Not every client session ends with a breakthrough. Sometimes, what emerges is a mirror so clearly reflective, it can only be received in layers. That’s what happened with one of my clients this week—let’s call her Madison—as she wrestled with tension in her business and growing frustration with both her employee and her small number of customers.
Madison runs an emerging, but very real, small business. She has four paying clients, and more showing interest. From where I sit, it’s happening. The momentum is building. But from where Madison stood in our recent session, all she could see was how much wasn’t happening.
She felt burdened. Not just by the challenges of running the business, but by the belief that she had to do more to make it succeed. She thought she needed her employee— Jane (whose experience I wrote about previously) — to match that “doing” energy. More outreach. More follow-through. Increased visible hustle. But Jane wasn’t responding to those cues. AndMadison was taking it personally.
She was also taking it out on her customers—grumbling about their quirks, dismissing their contributions, struggling to feel grateful for the very signs that her dream was taking root.
Pushing doesn’t help
At the heart of it all was pressure. Not pressure from her partner Tim, who’s funding the business. But from the version of Tim Madison carries in her. No one exists in our reality but us. Everyone else who seems to be there are versions of those people we create. We create them through thoughts and beliefs we have about that person.
This is something I share with clients over and over. It’s hard to get, until the client receives Universal evidence proving it’s accurate. Then the game changes. But for Madison, she hasn’t fully let that accuracy sink in. So she’s not trying to change her beliefs about her partner.
I know Tim isn’t hovering over her, demanding performance. I know this because he’s a client too and we’ve spoken many times about this. But Madison’s version of Tim is demanding. That internalized voice keeps saying: “You need to prove this is working. You need to get bigger, faster. You need to do more. It’s MY money after all!”
So she pushes. And when the business didn’t respond to the push, she got angry. Not just at the business, not just at Jane, but at herself as well.
Our session wasn’t about resolving that anger. It was about revealing it. Naming it. Making space for what was really going on.
Feeling stuck
“There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with your business. There’s nothing wrong with Jane,” I told her. “It’s just a bunch of distortion that you’re telling yourself, and then you’re feeling shitty because you’re in the distortion.”
She heard that. Not with ease, but with recognition. Her head nodded even as her body resisted and remained stiff. Because deep down, she knows what’s so: She’s not failing. She’s just running with her old belief momentum. The one that says success comes from effort, not alignment. From force, not flow, not letting go.
But the business she’s building can’t be grown from that energy. It’s asking her to trust. To appreciate. To be, not just do. And Jane—by not cooperating with the push—is reflecting that truth beautifully. Not out of defiance. But out of resonance. She’s mirroring back exactly where Madeline is stuck: in the doing.
“You’re in a good place,” I told Madison. “…we can talk about this next week and the week after, if you want to. If that’s what it’s gonna take to get you to let go of the doing and lean into the being — and also lean into the appreciation of the four customers you have and the revenue they’ve provided, no matter how small.”
Madeline left that session still feeling stuck. Still frustrated. But with something new: a clearer view of what was really going on. And that clarity, even if uncomfortable, was the invitation.
It’s no surprise then when one of the four customers she had disparaged for “ghosting” her, actually showed up eager to take the next steps because they need exactly what Madeline is offering!
Letting go
This is how real transformation often unfolds—not in grand moments of release, but in quiet reckonings. In honest reflections. In the willingness to stay with ourselves even when we don’t feel resolved.
So if you’re pushing and nothing’s moving…If you’re trying to “make it happen” and the universe seems to be ignoring you…Pause.
What if the stuckness is sacred? What if the resistance is your business—or your life—asking you to be with it, not bulldoze it?
The Positively Focused path isn’t about doing more. It’s about aligning more deeply, letting go, then letting inspired action emerge naturally. That’s not always easy. But it’s always true.
Madeline is learning that. And if you’re here, maybe you are too.
TL;DR: The author writes how a client’s shift in focus shows how alignment creates the Charmed Life. With devotion and resistance-clearing, joyful realities unfold—proof of living Positively Focused.
In my last post I wrote about a client’s awesome realization as a result of experiencing contrast between his work life and his non-work life. He moved into an alternate reality in which his work life felt mundane, uninspiring, while his weekend life was inspiring and joyful. And yet, just the week before, the very same work he was doing this past week was inspiring and joyful.
What gives?
The only difference between the reality he created last week, and the one he created the week before was his focus. In other words, through his vibration, he came into a reality he didn’t like. One having him feel his job was lifeless.
Every client goes through this kind of calibration. It’s the way life is for everyone. We constantly align with different alternate realities every moment. The one we align with in any given moment becomes our living, breathing reality. The other ones we experience too. We experience those through our alternate selves.
This means we can experience a constant stream of moving into realities we enjoy. But it takes devotion. It takes focus. And the best way to focus is by focusing on the positive aspects of our lives. That focus creates the Charmed Life I write about in this blog.
Manifestations and the Charmed Life
Want to know what that sounds like? Want to know what living a Charmed Life feels like? Listen to this voice message a separate client sent this week. The client created an entire day of flowing into better and better realities and manifestations, all starting with a simple hair appointment. It’s a long message (8 minutes). But you can tell by her voice, her excitement, and what happened in the day, that she’s totally living the Charmed Life.
The Charmed Life is everyone’s life. It’s always happening. That means if our lives aren’t feeling like this client’s experience, we’re in an alternate reality. One that doesn’t include our Charmed Life experience. Charmed Life living comes with us being Positively Focused. The client in this message is chronically Positively Focused. So she’s getting the extraordinary experience of constant, joyful unfolding manifestations. Including manifestations where she benefits others in remarkable ways. Ways that show up for the other person with no effort on their part.
If you didn’t listen to it, that voice message is worth listening to. Go back and listen. It may be the best 8 minutes you’ve had today.
Clearing resistance is key
My days are similar to this female client’s days. Increasingly, so are my other Advanced Positively Focused clients’ lives. I love getting messages like the one above. I hope you listened to it, because it’s not an outlier experience. It’s just what happens when we let go and trust in the Universe’s ability to deliver to us everything we want…in perfect timing.
For most clients, “perfect timing” takes a while. That’s because we build up resistance through our lives, resistance that aligns us with alternate probable realities that match that resistant state. Clearing resistance takes a while. Along the way, however, we learn how to tune ourselves so that the reality we want to live becomes our constant state. It doesn’t happen all at once, but evidence of it happening appears instantly. Learning how to clear resistance, therefore, is the key to unlock that constant, Charmed Life state.
And that’s why I love living Positively Focused. Because living a life charmed has no equal. Book a session and let’s show you how effortlessly reality can become when you live from your Broader Perspective.
This week included so many definite client testimonies showing the effectiveness, the power of being Positively Focused. My experience too this week amplified how being positive truly creates the best life possible. Truly, it’s the Charmed Life. My clients lives reflect it, my life reflects it.
In this post, I’ll share one example, from one client. I’ll share more tomorrow and the weekend. This client I’ve written about before. He’s the one who defied Donald Trump, Elon Musk and the Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE). His return to work after DOGE fired so many of his colleagues, himself included was astonishing. And when he came back everyone welcomed him as essential to the agency’s mission.
But not only that, they loved him. They recognized him, his positive personality and his positive perspective as instrumental earlier this year when so many were scared and insecure.
As a result of who he was being during that time, someone in the agency nominated him to win the prestigious Transmission Employee of the Year Award. My client felt stoked and excited for the recognition. But, as I always tell my clients; with every moment of expansion comes along with it more contrast. Contrast giving birth to the next level of expansion.
We never stay in one spot, in other words. Not for long. We are in a constant state of expansion. And when we don’t keep up with that, we lose sight of how blessed we are moment by moment.
That’s exactly what happened with this client. He lost sight and needed a reminder. Thankfully, he has weekly sessions to help him.
Raving about work?
This week he came to his session feeling “content”. That’s not a terrible place, vibrationally. However, I encourage clients maintain energy states consistent with at least passion, enthusiasm and happiness. So when he shared his vibrational frequency, I dug in.
One of this client’s passions is racing motorcycles. Last weekend, he spent a wonderful two days in beautiful weather on his bike on the track. Friends and colleagues joined him. So it was a special time for him. Returning to work then felt like a let down comparatively. My guess is by Sunday evening, he already was feeling negative about going back to work. So by Wednesday, the day of his session, he wasn’t flying very high.
“All I do is look at a computer screen all day,” He said.
That was a phenomenally great place for the client to be. And that’s because it offered him such a tremendous opportunity. He wasn’t super negative, but it’s obvious that someone says this about his job they’re not feeling very passionate, enthusiastic or happy about their work.
What’s ironic is, in the last session, the client raved about his work as much as he raved about being at the track in this session! He loved the accolades he was getting. His colleagues constantly looked to him because of how well he did his work. Even his supervisors loved him, especially his humor. And, let’s not forget, this client makes bank at his job. That’s something he really enjoys about his work too. It literally funds his racing hobby.
Fantastic manifestations
After reminding him about all this, the client totally changed. He became a completely different person right before my eyes. I also felt the shift in his vibration. He moved out of contentment and into interest, which is right above optimism vibrationally. Then he talked about what happened this week at work, things he was completely oblivious to just moments ago.
One of those was the annual award nomination. Here’s how it read:
“Through adversity and change, this employee navigated the world transitioning from being a contractor to a full-time employee. All the while, expertly guiding and training a new team member. It takes a special type of person to not only accept their own obligations and priorities but those of others as well. This employee demonstrates the utmost professionalism in a lighthearted, easy to get along with manner. His knowledge of the organization and its personnel are invaluable, and he uses that knowledge to achieve organizational goals. His loyalty and faith in the organization has never waivered, even through very dark times. I owe my humble thanks and therefore recommend him as one of the organization’s most exemplary employees.”
Then, he remembered things from the last seven days that got him even more positive about the last week. In addition to racing, the client also is a musician. He busks at the local farmers market and aspires to having a musical career. This past week, two people approached him asking if he would teach them to play guitar. Another person, who belongs to a band, invited him to be the band’s front man and lead singer. And another person, a blues singer of some local repute, asked him if he’d enjoy writing songs together with her.
None of these things the client recalled. All of them were fantastic manifestations of his desires.
Positivity’s powerful filter
But after he did recall them, his demeanor changed even more. I think what struck him most was how, just moments before, none of what you just read was in his awareness. It’s not like they didn’t happen, however. They did. But the client had no access to them.
And this is the thing with life: everyone’s life is going great. But when we’re focused on things going not-great, that’s how we feel: not great. Feeling “not great” is a vibration. It’s an indicator of a vibrational frequency. And when we dwell in that frequency, everything that doesn’t match that frequency gets screened out.
This is why I advocate for being Positively Focused. Positively Focused is a vibrational frequency. When we maintain that frequency, then our life matches that. Because everything else gets screened out. Those other things still happen. They just don’t happen in the lives of those who are Positively Focused.
I’m overjoyed this client gave himself this powerful example of how important our vibration is. It literally shapes life experience. Maybe you’re ready to deliberately shape your own? If so, consider becoming a client today.
This You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) Business is really simple. Line up with what we want until we become a match to it and it will happen, guaranteed. Sounds simple and it is.
But, unlike what the movie The Secret tells us, becoming a match to our desires is not easy. Especially because we can’t create around our current beliefs. Current beliefs is our reality. The world around us LITERALLY is our beliefs made real. That reality has a lot of momentum behind it. And since we can’t create around our current beliefs, in the process of becoming a match to desire, we must also soothe existing belief momentum.
The challenge with that, as some clients can attest, is, that’s not easy. One reason is because current reality is so present. It’s right THERE. We’re subsumed in it. Just being in our manifested beliefs literally amplifies the “what is” of those very beliefs. One client’s experience illustrated this yesterday. Her “what is” (she called it her “truth”) weighs so much in her mind it’s hard for her to NOT think about it.
And yet, moments later, she did a FABULOUS job leaning into thoughts more aligned with her desired reality than her existing one. It helps that this client is a natural at the practice. And yet, even as she did so, her current reality still was there pressing on her awareness.
It’s moment-by-moment sometimes
It can be hard to ignore “what is” in favor of what’s becoming. What’s becoming seems so not-real. But that is the practice. That’s what this YCYOR business looks like. It’s how it’s practiced. And that practice must become, not second nature…it must come FIRST nature. Otherwise “what is’” pervasiveness will dominate one’s awareness. When that happens, and that doesn’t feel good, that tells us we’re creating more of what we already have.
So this YCYOR business sometimes must be a moment-by-moment practice. Good news: the closer the practice gets to becoming first nature, the easier it gets to practice. Getting there takes a while, however, which explains why many of my clients, after years of being clients, still are clients.
Their lives have gotten far better than before. They’re getting what they want. And if you ask them, they’ll probably agree: it seems simple. Sure, they’ll say, getting where they are may not have been easy, but it certainly was worth it.
The reason I think most people are unable or unwilling to create the reality they want is because most of us are too saddled with “what is” or, as one client recently put it “the truth” of our lives. So they don’t know they can create any reality they want.
Make no mistake: Life is FOR REAL. Step into oncoming traffic and you’ll see. So our lives, the “truth” of them, can seem oppressive in their real-ness. Especially if our lives aren’t giving us what we want.
That’s why this You Create Your Own Reality Business (YCYOR) is serious business. It’s not all fun and games. At least not in the beginning.
The legacy of those who came before us
Because most of us, me included before finding out about this YCYOR Business, most of us are living our lives unconsciously creating from thoughts and beliefs that perpetuate the world around us. We work jobs we tolerate, numb ourselves with substances and do our best to make the best of situations we think are “just life”.
Many of those thoughts we inherit from our families. They are so a part of us, we’re oblivious to them. Yet we see them all around us, while not realizing the physical reality we see are our thoughts MADE MANIFEST. Made real.
Once thoughts become real, a lot of momentum exists in them. That means it takes a while for someone who meets this YCYOR Business to build a new momentum behind new thoughts that will create new realities. That delay, therefore, can be hard to move through. Especially if the client comes from really “trauma”-ladened past as many of my clients do.
So it takes a while to move from unsatisfying lives to better ones.
And yet, life is fun and games. We all knew it as that before we chose to come into our life experience. The trick of the Positively Focused practice is to return to that realization then live from that in real time. I applaud my clients because, from a certain perspective, it’s an act of bravery to take on our “what is”, our “truth”, and deliberately create something different. Especially with the “what is” pushing so hard against what we’re wanting, our new reality that gives us so much hope and eagerness.
I appreciate the brave ones willing to take on this practice. Life can be fun and games. But getting there is serious business. It’s not for the feint of heart.
TL;DR: The author tells how a client, who is a musician, relaxed in the face of a cancelled gig and, as a result of that relaxation, created a surprising and delightful outcome. The author also says “wishful thinking” is real, and can be used to create extraordinary lives, but only for those who know how it works.
Holy smokes. I might as well turn this series into a permanent thing. So many clients are getting happy results from their “wishful thinking”.
“Wishful thinking”, of course, is not what I call it. I call it the Positively Focused Way. “Wishful thinking” is what people who don’t know anything about what they’re talking about call this “you create your reality business.”
They’ve never tried it. Or if they have, they’ve done so under shoddy conditions, conditions which were bound to have them fail. Or they’ve tried it without someone helping them figure out how the “business” works, so they missed it actually working.
Meanwhile, lots of people, under the right circumstances and under a someone who knows this “business” are finding happy lives and happy life results putting this “wishful thinking” to work.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve written about two examples. You can read those stories here and here. I still have two more to share. This one is short but really sweet.
Let’s get to it.
In disbelief dreams are uncomfortable
This client I’ll call “Gus”. He’s been practicing this “you create your reality business” for 14 weeks. Through weekly sessions and the homework, he’s learning that the Positively Focused Way produces astonishing outcomes, just like I promise. Just like Abraham, Seth, Neville Goddard and many others promise also.
Gus is a musician. He performs covers at his local famers’ market. Like many musicians, he dreams about becoming successful and playing before thousands. However, Gus’ beliefs, like many, many artists of all kinds, block that success. Even though he’s already created that success for himself — that success awaits Gus in a probable future reality — which can be his future as soon as he lines up with it.
But 15 weeks ago, Gus didn’t realize any of this. That’s why he avoided his dreams. Thinking about them was too uncomfortable. Whenever he fantasized about being famous, his old beliefs would say “get real!” “be realistic!” and “grow up!” Then he’d imagine the thousands of artists, maybe hundreds of thousands, that aren’t successful at their art.
That lack of success he saw as his future. No wonder his dreams made him uncomfortable. He didn’t believe they’re possible.
Our itches will lead to joy
It’s true, of course, thatmany, many artists aren’t successful, if you measure success by how much income they get from their art. Yet, even by that measure, there are plenty who are successful. The only thing differentiating the latter from the former are the two groups’ beliefs.
That’s right. It’s not talent, contacts, “lucky breaks” or any other factor keeping a person from whatever success they want. The only thing doing that is what the person thinks and believes about being successful.
For example, Gus can not fathom how he could replace his current six-figure salary he gets working at a utility company. The reason why he can’t fathom it is because it’s not Gus’ job to figure out how that happens. That’s the Universe’s job. Gus’ job is to line up with his desire, feel good in doing that, which tells him something really important, then watch as the Universe delivers the probable future in which he swaps his utility salary for a performing one.
In the meantime, Gus hits farmers’ markets and the occasional spot gig to scratch the itch. Yes, it’s an itch. We know we have desires because those things catch our attention from time to time. They’re our Broader Perspective encouraging us in the direction of our joy.
But most of us will ignore those itches. Or worse; we’ll talk ourselves out of them in favor of living in “the real world” as one reader of my stories calls it.
Life just gets better and better
The thing is, there IS NO REAL WORLD out there. The only world we exist in is the world reflecting back to us our thoughts and beliefs. And if we believe that that world is full of disappointment and things we must confront and struggle against…well that is the world we see and experience.
Meanwhile, there are a ton of people living in other worlds. Worlds where life is easy. Where life is good. Worlds where people are happy and joyful. And in their happiness and joy, they’re getting everything they want effortlessly.
Gus is figuring out how to turn his current world into the world you just read about. It all starts with “wishful thinking”. When a person starts thinking wishful, their world instantly starts changing. Actually, what’s really happening is, the person begins phasing out of their current probable now, and phasing into an adjacent probable now. One aligned with all their desires. One where probable futures connected to that probable now contain all they desire. So the person’s life gradually gets better and better.
It doesn’t happen over night because this “you create your reality” business isn’t magic. But consistency and application of easy processes makes the phasing happen effortlessly.
The wife creates a better Gus
Gus started using those processes 14 weeks ago. In doing so, the Universe showed him all the beliefs he holds which keeps him in the reality he currently is reflecting back to himself. I won’t go into those details, but suffice it to say it was a life he didn’t want. It was so unsatisfying, he left his wife and considered killing himself.
Meanwhile, his wife, a 65-week client, used this “you create your reality business” to create a better version of Gus. As a result of her focus and intention, Gus changed his mind about killing himself, moved back into his marriage and is seeing that marriage blossom.
In fact, it was evidence his wife was producing in her way of being that had Gus try the Positively Focused Way in the first place. And she became a client because she saw her mother radically transform. Her mother is a 174-week client. The mom’s son also is a client. In fact, her mother’s intention and focus was that her children would begin practicing too. That’s happened.
So this “wishful thinking” stuff is powerful. It delivers everything one wants. Including ideal versions of people we interact with.
Ok, back to Gus.
As Gus’ wife’s experience shows, there’s something behind this “you create your reality” business. (Photo by Frank Leuderalbert on Unsplash)
Vibration attracts
He sent me an audio recording last week. It was two days after our session. He was super-stoked about what happened and wanted to share “the cool experience” he just had.
Gus said he had a gig scheduled at a local bar. But the owner called him to tell him they needed to cancel.
“They didn’t have enough patronage to cover what me playing there would incur for them,” he said in his message. Gus described how he used the Positively Focused Way to manage his emotions about this message. That’s crucial if one wants to have what one wants.
That’s because emotions act like a compass. They tell us in what direction we’re headed relative to our goals. Negative emotions tell us we’re heading in the opposite direction, generally speaking. Positive ones do the opposite. Emotions happen as a result of thoughts we think. Most people don’t understand this. They think emotions happen as a result of something that happens outside us.
That’s not what’s happening.
Emotions are physical manifestations of vibrational focus.
We are all energy that is aware. Like all energy, we vibrate and our vibration attracts. We set our vibration through focus and that focus creates thought, which is a forward evolution of vibration. Hold that thought long enough and it will manifest as an emotion. Keep holding that thought and the thought will manifest as physical reality becoming the reflection of the vibration we’re holding “in” us.
When it does that, most people will see the physical manifestation and think it happened randomly or coincidentally. That’s because they don’t know what you just read.
Events are not random nor coincidental.
The “fuck yeah” manifestation happens
All physical manifestation happens from our focus. And when we focus on what we don’t want, that’s what shows up in physical reality – which again is just a reflection of our inner vibrational state.
Ok, back to Gus’ message:
“I didn’t react [negatively],” he continues. “I was just like ‘hey, that makes sense, I’ll see you on the next one. It’s all good! I wasn’t feeling disappointed at all. It would have been cool to play and have engagement with those folks, but it will happen again.”
Not being upset, again, was critical. Gus did well here. It’s no surprise then what happened next.
The next day, Gus gets a text from someone who also plays at the farmers market. Gus describes what they said:
“[The message said], I have this person that wants me to play music for a private party but I can’t do it the day they’re looking for. Are you available and interested?” Gus explained.
Gus continued: “Long story short, I am going to play this gig for these people, and it’s going to be for more than [what I would make at the cancelled gig], for less time, and it’s amazing and I just wanted to share that all of this shit is so good; my feeling about [negative energy] and just like, vibrational alignment and stuff, I’m just watching all these things that are coming back to me…and it’s just like you said about thinking about [reality] like a game. It’s all free flowing, there are always other opportunities…Fuck yeah!”
It’s all a happy game
Gus’ experience is typical of all my clients. The world of “wishful thinking” is the world everyone wants to live. It creates “fuck yeah!” experiences all the time. But if we think “wishful thinking” is stupid, or that it’s “not a life strategy” like many, many people do, including that person who commented on my previous post, then such people live in lives that, in her words, suck.
I’m happy I don’t live in that world. My clients are finding new, happier worlds than that one exist too. One by one, they’re finding this “you create your reality business” not only results in happy worlds and happy lives, they allow one to live in any world one wants to live in.
That’s because we all are divine, eternal beings enjoying a human existence. One we tailor ongoingly to our desires through vibrational focus. For many, their existence comes filled with some of what they want and a lot of what they don’t want.
But that’s because they aren’t using the “you create your reality business” deliberately. Instead, they’re doing it unconsciously. So they don’t get what they want; they get what they focus on. And a lot of people focus more on what they don’t want than what they want.
When they start doing the latter though….wow. For those people, the world becomes, in Gus’ words a happy “fuck yeah!” game.
My Advanced clients are so inspiring. Even when they struggle, they create for themselves the Charmed Life. Being Positively Focused Advanced clients, most of them catch when they do this. Still, it can feel like a painful struggle. That’s only because they need more practice. More practice that solidifies their Positively Focused foundations.
An Advanced client today shared a story prompting this post. She’s progressing nicely. Her biggest desire for now is manifesting her lover. But she has many disempowering beliefs in the way. So her path to the lover is really bumpy.
And yet, today she shared a story indicating her progress. Even though she told her story through tears. Now, tears aren’t what people think they are. Tears are manifestations. They represent release of resistance. So crying isn’t a bad thing. Nor is it sad. It’s actually good. It only feels sad because we’re taught that it is sad.
As she told her story, she felt much better. That’s no surprise. Being sad is impossible when one stands in witness to their unfolding Charmed Life.
Here’s the story she told.
A fabulous experience of inner awareness
She’s currently getting to know a guy I’ll call “David”. David has a child from a previous marriage. He and my client, I’ll call “Jill”, were texting. Today is Jill’s birthday and it isn’t a good one according to her. That’s because she perceives herself as alone (she’s not). And she think she’s getting older, which, for her is a terrible thing. It’s terrible because the older she gets, she thinks the less time she has to find and enjoy her lover. In such beliefs, Jill can’t possibly feel happy and optimistic.
Which is why sometimes she’s not happy and optimistic.
Jill didn’t remember the wonderful nature of her sadness. That sadness is telling her something important. As we talked about that, naturally, Jill’s mood improved. Again, a human can’t be sad while standing in appreciation or empowerment, and as we talked that’s where I lead her.
Once getting there, she remembered what happened between her and David. Remembering this story in itself was a manifestation. She wouldn’t have recalled it had her mood not improved. So the story returning to her memory told her something important too. That’s another story though.
David is very busy. Not only does he have a child, he also works a lot. And, this weekend, the weekend of Jill’s birthday, he’s moving. So he’s doubly busy. David asked Jill if he could see a photo of her. She suggested they swap candid shots. So Jill, who was at a coffee drive-through, pulled out of the drive-through. She drove down the road then pulled over. There she snapped a couple pics. Then she sent them to David.
If you believe it long enough it becomes true
As is typical with text apps, Jill saw that David got her pics. Then she saw that familiar three dots at the bottom of the chat indicating that David was writing something. But he never sent that message. Here’s what happened next in Jill’s own words:
“At that moment,” She said. “I knew there were good reasons why he didn’t reply to my pics. But I made up really negative, really bad reasons why he didn’t. Reasons having to do with my appearance.”
“He didn’t like how I looked, I thought,” She said. “He thought I was fat. Or thought I looked too masculine.”
As Jill thought these thoughts, she said, her mood got more and more negative. Before long, she was angry and sad.
“I totally believed what I was thinking,” She said. “I just knew what I was thinking was true.”
Jill’s persistent negative talk has been around a while. So there’s a lot of momentum behind those beliefs. She knew what she was thinking wasn’t necessarily true. And yet, she thought she knew for a fact that they were true. In other words, her reality was confirming her persistent beliefs. After all, she had been in situations like this before. Situations where men ghosted her after she sent a pic.
In those situations, though, she never found out the real reason why they disappeared. So getting no explanation, she made up her own. This she repeated over and over, in situation after situation. Until her explanations became “truth” for her.
Anything we believe will prove true. Believe it long enough and, eventually, we’ll manifest evidence confirming the belief.
Creating deliberately
This is why I advise clients not to look at what’s true. Especially if what’s true isn’t what’s wanted. Instead I encourage them to look towards what they want. That’s because, for most of us, what’s true is inconsistent with our desires. So looking at what’s true causes that which is inconsistent with our desires to persist. Getting what we want, therefore, requires looking where our desires are. That place I call nonphysical.
Perceiving nonphysical is crucial to manifesting what we want. That’s why I spend so much time teaching how to do that in Positively Focused sessions. We can’t see nonphysical with our eyes though. We must learn to “see” it differently. When we do, we have our hands on powerful levers. Levers allowing us to create reality deliberately.
Jill knew what she was doing. Though convinced her beliefs were true, she said she was aware that she was creating a reality she didn’t want. Which is why when David finally did text her, she was not surprised: David had been busy, apologized for his delay and complimented her on her pics.
Jill said this was a powerful lesson for her. “I have to learn to rewire my thoughts so they’re more positive,” She said. I agree.
In every case, the love we want that hasn’t shown up hasn’t because beliefs we hold keep it away. (Photo Photo by Oziel Gómez on Unsplash)
Transforming the future
Being aware of what we’re doing when we’re creating unwanted is another crucial skill. Developing it first requires understanding how reality becomes reality. Then we use our awareness to interrupt that process. Then we learn to direct the process deliberately. That’s what Jill described.
That she knew what she was doing was awesome. That she used that awareness to improve herself was the cool gift the Universe gave her. Had she not had the experience and awareness, the gift would have slipped through her fingers.
We talked about different stories she could tell in place of automatic beliefs activated by habit. We can literally make up any story that feels better. It doesn’t have to be true. It just needs to feel better. In time, it will become true.
He lost his phone.
Someone stole his phone.
The phone got run over.
He’s just busy right now.
These four stories feel better than those Jill told herself. The third made Jill laugh. That was a great sign. All of them are not true. Except the last one. Yet they all had Jill feeling better. And that’s the goal.
By practicing this skill on any topic we automatically think negative thoughts about, we transform our future. We make the future compliant with out desires. Do that often enough and we’ll find the future including more of what we want.
What we want therefore becomes a foregone conclusion. They must manifest. That’s just how the Universe works.
Words aren’t as convincing as creating results in your own life that prove this. Maybe you’re ready to do that. Contact meand let’s get you on that path. Life is constantly gifting us. The only question is: are you receiving the gifts?
I’ve experienced strange phenomena in past weeks. Before now, I didn’t understand what they were. In a past post, I described them as “murmurations”. Now I know they represent divine energy that is part of me. They are manifestations indicating an impending spiritual liberation. A liberation born of the “Serpent”.
The “Serpent” is also known as “Kundalini energy”. “Kundalini” is an ancient word describing the body’s energy system. This energy system facilitates the physical body’s ongoing presence. Sensations I experienced recently, tell me I’ve unlocked a higher level of spiritual capability. So says research I undertook in hopes of understanding what was happening.
Triggering Kundalini experiences takes time and dedication according to my research. It usually happens through meditation or yoga under a Guru’s tutelage. My experience differs in that I’ve triggered my Kundalini energy practicing solo. I don’t care much about what that says about me.
What I do know is, my experience isn’t unique. And yet, it is special. Both the experiences themselves and my research confirm my Positively Focused approach works. I currently use no other approach.
So what happens when Kundalini tells me I’m progressing? I get excited, that’s what happens! Here’s more about this phenomenal experience.
More about Kundalini
Sources say Kundalini represents an energy pool of Divine Feminine Energy. That resonates because I perceive myself as mostly energetically feminine. This energy sits at the base of the spine. The energy usually lies dormant. Under the right conditions, however, it activates. When it does, it acts as a catalyst. It transforms the body’s nervous system. The energy “rewires” the body, preparing it for something special. That something special is an ascension into higher vibrational states.
Everyone’s Kundalini experience is unique. This post says it offers a complete list of symptoms. But if symptoms are individually unique, no list could really be complete, could it? I don’t think so.
As the energy moves up the spine, the body must react to the increased flow. Thus the symptoms. Meanwhile, people experiencing these symptoms become acquainted with their subtle body. The subtle body is the pure energy counterpart of our physical or “gross” body. People actually become aware of three different aspects of what they are. Their “gross” or physical body. Their more subtle, energy form. And, finally, their formless self.
This formless self is the “I AM” nature of what we all are. Awareness of the three aspects supports spiritual expansion. Expansion leading to supreme detachment from camouflage phenomena, which then allows a person greater leverage and power in their lives.
Here’s a great, basic description of what Kundalini is:
A wonderful overview of Kundalini energy
My experience
Symptoms I’ve had are included in that “complete” list above. However, I must add something important. During my entire spiritual journey, I have never experienced any significant negative or painful effects. Even during the many ayahuasca experiences I enjoyed, never once did I experience physical pain, nausea or vomiting. The point is, it’s not necessarily so that everyone experiences painful or negative effects of spiritual awakening.
The most prevalent symptoms I enjoy in my experience, include the following:
Crushing of the skull: A feeling of intense painless pressure buildup. It feels like my skull is collapsing from the outside in.
Body undulations: beautiful, blissful, involuntary fluidic flowing of my body, centered along my spine.
Body expansion: a feeling that my physical body becomes larger than it physically is.
Levitation sensations: a feeling that my body is preparing to rise off the bed.
Out of body preparation: sensing my subtle body preparing to separate from my gross body.
There are other experiences that happen too, including projections of my consciousness. These projections so far typically involve “landing” in random-seeming locations. Like this:
A projection of consciousness that happened on Apr. 9.
All of these experiences I document in my spiritual journal. Recording such experiences is an important part of my journey. That way I can compare my experience with my clients’ as they progress too.
All these experiences tell me I’m progressing. My research now also confirms this. So does my many, many dream experiences. Clarity and vividness of my dreams is now off the charts. So is the duration of dream experiences I enjoy.
I know these all must have practical, everyday value. Already, I experience delightful epiphanies and manifestations. That value is beginning to show itself more and more through manifestations I experience.
The journey: More important that getting there
But I know the most important thing is the journey. Enjoying the journey and signposts along that journey. That’s what I consider these Kundalini experiences. They are signposts, not the destination. I’m not trying to get anywhere. After all, I’m eternal. There’s no “there” to get to. So instead, I’m learning more and more to soothe my impatience.
That’s because when I consider these remarkable experiences, I get excited about future ones. Seriously, if I can experience Kundalini phenomena, other seemingly “supernatural” experiences must be out there. Out there readying themselves. Readying themselves to reveal themselves to me.
I get eager thinking about those. Sometimes, that eagerness turns to impatience. I mean really, wouldn’t you get impatient to do things like levitate, astral travel and teleport? I would. And I do.
But it’s better that I stay focused on progress I’ve made. And feel blessed where I am. Rather than getting impatient about where I’m going. That way, I remain joyful of the journey, rather than feeling impatient. Impatience, after all, introduces resistance. And resistance slows everything down.
Unlocking my Kundalini energy is a pretty cool signpost. I’m looking forward to more signposts along my journey that is my spiritual progress.
It’s wonderful watching clients get the Charmed Life I write about. It doesn’t happen all at once. But every client eventually gets it. I find joy watching clients create such experiences for themselves.
When such clients write me offering me high praise for how I helped them, it just adds more joy to my experience. After all, this kind of impact is why I do this. I know the more people living their charmed life, the better the world gets.
So when people write telling me I significantly influenced their life experience, it tells me I’m creating the better world I intended when I came here. At the beginning of the year, A client I hadn’t seen in six months wrote to tell me how much his life changed since adopting a Positively Focused perspective. Take a look:
Everyone can enjoy the life promised through being Positively Focused. Such a life is what we all knew we’d enjoy before we chose to become human. It’s the Charmed Life. In it, everything we want, happens.
The “shock and awe”
But it’s easy to get off track. That’s because life experience, from the moment we’re born, is the embodiment of “shock and awe”. The feeling of being limited in a fleshy body is so diametrically opposed to freedom we all knew in nonphysical, we kind of all just freak out.
Insecurity and fear immediately force us into the state of “human”. The vast majority of us forget what we really are. From there, that almost always creates a divergence from the path we intended.
But even that divergence represents the path. For in our disappointments and fears and actions we take from there, we create more of what we want. That waits for us until we eventually regain our eternal awareness.
Becoming Positively Focused, clients regain their eternal awareness. When that happens, they regain their empowerment. Empowerment to follow whatever dream they prefer.
All lives can be a charmed life. If yours doesn’t, and you want it to, contact me. I can help.
This isn’t actually the second, but it is the most significant OBE since my first. What’s significant about it relates to my ego’s calibration to the experience. The whole experience confirms my progress. I’m realizing more my eternal nature.
Humans are more than human. We are aware-ized energy. We are that creative energy, creating more of ourselves. Then we expand ourselves into that more. We do that to explore ourselves. We do that to know who and what we are.
While they seem rare, everyone experiences OBEs. Usually, we don’t notice them. That’s because our ego blocks such experiences. But we leave our bodies constantly.
Most common OBEs happen during sleep. We call them “dreams”. But that word cheapens what really happens. There we explore the myriad creations we create. Meanwhile our bodies get left behind.
Each of us exist simultaneously in infinite dimensions. Dimensions outside time and space. Places we create as part of our voracious desire for self-awareness and expansion.
Even those who think they don’t dream do this. The only reason they don’t remember such experiences is because they don’t believe they have them. Advanced Positively Focused clients reacquaint themselves with these experiences. The more they recall, the more becomes possible. Including OBEs.
Being outside: amazing
My second experience happened the afternoon of January 25. My “spiritual body” gently rose out of my physical one. Then it happened. Here’s how I described it in my practice journal:
My “second” OBE as described in my journal
As you read, I’m new at this. My waking consciousness gets out of whack when I return to “reality”. The conscious part of me experiencing the OBE is not my waking consciousness. Yet, when I “return”, that part of me must integrate the experience. When that happens disorientation shows up. That means I’m just starting to get my “sea legs” about this OBE stuff.
In reality, I’m not learning to leave my body. That happens all the time. What I’m learning is how to be aware of my depatures. And, how to integrate them on return. Integrate them so I remember the experience.
Joyful expansion
I’ve had many other OBEs. Many of them happen in sleep. Because of what I know, I have extremely good recall and retention of these experiences. Keeping a record of these amplifies my retention. Today, my records contain well over 2,000 such experiences. But when these happen, my waking consciousness isn’t with me. I experience them as actual places, but when I wake, the experience doesn’t feel as real.
Eventually, I want to leave my body at will. Seth assures us such experiences are, indeed, in the realm of possibility for us. I’m finding his words accurate.
Sometime I’ll write about the ego and its function. Humanity doesn’t understand it very well. Regarding OBEs, the ego needs grace. It must adjust to an unusual experience from its perspective. Our egos aren’t ordinarily happy experiencing OBEs. That’s because such experiences take it outside its speciality, which is physical reality. This explains why most people don’t consciously know they’re having OBEs. Their ego focuses them exclusively on the illusion that is physical reality.
If you’re intrigued with my experience and want your own, you might consider becoming a client. All my clients attest the price is a bargain for benefits they receive.
