashed out a long list of statements as though he were writing it and texted it to him:

By the time I finished this text, I felt high-flying even before I sent it. Even before he responded. But when he did respond, it was a massive moment of confirmation for us both. It proved how accurate this practice is. And it showed how connected we all are. Here’s how he replied followed by my response right after his:

We are all connected. Our society convinces us of the opposite though. We become insecure about, then fearful about others, which then amplifies the separation. In just a little while though, in just a little time spent in a higher vibration, we can uncover the connection that exists, not only between ourselves and All That Is, but with other humans and animals as well.

We come back into our fullness. There we find the mystical, seemingly magical power of co-creation combined with our sovereign clarity. And in that clarity we can offer others reflections that touch them at the deepest parts of what they are. Which is what happened between me and this client yesterday.

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Why Inner Peace Outshines Material Success

What if everything we want we want because we’ll feel better when we have it? What does that mean about our desires?

I spent the day yesterday with a friend of over 20 years. A startup entrepreneur, he’s got at least a couple million in the bank. He lives in the suburbs, in a beautiful, large, traditional house he owns outright. He has three lovely sons, all grown. His marriage to his wife has lasted over 50 years. Even though they’re rich, they’re also frugal. Both their cars have over 100,000 miles on them. One, a passenger van looks like it has over 100,000 miles on it. The other, a beetle, is the wife’s car. It’s immaculate.

Every time I hang out with this guy, I’m impressed with who he is. He focuses his life on giving back: to his family, his community. His startups are nearly always about creating prosperity for the most disadvantaged. The latest idea of his has to do with teaching entrepreneurship to the formerly incarcerated. And, should those businesses succeed, he invites those business owners to contribute a portion of their revenues to help build other companies that will support similar causes.

My life is decidedly different. I live in an urban area, in an apartment I rent. The diversity around me is incredible. I can get anywhere I need to in at most, a 20 minute walk, 10 minute bike ride or via public transportation. If necessary, I can rent a car for longer trips, although that hardly ever happens. And, my apartment is tiny compared to my friend’s home.

Our lives couldn’t be much different.

“It’s so refreshing”

But what stands out the most, for me, is how satisfied I am with all of my life. Not just my personal trappings, but life in general, including what’s happening here in the United States. My satisfaction, borne of the Positively Focused practice, affords me a deep peace in knowing everything is unfolding as it should. And, a knowing that life is getting better for everyone, even when it looks like it’s not.

But my friend and his wife are struggling with the “what is” of life. They’re suffering in seeing what’s happening, extrapolating a future from how they’re interpreting what’s happening into one that affords bleak misfortunes for their children, and their friends’ children. In other words, for all their material, apparent success, they can’t find the most important success of all: peace of mind.

Which is why when I shared what I see about what is and the future, the wife said “I’m so glad to hear your positive perspective on life. It’s so refreshing.”

We are joy incarnate

Materially, my wealth doesn’t compare to my friend’s. And yet, when I returned home from spending the day with him, I felt richer than ever. Not because I live in grand stature, but because my experience of life is determined by nothing other than my connection to All That Is and the joyful, sovereign, happiness that springs from that relationship alone.

Indeed, when I got home, I reveled in my own company, in my tiny apartment. I enjoyed seeing the trees in front of the building I live in and the sun splaying through their leaves. The sounds of my neighborhood felt so alive and vibrant. And in that witnessing, I knew many of the desires I once had, and still kind of have – for more money, for example – pale in comparison to the joy I feel in my own skin, in my own life.

I don’t need anything more than what I have (my life) to feel joyful, to feel peace, to feel I have all I want. And in that space, that vibration, I know anything else I desire is mine. Because I am that which I desire most.

You can enjoy a life condition as I just described. It can not be found in things. It’s not available to those pursuing what society tells us we should have. But through pursuing those things, everyone slowly realizes how relatively unsatisfying that pursuit is. And how much more value an inner-derived sense of peace offers.

Finding peace through the pursuit of the fleeting satisfaction found in material consumption is a valid path toward ultimate peace. Most people live their lives on that path. But you can take the shortcut to deep satisfaction by finding that joyful state that is YOU, right now.

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An Easy Way To Prove Manifestation Works

Yesterday I lost a sweater. I don’t even remember the last time I saw it. It was cool outside, and I wanted to wear it. So I opened the closet and looked where it should be.

It wasn’t there. I started to turn my apartment upside down. I wanted to wear it on a walk.

Then I stopped myself. I stopped myself because I knew what you’re about to read. I also knew that the more I might try to find it, the more “lost” it would become.

That’s the thing about vibration. Especially around little things like losing something. If we say to ourselves “XYZ is lost”, and then turn the house upside down, it’s highly likely we’re not going to find it.

Why?

Because when we go around trying to find it, we amplify the vibration “XYZ is lost”. Then we align ourselves with the probable reality in which the item can’t be found.

Such silly-seeming examples like this happen all the time. For example, a person will swear they misplaced their sunglasses….only to find them moments later…resting right where they left them: on their head! Or they’ll “lose” their keys, only to discover them later right where they left them: still in the front door lock (that’s happened to me more than once.)

Easy, light-hearted

Insignificant events such as losing something are great opportunities to prove that we create our reality. We create our reality through the thoughts we think, which aligns us to the alternate reality we are thinking about. The next time you lose something, rather than turning the house upside down, stop looking for it. Stop thinking about it. Turn your attention to something else.

When you do that, your Broader Perspective will inspire you. Soon thereafter, it will say “look over there!” And when you do, you’ll see the item you once thought was “lost”. That will happen because you’re now aligned with the reality in which the item is present.

This has happened to many clients over the years. And it has happened to me before, and again, with my sweater yesterday. So yesterday I relaxed into the knowing that the sweater was in my possession. I stopped looking for it, in other words (after turning my apartment upside down! LOL).

Later that day, I took my backpack to the grocery store. It’s the one I always take to fill with groceries. Mind you, I actually looked in that very backpack and did not see the sweater!!!!

I got milk, eggs and butter, then walked to the checkout counter. The checker rang up my things as I took my pack off and opened it. When I did, I looked in the pack and, there, rolled up, at the bottom of the pack, was my sweater!

This was a perfect, easy, rather light-hearted demonstration that my vibration, my thoughts and my focus create everything I desire. Including turning lost things into found things.

The next time you “lose” something, try this. You might be amazed.

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How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome And Be Happy

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TL;DR: A client transformed from feeling like an imposter to embracing self-love and confidence. By shifting focus inward, he overcame suicidal thoughts, found authenticity, and now thrives in the Charmed Life.

A surprising number of clients express having once experienced “Imposter Syndrome”. Usually, they make such statements after getting over that syndrome. Often, Imposter Syndrome precedes thoughts about killing themselves. Both the syndrome and wanting to kill one’s self point to a tremendously good thing. But most people can’t see the good; they only see the not good.

That’s why I do this work. I love it when people “suffering” from such conditions find their empowerment through those same conditions. On the way to building a permanent happiness in their lives, they find their empowerment and their confidence too. Sometimes, clients let me share their stories. In that way they become shining beacons for others. Their example helps others improve their lives.

Such is the case with the client who allowed me to share a segment of his recent session. In this session, he raved about his progress and about how much he loves who he has become. In that becoming, he’s not only learned to own his bad-assery, he also has found his authenticity feels better than trying to please people by being a chameleon.

Let’s look more closely at his story.

“I was making all that money…but still wanted to kill myself.”

Cain is an Positively Focused advanced client. As a result, he’s not only living the Charmed Life, he’s an example to others about what’s possible through the Positively Focused practice.

Before discovering Positively Focused, he was making a lot of money, but he still wasn’t happy. A big part of his unhappiness was feeling like an imposter, not feeling he fit in anywhere and struggling with being happy. But don’t take my word for it. Hear it directly from him. The video below comes right from our recent 1:1 session.

As you can tell, Cain has found an extraordinary level of self-love. Self love happens naturally once a person reaches for and achieves the Charmed Life I write about in this blog. The Charmed Life is the natural way of living. Living this way we’re free to be ourselves, no matter what other people think about us.

But very few people live their lives this way. Or they’re living a counterfeit version of it, where what they’re actually doing is reacting to what other people think of what they’re doing by living in a certain way as a kind of rebellion toward others’ opinions. That’s not the Charmed Life.

At their wits’ end

People can live according to how others think they should live for a long time. They can live their entire lives that way. But rarely do those people find happiness.

They may make a lot of money, like Cain was doing. But inside, they’re suffering. Some of those people end up wanting to kill themselves. Some actually do. About a third of my client roster comprises people who once thought about killing themselves. But everyone of them is now finding permanent happiness.

Why do so many people come to Positively Focused or something like Law of Attraction wanting to kill themselves as many of my clients have? I think it’s because they are at their wits’ end. They try everything else first because it doesn’t occur to them that the solution to their problems lies inside them.

So they try doing everything else they can. When that doesn’t work, their last stop tends to be something “woo”, like Law of Attraction or Positively Focused. They give up trying to “do” their way out of their problems, in other words. They try being. And then they get what they always wanted: Permanent happiness, a.k.a the Charmed Life.

You can have it too. And now it’s even more affordable. I’ve created new Cohort sessions that include up to a 60 percent discount on 1:1 session rates. Click here to learn more and start your journey to the Charmed Life my clients are discovering.

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Why Spiritual Growth Feels Hard (And How to Make It Easier)

Spiritual growth is a flame we feed with focus. The light we seek waits not in grace bestowed, but in daily devotion — where each breath becomes a match to our divine becoming.

A client over the weekend realized this, although not so poetically. He claimed he was either “lazy” or “bad at the [Positively Focused] practice” because he felt so negatively. I begged to differ. “How can you be lazy or bad at the practice when you’re not doing the practice?” I asked.

Now this client, a veteran of the practice for many years, has a LOT of negative momentum born of pretty intense past experiences. And, he’s made TREMENDOUS progress in expanding out of really negative beliefs, and their corresponding negative emotions, into a more chronic, happy state.

But times do occur where he still feels really bad. Those feelings and associated old beliefs surface, then he succumbs. The reason he succumbs, and I told him this, is because he doesn’t do the practice.

So what is “the practice”?

We must do the homework

In addition to attending sessions wherein I offer guidance, clients are given a series of “homework assignments”, practices or processes. These processes help them connect with their Broader Perspective. But they also establish a foundation of vibrational alignment by developing habits of focus. Without doing these assignments, clients become an untethered sail in the midst of a vibrational mistral.

That was this client’s experience and explained why he felt lazy or bad at the practice. The problem wasn’t laziness or poor performance. It’s that he hadn’t been doing the practice at all. So he’s been like an untethered sail.

And yet, he keeps coming to sessions. Why?

Because in session I hold a very high vibration. One that makes people feel good when they collapse into it. That exposure alone can create enough positive momentum in a person’s life to see positive results. But the real results show up when people do the homework.

And this is why spiritual growth feels hard. It’s because the aspirant must devote themselves to the practice daily. The Positively Focused homework makes spiritual growth easier.

We all enjoy free will. That means we don’t have to do anything, even when our experience of life is near always awful. No one will bestow spiritual growth upon us, or a better life upon us. We must do it ourselves through a daily devotion, a daily practice.

And for many, “devotion” can feel hard. It’s not, but it can feel that way. That’s why people like me exist. People who can light the way for others to follow, to accompany them through their storms. To tether their sail to our stable vibrational halyard, when focus wavers under strong vibrational winds.

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How To Live Happily Ever After For Regular People

Happily ever after is not just a story book tale. It can be the story of everyone’s lives. But it takes focus. After all, what does “live happily ever after” actually mean?

Is it riches and wealth? Is it a partner for life? Maybe an animal companion or a great occupation? Is it playing video games all day? Being high all the time?

I can tell you many people have one, some or all these conditions and more. And they’re not happy. Let alone happy “ever after”.

So what is living happily ever after?

It means in every moment one experiences happiness. And that happiness continues on and on and on and on…right up to one’s transition (and beyond, actually). The kind of happiness that looks like that, most people don’t enjoy.

That’s because one must choose to be happy. And they must choose it again, again and again and again…right up to one’s transition. The problem is, and I’m sure you know this, dear reader, most people don’t deliberately choose their state of being in any given moment. Most don’t think they can choose an emotional state. Instead, they let circumstances choose the emotion for them.

That’s not a recipe for happily ever after. That too is why so many think happily ever after only applies to story books. Not to “reality”.

But it does apply to reality too. If we develop the habit of choosing happiness, choosing to be positive, no matter what’s happening, then we can enjoy living happily ever after. It’s not easy making happiness habitual. Not at first. Like any habit though, continued practice makes it easy. So easy it becomes a habit.

Want proof that it’s possible? Look at your life now. Maybe you, like so many, let circumstances dictate how you feel. It seems instantaneous and is…because you’ve allowed it to become habitual. That’s proof that you can allow happiness to become habitual too. So you have evidence it’s possible.

My clients are living the possibility. This explains why they keep coming back. It also explains why they feel so good about life. Because happiness (positivity) is habit forming. And there’s nothing like a habit. A habit that feels good.

Happily ever after is available to everyone. Suffering and sadness (or any other negative emotion) is optional. Are you ready to make your way to happily ever after? Consider becoming a client. I’d be happy to show you the way.

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What Multidimensional Shifts Reveal About Consciousness

I’m regularly traveling into alternate dimensions these days. So often I do so, they now just seem like every day occurrences. And yet, I don’t take them for granted. That’s because they offer so many touch points for my expansion.

One Positively Focused advanced client experiences similar “departures”. That’s confirming. It tells me these aren’t “hallucinations” or “fantasies” my brain makes up. Rather, they happen for anyone willing to allow their consciousness to travel free of the body.

Any visual experience that goes beyond ordinary waking reality is a “departure” from physical reality. They’re what I nowadays call “multidimensional consciousness shifts”. My “allowing” started with a series of sensations which happened in meditation. I’ve written about these many times in my early posts. They got stronger, and rather than resisting them or fearing them, I first brought conscious focus to them. I wanted to amplify them.

Then, at one point, I became indifferent to the sensations. Instead, I focused on their origin. The sensations themselves are echoes of a source. They are not the source itself. That focus actually caused the sensations to strengthen.

Those experiences gave way to full-on, sudden transitions into alternate realities. I’m getting better at holding onto them and bringing them back into my present-moment waking reality. But they still come in a fleeting manner.

What it looks like

Here’s an example of a multidimensional consciousness shift that happened in meditation this morning, straight from my records:

I was in an industrial area, a rundown industrial area, one that was about to be demolished. A great big warehouse stood before me off in the distance a bit, and where I stood, accompanying me was a band of women, all beautiful, of different aspects…I felt at home there. I then walked forward toward the warehouse. As I approached, these great big demolition trucks appeared before me. They were facing me and as I walked through the line of trucks I came to a van expecting to see my partner, my female partner there…I came back into this reality and meditation. Then I had another shift wherein I saw a male in construction worker protective equipment. He was using a shovel to dig into the earth where little plants grew. It wasn’t a garden. It was more like a median strip or a public park or something like that.

There’s a difference between these shifts and my extremely detailed, long-form dream experiences. The former always feels like current reality in the sense that the environment I visit feels ordinary. The latter always feels magical, whimsical.

Accompanying dream sojourns are intense emotions, almost always including deep senses of love and belonging. What’s more, dream imagery always conveys some kind of meaning or intention. Every object in the dream carries such a message. Not so with multidimensional consciousness shifts.

Shifting versus dreaming

That’s because where I end up when shifting is happening “on the other side” of nonphysical. The places I go are like this reality. They are leading edge, full-blown manifestations of energy intention, just like this physical reality. As leading edge manifestations, they are fully-formed so to speak.

Dreams are not fully-formed the way physical is. They are real. But they carry a process energy and occur in nonphysical, not “on the other side” of this reality. Because of that, the experience itself is many layered, fluid, and infused with the creative energy that is me.

When shifting I visit a me-counterpart having their own experience. When dreaming, I am in the center of my All-That-Is-ness experiencing nonphysical directly, unfiltered.

Of course, there’s a method to such meetings I call multidimensional consciousness shifts. Shifts I experience, the locations I visit, are resonant with vibrations I emanate in meditation. So I can glean meaning from those travels.

But for now, I just enjoy the travel itself.

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Fear: A Great Way To Get Better Life Results

Despite significant differences, nearly all spiritual paths acknowledge and assert the Universe’s predisposition to respond to our thoughts and intentions. It is just how the Universe works. And, that way it works is the nature of how the Universe, and All That Is, expands.

It makes sense then, that we, as thinkers, participate directly in that expansion. In fact, we are a crucial element in that expansion. Through desires born from life experience, born through the contrast life offers, we express thought. All That Is responds instantly to every one.

So our lives could comprise an ongoing series of self-fulfilling desires. And they are. What keeps our lives from looking that way?

Well, fear is one answer. Fear tells us, any time we feel it, that we forgot the Universe responds to all our thoughts. Not knowing this, however, we use fear to double down on perspectives which keep us from becoming matches to our desires and thereby seeing them unfold.

Abraham reminding us that fear is unnecessary.

Fear is good. Joy is better.

When we remember what fear is for, then think thoughts deliberately, the fear goes away. The fear goes away and we become a match to that which we desire. Then, in time, fulfilled desires flow easily into our life experience. I’m enjoying this process as are many of my clients. Some struggle though because hearing, believing, trusting, then, knowing what you’re reading takes time.

Fear is a really good thing. It helps us remember. Remember what though? Remember that we are gods in human form, participating in the sacred expansion of ourselves, and All That Is. Fear, therefore, is a great way get better life results.

It’s not necessary to feel fear as a reminder of what we are or to get better life results. But for most, since they don’t know what we talk about in the Positively Focused practice, fear often is a great alternative.

Too bad so many people mistake that experience – fear – for something else and then let themselves and their lives to become limited by that experience.

You don’t have to be one of those people. Fear does lead to great results eventually. But it’s better, and more fun, to live in joy instead. Find out how to do that by becoming a client today.

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Law of Attraction, Money & the Myth of Magical Spending

A Law of Attraction skeptic told me once that people who follow Law of Attraction are 30 TIMES more likely to file for bankruptcy. While I don’t put stock in statistics, I understand why so many Law of Attraction followers end up in financial straits. A couple client experiences back my knowing up.

One client lived as though he had more money than he does. Rather than living frugally, he spent from his savings and maxed out his credit cards, expecting his stories about money would turn around in his expected time frame. Not only that, he hadn’t paid attention to how much money was coming in, and how much was going out each month. So he was flying financially blind. Now, he’s struggling a bit because his small income from his artistic performance plus his social security are almost completely consumed by credit card debt payments and basic needs like rent and food.

Another client, who also is an artist, had a similar but different experience. This client creates beautiful, hand-woven items from rags. Inspired by my Broader Perspective, I bought one from her to gift to another client. I knew that client would enjoy the artistic expression. At the time, the artist didn’t have their pricing understood. Nor did they know how much it would cost to ship the thing. I bought the item before the client finished it for what I thought was a reasonable price. The artist finished it, then shipped it. The shipping was almost as much as what she asked me to buy the thing!

Generational beliefs about money

I’m clear about how this YCYOR business works, therefore I am keen on my money flows. So when the artist asked me to cover the high shipping cost, I said I would. But I told them I wouldn’t pay it until after tax season. My taxes this year were more than I expected due to my growing client practice, which, in itself is a surprising and delightful outcome of my Positively Focused practice. I thought I had saved enough for taxes. I miscalculated. So I was in austerity mode to cover the balance. Paying for unexpected, high shipping costs for an art item wasn’t on my priority list.

My decision upset the artist. When we talked about it this week, the client asserted that I was not doing the Positively Focused practice. I should pay them now, they said, and just know the money would show up.

But that’s not how this YCYOR business, the Positively Focused practice nor Law of Attraction works. And this misunderstanding gives credence to the 33X statistic.

Money is one of the most challenging manifestations for many people to become a match to. That’s because so many of us (me included) have old beliefs that run counter us being a match to money. A lot of beliefs. Often, those beliefs are GENERATIONAL. Further, these beliefs come with a lot of momentum. So soothing all that momentum will take a while.

How long will it take?

Don’t be a statistic

That’s the question. The answer is; we can’t know. But we can know that it will happen in delightful and surprising timing, aka “divine timing”, which usually means much longer than most people think or want to believe it will happen. So a person thinking they can just spend money because the universe is going to magically soothe all their resistant beliefs and, in short order, give them more money to spend, that person really doesn’t underhand how any of this spiritual stuff works. Especially around money.

Anyone striving to align their life with how the Universe works, be it through Positively Focused, Seth’s teachings or Law of Attraction must first understand key elements of those practices typically not shared in social media, by influencers or in movies like The Secret. When it comes to money, one of the most important things to do as one lines up with more money is to live within one’s means. Live frugally. Thinking money will come in if we freely spend money makes no sense at all. That’s because there’s a ton of beliefs and momentum each one of us has about money that created the money relationship we have. Those beliefs work counter to that expectation that money is coming.

Money is coming. But it’s going happen in divine timing, which is always longer than we think it’s going to happen. That’s why when what we want does happen, it feels like a surprise and a delight.

And if we don’t soothe that nonsensical belief, the one telling us we can spend freely when we don’t have a lot of money, we’ll end up a statistic.

Don’t be that guy.

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Life: It’s Not All Fun And Games, Until It Is

The reason I think most people are unable or unwilling to create the reality they want is because most of us are too saddled with “what is” or, as one client recently put it “the truth” of our lives. So they don’t know they can create any reality they want.

Make no mistake: Life is FOR REAL. Step into oncoming traffic and you’ll see. So our lives, the “truth” of them, can seem oppressive in their real-ness. Especially if our lives aren’t giving us what we want.

That’s why this You Create Your Own Reality Business (YCYOR) is serious business. It’s not all fun and games. At least not in the beginning.

The legacy of those who came before us

Because most of us, me included before finding out about this YCYOR Business, most of us are living our lives unconsciously creating from thoughts and beliefs that perpetuate the world around us. We work jobs we tolerate, numb ourselves with substances and do our best to make the best of situations we think are “just life”.

Many of those thoughts we inherit from our families. They are so a part of us, we’re oblivious to them. Yet we see them all around us, while not realizing the physical reality we see are our thoughts MADE MANIFEST. Made real.

Once thoughts become real, a lot of momentum exists in them. That means it takes a while for someone who meets this YCYOR Business to build a new momentum behind new thoughts that will create new realities. That delay, therefore, can be hard to move through. Especially if the client comes from really “trauma”-ladened past as many of my clients do.

So it takes a while to move from unsatisfying lives to better ones.

And yet, life is fun and games. We all knew it as that before we chose to come into our life experience. The trick of the Positively Focused practice is to return to that realization then live from that in real time. I applaud my clients because, from a certain perspective, it’s an act of bravery to take on our “what is”, our “truth”, and deliberately create something different. Especially with the “what is” pushing so hard against what we’re wanting, our new reality that gives us so much hope and eagerness.

I appreciate the brave ones willing to take on this practice. Life can be fun and games. But getting there is serious business. It’s not for the feint of heart.