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November 14, 2018

The Only Leverage You Need To Have All You Want

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Leverage that comes from your broader perspective makes living sweet.

When someone discovers how invincible they are, it’s impossible to live any other way. And, there’s no ceiling limiting how great life can get.

By leverage we mean having life do things for you, instead of you having to do it all yourself.

That doesn’t mean sitting in bed thinking positive thoughts will bring everything to you. You’re in a physical reality.

You have to do things.

It does mean lightly indicating what you’re wanting. Then watching as life puts the pieces together. At the right time along the way, you get an impulse to act. Following that impulse is your “doing”. Your doing doesn’t make anything happen. It’s all happened already.

Your “doing” puts you in the perfect place, in time and space to receive what you’re wanting.

Summarizing: figure out what you want. Life will coordinate circumstances. When they’re ready, life will tell you to act. Your acting doesn’t make it happen. The impulse to act is an invitation. It’s saying: “do this now”. Your action puts you in the right place at the right time. There, you receive what you want.

Life always works this way for everyone. So why doesn’t it look that way for everyone? Why doen’t it occur that way for everyone?

Three reasons:

Hardly anyone realizes they have broader perspective.
Hardly anyone does what they need to to see life through that.
Too many people try to make what they want happen, instead of letting life do it.

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So what is this “broader perspective”?

“Human” is a projection. It’s an experience you are projecting into yourself. The experience is the best way to know what and who you are. That’s why you’re experiencing this experience.

Everything in your experience is also your projection. You perceive into existence other people, circumstances, even your body. Existence looks like an “objective reality”. So much so, you think it’s separate from you. That’s because you organize your physical senses too. That way they experience the projection as objective, separate reality.

Your senses can’t see the projection any other way.

Your senses are part of the projection.

“Behind” your physical senses, you have another set of “senses”. These are not constrained like your physical senses. Yet, they correspond with them. You see, hear, smell, taste, touch through these “nonphysical” senses. The same way you do with physical ones.

Seeing life through these senses, is “broader perspective”.

The more you see life through them, the more curious you get. You start understanding how much creative control you have.

Ever had a dream feel real as f*ck? How could it have “felt” real, if you didn’t have senses capable of perceiving in that nonphysical place? Dreams are not hallucinations. They’re as real as you and us.

Science claims dreams are “all in the head”. Science is a big stumbling block. It prevents people from having real leverage.

Science is real though. It has validity and purpose. But science is in no way the final arbiter of what is “real” and “not real”. And, nonphysical reality informs science like it does with everything else in physical reality.

If it weren’t for nonphysical reality, there would be no physical reality. And no science.

A person deciding for themselves what is real and not real finds they are the final arbiter. And of course they are. They are the ones doing the projecting.

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A projector has to have a place to stand and also something on which to project. It has to have something to project too.

You “stand” in the spacious now. The spacious now is outside time and space. It is not bound by what science calls “the laws of physics”.

Neither are you, by the way. Your body is. You’re not.

Your body is part of the projection. You are broader perspective.

We also call the spacious present “nonphysical” reality. Nonphysical reality is “where” you, the projector stands.

You are also the projector screen. So all that you experience is “inside you”. That’s why you can perceive it. There is a lot “outside” you too, out there in nonphysical reality. But it is irrelevant to you, until you expand yourself enough so that it becomes you. And thus relevant.

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So you’re the projector and you’re also the projector screen. What is it you are projecting? Everything that you are. Primarily you are projecting a consistent stream of values comprising your essence. You fulfilled some. Others are in the process. Many more your birth nearly every moment.

Everything that is you is being projected by you out into your real life. It is being projected into you and perceived through physical senses you organized. That way it looks separate from you. That way you can observe it “objectively”.

Until you’re done doing that.

All this is happening so you can become more self-aware.

Realizing this is also “broader perspective”. It is one of many insights that come with seeing your life extraordinarily. When you realize your broader perspective, insights like this come naturally. These insights aren’t available when you don’t have broader perspective.

The broader perspective you have, the more clearly you perceive your projection. The more of your projection you perceive, the greater understanding you have.

Understanding of what? Everything.

Put differently: the less you know about what you’re doing in this thing called life, the more “ordinary” life looks.

Joy, ecstasy, wonder, freedom, invincibility result from living from broader perspective.

Life is extraordinary.

It feels that way when you “see” differently.

“Broader perspective” lets you see “all” that you are. But it’s limited by what you’re capable of realizing. The more you live your life from this perspective though, the more capable you become.

This has immense practical benefit.

So much so, it’s a wonder so few live this way. Broader perspective’s leverage is so great, it looks magical.

But it’s not. We call this leverage.

It’s how life is for one who gets it.

Take Perry’s recent experience.

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Now, Perry has been at this for many years. He is getting better and better seeing life through his broader perspective. So he sees more examples of extraordinary happening, nearly every moment.

Everything is possible in and through your broader perspective.

Perry’s ambitions reflect that statement.

One of Perry’s ambitions is evolving capitalism out of existence. He has realized better system for resource management and distribution. He knows it’s possible because he’s seen it.

So he focuses his energies in this direction.

One way this energy focus shows up is hiring talent through the “gig economy”. Perry met a wonderful animation team on an online gig economy match-making service. This team already created two animated videos describing Perry’s economic idea. He has plans for ten more videos. Perry wants this same team to create the other eight.

Like many online services, this gig economy match-making service takes a part of the sales that happen on its website. They also discourage members from offering and accepting payments “off community.”

Paying someone else for brokering an initial transaction is great. But when you’re planning to buy a lot more, that transaction fee can add up. Especially at $1500 a video on average.

So one day this Spring, while contemplating his animated video library, Perry got an idea.

“It would be great,” It said. “If I could work with this team directly rather than through this community. I’d save all those fees on the next 10 videos.”

“And,” The thought continued. “Since I’m wanting to do so many, maybe the team would give me a volume discount!”

Perry loved this idea. It came and went in a flash. Three minutes tops. He felt good thinking it. He didn’t think it was impossible. But he knew the community discouraged this. So, instead of taking action, he sat with it.

Fast forward to October. Perry’s ramping up the next videos, preparing the scripts. One day he gets the impulse to send a message to this team via the community. Here’s the conversation that happened:

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Perry had no idea what the guy was going to send via email. But Perry sent his email address. The next day the following conversation happened via email:

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Of course this was a great turn out. But notice what happened here. Perry didn’t have to do anything to get what he wanted. Life coordinated it all for him. Then sent an impulse when it was all ready.

This is leverage.

It is available to everyone.

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If you dismiss this as “coincidence” you’re doing yourself a disservice. Dismissing it as coincidence denies (for you) your broader perspective. In denying your broader perspective, you obscure your perception. You relegate yourself to having to make it all happen.

That sucks.

We want to write “you cut yourself off from your broader perspective”, but that can’t happen. Your broader perspective is you. You can’t cut “you” off.

But you can create a reality wherein you do not perceive your broader perspective as real. That’s what you do when you dismiss such events as “coincidence” or “random chance”, or “confirmation bias”. When you do dismiss them, you get a life experience reflecting your dismissals. In other words, life looks comprised of events that seem random or chance or coincidence. Not within your control.

But it’s all in your control. The moment you adopt your broader perspective.

Like Perry.

And remember: there is no upper limit on anything about this.

Life can be, a continual, moment-by-moment experience of getting everything you want.

Perry is getting there. He has done this work for a long time. Today he is seeing events like this happening all over. But he’s wanting to get to the point where he’s seeing them continuously.

He’s close.

Anything you can think of wanting you can have. You are creating your life experience. That’s the purpose of it. To realize how much say you have.

There is only one relationship giving you everything you want. The relationship between your ordinary conscious experience and your broader perspective. Attend to that. Everything else is attended to for you.

Gradually realizing that you are invincible is intoxicating. Realizing you can have anything you want is intoxicating. Realizing you can be anything, or do anything frees you from limitation.

But when you do do whatever you want, when you do get what you want, and when you become what you want….that just can’t be described in words.

The leverage you have in your life is immense.

Don’t you think it’s time you start using it?

November 5, 2018November 5, 2018

How To Get What You Want From Your Relationship

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It’s easy sometimes to get frustrated in a marriage or partnership.

Relationships can also be a perfect blend of constant wonder and delight.

Which one you get –– frustration or wonder and delight –– depends on your perception.

Often, disagreements and frustration, for both parties, happen when one person tries to control the other’s behavior. In most cases “trying to control” is not an intentional, malicious act. The person doesn’t want to control the other. They just want to be happy.

Controlling behavior happens when a person feels insecure. They tries to soothe the insecurity through controlling their partner’s actions. Inadequacy, feeling out of control, insecure, shame, embarrassment, or righteous indignation can all trigger “controlling” behavior.

The person tries to control conditions they think are causing the feeling. “Conditions” usually mean their partner.

The problem is conditions aren’t triggering the emotions. Their beliefs about the conditions are.

You’ll notice when a controlling person succeeds, they aren’t happy for long. The controlled person isn’t either. So controlling spawns future dissatisfaction leading to…you guessed it: more need to control.

It’s a vicious cycle. A cycle that leaves people feeling alone. Even in relationship.

Thought catalog vicious cycle FB blog — A negative vicious cycle spirals out of control in some relationships. Leaving people feeling alone. Even though they’re not. (photo: Thought Catalog)

Trying to control another person’s behavior so you feel better backfires sooner or later. Sometimes a lot sooner.

People aren’t stupid. They can tell when a person is trying to control them.

Put more accurately, every human knows they came to express inherent freedoms. No one wants someone telling them what to do.

Including children.

Including very young children.

But especially grown mature, aware people.

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The easiest way to get what you want in relationship is to let your spouse do whatever they are wanting. Observing that, be happy with the fact that they’re doing that instead of what you want.

Even better: want to get what you’re wanting from your spouse? Then change what you’re wanting to what your spouse is already doing.

Voila! You’re now getting what you’re wanting.

We can hear the eye-rolls….

But there is wisdom here.

Change what you want from your partner to wanting what your partner is already doing. You will find peace. You’ll stop controlling. Your partner gets to do what they want. Everyone gets happy.

Can you say you feel good when you’re controlling your partner against their will?

We thought not.

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The problem is your perception, not the conditions. A long-term practice learning to seeing your partner’s positive aspects can transform them. It can recreate your partner without your partner changing.

An example from Perry’s marriage is apt:

One day, Perry’s wife, Bridget, began practicing meditation. She meditated before, but it was sporadic and thus not very effective. After witnessing Perry’s results, Bridget began meditating in earnest.

She supplemented her practice with other approaches. The combination revealed how easy it is to get what she wants. Especially doesn’t try to get anything.

Getting what she wanted required letting go of controlling her husband. Six months passed with the task undone. Yet Bridget had to experience conditions she wanted to control as perfect. With no regard for changing him or the situation.

Some days later, after consistent practice, Bridget found herself more relaxed. Then, one day, she got an intuition that the task she’s wanting Perry to do was about to resolve in a delightful way. Her intuition encouraged her to prepare to be surprised…

Around the same time, Perry, received his own impulse: it said “now is about the time to do (the task)”.

Perry knows that, before taking any action on an impulse, it’s best to let it grow to where it is impossible to ignore. So he allowed this impulse to sit in his awareness with nothing more than a casual acknowledgement of it.

Days passed. Then a week.

During that time Bridget received more impulses. They excited her. Later she told Perry she wanted to tell him what was happening, but knew if she did, she’d muck up the process. So she kept it all to herself.

Meanwhile, Perry kept receiving more and more impulses.

Until one day, Perry felt overcome with wanting to do this task.

He told Bridget he was going to do it the next day.

Bridget, as you can imagine, delighted to hear this. What made that it extra sweet was she knew it was going to happen and her excitement was building the whole time.

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These days, such things happen often in Perry and Bridget’s relationship. It’s no surprise the two of them continue to practice the work. The evidence for them is overwhelming.

The work works.

Now there’s nothing wrong with getting excited about outcomes like this. Realize this kind of thing happens all the time and the excitement gives way to expectation. Expectation is the sweet spot. It prepares perception to perceive and appreciate more such events.

For Bridget, it was a profound demonstration. It showed she can create any reality. Including one in which she can influence her partner’s behavior!

andre guerra surprised child blog — life will surprise and delight you. If you let it. (Photo: Andre Guerra)

Everyone has this ability.
It is as natural as breathing. Everyone brings it with them when they come into physical reality.

Exercising this natural ability requires gradually releasing beliefs obscuring this ability. There’s great freedom in exercising it. You can let everyone else in your life off the hook for what happens in your life.

Instead, you can watch everything you’re wanting come into your experience. Not from action. But from your subtle attention to what you’re wanting. A positive outlook and expecting that everything is always working out for you helps too.

So here are the steps to getting what you want out of your spouse (or anyone):

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First discover your own autonomy.

Learn to identify then soothe beliefs that spawn controlling behavior.

You do that by examining your belief constellations. Or by creating new, more empowering ones that will replace your old ones.

Meditation, therapy, bibliotherapy and journaling are all effective was of examining beliefs. Another way: Pay attention to your negative feelings. They always lead you back to a flawed premise or belief.

Let’s say your family always dined together at the dinner table. You gained a lot from that experience. Now as an adult, your partner prefers eating while watching tv. Or he or she prefers a quick bite over formal dinner.

It annoys you when he or she declines your offer to a formal dinner every night. As a result you feel negative emotion –– insecurity, frustration, sadness, wistful. So you get angry. Where’s that coming from? A well-practiced belief. Some possible examples:

“My partner doesn’t love me”
“I married a selfish person”
“I can never get what I want”
“There’s no love here”

But you aren’t aware of the belief. You just know you’re mad. Then you say something you usually wouldn’t, hoping your partner will give you what you’re wanting.

Notice the beliefs don’t describe your partner or your relationship. They describe what you’re thinking about your partner or your relationship.

Rather than reacting from your anger. Look at the feeling.

Ask yourself: “Why it is important for me to repeat that experience as an adult?”

Then ask, “Why am I trying to cajole that experience out of someone who doesn’t share my past experience?”

Have a journal handy to help you probe the answer.

Your partner isn’t there to recreate your past family dynamics. Your partner is there to enjoy his life. Like you. Berating or shaming your partner to do something they don’t want to never works. You’ll be resentful you had to force them. And you’re going to lose in the long run.

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Next: Practice increasing your focus on your partner’s positive aspects.

This is easy.

After all, you married (or partnered) with this person. At one point these were front and center. Again, meditation, book reading, therapy and journaling can assist here.

We do not suggest talking to a friend. Friends sympathize with what you’re going through. They don’t have your best interest at heart. Friends often like to commiserate.

Commiserating is not helpful.

A hyper-focus on your partner’s “weak points” or “areas of development” makes them shine bright.

Focus on those and before long that’s all you see. Then your love turns to resentment. While your partner becomes a scoundrel …when viewed from your negative belief constellations.

Any focus practiced becomes habitual.

So practicing focusing on another’s positive aspects can become habitual too.

Start by keeping a list of everything positive you already know about them. Then begin noticing things beyond what you already know. Write them down in a journal. Acknowledge their existence. Notice, as you practice this, how your mood about the person changes. The more positive aspects pile up, the less negative you begin feeling about the person.

When you’re comfortable, start acknowledging things they do that are positive. No matter how insignificant, share your appreciation to the person. Do it face to face or in a text or handwritten note.

Tip: You’re not manipulating. You’re not trying to change your partner. You’re not even trying to change you. You’re changing how you feel about them.

Next: Develop a practice which re-acquaints you with the massively beneficial and wonderful things about your relationship.

It’s easy to get caught up complaining and lose sight not only of gifts your partner brings, but also gifts you two together create.

The same process above can help you develop a chronic habit of relationship appreciation.

Note the positive aspects being with this person creates. Write them down. In time, share them with your partner. Don’t worry if they don’t feel the same way you’re beginning to. Remember, this is not about them.

Then, after at least 60 days, pick something light and easy, that you would prefer your partner to do. (Don’t try this too early, you’ll re-energize your old habits and beliefs.)

Say to yourself, very lightly, with hardly any focus on it, what that is. Say it in a positive, almost nonchalant tone. Like: “wouldn’t it be nice if Alphonso took out the garbage this week?”.

Then, after thinking this statement once, drop it. Drop it completely from your consciousness. Try to obliterate it from your mind, as if it never came up.

If you’ve done everything up to this point each day, then one day, not next week, Alphonso will take out the garbage. You might even receive an pre-intuitive impulse that something is up. Like Bridget did.

Resist the temptation to say anything to Alphonso. Keep it all to yourself.

You’ll be surprised and delighted, but don’t show it. Instead savor the experience.

But do make note of this in your journal!

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This is a practice. It may or may not happen over night.

It may not happen in the first year. But there is no rush because you are eternal. And, nothing is wrong with Alphonso not taking out the garbage anyway!

Practice this. You’ll be astonished. Become clear about what’s in your belief constellation. Shift your focus to positive aspects of your relationship, and your partner/spouse. In time you will discover you’re in a pretty awesome relationship. And your partner/spouse is awesome too.

Keep it up and pretty soon you’ll want to explore other ways your beliefs create your reality.

The most convincing proof is personal life experience. When what you’re reading here, happens in your life, things “get real”. You can’t help feeling impervious to misfortune and negative situations.

You’ll come to believe your invincibility.

That will radically change your partnership or marriage. It will leave you living more and more in constant wonder and delight.

Exactly the way life is supposed to be.

October 10, 2018January 2, 2019

One More Thing To Create Your Best Life Ever

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In a previous post we wrote “If you stick to your guns, you will prevail.”

For some, this accurate.

But for many others…we’d say the majority of people…sticking to your guns is not enough.

That’s because people who want to be great, sometimes believe they aren’t.

You can’t be great if you don’t think you are.

So when we write: “…stick to your guns,…”, we’re referring to a mindset, not the action you’re taking.

Both action and mindset are crucial though. They work together.

But it’s easy for them to work against each other. And this is our point: For most people they do work against each other.

Take Perry for example.

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For decades he held many disempowering beliefs.

All beliefs like beliefs like themselves. So Perry’s early beliefs, spawned similar ones. Before long he had a collection of similarly disempowering beliefs.

We like to call this collection a belief constellation. They resemble billions of stars on a clear night. Like a constellation, they connect, forming a picture.

That picture is one’s reality.

Planisphæri_cœleste blog — *Belief constellations resemble pictures painted in the sky by connecting stars. In the same way celestial patterns form objects, your beliefs form your reality. (Photo: Frederik de Wit)*

Belief constellations are tightly woven. It’s hard to find the originating belief. One of Perry’s earliest disempowering beliefs, in this life time, for example, was “I’m an oddball and alone.”

Usually Perry was on his own. His parents were often aloof. His brothers were doing their own things. When the three brothers were together, the younger and older brothers often teased him.

It didn’t matter if it was playful, or malicious. Perry, a serious young boy, took these experiences as seriously as everything else, interpreting them to mean he was alone. And vulnerable. And insecure.

Life always reflects one’s mood through life experiences and situations. Not surprisingly, Perry found more and more “evidence” supporting his insecurity:

He got into a fight with a neighbor boy, which he lost. He was shot at by another young boy armed with a gun. A neighbor’s dog chased him up a tree. A nasty bike accident left him permanently scarred.

Then his parents divorced.

Of course, plenty life experiences reflected Perry’s invulnerability too.

But you can only see evidence for your predominant beliefs. Young Perry’s dominant belief was “I’m vulnerable”.

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The earlier in life a belief is formed, the more time it has to accumulate like beliefs. Over time, belief constellations become “the way life is”.

By then, most don’t have objective access to the beliefs. They don’t question the “what is”-ness of their interpretations which have hardened into beliefs.

They just believe life is this way.

Remember thought: while life reflects evidence consistent with that, it simultaneously contains evidence to the contrary.

That means, one’s life experience, no matter how dour, can change.

The problem is, humans (a) have a hard time accepting this. (b) They are unwilling to exert enough psychological persistence making change permanent. So, (c) they miss evidence confirming life has changed.

Summarizing:

One’s mindset created from interpreting experience, spawns more confirming experiences. (“mindset” is another word for “belief constellation”)
The mindset recedes into the background becoming “the way life is”.
One’s actions – their physical behavior, but also their thought behavior – shapes to their experiences.
One acts consistent with their “in the background” beliefs.

If a person believes blacks are scary and sees a black person at a stop light crossing the street in front of her at night, of course she is going to lock her car doors.

gijs-coolen-714657-unsplash blog — *Belief constellations are so powerful they create your reality and dictate your behavior. (Photo by Gijis Coolen)*

The point of all this is, stick to your guns and live authentically. But be sure your beliefs match your authenticity. Beliefs that your authenticity is wrong, bad, or unworthy of expression, generate internal conflict.

That will show up in your life experience, making life “harder” than it needs to be.

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. Such life experiences are showing you your inner reality. That’s good.

You could say that’s what physical life is about. Life experience is dazzling. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the dazzle and forget you’re shaping your life experiences.

Every human comes standing in their invincibility. Until they accept others’ beliefs or get “educated”. Which is not all that educational.

In time, they forget the world responds to them. It’s not the other way around.

In losing their way, they pre-pave their return.

Return to what? To their invincibility.

Everyone returns eventually. The majority return after death. Witness what people regret at their death.

Some people (maybe you?) get it sooner. They end up being remarkable.

Their authenticity will not allow circumstances to dictate belief. They are here to change worlds. Not just this world, all worlds.

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Fewer of these people are willing to compromise their authenticity these days. They have something to say. And they’re saying it.

Maybe you are one of these people.

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If you are, your life experience awaits your expression. No pressure though.

You may see these circumstances for what they are. Your perfect design. In this life.

Or maybe not.

The great news is, there are plenty of lifetimes. Between those lifetimes, you remind yourself what you really are. But you don’t have to die to remember. And you don’t need more than one life time to make your mark.

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So here is the best way to get at beliefs that may have receded into the “what is”-ness of your life: Don’t worry about old beliefs! Instead, create new empowering ones.

Of course they’re going to feel fake to you. All beliefs do at first.

But the nature of belief is the nature of belief. Meaning: hold that fake-feeling belief long enough. It will fade into your background and become “what is” for you. That belief also will accumulate like ones. A new belief constellation will be born.

Your life experience will reflect that constellation. Just like your old beliefs.

yoal-desurmont-712284-unsplash blog — The road ahead that is your life is being designed by you. What reality are you going to create for you and the world? (Photo: Yoal Desurmont)

At that point, you’ll begin believing what once was a fake belief.

The following example is helpful.

Five years ago, Perry met his now wife. As with all love, in the beginning, it was great.

The more time passed however, the more his wife began reflecting back to Perry his beliefs about being in relationships. Of course, Perry’s wife has her own belief constellation born of her own lifetime experiences.

Perry’s relationship gradually became a living hell for Perry. And for his wife. As marriages often do. That’s why so many end.

But Perry knows he is the common denominator in his life experience. No matter where he goes, he’s there, creating his experience via his beliefs. So Perry decided he had had enough.

He put this reality creation business to the test.

And so he began treating his wife differently.

As far as he was concerned, his wife had no responsibility for Perry’s life experience or their relationship. Not even responsibility for her own behavior!

There are a lot of details we’re skipping for brevity.

Life experience shapes to beliefs on an exponential curve. So at first, Perry didn’t notice much happening.

For the first three years.

He just had to accept something was happening. Even though he couldn’t see it. And indeed something was.

In the fourth year, his wife started changing. On her own, she began taking classes, then she began meditating. Then she began listening to uplifting speakers. Then she started reading books by those speakers.

Emboldened by these results, Perry doubled down on his commitment. And his wife became easier and easier to be with.

Their relationship changed too.

In fact, Perry’s wife had changed for the better so much, even her parents mentioned how lighter and happier she had become.

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You have more power than you may know. You can change other people’s behavior.

But you have to be persistent in the face of no apparent evidence.

So, here are the steps to making old beliefs irrelevant in your life.

First, start by allowing yourself to recognize things in your life that are contrary to beliefs you have. If you believe that life doesn’t shape to your beliefs, note how your life behaves exactly that way. By showing you a random-generated life experience that appears objectively separate from your beliefs.

Noted, deliberately take a moment and reflect on that. Write about it in your journal. Ponder the evidence your life has just shown you that matches your beliefs.

Then note when life doesn’t. Remember: life always does both. Maybe you’ll think about something happening –– your friend calling for example –– and your friend will call.

You’re wanting to realize that life is full of evidence for any belief.

Which it is.

Any life experience is available, bounded only by your beliefs.

Take your time. Allow many examples like this.

Then, write down a thought consistent with a belief you want to have. Start with something easy.

Say, for example, you want to be an actor, but you believe you’re not talented enough. Starting with the thought “I can be an actor” is going to create too much internal conflict.

avel-chuklanov-509630-unsplash blog — *You can live your dream life. It’s never too late. You just have to synch your beliefs and your desire. (Photo: Avel Chuklanov)*

Instead, you might create the thought “I really like acting”. That thought has nothing to do with becoming a successful actor.

But it’s in the potential belief constellation of being a successful actor. Pretty much all successful actors like acting.

Next, think that thought for a little while, a few minutes. You’ll start feeling good while thinking it. You might start thinking thoughts similar to it.

You might think “I liked acting as a child”.

“I always wanted to be an actor”.

“Acting is so a part of who I am”.

At this point, you might feel happy thinking. Or encouraged. Or enthusiastic. Or empowered. When you get to that point, try to forget about the thought completely.

Then, over some period of time, you will be inspired to take action. To the best of your ability, follow every inspiration you get.

Talk to a stranger. Go to a movie. Enroll in an acting class….

When you take an action inspired in this way, you have begun the process that ends in life experiences inconsistent with your previous beliefs and consistent with your new ones.

When that happens, revel in it. Journal about it. Acknowledge it.

You are on the way to becoming the actor you’re wanting to be. While old beliefs are on their way to irrelevancy.

We come full circle to the original story that prompted this one.

For now you must stick to your guns, repeating this process. Do that and you create the unshakable mindset. And the life it accompanies.

What you want is what the world wants. Your authenticity. Give the world what it wants and you change it.

But first you must change.

September 28, 2018September 28, 2018

How Your Radically Authentic Self Makes The World Better

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Two Words: Colin Kaepernick

Like many before him, he is giving the mainstream world a thing or two to think about. And making it better in the process.

In case you don’t know, Kaepernick is the San Francisco 49ers quarterback who in 2016 began kneeling during the national anthem in protest of racism, social inequality and police brutality.

He left the 49ers to become a free agent. But the NFL believed him a pariah because, like many big institutions, they can’t handle the truth. Or more simply, they can’t handle losing money in the short term because the peanut gallery can’t handle the truth. And big institutions get rich by catering to the peanut gallery.

Nike was in a similar situation. According to anonymous sources quoted by this New York Times Article, Nike was considering ending their relationship with the controversial, non-playing football player.

Now, as you probably know, all that reversed.

The company is now charting record “brand engagement” as a result of getting behind Kaepernick’s cause, according to their CEO. Particularly among the urban demographic, a coveted target for the athletic brand.

But this story is about Kaepernick as an example to would-be iconoclasts.

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There is no value in you playing small and going along with the crowd.

There is every value in being your authentic self, no matter how much ire that authenticity will draw in the short term.

If you stick to your guns, you will prevail. And the world will be forever changed for the better as a result. You came to change the world in your own way great or small.

Going with the crowd is not world-changing.

For two years, Kaepernick withstood criticism from many institutions. Including the nation’s highest political office. Now his rise as a national civil rights icon with a massive brand backing him, is testament to what any human being willing to stand in their authenticity can do.

Individuals change the world. Not groups.

At this point, there is barely a limit on what is possible for the former quarterback. His platform has expanded dramatically. It is reported he now has a book deal, speaking tour and is developing a comedy series.

Kaepernick’s example isn’t the only one.

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Shepard Fairey’s name should be no surprise. If it is, his artwork isn’t.

Now enjoying a huge artistic career, Shepard didn’t become famous over night. According to the documentary about his life and art, Shepard had a singular ambition: to express himself artistically.

As a young skateboarder and graffiti artist, he roamed the country posting stickers, posters and flyers on virtually anything and everything, before creating a poster for the Obama presidential campaign.

That poster made him famous.

Obama poster blog — The iconic Obama Poster

But what some don’t know is in the midst of all that election fame, Shepard was in the toughest year of his life. He was being sued by municipalities for his history as a graffiti artist. But what was even more scary was the Associated Press filed a massive lawsuit against the artist. A lawsuit that could bankrupt the artist, his family and end his career.

Just like Kaepernick however, Fairey stuck to his path, lived his authentic life creating beautiful and compelling critiques of political figures disguised as art. Even though, as he describes it, he weathered some of the greatest challenges during that entire time.

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You must not underestimate the value of your authentic expression.

The more radical the better. But you also must not underestimate the value negative attention brings to your cause.

If you allow your fears of rejection or “crucifixion” by the “mob” that is mainstream society or a subsection thereof to intimidate you, you are bound to give up your authentic voice in favor of….what?

Social acceptance? Money? Reputation? Is social acceptance, money and reputation really on par with the potential to change the world?

Besides, when you’ve done what you came to do, you will have all the acceptance, money and reputation you can handle. And then some.

You have an authentic voice. You came into the world equipped to make it a better place. That better place doesn’t happen when you’re going along with the mainstream.

It only happens when you speak your authenticity. The more radical the better.

Shepard-fairey-2011-westhollywood blog — If Shepard Fairey can do it….By Fuzheado – Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0

Now we know a lot of people talk about “living authentically”. Rarely if ever do these people explain how to do that. We’re going to.

How to live your authentic life:

First, realize this process will not happen over night. But know that, no matter how old you are, or how little time in life you think you have, you have plenty of time to accomplish this. Perry is 54 years old and just getting started, for example.

No one is too old.

So you start by releasing the idea that time is a factor. Or age. Or any current situation. None of that has any relevance.

Second, you must screw on knowing that your voice is valid. We use the phrase “screw on” purposefully. Threads on a screw have great holding power. They will hold under great stress. Your knowing your voice is valid comes from within. It comes from your connection with the source of the “sound” of your voice.

The stronger your connection with that source, the more invincible you will feel. Silence, meditation, long walks in nature are great processes reconnecting you with your source. Do that regularly. We recommend this process for getting in tune with your source.

Third, reorganize your priorities. Your voice’s strength must be nurtured. That takes time. What gets you through the time it takes for your voice to be ready is how freaking great it feels being in touch with your authenticity. Again, this process is golden.

Perry quit his job at Intel to pursue his value-based priorities. We don’t recommend this. He has a supportive wife. You don’t have to quit your day job. But at least put it in perspective.

For example, in some places around the world, up to 50 percent of people work bullshit jobs. That means you’re probably doing something for money that represents a compromise, or perhaps many compromises, on your values. It’s time your values retake the priority high ground.

That’s because your voice lurks within your values.

Fourth, start doing some serious introspection. The best place Perry has found to reconnect with his voice is his childhood. He asked some time ago “what did I really want to be when I grew up?”

Look at what you liked to do as a child. What inspired you? What did you dream about? How did you see the world? The fantasy world of your childhood often holds within it your voice’s small timbre, waiting for you to crank the volume.

Another place to look: your reaction to the world around you. This is tricky though. If you’ve lived, even a little while, on the planet, you likely have taken on stories which cause knee-jerk emotional reactions that fill you will injustice, a sense of unfairness and moral outrage.

Those areas can be where your voice is lurking. But they could also be ingrained knee-jerk reactions you’ve taken on from society. These kinds of reactions tend to cut you off from your voice. So you have to be discerning as you observe how you react to the world around you.

Once you’ve found your voice, you need to practice delivering it. So get started expressing your voice to yourself at first. Not to others. We offer this for several reasons.

First, you’re not ready for the potential onslaught from the peanut gallery trying to kill your originality before it’s mature enough to survive such attacks. Second, you need time to figure out how best to express yourself. Is it with film? Poetry? Writing? News commentary? Podcasting? Walking across the United States? Interviewing homeless people?

There are endless numbers of ways to express yourself. Somewhere in there is your niche. You’ll find it if you dedicate time to discovering it.

Meanwhile, in the self-discovery, you’ll have fun. And, when you’re ready to tell the world, you’ll have an impressive amount of content ready-made to share. Not all of it will be brilliant, but it doesn’t have to be.

Photo by Francesco Mazzoli PERFECT PRACTICE (1) — Photo by Francesco Mazzoli

Next: Practice, practice practice.

Follow your impulses. Do things you think are crazy. Sure, quit your job if you really know that’s what you want to do. Just realize quitting your job isn’t required to find your voice, or express it. At least not at first.

Refine your voice, explore things. You’re on a wild goose chase for the co-inciding events and circumstances which delight you and thus indicate you’re on your path. Take all this as the greatest adventure of your life and it will be that.

And if you keep at it, you will come to the same sense of steadiness, of invincibility we’re sure are embodied by two words, which actually are a name: Colin Kaepernick.

September 27, 2018September 27, 2018

Your Harshest Critics Are Awesome Allies

Fabien Deletraz WORLD CREATOR FB blog — Photo: Fabien Deletraz

Attacks on what you’re doing tell you you are on your path.

Everyone who accomplished something great did so facing massive criticism. Some harsher than others.

If you are crucified by the mainstream, congratulations. You are in ~~good~~ great company. Those who changed the world for the better are rarely liked.

That is, until their deed is done.

Facebook and Apple are not the kinds of “world changing” we’re talking about.

Changing humanity’s trajectory, significantly improving fundamental societal structures, and heralding in a new relationship between human beings –– these are the kinds of accomplishments we’re talking about.

When you’re up to something that significant you’re bound to attract those who hate what you are doing, those jealous of what you’re doing, those who fear what you’re doing.

You’re equally bound to attract those who love what you’re doing.

But if you’re up to something significant, you must remain true to what you’re doing and not let either the adoration or the hate beguile you you. For hate can easily turn to adoration and adoration turns to hate just as easily.

Humans are capricious.

Most of them would rather go along with the crowd. Most of them fear being ostracized by that crowd. And most of them also criticize that very same crowd.

Abraham calls the crowd “the peanut gallery”. Their opinion matters so little it’s not worth peanuts to such a one standing in their invincibility.

When you’re doing something significant, you’re likely to be alone in your pursuit. Something else Abraham says: It’s lonely on the leading edge. In the silence of that leading edgeness however, you discover life mastery.

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For those who know their invincibility, the peanut gallery’s opinion matters not one whit.

While it’s been often mis-attributed to Mahatma Ghandi, the homily, which more likely comes from union leader Nicholas Klein, still paints a compelling picture:

You’re first ignored
Then you are laughed at
Then they try to abuse you
Then they enshrine monuments to you

So many would-be world-changers give up when people ignore them. Or when they are laughed at. Many who get through those phases, give up when abuse shows up. The very few who continue reach the promise land of dreams fulfilled.

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Glory goes to those who fulfill dreams. Not to those who just dream them.

In today’s connected world, no human can deliberately plan events such that their voice rises above the noise.

But when allied with All That Is, providence steps in, orchestrating on behalf of the connected individual, events which seem like lucky breaks or coincidence.

More often, though, the best, divinely-inspired events look like bad luck. Horrible luck even.

Here is what separates those who are enshrined from those who go unrecognized.

The enshrined understand their enemy’s true value.

Antagonism serves the iconoclast well. For ridicule, abuse, negative attention and opposition all amplify their message.

Recently, Perry was a guest on a Facebook Live event. Actually, he was the main course, as the audience was furious at things he had said recently. They were looking for their pound of flesh. Two pounds really.

What was billed as a discussion could have been described as an ambush had Perry not already known what was going to happen. The host and her audience attacked and ridiculed and laughed at Perry, his lifestyle, his beliefs. They tried to take him to task for his perspective on the transgender community.

But Perry is invincible. There is no task a mob can take him to because Perry has clarity. He doesn’t need agreement from the peanut gallery, which is often ignorant and lost in the what-is-ness of life.

Interestingly, while many of the loudest voices pilloried him during the show, some less vocal people heard what he was saying. Their experience will dramatically change their lives.

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Though they will not be able to connect their participation in that event with life changes they will experience, the experiences will none the less offer opportunities otherwise not available.

Those who don’t understand you are going to ignore you. Those threatened by your authenticity are going to attack you. Then those who were ignoring you will join in the attack. Or they will watch from the sidelines. If you look like them, if they think you are part of their tribe they are going to try to force you to conform to their ideas of proper tribe behavior.

Very few tribes are as insecure and therefore fearful of change than the tribe known as “black people”.

But if you can continue, despite attempts to get you to conform to others’ opinion of how you should be, you will, over time, shape the world to your divinely-inspired opinion.

And you will discover how powerful you are. And how invincible you are.

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Colin Kaepernick would not be where he is were he not shunned by the NFL and other major institutions including the Republican Party the casual racists and the rest of the peanut gallery.

People who have changed society or the world did so amidst harsh rebukes. Harsh rebukes are what people offer when they don’t understand.

For the world-changer, it’s best to let the peanut gallery do what it does best: assist in their own special way in your success.

Recognize attacks are part of the path and you win.

September 10, 2018

How Being Blissful Makes A Great Day Greater

Janita Sumeiko Up your spiritual game FB blog — Photo: Janita Sumeiko

Life is a constant, joyful romp, with nature celebrating your every move.

That may not be the case for some people. But that’s only because there are beliefs in the way, making life feel anything but fun and joyful.

One such belief a lot of people share goes “There is a separate, objective reality. It is random and uncaring. Even hostile. I am vulnerable in it. So I must be on guard.”

Leaving that belief behind, for a little bit, opens phenomenal possibilities. And the more beliefs like this you leave behind, the happier your life gets.

Perry had an experience which illustrates this well.

He woke early and happy as he usually does. Over a couple decades, he has practiced holding only beliefs he wants to see acted out in his reality. As a result, Perry is nearly always happy.

This particular morning though, his happiness didn’t last. The shift didn’t immediately register. But when it did, he knew why.

The day before, Perry was overcome with “doing”. There were so many interesting and fun things he wanted to do in that day. But there wasn’t enough “day” to get all he wanted done, done.

So when he went to bed the night before, his dominant emotional state was “overwhelmed”. When he woke this morning, before he knew it, he picked up right where he was when he went to bed.

Feeling overwhelmed.

· · ·

When you’re happy more than not, happy is all you want to be. Anything other than happiness doesn’t feel good. And the happier you are, the more happiness you want.

If you’re really, really happy, long enough, any time you’re not happy after that feels awful.

So when Perry felt overwhelm compared to being happy, he knew what he preferred.

Feeling “overwhelmed” doesn’t result from having too much to do. There’s always more to do. That’s what makes life eternal. Any time a person feels overwhelmed, what they’re experiencing is the emotional response to a belief.

The belief is: “I don’t have enough time to do all I want to do.”

And of course, when you believe you don’t have enough time, your life experience reflects that.

You don’t have enough time. Or at least it feels that way.

Actually, you have plenty of time. You just don’t know it because, in that moment, you don’t believe it.

No belief is bad or wrong. But some beliefs create life experiences most people would rather not have.

Time shortage beliefs, for example, trigger many unwanted emotions. Including stress, doubt, worry or a general sense of lack of efficacy. At work, they may feel performance anxiety, fear, inadequate or agitated.

In the long run, time shortage beliefs can be dangerous. They can cause unnecessary errors and shoddy results. They can even create unsafe workplaces.

Besides, you’re not having fun when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, anxious or fearful.

Some would say “that’s life”.

But we say life doesn’t ever have to include such experiences. Such experiences are only part of life, until you realize they don’t have to be.

· · ·

As soon as Perry realized what was going on, he also realized what he wanted.

What he wanted was to know he has plenty of time. So he did something he knew would help: he took a walk.

At 5:30 a.m.

It was dark outside when he started. As twilight grew, his mood improved. Nature has a way of doing that.

Perry sometimes walks along a nature path teeming with wildlife. Most people miss all the animals living there. But Perry has a knack for seeing wildlife all the time.

This morning was no different: He came across six coyotes watching him from behind a stand of trees.

One of the intermediate signs of progress when practicing spiritual development is the natural environment behaves differently towards you. Rather than hiding it’s wonders, nature puts itself on vivid display.

Perry has had many such experiences. That’s why he carries his phone on such walks. He loves capturing these moments. Like this one of two river otters:

Feeling wonder from his coyote rendezvous, Perry returned home. He meditated to set his mood for the day, then started doing things he knew would be fun.

By 10:00 that morning, he had accomplished a lot. He learned a new piece of software, contemplated a video he’s wanting to produce, and wrote a new story to share on social media. This on top of a two-hour walk, a 30-minute meditation and studying Spanish via Duolingo.

But there was something Perry was avoiding: A lunch appointment later that day. He didn’t want to take time to go to lunch, but he felt obligated.

Here’s why.

Nearly every Thursday for the last 10 years, Perry has had lunch with the same person. This person has influenced big decisions in Perry’s life. Perry left his successful, but stressful tech career to become a solopreneur, for example, because of advice from this person.

He also got married.

An enduring friendship also came from these lunches. So did several failed startups. Startups in which Perry and this other person invested significant amounts of money.

A lot of trust and camaraderie has grown between Perry and this person too. Through all this, this person became a mentor of sorts. And for good reason: he has far more startup experience.

But Perry changed a lot over the last few years as he’s upped his spiritual game. Today, he heeds his Inner Being guidance almost exclusively. Not what people in his life, including his wife and close friends, think he should do.

To do lists, others’ expectations, a sense of responsibility or “duty” are mostly irrelevant now.

Spiritual development isn’t magic. The “becoming more” spiritual development promises comes with requirements. Letting go of old ways and turning towards new ones for example, is a prerequisite to becoming more.

The obligation Perry was feeling was exactly that. He faced a “becoming more” requirement: he had this lunch appointment. An appointment he resisted because he knows the lunch no longer serves him.

Giving the lunches up felt like disrespecting all that came from the them. Including disrespecting his long-time friend. But what Perry didn’t know, was a future delightful outcome was in motion.

One that would benefit everyone involved.

· · ·

Like all eternal beings, including you, dear reader, Perry has a unique connection to Infinite Intelligence. Infinite Intelligence by definition knows everything you’re wanting and how to lead you to those things.

In fact, it is always guiding you to what you are wanting.

But you have to learn how to hear its guidance. Following that guidance is rewarding, fulfilling and delightful. When you do follow it, you discover your own invincibility. In your invincibility, you discover happiness levels the vast majority of people miss.

You also get everything you’re wanting. Yes, that includes material things.

Perry has proven this to himself over and over, in matters large and small. Including financial matters. Over time, he’s become convinced of his inner guidance’s superiority.

Which brings us back to 10 a.m.

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Perry didn’t want to go to lunch.

He wanted to cancel.

But now it was 11:00. Too late. That’s when Perry’s lunch partner texted, asking if he was on his way.

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“Yeah,” Perry texted back. “Getting ready now.”

While getting ready, Perry confided to his wife.

“This lunch doesn’t suit me anymore,” he said. “But I like [the guy] and am feeling resistance in telling him I don’t want to have lunch any more…It’s not that…I just want more of my time to pursue my passions.”

“Well maybe you can reschedule it in a way that gives you more of your time back,” Perry’s wife said.

He nodded in agreement as he put his bike helmet on, then rode off. Feeling conflicted, but certain the lunches were coming to their end-of-life, Perry set his mind to being present.

On his way downtown, he choose from his surroundings pleasing things on which to focus:

The bike ride.
The beautiful weather.
The wonderful bike he owns and how fun it is to ride.
The music playing in his Air Pods. The contribution of all the people that makes it possible to hear music from Air Pods.
The fact that Portland has made it super easy for cyclists to get around.

By the time Perry arrived downtown, he felt much better. That meant he was in tune with his Inner Being.

And that’s when the Big Event happened.

Turns out Perry’s lunch partner was wanting to do the same thing Perry was: consolidate his time.

Normally, the two men record a podcast Wednesday. Doing that takes Perry five hours (including the commute). Wednesday’s show and Thursday’s lunch use as much as seven hours each week.

So Perry’s lunch partner asked if it would be ok to move the recording date to Thursday. That way, both activities could happen in a half-day, instead of spread across two.

That would save Perry almost three hours each week!

It was exactly what Perry was wanting. And he got the solution without doing something he didn’t want to do.

The two long time friends spent the rest of lunch talking about how their lives have changed. Those changes would likely bring their regular lunch dates to an end.

They also talked about sun-setting the podcast. In six months time, or sooner, Perry will likely be free of the podcast and the lunches.

A perfect outcome. For both parties.

And that’s another outcome of upping your spiritual game. When you’re connected with your Inner Being, you get what you want, with ease. And, getting what you want happens in a way that others get what they want too.

These kinds of perfect outcomes become common occurrences. In a short time of paying attention to how you feel and choosing to be happy over anything else, life becomes easy.

Like it’s supposed to be.

When life is easy, life is fun. The fun and ease come from discovering your reality comes at your say-so. When your life experience convinces you of that, you start feeling invulnerable.

Invulnerability is another way of expressing invincibility.

Everyone creates their own reality, whether they know they are or not.

But when a person learns to deliberately do it….life gets really, really interesting.

Life becomes a continuing flow of delightful experiences leading to greater and greater bliss, joy and happiness. Including new relationships with nature. Meanwhile, working hard to get what you want becomes a thing of the past.

You came here to have fun in every moment. Are you ready to experience your own joyful romp?

September 4, 2018

When A Trip To The Optometrist Brings More Clarity Than Expected

David Travis Optometry FB blog — Photo: David Travis

It was going to be a quick trip. Get the eyeglass adjustment. Go home.

Easy peasy.

What it turned into: something far more interesting.

· · ·

During his recent Idaho vacation, Perry wore contact lenses.

That’s because his new glasses, which he ordered well before the trip were not ready. His existing pair wasn’t either. A manufacturer’s defect forced them back to the repair shop.

Perry prefers glasses for many reasons. Napping being one. Napping is more complicated with plastic disks in your eyes.

Glasses are easy. So Perry prefers being bespectacled.

You can imagine his delighted then, when the vision specialist called Perry the first time, two weeks before his vacation. That is, until she told Perry the bad news: his new glasses failed inspection. They’d have to be redone too.

Two different pair of glasses. Two different repair shops. Two warranty problems.

Coincidence?

A long series of “unfortunate events” about Perry’s eyes accented the last few weeks. First came what Perry thought was a scratched cornea.

Nope. Pink eye.

Then he broke his old glasses playing with the family dog. They came back a week later, but just two days after that, broke again. Warranty defect.

Then came his annual vision exam, which prompted the the new glasses order and its attendant manufacturing problems.

That’s when Perry wondered aloud to his wife, just prior to leaving for vacation, that something larger was happening having to do with more than eyeball vision. He wondered -– rightly –– whether his need for clarity, had more to do with his non-physical perception than seeing with his eyes; an expansion of perception which would make more visible the expanding grace Perry –– and every human being –– naturally enjoys.

Perrys broken glasses blog — Perry’s older glasses. It was all working out…in the end what a delicious ride!

Perhaps these experiences were leading up to a new experience Perry; an experience that would delight him by making visible what was there all along, but hidden from him in plain sight.

Like “lost” keys you search frantically for only to find them in the exact spot you checked five times.

Everyone has had that experience.

For Perry though, it wasn’t about lost car keys, but keys to questions he had been asking all his life.

· · ·

Your physical reality always, faithfully reflects what is going on with you in the non-physical realm –– that place from which you come, the place from which everything flows from –– through The Moment of Becoming and, finally, into full-blown physical reality. The more you open yourself to this, the more you are able to see and consciously experience both the physical, the non physical and The Moment of Becoming.

It’s a highly satisfying experience to have this experience. And it comes with delightful, practical benefits.

· · ·

(At the time all this was happening Perry didn’t know all this. As he writes this blog post, he is coming into clarity as we share what was happening behind the scenes. So now, as he writes, Perry is delighting in the epiphany, his awareness of what it is we’re sharing now.)

Back to glasses, vision and vacations.

It frustrated Perry to hear his new glasses wouldn’t be ready for another week. The specialist assured him they would be ready the following Tuesday. By then, Perry and his wife would be in Idaho. He asked the specialist if it were possible to ship the glasses to the house where they would be. Of course this was possible, she said.

For a price.

And that’s what happened. On Thursday, as promised, with just days of their vacation remaining, the glasses arrived. Cost: $24. Interestingly, around the same time, the other eyeglass shop repairing his older glasses called. Those frames were ready to pick up too.

The coincidence didn’t escape Perry. Two pair, ready to go, but neither nearby.

When the new glasses arrived, they were beautiful. Their case alone is a work of art. They’re more sturdy than his old ones too. Perry enjoyed looking at them. Though they needed adjustments, he wore them instead of the contacts for the rest of their vacation.

· · ·

Back home Perry wanted to go to the eyeglass shop for adjustments. But, something else vied for his attention: a nap.

As one’s state of grace, one’s invincibility becomes more obvious, a person is less and less comfortable adhering to what Seth calls “assembly-line time”, the idea instilled in humans that you must work straight through from 8-5 (or worse), with your nose to the grindstone “making it happen” and “getting shit done”.

If you let it, your life experience, shows you how All That Is, your Inner Being and the Universe work together to make things you want to happen happen in your life. When you see how this non-physical “trinity” delivers everything you’re wanting –– with perfect timing and in the perfect way –– more and more you want to let them do work.

A person in their state of grace, in their invincibility, becomes like daisies, trees and the rest of nature: she simply allows her trinity to shower her natural abundance upon her.

Part of that delicious experience, is a renewed relationship with napping.

Abraham and Esther Hicks equate sleeping and meditation. Both refresh oneself by immersing one in one’s origins.

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Perry strives to heed impulses to take naps. But in this case, he wasn’t willing. Everyone has free will. And everyone’s trinity knows how to work with your free will to surprise and delight you.

That is, if you are aware enough to receive the surprise and delight.

Which Perry certainly is.

A person can’t act contrary to one’s state of grace. But it can feel that way. As you’ll soon see.

So Perry went to the shop, feeling tired. When he arrived, there were two people ahead of him and only one person behind the counter. She said everyone had gone to lunch but her. She would be with him as soon as possible.

This was not the person who helped Perry before. Perry felt frustration mixed with his fatigue. But he was committed to not vent his frustration on his reality.

He knows better.

Instead, he sat patiently, expecting everything would work out.

He thought about bagging the whole idea and returning another day. But just before he got up, the woman behind the counter called him over.

She took his new glasses into a back room. Then she returned and put them on Perry’s face. They looked even better than before. They fit better too, which the woman confirmed aloud. Then Perry noticed something strange.

While they did fit better, he noticed the lenses were not symmetrically aligned and the nose bridge was crooked.

The woman noticed this too, but tried to avoid it. When Perry pointed it out, she acknowledged the problem saying the lenses were flawed.

They’d have to go back for a warranty repair. Perry’s frustration returned.

Now Perry knows “frustration” has nothing to do with what is happening in front of him. Instead, it always has to do with what is going on inside him. His physical world simply reflects back to him his internal realitiy…with 100 percent experiential acuity.

This is so with every human. No exceptions.

So when the woman behind the counter apologized for the inconvenience, knowing Perry had been waiting a while for these glasses, Perry took a deep breath, then smiled and said “It’s ok”.

She wondered aloud if he had a spare. Which reminded him: his other glasses were ready to be picked up. Perry had forgotten about that.

What perfect timing, he thought. Even when it feels like things are going wrong, it’s actually working out with perfect timing. Perry left his new glasses feeling lighter.

Back home he again felt the urge to take a nap. But by now, the momentum of Perry’s frustration had a hold of him and his life experience. Taking a nap was a possibility, but it was much more probable Perry would continue along his frustration path.

This is why it is important to cultivate positive expectations.

Not only does one’s physical reality represent the perceiver’s internal experience, with 100 percent fidelity, physical reality’s consistency depends on momentum created by the act of perceiving, making it much more likely one will continue having experiences consistent with one’s dominant perceptual focus.

Momentum equals experience probability.

Taking a nap would have reset Perry’s positive momentum, thus affording him a better rest of his day. What happened instead was both clarifying and hilarious.

He decided to take the car to the other repair shop and get his old glasses. The other repair shop is across town. Not walking distance like the first shop.

Now Perry doesn’t like to drive in traffic. This was all happening after lunch on a week day. So he could expect traffic to be less than it would have been in the morning, evening or at lunch. But guess what?

That’s right.

Not only did Perry get stopped by virtually every traffic light, he also got “stuck” behind every slow driver, bus, tractor trailer…you name it…it came into Perry’s path.

When he finally got to the repair shop, a woman was just getting into her car to leave. Her street-side parking spot was choice. Perry pulled just behind her, turned on his signal and waited.

And waited.

The more he waited, the more Perry could feel his frustration rise. What the hell was the woman doing in there?

Considering the drive over, Perry’s frustration could be cut with a knife. And the more he focused on his frustration, the more frustrated he got.

Meanwhile, the woman was not leaving.

That’s when two guys came out of the shop and jumped in their pick up sitting in a curbside parking spot across the street from the parked woman.

The truck started. Perry turned his other turn signal on.

But they didn’t move either. Instead, the driver and passenger started smoking!

Unbelievable!

Just when his frustration was peaking, Perry had a cathartic epiphany about this day the last two-weeks, and he his and his wife’s experiences on their vacation. Then, in that realization, something in him gave way.

The peace and well-being Perry knew to be his norm returned in a flood of relief, clarity and awareness.

And in that moment, Perry looked to the left. Inside the repair shop parking lot: there right next to the front door…

…was an open parking space.

No one had left. It had been open all this time.

Perry laugh out loud as he pulled in, went into the shop, got his glasses, then drove home….

….and then took a nap.

It was the best nap ever.

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August 29, 2018August 29, 2018

The World Gives You What You Are. That Is The Best Case For Being Happy

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Hate and you will experience hatred. Hate enough and you will be hated.

Discriminate and you will experience discrimination. Discriminate enough and you will be discriminated against.

Attack and you will have to defend. Attack enough and you will be attacked back banned and shunned

Be angry and you will experience anger. Be angry frequently enough and you will not know peace.

There is freedom in loving, in being happy. For when you are happy, loving and inclusive, you discover a world that reflects all that back to you.

It’s not to hard to figure. Unless you’re wrapped up in stories which make figuring, at least for now, impossible.

July 28, 2018June 21, 2021

Hard Work Rarely Makes Life Better Or Fun

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Life experience says: all you want comes through hard work. Or does it? Success at anything can be easy. All it takes is a Positively Focused orientation.

Life tells you all you want comes through hard work. It tells you that because that’s what you tell yourself.

When you read books from people who “worked hard”, you’re confirming what others told you. Believing you must work long hours because your colleagues, your “competitors” do, or your boss expects you to, only perpetuates what others told you.

Feel you have to work weekends because you’re “behind the 8 ball”? That attitude reinforces your belief story; the one seemingly consistent with your life experience that says “success comes from hard work.”

It’s the other way around

But your story is NOT consistent with your life experience. Your life experience is consistent with your story.

Change your story and your life will shape itself to fit the new story you tell.

You’ll get immediate results. But unless you know what to look for, you will miss them.

And that’s why people think positive thinking, affirmations, Law of Attraction and things like that don’t work. Because they don’t know what to look for.

Should you be able to drive if you don’t know what road markings mean, or if you don’t understand driving “rules”? Should you be able to teach someone else to drive?

Our guess is you’ll say “Of course not.”

Then we think you’ll agree that not knowing how to see the signs that positive thinking, affirmations and such are working, kinda disqualifies you from being an authority on whether such things work or not.

Success can be inevitable

It’s better to just say “I don’t know.” Because if you don’t know how to see the signs, you don’t know.

Hard work can and often seems to lead to success. That’s only because so many people are working hard at being successful. Meanwhile, what’s actually creating the success they enjoy, has very little to do with the effort they employ.

Hard work is not the key to success. Success comes despite hard work offered. It can be inevitable.

So why are hard workers often successful and those who don’t work hard (seemingly) so often not?

Interesting paradox, isn’t it?

Be the exception not the rule

But if you look more closely, you’ll see FAR MORE hard workers are often not successful and sometimes those who don’t work at all hard are.

Most of us don’t seem to have the luxury of slowing down and exploring what they’re reading here. But overcome that story and test what we’re offering, you will find accuracy in all of this.

Then, you’ll become the exception.

You can be successful without all the struggle you think you have to offer to get it. Through this blog and our 1:1 session work, we show people how success comes easily and hard work becomes obsolete.