TL;DR: Aligning with positivity transforms relationships and reality. By shifting beliefs, one client transformed her life, reclaiming happiness and creating a more loving version of her daughter in the process through intentional focus.
The power of positivity knows no bounds. That’s because the entirety of All That Is leans positively. So when a person begins lining up with the positive focus that is All That Is, that person literally embraces the boundless power of the Universe.
The power is so boundless, it creates all things. Including people. And when a person becomes one with that power, then that person can create versions of people that align with their desires.
That’s what happened over a couple years with one client. After a series of experiences born of their negative focus, they came to Positively Focused. They missed the happiness they once enjoyed, they said. And they wanted that happiness back.
That happiness is exactly what they got and then some. But it took focus. Let’s look at why.
The angel that was the devil
“Dara” came to the Positively Focused Practice distraught over her relationship with her daughter. The daughter was a hellion. She emotionally and verbally abused her mother constantly. She made demands of her mother that most people would think unreasonable in the extreme. But mostly, it was the emotional and verbal abuse, gaslighting, blame, and guilt the daughter used to tear her mother down, which usually ended with the daughter getting what she wanted, every time.
It’s no wonder the daughter, according to Dara, was a splitting image of her father. Dara described him as a narcissist, psychopath and extremely intelligent, all of which makes him an excellent trial lawyer. Those characteristics don’t work very well in relationship though. And so Dara’s relationship with this man always veered into emotional abuse and torment for Dara.
That relationship ended in massive upheaval, leaving Dara to contend with an apple that didn’t fall far from the tree: Her daughter was a splitting image of the daughter’s emotionally-abusive father. And, at 16, she wielded her inherited behaviors with the skill of a neurosurgeon.
Dara came to Positively Focused at her wits’ end. She had lost her joy for life and was desperate for any solution. Examining her Belief Constellations, we discovered the source of this reality that had her at the end of her rope. That’s where we started.
Beliefs create our experience
Our beliefs create our reality. “Reality” includes other people. People we create in our experiences are there for the same reason the rest of our realities exist: they show us what’s in our vibrational mix so we can do something about that and, in doing that, create an inner state of joy.
Do that and our external reality must reflect that improvement back to us in the form of an improved physical life experience. That includes better versions of the people we are creating.
That’s right, people in our experience, therefore, are angels we send to ourselves to prod us (or drag us kicking and screaming) to the better realities we desire. Especially those people who push our buttons.
Dara’s Belief Constellations included the belief “Parents should be there for their children no matter what”. Now that sounds like a morally “true” way to be and most people would agree with it. But it’s also extremely limiting. Especially if you’re here in physical reality for the joy of expansion. Especially too if you’re here to live your own life and your parents, believing this, shelter you from the contrast of life experience –– the very thing that gives birth to your desires.
“Parents should be there for their children no matter what” was a belief Dara created after a formative experience she had at the hands of her parents. Dara’s parents promised they’d pay for Dara’s college. But when the time came, her parents told their daughter they were not going to be able to keep their promise.
The eternity of All That Is
That may not sound like an affront to us. But that decision devastated teenage Dara. The intense emotion she brought to the experience and the conclusion “my parents betrayed me” was strong enough to create a reality — a future — Dara was now living as her present.
Life is an unending series of unfolding events, born of our focus. Those events happen across infinite dimensions in which we exist. Positively Focused practitioners confirm this through the Positively Focused practice’s advanced levels. We use these unfolding series of events to expand ourselves while at the same time getting to know more and more about ourselves. The entire purpose of All That Is, in fact, is increasing self-knowledge.
But self knowledge as a purpose never ends because as we gain more and more self knowledge, we simultaneously create more and more of ourselves. Our existence is therefore a paradox; the more we strive to know ourselves the more of ourselves we create to know. This dynamic gives rise to our eternal natures.
All particles of All That Is participate in this eternal dynamic. And, each particle of All That Is cooperates joyously with every other particle in a mutual self-discovery. In other words, people in our lives are here to assist in our individual expansion into greater self-awareness and we do the same for them. Dara’s experience with her daughter reflected this mutual self-awareness process happening in real time.
Our relationships are reflectors helping us become more. For Dara, her hellion daughter was an angel offering Dara an opportunity to expand.
A hard decision
In other words, her daughter arrived to help Dara let go of her limiting belief about what parents “should” do (among other beliefs). More important, she arrived to help Dara soothe really strong negative momentum perpetuating that belief.
It took Dara a while to accept all of this. Giving up blaming her parents was very difficult. It was also hard for her to understand that she was creating a version of her college-age daughter, the one that treats her abusively, specifically to free herself from blaming her parents for their “betrayal”.
It was very, very hard for her to next do what she knew she must because it meant going against the strong momentum of beliefs she had about her parents’ action. But she had to do it.
She had to cut her daughter off.
After doing so, her daughter turned up the volume of abuse towards her mom. This is normal. Existing reality will always confront and push against an emerging, new reality. The daughter’s behavior essentially asked Dara “just how far are you willing to go in creating a reality you want?”
Thankfully, Dara said “all the way”. Mainly because of how she felt after 30-days of cutting her daughter off.
“I feel a tremendous sense of relief,” Dara said in a session a little over a month after cutting her daughter off. “It’s as though I was in a hostage situation and that situation is over.”
Getting her happiness back
About three months later, Dara came to her session all smiles.
“(My husband) said this past week ‘Honey, you’re so much happier these days’,” she said. “He thought it was because I was no longer in contact with (my daughter). That was part of it, but the bigger part of it is that I’ve been working with you. So I told him ‘It’s because I work with Perry!’”
What’s really cool is, as Dara soothed resistance she had about her daughter, a new version of her daughter began emerging. It started with the daughter no longing leaving berating voicemails on Dara’s phone.
But then, a big shift happened.
“I got a voicemail from [my daughter],” she explained in a tone clearly indicating she knew what was happening. “She said she’s ready to have a new relationship with me. One that’s based on us being kind to each other. I can see how this is me creating a better version of her. But the best thing about all of this is, I’m the happy version of myself that I used to be.”
This was a remarkable shift for Dara. But it’s just what happens when someone creates reality at the source from which their reality emerges: their beliefs. Do that and everything in life changes. Including other people.
You can enjoy your version of what Dara is enjoying today. With the world around us, it’s more important than ever to cultivate a relationship with the positive energy at the basis of All That Is. Becoming a Positively Focused client is easy. And now it’s even more affordable. I’ve created new Cohort sessions that include up to a 60 percent discount on 1:1 session rates. Click here to learn more and start your journey to the Charmed Life my clients are discovering.
TL;DR: The author emphasizes how beliefs shape our financial reality, using a client’s experience to illustrate how limiting thoughts block opportunities. It argues that aligning beliefs with desires is key to success, revealing that poverty results from mindset, not external forces. Through self-awareness and belief alignment, wealth and fulfillment become achievable.
I wouldn’t say or share any of what you’re about to read to a poor person. They’re just not ready to hear it. What they’ll hear is me blaming them. But this isn’t about blame, it’s about empowerment…
A client’s experiences showed me this week how powerful this You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) business is. Our thoughts and beliefs are so powerful, they not only create experiences we call daily life, they also block us from experiencing daily lives containing things we want.
This includes wealth. Indeed, most people, if they’re honest, will say they’d love having more money than they have, no matter how much they do have. If they don’t want more, it’s usually because beliefs existing inside them block that natural desire. Wanting more is the essence of of All That Is. It’s what makes “eternity” possible.
That’s another story though.
In this story, I want to share how our beliefs create realities that literally keep things we want from coming to us, including money. I’m going to show how this works through a recent experience a client had with the Positively Focused practice. His experience, even though he’s far from poor, proves the point I’m making: That poor people stay poor through the beliefs they hold. By “poor” I include those in the middle class who struggle to make ends meet, as well as those below the poverty line.
So let’s get into this. I’m sure we’re going to find what I’m about to share…interesting at the very least.
Trump: Good? Bad?
I’ll call my client “John”. I know, it’s not very creative.
John’s been a client about 50 weeks. He became a client after watching his partner transform for the better right before his eyes. Her example was so positive, he said, he wanted some of what she was getting.
John is successful as a software developer. He’s also quite astute at finance. An ardent progressive, he voted for Harris. So when Trump won the election, John expressed rather strong disappointment, but, because of the Positively Focused practice, he didn’t let that go very far, which left him open for an amazing experience coming.
Fast forward to December. By that point last year, something happened that shocked many observers. The cryptocurrency Bitcoin reached well over $100,000 a token. Historically, past presidential administrations were critical of crypto markets in general and Bitcoin specifically. Indeed, many expected that if Harris won the election, her administration would follow with the Biden Administration’s sharp criticism of crypto.
Not so with Trump. He promised in his later campaign speeches to become the most favorable cryptocurrency president.
The future: Crypto?
Trump won, of course. And crypto advocates, who had funded many successful 2024 political campaigns, including Trump’s, felt jubilant. So did much of the business world.
Cryptocurrency is a huge world-transforming technology. Like Artificial Intelligence, the Internet and computer technology before it, crypto is literally changing every facet of life right under our noses. Unlike previous inventions, however, crypto is poised to fundamentally disrupt society in so many beneficial ways, it’s hard to wrap one’s head around them all.
That potential also offers tremendous wealth-making opportunities. Unlike past opportunities, which made themselves mostly available to the already-wealthy, the movement crypto represents brings those wealth-making opportunities to everyone. Anyone can potentially become richer than they ever have been before. Indeed, many already have. And those people started out not rich at all.
That said, those potential riches are only available to people aligned with the opportunity. That’s where John and thoughts and beliefs come back into this story.
Chicken? Or egg?
Everyone creates their reality through thoughts and beliefs they hold. Those thoughts and beliefs literally filter our lives. They only allow events into our lives that are aligned with them. So if a person holds a belief that, for example, “money is hard to come by”, they cannot see opportunities where money is easy to come by.
Same holds for those who believe crypto is a scam. Such people will not be able to see money-making opportunities available through crypto. I should know: I was once one of those people!
Not any more.
Thoughts and beliefs don’t even have to be about crypto to block these opportunities. Beliefs about ourselves can block them too. If we believe, for example, that “I can’t get ahead”, that thought will keep creating experiences where we, literally, can’t get ahead.
But we must ask whether this is a chicken-or-egg situation: Did those experiences happen first, and then we concluded that “I can’t get ahead”? Or did somehow we come up with that self concept, of a person who can’t get ahead, then experienced experiences as evidence of that concept?
The answer is, it can be both. People can hold a thought, then experience a life matching that. Or something can happen, then they draw a conclusion from that and thus create resonance in them that has them keep having that experience.
Empowering? Or disempowering?
In John’s case, he saw his parents struggle. He related how he noticed his family frequently on the edge of financial insolvency. He wore hand-me-down clothes in school and was enrolled in his school’s free lunch program. John joked with all seriousness about how being on the free lunch program affected him by saying “Why do free lunch program tickets need to be a different color from regular tickets?”
Can you see how such an observation reveals the strong negative experience John had?
John made up stories about those happenings, especially stories about himself. He wasn’t going to end up like his parents. So he took a more guarded, preventative perspective on money. One of his beliefs, for example, is “Building a bank account is hard. It takes a long time. I don’t want to make the wrong choice.”
As a result of this belief, John has become extremely financially successful. He’s managed his money very closely. His work income is, in his words, “ridiculous” in its generosity. And yet, as empowering as his beliefs are, they still limit what’s possible for him. I’ll explain how in a bit.
A vicious cycle
We can see how beliefs in a world not in our control would compel us into social liberalism. If one finds it hard to get ahead, or that situations are out of our control, we’ll will see others having similar troubles. Not knowing about the Positively Focused approach, we’ll want to place blame on something outside ourselves.
We won’t know the trouble source is our thoughts and beliefs. So we’ll look to the world around us for the origin of our struggles.
It’s a kind of vicious cycle: thoughts and beliefs filter in events matching them and filter out those not matching them, which reinforce thoughts and beliefs. If one doesn’t know this, a person will look for the source of the problem outside themselves and blame that. Little do they know placing blame is a reflection of their inner beliefs: the belief that something outside them is to blame, that and the belief creating whatever problems they’re having in the first place.
The reflection happens so the person can do something about the beliefs not aligned with what the person wants. When they do that, they get what they want. It’s that simple. Blaming just prolongs problems or it creates new ones.
This is the vicious cycle social liberals find themselves in. Social conservatives do the same thing, by the way. They blame their problems on a society run amok, away from conservative values. In other words, something outside themselves. Liberals and conservatives have far more in common than both sides realize.
John’s beliefs are what has him being both socially and fiscally liberal. In the next section I’ll flesh this out a little more.
The Universe faithfully reflects
John believing, among other things, that making and keeping money is hard and takes a long time, and you can’t make a mistake, is part of why he is socially and fiscally liberal. He believes people need help because life is hard. Especially the part of life that is about making money. After all, he saw his parents struggle. For John, this belief isn’t a belief. It’s “true”.
John also knows there are many people out there trying to get other people’s money, often in unscrupulous ways. So not only is he on guard about that himself, he’s also wary of people falling victim to such schemes. This partly explains why he believes people need help, i.e. a society socially oriented towards taking care of people.
Now, people do need a hand out or a hand up from time to time. Virtually everyone, myself included at one point, knows nothing about how the Universe works. Because of that lack of knowledge, people think thoughts, hold beliefs, make decisions and take action based on those that aren’t in their best interest.
Of course, the Universe faithfully reflects all that back to people in the form of life matching what’s going on in us. But people don’t know that’s happening. So most people point the finger at the world around them. Even though the world around them is a product of their thoughts, beliefs and actions.
John is learning this. And what he’s finding is making a huge difference.
Trump’s contribution to the better world
John sees Trump as somewhat inept and susceptible to others’ influence. As a result, throughout the election campaign, John as an ardent Positively Focused practitioner, strives to find the best-feeling story about the election outcome.
In doin that, John made himself available to the reality that the Trump administration is going to play a huge part in a wonderful unfolding. An unfolding offering everyone massive opportunities to prosper in a future that’s literally unbelievable.
That future also supports the ascension New Age spiritualists reverently expect. All this is coming aided by an administration many “spiritualist” Americans vehemently disavow.
How can this be?
Trump and those he is appointing likely have no idea how their actions in the future play into the hands of this unfolding. That’s because, of course, their thoughts and beliefs aren’t focused there. They’re focused on their political agenda, which primarily is about delivering on their campaign promises. That and keeping people’s attention and thus their future votes and money.
But what they don’t know is many of those promises are going to support the unfolding I mentioned above. And one aspect facilitating that unfolding is…wait for it: cryptocurrency.
A new future lies ahead
I’ll avoid going in depth on other technologies emerging which also further this unfolding. I want to keep this post rather short and it’s already long. But I will mention some of them. I’ll mention them because the information is important to understand points I’m making in this post. You can research them further if you choose.
Cryptocurrencies underpin the emerging next generation of the Internet, also called “Web3”. But “Cryptocurrency” distracts the public. It’s not so much their function as currencies that matters. It’s the projects these currencies underwrite and support that matter. In the way software and microprocessors ushered in the computer age, these “currencies” and their projects are introducing Web3. Web3 is a decentralized, open, more secure and more peer-to-peer internet.
But these projects are also fostering, among many other things, Artificial Intelligence (AI), AI agents, which basically are personal servants that act on the internet on our behalf; new ways to conduct financial transactions and contracts without banks, lawyers or the government; and making wealth far more accessible to ordinary people.
We’re exactly at the point where we were when computers or the internet first started: the world is being transformed once again. Only this time much faster and from far more directions than before.
And those who are aware of these opportunities and take action, just like in the past with computers and the internet, are going to get rich. But those who aren’t aware of them will miss the opportunities.
What separates those who are aware from those who aren’t? Individual beliefs. That’s all.
“A no-brainer”
One session late last year, I talked with John about everything you just read in the previous section. The conversation revolved mostly around Bitcoin and its meteoric rise. But that focus kicked off a conversation about everything else happening in the crypto space. Because of John’s old beliefs, he was skeptical. He told me he always viewed Bitcoin as a “grift”.
“They call them cryptocurrencies, but you can’t buy anything with them,” he quipped.
By the end of the session, however, he saw how that belief blocked him from really understanding what is happening and what’s coming. That opening, his ability to see anew, triggered something good in him.
After our session, he sent me a text message:
In our next session, John floored me with his news. We first talked about how surprised he was that he didn’t look into this sooner.
“After I took a deep look at it,” he said. “It was a no brainer.”
And this is the thing about old beliefs. When they’re soothed, suddenly, the new view one has of the world just feels like an “of course”. That’s because the world constantly offers broader perspectives from which to view it. And when a person steps into that, they literally walk into a new reality. One that now matches their fresh, new perspective.
Missing an opportunity
So profound was John’s shift, even he was surprised. He told me the next morning he put $50K into Bitcoin. But his Broader Perspective encouraged he put more in. So he put in $100K more. But his Broader Perspective encouraged putting in even more. So he put in another $50! All after one conversation!
Again, this is what happens when one lets go of resistant beliefs. And, the minute one does, one also must contend with the new set of contrast that accompanies the new beliefs. In John’s case that was feeling regretful that he didn’t take this action six months ago when Bitcoin’s price was much lower.
“I should have done this last summer,” He argued mournfully. I told him there’s nothing he can do about that other than soothe his regret. But the solace he could take from the experience is realizing how powerful beliefs are.
“They literally block us from seeing opportunities,” I told him. Of course, John could see that now.
There was no way John could have done anything different from what he did last summer. So there’s no point mourning that non-action, even though had he put $200,000 into Bitcoin last summer at $87K a coin, he would have already seen a nice increase in value.
We do it to ourselves
John’s experience shows how powerful beliefs are. I’ve written this many times in this post, but it bears repeating: Beliefs create our reality. They only allow in that which accords with them. Everything else they block.
It’s important therefore that we become more deliberate about what beliefs we have, isn’t it?
I know it is important, which is why I work with clients.
No one blocks us from anything we want. Only we do that by not examining beliefs that block those things we want from coming into our experience.
And this is how the poor remain poor. No one is keeping them poor! They are doing that to themselves. Of course, they’re not doing it deliberately. They don’t understand what they’re doing. The problem with that lack of understanding is, along with their disempowering beliefs, if someone like me tries to tell them what they’re doing (or not doing), their current beliefs will not allow them to hear what I’m saying.
Or they’ll hear it and think I’m trying to fraud them. They’ll think I’m just spouting new-age nonsense, in the same way John thought cryptocurrency was a grift. And when they think that way, they just amplify their existing Belief Constellations, further blinding them from opportunities to rise from poverty.
Beliefs are powerful
At the beginning of this post I wrote that I’m not blaming anyone. This isn’t about blame. John isn’t to blame for beliefs blocking opportunities. No one else holds those beliefs for him though. He’s doing that.
Does that make him to blame for that? Is it his “fault”?
You could look at it that way, but I don’t. I look at it more positively. This whole post is not about blaming the poor or blaming John. What it is about is using his example and the example of poor people to empower those reading this. For now you know, dear reader, that you possess an extraordinarily empowering tool: your beliefs.
And if you cultivate beliefs consistent with what you want, in a very short time, the world will reveal to you exactly that and only that. For when you align your beliefs with what you want, they, like all beliefs, block everything not aligned with them.
That’s why I can say, for example, that when a person aligns their beliefs, nothing can come in contrary to what they believe.
Beliefs are powerful.
The poor stay poor by virtue of the poverty in their beliefs. People get rich by virtue of the wealth inherent in their beliefs. Your world is your word, meaning how you think about the world shapes your experience of it.
Speaking of beliefs, you’re invited to a 90-minute online event on March 1 at 10 a.m. Pacific Time called Belief Constellations: Politics, Relationships And Our MAGNIFICENT Future. I’ll give a deep dive into what Belief Constellations are and how to use them to align with the fabulous future on the horizon. It’s only $15. Grab a spot, or, if you’re a MeetUp member, go here.
TL;DR: The author argues for being selfish as the way to create a happy life for everyone. They share a client’s experience in creating happiness to illustrate and support his argument.
Let’s talk about relationships. There’s a lot to talk about here. Mainly because humans feel relationships are one of the most, if not the most, important things. After all, we are told, we need relationships to be happy. Everything we do, need and want, it seems, comes through relationships. It is relationships with others that create community. Such relationships also create safety, belonging and a whole lot more.
And, if we’re honest with ourselves, relationships also offer the worst in humanity. Relationships with others are the framework through which some of humanity’s worst traits surface. Greed, conflict, psychopathy and violence all would be meaningless were it not for relationships.
So relationships aren’t all rainbows and butterflies, as the saying goes. We all know this. Just ask Israelis and the Palestinians. Relationships can suck. And yet, a lot about what we seem to be (human) seems to compel us toward relationships. Especially relationships with other humans.
There’s a far more satisfying and powerful relationship, however, one through which everything we want comes. It’s so all-encompassing, we literally can’t survive without it. And when we prioritize that relationship above all else, we can live our wildest dreams.
That relationship is what I’m writing about today.
Let’s dive in.
Over all else
The relationship I’m referring to has nothing to do with a god, especially the Christian god or Jesus. But this relationship does tap into the power Christians ascribe to their god.
The trouble with this relationship is, it’s as plain as the nose on our faces, and yet, we invariably prioritize other relationships ahead of it. And that out-of-whack prioritization creates all the troubles we have in other relationships. That’s because that which we could enjoy a relationship with wants our undivided attention. When we put our attention there, un-dividedly, everything else in life flows easily.
What relationship could I possibly be referring to?
The relationship with ourselves.
That’s right, there’s no better, no more powerful relationship than the relationship with ourselves. The reason why is because everything we see “out there” in the world springs from this relationship. So when we get this relationship where it should be – as our number one priority – then everything “out there” falls in line.
It doesn’t happen in an instant. That would be magic and magic isn’t a thing. But when a person prioritizes themselves over all else, then gradually, all else reflects the improvement inherent in prioritizing a relationship with themselves over all else!
Selfishness: a virtue
That seems like circular logic, but, as I’ve written before, the Universe and All That Is functions in a circular logic way. All That Is exists to joyfully know itself. The paradox of that is, the more it seeks to know itself, the more of itself it creates. This process makes All That Is – and you and me – eternal. So the more All That Is seeks to know itself, it creates more of itself to know. That’s the glorious circular process often described in ancient teachings.
Now, some might argue that prioritizing one’s self over others leads to selfishness. I completely agree. But I know selfishness is not bad. In fact, it’s the best way to be – oriented solely to self. Because when one lives that way, they discover everything else, including other people, are able to take care of themselves, leaving the person free to be, enjoy and lavish their life.
Indeed, when we put ourself first in all things, we stop trying to change circumstances over which we have no control. Letting go of such tasks feels better and better. And when we feel better, the world around us reflects that better mood back to us. It reflects it in ever-improving life experiences.
So, really, we have control of all of our experience because experience reflects back to us our inner state. And when we prioritize our inner state – our relationship with ourselves – then our life experiences reflect that improved inner state.
We also emanate love and other higher emotions. That’s because when we seek to know ourselves, which is aligned with what the Universe does always, we can’t help but feel the eternal joy that is Universal consciousness.
Put it to the test
That previous section may sound like a bunch of “New Age” hooey. But when practiced, over time, it proves accurate. Abraham says “Words don’t teach. Life experience does”. That means I can write forever about how powerful what you’re reading is. But nothing compares to evidence produced by your lived experience.
So if you’re having trouble believing this stuff, I suggest you prove it to yourself. Become the evidence you wish to see, as Eckart Tolle puts it.
So how do we prioritize the relationship with ourselves?It doesn’t seem easy when the entire outside world encourages prioritizing others over ourselves. So it takes practice. It helps to know that a “self” exists in us worthy of our undivided attention. That “self” is the “god in human form” I write about in this blog. Discovering its existence is easy.
The best way to do that is by testing Positively Focused premises, which are summed up in the phrase “you create your reality”. As a person tests these premises, they create or manifest, experiences, people and things, that come in surprising, seemingly coincidental ways.
But when so many of such manifestations happen over and over, the person must acknowledge something other than “coincidence” is at work. That acknowledgement is just like acknowledging there is a self worthy of having a relationship with. Paradoxically, the person testing these premises, once they start seeing things happen, will want more things to happen. As more happens, they also get more bold: they want bigger things to happen.
As their desires grow in scale or magnitude, their trust grows. Their trust in themselves and in this self they are building a relationship with.
Betrayal births bitterness
Growing that relationship brings a necessary letting go of beliefs keeping us all prioritizing others over ourselves. As we let go of them, we might have to face hard-seeming choices. Sometimes that looks like cutting off certain people, including family members. Sometimes it looks like making pretty sweeping career changes.
For example, a client recently faced having to cut off her daughter. Her daughter, the epitome of a hellion, raked the client over all kinds of emotional coals throughout their 20-year relationship. The client believed she had to be there for her daughter, despite the poor treatment, because that’s “what parents should do”.
Little did she know she created the belief “that’s what parents should do” after her parents did something the client considered unconscionable.
Throughout her youth, her parents promised her they’d save for and pay for her college. But when the client was 16, the parents reneged on their promise. The client had to pay her own way. Because of this she felt her parents betrayed her. She bitterly resented their decision and that bitterness festered within her.
Prioritizing ourselves sometimes requires hard-seeming choices. (Photo by Courtney Kammers on Unsplash)
An angel disguised as a hellion
The betrayal was personal for her. So, when she had a child out of wedlock, something she didn’t want in the first place, the client swore to “make things right” by not doing to her daughter what her parents did to her.
The problem with all of that is the Universe has an amusing way of showing us all how such beliefs aren’t in our best interest. In the clients case, the Universe gave her a hellion. And boy, did this young person torture my client in so many ways!
She was making the client miserable. Little did the client realize, her daughter was an angel the client sent herself. The angel’s mission: to teach the client she has everything she needs within her, to stop blaming her parents, and to put herself first.
After weeks of learning to prioritize herself through the Positively Focused Way, the client, after one particularly harrowing conversation with her daughter, decided to put herself first. She cut her daughter off.
The relief she felt was immediate. And, as days went by, her relief grew.
Doubling down
Thirty days in, she was feeling great. But then, her old created reality, born of her belief “that’s what parents should do” reasserted itself. Her daughter reached out. The client felt pulled by her belief to reconnect. Which is what she did. This is not unusual.
Typically, when this kind of thing happens, a client will have an epiphany making their life much better. But then, old belief momentum draws them back into their old way of being, the way of being they left behind. This dynamic always shows the client why they would have been better off not letting that happen.
But there’s no way clients can get it wrong. For these kinds of “set backs” actually amplify their commitment to put themselves first. Which is exactly what happened with this client.
That reconnection was horrible. And it reminded the client what had been absent for 30 days. It also put those past 30 days of relief, peace and ease in proper perspective. She wanted more of that. So she doubled down on cutting her daughter off.
The way to relief
Two weeks after her recommitment her husband said something remarkable over dinner.
“You seem really happy,” the client said her husband said. The client told her husband she did feel happy, happier than she had in decades. The husband credited that return to happiness to his wife cutting her daughter off. But the client knew it was primarily because she was putting herself first and that caused her to make a choice she otherwise would not have been able to do.
A week later, her husband once again noticed.
“It’s so good seeing you so happy,” he said. The client replied that she was returning to the self she knew before her daughter “happened”.
Now, it’s not that the client dislikes her daughter. She loves her and wants the best for her. But she realizes that, to be happy, she must put herself first. And when she does that, she thrives. And as she thrives, eventually, so will her daughter. That must happen because the client’s experience and everything in it, including her daughter, reflects back to her her inner state. Her daughter’s behavior was reflecting turmoil within the client. Turmoil born of expecting her parents to have put her first, when, obviously, they couldn’t.
Their decision not to pay for their child’s college was the right thing: they had to put themselves first. The client was making them wrong for doing what they knew was right. And so, the Universe, through her daughter, was showing the client the way to relief.
It’s all choice
And that’s the thing about realizing what comes from putting ourselves first. We realize no one is responsible for our happiness but us. And, no one can make us happy but us. Any other happiness source is fleeting, capricious and fickle. As such, such happiness sources are not in our best interest to put before the one relationship that really matters.
Meanwhile, as I mentioned before, everything in our experience improves when we do this. And so, the client’s daughter’s life must also improve, as she learns what her mother did: That she must put herself first and stop relying on her mother for her happiness…or anything else, including tuition, food and rent.
Relationships, from the Positively Focused Practice perspective, are not about people coming together, planning together, working out problems, coming up with solutions together, compromising, and investing in and extracting from each other what they need, all while claiming to love one another. Rather, each person is 100 percent responsible as a creator for creating the best version of their life and any relationship for THEMSELVES.
When they do that, the whole world improves, but only for that person. In the meantime, those choosing a different life way fade out of that person’s experience. Then those reflecting the person’s choice show up as reflections of that made choice.
This explains why so much variety in life experience exists. It’s not luck. Nor is it fate. What it is is people choosing, either deliberately or not, then the world reflecting the nature of that choice.
It’s all about unconditional love
This means, first cultivating a strong relationship with one’s self is paramount. When that happens, life reflects back to the person only the best things in life, because that’s just what happens when one puts themselves first.
Then, and only then, can a person create better versions of life AND better versions of people in their lives. They create versions of people by coming into the presence of another with their relationship with themselves so secure, that that other person has no choice but to reflect back to the creator a version of them matching what’s going on in the creator.
And when the creator achieves that, sees the person exhibiting the version of themselves the creator envisioned, and then revels in that, the manifestation of evidence of their creation, then that person being created feels that reveling as unconditional love for them. And that changes that person irreparably.
That’s why selfishness is so important. It can literally change human relationships. It does that through love, which is what ourselves have in abundance for us.
And that’s how we can influence others in the best way. “Influence” happens whether we know we’re doing it or not. Unfortunately, for most of us, we’re using that influence by recreating versions of people we don’t like, by complaining about their behavior, wishing they were someone that they’re not, or complaining in general.
Meanwhile the one relationship that empowers us to have a different experience of all we experience awaits us. That relationship is all unconditional love. And when we prioritize that relationship, we become that: Unconditional love.
TLDR: The writer discusses their journey to master astral projection through soothing resistance and believing it’s possible, as recent deliberate steps lead to significant progress and heightened spiritual awareness.
As mentioned in previous posts, I’m soothing resistance so that I can enjoy “astral projections”. By “soothing resistance” I mean letting go of beliefs preventing being able to leave my body.
Since everything is possible, doing this is easy. We all do it, after all. Every night we “dream” that’s what we’re doing. We’re traveling astrally.
So projecting my consciousness outside my body isn’t something to “learn”. Rather, it’s something to “allow”. How do we allow? We do it by soothing beliefs making doing so seem impossible.
This post updates my progress so far.
Let’s dive in.
Moving beyond mind
Previous out of body travels were predominantly involuntary experiences. They came unexpectedly. One minute I’d be in my body. The next, I was out. These mostly happened while sleeping or meditating. That makes sense because resistant beliefs aren’t active in those mind states. Especially beliefs that trigger fear of the experience.
Meanwhile, my Broader Perspective knows how to work around those beliefs. This is the case with all desires. Broader Perspective wends its way through what Abraham calls “the cracks of least resistance”. These are pathways through our resistant beliefs, beliefs standing between where we are and what we want. In this way our Broader Perspective knows better than our ego awareness how to manifest desires. This explains why it’s not our ego’s job to figure out how something must happen.
Besides, ego consciousness isn’t equipped to do that. That’s why when we focus on the how, we usually get bogged down in our befuddlement. Brains are physical manifestations of ego consciousness. They are not equipped to understand the how.
Traveling outside the body necessitates leaving all that behind. I must be getting better at doing that because my recent results are astounding.
Deliberate baby steps…
Since I had an adverse reaction long ago to a particularly powerful awakening moment, my Broader Perspective is easing me through the “how”. This process therefore feels extremely gradual. My Broader Perspective knows which of my beliefs could shut down my experience. I can feel that awareness working in me.
Just to clarify; our Broader Perspective isn’t outside is. It’s not a god or other divine being separate from what we are. Our Broader Perspective IS us. It is that aspect of us which remains in nonphysical. It remains there so as to guide the other aspect of us which comes into these physical bodies.
It’s therefore a mistake to picture Broader Perspective as separate from us. Doing that can introduce distortions in beliefs. Distortions that can make what I’m up to difficult or impossible.
Since I’m not making that mistake, I’m finding progress towards leaving my body happening consistently as weeks go by. It’s still gradual. No earth-shaking, amazing occurrences are surprising me. Instead, expansion into astral travel abilities feels like deliberate, baby steps to eventually sojourning through creation while my body lies in repose on my bed.
I’ll share what those baby steps feel like next.
Perceiving the ephemeral
It’s 4:06 as I’m writing this. I just came out of a pleasing meditation. I typically meditate for between an hour and 90 minutes around this time every morning. Usually between two and four AM. I believe those hours hold special energies for such practices.
Coming out of meditation, I received an impulse to write this post.
While prepping for bed last night, I felt familiar urging of my Broader Perspective. It encouraged me to settle my mind and focus in ways that heighten spiritual awareness. Doing so, I can feel varying degrees of vibrations. It’s extremely subtle. Perceiving vibration this way results from a rigorous spiritual practice involving of a lot of meditation and other Positively Focused practices.
I really did write this in the early morning!
While in that heightened awareness and perceiving those frequencies, I also felt my Broader Perspective guiding me to “feel” my ephemeral presence, my “spirit body”, or that ethereal body that is my inner energetic being. I know all that sounds extremely “woo”. But how else can I explain it? It really is a “you had to be there” moment. In other words, having the experience is a better way of explaining this than trying to explain it.
Anyway, while focused on that energy body, I didn’t have to really do anything other than focus on it. Not with a “hard” focus though. Instead I do better perceiving it when I focus like I do when using peripheral vision. Or maybe seeing things in really low light. I’m not looking directly at the thing, but see it anyway. Does that make sense?
I hope so.
Gaining comfort with the ephemeral
As I focused on that energy body, I felt it/me becoming more and more distinct from my physical body. And this is where the progress happened.
Rather than try to will a travel experience, I instead decided to focus on “feeling” or “witnessing” that ephemeral feeling; the feeling of what that energy body feels like. It was like running my physical hands all over my physical body. Only I was doing that with “energy hands” over my “energy body”. I knew this was the step to take because it would accomplish two things.
One it would amplify the experience by confirming what was happening. It would also soothe resistant beliefs. After all, I can’t disbelieve an experience I’m actually having, can I?
Second, it would give me greater control, comfort and familiarity with this new-to-my-ego experience. That was important. It was important because my ego is responsible for violently shutting down that powerful awakening experience I had long ago. And I didn’t want to repeat that experience.
Enjoying the peak moment
So I remained in that state feeling myself for probably 40 minutes. It felt amazing! And in doing that I also felt the “boundary” between my physical body and this energy one. It literally felt like the two were slightly out of sync. Which is exactly what it should feel like as one separates from the other!
Then, at one moment, I decided to try coming back into the physical body. When I did, my legs “jiggled” and I felt an electric wave move through them. It was like the body was receiving into itself the energetic sensation of “me” returning to “it”!
I’m sure you can imagine how amazing that experience felt.
After a few more of these moments, I decided to fully re-enter the physical body. When I did I noticed something very peculiar. And this was the peak moment of this whole experience.
In my body I didn’t feel cold. But when I touched certain parts of my body with my physical hands —my knees, the top of my feet, for example— they felt VERY cold. Again, I didn’t feel cold in my body. But parts of my body, when touched with my physical hands did feel cold.
The cold surfaces correlated with parts of the body I would have left “last” as I “rose” out of the body. I was on my back. The parts I touched were all parts at the upper most part of my body in repose.
This all happened while laying toasty under a fleece blanket, a fleece top sheet, fleece bottom sheet and a down duvet. There was no physical-reality explanation for feeling cold. Especially in the locations where I felt cold!
You had to be there!
Ok. So I get this may not sound very thrilling. I swear you need to have the experience to really get it. Nevertheless I’m THRILLED with these results.
While writing this, I’m eager about experiments I want to run to further improve my awareness. I want to visit friend’s locations, observe things I could only see were I there, then call my friends and report what I saw. Then I want to travel to distant places and see what I can bring back.
That’s right, Seth says I can even travel to such places and actually bring back physical artifacts from those destinations. Can you imagine!?
I can!
I’m eager for more of this. And I deeply appreciate All That Is and my core intention, both of which are leading me on this auspicious trajectory.
Maybe my journey is inspiring you to take your own. If so, I can help, obviously. Become a client! Let’s do this.
I know. It sounds like an impossibility. Other people are individual persons. They’re subject to their own whims and desires, right? We can’t create other people! They have free will and all that!
Not so fast…
It’s accurate that others are their own creation. But they’re also a co-creation. We all participate in each others’ becoming. And, as I’ve stressed before, the people we experience aren’t the same people those people actually are. Instead, they’re our creations. Which explains why sometimes people get defensive when others criticize them.
But this is a positive post about how I created another person in my reality. It’s not about being defensive. In fact, it’s really about being joyful. Because what happened was such a delightful, and yet, expected, surprise. And it offers a perfect example of how we create others. Including potential partners.
The setup was awesome
One day this past summer while riding my bike, I came across a celebration. Portlanders – in their weird way – were riding around on old-style roller-skates. Dressed in costumes and carrying signs, these folks were partying over something I didn’t understand.
I did understand they were enjoying themselves, though. That was obvious. As a mobile DJ blasted tunes, the revelers wound their way along a circular path cones outlined on the street.
As I rode past, I noticed a woman on her bicycle. She was tall, with dark hair to her shoulders. She drew me to her with an enthralling quality. So much so it took me aback. The moment happened so quick. I saw her, rode past, then focused on the revelers.
Still, riding away, I chastised myself. Why didn’t I stop and say hi? But in my self-reproach, I realized what I was doing. So, instead of staying in that belief constellation, I decided I would create a future reality where I’d see her again. I therefore casually said to myself “Wouldn’t it be nice to see this person again?”
Then I focused on how pleased I would be to rendezvous with that probable future reality. One where I’d see her again.
Notice: I did this casually, lightly and only for a moment.
You can probably guess what happened next…
We create everything we experience
As creators, we are the only beings in our reality. Everything we experience, therefore, is a reflection of our massive, eternal awareness. We constantly create new realities as we move through our created reality. This gives rise to multiverses science is only recently coming to acknowledge exists.
We create people in our realities as we create everything else. The versions we create are cooperatively created along with the entities those people are in their reality. So it’s not like we’re doing anything against anyone’s will.
What this means is, we have complete control over experiences we have with other people. But usually, we let our observations reign over what we create. Especially when it comes to other people. Rather than creating them deliberately, we let our observations do it. So people occur as individuals totally separate from us. We experience physical reality the same way for the same reasons.
When we realize, however, that we create our reality, including others, we come into tremendous power and leverage. We can literally call people back into our experience, provided those people are willing to have that experience too.
That’s what happened here.
After affirming a future rendezvous with this person, I dropped it. I let the idea go into All That Is, knowing the Universe took hold of it.
Hearing inner guidance
Yesterday, over three months after seeing her, I got the impulse to go for a walk. I had just meditated for an hour and was vibing really high. So I put on warm clothes and headed out.
I knew I was vibing high because of how I felt. But also based on people’s reactions. They were super friendly. Strangers stared at me. When you’re vibing high, you stand out like a sore thumb. People notice you. I greeted those people and they were friendly in return.
As I wound my way back towards home, I started crossing one of the bridges spanning the river bisecting downtown Portland. On the way across I spotted a person coming the opposite direction. She was walking a Corgi. Something about her was very familiar.
About 20 meters away, we locked eyes. I said hi. She smiled and nodded. I felt a jolt of clarity. I recognized a connection between her and I in that moment.
We passed one another. Then my Broader Perspective suggested I stop, so I did. I leaned against the rail and took stock of my inner awareness. Something important happened that I wasn’t catching. But my Broader Perspective’s signals were strong enough to give me pause.
The bridge where I first saw her…
Then the big reveal
I looked back and saw her walking in the distance. A part of me wanted to catch up with her. It wanted to introduce myself and strike up a chat. Another part didn’t. It wanted to go home. It was getting dark. Soon it would be too cold for the clothes I wore.
Screw it, I decided. I wanted to follow through on the first part urging me to go introduce myself. By now she was a good 500 meters away. I turned back and went to catch up with her.
About 50 meters away, for some reason, that’s when she decided to stop and sit on a park bench! It was a perfect set up! I was so pleased this happened because it worked perfectly for me to approach her. When I did, I introduced myself. She invited me to sit and talk.
After talking with her a while, it struck me: This was the girl I saw last summer! In my excitement I told her so, but she didn’t remember. Most people don’t remember much about things they consider insignificant, so that wasn’t surprising. Inside though I knew this was the Universe responding to my request.
Long story short, we talked for 30 minutes. She gave me her number. We’re talking about seeing each other again.
The more we believe, the more we see
It’s so fun meeting people this way. It’s so fun I wonder why people rely on online dating to help them meet people. This is way more fun. The serendipity, the surprise, the unfolding are all wonderful characteristics of cooperating with the Universe to meet people we want to meet.
And it’s soeasy.
Moreover, if we’re relaxing into the desire, it happens relatively fast.
But a lot of people don’t believe anything you just read. Or they believe what you just read is just a big coincidence. I’ve had this exact experience happen too many times though. So many I’m convinced this indeed is what’s possible. Not just for me. But for anyone.
We create our realities. That includes other people. The more we believe that, the more we’ll see that bear out in the world we experience. That means we can have anything in our reality: lovers, wonderful rendezvous, and everything else we desire.
It’s just how the Universe is organized.
Try it for yourself. Test the Universe and watch it deliver. Need help with the how? I’m available.
Sometimes client’s don’t understand what I’m doing with my life. So they’ll interpret what I’m doing with my life through their own Belief Constellations. That will sound like a criticism. But it’s actually a huge blessing.
What they don’t know is their critique says a lot more about their life than it does mine. And, when they do criticize my life, my life gets better. That’s because I know what criticisms are. And so I use them to amplify my own positive focus. Then my life must reflect that amplified perception back to me.
That’s what happened during a recent client session. It was a wonderful opportunity for me. It was wonderful because the client’s critique revealed something I wanted to know. And knowing that changed my life at a vibrational level. At a practical level too!
Let’s take a look at what I’m talking about.
Missing the point?
The client happens to be one of my advanced practitioners. She’s been at it a while and has made remarkable progress. So it was surprising that she said what she said durning the session. Then again, it wasn’t surprising. Because it was perfect. Perfect for me to gain more understanding of my own Belief Constellation.
Sharing a cool manifestation I recently had triggered my client’s beliefs. The experience for me was spectacular, however. That’s because it showed me I had high calibration about money, which is a subject I’m wanting significant, leading edge manifestations about.
After I shared what happened, the client said, “I’m amazed that so little money made such a difference for you. You must be poor.”
Now, this client has a couple million dollars in the bank. She’s retired. Her house is paid for. I don’t think she has any debt. I, on the other hand, chose a different course. One that challenges status quo beliefs, especially around money. I’ve written extensively about this on this blog.
So when she said this, it surprised me. The point of the story wasn’t my financial situation. Instead, it was about how the manifestation happened.
Is it? Or isn’t it?
Still, her comment lingered with me a few days. I don’t consider myself poor. In fact, I consider my life reflecting an immense state of wealth.
My life is rich with all kinds of abundance. When considering wealth or abundance, there are more kinds of that than the monetary variety. And, the key to experiencing great monetary wealth, is appreciating all the other kinds of wealth we enjoy.
For example, I enjoy an immense amount of abundance. My “work week” is about 8 hours. The rest of the week I’m free to enjoy my life. And enjoy it I do! I enjoy an abundance of creator content from Netflix, Disney+, AppleTV+ and the PBS app. In fact, there’s more content among all these channels than I can consume! How’s that for abundance! And only one of those services, AppleTV+, I pay for. The others I get at no cost to me.
I also enjoy a plethora of literature, which I access at no cost. Through my library, for example, I’m enjoying reading every Hugo Award-winning Science Fiction Novel. Many of those award-winners comprise multiple volumes. Books like Dune, the Murder Bot Diaries and The Broken Earth contain at least three books each! My library also has digital collections of popular magazines. So I enjoy access to literally hundreds of popular magazines. More than I can read each month!
Because I don’t “work” I enjoy ample time for meditation, contemplation, walks, bike rides and writing. Meanwhile, client work income covers all my needs. There’s a roof over my head that’s warm in winter, cool in summer. My fridge is full. Because I’m a vet, I enjoy healthcare at no cost to me through the Veteran’s Administration.
So am I really poor?
The app I used to access thousands of titles free.
Living richly in the now
Thinking about all this abundance I enjoy, I realized something crucial. I realized my client helped me amplify even further wealth I’ve already created. Actual monetary wealth, I mean.
In the Positively Focused Way we talk about the Moment of Becoming (MOB). Understanding what the MOB is makes all the difference in living a Charmed Life.
The MOB is the eternal now. Many New Age teachers talk about living in the now. When they do, they’re referring to the temporal now. They’re now is that moment that currently exists in the physical.
But the temporal now, from a vibrational standpoint is not now. That “now” is the past. It represents manifestED reality. Everything already happened in that “now”. Focusing there, we have no power, because everything already is. The real now is the MOB. There, everything is becoming or manifestING. The MOB is the eternal, true now, ever rich with swirling potential. Potential being orchestrated by cooperative elements. Elements taking their direction from focused beings. Beings like you and me.
We live in the MOB, but we temporarily focus in the manifestED reality. In the latter focus, we identify what we want from what we don’t want. That’s the purpose of manifestED reality. But the MOB is the true seat of power. When we communicate our desires from the MOB our Broader Perspective and All That Is takes our communication and orchestrates all the cooperative components so our desires fulfill themselves.
In THAT now, the real now, the MOB, I know my financial abundance is being orchestrated. I often feel it happening. So my state of being, my experience of life NOW, is that I’m rich beyond measure! Meanwhile, I get to enjoy manifestED reality, which includes a lot of abundance already. So much it can kinda get overwhelming…
Realizing the benefit
So why would I have attracted an experience where a client called me “poor”? I came to the answer a day after the session. The answer is really cool.
Everyone in our lives are reflections of our thoughts and beliefs. Every “thing” is too. But people particularly offer accurate reflections of what we have going on in our Belief Constellations. So when a person acts mean to us, that person reflects something active in our Belief Constellation that attracted that reflection. It’s something we want to look at and do something about.
Other people, therefore, constantly offer us compelling gifts: opportunities to clean up vibrations we may not know we have going on. So my client calling me “poor” was a blessing. A blessing I received fully.
In the last few years I’ve been soothing beliefs impacting my ability to manifest monetary abundance. I’ve produced excellent evidence that soothing is working. My client calling me “poor” then, indicated a wobble still in my vibration. One I want to smooth out. I had been doing so well manifesting money in moderate levels I hadn’t realized this vibration still existed in me.
Realizing this, I became excited. I reveled in the realization. That’s why I realized the benefit my client gave me was immense.
The rest of the week I buzzed around like a happy bee. I thought over and over about our exchange, appreciating the insight my “reflector” gave me.
The next session I shared with her my experience. I did that to further amplify my own appreciation. This post is part of that amplification. It was a wonderful unfolding.
A wonderful reminder of what I already get.
The journey is the gift
What’s really interesting is, when I didn’t resist her calling me poor in the session, she also shared that see sees me as a millionaire hundreds of times over. Even a billionaire, she said.
That wasn’t coincidence. For I’m focusing into my reality me being a centi-millionaire, even a billionaire. And realizing that outrageous fortune by doing nothing other than focusing my vibration. The fact that she went from calling me “poor” to sharing that she saw me as a billionaire was an accurate reflection, therefore. One that included the combination of my vibrational intent and beliefs I still have that aren’t so compatible with that.
The entire experience was stellar. And this is the thing: every experience humans have are like this one. In every moment, we’re in the bright light of unfolding desire. And, every desire is guaranteed to be realized by us. As soon as we line up with frequencies which are vibrational versions of the manifestation we desire.
Our entire life as gods in human form is about exactly this. It’s about enjoying every delicious moment of expansion. The more we find joy in the journey, the more joyful the journey gets. The better life gets.
I appreciate my client so much for the complete reflection she offered to me. Such a confirmation it was! A confirmation of all that I’m enjoying on this journey into my greater expansion!
Not long ago, a client offered an excellent metaphor. They were curious about something we talked about in our session. Curiosity is a great place to be. Curiosity will take one very close to the Charmed Life I write about.
Fascination is better. So is amazement. But those emotions naturally show up as clients create more and more evidence. More and more evidence validating everything I tell them in their Positively Focused sessions. Before they know it, the evidence piles up so high, they find themselves in fascination and amazement. Fascination and amazement turn to wonder not long after that. That’s because when one realizes they are worthy of all they desire, and they see those desires happening, wonder becomes the lens through which they experience life.
But I digress. Let’s get back to that client’s metaphor. It’s really instructive.
Clarity in a metaphor
Here’s what they wrote:
“Just want to make sure I understood…if we think of the barrier between conscious and subconscious as the surface of the ocean with the air being conscious thought and water being subconscious thought, then these little doubts and fears that briefly surface in the conscious mind are like icebergs, with the little bit on top one perceives and the huge mass of it (i.e., the momentum) still lurking below, even after one thinks they got a handle on it. Is this a more-or-less apt metaphor?”
The ice berg metaphor gets used often in describing consciousness. Same goes for oceans. So my client’s metaphor was unsurprising. The metaphor itself is mostly accurate.
But we humans over exaggerate what’s going on in life. We also bring that tendency to examining nonphysical, which “consciousness” is. Often, when we do over exaggerate, we do so in a negative direction. In other words, we catastrophize life.
Language often contributes to the catastrophization. Language is powerful. Words we choose literally shape our experience. You’ll see what I mean by taking a deeper look at my client’s metaphor.
Limits put on the limitless
The words “conscious” and “subconscious”, taken together, offer an example of how language can limit experience. When people use these words, they create two things out of something that actually is one thing. It seems there’s a “conscious” part of us. It’s that part of our awareness we’re aware of it. We’re conscious of it. Then there’s the “subconscious” part. We’re aware we have it. But we apparently can’t consciously access it.
So there’s a part of us we can access. And there’s a part we can’t. Between those two, apparently, a barrier exists. Our consciousness cannot pierce that barrier, which is what keeps the “sub” in subconscious.
The words we use have great power. They literally create our limits. (Photo by Glen Carrie on Unsplash)
But there is no actual separation between what people call “conscious” and “subconscious”. There is no barrier between the two. And there really isn’t even “two”. What does exist is our ability perceive all of what’s there, or not. Inability to perceive doesn’t necessarily mean a barrier blocks our ability to perceive. Inability to perceive only means we can’t perceive. We’re not able to. That’s not the same as “cannot”.
In Positively Focused sessions, clients learn to reunite their “conscious” and “subconscious”. Again, they were never separate to begin with. But our beliefs impose a division that’s not there. In doing so those beliefs limit what’s possible.
In our sessions, clients gradually realize everything is possible. Self-imposed limitations relax then. When that happens, one’s human awareness allows more and more, deeper, conscious awareness. This is why a Positively Focused practice includes dreamwork. We train our awareness to expand through to deeper levels of that awareness.
The results are profound.
Making life more serious than it is
Of course, expanding, deepening awareness takes place in physical too. It’s what causes clients to become more bold about life. We become more daring. More authentic. Which is something our Broader Perspective wants. Because of that, we feel a tremendous sense of adventure about life. Adventure and joy, pleasure and fun richly colors our life.
Self-imposed limits can block deeper self-awareness. After all, something existing in the “subconscious” implies we can’t access it. But nothing exists beyond our access. If we can ask the question, we can know the answer. That opens profound implications for self-awareness.
The other interesting thing about my client’s metaphor is it introduces drama and ominousness to the affair. That “huge mass” lurking beyond our perceptions stands ready to upend our plans. And we can’t access it so what do we do?
The reality is, nothing like that is happening. Seriousness, drama, and dire consequences are human constructs. Nothing “serious” happens in our lives. Even when it looks like it is, that’s our interpretation. And any interpretation can change. That’s what clients learn. And when they do, their life gets way better.
That’s why I use “Belief Constellation” instead of common metaphors explaining consciousness. For, as with constellations in the sky, our consciousness and everything in it is all visible…if we’re willing to connect the dots between feelings and thoughts, then other thoughts connected to that, and then other thoughts connected to that, then other thoughts connected…etc. Nothing is hidden from us. It’s all available to see, revel in, then create more of what we want.
But enjoying that means learning how to do it deliberately and consciously. Including how we speak about our experience.
Question: Do people who believe in manifestation believe in toxic positivity?
Answer: I cannot speak for all “people”. But I can speak with accuracy for myself, for Abraham and for Seth.
Anything someone believes will eventually prove “true”. But only for that person. And for those who become a match to that belief.
“Toxic Positivity” is a belief. It emerged only recently. As Law of Attraction gained prominence in recent decades some react strongly to its ideas. “Toxic Positivity” represents a manifestation of the originator’s struggle with their Belief Constellation. This person’s pessimism runs so strongly, Law of Attraction’s success prompts this equally strong, knee-jerk response.
A person who lives pessimistically, for example, might conclude from that orientation that life’s glass is “half-empty”. They’ll see life as a struggle, risky, inherently random and out of their control. From their perspective life will not go their way. So they draw pessimistic conclusions about life.
A conclusion is a belief. Any belief, held long enough, will prove true. So this person’s life will prove their conclusions about life true.
Life always reflects belief
Life experience has influence on belief. But life experience BENDS to belief. It is expectation (belief) that gets “life” going. And expectation determines future experience. However, once life gets going, seeing how beliefs create experience grows murky. That’s because we focus more on the physical world. We focus comparatively less on our inner world. But again, our inner world originates the outer.
So then, a chronically negative person will attract more negative experiences because that’s how they focus. This includes more negative thoughts and beliefs. They also put more attention on the outside world. They don’t consider their inner world and do something about their negative beliefs. Instead they take them for granted as indelibly true. So life gives more experience consistent with their “truth”.
But truth can change. It changes constantly.
Chronic negative focus makes attracting more negative beliefs a cinch. Same with negative experiences. IT WILL ALSO MAKE IT VERY HARD TO ACCEPT DISSIMILAR THOUGHTS.
Momentum creates more
So then consider when someone tells such a person, they create their reality. That someone says “change your beliefs to more positive ones you can improve your life experience”. Of course the listener’s Belief Constellation, their dominant negative focus, will vigorously repel such a statement. That’s because the statement confronts existing belief momentum. Momentum that is extremely strong. Momentum with a lot of evidence proving it “true”.
All That Is is extremely complex and diverse. It also is very creative. So “Toxic Positivity” is a creative term springing from a small part of All That Is. That small part represents consciousness focused predominantly in a negative orientation. That orientation will not allow the consciousness, nor the intelligence it possesses, from even considering positive orientation. It will, instead strenuously resist….then create a new idea for its extreme revulsion. The new idea will expand negative focus and give birth to a new label. The label? TOXIC Positivity. Labeling the idea will then vastly amplify that consciousness’ attachment to that belief and that preson’s negative orientation in the process.
So yes, it is real.
But so is every other thought. Any thought held long enough will manifest corresponding reality. In short, it (Toxic Positivity), the concept, is a thing. It is a manifestation. A manifestation of chronic negative focus. A focus held so long it cannot bear to accept what’s at the heart of All That Is: Pure Positive Energy.
Here’s another reason people think Law of Attraction doesn’t work: they use it to keep creating the same experiences over and over. So it looks like nothing’s changing.
But things are changing. They just keep changing into the same thing over and over. That’s why the Positively Focused practice examines belief constellations. For it is our constellations of beliefs that create our reality. Not what we want. Changing what’s in the constellations changes realities we create.
Abraham echoing what my clients discover. The discovery sparks mystery and joyful revelations too. Who doesn’t want that?
This belief constellation analysis is easier said than done. Which explains the benefit of someone who knows how to do the analysis. Often our most dominant thoughts, those with the most creative power, run under our conscious radar. So it can be hard to see what’s going on in our minds.
But uncovering what’s happening in our minds opens whole new worlds of possibilities, mysteries and joyful discoveries. It literally makes every dream available. And that makes the effort worth putting in.
That’s why Positively Focused clients feel so inspired. Once they see what they want showing up everywhere, inspiration takes over. After a while, they become more bold in their aspirations.
It’s waiting for us all
My own aspirations now lie far above what most believe possible. Yet, I already see evidence they are manifesting. Anything is possible. Only belief limits that.
And that’s why I really enjoy this practice. Practicing it with others amplifies my own joy. It’s the best of the best of worlds. Being a deliberate creator and helping others become one too. Then seeing the world improve, one person at a time.
The best of what life offers is ours. All we need do is believe it is. Then it becomes that. Then that becomes our life. The delicious Charmed Life I write about.
Documentary films often include an unknown danger for most people, which is why it’s really good advice to not watch so many. Or any at all. Here’s why.
I recently watched a documentary called Human Playground narrated by actor Idris Elba. It’s a series about humanity’s supposed preoccupation with games. Particularly games originating from us needing to survive, fight, kill and endure pain. One episode, for example, explores humans living on the Steppes of Far East Asia. Their sport: game hunting using Golden Eagles.
The same episode follows Amy Palmiero-Winters, the first female amputee to compete in the grueling Marathon des Sables. Marathon Des Sables is a six-day, 156 mile ultramarathon. Rules require runners to carry everything they need with them as they run what essentially is six regular marathons back-to-back. Meanwhile, a camel walks behind the pack of runners. Those the camel overtakes before crossing the finish line are out of the race.
Palmiero-Winters doesn’t win. In fact, she doesn’t finish. Instead, she ends up in a horrible-to-watch fetal grimace as EMTs inject her with fluids. Other aids help with excruciating leg cramps she has even as she screams in pain from the help they offer.
Photo of the first British Runners to complete the Marathon des Sables (Dr Mike Stroud OBE, Rene Nevola, Richard Cooper and Prof Mike Lean). (Photo By Rene Nevola – Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0)
Laughing out loud
It’s all great TV. And it would otherwise be harmless entertainment if I didn’t know what I know. The problem with Elba’s documentary, and many such films, is a dangerous overreach reinforcing disempowering beliefs humans spread to one another like a rampant COVID mutation.
For example, less than two minutes into Rites of Passage, the third installment of the series, Elba offers what seems like an innocuous assertion. But the words flowing from his mouth are as powerful, if not more so, as they are seemingly harmless.
The show begins with the camera closing in on a fog-enshrouded village in Madagascar. At village center is a group of brown people. Elba sets up the scene with an ominous VoiceOver.
“Birth,” Elba says. “Is a lottery. We don’t get to choose the culture we’re born into. Which means, we don’t get to choose the games we play either.”
On it’s face, this statement is so ridiculous, I literally laughed out loud when I heard it. But then I thought about millions or tens of millions of people who will hear what he said and unconsciously accept Elba’s words as true.
Elba is a popular entertainment figure. Many love him, and for good reason. The problem accompanying such fame and adoration should be obvious. Just because Elba, or any famous person, merits fame for their talents, doesn’t qualify them on any other subject. But many people take their words as though backed by something substantial just because of their celebrity.
Madagascar is the location for one episode of the documentary Human Playground. (Photo by gemmmm 🖤 on Unsplash)
Mind your thoughts, Luke
Make no mistake, Elba’s talents shine as an actor. Box office receipts substantiate the assertion. When it comes to acting, Elba is an authority.
But Elba and many people like him, including documentarians, don’t understand squat about how reality happens.
The problem lies not only in Elba’s ignorance, but also in the power of suggestion. The power of suggestion is a neutral force. However, that neutrality masks its effectiveness. Few people consciously understand suggestion’s power. By “suggestion” I mean words, thoughts, beliefs, their underlying vibration and that vibration’s electromagnetism.
Humans live literally swimming in a sea of suggestions. It’s why Yoda and other Jedi Masters exhort their padewans be mindful of their thoughts and feelings. Yoda knew thoughts pack a tremendous punch. The unconscious mind will readily accept nearly any suggestion vibrationally matching one’s dominant vibrational momentum.
The vast majority of people don’t understand “thoughts create reality”. So they unwittingly expose themselves to all kinds of disempowering suggestions. Internet memes, ad and election campaign slogans, even “news” messaging come packed with suggestion. Some vehicles deliver relatively harmless suggestions. Others communicate awful suggestions. Some reinforce ideas so disempowering, they disconnect people from their experience as God in human form.
Instead of minding one’s thoughts, as Yoda urges, most people’s subconscious indiscriminately gobbles up all kinds of suggestive messages. And it all happens with the human largely oblivious.
That obliviousness made Fox News and Fox News mirror doppelgänger MSNBC rich and powerful. It’s also causing great misery among many Americans. Americans who turn on one another on political, religious and racial grounds.
Life reflects belief
Elba’s statement above represents suggestions which disconnect people from their Godhood. They’re so innocuous sounding, they go unchecked. Such suggestions go right by conscious awareness and into the subconscious. From there, they create reality.
But Elba’s assertion – made as though it’s fact – is not fact. A simple process of discovery will reveal that we do indeed choose when, where, and every other birth factor. That includes our parents, economic situations and, yes, the culture and games in that culture. Unfortunately for many, this discovery process necessarily takes a while. So few will do it long enough to discover they choose everything they experience.
The results are so convincing, however, it makes Elba’s assertion, and his ignorance, laughable, which is why I laughed when he said what he said.
Elba’s assertion that we come into the world as through a lottery, acts at subtle levels. Once accepted, they generate insecurity in the individual. That insecurity attracts other suggestions with similar electromagnetic properties. People unwittingly then create lives filled with random, risky and unfavorable situations. Other people are seen as scary and threatening, especially those who look or think differently.
If a person believes life is random, by definition, one has no control over life. That makes life a risky, scary proposition. People immersed in such insecurity often deny their insecurity. But a life filled with “ups and downs”, or mostly downs, comes from unwittingly accepting such disempowering suggestions as “Birth is a lottery.”
Of course all beliefs prove true if believed long enough. Then, the person will defend their beliefs as true. Even when those beliefs create extremely painful, miserable, dangerous and frightening life experiences.
Most documentaries fill our heads with unhealthy suggestions. Which is why I watch hardly any. (Photo by Chandler Media on Unsplash)
Most documentaries aren’t worth watching
A lot of documentaries become successful based on the enraging nature of their content. Often, the more enraging the content, the more popular the documentary gets. And it’s those very documentaries we all might want to consider avoiding like the plague.
I don’t use the world “plague” lightly. For just like a plague, such documentaries spread like viruses. They infect us with negative suggestions while rarely offering solutions to problems they present. Yes, some win acclaim. Their makers gain massive fame, fortunes and awards. Some create momentum which changes culture for the better.
But at what fundamental price? Many documentaries present problems so great no single person can do anything about them.
Then there are documentaries like Elba’s Human Playground. Seemingly innocuous shows about humanity which amplify common, yet no less disempowering, suggestions. After watching the first installment, I felt something amiss. After the first few minutes of the third installment I shut it off. I’m not planning to watch any more.
I prefer minding my thoughts, allowing only suggestions in which support the reality I want. Admittedly, such attention requires diligence. But extraordinary, deliberate living, the Charmed Life I write about, demands such fine-tuned attention.
We live in a sea of suggestions. I’m committed to selecting from among that sea only suggestions adding to my joy. Suggestions amplifying my knowing that I am the creator of my reality. Which is why I avoid pretty much all documentaries. You should as well.
