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Two Clients, One Lesson: Beliefs Are Everything

TL;DR: Two clients reveal how beliefs shape reality. Their contrasting experiences show that alignment, not effort, creates desired outcomes—and that even contrast serves expansion on the path to joy.

Two clients this week proved how powerful beliefs are. Both clients are trans-attracted. Both are advanced Positively Focused clients.

The delicate dance between the two clients illustrates how beliefs create reality. But they also show how deeply connected all of us are to each other. Further, what happened this week proves how each of us acts as both contrast AND as angels for one another, with both contrast and our angel-hood benefitting everyone involved.

I’ll clear up what I mean in a moment. When I’m done you’ll see the perfect co-creation of what happened between me, the two clients and their experiences.

To really understand what happened, though, I must introduce a subject that may be new to readers: trans attraction.

What is trans attraction?

Trans attraction is a classification of people who are attracted to transgender people. Typically, this attraction is exclusive. Much like homosexuals and lesbians, trans-attracted people tend to not find cisgender women or men attractive as potential relationship partners. They can appreciate beauty expressed in cisgender people, but their trans-attraction makes it challenging for trans-attracted people to enjoy relationships with such people.

That’s because they’re not here to do that. They’re here to enjoy leading-edge human experiences: expressing something other than heterosexuality. What’s more, such people, particularly trans-attracted men, are here to represent the completion or the fulfillment of what trans women desire: love and relationship.

The trouble with trans-attraction for most such men, however, is that it’s so not the norm. Almost always, trans-attracted men conclude their trans attraction means they’re gay. This is not the case.

But society’s dominant momentum on sexuality and gender, generally, and anything not conforming to the gender binary specifically, causes these men great discomfort. And the more value they place on others’ opinions over their own, the more such men struggle with an identity that is valid, wholesome and right, but against mainstream society’s grain.

So trans-attracted men are those who are strongly pulled to be in relationship with transgender women. The two clients in this story fit that classification perfectly.

There’s always more to expand into

Both men also struggled mightily with their beliefs about their self worth as trans-attracted men. One, who I’ll call Chris, struggled partly because, as a former Christian, his belief system told him, in no uncertain terms, that he was going to hell. The other, who I’ll call Seth, happens to be Jewish. He’s not concerned about hell.

But what caused Seth’s massive struggle were beliefs he held conflating a sexual exploration he had with his younger brother when he was nine, his discovery that he was trans attracted not much later, and his culture, which really, really puts a lot of weight on what others think.

Both men came to me wanting relief from these struggles. Both men have been clients about the same time. And, both men have made great progress in finding freedom to be who they authentically are.

As a result, both are living out loud their trans attraction. That’s a good thing. As with all expansion, however, there’s always more to expand into. And this is why I’m writing this. Because both men’s expansion came together in such an instructive and delightful way.

The set-up

Both Chris and Seth once believed it impossible to meet trans women who weren’t escorts or gold-diggers. They also believed it impossible to meet trans women who would be happy using their…uh…male appendages.

Ok, important note: many trans women are NOT happy doing that. But every desire we have is to be fulfilled. So if a man wants a trans woman who will be happy doing that, the Universe will fulfill that. That explains why there actually are trans women more than willing to use their male parts. And they’re not all escorts or gold-diggers either. Which brings me to what happened to set this experience up.

Seth has soothed his negative beliefs so much that, recently, he moved out of the Northeast and down to Austin. That’s a far more liberal location compared to where he came from. Austin enjoys a robust LGBTQ community. That’s despite being in Texas.

Still, it surprised Seth how easily he met trans women. And not just trans women, really pretty trans women! Old beliefs kept him doing things not necessarily in his best interest, however. Things like going to strip clubs and hiring escorts. But each time that happened, the outcome showed him why leaning in the direction of his trans attraction was better.

Reflecting beliefs to be soothed

Enough disappointment came from those encounters so that Seth gave up following through on such impulses. In doing so, he eventually started meeting higher quality trans women while just being himself, feeling good and putting himself out in the world.

That’s how I suggest everyone “find love”. But that’s another story.

Chris, for what it’s worth, isn’t at that point in his expansion. He still thinks trans women are hard to find. Particularly good looking ones. And, he doesn’t believe he’ll meet one by just “putting himself out there”. Because of those beliefs, he does what many people do who struggle finding a partner: he dates online.

Meanwhile, the really pretty girl Seth recently met is the kind of girl Chris thinks is rare. She’s trans, of course, and majoring in Math in college. Long story short, Seth and this girl ended up “sword fighting”, then in an open relationship: she has a boyfriend. But that boyfriend relationship rests on shaky ground. So she’s exploring her options. Seth is a great option!

Stepping stones

Meanwhile, Chris recently found several trans women online, some of which were more than willing to meet his specific desires. But in short order, these girls showed Chris exactly why I don’t recommend online dating. Oh, they were perfect matches. But not the people Chris could settle with.

Indeed, these women brought behaviors and characteristics reflecting beliefs Chris needs to clean up in himself so that he can attract better matches.

This explains why I call relationships stepping stones. A big plus of relationships is they reflect back to us our beliefs so we can do something about them and thereby find a more permanent happiness. Chris knew that. And he has cleaned up many beliefs. But some still persist. Like the one keeping him dating online.

Ok, back to Seth.

Deep shit

Seth’s relationship is doing the same thing Chris’ is. The same process holds for every relationship, and, every situation…all of reality actually. Life experience is a reflection. It reflects back to us what our dominant vibration is. The difference between Seth and Chris vibration is, Seth is meeting women more naturally. That’s because he believes that’s possible. So his experience is more delightful than Chris’. Chris is still trying to “make it happen” through a particular kind of doing: dating online.

That’s no fun.

Chris is still learning to let go. He still experiences impatience in his process, which explains why he’s working so hard at dating. It also explains why Chris ended up in what most people would call “deep shit.”

What happened was he shared full-body nudes with a trans woman online. His Broader Perspective warned him this particular person was not who Chris thought she was. Chris acknowledged this after the fact, after the “woman” turned out to be a scammer. A scammer who used that photo to try to blackmail Chris.

Long story story short, Chris ended up paying a security firm $5,000 to track and apprehend the scammer, who, wouldn’t you know it, lived in Nigeria.

The “gorgeous” trans woman

The good news is Chris didn’t amplify his troubles by focusing on them and lamenting or feeling regret. Rather, he did exactly what the Positively Focused practice recommends: he found humor in the whole experience. He also acknowledged, as I said, warnings his Broader Perspective used to catch his attention. After this experience, I strongly encouraged him to stop dating online, but, because of his beliefs, he said he probably wouldn’t stop for a while.

I could tell though that I made an impression. The impression I made had him ready for the next step in this story. For that, we have to go back to Seth.

Exactly one day after my session with Chris, Seth texted me. The moment I read it, I knew a three-way manifestation was happening. A manifestation that included me, Chris and Seth. The night before, the text said, Seth met a “gorgeous” trans woman, got her number and planned to meet her later in the week.

Here’s how he described it:

And when I asked how that happened, I knew it would be a perfect story, an example for Chris showing how his life could go. Here’s what Seth texted:

The Charmed Life

After I shared this conversation with Chris, Chris said he appreciated it. I could tell though that he’s still somewhat stuck in his own belief momentum. He just can’t believe strongly enough that a situation like Seth’s can happen to him. How do I know? He’s still dating online.

Most Positively Focused clients, even in the advanced practice, wobble a bit in their conviction. I do too sometimes. It’s par for the course. After all, we’re human. Our physical reality often feels so “true”. So true it can be very, very hard to believe in a reality that, to our human eyes, doesn’t exist. Especially when our existing physical reality is so present, so now and contains something we don’t want.

But that’s the prescription for getting everything we do want.

We must look where what we want is. That often requires looking into nonphysical, seeing the vibrational version of our desire then holding that focus long enough. Long enough for our physical reality to reflect that focus back to us in the form of physical reality.

That’s simple to say. It’s not easy though. That’s why the Positively Focused practice is a practice. And, since we’re all eternal, it’s a practice we can master, but only for that moment of mastery. For, again, we’re always expanding. Which means we’re always expanding into areas demanding ever-increasing levels of mastery.

The good news is, we can enjoy that never-ending practice. It’s in that enjoyment that we discover the Charmed Life.

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What Are Friends For? The Spiritual Truth About Friendship

What if friendships aren’t for support? What if friendships aren’t meant to soothe our loneliness or our troubles? These questions made up part of a conversation I enjoyed with a client this week. They questioned the purpose of friendships altogether given what they learned up to this point in the Positively Focused Advanced Practice.

They’re good questions. Questions about a subject most of us take for granted. A subject we just assume we understand, or just accept what we’ve seen from the world around us. But it’s a good idea to look at what we think friends are for. That’s because, looking at what we think could create a whole new reality around such relationships.

I want to keep this post short, so I’m not going to go into a lot of detail. I’ll just offer that friendships offer an excellent peek into the workings of All That Is. But to get the peek we must view our friendships from a fresh, new perspective.

If we are each in our own reality (and we are), and no one else is in that reality (accurate again), then what is a friendship? And what purpose do they serve? What if they served no purpose other than as opportunities to revel in the fun of having chosen to come into physical reality in the first place?

Insecurity: When it feels normal

That’s a question worth asking. Because when we use friendships for anything other than what they’re really for, we’re missing the point of what they are. Using them for support diminishes our self-reliance, our sovereignty. Doing so is relying on something outside ourselves to soothe low vibration energies (negative emotion) and reestablish high vibration energies (feeling good). When we do that, we amplify and reinforce several things.

First, doing so tells us that we aren’t the powerful, creative sovereign beings we are. Second, doing so causes the friend to feel the same way. And when they listen to our sob stories, they further amplify our disempowerment because when they subsequently try to make us feel better, that act, tells us “I see you can’t maintain your steady high vibration, so I’m going to do it for you”. That powerful statement further anchors within us insecurity, because it makes us reliant on something outside ourselves to feel better. That’s always a recipe for trouble.

Third, relying on friendships for support, because doing so reinforces insecurity in us, aligns us with future probable realities in which we’ll need that support again. When the friend again lends support, that act lines up up once again for more of the same.

Because of this dynamic, many, many people end up in a rut. They gain soothing support from friends. They feel good as a result, even though they’re in a state of disempowered insecurity, and therefore conclude this is what friendships are for (among other things). People can’t feel the insecurity and disempowerment, however. That’s because they’ve been there for so long, those energies just feel normal.

Eternal relationships

But should a friend ghost them, then those feelings get amplified in the friend’s absence. If the friend stops supporting them, then, again, those negative feelings get amplified.

Most people (including a couple clients who had this happen) don’t have the vibrational stability needed to bear this. Nor do they understand what the appropriate response to such events is. So they blame the person who ghosted or stop supporting them instead, rather than looking inward.

So what are friendships for? What are friends for? To understand the answers, we must understand what friends are.

Friends are cooperative components, members of our cadre, traveling with us on this wonderful journey of expansion and joy. They, like us, are eternal beings. They show up in physical as friends because they chose, as we did, to incarnate in the same era, knowing doing so was going to be fun, expansive and joyful. Friendships, therefore, are divine, eternal relationships between divine eternal beings, beings whose core values vibrationally match throughout time.

The purpose of friendships, therefore, is to amplify our joyful expansion as we revel in the contrast of daily life. They aren’t for support. We do that for ourselves. And when one sovereign friend gets this, then treats the friendship for what it’s really about – fun – then that friend offers their friend a powerful, transformational opportunity.

Friendships are spiritual relationships based on joy, fun and expansion. Seeing them as anything else can, and usually does, diminish life experience for everyone involved.

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The Sacred Way of Patience: Finding Joy in the Now

It might feel like an anachronistic way to live, but it’s vital for a peaceful, joyful, sovereign life. The more we embrace this way, the better life gets. I find this way essential, not only to my well being, but also essential to embracing everything that comes my way. Living this way isn’t easy, at first (is anything easy at first?). But with practice, it gets easier.

I’m referring to the way of patience.

Having spilled that bean, I’m certain you now know, dear reader, why I wrote that it may feel anachronistic. Patience isn’t something humanity embraces these days. By “patience” I’m not talking about that frustrated, willingness to endure. By patience, I mean, accepting…embracing…the delay showing up between what is and what we want.

Accepting, embracing is the way of patience, I believe. Coming into this present moment, seeing everything as it is – even in the absence of that thing we think needs to be there for us to be happy – and being satisfied, is the practice. That practice leads to an even more profound – and elusive – practice: presence.

In presence we need nothing. Including that thing we think we need to be present for us to be happy. In presence we find no desire at all. Just pure awareness. Pure knowing. In presence we are our full, sovereign selves.

Presence is something I show my Positively Focused clients how to allow. This presence also makes up a huge part of my personal practice. It melts away impatience and striving. It frees me from needing. It reacquaints me with clarity. Clarity that everything — every thing — is as it is. And it’s all good.

The famous singer songwriter Sting, once wrote: “Forever conditioned to believe that we can’t live/We can’t live here and be happy with less.” He’s describing the state of the absence of patience, the absence of presence. Sting’s beautiful words could be simplified to this: “For every condition we believe we want, we can live happily without it.”

Not as lyrical, I know. But both sing accurately.

I’m finding deep satisfaction just being. Letting things be, and letting things I want, to unfold without me needing to pursue them. That, my friends, takes patience. Especially in this day and time. It may be anachronistic, but the peace it brings is worth it.

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Is There Really No One Right Way? A Spiritual Paradox

Twice now two different people expressed the same, very interesting, spiritual belief. The first person shared it many years ago. I’m writing about it now because the second person shared it this past week.

The belief is a form of resistance, I believe, and also an assertion. An assertion embodying what we all know in our core selves. But mixed with the resistance, the belief, when expressed as an assertion, sometimes can come out like mild defensiveness.

The first person, from many years ago, uses this belief like a mantra. The belief, by the way, is “there’s no one right [spiritual] way.” The implication of this belief being that every spiritual approach is valid. Every way serves someone.

I wonder though if this belief is really accurate and whether the speakers really believe it. When I hear these two people express it, it sounds to me as though the speakers are justifying something. The justification, in my listening, is the paradox: the “right” way (for the speaker) is that there is no one right way.

Any way I like

“There’s no one right way”, in other words, allows the speaker to do it their way, which is fine. They don’t have to adhere to another way, even if that way would be more effective for getting what they want. I’m not suggesting there may be a more effective way than their way. What I am suggesting is “there’s no one right way” allows the speaker to stay with what they’re doing. Even if they’re not happy.

Again, I’m ok with that. Do you, I say. Live your life, your way.

But the paradox, again, is, that, even for the person who believes “there’s no one right way”, there actually IS one right way, especially for that person. The one right way for them is, “any way I like.”

I wonder if people who believe this experienced rather intense coercion in their past. Maybe a parent, or some other perceived authority, forced them to do things a certain way, maybe against their will. And that experience caused the speaker to rebel internally, to resist, in other words.

That resistance built up momentum to the point where any perceived attempt to have them do something they may not want to do triggers that past experience as the belief “there’s no one right way”. Someone with momentum behind such an experience would consider any attempt to encourage them to do something differently, even if doing it differently would benefit them, to be something “I don’t want to do”.

Interesting. That, paragraph above I just came out of my fingers while writing this post. I hadn’t thought about that before.

A conundrum

So the belief “there’s no one right way” falls somewhat flat for me. There is one right way, especially for the person who believes “there’s no one right way”. After all, there’s no other “way” the speaker could employ. For they, and everyone else, can only do something one way at a time.

The challenge is, everyone exists in their own reality. They are sovereign in that reality, meaning they, and they, alone create the experience they’re having. That means, their way is the one right way in their reality. But what’s the deal with “right”?

The “right/wrong” dichotomy is a false one, isn’t it? Someone standing in the “right/wrong” vibration is experiencing distortion therefore, are they not?

I would guess this first person, and the second person who expressed this belief last week, will probably not acknowledge this. But to me, the belief allows the person to skirt the idea that there is only one way – theirs – while claiming to accept that there are other, viable ways. But isn’t “there IS one “right” way” also a “way”? And if there is no one right way, then “there IS one right way” is also a valid “way”, is it not?

I find this belief, therefore, to be a conundrum.

One way?

Ultimately, there is one way of spiritual life. And by “spiritual life” I’m referring to All That Is and how it operates through all realities, including the physical one. That way is the paradoxical acceptance of “all ways”, with no single way being “better” or “righter” than another.

But that means, that in any given instance, there is “one way” as far as All That Is is concerned: It’s the way whatever is currently happening is happening. And, as a point of consciousness expands, I believe that consciousness evolves more and more to a “way” of being that allows only, really, one way to dominate.

That way is best represented by the word “joyful”. I wanted to write “love”, but we humans bring too much distortion to that word so we miss the point.

All That Is approaches All That Is in one way: joyfully, lovingly. Every other way leads to that. So, really, there is only one way. Right or otherwise. And that makes this “there’s no one right way” a kind of human copout, doesn’t it?

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What Happened When One Text Proved We’re All Connected

A joyful confirmation happened yesterday. It happened with a client between sessions. What happened completely confirmed everything clients and I talk about in the Positively Focused practice.

While writing one of these posts yesterday, I got the feeling this client needed encouragement. My Broader Perspective is connected to his Broader Perspective. So I can sometimes tell how he’s doing even if we’re not talking in the moment. It’s the same connection through which I caused a client to step out of “having allergies” as a reality, and into being “allergy free”. Here’s a link to the short story about that. A longer, more detailed explanation will go live in a few weeks.

Back to this client.

So my Broader Perspective, while I was writing the post yesterday, said “reach out to [him] give him a taste of what you’re wanting him to do.” This client is resisting a process that is part of the Positively Focused practice. He’s resisting it because his negative momentum is strong. So strong he can’t overcome it enough to do the process. Ironically, it’s through the process that he’ll overcome it. So the client finds himself in a stuck-paradox. One he’ll break through eventually.

The process involves expressing appreciation for things about his life. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet some clients struggle with it. A lot of times it’s because clients are so oriented to fixing problems and being nose-to-the-grindstone in life, they don’t know how to be appreciative. Or they think it’s dumb. Or, like this client, their dominant negative momentum prevents them from doing it for a time.

When my Broader Perspective told me what it did, I jumped to it. These days I know it’s in my best interest to respond whenever my Broader Perspective calls. So I dashed out a long list of statements as though he were writing it and texted it to him:

By the time I finished this text, I felt high-flying even before I sent it. Even before he responded. But when he did respond, it was a massive moment of confirmation for us both. It proved how accurate this practice is. And it showed how connected we all are. Here’s how he replied followed by my response right after his:

We are all connected. Our society convinces us of the opposite though. We become insecure about, then fearful about others, which then amplifies the separation. In just a little while though, in just a little time spent in a higher vibration, we can uncover the connection that exists, not only between ourselves and All That Is, but with other humans and animals as well.

We come back into our fullness. There we find the mystical, seemingly magical power of co-creation combined with our sovereign clarity. And in that clarity we can offer others reflections that touch them at the deepest parts of what they are. Which is what happened between me and this client yesterday.

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Why Inner Peace Outshines Material Success

What if everything we want we want because we’ll feel better when we have it? What does that mean about our desires?

I spent the day yesterday with a friend of over 20 years. A startup entrepreneur, he’s got at least a couple million in the bank. He lives in the suburbs, in a beautiful, large, traditional house he owns outright. He has three lovely sons, all grown. His marriage to his wife has lasted over 50 years. Even though they’re rich, they’re also frugal. Both their cars have over 100,000 miles on them. One, a passenger van looks like it has over 100,000 miles on it. The other, a beetle, is the wife’s car. It’s immaculate.

Every time I hang out with this guy, I’m impressed with who he is. He focuses his life on giving back: to his family, his community. His startups are nearly always about creating prosperity for the most disadvantaged. The latest idea of his has to do with teaching entrepreneurship to the formerly incarcerated. And, should those businesses succeed, he invites those business owners to contribute a portion of their revenues to help build other companies that will support similar causes.

My life is decidedly different. I live in an urban area, in an apartment I rent. The diversity around me is incredible. I can get anywhere I need to in at most, a 20 minute walk, 10 minute bike ride or via public transportation. If necessary, I can rent a car for longer trips, although that hardly ever happens. And, my apartment is tiny compared to my friend’s home.

Our lives couldn’t be much different.

“It’s so refreshing”

But what stands out the most, for me, is how satisfied I am with all of my life. Not just my personal trappings, but life in general, including what’s happening here in the United States. My satisfaction, borne of the Positively Focused practice, affords me a deep peace in knowing everything is unfolding as it should. And, a knowing that life is getting better for everyone, even when it looks like it’s not.

But my friend and his wife are struggling with the “what is” of life. They’re suffering in seeing what’s happening, extrapolating a future from how they’re interpreting what’s happening into one that affords bleak misfortunes for their children, and their friends’ children. In other words, for all their material, apparent success, they can’t find the most important success of all: peace of mind.

Which is why when I shared what I see about what is and the future, the wife said “I’m so glad to hear your positive perspective on life. It’s so refreshing.”

We are joy incarnate

Materially, my wealth doesn’t compare to my friend’s. And yet, when I returned home from spending the day with him, I felt richer than ever. Not because I live in grand stature, but because my experience of life is determined by nothing other than my connection to All That Is and the joyful, sovereign, happiness that springs from that relationship alone.

Indeed, when I got home, I reveled in my own company, in my tiny apartment. I enjoyed seeing the trees in front of the building I live in and the sun splaying through their leaves. The sounds of my neighborhood felt so alive and vibrant. And in that witnessing, I knew many of the desires I once had, and still kind of have – for more money, for example – pale in comparison to the joy I feel in my own skin, in my own life.

I don’t need anything more than what I have (my life) to feel joyful, to feel peace, to feel I have all I want. And in that space, that vibration, I know anything else I desire is mine. Because I am that which I desire most.

You can enjoy a life condition as I just described. It can not be found in things. It’s not available to those pursuing what society tells us we should have. But through pursuing those things, everyone slowly realizes how relatively unsatisfying that pursuit is. And how much more value an inner-derived sense of peace offers.

Finding peace through the pursuit of the fleeting satisfaction found in material consumption is a valid path toward ultimate peace. Most people live their lives on that path. But you can take the shortcut to deep satisfaction by finding that joyful state that is YOU, right now.

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An Easy Way To Prove Manifestation Works

Yesterday I lost a sweater. I don’t even remember the last time I saw it. It was cool outside, and I wanted to wear it. So I opened the closet and looked where it should be.

It wasn’t there. I started to turn my apartment upside down. I wanted to wear it on a walk.

Then I stopped myself. I stopped myself because I knew what you’re about to read. I also knew that the more I might try to find it, the more “lost” it would become.

That’s the thing about vibration. Especially around little things like losing something. If we say to ourselves “XYZ is lost”, and then turn the house upside down, it’s highly likely we’re not going to find it.

Why?

Because when we go around trying to find it, we amplify the vibration “XYZ is lost”. Then we align ourselves with the probable reality in which the item can’t be found.

Such silly-seeming examples like this happen all the time. For example, a person will swear they misplaced their sunglasses….only to find them moments later…resting right where they left them: on their head! Or they’ll “lose” their keys, only to discover them later right where they left them: still in the front door lock (that’s happened to me more than once.)

Easy, light-hearted

Insignificant events such as losing something are great opportunities to prove that we create our reality. We create our reality through the thoughts we think, which aligns us to the alternate reality we are thinking about. The next time you lose something, rather than turning the house upside down, stop looking for it. Stop thinking about it. Turn your attention to something else.

When you do that, your Broader Perspective will inspire you. Soon thereafter, it will say “look over there!” And when you do, you’ll see the item you once thought was “lost”. That will happen because you’re now aligned with the reality in which the item is present.

This has happened to many clients over the years. And it has happened to me before, and again, with my sweater yesterday. So yesterday I relaxed into the knowing that the sweater was in my possession. I stopped looking for it, in other words (after turning my apartment upside down! LOL).

Later that day, I took my backpack to the grocery store. It’s the one I always take to fill with groceries. Mind you, I actually looked in that very backpack and did not see the sweater!!!!

I got milk, eggs and butter, then walked to the checkout counter. The checker rang up my things as I took my pack off and opened it. When I did, I looked in the pack and, there, rolled up, at the bottom of the pack, was my sweater!

This was a perfect, easy, rather light-hearted demonstration that my vibration, my thoughts and my focus create everything I desire. Including turning lost things into found things.

The next time you “lose” something, try this. You might be amazed.

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Enlightenment Isn’t Hard—We’re Just Out of Practice

Yesterday I wrote about how devotion is a prerequisite of spiritual growth. How does that align with what I often write about, which is how effortless this Positively Focused practice is?

Feels like a contradiction, doesn’t it? Well, it’s certainly a paradox, one of many that comprises this You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) business.

The Positively Focused practice IS effortless. Once we develop momentum behind new ways of being, new habits form and effortlessness does ensue. Before then, however, some “work” is needed. At least it feels that way.

But why? If the practice is effortless, why is work needed at all?

The “work” I’m referring to involves contending with momentum already existing within us. Momentum born of unconsciously-formed beliefs. Beliefs creating our reality, a reality we don’t like and thus feel bad about. The “work” involves creating a new reality that replaces the one we don’t like.

Daily devotion feels great

“Contending with” means creating new beliefs, starting with new thoughts or stories, that, in time, will develop an associated momentum. Gradually, our life experience reflects that new momentum proving the new reality’s emergence. I write “gradually” as a kind of paradox too, because evidence shows up immediately. We just need to learn where to look to see the evidence.

These initial steps feel like “work” (and may feel “hard”) because our existing reality has momentum. We create new momentum in the midst of that old momentum. And the experience of that juxtaposition feels “hard” or like “work”.

This Positively Focused practice is all about telling better-feeling stories. “That juxtaposition feels “hard” or like “work”” is a story. A better story describing that same experience is: “it feels better and better to focus on the reality that’s emerging, rather than the reality that is.”

Both stories refer to the exact same experience. One conjures a feeling of “hard work”. The other? A feeling of ease, pleasure, effortlessness.

So it’s all in the story. It’s all in the devotion. A daily devotion. Spiritual growth is effortless, the moment we revise our stories about how that daily devotion feels is when “effortless” begins.

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Why Spiritual Growth Feels Hard (And How to Make It Easier)

Spiritual growth is a flame we feed with focus. The light we seek waits not in grace bestowed, but in daily devotion — where each breath becomes a match to our divine becoming.

A client over the weekend realized this, although not so poetically. He claimed he was either “lazy” or “bad at the [Positively Focused] practice” because he felt so negatively. I begged to differ. “How can you be lazy or bad at the practice when you’re not doing the practice?” I asked.

Now this client, a veteran of the practice for many years, has a LOT of negative momentum born of pretty intense past experiences. And, he’s made TREMENDOUS progress in expanding out of really negative beliefs, and their corresponding negative emotions, into a more chronic, happy state.

But times do occur where he still feels really bad. Those feelings and associated old beliefs surface, then he succumbs. The reason he succumbs, and I told him this, is because he doesn’t do the practice.

So what is “the practice”?

We must do the homework

In addition to attending sessions wherein I offer guidance, clients are given a series of “homework assignments”, practices or processes. These processes help them connect with their Broader Perspective. But they also establish a foundation of vibrational alignment by developing habits of focus. Without doing these assignments, clients become an untethered sail in the midst of a vibrational mistral.

That was this client’s experience and explained why he felt lazy or bad at the practice. The problem wasn’t laziness or poor performance. It’s that he hadn’t been doing the practice at all. So he’s been like an untethered sail.

And yet, he keeps coming to sessions. Why?

Because in session I hold a very high vibration. One that makes people feel good when they collapse into it. That exposure alone can create enough positive momentum in a person’s life to see positive results. But the real results show up when people do the homework.

And this is why spiritual growth feels hard. It’s because the aspirant must devote themselves to the practice daily. The Positively Focused homework makes spiritual growth easier.

We all enjoy free will. That means we don’t have to do anything, even when our experience of life is near always awful. No one will bestow spiritual growth upon us, or a better life upon us. We must do it ourselves through a daily devotion, a daily practice.

And for many, “devotion” can feel hard. It’s not, but it can feel that way. That’s why people like me exist. People who can light the way for others to follow, to accompany them through their storms. To tether their sail to our stable vibrational halyard, when focus wavers under strong vibrational winds.

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The Jedi Path: How Focus Makes People Powerful

It’s so obvious to me that beliefs create reality. My own three-decade experience and over seven years working with clients and observing their experiences prove this undoubtedly. When clients start getting this, and it takes a while, they really turn on their power.

I often compare this YCYOR business to being a Jedi. Mastering the YCYOR way is similar to learning how to use the Force. So are the abilities that accompany such mastery. Once a person understands how the Universe works, they also get the power they possess. Then they can use that power.

They can use that power for whatever they want.

It doesn’t matter if others consider “what they want” “good” or “evil”. A new client, who is really gifted at this practice, recognized this in our recent session. She’s mixed race, in her 30s and very progressive. Yet, when we met, she brought up Donald Trump. She wanted confirmation of her conclusion that Trump is a powerful manifester.

Of course he is. It’s obvious when we observe his actions and what he says. For the most part he doesn’t care what others think. He doesn’t even care about what most of us would call “reality”. He creates his own. And he holds that creation until the world around him reflects that creation.

All the time in the world

I sense similar potential in the young woman client. She can create anything she wants, once she soothes beliefs that have her doubt what she wants as well as doubt herself. This is true with many clients.

Another, advanced practice client, who I once compared to Anakin Skywalker, just today understood what I’ve been telling him for years: That he has the potential to create great “good” or the opposite of that. In other words, his Jedi abilities are strong:

That’s how much potential he has. It’s not coincidence that he, too, is in his late 20s. Young, in other words.

The Universe and how it works isn’t bothered by human ideals of moral, immoral, good or bad. Look around. That should be obvious. As yet another young client recently said, “the Universe is indifferent to what you want, it just responds to your vibration,” meaning you’re going to get what you focus one not what you “want.” This client, too, is on the leading edge, is young and full of potential.

I’ve said this to many clients old and young alike: It’s a total misunderstanding that “adults” are here to teach children. The opposite is actuality: children come in as the leading edge. They’re here to take what adults have made, and leap into what’s becoming. In other words, they’re here to show adults what expansion now looks like.

Almost all parents don’t get that. So they push young people off their trajectory. And thus, it takes longer for “what’s becoming” to become.

Which is another good reason why we’re all eternal.