Category: Life Mastery

Posted on

What Is “Mental Exhaustion” And How To Soothe It

Positively Focused Q-A
Positively Focused Q-A

Question: How do you deal with mental exhaustion when facing a deadline?

Answer: Mental exhaustion is common, particularly among people with a lot of resistance. And nearly every human lives with a lot of resistance, which explains why so many live overstressed and tired.

Sleep is not what many think it is. Sleep is another period of wakefulness. It’s a period of time we leave our bodies. Out of our bodies, we’re coordinating all manner of objectives associated with values at the core of our beings. This becomes obvious in advanced dream work, which comprises part of the Positively Focused practice.

While we’re out of our bodies, our bodies use this dormant period to process chemicals accumulated from interactions between us, the spiritual being we are, and points of consciousness making up our bodies. So sleep is not a period of rejuvenation and rest. Instead, it’s a sacred process of calibration and clearing. Calibration to our desires across dimensions we exist in and clearing of metabolic processes.

It’s vibrational resistance

So dealing with “mental exhaustion” isn’t really bout getting sleep. In fact, this question has many layers. One is the “time” layer; the feeling of mental exhaustion in any given moment.

But this question captures the other more important layer: “what is ‘mental exhaustion’?” Let’s take a look that now.

Mental exhaustion, while it feels mental, what it really is, is spiritual. Any state of exhaustion having no physical origin, such as running a long distance beyond our endurance capacity, comes about when we focus in a way that is resistant to what we want. Mental exhaustion, specifically, is what happens when a person is not focusing positively. In doing that, the person builds up a state of vibrational resistance.

Since people typically don’t know how to release that resistance, or since many don’t even know they’re in a resistant state, the body reflects that persistent vibrational state back to the person as exhaustion. And for most people, the only way to release that exhaustion is in sleep state.

We release resistance in sleep state because we return to nonphysical. Nonphysical, compared to physical reality, contains no resistance. So when we go there, we release all resistance, which is why, sometimes, after a good night’s sleep, we feel better.

An invitation into nonphysical

But many, many people sleep through the night, release resistance, then, the instant they wake, they resume vibrations – thoughts and beliefs – that instantly reintroduce resistance they went to bed with. That’s why some people wake up still feeling tired. They don’t allow the reset button of sleep to allow a fresh start when they wake.

It’s possible to go into the sleep state feeling enthusiastic and eager, instead of feeling exhausted. But we generally believe sleep is for easing exhaustion. So we often delay sleep well beyond when we’re called. For example, I often receive a signal to return to nonphysical. When I do, fatigue doesn’t show up. Instead, it feels like a “pull” or a heaviness in my psyche.

When I follow that invitation and lay down, I typically enjoy extremely joyful and otherwise satisfying dreams. Sometimes I answer the call or pull by laying down and meditating. In that state, I often experience multidimensional consciousness shifts I’ve written about before. In previous posts, I’ve called them “departures”; travels to alternate realities.

And so mental exhaustion is a manifestation. It’s a symptom of holding on to resistance. The way to deal with mental exhaustion, therefore, is to develop a sensitivity to resistance. Then keep resistance to a minimum. That’s a natural benefit of being positively focused.

Creating reality on the fly

With that state chronically developed we don’t experience mental exhaustion. We’re ready to go from one thing to the next thing feeling appreciation and eagerness. And when the pull calls us into nonphysical, and we answer, we experience conscious delight in nonphysical. Then we return to wake state deeply refreshed.

So the way to deal with mental exhaustion is to develop a positively focused attitude.

The problem with doing that is we can’t develop that state in an instant. It requires practice and that practice builds a momentum within us, which we then use to maintain that state.

Another approach available to those with strong positive predispositions is the art of creating reality on the fly. It’s a process where one expresses a series of positive thoughts, meaningfully expressed, until eagerness and empowerment replaces exhaustion or other resistance. In doing that the person aligns themselves with the time line in which exhaustion isn’t part of their reality. Again, this takes practice.

I did this just hours prior to editing this post. What followed is a great example of how powerful creating reality on the fly is.

A powerful creation

I had news I needed to share with a friend that would likely both disappoint and inconvenience them. But I know I can influence that potential outcome through my alignment to a time line in which they’re not disappointed or inconvenienced. So, I aligned myself with that reality where the conversation goes swimmingly. Here are the thoughts I meaningfully expressed:

  • I know my friend is capable of handling this call gracefully
  • I know this call is going to go well
  • I’m going to be fully self-expressed during this call
  • This call is going to go very well
  • I’m going to frame this news positively, because I want to be positively focused
  • My friend is going to find another solution to his needs easily

After expressing this, I felt really positive. That indicated an alignment with the time line I wanted.

Then, something really fun happened indicating that I was, in fact, in a very high vibration. I ordered an automatic sit-stand desk from Amazon days ago. The company and FedEx sent notifications yesterday saying the package would arrive today between 9 and 11 a.m. today. It was 10 a.m. when I did the process above. The minute I finished making those statements above, my Broader Perspective told me to go down to meet the FedEx driver who was delivering my desk.

Mind you, I got no device notification about the delivery.

Spiritual powers: everyone’s ability

But I know when I get spiritual notifications like this — nudges — taking the action immediately will result in a delightful surprise. I texted my friend that I’d call him in five minutes. Then, I went downstairs and out the apartment complex’s front door.

The FedEx truck was no where in sight.

Still, I knew my Broader Perspective doesn’t get it wrong. So I just stood there. In 20 seconds, I swear, the FedEx truck came around the corner. The driver saw me and gave me a thumbs up (how he knew I was the recipient is a spiritual mystery). He parked, came out the back of the truck with the package and gave it to me. I told him what you just read and he was as surprised as I was.

Once back in my apartment, I called my friend. The call went exactly as I expected and I ended it feeling fully self-expressed and delighted at both manifestations.

This shows not only how powerful this process is, but also how, when a person is chronically Positively Focused, such a person develops truly special spiritual capabilities. Capabilities including precognition. But if we’re mentally exhausted, such abilities aren’t available. Too much resistance exists in us.

Everyone can enjoy freedom from mental exhaustion and seeming occult powers such as precognition. Maybe you’re interested in this enough to explore how you can. Book a free 1:1 now.

Posted on

How To Start A Business With No Experience…Effortlessly

TL;DR: A client became a life coach effortlessly—not by training or chasing clients, but by aligning with the version of themselves who already is one. By soothing limiting beliefs and embracing their natural gifts, they began attracting ideal reflections. This story shows how manifestation unfolds through vibrational alignment and trust.

A client wants to be a life coach. It’s going to be an awesome practice. They are a natural at helping people find their empowerment and they’ve been doing that for a while. But only with friends. Not with clients. And not for hire. Becoming a “life coach” is something they’ve always wanted. And so that’s the main reason for them becoming a Positively Focused client. That and settling some old relationship momentum.

This client is a natural coach because they’re predisposed to this You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) business. Some might call them gifted. Others might call them Wiccan. Both would be accurate. Because of that, this client is not here to build a practice through “doing”, like others build companies. And because of that, their path has been long. They’ve held for a long time a lot of negative beliefs, thereby building a lot of momentum for themselves over decades.

Ironically, a lot of things about this client set them up perfectly for the path they’re on, including their old beliefs and belief momentum. In this post I want to focus on how this client is building their business and how that’s happening effortlessly.

The latest indicator of success

When I wrote “effortlessly”, I meant that. It’s taken a while for this client to settle in on this way of growing their practice, but settle in they have. Part of the reason why they’ve settled in comes from trust they have after seeing so many amazing things, other than their practice, manifest effortlessly.

But their most recent manifestation brought this client a “chef’s kiss” experience relative to that coaching practice.

While on vacation with their husband, the client luxuriated on balmy Caribbean beaches. Visiting that part of the world was part of a Law of Attraction Caribbean cruise they booked. Most of that time on vacation put the client in a high-vibration state of mind. The couple enjoys vacations, cruising and Law of Attraction. So the combination offered a lot of positivity.

It’s no wonder then, what happened happened the way it did. During one part of the cruise, the client started up a conversation with a stranger. As it goes during get-to-know-yous, the stranger asked the client “What do you do?”

“I’m a life coach,” they said.

“Really? I could use one of those.” the man replied. Then he shared personal details about his life. People usually share their personal stories with this client.

That’s because – duh – they’re a natural coach! After sharing his personal details, the man had a question:

“How long have you been a life coach?” The man asked.

“All my life,” the client said.

The client found resonance with the vibrational version of themselves; the vibrational version that already is a coach.

Becoming a match NOW

Now, that response my client gave was ground breaking. That’s because they had a belief about being a coach (among other beliefs) that prevented them from becoming one. That belief was, “unless you have paying clients, you’re not a coach.” Another belief holding the client back was: “To be a coach, I must learn something I don’t know.”

Those two beliefs, in the past, would have kept the client from saying what they said. They would have felt like an imposter or a fraud or, worse, a liar.

Not any more though. Together we worked through both of those beliefs, among others. Doing so allowed the client to express themselves AS A COACH, NOW, with no relation to the client’s present reality. Instead, the client found resonance with the vibrational version of themselves; the vibrational version that already is a coach. Doing that, they became a match to a person who would want what they offer. Which is exactly what this guy expressed.

This client has no “training” in being a coach. Nor do I, however. Yet I’m thriving in my practice. How? By allowing my natural leadership and my natural gifts to shine. This client is learning to do the same. As they do that, they become a match to manifestations like what happened on their vacation.

It doesn’t matter if this guy they met becomes a client or not. That wasn’t the point of meet up. The point was it acted as a bread crumb showing the client they’re on the path to becoming fully what they already are.

It works 100 percent of the time

And that’s how everything works in this YCYOR business. The client is becoming more and more of a match to what they want. Meanwhile, the world around them increasingly reflects that back to them, as they soothe beliefs making them not a match.

That process takes some time. That’s why such a thing as “divine timing” exists. It also explains why many who think Law of Attraction doesn’t work fail at making it work. Same with those who believe Law of Attraction works, but doesn’t work for things they really want. It fails to work, or seems to not work on things we really want, because we usually think things we want should come to us on our expected time line.

Usually, divine timing is never synched with our expectations. Divine timing nearly ALWAYS significantly lags behind our expectations as to when something should happen. That’s why it’s so important to cultivate appreciation I call “on the way to”. The lag built into manifestations exists so that we can use that time to true up or calibrate to the desire we hold.

Many, however, get impatient in that gap. When they do that, they widen the gap. The lag gets longer because their impatience makes them not a match.

One value I bring to clients is highlighting this important aspect of manifesting and many other aspects of a practice most people don’t understand.

Manifestation is how the Universe works. It’s 100 percent effective. But we must be 100 percent aligned with how it works to have it work deliberately for us. Want to know more? Consider becoming a client. I’ve created a new, more affordable way to do that. Check out my Cohort sessions here.

Posted on

A Key Step In Becoming A Shapeshifter

TL;DR: The author believes that by aligning with inspired desires and releasing limiting beliefs, they can become a shapeshifter. To achieve this, the author emphasizes the importance of “painting the target”; understanding vibrational frequencies associated with the desired form.

So many important steps comprise being able to do something pretty much every human believes is impossible. Whether it’s teleportation, telekinesis, levitation or shapeshifting, what’s required is willingness to literally go “where no man has gone before.”

Thankfully, the “going” is all in one’s head. For achieving these kinds of abilities simply means getting out of the way of them. That means letting go of beliefs making them impossible.

Abraham puts it plain as does Seth: anything this time-space reality has the wherewithal to inspire within us can be our experience. But only when we line up with that which we’ve been inspired to realize.

I’ve already proven this on many topics, some of which I’ve shared in this blog. More examples are on the way, but I’ve created so many things using this Positively Focused practice, I’ve decided to go “where no man has gone before.”

If I can create these things I’ve created in the past, with little to no effort on my part, then the “impossible” is possible too. Becoming a shapeshifter is no different than anything else I’ve created therefore. Same with teleportation, levitation and astral travel. That last one I’ve already confirmed I can do.

But there are key additional steps beyond getting resistant beliefs out of the way. And as I realize more evidence my shapeshifting desires are manifesting, this key step is becoming clearer. Interestingly, I’m already doing it.

Let’s take a look at what that key step is.

Painting the target

First, some terminology. I call my current body shape, the masculine form, “home”. My desired shape, I call the “target”. By calling my current shape “home”, I’m reinforcing the fact that, when ready, I will return to this shape. It’s not clear, however, that reinforcement is necessary.

For example, lots of people experiencing out of body travel report returning to their bodies automatically no matter how far they journey. Still, I want the safeguard.

So while imagining shifting to another shape or form, I think of it as my “target”. In order to hit the target, I must hone in on the target’s characteristics, much like a laser-guided munition hones in on the target’s surface the munition’s laser paints (how did this war analogy get in here?).

“Painting” the target then, for me, means collecting data about the target. This is the key step. I must paint a vibrational picture in my energy-awareness of the form I’m wanting to adopt. That way, I can identify frequencies that will create the appropriate emanation.

You see, our bodies are, like everything else, projections or emanations. These bodies, as complex as they are, result from vibrational frequencies we emanate that manifest as form. Vibrational logic would argue that if one can change the emanation frequency, the form will alter to match the new frequency. That’s the theory I’m working with anyway.

We’ll see if the theory holds. I think it will.

Being creepy. Maybe?

As I’ve described in a previous post, my first attempt at shapeshifting is to change my form from male to female. Several core values I hold direct this choice as my first target. I won’t go into them in favor of keeping this post short.

That said, the notion of changing my shape from male to female requires quite a feat. All kinds of variables come into question. I’m sure you can imagine some. And, if shapeshifting is possible, and I believe it is, those variables are all negotiable. Still, negotiating this shift, requires me integrating or knowing not just what it feels like to be a woman, but also what vibrational frequencies manifest as the female form.

Actually, it is less than understanding what women feel. It’s more about understanding the vibrational frequency that emanates as “female”.

I wrote above that I’m already doing this step. I’m already “painting” my target. What that looks like in real life is I’m finding myself intently observing women as they move around. Paying particular attention to women actors on streaming shows I find especially helpful too. That’s because the actors typically portray a character less burdened with distorted beliefs than ordinary humans. They’re more “simple” as a construct as well, and thus easier to paint.

Watching women in the wild supports my data collection as well. But, you can probably guess how that can appear creepy. I try to do it discreetly. But often I catch myself staring only after it’s gone way beyond what’s socially appropriate. For the most part, the women don’t know what’s happening.

The creepiness is mostly in my head..I hope.

Finding the essence

I can imagine some readers telling me how men will never understand what it means to be a woman. But accomplishing this requires that I do understand. At least well enough to allow the appropriate vibrational frequencies to flow as part of my emanation.

What’s fun about all this is I’ve done this many times. Many times on easier subjects, however. Still, because of those experiences, I have a great sense for how it feels when I achieve those frequencies. Past experience, in other words, emboldens me. I see no reason why I can’t do this.

Of course, Abraham agrees:

Abraham doesn’t talk much about feats like this. Seth, on the other hand, talks about it to a comparatively larger degree. And, he explains how to do it. Not with step-by-step instructions, but through allusion. So the reader must have an idea of what he’s saying and where he’s saying it to get the instructions.

And though the Abraham quote above speaks to the subject of well being, Law of Attraction applies equally to any desire. The manifestation process is the same.

Emboldened through experience

That’s another reason why I’m certain this shapeshifter thing can happen. Another quote Abraham often offers is that “it is as easy to create a castle as it is a button.” They distinguish castles and buttons as those things we believe are really “big” manifestations and those that are routine, respectively.

I have a TON of experience creating both castles and buttons. Which explains why I’m so confident I can create the outcomes I listed at the start of this post. Creating those outcomes are no different from those I’ve already created. And so I’m emboldened.

I’m emboldened because I know the key steps. Including the one I wrote about in this post.

A special invitation

If you’re interested in this Positively Focused practice and putting what I write about into action in your own life, I have a special invitation for you.

I created a new affordable way to work with me. I’m setting up special 1:1 group sessions in which an unlimited number of people can attend as a group, while I work with one of those people chosen at random. Attendees get the massive benefit of learning what I offer while I work with a different person each week, but at a much lower cost.

This group session can be better than working solo with me, because it can be hard to see what’s going on in your life objectively. Because of that, it sometimes takes 1:1 clients much longer to benefit. And at $75 per session, the cost can add up.

But it’s usually much easier seeing what’s going on in another than seeing it in ourselves. That’s why I think these special one-hour group sessions will be a hit.

These new special 1:1 group sessions are available for only $25 per session per attendee, with a minimum of 5 attendees. That’s a 66% discount on my regular $75 per session rate. I’m still offering traditional solo 1:1s at my regular rate. But the 1:1 group session rate may work for you. It is a great deal.

If you’re interested, let me know in the comments section and I’ll get back to you once I have the first group of five.

Posted on

Why The Most Practical Super Power Is Patience

Working with my clients teaches me a lot about embracing patience. This work also reveals how reality seamlessly changes from one alternate dimension into another as determined by our focus. The change — whether in the microcosm of an individual, or the macrocosm of All That Is — from the perspective of physical reality, takes “time.”

How much time does it take?

As much as necessary. For sure, it’s not instantaneous. At least not the physical reality version of those changes. In nonphysical, of course, all change happens instantaneously. That change, however, takes a while to emerge as a physical reality. Again, it doesn’t matter if it’s change in an individual, or something larger. What figures prominently, however, in how long the change will take, is our ability to become a match to it.

That’s where the tipping point resides.

Damn, sweet time

The trouble with that is we typically have a lot of momentum resisting change we want to see. And it’s hard for us to not amplify that resistance. That amplification is most represented by our willingness to push against “what is”, the very thing giving rise to “what’s becoming”. If, instead of pushing against “what is”, we leaned towards what’s becoming, what’s becoming would come much faster.

It still takes a little while though because resistance is an inherent part of physical reality. Inherent resistance is good. That’s because it gives us time to refine what we want. If things happened in physical the same way they do in nonphysical (instantaneously), oh boy, this reality would be really hard to stay in.

I’m coming to accept more and more reality’s inherent resistance, as well as the resistance I add which causes what I want to emerge s-l-o-w-l-y. I swear, some of what I want is taking its sweet damn time…and I recognize the playfulness in which I share that.

Good thing life, me, you and everything else is eternal. Knowing that’s the case, I can be patient.

Posted on

AI Wrote My Positively Focused Anthem—and It’s Perfect

TL;DR: A spontaneous gift from a friend—a powerful AI-created anthem—became a thrilling manifestation. This story reveals how alignment with our Broader Perspectives invites joyful surprises beyond imagination.

A wonderful thing happened last month. Something that not only thrilled me, but was a gift from the Universe. It happened through a long-time friend, who delighted and surprised me with something that came totally unexpected.

And that’s how the best manifestations happen, aren’t they? They happen when we least expect them. So when they do happen, we’re thrilled. The thrill is especially strong when we’re already tuned to being a match to the unfolding. That’s how I knew I was ready when this manifestation happened. I already was thrilling from a series of especially powerful manifestations, one of which featured an outstanding mystical experience.

But let’s get back to the manifestation that came through my friend. If you read this whole post and click the link to hear the manifestation itself, I think you’ll be astonished. You’ll be astonished because everyone else who heard it felt the same way when they first heard it.

Let’s not get ahead of ourselves though. Let’s look at how this all happened.

“Next level bonkers”

A client and I interact with one another in between sessions. Several clients and I do that. They take advantage of one of the perks of working with me: almost constant availability. This client and I were working on a followup to an event I hosted about the future. That event sold out and she wanted her network an opportunity to hear it themselves.

So we were talking about details of her event over a text group chat. Included in that group was my friend Mark. He has some resources he offered, such as a venue and a potential other network to promote the event.

One day while I was busy with some other things, Mark texted a link to the group chat. It looked like a link to a song. Now Mark regularly shares stuff like this. He’s an avid audiophile and loves to share music he likes with others. So when I saw the text message, I figured it was something along those lines. Something I could listen to at my leisure.

But he wasn’t just sharing something he liked. He was sharing “next level bonkers”.

The prelude to a chef’s kiss

A legacy anthem

I figured that when I got the next text message, and then another, then another, something else was up. With that, I had to find out what they were raving about.

Mark was right: it was next level bonkers. Check it out: (That link will open a browser on your device where you can listen to the song.)

Click on the image. It will open a browser on your device where you can listen to the song.

In case you didn’t listen to it, Mark prompted an Artificial Intelligence (AI) to create a song about me and my Positively Focused practice. In less than 30 seconds, he said, it created this brilliant song. Not just “next level bonkers”, but a freaking legacy anthem just for me!

The minute I heard my name in the song, I got goosebumps. And do you know what’s also really good? Mark did this all his own. Meaning, he didn’t check in with me first. He just did it out of his own inspiration.

Mark has never been a client. He has followed my journey, however. He also has seen how people respond powerfully to working with me. Therefore, he knows what I offer helps people. Of course, he could have created a song about anything. And maybe he did. But the fact he included me in his creative exploration says a lot.

What it really communicates to me though is this: my Broader Perspective worked with his Broader Perspective to create something — a manifestation — my Broader Perspective knew would delight and surprise me. And delight and surprise me it did!

A freaking masterpiece?

Again[!], in case you didn’t listen to it (you really should), here are the lyrics. Once you read them, maybe, you’ll take the time to listen. It really is fantastic.

[Verse]
Old Perry Gruber strollin’ down the road
Got wisdom in his pocket like a heavy load
He whispers truths like a preacher in the night
Positively Focused
Showing people light
[Chorus]
Fire on the mountain burning bright as day
Inner clarity’s the torch that lights the way
Deep spiritual wisdom
Feel it in your soul
Step into joy now
Let the good times roll
[Verse 2]
He speaks of transformation
A personal gold mine
Unraveling the answers you’ve been tryin’ to find
The path to bliss ain’t built on a lie
Take his hand and watch your spirit fly
[Chorus]
Fire on the mountain burning bright as day
Inner clarity’s the torch that lights the way
Deep spiritual wisdom
Feel it in your soul
Step into joy now
Let the good times roll
[Bridge]
It ain’t about hurryin’ or chasing down the win
The secret lies in stillness
Deep within
Gruber’s got a map
But you’ve got the key
Unlock your heart and set yourself free
[Chorus]
Fire on the mountain burning bright as day
Inner clarity’s the torch that lights the way
Deep spiritual wisdom
Feel it in your soul
Step into joy now
Let the good times roll..

A freaking masterpiece, isn’t it? I think so!

Write your own song!

I love how easy it is to allow a life where my moment-by-moment experience includes delights and surprises like this one. It’s especially cool, however, when they happen through my friends. When they happen through strangers, however, they’re really good, because those instances stand out. But when they happen through friends, I enjoy them too. This one is cool because it served many purposes.

I know Mark really enjoyed making it. Maigen enjoyed it too. Her text messages show that. I loved it too, of course. But most of all, I really enjoyed how we all reveled in it together. I also enjoy knowing how this happened with no effort on my part. And I revel in knowing more is in store as I continue to relax, trust and “allow” my Broader Perspective to lead me to where all that I want is unfolding.

You can have this experience — or, rather, your version of this experience — too. You can write your own life song with direct assistance of your Broader Perspective and revel in the results by becoming a client. Becoming a client is easy, and now, I’ve even made it more affordable. My new Cohort sessions feature an up to 60 percent discount over 1:1 session rates. Click here to learn more and start your journey to the Charmed Life me and my clients enjoy.

Who knows? You might have someone create something that thrills you to no end. Just like Mark, collaborating with the Universe did for me.

Posted on

Is There Really No One Right Way? A Spiritual Paradox

Twice now two different people expressed the same, very interesting, spiritual belief. The first person shared it many years ago. I’m writing about it now because the second person shared it this past week.

The belief is a form of resistance, I believe, and also an assertion. An assertion embodying what we all know in our core selves. But mixed with the resistance, the belief, when expressed as an assertion, sometimes can come out like mild defensiveness.

The first person, from many years ago, uses this belief like a mantra. The belief, by the way, is “there’s no one right [spiritual] way.” The implication of this belief being that every spiritual approach is valid. Every way serves someone.

I wonder though if this belief is really accurate and whether the speakers really believe it. When I hear these two people express it, it sounds to me as though the speakers are justifying something. The justification, in my listening, is the paradox: the “right” way (for the speaker) is that there is no one right way.

Any way I like

“There’s no one right way”, in other words, allows the speaker to do it their way, which is fine. They don’t have to adhere to another way, even if that way would be more effective for getting what they want. I’m not suggesting there may be a more effective way than their way. What I am suggesting is “there’s no one right way” allows the speaker to stay with what they’re doing. Even if they’re not happy.

Again, I’m ok with that. Do you, I say. Live your life, your way.

But the paradox, again, is, that, even for the person who believes “there’s no one right way”, there actually IS one right way, especially for that person. The one right way for them is, “any way I like.”

I wonder if people who believe this experienced rather intense coercion in their past. Maybe a parent, or some other perceived authority, forced them to do things a certain way, maybe against their will. And that experience caused the speaker to rebel internally, to resist, in other words.

That resistance built up momentum to the point where any perceived attempt to have them do something they may not want to do triggers that past experience as the belief “there’s no one right way”. Someone with momentum behind such an experience would consider any attempt to encourage them to do something differently, even if doing it differently would benefit them, to be something “I don’t want to do”.

Interesting. That, paragraph above I just came out of my fingers while writing this post. I hadn’t thought about that before.

A conundrum

So the belief “there’s no one right way” falls somewhat flat for me. There is one right way, especially for the person who believes “there’s no one right way”. After all, there’s no other “way” the speaker could employ. For they, and everyone else, can only do something one way at a time.

The challenge is, everyone exists in their own reality. They are sovereign in that reality, meaning they, and they, alone create the experience they’re having. That means, their way is the one right way in their reality. But what’s the deal with “right”?

The “right/wrong” dichotomy is a false one, isn’t it? Someone standing in the “right/wrong” vibration is experiencing distortion therefore, are they not?

I would guess this first person, and the second person who expressed this belief last week, will probably not acknowledge this. But to me, the belief allows the person to skirt the idea that there is only one way – theirs – while claiming to accept that there are other, viable ways. But isn’t “there IS one “right” way” also a “way”? And if there is no one right way, then “there IS one right way” is also a valid “way”, is it not?

I find this belief, therefore, to be a conundrum.

One way?

Ultimately, there is one way of spiritual life. And by “spiritual life” I’m referring to All That Is and how it operates through all realities, including the physical one. That way is the paradoxical acceptance of “all ways”, with no single way being “better” or “righter” than another.

But that means, that in any given instance, there is “one way” as far as All That Is is concerned: It’s the way whatever is currently happening is happening. And, as a point of consciousness expands, I believe that consciousness evolves more and more to a “way” of being that allows only, really, one way to dominate.

That way is best represented by the word “joyful”. I wanted to write “love”, but we humans bring too much distortion to that word so we miss the point.

All That Is approaches All That Is in one way: joyfully, lovingly. Every other way leads to that. So, really, there is only one way. Right or otherwise. And that makes this “there’s no one right way” a kind of human copout, doesn’t it?

Posted on

What Happened When One Text Proved We’re All Connected

A joyful confirmation happened yesterday. It happened with a client between sessions. What happened completely confirmed everything clients and I talk about in the Positively Focused practice.

While writing one of these posts yesterday, I got the feeling this client needed encouragement. My Broader Perspective is connected to his Broader Perspective. So I can sometimes tell how he’s doing even if we’re not talking in the moment. It’s the same connection through which I caused a client to step out of “having allergies” as a reality, and into being “allergy free”. Here’s a link to the short story about that. A longer, more detailed explanation will go live in a few weeks.

Back to this client.

So my Broader Perspective, while I was writing the post yesterday, said “reach out to [him] give him a taste of what you’re wanting him to do.” This client is resisting a process that is part of the Positively Focused practice. He’s resisting it because his negative momentum is strong. So strong he can’t overcome it enough to do the process. Ironically, it’s through the process that he’ll overcome it. So the client finds himself in a stuck-paradox. One he’ll break through eventually.

The process involves expressing appreciation for things about his life. Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Yet some clients struggle with it. A lot of times it’s because clients are so oriented to fixing problems and being nose-to-the-grindstone in life, they don’t know how to be appreciative. Or they think it’s dumb. Or, like this client, their dominant negative momentum prevents them from doing it for a time.

When my Broader Perspective told me what it did, I jumped to it. These days I know it’s in my best interest to respond whenever my Broader Perspective calls. So I dashed out a long list of statements as though he were writing it and texted it to him:

By the time I finished this text, I felt high-flying even before I sent it. Even before he responded. But when he did respond, it was a massive moment of confirmation for us both. It proved how accurate this practice is. And it showed how connected we all are. Here’s how he replied followed by my response right after his:

We are all connected. Our society convinces us of the opposite though. We become insecure about, then fearful about others, which then amplifies the separation. In just a little while though, in just a little time spent in a higher vibration, we can uncover the connection that exists, not only between ourselves and All That Is, but with other humans and animals as well.

We come back into our fullness. There we find the mystical, seemingly magical power of co-creation combined with our sovereign clarity. And in that clarity we can offer others reflections that touch them at the deepest parts of what they are. Which is what happened between me and this client yesterday.

Posted on

An Easy Way To Prove Manifestation Works

Yesterday I lost a sweater. I don’t even remember the last time I saw it. It was cool outside, and I wanted to wear it. So I opened the closet and looked where it should be.

It wasn’t there. I started to turn my apartment upside down. I wanted to wear it on a walk.

Then I stopped myself. I stopped myself because I knew what you’re about to read. I also knew that the more I might try to find it, the more “lost” it would become.

That’s the thing about vibration. Especially around little things like losing something. If we say to ourselves “XYZ is lost”, and then turn the house upside down, it’s highly likely we’re not going to find it.

Why?

Because when we go around trying to find it, we amplify the vibration “XYZ is lost”. Then we align ourselves with the probable reality in which the item can’t be found.

Such silly-seeming examples like this happen all the time. For example, a person will swear they misplaced their sunglasses….only to find them moments later…resting right where they left them: on their head! Or they’ll “lose” their keys, only to discover them later right where they left them: still in the front door lock (that’s happened to me more than once.)

Easy, light-hearted

Insignificant events such as losing something are great opportunities to prove that we create our reality. We create our reality through the thoughts we think, which aligns us to the alternate reality we are thinking about. The next time you lose something, rather than turning the house upside down, stop looking for it. Stop thinking about it. Turn your attention to something else.

When you do that, your Broader Perspective will inspire you. Soon thereafter, it will say “look over there!” And when you do, you’ll see the item you once thought was “lost”. That will happen because you’re now aligned with the reality in which the item is present.

This has happened to many clients over the years. And it has happened to me before, and again, with my sweater yesterday. So yesterday I relaxed into the knowing that the sweater was in my possession. I stopped looking for it, in other words (after turning my apartment upside down! LOL).

Later that day, I took my backpack to the grocery store. It’s the one I always take to fill with groceries. Mind you, I actually looked in that very backpack and did not see the sweater!!!!

I got milk, eggs and butter, then walked to the checkout counter. The checker rang up my things as I took my pack off and opened it. When I did, I looked in the pack and, there, rolled up, at the bottom of the pack, was my sweater!

This was a perfect, easy, rather light-hearted demonstration that my vibration, my thoughts and my focus create everything I desire. Including turning lost things into found things.

The next time you “lose” something, try this. You might be amazed.

Posted on

Enlightenment Isn’t Hard—We’re Just Out of Practice

Yesterday I wrote about how devotion is a prerequisite of spiritual growth. How does that align with what I often write about, which is how effortless this Positively Focused practice is?

Feels like a contradiction, doesn’t it? Well, it’s certainly a paradox, one of many that comprises this You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) business.

The Positively Focused practice IS effortless. Once we develop momentum behind new ways of being, new habits form and effortlessness does ensue. Before then, however, some “work” is needed. At least it feels that way.

But why? If the practice is effortless, why is work needed at all?

The “work” I’m referring to involves contending with momentum already existing within us. Momentum born of unconsciously-formed beliefs. Beliefs creating our reality, a reality we don’t like and thus feel bad about. The “work” involves creating a new reality that replaces the one we don’t like.

Daily devotion feels great

“Contending with” means creating new beliefs, starting with new thoughts or stories, that, in time, will develop an associated momentum. Gradually, our life experience reflects that new momentum proving the new reality’s emergence. I write “gradually” as a kind of paradox too, because evidence shows up immediately. We just need to learn where to look to see the evidence.

These initial steps feel like “work” (and may feel “hard”) because our existing reality has momentum. We create new momentum in the midst of that old momentum. And the experience of that juxtaposition feels “hard” or like “work”.

This Positively Focused practice is all about telling better-feeling stories. “That juxtaposition feels “hard” or like “work”” is a story. A better story describing that same experience is: “it feels better and better to focus on the reality that’s emerging, rather than the reality that is.”

Both stories refer to the exact same experience. One conjures a feeling of “hard work”. The other? A feeling of ease, pleasure, effortlessness.

So it’s all in the story. It’s all in the devotion. A daily devotion. Spiritual growth is effortless, the moment we revise our stories about how that daily devotion feels is when “effortless” begins.

Posted on

How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome And Be Happy

DALL·E-2025-03-20-17.32.45-A-photorealistic-digital-painting-of-a-middle-aged-man-who-has-overcome-imposter-syndrome-and-now-radiates-confidence-and-happiness.-The-man-stands-in

TL;DR: A client transformed from feeling like an imposter to embracing self-love and confidence. By shifting focus inward, he overcame suicidal thoughts, found authenticity, and now thrives in the Charmed Life.

A surprising number of clients express having once experienced “Imposter Syndrome”. Usually, they make such statements after getting over that syndrome. Often, Imposter Syndrome precedes thoughts about killing themselves. Both the syndrome and wanting to kill one’s self point to a tremendously good thing. But most people can’t see the good; they only see the not good.

That’s why I do this work. I love it when people “suffering” from such conditions find their empowerment through those same conditions. On the way to building a permanent happiness in their lives, they find their empowerment and their confidence too. Sometimes, clients let me share their stories. In that way they become shining beacons for others. Their example helps others improve their lives.

Such is the case with the client who allowed me to share a segment of his recent session. In this session, he raved about his progress and about how much he loves who he has become. In that becoming, he’s not only learned to own his bad-assery, he also has found his authenticity feels better than trying to please people by being a chameleon.

Let’s look more closely at his story.

“I was making all that money…but still wanted to kill myself.”

Cain is an Positively Focused advanced client. As a result, he’s not only living the Charmed Life, he’s an example to others about what’s possible through the Positively Focused practice.

Before discovering Positively Focused, he was making a lot of money, but he still wasn’t happy. A big part of his unhappiness was feeling like an imposter, not feeling he fit in anywhere and struggling with being happy. But don’t take my word for it. Hear it directly from him. The video below comes right from our recent 1:1 session.

As you can tell, Cain has found an extraordinary level of self-love. Self love happens naturally once a person reaches for and achieves the Charmed Life I write about in this blog. The Charmed Life is the natural way of living. Living this way we’re free to be ourselves, no matter what other people think about us.

But very few people live their lives this way. Or they’re living a counterfeit version of it, where what they’re actually doing is reacting to what other people think of what they’re doing by living in a certain way as a kind of rebellion toward others’ opinions. That’s not the Charmed Life.

At their wits’ end

People can live according to how others think they should live for a long time. They can live their entire lives that way. But rarely do those people find happiness.

They may make a lot of money, like Cain was doing. But inside, they’re suffering. Some of those people end up wanting to kill themselves. Some actually do. About a third of my client roster comprises people who once thought about killing themselves. But everyone of them is now finding permanent happiness.

Why do so many people come to Positively Focused or something like Law of Attraction wanting to kill themselves as many of my clients have? I think it’s because they are at their wits’ end. They try everything else first because it doesn’t occur to them that the solution to their problems lies inside them.

So they try doing everything else they can. When that doesn’t work, their last stop tends to be something “woo”, like Law of Attraction or Positively Focused. They give up trying to “do” their way out of their problems, in other words. They try being. And then they get what they always wanted: Permanent happiness, a.k.a the Charmed Life.

You can have it too. And now it’s even more affordable. I’ve created new Cohort sessions that include up to a 60 percent discount on 1:1 session rates. Click here to learn more and start your journey to the Charmed Life my clients are discovering.