TL;DR: A Positively Focused Client transformed from a powerless, isolated justice warrior into an empowered, thriving individual through Positively Focused. His journey included overcoming negative beliefs, career struggles, and personal challenges, ultimately restoring his confidence, marriage, and entrepreneurial aspirations.
Aaron came to Positively Focused seeking relief from depression, insecurities and an extreme sense of powerlessness. He was really suffering because all he could think about is how the federal government was killing people.
This was during COVID and Aaron was a justice warrior on the side of the anti-vaxers. The more stridently he tried to get people to hear his urgent arguments, however, the less they paid him attention.
Before long, Aaron’s justice warrior-ship had him pretty much alone. Except for his wife.
Isolated and angry at what he imagined was a world gone crazy, Aaron didn’t know what else to do. He had no hope. He felt powerless. Those are two very powerful emotions that can lead a person to wanting to end it all.
Finding Positively Focused
Not many years after COVID, Aaron further struggled with three different startups. His struggles also included tensions in his marriage. Everything was unraveling and Aaron blamed everyone about that but himself. Little did he know it was his beliefs that were the problem, not the world around him.
His sister, however, changed all that. Aaron’s sister by this time had been a Positively Focused client for about a year or two. In that time, Aaron saw how his sister, prone to extreme anxiety, had turned into a new person. No longer was anxiety the boogie man. She lived largely anxiety-free. His sister credited the change to her Positively Focused Practice and that was enough for Aaron to give it a try.
In just a year, Aaron found his power again. It wasn’t easy. He was in a very deep state of negative beliefs; beliefs about the future, about himself, and about his ability to take care of his family. In time, however, he gradually improved.
So much so he made it to the Positively Focused Advanced practice. And here is where you meet him. The video below is a segment from our actual 1:1 session. In it he…well listen for yourself. It’s pretty powerful. More about his story below the video.
More about Aaron
Aaron is an entrepreneur and his wife is a doctor. Together they’ve created two start-ups in the healthcare field. I’m not sure if Aaron ever worked a job in his life. That’s how powerful of a creator he’s been around money.
During COVID, however, something in him changed. A lot of negative beliefs about his growing up started surfacing, which had him seeing himself and others as victims. That’s where his advocacy came from. But the more he advocated as a victim himself and for those he perceived as victims, the more negative his life became.
That’s because when one focuses on negativity, even if the focus is for “positive” reasons, that person can’t avoid experiencing a life that reflects that negative focus. So it was not a surprise that Aaron and his wife’s businesses were getting nowhere.
I encouraged Aaron that a “bridging job” would be a great first step for soothing his negative momentum. Momentum that was creating businesses that went nowhere. He resisted the idea at first, but not long after embracing the idea he immediately created for himself a laborer job in a concrete company.
One job leads to better
He didn’t like that job much, but it was a job that best matched his current vibration, which included his desire for money and his resistance about working for others. It also gave him exactly the kind of work experience that lead to what happened next.
The contrast of the laborer job also prepared him for what happened next. There were things about laying concrete he didn’t like. Also, the way the boss treated his employees grated on Aaron too.
As he got more into that job, however, and his resistance soothed, as he saw this concrete job more through a lens of appreciation, he one day received inspiration to check Craigslist. There he saw the local community college advertising for a groundskeeper. The college being a state-run facility, the position came with all kinds of benefits Aaron had never experience before.
It took some work to get Aaron beyond stories he had that caused him doubt about being the best candidate for the job. He doubted he would even get an interview. But I knew the way the job came to him indicated it was his.
Sure enough, he got that job! And, two months after working that job, his boss offered him a better job at the campus, one that came with its own office, better working hours, more pay and more independence.
Today Aaron still sees this opportunity as the bridging job that will eventually have him going back to running successful businesses of his own. In the meantime, he’s thoroughly enjoying the new opportunities coming, opportunities that have not only changed his life, changed his perspective on him being a victim, but also have dramatically improved his marriage as he describes in this segment of the same 1:1 session referenced above:
It doesn’t have to be the end
If you’re struggling with suicidal ideation or a feeling of powerlessness, which can, itself lead to wanting to kill yourself, perhaps you should check out Positively Focused. Every one of my clients who came to Positively Focused wanting to kill themselves is now on the path to discovering permanent happiness.
You can too. I offer two ways to become a client. Check them out here.