I’ve added yet another running series “Q/A” to my blog. It’s…well…about answering questions I get through the internets and sharing those answers with others as they may help others feel inspired and more connected to the God they are.
Question: Alright well if you say hard work is not the key to success then what is? Growing up we’ve always heard that you can get anything you want, you just have to be willing to work hard for it. But if hard work really isn’t the key to success then what is? I really like your approach and any feedback on this would be much appreciated.
That you’re asking them shows your openness to their answers. That’s more than half of what it takes to get to the answer. So good for you for asking.
You’re right. So many parents teach us that working hard is the key. Heck, all society tells us that: our teachers, our politicians, TV and movies, music…virtually everything in the physical world echoes this sentiment. Who am I to contradict it?
I’m someone who knows better.
Many reasons explain why nearly all society enforces this idea. Before answering your question, it’s important knowing some of these reasons.
Most have no idea
One, the reason why so many in our society, including our parents, parrot this bad advice is because that’s what they’ve been told.
Think about it: nearly everyone who succeeds claims “hard work” as their key. What most don’t realize is, they think that because they’ve been told that. They fall back on that because, really, they can’t explain their success, feel guilty or insecure about it and use this ubiquitous answer. Not because it IS the answer, but because so many people believe it. And in parroting it they defend themselves when others claim they don’t deserve success they created.
Which is why so many, when they claim their success comes from their own hard work, they make that claim often stridently or angrily. Have you notice that?
But notice those who are really successful, extraordinarily successful. Those people won’t attribute success to “hard work”. The ones who own their success and aren’t ashamed or embarrassed by it, the ones who don’t listen to those who claim they don’t deserve their success, they attribute it to “luck” or “fortune”.
This gets closer to the truth. They have no idea how they did it. They know it wasn’t their “hard work”. After all, many of them will acknowledge they didn’t actually work very hard.
But they don’t know what the key was either. That’s why they give luck, God, or fortune credit. Not themselves.
The answer is play
The key is the same thing that had you enjoy your early youth. It’s a care-free-ness, it’s a playfulness, a joyfulness, a rambunctious self-knowing. This is borne of knowing you’re god in human form (as I put it) or, in other words, living in “grace” “deservedness” and “worthiness”.
As a very young child this is obvious. But as people “grow up”, they trade this knowing (often by necessity) in favor of parents’ bogus ideas of what it takes. I did this for many years.
Thankfully, I came to my senses. 😂
I’m not Christian, yet it must be acknowledged that Jesus was onto something when he said (something like) to enter Heaven’s Kingdom, you must become as a child. “Heaven’s kingdom” is a metaphor for “success” (however you define it).
So the answer to the question is, become like you were. Know your clarity, your self-love, your blessedness, your worthiness. The vast majority of humans don’t believe they’re worthy. Or they think they lost it. And they don’t know how to get it back.
Knowing your worthiness works because when you know your worthiness you discover the Universe constantly gives you whatever you focus on as a desire. You realize it’s not your job to make things happen. Rather it’s your job to bask in your blessedness…just like birds, bees and flowers…and allow the Universe to shower you with your deserved blessings as it does for birds, bees and flowers.
Doing that amplifies your knowing that you’re blessed. For how could you not believe you’re blessed when you witness everything you want coming easily to you?
You have one job
But since you’re not a bird, bee or flower, it’s a bit more complicated than that. You must also be open to hearing signals coming from your deeper knowing that guide you in action towards that which you want.
Follow those guides and, in time, you’ll gradually come into all you desire. That’s your one and only job.
For following these guides will ALWAYS feel like fun, excitement, passion, joy…and this is why that second group of people, the really successful, will acknowledge they didn’t work hard. Because it didn’t feel like “hard work”.
It was fun, a blast, a head trip, a big party, the time of their lives….in other words, they followed their inner knowing.
The challenge is, most people shut down the connection through which “inner knowing” can be “heard”. I show people how to reopen that connection.
It’s extremely simple
So that’s the key: knowing you’re blessed. When you know that, you see reality differently. When you see it differently, you see everything you want happening on your behalf. Not “believing” that’s what’s happening, but actually seeing it happening.
Then hard work isn’t necessary. Just joyful being. That’s what everyone knew life would be like when they chose to be here.
I write every week about what opening that connection looks like, how to practically implement what I’ve described as the key: how to find the lock, insert the key, turn it and unlock the door leading to the effortless having of the Charmed Life.
It’s extremely simple. Far more simple than what our world tells us.
So you know what you want. You know now you can have it without hard work. I suggest you test it out and see what happens. I promise you, you’ll be amazed, delighted and, eventually, ecstatic at how great life gets. Just as I feel delight and amazement at how easily this response rolled through my fingers! What fun!