TL;DR: The author shares a powerful real-life story in which simultaneous criticism and praise become vibrational signposts—revealing how contrast and coincidence reflect momentum, alignment, and the Universe’s loving invitation to choose. But only for those who are worthy.
Sometimes, the Universe delivers two seemingly contradictory events at the same time—one that feels negative, and another that feels positive. But when we’re living Positively Focused, when we stand in our worthiness, we start to see both as guidance. Both are reflections. And both are invitations to choose our direction consciously. When negative and positive arrive together, a divine invitation is at hand.
Over the past three weeks, I experienced exactly that. The timing was too perfect to ignore. It was a moment so aligned, so precise, it could only be orchestrated by my Broader Perspective.
The Critic and the Client
On one hand, I was corresponding with a transgender woman. She had taken issue with my work on The Transamorous Network blog. We’ll call her Janet. Being a trans woman, she felt misunderstood, even attacked perhaps, by something I’d written. And though I knew her interpretation didn’t match my intent, I responded with clarity and care to help clear up her Belief Confrontation.
While our correspondence went back and forth, another transgender woman—let’s call her Nancy—scheduled a free one-on-one through that same blog. I didn’t know anything about her until we met. Turns out, Nancy is finishing medical school and is also steeped in clinical psychology. That’s right: a person deeply steeped in the scientific method had read 10 or 20 of my blog posts—and felt drawn enough to reach out for more.
During our free session (which went well beyond the usual 30 minutes), we dove into spiritual principles, her beliefs and how they shape her life, and things she cares about. By the end, she told me she knew there was something in what I share — and she wanted to become a client.
That moment was no accident. It was a deliberate, divinely-timed juxtaposition. One trans woman criticizing what I do. The other wanting part of it. That juxtaposition taught me something I already knew, but love being reminded of: Criticism and praise aren’t opposites. They’re coordinates. They help us locate ourselves vibrationally.
To explain:
A Return from Negative Momentum
Back in December, I stopped writing for The Transamorous Network blog. I noticed that my focus on that subject back then had slipped into negative momentum focus. I was drawing more and more criticism from angry readers—many of whom didn’t understand my perspective or what I was offering. All of them were trans women.
I tried for a long time to clear up their misunderstandings and limited beliefs. But those people couldn’t hear what I was saying. That’s because their belief constellations ranged far from where I am in my knowledge about life experience. So the more I tried to uplift them, the harder they pushed. And the harder they pushed, the more entrained I got.
Until I realized what I was doing.
When I did, I stopped pushing against that resistance. I stepped back and allowed my vibration to recalibrate. No more posts for that blog! In doing so, I let the negative momentum subside by not feeding it further.
Months later—without me publishing a single new post—new readers began reaching out again. Trans-attracted men, wives of trans-attracted men, even gay men sent me messages. They all were asking for guidance, for support, for answers. Not with anger—but with curiosity and warmth. And with understanding that I offer something of value.
That’s how I knew something shifted.
And then came Janet and Nancy, nearly at the same moment. Both represented clear reflections that I was now standing in a different vibrational space—one where I was ready to choose what momentum I wanted to amplify.
Both Are Guidance
Here’s what I saw clearly: Janet and Nancy were both cooperative components.
- Janet mirrored my old energy—momentum I had already soothed. Momentum that had me pushing against trans women’s lack of understanding, insecurity and anger.
- Nancy mirrored new energy—momentum I was now allowing. Ease in my being. Allowing instead of pushing. Letting the Universe present me with what I want. Not pushing against what I don’t.
Here’s the biggest thing: Both Janet and Nancy offered a chance to decide where I wanted to place my focus and which momentum I wanted to build. They invited me to ask myself: Do I want more of this (Nancy)? Or more of that (Janet)?
Not because one is good and the other is bad. But because the Universe will always give you what you focus on.
So I leaned into Nancy’s presence—her clarity, her eagerness, her willingness to explore. And with that choice, I emailed Janet and let her know I was ending the correspondence. I told her why—not out of avoidance, or anger, but out of alignment. I explained that I was following what felt best, and honoring where my energy was now flowing.
Letting that go was a powerful, gentle release. It reminded me: Everyone is a divine being offering guidance—not always with praise or agreement, but always with clarity if we’re willing to see it.
That’s Where Worthiness Comes In
When events coincide — especially when they seem emotionally opposite — it’s not random. It’s vibrational precision. It’s our Broader Perspective delivering options at the exact frequency we’re tuned to. At that exact moment, we get to choose which option we energize with our attention. That choice determines what comes next.
But the challenge life offers regarding these moments is we must be aligned with our worthiness to perceive what’s happening as a gift. Worthiness isn’t something we can conjure or “fake it until you make it”. It emerges naturally from within us when we recognize, acknowledge and remember, moments in our past where the Universe offered us guidance, followed through and delivered on our desires, or blessed us in some other way.
Worthiness, therefore, comes naturally when we fill our vibrational basket with evidence that we are blessed by All That Is. It doesn’t come before that. And so, if we don’t feel that worthiness, we can’t see how, for example, Janet and Nancy’s arrival into my life was something other than random coincidence.
One of my newer clients said recently: “Why isn’t this stuff taught in school? If it were, people could live so much better.” I agree. Because once we recover our worthiness, then learn how to interpret our reality—including the contrast—as real-time vibrational feedback, life gets easier. It gets softer. It gets clearer. We stop taking things personally. We understand why people do what they do with absolute clarity and also with love, knowing nothing can come into our life without us attracting it. That’s when we stop trying to control other people. We just trust what life is showing us… even when it arrives as contrast.
That’s why a separate, long-time client once told me: “I love this shit!”. She gets what I’m talking about.
I do too.
Recovering our Worthiness
So let this moment remind you: If you’re getting mixed signals from life, it’s not confusion. It’s refinement. And it’s certainly not random coincidence. Instead, it’s a moment where you stand at a vibrational cross roads. And your power lies in what you choose to focus on next.
Worthiness takes a while to allow into our experience. We all had it as children. But nearly all parents talk us out of it by convincing us to put their happiness ahead of our own. They do that by setting rules, meting out punishments and saying distorted things like “money doesn’t grow on trees”.
In short order, we become very much like our parents.
The good news: all of this is recoverable. Every person can recover their worthiness. It takes longer for some than others. But who cares, really, how long it takes? We all are, after all, eternal.
Want help deciphering your own cross roads? Want a life where things happen on your behalf without you having to struggle or hustle? Schedule a free 30-minute session with me right here. The Universe is always speaking to you. Let’s learn how to listen.