Birth Sucks Worse Than Death. Here’s Why.

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Imagine we’re existing in an eternal state. We’re everything, everywhere, all at once. Here, whatever we want happens, instantly. So we’re deliberate about our focus. Because our focus instantly creates that which we focus on.

We exist in bliss. Those around us do too. We experience a full sense of our immortality, our oneness, and yet maintain our individuality. Our past and our futures stretch out before us, available to us all at once. Infinite dimensions unfold from our consciousness too. We are gods becoming more.

Then, we decide we want to take this existence thing up a notch. We want to expand our consciousness. We want to become more than what we are. Looking for somewhere to do that, we notice beings of immense capability springing forth from this time-space reality, in a corner of All That Is, centered in a dimension known by its inhabitants as “Earth”. We decide then, that we want what those springing from that dimension have. So we focus ourselves to join them.

Being born is no laughing matter

Generally speaking, what I wrote above describes “life” prior to Earthly existence. Everyone on the planet starts as an infinite being of immense capability. A capability possessing tremendous capacity for more. Recognizing that, we choose earthy existence as a way of becoming more.

But getting here is not easy. Not only is it not easy, it’s highly traumatic.

Think about it. You start as an infinite being. You exist in an eternal state, totally aware and enlightened. Then you push yourself through your focus into fragments. Fragments capable of existing in a state of confinement unlike anything you knew before, aka human form.

It’s illusory, but you must convince yourself it is real. So in pushing yourself there, you forget everything you knew before you arrived. At first, your arrival is an approximation of your home. It’s comforting, warm, love-filled. But soon you’re thrust into three dimensional time and space through birth. Then, the first thing you immediately recognize is mortality.You’re instantly insecure. You’re tiny, with your existence dependent on these larger beings surrounding you. Strangers all, in a strange world. Beings who you perceive as an emotional mix. You pick up their hopes and fears, insecurities, worries, wonder and doubt. Often their behaviors don’t match their words…They claim to love, but often act unloving.

In nonphysical such obfuscation doesn’t exist. There, you’re instantly aware what others think and how they be. It’s pure transparency. But here, on Earth, your cognition is greatly diminished. It causes anxiety in you. Right alongside that fear born of insecurity. You’re mortal now. Human.

Welcome to life.

Is it any wonder we all cry when we take our first breath?

A common refrain

I remember many times as a child, looking to the night sky begging to return “home”. I sensed I didn’t belong here. The pain I felt was terrific. My certainty clear. I knew I came from somewhere far better than this earthly plane. And I wanted to go back.

Every one of my advance clients recalls similar childhood experiences. They recall emotional pain, depression, a yearning for where they came from, even though they couldn’t fully remember that place. Several remember thinking about killing themselves as a way of “going back.”

Those of us with a predisposition for spiritual realization retain faint memories of our origin. The forgetting doesn’t take. The memory of where we came from leaks through. And the bliss of that experience calls to us like a siren.

The good news of all this is those memories can be realized, in full, to the degree possible while in a body. Being fully aware of all we are AND being human is the best of both worlds.

Having such an experience is easier for some than others. The process of remembering not only returns us to that blissful awareness, it also makes clear why we chose to come here. It transforms earthly experience, in other words, into what we knew it could be when we chose to come here.

For we knew earthly existence would be joyful, highly immersive, expansion-inducing and full of opportunities to grow. With our awareness restored and expanded, we can then focus deliberately on realizing everything earthly existence offers. And we can do that with joy.

Death, a joyful return

Most people fear death because they don’t remember a time before their birth. For many, the “sacred forgetting” holds completely. So they believe death brings annihilation. Not liberation. They fear what they don’t remember. And that fear colors all their decisions while human.

Death actually brings a release of our earthly focus. We return to that eternal state, the state that is our original expanded consciousness. It’s why religions describe life after death as “heaven”. Of course we retain awareness of our earthly experience. But we’re renewed. We have expanded. We become more than we were before. So death is a gloriousexperience. A triumph, far less traumatic than birth.

Both processes can be joyful experiences. In absolute reality they are exactly that. They are book ends of a mystical experience. An experience cloaked in mortality, all the while being nothing more than a really, really vivid dream. One where we create all our experience with eagerness and joy.

As a child, I had only glimmerings of what I now remember. Back then, I forgot that I wanted to come. Now looking at the world with new eyes, I see how I knew this experience offered fantastic opportunity. My clients are beginning to see the same thing.

And in that awareness, I’m also seeing how my death, when it comes, will be the grand finale. The ultimate test of my growth. And my return to all that I am.

Death is nothing compared to the shock of birth. It needn’t be feared. It’s to be eagerly anticipated, while enjoying every moment of life until then.

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