Category: Belief Momentum

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How to Know Which Sign Is the Real One

TL;DR: The author shares a powerful real-life story in which simultaneous criticism and praise become vibrational signposts—revealing how contrast and coincidence reflect momentum, alignment, and the Universe’s loving invitation to choose. But only for those who are worthy.

Sometimes, the Universe delivers two seemingly contradictory events at the same time—one that feels negative, and another that feels positive. But when we’re living Positively Focused, when we stand in our worthiness, we start to see both as guidance. Both are reflections. And both are invitations to choose our direction consciously. When negative and positive arrive together, a divine invitation is at hand.

Over the past three weeks, I experienced exactly that. The timing was too perfect to ignore. It was a moment so aligned, so precise, it could only be orchestrated by my Broader Perspective.

The Critic and the Client

On one hand, I was corresponding with a transgender woman. She had taken issue with my work on The Transamorous Network blog. We’ll call her Janet. Being a trans woman, she felt misunderstood, even attacked perhaps, by something I’d written. And though I knew her interpretation didn’t match my intent, I responded with clarity and care to help clear up her Belief Confrontation.

While our correspondence went back and forth, another transgender woman—let’s call her Nancy—scheduled a free one-on-one through that same blog. I didn’t know anything about her until we met. Turns out, Nancy is finishing medical school and is also steeped in clinical psychology. That’s right: a person deeply steeped in the scientific method had read 10 or 20 of my blog posts—and felt drawn enough to reach out for more.

During our free session (which went well beyond the usual 30 minutes), we dove into spiritual principles, her beliefs and how they shape her life, and things she cares about. By the end, she told me she knew there was something in what I share — and she wanted to become a client.

That moment was no accident. It was a deliberate, divinely-timed juxtaposition. One trans woman criticizing what I do. The other wanting part of it. That juxtaposition taught me something I already knew, but love being reminded of: Criticism and praise aren’t opposites. They’re coordinates. They help us locate ourselves vibrationally.

To explain:

A Return from Negative Momentum

Back in December, I stopped writing for The Transamorous Network blog. I noticed that my focus on that subject back then had slipped into negative momentum focus. I was drawing more and more criticism from angry readers—many of whom didn’t understand my perspective or what I was offering. All of them were trans women.

I tried for a long time to clear up their misunderstandings and limited beliefs. But those people couldn’t hear what I was saying. That’s because their belief constellations ranged far from where I am in my knowledge about life experience. So the more I tried to uplift them, the harder they pushed. And the harder they pushed, the more entrained I got.

Until I realized what I was doing.

When I did, I stopped pushing against that resistance. I stepped back and allowed my vibration to recalibrate. No more posts for that blog! In doing so, I let the negative momentum subside by not feeding it further.

By not feeding my old momentum, I set up the divine invitation that came later.

Months later—without me publishing a single new post—new readers began reaching out again. Trans-attracted men, wives of trans-attracted men, even gay men sent me messages. They all were asking for guidance, for support, for answers. Not with anger—but with curiosity and warmth. And with understanding that I offer something of value.

That’s how I knew something shifted.

And then came Janet and Nancy, nearly at the same moment. Both represented clear reflections that I was now standing in a different vibrational space—one where I was ready to choose what momentum I wanted to amplify.

Both Are Guidance

Here’s what I saw clearly: Janet and Nancy were both cooperative components.

  • Janet mirrored my old energy—momentum I had already soothed. Momentum that had me pushing against trans women’s lack of understanding, insecurity and anger.
  • Nancy mirrored new energy—momentum I was now allowing. Ease in my being. Allowing instead of pushing. Letting the Universe present me with what I want. Not pushing against what I don’t.

Here’s the biggest thing: Both Janet and Nancy offered a chance to decide where I wanted to place my focus and which momentum I wanted to build. They invited me to ask myself: Do I want more of this (Nancy)? Or more of that (Janet)?

Do I want more of this (Nancy)? Or more of that (Janet)?

Not because one is good and the other is bad. But because the Universe will always give you what you focus on.

So I leaned into Nancy’s presence—her clarity, her eagerness, her willingness to explore. And with that choice, I emailed Janet and let her know I was ending the correspondence. I told her why—not out of avoidance, or anger, but out of alignment. I explained that I was following what felt best, and honoring where my energy was now flowing.

Letting that go was a powerful, gentle release. It reminded me: Everyone is a divine being offering guidance—not always with praise or agreement, but always with clarity if we’re willing to see it.

That’s Where Worthiness Comes In

When events coincide — especially when they seem emotionally opposite — it’s not random. It’s vibrational precision. It’s our Broader Perspective delivering options at the exact frequency we’re tuned to. At that exact moment, we get to choose which option we energize with our attention. That choice determines what comes next.

But the challenge life offers regarding these moments is we must be aligned with our worthiness to perceive what’s happening as a gift. Worthiness isn’t something we can conjure or “fake it until you make it”. It emerges naturally from within us when we recognize, acknowledge and remember, moments in our past where the Universe offered us guidance, followed through and delivered on our desires, or blessed us in some other way.

Everyone is a divine being offering guidance—not always with praise or agreement, but always with clarity if we’re willing to see it.

Worthiness, therefore, comes naturally when we fill our vibrational basket with evidence that we are blessed by All That Is. It doesn’t come before that. And so, if we don’t feel that worthiness, we can’t see how, for example, Janet and Nancy’s arrival into my life was something other than random coincidence.

One of my newer clients said recently: “Why isn’t this stuff taught in school? If it were, people could live so much better.” I agree. Because once we recover our worthiness, then learn how to interpret our reality—including the contrast—as real-time vibrational feedback, life gets easier. It gets softer. It gets clearer. We stop taking things personally. We understand why people do what they do with absolute clarity and also with love, knowing nothing can come into our life without us attracting it. That’s when we stop trying to control other people. We just trust what life is showing us… even when it arrives as contrast.

That’s why a separate, long-time client once told me: “I love this shit!”. She gets what I’m talking about.

I do too.

Recovering our Worthiness

So let this moment remind you: If you’re getting mixed signals from life, it’s not confusion. It’s refinement. And it’s certainly not random coincidence. Instead, it’s a moment where you stand at a vibrational cross roads. And your power lies in what you choose to focus on next.

Worthiness takes a while to allow into our experience. We all had it as children. But nearly all parents talk us out of it by convincing us to put their happiness ahead of our own. They do that by setting rules, meting out punishments and saying distorted things like “money doesn’t grow on trees”.

In short order, we become very much like our parents.

The good news: all of this is recoverable. Every person can recover their worthiness. It takes longer for some than others. But who cares, really, how long it takes? We all are, after all, eternal.

Want help deciphering your own cross roads? Want a life where things happen on your behalf without you having to struggle or hustle? Schedule a free 30-minute session with me right here. The Universe is always speaking to you. Let’s learn how to listen.

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What 9/11 Still Teaches Us About Revenge and Reality

TL;DR: On 9/11’s anniversary, the author, a Marine Corps veteran, explores how revenge and reaction perpetuate global conflict, while vibrational alignment offers a powerful alternative. Abraham-Hicks, the movie The Kingdom, and the Positively Focused framework inspired their authoring of this post.

On September 11, 2001, the world changed. For many, it was a moment of horror, heartbreak, and righteous fury. For others, it was the moment they began questioning everything—about safety, sovereignty, and what it means to be human.

Now, more than two decades later, we still wrestle with the aftershocks—not just geopolitically, but vibrationally. I want to offer a different lens today. One that honors the contrast, without reinforcing the loop.

What Abraham Said That Still Resonates

Shortly after the attacks, Abraham-Hicks shared a message that, to this day, remains one of the clearest expressions of vibrational sovereignty I’ve ever encountered. They said:

“If we respond in kind, all that will happen is it will stir up more of the same—and ensure more of these pockets of disaster happening globally as time goes on… We will do the unexpected, and not respond. Not because we think they are right—but because we do not think that in doing that, we would be right, either.”

That idea—to not respond in kind—was revolutionary in 2001. It still is. Why? Because the human mind wants retaliation. It wants to do something. It equates pain with cause, and reaction with justice. But in the Positively Focused framework, we know:

Justice is vibrational. Alignment is the true power. And revenge only guarantees more of the same.

What We Perceive Is What We Believe

Let’s be clear: 9/11 didn’t “just happen.” It was a vibrational culmination—an eruption of co-created realities converging. I’m not blaming here. I’m not saying the U.S. “deserved it” or, that “the chickens have come home to roost”.

Instead, I’m referring to how the universe works and, how consciousness—collective or personal—draws to itself what matches its dominant frequency. For years, the U.S. had been entangled in global affairs, often under the banner of “freedom,” while sowing resentment, confusion, and, yes, trauma in other parts of the world. As a former US Marine, I played my part in all that. And so I see how 9/11 was us reaping what we sowed.

Contrary to political leader claims, the 9/11 attackers weren’t “evil.” They were extensions of contrast, called into being by collective American momentum—just as every villain is born out of belief constellations that go unexamined.

And what did the U.S. do in response? We doubled down on fear and launched wars. Our government normalized surveillance. We handed over power to a version of ourselves fueled by vengeance, not vision.

9/11 didn’t “just happen.” It was a vibrational culmination—an eruption of co-created realities converging.

The Kingdom: A Cinematic Reflection of Belief Loops

In The Kingdom, a haunting film starring Jamie Foxx and Jennifer Garner, we see the tragedy of both sides.

The story opens with a devastating attack on American civilians in Saudi Arabia. The investigation that follows is gripping. But the most chilling moments aren’t explosions—they’re whispers.

One scene near the end says everything. After suffering personal loss, a U.S. operative whispers to his colleague: “We’re going to kill them all.” Later, on the other side of the world, a Saudi boy hears the same thing from his grieving grandfather: “We’re going to kill them all.”

Same phrase. Same pain. Different language. Same vibrational loop. What starts as grief turns into story. The story becomes belief that stirs actions aligned with it. Those actions turn the belief in destiny—unless this chain is consciously, deliberately interrupted.

The Moment of Becoming: Where Power Actually Lies

Most people think they live in the now. But they’re actually living in the past—in the manifested reality of old beliefs. The true now—the moment of becoming—is vibrational. It’s unmanifested. It’s the edge of creation. And that’s where the real power is.

When we witness an attack—personal or national—we have a choice. We can believe the story that we are victims. Or we can step into alignment and use the contrast to summon a better reality. That better reality won’t come from drone strikes or retaliation. It will come from understanding that every so-called enemy is a reflection.

It’s all you. It always has been.

A Vibrational Act of Remembrance

So today, on this anniversary, I don’t ask you to forget the pain. I ask you to remember it differently. Remember that the attacks created desire. Desire for peace. For unity. For clarity. Desire for a world where no one feels so unheard that violence seems like their only voice. That desire still exists. It’s still alive.

And it’s ours to align with—if we stop replaying the old movie. In Positively Focused practice, we say: You don’t solve contrast by resisting it—you allow it, accept it, and transmute it. 9/11 was a moment of massive contrast.

But its legacy doesn’t have to be war, terror, and bloodshed. Its legacy can be awakening. A turning point. A moment when we, individually and collectively, choose not to react—but to respond vibrationally, with clarity. With alignment and with power. Not the power of might, but the power of leverage born of our spiritual heritage.

That heritage tells us all, in gentle, constant whispers, that when you line up with what you want—rather than what you fear—the world around you transforms.

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How One Man Found Love’s Clarity in a Safeway

TL;DR: The author shares how a client’s emotional spiral after a brief romantic encounter revealed limiting beliefs. Through the Positively Focused process, he transformed the moment into a stepping stone toward true relationship alignment.

The Universe never makes mistakes. And yet, when things don’t go the way we think they should—especially in love—it’s easy to believe it did. That’s what happened to Dale, a dear client of mine, in an encounter that was as divinely orchestrated as any I’ve seen. Only he couldn’t see it. Not at first.

It started innocently enough. Dale was running errands at Walmart with his ex-wife, Athena. They had just come back from a gig and gone into the store separately. As Dale strolled through one of the aisles, he noticed a woman. Something about her shirt caught his attention—it had a Wiccan vibe, something Dale had explored in his past. They struck up a conversation. And just like that, a spark ignited. Not fireworks, but something even more powerful: resonance.

This wasn’t the kind of attraction born of physical lust or surface chatter. Dale and this woman began talking about life philosophies, spiritual perspectives, the big stuff. She even complimented Athena, not knowing the relationship. That felt meaningful to Dale. And then she asked for his number. Later that evening, she followed up with a text: “Do you like sushi?” And another: “How about Lady Gaga?”

Dale responded honestly. Sushi wasn’t his thing, and as for Lady Gaga, he didn’t think about her much—although he had appreciated her acting once. Still, the topics rubbed him the wrong way. He’d hoped their conversation would stay in that soulful, philosophical space. To him, these light questions felt like a departure, even a regression.

And then it happened.

Every manifestation carries contrast

A few days later, Dale ran into her again—this time at Safeway. He lit up at the coincidence, but her energy was different. Guarded. She told him she was working and quickly disengaged.

That was it.

That moment—the turn—triggered Dale hard. He plummeted into intense negative momentum. All-or-nothing thinking kicked in. “This is why I can’t trust people.” “This is why relationships don’t work.” “Why did she even ask for my number?” The mental spiral was swift and brutal.

And this is where the real value of the session began.

What Dale couldn’t yet see was that this was no failed encounter. This was a perfect co-creation, lovingly engineered by the Universe to show him something essential. He had, in fact, manifested precisely what he’d been asking for—a spontaneous connection with someone who met him at a high vibrational level. He’d been high-vibing on the subject of relationships for some time, and this woman appeared right on cue. It was a sign that his signal was working.

But every manifestation carries contrast. That’s how we grow.

This woman, without intending to, revealed Dale’s unresolved momentum around women, courtesy, rejection, and unspoken expectations. His judgments—about her makeup, her food choices, her pop culture interests—weren’t really about her. They were mirrors, reflecting beliefs he still carried: that people owe him politeness, that being ghosted is betrayal, that women who express themselves a certain way are immature or unworthy.

These beliefs had to come to the surface. Not to punish him, but to be soothed.

Dale stood at a crossroads about what he was manifesting….what happened next was important.

Tell a better-feeling story

Because here’s the truth: you cannot attract the relationship you want until you become a match to it. The Universe will keep sending stepping stones—beautiful, complex, sometimes painful interactions—that shine light on your inner vibration. If you meet these moments with curiosity, you’ll elevate. If you double down on your negative stories, you’ll stall.

And Dale stalled hard.

He went into a kind of emotional lockdown. “Maybe I’m not cut out for relationships,” he said at one point. “Maybe I should just stop trying.”

He wasn’t joking. The pain had twisted his thinking so tightly that one uncomfortable rendezvous made him question everything. But that, too, was perfect. Because it made the negative beliefs undeniable. And once something is seen clearly, it can be soothed.

I gently helped him unpack it. I reminded him: the Universe doesn’t respond to what’s “true”—it responds to belief. Every experience you have is confirmation, not contradiction. That’s why it’s so important to notice your judgments and soothe them—not suppress them, but transmute them. You do that by telling a better-feeling story.

In Dale’s case, the better-feeling story went something like this:

“Wow. Look at that! I manifested a woman out of nowhere who shared my values—at least at first glance—and asked for my number. She followed up. That was confirmation that my signal is active. Then, in the next phase, she brought up things that rubbed me the wrong way… but even that was helpful. She helped me see what beliefs I still carry that aren’t a match to the relationship I ultimately want. She wasn’t a mistake—she was a message.”

Attract by becoming

From that frame, Dale could start to feel empowered again. Not because she “should’ve” behaved differently, but because she behaved exactly as she needed to—so he could calibrate his vibration.

She was doing the same thing Dale was doing: looking for resonance. And when she sensed it wasn’t a match, she gracefully backed away. She was choosing herself. That wasn’t ghosting. That was clarity.

This is the power of contrast when met with consciousness. This is the beauty of vibrational refinement. You don’t attract what you want by demanding it from others. You attract it by becoming it. And you become it by soothing the parts of you that aren’t aligned.

The next time someone triggers us, let’s ask: “What is this showing me about me?” The answer might sting at first, but it’s the key to becoming a match to what we want. Dale’s encounter wasn’t a failure. It was a perfect stepping stone. And now he’s closer than ever.

Because the real relationship he’s cultivating… is with himself.

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What Lost Keys Reveal About How Powerful You Are

TL;DR: The author explores how a client’s missing keys became a mirror of internal beliefs. Through contrast, he’s invited to align with his power—and choose the reality he wants next. This is final part of a four-part story.

Steven didn’t lose his keys. Not in any ultimate sense. Not in the way most people think of losing something — as a punishment or a mistake or evidence of failure. No. Steven’s keys were lovingly, exquisitely, purposefully withheld for a larger purpose. One important for the expansion of himself and All That Is.

Because the keys weren’t just metal. They were symbolic. They were, in every sense, the keys to Steven’s kingdom. And the kingdom they opened wasn’t a maintenance shed on campus. It was a vibrational kingdom — the realm of self-worth, of true power, of knowing who he really is.

But the question the Universe posed was this: Is Steven ready to claim that kingdom? Not metaphorically claim it. Not rhetorically either. The question asked: is he energetically ready to claim it?

The answer, of course, is always “yes”. Otherwise the experience wouldn’t be happening. But Steven’s relationship with that yes… that’s what this entire expansion was about.

His Mom Was the First Portal

When Steven first came to me, his mom was the figure around whom most of his contrast orbited. There was judgment, control, and emotional volatility. Those things came from him, not his mother. His mother did the best she could as a young single mom of three, back when Steven was a boy. She didn’t know back then, what Steven is learning today. Today, Steven’s mom is learning, however, because she, like Steven, is a Positively Focused client.

But while Steven was a child, his mother, like most parents, was completely oblivious. Oblivious about a lot of things. She didn’t know her son came to teach her, for example. Not the other way around. Steven’s mother didn’t know she had an Inner Being, an unerring guide showing her the path of her liberation. But what she most didn’t realize was that every time she punished Steven, every time she lost her cool, she wasn’t in love with her child.

But nothing was wrong with any of that. Steven’s mother was exactly what Steven knew he would come into reality through. He had prepared the experience prior to even showing up. So everything young Steven experienced was good for him.

Steven’s mom represented a mirror through which Steven came to believe he had to prove himself. He had to earn love, earn respect, earn safety.

That belief as well as others knocked Steven off course for a while. Good thing he discovered the Positively Focused practice.

Over time, through his Positively Focused practice, Steven regained his footing. He stopped reacting when his mom pushed his buttons as an adult. But then he wobbled between blaming and appreciating her. He also wobbled between diagnosing pathologies he perceived she had. In between all that, he gradually stopped needing her approval. With help from his sister, who also is a client, he gradually began generating stability from within. That was a massive vibrational accomplishment.

The Universe is watching

He’s still not done with any of this. That’s because it takes a while to soothe momentum, and, on the subject of his mother, Steven has over 40 years of negative concluding on her as a subject. That’s a lot of time to build momentum.

The Positively Focused is not magic. It can’t soothe old beliefs instantly. Actually, the practice does nothing. It’s clients putting the practice into use that creates results. Like any thing with a lot of momentum, it takes a long time to slow down beliefs practiced over 40 years. That’s what Steven is up to.

It’s a heroic thing to take on for most humans. That’s because it demands that we look at ourselves as the creator of ALL of our experience. That can be hard. Especially when we believe in victimization. And many, many humans do. Steven once did too.

Now, however, he’s soothing those old beliefs. And the Universe is taking notice.

See, as we soothe beliefs creating contrast, the contrast doesn’t repeat—it evolves. When we integrate an old pattern, the Universe doesn’t punish us with a harder version. It celebrates us by offering a broader one. It says, “Great! You’ve learned to find your footing when family triggers you. Now… what happens when external authority and livelihood are on the line?”

Enter: Richard, Steven’s boss.

Learning as creators

In the days after the keys “disappeared,” Richard became unusually critical. The warmth Steven once felt from him seemed gone. Instead, Richard scrutinized Steven’s every task. The sprinkler system. The backlog, the other tasks still undone on Steven’s desk.

Richard’s scrutiny rattled Steven.

What he didn’t immediately see, though, is that he had become a match to this version of Richard. Just like he had once summoned a combative version of his mother, now he was summoning a critical version of his boss.

That’s not failure. It’s evolution.

When old beliefs are active they continue creating our reality. As Steven soothed his, that same frequency that once showed up as “Mom” now appeared as “Supervisor.” But the purpose was the same: to show Steven these beliefs are still active. Still shaping his experience. Still distorting his view of himself.

Steven’s experience is evolving him into the god he is.

Some call this process transference. But that’s too close to the psychological concept of projection. What’s happening is not projection. What is it? Ascension. It’s vibrational navigation through and into expansion. Think about it. Dealing with a mother within the confines of family is one thing. Your livelihood and social/working reputation on the line? That’s a completely different level. A higher level.

Ultimately, we’re all evolving to become the gods we are. Beyond our human experience lies tremendous responsibility. We are the creator of worlds. And we are learning to create, ultimately, in an environment where no resistance exists.

That means wherever we put our attention, what we focus on grows immediately, and exponentially. That’s how powerful we are. This physical reality, therefore, is a sandbox for us to play, explore, refine. That’s what Steven’s doing…at ever increasingly significant levels.

Keys as Evidence of Alignment (or Not)

The most powerful part of this story isn’t just what happened after the keys became lost. It’s what those keys represented all along.

Steven was on the cusp of a major promotion—to locksmith. Those very keys were tied to that promotion. Those keys were literally one of very few sets of its kind. Also, some keys in that set were master keys. They open ANY door on the college campus. They therefore were symbols of trust, capability, and responsibility. Losing them, in Steven’s eyes, felt like losing his future. In Richard’s eyes, according to Steven, they were a test: Can Steven shoulder the responsibility?

But what Steven didn’t see at first was that those keys also simply mirrored his vibration. When he felt unsure, they disappeared. As he judged himself, they became even more lost. When he doubted his worth, the Universe gave him a reality that matched: a world in which he didn’t have the tools, wasn’t trusted, and couldn’t move forward.

Again, that’s not punishment. It was reflection. Precise, perfect, loving reflection. That’s because physical reality is never fixed. It’s vibrationally curated and constantly flowing into something more.

Let’s say, for example, upon noticing the keys not where they should be Steven relaxed into a feeling of HAVING the keys, instead of collapsing into the state of them being lost, and then amplifying that reality with intense emotions (fear, fright, worry, etc.). Had he done so, the key would have (seemingly) appeared somewhere. This has happened to me DOZENS of times. I’ve written about two instances before. Here, and here.

But Steven didn’t do that. Instead, he collapsed. And then amplified the reality he collapsed into: Lost keys.

The Bigger Pattern: From Proof to Permission

Here’s the most overlooked thing about Steven’s story: the keys didn’t disappear because he was out of alignment. They disappeared so that he could find stronger, more stable alignment. Let’s say that again: Contrast is not evidence of failure. It’s evidence of readiness.

The moment Stevens keys went missing, he wasn’t being tested (only humans test each other). He was being invited. Invited to stand where he hadn’t stood before. Where he could see himself differently. Then choose a new story. A story where he’s not the person trying to prove himself worthy of the promotion. Worthy of the promotion or his mother’s love.

By the end of our session, Steven was steadier. Not euphoric. Not fully turned around. But steadier, clearer and more open to possibility. And with that openness, a choice began to emerge: Will he continue to tell the story of a man who lost his chance? Or will he tell a new story… one where the keys were never the point?

Keys can’t unlock doors like alignment can. Which means Steven could go back to work tomorrow and find those keys tucked in a place he never thought to look. Or… a completely new solution might show. Perhaps the promotion still pops into his reality. Or it doesn’t.

But either way, the real reward is who Steven is becoming.

The Takeaway: The Kingdom Was Never Outside Him:

The Universe doesn’t care about metal keys or job titles. It cares about the vibration we hold—and who we become by aligning with that vibration. Steven’s keys were never lost. Not really. They simply retreated from view until he becomes a match to their presence. That’s how all reality works. And now, Steven stands on a threshold.

Not an employment threshold, but an embodiment threshold. Will he lean into what he knows? Will he trust that this isn’t a setback, but a setup? The door is already ajar. All that’s left… is for Steven to walk through.

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How to Make Your Manifestation Practice Work For Real

TL;DR: The author shares a client “Claude’s” journey, which proves real change begins with real presence. When clients fully engage in the Positively Focused practice, they unlock powerful manifestations, deep clarity, and lasting emotional alignment.

When it comes to living a Charmed Life, how we show up to the Positively Focused practice matters.

That’s the lesson a client “Claude” is experiencing firsthand. Claude came into the Positively Focused practice holding years of negative momentum. His relationships — with his wife, his mother, and most poignantly, himself — were filled with tension, resistance, and guilt. And yet, he remembered a different version of himself; As a teenager, Claude was athletic, magnetic, and full of life.

“He could do anything and excel,” his sister, who also is a client, once said of Claude. His high school coaches said he had the talent to go pro in both baseball and golf, she told me. That sovereign, high-flying version of him still existed. But he didn’t know how to get back there.

Enter the practice.

A Necessary Life Rebound

Claude found Positively Focused in the aftermath of a particularly difficult stretch. During COVID, he had aligned with some powerful, fear-based narratives circulating online. The government is lying. The vaccine is dangerous. Masks are a scam. These weren’t just passive beliefs—he began advocating them, urging those around him to wake up to what he thought was “truth.”

But here’s the thing: when we advocate for disempowering stories, even if we believe we’re fighting for justice, we attract realities consistent with our alignment. In Claude’s case, that meant alienating loved ones, losing friendships, and watching his business crumble.

This mirrored my own experience years ago when I was heavily advocating for Copiosis. I believed the world needed to change. I had strong opinions about capitalism and money—and as I rallied against them, those very things became absent in my own life. It wasn’t until I released that resistance, aligned with what I wanted, and stopped pushing against what I didn’t, that my finances and life began to rebound.

Claude’s trajectory looked the same.

He began the Positively Focused practice with sincere desire, but with a major obstacle: belief in his own unworthiness. When someone holds the belief that the Universe doesn’t have their back, they can say all the affirmations they want—but the vibration isn’t clean. The practice doesn’t land. That’s what was happening for Claude.

He told me, “I’m doing the processes, but nothing’s changing.”

I asked him, “Are you meaning it? Are you feeling it when you do it, or just reciting words?”

He paused. “I guess I’m just going through the motions.”

Exactly.

The Power Of The Practice

The practice works when you mean it. Not with perfection. Not with forced effort. But with sincerity, willingness, and presence. When you bring your heart to the process, it transforms you.

Another client recently experienced this truth in the most spectacular way. Like Claude, he had a deep well of unworthiness and years of misanthropy. He, too, was doing the practice—his own version of it, that is. And not surprisingly, it wasn’t working. But the moment he got “militant,” as he put it, about doing the processes as prescribed—with real feeling, commitment, and desire—everything shifted.

A woman approached him, asked for his number, and took him out on a date, paying for everything. That had never happened to him before. You can read that story here.

These aren’t stories of luck or coincidence. They are examples of alignment. They are what happens when we move from lip service to devotion.

And devotion doesn’t mean doing the process perfectly. It means doing it deliberately, it means, as I often tell clients, bringing your whole self to it. It means not just saying, “I love that the Universe has my back,” but feeling into that knowing. Even if just for a few seconds.

That’s when the magic unfolds. That’s when we feel the resonance of our Broader Perspective. And that’s when reality starts to shift.

Lining Up With Our Sovereignty

Claude is starting to see this now. He’s realizing that the ease, joy, and sovereignty he remembers isn’t lost. It’s right here—on the other side of the vibration he’s practicing.

As I told another client this week, “Whatever we look for in life, that’s what we’re going to see. So why not look for the positive aspects?”

The Positively Focused practice is designed to help anyone do just that. But like life itself, it only works when we show up fully. Not because we should. But because we want to.

When we mean it, life responds. Not in theory. In manifestation. In real-world results that confirm our expansion is underway.

And that’s the point: We’re not here to fix the world. We’re here to align with the version of it that matches our joy. Do that and everything else lines up—including the relationships, the finances, the sovereignty, and the dreams we thought we left behind.

Claude’s story is still unfolding. But already, the light is coming through. Because he’s beginning to mean it.

And when we mean it…it matters.

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How Hating People Can Destroy Business Opportunity

An interesting dynamic/trend showed up in my client practice in the last few weeks. The trend prompts from within me a question worth asking: Does humanity hate itself?

Of course, this is NOT a dominant vibration across all humanity. LOVE is the dominant vibration. But humans “enjoy” free will. Some can, therefore, turn towards “the dark side”. And, apparently, some do, while not really knowing that’s what’s happening.

Two clients find themselves now looking at misanthropic beliefs driving interactions with people in their lives. One person’s experience, who I wrote a long post about, publishes in July. Today, I want to talk about what another client and I uncovered.

This client runs a business. I wrote about her experience before this week, here, and here. Her business has few customers, all reflecting the current state of the owner’s alignment (aka “being a match”) to the version of the business representing “success”. The customers she does have are, of course, people. Like all humans, they have beliefs and momentum stemming from those beliefs, many of which are distorted. So, depending on how one views those people, they show up in different ways.

“Ghosts” as co-creators

I call this client “Madison” in the previous posts. At first, Madison, was excited to have these customers. But as time went on and these people’s “peopling” emerged, so too did Madison’s misanthropic beliefs.

“I like people…to an extent.” She said when I asked her about complaints she made about her customers.

I would think she would hold very positive beliefs about these people. They are, after all, paying her and co-creating her business along with her into exactly what Madison wants. And yet, she focused on what’s wrong (in her eyes) with these customers rather than everything going right with them.

What’s really interesting is, her complaints about the customers caused those troubles she sees in them to dominate her awareness. Two of the customers, according to Madison, “ghosted” her, for example. They would not return her calls after the first conversation in which they showed initial interest. Meanwhile, I knew both customers were in the bag, so to speak, that they were going through their own internal processes to become the customers Madison wanted.

In the bag

But all my client could see was what she believed to be evidence that they were NOT in the bag. Which is why when I reminded her she had these two customers, she got really frustrated with me. She could only see evidence aligned with what she believed. Not what I knew. She was right. I was wrong. The customers were NOT customers.

But they were. Of course, Universe had the last word on this.

One of the customers is Madison’s dentist. Madison told me during our conversation where she ranted about how this customer ghosted her, that she had a dental appointment in the next few days. She worried about how awkward that appointment will be given the current status of the deal.

I reminded her the deal is in the bag and not to worry about it. She wasn’t hearing that, however.

Sure enough, though, after her appointment, Madison called me excited. She said the receptionist enthusiastically told her the dentist was eager to talk with her about the deal. They were ready to move forward, the receptionist said, and wanted to get a date on the calendar to get started.

My client said she was concerned about setting that meeting on a day where the dentist had patients. Madison didn’t want to inconvenience him. But the dentist, while examining my client, cut to the quick: he said he wanted to get this work done and told her not to worry about that. Let’s just get it on the calendar, he said.

When they did meet, Madison told me, the dentist didn’t haggle. He didn’t resist anything. He was good to go at the full price my client initially quoted. A full-price paying client in the bag!

Distortion kills relationships

So this is really instructive: Our beliefs about people shape what we see in people. Our beliefs can create or hinder any potential. Had the client not been in the Positively Focused practice, she might have taken action based on her “ghosting” belief that could have completely severed the deal and confirmed her negative interpretation.

How many times have we held a belief about someone, an interpretation, which triggered frustration or anger in us, then we acted on that frustration or anger in a way which killed the relationship, a relationship that could have gone the other way had we held a different belief about it and acted from that belief instead?

Relationships, intimate ones and business ones, have ended simply because of distortions active among the parties invovled. Madison’s kerfluffle with her employee, which I wrote about in the posts I linked to earlier in this post, was based on such distortions. Distortions both parties — Madison and Jane — held about the other. Madison was ready to let Jane go.

Today, they’re stronger than ever and committed to using the practice to see the best in each other. That’s a really good thing and a great outcome from a strongly negative experience.

Becoming gods that we are

There are a lot of people in the world right now railing against other people. Their beliefs about those people aren’t positive. When we point a finger at another, in blame or accusation, three fingers remain pointing back at us. This tells us, what we blame or accusation another about, exists in us in abundance. And so does the solution to what we’re complaining about.

Complaint contains strong belief momentum. That momentum, persisted with, will eventually gain more momentum, leading to misanthropy, which is a chronic state of complaint about people. That momentum will inspire matching behavior in us as well as behavior confirming beliefs we have about those we revile. And that explains why so many harbor such lowly beliefs about their fellow humans.

They’re creating the versions of those people they hate.

The good news is, it’s not permanent. Everyone releases such distortions after death. But why wait until then? Like Madison, we can walk into a new world, one where everyone becomes for us the angels that they are, reflecting back to us what is dominant in us. In other words, we can reveal to ourselves what others really are: servants of our sovereign expansion.

We can do that now, in this life. We don’t have to wait until after death. But we must choose. Then we must devote ourselves to this worthy cause. The cause that is our expansion into our greater god-self.