Being Positively Focused recognizes Universe’s inherent goodness, its desire to give everyone everything they want. That focus, well-practiced, creates the Charmed Life I talk about in this blog.
What does the Positively Focused philosophy involve? My friend Gheric described it in 30 excellent questions I’ll share shortly.
Life is fun when yes is the default
The Positively Focused philosophy emphatically says “yes” in response to every question. So if a person answers “no” to any question, then a gap exists between what that person wants and what they’re getting.
A simple agreement is not enough. Self-fulfilling desires happen only when someone knows the answers are all “yes”, not just agrees with the answers.
That’s because knowing, believing and thinking are distinct states. Everyone thinks. That’s the default. Think long enough about something and reality serves evidence of what one thinks about. The thinker sees this evidence, then gradually understands this evidence as proving their thought “true”.
Then the person believes what they think. Why wouldn’t they? Reality “proved” what they think. Therefore that person’s thoughts become their beliefs.
Given enough time beliefs recede as evidence replaces “belief” and the “belief” becomes “true”. At that point, the person no longer believes. They know.
So knowing “yes” as the answer requires seeing evidence everywhere.
The 30 questions
These questions challenge many people’s beliefs. They also challenge many people’s realities. Both get challenged because one (reality) springs from the other (beliefs). A person who doesn’t know this finds answering “yes” to every question very difficult if not impossible.
The joy inherent in knowing the answer is “yes” is what life is all about. Living lives where everything comes easily depends on it. Therefore, these questions and their answer are important prerequisite to a Charmed Life.
And now, the questions:
Does abundance in all things exist?
Does well-being flow through all things?
Is evil an illusion?
Is scarcity an illusion?
Is control an illusion?
Do all circumstances work out for good?
Are negative beliefs a catalyst for positive growth?
Does everyone want a better reality?
Do we create our own reality?
Is everyone free?
Is progress an inevitability?
Can everyone have what they want?
Are all paradoxes resolvable?
Are the specific values of the individual aligned with the general values of the collective?
Are all conflicts illusory?
Is every perspective valid?
Is every perspective valuable?
Are humans inherently good?
Can humans be trusted?
Do humans want to be free from control/manipulation?
Do humans want well-being for themselves and for others?
Is humanity currently headed in a positive direction?
Do people want to live by their intrinsic motivations?
Do intrinsic motivations always lead to good things?
Is it okay to give up on something?
Does everyone have good intentions?
Can efficient and effective organizing structures emerge organically?
Does everything evolve?
Can “bad ideas” turn into “good ideas”?
Is it inevitable that every “bad idea” evolves into a “good idea” given enough allowance for intuitive inspiration?
Finding this a challenge?
If you’re having trouble, you’re not alone. But you can discover bliss in human being-ness by learning to see, then living from, what’s possible when you know every answer is “yes”.
That’s what my clients find. And when they do, they become Positively Focused. Then life gets fun.
After all, who wouldn’t want a life full of desires fulfilling themselves? That’s what everyone in a physical body knew life could be like before they came here.
But many get stuck once they get here. That’s because they don’t remember what they forgot, the forgetting of which is a prerequisite to arrival. No need stay in forgetting mode though.
You can remember. Everyone can. If you aren’t, I can help.
This is a positively focused series called “journal entries” for when I experience something I write about in my journal I think others might benefit from reading. This is a continuation of that series.
From my journal – Thursday, Apr. 15, 2021
I love being on my freedom adventure
I love finding what I like, attending to it, then watching it reveal itself to me. I like soothing resistance so what I like reveals more of itself to me. I like pointing out what I want, seeing Universe shape to that, then seeing that show itself to me.
I like when it happens in dreams. I like when it happens in wake state. When it happens in wake state I like it even more. Wake state realization feels great. Dream state feels best though. I know that’s because little resistance happens when I’m there, but I also know I can enjoy dream state feelings in wake state to the degree I soothe my resistance….particularly resistance I have about resistance.
Life affirms me and my desires
I like so many things showing themselves to me. I appreciate appreciating that. Seeing those things tells me I’m succeeding at lowering my resistance. That feels good knowing that.
But it’s even better-feeling seeing results of lowered resistance. In lower resistance I see what I want, happen.
My life is affirmed. Love Universe has for me is affirmed. My deservedness is affirmed. My worthiness is affirmed. My divinity is affirmed. I am affirmed.
My life: eternally more
And in all that affirmation, I know, for certain, I create my reality.
There’s always more to know, there’s always more joy to come, there’s always more to appreciate. More is my eternal life, always moving into more. Always seeing fruits of my desires showing themselves to me.
And so I relax in my now, increasingly clear. There is no rush. There is no pressure. There are no deadlines. All is well. Life is good.
A common experience among newer Positively Focused clients is “split energy”. Here’s why resolving split energy is not only important, it can be a joyful process and create a life worth loving.
But first, let’s look at what split energy is, why it happens and why so many people don’t know about split energy and thus struggle with it.
What is split energy?
Split energy happens when belief and desire conflict with one another. It can also happen when a person stands in two conflicting belief constellations.
For example, some of my clients want to believe the idea that “you create your reality” leads to a heaven-on-earth life. But beliefs such as “there is an objective reality beyond human control” conflict with that.
Another example: many people want lives where money isn’t an issue, or where they have lots of money. At the same time though, they believe “money doesn’t grow on trees” or “the only way I can get income is through a job”, or “debt is just a fact of life”. These beliefs conflict with a life where money is plentiful. The conflict creates split energy, which feels like confusion, anxiety, uncertainty, or feeling emotionally stuck.
My mentor adds an awesome perspective:
To summarize: Split energy happens when a person wants something, but doesn’t believe it is possible. Or when past beliefs conflict with a desire.
Why it’s a struggle
Many people struggle with split energy while not knowing they’re struggling, which is why split energy is a struggle. They think negative emotions indicating split energy – confusion, feeling uncertain, anxiety, insecurity – are just parts of life.
But life is supposed to be fun, easy and filled with self-fulfilling desires. Actually, that’s what’s happening all the time, even for someone with split energy.
A person with split energy, however, creates over and over, realities containing and reflecting back to them the combination of their split energy. That’s why nothing seems to change for the person, or why things change, but often stay the same or get worse.
In other words, life SUCKS when split energy dominates. 🙄
It’s more common than you think
Many popular communities generate split energy situations among their members. Religions are a major culprit. Religions as sometimes practiced, contradict beliefs that are normal, wholesome and good. But some people in these organizations create split energy when their natural, normal, wholesome desires contradict religious doctrine.
For example, a person who finds transgender women attractive, but who also is Christian or Jewish might struggle with religious beliefs contradicting their desires. Their religious upbringing keeps them feeling unworthy, fearful, in shame, and in self reproach because religious teachings do not allow or agree that certain desires are natural, normal, wholesome and good.
You are god in a human body
Another example: it’s very difficult for a Christian or a Jew, for example, to believe they are God in a human body creating reality as they move through life. Creating reality is God’s job, religions say. Many also claim a HUGE gap exists between “being human” and “God”. So human thinking they’re God borders on blasphemy!
It’s also difficult for some Christians to accept that they can fulfill all their desires themselves, especially desires Christianity tells them are sinful or bad or will send them to hell.
I know some people practicing religious-inspired beliefs do not have that experience. So I’m not saying that religion is bad across-the-board. If you are a believer, a Christian or a Jew, or whatever, and you’re happy, then enjoy your happy life. 😌
People do come to me though from these communities seeking what I offer: freedom from struggle, emotional and physical pain, anguish sometimes and even fear and hopelessness born of split energy generated from their desires conflicting with their religious beliefs.
Clients brought up in religion literally have one foot in their religious beliefs, and another foot testing the waters of something they know holds promise. They want to be Positively Focused.
But their old beliefs, their dominant, practiced ways of being, learned through their religion, conflict with what they feel: that they are an eternal, enlightened, God in human form.
Other split energy sources
Religion isn’t the only source that can create split energy. Beliefs adopted from one’s parents or one’s culture often contradict the Positively Focused approach, or what some of my clients affectionately call the “perrydigm” 😌.
One of my client’s parents, for example, raised her to believe a woman must serve her family to the exclusion of her own desires. She is a powerful woman and is embracing her Positively Focused approach with relish. As a result she is moving quickly through soothing these old beliefs, as these text conversations illustrate.
And yet she finds it fascinating how much her old beliefs cause resistance in her which feels like a “struggle” to her. Her old beliefs tell her being Positively Focused and serving her own selfish desires is bad and wrong. When in fact there’s no better way to be than Positively Focused and selfishly pursuing one’s desires.
Why selfishness is good
Putting both feet in the Positively Focused camp results in maximum connection to one’s Broader Perspective. It is that maximum connection that allows all that one desires effortlessly into one’s life.
It creates joyful, exuberant lives, as Positively Focused people see their lives shaping to new beliefs, morphing from the old beliefs and creating Charmed Lives.
Charmed Lives lead to self love. And when one loves oneself, it is simple, easy, and joyful loving others. Being selfish you become the most generous person anyone knows, because you see others as reflections of yourself, which they are.
Integrating one’s beliefs so that they all reflect a Positively Focused perspective creates wonderful epiphanies, seemingly amazing coincidences. Clear indisputable manifestations are so convincing, they are undeniable. And in that undeniability one releases resistance born of bogus beliefs.
Releasing resistance, the Positively Focused person uncovers natural joy. That joy is godliness, the God in human form everyone is.
So, the more one stands with both feet in the Positively Focused camp, the more Charmed their life becomes. All my clients experience this to one degree or another.
While the “perrydigm” is a cute play on my name and what I offer, my client’s desire, however weak or strong, moves the Universe in their favor. Not me.
The Universe stands ready to deliver to anyone life consistent with their godliness, their worthiness, their natural connection joyful being.
Everyone experiences joyful lives. Bogus beliefs mask that experience. Split energy results. Cleaning that up starts from a clear desire for joy. The rest happens automatically.
It’s fun watching my life shape to my Positively Focused thoughts. It feels wonderful seeing my positive thoughts legitimize themselves by creating realities consistent with them.
I know all thoughts do that, of course. Any thought thought long enough will draw to the thinker evidence proving the thought “true”. When enough evidence gets created, the thought no longer is a thought. It becomes reality, then a belief. The belief fades into the background of my awareness. Life then becomes “how it is.”
That’s accurate to say for any thought that has become a belief. Which is why I don’t concern myself with people who disagree with me about what I share through Positively Focused.
Plenty of people out there think “you create your reality through your thoughts” is a bunch of hogwash. But they don’t understand the preceding paragraphs. They don’t know their thought “it’s hogwash” became a belief long ago and is out of their awareness now that it has become a belief, and attracts evidence of its “truth”.
That’s why I don’t spend time trying to convince someone “you create your reality through your thoughts”…unless they’re a client. 😊
Clients are different
A client is open. They’re willing to consider new possibilities. They want to believe. That makes seeing around existing beliefs more likely.
What I love about what I do with my clients is this: It’s easy for me to say “you create your reality through your thoughts” and point to my life, as full of evidence as it is. It’s also easy for people to dismiss such evidence.
But as more clients come to Positively Focused, create extraordinary lives as my current clients are, it gets harder and harder to deny that something different is happening.
Nearly all my clients are extraordinarily excited about their lives. They’re engaged and happy. They’re having fun discovering what I’ve discovered. And in their discovery I find joy too.
Client work then becomes play. It’s a win-win for both parties. My clients enjoy Charmed Lives. I enjoy watching that. And I grow a larger and larger, undeniable body of evidence that Universe loves us all and gives us all for that which we ask.
Here’s a series of stories I tell often. They’re why I experience a consistent happy life born of Positively Focused thoughts.
These thoughts create life experiences consistent with what I want, while keeping experiences I don’t want from finding me. It’s like magic, or a spell, but it’s not that. It’s just what happens when I focus on good-feeling thoughts. You can do this too. Try these. See what happens. You know they’re working when you feel good.
I like feeling my way to better and better feeling experiences
I know I’m doing that when dreams delight me
I know I’m doing that when I feel ecstasy from dreaming
I know I’m doing that when reliving dreams long into the day comes effortlessly
I know I’m doing that when I feel good
When I feel good frequently, I see my life match that
Things coming my way delight me
I feel ecstasy in things I get to do
I see Universe wink at me in moments of divine orchestration
I see more and more of those moments all the time
Until I see them in nearly every moment
I love being physical
I love being more and better
I love tuning to that and in doing so bringing more and better to the world through who I be and what I’m inspired to do
I love having and knowing and fulfilling my purpose
I like turning already good days, into better days. I do that, not by trying to “make” my days better, but by removing resistance I create about how great my days already are. When I do that, being positively focused, my days get even better.
What do I mean by “removing resistance I create”?
Every day, these days, I simultaneously feel pulled in many potentially enjoyable directions. For example, this morning, a new client sent a wonderful text, detailing an experience she had after our session two days ago. I’m inspired to respond with additional insights. The idea of doing that so feels so good!
Another inspiration has me sharing information contained within this blog post with the men and women working with me on Copiosis.
This blog post began as an Instant Message I was writing to my team. I was answering a question they had about how I find so much joy in day-to-day living.
Sharing this blog post, in its original form as an IM felt equally as good as responding to my client. Both opportunities vied for my attention. But that’s not all…
Another impulse encouraged making video social media thumbnails for videos about Copiosis my team has sitting in our cue. I love doing that creative work. It’s fun and satisfying seeing the results. Results like this:
Yet other impulses encourage hopping on Twitter and promoting Copiosis, working on the volunteer strategic project my team and I are creating or working on a Positively Focused illustration panel.
Then there’s the joy I feel in the idea “go upstairs and make something to eat”, and “check in with your client, see how he’s doing”. There’s even an impulse to watch something on Netflix!
There’s probably 20 or so impulses, all feeling wonderful, that I COULD do RIGHT NOW.
Finding ease in the abundance
It’s easy to get into a seemingly positive loop of “what to do?”… that leads to feeling “overwhelm”, which stems from thinking “I don’t have enough time to do all these things”.
Overwhelm can lead to other thoughts and feelings, thoughts of lack or time scarcity, feeling impatience, even feeling dissatisfaction with what I’m doing NOW, which was, at the time, writing the IM I eventually shared with my team.
Here’s the thing though:
The many things available back then, which still exist now as opportunities as I edit this blog version of the IM, represented a form of abundance. I call it “opportunity abundance.”
But this abundance doesn’t feel like abundance when I think thoughts like “I don’t have time to do all these things.” Instead, this abundance feels like lack, like too many things to do…this abundance, rather than feeling like abundance can cause me to feel self-pity…if I let it go that far.
That can spiral into a lack of appreciation of the abundance. And that lack of appreciation can effect other areas I really want to experience abundance in, such as the area of finances.
After all, I know the best path to realizing financial abundance that already exists in my reality is appreciating all other forms of abundance that aren’t financial abundance.
Having a ton of things I COULD do, all of which thrill me to think about, IS ABUNDANCE. So rather than going down the path of negative thinking…
I get Positively Focused
I monitor my thoughts, right now, and practice accepting where I am, NOW and enjoying what I’m doing, NOW. I do this while realizing those other things I also want to do aren’t going anywhere.
And if I’m successful, which I usually am, I find myself in JOY, NOW. I don’t find myself in a Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO) belief about these other things I could be doing and therefore resenting or feeling impatient about, what I am doing now.
Does make sense?
Finding the Positively Focused space, not only do I realize plenty of time to enjoy all these things, I realize too a state of lightness, a lighter way of being. Standing there, life gets really good.
Because not only am I enjoying my now, in this day, the rest of this day and future days, get better too as there are more things to do than I can possibly do in a today. Which means, there are plenty of fulfilling, fun things to do tomorrow and the next day and the next.
That’s life mastery. It’s also how I make my days even better, happier days.
Extreme pleasure filled me this morning while dreaming. So much pleasure I woke and flowed in between stunningly beautiful and fulfilling dreams. Waking from them I felt the joy of them, the camaraderie between me and Angels, most of whom were female.
So many I experienced, revealed in, went back into, experienced more, then woke again in peace and clarity. Love, certainty, love, being seen, love, and being known, cared for, attended to, accompanied…so many positive experiences…
Experiences people expect from other people; boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands and wives pale in comparison to these experiences. If they only knew the real, lasting, unwavering unconditional love of their ongoing now origin!
“Positive” doesn’t capture the richness of experience, emotion or immersion, nor does it approach how delighted I feel right now, feeling this while watching and feeling these words flowing through my fingers, falling short in describing how I feel, what I’ve experienced, what I know.
What’s really cool now is, nearly every day, every morning, this happens. Weeks ago I wanted to savor every ecstatic instance. Scarcity and fear fueled that desire. I thought such experiences wouldn’t last. Several weeks later they still come, their ecstasy overflowing, overwhelming, washing over me like waves crashing upon uninhabited, unexplored treasure islands.
My desire shifted from savoring born of scarcity, to savoring in their abundance while expecting, believing, knowing…such experiences know no end.
Like my life knows no end.
So my delight continues, ever delighting me leaving me in stupendous awe at life’s paradoxical yet real-as-fuck dual-and-yet-not dual reality. Physical and nonphysical known by me as one continuous reality.
This is the series called “journal entries” for when I experience something I write about in my journal I think others might benefit from reading. This is a continuation of that series.
From my journal – Wednesday, Dec. 9, 2020
Enjoying my full plate. Enjoying guidance pointing to fulfilled desires. Enjoying seeing fulfilled desires emerge into awareness, on their own volition, eager, anticipating the delight I’ll feel when they blossom full-blown into reality.
Anticipating joyful experiences today like yesterday, only better because my life gets better and better day by day.
Fulfillment, joy, fun and adventure know no bounds. Each day seduces my attention, for my attention is each day’s origin, and my days appreciate my attention as a child appreciates its mother. Love courses between my creation and me like mother’s milk, me nurturing the unfolding, the unfolding delighting me, all in the context of the mind and eyes of God: pure bliss, joy, love and honor, watching my creation expand All That Is.
Now, I recognize I create my reality. Since the past is just another reality, I also re-create my past. That’s what happened this holiday season.
I’m sharing this for the many people who, like me, struggle with holidays. I know now “struggle” is optional. No matter how bad I used to feel, this year, I’m having the best Thanksgiving ever, in large part thanks to my house mate, who I’ll call Kimberly.
I’m going to relate how I transformed my holiday experience while interspersing some theory. If you want to know how all this works as a cohesive living approach I call Positively Focused, please visit my website. There you can schedule a free 30-minute 1:1 in which I’ll answer any questions at no cost to you.
How I transformed the Thanksgiving holiday in less than 15 minutes.
My house mate Kimberly is a manifestation I created after a wonderful ordeal involving previous house mates. In January I’ll tell that story.
Kimberly’s arrival fulfilled many desires. I know though that all fulfilled desires contain within them seeds for more consciousness expansion. That usually looks like “negative” experiences, although they aren’t that. Indeed, what happened Thanksgiving morning was perfect.
Excitement filled our little home the night before. We bought an enormous turkey, planned several decadent side dishes and even went in together on a new projector to watch Killing Eve and Uncle Frank, Amazon’s new feel-good holiday movie.
Settled in for the night, we anticipated a wonderful morning cooking food, listening to music and generally enjoying time together.
That’s not what happened, at first
I’m an early riser. Kimberly usually wakes later. I got up eager for our culinary adventure. But as I got things ready, I noticed she had made a bag of popcorn late last night. That meant, I realized, that she might not get up early enough.
Little did I know she had planned on joining me. She even set an alarm. But something went wrong. Little did I know how “going wrong” presents enormous gifts.
For hours I relished the morning, preparing our dishes. As turkey dressing time neared though, Kimberly’s absence loomed large. Where was she?
It was a passing thought at first. Then it turned into worry. Then it turned into resentment. Kimberly wasn’t meeting my expectations, expectations I thought we shared.
That’s not her purpose though
Kimberly need not meet my expectations. No one lives to meet my expectations. When I got that a while ago, I mostly stopped resenting people when they did their own thing.
Everyone comes into reality pursuing their fulfillment, whatever that looks like. The paradox is, when a person shows up in my reality, pursuing their fulfillment, I know now they aren’t real, objective people. Instead, they reflect back to me beliefs I hold in my Belief Constellation even while they pursue individual self-fulfillment.
Other people (as well as everything else in my reality) are physicalized versions of beliefs active in me. I tested this over several years. Improving my beliefs always changed people’s behavior, especially the way they treated me.
Today, people in my life are angels. They show me active beliefs in my Moment of Becoming on their way to becoming my tangible reality. Realities I want I welcome. Realities I don’t want I know I can do something about.
Here’s what that looks like
I knew from years of Positively Focused practice that resentment and worry had nothing to do with Kimberly. Instead they indicated beliefs active that drew into my now, an experience I preferred not having.
Realizing that I did something about it. First, I looked inside to see what thoughts/beliefs I activated. After all, I had enjoyed, up to that moment, being in the kitchen by myself, making all this food my way, without having to compromise anything about what I was doing. It was fun!
My exploration showed old beliefs I created as a kid active in my now. They were about my parents, my family and holidays with them. That’s when Kimberly offered an amazing opportunity. I could clean up those old beliefs and, simultaneously, clean up how I experienced my now, create better future experiences and transform the past too!
Once I got that I stopped preparing meals. I went to my room, set a 15 minute timer, then went into deliberate focus. In that focus I realized/remembered the following:
Kimberly is a manifestation. She is not real.
Kimberly is a manifestation of my entire Belief Constellation embodied in an apparition in my evolving now consciousness.
As such, constructively using realizations represents allows stronger connections with my Personal Trinity. Reacting any other way creates unwanted futures.
Kimberly’s choices are hers and those acts aren’t about me. But make them about me when I interpret them as such!
Such a wonderful gift.
Circumstances in life do this all day every day. People, objects, experiences all are physical representations of my ongoing beliefs.
For better or worse, most people don’t know this, so they interact with their reality as though it is separate, an objective reality apart from who they are, what they are and what they’re believing.
Even among those who know physical reality is a mirror of one’s internal reality, few know what to do with that information.
Those who don’t know struggle with all kinds of mental and emotional traumas, with few remedies other than iffy mental health therapies which often stretch over years and produce scant lasting results.
Rather than taking these wonderful gifts evidenced in people, places, objects and events, for granted, humans can use them for personal transformation. Done diligently, such transformation also transforms ordinary life into the Charmed Life I share with my clients.
Seeing Kimberly as a transformational opportunity also let’s her off the hook. She can be how she’s being and in the absence of me making her wrong, she becomes the angel she is, but only when I see her from my Inner Being perspective, my Broader Perspective which sees everything in reality as blessed, perfectly unfolding and beneficial to all the Universe.
Creating awesome from ordinary
The moment I tuned into my Inner Being, the discomfort, angst and resentment lifted. It was crazy how fast and complete it was! One moment it was there, the next POOF! Totally abscent.
What flowed in its place were thoughts about how wonderful this experience turned out to be, how good realizing that felt, and how remarkable I was as a deliberate creator creating this experience. I felt compelled to voice these thoughts:
Wow, I feel much better.
This is so much better than how I felt before.
Those old beliefs soothed in my awareness placed on more empowering thoughts.
I am having a good time creating a new reality with just my awareness.
I get that my reality is my creation, including other people in my reality.
Then I started thinking about the meal I’m preparing:
This meal is going to be really good!
The au gratin smells delicious!
So do the roasted veggies!
The stuffing is going to be good too!
Then came the extraordinary convergence of reality matching my new perspective: At that exact point in time, Kimberly came bounding down the stairs. I heard her walk into the kitchen from inside my basement space. Then she sent me a text:
Trippy! The very moment I tuned into these better-feeling thoughts, my experience of Kimberly shifted. A new reality showed up including a different Kimberly!
Nevertheless I wanted to amplify how good I felt. It felt so good. These thoughts flowed next…
That’s so cool what just happened.
I shifted my reality!
And my apparitions shifted too.
What I’m discovering is so accurate.
I love my Inner Being relationship!
I felt waaaay better by now.
In that moment I returned to my original bliss. I realized too my old beliefs transformed as well: I see them now as having created experiences long ago that, I was destined to shift, in my now, my current Thanksgiving; and in doing so transforming my past holiday experiences, my present one and all future ones.
I have wonderful new memories about the holidays. Memories made more powerful because they sprung from enlightened consciousness. I know thoughts born from enlightened consciousness are far more powerful than those born out of it.
I also now know that I’ve transformed past, present and future in one fell swoop. I know it because I feel it.
What does it feel like? It feels like Joyful invincibility.