Being An Empath: A Good thing? Think Again.

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Someone wrote me recently asking if being an “empath” is real. They wondered how Law of Attraction works for empaths since no one, this person claims, can “absorb another’s feelings.”

It’s a good question. The question sits right among other questions people don’t want answers to because the answers, while accurate, confront commonly-accepted explanations about life and how it works.

Society accepts people calling themselves empaths. Lots of articles online describe its characteristics. Such articles also offer advice about being one. They suggest ways of negotiating struggles empaths have, and how to become an empath if you’re not.

For the record, I would NEVER recommend someone become an empath. Nor would I recommend anyone claim that word to describe themselves if they think they are one. Here’s why.

“Empath”: a slur hardly anyone knows about

A lot of empaths get bunged up when someone claims being an “empath” isn’t real. I had a business relationship turn sour when I told the person I considered doing business with that such a thing isn’t real.

I didn’t know back then what I know now.

Law of Attraction says anyone can create any reality they want. Hold a belief long enough, it says, and it will become “true” for the person holding the belief. Seth confirms this in their writings too. Their book “The Magical Approach” lays out exactly how Law of Attraction works although they don’t call it that.

The dictionary definition based on a science perspective. Not the best perspective when considering things outside of science’s purview.

So let’s take a gander at what’s happening with “empaths”, whether they’re real or not, how Law of Attraction works for them and why I would recommend no one call themselves an empath.

Looking at what it is

The definition I pasted above comes from mainstream culture. Its underlying message is the whole idea of a person who can “apprehend” the mental and emotional state of another is “paranormal”, meaning beyond the scope of normal scientific understanding. Alright then. Good start.

In other words, science will not be helpful here. Same holds true with Law of Attraction. People saying Law of Attraction is false will argue no scientific evidence exists supporting its veracity.

And the definition of the word used to describe empathic abilities.

Well, Law of Attraction is PARANORMAL, meaning it is “beyond the scope of science” and therefore out of science’s reach or purview. In other words, science has no say in the matter because Law of Attraction is out of its scope.

Now, an empath is someone who can perceive and understand (that’s what “apprehend” means in this context) what another feels or thinks. The key distinction between perception such as this, which we all have, and an empath, is that an empath perceives and understands what another feels or thinks as though what another thinks or feels are the empath’s thoughts and feelings.

Is that actually happening?

Maybe…

We all are one

On the one hand, at a level beneath ordinary conscious awareness we all are one. At the deepest level of our being, all of us share the same Source. It exists beyond the unconscious mind, as illustrated below. That 4th stage, far right, called Turiya in Yoga Theory, is that state of being.

A masterful diagram of human consciousness derived from “yogic science”. “A” represents waking consciousness, functioning through the body, the senses and our intellect/mind. “U” represents that part of the conscious we have active access to, which informs how we use section “A”. “M” represents that part of the consciousness which creates consistent behavior patterns in A and U. It is accessible through disciplined practices such as Positively Focused. “4th” represents the eternal, indestructible essence of what we all are.

So connections exist between us all, which, in theory, would have us able to perceive another’s mental or emotional state. This connection is accessible, but only with a lot of practice. Do empaths experience others’ experiences –  thoughts, feelings, etc. – as their own? Or is something else happening?

We all are one. And our feelings tell us something really important. Empaths miss this totally. (Photo by Brock Wegner on Unsplash)

Vibratory receptivity

Law of Attraction says everything has a basis in vibration. And, “that which is liken to itself is drawn”. Remember that.

We live in a vibrational environment, which our senses (see the left side of the picture above) interpret into objects and space. “Everything” includes us humans. We, therefore, are vibrational energy beings, who created our bodies as a way to expand into more and better via this “reality” which we also create, just like our bodies. I wrote extensively about why and how that is on Quora in case you’re interested.

Since we’re all one at the basis of what we are, and since we all are also vibration, it’s absolutely true each of us can harmonize with another’s vibration, or be open to grok another’s vibration such that we perceive the vibratory content of that person.

That’s part of what’s happening with “empaths”.

Sloppy vibrational focus creates “empathic abilities

But there’s a dark side to what’s happening with people claiming empathic abilities.This aspect needn’t happen and, frankly, shouldn’t. It happening gives rise to all problems empaths experience. It also kiboshes any chance of an empath experiencing the Charmed Life I write about.

In a nutshell, an empath experiences what they experience because they are sloppy in their vibrational focus. Empaths suffer from their “empathic abilities” because of this. I put “empathic abilities” in quotes because it’s not really an “ability”.

Rather, it’s a failure on the part of the “empath” to deliberately apply creative vibrational focus. Instead of doing that, they allow themselves to harmonize with what they’re observing. In other words, as the Law of Attraction says, they become liken to that which they observe, then get drawn into it (they become it).

Then the empath thinks they are doing something special. But they’re not doing something special. They’re doing something sloppily. Empaths allow their vibration to tune to that of another person. When they do that, they experience what the other experiences, but it’s their version of it, not what the person experiences.

That’s why I call “empath” a slur. Instead of describing something desirable, “empath” describes a state where one allows another’s vibration or something they’re observing to downwardly influence their own vibration.

Struggles empaths experience are self-inflicted. (Photo by Molnár Bálint on Unsplash)

Charmed Life or self-inflicted struggle?

Many “empaths” feel overwhelmed by their surroundings. Again, this is because they’re not focusing their vibration deliberately. Instead, they just “let it all in” the good, the bad and the ugly.

Not just that, they go even farther. They also let their vibration merge or come into harmonic alignment with that which they’re allowing in. In other words, the environment they’re in, vibrationally dominates them.

But they could tune and then, hold their vibration and dominate the environment thereby creating something better than what was there before.

If they did the latter, they wouldn’t experience “empathic abilities”, they’d experience the Charmed Life. That’s because when a person’s vibration dominates their environment, and their vibration is high, that environment MUST reflect back to the person their dominant, high vibration.

Abraham putting it plain. Empaths get created when people let their thinking get sloppy. Negative experiences they have are trying to tell them to knock off their sloppy vibrational management.

I could be an empath, but would NEVER use that term

In 1:1 sessions with clients I create a deliberate, vibratory “bubble”. There, I dominate the experience with my very high vibration. That’s why my clients always exclaim how much better they feel after their sessions. They also come to greater insights about their lives, because my focus brings them up to a high vibrational state from which they perceive life differently.

Here’s a client acknowledging results he got, and his appreciation, after just two sessions. Before joining me in my “bubble”, he was on the verge of suicide.

Having practiced this practice for over 15 years now, it’s very easy for me to perceive what another person feels. Sometimes I can tell what they’re thinking too. That’s because, I’ve cultivated the ability to perceive at the vibrational (Source) level, and allow that perception into mine. This skill heightens significantly in the bubble.

NEVER allow a client’s vibration to effect mine. Never. Ever. Doing so would not serve the client. And, it would be exactly what Abraham says not to do: allow what you observe to effect your vibration.

So to me, being an “empath” is real. But being one isn’t a gift or something someone wants to be, unless they don’t understand what being an empath is about. It’s just a person who is somewhat vibrationally attuned, being sloppy with their vibration.

I prefer being a vibrational snob. Doing so has served me well. In this brief video, Abraham describes why everyone should strive for vibrational snobbiness.

A vibrational snob is something you really want to be. Not an empath.

How Law of Attraction works for empaths

Law of Attraction works for everyone. Even those who believe it doesn’t work. For an “empath”, it’s amplifying the effect of their sloppy vibration management. Giving it (the sloppiness) a high-falutin’ word like “empath” further amplifies it, for now, the person believes they are something special.

And that focus adds momentum to their thoughts and actions. They are prone to do more of what they are doing and thus feel more of what they’re feeling (somewhat out of control, a victim of their surroundings, powerless to manage their feelings, tired, anxious, etc.).

But, such people come into the world with a great ability. If they deliberately manage their vibration, they can use their sensitivity to help others. The Star Trek character Deanna Troy, a supposed “empath” offers an example of what such people can be. She is stoic, aware, clear about distinguishing what she’s feeling and what SHE HERSELF FEELS. That’s a powerful distinction from most empaths I know.

In my experience, people who claim that title, tend to live lives of struggle, especially socially. Again, this is their doing, a product of sloppy vibrational tuning, amplified by their focus on the sloppiness.

So, yes, there is such a thing as “empath”. But it’s not something I would want to claim. Instead, I prefer vibrational mastery. That’s what I show my clients how to attain. Then we get to enjoy our Charmed Lives. Where everything we want happens.

Why Negative Energy Scares People, But Shouldn’t

Positively Focused Q-A

Question, if pure positive energy is infinite intelligence. What is pure negative energy?

That’s a great question. The answer is: there’s no such thing. What people call “negative” energy, isn’t a thing. “Negative” energy is defined by its relationship to positive energy. This requires deeper explanation.

For simplicity, instead of using the word “energy”, let’s use “light”. Using that word, we would say “pure positive light”. Rephrasing your question using our new word, we’d ask: well what is pure negative light? Or what is darkness?

But can you see how that doesn’t make sense? What IS darkness? Isn’t it “the absence of light?” Abraham from Law of Attraction fame uses this analogy often.

To make your bedroom dark at night, or for night to fall, there’s no “darkness” switch you turn on, nor is there something that replaces the sun making it dark. Nope. You turn off the light with the light switch, and the sun simply moves behind the earth which blocks the light.

Negative doesn’t exist

The same is true with energy. There’s no “negative” energy, there’s only the blocking of, or not allowing, or turning away from positive energy. Experiences that then happen when you do that feel bad.

That “bad” experience gets stronger, of course, just like any other “negative momentum” does and for the same reason. It strengthens in order to clue the person in to the fact that they’re no longer tuned to positive energy or no longer in the light.

In other words, when a person turns away from the light, Infinite Intelligence and their Inner Being along with Law of Attraction brings to that person “negative” experiences designed to tell the person what they’re doing.

That way they can turn back to the light, i.e. get back to positivity.

Doesn’t that make such experiences then, of the light?

We think so!

How Powerful Results Result From Doing Nothing

The Universe stands ready to deliver on every desire. It’s happening already all the time. But powerful manifestation results best show up when a person understands the role “doing” plays in manifestation.

In the future I’ll share how my relationship with Abraham came into being. In the meantime, as part of the Positively Focused features series, I’ll write brief posts on emails I receive from Abraham, which offer insight from them on particular topics.

What I find interesting about these emails is, in addition to their solid content, they often come with perfect timing. They tie directly to or remind me and encourage me about something going on in my life. So I find these emails great additions to my Positively Focused routine. Sign up to receive these emails at this link on Esther’s website.

So here’s the first of this new feature series.

Anything can happen

Here’s the first email:

When I talk with clients, they often miss the message. They hear what I say, but they don’t understand how profound or important what I’ve said is. For example, I’ll point out something they said as evidence of the Positively Focused practice working. Clients early on are always looking for proof. But they don’t know where to look for early stage proof. So I show them.

But when I point it out, it often goes unregistered. Which is why some clients take a while before they start producing really solid results and why I often repeat myself 😂. I think the same thing holds true for what Abraham says. People let it wash over their ears or eyes while not really taking it in.

In this email for example, Abraham offers unequivocal assertions about how the universe works. They’re saying whatever you want you can have it. Anything.

But having it requires a certain attitude. I often tell clients they must be a match to what they want. Another, easier, way is if they can hold no resistance about what it is they want…it must happen. Holding no resistance is easier because often when someone focuses on trying to become a match to what they want, they inadvertently activate built up resistance. This often looks like putting attention on the absence of what’s wanted. And clients do this while unaware that’s what they’re doing.

Manifest effortlessly

So when Abraham says “get out of the way” it’s another way of saying “allowing” it to happen. That means introducing no resistance. “Relaxing” means turning attention to something other than what is wanted, so you forget about what you want. With your attention off it, it will come. Effortlessly.

Most of us don’t like that because we’ve all been trained that “doing” is the way to make things happen. That’s a trap though. Taking action is never meant as the way things happen. Action represents the final cooperative components coming into place. One final cooperative component often is the desire-er. So action or doing doesn’t make anything happen. Instead, it brings the desire-er to the “coordinates” in time and space where they receive, perceive or witness their manifestation’s full-blown unfolding.

Everyone moving around the world taking action think action makes things happen. And, when one believes that, that becomes true, as any belief will because beliefs create reality reflecting their content. But that kind of reality can be hard, arduous and disappointing.

The trouble with “manifesting”, is many don’t culture the patience required to allow their resistance to sooth sufficiently enough so they can see evidence of the unfolding. That combined with “doing indoctrination” trips people up on the way to their manifestation. They look for it too soon. Not seeing it, they feel doubt, which indicates resistance in place.

So many think this “manifesting business” doesn’t work for this reason. But it does work. A person just needs to know HOW it works. That’s what I help people know.

My Birthday Got Better After Starting Great

Last September I took the Amtrak Cascades train north through the beautiful coastal Pacific Northwest. It was my birthday and I treated myself to an awesome outing.

But what happened gave me more than I bargained for. It also showed precisely why I practice creating my Charmed Life through a Positively Focused practice.

Curious about what a “Charmed Life” looks like? Read on…

I booked my trip a week in advance. So when the travel day came, my birthday, I packed my bike then rode to downtown Portland’s Union Station. There I checked in then found a nice spot in the lobby.

Portland’s Union Station in all its glory.

That’s when….

The Fun Began…

I rested my bike beside me at the end of a long passenger bench. Moments later, a lanky gentleman walked by pushing an older bike.

Me and my Surly.

“Nice bike,” he said, looking at my Surly Straggler.

“Thanks,” I replied before noticing his bike, a Surly Long Haul Trucker. The same brand as mine, only a different model. I knew then a gift just walked by. So I pursued him then introduced myself.

“I’m Optimistic Chris,” he said with a smile. Then he regaled me with his story.

No wonder my Broader Perspective wanted me to followup with him. This “chance” meeting wasn’t chance at all.

Optimistic Chris and his partner “Lovely Laura” are known on Facebook and Instagram as “Soulmate Cyclists“.

While he told me their story, he radiated positivity and also a sense of someone who achieved something great.

Which he had. He just finished a 4,000-mile, 93-day solo ride on his Surly from Portland, Maine to Portland, Oregon by way of all the wonderful attractions one would imagine.

How fun.

Optimistic Chris and his Surly.
Soulmate Cyclist calling card.

“Couple” turns “solo”

Chris told me Lovely Laura’s companionship was part of the plan. But he left her behind. That’s because three years ago, a deer tick gave her Lyme disease, making such a ride potentially very uncomfortable. She told Chris to go without her (she really is lovely). So here Chris was, at Portland’s Union Station sharing his accomplishment with me instead of Laura.

Lovely Laura, the other half of “Soulmates” (Photo courtesy their Instagram).

Chris explained that Laura was waiting for him back in Madison, Wisconsin where he lives. He obviously enjoyed his trip and looked enlivened by it even though his soulmate couldn’t be there.

It was special meeting Chris, and I know my trip, like his, would be special too. Here I was, not even on the train yet and it already was!

Onboard salty conversations

Once onboard though, delightful surprises continued. I sat in a comfy seat in the passenger car. Above me were my saddle bags in the overhead, packed with camera gear and other equipment, my computer and iPad.

Several hundred feet behind me, in a separate car, hung my bike. It swayed on its cargo hook, as the train curved along the tracks that passed over Portland’s Willamette River.

Once in Southern Washington, I treated myself to a hot chocolate, one of my favorite beverages. I make a delicious hot chocolate at home. Torani sugar free vanilla flavored syrup, Trader Joe’s chocolate powder, marshmallows, and my secret ingredient: salt, all go into my cocoa concoction.

The brew I enjoy most in fall and winter. Hot cocoa made my way.

Because of this, I tempered my expectations as I figured none of those would be available on the train.

They weren’t. But, just like meeting Optimistic Chris, what was available delighted me still.

At the snack car, a young woman greeted me with a smile so wide and bright, it shone from behind her face cover. Tara introduced herself and asked what I wanted. When I told her I wanted a hot cocoa, I asked what kind she had. She told me and we agreed, it likely wouldn’t be as good as my concoction. I told her what my secret ingredient was.

She said she hadn’t tried that, but thought it would make ordinary, watery cocoa better, so she showed me where the salt packets hung out.

Train wide recognition

While Tara prepared my cocoa (sans marshmallows) we chatted a bit. We talked about her namesake (she was named after her father) and how she likes her cocoa rich too, like me. So she adds two packs instead of one when she makes cocoa at home. I didn’t miss the two now-empty Swiss Miss packages on her stainless steel prep station beside my paper cup. 🙏🏾🥰

Minutes later, Tara handed me the hot cup. What happened next surprised me.

“You get my favorite customer award,” Tara said. “Your cocoa is on the house.”

“That’s crazy!” I exclaimed. “Today’s my birthday!”

“I must have sensed it!” she said, her smile beaming again through her mask.

Tara the day maker for whom I made the day!

Settling back into my seat with cocoa in hand, I didn’t realize Tara’s wasn’t through with me. Her voice came over the intercom.

“We have a special passenger on board today. Happy birthday Perry!” She said.

My ride really begins…

The train arrived in Seattle late, but in one piece. So did my bike and I. I retrieved my Surly from an admiring cargo car attendant, attached my panniers and slowly rode down the platform, through the station and out onto Seattle’s streets.

End of the line at Seattle King Station.

The rest of the morning and early afternoon were wonderful, filled with Seattle’s sights and sounds, including portions of the Puget Sound I spied from bikeways on my way through downtown.

Seattle has a surprisingly good bike trail system. The trail catching my interest on my birthday was the Burke-Gillman Trail, one of the city’s premier riding trails.

My adventure primarily focused on this 27-mile, multi-use recreational trail, running from Ballard to Bothell, Washington.

First I took a detour to a bagel shop my housemate recommended. Their Lox sandwich didn’t disappoint, which I ate at Gas Works Park. There, right on the water, I took in beautiful weather, and the oddest looking water vessel I had ever seen:

It’s a boat…made out of a hot tub!
The best bagel I’ve ever had.

More fun and leisure

Other stops along my ride offered interesting scenery, views of things I hadn’t seen before, and parks along waterways at which I lounged during breaks.

Riding along a downtown waterside trail.
Parked beside a wonderful view.
The destination trail: Burke Gillman.
More Burke Gillman.
Gas Works Park
Seattle Skyline from Gas Works Park.
A submarine commemoration park along my ride.
Fins galore…I find out why…

The real adventure starts

While hanging out at that park where the fins were, I kept close eye on the clock. I wanted to catch my train and knew I needed about the same amount of time it took me to get to the park, to get back to the station.

About an hour later, it was near time to go back. I packed my things, then mounted my Surly. A third of the way towards the station, I received a text message from Amtrak:

My train was going to be an hour late departing. So instead of rushing back to the station I took my time.

When I arrived at 6:17pm, the security guard outside the station must have known what was up. He looked and me and shook his head then said “you’re here for the 507?”

“Yes,” I said.

“I’m sorry man,” he said. “It left already.”

I must have shown shock because before I could pull out my phone and show him the text, he said “I know. You’re not the only one. You get a text or an email?”

“Text” I said.

What happened?

He told me to go to the ticket counter. Five people ranging from frustrated to furious milled around. One irate woman shouted “Somebody better get fired for this!”

Meanwhile Brittany, the Amtrak agent, explained what happened. After that, her manager came out and apologized too.

“A miscommunication happened on our part,” He said. He offered refunds or reschedules for the next day. Everyone there lived in Seattle, so it was no big deal for them, most said.

But I had no change of clothes, no toothbrush, nothing. Rains were on the way and I didn’t want to sleep overnight in my 58 year old body on a Seattle King Station wooden bench.

That’s when Brittany caught my eye. When she pulled me aside, I explained my situation again. She apologized and took notes of my case.

The Lovely Brittany.

Brittany told me I should write to Amtrak customer relations. But she couldn’t guarantee anything would happen. Meanwhile I needed someplace to stay. I told Brittany, quite confidently, that Amtrak would reimburse me for a hotel and asked her to direct me to the nearest one.

She pointed to the Embassy Suites right next to the station. Then she offered storage space for my bike. I stored my bike then walked over to the hotel. Ben, the front desk attendant met me with a smile. I smiled back and happily told my story, then asked for the cheapest room in the place, adding that I was sure Amtrak would reimburse me.

Ben told me he’d hook me up for the night and not to worry. Handing me the key card and giving the overview spiel, he then said “let me know what you think about the room.”

Knocking my nickers off!

Ben had done a number on me. In a good way. He gave me a corner suite. It had a gargantuan bathroom, a kitchenette, living room and separate bedroom suite. A giant flat screen TV occupied the living room wall…and bedroom wall. Both sported a personalized greeting.

A quick tour of the room Ben gave me. It’s spacious.

Needless to say Ben earned my admiration. The entire staff, in fact, did. For the next morning, they treated me to the most scrumptious hotel breakfast I’ve ever had.

I enjoyed my evening. In fact, after touring the room and thanking Ben profusely for his generosity, I realized now I could go get that ice cream a friend recommended I experience. I figured hours ago I didn’t have time to visit, but not any more!

I only got the empty cup to show for it. Trust me, it was yummy!

Nom nom. Ae delicious treat I enjoyed to the last slurp.

Home, making my case

The next morning was uneventful, with the ride home a calm experience. From Seattle to Centralia I passed the time with a woman who, like me, had engaged in psychedelics. My preference: ayahuasca. Her’s: mushrooms, which she enjoyed the night before. We talked about our experiences, about art, mantras and perceiving life differently from most people.

When I got home I went into crafting my email to Amtrak. I called their Customer Relations department, got the correct email address and dashed off my perspective in a fun, positive story, just like what I’m sharing here. I included many of the same photos, including this one of me using a hair dryer to dry my only pair of underwear, which I washed in the bathroom sink.

My dirty drawers, now cleaned and drying under the hair dryer’s blast.

You can read my email here. It’s a pdf version saved to my cloud drive.

A month passed without hearing anything. So I called and spoke to a lovely Customer Relations person, who I told I was happy to meet her and that I was going to make her day by being her best telephone call. When she laughed I asked her name. Tonya, she said.

Meanwhile, I heard her fingers clicking across a keyboard. Moments later she said “Well, looks like someone reviewed your email [yesterday].”

“That’s great,” I said. “That means they haven’t rejected it.”

“You sure are positive,” she said.

“Yes, I am,” I said, smiling at her recognizing my super power.

A few minutes later, Tonya told me someone would get back to me in a few days. A few days later, someone did. Adam Bland from Amtrak Customer Relations wrote me a lovely email. Here’s what it said:

A happy ending

The Charmed Life looks like this trip. Where everything I do and everything I encounter fulfills me deeply. People I meet are friendly angels looking to amplify my already high-flying joy.

More of my life includes ongoing events just like what I experienced on this trip. That’s not surprising, for I now enjoy a Positively Focused momentum which perpetuates the Charmed Life I enjoy. I write about those experiences in this blog each week.

Experiences on this trip proved how being Positively Focused creates that life where everything works out for me. This hyper-condensed series of fantastic-seeming experiences can be anyone’s. I’m not special.

All that’s needed is desire then a commitment to seeing the best in everything and everyone. In other words finding the positive side of life.

My birthday started great, but it got far better because of my attitude. The rest of my life is shaping similarly. So can yours.

How Great Client Sessions Create Better Life Events For Me

Photo by Tran Mau Tri Tam on Unsplash

I love it when my clients’ experiences highlight my own negative focus, thereby allowing me to do something about that, the doing of which amplifies my Positively Focused practice.

That sounds convoluted. But it rings true in light of what happened in a recent client session.

In the session, my client shared a wonderful unfolding manifestation she created. Weeks ago, she encountered a women’s group called Sisters On The Fly, which empowers women through outdoor adventures. They explore the world in recreational vehicles, on horses, in canoes and more. Through such experiences they create independent, capable women.

These explorations serve as backdrops for building community, camaraderie and lifelong friendships. Fly fishing, horse back riding, camping, hiking, biking and kayaking all are on the agenda.

My client camped, fished and hiked before. But a lot of what these women do, she’s never done, including riding a bike! So Sisters On The Fly offered something special to my client. An opportunity to expand friendships and experiences.

A good story turns great

While listening to my client, I saw that sparkle of passion blaze in her eyes. Little did I know, she was just getting started.

One day, my client said, she called her partner Dale at work. She asked how he was doing. Dale works as consignment manager at an RV dealership.

“Today,” Dale said. “I’m doing great because I’m the customer.”

Dale often jokes with his partner, my client. Some days his joking annoys her. Today was one of those days. But in her annoyance, my client missed clues Dale offered. Clues indicating he had a big surprise for her. A surprise that dovetailed perfectly with Sisters On The Fly. One that would cause my client to soar with joy.

That’s why Dale was the customer that day. He purchased a recreational vehicle as a surprise for his partner. The vehicle he bought? A 1989 Ford TransVan conversion.

Ford used to take ordinary Econoline cargo vans and convert them into recreational vehicles. With only 55,000 miles on it and costing only $3000, this TransVan was a deal Dale could refuse.

This isn’t my client’s but it is what it looks like. See the interior at “Aubernutter” on YouTube here.

Ugly duckling? Or Swan?

When Dale told my client what he was doing, initially, she was not happy about it. She imagined driving a van being unwieldy and uncomfortable. Scary even. A number of other concerns came to mind too. Its looks for example. 😂

But then she dropped those thoughts after realizing what really happened. With no expenditure of either money or effort on her part, she created for herself what she now sees as the perfect RV supporting her desire to play with Sisters On The Fly.

She told me about seeing the van for the first time. My client said she felt herself transform in front of it. It’s quirky exterior and even quirkier interior made her wince at first. Then she imagined wonderful adventures she could have driving this van – sleeping beside rushing rivers, and camping out with a bunch of women who looked fun and adventurous, and learning to ride a bike!

“I would have never considered such a vehicle,” My client said. “But when I saw it, I had to admit, it was really fun thinking about the fun I could have in it.”

Her excitement creates my extraordinary experience

That’s the point at which we had our session. My client bubbled over with joy about the unfolding, all of which happened with her doing hardly anything about it.

But what was really extraordinary for me, was how her story affected my own journey. When she told me about how she got this RV essentially for free from her partner, I experienced envy. Anyone who reads this blog regularly knows I endeavor to travel the rest of my life in an Airstream trailer towed by a Ford F-150 truck as I create inspiring stories like this one, and also move Copiosis forward.

So hearing her story offered something special beyond my client’s joy and excitement. I felt “envy” for that reason. Most people don’t realize how such emotions offer HUGE hidden value along with their apparent discomfort. People don’t get that because they don’t understand what emotions are for.

But I know. I know “envy“ tells me something important. And so while listening and reveling in my client’s experience, I also did something about envy I felt. And in doing that I furthered my own fulfilling desire.

Here’s what I did: I thought differently about what my client told me.

The Airstream I’m attracting…
…And the truck that will tow my Airstream.

Creating new thoughts

Resistance I felt which people call “envy” grew from thoughts I told myself. Thoughts like like these:

  • I want something like that to happen to me
  • Why can’t that happen in my life
  • Why is my own desire taking so long
  • I wish I had someone who’d do that for me

In other words, I wanted what my client was getting. Of course, I don’t want a 1989 TransVan. I want a brand new Airstream trailer pulled by a brand new Ford F-150 truck, customized to my desire.

But the fact that I felt envy about my client’s story told me I still had resistant thoughts such as those above. Thoughts not about what my client got, but about what I wanted. And those thoughts slow my desire fulfillment.

My client’s experience therefore offered insight into my own. Insights lighting up resistance I must soothe. My client’s experience was created for me as much as her. For it showed me my own version of what she got revealing itself to me through her.

That sentence is worth reading again.

From that epiphany, I could think better thoughts. Thoughts aligned with my version of what my client got. Those thoughts sounded like this:

  • I’m so glad I had this expeirence
  • It showed me exactly where I am relative to what I want
  • Now I can chart my way vibrationally more on course
  • I love knowing that
  • Seeing this new, more powerful perspective thrills me
  • I love recognizing gifts I’m getting from this story

And in recognizing these new, better feeling thoughts, I felt envy go away. In its place came joy, appreciation and adventure. Exactly those feelings I’ll feel when my own version of my client’s story fully blossoms.

Amplify, amplify, amplify!

I knew feeling joy, appreciation and adventure then, indicated alignment to that unfolding I desire, in which I’ll feel joy, appreciation and adventure in the receiving later. I knew also that that inner transformation meant I’m even closer to that full-blown fulfillment.

Catching all this, then doing something about it created more momentum in me. Pleasure I felt indicated that increased momentum. By cleaning up my thoughts, not only did I find more joy in hearing her story, I found more joy in my own transformational experience. Joy too in soothing resistance, thereby increasing manifestational momentum.

Next, I wrote a journal entry about the experience. That journal entry, the writing of it, further amplified my momentum. Within the entry I did a basic amplification process which amplified the momentum even further. Then I dictated this blog’s first draft.

My Journal.

What happened here?

What happened was my exterior reality, through my client, showed me another aspect of resistant thought slowing down my desire manifestation. My client’s experience also confirmed what is in my future reality. This experience with my client afforded me a chance to soothe resistance I didn’t know I had.

So this whole experience turned out to be a client session for me. A session where I moved forward my own manifestation.

I love seeing and experiencing experiences with clarity. There’s nothing better than clarity. That’s because in clarity I see with pinpoint accuracy where my resistance exists, then do something about it.

The universe cooperates with me giving me experiences which clarify opportunity to amplify momentum, by soothing resistance. In the soothing I move more quickly towards that which I’m wanting.

Put another way: I eliminate resistance standing between me and my manifestations thereby allowing my manifestations to show themselves to me faster. In this way, not only did my client and I enjoy a fabulous session, I benefited from the session as well, as I usually do.

I love client sessions because of this. What we do together creates realities which produce in-the-moment joy and satisfaction as well as eagerness and positive expectation for more such joy and satisfaction in the future. All evidenced by and embodied in manifestations I know are on the way and fulfilling themselves.

This is the Charmed Life. And it’s available for anyone willing to be Positively Focused.

How To Create An Ideal Partner

Positively Focused Q-A

I’ve added yet another running series “Q/A” to my blog. It’s…well…about answering questions I get through the internets and sharing those answers with others as they may help others feel inspired and more connected to the God they are.

I want to manifest a partner, but I cannot visualize how I want her to be like, etc. What can I do by using the Law of Attraction?

What there is to do now is relax and enjoy the process of drawing this person to you. Not worrying about “visualizing how you want her to be like”. That work already is done.

You’ve already done what you need to do through living your life and having partners who showed you more clearly what you wanted, by being what you don’t want. Your Broader Perspective is now holding that new person “out there” for you.

Your job now is to line up with that person who is “out there”. How?

Now have fun

By enjoying your life, finding things to be interested in and appreciating and expanding into the person who eventually will become a match to this person. The only thing keeping that person “out there” instead of in your bed is, you’re not yet a match to her. Were you a match, she’d be there already.

So enjoy the process of becoming and watch how quickly she shows up.

Each partner you’ve had were stepping stones to this person you want now. Most people don’t like this answer, because they think that turns people you’ve been with into means to ends.

Your nows become better nows

But every now experience is a means to future, better nows. Same goes with people. Your life is a continuing process of becoming more and better in all cases that you don’t resist by thinking contrary thoughts to what you want.

But even contrary thoughts benefit because they will – like all thoughts – create realities matching them. So you can see what thoughts dominate your attention, which tells you want’s coming in your future. That’s how you can track towards futures you want.

Including future partners.

Most people don’t know this though. So they flounder, getting some of what they want and a lot of what they don’t. Including sucky love lives…

Don’t be one of those people.

Find your alignment with what you want. You know when you’re aligned when you find life a wonderful ride on the way to what you’re wanting.

Then you have what you want: A wonderful life. The girl then becomes icing on the cake.

Why I Find Joy In Great Little Things

I love staying in the now. Here, in the present moment, I find delight in nearly everything. Of course, everything is love because All That Is is exactly and only that.

But, as most people know, it’s hard seeing life that way when mired in thoughts inconsistent with love.

A recent client shared an experience illustrating what I mean. After her intake session, we talked about emotions and their function. Having not heard what we talked about, she shared what she learned with a friend.

She explained about the Positively Focused approach, how emotions mean a lot, and how people can live in perpetual happiness, but often don’t. Then she shared a list of emotions we talked about, which ranks them from most negative to most positive.

The charmed life awaits

“Wow,” her friend said, looking at the list. “I hardly ever experience these more positive emotions.”

Of course, most people live in that state, mostly feeling something between boredom or anxiety or worse. Rarely does someone feel love, appreciation, joy or positive expectation. So when they do come, people feel surprised, not knowing these states can exist as permanent life conditions.

Cultivating such life conditions comes from implementing a set of tools which produce what I call the Charmed Life. Such lives are available to all.

But enjoying such a life requires near constant positive focus. Some balk at that. They say “I don’t want to focus all the time.” But they don’t get that such diligence, practiced at the beginning, results in consistent experience going forward. In other words, it’s a very small price to pay for lasting happiness.

And, when one does put diligent focus into practice….they’re happy. Is that really a price being paid?

I don’t think so.

Part of my practice includes enjoying life’s little things. Doing that, I find joy everywhere. No wonder the bike ride I recently took brought so much satisfaction. So much so, I made a film about the journey. Check it out, especially the nature surprise in the middle.

I Love When I Love Then This Happens

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Nothing better exists than joy felt when Positively Focused. Especially cool: when such joy comes easily through deliberate focus. After so much practice, such focus brings immediate high vibration. It’s a wonder, and yet not a wonder, if you know this delicious secret:

Your word becomes your world.

This morning, after wonderful dreams, I woke up feeling great. Feeling great upon waking happens every day these days. I’ve tuned myself into that place so it dominates my days.

This morning however, in my positive focus, I felt space for expansion into even greater greatness. Being clear as I am these days, gobbling up that extra expansionary increment sounded great.

So that’s what I did. Through deliberate focus I closed that gap, felt even greater, then shared my example with my clients. Here’s what I shared, direct from my journal:

Any wonder the following response came from one client?

When impulse and synchronicity conspire, it benefits all involved.

I create world changers

When one develops chronic positive focus, such synchronicities become everyday occurrences. I write about this here every week. I also love showing clients how to create such everyday occurrences themselves. When they get it, they say things like this:

A client discovers the joyful realization that they create their reality.

Doing that I change the world, one person at a time. I know the world must change as more people turn to positively focused perspectives. Doing so, they bring their godhood to Earth. When they do that, they change. That change means the world too must change.

I love knowing that.

There’s nothing better than in-the-moment love felt for no other reason but for the good feeling love brings. I love knowing love flows always, bringing greater knowing whenever I tap in to what I know about myself as All That Is.

I also love knowing there’s always a gap between where I stand and where I can stand. Closing that gap feels amazing. Then amazing things happen.

So, whenever I feel even the slightest slippage in my positive perspective, I know I can close the gap between me and me just by thinking positive thoughts.

It’s easy peasy. And there’s nothing like the feeling that comes when that gap closes.

Joyful Results That Know No Better

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Clients inevitably arrive at points in their Positively Focused practice where they must confront realities springing from disempowering beliefs.

Such was the case more than 12 weeks ago when a client triggered negative beliefs manifesting as physical ailments she believed had origins in neurological damage.

Of course, nothing like that happened. Yet, her beliefs made it appear so.

After visits to several specialists, all of whom diagnosed her as having an anxiety issue – not something with physical origins – my client continued entertaining a neurological basis for her physical symptoms. She wouldn’t accept spiritual origins for her symptoms. In fact, her symptoms were so strong she felt she must find an external (i.e. physical) cause. I think she thought her life literally depended on it.

It wasn’t until several specialists recommended she go on medicines she would have to take for the rest of her life that she said “fuck that” and tried a different approach.

Eventually her symptoms began subsiding. In their wake came a cautious joy, a renewed hopefulness. A pleasant result came not long after.

Everything is spiritual

Physical symptoms aren’t what they appear. All such symptoms share an identical origin no matter what the medical and mental health communities say.

I assert they come from the same place everything else manifestED comes from: manifestING reality. ManifestING reality begins as vibration shaped first by beliefs.

In other words, all physical symptoms represent fully manifestED realities. Such realities spring forth consistent with earlier manifestations which look and feel like beliefs, thoughts and ideas. We attract these based on who we believe ourselves into being.

Human bodies, for example, represent both manifestED and manifestING reality. Bodies communicate or reflect aspects of who and what we are as eternal beings. Eternal beingness projects itself into physical reality through such manifestations to interact with physical reality. So bodies represent our most intimate creations.

Our bodies constantly renew themselves based on our beliefs about them. This includes what ailments show up in and on them.

Such ailments also represent communication, projection and reflection. They reflect back to the reflector (the eternal being) dominant beliefs. Those dominant beliefs show up as ailments so the manifester can do something about them, before they go too far.

Seeking outside one’s self

The problem with physical symptoms shows up when people reach into the world of physical reality for symptomatic relief. Such relief “works” because we all (myself included up until recently) believe symptomatic relief comes from external “things”: injections, pills and surgical or other invasive procedures.

This approach isn’t bad. And, when beliefs in external solutions combine with persistent physical symptoms, usually no other route offers effective relief as a pill or procedure. So it’s best people do exactly what they do to cure ailments.

But all physical symptoms we seek relief from we can enjoy relief from…before such symptoms become physical. A Positively Focused practice offers such early onset relief.

Since most people aren’t Positively Focused though, we see many pandemics running rampant over the planet. I’m sure you can name some.

That’s because nearly everyone believes solutions to their problems remain outside themselves. Few really believe in reality’s spiritual origins. And fewer still knows this through personal experience. So they don’t reach for early onset relief, because they don’t know it exists. And since they don’t know such relief exists, they also don’t know how to reach for it.

Meanwhile, a lot of money gets made in people believing relief is externally derived.

The placebo effect is real

Yet, proof of internal-sourced relief abounds. In medical trials, for example, researchers often use placebos alongside expected effective treatments as part of outcome control. Such controls often include situations where trial subjects experience effective results expected from the proposed treatment. Only these subjects didn’t get the treatment. They only thought they did.

What’s happening here?

Placebo as a phenomena shows how belief creates reality. Some people remember who and what they are better than others. In that belief momentum they don’t harbor much resistance. So when offered a slot in a trial, they bring not only their bodily symptoms, they also bring an eagerness and positive expectation the treatment will work for them.

Even though they get the “sugar pill” (the placebo), they manifest results consistent with those who get actual trial treatments. Science calls this the placebo effect.

From a Positively Focused perspective, such results show the power of mind over matter. In other words, people’s expectation – their belief – creates their experience.

Little do people realize our bodies maintain their integrity due to beliefs we hold at the core of who and what they are. These beliefs perpetuate all bodily functions keeping the body in a state of well being. All that well being happens automatically as a result.

But when a person entertains beliefs inconsistent with that core belief system, they introduce resistance. Such resistance disrupts natural flows. Such disruptions turn that well being into dis-ease. Dis-ease first feels like negative thought. Then negative emotion. If left unchecked, a physical reality consistent with said thoughts must show up.

That’s what medical symptoms are.

Back to the client

That’s why my client experienced what she experienced.

Her persistent chronic negative belief momentum, combined with other unwanted, yet present, persistent beliefs created her symptoms. Those other beliefs said “what’s happening in my body must be something grave. Something only something outside of me can fix.”

Her Positively Focused practice contributed too. As she increased her joy, her body projection began adjusting to new beliefs. It also began re-energizing internal connections perhaps neglected through decades.

I encouraged a continued Positively Focused approach, which she took under advisement. But most of her early action involved seeking an external solution. Until, as I said, doctors wanted her on medicine for the rest of her life.

And while she still pursues an external solution, as predicted, her symptoms are subsiding. I know it to be because she’s allowing more of her natural well being to re-emerge. While simultaneously soothing negative beliefs she’s held literally for decades.

Finding that relief prompted a text message in which the client expressed appreciation as her more normal states of being returned:

Holding the space for others

I don’t see clients in order to receive such praise. I see clients for the joy I feel in my own amplification of my positive focus. A nice byproduct comes from how my clients’ lives shape to their version of my experience.

Joy stemming from positive focus knows no peer. That’s because the origin of all physical matter knows no other Source than Source, that state of All That Is, that Peerless Pure Positive Life Energy. And since we all emerge from that origin, we each can express all that All That Is in our lives. That’s the Charmed Life.

I love holding space for clients as they work through beliefs inconsistent with who they are. My own version of soothing inconsistent beliefs offers hope for others. I continue soothing my inconsistent beliefs even today. In doing that, I know what the path looks like. So I hold the space in a stable knowing most don’t have. Another client recently spoke to this:

Standing in that stability, recognizing we create all we experience, I remain certain while facing things clients fear. That certainty is what clients feel when they meet with me.

All of us come into the world knowing a peerless opportunity of joyful expansion awaits. That’s why we decided to come. But that opportunity only becomes a foregone conclusion when one stands in positive focus. The same focus which animates All That Is.

It’s that focus that creates results which know nothing better.

What Happens After People Discover Their Greatness

Some people scoff at the idea that beliefs create life experience. Positively Focused clients don’t scoff though. Because in a very short time, sometimes immediately, clients discover what they think about, happens.

Once they see evidence, clients want results consistent with what they want. They start small usually. While going after little things – feeling better about where they are in life, for example – other things happen too. These other things surprise and delight the client. Then they get hopeful.

Maybe, just maybe, they think, life is on their side. Maybe life can be fun, easy and filled with self-fulfilling desires. The more they see things happening consistent with what they want, hope and optimism return.

Remember those? Those feelings children live in and feel about life? Well, in that hopefulness and optimism, clients ease into lives they once knew were possible. Lives filled with joy and optimism, hopefulness and eager anticipation. And lives filled with everything they want too.

They also realize they deserve that life. And the Universe helps them get it. That and a lot more.

In time – and the length is different for each client – clients come to sessions to revel in hopefulness and optimism, not fix problems. From there, sessions get really fun. Because problems fix themselves. Like this client describes:

It’s not counseling or therapy

Since no upper limit exists about what someone can get or how good they feel, sessions always contain moments where greater fine tuning happens. But most sessions involve sharing stories – real life examples – where desires fulfill themselves. Clients marvel, surprised that life gets better and better and better all on its own, no matter how good it already is.

It’s no wonder clients keep coming back. Why wouldn’t they?

Where else in life can one find unconditional acceptance and encouragement for everything they want? Does anyplace else exist where a person comes in feeling good, anticipating a wonderful hour, then leaves consistently feeling even better, having amplified their feeling good?

Where else in life can a person learn how to see their life giving them everything they want? Then return to their life and see more of that with their own two eyes?

Don’t bother. The answer is very few other places.

Some ask “is what you do therapy?”

No. This isn’t therapy. It isn’t counseling. We don’t teach people to say things like “You know, when you do this, it makes me feel X and I would like you to do it differently because I don’t feel good when you do that.”

That’s total disempowerment.

We don’t take clients back into their childhoods, try to unpack “traumas” or fix things “broken” about them. That’s unnecessary and mostly irrelevant.

Clients also don’t heal anything or deal with “trauma”. Because nothing needs healing and traumas are all made up (if that triggers you, you might want to go see a therapist).

We don’t deal in “traumas” at Positively Focused. In session, clients deal with creating reality. We show clients how to create a reality where traumas don’t exist. Even if they once existed!

Life is spiritual made physical

The biggest difference between what we do and counseling or therapy is, we come from a knowing the medical and mental health spaces rarely acknowledge, let alone know exists. That knowing says, people are eternal beings here to create the world of their choosing. They enjoy access to the entire power of the Universe, because that’s what they are. Accessing that power they resume control of their lives, which feels, eventually, like ongoing ecstasy. That’s the Charmed Life I talk about in this blog every week.

We show them how that power works, then how to leverage it to create dreams into reality. Dreams are as real as physical matter. We show clients how to make dreams physical. Just a few simple fundamentals makes it work. From there life is fun. Just like the client above described.

What we do works for anyone. But some won’t find it fits their world view. It doesn’t fit because their world view makes it that way. We know a lot of people live life from such world views.

That’s why those people struggle on mood stabilizers and anti-anxiety medication. Guilt and shame are realities for them. They worry about what others think about them. They feel insecure at work.

But none of these need be part of life.

Great results pop out of thoughts aligned with what one wants. A few basic fundamentals makes that so. It’s so consistent, clients wonder why they didn’t know them to start.

But they did know them. They just forgot them. Maybe you did too.

Don’t you think it’s time you remember?