I Don’t Need Trust When Evidence Abounds

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I need trust when there’s no evidence. But there’s evidence everywhere that I create the life I live. It’s important knowing where evidence is. That way I see it.

Evidence is all around me. The more I see, the more I see. There is overwhelming evidence. The only thing keeping me from seeing all that evidence is me.

More specific: What keeps me from seeing all the evidence are old beliefs I keep alive in my Moment of Becoming. Beliefs contrary to what I now know.

When these old beliefs, these old stories stay active, I don’t see the evidence. That’s because these old beliefs say “‘you create your reality’ is bullshit”.

They say my birth was a random chance of molecular and genetic predisposition. They say the universe is uncaring and objective, separate from me. They say I must do as others do to get what I want. They say I’m not unique. I’m not powerful. That I’m not eternal. That I am a small speck.

I know these stories are petering out in me. But their echos remain like ghosts. I know they’re still around, even though evidence supporting them is less visible. I know they’re still around because of how I feel sometimes.

I don’t feel this way as much as I feel ecstasy though.  These days ecstasy predominates.

But I know those old beliefs are still there. Because I sometimes feel a sliver of negative emotion. Standing there, in those stories, trust is needed.

Because there, I can’t see evidence telling me I create reality. Even though the evidence literally is right in my face.

Knowing where the evidence is, finding it regularly, seeing it in great big piles makes trusting unnecessary. That’s why I don’t need trust. I know.

Evidence “I create my reality” dominates. How else can it be?

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Maybe, because people don’t know how to see the evidence, they create stories like “it doesn’t work” or “it’s bullshit”. Or, they call it “wishful thinking”.

Here’s the irony: It is working for these people too. Evidence is all around them.

That it’s not working is the evidence.

It looks like “it doesn’t work” because the story “it doesn’t work” creates life experience confirming that. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Stand in “It doesn’t work” then look for evidence of it working. Life will show you it’s not working. But that’s what you’re creating. So that’s what you’re seeing: it not working. And it working.

If you don’t know how to see the evidence, you’ll feel insecure, powerless and other negative emotions. You might get angry, or indignant. You’ll think you’re right. You’ll write blogs sharing your righteousness. You’ll post “Stories” on Facebook and Instagram. You’ll have facts. And, of course, you will be right.

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Life looks overwhelming, with chaotic events, pain, war, nasty politics and violence. It’s enough to keep a person in insecurity and fear. Until that person begins seeing evidence in all that. Evidence showing them they create their reality.

But you’re also not. Life experience created from any attitude (where you stand) matches that attitude. So you are right.

But you’re also not, because the life experience you’re creating is proving what you think. Thus, it is proving “it works” and “it doesn’t work” AT THE SAME TIME 😂😂😂

Negative emotions are strong. Let’s say someone stands in the attitude “it doesn’t work”. Then they look for evidence it does work as a way of trying to prove it doesn’t. In other words, they’re not really looking for evidence it does work. They’re looking for evidence confirming their attitude, which looks like the absence of evidence that it’s working.

When a person does that, they experience a range of emotions. Collectively it may feel like “disbelief” or “doubt”. Even “foolishness”. Foolishness sounds like this:

“I can’t believe I even tried to prove this shit works. I’m an idiot!”

Feeling doubt, the no-evidence-seer will draw to them all kinds of other stories/beliefs. Stories that reinforce their original story. The no-evidence-seer will then act in reinforcing ways. Including telling more stories which create more evidence of it not working. They’ll also draw to them people telling like stories. For the most part, that’s what science does when it considers this subject. 😂

For example, someone who believes science has all the answers might scoff to a friend about what happened. The friend may agree with the no-evidence-seer, themselves being one who also puts great weight in science. Such agreement reinforces the first no-evidence-seer’s beliefs.

What happens eventually is, no-evidence-seers live their lives in insecurity and powerlessness, aka “doubt”. Then they make things happen the hard way: Through effort, struggle, sacrifice.

I know. I was one of those people.

They don’t believe they create their reality. So they look to other people for guidance, advice, what success looks like, what love looks like, what happiness looks like. They don’t know they feel powerless or insecure most of the time because such feelings feel normal to them. Which is why ecstasy feels so extraordinary when it happens. Usually during sex. Or a wonderful meal. But hardly ever any other time.

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I once stood in doubt and disbelief. Standing there I couldn’t see evidence. So I did many others do in the same place: looked to others, hid my authentic self, concerned myself with what others thought about me. Not any more.

It’s ironic because ecstasy is supposed to be the dominant life experience.

Insecurity and powerlessness tell the person feeling them something. But the no-evidence-seer misses that message. So, they get lost in the spectacle of a willy-nilly created life. Random lives. Lives where dreams die. Where mediocrity predominates.

There’s nothing wrong with that. Statistically, it’s the average person’s life. And eventually everyone sees the evidence. Everyone sees it the moment they die.

That’s not my path though.

I see evidence everywhere. So I’m clear. I’m ecstatic about All That Is, about life, about my life, about me.

I need trust in the absence of evidence.

But I have plenty evidence.

So I don’t need trust.

 

Addendum: While editing this story, Apple Music played a song by Nina Simone. It’s called “Feeling Good”. The lyrics are appropriate given what I’ve shared here. I’m feeling good. You can too…

Feeling Good

Birds flying high you know how I feel
Sun in the sky you know how I feel
Breeze driftin’ on by you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life for me yeah
Ouh
And I’m feeling good
Fish in the sea, you know how I feel
River running free, you know how I feel
Blossom on the tree, you know how I feel
It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
For me
And I’m feeling good
Dragonfly out in the sun you know what I mean, don’t you know
Butterflies all havin’ fun, you know what I mean
Sleep in peace when day is done, that’s what I mean
And this old world, is a new world
And a bold world for me,
And I’m feeling good
Stars when you shine, you know how I feel
Scent of the pine, you know how I feel
Oh freedom is mine
And I know how I feel
It’s a new dawn
It’s a new day
It’s a new life
For me
And I’m feeling good

Perception Is For The Fun Of All That Is

[A note from my Broader Perspective: this post is so full of wonderful epiphanies, it’s a pleasure to share it. It’s especially wonderful because it shows how everyone benefits from every action happening on the planet. Even though that may not be immediately perceivable.]

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Everybody knows perception is reality.

If I believe, for example, that Trump is an idiot, I can’t see all the good things he’s doing.

If I believe Trump is Making America Great, I ignore things he’s doing that aren’t so great.

Those things are not in my perception as “not-so-great things”. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Which begs the question “Can ‘truth’ really be objective?”

Perception is reality. But where do my perceptions come from? How do I “perceive”?

Another question: Am I perceiving an “objective, real” world? A world independent of my perception and yet verifying my perception as “the truth”when I perceive it?

And if not, where does “reality” come from? Is something else happening?

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There are as many truths as their are perceptions. And there are as many different perceptions as there are people. (My Illustration)

I now know my perception, and my reality, both come from what I believe. Here’s an example from this week showing how this happens (this post was started on December 11).

I’ll share the story first. Then, I’ll share the logical, nonphysical explanation behind the story.

Limiting Belief Creates Limited Options

I deliver packages for large online retailer. It’s a bridging job. I don’t do it for the money.

It’s good having the money. The job and money both bridge a gap between limiting beliefs I’m soothing, and beliefs creating the reality I want.

I’m a top performer in this job. I’m also known at work for being super-positive.

It annoys some people. 🤷🏽‍♂️

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^^Bridging one set of beliefs to another set of beliefs is key if I want to be happy. Through that practice I step into my ideal reality. (My Illustration)

Last week a driver told me one of her beliefs. She didn’t know she was doing that. She thought she was telling me “the truth”.

“I can’t finish my route and take my breaks,” she complained. If I’m going to finish my route, I have to skip my breaks.”

This is not “truth”. Although it is her reality. So for her, it’s “true”. It is a fact in her perception. When she delivers, she must skip her breaks so she can finish her route.

I told her, that doesn’t have to be true for her. And that if she wants, I could show her how she could get both: finish her route and take her breaks.

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That driver yesterday asked me for those tips.  The first, and most important tip I told her was this: what she believes about her route creates her route.

She looked at me funny. I kept going.

I showed her a couple approaches, organizing her packages, monitoring certain actions. But I emphasized her attitude as crucial to being able to take her breaks.

I pointed out, for example, that “worry” about getting too many apartments and no place to park collapses (in her perception) her experience to include ONLY these events.

So she develops “task urgency panic” – knee-jerk actions adopted to overcome her perception of “not enough time” aka “time scarcity”.

Task urgency panic, in a delivery job, looks like driving faster between stops. It looks like moving faster from vehicle to door. It looks like skipping important steps, such as double checking a package’s address label with the address on the house you’re at.

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Me preparing for my route. My routes constantly get easier and easier. (my photo)

In task urgency panic, anxiety increases. Anxiety happens when a delivery driver’s reality collapses into stories like these:

  • “I don’t have enough time”
  • “I’m running behind”
  • “I’m running out of time”
  • “My route is too big for me to handle”

Those stories create the anxiety. “Anxiety”, the feeling itself, is communication. Most people don’t understand emotions that way. But that’s their purpose.

“Anxiety”, the feeling, is trying to tell the person feeling it, something important.

But usually, when a person feels anxious, or any emotion, instead of stopping and thinking about why they’re feeling that emotion, they instead have knee-jerk reactions to the story underneath that’s responsible for creating the emotion.

That same story creates reality perception.

That perception is real to the perceiver. This driver doesn’t have time. So the she must act in haste to try to “make up time”.

Haste, especially when driving, introduces mistakes. Mistakes increase delivery time. Mistakes also make routes take longer.

Perceiving I don’t have time to take breaks is a legitimate reality: It’s real to me. But it doesn’t have to be my reality. This driver’s behavior is the ultimate manifestation of the reality she’s creating. She perceives she doesn’t have time, so she acts like that. Which creates the reality matching her perception.

Which is coming first? The reality? The perception?

It looks like the route takes longer because it DOES take longer. She believes it’s going to take longer. So she gets anxious. She panics. She takes action from that panicked state.  Actions that introduce errors. Errors that increase delivery time.

Her perception then is the route becomes “so hard I can’t take my breaks.”

Her perception is her reality. But, again, which came first?

I explained yesterday that everything starts with attitude. I didn’t say the following. She wasn’t ready for this. But since you’re reading this, the following will be helpful.

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A positive attitude is analogous to positive perception. Your attitude (where you stand) is such that you only see life’s positive aspects. Just as when you’re anxious the world gets colored by the story creating the anxiety, when you’re positive, the positive stories do the same thing your anxiety-inducing stories do: create an emotion consistent with them, then a reality consistent with them too.

A positive attitude means even when you observe something you interpret at first as negative, you change that story into a positive one. You know you’ve done so when you no longer feel negative about what you’re interpreting.

A positive attitude is perception. You’re perceiving positively. Your thoughts about what you’re observing are stories. You’re drawing from the infinite expanse of thoughts, thoughts consistent with a positive focus.

Thoughts thought over and over become beliefs. Once thoughts become beliefs, they fade into the background.

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The more positive focus I have, the more evidence I see. The more evidence I see, the better I feel. The better I feel, the more I focus on positive events. The more I focus, thoughts associated with that focus increase their momentum, thus becoming beliefs. Beliefs are thoughts with a lot of momentum behind them. The momentum stimulates the moment of becoming. That stimulation draws more positive experience from the moment of becoming, which flow into manifested evidence. The exact same process works when I focus negatively. (My illustration)

BUT by the time a thought recedes into the background, it has generated enough momentum to project itself into physical reality. It then becomes perceivable by you. First as emotion, then as other physical real-nesses.

Real-nesses including actual, physical life experience beyond emotion.

Other “realities” inconsistent with that belief disappear. They’re still there, but you can’t find them. That’s why someone who BELIEVES Trump is doing great doesn’t see any evidence contrary to that.

So how do you change reality? You change perception. How do you change perception? By changing what you believe. How do you change what you believe? By changing what you think about frequently.

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I could see on this driver’s face that her beliefs don’t include anything you just read. Her face screwed into a picture of disbelief. It was as though I was speaking Swahili. I was giving her gold. She thought it was lead. We’ll see what happens next. I’ll include an addendum to this story as things unfold.

My experience is when I share this information, the Universe shows the person I’m speaking to evidence of the information’s accuracy…then, gradually, that person’s life starts changing. So do their behaviors.

Beliefs create the delivery experience

The same day I offered this information, I had a route with 100 stops. Almost 140 pkgs.  The driver I spoke with said she gets anxious any time she sees she’s got a route with more than 80 stops. I believe I can easily deliver 100 stops (or more) safely and take my breaks.

Now, I’m about to share what happened with this route. Looking back at it, I have to say, I’m pretty amazed by it too. I’m not making any of this up.

At around 7 p.m. I was ready to start the last delivery zone. That zone had 11 packages. My shift ends at 8:30 p.m. So I had plenty of time to deliver these final packages. I was taking a break, when Bryan, another driver and one of my friends, called. He said Central Ops (CO) is sending him to take some of my packages. When CO does this, it’s called a “rescue”.

I had plenty of time to finish the route. Eleven packages would have taken less than 30 minutes.

For a moment, I was annoyed. I love finishing early. I nearly always finish early. It feels great. Like completion. I get a lot of satisfaction from it.

So here was CO screwing with my wonderful route! Why were they sending me a rescue when I didn’t need it, I thought. Now they’re going to send me to rescue someone else…and extend my evening!

Then I caught myself! Did you catch it?

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Bryan and I talking over details.

At that moment, I knew from the negative emotion I was feeling (annoyance, whiny, disappointed, haughty) that these thoughts were not in my best interest. They would create a reality I didn’t want.

So I changed my thoughts. I thought ok, Bryan, come get some. I’m happy to give up these packages. Let’s see what comes next. Besides, I’ll see my friend in the field. That’s happened only once before and it was fun!

Bryan took my last bag. It had 11 packages in it. When he saw it had 11 he was excited.

“This is so good Perry,” He said. “I’ve been wanting to do this since the [holiday] peak season started. I haven’t had a chance to get one of those gift cards.”

The Universe gives everyone what they want. There is never competition for anything. Everything is always getting everything everything wants. This was a perfect example.

Our company offers incentives during the holiday peak. One is, if you finish your route, then help another driver by taking at least 10 packages and successively deliver them, you get a $10 Starbucks card. I have eight cards. Bryan had none. He wanted to get one. Here was his chance.

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My eight rewards… (my photo)

That also meant something cool was in store for me! When I thought that thought, my attitude changed. What happened next was pretty cool.

I finished my remaining stops, then CO called me as I suspected (or created?). They asked if I would help out Mark, another driver. His delivery device quit. Central Ops told me I’d have to take the rest of his route (21 packages, double my final zone) because Mark couldn’t deliver with a busted device.

I called Mark. I figured there was more to this story. Mark said he tried everything. The device doesn’t work. On the way to Mark’s location, a thought kept coming to me. “I’m going to fix whatever is going wrong with that device,” it kept saying.

It was more of an intention than a thought. Like I was deliberately shifting reality….

Meanwhile my other friend Diane texted me. Diane is such a loving person. She didn’t want to see me commuting by bike in December’s chill and rain. So she offered a while ago to drive me to and from work. She’s another wonderful manifestation.

Anyway, Diane let me know CO called her. She got dispatched on a rescue too. That meant she might be late returning to the station. It was all working out. Had I finished earlier, I would have had to wait who knows how long for her!

I drove to where Mark was. Together we looked at his device. He had turned it off after we talked on the phone. I asked him to turn it on.

Guess what?

It worked!

Honestly, I was surprised. And not surprised. Then I felt delight, for many reasons. My thought/intent about the device came about. That felt good. Mark was relieved I was there. That felt good. Mark and I decided to split his final zone. He took 11 packages. I took 10. Together we knocked his route out. That felt good.

CO thanked me for helping out. That felt good. I got to see Bryan in the field and help him get a gift card. That felt good. And, instead of delivering twice the number of packages in my remaining time, I ended up delivering one package less than I would have…so really, it all worked out…for everyone. Even Bryan!

In a funny side-note: Diane texted again. She said she finished her rescue, called the station and they suggested she come help me finish what I was doing.

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Diane and I talking about the end of the evening. We’re ensuring we’re synched

By the time I got to the station, Diane arrived at exactly the same time. That felt good too!

Talk about an abundance of manifestation!

I know perception is reality. But perception has an origin. I know that when I’m choosing Positively Focused beliefs my perception must change to include only those things that accord with my beliefs. That’s how I create my reality.

And that’s why my reality is so freaking fun!

How Does Perception Create Reality?

Thoughts are living things. They exist as we do. Like us, they want full self-expression. In this time-space reality, “full self-expression” is “constantly becoming more than it was before”. Physical reality is the furthest “forward” version of “becoming more”. Evolution through physical reality is even more “forward”.

So everything wants to become real. Everything begins as a thought.

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How thoughts become things. All thoughts that have been thought still exist. They are living beings. All thoughts want to experience their full expression. In this reality, that looks like physical manifestation. Thoughts associate with thoughts like themselves. Just like people commingle with like people. Thoughts commingled become “thought constellations”. Thoughts and ideas get drawn to “creators” (people) who resonate with a given thought constellation’s frequency or tone. When that happens, the person receives “inspiration”. Inspiration can cause a person to act. That action is a late stage manifestation of that thought’s emergence into physical reality. It is not the first physical manifestation. The first physical manifestation is the perception of the idea in the head of a creator (a person). (my illustration).

Associated with these thoughts in the Inner Reality are untold numbers of personality essences. These are “beings”, again, like us, who “resonate” or are “tuned to” that thought.

It’s very similar to the consciousnesses that make up our bodies. Our bodies, as you know, comprise of billions of cells. Each cell has its own consciousness. Associated about that consciousness are thoughts. Thoughts which represent pure positive representations of probable, alternate, past and future versions of that cell’s physical reality. All that consciousness associates and collaborates along with all the others, and with your consciousness, ongoingly creating what you know as your body moment by moment

Your body, my body, represents a collection of thoughts, which, delightfully find themselves “manifested” as a physical form. Take my body, for example. thoughts about my body are focused into physical reality through attention. Attention each consciousness associated with my body brings to the “idea” or “thought” of “Perry’s physical image”.

They (those thoughts) are reveling in my existence. They revel because my physical body is the forward-most expression of thoughts associated with “me” made manifest. Every aspect of my appearance corresponds to a thought or idea.

So when I think a thought, what’s really happening is, I’m tuning myself to a “tone” which resonates with the thoughts I think I’m thinking. I’m not really thinking those thoughts though.

What’s really happening is, when I tune myself to that tone, I am able to receive, or perceive, or become aware of, “nonphysical reality”. The “nonphysical reality” I experience is what occurs to me as “a thought”.

So what is happening when a person thinks is, they are tuning into the tone of a living being. A living being we call “thought”. That being becomes perceivable by the thinker. The thinker then tends to put that thought into action, which moves the thought more forward, thus delighting the thought. Of course, the thinker finds delight in the forward movement too. Which feels like pleasure, eagerness, excitement, anticipation, appreciation, happiness…and other positive emotions. Life is a massive collaboration.

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There are an infinite number of thoughts out there. Thoughts of all persuasions. Every thought that has been thought still exists. So it’s possible to tune oneself to any thought at all. Which explains where nightmares, ghosts and goblins, and inspiration for novels or art or music come from…

I know I can tune into any thought I want. But I have a…let’s call it a chord…a base set of melodies I most resonate with. Those tones are the basis, the core of what I am. When I tune myself to those tones, thoughts I receive or perceive feel the best. That’s because they accord with my own “chord” or “base melody”.

This is synching up, or aligning with my Broader Perspective. My Broader Perspective is the collective chord, or melody from which I emerged and continue emerging.

You have a melody too. All chords are harmonious and positive, uplifting and moving everything forward.

So, when I tune myself to a tone or set of tones which bring to me a thought or set of thoughts, those thoughts are seeking full expression. They also are associated with thoughts that already have experienced and are experiencing full expression (in the moment). That association then brings not only thoughts from nonphysical into my perception/awareness/consciousness, it also brings fully-manifested thoughts into my perception/awareness/consciousness.

These fully-manifested thoughts look like things: objects – trees, buildings, newspapers, the internet, etc. This explains how Law of Attraction, for example, allows people to turn their desires into reality.

Situations, physical objects, events, people, circumstances are all manifestations. They are furthest forward expressions of thoughts. It looks like physical reality because that’s what a “body’s” sense organs are designed for. Otherwise, physical reality might look like sound. Or vibration. Or just noise.

So when I think about conservative people who love what Trump is doing, I can see why they feel that way. And why they can see what they see, and not see what people who “think” or “tune” differently see.

I also can see how the world and the Universe is big enough to allow all perspectives full expression. It’s the purpose of both the world and Universe: to give room for the full expression of all ideas.

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Life’s upward positive, self perpetuating spiral. The more I’m Positively Focused, the better life gets. The better life gets, the more I want to be Positively Focused. The more I’m Positively Focused, the better life gets… (my illustration)

My role in that is the focuser. I get to choose through my focus what thoughts, and thus what realities I want to see in my time-space reality. I choose those which feel best to me. Those are thoughts embodied in things like Copiosis, Positively Focused and The Transamorous Network. Thoughts which recognize that we all are creators, here for the fun and for the expansion of All That Is.

After all, we all have perceptions. Why do we perceive? We’re supposed to be perceiving for the fun of it. Because creating is fun. Living is fun.

Seeing one’s life match one’s desires is most fun of all. That happens best through being Positively Focused. When we’re Positively Focused, we’re seeing the world the way All That Is sees it.

It’s all fun.

 

Addendum #1 (added Dec 17): Last week the driver mentioned above (let’s call her Amy) said “I used the suggestions you gave me. But they didn’t work. The delivery order was random, not the sequence you said it would be”. I didn’t tell her this because she wasn’t ready: the reason it didn’t look like it was working is because the momentum of her belief didn’t allow it. She needs to keep practicing the belief work more.

Unbeknownst to me, another driver, let’s call him Troy, overheard a part of my original conversation with Amy. the next day, he came up to me and asked for tips. I told him the same thing I told Amy. He told me he was going to try the tips. Contrary to Amy’s skepticism that they would work, Troy was eager and excited. He felt hopeful. Guess what? The next day, he came up and thanked me. He said he already could see how these tips can help. He said he’s going to keep trying them. Skepticism is a negative emotion. It’s akin to doubt. Eager and hopeful are positive emotions. They indicate perception consistent with how All That Is sees the world. Positive emotions indicate clarity.

Addendum #2 (Added Dec 22). Last week Amy and I were at the delivery station. We started talking. She said “I want to be positive like you”. It was an opening. I didn’t step in. I just let the moment be. Then she changed the subject. A couple days later, she brought candy canes in for all the drivers. She’s never seen this before…

How To Create Your Perfect Relationship In No Time, Part 2

 

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Welcome back.

Last time I wrote about Joe (not his real name) a client who met his ideal match in a transgender woman. Joe was excited about this. He felt the Universe designed this gathering.

It did.

But the “why” wasn’t what Joe thought.

This post details what happened after Joe’s initial excitement and enthusiasm. It also sheds more light on our framework. Why it is so powerful. And why we guarantee our results.

Let’s get started.

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By his ninth session, Joe’s enthusiasm disappeared. He was low-energy. Not the excited person from our cancelled seventh session.

Turns out Cassandra (not her real name either), the transgender woman he met, hadn’t spoken to him in a while. Despondent, Joe had all kinds of negative explanations about why. Explanations about the experience. Explanations about himself. Negative explanations about the Positively Focused approach.

Joe’s grumpiness matched all these beliefs. He thought something went wrong with the framework.

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Nothing went wrong.

Instead, Joe’s life experience showed him what he must change if he wants his ideal partner. The key to Joe finding his perfect relationship is, he must become a match to that relationship.

Joe is not yet a match to what he wants. So he drew to himself someone who matches where he is now. The gift of this perfect relationship connection is, it showed this to him.

The framework works. That doesn’t mean Joe liked what he saw.

Had he been able to, he would have benefitted even more from the experience.

Life is eternal. You always get more chances so nothing is lost. Nothing goes wrong. Ever.

The relationship with Cassandra didn’t show up as the relationship Joe wanted. But it did show Joe many of his disempowering beliefs.

And it showed him how his relationship behavior matches those beliefs.

For example, Joe moved too fast. His beliefs about relationship scarcity had him cling to this relationship. As if there weren’t going to be any others.

Out of his desperation to have a relationship, he asked Cassandra if she was seeing anyone else, implying energetically, of course, that he’d prefer he be the only one she was seeing.

After all, he wasn’t seeing anyone elseBut the reason he wasn’t seeing anyone else wasn’t because he had other opportunities. It’s because he is grasping desperately for THE relationship. Instead of enjoying life. He’s also focused on the absence of relationships.

So he doesn’t have any.

When Cassandra said she was seeing others, Joe played it off. But it was obvious in our call that answer was not the right one. It did match Joe’s beliefs though. 😃

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Beliefs create reality. Belief momentum can’t be avoided. That’s not how life works.

To slow old belief momentum, a person must create new beliefs. New beliefs which, over time, will build enough momentum in their own right. Meanwhile, old belief momentum deactivates. They have less effect on reality. Including one’s behaviors.

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Joe didn’t focus on new beliefs after that exchange. That focus takes effort, which is why we offer our framework. Joe is only starting. So he doesn’t realize yet how to check in with his emotions early enough to halt old belief momentum.

It’s a rare skill among people. Hardly anyone has the discipline and rigor to do such work on their own. Hardly anyone understands why we have emotions in the first place. We offer our framework for that reason.

So rather than focusing on new beliefs he is working on in our sessions, Joe allowed his old ones to continue creating his reality.

Disappointment he felt isn’t about how the relationship turned out (it ended). Although that’s what Joe thinks is the reason he’s disappointed.

He feels disappointment (and frustration and sadness and impatience) because he’s focusing on his reality. The reality his old beliefs are creating.  Realities not matching what he wants.

Again, Joe is just starting. So he doesn’t get how important it is to understand the purpose of emotions. So instead of using his emotions the way they’re intended, he tries to behave in spite of them.

Meanwhile, his behavior faithfully creates outcomes matching his old beliefs.

For example, one night frustrated in not hearing from Cassandra, Joe drunk-dialed her.

That didn’t go well.

Drunk-dialing is a classic knee-jerk reaction to strong negative emotions triggered by negative beliefs about relationships playing out in physical reality. Thinking that behavior brings relief, people drink to numb the emotion.

But alcohol amplifies negative emotion. It adds momentum to beliefs. That momentum draws to it beliefs like it. Beliefs are living things. Not just words. Beliefs like company. They draw to themselves beliefs like themselves. That’s how Belief Constellations happen.

That’s also why drinking to numb pain usually begins a downward spiral. When it comes to a “failed” relationship, that spiral often includes drunk-dialing.

Remember, in the last post I cautioned Joe about what was happening. I said Cassandra was a perfect match to Joe’s beliefs. That she is a perfect match is an excellent indicator.

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What do I mean by that?

I mean, Joe got to see exactly how his beliefs create his reality. A reality which includes transgender women not all that interested in Joe for Joe.

To Joe, she seemed interested. At first. But later she wasn’t.

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By our ninth session, Joe was not in a good place at all. He couldn’t see the extraordinary benefit of a relationship like the one he got.

One day, Cassandra contacted him after a long absence. He said she asked him to pay for something for her. Joe didn’t have the money. He hasn’t heard from her since telling her so.

Of course, Joe’s old beliefs showed up again. “That’s all she wanted me for”, He told me during our session.

That belief can be extended more broadly about all his relationships with transgender women, women who usually are sex workers.

Joe left session nine pretty negative.

If Joe continues the work, this could be a turning point for him. His beliefs are screaming out loud. Now that he has some grounding in how beliefs create reality, he is getting first hand experience in his own living laboratory how beliefs do that.

He’s not happy about that.

But this is the process. It’s how it works.

I reminded Joe his unhappiness is an emotion telling him something important. It’s telling him his beliefs about this situation aren’t consistent with what’s really happening.

Again, of course, Joe didn’t want to hear this. He defended his beliefs as “true”, which they are. But he refused to understand that they are only true because his beliefs have created a reality consistent with them. They are no more true than any other belief he might tell often enough to create momentum and a new reality consistent with that.

And that is the work. Using one’s life experience as a living laboratory, our framework shows clients how to tell new stories. New stories told frequent enough so they become beliefs. When that happens, one’s reality changes to match the new stories.

Then they have a new truth. A life experience that contains everything they want.

Including their ideal partner.

Joe is continuing the work. We’ll see whether his relationship with Cassandra was the last one he’ll let his old stories dictate.

How To Create Your Perfect Relationship In No Time, Pt. 1

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In only six sessions learning the Positively Focused approach, a client of ours created the perfect relationship with his ideal woman.

In this post and the next, I’ll dissect what happened. This is how it can happen for anyone. In the next post, I’ll detail what happened next.

Joe (not his real name), contacted us through our free 1:1 offer. Like many clients, he desperately wants a relationship with a specific kind of woman. Desperation is not a great place from which to meet someone.

But it is a great place to examine your stories. And how your reality reflects back to you stories you’re telling.

Information Joe got from the free 1:1 convinced him the next step was worth the money. So he engaged us in our 1:1 offer.

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The first few sessions involved exploring beliefs producing behaviors he didn’t like. He frequents working girls late at night or in early morning dark hours.

Some of these girls were/are drug-addicted. Others treated him like crap. Others treated him nicely. He has a mix of experiences reflecting his mix of beliefs about relationships and life, and women too. About himself too.

We explored how his beliefs create these experiences. Joe realized beliefs he didn’t know he had. Beliefs triggering desperation he felt about finding a partner. The same beliefs creating his experiences with women, including the kinds of women he met.

Desperation isn’t new to Joe. Some times in his life desperation (and the associated emotion “pain”) got so intense he contemplated suicide. Alongside relationship desperation, Joe also feels desperation about his life, his job and about himself. Beliefs triggering these feelings include one common to A LOT of people. That belief is “I’m not worthy of having what I want.”

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I know how deep beliefs can be. They connect with other beliefs, creating Belief Constellations or weaving through and shaping life experience.

It wasn’t surprising then when I found through our next sessions that Joe’s mother herself was and may still be drug addicted. She also had a working girl past.

No one comes into life experiences that are “too much to handle”. Everyone chooses the experience they get before they get it. Hardly anyone understands this.

At Positively Focused, we help people understand why and how that is. Then we show them how to use that awareness to get joy and satisfaction from life and relationships. The same joy and satisfaction they knew they would get when they chose human life experience.

Beliefs create our reality. This includes beliefs we focus on before becoming human. These beliefs set up birth circumstances. Including the parents we are born to.

I explained why a person like Joe would come into the world through a parent who has sex work and drug addiction as part of her life experience. I described how those experiences create momentum. And how that momentum creates the reality he has. It wasn’t an easy conversation. But Joe got it.

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I know when you pull at one belief, many others get uncovered. By our fifth session, Joe realized more long-running beliefs. Beliefs about his unworthiness as a person. Beliefs about how the women he wants won’t accept him for who he is and what he has (and doesn’t have). Beliefs about feeling stuck in his job. Feeling shame about where he is in life.

In other words, beliefs a lot of humanity secretly shares. Some beliefs you may share.

What’s great about this work is, once beliefs get uncovered, sometimes they start resolving on their own. They kind of lose their grip when exposed to the light of conscious awareness. Automatically, again in some cases, new beliefs get born from that exposure. Those new beliefs can create explosive positive results.

That’s what happened to Joe.

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Before our sixth session, Joe texted me. He said he needed to cancel our meeting. I asked why. He explained he met a woman, was going on a daytime date with her and was excited about the potential. A daytime date was unusual for Joe. As I said, he typically meets women at night.

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“Yes I’m actually hanging out with a new trans woman friend of mine,” he said via text. “We met Tuesday and hung out a couple of times and have been talking since. I like her a lot. She’s treats me well.”

I wasn’t surprised by this. This is how things work when someone starts seriously looking at their beliefs. But I was also concerned about Joe.

That’s because Joe got results we promise. But he doesn’t know something important. His old beliefs are still active in his life experience. So it’s a sure bet this transgender woman he met has her own beliefs. Beliefs matching Joe’s. Beliefs she may not be aware of.

So I clued him in:

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Joe responded that he already has been seeing some of those signs. That’s why, he wrote, “I’m working to be the best version of myself. The work that you and I are doing is working!!! 😀”

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Joe said when they first talked, they realized they both needed each other.

“I know the Universe orchestrated our meeting,” he wrote. “I was finishing up at a warehouse where I picked up a load and she was finishing work around the same time and we were really near one another….”

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Joe added that he already can see how his beliefs about women have changed because, he said, “along with being very kind and cool person, she has a good job, makes good money and has a nice place in a nice neighborhood.”

Indeed.

I know the Positively Focused approach is not mainstream. That’s why Positively Focused  guarantees results. Joe’s example is normal. Anyone can meet their match and enjoy a relationship that works for them. It just takes changing your beliefs so that you can meet the person you want. The person who is waiting for you. Your perfect match.

But so is everything else you’ve wanted in life. Minus the struggle. Minus the sacrifice.

How My Dream Job Gives Me My ❤️’s Desires

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We humans think a dream job is one that checks our boxes.

Great pay. Interesting work in a field we choose. Lots of bennies and more.

But this is what society tells us a dream job is.

I know a real dream job is one that comes to from nonphysical, the world of dreams. It’s born of my connection to my Inner Reality. Because of that, my dream job matches who I am in the moment.

This true story shows what I mean. As I tell this story, my Inner Being will chime in. Consider it nonphysical color commentary 😀.  I’ll italicize their input. Like this:

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We know Perry’s life experience is a dream experience. It is no less a dream than dreams he dreams nightly. Physical human life experience, or wake-scape, looks more real. That’s only because humans put most of their attention on it. Wake-scape springs from and renews itself from dream-scape. Wake-scape is dream-scape, materialized. It is a more tangible dream.

What humans call dreams can be as real as wake-scape. There is great benefit cultivating such awareness. Perry knows this. Finding experiential balance between waking “reality” and his Reality of Origin – his dream-scape – produces seemingly extraordinary experiences in Perry’s wake-scape. But they aren’t extraordinary. They are “facts of life”. They’re what happens when anyone prioritizes their relationship with their Inner Reality.

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In a previous post I said I would share how I got the bridging job I now enjoy.  My Broader Perspective says this is the perfect job for me right now. Almost daily neat realizations spring from it.

I’ve written in previous posts about some of those. How I got this job is what this post is about.

I’m surprised how much I enjoy this job. It’s not what I would have said I wanted to do at this stage in my life. But so much changed since making my Inner Reality my top priority…

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Before that, my aspirations came from Belief Constellations I created. I created these constellations listening to parents, teachers, television, and observing others’ experiences.  My own life experience and interpretations of said experience also contributed. All this formed rich constellations of beliefs. Beliefs from which came my aspirations: A rewarding career. A luxury car. A nice home. Lots of money. The American Dream.

Living from my Reality of Origin is far more rewarding than what I had. Focusing on the Moment of Becoming, while holding awareness of my Experience of Origin, makes physical life experience fascinating. I’m far more thrilled than when I was a “successful professional” with all that stuff.

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Fascination is what life experience is. It becomes ho-hum when humans forget how every instant springs from what Perry calls “Belief Constellations”. You create your reality. The fascination returns when you get this, then see your creation’s emergence from thoughts you think. Once visceral, tangible, physical life experience proves this to you, more than anything you want to express that creative ability more and more. Life becomes fascinating again. As you knew it would before you decided to physically materialize.

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Here are some of the beliefs included in my past Belief Constellation(s). Maybe you identify with some of them:

  • Success is the American Dream
  • Owning expensive things indicates success
  • Marriage is the epitome of relationship success
  • Having expensive and varied life experiences are success indicators
  • Having lots of money indicates success
  • Having a great socially-stimulating lifestyle, with lots of friends and lovers is success
  • An executive job with a high-faluting title and fat salary means you’ve made it

None of these things are bad. I had all those things. I enjoyed aspects of them.

But my enjoyment was perverted. They weren’t essentially enjoyable. They were expedients. What made them that? How I experienced them.

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You see, all that success masked an inner yearning. I was outwardly successful. I also was stuck. I felt a missing…

As you know, society, marketers and the internet says things and experiences can fill that missing. I believed them. So I sought satisfaction, meaning and self-worth in these things.

Seeking my self-worth in that, I ignored my essential essence. I gained the world and lost (my connection to) my Soul Awareness. I was outwardly happy in the sense that I knew people looked at my life and admired what I achieved.

But I had achievement backwards.

Back then achievement was what others said it was. Now achievement is simple: being happy. It’s fascinating transitioning from previous belief constellations to the current, still emerging, constellations.

Happiness now comes from my Essential Essence. Not from things. Or even other people. Living focused on my Essential Essence brings continual, always increasing happiness, and satisfaction. Everything I was looking for in all that accumulation and success-seeking.

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I know everyone has a Reality of Origin. If traced far back enough, we all share one origin. If traced far back enough, it’s the same for all of us. My Reality of Origin changes all the time. Like my now and my future. The past is never stagnant.

Putting dominant focus on how my Broader Perspective sees life, while standing in the Moment of Becoming, I find great satisfaction. I know what is is becoming more like what I want. That awareness is happiness.

That’s essentially what life is for me now.

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It’s challenging for some and nearly impossible for others to believe beliefs create reality. Everything in physical life experience stems from a person’s thoughts. That reality is convincing. It’s easy for humans to get lost in it. Then create the illusion of separation between thoughts and created reality. Then think and believe consistent with that. That separate reality is “objectively real”, separate from thought.

Then they’re stuck (until they aren’t). They now think thoughts consistent with a separate, objective reality. All life experience is born of beliefs. So their life confirms for them a separate, objective reality.

There’s no reason that reality can’t change to another. All it takes is the same work humans put into creating the reality they have. Most aren’t ready to do the work. Even though it’s the source of incredible success, happiness and prosperity. They get what they’ve creatED and complain about that. Instead of creating what they want. And realizing the joy that comes with that.

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There are beliefs a lot of people share. Except maybe the wealthy.

The main one is: “I must trade my time and effort for money”.

I have this belief.  I believe(d) that money only flows into my life experience when I do something to “earn it”. Well, I’m changing that belief. Still, momentum of that long-held belief pervades. It’s everywhere, isn’t it?

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It’s like a powerful river current. Ever tried swimming against a strong river current? Making headway is impossible.

For four years I swam against the current of my beliefs about money and jobs. I refused to get a job.  Instead, I believed money would come to me through my projects.

And while some money has come, it’s not yet where I want it. Money is coming through my projects. But my beliefs about money close the door on what would otherwise be an abundant flow.

It’s challenging for some and nearly impossible for others to believe beliefs create reality. Everything in physical life experience stems from a person’s thoughts. That reality is convincing. t’s easy for humans to lose themselves in it. Then create the illusion of separation from it. Then think and believe consistent with that. That reality is “objectively real”, separate from thought

Then they’re stuck (until they aren’t). They now think thoughts consistent with a separate, objective reality. All life experience is born of beliefs. So their life confirms for them a separate, objective reality.

There’s no reason that reality can’t change to another. All it takes is the same work humans put into creating the reality they have. Most aren’t ready to do the work. Even though it’s the source of incredible success, happiness and prosperity. They get what they’ve creatED and complain about that. Instead of creating what they want. And realizing the joy that comes with that.

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One day, this video showed up on my YouTube account. I know everything showing up in my life is on purpose. The message was clear. It makes more sense to have a job, a temporary one, while I allow new belief momentum to grow.

But I wasn’t going to get a job the normal way. That’s because I knew a better way was possible. Having is work for me requires remembering five key points.

  1. Creation rarely happens in an instant. Creation doesn’t happen in a flash. It happens through steadily increasing momentum. The result I want is immediate in nonphysical, but, materialization takes a while. Also, physical reality contains more resistance than nonphysical. So materializations don’t happen here instantaneously. This illustration is helpful.
  2. By the time I desire something it’s done. But its materialization depends on me receiving messages leading me to the doneness. If I’m not open, or in tune it gets delayed.
  3. I know I’m ready when I’m consistently positively focused. That’s because my Experience of Origin and my Reality of Origin are pure positive energy. Being in tune means experiencing physical reality the same way I experience nonphysical reality: with as little resistance possible. Resistance is lowest when positively focused.
  4. Looking for the result slows it down. This is important. Looking for the materialization puts energy on its absence. It adds resistance. Materializations happen quickest when I’m not looking for them.
  5. Early signs of materialization feel like a thought interruption. I know when I’ve received the message when a thought happens that I’m not thinking. Meditation helps condition my mental atmosphere so it isn’t noisy. In that peaceful mind-state, such messages stand out from ordinary thought.

Aware of these five points I knew getting a job could be easy. I wanted to be the evidence of that. Of course, that’s what happened.

I was on my daily walking meditation. I wasn’t thinking about getting a job. I was thinking about my resistance about getting one.  I didn’t want a job that would consume all my energy like professional jobs I’ve had. I wanted to be able to have capacity after work to work on my projects. I didn’t want to get up early to go to work and spend my mornings (my valuable creative time) working for someone else.

Then I caught myself. I realized I wasn’t positively focused. So I changed my thinking.

I thought instead about how it would feel to get a job matching everything I wanted. I dropped my criteria. Instead, I focused on how it would feel getting a satisfying job. One matching my current state.

I had no idea what kind of job that might be. Or how much it would pay. I was a blank slate. Fertile ground for my Inner Being.

The Inner Being that every human has knows everything that person wants. That’s because the moment the person decides they want something, it is real in nonpyhysical and part of one’s Inner Being. That’s the Experience of Origin.

The Inner Being thereafter, organizes pathways. Pathways that, if received by the person, will lead to the desire’s physical manifestation.

We know this is the way life works. It only looks different because of where humans put attention. The more they look at what they don’t want, or reasons why they don’t have what they want, the more of what they don’t want they get.

This is purposeful, as we said before. It eventually causes a turnaround. The person starts listening to their Inner Reality. Just as Perry is doing.

Matching my physical reality with my Inner Reality is the best way to hear impulses from my Inner Reality. So on my walk, I thought “how would my Inner Being feel about me having the perfect job?”

What came to me was: “triumphant, appreciative, jubilant and joyful”.

That was the message. It came out of the question. It wasn’t me thinking that thought. It’s hard to describe. Impulses are easier to feel than describe.

Next, I put attention on these emotions. Jubilance, appreciation, triumph and joy. I let them build. I felt better and better. Soon I felt great. Extreme positivity. How could I not? Jubilance, appreciation, triumph and joy feel great, right?

Then, after three minutes, it happened.

The name of the company appeared in my head. I knew it wasn’t me thinking that name because my thoughts were on the good-feelings. Besides, that company name wouldn’t have come into my head. I rarely think about it.

Nothing else followed. It came so suddenly, it surprised me. Then it was gone.  I was thrilled. Fascinated. It happened just like my Inner Being said it would. Eager and excited, I continued my walk.

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The view from where I sat by the river.

At the end of my walk, I sat alongside a river’s edge. I pulled out my phone and looked up this company. Was I surprised to see they were hiring?

Nope.

I applied on the spot. In an hour, I got a hire date contingent on next steps.

First I had to video record one-minute answers to three questions. Later that week, I had to pee in a cup. The proctor told me supposing no disqualifying indications, I would start on my start date.

And that’s what happened. In less than a week, I went from wondering about a job, to getting one. No resume prep. No searches. No interviews. Only a piss test.

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This job offers a lot more than soothing my old beliefs, enough income to cover all my basic needs and a little spending money. The shift I work allows ample morning time to meditate and work on my projects. The work itself is light on my mental capacity. That leaves lots of mental leeway to practice being positively focused. Lots of mental leeway to strengthen my connection with my Inner Being, Inner Reality and my Personal Trinity. It also brings new relationships and experiences. Relationships and experiences I share here.

Those relationships and experiences are divine rendezvous. Experiences letting me know I’m on my path.

When not working, I’m not working. I bring no work home like I did in my high-stress jobs of the past. That means even more focus time.

And, the work itself is energizing, physically rigorous and demanding. My 8-hour shift passes quick. I feel strong, light.

This job is one more proof point in a mountain of evidence. Evidence piled so high, I know nonphysical reality is real. I know everything my Inner Being told me and is telling me is playing out. I know all this manifesting business works.

Not because of what happens. Because of how I feel moment by moment.

In this way faith is unnecessary. Tangible evidence is overwhelming. Who needs faith in the face of so much evidence?

Trusting my connection with my Inner Reality is growing at an incredible rate. Proof begets trust. And a desire to know more.

I know I create my reality. I want to understand more deeply how that happens.

It’s thrilling thinking about what will happen next. I’m living the fascination my Inner Being says life can be. That’s why I write this blog. I know based on feedback I get that what I’m sharing inspires others.

And ultimately, that’s why I’m here. To inspire others not only to their dream job, but to their extraordinary life.

 

 

Real Life Evidence Is The Best Spiritual Evidence

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Things happening in my life is how I know my spirituality works.

My my life gets better and better. In every area.

Coming on the heels of the previous story, the following is further proof. Further proof how All That Is makes things happen with virtually no effort on my part.

In that previous post I wrote about what seemed like a chance meeting, but really wasn’t. That story showed how when people show up in what seems like magical ways, I know I’m doing this whole “manifesting” business right.

The more that happens, the more I want to keep it up. I’m discovering a brand new kind of life. A life where everything I want happens with no effort.

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This next experience happened last month, one week after the previous post. It shows how the Universe answers my every desire. The path it creates though is never direct. It curves all over the place.

That’s because I’m always adding more to my desires. And every thing added is being organized by me to be experienced by me. That’s why I know I already have everything I want. Even though it looks like I don’t right now.

It looks that way because “right now” is the past. Not the present.

The reason it looks like I don’t have these things “right now” is, because the present has manifestED. The NOW is in a manifestING PROCESS.

The now is always a manifestING thing. In the manifestING NOW, I have all I want. It only takes a while for it to become manifestED. But when it becomes manifested, it’s the past.

I want to be in the steady, manifestING now. Not the “right now”. The fresh, the new is in the manifesting now, what I also call The Moment of Becoming (MOB).

Sometimes I get impatient about not having in the right now what it I want. I know being impatient prolongs the process. So I strive to be happy and positive with the right now, knowing it’s old news. Not news.

What’s more, it takes longer to manifest things in physical reality. In the nonphysical realm of the MOB, everything happens now. The trick is finding satisfaction with that.  Rather than satisfaction on the right now, which is the manifested past.

After all, what is manifestING MUST become manifestED. That’s just how life works. Here’s why satisfaction with the MOB reality is key. When I’m satisfied there, I’m not prolonging the process. The process by which things there become real things in the “right now”.

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So I know it’s only a matter of time before everything I want becomes my physical reality, my right now. How do I know it’s happening? How can I believe that? Experiences like the one you’re about to read happen so much these days, I’m convinced.

 

Incredible Outcomes Indicate More Are On The Way

Before I share what happened, here’s some context. What happened was cool. But if you don’t have the context, you won’t understand it.

I now have a bridging job. I call it that because it bridges beliefs I’ve held a while with beliefs I’d rather be dominant.

To explain…

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I have believed, like a lot of people – nearly everyone actually – that money shows up in my bank account when I do something to “earn it”.

That’s not the only way money can show up though. There are infinite ways money can show up in my bank account.

For example:

  • There are people who inherit money.
  • There are people who win lotteries.
  • There are people who steal money and get away with that.
  • There are people who find money.
  • There are people other people give money to for no apparent reason.
  • There are people who’s money comes from interest and investing.
  • There are others who do things today, that later, generate constant streams of money. Like building a company, or creating a film or writing a song today, that perpetually generates income through profits or royalties.

So there are a lot of people experiencing money flowing into their experience. And that flow is not tied to what they’re doing.

My beliefs about money match beliefs most of us tell. Like others, I’ve believed this so long, it has a lot of momentum. The belief that “I must do things to earn money” itself has faded into my consciousness background. Doing so it creates a belief constellation and associated reality. A reality I took for granted as some objective “truth”.

That reality can be replaced with any reality I deliberately create. And beliefs creating that reality can become my new beliefs. A new “truth” emerges. As real as my current one.

The shift can’t happen quick though.

That’s because my old beliefs have a lot of momentum. I know this because I’ve tried over the last four years to force it through action. That didn’t work. My old belief constellation has too much momentum behind it to turn it on a dime. Like the train analogy, old belief momentum must first slow down. Before new belief momentum can dominate.

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So I’ve taken this bridging job as a way of slowing momentum behind my old story.

What I like about living is, I learn how to live better nearly every day. By better, I mean happier. Every day life shows me how to live in accordance with my Personal Trinity in the Moment of Becoming. The better I get at that, the better life gets.

The happier I get.

This bridging job is part of my learning. It came consistent with creating my reality. That’s another story too. One I already plan writing about.

Suffice it to say I didn’t have to do anything to get the job. It literally came to me. And, my Inner Being has told me over and over that this job is exactly where I’m supposed to be right now.

Meeting that transgender woman I wrote about last time, and the way it happened confirms this. So does what happened in this story. So much good stuff is happening, I know this job is on the path to all I want.

Ok. That’s the context.

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So here I am, at my bridging job. I’m preparing to go on a route when another guy asks to ride with me. He does the same job I do. Sometimes our dispatcher pairs us.

So this guy, I’ll call him “Guy”, and I pair up. We prep my van. Then we head out.

Turns out Guy believes in the power of beliefs. He also coaches others on using clinical techniques to change reality. I didn’t know this about him. But that was a nice surprise. I have no idea how successful his approach is.

Anyway, we spend the day connecting over this and other things we have in common. We both enjoy the work we’re doing. We both enjoy practicing positivity. We both enjoy napping in parks. ☺️ We both have other things going on. Things larger than this job we enjoy. We both know life is an adventure. We both have strong spiritual practices.

Midway through the work day, Guy tells me he’s enjoying working with me. The feeling is mutual.

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Guy asks me about what I do when I’m not at the job. I tell him about Copiosis and Positively Focused.

Then I tell him about The Transamorous Network. As I’m talking his eyes light up. He’s rapt while I’m telling about it.

When I finish, Guy says “Perry, I’m a trans guy.”

I knew that about him. But didn’t want to say anything. Was I surprised? Yes.

And no.

Think about this. I’m telling more and more stories about affiliating with the trans community, about wanting a person who matches my relationship desires. And here I’ve spent my entire day with a transgender person! On my job! The job my Inner Being said was perfect for me!

Not only did we spend the day together, we share many things we believe in.

This doesn’t mean Guy is one of my matches. He’s not someone I’m gonna date. I want a transgender woman after all. But he represents my unfolding path to the person I want.

I know life is not a straight line to my fulfilled desire. It’s a roundabout adventure!

I also know I’m not supposed to get everything I want all at once. That would be overwhelming. Imagine if all the transgender women I would meet in this life and the next and the next showed up right now. I’d have so much trouble just remembering all their names!

That wouldn’t be fun at all. Well…it might be at first LOL.

It’s much more fun watching my Personal Trinity put together events. Like this all-day get-together, put together in ways I couldn’t organize myself. Or like that bus experience from the last post. I know it’s all happening — Sarah from two weeks ago, “Guy” from this week, the other transgender woman I chatted with on the bus the other day, but didn’t write about, the media interviews I’m doing more of lately, and whatever else might come next. It’s all for the sheer enjoyment of the unfolding. Not for the end result!

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So Guy isn’t the one. I mean he is a match in the sense he matches many of my beliefs. That’s great news. It’s great news because if Guy is this close of a match, imagine what my actual transgender woman match will be!

Guy showing up in my life is like the Universe saying “here’s evidence you’re on the right track. Congrats. Keep up the great work!”

Just as Jeannette was in the last post. Just as the trans woman I chatted with briefly on the bus the other day. It’s all evidence my beliefs are changing.

And here’s the better news: As one belief’s evidence shows up, that means, all my new beliefs are in play too. Everything happens simultaneously.

So I know my belief about money flowing into my bank account, without me having to do anything, is becoming real. I know it’s becoming real because this belief about my transgender partner is unfolding in tangible, satisfying ways.

This is how it works!

Let me be more clear: Meeting Guy, spending all day with him, enjoying the connection and having so much in common with him tells me I’m headed in the right direction. A direction where I’ll spend all day with, enjoy the connection with, and have so much in common with her. The transgender woman who matches me as much and more as Guy does.

And, all that will coincide with an event, where my bank account fills with money.

On the way to all that, I’m having fun enjoying my now.

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There’s more to the story of course.

Guy then asks if The Transamorous Network would ever expand its work. He wondered if it could help trans people become more comfortable in their skin.

The short answer is: yes.

The longer answer is of course. Until a person is comfortable in their skin, i.e. holding beliefs of self-acceptance, self love and worthiness, they can’t meet their ideal partner. Or have much else that they really, really want.

If I want a person who is confident; someone happy in themselves; a strong and capable person, a happy person, that person can only be mine if I feel that way about myself. I have to be a match to that. That’s the only way I can have that.

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Of course that is what Positively Focused helps people with. We help others learn how to do what I’m doing.

After that, Guy asked me for my contact information. He said he wanted it for when he meets transgender women. He asked whether I prefer non-op, pre-op or post-op women. I think he’s thinking about matching me with someone. Why else would he ask such questions?

I know one of the ways the Universe brings my match into my life will be through people I already know. Since Guy shares many of the same things I believe in, and since he sees and knows a lot of transgender people, who knows what may come of this? That said, I know my Inner Being has far broader perspective than I have. So she can come from anywhere.

That’s not why I’m happy about having met Guy. Guy is a cool person. It’s fun to work with him. It’s cool to have him as a co worker.

And, he’s an exceptional indicator that my beliefs, my new beliefs, are shaping for me a new reality. One in which everything I want is.

Seems something significant is happening every week now. I like that pace. And I know it’s going to get better and better. Real evidence is the best evidence of spiritual validity.

Why Life Gets Greater When I Embrace Optimism

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I enjoy seeing little things happening in my life. These little jewels along my journey are how I know big things are happening too.

Big things like seeing my creations appreciated by many. Or getting notes from people saying my expression benefits them.

I know a happy life comprises many happy-life moments. But happy moments don’t make me happy. I get happy first. Then happy moments happen.

Yesterday a little thing happened. It would have amazed me had not so many of these kinds of things happened before. Instead, it confirmed what I already know: I’m on my path. Life is a joyride. I create my reality. And these kinds of things happen all the time.

I’m sharing this because sharing is part of how I appreciate what I know.

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I had a wonderful brunch with a long-time friend and his partner. It’s timely because I am appreciating more these days my own queerness as a trans-attracted person. It wasn’t missed on me that all this embracing who I am is happening right around Pride Month.

Nor is it surprising that my life is changing in big ways. These changes too prove appreciation creates an awesome life. An awesome life on every level. Life tunes up to one’s heightened positivity. The more optimistic I get, the greater my life gets.

After a wonderful time with Kyle and “Josh”, I hopped on my bike. I headed to a secluded spot along Portland’s Willamette River. According to their schedule, Navy ships visiting Portland would be leaving in the hour. This secluded spot would be perfect to see them.

An hour passed. No ships.

But what did happen was way more satisfying.

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A section of the winding, bumpy downhill road. Where it all happened. (Photo by the author)

On my way to the riverside, I rode down this very steep, very bumpy road. It runs about a mile from the University of Portland down to the river’s edge. I can’t over stress how unmaintained it is. Ruts, potholes separated asphalt, weeds and dirt make that downhill run challenging.

It also rattles the hell out of me and my bike.

I usually ride with ear buds, listening to a podcast or music. This day was no different. two-thirds down the hill, my bike started making a huge racket. So loud I heard it over the podcast.

I got to the bottom of the hill. Then checked my bike. Turns out a fender fastener fell off. The two free parts rattled together as the fender vibrated with every bump.

I had trouble with this before. I tightened it “finger tight” back then. “Finger tight” was not enough apparently.

Ugh! What’s That Noise?

Noises bug me. Whether a squeaky dashboard on a car, or an annoying rattle on my bike, I’d prefer they not happen. So when this racket started, I got annoyed.

But only for a sliver of a split second!

Instead of complaining about the noise, dreading having lost that fastener or worrying that I wouldn’t find it, I stayed neutral. No negativity! That’s my moment-by-moment mantra these days.

An hour later, when I had enough fun at the river, I hopped on my bike. Funny thing was, I had so much fun on the river, I forgot about the missing fastener until just then.

Instead of riding back with that annoying rattle, I found a piece of string on the beach. I used it to “MacGyver” the two metal pieces, so they wouldn’t rattle. I figured I’d ride to the bike shop. They’d probably have a replacement.

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Check out those MacGyver skills!

 

But then my Inner Being offered a different approach: why not meet with the piece that fell off?

My first thought was “forget it. It’s lost. I’ll never find it on that bumpy road. It could have tumbled off the road into the weeds. I was going so fast.”

Jeez. Reading that, I sound like Luke Skywalker in Star Wars:

[Luke sees his X-wing is about to sink into the bog]

Luke: Oh, no! We’ll never get it out now!

Yoda: So certain, are you? Always with you, what cannot be done. Hear you nothing that I say?

Luke: Master, moving stones around is one thing, but this is… totally different!

Yoda: No! No different! Only different in your mind. You must unlearn what you have learned.

Luke: All right, I’ll give it a try.

Yoda: No! Try not. Do… or do not. There is no try. [Luke tries to use the Force to levitate his X-Wing out of the bog, but fails in his attempt.]

Luke: I can’t. It’s too big.

Yoda: Size matters not. Look at me. Judge me by my size, do you? Hmm? Hmm. And well you should not. For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. Its energy surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. You must feel the Force around you; here, between you, me, the tree, the rock, everywhere, yes. Even between the land and the ship.

Luke: You want the impossible. [sees Yoda use the Force to levitate the X-wing out of the bog and gets flustered when he does it] I don’t… I don’t believe it!

Yoda: That is why you fail.

So for a split second i entertained disbelief. But I caught those thoughts early. I replaced them with more positive thoughts: “I’ll find it.” “This might be an adventure!” “What if I find it?” And “My Inner Being and intuition will lead me to it.”

That’s all I thought. Thinking those thoughts I felt optimistic.

I got on my bike and rode up that steep, bumpy road. I didn’t try to find the fastener. I just rode slowly, enjoying the climb.

That’s when I started weaving back and forth up the road. I didn’t do it on purpose. I was having fun. The fastener was not in my mind.

Then, I happened to look to the right and down…

And there it was!

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See it?

Think of this! I careened down that steep, bumpy, road. It was a mile long. That tiny fastener could have fallen anywhere. In a pothole, a shaded spot, in a rut, into the weeds alongside the road.

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It’s right there…..

It was a literal metaphorical needle in a mile-long haystack.

Yet, here it was. And I rode right to it.

How cool is that?

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There it is!

Life Is Full Of Happy Events When You’re Happy

I didn’t share this earlier, but there was another big co-inciding about that brunch. I’ll share it now.

I know I am a “lightworker”. I came here to uplift humankind during this time of huge change. That’s why I have these creative abilities. I want my creative expression to serve that purpose. I know as it does, I will become more successful.

Several weeks ago, I was day dreaming. Day dreaming is a great way to visualize what I want. So long as I don’t energize the absence of what I want.

The lifestyle I’m visioning includes having a private chef as part of my household staff.

I know that getting what I want is inevitable. On the way to all that, my personal trinity gets involved. It sends me little co-inciding events letting me know what I want is becoming my reality.

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My “Personal Trinity”: All That Is, my Inner Being and the Universe. All working together coordinating my emerging reality.

Remember that breakfast with Kyle and his partner?

Well his partner is an executive chef. He loves cooking. And, not long ago, he was the personal chef to the billionaire wife of a major motion picture company! Motion pictures. How’s that for success through creativity?

Now picture this: here I was sitting across the table from the personal chef of a super-successful creative person. A billionaire!

Coincidence? I say providence. Josh was so gracious. He shared his experiences as a personal chef to a billionaire, the highs and the lows of it, how it works, and what she paid him.

It was an excellent opportunity. I savored that conversation. I knew it was a breadcrumb on the way to my emerging success.

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The process by which I create reality. With a lot of help from my “Personal Trinity.”

There are lots of things happening in my life showing how what I’m doing spiritually shapes my now. My future too.

The same thing is happening in your life.

I know doing my part means being happy. Being easy about my life. Appreciating as much as I can. The more I have done that over the years, the more my experience includes events like the two I’m sharing.

And there’s more coming. It’s what life is about.

Life for me is not about the big dreams materializing. Although that’s part of the path.

For me, the main event of the path is the path. Learning to recognize and appreciate the jewels along the journey.

The key to recognizing them is being positively focused as much as I can. Then watching as my Personal Trinity surprises and delights me.