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What Happens When a Customer No-Show Makes Magic

Most people would’ve called it a failure, a waste of time. Proof that the customer was flaky and unreliable.

But that’s not what my clients saw.

What unfolded, last Friday, for both my clients “Maya” and her employee “Talia”, wasn’t a mistake — it was masterful orchestration. A stunning example of how contrast, when met with awareness, becomes expansion. And how apparent disappointment can reveal a deeper harmony, the revealing of which couldn’t have been scripted better.

Here’s what happened.

The Setup

Maya had been feeling frustrated about a particular customer — let’s call her “Sabrina.” She’d talked about her in our sessions before. To Maya, Sabrina was the kind of customer who never seemed to honor the schedule. Always late. Often rescheduling at the last minute. Sometimes, not showing up at all. And when she did, using way too many words to get a point across.

Naturally, Maya interpreted that behavior as a reflection of Sabrina’s flakiness. But what she didn’t see — at first — was that Sabrina was actually reflecting something else. Something vibrational. Something deeper.

She was mirroring Maya’s own resistance embodied in Maya’s negative beliefs about her customer.

That resistance also included beliefs Maya had about her business not being where she thought it “should” be; resistance about not doing enough. Resistance about not being enough. These coupled with the subtle belief that, because her partner is funding the business, she has to “prove” herself by pushing harder, performing more, and showing constant effort.

So when she saw Sabrina showing up inconsistently, Maya didn’t recognize her as reflections. She saw her as a problem.

But then came Friday.

The “Failed” Appointment

Maya had an appointment with Sabrina that day. Sabrina’s office is across town — a long haul from where Maya lives. Still, Maya got ready, even though she felt off. Her stomach wasn’t right. Her body was signaling discomfort.

In that moment, her Broader Perspective was whispering, You don’t need to go.

But Maya — like many of us — has old momentum. The kind that says “Push through.” She believes real leaders show up no matter what. So she discounts intuitive nudges in favor of obligation.

That’s what had her get in the car and start driving. Along the way, her discomfort increased. So much so that she thought she might pass out. She pulled over, tried to ground herself with food — a burger and fries — but it only made things worse. So, she pressed on.

And when she finally arrived at the nonprofit’s office? Sabrina looked confused. She gave Maya a “Why are you here?” look.

It turns out: Sabrina hadn’t even put the appointment on her calendar. She had no idea they were supposed to meet. And she had to cancel — on the spot, despite everything Maya had just pushed through to get there.

Now pause here. This is the moment where most people would snap. Maya didn’t though.

Most people would snap had this happened to them. Not Maya though. Talia didn’t either.

The Realization

Instead, she caught herself. And in catching herself she saw the perfection. If she had honored her initial nudge — if she’d followed the discomfort in her body and chosen rest over effort — she would’ve been in sync with what her Broader Perspective already knew: that the appointment wasn’t real.

She would’ve matched Sabrina’s energy without needing to live the contrast. She would’ve flowed instead of pushed. And Maya got that, after the fact, right there in the lobby.

Maya then she called Talia. Talia, who was set to attend the appointment remotely, was back home in Houston when Maya called. And the moment she heard the story, she interrupted with: “This is contrast.” This is because Talia, too, is a client. She understands the value contrast represents, just as Maya sometimes does.

And just like that, they were both in it — in the joy of revelation. What looked like a mishap was actually a mirror. A reflection of Maya’s old momentum: the belief in obligation over intuition, control over flow. Together, Maya and Talia celebrated the realization.

They saw that Sabrina was playing a role — not just for Maya, but for everyone involved.

Because Talia had something else going on that day too: a friend had shown up unannounced, hoping to spend time with her. But because of the appointment, Talia felt she had to prioritize work — and her friend had to adjust.

If Maya had canceled, Talia would’ve had the space to be with her friend. Had she canceled, her body would’ve rested. If Maya had canceled, no one would’ve been out of sync. In other words, the only thing “off” was ignoring the nudge.

That’s not a failure. That’s feedback. It’s contrast serving us, clarifying our path forward.

The Integration

By the end of the call, Maya and Talia had already changed their process framework. They decided to implement new appointment protocols — confirmations two days in advance, and again the day before. Not from fear, but from alignment. From trust. From learning.

Oh, and also heeding nudges/impulses from their Broader Perspective!

They also changed the way they saw Sabrina. She wasn’t flaky. She was an angel. A precise vibrational actor, playing her role in a scene designed to help Maya release old beliefs. The belief that she had to push. Beliefs that she must prove. A belief that this customer was misaligned and irresponsible. When in fact, her customers are always reflecting Maya’s vibration — and giving her the perfect material for expansion. Just like the rest of her wake-scape.

What I love most about this story is that Maya didn’t double down. She didn’t villainize Sabrina, nor did she snap. She saw the unfolding, and so did Talia. And in that seeing, everything changed.

This is what it looks like when you live from the Positively Focused perspective. Not because life never brings you surprises — but because you recognize that every surprise is alignment, in motion.

Even the ones that come disguised as a last minute, on-the-spot cancellation.

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How A Client Quitting Manifested A New, Better One

TL;DR: The author shares how a client’s exit sparked the effortless arrival of a better, higher-paying one—demonstrating how vibrational alignment, not forced action, brings ideal outcomes in perfect timing. No magical spending required.

Earlier this year, a client decided to quit the practice.

She’s an artist who creates beautiful handwoven pieces from recycled fabric. Of course, one of my roles in client sessions is to perceive the alternate future reality in which the client’s dreams lay manifest, then inspire the client towards that reality. For this client, that dream is owning a business based on her artistic expressions. One that would replace income she gets from her day job.

When she showed me one of her creations, I felt inspired by my Broader Perspective to buy it as a gift for another client—someone I knew would appreciate the artistry and meaning behind it. The price wasn’t firm yet, nor was the shipping cost known, but I trusted the inspiration and paid what the artist quoted.

Later, after she finished the piece and shipped it, she came back to ask for more money—the shipping cost was almost as much as the item itself. I told her I’d cover it, but not until after tax season. I had underestimated my tax bill this year due to a surprising (and delightful!) increase in client income—proof in itself that my practice is thriving.

She didn’t take that well, however.

The fun begins

In our final conversation, she told me I wasn’t truly living the Positively Focused practice. I should “just pay what you owe me,” she said, and “trust the money will show up.”

But here’s how I responded: That’s not how this practice works. It’s not about reckless spending wrapped in spiritual platitudes, I told her. It’s about inspired alignment, trusting timing, and honoring your clarity.

My response moved me so much, I wrote a blog about it: The Myth of Magical Spending. But my response didn’t move her. She didn’t like what I told her. After our next session, she left the practice. That meant a $150/month client was gone.

And that’s where the fun began.

The fun began there because I knew the Universe would handle this. I knew the timeline I’m aligned with always brings me what fits. It’s happened over and over. When one client leaves, a new one replaces them. And not just any replacement—but one that’s better, cleaner, more in tune with who I am now.

Fast forward to the last week of April.

I didn’t worry or chase. I knew.

A new person booked a free 1:1 through my Transamorous Network website. Because he’s a trans-attracted man (and those clients often ghost), I required a $25 refundable deposit as part of the free 1:1 booking process. He paid it. That told me he was serious.

But then he rescheduled his session for late June. Now, I could have fretted. I could have worried this guy was a flake like so many others. But I didn’t do that. I stayed chill, detached. You could even say I remained indifferent to what would happen next. I wasn’t grasping, needing a new client. Insecurity found no match in me. I just remained open.

Then, just days later, I got a new booking…from the same guy. We hadn’t even had the free 1:1 yet and here he was booking a full client package at $200/month.

Later he told me he couldn’t wait for June. And he didn’t want to wait for a trial. He knew what I offered offered value for him, he said. In other words, this new client said YES to himself — and to me — before the original session ever happened. That’s divine orchestration!

The new client not only is willing to pay me more, he’s a better match to what I offer.

Here’s What That Means

Not only did the Universe replace the departing client, it replaced her with one willing to pay $50 more. What’s more, he started his sessions in May, meaning there was no income gap at all. Further, our connection was energetically clean – no drama, no demands, just a client ready, willing, and eager for the transformation I offer. That became clear after our first two sessions. Especially when he said, after session one, “I’m so glad to have met you.”

The Universe didn’t just patch the income leak, in other words, the Universe upgraded the income plumbing.

This proves to me that we don’t have to chase money. Make our intentions known to the Universe and relax into the knowing that it’s done and the Universe will do the rest. Again this isn’t the first time this happened. As far as I’m concerned, it’s happened so often I’m convinced this is reality.

The challenge is, we can’t just go from disbelieving to knowing it’s possible, to having what we desire. Practical evidence nurtures knowing. Producing that practical, nurturing evidence takes a while and it’s not intuitive. Not at first. That’s why it’s helpful to have a framework such as the Positively Focused approach and someone like me who knows the path.

No magical spending required

The path is the same on any subject. It works every time, but does require clients’ compliance and devotion. Clearly, the client who quit wasn’t ready to go the distance. And yet, this experience is a crystal-clear example of how this practice works, and what she could have walked into:

  • Act when inspired
  • Honor your boundaries without guilt even in the face of others’ doubt
  • Trust divine timing instead of forcing outcomes
  • Know that the Universe has your intention in mind always
  • Then watch as reality rearranges itself to reflect that knowing

It’s not about magical spending. It’s about vibrational integrity. And when you hold that? The manifestations flow in—better than before.

Want help aligning your life with this kind of precision and ease? Book a session and let’s show you how effortless reality can become when you live from your Broader Perspective.

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How Hating People Can Destroy Business Opportunity

An interesting dynamic/trend showed up in my client practice in the last few weeks. The trend prompts from within me a question worth asking: Does humanity hate itself?

Of course, this is NOT a dominant vibration across all humanity. LOVE is the dominant vibration. But humans “enjoy” free will. Some can, therefore, turn towards “the dark side”. And, apparently, some do, while not really knowing that’s what’s happening.

Two clients find themselves now looking at misanthropic beliefs driving interactions with people in their lives. One person’s experience, who I wrote a long post about, publishes in July. Today, I want to talk about what another client and I uncovered.

This client runs a business. I wrote about her experience before this week, here, and here. Her business has few customers, all reflecting the current state of the owner’s alignment (aka “being a match”) to the version of the business representing “success”. The customers she does have are, of course, people. Like all humans, they have beliefs and momentum stemming from those beliefs, many of which are distorted. So, depending on how one views those people, they show up in different ways.

“Ghosts” as co-creators

I call this client “Madison” in the previous posts. At first, Madison, was excited to have these customers. But as time went on and these people’s “peopling” emerged, so too did Madison’s misanthropic beliefs.

“I like people…to an extent.” She said when I asked her about complaints she made about her customers.

I would think she would hold very positive beliefs about these people. They are, after all, paying her and co-creating her business along with her into exactly what Madison wants. And yet, she focused on what’s wrong (in her eyes) with these customers rather than everything going right with them.

What’s really interesting is, her complaints about the customers caused those troubles she sees in them to dominate her awareness. Two of the customers, according to Madison, “ghosted” her, for example. They would not return her calls after the first conversation in which they showed initial interest. Meanwhile, I knew both customers were in the bag, so to speak, that they were going through their own internal processes to become the customers Madison wanted.

In the bag

But all my client could see was what she believed to be evidence that they were NOT in the bag. Which is why when I reminded her she had these two customers, she got really frustrated with me. She could only see evidence aligned with what she believed. Not what I knew. She was right. I was wrong. The customers were NOT customers.

But they were. Of course, Universe had the last word on this.

One of the customers is Madison’s dentist. Madison told me during our conversation where she ranted about how this customer ghosted her, that she had a dental appointment in the next few days. She worried about how awkward that appointment will be given the current status of the deal.

I reminded her the deal is in the bag and not to worry about it. She wasn’t hearing that, however.

Sure enough, though, after her appointment, Madison called me excited. She said the receptionist enthusiastically told her the dentist was eager to talk with her about the deal. They were ready to move forward, the receptionist said, and wanted to get a date on the calendar to get started.

My client said she was concerned about setting that meeting on a day where the dentist had patients. Madison didn’t want to inconvenience him. But the dentist, while examining my client, cut to the quick: he said he wanted to get this work done and told her not to worry about that. Let’s just get it on the calendar, he said.

When they did meet, Madison told me, the dentist didn’t haggle. He didn’t resist anything. He was good to go at the full price my client initially quoted. A full-price paying client in the bag!

Distortion kills relationships

So this is really instructive: Our beliefs about people shape what we see in people. Our beliefs can create or hinder any potential. Had the client not been in the Positively Focused practice, she might have taken action based on her “ghosting” belief that could have completely severed the deal and confirmed her negative interpretation.

How many times have we held a belief about someone, an interpretation, which triggered frustration or anger in us, then we acted on that frustration or anger in a way which killed the relationship, a relationship that could have gone the other way had we held a different belief about it and acted from that belief instead?

Relationships, intimate ones and business ones, have ended simply because of distortions active among the parties invovled. Madison’s kerfluffle with her employee, which I wrote about in the posts I linked to earlier in this post, was based on such distortions. Distortions both parties — Madison and Jane — held about the other. Madison was ready to let Jane go.

Today, they’re stronger than ever and committed to using the practice to see the best in each other. That’s a really good thing and a great outcome from a strongly negative experience.

Becoming gods that we are

There are a lot of people in the world right now railing against other people. Their beliefs about those people aren’t positive. When we point a finger at another, in blame or accusation, three fingers remain pointing back at us. This tells us, what we blame or accusation another about, exists in us in abundance. And so does the solution to what we’re complaining about.

Complaint contains strong belief momentum. That momentum, persisted with, will eventually gain more momentum, leading to misanthropy, which is a chronic state of complaint about people. That momentum will inspire matching behavior in us as well as behavior confirming beliefs we have about those we revile. And that explains why so many harbor such lowly beliefs about their fellow humans.

They’re creating the versions of those people they hate.

The good news is, it’s not permanent. Everyone releases such distortions after death. But why wait until then? Like Madison, we can walk into a new world, one where everyone becomes for us the angels that they are, reflecting back to us what is dominant in us. In other words, we can reveal to ourselves what others really are: servants of our sovereign expansion.

We can do that now, in this life. We don’t have to wait until after death. But we must choose. Then we must devote ourselves to this worthy cause. The cause that is our expansion into our greater god-self.

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How To Find The Gift In Toxic Work Relationships

Every so often, this practice reveals something so elegantly orchestrated, it takes my breath away.

This past week, two separate clients—each at very different stages of their Positively Focused journey—experienced the same situation from very different perspectives. Each showed up carrying the weight of several difficult interpersonal dynamics going on between them. Both were feeling triggered, off-balance, unsure of themselves.

One is a founder and business owner. I call her Madison. I wrote about her personal experience earlier this week. The other is her employee. I call her Jane. I wrote about her individual experience too. This post seems like it might be a repeat of those previous two posts.

It’s not though.

Instead, this post reveals the sacred opportunities showing up when family members, or, in this case, co-workers, are Positively Focused clients. We get to see the sacred process from two sides; we get a rare glimpse at how two people co-create the larger expansion process happening between us all. Where we each serve as transformation/transmutation angels for one another.

Perfect mirrors and manifestations

From their individual perspectives neither Jane nor Madison knew what was happening for the other person. Neither knew what stirred inside each of them was part of the same vibrational story playing out in perfect divine symmetry in the other.

But I knew.

Madison came to her session feeling frustrated and confused. She believed her employee wasn’t showing up the way she hoped — there was resistance, emotional unpredictability and apparent unwillingness to complete assignments. All that left Madison disappointed, frustrated and angry. She wasn’t sure if she was failing as a leader or simply outgrowing a version of herself that still felt responsible for everyone’s well-being. She also felt she was not get anything in return for what she’s paying Jane.

Jane, two days later, showed up with her own agitation. Something gnawed at her — an emotional static she couldn’t shake. She felt misunderstood. She also felt fear. Her fear was about letting Madison down by failing at assignments Madison gave her.

Jane didn’t want to be a failure in her own eyes either. But Madison’s assignments were vague or unclear. That’s because it’s not only Madison’s first time being a business owner, it’s also her first time being a boss. So she too is insecure in herposition. She, like Jane, also fears failure. But Madison suffers from a double-whammy: potentially seeing herself as a failure and her partner Tom seeing her that way too.

Unbeknownst to Madison, she was getting exactly what she focused on, which is what her fear was calling her attention to. So was Jane. Jane didn’t want to fail in Madison’s eyes. But her fear of failure prompted inaction on vague assignments. She also feared asking clarifying questions because that triggered Madison’s fear which surfaced as frustration in the past.

Isn’t it ironic?

Jane, acting out of her fear, or, rather, not acting, was the perfect reflection of Madison’s fears. Madison’s fears, meanwhile reflected back to Jane her fears. Both women were getting exactly what they were creating; frustrated versions of one another. And both were pointing the finger at the other person!

Conflict invites letting go

And here’s where it becomes divine: Both Madison and Jane were each feeling the same frequency…from opposite sides of the mirror: Fear and insecurity. They were a perfect match, in other words.

Madison was wrestling with the idea that to be a “good” manager — she had never been a manager before — she needed to present a picture of flawlessness. Jane wrestled with the idea that to stay employed, she had to suppress her authenticity. One was over-functioning. The other was under-expressing. Both were reacting to the same energetic pattern: the fear that authenticity isn’t safe.

In their own way, however, each showed up ready to release that distorted belief.

In Madison’s session, she saw how “I must show that I know it all” was an echo from long ago — an old strategy to survive in corporate culture. The strategy wasn’t wrong. It was wise when she worked in the corporate world. It doesn’t work in the small business world though.

What’s more, she’s learning to lead from alignment, not control. But old echos resisted that. So she created a version of Jane reflecting what Madison was doing so Madison could let those old beliefs go.

Ah-ha moments from intensity

In Jane’s session, she saw that her agitation wasn’t dysfunction. It was guidance. A signal that her own expansion was arriving. Not through rebellion, but also through letting go and opening up, softening.

She feared something she couldn’t possibly do: letting herself down and letting Madison down. She needed to trust the version of herself that wanted this opportunity instead of fearing Madison’s reactions as an indication of something bad about her. This fear pointed the way to expansion through authentic expression (asking questions). That version is what Madison needed most. Not a “yes-person”.

A lot more than this was happening in the interpersonal dynamic. But what you just read highlights the main event. As a result, neither woman “fixed” the relationship in our sessions. Instead, they needed an extra session. One in which both attended. We held it shortly after Jane’s. It was intense, as fear is an intense emotion.

But it offered many ah-ha moments for both women. That call wasn’t easy for either of them. But they’re both better now, as is their working relationship, for having it. Both stepped more fully into clarity of who they are becoming…as individuals, as business partners, as employee and employer.

Other people are gifts

They also offered each other a sacred gift: the opportunity to evolve in real-time through authentic, shared contrast. Each was a reflection of the other’s edge. And both navigated it not by hardening, but by softening. Not by demanding change from the other, although both probably wanted that initially, but by each becoming the version of themselves that no longer needed the old patterns.

This is what makes the Positively Focused journey so profound. We begin seeing how nothing is random. How every difficult interaction is divine orchestration. How life isn’t punishing us — it’s partnering with us. Offering mirrored experiences that reflect the exact vibration ready to be released. Often that mirror is other people.

Madison and Jane never planned this coordination. But their Broader Perspective’s did. And in honoring their own unfolding, they became co-creators in each other’s expansion — each woman rising through her own contrast into a new level of sovereignty, understanding, and empowerment.

If you’ve been in a tangled work relationship dynamic lately, pause before blaming or fixing. There’s a mirror waiting to be seen. And often, what looks like conflict is actually harmony in progress — a symphony of expansion tuning itself through two instruments, you and the other person, learning to resonate at a higher frequency.

That’s what I witnessed this week. And it was stunning.

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The Powerful Truth About Why Her Business Feels Stuck

Not every client session ends with a breakthrough. Sometimes, what emerges is a mirror so clearly reflective, it can only be received in layers. That’s what happened with one of my clients this week—let’s call her Madison—as she wrestled with tension in her business and growing frustration with both her employee and her small number of customers.

Madison runs an emerging, but very real, small business. She has four paying clients, and more showing interest. From where I sit, it’s happening. The momentum is building. But from where Madison stood in our recent session, all she could see was how much wasn’t happening.

She felt burdened. Not just by the challenges of running the business, but by the belief that she had to do more to make it succeed. She thought she needed her employee— Jane (whose experience I wrote about previously) — to match that “doing” energy. More outreach. More follow-through. Increased visible hustle. But Jane wasn’t responding to those cues. And Madison was taking it personally.

She was also taking it out on her customers—grumbling about their quirks, dismissing their contributions, struggling to feel grateful for the very signs that her dream was taking root.

Pushing doesn’t help

At the heart of it all was pressure. Not pressure from her partner Tim, who’s funding the business. But from the version of Tim Madison carries in her. No one exists in our reality but us. Everyone else who seems to be there are versions of those people we create. We create them through thoughts and beliefs we have about that person.

This is something I share with clients over and over. It’s hard to get, until the client receives Universal evidence proving it’s accurate. Then the game changes. But for Madison, she hasn’t fully let that accuracy sink in. So she’s not trying to change her beliefs about her partner.

I know Tim isn’t hovering over her, demanding performance. I know this because he’s a client too and we’ve spoken many times about this. But Madison’s version of Tim is demanding. That internalized voice keeps saying: “You need to prove this is working. You need to get bigger, faster. You need to do more. It’s MY money after all!”

So she pushes. And when the business didn’t respond to the push, she got angry. Not just at the business, not just at Jane, but at herself as well.

Our session wasn’t about resolving that anger. It was about revealing it. Naming it. Making space for what was really going on.

Feeling stuck

“There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with your business. There’s nothing wrong with Jane,” I told her. “It’s just a bunch of distortion that you’re telling yourself, and then you’re feeling shitty because you’re in the distortion.”

She heard that. Not with ease, but with recognition. Her head nodded even as her body resisted and remained stiff. Because deep down, she knows what’s so: She’s not failing. She’s just running with her old belief momentum. The one that says success comes from effort, not alignment. From force, not flow, not letting go.

But the business she’s building can’t be grown from that energy. It’s asking her to trust. To appreciate. To be, not just do. And Jane—by not cooperating with the push—is reflecting that truth beautifully. Not out of defiance. But out of resonance. She’s mirroring back exactly where Madeline is stuck: in the doing.

“You’re in a good place,” I told Madison. “…we can talk about this next week and the week after, if you want to. If that’s what it’s gonna take to get you to let go of the doing and lean into the being — and also lean into the appreciation of the four customers you have and the revenue they’ve provided, no matter how small.”

Madeline left that session still feeling stuck. Still frustrated. But with something new: a clearer view of what was really going on. And that clarity, even if uncomfortable, was the invitation.

It’s no surprise then when one of the four customers she had disparaged for “ghosting” her, actually showed up eager to take the next steps because they need exactly what Madeline is offering!

Letting go

This is how real transformation often unfolds—not in grand moments of release, but in quiet reckonings. In honest reflections. In the willingness to stay with ourselves even when we don’t feel resolved.

So if you’re pushing and nothing’s moving…If you’re trying to “make it happen” and the universe seems to be ignoring you…Pause.

What if the stuckness is sacred? What if the resistance is your business—or your life—asking you to be with it, not bulldoze it?

The Positively Focused path isn’t about doing more. It’s about aligning more deeply, letting go, then letting inspired action emerge naturally. That’s not always easy. But it’s always true.

Madeline is learning that. And if you’re here, maybe you are too.

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What Happens When People Create Wonderful Lives

TL;DR: The author writes how a client’s shift in focus shows how alignment creates the Charmed Life. With devotion and resistance-clearing, joyful realities unfold—proof of living Positively Focused.

In my last post I wrote about a client’s awesome realization as a result of experiencing contrast between his work life and his non-work life. He moved into an alternate reality in which his work life felt mundane, uninspiring, while his weekend life was inspiring and joyful. And yet, just the week before, the very same work he was doing this past week was inspiring and joyful.

What gives?

The only difference between the reality he created last week, and the one he created the week before was his focus. In other words, through his vibration, he came into a reality he didn’t like. One having him feel his job was lifeless.

In less than an hour, however, we got him back into the reality in which his weekend life’s fun is matched by his work life.

Every client goes through this kind of calibration. It’s the way life is for everyone. We constantly align with different alternate realities every moment. The one we align with in any given moment becomes our living, breathing reality. The other ones we experience too. We experience those through our alternate selves.

This means we can experience a constant stream of moving into realities we enjoy. But it takes devotion. It takes focus. And the best way to focus is by focusing on the positive aspects of our lives. That focus creates the Charmed Life I write about in this blog.

Manifestations and the Charmed Life

Want to know what that sounds like? Want to know what living a Charmed Life feels like? Listen to this voice message a separate client sent this week. The client created an entire day of flowing into better and better realities and manifestations, all starting with a simple hair appointment. It’s a long message (8 minutes). But you can tell by her voice, her excitement, and what happened in the day, that she’s totally living the Charmed Life.

The Charmed Life is everyone’s life. It’s always happening. That means if our lives aren’t feeling like this client’s experience, we’re in an alternate reality. One that doesn’t include our Charmed Life experience. Charmed Life living comes with us being Positively Focused. The client in this message is chronically Positively Focused. So she’s getting the extraordinary experience of constant, joyful unfolding manifestations. Including manifestations where she benefits others in remarkable ways. Ways that show up for the other person with no effort on their part.

If you didn’t listen to it, that voice message is worth listening to. Go back and listen. It may be the best 8 minutes you’ve had today.

Clearing resistance is key

My days are similar to this female client’s days. Increasingly, so are my other Advanced Positively Focused clients’ lives. I love getting messages like the one above. I hope you listened to it, because it’s not an outlier experience. It’s just what happens when we let go and trust in the Universe’s ability to deliver to us everything we want…in perfect timing.

For most clients, “perfect timing” takes a while. That’s because we build up resistance through our lives, resistance that aligns us with alternate probable realities that match that resistant state. Clearing resistance takes a while. Along the way, however, we learn how to tune ourselves so that the reality we want to live becomes our constant state. It doesn’t happen all at once, but evidence of it happening appears instantly. Learning how to clear resistance, therefore, is the key to unlock that constant, Charmed Life state.

And that’s why I love living Positively Focused. Because living a life charmed has no equal. Book a session and let’s show you how effortlessly reality can become when you live from your Broader Perspective.

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Why I know Life Is Going Great For Us All

This is so great. This past week I wrote about how previous generations entrain in-coming ones thereby slowing the process of expansion, both for individuals and the species as a whole. I know this is accurate. It explains why progress happens so slowly on a human-wide scale.

It needn’t happen as slowly at the individual level, but a lot of times it does. That’s because people allow into their experience the entrainment. It makes sense they do that. It seems that’s the way life should be lived. After all, everyone around us is living that way.

I fell into that for a few decades. I’ve found my way out now and none too soon. Especially since radical life extension on the horizon promises me another 60 years of physical life (I’m 61 now). At least. Living the next 60 years in my sovereignty, clarity and expansion, focused on expanding into more of all three thrills me.

And that thrill comes from experiences like the one prompting this post.

Wink and nod 

This post is about serendipity, when the Universe subtly nods in my direction as a way of saying “yep, you’re on track”. So many of these nods happen. I share many of them in this blog.

This morning brought another one. That’s why I’m sharing it today. I love immediate response from the Universe! Here’s how it unfolded.

In a short post I published two days ago, I described the generational entrainment process as part of explaining why people give up living through imagination for being realistic. That same day, a truly amazing manifestation happened. A post is in the works about that too. It will publish in July. I swear, every day multiple manifestations are popping into my awareness. It’s a freaking cornucopia of goodness!

And that’s what I felt this morning, June 8, when I checked my email. There, blessing me with its wisdom, was a Universal acknowledgment of the post I wrote two days ago. An amplification actually, is what it was. The email, from Abraham, was both wink and nod. And confirmation. Here’s what it said:

Thank goodness we’re eternal. My appreciation for that fact overwhelms me more and more. I’m thrilled with life, how it’s going for me, the species and everything else on the planet. The deeper, further, more into my expansion I allow myself, the more I see so much of what’s happening as happening in our favor.

And the more we as individuals are willing to let that “in our favor” in, the better our life goes.

Can you also see, however, that the more of us individuals who that do that, the faster it happens for all of us as a species? That’s what this message points to. That’s what my experience tells me.

And that’s thrilling. Because I’m on the timeline leading to more individuals becoming their version of what I enjoy. And on that timeline, life is really, really, really great!

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What Happens When a Boss Triggers an Old Pattern

This week, one of my clients—let’s call her Jane —brought something to our session many people can relate to: growing frustration with her employer.

On the surface, it looked like a straightforward situation. Several tense conversations. Feelings of insecurity and uncertainty. Interpretations that had her feeling dismissed, unseen, and emotionally tangled for days. She described a kind of internal agitation — something wasn’t sitting right, but she couldn’t tell if she was overreacting or if her intuition was trying to warn her of something.

And here’s where it got interesting.

As we followed the threads deeper, Jane realized this wasn’t just about her current employer. It wasn’t even about the comment she was interpreting. It was about much older momentum surfacing through the lens of this moment — an ingrained belief that said: “To stay safe, you must remain agreeable. To be respected, can’t be authentic.”

It was the classic conflict between authenticity and survival. Between speaking in ways aligned with what she felt and believed and keeping the peace. Between honoring her intuitive knowing and fearing the fallout of rocking the boat.

Tears to laughter

As we continued, she began to see the real source of her discomfort: not her boss, but the internalized authority figure she carried inside. The one that mirrored every boss, teacher, parent, or partner who’d ever told her—explicitly or energetically—that her voice was too much, her insight inconvenient, or her sensitivity a liability.

The moment she saw that, her energy shifted. Her struggles remained, but they softened.

What she felt wasn’t wrong. She wasn’t being “too sensitive.” Instead past momentum was resurfacing to be soothed. It’s belief momentum that had once served her, but now only blocks the flow of her sovereignty and expansion.

And here’s the beauty: Soothing that momentum didn’t require confronting her boss. She didn’t need to demand validation or placate her. Her increasing clarity wasn’t about being right in the external world — it was about reclaiming her right to feel sovereign in her being. And therefore, to be able to express herself fully, authentically.

When I described what “reclaiming” looked like, she softened. Jane’s energy shifted more and tears turned to a little laughter. What had felt like emotional blockage revealed itself as expansion in the moment — a calibration to a new version of herself. One that no longer needs to dim in order to stay safe. One that doesn’t mistake tension for danger.

The leader is waiting

What I love most about this kind of session is that the breakthrough doesn’t come from pushing against the external world. It comes from remembering who and what we are.

That’s what the Positively Focused practice is all about. We don’t fix the world by wrestling with it. After all, the world doesn’t need fixing. It’s not broken. Nor are we. We’re not broken, nor do we need fixing. Instead, by realigning with our Broader Perspective the world reflects that alignment back to us.

But sometimes, nearly always actually, finding that alignment means letting life’s contrast serve us. Not as a warning, but as an invitation.

If you’ve had a moment recently where someone rubbed you the wrong way, consider that maybe it wasn’t about them at all. Maybe they were the perfect mirror, showing you in that moment where your expansion is ready to come through. And maybe that discomfort is also serving. It’s not that something has gone wrong, rather, your Broader Perspective is inviting you to expand.

If that’s where you are, and you’d like support in making sense of it all without collapsing into it, I’d love to show you what’s possible when you meet contrast from clarity, not fear.

Sometimes the boss is just a stand-in. The real leader is waiting to be you.

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Seeing The Good Life Through The Lens Of Imagination

Late last week I wrote a post about science and love. I highlighted a client experience showing how disempowering scientific interpretations of reality can be. In this post, I want to point out another gift that conversation brought. One that shows how all of us humans are divine, naturally connected to All That Is and therefore predisposed to the Charmed Life.

If that’s the case, if we are predisposed to the Charmed Life, why do so many humans not live that? The answer lies in the text conversation this client and I had. More specifically, what he texted after I showed him a more imaginative way to look at his “lovesickness” than through scientific lenses. Here’s what he wrote. Let’s look at it again:

The client writes about his ability to “see outside of a reductionist scientific view” of the world. He talks about seeing the Universe as it is: “a conscious one made of love and beauty.”

That’s a beautiful way to put it. It’s also accurate in the extreme. When this client sees the world that way, I’m sure he feels empowerment, joy, connection and what humans call love. Seeing the world that way is a guaranteed outcome of the Positively Focused practice and a hallmark of the Charmed Life. The practice makes that way of seeing habitual or chronic. Through that lens, one can see the world unfolding perfectly, with one’s desires fulfilling themselves right before one’s eyes.

That’s such an empowering place from which to live. So why does this client choose scientific lenses rather than lenses of empowerment?

It’s generational

The same reason most humans do it. In a word: “habituation”.

Each successive generation comes into the world through the generation before it. Those previous generations think their job is to teach the young how to move through the world.

It’s not their job to do that though. But they act as though it is.

Previous generations invariably get caught up in disempowerment’s momentum. The beliefs they form disconnect them from the beauty and love that is reality’s natural state. From there, all they see is disappointment, discouragement, boredom, bondage, fear and insecurity. Oh, they have fleeting glimpses of positive expectation or happiness, but most of their life doesn’t show up that way. The way their life does show up comes from habituation they learned from the generations coming before them.

It’s from there that previous generations entrain the next one. And THAT’S why people double-down on “being realistic”, and “facing the facts”. It’s why they argue against being “pollyanna”; why they believe in “confirmation bias”. It explains why “wishful thinking” as a pejorative describing being Positively Focused is a thing. And so, previous generations pass to the next one a fact-based, realistic lens.

That’s why people end up being realistic instead of imaginative.

We remember

The in-coming generation knows this is going to happen before they come in. So it’s not like they’re a victim of the previous generation. They know what they’re doing deep down. Still, a few come in remembering all this. And it’s those few who offer clarity to the rest.

They’re the visionaries. It’s people like them who move humanity forward. Others come to remind those who’ve forgotten so they may live lives charmed.

My job as one of the latter is to attract those few, remind them what they know and help them recover their sovereignty, their imagination. That’s what is happening with this client. It’s what happens with every client. And that’s why clients’ lives change for the better in dramatic fashion.

My “job” is an expression of love. It’s based on the beauty and love inherent in All That Is. Not science. It is an act of eternal imagination. And its reverberations span all dimensions.

Every person possesses this divine, natural connection to All That Is. The only difference between them and me and my clients is: we remember.

Maybe it’s time you remember too. Book a session, let’s find out.

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Why Planned Obsolescence Was A Great Thing For People

A client this week struggled with resistance. It was about how human civilization is working. He knows, of course, that everything is always working out. But, like most clients, he wobbles between knowing this and activating his old resistant beliefs.

One of those had to do with “planned obsolescence”.

We as a species are on a massive inflection point. One that will take us into a future where astounding abundance is the order of the day. That order also will bring a refreshed planet. A convergence of technologies make that possible. A convergence of techologies and humans who came into the world to leverage those technologies to create the world they knew was possible.

Because of those people’s focus, all of us will soon benefit from deeply transformed societies. Transformations at the heart of those societies will come through this techno-human convergence.

The thing is, we couldn’t have gotten there without planned obsolescence as part of our journey. Here’s why.

Every subject is good and bad

A lot of people decry capitalism. In fact, capitalism is the reason the future I described above will happen. The profit motive moved people to invest in ideas that show promise. It inspired people to give idealists opportunities, in the form of money, equipment and labor, to turn their ideas into reality.

The same is true with planned obsolescence. It’s planned obsolescence that keeps companies going. Planned obsolescence keeps people employed, which enables those people to put food on the table, pay for their kids’ education and more. Indeed, planned obsolescence is what generates revenue companies use to pay salaries. Those revenues also fuel key technological developments.

Of course, none of this was necessary had humanity chosen a different path than the one in which they are necessary. But the fact is, that is where humanity went. The good news is, we’re coming around that corner. We’re moving out of those distorted beliefs. And we’re on the verge of coming into the bright day of what the Universe and physical reality is all about: enormous abundance.

So planned obsolescence, like capitalism, served humanity well. It created many problems too, but every subject holds within it what humans would call “good” and “bad”. And those problems will evaporate in the light of that abundant future on the way. I think it’s astounding how the good is about to radically overwhelm us with a reality that exceeds our wildest dreams.

And we can thank both capitalism and planned obsolescence as contributors of that unfolding future.