Sitting on a park bench makes me a witness to earth’s teeming biome. Look as spaces between living trees teems with as much life as that which exists on each tree’s surface, or the life in the park, including the woman and her dog, children and squirrels playing, grass and fruit and flowers all frolicking…
Flying life clouds the air ignored by all but that which flies among it. Smaller life becoming meals for bigger life, while seeds and spores pass borne on winds whose origins begin in earth’s upper atmosphere as it rises with the sun’s heat, then returns to earth as cools in its ascent.
I sit here kissed by that same wind while resting on what remains nevertheless a living thing that once was a tree and now is a park bench. It too composed of countless life forms, as countless as those coursing through and in and out of me.
Life has no bounds anywhere. Everywhere we turn life beats us there. It is both creator and creation, reveling in itself. Taken in its totality, it is All That Is. Just as I am.
I love working with my clients. I love it when they offer open doors through which come amazing insights. I know beliefs create my reality. I show my clients how this works. From that, they get amazing lives. Sometimes that’s immediate. Other times, it takes awhile. But everyone gets it. What delights me most is when I delight myself with what comes out of my mouth, or in this case, my fingers…lol.…
When Tamar signed up for her first 1:1 spiritual mentoring session almost two years ago, she was living in a tent in the backyard of a house she owned in Australia. Back then, Tamar had a dream, she said, of one day circumnavigating the Australian continent by sea…
I got this direct message (above) from her last week. Here’s Tamar’s story, in her own words:
“I used to live in a tent in the back yard of the house I owned. Now, I have found my joy like never before…and I’m free.
…I knew I was different at an early age. Gentle, caring, and quite frankly horrified at the expectations that were thrust upon me. I had no concept of being transgender back then. I tried to prove my masculinity, to others and myself, by working extremely “manly” jobs. Those jobs took their toll on my body. Finally owning my transgender identity took its toll on my marriage.
While I raised my four kids successfully, under a roof I paid for, before my transition, I was living estranged from my family and wife in a tent in the backyard of the house I spent all my working life affording.
Needless to say that fact left me bitter, resentful and unhappy.
The jobs I worked left me on disability. I used to think being transgender was a handful in and of itself. But in addition to that, I was diagnosed with PTSD, and an anxiety disorder.
I would literally have panic attacks when around crowds. Even the thought of being around strangers left me feeling exposed, anxious, fearful and alone. That’s to say nothing about finding a romantic male partner. For me, romance was not even on the table.
Then I encountered Positively Focused. All along I knew myself to be a divine character, but my life experience and the stories I created were making a life that matched that seem like a pipe dream: how could I live who I knew myself to be when I faced so many obstacles?
So when I found Positively Focused, I was in an extremely negative space. And not just emotionally.
After just six Positively Focused sessions, I created an entirely new reality for myself. I’m now living in a nice apartment that came to me…seemingly miraculously.
I have more money, my privacy and I’m far, far from that living situation I dreaded every moment I was there.
But more importantly is how I feel. I’m in the best condition I’ve been in. Ever. Looking back at that first session, I don’t even recognize myself!
A new life has begun. A freer one. All my dreams I put on hold are in sight.
It’s great to be out of that tent. After I have settled in, and rested a while, I’ll be ready to find a friend.
It’s strange. Not long ago, I had given up on getting away from that old living situation. I had started shopping online for hiking gear, spending my money. I had come to the conclusion that if I was going to live in a tent anyway, the peace of the woods was better than where I was. I was getting ready to be homeless.
But then I received a call from a person I spoke to a couple of weeks ago. They gave me the unit I had asked for. I found it odd, that within hours of “letting go”, I was given what I wanted/needed.
Intriguing, and exciting also, perhaps.
Needless to say, I’ve benefitted tremendously from my Positively Focused experience. I realize my case may be extreme. But if Positively Focused can turn my life around, it can certainly do wonders for yours.”
Tamar wrote that in 2018. As I’ve said, as momentum increases, life gets better and better. For Tamar, that means living dreams once put on hold.
“Realists” criticize people who have their head in the clouds, who see the glass as overflowing. Pollyanna gets a bad wrap from people who think they’re being real, when they’re actually being pessimistic.
Meanwhile those who are Pollyanna – who see the world Positively Focused – are getting lives they love.
Life is supposed to be fun. Fun and delightfully surprising.
What makes life that way are little things happening all day every day. Things I used to miss before I got Positively Focused.
Not every “manifestation” is a great, big wish-fulfilling, earth-shaking event. I know if I focus too much on trying to have those, not only do such events come less often, I miss the many, many little events that make life sweet fun.
I’ll try getting these little stories out the day they happen. Really though, these things happen so often, I can’t even capture them all in my journal. Let alone share them in my blog(s). Still, starting with what happened today, I’m going to try to share more of them…It’s fun sharing them.
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I needed to get groceries this morning. It’s thirty-seven degrees outside. Rain was predicted around 11. I wanted to go and get back before the rains came.
I noticed my skull cap wasn’t where I keep it. These days, when something seems missing, I don’t think of it as “lost”. Something seen as “lost” connects me with a reality in which that thing really is lost. Then I can’t find it.
Instead, I think “where is it?” then I let the question go. That way, I can tune into the reality in which the thing is there.
That happened with my skull cap. I kept getting ready. I walked over to the basket where I keep my winter gear. Knowing it’s cold outside, I reached for my riding mittens. One of the other gloves in the basket fell behind my camera bag sitting on the floor.
I reached to get the glove, got it, then felt something else there. Guess what it was?
That’s right, my skull cap.
No looking for it. The glove falling led me there. No effort on my part. That was cool. More cool though was having awareness of that. That made me smile.
The second thing happened ten minutes later.
I keep a journal. Sometimes I include things like that skull cap event in there. I also write about bigger things that happen. I track my weight, walks and mindfulness minutes too through my “health/activity” app.
That app also tracks cycling. It connects to another app I use that records rides and runs. But I didn’t know how to connect the two apps.
Instead of trying to figure it out, I did the same thing I did with the skull cap. I asked the question, then let it go. A bit later and ready for the grocery errand, I opened the bike app. By “accident” I hit some feature. I don’t know what it was, but it brought up a screen I hadn’t seen before.
My Inner Being said “look at the screen”. So I did.
It had two features that were disabled. I enabled them. Presto! My two apps were connected.
I just tried finding that riding app screen real quick, but I don’t see it. It doesn’t matter though because the two apps are now connected. Easy peasy!
That’s how life is. Easy peasy. It’s supposed to be that way. Little magical events like these make it so. Being Positively Focused, I see these events happening near constantly. Which they are. But I miss them if I’m not Positively Focused. And so, for me, life is exactly as it’s supposed to be. Fun!
It was going to be a quick trip. Get the eyeglass adjustment. Go home.
What it turned into: something far more interesting.
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During his recent Idaho vacation, Perry wore contact lenses.
That’s because his new glasses, which he ordered well before the trip were not ready. His existing pair wasn’t either. A manufacturer’s defect forced them back to the repair shop.
Perry prefers glasses for many reasons. Napping being one. Napping is more complicated with plastic disks in your eyes.
Glasses are easy. So Perry prefers being bespectacled.
You can imagine his delighted then, when the vision specialist called Perry the first time, two weeks before his vacation. That is, until she told Perry the bad news: his new glasses failed inspection. They’d have to be redone too.
Two different pair of glasses. Two different repair shops. Two warranty problems.
A long series of “unfortunate events” about Perry’s eyes accented the last few weeks. First came what Perry thought was a scratched cornea.
Nope. Pink eye.
Then he broke his old glasses playing with the family dog. They came back a week later, but just two days after that, broke again. Warranty defect.
Then came his annual vision exam, which prompted the the new glasses order and its attendant manufacturing problems.
That’s when Perry wondered aloud to his wife, just prior to leaving for vacation, that something larger was happening having to do with more than eyeball vision. He wondered -– rightly –– whether his need for clarity, had more to do with his non-physical perception than seeing with his eyes; an expansion of perception which would make more visible the expanding grace Perry –– and every human being –– naturally enjoys.
Perhaps these experiences were leading up to a new experience Perry; an experience that would delight him by making visible what was there all along, but hidden from him in plain sight.
Like “lost” keys you search frantically for only to find them in the exact spot you checked five times.
Everyone has had that experience.
For Perry though, it wasn’t about lost car keys, but keys to questions he had been asking all his life.
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Your physical reality always, faithfully reflects what is going on with you in the non-physical realm –– that place from which you come, the place from which everything flows from –– through The Moment of Becoming and, finally, into full-blown physical reality. The more you open yourself to this, the more you are able to see and consciously experience both the physical, the non physical and The Moment of Becoming.
It’s a highly satisfying experience to have this experience. And it comes with delightful, practical benefits.
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(At the time all this was happening Perry didn’t know all this. As he writes this blog post, he is coming into clarity as we share what was happening behind the scenes. So now, as he writes, Perry is delighting in the epiphany, his awareness of what it is we’re sharing now.)
Back to glasses, vision and vacations.
It frustrated Perry to hear his new glasses wouldn’t be ready for another week. The specialist assured him they would be ready the following Tuesday. By then, Perry and his wife would be in Idaho. He asked the specialist if it were possible to ship the glasses to the house where they would be. Of course this was possible, she said.
For a price.
And that’s what happened. On Thursday, as promised, with just days of their vacation remaining, the glasses arrived. Cost: $24. Interestingly, around the same time, the other eyeglass shop repairing his older glasses called. Those frames were ready to pick up too.
The coincidence didn’t escape Perry. Two pair, ready to go, but neither nearby.
When the new glasses arrived, they were beautiful. Their case alone is a work of art. They’re more sturdy than his old ones too. Perry enjoyed looking at them. Though they needed adjustments, he wore them instead of the contacts for the rest of their vacation.
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Back home Perry wanted to go to the eyeglass shop for adjustments. But, something else vied for his attention: a nap.
As one’s state of grace, one’s invincibility becomes more obvious, a person is less and less comfortable adhering to what Seth calls “assembly-line time”, the idea instilled in humans that you must work straight through from 8-5 (or worse), with your nose to the grindstone “making it happen” and “getting shit done”.
If you let it, your life experience, shows you how All That Is, your Inner Being and the Universe work together to make things you want to happen happen in your life. When you see how this non-physical “trinity” delivers everything you’re wanting –– with perfect timing and in the perfect way –– more and more you want to let them do work.
A person in their state of grace, in their invincibility, becomes like daisies, trees and the rest of nature: she simply allows her trinity to shower her natural abundance upon her.
Part of that delicious experience, is a renewed relationship with napping.
Abraham and Esther Hicks equate sleeping and meditation. Both refresh oneself by immersing one in one’s origins.
Perry strives to heed impulses to take naps. But in this case, he wasn’t willing. Everyone has free will. And everyone’s trinity knows how to work with your free will to surprise and delight you.
That is, if you are aware enough to receive the surprise and delight.
Which Perry certainly is.
A person can’t act contrary to one’s state of grace. But it can feel that way. As you’ll soon see.
So Perry went to the shop, feeling tired. When he arrived, there were two people ahead of him and only one person behind the counter. She said everyone had gone to lunch but her. She would be with him as soon as possible.
This was not the person who helped Perry before. Perry felt frustration mixed with his fatigue. But he was committed to not vent his frustration on his reality.
He knows better.
Instead, he sat patiently, expecting everything would work out.
He thought about bagging the whole idea and returning another day. But just before he got up, the woman behind the counter called him over.
She took his new glasses into a back room. Then she returned and put them on Perry’s face. They looked even better than before. They fit better too, which the woman confirmed aloud. Then Perry noticed something strange.
While they did fit better, he noticed the lenses were not symmetrically aligned and the nose bridge was crooked.
The woman noticed this too, but tried to avoid it. When Perry pointed it out, she acknowledged the problem saying the lenses were flawed.
They’d have to go back for a warranty repair. Perry’s frustration returned.
Now Perry knows “frustration” has nothing to do with what is happening in front of him. Instead, it always has to do with what is going on inside him. His physical world simply reflects back to him his internal realitiy…with 100 percent experiential acuity.
This is so with every human. No exceptions.
So when the woman behind the counter apologized for the inconvenience, knowing Perry had been waiting a while for these glasses, Perry took a deep breath, then smiled and said “It’s ok”.
She wondered aloud if he had a spare. Which reminded him: his other glasses were ready to be picked up. Perry had forgotten about that.
What perfect timing, he thought. Even when it feels like things are going wrong, it’s actually working out with perfect timing. Perry left his new glasses feeling lighter.
Back home he again felt the urge to take a nap. But by now, the momentum of Perry’s frustration had a hold of him and his life experience. Taking a nap was a possibility, but it was much more probable Perry would continue along his frustration path.
This is why it is important to cultivate positive expectations.
Taking a nap would have reset Perry’s positive momentum, thus affording him a better rest of his day. What happened instead was both clarifying and hilarious.
He decided to take the car to the other repair shop and get his old glasses. The other repair shop is across town. Not walking distance like the first shop.
Now Perry doesn’t like to drive in traffic. This was all happening after lunch on a week day. So he could expect traffic to be less than it would have been in the morning, evening or at lunch. But guess what?
Not only did Perry get stopped by virtually every traffic light, he also got “stuck” behind every slow driver, bus, tractor trailer…you name it…it came into Perry’s path.
When he finally got to the repair shop, a woman was just getting into her car to leave. Her street-side parking spot was choice. Perry pulled just behind her, turned on his signal and waited.
The more he waited, the more Perry could feel his frustration rise. What the hell was the woman doing in there?
Considering the drive over, Perry’s frustration could be cut with a knife. And the more he focused on his frustration, the more frustrated he got.
Meanwhile, the woman was not leaving.
That’s when two guys came out of the shop and jumped in their pick up sitting in a curbside parking spot across the street from the parked woman.
The truck started. Perry turned his other turn signal on.
But they didn’t move either. Instead, the driver and passenger started smoking!
Just when his frustration was peaking, Perry had a cathartic epiphany about this day the last two-weeks, and he his and his wife’s experiences on their vacation. Then, in that realization, something in him gave way.
The peace and well-being Perry knew to be his norm returned in a flood of relief, clarity and awareness.
And in that moment, Perry looked to the left. Inside the repair shop parking lot: there right next to the front door…
…was an open parking space.
No one had left. It had been open all this time.
Perry laugh out loud as he pulled in, went into the shop, got his glasses, then drove home….
Value is something you can’t help but give. Have you noticed?
No matter what you’re doing, you’re offering value to some one or some thing. It’s part of what you come into the world naturally doing.
But happiness…that’s another story.
Perhaps your happiness is fleeting. Perhaps happiness to you is as capricious, and as impermanent, as any other emotion. So trying to think of it as something you can perpetually enjoy, as a steady life state, seems stupid to expect.
Especially when there is so much to witness that isn’t happy to look at. No wonder you shift your desire to usefulness or value over being happy.
But you come into the world to enjoy the adventure of being of value. And the enjoyment, i.e. the “happy factor” was supposed to be something akin to your body: just as your body has grown and become more as you have become older, so to was your level of happiness supposed to become more and more.
Likely that’s not the case, is it.
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People ask: “How can we be happy with all the suffering going on in the world?”
The rub in that question is, until you figure out how to be perpetually happy, you can’t understand the answer to the question you’re asking.
You become happy first. Then you discover the suffering you see isn’t what you think it is.
To understand the perpetual nature of happiness requires understanding something else that is the subject of great debate: your inherent free will.
Your free will is the nexus between value, your life experience and your happiness. Here’s how:
You cannot help but create value for self and others because this whole thing called life experience is a massive collaboration the purpose of which is eternal expansion predisposed towards “better”. And that’s what you inherently are: life experience getting better.
You can not help but exist here because that was (and continues to be) your intent. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here. No one else is forcing you into your body, making sure you stay in your body, on earth, against your will. You’re doing it. And you’re doing it because you want to be here.
We say “kind of” because every kind of asking for what you want eventually brings it to you. But you can have what you want so much easier, faster and more fun doing it different.
The good news is, the stronger people ask through action, fighting against what they don’t want and arguing with those who oppose them in the process, soon they end up saying “fuck it”.
And in that relaxation, they find the “loosening” of enlightenment, which causes them to quickly have what it is they’re asking for.
What is enlightenment
It’s nothing special. Well, it’s special only because few people have it. Even so, those who do have it realize it’s not that special. All it is is an awareness of one’s inherent grace, realized through a practicedhappiness-for-no-reason that has become chronic. It is accompanied by the receiving of all one is wanting as a result of that.
Once those things start showing up, one realizes their inherent invincibility, born of their life experience demonstrating to them without a shadow of a doubt that they create the life experience they live.
It’s hard to see how true those words above are when you’re embroiled in bitter arguments online or in your family or among your friends about any of the myriad topics in physical reality which vie for your attention these days.
What enlightenment feels like: Grace given. Grace received. Getting all you want. That includes material and financial success. Awareness that you’re getting all you want. Perpetual happiness as a result of that. Freedom coupled with a sense of adventure for life. Broader perspective expanding beyond your physical senses, allowing you to take in far more of what you are than just your physical experience defined by your physical senses.
In short, it feels like an ongoing joyful expression of love.
But it is not a permanent thing nor is it a final stage. You don’t “become enlightened” and thus “know it all”.
You have to continuously nurture it and along with that you receive an ongoing broadening awareness which encompasses more and more “knowing.”
The payoff of all that is a life you thought unimaginable.
Until you start living it.
Yes, it can come in a flash of inspiration.
But it is more fun to see it gradually develop, alongside your continued refinement of it. For you’re always becoming more than you are. That’s why you’re eternal.
None of this will ring true for you until you begin realizing evidence of it in your life experience.
Now imagine an entire civilization living from this place. What could be possible?
Some say “There will always be murder, crime, greed and the other vices. You’re arguing for a leftist Utopian fantasy.”
Then we’re going to back up and try to describe it in a way that it makes sense (at least to us 🙂 ).
Ready? Here we go:
What it is: The moment of becoming is the decision point which stands outside of time and space, where you as an enduring personality essence, deliberately choose events you want to experience in your ongoing life experience.
If you got that, you are now looking through a doorway of awesome potential.
Now let’s try to flesh it out a bit.
Life experience: what it’s made of
Two “places” comprise experience. You’re very familiar with one.
You probably call it “reality”. It is the world around you; the physical world, which includes thoughts and ideas as they exist in your brain and the brains of others.
The physical world, therefore, is composed of matter.
Matter comes in many forms, including events, communication you are most familiar with (electronic, verbal, physical, visual etc.), particles of all kinds, and forces you take for granted, can’t see, but nonetheless experience the effect of, such as wind, gravity and heat.
Anything you can experience with your physical sense organs is part of physical “reality”.
That’s the first “place”.
Now for the second.
The vast majority of humanity speculates about, says it “believes in”, or claims to “know” about this.
And yet people rarely if ever experience it. So they don’t really know about it. If they did, they’d not only be perpetually happy, they would have all they want, living their dream lives.
Clearly that’s not happening for most people.
Physical senses can not perceive this second place, so it is difficult to describe in physical terms. But it is no less real.
Gravity can’t be perceived with physical sense organs either. Only the effect of gravity can. Certain sounds and colors also are examples of unseen yet no less real phenomena. These exist outside the narrow band of sound and color physical sense organs can perceive.
So something existing as real, but imperceptible via physical senses should be a familiar idea. Yes?
Words fall short in describing this second place.
So, let’s call it by what it isn’t.
Let’s call it “non-physical.” It is “anything that exists outside of physical reality.”
We’re not going into any detail on non-physical. We’re describing what the moment of becoming is, not non-physical.
But we do need a context within which to describe that. The context is “non-physical”.
The moment of becoming is the “space” “between” these two “places”; physical and non-physical. It is the “intersection” – so to speak – the catalyzing “event moment” through which that which is in non-physical becomes physical.
An excellent, easy to understand real-life example of this catalyzing moment is how a human comes into the physical world. Science hasn’t figured this out yet.
A personality essence, the enduring, fundamental basis of what you are, emerges from non-physical into physical, presumably, through birth.
Humans focus on the “birth” moment as the main event. That’s why they ask “when you were born?” instead of say, “when were you conceived?” or “when did you decide to come into physical reality?”
Never the less, the following should be easy to understand.
There are many, many processes, events and collaborations that had to occur so that your birth was possible. Right? An endless stream of connections, activities, thoughts, and interactions stretching back through time and space, involving many, many people are responsible for your birth.
Your parents and their parents and their parents, etc., all had to be conceived, born, grow up, meet, date, develop affection, grow intimate, have sex…
You get the point? That’s a no-brainer, right?
All these events were coordinated. They seemingly occurred well before your birth. Let’s go with that.
Because of this, you can trace an unending stream of activity in the physical world making your birth possible.
At some point, however, you had to choose.
You had to choose to take that defining moment to “insert” your personality essence into this endless activity stream. (We’re making a separation of events here that actually doesn’t exist, but must be manufactured for clarity.)
In the context of the process culminating in you getting here, in your body through birth, the decision to focus who you are at your essence into physical reality is analogous to the moment of becoming.
That event, your focusing of yourself into the process of your birth, happened “before” you were born. And you made the decision.
You made the decision because you knew the experience you would have here would be a delightful, rambunctious, risk free, unlimited experience representing a wondrous adventure.
And so now, you’re here, having that adventure.
“Some adventure,” you may say.
With Trump and the alt-right, Rachel Maddow and the alt-left, environmental destruction or any other experience you interpret as “bad” “dangerous” or “too painful to bear”…you might find it difficult to see life experience as “risk free” or an “adventure”.
But when you mistake a rope coiled in the corner to be a snake, the rope is still a rope.
So here’s the explanation again: The moment of becoming is the decision point which stands outside of time and space, where you as an enduring personality essence, choose events that comprise your ongoing life experience.
It is a decision point.
It is outside of time and space.
In it you choose what you want to experience in your life experience.
And you ongoingly have access to it.
Now, because the moment of becoming literally catalyzes the existence of matter along the lines of what you’re wanting to experience, it is very powerful.
This is why it is the seat of life mastery.
A person who chronically focuses her attention there has the ability to shape matter and events here, in the physical world.
Life mastery results when a person deliberately and predominantly focuses attention in the moment of becoming rather than IN-deliberately and predominantly focusing attention in physical reality.
Now, your physical sense organs compel a chronic focus on physical reality. “Why” is irrelevant for the purpose of this writing. But the compelling nature of your senses is not absolute.
When you learn to shift your attention consistently enough, your life experience will astound you as it demonstrates that you want to experience to the exclusion of that you don’t.
This is why the moment of becoming is so vital. Life mastery is awareness of the moment of becoming and knowingly using it to create your life experience.
If you can create your life experience, and you can, then aren’t you invincible?
If you’re like most people, you’re paying way too much attention to the world around you.
Seems like an asinine statement, right? Like, where else should I pay attention?
To the moment of becoming if you want life mastery
A life master once said “The only difference between a common mortal and a Buddha is that one knows he is a Buddha, the other does not.”
Those are the words of “the original Buddha” written by his hand in a treatise about enlightenment. He wrote those words to inspire human beings to aspire to life mastery aka Buddhahood, aka enlightenment.
We’ve quoted this sentence a lot because it reveals a lot.
Life mastery is nothing other than being able to create a life which exceeds one’s deepest desires.
Looking around the world of what is, you see most humans in one of three states:
Trying to realize a few rather humble dreams because the person has been shown (by the world) that their big dreams are impossible (they’re not). Or…
Living a minuscule fraction of their potential because they’re no longer able to dream big because dreaming is either uncomfortable (it brings up feelings of unworthiness, lack of efficacy or both) or seen as a waste of time, which is a different dimension of feeling unworthy.
Living some really big dreams (such as immense wealth) while simultaneously experiencing impoverishment in other parts of their lives
Life mastery is about getting all you want. And more.
In every sense.
Mastery doesn’t only include the intangibles such as spiritual fulfillment, happiness, or emotional stability at or near constant joy/love. It also is getting all you want materially.
THE WORLD IS BIG ENOUGH FOR EVERYONE TO HAVE EVERYTHING THEY WANT.
But if you’re ignoring that one place where everything you want comes from, you’re not only not likely to get what you want, you also won’t believe getting what you want is even possible.
Or, you believe getting what you want is somehow wrong, immoral, unjust or must come at the expense of others or personal sacrifice.
Getting all you want and more is the success indicator of life mastery.
NOT getting what you want is a symptom. It indicates a condition where a person is spending too much time looking at the world around them.
“Looking at” also means “listening to.”
Chronically looking at the world around you will cause you to shrink. It will cause your dreams to shrink. It will train you into unworthiness.
Until it doesn’t.
It doesn’t when you pay more attention to your seat of power, the only place you have total control of your life experience. That power place is the moment of becoming.