An interesting dynamic/trend showed up in my client practice in the last few weeks. The trend prompts from within me a question worth asking: Does humanity hate itself?
Of course, this is NOT a dominant vibration across all humanity. LOVE is the dominant vibration. But humans “enjoy” free will. Some can, therefore, turn towards “the dark side”. And, apparently, some do, while not really knowing that’s what’s happening.
Two clients find themselves now looking at misanthropic beliefs driving interactions with people in their lives. One person’s experience, who I wrote a long post about, publishes in July. Today, I want to talk about what another client and I uncovered.
This client runs a business. I wrote about her experience before this week, here, and here. Her business has few customers, all reflecting the current state of the owner’s alignment (aka “being a match”) to the version of the business representing “success”. The customers she does have are, of course, people. Like all humans, they have beliefs and momentum stemming from those beliefs, many of which are distorted. So, depending on how one views those people, they show up in different ways.
“Ghosts” as co-creators
I call this client “Madison” in the previous posts. At first, Madison, was excited to have these customers. But as time went on and these people’s “peopling” emerged, so too did Madison’s misanthropic beliefs.
“I like people…to an extent.” She said when I asked her about complaints she made about her customers.
I would think she would hold very positive beliefs about these people. They are, after all, paying her and co-creating her business along with her into exactly what Madison wants. And yet, she focused on what’s wrong (in her eyes) with these customers rather than everything going right with them.
What’s really interesting is, her complaints about the customers caused those troubles she sees in them to dominate her awareness. Two of the customers, according to Madison, “ghosted” her, for example. They would not return her calls after the first conversation in which they showed initial interest. Meanwhile, I knew both customers were in the bag, so to speak, that they were going through their own internal processes to become the customers Madison wanted.
In the bag
But all my client could see was what she believed to be evidence that they were NOT in the bag. Which is why when I reminded her she had these two customers, she got really frustrated with me. She could only see evidence aligned with what she believed. Not what I knew. She was right. I was wrong. The customers were NOT customers.
But they were. Of course, Universe had the last word on this.
One of the customers is Madison’s dentist. Madison told me during our conversation where she ranted about how this customer ghosted her, that she had a dental appointment in the next few days. She worried about how awkward that appointment will be given the current status of the deal.
I reminded her the deal is in the bag and not to worry about it. She wasn’t hearing that, however.
Sure enough, though, after her appointment, Madison called me excited. She said the receptionist enthusiastically told her the dentist was eager to talk with her about the deal. They were ready to move forward, the receptionist said, and wanted to get a date on the calendar to get started.
My client said she was concerned about setting that meeting on a day where the dentist had patients. Madison didn’t want to inconvenience him. But the dentist, while examining my client, cut to the quick: he said he wanted to get this work done and told her not to worry about that. Let’s just get it on the calendar, he said.
When they did meet, Madison told me, the dentist didn’t haggle. He didn’t resist anything. He was good to go at the full price my client initially quoted. A full-price paying client in the bag!
Distortion kills relationships
So this is really instructive: Our beliefs about people shape what we see in people. Our beliefs can create or hinder any potential. Had the client not been in the Positively Focused practice, she might have taken action based on her “ghosting” belief that could have completely severed the deal and confirmed her negative interpretation.
How many times have we held a belief about someone, an interpretation, which triggered frustration or anger in us, then we acted on that frustration or anger in a way which killed the relationship, a relationship that could have gone the other way had we held a different belief about it and acted from that belief instead?
Relationships, intimate ones and business ones, have ended simply because of distortions active among the parties invovled. Madison’s kerfluffle with her employee, which I wrote about in the posts I linked to earlier in this post, was based on such distortions. Distortions both parties — Madison and Jane — held about the other. Madison was ready to let Jane go.
Today, they’re stronger than ever and committed to using the practice to see the best in each other. That’s a really good thing and a great outcome from a strongly negative experience.
Becoming gods that we are
There are a lot of people in the world right now railing against other people. Their beliefs about those people aren’t positive. When we point a finger at another, in blame or accusation, three fingers remain pointing back at us. This tells us, what we blame or accusation another about, exists in us in abundance. And so does the solution to what we’re complaining about.
Complaint contains strong belief momentum. That momentum, persisted with, will eventually gain more momentum, leading to misanthropy, which is a chronic state of complaint about people. That momentum will inspire matching behavior in us as well as behavior confirming beliefs we have about those we revile. And that explains why so many harbor such lowly beliefs about their fellow humans.
They’re creating the versions of those people they hate.
The good news is, it’s not permanent. Everyone releases such distortions after death. But why wait until then? Like Madison, we can walk into a new world, one where everyone becomes for us the angels that they are, reflecting back to us what is dominant in us. In other words, we can reveal to ourselves what others really are: servants of our sovereign expansion.
We can do that now, in this life. We don’t have to wait until after death. But we must choose. Then we must devote ourselves to this worthy cause. The cause that is our expansion into our greater god-self.