TL;DR: Aligning with positivity transforms relationships and reality. By shifting beliefs, one client transformed her life, reclaiming happiness and creating a more loving version of her daughter in the process through intentional focus.
The power of positivity knows no bounds. That’s because the entirety of All That Is leans positively. So when a person begins lining up with the positive focus that is All That Is, that person literally embraces the boundless power of the Universe.
The power is so boundless, it creates all things. Including people. And when a person becomes one with that power, then that person can create versions of people that align with their desires.
That’s what happened over a couple years with one client. After a series of experiences born of their negative focus, they came to Positively Focused. They missed the happiness they once enjoyed, they said. And they wanted that happiness back.
That happiness is exactly what they got and then some. But it took focus. Let’s look at why.
The angel that was the devil
“Dara” came to the Positively Focused Practice distraught over her relationship with her daughter. The daughter was a hellion. She emotionally and verbally abused her mother constantly. She made demands of her mother that most people would think unreasonable in the extreme. But mostly, it was the emotional and verbal abuse, gaslighting, blame, and guilt the daughter used to tear her mother down, which usually ended with the daughter getting what she wanted, every time.
It’s no wonder the daughter, according to Dara, was a splitting image of her father. Dara described him as a narcissist, psychopath and extremely intelligent, all of which makes him an excellent trial lawyer. Those characteristics don’t work very well in relationship though. And so Dara’s relationship with this man always veered into emotional abuse and torment for Dara.
That relationship ended in massive upheaval, leaving Dara to contend with an apple that didn’t fall far from the tree: Her daughter was a splitting image of the daughter’s emotionally-abusive father. And, at 16, she wielded her inherited behaviors with the skill of a neurosurgeon.
Dara came to Positively Focused at her wits’ end. She had lost her joy for life and was desperate for any solution. Examining her Belief Constellations, we discovered the source of this reality that had her at the end of her rope. That’s where we started.
Beliefs create our experience
Our beliefs create our reality. “Reality” includes other people. People we create in our experiences are there for the same reason the rest of our realities exist: they show us what’s in our vibrational mix so we can do something about that and, in doing that, create an inner state of joy.
Do that and our external reality must reflect that improvement back to us in the form of an improved physical life experience. That includes better versions of the people we are creating.
That’s right, people in our experience, therefore, are angels we send to ourselves to prod us (or drag us kicking and screaming) to the better realities we desire. Especially those people who push our buttons.
Dara’s Belief Constellations included the belief “Parents should be there for their children no matter what”. Now that sounds like a morally “true” way to be and most people would agree with it. But it’s also extremely limiting. Especially if you’re here in physical reality for the joy of expansion. Especially too if you’re here to live your own life and your parents, believing this, shelter you from the contrast of life experience –– the very thing that gives birth to your desires.
“Parents should be there for their children no matter what” was a belief Dara created after a formative experience she had at the hands of her parents. Dara’s parents promised they’d pay for Dara’s college. But when the time came, her parents told their daughter they were not going to be able to keep their promise.
The eternity of All That Is
That may not sound like an affront to us. But that decision devastated teenage Dara. The intense emotion she brought to the experience and the conclusion “my parents betrayed me” was strong enough to create a reality — a future — Dara was now living as her present.
Life is an unending series of unfolding events, born of our focus. Those events happen across infinite dimensions in which we exist. Positively Focused practitioners confirm this through the Positively Focused practice’s advanced levels. We use these unfolding series of events to expand ourselves while at the same time getting to know more and more about ourselves. The entire purpose of All That Is, in fact, is increasing self-knowledge.
But self knowledge as a purpose never ends because as we gain more and more self knowledge, we simultaneously create more and more of ourselves. Our existence is therefore a paradox; the more we strive to know ourselves the more of ourselves we create to know. This dynamic gives rise to our eternal natures.
All particles of All That Is participate in this eternal dynamic. And, each particle of All That Is cooperates joyously with every other particle in a mutual self-discovery. In other words, people in our lives are here to assist in our individual expansion into greater self-awareness and we do the same for them. Dara’s experience with her daughter reflected this mutual self-awareness process happening in real time.
A hard decision
In other words, her daughter arrived to help Dara let go of her limiting belief about what parents “should” do (among other beliefs). More important, she arrived to help Dara soothe really strong negative momentum perpetuating that belief.
It took Dara a while to accept all of this. Giving up blaming her parents was very difficult. It was also hard for her to understand that she was creating a version of her college-age daughter, the one that treats her abusively, specifically to free herself from blaming her parents for their “betrayal”.
It was very, very hard for her to next do what she knew she must because it meant going against the strong momentum of beliefs she had about her parents’ action. But she had to do it.
She had to cut her daughter off.
After doing so, her daughter turned up the volume of abuse towards her mom. This is normal. Existing reality will always confront and push against an emerging, new reality. The daughter’s behavior essentially asked Dara “just how far are you willing to go in creating a reality you want?”
Thankfully, Dara said “all the way”. Mainly because of how she felt after 30-days of cutting her daughter off.
“I feel a tremendous sense of relief,” Dara said in a session a little over a month after cutting her daughter off. “It’s as though I was in a hostage situation and that situation is over.”
Getting her happiness back
About three months later, Dara came to her session all smiles.
“(My husband) said this past week ‘Honey, you’re so much happier these days’,” she said. “He thought it was because I was no longer in contact with (my daughter). That was part of it, but the bigger part of it is that I’ve been working with you. So I told him ‘It’s because I work with Perry!’”
What’s really cool is, as Dara soothed resistance she had about her daughter, a new version of her daughter began emerging. It started with the daughter no longing leaving berating voicemails on Dara’s phone.
But then, a big shift happened.
“I got a voicemail from [my daughter],” she explained in a tone clearly indicating she knew what was happening. “She said she’s ready to have a new relationship with me. One that’s based on us being kind to each other. I can see how this is me creating a better version of her. But the best thing about all of this is, I’m the happy version of myself that I used to be.”
This was a remarkable shift for Dara. But it’s just what happens when someone creates reality at the source from which their reality emerges: their beliefs. Do that and everything in life changes. Including other people.
You can enjoy your version of what Dara is enjoying today. With the world around us, it’s more important than ever to cultivate a relationship with the positive energy at the basis of All That Is. Becoming a Positively Focused client is easy. And now it’s even more affordable. I’ve created new Cohort sessions that include up to a 60 percent discount on 1:1 session rates. Click here to learn more and start your journey to the Charmed Life my clients are discovering.