Many people practicing Law of Attraction worry about “negative manifestations”. They think a negative thought, then immediately try to cancel it. That’s because they fear that thought will turn into a negative experience.
Of course, every experience is positive. Even “negative” ones. Negative ones tell us something important. So when they happen, it’s important to see them as that: positive.
But will every negative thought manifest? Do we need to worry about negative thoughts we think for fear that they might show up for real?
Let’s take a look.
Castles or buttons, it doesn’t matter
A client texted me about this very thing. She’s an advanced group practitioner. Yes, even advanced folks experience fears. In fact, a Positively Focused practice remains consistent no matter how advanced one gets. We still work on the same things, including soothing resistance.
As one advances, however, we become bolder in our desires. They get bigger, in other words. It’s that change that indicates progress. Bigger desires bring more disbelief though and disbelief is resistance.
That makes sense, right? Say a person believes they can get a choice parking spot downtown. Manifesting that spot, therefore, introduces little resistance. But say that person wants to win the lottery and she doesn’t believe that’s possible. Or she believes lotteries are taxes on the poor. In this case, her resistance about winning the lottery is a lot stronger than manifesting a parking lot. So there’s more resistance to soothe on the subject of lotteries for this person, than manifesting parking spots.
But whether it’s a parking spot or the lottery, the manifestation process is the same. She doesn’t need more “effort” to real-ize the lottery win compared to the parking space. It seems so only because she has more resistant belief in the former than the latter.
Abraham refers to these two —lottery wins and parking spaces — as “castles” and “buttons” respectively. Big things — castles — are just as easy to create as little ones — buttons — they say:
Abraham making it plain.
The same holds true for what we don’t want. We typically call such experiences “negative”. Negative experience manifests the same way “positive” ones do. If we understand how that “way” happens, there’s no need to freak out about entertaining a “negative” thought.
My advanced client realized this.
Back to my client
She sent me a text expressing her clarity, which I loved. It shows how she’s really getting the practice. That’s no surprise to me. She’s really good at creating her Charmed Life. And she’s seeing evidence of it everywhere.
Lisa getting it.
Indeed. Lisa has enjoyed a long string of positive manifestations. They include better relationships with her children, a literal deluge of men wanting to get with her and big shifts in more personal matters.
And she’s right. We needn’t fear negative manifestations. If we’re maintaining very high vibrations, passing negative thoughts will not overcome that positive high momentum. Remember too that when/if “negative” manifestations do happen, they’re not negative. “Negative” manifestations are positive. They help us know what our dominant vibrational focus is.
Dominant vibrations are those creating our experiences. Often, we don’t clearly know what our dominant vibration is. That’s because “vibrations” are subtle. With practice, it’s easy to feel them. But most folks don’t enjoy such ability. So isn’t it nice that physical reality reflects back to us what our dominant vibration is?
That makes “negative” manifestations something we want to experience, right? They tell us what we’re doing vibrationally. This explains why all life experiences are positive. No matter what label we put on them, they always show us where we are vibrationally so we can do something about it..
Of course, we don’t need negative manifestations to do that. Not when we cultivate sensitivity refined enough to feel vibrations. Such sensitivity, as I wrote above, comes with practice. It’s one of the many benefits of being Positively Focused.
Wanting to know more about creating your own Charmed Life, feeling vibration, or getting results my client Lisa is getting? Contact me. Let’s get you underway.
A fundamental I encourage Positively Focused clients develop is accepting “what is”. Accepting what is makes all the difference. If we want our desires to manifest, we must stop resisting them.
But one way we resist has nothing to do with our desires. This resistance happens subtly. Not realizing we’re doing it can cause great delays in creating lives we love.
Meanwhile, Law of Attraction, the process by which thoughts become things, still happens.
Ever wonder why life comes at us with a mix of good and bad? It’s usually because our thoughts contain a jumble of “good” and “bad”. We can enjoy lives full of nothing but goodness. Most don’t believe lives containing only good stuff are possible. But as Yoda says, we fail because we don’t believe.
Yoda telling it like it is.
Seth says such lives happen rarely because they require great levels of focus and discipline. Most people aren’t willing to put in what’s required. That said, the Charmed Life requires no great amount of focus and discipline. It does require some. But those levels exist well within the reach of most people.
Pernicious non-acceptance
What most people have standing between themselves and their Charmed Life, where everything happens in line with their desires, is that subtle resistance I alluded to above, among other beliefs.
That resistance will slow down every manifesting desire. That resistance looks like any time we do not accept what is happening right in front of us. That’s right, whatever our currently reality is, must be accepted. That is, if we want something different to show up.
Here’s an example of this resistance’s subtlety. If we want something else to show up instead of what IS showing up, and because of that desire, we feel impatience or even a desire for something different, we’re resisting what is. That resistance retards change.
Because, as Abraham has said over and over, when we say “I don’t like this”, the Universe hears “give me more of this.” In other words, whatever we put our attention on is what we get more of.
Abraham once again delivering the gold.
So cultivating a state of being that accepts what is, is crucial. Then we must go beyond that and find a joyful acceptance not only of what is, but also of what is becoming, but hasn’t fully blown out into our physical life experience…yet.
That state feels like something. It’s something crucial to allowing that which we want to flow effortlessly into our lives.
Here’s a clue to what that state feels like. Ask yourself: “How do I feel about things I really enjoy that I already have?”That’s an inquiry worth making. It can open doors to tremendous possibility.
The essence of this manifestation business is focus. The better the focus, the better the manifestations. I get better manifestations when I remember this, then put my attention, or focus, on that which I’m wanting.
“What I’m wanting” is so important. We often think we’re focused on what we want when we stand metaphorically in the desire of something. But that’s like asking a question over and over and not being willing to hear the answer.
What we really want is the answer, not the question. But in the manifestation business, we often think we fail at manifestation when we don’t get what we want. Or when it takes so long to get what we want that we give up.
But Law of Attraction is always responding to what we focus on and delivering that. So when it seems like things just keep turning out the same, instead of improving, that’s what’s happening. Law of Attraction is working. It’s just giving us what we’re focused on.
Getting what I want
We can’t keep focusing on the question and receive the answer. We also can’t focus on the desire for something and get what we desire. That’s because the desire, often feels like asking the question over and over.
Think about it. If we focus on wanting something, we still don’t possess what we want. That’s why we want what we want: we don’t have it yet. But in putting attention there, we perpetuate that state of not-having. That’s why for many, getting what they want takes very long or doesn’t happen at all.
Now some things do take a while to happen. That’s because of a couple things. One is resistance. Usually on things we want really badly, that “really badly” indicates strong desire. But it also indicates a lot of resistance in the way.
So getting that kind of manifestation requires soothing that resistance. That resistance must soothe before what we want can come in.
The other reason it may take a while is, what we’re asking for requires a lot of coordination of events in physical reality. This Law of Attraction business isn’t magic. It’s reality. And physical reality happens gradually. So we must cultivate patience.
But if we’re focused in the right place, we don’t need patience. Focused in the right place feels joyful. So much so, even the time it takes for something to happen doesn’t feel like a long time.
Which brings us back to our focus.
Abraham putting it plain.
Getting it right
What does it feel like to have the thing we want?
That’s an important question. It’s important because it highlights where we must focus to enjoy the manifestation we desire. Again, standing in the desire is fraught with shaky vibration. Standing there it’s too easy to activate the absence of what one wants. Then Law of Attraction will keep manifesting that.
But if we can feel what it feels like to already enjoy that thing we want, well then, we’re in a totally different vibration.
Feeling thrilled, or excited or happy about a full-fledged manifestation is a start. But in the absence of having what we want, it can again, be tricky staying in that feeling place. There’s a better way that’s easier.
Think about any manifestation you now enjoy. One that happened a while ago. Maybe it’s a job, or a car. Or maybe it’s better health. Are you still, now over-the-moon excited about that past manifestation? Or are you calm easy and not really thinking about it much and generally happy?
It’s likely you’re in the latter feeling place. And that’s the place you want to be in about future manifestation. Feeling as if you have it already feels like that. Calm, easy fun.
It’s a pro tip
No resistance exists in a place where we just accept what is and feel open and empowered and generally happy about life. That’s the sweet spot for allowing in future manifestation. In that place we don’t think about what’s coming. Or maybe we touch on it, but we don’t stay there long enough to trigger doubt or shaky faith. We touch on it, then go right back to accepting what we have. Acknowledging what’s come is a good way to stay in this powerful place.
I practice that often. Whenever I sense a dip in my disposition, I run through all the wonderful manifestations that have come. In short order I’m right back to feeling good. Rarely do I feel dips because I keep a running journal of everything happening in the day. I highlight dreams I experience as well as experiences I enjoy while in meditation.
In this way I perpetuate feelings consistent with vibrations aligned with my Broader Perspective. My Broader Perspective stands constantly looking forward to what’s coming, knowing Law of Attraction has it all handled. I want to stand there as much as possible too.
It’s not a bouncing-off-the-walls feeling. It’s a calm, empowered, knowing that all is unfolding perfectly in my Charmed Life.
Question: I’ve been trying to manifest, but it’s not happening. So how do I make my manifestations into reality?
Answer: “Manifestation” is reality.
Whether we perceive the manifestation or not makes all the difference. Some “manifestations”, aka, reality, slip by people’s awareness. For example, most people will not celebrate the thought “I want to win the lottery”. They’re too focused on getting to the “winning”.
But that thought couldn’t be perceived had it not manifested as “real”. Furthermore, the “winning” depends on first seeing the desire to win as the most important manifestation. Not getting the money.
Knowing that thoughts are reality opens one up to more possibility. Ignoring them can kill off any future manifestation. For example, most people overly focus on the ultimate outcome of the “manifestation stream” — the money in one’s bank account. Focus on that and a person likely misses many prior manifestations that block that ultimate outcome.
Almost everyone adds a ton of resistance to their desires. Ignorant of that, most people can’t get to the “money in your bank” part. So they claim manifesting doesn’t work. But it always works.
Thoughts are reality manifested
Think about it: when we focus on winning a lottery, for example, all kinds of beliefs come up. Here are some:
“Winning the lottery is impossible”
“Winning the lottery is like gambling”
“Only suckers play those games”
“Lotteries manipulate and prey on desperation”
“I’m not lucky”
“I’m want to win, but don’t believe I will”
“I don’t deserve something like this”
That last one runs deep and is most powerful. Most people don’t realize they hold such beliefs. But most do.
Here’s the rub: all these beliefs are manifestations, just like thoughts. Thoughts are early manifestations. Beliefs are further evolved manifestations. They enjoy more momentum than a thought.
Beliefs and thoughts both create realities consistent with them. So if any of the above beliefs are strongly believed, winning the lottery isn’t likely.
Such beliefs conjure feelings like doubt, uncertainty and pessimism, which tell the person (even though she doesn’t realize this) “you’re not going to win the lottery!” When they play, they won’t win. Not winning is the ultimate manifestation of their persistent thoughts about the manifested reality called “winning the lottery.” So their desire “manifested”.
And that’s an important outcome. Not winning the lottery tells the player they hold beliefs contrary to their desire. Not winning therefore, isn’t failure. It’s information the player wants to know.
So thoughts are reality. Most people won’t agree. They think “reality” must be something they can touch, see, feel or interact with. But don’t we do that with our thoughts? We feel them, interact with them, we imagine them into our mind’s eye, so we can see them. Then they shape our experiences.
How to not get your manifestation
Back to the lottery: If we’re waiting for the ultimate manifestation, it’s easy to slip into impatience too. That emotion tells us “you’re not going to win the lottery” as well. Any negative emotion about a subject tells us we’re going away from or blocking our desired manifestation in that subject area.
This is all why it’s important to understand ALL manifestations are reality. Including thoughts. It’s also important knowing what “manifestations” look like. If we don’t know a thought is a manifestation, for example, we won’t know what next appropriate step to take after receiving the thought or receiving its downstream manifestation.
Not knowing that, we’ll kibosh the next evolving version of that manifested reality. Which is why so many people give up on dreams (such as winning the lottery), then, in their cynicism tell others to “get real” or, “this manifestation business doesn’t work.”
It doesn’t work. For them. Because they’ve manifested a reality in which it appears to not work. But it’s working.
If we want to manifest effectively, we must realize manifestations start at the incipient stage – first as thoughts – then know what to do from there. Knowing that, it’s easy turning reality into a Charmed Life.
It’s amazing how fast things will manifest in resistance’s absence. And on manifestations where very little resistance exists, things wanted happen in a matter of days. Like this cool manifestation I created this past spring.
Manifestations can happen in an instant. For most of us though, manifesting something we want hardly ever happens. And for things we really, really want, manifestation never happens. That’s why so few believe “manifesting” things is “a thing”.
The reason manifesting hardly ever happens or never happens for most people is because of resistance. Resistance can look like many things. Usually, resistance gets created when a person thinks they’re thinking about what they’re wanting to manifest. But instead, they’re thinking about the absence of that. So when what they want doesn’t happen, they think manifestation isn’t working.
It’s working, though. In this case, the person is manifesting what they’re focusing on, which is the absence of what they want. So they get what they focus on, not what they want: the absence of the wanted thing.
That’s why so many think manifesting things doesn’t work. They don’t know what they’re doing.
But with a few months practice, anyone can create the Charmed Life, the life wherein everything someone wants, happens in such obvious ways, “you create your reality” becomes more than a New Age saying. It literally becomes daily life.
Personal experience abounds
My own life reveals how accurate this is. Yes, things I really want I see more evidence of. I write every week about how things I want manifest. One day a reader said “you always write about little things happening” implying that the little things aren’t that big of a deal.
But they are a big deal. Manifesting little things is really important. Through those little things, I’ve gained confidence. I see tons of wonderful manifestations happening. Because of that, my awareness has expanded to allow me to be able to see evidence of those bigger things most people want – money, relationships, etc. – happening too.
Not only am I feeling more confident they’re happening, others express seeing evidence of them unfolding too in my life and theirs as a result of being my client. So all this evidence soothes disbelief I have about bigger things bing possible.
In the meantime, I use little things that happen near instantly, or in a few days, to build my appreciation of my own Charmed Life. When I do that, I feel lighter and more in love about life.
This all means those little things aren’t little anymore. They represent big indicators of the bigger things coming and they prepare me for them too. For that reason, I celebrate when little things happen. Which is exactly what I did as winter turned to spring earlier this year.
Something lost means something bigger coming
One day in late May I rode my bike to my local Safeway. May where I live brings cool mornings and more temperate afternoons. It’s shirt sleeve riding weather after say 3 p.m. But before that, at least for me, it’s jacket, gloves and a winter cap riding conditions.
On this day I wore all three. At Safeway, I locked my bike, got my groceries, then headed back to my bike. By the time I finished shopping, the weather turned warm. So instead of putting on my winter riding gloves, which are windproof, waterproof and warm, I put on my summer gloves which decidedly are not.
Little did I realize I left my winter riding gloves in the shopping cart. With gloves on my hands, I didn’t think to check the cart. I got on my bike and pedaled away.
It wasn’t until days later that I discovered what happened. They were my favorite riding gloves. I had them for three years. They cost me $50. Though disappointed, I didn’t let my carelessness totally bum me out. Instead, I knew the fact that I left them behind meant someone else needed them more than me. I also realized Universe was bringing me a replacement.
That’s exactly what happened
As May turned to June, the weather dramatically improved. Indeed, on the week in question, the weather promised its first above 80 degree day. On sunny days I love riding to the beach to bask on hot sands while writing a blog or reading. This was going to be my first day to do that this year. So that was my plan.
I loaded my bike with all my gear and headed out for the beach. Not four blocks from where I live, on the way to my lovely spot, an amazing thing happened.
Once I crossed a main street, a postal truck stopped in my path. I slowed behind and waited, then it turned left down a side road. When it turned I saw these two black things in the road. As I got closer to them, they came into view. It was these bad boys just lying in the middle of the road.
Showers Pass is a top-of-the line winter and rain biking brand. I already own a riding jacket made by the same brand and I love it. Imagine seeing these in the middle of the road. I picked them up and tried them on. Of course, they fit perfectly!
As I said, I paid $50 for those gloves I lost. These cost a bit more and feel way better on my hands.
The rest of my ride to the spot I rode on my own little cloud nine. Rather than riding all the way to the beach, I stopped at a little lake filled with ducks, turtle and nutria. It was the perfect, private quiet spot for me to revel in this wonderful replacement.
A perfect recipe
I knew rendezvousing with these gloves was the response to my Positively Focused attitude about giving up my older ones. The minute I recognized them as gloves, I just knew what was happening. That’s why I felt so amazing when it happened.
How this happened matched perfectly the recipe for manifesting something one wants. First, I didn’t stew on the fact that I lost something. Instead, I knew that somehow, some way, something better would replace what left my life. I also appreciated that whoever now had my old gloves would enjoy them and, needed them more than me.
Then I pretty much forgot that I left them behind altogether. That allowed my Broader Perspective to go to work coordinating something better to flow in to my life. Because I wasn’t stewing, I had no resistance around having “lost” my old gloves. In other words, instead of focusing on what I don’t want (losing my gloves), I focused on what I wanted (knowing something better was coming).
And that’s what happened.
This seems like a small thing, not really worth talking about. But it’s important to know these little experiences, recognize them and amplify them. That’s because these little things will build within me trust and belief that if these little things can happen, the bigger, more wonderful manifestations are happening too, which is true.
They’re only taking longer because I harbor more resistance (disbelief, for example) about those than about these smaller things. But with each smaller thing that manifests, I gain more belief in the bigger things. And at some point, each increment of more belief, must add up to enough belief to overcome the disbelief. Then the bigger thing I want, will pop into my life experience.
It must, because that’s how this “manifesting business” works!
Why do some things seem impossible, daunting and unfeasible? Are they really? To understand why nothing is impossible, daunting or unfeasible, one must know how thoughts become things.
Peter Gabriel, an English musician, singer, songwriter, record producer and activist gets it. He penned a song called “Mercy Street“. Its first two versus give clues about how reality happens. It’s worth navigating to that site and read the first to lyrics. I removed them here to avoid being sued for using lyrics without permission!
In this post I’ll introduce one aspect of that knowing of how thoughts become things: The nature of time. In part two, I’ll use something I’m creating that some people think is impossible as a model illustrating how thoughts turn to things and nothing is impossible.
It’s important first knowing that all experience is subjective. No two points of consciousness share the same experience, even when two people focus on what they may think is the same thing. In this way, each human creates their unique experience. Time participates in shaping each experience.
Time to know time
“Time” is an important component in thoughts turning to things. If a person wants to deliberately create their reality, they must grok time as a cooperative element.
It’s obvious most people don’t understand time. Look around. Impatience, haste, deadlines and other artifacts of our socio-economic system show how humans push against and fight against time. If they knew what time was, their impatience, haste and eagerness to beat time would vanish.
Understanding time allows a person great freedom and flexibility. That’s because in understanding it, a person finds more joy in life. Such joy eludes those moving through the world using the social construct known as time.
The social construct that is time works against people’s ability to express their natural creative abilities. (Photo by Djim Loic on Unsplash)
So what is time? It is an interpretation springing from a human point of consciousness. As that consciousness considers “what is” becoming something else, natural time happens. Natural time is that interval between “what is” and the something else it becomes. This time is not the same time people most commonly think about.
Nearly every human does this “considering” thing. So everyone thinks everyone else shares the experience they experience. But each person’s experience is unique. Nothing gets shared. Including the interval called time.
This natural time, the interval, has nothing to do with clocks.
Time created in insecurity
The social construct we call time is something domineering humans put in place to regulate how people get things done. Look back at history and what happened when domineering cultures met other cultures still connected with natural processes.
Thus we have “monochronic” time. In it, people get things done in a coordinated way, using time increments segmented into small precise units. This coordinated time is called “clock time” (by Eckart Tolle) or “assembly line time” (by Seth). This kind of time is the common, agreed-upon phenomenon through which everyone coordinates their activity all around the world.
But that time is based on insecurity, born of disconnection. It’s why westerners were once highly frustrated with Mexicans, Native Americans or Australian Aboriginals. When such people met, they gathered on natural or polychronic time. They met when moved. This often infuriated insecure westerners impatient to “get things done”. Fury, anger and impatience indicate powerlessness and insecurity.
Variable speed polychronic time
Polychronic time gets closer to the interval that is natural time. Again, this interval happens while a current manifested thing changes into something else. The word “time” doesn’t accurately capture the experience though because the word “time” implies something fixed and linear. “Fixed” and “linear” are attributes of clock time, not natural time. That’s why “interval” fits better.
Clock time possesses three other attributes: apparent past, present and future. Each flows from one to the other. The interval between manifestation, however, is highly flexible, nonlinear, and all happening in the now. One thing turning into another can happen in an instant. Or it can take eons. And since it’s all happening now, past, present and future don’t exist. Clock time creates past, present and future. Natural time is now, now, now.
While you may not have experienced past, present and future as happening at once, I’m certain your experience includes witnessing time’s flexibility. Natural time also enjoys variable speeds at which it passes. How long or short natural time’s interval lasts, depends on the consciousness experiencing it.
How “fast” time passes depends on one’s resistance about what is becoming. With little resistance, one manifestation turns into another quickly. With high resistance, manifestations might never happen. The interval can stretch into forever. Or pass so fast, you’re surprised it’s happened so quickly.
Time, natural time, expands or contracts depending on the consciousness experiencing it. (Photo by Mathew Schwartz on Unsplash)
Instantaneous time happens
Natural time exists in infinitesimal quantities in the place from which we come. I call that place “nonphysical”. Everything happens there instantly. That’s because resistance in that place is so low, it’s not worth considering.
You’ve already experienced how time can fly by or crawl. Your state of being shapes the interval. Absorbed in an activity, the interval contracts. When bored out your ass, the interval expands.
The Universe is consistent. So if your experience of natural time shows you its variable speed, stretching and contracting, then a place must exist where time goes so quick things happen in an instant.
We know, then, theoretically a place exists where time essentially doesn’t exist. Everything happens at once there. That place can be experienced. But let’s call it theoretical for now.
Good reasons exist for why time functions differently here compared to in nonphysical. But let’s not bother with that. Instead, let’s see now how putting all this theory to work works.
Simultaneous early manifestation
When a person receives a desire, that desire came from someplace. The desire exists before it shows up in the person’s mind. Where it exists is the same place we come from and where time is practically nonexistent: the nonphysical.
So a desire “manifests” first in the mind of a person. That desire wants full expression. Usually desires show up in more than one mind. That way, it enjoys a higher probability of becoming fully expressed. We hear of stories where one creative sues another. The plaintiff claims defendant “stole” a creative’s idea. Sometimes it’s a film idea, or a book concept or a melody, for example.
Usually, the plaintiff gets angry because they didn’t act on the idea, but the defendant one did. Such situations happen because a single idea shows up in many people’s minds at once. But usually only on person will take it to completion.
The minute that desire shows up in the mind, in nonphysical, all resources needed for its full expression, exist. Resources are like desires. They come from the same place desires do. In that place, everything happens instantly. So when a desire exists in nonphysical, so must all resources needed for its full expression.
The minute a desire shows up in the mind, in nonphysical, all resources needed for its full expression, exist. Deliberate creators know their job is to relax and let the desire fulfill itself. (Photo by Vu Thu Giang on Unsplash)
Fertile ground or dead end?
But when a desire shows up in a mind, other thoughts already exist there. These other thoughts create an atmosphere either conducive or detrimental to the desire. That atmosphere will largely determine whether the person receiving the desire acts or not. “Atmosphere” can also be called “momentum”.
Consider a person who believes life is hard, money comes from working for another, people are greedy and “I am not worthy of my dreams.” Such a person isn’t likely to receive a desire inconsistent with what they believe. But let’s say they do. And the desire they get is “create a nonprofit for dogs.”
Don’t you think that person’s immediate reaction to that desire would likely be one of the following?
That’s crazy. I can’t do that!
Where would I get the money?
No one will support that
I’m too busy trying to pay my bills
I can’t quit my job
How would I do that?
These thoughts exist quite comfortably in the atmosphere created by thoughts like “I am not worthy of my dreams,” life is hard, money comes from working for another, people are greedy. So if the desire shows up, odds are it won’t get expressed.
But for the person who understands how dreams are made real, as Peter Gabriel put it in “Mercy Street”, the desire flourishes. That flourish gets aided by time. I’ll cover how in my next post.
Someone wrote me recently asking if being an “empath” is real. They wondered how Law of Attraction works for empaths since no one, this person claims, can “absorb another’s feelings.”
It’s a good question. The question sits right among other questions people don’t want answers to because the answers, while accurate, confront commonly-accepted explanations about life and how it works.
Society accepts people calling themselves empaths. Lots of articles online describe its characteristics. Such articles also offer advice about being one. They suggest ways of negotiating struggles empaths have, and how to become an empath if you’re not.
For the record, I would NEVER recommend someone become an empath. Nor would I recommend anyone claim that word to describe themselves if they think they are one. Here’s why.
“Empath”: a slur hardly anyone knows about
A lot of empaths get bunged up when someone claims being an “empath” isn’t real. I had a business relationship turn sour when I told the person I considered doing business with that such a thing isn’t real.
I didn’t know back then what I know now.
Law of Attraction says anyone can create any reality they want. Hold a belief long enough, it says, and it will become “true” for the person holding the belief. Seth confirms this in their writings too. Their book “The Magical Approach” lays out exactly how Law of Attraction works although they don’t call it that.
The dictionary definition based on a science perspective. Not the best perspective when considering things outside of science’s purview.
So let’s take a gander at what’s happening with “empaths”, whether they’re real or not, how Law of Attraction works for them and why I would recommend no one call themselves an empath.
Looking at what it is
The definition I pasted above comes from mainstream culture. Its underlying message is the whole idea of a person who can “apprehend” the mental and emotional state of another is “paranormal”, meaning beyond the scope of normal scientific understanding. Alright then. Good start.
In other words, science will not be helpful here. Same holds true with Law of Attraction. People saying Law of Attraction is false will argue no scientific evidence exists supporting its veracity.
And the definition of the word used to describe empathic abilities.
Well, Law of Attraction is PARANORMAL, meaning it is “beyond the scope of science” and therefore out of science’s reach or purview. In other words, science has no say in the matter because Law of Attraction is out of its scope.
Now, an empath is someone who can perceive and understand (that’s what “apprehend” means in this context) what another feels or thinks. The key distinction between perception such as this, which we all have, and an empath, is that an empath perceives and understands what another feels or thinks as though what another thinks or feels are the empath’s thoughts and feelings.
Is that actually happening?
Maybe…
We all are one
On the one hand, at a level beneath ordinary conscious awareness we all are one. At the deepest level of our being, all of us share the same Source. It exists beyond the unconscious mind, as illustrated below. That 4th stage, far right, called Turiya in Yoga Theory, is that state of being.
A masterful diagram of human consciousness derived from “yogic science”. “A” represents waking consciousness, functioning through the body, the senses and our intellect/mind. “U” represents that part of the conscious we have active access to, which informs how we use section “A”. “M” represents that part of the consciousness which creates consistent behavior patterns in A and U. It is accessible through disciplined practices such as Positively Focused. “4th” represents the eternal, indestructible essence of what we all are.
So connections exist between us all, which, in theory, would have us able to perceive another’s mental or emotional state. This connection is accessible, but only with a lot of practice. Do empaths experience others’ experiences – thoughts, feelings, etc. – as their own? Or is something else happening?
We all are one. And our feelings tell us something really important. Empaths miss this totally. (Photo by Brock Wegner on Unsplash)
Vibratory receptivity
Law of Attraction says everything has a basis in vibration. And, “that which is liken to itself is drawn”. Remember that.
We live in a vibrational environment, which our senses (see the left side of the picture above) interpret into objects and space. “Everything” includes us humans. We, therefore, are vibrational energy beings, who created our bodies as a way to expand into more and better via this “reality” which we also create, just like our bodies. I wrote extensively about why and how that is on Quora in case you’re interested.
Since we’re all one at the basis of what we are, and since we all are also vibration, it’s absolutely true each of us can harmonize with another’s vibration, or be open to grok another’s vibration such that we perceive the vibratory content of that person.
But there’s a dark side to what’s happening with people claiming empathic abilities.This aspect needn’t happen and, frankly, shouldn’t. It happening gives rise to all problems empaths experience. It also kiboshes any chance of an empath experiencing the Charmed Life I write about.
In a nutshell, an empath experiences what they experience because they are sloppy in their vibrational focus. Empaths suffer from their “empathic abilities” because of this. I put “empathic abilities” in quotes because it’s not really an “ability”.
Rather, it’s a failure on the part of the “empath” to deliberately apply creative vibrational focus. Instead of doing that, they allow themselves to harmonize with what they’re observing. In other words, as the Law of Attraction says, they become liken to that which they observe, then get drawn into it (they become it).
Then the empath thinks they are doing something special. But they’re not doing something special. They’re doing something sloppily. Empaths allow their vibration to tune to that of another person. When they do that, they experience what the other experiences, but it’s their version of it, not what the person experiences.
That’s why I call “empath” a slur. Instead of describing something desirable, “empath” describes a state where one allows another’s vibration or something they’re observing to downwardly influence their own vibration.
Struggles empaths experience are self-inflicted. (Photo by Molnár Bálint on Unsplash)
Charmed Life or self-inflicted struggle?
Many “empaths” feel overwhelmed by their surroundings. Again, this is because they’re not focusing their vibration deliberately. Instead, they just “let it all in” the good, the bad and the ugly.
Not just that, they go even farther. They also let their vibration merge or come into harmonic alignment with that which they’re allowing in. In other words, the environment they’re in, vibrationally dominates them.
But they could tune and then, hold their vibration and dominate the environment thereby creating something better than what was there before.
If they did the latter, they wouldn’t experience “empathic abilities”, they’d experience the Charmed Life. That’s because when a person’s vibration dominates their environment, and their vibration is high, that environment MUST reflect back to the person their dominant, high vibration.
Abraham putting it plain. Empaths get created when people let their thinking get sloppy. Negative experiences they have are trying to tell them to knock off their sloppy vibrational management.
I could be an empath, but would NEVER use that term
In 1:1 sessions with clients I create a deliberate, vibratory “bubble”. There, I dominate the experience with my very high vibration. That’s why my clients always exclaim how much better they feel after their sessions. They also come to greater insights about their lives, because my focus brings them up to a high vibrational state from which they perceive life differently.
Here’s a client acknowledging results he got, and his appreciation, after just two sessions. Before joining me in my “bubble”, he was on the verge of suicide.
Having practiced this practice for over 15 years now, it’s very easy for me to perceive what another person feels. Sometimes I can tell what they’re thinking too. That’s because, I’ve cultivated the ability to perceive at the vibrational (Source) level, and allow that perception into mine. This skill heightens significantly in the bubble.
I NEVER allow a client’s vibration to effect mine. Never. Ever. Doing so would not serve the client. And, it would be exactly what Abraham says not to do: allow what you observe to effect your vibration.
So to me, being an “empath” is real. But being one isn’t a gift or something someone wants to be, unless they don’t understand what being an empath is about. It’s just a person who is somewhat vibrationally attuned, being sloppy with their vibration.
I prefer being a vibrational snob. Doing so has served me well. In this brief video, Abraham describes why everyone should strive for vibrational snobbiness.
A vibrational snob is something you really want to be. Not an empath.
How Law of Attraction works for empaths
Law of Attraction works for everyone. Even those who believe it doesn’t work. For an “empath”, it’s amplifying the effect of their sloppy vibration management. Giving it (the sloppiness) a high-falutin’ word like “empath” further amplifies it, for now, the person believes they are something special.
And that focus adds momentum to their thoughts and actions. They are prone to do more of what they are doing and thus feel more of what they’re feeling (somewhat out of control, a victim of their surroundings, powerless to manage their feelings, tired, anxious, etc.).
But, such people come into the world with a great ability. If they deliberately manage their vibration, they can use their sensitivity to help others. The Star Trek character Deanna Troy, a supposed “empath” offers an example of what such people can be. She is stoic, aware, clear about distinguishing what she’s feeling and what SHE HERSELF FEELS. That’s a powerful distinction from most empaths I know.
In my experience, people who claim that title, tend to live lives of struggle, especially socially. Again, this is their doing, a product of sloppy vibrational tuning, amplified by their focus on the sloppiness.
So, yes, there is such a thing as “empath”. But it’s not something I would want to claim. Instead, I prefer vibrational mastery. That’s what I show my clients how to attain. Then we get to enjoy our Charmed Lives. Where everything we want happens.
Sometimes the best results come from what ordinary folks call “failure”. “Ordinary folks” are those who don’t understand what emotions are for and how to use them to get everything they want easily.
For them “failure” represents a “reality experience” that must be avoided. Others taught them they must avoid “failure” at all costs. I learned that too. But failure can also look like not fitting in, or living life in ways others don’t approve of.
It could look like not earning an amount of money others think is respectable. In other words, failure often means “not getting others’ approval”. So avoiding failure often turns into seeking approval or, better stated, avoiding others’ disapproval. So dreams get forgotten, one tries to fit in instead of living authentically or pursuing “unrealistic” ideas. Ideas that, if pursued change the world.
Failure: not an option
But for the Positively Focused person, failure doesn’t exist. Every experience proves fabulously expansive, bringing more and deeper joy, satisfaction and clarity.
Some people can’t conceive of a life where only good things happen. But good things happening is Universe’s default mode. Nothing “bad” ever happens.
But again, after going through indoctrination we get from those who’ve come before, those who forgot what they knew, life comprises a mixture of “good” things and “bad” things.
That’s why few people get anywhere near understanding they create their reality. They just can’t accept they stand at the center of the Universe, a Universe conspiring to deliver any outcome one wants, “good” OR “bad”.
Life is a series of good events. If you’re not seeing it that way, you’ve been indoctrinated into seeing life the way it isn’t.
Ambitions the size of your dreams
Once cracks show up in that indoctrination though, life gets interesting. Not only will one see life different, it occurs different too. Dreams become real again. Desires, small ones at first, start showing themselves as complete/fulfilled. Belief emerges from within, then hope, then optimism. In time, ambition grows as do the size of one’s dreams.
Moving through such stages in my own Positively Focused practice has me focusing into reality things I once though impossible. One such thing is creating events which lead to money showing up with no effort.
I’m in early stages on this subject, but getting better at it. My most recent experience gave me a great example that inspired greater belief/knowing in me. It also reminded me “failure” is fiction.
Dreams are your reality the moment you give up thinking the way you were taught.
Abraham’s right, of course
Crypto markets now offer wealth-building opportunities making many people around the world life-changing wealth. My curiosity with crypto extends to creating experiences – manifestations – which fortify my knowing that I create my reality. Especially around money.
Abraham has said when a person’s vibration gets chronic and high enough such that large sums of money flow into their life, they’ve accomplished something significant. Specifically, here’s what they say:
“Once you are able to achieve and consistently maintain your personal alignment, a great deal of money will flow into your experience (if that is your desire).”
Abraham email Sept. 30, 2021
I therefore recognize my trajectory on money as an indicator of something significant, not an end goal. My old trajectory once included too many negative thoughts about money. Even though for a time I was quite financially successful, I didn’t enjoy it much because of this.
Today though I’m finding it fun focusing lightly on money as a subject. Which brings me to what happened.
Putting it to the test
A client of mine and I share my crypto enthusiasm. We both want to see how well our focus creates circumstances such that wealth from crypto flows into our lives.
So over several days, after reviewing a number of coins, I waited to see what one coin, Shibu Inu, might do if I set an intention about it. First, I casually paid attention to its progress over those days.
Having done that, I got the impulse to set an alert for the coin’s price, expecting it to drop to a point where I might put money in. That same day, the price dropped to that point, the news of which I shared with my client.
Two days later, the price jumped 10 percent. Had I put money into the coin, a 10 percent gain would have been nice. I didn’t put money in because I was testing this process. Not trying to make money. I was more exploring than anything else. I’m in no hurry either.
Messaging my client…Shibu Inu jumps 10 percent.
More evidence begets boldness?
Curious with that outcome, the next day I put an alert, on a whim, on Bitcoin. My impulse suggested marking it at $50k. At the time it was in the low $40s. The next day the alert triggered.
My software alerting me of the “manifestation”.
So I put another in at $50.3 and again, the alert triggered, indicating Bitcoin rose to my second casual expectation.
BTC pushes up over $50.3 (The thin vertical green line protruding from the right-most rectangle). The horizontal orange dotted line represents my $51K alert I set later.
While all this was happening, I was on vacation. Someone following Copiosis gave me $1500 in Bitcoin to take some time off. I funded vacation expenses with my money, expecting Bitcoin would reimburse my expenses. Bitcoin’s price dropped a bit, however, which dropped the value of the $1500 down to about $1200.
What’s interesting about that is my entire trip expenses totaled about $1200. I lived on the cheap even though I flew first class – another story I’m writing a blog post about – so seeing Bitcoin drop a bit wasn’t as disconcerting as it could have been.
Still, I wanted to see what would happen, were I to “expect” or “manifest” Bitcoin going up. So, like I did with Shibu Inu, on Dec. 17, I casually put an alert in my software for Bitcoin to rise to over $51K (see photo above). I didn’t know if that would be enough to recover the $300. That didn’t matter though. I was playing around.
Taking action too soon
Five days later, on Dec. 21, I started getting impatient. The money I used to travel, which I planned to reimburse from my supporter’s gift, was money I typically use to pay rent. So I wanted Bitcoin to go back up so I could cover my $1200 trip. At that moment, the coin was at around $1200, but I wanted it to go at least up to $1300.
Checking that day, Bitcoin rose to $49K. Close to what I wanted. But not high enough to trigger my alert. At that level, my Bitcoin holding’s value was $1360. Enough to replace my funds. I speculated about whether I should just cash it in and be good…
Here’s where my “failure” came in.
Abraham talks about this kind of thing all the time. They talk about “taking action too soon,” meaning, doing something to create an outcome instead of allowing Universe do it for you. Taking action too soon usually happens out of impatience, frustration, or doubt. That’s why I did what I did. I doubted.
I didn’t know when Bitcoin would get to $51K. To be honest, I knew it would. What I doubted was whether it could get there before I needed to pay my rent nine days hence. So I cashed in my supporter’s gift, which covered all my expenses.
Then it happened
The very next day, though, almost exactly 24-hours later, when I woke up, I received an alert. Bitcoin had surpassed the $51K!
Bitcoin pushes past my alert just before it drops in the next hour.
While I enjoyed and felt relief in having cashed in my gift 24 hours ago, I also felt disappointed I hadn’t waited. Had I waited and received exactly what I asked, not only would I have fulfilled my desire, I would have experienced a wonderful fuller fulfillment of it, proving the Universe had my back.
I still see that’s what happened, but I missed out on the “more” that was available by acting too soon. Honestly, the difference between cashing in when I did and waiting until it went where I expected was about $64. So I didn’t miss much.
Still, taking action too soon destroyed the marvel, the joy of seeing Universe respond to my request. But since my awareness is expanded, even missing the delight of that offered a nice surprise. In seeing what happened from a Positively Focused perspective, I got that I took action too soon, but still reveled in the realization.
I got this nice blog out of it too!
One could say I “failed” to follow through and benefit from my desired manifestation. Did I though? Or did I get something just as good: I still see Universe giving me everything I want. Where’s the failure in that? I say there isn’t any.
I love it when my clients’ experiences highlight my own negative focus, thereby allowing me to do something about that, the doing of which amplifies my Positively Focused practice.
That sounds convoluted. But it rings true in light of what happened in a recent client session.
In the session, my client shared a wonderful unfolding manifestation she created. Weeks ago, she encountered a women’s group called Sisters On The Fly, which empowers women through outdoor adventures. They explore the world in recreational vehicles, on horses, in canoes and more. Through such experiences they create independent, capable women.
These explorations serve as backdrops for building community, camaraderie and lifelong friendships. Fly fishing, horse back riding, camping, hiking, biking and kayaking all are on the agenda.
My client camped, fished and hiked before. But a lot of what these women do, she’s never done, including riding a bike! So Sisters On The Fly offered something special to my client. An opportunity to expand friendships and experiences.
A good story turns great
While listening to my client, I saw that sparkle of passion blaze in her eyes. Little did I know, she was just getting started.
One day, my client said, she called her partner Dale at work. She asked how he was doing. Dale works as consignment manager at an RV dealership.
“Today,” Dale said. “I’m doing great because I’m the customer.”
Dale often jokes with his partner, my client. Some days his joking annoys her. Today was one of those days. But in her annoyance, my client missed clues Dale offered. Clues indicating he had a big surprise for her. A surprise that dovetailed perfectly with Sisters On The Fly. One that would cause my client to soar with joy.
That’s why Dale was the customer that day. He purchased a recreational vehicle as a surprise for his partner. The vehicle he bought? A 1989 Ford TransVan conversion.
Ford used to take ordinary Econoline cargo vans and convert them into recreational vehicles. With only 55,000 miles on it and costing only $3000, this TransVan was a deal Dale could refuse.
This isn’t my client’s but it is what it looks like. See the interior at “Aubernutter” on YouTube here.
Ugly duckling? Or Swan?
When Dale told my client what he was doing, initially, she was not happy about it. She imagined driving a van being unwieldy and uncomfortable. Scary even. A number of other concerns came to mind too. Its looks for example. 😂
But then she dropped those thoughts after realizing what really happened. With no expenditure of either money or effort on her part, she created for herself what she now sees as the perfect RV supporting her desire to play with Sisters On The Fly.
She told me about seeing the van for the first time. My client said she felt herself transform in front of it. It’s quirky exterior and even quirkier interior made her wince at first. Then she imagined wonderful adventures she could have driving this van – sleeping beside rushing rivers, and camping out with a bunch of women who looked fun and adventurous, and learning to ride a bike!
“I would have never considered such a vehicle,” My client said. “But when I saw it, I had to admit, it was really fun thinking about the fun I could have in it.”
Her excitement creates my extraordinary experience
That’s the point at which we had our session. My client bubbled over with joy about the unfolding, all of which happened with her doing hardly anything about it.
But what was really extraordinary for me, was how her story affected my own journey. When she told me about how she got this RV essentially for free from her partner, I experienced envy. Anyone who reads this blog regularly knows I endeavor to travel the rest of my life in an Airstream trailer towed by a Ford F-150 truck as I create inspiring stories like this one, and also move Copiosis forward.
So hearing her story offered something special beyond my client’s joy and excitement. I felt “envy” for that reason. Most people don’t realize how such emotions offer HUGE hidden value along with their apparent discomfort. People don’t get that because they don’t understand what emotions are for.
But I know. I know “envy“ tells me something important. And so while listening and reveling in my client’s experience, I also did something about envy I felt. And in doing that I furthered my own fulfilling desire.
Here’s what I did: I thought differently about what my client told me.
The Airstream I’m attracting……And the truck that will tow my Airstream.
Creating new thoughts
Resistance I felt which people call “envy” grew from thoughts I told myself. Thoughts like like these:
I want something like that to happen to me
Why can’t that happen in my life
Why is my own desire taking so long
I wish I had someone who’d do that for me
In other words, I wanted what my client was getting. Of course, I don’t want a 1989 TransVan. I want a brand new Airstream trailer pulled by a brand new Ford F-150 truck, customized to my desire.
But the fact that I felt envy about my client’s story told me I still had resistant thoughts such as those above. Thoughts not about what my client got, but about what I wanted. And those thoughts slow my desire fulfillment.
My client’s experience therefore offered insight into my own. Insights lighting up resistance I must soothe. My client’s experience was created for me as much as her. For it showed me my own version of what she got revealing itself to me through her.
That sentence is worth reading again.
From that epiphany, I could think better thoughts. Thoughts aligned with my version of what my client got. Those thoughts sounded like this:
I’m so glad I had this expeirence
It showed me exactly where I am relative to what I want
Now I can chart my way vibrationally more on course
I love knowing that
Seeing this new, more powerful perspective thrills me
I love recognizing gifts I’m getting from this story
And in recognizing these new, better feeling thoughts, I felt envy go away. In its place came joy, appreciation and adventure. Exactly those feelings I’ll feel when my own version of my client’s story fully blossoms.
Amplify, amplify, amplify!
I knew feeling joy, appreciation and adventure then, indicated alignment to that unfolding I desire, in which I’ll feel joy, appreciation and adventure in the receiving later. I knew also that that inner transformation meant I’m even closer to that full-blown fulfillment.
Catching all this, then doing something about it created more momentum in me. Pleasure I felt indicated that increased momentum. By cleaning up my thoughts, not only did I find more joy in hearing her story, I found more joy in my own transformational experience. Joy too in soothing resistance, thereby increasing manifestational momentum.
Next, I wrote a journal entry about the experience. That journal entry, the writing of it, further amplified my momentum. Within the entry I did a basic amplification process which amplified the momentum even further. Then I dictated this blog’s first draft.
My Journal.
What happened here?
What happened was my exterior reality, through my client, showed me another aspect of resistant thought slowing down my desire manifestation. My client’s experience also confirmed what is in my future reality. This experience with my client afforded me a chance to soothe resistance I didn’t know I had.
So this whole experience turned out to be a client session for me. A session where I moved forward my own manifestation.
I love seeing and experiencing experiences with clarity. There’s nothing better than clarity. That’s because in clarity I see with pinpoint accuracy where my resistance exists, then do something about it.
The universe cooperates with me giving me experiences which clarify opportunity to amplify momentum, by soothing resistance. In the soothing I move more quickly towards that which I’m wanting.
Put another way: I eliminate resistance standing between me and my manifestations thereby allowing my manifestations to show themselves to me faster. In this way, not only did my client and I enjoy a fabulous session, I benefited from the session as well, as I usually do.
I love client sessions because of this. What we do together creates realities which produce in-the-moment joy and satisfaction as well as eagerness and positive expectation for more such joy and satisfaction in the future. All evidenced by and embodied in manifestations I know are on the way and fulfilling themselves.
This is the Charmed Life. And it’s available for anyone willing to be Positively Focused.
I’ve added yet another running series “Q/A” to my blog. It’s…well…about answering questions I get through the internets and sharing those answers with others as they may help others feel inspired and more connected to the God they are.
I want to manifest a partner, but I cannot visualize how I want her to be like, etc. What can I do by using the Law of Attraction?
What there is to do now is relax and enjoy the process of drawing this person to you. Not worrying about “visualizing how you want her to be like”. That work already is done.
You’ve already done what you need to do through living your life and having partners who showed you more clearly what you wanted, by being what you don’t want. Your Broader Perspective is now holding that new person “out there” for you.
Your job now is to line up with that person who is “out there”. How?
Now have fun
By enjoying your life, finding things to be interested in and appreciating and expanding into the person who eventually will become a match to this person. The only thing keeping that person “out there” instead of in your bed is, you’re not yet a match to her. Were you a match, she’d be there already.
So enjoy the process of becoming and watch how quickly she shows up.
Each partner you’ve had were stepping stones to this person you want now. Most people don’t like this answer, because they think that turns people you’ve been with into means to ends.
Your nows become better nows
But every now experience is a means to future, better nows. Same goes with people. Your life is a continuing process of becoming more and better in all cases that you don’t resist by thinking contrary thoughts to what you want.
But even contrary thoughts benefit because they will – like all thoughts – create realities matching them. So you can see what thoughts dominate your attention, which tells you want’s coming in your future. That’s how you can track towards futures you want.
Including future partners.
Most people don’t know this though. So they flounder, getting some of what they want and a lot of what they don’t. Including sucky love lives…
Don’t be one of those people.
Find your alignment with what you want. You know when you’re aligned when you find life a wonderful ride on the way to what you’re wanting.
Then you have what you want: A wonderful life. The girl then becomes icing on the cake.
