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How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome And Be Happy

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TL;DR: A client transformed from feeling like an imposter to embracing self-love and confidence. By shifting focus inward, he overcame suicidal thoughts, found authenticity, and now thrives in the Charmed Life.

A surprising number of clients express having once experienced “Imposter Syndrome”. Usually, they make such statements after getting over that syndrome. Often, Imposter Syndrome precedes thoughts about killing themselves. Both the syndrome and wanting to kill one’s self point to a tremendously good thing. But most people can’t see the good; they only see the not good.

That’s why I do this work. I love it when people “suffering” from such conditions find their empowerment through those same conditions. On the way to building a permanent happiness in their lives, they find their empowerment and their confidence too. Sometimes, clients let me share their stories. In that way they become shining beacons for others. Their example helps others improve their lives.

Such is the case with the client who allowed me to share a segment of his recent session. In this session, he raved about his progress and about how much he loves who he has become. In that becoming, he’s not only learned to own his bad-assery, he also has found his authenticity feels better than trying to please people by being a chameleon.

Let’s look more closely at his story.

“I was making all that money…but still wanted to kill myself.”

Cain is an Positively Focused advanced client. As a result, he’s not only living the Charmed Life, he’s an example to others about what’s possible through the Positively Focused practice.

Before discovering Positively Focused, he was making a lot of money, but he still wasn’t happy. A big part of his unhappiness was feeling like an imposter, not feeling he fit in anywhere and struggling with being happy. But don’t take my word for it. Hear it directly from him. The video below comes right from our recent 1:1 session.

As you can tell, Cain has found an extraordinary level of self-love. Self love happens naturally once a person reaches for and achieves the Charmed Life I write about in this blog. The Charmed Life is the natural way of living. Living this way we’re free to be ourselves, no matter what other people think about us.

But very few people live their lives this way. Or they’re living a counterfeit version of it, where what they’re actually doing is reacting to what other people think of what they’re doing by living in a certain way as a kind of rebellion toward others’ opinions. That’s not the Charmed Life.

At their wits’ end

People can live according to how others think they should live for a long time. They can live their entire lives that way. But rarely do those people find happiness.

They may make a lot of money, like Cain was doing. But inside, they’re suffering. Some of those people end up wanting to kill themselves. Some actually do. About a third of my client roster comprises people who once thought about killing themselves. But everyone of them is now finding permanent happiness.

Why do so many people come to Positively Focused or something like Law of Attraction wanting to kill themselves as many of my clients have? I think it’s because they are at their wits’ end. They try everything else first because it doesn’t occur to them that the solution to their problems lies inside them.

So they try doing everything else they can. When that doesn’t work, their last stop tends to be something “woo”, like Law of Attraction or Positively Focused. They give up trying to “do” their way out of their problems, in other words. They try being. And then they get what they always wanted: Permanent happiness, a.k.a the Charmed Life.

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Why Spiritual Growth Feels Hard (And How to Make It Easier)

Spiritual growth is a flame we feed with focus. The light we seek waits not in grace bestowed, but in daily devotion — where each breath becomes a match to our divine becoming.

A client over the weekend realized this, although not so poetically. He claimed he was either “lazy” or “bad at the [Positively Focused] practice” because he felt so negatively. I begged to differ. “How can you be lazy or bad at the practice when you’re not doing the practice?” I asked.

Now this client, a veteran of the practice for many years, has a LOT of negative momentum born of pretty intense past experiences. And, he’s made TREMENDOUS progress in expanding out of really negative beliefs, and their corresponding negative emotions, into a more chronic, happy state.

But times do occur where he still feels really bad. Those feelings and associated old beliefs surface, then he succumbs. The reason he succumbs, and I told him this, is because he doesn’t do the practice.

So what is “the practice”?

We must do the homework

In addition to attending sessions wherein I offer guidance, clients are given a series of “homework assignments”, practices or processes. These processes help them connect with their Broader Perspective. But they also establish a foundation of vibrational alignment by developing habits of focus. Without doing these assignments, clients become an untethered sail in the midst of a vibrational mistral.

That was this client’s experience and explained why he felt lazy or bad at the practice. The problem wasn’t laziness or poor performance. It’s that he hadn’t been doing the practice at all. So he’s been like an untethered sail.

And yet, he keeps coming to sessions. Why?

Because in session I hold a very high vibration. One that makes people feel good when they collapse into it. That exposure alone can create enough positive momentum in a person’s life to see positive results. But the real results show up when people do the homework.

And this is why spiritual growth feels hard. It’s because the aspirant must devote themselves to the practice daily. The Positively Focused homework makes spiritual growth easier.

We all enjoy free will. That means we don’t have to do anything, even when our experience of life is near always awful. No one will bestow spiritual growth upon us, or a better life upon us. We must do it ourselves through a daily devotion, a daily practice.

And for many, “devotion” can feel hard. It’s not, but it can feel that way. That’s why people like me exist. People who can light the way for others to follow, to accompany them through their storms. To tether their sail to our stable vibrational halyard, when focus wavers under strong vibrational winds.

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How To Live Happily Ever After For Regular People

Happily ever after is not just a story book tale. It can be the story of everyone’s lives. But it takes focus. After all, what does “live happily ever after” actually mean?

Is it riches and wealth? Is it a partner for life? Maybe an animal companion or a great occupation? Is it playing video games all day? Being high all the time?

I can tell you many people have one, some or all these conditions and more. And they’re not happy. Let alone happy “ever after”.

So what is living happily ever after?

It means in every moment one experiences happiness. And that happiness continues on and on and on and on…right up to one’s transition (and beyond, actually). The kind of happiness that looks like that, most people don’t enjoy.

That’s because one must choose to be happy. And they must choose it again, again and again and again…right up to one’s transition. The problem is, and I’m sure you know this, dear reader, most people don’t deliberately choose their state of being in any given moment. Most don’t think they can choose an emotional state. Instead, they let circumstances choose the emotion for them.

That’s not a recipe for happily ever after. That too is why so many think happily ever after only applies to story books. Not to “reality”.

But it does apply to reality too. If we develop the habit of choosing happiness, choosing to be positive, no matter what’s happening, then we can enjoy living happily ever after. It’s not easy making happiness habitual. Not at first. Like any habit though, continued practice makes it easy. So easy it becomes a habit.

Want proof that it’s possible? Look at your life now. Maybe you, like so many, let circumstances dictate how you feel. It seems instantaneous and is…because you’ve allowed it to become habitual. That’s proof that you can allow happiness to become habitual too. So you have evidence it’s possible.

My clients are living the possibility. This explains why they keep coming back. It also explains why they feel so good about life. Because happiness (positivity) is habit forming. And there’s nothing like a habit. A habit that feels good.

Happily ever after is available to everyone. Suffering and sadness (or any other negative emotion) is optional. Are you ready to make your way to happily ever after? Consider becoming a client. I’d be happy to show you the way.

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What Multidimensional Shifts Reveal About Consciousness

I’m regularly traveling into alternate dimensions these days. So often I do so, they now just seem like every day occurrences. And yet, I don’t take them for granted. That’s because they offer so many touch points for my expansion.

One Positively Focused advanced client experiences similar “departures”. That’s confirming. It tells me these aren’t “hallucinations” or “fantasies” my brain makes up. Rather, they happen for anyone willing to allow their consciousness to travel free of the body.

Any visual experience that goes beyond ordinary waking reality is a “departure” from physical reality. They’re what I nowadays call “multidimensional consciousness shifts”. My “allowing” started with a series of sensations which happened in meditation. I’ve written about these many times in my early posts. They got stronger, and rather than resisting them or fearing them, I first brought conscious focus to them. I wanted to amplify them.

Then, at one point, I became indifferent to the sensations. Instead, I focused on their origin. The sensations themselves are echoes of a source. They are not the source itself. That focus actually caused the sensations to strengthen.

Those experiences gave way to full-on, sudden transitions into alternate realities. I’m getting better at holding onto them and bringing them back into my present-moment waking reality. But they still come in a fleeting manner.

What it looks like

Here’s an example of a multidimensional consciousness shift that happened in meditation this morning, straight from my records:

I was in an industrial area, a rundown industrial area, one that was about to be demolished. A great big warehouse stood before me off in the distance a bit, and where I stood, accompanying me was a band of women, all beautiful, of different aspects…I felt at home there. I then walked forward toward the warehouse. As I approached, these great big demolition trucks appeared before me. They were facing me and as I walked through the line of trucks I came to a van expecting to see my partner, my female partner there…I came back into this reality and meditation. Then I had another shift wherein I saw a male in construction worker protective equipment. He was using a shovel to dig into the earth where little plants grew. It wasn’t a garden. It was more like a median strip or a public park or something like that.

There’s a difference between these shifts and my extremely detailed, long-form dream experiences. The former always feels like current reality in the sense that the environment I visit feels ordinary. The latter always feels magical, whimsical.

Accompanying dream sojourns are intense emotions, almost always including deep senses of love and belonging. What’s more, dream imagery always conveys some kind of meaning or intention. Every object in the dream carries such a message. Not so with multidimensional consciousness shifts.

Shifting versus dreaming

That’s because where I end up when shifting is happening “on the other side” of nonphysical. The places I go are like this reality. They are leading edge, full-blown manifestations of energy intention, just like this physical reality. As leading edge manifestations, they are fully-formed so to speak.

Dreams are not fully-formed the way physical is. They are real. But they carry a process energy and occur in nonphysical, not “on the other side” of this reality. Because of that, the experience itself is many layered, fluid, and infused with the creative energy that is me.

When shifting I visit a me-counterpart having their own experience. When dreaming, I am in the center of my All-That-Is-ness experiencing nonphysical directly, unfiltered.

Of course, there’s a method to such meetings I call multidimensional consciousness shifts. Shifts I experience, the locations I visit, are resonant with vibrations I emanate in meditation. So I can glean meaning from those travels.

But for now, I just enjoy the travel itself.

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The Jedi Path: How Focus Makes People Powerful

It’s so obvious to me that beliefs create reality. My own three-decade experience and over seven years working with clients and observing their experiences prove this undoubtedly. When clients start getting this, and it takes a while, they really turn on their power.

I often compare this YCYOR business to being a Jedi. Mastering the YCYOR way is similar to learning how to use the Force. So are the abilities that accompany such mastery. Once a person understands how the Universe works, they also get the power they possess. Then they can use that power.

They can use that power for whatever they want.

It doesn’t matter if others consider “what they want” “good” or “evil”. A new client, who is really gifted at this practice, recognized this in our recent session. She’s mixed race, in her 30s and very progressive. Yet, when we met, she brought up Donald Trump. She wanted confirmation of her conclusion that Trump is a powerful manifester.

Of course he is. It’s obvious when we observe his actions and what he says. For the most part he doesn’t care what others think. He doesn’t even care about what most of us would call “reality”. He creates his own. And he holds that creation until the world around him reflects that creation.

All the time in the world

I sense similar potential in the young woman client. She can create anything she wants, once she soothes beliefs that have her doubt what she wants as well as doubt herself. This is true with many clients.

Another, advanced practice client, who I once compared to Anakin Skywalker, just today understood what I’ve been telling him for years: That he has the potential to create great “good” or the opposite of that. In other words, his Jedi abilities are strong:

That’s how much potential he has. It’s not coincidence that he, too, is in his late 20s. Young, in other words.

The Universe and how it works isn’t bothered by human ideals of moral, immoral, good or bad. Look around. That should be obvious. As yet another young client recently said, “the Universe is indifferent to what you want, it just responds to your vibration,” meaning you’re going to get what you focus one not what you “want.” This client, too, is on the leading edge, is young and full of potential.

I’ve said this to many clients old and young alike: It’s a total misunderstanding that “adults” are here to teach children. The opposite is actuality: children come in as the leading edge. They’re here to take what adults have made, and leap into what’s becoming. In other words, they’re here to show adults what expansion now looks like.

Almost all parents don’t get that. So they push young people off their trajectory. And thus, it takes longer for “what’s becoming” to become.

Which is another good reason why we’re all eternal.

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Turning Hell Into Light: How Contrast Fuels Expansion

A lot of contrast happened this week. Mastery of the Positively Focused practice transforms contrast, what ordinary people would call “negative” experience, into fuel for expansion, so this week offered a lot of fuel for my expansion.

And expand I did. That expansion included more detailed integration of old beliefs. Old beliefs having to do with money, tying money to my self-worth, and soothing species-level beliefs where they coagulate in the collective consciousness.

That location, where the coagulation happens, is what people would call “the underworld”. That is, if religion didn’t confuse people about what that place is really about. But because most people are confused by religion, and therefore fear that place, they avoid having any awareness of it.

Not me. That’s because we can’t fully expand without re-integrating fully into ourselves, our contribution to that coagulation. And I’m committed to my full expansion. So that means visiting the underworld and doing my part to untangle all that. Also, I have a larger agenda than just expanding myself. I apparently am also about expanding all of humanity.

That explains no less than three forays into the underworld this week alone. I’m going to write a detailed post about what that looked like. But I can assure you, the density of that level of consciousness is….harrowing….

But the light I brought to that region was transformative, which turned MY experience of the underworld into something less hellish.

Life is always a reflection of our dominant vibration. “Life” includes nonphysical experiences. And the underworld is part of life. That I experienced that world the way I did tells me something about the power of my vibrational mastery. It tells me my dominant focus is so strong, I can even turn hell into a reflection of my luminous consciousness.

That’s pretty profound.

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How To See The Bright Future Hidden In Plain Sight

TL;DR: The author argues that media-driven fear distorts reality, but embracing positivity reveals a bright, promising future. Shifting perspective, they say reduces stress, fosters clarity, and aligns with evidence of humanity’s ongoing positive evolution beyond mainstream narratives.

A lot of media-fueled panic is happening. Especially with Liberals. I’m a progressive, just so you know.

But it’s interesting to see how much people on both sides of the spectrum, particularly the extreme edges, have in common.

People on the left are going as bat-shit crazy as those on the right when Obama and then Biden were in office. The only difference is, with the current administration, an EXTREME level of goodness is unfolding. Not because of what Trump is doing, but because of what he triggered.

Without the bigger picture, however, it’s really easy for people to lose themselves in the weeds, feel powerless and, thus, cut themselves off from the joy right in front of them.

And there’s a lot of joy there. I feel it. My clients are increasingly feeling it.

We have two options: One, stop being realistic, which keeps people glued to bad news stories, and embrace positivity. Or two, keep being realistic, which keeps us hooked like a fish to fear, and get cut us off from the joy I assert is there. Embracing positivity, we see the bigger picture. Staying in fear, we lose sight of the promise.

Either option is going to get us to the glorious future I see. The only question is, will we as individuals travel that journey in fear, anger and hate, or in joy, empowerment and eager anticipation?

I choose the latter. Here’s why.

One: It feels better

In seeing the bigger picture I can relax. I don’t, for example, succumb to irrational fears. We’ve seen so many such fears perpetuated by experts. It’s no wonder the right strongly critiques such people. Nuclear annihilation, acid rain, all the bees dying, peak oil, an impermeable ozone layer choking the planet to death…these are some past claims our experts said would doom humanity.

Today, the right has their experts saying Biden and Obama before him would ruin America. Now we have experts on the left saying the same thing about Trump. How long will people keep listening to such people?

I stopped listening to them decades ago. Instead I focus on what I know about where physical reality comes from. Because of that, I feel optimistic about the future. Not simply because I know where reality comes from, but, because I embrace positivity, I can see the bigger picture.

That bigger picture tells me what has always been true: that humanity is eternal, all is well, and the future is bright. Bright in the extreme. Yes, even with Trump doing everything he’s doing.

If you don’t agree with this then fine. You are just like those who thought the world was flat.

Change perspective and see clearly

But when a person chooses positivity they can see the world for what it is. Just like those who discovered that the world was round. Even though humanity thought the world was flat, there was a TON of evidence showing it was not flat. It wasn’t until someone decided to look that humanity saw the bigger picture.

The same is true for what’s happening today. All it takes is lightly changing one’s perspective. Change perspective and suddenly an enormous amount of evidence will prove to you that the world is getting way better than it seems when you’re plunged into the mainstream media. It doesn’t matter if you’re listening to the left wing media or the right. You’re not getting the bigger picture.

For example: Vice President JD Vance recently made the bold face lie that Artificial Intelligence is NOT going to take anyone’s job. He should know better because many people advising President Trump know good and well AI is going to destroy the job-based global economy.

But for those who believe every word said by right wing leaders on media outlets, those people are in for a rude awakening. Because evidence already shows that AI is taking jobs. And AI is getting better every week too. So its path is clear. Jobs are over.

Distorted opinions

Left wing leaders and the media are no better. Last January, the New York Times Podcast, doing a show on the Bitcoin phenomenon, declared a US Federal Bitcoin Reserve to be a “Crypto Bro Pipe Dream.”

First of all, that kind of opinion-ating is not journalism. More important though, opininating has a HUGE influence on how moderates and progressives that read the New York Times and listen to the podcast think about the future and important technologies such as cryptocurrencies.

Cryptocurrencies are far more than just digital money. They underwrite huge projects offering tremendous advantages to us all. Ones that are taking humanity into a future where people don’t have to rely on centralized organizations such as governments, banks and more. Crypto is revolutionizing the world right alongside humanoid robots and AI. It’s not just making some people rich and others broke.

And, by the way, the president did actually create the Federal Bitcoin Reserve through an Executive Order.

But if you swallow mainstream media characterizations like the New York Times’, you come away with opinions like Jody here:

A former friend unfriending me on Facebook after making this hugely distorted comment which shows how little she knows about crypto, me…and death.

Feeling chill is best

Another benefit of seeing the picture, aka embracing a positive perspective, is you not only feel better about what’s happening, it also allows you to relax. Getting angry and stressed over a future that isn’t even going to happen has serious implications for your health. It also makes you very unpleasant to be around. A client during COVID can attest to this.

He was a rabid anti-government, anti-vaxer. He also believed it his mission to save Americans from the poisons in COVID vaccines. Of course, he consumed all that doom and gloom information offered by fringe online personalities. This was well before he discovered that he creates his reality and that nothing can harm him, or anyone else, unless one is a vibrational match to the harm.

The more stressed he got about people taking vaccines, an interesting thing happened: he became more and more isolated. People stopped wanting to be around him. Then his business started failing. Then he started getting depressed. It’s no surprise he seriously considered suicide and that’s when he turned to Positively Focused for help. That was after he saw his older sister, who also is a client, turn her life around.

The best emotional place to be in today’s world is in a place where you feel chill. In that chilled place you will, just by chilling, draw to you evidence of exactly what I’m talking about in this post. But you have to be sensitive to the evidence so when it shows up, you can see it.

I help people sensitize themselves to seeing the amazing future that’s coming to us. Want to see what I see? Become a client. I offer 1:1 sessions and also a new, affordable approach, with Cohort 001 open now.

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Fear: A Great Way To Get Better Life Results

Despite significant differences, nearly all spiritual paths acknowledge and assert the Universe’s predisposition to respond to our thoughts and intentions. It is just how the Universe works. And, that way it works is the nature of how the Universe, and All That Is, expands.

It makes sense then, that we, as thinkers, participate directly in that expansion. In fact, we are a crucial element in that expansion. Through desires born from life experience, born through the contrast life offers, we express thought. All That Is responds instantly to every one.

So our lives could comprise an ongoing series of self-fulfilling desires. And they are. What keeps our lives from looking that way?

Well, fear is one answer. Fear tells us, any time we feel it, that we forgot the Universe responds to all our thoughts. Not knowing this, however, we use fear to double down on perspectives which keep us from becoming matches to our desires and thereby seeing them unfold.

Abraham reminding us that fear is unnecessary.

Fear is good. Joy is better.

When we remember what fear is for, then think thoughts deliberately, the fear goes away. The fear goes away and we become a match to that which we desire. Then, in time, fulfilled desires flow easily into our life experience. I’m enjoying this process as are many of my clients. Some struggle though because hearing, believing, trusting, then, knowing what you’re reading takes time.

Fear is a really good thing. It helps us remember. Remember what though? Remember that we are gods in human form, participating in the sacred expansion of ourselves, and All That Is. Fear, therefore, is a great way get better life results.

It’s not necessary to feel fear as a reminder of what we are or to get better life results. But for most, since they don’t know what we talk about in the Positively Focused practice, fear often is a great alternative.

Too bad so many people mistake that experience – fear – for something else and then let themselves and their lives to become limited by that experience.

You don’t have to be one of those people. Fear does lead to great results eventually. But it’s better, and more fun, to live in joy instead. Find out how to do that by becoming a client today.

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How To Manifest $1100 Overnight (Without Trying)

Yesterday I wrote about a client struggling with “what is”, what she calls “the truth”. In a little over 24 hours, that client manifested a solution to that struggle. I wrote in that previous post about how fabulously she aligned to better-feeling thoughts about money making her a match to what happened next.

Without going into details, the client needed a lot of money. She worried about a home repair she needed. In our session this week, she projected her worry onto me, thereby creating a version of me she believed wasn’t doing the Positively Focused practice “correctly” because I didn’t give her money I promised I’d give her in the time she thought she needed it.

I did tell her when I’d give it to her and intend to keep that promise. But something I said, apparently triggered her. Combined with her worry about the repair, she projected the source of her problem onto me. Even though the amount I said I would give her was far, FAR less than what she told me she needed.

After clarifying how she was making me the origin of her problems, when in reality, it was her creating those problems for herself, I saw her visibly soothed. So much so that by the time yesterday’s session was over, she occurred as a totally different person than moments before. I then assured her that the money she believes she needs for this repair is, in fact, on the way. But she has to become a match to that money. Pointing out her shift in mood, I congratulated her on becoming that match.

Then it happened

This afternoon, I got several text messages from this client, proving, to me, at least, that I succeeded in having her collapse into my high vibration. That’s exactly what happened last week, with the client whose allergy symptoms went away when she collapsed into my high vibration. The client needing the repair texted nothing but positive things about how her budding business.

She texted nothing more about needing money.

A bit later, she sent me another text. In this one she told me that her work performance last week was so high, she earned an additional $1100 dollars! I asked her if she knew at the end of last month, before our session, that that’s how much she made. She had an idea she did well, she texted, but didn’t realize by how much. Not surprising at all (to me), $1100 was a little over the amount of money she said she needed.

This client is a powerful creator. Even when she’s struggling with becoming a match to what she wants, the Universe has her back. Even on a subject most people struggle with: money.

Let go and allow

This client still has some soothing to do on that topic and others. And yet, her manifestation shows how the universe will deliver – is delivering – everything we want in perfect timing.

As I also told her after receiving that text, sometimes the path to a manifestation’s fulfillment includes an intense period of momentary contrast. That’s usually because that intense period pushes us to finally let go and allow.

What’s so fun is all my clients are having their versions of these kinds of events. It’s all a testament to the power of the Positively Focused practice. You can enjoy your manifesting mastery too. It’s called the Charmed Life and it’s there for you. I can help you get it. Consider becoming a client. My new Cohort sessions promise even more fun and engagement all at a more affordable price.

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Law of Attraction, Money & the Myth of Magical Spending

A Law of Attraction skeptic told me once that people who follow Law of Attraction are 30 TIMES more likely to file for bankruptcy. While I don’t put stock in statistics, I understand why so many Law of Attraction followers end up in financial straits. A couple client experiences back my knowing up.

One client lived as though he had more money than he does. Rather than living frugally, he spent from his savings and maxed out his credit cards, expecting his stories about money would turn around in his expected time frame. Not only that, he hadn’t paid attention to how much money was coming in, and how much was going out each month. So he was flying financially blind. Now, he’s struggling a bit because his small income from his artistic performance plus his social security are almost completely consumed by credit card debt payments and basic needs like rent and food.

Another client, who also is an artist, had a similar but different experience. This client creates beautiful, hand-woven items from rags. Inspired by my Broader Perspective, I bought one from her to gift to another client. I knew that client would enjoy the artistic expression. At the time, the artist didn’t have their pricing understood. Nor did they know how much it would cost to ship the thing. I bought the item before the client finished it for what I thought was a reasonable price. The artist finished it, then shipped it. The shipping was almost as much as what she asked me to buy the thing!

Generational beliefs about money

I’m clear about how this YCYOR business works, therefore I am keen on my money flows. So when the artist asked me to cover the high shipping cost, I said I would. But I told them I wouldn’t pay it until after tax season. My taxes this year were more than I expected due to my growing client practice, which, in itself is a surprising and delightful outcome of my Positively Focused practice. I thought I had saved enough for taxes. I miscalculated. So I was in austerity mode to cover the balance. Paying for unexpected, high shipping costs for an art item wasn’t on my priority list.

My decision upset the artist. When we talked about it this week, the client asserted that I was not doing the Positively Focused practice. I should pay them now, they said, and just know the money would show up.

But that’s not how this YCYOR business, the Positively Focused practice nor Law of Attraction works. And this misunderstanding gives credence to the 33X statistic.

Money is one of the most challenging manifestations for many people to become a match to. That’s because so many of us (me included) have old beliefs that run counter us being a match to money. A lot of beliefs. Often, those beliefs are GENERATIONAL. Further, these beliefs come with a lot of momentum. So soothing all that momentum will take a while.

How long will it take?

Don’t be a statistic

That’s the question. The answer is; we can’t know. But we can know that it will happen in delightful and surprising timing, aka “divine timing”, which usually means much longer than most people think or want to believe it will happen. So a person thinking they can just spend money because the universe is going to magically soothe all their resistant beliefs and, in short order, give them more money to spend, that person really doesn’t underhand how any of this spiritual stuff works. Especially around money.

Anyone striving to align their life with how the Universe works, be it through Positively Focused, Seth’s teachings or Law of Attraction must first understand key elements of those practices typically not shared in social media, by influencers or in movies like The Secret. When it comes to money, one of the most important things to do as one lines up with more money is to live within one’s means. Live frugally. Thinking money will come in if we freely spend money makes no sense at all. That’s because there’s a ton of beliefs and momentum each one of us has about money that created the money relationship we have. Those beliefs work counter to that expectation that money is coming.

Money is coming. But it’s going happen in divine timing, which is always longer than we think it’s going to happen. That’s why when what we want does happen, it feels like a surprise and a delight.

And if we don’t soothe that nonsensical belief, the one telling us we can spend freely when we don’t have a lot of money, we’ll end up a statistic.

Don’t be that guy.