Attacks on what you’re doing tell you you are on your path.
Everyone who accomplished something great did so facing massive criticism. Some harsher than others.
If you are crucified by the mainstream, congratulations. You are in good great company. Those who changed the world for the better are rarely liked.
That is, until their deed is done.
Facebook and Apple are not the kinds of “world changing” we’re talking about.
Changing humanity’s trajectory, significantly improving fundamental societal structures, and heralding in a new relationship between human beings –– these are the kinds of accomplishments we’re talking about.
When you’re up to something that significant you’re bound to attract those who hate what you are doing, those jealous of what you’re doing, those who fear what you’re doing.
You’re equally bound to attract those who love what you’re doing.
But if you’re up to something significant, you must remain true to what you’re doing and not let either the adoration or the hate beguile you you. For hate can easily turn to adoration and adoration turns to hate just as easily.
Humans are capricious.
Most of them would rather go along with the crowd. Most of them fear being ostracized by that crowd. And most of them also criticize that very same crowd.
Abraham calls the crowd “the peanut gallery”. Their opinion matters so little it’s not worth peanuts to such a one standing in their invincibility.
When you’re doing something significant, you’re likely to be alone in your pursuit. Something else Abraham says: It’s lonely on the leading edge. In the silence of that leading edgeness however, you discover life mastery.
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For those who know their invincibility, the peanut gallery’s opinion matters not one whit.
While it’s been often mis-attributed to Mahatma Ghandi, the homily, which more likely comes from union leader Nicholas Klein, still paints a compelling picture:
You’re first ignored
Then you are laughed at
Then they try to abuse you
Then they enshrine monuments to you
So many would-be world-changers give up when people ignore them. Or when they are laughed at. Many who get through those phases, give up when abuse shows up. The very few who continue reach the promise land of dreams fulfilled.
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Glory goes to those who fulfill dreams. Not to those who just dream them.
In today’s connected world, no human can deliberately plan events such that their voice rises above the noise.
But when allied with All That Is, providence steps in, orchestrating on behalf of the connected individual, events which seem like lucky breaks or coincidence.
More often, though, the best, divinely-inspired events look like bad luck. Horrible luck even.
Here is what separates those who are enshrined from those who go unrecognized.
The enshrined understand their enemy’s true value.
Antagonism serves the iconoclast well. For ridicule, abuse, negative attention and opposition all amplify their message.
Recently, Perry was a guest on a Facebook Live event. Actually, he was the main course, as the audience was furious at things he had said recently. They were looking for their pound of flesh. Two pounds really.
What was billed as a discussion could have been described as an ambush had Perry not already known what was going to happen. The host and her audience attacked and ridiculed and laughed at Perry, his lifestyle, his beliefs. They tried to take him to task for his perspective on the transgender community.
But Perry is invincible. There is no task a mob can take him to because Perry has clarity. He doesn’t need agreement from the peanut gallery, which is often ignorant and lost in the what-is-ness of life.
Interestingly, while many of the loudest voices pilloried him during the show, some less vocal people heard what he was saying. Their experience will dramatically change their lives.
Though they will not be able to connect their participation in that event with life changes they will experience, the experiences will none the less offer opportunities otherwise not available.
Those who don’t understand you are going to ignore you. Those threatened by your authenticity are going to attack you. Then those who were ignoring you will join in the attack. Or they will watch from the sidelines. If you look like them, if they think you are part of their tribe they are going to try to force you to conform to their ideas of proper tribe behavior.
Very few tribes are as insecure and therefore fearful of change than the tribe known as “black people”.
But if you can continue, despite attempts to get you to conform to others’ opinion of how you should be, you will, over time, shape the world to your divinely-inspired opinion.
And you will discover how powerful you are. And how invincible you are.
Colin Kaepernick would not be where he is were he not shunned by the NFL and other major institutions including the Republican Party the casual racists and the rest of the peanut gallery.
People who have changed society or the world did so amidst harsh rebukes. Harsh rebukes are what people offer when they don’t understand.
For the world-changer, it’s best to let the peanut gallery do what it does best: assist in their own special way in your success.
Recognize attacks are part of the path and you win.
This story was originally published on The Transamorous Network. We believe the message is worth amplifying…WARNING: Contents of this story may be triggering.
In our opinion, a person can’t for long explore transness without furthering exploring race. Both topics are near-identical.
And while we prefer not to refer to ourselves in certain, socially-accepted ways, it is this socially-accepted identification which prompts our writing.
You see, before 2015 or so, we identified as a black male human being.
However, since that year, we’ve discovered some number of things which make that identification irrelevant. That is, unless, we feel the impulse to write about topics like this one.
Then that identification adds credibility.
Today, we are writing about our blackness, our maleness and our cis-ness because sharing our experience might help just one person. If it helps just one person, we consider the time investment a win.
Transgender is the new black
Humanity continues to expand into itself. What that means is, the potential that is humanity, is being explored by humanity. Some of what humanity discovers about itself shocks itself. That shock often causes reprehensible-seeming human behaviors.
Eventually though, everything balances. And the exploration continues merrily.
It took a while for example, for humanity to begin seeing “blacks” as worthy enough to merit rights and privileges “whites” enjoy, at least under law, if not socially and culturally. We are putting “blacks” and “whites” in quotes, simply because that distinction is a fiction. There really is no appreciable difference between a human described as “black” and one described as “white”.
Indeed all that stuff was made up specifically to divide humanity. Briefly: In the “new world” wealthy land owners created the idea of “black” and “white” to cause poor “white people” to reject their economic and human peers who happened to have darker skin. For a time in colonial America, many “blacks” and “whites” who were poor, lived closely with and felt solidarity towards each other. They slept together. Ate together. Had sex with each other. They married. They ran off together. They saw each other as comrades.
Photo: Jose Escobar
That is, until the wealthy divided them with this made-up distinction.
Why? This multicultural group far outnumbered wealthy landowners. That was a problem. So the wealthy concocted a new belief: whiteness.
Over time poor “white people” began believing they were better than poor “black people”.
The rest is history.
And that is enough history.
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Our point is, we no longer see ourselves through many false lenses which have no relevance to who we really are. But many people still do. Even though they are fundamentally no different than we.
Most humans identify themselves by something which separates them from the rest of their kind. Hard to deny, right?
We don’t have a problem with that.
Except that while distinctions can bring people together, the “coming together” is always also an exclusion: those who are not distinctly similar become outsiders.
Comparison happens. And judgement. In judging, insecurity rises. “Judge not lest ye be judged” is a reference to that. Insecurity always fosters fear. And in that fear and insecurity one always finds external life circumstances that justify one’s fearful and insecure feelings.
Whether you’re black, trans, gay, latino an original people, or, in today’s, world a cis-het-white male, nearly everyone goes in and out of fear and insecurity.
We suggest being transgender is the new black when it comes to social justice and equal rights. That’s because transgender people experience today, socially, what blacks did in the 50s and sixties and earlier. There are differences, of course. Rarely was a black person shunned by their family, for example, the way many transgender people are.
Photo: Ken Treloar
It’s a common, although unnatural human reaction to try to “one-up” one’s historical suffering. It’s as though humans see suffering as a badge of honor. It isn’t. So when we compare the black experience with the transgender one, we are not saying they are equal. What we’re saying is transgender and black people face many similar struggles. And in that similarity can be gained huge leverage towards positive change.
But neither can do that while standing in fear and insecurity.
For example, segments of both groups appropriate self-referential slurs and recast them as terms of empowerment. “Nigga” is the most obvious from the black community. “Tranny” and “bitch” are similar in some parts of the transgender community. The more impoverished the subgroup, the more empowerment such appropriation seems to be. That’s been our experience.
“Blacks” taking on such identity have participated in their own oppression. Photo: bimo mentara
And, while “nigga” as a term of empowerment in the black community is well known, “tranny” and “bitch” as similar empowering terms may not be as familiar to some transgender community members. Among transgender people of color, however, it is far more common and understood.
Of course, enormous experience diversity exists throughout both groups. And, while it may be taboo to acknowledge, it can’t be ignored that intense inter-group hatred also exists within both groups. It’s odd to us that members of an oppressed group would turn around and oppress one another. Behavior we see between in-group members sometimes rivals that which comes from those who are recognized haters of said group.
Two transgender women attacking one another.
This is so consistent, one has to wonder why more transgender and black people aren’t more understanding of the people who hate them. For the same insecurity and fear transgender and black people feel in their lives, is identical to that being experienced in the minds and hearts of those who hate them, don’t understand them or who refuse to acknowledge their very real existence.
Human is human.
It doesn’t matter what triggers fear and insecurity. It is a fact some “white, cis, males and women” feel fear and insecurity when faced with both the “transgender movement” and the “black people”. It doesn’t matter why they feel frightened and insecure. The fact is, that’s what they are feeling.
And if you think about any time you felt those strong emotions, you’ll remember how difficult it was for you to think straight. Let alone open-mindedly.
If you’re triggered right now, you may be feeling that lack of ability now.
Now we’re not denying the very real power and leverage other groups have over transgender people and “black people”. Our experience with the few people we’ve worked with however tells a compelling story.
The story is corroborated by our own life experience: A belief is a powerful thing. Humans are far more than human. When an individual human does something about the beliefs they have, instead of directly confronting their life experience, their experiences faithfully reflect work done at the belief level.
Photo: Steve Johnson
In other words, when a person examines then changes their beliefs about life rather than confronting life experience directly, their life experience begins reflecting the newly held beliefs!
This is not the case at the group level. Groups, for example, have a hard time accomplishing what we’re sharing here because individuals comprise groups and individuals are the main event, not the group. No group of people shares life experience. Each life experience is unique. So making changes of the type we’re describing at the group level is not possible.
But when an individual chooses to change their beliefs about anything, the reality of the thing that is the subject of the belief changes!
This is why we do not advocate humans joining other humans, even though that seems like the expedient method of change.
An individual human is always more powerful than millions of humans grouping together when that human becomes aware of what they are underneath their humanity and exercises that in the direction of what they are wanting.
But when a human lives in fear, insecurity and vulnerability, they have no power at all. They are literally at the mercy of their life experience. In that, it seems their world and the people in it have far more power than they do. And while they remain in fear, insecurity and vulnerability, other people do have more power. And so, it makes sense so many would want to join forces with each other, in order to even the odds.
We’re not arguing against joining others in pursuit of what you want. We’re just offering perhaps a new perspective for individuals, which can make individuals more powerful.
Whether they join with others or stand alone.
“Black” and “transgender” are deeply disempowering
A person who identifies with an identity such that that identity disappears becoming part of their “what is”-ness, the belief and identity alsodiminishes who they are into a single dimension. A belief held long enough becomes “just what is.” It is no longer questioned. It is no longer thought about. It’s just there in the background. There, in the background it shapes all life experience to be consistent with it.
That’s how powerful beliefs are. They are alive and are literally the stuff of life.
When a human creates for themselves, or takes on a belief such as this, they lose their connection with their natural invincibility and instead experiences directly the disempowering nature of the belief.
When a person identifies as “black”, for example, they take upon themselves all that is conveyed by that. Both the good and the bad and all the experience lumped under that story/belief. Same with transgender identity.
Taking on labels can empower. Usually though they greatly diminish one’s real identity.
A “black” person therefore acts in cahoots with those on the other side of that belief. He or she reinforces perspectives held by “the other side” as well as those on their own side. It doesn’t matter if that “black” person is financially, materially or socially successful. They become a function of everything it “is” to be black.
Taking on the belief, they look out in life and identify with experiences of “blacks”. They look at people attacking “blacks” and identify with the vulnerability of those being attacked. Identifying with that vulnerability, they get angry. Anger is a natural response to feeling vulnerable because vulnerability is decidedly not what any human is.
But the moment that vulnerability is embraced –– and it happens in milliseconds –– life experience begins reflecting that. Held onto long enough, life experience will reflect more and more overt experiences consistent with being vulnerable.
Until the person chooses a more empowering belief.
A personal example may clarify.
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We remember when very young, after our parents’ divorce, our “mother” moved us from California to the east coast. She needed support from her family as a single black mother of three boys. We (the we that is Perry) loathed that move. Our love of California was absolute. Leaving it filled us with resentment.
Arriving in Virginia, we were immediately treated poorly by people who looked like us. Our manner of speaking, our scholastic excellence, our west coast behavior attracted attention that was stark in comparison to how people who didn’t look like us –– “white people” –– treated us in California.
Thus anger, resentment, then fear and more vulnerability fomented in us. Did the life experiences generate the feelings and beliefs? Or vice versa? To gain clarity, lets back up a bit.
In California for a time we lived in a black community. Our family experience was not the best and so we developed beliefs quite consistent with being vulnerable and fearful. Taking those beliefs outside the house, we had met people who looked like us which reinforced those beliefs. We were bullied, got into fights, were attacked by dogs, etc.
There’s a saying: every old sock meets an old shoe. It applies to beliefs and experience: every belief will draw to it a corresponding experience.
Later, we moved to an all-white community as our prosperity increased. We felt relief leaving an environment we interpreted as hostile (not recognizing the connection between beliefs and reality).
There, we made friends. Everyone around us was “white”. Life got better. Our feelings of insecurity and fear soothed as our family situation improved. Or seemed like it. We were there long enough so that we developed a sense of peace, security and comfort, even as our parents’ relationship deteriorated.
When the divorce happened and it was clear we’d be moving, our old beliefs resurfaced. Landing in Virginia rekindled more underlying fears. Every old sock meets an old shoe: experiences with “black people” consistent with those beliefs returned.
We attempted to compensate becoming proficient in martial arts. It helped shift old beliefs into new more empowering ones. But the momentum of old beliefs weren’t done with us.
One day while delivering papers on our paper route, a gang of “black” youths cornered us in an apartment complex and attempted to rob us. We had no money, but the experience was insightful.
It wasn’t until three months ago (some 40-plus years later) that we saw how our beliefs created all our youth experiences, leaving us with a profound sense of empowerment.
What insight!
Recognizing how our beliefs created our life experiences inspired new possibilities in us.
Those possibilities implemented in the last five years leave us where we are today. Today where we no longer feel the need to identify with labels created by those seeking to soothe theirinsecurity by keeping us in ourvulnerability.
We now look into the world through these insights. What we see are humans doing their best to make sense of a world around them, not understanding how much leverage they have over that world as an individual. So they join into groups and fight against that which they want changed, not knowing that in their fighting they are allying with their oppressor.
Again, we’re not saying don’t join groups and don’t work to change the status quo.
What we are saying is, individuals can be far more productive than they are when they assume identities (beliefs about themselves) that, paradoxically both give empowerment to the individual and legitimizes within the person their “less than” status.
We’ve noticed an interesting phenomena around this topic among transgender women of color and trans-attracted men of color. Before we detail the peculiarity, we’ll provide some context.
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Three years ago, we launched The Transamorous Network. It was an exploratory project. Through it we intended to help men who are attracted to transgender women and transgender women interested in having wholesome relationships with cis-men. We felt we could help soothe the struggle both parties have finding love in their lives.
Our own trans-attraction, and our struggle to find meaningful, wholesome relationships with transgender women legitimized our desire. We believed our approach, which has eliminated the struggle we experience through our trans attraction, could be helpful for others. Others who resonate with our message.
A meme from our work at The Transamorous Network
Over the years we received emails from different kinds of people. Not just trans-attracted men, but women and transpeople wanting help. We consider these people, people who are attracted to transgender people, part of a “broadened” transgender community. All of them were relieved to find a website like ours, one that assures them their trans-attraction is wholesome and normal.
Not long after launching the website, we began interviewing people in this demographic on YoutTube and through a podcast. Then we began a Facebook Live show talking about more urgent issues our audiences was interested in from our unique perspective only.
From the beginning we’ve always approach each topic from the same accurate perspective. This perspective can be frightening and off-putting for people deeply immersed in the struggles of their lives. So we have some experience hearing the thoughts and beliefs people in the broader transgender community have about themselves, their struggles and why they think they struggle.
Curiously, a far larger share of men of color seem to comprise the population of trans-attracted males. In one private Facebook group of 100 such men, 60 of the men are men of color, for example.
When we look at that, we believe it represents an “entanglement” between male people of color and transgender people. But that’s another story.
Our perspective in our content is highly confronting to transgender and black people. What we are essentially saying is if you change how you think about yourself and your world, then take action from those new perspectives, your world will easily change. But if you try to change the world first, before changing the way you think about it, you are going to have a frustrating, painful and unhappy life experience.
The reason we believe this is so confronting to these two particularly oppressed groups is because they can not fathom that they are at the center of all they are experiencing. And, being in the center of it all, they have all the power to change their experience.
Excerpt from a letter from a trans-attracted man.
Consider a person who believes in “man” and “woman” so deeply, the belief disappears into their consciousness, becoming simply “what is”. Then that person is confronted with what they see as a “man” who claims to be a “woman”. The dissonance, incredulity and shock of such an experience blows away this deeply held concept of life, even though life is sitting right there in front of their eyes, telling that person that their belief is too narrow as it regards human life.
Such a deeply intimate relationship between a person such as this and their belief can’t tolerate confrontation. The only response to such confrontation is retaliatory confrontation. Feeling intimate insecurity of a deeply held belief, this person will knee-jerkingly try to control the circumstance (the life experience) so that it reconforms to the belief.
When instead, the more simple, more powerful approach is to just change the belief.
We know. Easier said than done.
Well the same is true for a person whose deeply-held belief goes thusly:
“I am a single, vulnerable, fallible, mortal human being. Here for god knows what reason, in a physical world that is scary, upsetting and cruel. Sure there are moments of happiness, but on the whole this thing is a struggle. And the fact that my blackness/transness makes it so much more of a struggle is so unjust! What else am I to do about it???”
So when we suggest to a human to change your story and your life experience will change, and we offer evidence from our life, our clients’ lives and our colleague’s life demonstrating the accuracy of what we say, we get the same response from transgender people that blacks get from white supremacists and transgender people get from transphobic people (and that gay people get from homophobic people): They can’t even fathom the possibility that what we’re suggesting will work.
Transgender people and the people who love them, particularly trans-attracted people of color, are here as powerful examples to the rest of humanity. Part of them being here is to live their wonderful, joyful and convincing example of the farthest, further-forward-est edge of what it is to be human.
Possibly the leading edge expression of humanity. (Photo: Jorge Saavedra)
But they also are here to demonstrate something to themselves. Like we were in our youth, many have temporarily forgotten to examine the beliefs in our backgrounds.
What’s great about this is the sweetness of the return to awareness is so directly proportionate with the amount time one is oblivious.
When we hear “social justice”, we think about the day when “the meek inherit the earth”: when those who appear to be oppressed realize they can at any moment turn the tide with but a thought, consistently applied. That’s what is happening underneath advances we are seeing in entertainment, business, politics and more. As more transgender people as individuals come into their own individual power, then decide to act from that, they change the entire world.
The same is true for ordinary individual black people.
And ordinary individual trans-attracted people.
The most powerful potential lies in transpeople of color. For they represent “both” “and”. What a powerful human combination.
Coming into the world for every human, was a decision you made in joy and eagerness. The world awaits the imprint you came to make upon it. We too are eager to see what you do as you explore who and what you are beyond what you think that to be.
Maybe self-improvement, self-analysis, or therapy impels your reading.
We read for different reasons. The most powerful reading is that which inspires you to more. The new. The not known before.
Same goes for watching and listening too.
Nothing beats the feeling of a well-orchestrated new bit of information. Particularly information which draws from you delight, surprise and –– most important –– new awareness. The experience can pack a wonderfully fulfilling punch.
There’s no value in regurgitation.
Abraham of the Abraham-Hicks celebrity duo asserts with accuracy that there is no value in a person putting attention on something that has been. Looking at “what is” –– aka daily reality –– is even worse if the “what is” you’re looking at is something you’d rather not see as part of your “what is.”
Don’t like that there is so much division in the US? Don’t like the ever-present cis–het-white-male-hegemony? Abraham’s suggestion: stop paying so much attention to those subjects in your life. Regurgitation, they say, is reading or watching something that makes you feel anger, frustration, rage, for example, then talking, blogging, complaining, or sharing on social media about it. They say humans are chronic in their regurgitation habit.
Because of it, they perpetuate and prolong situations and experiences that otherwise would disappear.
Humans are socially conditioned regurgitators. It’s upon which television makes most of its money. The internet too.
Your regurgitation is making people rich, while making you miserable.
While they are socially conditioned to, humans are not, by nature, regurgitators. By nature you are innovators. All life is. Humans take what is and expand upon it, thereby making something new. Sex is a wonderful example. That intimate creative act, produces something heretofore unknown in the universe –– a unique individual –– from the known –– two extant individuals.
I’ve arrived!!! I am unique, I come through the extant! (Photo: Alex Hockett)
It’s the same with all life’s endeavors. Everything is derivative of everything else weaving a tapestry of artistic expression physically made real.
The best of everything else though, is that which hasn’t come before, yet spawns from the is-ness of what is.
The greatest frontier awaits your discovery
A fantastically vast undiscovered frontier exists in the act of turning off your devices. Instead of surfing social media, or the news, consider the deeply inspirational, awe-inspiring act of surfing your inner reality.
There is no better time than today to explore this world. Because the topsy-turvy world you live in owes itself to this inner reality.
Despite what science has to say about it, there is far more of interest “in there” behind your eyeballs than anything available in front of them. Including on the Internet.
Vast opportunity exists in this realm, where your eyes are useless and yet you’re able to see. In this no-place you find the origin of every place. Remain in the inquiry long enough and you might discover the extraordinary.
You.
Because at the bottom of it all, the ruckus of the phenomenal world springs from your perception. An “I get it” born of directly experiencing the accuracy of the previous statement uncovers answers to all life’s problems.
That should come as no surprise because you are the common denominator of every single problem you face.
You can’t know this just from reading words. You know it when your life experience demonstrates it to you.
Perry’s* life experience demonstrates this near-constantly. For when you tap into this inner frontier, your life experience will verify the new perspectives you discover. Perry’s many demonstrations include disappearing a bully in elementary school, effortlessly achieving his childhood dreams of living in Japan and receiving his black belt in the Bujinkan, realizing his dream job at a major high-tech company, causing large sums of money to effortlessly show up in his life experience, and transforming his marriage into the perfection that it is. Perry’s life reflects for him (and his wife) tectonic shifts breaking into his physical reality to verify inner frontier explorations he began many years ago. But intensified over the last five or six.
And Perry is just getting started.
The penchant to ravenously consume digital information is your surrogate for what your you really wants you to do to your inner space. There are no limits to rewards realized from time invested exploring you, from the inside.
Your you already knows this.
And that’s why you and everyone else consumes so much digital information. It’s a mass-nail biting reflex to a latent awareness eager to be born within you. People bite their nails as an habitual reflex to something happening just below their conscious awareness. There are many habits among humans just like this.
Oh! The diversity!
There is great diversity on your planet and more being born every moment. (Photo: Jorge Saavedra)
Physical life always reflects inner life, what we call non-physical life experience. All humans want to realize consistency between what they experience in the physical world, and what they are experiencing in the non-physical one. The consistency already exists. There is no deviation between what his happening in the physical world and what is happening in non-physical.
But to realize the consistency is another matter. Nearly all 7-plus billion humans are oblivious to this consistency, says Seth, Abraham and many other nonphysical “guides” focused here with you. This obliviousness is wholly responsible for human insecurity. Which is why so much insecurity exists. From the office of your president, all the way down to the houseless on the street.
Yes, every human who has resolved their obliviousness has found invincibility. Freedom from insecurity. Freedom from fear of death. And more.
No exceptions.
It only takes a moment to get the resolution underway
Within thirty days of the proper activity, you can receive a clear, no-bullshit indication that your non-physical life experience is where all the action is, and where all the action in front of your eyeballs comes from. From there, there’s no going back. Meaning: once you breach this frontier, you are bound to discover more and more revealing to you the limitless nature of your non-physical, perceptual awareness.
When that happens, life takes on a different timbre.
Life becomes what it has always been underneath the anxiety, stress and “hurry up” nature of what Seth calls the “assembly line time” of ordinary consciousness.
In this new awareness, life becomes the delightful, easy, pleasurable romp through time and space that you knew it would be before you chose to come into physical life as human.
And while this can happen in a flash of insight, it’s far more fun for it to happen gradually. That way you can savor every blink of the eye-opening that is awakening.
There is a vast perspective you miss out on when you’re exclusively focused on ordinary consciousness, using that to look out on ordinary life experience and regurgitating what is.
Broaden your perspective to include that life area you may currently believe to be pseudoscientific, or “woo”, and you’ll find yourself blown away by what life –– your life –– will show you.
The self-discovery alone is worth it.
But more than that is realizing your life experience is 100 percent your creation.
If that last statement is accurate –– and there is no evidence disputing that –– who wouldn’t want to find that out?
We think everyone would.
How to begin
It’s simple. But because you’ve practiced (through habit) not doing this, it will feel uncomfortable at first. Humans tend to call things hard, when what’s really happening is the thing they’re calling hard is uncomfortable or something they’re unfamiliar with.
Discovery is in the uncomfortable.
So here’s how to get started.
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Contrary to what some might say, quitting your devices cold turkey is not the way to go. Neither is coming at this from the perspective that digital absorption is something one must “detox” from.
It’s far better to think of this approach as a pleasurable vacation. An adventure. Or an exciting exploration you’re about to begin. One key (to all of life) is to start gradually and in a spirit of play.
Now that your attitude is in the right place, you can take physical action. Here are some wonderful steps.
It’s not a life long commitment. And the benefits exceed a marital one. (Photo: Mark Duffel)
The commitment
Start by making a commitment that you’re going to do this for at least 30 days. In these thirty days, you’re going to immerse yourself, for a non-consecutive hour or two a day, in an activity series that has nothing to do with the digital world.
The process
Every day you’re going to do the following:
A. Each morning when you awake, you’re going to consciously take inventory of your surroundings, giving appreciation for the conditions in which you find yourself. You’re going to say out loud statements reflecting what you observe in this condition of appreciation.
The monologue will go thusly:
“I love how wonderful the day is. I love how good I feel. I really like this weather. I really love the feel of my clothes. I appreciate my bed. I appreciate my blankets. I appreciate my pillows…”
When you’ve just about had your fill of that experience, stop. If you get to the point where you’re struggling to figure out what to say, stop. This is not work. And you’re not applying effort. Nor are you being evaluated. It should be effortless and playful.
B. Rise from your bed. Take care of your personal (morning) business. Then, grab a notebook and writing gear. You’re then to write down a list of all the positive aspects of your life at the moment of your writing.
The objective of both A and B is to evoke from you an emotional response. A feeling of satisfaction or positive disposition about your life experience is what you’re reaching for.
Continue with your morning. Then…
C. Take a lunch. We mean actually take a real lunch. Outside the office, in the open air, alone. While you’re out there, set aside at least half of your lunch period and take a walk in nature. Say to yourself aloud or to yourself statements reflecting the wonderful things you are seeing in the world around you. You are focusing on positive aspects of your surroundings. Alternatively, take a more powerful approach to this step: while walking, acknowledge how your Inner Being (the you inside you) is constantly attending to you, loving you, appreciating you, rooting for you, supporting you and guiding you. Run a loop of these statements throughout your walk.
It is important that every time you are expressing yourself through these steps, that you mean what you are saying. Don’t just say the statements. You have to believe what you are saying.
When lunch is over, go about your afternoon.
D. Prior to bed, but not so close that you’re too tired, do the following: Reflect upon the day, think about all the great things that happened and that you enjoyed. Think about the positive aspects of the day. Be creative. Think of more than the obvious. For example, the sun rising is a positive aspect. So is bird song. So is plenty of air to breathe. So are the people who contribute to your life, such as those generations of human who came before you, who invented things you enjoy today. Get it?
When you have reached the point where you’re working at thinking of something, stop.
Follow these instructions to the letter and before day 30 an unmistakable event will happen which will demonstrate to you, in no uncertain terms, that you are progressing.
Here’s an example from a client’s experience:
He was doing part-time work at an expo, manning a table for a friend. He had a goal to achieve a certain amount of income each day. This table-manning gig was getting him part-way there, but he needed a bit more work. While at the expo, another friend called with an urgent task. If he could complete it, he’d be paid far more than his daily quota.
The task was to find a woman this other guy needed to talk with urgently. The conversation would save a business deal. But the guy needing to have the conversation couldn’t find the woman anywhere.
But our client, let’s call him Josh, was hesitant. He didn’t want to lose the income from the table-manning gig. And he had no idea who this woman was or where she was. So at first he said no.
Josh had been doing a more detailed version of the above instructions. So when he had the impulse to call the guy back and tell him yes, he followed it. The guy gave Josh the woman’s name. That’s all the guy had. Josh had a friend replace him at the table and got to work.
He found the woman’s address. That’s when he received another impulse: that if he left for that address right now, the woman would be there.
So he left.
He arrived and knocked on the door. Nothing.
Knocked again. Nothing.
Knocked again. Hard.
Nothing.
Hmm, he thought. He started walking away. When he got halfway back to his car, he got another impulse: turn around.
When he did, there was the woman standing on the porch.
Josh walked up to the woman while dialing the number of the guy who desperately needed to speak with her.
“Are you XYZ?” Josh asked.
“Yes,” She said.
He handed her his phone. “This call is for you.”
The rest of the story is history. Josh was a skeptic at first. He didn’t trust that Perry could show him how to eliminate nearly all his life challenges. Now he knows what we know. And his life is gradually becoming a delightful romp.
Josh doesn’t have a problem requiring a respite from digital content consumption. You don’t either. What Josh wanted was a way to feel invincible in his life experience. It is what every human craves.
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We don’t think a “detox” from a digital indulgence is necessary. Nothing is going wrong on your planet. But we do believe one can use such an experience to benefit from far more than more balance between real life and digital life.
Digital device balance will naturally be restored when you’ve discovered your inner world’s majesty. For then you’ve soothed that which has been nagging you.
The digital world pales in comparison to what awaits behind your eyeballs. When you realize that, your seeming habitual fascination with internet information –– like nail biting –– will fall away.
You can have it all. We’re offering this bit of information for that purpose.
The most powerful reading is that which inspires you to more. The new. The not known before. It’s one of the reasons you’re so drawn to social media via your devices. The inner world holds so much of that, not having direct access to it is a life barely lived.
*We are Perry’s nonphysical Inner Being expressing ourselves through the experiences and examples of Perry’s life.
Life is a constant, joyful romp, with nature celebrating your every move.
That may not be the case for some people. But that’s only because there are beliefs in the way, making life feel anything but fun and joyful.
One such belief a lot of people share goes “There is a separate, objective reality. It is random and uncaring. Even hostile. I am vulnerable in it. So I must be on guard.”
Leaving that belief behind, for a little bit, opens phenomenal possibilities. And the more beliefs like this you leave behind, the happier your life gets.
Perry had an experience which illustrates this well.
He woke early and happy as he usually does. Over a couple decades, he has practiced holding only beliefs he wants to see acted out in his reality. As a result, Perry is nearly always happy.
This particular morning though, his happiness didn’t last. The shift didn’t immediately register. But when it did, he knew why.
The day before, Perry was overcome with “doing”. There were so many interesting and fun things he wanted to do in that day. But there wasn’t enough “day” to get all he wanted done, done.
So when he went to bed the night before, his dominant emotional state was “overwhelmed”. When he woke this morning, before he knew it, he picked up right where he was when he went to bed.
Feeling overwhelmed.
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When you’re happy more than not, happy is all you want to be. Anything other than happiness doesn’t feel good. And the happier you are, the more happiness you want.
If you’re really, really happy, long enough, any time you’re not happy after that feels awful.
So when Perry felt overwhelm compared to being happy, he knew what he preferred.
Feeling “overwhelmed” doesn’t result from having too much to do. There’s always more to do. That’s what makes life eternal. Any time a person feels overwhelmed, what they’re experiencing is the emotional response to a belief.
The belief is: “I don’t have enough time to do all I want to do.”
And of course, when you believe you don’t have enough time, your life experience reflects that.
You don’t have enough time. Or at least it feels that way.
Actually, you have plenty of time. You just don’t know it because, in that moment, you don’t believe it.
No belief is bad or wrong. But some beliefs create life experiences most people would rather not have.
Time shortage beliefs, for example, trigger many unwanted emotions. Including stress, doubt, worry or a general sense of lack of efficacy. At work, they may feel performance anxiety, fear, inadequate or agitated.
In the long run, time shortage beliefs can be dangerous. They can cause unnecessary errors and shoddy results. They can even create unsafe workplaces.
Besides, you’re not having fun when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, anxious or fearful.
Some would say “that’s life”.
But we say life doesn’t ever have to include such experiences. Such experiences are only part of life, until you realize they don’t have to be.
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As soon as Perry realized what was going on, he also realized what he wanted.
What he wanted was to know he has plenty of time. So he did something he knew would help: he took a walk.
At 5:30 a.m.
It was dark outside when he started. As twilight grew, his mood improved. Nature has a way of doing that.
Perry sometimes walks along a nature path teeming with wildlife. Most people miss all the animals living there. But Perry has a knack for seeing wildlife all the time.
This morning was no different: He came across six coyotes watching him from behind a stand of trees.
One of the intermediate signs of progress when practicing spiritual development is the natural environment behaves differently towards you. Rather than hiding it’s wonders, nature puts itself on vivid display.
Perry has had many such experiences. That’s why he carries his phone on such walks. He loves capturing these moments. Like this one of two river otters:
Feeling wonder from his coyote rendezvous, Perry returned home. He meditated to set his mood for the day, then started doing things he knew would be fun.
By 10:00 that morning, he had accomplished a lot. He learned a new piece of software, contemplated a video he’s wanting to produce, and wrote a new story to share on social media. This on top of a two-hour walk, a 30-minute meditation and studying Spanish via Duolingo.
But there was something Perry was avoiding: A lunch appointment later that day. He didn’t want to take time to go to lunch, but he felt obligated.
Here’s why.
Nearly every Thursday for the last 10 years, Perry has had lunch with the same person. This person has influenced big decisions in Perry’s life. Perry left his successful, but stressful tech career to become a solopreneur, for example, because of advice from this person.
He also got married.
An enduring friendship also came from these lunches. So did several failed startups. Startups in which Perry and this other person invested significant amounts of money.
A lot of trust and camaraderie has grown between Perry and this person too. Through all this, this person became a mentor of sorts. And for good reason: he has far more startup experience.
But Perry changed a lot over the last few years as he’s upped his spiritual game. Today, he heeds his Inner Being guidance almost exclusively. Not what people in his life, including his wife and close friends, think he should do.
To do lists, others’ expectations, a sense of responsibility or “duty” are mostly irrelevant now.
Spiritual development isn’t magic. The “becoming more” spiritual development promises comes with requirements. Letting go of old ways and turning towards new ones for example, is a prerequisite to becoming more.
The obligation Perry was feeling was exactly that. He faced a “becoming more” requirement: he had this lunch appointment. An appointment he resisted because he knows the lunch no longer serves him.
Giving the lunches up felt like disrespecting all that came from the them. Including disrespecting his long-time friend. But what Perry didn’t know, was a future delightful outcome was in motion.
One that would benefit everyone involved.
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Like all eternal beings, including you, dear reader, Perry has a unique connection to Infinite Intelligence. Infinite Intelligence by definition knows everything you’re wanting and how to lead you to those things.
In fact, it is always guiding you to what you are wanting.
But you have to learn how to hear its guidance. Following that guidance is rewarding, fulfilling and delightful. When you do follow it, you discover your own invincibility. In your invincibility, you discover happiness levels the vast majority of people miss.
You also get everything you’re wanting. Yes, that includes material things.
Perry has proven this to himself over and over, in matters large and small. Including financial matters. Over time, he’s become convinced of his inner guidance’s superiority.
Which brings us back to 10 a.m.
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Perry didn’t want to go to lunch.
He wanted to cancel.
But now it was 11:00. Too late. That’s when Perry’s lunch partner texted, asking if he was on his way.
Busted…by text. Happens a lot.
“Yeah,” Perry texted back. “Getting ready now.”
While getting ready, Perry confided to his wife.
“This lunch doesn’t suit me anymore,” he said. “But I like [the guy] and am feeling resistance in telling him I don’t want to have lunch any more…It’s not that…I just want more of my time to pursue my passions.”
“Well maybe you can reschedule it in a way that gives you more of your time back,” Perry’s wife said.
He nodded in agreement as he put his bike helmet on, then rode off. Feeling conflicted, but certain the lunches were coming to their end-of-life, Perry set his mind to being present.
On his way downtown, he choose from his surroundings pleasing things on which to focus:
The bike ride.
The beautiful weather.
The wonderful bike he owns and how fun it is to ride.
The music playing in his Air Pods. The contribution of all the people that makes it possible to hear music from Air Pods.
The fact that Portland has made it super easy for cyclists to get around.
By the time Perry arrived downtown, he felt much better. That meant he was in tune with his Inner Being.
And that’s when the Big Event happened.
Turns out Perry’s lunch partner was wanting to do the same thing Perry was: consolidate his time.
Normally, the two men record a podcast Wednesday. Doing that takes Perry five hours (including the commute). Wednesday’s show and Thursday’s lunch use as much as seven hours each week.
So Perry’s lunch partner asked if it would be ok to move the recording date to Thursday. That way, both activities could happen in a half-day, instead of spread across two.
That would save Perry almost three hours each week!
It was exactly what Perry was wanting. And he got the solution without doing something he didn’t want to do.
The two long time friends spent the rest of lunch talking about how their lives have changed. Those changes would likely bring their regular lunch dates to an end.
They also talked about sun-setting the podcast. In six months time, or sooner, Perry will likely be free of the podcast and the lunches.
A perfect outcome. For both parties.
And that’s another outcome of upping your spiritual game. When you’re connected with your Inner Being, you get what you want, with ease. And, getting what you want happens in a way that others get what they want too.
These kinds of perfect outcomes become common occurrences. In a short time of paying attention to how you feel and choosing to be happy over anything else, life becomes easy.
Like it’s supposed to be.
When life is easy, life is fun. The fun and ease come from discovering your reality comes at your say-so. When your life experience convinces you of that, you start feeling invulnerable.
Invulnerability is another way of expressing invincibility.
Everyone creates their own reality, whether they know they are or not.
But when a person learns to deliberately do it….life gets really, really interesting.
Life becomes a continuing flow of delightful experiences leading to greater and greater bliss, joy and happiness. Including new relationships with nature. Meanwhile, working hard to get what you want becomes a thing of the past.
You came here to have fun in every moment. Are you ready to experience your own joyful romp?
It was going to be a quick trip. Get the eyeglass adjustment. Go home.
Easy peasy.
What it turned into: something far more interesting.
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During his recent Idaho vacation, Perry wore contact lenses.
That’s because his new glasses, which he ordered well before the trip were not ready. His existing pair wasn’t either. A manufacturer’s defect forced them back to the repair shop.
Perry prefers glasses for many reasons. Napping being one. Napping is more complicated with plastic disks in your eyes.
Glasses are easy. So Perry prefers being bespectacled.
You can imagine his delighted then, when the vision specialist called Perry the first time, two weeks before his vacation. That is, until she told Perry the bad news: his new glasses failed inspection. They’d have to be redone too.
Two different pair of glasses. Two different repair shops. Two warranty problems.
Coincidence?
A long series of “unfortunate events” about Perry’s eyes accented the last few weeks. First came what Perry thought was a scratched cornea.
Nope. Pink eye.
Then he broke his old glasses playing with the family dog. They came back a week later, but just two days after that, broke again. Warranty defect.
Then came his annual vision exam, which prompted the the new glasses order and its attendant manufacturing problems.
That’s when Perry wondered aloud to his wife, just prior to leaving for vacation, that something larger was happening having to do with more than eyeball vision. He wondered -– rightly –– whether his need for clarity, had more to do with his non-physical perception than seeing with his eyes; an expansion of perception which would make more visible the expanding grace Perry –– and every human being –– naturally enjoys.
Perry’s older glasses. It was all working out…in the end what a delicious ride!
Perhaps these experiences were leading up to a new experience Perry; an experience that would delight him by making visible what was there all along, but hidden from him in plain sight.
Like “lost” keys you search frantically for only to find them in the exact spot you checked five times.
Everyone has had that experience.
For Perry though, it wasn’t about lost car keys, but keys to questions he had been asking all his life.
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Your physical reality always, faithfully reflects what is going on with you in the non-physical realm –– that place from which you come, the place from which everything flows from –– through The Moment of Becoming and, finally, into full-blown physical reality. The more you open yourself to this, the more you are able to see and consciously experience both the physical, the non physical and The Moment of Becoming.
It’s a highly satisfying experience to have this experience. And it comes with delightful, practical benefits.
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(At the time all this was happening Perry didn’t know all this. As he writes this blog post, he is coming into clarity as we share what was happening behind the scenes. So now, as he writes, Perry is delighting in the epiphany, his awareness of what it is we’re sharing now.)
Back to glasses, vision and vacations.
It frustrated Perry to hear his new glasses wouldn’t be ready for another week. The specialist assured him they would be ready the following Tuesday. By then, Perry and his wife would be in Idaho. He asked the specialist if it were possible to ship the glasses to the house where they would be. Of course this was possible, she said.
For a price.
And that’s what happened. On Thursday, as promised, with just days of their vacation remaining, the glasses arrived. Cost: $24. Interestingly, around the same time, the other eyeglass shop repairing his older glasses called. Those frames were ready to pick up too.
The coincidence didn’t escape Perry. Two pair, ready to go, but neither nearby.
When the new glasses arrived, they were beautiful. Their case alone is a work of art. They’re more sturdy than his old ones too. Perry enjoyed looking at them. Though they needed adjustments, he wore them instead of the contacts for the rest of their vacation.
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Back home Perry wanted to go to the eyeglass shop for adjustments. But, something else vied for his attention: a nap.
As one’s state of grace, one’s invincibility becomes more obvious, a person is less and less comfortable adhering to what Seth calls “assembly-line time”, the idea instilled in humans that you must work straight through from 8-5 (or worse), with your nose to the grindstone “making it happen” and “getting shit done”.
If you let it, your life experience, shows you how All That Is, your Inner Being and the Universe work together to make things you want to happen happen in your life. When you see how this non-physical “trinity” delivers everything you’re wanting –– with perfect timing and in the perfect way –– more and more you want to let them do work.
A person in their state of grace, in their invincibility, becomes like daisies, trees and the rest of nature: she simply allows her trinity to shower her natural abundance upon her.
Part of that delicious experience, is a renewed relationship with napping.
Abraham and Esther Hicks equate sleeping and meditation. Both refresh oneself by immersing one in one’s origins.
Photo: Ahmet Ali Agir
Perry strives to heed impulses to take naps. But in this case, he wasn’t willing. Everyone has free will. And everyone’s trinity knows how to work with your free will to surprise and delight you.
That is, if you are aware enough to receive the surprise and delight.
Which Perry certainly is.
A person can’t act contrary to one’s state of grace. But it can feel that way. As you’ll soon see.
So Perry went to the shop, feeling tired. When he arrived, there were two people ahead of him and only one person behind the counter. She said everyone had gone to lunch but her. She would be with him as soon as possible.
This was not the person who helped Perry before. Perry felt frustration mixed with his fatigue. But he was committed to not vent his frustration on his reality.
He knows better.
Instead, he sat patiently, expecting everything would work out.
He thought about bagging the whole idea and returning another day. But just before he got up, the woman behind the counter called him over.
She took his new glasses into a back room. Then she returned and put them on Perry’s face. They looked even better than before. They fit better too, which the woman confirmed aloud. Then Perry noticed something strange.
While they did fit better, he noticed the lenses were not symmetrically aligned and the nose bridge was crooked.
The woman noticed this too, but tried to avoid it. When Perry pointed it out, she acknowledged the problem saying the lenses were flawed.
They’d have to go back for a warranty repair. Perry’s frustration returned.
Now Perry knows “frustration” has nothing to do with what is happening in front of him. Instead, it always has to do with what is going on inside him. His physical world simply reflects back to him his internal realitiy…with 100 percent experiential acuity.
This is so with every human. No exceptions.
So when the woman behind the counter apologized for the inconvenience, knowing Perry had been waiting a while for these glasses, Perry took a deep breath, then smiled and said “It’s ok”.
She wondered aloud if he had a spare. Which reminded him: his other glasses were ready to be picked up. Perry had forgotten about that.
What perfect timing, he thought. Even when it feels like things are going wrong, it’s actually working out with perfect timing. Perry left his new glasses feeling lighter.
Back home he again felt the urge to take a nap. But by now, the momentum of Perry’s frustration had a hold of him and his life experience. Taking a nap was a possibility, but it was much more probable Perry would continue along his frustration path.
This is why it is important to cultivate positive expectations.
Taking a nap would have reset Perry’s positive momentum, thus affording him a better rest of his day. What happened instead was both clarifying and hilarious.
He decided to take the car to the other repair shop and get his old glasses. The other repair shop is across town. Not walking distance like the first shop.
Now Perry doesn’t like to drive in traffic. This was all happening after lunch on a week day. So he could expect traffic to be less than it would have been in the morning, evening or at lunch. But guess what?
That’s right.
Not only did Perry get stopped by virtually every traffic light, he also got “stuck” behind every slow driver, bus, tractor trailer…you name it…it came into Perry’s path.
When he finally got to the repair shop, a woman was just getting into her car to leave. Her street-side parking spot was choice. Perry pulled just behind her, turned on his signal and waited.
And waited.
And waited.
The more he waited, the more Perry could feel his frustration rise. What the hell was the woman doing in there?
Considering the drive over, Perry’s frustration could be cut with a knife. And the more he focused on his frustration, the more frustrated he got.
Meanwhile, the woman was not leaving.
That’s when two guys came out of the shop and jumped in their pick up sitting in a curbside parking spot across the street from the parked woman.
The truck started. Perry turned his other turn signal on.
But they didn’t move either. Instead, the driver and passenger started smoking!
Unbelievable!
Just when his frustration was peaking, Perry had a cathartic epiphany about this day the last two-weeks, and he his and his wife’s experiences on their vacation. Then, in that realization, something in him gave way.
The peace and well-being Perry knew to be his norm returned in a flood of relief, clarity and awareness.
And in that moment, Perry looked to the left. Inside the repair shop parking lot: there right next to the front door…
…was an open parking space.
No one had left. It had been open all this time.
Perry laugh out loud as he pulled in, went into the shop, got his glasses, then drove home….
There is no distinction between a spiritual practice and wantonly consuming material goods. Both produce the same result. Guaranteed.
So go ahead and consume all you want. Or live your life as an ascetic.
It doesn’t matter too much really.
And don’t worry about the planet. It is easily handling the demand. Though it seems like it’s not.
We know, science isn’t on our side.
That is, if we had a side, science wouldn’t be there. Not yet anyway.
Whether you’re determined to master meditation, go vegan, drive an electric car and recycle everything or generate enough wealth to buy an Airstream, a yacht, five houses and a G-5, you’re eventually going to come to the same realizations.
Everyone arrives at the same realizations after death.
Some, again, on both paths, get there before that.
That’s rare.
Those who do are venerated. Bill Gates–Deepak Chopra. Leonardo DiCaprio–Eckhart Tolle….there are endless examples of the venerable on either path.
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Some say you can not be spiritual let alone experience higher consciousness while pursuing material satisfaction. These people sometimes see consumerism itself as possibly the worst invention of modern civilization, and the most conspicuous consumers, a scourge.
Many people out there rail against material success.
But when you consider where all this material stuff comes from, how it is produced and why, you discover something interesting: the pursuit of material satisfaction is just as powerful a path to “enlightenment” as any spiritual one.
That’s because, all things material, including the pursuit itself, is a spiritual process.
To explain:
Where is all this stuff coming from? Photo credit: ohmky unsplash
Where do things come from?
Every invention starts with inspiration. Whether it’s Facebook, Medium, A Tesla, or BlackKKlansman, creation starts with an idea. Where do ideas come from?
Science will tell you they come from associative processes in the brain which constantly fire in the background of conscious awareness. But there are many steps prior to that process that happen that science doesn’t know about.
These steps take place nowhere “near” the brain. Let alone in the brain.
For example, we recently were designated a Medium Top Writer in the Racism tag. We had no idea there was even such a thing as a “Top Writer”.
One day three weeks ago, we got the impulse (a strong urge) to share our work on Medium. We had been sporadically doing so, but two weeks ago, that strong desire turned into a process where we gradually attained a three-story-a-day publishing regimen.
There was no problem in our mind needing a creative solution. We didn’t even think about how to attain Top Writer status, let along in the Racism tag. We simply started including Medium as a publishing outlet of our work, enjoying the artistic process along the way.
We know the coordination of events in the physical world which had this result show up in our life experience occurred in a “place” we call The Moment Of Becoming. That place doesn’t exist anywhere in physical reality, and is certainly outside the brain. Rather it is a conduit through which material reality emerges.
This is why we practice being more immediately responsive to our intuitions. We have seen so much evidence that intuition is not a random, unreliable source of knowledge, but a highly accurate, intelligent and reliable guide to getting everything we want.
Even things we don’t realize we’re wanting. Until we have them. Such as this Top Writer thing.
The inspiration to increase our publishing on Medium came from somewhere.
Where did it come from? From that no place we call The Moment Of Becoming.
Photo: JD Mason
It is the same place a desire for a car, or a bigger house or a better job comes from: an innate process all humans have and use as expressions of aware-ized life experience.
Aware-ized life experience, which is what you are, desires more of everything. As those desires are satisfied, satisfaction births new desires propelling aware-ized life experience “forward”….along the lines of specific desire focuses, or “channels” or, as Seth calls them: Value Fulfillment.
Inspiration is individual guidance from the larger part of who we all are. It indicates paths through which Value Fulfillment can ultimately be experienced, in a given moment of the collocation of time, space, events and participating expressions of aware-ized life experience.
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A person is born with a natural desire to create. She seemingly fumbles around for a bit in life until she gets her footing and tunes into her intuition –– her innate impulses “sounding” from “non physical” and received in The Moment Of Becoming.
All during the fumbling she is creating, but indeliberately. Indeliberate creation is valuable too. So it’s not wasted energy. No more than the millions of seeds a tree produces, only a very few of which actually become trees.
Intuitive inspiration doesn’t just come out of nowhere, it results from a long series of deliberate and focused attention resulting in a momentum of accretion around a value fulfilment unique and inherent to the individual intuition receiver.
At some point our intrepid human follows that inspiration. It doesn’t matter when, because, like all of us, she is eternal. As she gives more and more attention to the inspired idea, resources in the form of people, money, opportunities and events accrete around her.
This process is sometimes delayed by a person who is not naturally attuned to what is going on. A person might try to use the world of “doing” or “action”, manipulating matter, people and events, in order to fulfill intention. Those naturally attuned to this process we’re describing, use far less action, are much more effective and enjoy the journey far more than those who aren’t.
Some time later our individual has a product or service or some kind of value or usefulness to offer. The gestation is perfectly culminated to coincide with the desire for said product or service. Or….due to one or many factors, there is a delay prior to the co-incidence of events wherein eager consumers are ready to consume said value.
This delay humans like to call “failure”.
Which is a misnomer, because there really is no such thing. Just like seeds that don’t grow into trees aren’t “failures”.
In the former instance, where everything comes together easily, consumers consume said invention and life moves on. In the latter, an infinite number of alternative events can result, depending on how the maker reacts to the gap between desire expression (wanting to create value for others) and actual desire realization (having someone consume said offer).
Both parties – consumers and producers – are collaborators in this process. Inventors invent based on input from those who want the invention. That communication happens in non-physical, then is “seeded” to many potential “inventors” simultaneously, which explains why multiple inventors will have the same idea at the same time.
It also explains why patent law is a joke.
But that’s another story.
Collaboration includes aware-ized life experience expressed in the physical world as the material resources used to make the product or service. All matter is representative and contains within it aware-ized energy. Everything is alive, in other words.
The satisfaction gained by all parties in the consumption of the thing –– from the smallest particle to the largest instantiation…a planet perhaps –– and the value produced is the “more” that was only “potential” when the seed of inspiration got planted.
Thus, with the blooming of invention leading to the delight of consumption, the universe, All That Is and all participating parties become more.
Even graffiti taken to “more” becomes beautiful in itself. It is the same with life. Photo credit: anders nord
In an ideal world, humanity would work its wonders to create more and more efficient and useful (i.e. valuable) ideas which increase the capacity and efficiency of its productive capability as well as the productive enjoyment of humanity’s physical environment, with no resource exhaustion.
Expanding desire would cause resource expansion and both would keep pace with each other in an ongoing expansion of everything.
We see this happening despite obvious signs to the contrary.
But the timing of “desire” and “fulfilment” is wonky because humans pay too much attention to What Is Happening, lose connection with their invincibility, experience fear and insecurity and act from those places.
This connection loss opens a can of worms too complex to go into here. Suffice it to say, we see the world today, where “waste”, seeming resource depletion and environmental destruction are the order of the day instead of what we’re describing.
And yet, underneath all this is what we’re describing: everything working wonderfully in an elegant and consistent orientation towards more and better for everyone and everything.
The problems humanity faces are due to many factors, one of which being the belief that goes something like this:
“Everything has a cost and if you can’t tell me how to pay for it, I’m not going to support it. And if I have to pay for it and I don’t agree it should be done, forget about it, particularly if it benefits others, or makes them lazy. People should work for what they get.”
Desire causes opportunity for desire satisfaction, leading to desire fulfillment, then more desire and thus more “more”. Beliefs like the above just slow things down greatly delaying the process and leaving those who could enjoy satisfaction not enjoying it.
Until after the death moment.
Aware-ized life experience has an insatiable desire for more. It will always desire to experience more of itself. This positive feedback loop –– the desire to have more experiences is partially responsible for you (being an instance of aware-ized life experience) being eternal: it’s just not possible for you to come to an end because you are constantly creating more life experience through experiencing your life experience.
How Consumption Equals Enlightenment.
As we said above, some achieve great prosperity allowing a level of material freedom that affords freedom of time and resource abundance. Sometimes in this state, a person begins to look inward or outward, or both. They want to do good. And they want to be able point to the good and say “see, that’s because of me”.
So they “try” to become more than they perceive themselves to be.
That is the same outcome some “spiritual” people can also arrive at. For every single spiritual guru we can think of has turned to do exactly what some very wealthy people do. They just do it in ways consistent with the path they are on.
Some spiritual “finders” tend to also become wealthy. Particularly those in the west. In those cases we see them trod both paths: spiritual and material, blessing the world and people as they go along.
But no matter the path, those who make it while still in a body is small. In fact, there are a lot more who don’t make it than those who do.
The following is going to get heady….
What Is Happening and How The What Is Happening Is Happening
People get stuck in another feedback loop, where they don’t understand the “How The What Is Happening” part of What Is Happening. Thus they get lost in the happening, instead of understanding the How The What Is Happening Is Happening.
Lost there, they see the world as random, uncaring dangerous and risky. Their only recourse is to try to take charge of the What Is Happening part. They are oblivious to the How The What Is Happening Is Happening part, even though the “How….” part is the funnest, most enjoyable part of the whole process making up the “What…”.
Thus the challenges in the world.
Racism, sexism, Trump and his supporters, the alt right and the alt-left, Russia and the US, wars, poverty, disease, etc. All sides of any “issue” are oblivious to How What Is Happening Is Happening. Instead they are dazzled by What Is Happening.
So they take sides.
In their dazzlement, they stumble through life fighting against What Is Happening, where they have no power instead of focusing on the “How…” part, where all their power is.
Thus, they suffer.
With the right guidance a person can easily navigate their awareness from the What Is Happening, back to the How What Is Happening Is Happening, regain their power (and their invincibility) and therefore be a Conscious Creator Of Reality.
That understanding, and the deliberate creations which results from that, is enlightenment.
Few are doing that right now, but oh, boy how times are a changing!
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There is no difference between living “spiritually” and living immersed in a consumer lifestyle. Both create experiences which can but usually do not produce lasting fulfillment and unshakable happiness. Not until after death.
Which is why, when it does happen, we venerate such people for their rarity.
The ultimate path of humanity is to become a vast collection of super human individuals in a vast civilization of super humans. We’re speaking both materially and spiritually since they’re one in the same.
We’re a long way from that. But we’re happy with a civilization of ordinary humans, punctuated every now and then by individuals who are super human.
The venerable position of “invincible super human” is available to everyone. Both paths can lead there.
Everyone gets there eventually.
So don’t sweat it. Consumer or Ascetic. You’re on the right path. And eventually, you’ll arrive.
In most things you’re wanting, the way you’re going to get it is through people.
Sometimes that includes simple things like delightful, seemingly random (they aren’t random) meetings telling you you’re on your path.
Two days ago, after a wonderful meditation, Perry felt the urge to ride his bike along the lake where he and his wife are vacationing. He thought such a ride, about 20 miles round-trip, would be a nice experience.
But the tires on his bike had deflated a bit on the way to the lake.
Perry didn’t bring a pump. Instead of being disappointed about it, he saw it as a merry adventure: how was he going to inflate his tires? He was eager for the answer.
He looked around for a bike pump but found none. He did find a compressor though, with a tire-inflation tube attached, but the valve wasn’t the kind that would fit his bike.
A valve fitting meant for standard valves. Not the kind of valves on Perry’s bike.
That’s when he thought of those conversion valves which allow a pump to work on any kind of bike tube valve stem. Any bike shop carried these items, he knew, so he decided to ride his bike further into town to buy a couple.
The tires still had enough air in them to make the trip.
The way from the house to the lake trail is single-track, like a mountain bike trail. It’s rocky and bumpy and winds between trees and bushes, up hills and down. Perry enjoyed that part of the ride.
About two miles into the entire 22-mile ride, Perry got his first indication this ride was going to be interesting:
He realized he forgot the keys to his bike lock.
Now most people would think this is something that happens all the time. And it does. Your “higher self” your “inner being” “god”, “the Universe” whatever name you give it, is always communicating with you. The trick is, how open are you to receiving the messages?
Perry is open.
So instead of reacting in frustration or annoyance at forgetting his keys, he merrily turned around and headed back to the lake house. Doubling back, he saw something that looked like a black snake in the middle of the trail. As he approached it, the snake turned out to be his bicycle chain lock.
Perry had left the bike’s tool bag open. Riding over the open trail caused the lock to fly out of the bag.
That was Perry’s second realization.
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Now an interesting thing to note. Everything happens on purpose. So when All That Is (that’s the nomenclature we prefer) orchestrates an event like losing or forgetting your keys, there is a reason. As this story unfolds, you’re going to understand why.
So bear with us. The story gets much better.
(Right now as Perry writes this, he is reveling in the realization we have just alluded to. Since he knows the entire story, he already has made the connection. Before writing the paragraph above, he didn’t have this realization. You will get the point of this whole story at the end.)
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Perry’s ride back to his house set up the series of events that would not have happened had the ride back to the house not happened. And this is the case with everything happening in your life. Even when you lose something.
So Perry rode back to the house, got his keys, made sure the zipper on his tool bag was secure, then headed back towards the lake trail.
Along the trail he crossed paths with other bikers, all of whom smiled, waved or otherwise said hi to Perry. When you’re in the presence and aware of your Inner Being, your Inner Being matches you with people who are also in that state in the moment you are. So each of these micro-rendezvous were also indicators.
Having had these indicators and being aware of their receiving, Perry was prepared consciously, for the Big Event.
He followed the curve of the lake shore and came upon a white cargo van towing a trailer of equipment. It was parked parallel along the trail and the side closest to the trail was open. Inside the van was a man not much older than Perry, playing an upright piano.
Huh?
Jeff Playing his piano out of his work van.
It was the strangest thing to Perry and it stuck out of his environment like a sore thumb.
Who keeps a piano in their work van?
The van was packed with cleaning equipment boxes, insulation and cleaning tools. But there was just enough room for the piano, a stool and the guy playing it. Perry rode past the van but then realized this meant something.
So he turned around.
They guy was playing 80s hits, Perry’s favorites in his 20s. After a resounding rendition of a tune from that era, the man turned around to see he had an audience.
What happened next was remarkable. They guy, Jeff, said hi then asked Perry for a song to play. He rambunctiously played it to Perry’s delight. Then, for what seemed like an hour Jeff and Perry talked about Southern California (where they both from) music (which they both love) the 80s, business and more. Jeff was restarting his very successful mobile detail business here in Idaho. He had just moved here from California where he had been tremendously successful detailing planes, boats and cars of “the very rich”.
The connection was so natural and easy for both Perry and Jeff. Like they were old friends.
Jeff said he was taking his lunch break, decided to do so at that spot, because he figured he would be able to do some marketing. His van has big signs on either side.
It was obvious to Perry that Jeff was naturally in tune with his Inner Being. Very successful in business, married to a very successful wife, Jeff had been living his life on his terms for all his life. Perry could tell Jeff was happy. And his life reflected that.
Who plays a piano on their lunch break?
But wait, there’s more.
While enjoying a chat old buds would have, an obviously affluent, older woman pulled up. She asked Jeff for his card, then told him she had a number of expensive boats she needed help with right away.
After several minutes, Jeff gave her his card, turned and flashed Perry a gigantic smile. Perry felt the satisfaction of his own life, reflected in that smile. Obviously Jeff and Perry were sharing a special moment.
The woman left and Perry and Jeff both high-fived each other, excited about this real demonstration that life is lived best in a state of grace, a state of expectation thatlife is supposed to work out, always.
After the woman left, Jeff said something Perry will never forget.
Perry is in the process of growing four different companies, a couple of which are highly ambitious. So Jeff’s words were perfect. They were exactly what Perry was looking for.
“The best way to grow a company is organically,” Jeff said. “I’ve got [companies] contacting me online asking $600 a month to do marketing for me. But what I’ve found is best is letting it grow organically.”
We couldn’t agree more.
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The rest of Perry’s ride was equally monumental, with epiphanies and rendezvous which made the ride, enjoyable, yes, but also deeply meaningful.
And, had he not lost his keys, he would not have taken twice the time to reach the spot where Jeff and he met. That’s the kind of orchestration a human being can’t possibly manipulate into existence. And, everything you’re wanting –– no matter how big or small –– is being orchestrated by All That Is, your Inner Being and the Universe, what we refer to as your personalized trinity in exactly this way.
Every life moment can be this way for every one. No exceptions.
Perry more often than not exists in a state of perpetual strong connection to his personalized trinity after many years of practice, through multiple disciplines. So he is constantly realizing events in which people or animals or events coordinate just so to punctuate his good feelings with real-life demonstrations such as this one. Thus, he lives in a real, conscious state of invulnerability, knowing he and he alone creates his reality.
It wasn’t always that way for Perry. But that’s another story.
There is no end to how better life can get. Discovering you create your own reality and as such can live any life you choose is intoxicating. And, there is no ceiling to how good your life can get either.
Everything is possible.
Maybe you don’t believe that. If you allow it, your life will change that.
In future posts, we’ll be sharing more of Perry’s life experiences. We hope you enjoyed this one as much as we and Perry enjoyed sharing it with you.
Your life is a series of rendezvous with people and events bringing everything you are wanting. You came into the world to be happy.
Those who don’t understand their invincibility project it into their reality. They imbue superheros, kings, and gods with what they themselves have, but of which they are ignorant.
A state of grace surrounds you. You’re no different from plants, animals and mountains in this way.
Through your grace you get everything you want. Including invincibility.
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Grace = the state of being favored.
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Obvious evidence demonstrates your grace state. But it’s almost always taken for granted. The sun which bathes you continually, the air, available to you in abundance, and the physical framework –– principally this planet upon which and through which all your desires are received by you, all offer overwhelming evidence.
That’s not all though. Millions of evidence bits demonstrating your favored status surround you.
We can see at least 25 indicators of our state of grace. You?
Your natural grace is hard to acknowledge when you’re bunged up in daily life, trying to make things happen.
But more focus brought to the obvious signs, begets greater realization of equally obvious, but much more tantalizing and highly desired ones.
For example, Perry* and his wife, Bridget are on a vacation in Northern Idaho. On their way up from Boise, where they were visiting with Bridget’s daughter, Bridget, who has difficulty sitting in cars for long periods, wondered aloud whether there would be a place they could take a break, use the bathroom, stretch their legs and enjoy a snack.
She really had to go.
She first tried what most would do in this modern, technological era: she pulled out her phone to see what lay ahead via her maps app.
But there was no service.
She was technologically, temporarily blind.
Aloud, in mild frustration, she mentioned having paper maps as backups for this exact reason, but then, knowing much of what Perry knows, she decided to see this as an opportunity to practice receiving in her grace.
She settled into the ride, enjoying obvious signs of how blessed she is:
Blessed to have a business that supports her with a nice summer break
Blessed for having had time to spend with her daughter who is at school
Blessed with a wonderful car that functions flawlessly
Blessed with awesome traveling weather
Blessed with a wonderful canine companion, her doggy-baby
Immersed in her “grace recognition”, she felt better.
Bridget and Perry’s doggy-baby
Meanwhile, Perry, who was driving, was appreciating Idaho’s scenic beauty.
They were driving alongside Payette River, which meanders through the landscape. The road mirrors the river’s twists and turns. Around every bend was something new and wonderful to see.
With both feeling their grace, they were delighted by what happened next.
Rounding another bend they saw 70 yards of white sand along the river, bordered by the typical bouldered river shore. Beside the beach: picnic tables, tall triees…and a restroom along the road. Plenty of space to park, they had the whole place to themselves.
Bridget saw it first and recognized immediately the peculiar timing. Her grace had been demonstrated by her, to her. Arriving at that particular spot, on a 285 mile journey, exactly when she wanted nothing more than a break. Not only was there a bathroom, there was a beach.
On a river.
A scenic beach and picnic area on a river. Including a bathroom. Perfect evidence of our state of grace. What evidence are you seeing?
Coincidence? If you consider the perfect co-inciding of events, orchestrated with such exact timing that both people could delight in the experience, then yes, it’s a “coincidence”.
This is the way life is supposed to be.
For everyone.
Getting everything you’re wanting, large and small with ease is our natural state.
And when you learn to see the evidence of this constantly, you develop something which eludes most everybody on the planet: An invincibility born of realizing so much evidence of your grace that no other conclusion fits.
Invincibility born of grace.
It’s a superhuman characteristic that is real.
And you have it.
We refer to our physical presence by its given name for clarity and ease of story telling.
Humanity will find itself in a brand new world the moment it realizes competition is not a thing. And oh what a beautiful world it will be.
That new world is not going to happen in a flash of enlightenment.
It’s going to happen the way it’s happening now: a gradual collective realization over generations as more and more individuals realize who and what they are, then come into the world in their successive life experiences consistently living from that place.
“Who they are”
You are not human. Human is a form adopted in order to experience physical reality. The human form, with its fleshy-bony countenance, is as tied to physical reality as reality itself.
Not you.
Which is why remains following your after death.
This doesn’t only apply to humans. All physical matter experiences this.
We are all eternal, unlimited and rambunctious expressions of All That Is, that wonderfully complex origin from which we all came from long, long ago. All That Is does not lord over us like gods. We have no need to appease it with any kind of sacrifice or surrender. We are it. There is no separation. That’s who we are. That’s who you are. Not human.
“What they are”
This is far more interesting than “who”. Humans believe they are the only sentient species on the planet. Save for maybe dogs and dolphins and monkeys. But there is far more sentient awareness than that.
Every form of physical matter, from the smallest particle to the largest object, hums with awareness. Life experience itself, is itself, aware and alive. And each physical instance existing within life experience is itself an aware and alive whole and complete instance of life experience. There is no separation here either. This is what you are.
Call it “aware-ized life experience”.
If the answers above to both these questions are accurate, and if there is no separation within and among anything (because everything is encompassed in the two answers above), then how can there be competition?
Competition with who? With what?
Sounds strange?
We know it does.
There are thousands of ways of describing the process that always has been aware and is now experiencing itself as innumerable whole and complete instances of itself.
These innumerable instances, again, whole and complete in themselves, exist simultaneously and, more importantly, cooperatively in a boundless positive feedback gestalt that always becomes bigger, better, more.
And it never ends.
Somewhere way back there, human instantiations of aware-ized life experience adopted beliefs that are far off the mark. Those beliefs spawned even more distortions.
Today we’re living their legacies.
“Competition” is one of these. But there are so many more such beliefs. And when you tug on one, you discover its intricate connection to others. It’s like a Gordian Knott: bewildering to contemplate unraveling.
Belief in competition produces high levels of insecurity, instability, fear and pronounced feelings of lack of self efficacy. It’s everywhere in modern society.
Nowhere is it better expressed in the United States than in the White House.
The world you experience reflects back to you that which you yourself are ready to see.
Sometimes, though, the signs have to get more overt before “seeing” happens.
Either way, you eventually get it.
Then life shifts.
We’re at one of those moments right now. And as terrible as it may feel “on all sides”, the result of all this churn is going to amaze.
Not everyone will see it.
Not everyone needs to.
Those who do will find themselves in a whole new world.
