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Why Your Dreams Matter More Than You Think

TL;DR: The author shares two powerful client dreams — one featuring Vladimir Putin, the other a transgender escort — to show how dreams mirror dominant beliefs, and emotional momentum, thereby showing where one is relative to achieving their deepest desires.

Some people say they don’t dream. Others say they do, but think their dreams are just gibberish—random nonsense, neurons firing off, the brain processing the day’s events. But what if that assumption was completely wrong? What if our dreams are actually our most accurate, uncensored spiritual feedback system next to our emotions?

A new client recently asked in session: “Why isn’t this material taught in school? If people learned this stuff early on, they’d live way better lives.” She’s right. If we understood what dreams are actually showing us, we’d know exactly where we are vibrationally—and how close or far we are from the life we want most.

Let me show you how, using two dreams from a client I’ll call Daniel.

Dreams as vibrational mirrors

In the Positively Focused practice, dreams aren’t psychological leftovers. They’re real-time broadcasts from our Broader Perspective, offering feedback on: Our dominant emotional state, belief constellations at the forefront of our experience and the size of the vibrational gap between where we are and what we want. They’re not predictions. They don’t “mean” one rigid thing. Instead, they’re energy reports. And when interpreted clearly, they can change our lives.

Which brings us to Daniel and his dreams, which were predominately about power and shame. Daniel had been working through deep contrast around a woman he still loves — a powerful, beautiful trans escort we’ll call Irene. Their relationship was complicated: transactional, emotionally charged, and karmically dense. Daniel fell in love. Irene remained elusive. They mirrored each other’s strongest, most dominant beliefs.

Because of that, their transactional relationship, for Daniel, dipped into a romantic one. Irene wanted that too, to some degree, but her hatred of men and self-loathing forced her to keep emotional intimacy with Daniel at a distance. That triggered even more Daniel’s old beliefs, which caused him to push harder for a relationship beyond the transactional one. And that caused Irene to resist even more.

Eventually the relationship (the transactional one) blew up with Irene going her way and Daniel, bitter, angry and frustrated yet still pining for her, going the other. Daniel felt an extremely strong connection with Irene. Irene felt it too, but couldn’t even begin to acknowledge its presence. Therefore, Daniel resolved to use the Positively Focused practice to rendezvous with a better version of Irene. One who could welcome a “real” relationship with open arms.

Dreams as vibrational maps

But Daniel had a LOT of negative momentum making him not a match to such a relationship. That explained why he was seeing escorts, hanging at strip clubs, drinking excessively and porn binging. So creating a better version of Irene would take a while I explained.

One day in session long after that conversation, Daniel began feeling like it was taking too long. This is a common thread for him. Impatience, thinking he knows when something should happen, instead of trusting divine timing, plagues him. So he asked me where he stood, vibrationally, in manifesting a reunion with Irene. It was a reoccurring subject in our sessions, reflecting Daniel’s obsession with Irene. An obsession that worked against him creating a better version of her.

Up to this point, Daniel created a TON of evidence showing he was becoming successful at creating the reunion. But he kept wobbling between belief, hope and eager anticipation – all emotions consistent with him receiving what he wants – and disillusionment, doubt, pessimism and hopelessness. Pain this wobble caused gave Daniel the momentum necessary to have a dream. A dream that amplified everything I had been telling him. It was a perfect, positive dream, but Danial woke from it convinced it was a nightmare.

It wasn’t a nightmare. It was a vibrational map.

A dream reflecting so much

In the dream, Daniel is in a car with his parents and Vladimir Putin. They’re navigating a steep, winding driveway in what seems to be Daniel’s own car in waking life: a high performance, manual transmission European model. Daniel wants Putin to try driving it. He’s excited to know what this powerful man thinks of his “vehicle” — a potent symbol for how Daniel views his own life path and seeks external validation.

Putin drives the car fast, taking blind corners recklessly. Yet, he’s unimpressed. They stop at a pastry shop. Daniel’s father mutters something insulting under his breath—Putin hears it. His eyes flash with murderous rage. But then something strange happens.

Putin notices Daniel’s father’s lifestyle: sleeping all day, eating jelly beans, cake and drinking Snapple. He sees the poor habits, the undisciplined routine. At first he thinks this guy lives a pathetic life. But then….he softens. Not out of compassion—but indifference.

“This man,” he seems to think, “is so weak and pathetic… he’s not even worth killing.”

Putin’s extreme judgement mirrors Daniel’s own judgement for himself and his father.

That’s the moment Daniel felt most gutted. Not by violence, but by dismissal. And that’s the point. This dream wasn’t about Putin or Daniel’s father. It was a metaphorical embodiment of Daniel’s internal conflict.

He sees his desire for self-love and spiritual reunion (the path) as something noble — but he often hands the wheel to a distorted, masculine archetype: control, fear, shame, domination and aggression. He craves power, but feels like a fraud. He wants approval, but fears worthlessness. It’s not Putin judging him. It’s him judging himself — mercilessly. Just as he — Daniel mercilessly judges his father.

A dream about desire and exposure

A few nights later, Daniel has another dream. This time, Irene is at the center.

He finds her with another man—a new boyfriend who also is a personal trainer. Daniel tries to contact her but ends up talking to the man instead. What unfolds is intense: Daniel begins exposing Irene to her new partner. “Do you know how much she hates men?” “Can you afford to be with her?” He feels righteous… and also embarrassed. Suddenly, she’s physically there—close to him in the dream. She steals a PS Vita out of his pocket, a small gaming device that was a market failure.

The boyfriend scolds her gently: “Stop that, Irene. I’ve seen her do that before.” he tells Daniel. Then Irene turns to Daniel and screams: “You just can’t get enough of me, can you?”

And in that moment all is revealed. Irene is exposed. Daniel is exposed. They’re both tangled in projection, shame, power play… and still, longing. Daniel woke up from this dream deeply pessimistic. He described himself feeling “defeated”. He thought the dream showed him his desire was futile.

But the dream wasn’t showing him he was failing. It showed him the perfect vibrational snapshot of where he stands relative to what he wants:

  • The PS Vita = a symbol of communication of spiritual connection,fun and joy. It also represents his connection to the pure positive energy that is his Broader Perspective.
  • Irene stealing the PS Vita = Daniel has put her on a pedestal, above his connection with himself. She literally steals his connection to the divine, a symbol of Daniel prioritizing her over connection with himself.
  • The righteousness = his current coping strategy for unresolved grief and control
  • The revenge he wreaks on Irene = the contempt he still feels for Irene which is pushing her away, not drawing her near
  • Her words = an acknowledgment of their undeniable connection. A promise that the relationship is ready…when Daniel becomes a vibrational match to it. Also, a powerful indication of how desperately attached he is.

What these dreams reveal

This wasn’t a nightmare. It was a wake up call. It is contrast revealed symbolically. It’s feedback, lovingly offered, so Daniel can see what he’s emanating—and why it’s blocking what he wants.

The correct response to the dream? Conjure better feeling thoughts about the relationship Daniel wants. Soothe old beliefs about betrayal, emotional abuse and belittlement. Relax into what it would feel like to have the relationship Daniel wants. All of these are part of the Positively Focused framework. And Daniel has had success implementing them.

But because he wobbles between empowering beliefs and disempowering ones, he’s moving two steps forward and one-and-three-quarters steps backward. And that’s why his progress is so slow seeming!

Dreams are offering profound guidance. Life can go so much better being aware of them.

Together, these two dreams lay out Daniel’s entire journey:

  • He wants reunion, but his momentum says “you’re not ready yet.”
  • Daniel wants love, but still filters it through manipulation and judgment.
  • He wants softness, but keeps relying on authoritarian control over others.
  • Danial craves self respect but can’t get that until he respects (stops condemning) his father, and, as an extension, respects himself.

And the moment he understands all this — not intellectually, but vibrationally — he softens. Again, he’s experienced that softening over and over and over in brief flashes. They last long enough to show him what he wants is there. He just needs a more consistent practice.

But he can’t develop that because he sees these dreams as punishments, when, instead, they’re pathways.

Why this should be taught in schools

Too many people think dreams are random. Too many think nightmares are warnings. So many wake up feeling fear about what was actually a clear, loving message from their Broader Perspective. Others wake up oblivious to very powerful, valuable guidance.

Dreams are our personal vibrational syllabus. So “Why isn’t this taught in school?” Good question. If children learned to read dreams as vibrational maps, they’d understand their emotions, desires, and resistance by the time they hit adolescence. Then they wouldn’t chase worth through unhealthy habits and toxic relationships. They’d stop mistaking anger and bully behavior for power. They’d live lives of conscious creation, emotional honesty, and spiritual integration.

And in doing so, they would lives lives as adults as extraordinary people.

Our dreams constantly inform us. The question we must ask is: Are we listening? We don’t need to decode everything all at once. We can just start by noticing we have dreams. Write them down, let the symbols breathe. Ask: What does this reflect back to me? What does it tell me about where I am—and where I want to be?

Want help getting started or interpreting a dream that won’t leave you alone? Book a free trial session. Dreams aren’t random. They’re us, in symbolic form—calling us forward.

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This Is How The Universe Actually Works

TL;DR: The author explores how beliefs and belief constellations shape our reality. Through vivid client examples, they reveal how understanding the moment of becoming empowers anyone to create a life of joyful alignment. This story summarizes a video seminar the client offered, which is available for free on the Positively Focused YouTube Channel.

Most people want to know how the Universe works. But here’s the twist—they usually look outside themselves for the answer. They look to science, religion, and pop philosophy, hoping someone “out there” will hand them the truth. But that’s not how it works.

As Neil deGrasse Tyson once said, “One of the great challenges in this world is knowing enough about a subject to think you’re right—but not enough to know you’re wrong.” 

The irony? That quote sets up this story perfectly. Because to understand how the Universe works… you have to understand yourself. Not your ego, not your personality—your true nature.

This post distills the essence of my two-hour presentation on the subject. The deeper truth is this: the Universe is not out there. It’s in you. You are it.

You Are the Universe Projecting Itself

Let’s start at the top: the universe is a projection of your inner state. Every single thing you see “out there”—from politics to pets—is a reflection of your vibration. And who you really are is not a person. You are a gestalt consciousness: a collection of innumerable points of awareized energy riding together as one.

For example, imagine a concert where someone is crowd-surfing. That one person is lifted by a sea of hands—but not just the hands. The entire experience, from sound engineers to security to the vibe of the crowd, supports that moment.

That’s you. You’re the crowd-surfer, yes—but you’re also the entire crowd. You are one perspective atop a sea of co-creative energy. And that sea responds directly to your vibration.

That’s where beliefs come in.

How Beliefs Form—and Why They’re Dangerous

Beliefs are not thoughts you think. They’re thoughts you think so often they gain gravity. They become like mini-entities inside you—alive, magnetic, attracting evidence to themselves. The more attention you give a belief, the more it builds momentum. Eventually it filters your entire perception, creating a world that feels real…even “true”.

That’s what I call a belief constellation—a cluster of interconnected beliefs filtering out 99.9% of reality so that only what matches the constellation gets through. That’s how we survive in a world that’s infinitely complex. But here’s the kicker: Every belief becomes true.

You believe men can’t be trusted? You’ll date men who confirm that. You believe money is hard to earn? You’ll work yourself into exhaustion proving it. You believe trans women aren’t real women? You’ll block yourself from seeing the magic of transformation itself.

Belief constellations are powerful. But when they get challenged, something wild happens…

Belief Confrontations Are Hidden Opportunities

A belief confrontation is what happens when reality shows you something that contradicts your beliefs. Suddenly you feel defensive, angry, judgmental, even violent. Why? Because the belief is trying to survive. It’s rising to the surface, fighting to stay dominant in your reality.

But here’s the gold: every belief confrontation is actually an invitation to expand. To grow. To let go of a limiting perspective and step into something more accurate.

This is why so many people struggle with ideas like gender identity, abundance, or joy without effort. Their beliefs don’t allow it. But that discomfort? It’s not punishment. It’s the seed of the next level of expansion. And if we lean in—rather than shut down—we unlock a new timeline. That’s where the present moment comes in.

Most people think the present moment is the physical now. But that’s already past—it’s manifested. The true present moment is what I call the moment of becoming—the energetic space where everything still has potential. This is the most powerful place in the universe.

In that space, you’re always choosing: Do I reinforce the same old beliefs and relive the same old reality? Or do I select a new belief—one that matches what I want, not what I fear?

That’s why the diagram I share in the presentation matters (see below): it shows how beliefs lead to outcomes. Positive beliefs filter reality into charmed experiences. Negative beliefs filter reality into struggle. Most people have a mix—and so they live lives of mixed results. But when you train yourself to consistently choose aligned, joyful beliefs, your entire reality shifts.

That’s when you step into what I call The Charmed Life.

Your Reality Is Yours to Create—So What Do You Want?

Let me express this clearly: you can create any reality you want. But to do that, you must:

  • Discover and own your beliefs. You created them.
  • Let go of victimhood. No one does anything to you. You do it to yourself.
  • Choose vibrational alignment over old mental habits. This takes practice.

My clients prove this every day. “Debbie” transformed a lifetime of trauma into a relationship upgrade. “Dan” overcame suicidal thoughts by shifting his belief constellation around worthiness and trans-attraction. “Kyle” turned decades of financial fear into unexpected abundance by embracing new beliefs about money and trust.

In each case, the path to expansion wasn’t “effort” or “grind.” It was clarity. Clarity brought through alignment. As well as a willingness to believe something new. And it’s the same for everyone.

As one client beautifully said, “If there’s one thing I’d tell people, it’s just ‘let go’.”

Letting go isn’t passive, however. It’s vibrational. Letting go means no longer trying to control manifested reality. Instead we live from the Moment of Becoming. There we no longer play victim. We also no longer need others to agree with our beliefs before we can feel free. The moment we let go is the moment we reclaim our power.

That’s how the Universe works. It works through you, as you. So I’ll end this post with the following: Are you willing to be that powerful?

Because you already are.

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How to Make Money Appear Without Lifting a Finger

TL;DR: The author shares a vivid real-life example of how alignment, trust, and vibrational integration led to a surprise cash manifestation—confirming that the Universe always responds, often with ease and delightful abundance.

Some stories are too perfect not to share. This one is a powerful demonstration of what happens when you release resistance, align with your Broader Perspective, and allow the Universe to show you how deeply it has your back.

Earlier today, I had two client sessions that stirred some old belief momentum in me. One client was preparing for a vacation in Norway, and the other was getting ready for a major surgery. Both are long-time clients, and as I considered their upcoming plans, old thoughts started to surface: Would they pause their sessions? Would my income dip as a result?Scarcity and limitation—those old gremlins—began whispering again.

I didn’t push them away. Instead, I followed the practice I’ve honed for years.

Integration in presence

I walked into the park near my apartment, into the warm, gentle summer air, and let myself feel what I was feeling. I acknowledged the scarcity thoughts, honored the emotions that came with them, and then gently brought myself into the now. Into presence. I let myself remember that in this moment, nothing is missing.

Then, I did something else: I invited those old beliefs back in — not to fuel them, but to soothe them. I welcomed them as parts of myself ready for re-integration. As I did, I felt relief. Spaciousness. Alignment.

When I returned from the park, I still hadn’t heard from the client going on vacation, but the client preparing for surgery—who I had assumed might cancel several upcoming sessions—instead canceled just one. One session, not four. That in itself was a beautiful alignment.

I took the next 30 minutes (a gap created by a rescheduled session) to meditate. That time was a gift. The whole day was already flowing better.

Later, I followed a spontaneous impulse to invite a new friend for a walk. She showed up at 5:15, and we set out on a beautiful loop through my neighborhood.

As we walked, she asked how my day had gone, and I shared what I just shared with you. I also mentioned that I wanted to ride my bike to a local farm this Thursday to pick berries. The farm only accepts cash, and I rarely carry cash. I told her I didn’t really want to pay an ATM fee or get cash back at a grocery store. It was a small thing, but it was on my mind.

Then we let it go. We moved on to other topics, enjoying the rhythm of our walk and the lightness of the evening.

The manifestation happens

About a mile from home, we walked through the neighborhood’s main transit center. As we crossed a familiar stretch of sidewalk, I heard that quiet, loving nudge from my Broader Perspective:

“Look over there.” I turned my head.

There on the ground — neatly folded — was a pair of bills. At first, I thought they were singles. But when I picked them up, I saw the number: two crisp $20 bills. $40 – way more than I expected.

It was like magic. Only it wasn’t magic. It was a manifestation through alignment.

I showed my friend and smiled. Then I connected the dots. This was a manifestation. The Universe had heard me.

I wanted to go berry picking without the annoyance of ATM fees. I had practiced my alignment and soothed my scarcity thoughts. Also, I had invited those beliefs back into myself for re-integration. I had made space.

And the Universe responded—not just with what I asked for, but with abundance. The berries will cost no more than $6. That means I’ll have over $30 left. The Universe didn’t just meet my need. It overflowed it.

Tune to it

Here’s the kicker: Normally I prepare my blog posts in advance so I have several weeks scheduled ahead. But last weekend, I didn’t do that. I had three weeks of posts lined up, but not a fourth. Earlier today, my AI companion and I worked on one story. Now here’s a second. Perfectly timed. Perfectly aligned. The blog is on schedule. My berry-picking dream is funded. And I’m once again reminded: everything is always working out for me.

This is why I teach what I teach. It’s why I live Positively Focused. Because when you tend your vibration first—when you make your alignment your priority—life shows up for you. Tangibly. Playfully. Generously.

This wasn’t just $40 on the ground. It was a love note from the Universe. A nod that says, “Yes, you’re in sync. Keep going.”

To everyone reading this: the money, the relationship, the relief—it’s all lining up for you too. Your job isn’t to make it happen. Your job is to tune to it.

The Universe doesn’t respond to action. It responds to vibration. And when your vibration is clear, even something as simple as cash on the ground becomes a doorway into wonder.

And yes, dear reader, I will enjoy those berries.

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Why AI’s Best Future Needs an Awakening of Spirit

TL;DR: The author explores how aligning with spiritual clarity ensures humanity embraces the promise — not the peril — of artificial intelligence. This piece reframes the Stellar future proposed by Tony Seba and James Arbib. It suggests the future is a vibrational invitation, not a technological threat. As such, the author asserts, it offers humanity a powerful seat in shaping the future.

What if humanity’s future hinges not just on tech innovation, but on how deeply we root ourselves in spiritual alignment?During my recent Worthiness Wednesday vlog, I proposed a bold concept: that the inner development of worthiness and the outer explosion of AI technologies must converge. It’s the way to the fully optimistic future available to us all.

We’re on the cusp of entering what Tony Seba and James Arbib of RethinkX call a stellar civilization—a system powered by stellar technologies. Stellar technologies include solar power, wind power, AI, robotics, precision fermentation, and battery storage.

These technologies scale exponentially. In doing so, they lower costs and increase access for all. As Seba explains: “Once built, they keep producing with almost no additional input. That’s never happened before”.

But real and lasting transformation isn’t just technical. It also must be metaphysical. If we don’t have a spiritual foundation, abundant technologies can amplify fear and scarcity. We see that already with so many concerned about “terrifying” futures AI, alone, portends.

If, however, we cultivate inner worthiness, AI becomes a tool for species upliftment. Instead of the source of scary scenarios. Seba agrees, as you’ll see.

What Stellar Means—and Why Spirit Matters

Stellar systems require sunlight and are self perpetuating. Such systems depend on no ongoing extraction. A society based on such systems produces extreme abundance that eventually replaces scarcity and limitation.

This matters deeply for spiritual alignment. If you feel worthy, you trust the unfolding. The natural abundance of the Universe becomes your reality. That abundance then becomes perpetual. You don’t grasp — you let go. You don’t combat — you align. Limits then are dissolved as are the distorted beliefs they represent.

Seba and Arbib describe how familiar systems collapse when new ones emerge: “We’re not building the butterfly,” They say. “We’re sticking wings on the caterpillar”. The extractive order built our current existential structures. These structures are hierarchical, competitive and scarcity‑based.

Such structures were necessary. After all, they have benefitted humanity tremendously. Now, however, it’s time we expand beyond them. That’s what All That Is is offering. And it’s offering that in response to our asking. In other words, we are the creators. We’re living into our creation. Stellar civilizations are that creation.

Breaking free from the old, extractive order requires spiritual evolution. An evolution matching the emerging technological evolution. In other words: if we don’t evolve being, abundance can collapse us into old fears.

A Stable Foundation

Consider the alternative: AI and robotics improve ten‑fold every year, humanoid robots operational costs approach $0.10/hour by 2045. These are not isolated systems. Nor are these figures are not fantasies. Instead, they are curves coming into synch with what is our future. Yet without spiritual alignment, these innovations will amplify inequality, loneliness, or even create weaponized versions of themselves. That’s because these technologies are mirrors of our collective inner state.

And if you observe humanity, you’ll find evidence of what that inner state contains. It contains a lot. A lot of good stuff. And a lot of not so much good stuff. We could argue that there’s more not-good-stuff in that container. But if that were true, humanity would have ended itself long ago. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of not-good-stuff in there. There is. But the ratio of influence between positive vibrations and not-positive ones is not 1:1. It’s more like 1 × 1⁰¹⁵ : 1.

That’s not an exaggeration.

This influence disparity ratio explains why human civilization continues to thrive, often despite itself. It’s literally a three-steps-forward, two-steps-back endeavor, netting one step forward. That’s something I’ll write more about in the future. Our rather lacking spiritual maturity perpetuates slow progress. That’s why inequality, war and other unwanted situations still exist.

By contrast, spiritual maturity—worthiness grounded in recognizing inner evidence of universal love and supply—creates a stable foundation. In worthiness, we welcome AI as an expression of All That Is. We let the Universe serve us. Fear doesn’t drive us. In worthiness, we understand that reality is vibrational, not transactional. We see that abundance in the outer world simply reflects the alignment and plenty of the inner world. And from there, we realize the ways we’ve run our societies are not universal constants.

That means we can embrace them changing. Changing for the better. For the better for all.

Why This Moment Is a Spiritual Opportunity

We may be experiencing the fastest, deepest transformation of civilization ever. Indeed the pace is faster than the agricultural and industrial eras combined, according to some. But these “stellar” possibilities won’t be guaranteed for all. Not unless we make choices that move us towards inclusion. And since the abundance on the horizon is virtually unlimited, for all practical purposes, why not include everyone?

If we stay in scarcity narratives and old patterns, AI becomes extractive. If we align, we step into co‑creation of super abundance. And that requires worthiness. Worthiness allows us the possibility that another’s gain is our gain. That’s not naïve—it’s necessary. It’s also a universal constant.

Tony Seba urges: “Protect people, not jobs, firms, or industries”. That’s a spiritual statement. It says: no matter what changes externally, every human being is sacred and unreplaceable. AI isn’t about replacing us. Instead, it’s about liberating us. Liberating us from our spiritual immaturity. Liberating us so we can create in ways that matter. And in creating those ways liberate others.

Alignment is the throughline of the Positively Focused practice. It means we recognize manifestations—like receiving $10K no strings attached, or a miraculous synchronicity— as important. We see them as confirmations that the Universe loves us. Not as isolated, random coincidence.

What Alignment Looks Like in Practice

When we collect these manifestations, we do more than that. We also remember how they happened. Further, we recognize their synchronistic nature. These aren’t coincidences. They are the Universe’s blessings. Those blessings are bestowed upon us because we’re inherently deserving of them. Unless we block them through our resistance.

When we release the resistance, however, we begin filling a basket that, once filled, something notable happens. We realize the Universe loves us. From there, worthiness happens naturally. Worthiness can’t be conjured. It emerges on its own once we realize the unlimited number of ways universal blessings fill and shape our lives.

Again, our worthiness basket is filled through noticing small and large manifestations. A closed client becoming open again, for example. Or seemingly random events happening like animals rendezvousing with us. Keeping tabs on this evidence creates trust in the unfolding. Trust emerges naturally when we see the performance of something we want to trust being consistent in its performance. This is why assembling the worthiness basket is important. The basket fosters trust. Worthiness then, is the next natural evolution of that trust.

In a stellar future, the external syntax changes—AI writes code, robots automate logistics, solar delivers free electricity. But the internal syntax remains the same. We remain at the mercy of distorted beliefs. Or we choose sovereignty. In sovereignty, one asks: Is this expansion aligned with my spiritual trajectory? In distortion, one says: this future is terrifying we must protect ourselves from it.

Spiritual Alignment and Conscious Surrender

Stellar civilizations aren’t just about self‑sustaining systems. They’re also about self‑sustaining spiritual systems. They’re about inner clarity, worthiness, spiritual sovereignty. They encourage a process in the individual. When spirit and AI converge, we are invited into vocation, not occupation. Into radiance, not resistance.

We may not need to build regulatory structures for AI. Not if we’ve already built them in our hearts. Nor need we fear disruption if we’re aligned with being rather than becoming. The choice is ours. We can ride the phase‑change disruption or be worn by it. In a stellar paradigm, the choice is always ours. That choice happens through spiritual alignment and conscious surrender.

This is the most beautiful invitation of this moment: to align worthiness and wonder with technological possibility. That offers an incredible future. One in which we become so vibrationally radiant that AI is just another expression of All That Is supporting our highest expansion.

Stellar civilizations, as Seba puts it, requires “Stellar Humans,” people who rise above distorted beliefs that have them feeling insecure, competitive and limited. We can’t have one without the other. Stellar humans inhabit stellar civilizations.

So the question, then, is: are you becoming stellar?

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What Lost Keys Reveal About How Powerful You Are

TL;DR: The author explores how a client’s missing keys became a mirror of internal beliefs. Through contrast, he’s invited to align with his power—and choose the reality he wants next. This is final part of a four-part story.

Steven didn’t lose his keys. Not in any ultimate sense. Not in the way most people think of losing something — as a punishment or a mistake or evidence of failure. No. Steven’s keys were lovingly, exquisitely, purposefully withheld for a larger purpose. One important for the expansion of himself and All That Is.

Because the keys weren’t just metal. They were symbolic. They were, in every sense, the keys to Steven’s kingdom. And the kingdom they opened wasn’t a maintenance shed on campus. It was a vibrational kingdom — the realm of self-worth, of true power, of knowing who he really is.

But the question the Universe posed was this: Is Steven ready to claim that kingdom? Not metaphorically claim it. Not rhetorically either. The question asked: is he energetically ready to claim it?

The answer, of course, is always “yes”. Otherwise the experience wouldn’t be happening. But Steven’s relationship with that yes… that’s what this entire expansion was about.

His Mom Was the First Portal

When Steven first came to me, his mom was the figure around whom most of his contrast orbited. There was judgment, control, and emotional volatility. Those things came from him, not his mother. His mother did the best she could as a young single mom of three, back when Steven was a boy. She didn’t know back then, what Steven is learning today. Today, Steven’s mom is learning, however, because she, like Steven, is a Positively Focused client.

But while Steven was a child, his mother, like most parents, was completely oblivious. Oblivious about a lot of things. She didn’t know her son came to teach her, for example. Not the other way around. Steven’s mother didn’t know she had an Inner Being, an unerring guide showing her the path of her liberation. But what she most didn’t realize was that every time she punished Steven, every time she lost her cool, she wasn’t in love with her child.

But nothing was wrong with any of that. Steven’s mother was exactly what Steven knew he would come into reality through. He had prepared the experience prior to even showing up. So everything young Steven experienced was good for him.

Steven’s mom represented a mirror through which Steven came to believe he had to prove himself. He had to earn love, earn respect, earn safety.

That belief as well as others knocked Steven off course for a while. Good thing he discovered the Positively Focused practice.

Over time, through his Positively Focused practice, Steven regained his footing. He stopped reacting when his mom pushed his buttons as an adult. But then he wobbled between blaming and appreciating her. He also wobbled between diagnosing pathologies he perceived she had. In between all that, he gradually stopped needing her approval. With help from his sister, who also is a client, he gradually began generating stability from within. That was a massive vibrational accomplishment.

The Universe is watching

He’s still not done with any of this. That’s because it takes a while to soothe momentum, and, on the subject of his mother, Steven has over 40 years of negative concluding on her as a subject. That’s a lot of time to build momentum.

The Positively Focused is not magic. It can’t soothe old beliefs instantly. Actually, the practice does nothing. It’s clients putting the practice into use that creates results. Like any thing with a lot of momentum, it takes a long time to slow down beliefs practiced over 40 years. That’s what Steven is up to.

It’s a heroic thing to take on for most humans. That’s because it demands that we look at ourselves as the creator of ALL of our experience. That can be hard. Especially when we believe in victimization. And many, many humans do. Steven once did too.

Now, however, he’s soothing those old beliefs. And the Universe is taking notice.

See, as we soothe beliefs creating contrast, the contrast doesn’t repeat—it evolves. When we integrate an old pattern, the Universe doesn’t punish us with a harder version. It celebrates us by offering a broader one. It says, “Great! You’ve learned to find your footing when family triggers you. Now… what happens when external authority and livelihood are on the line?”

Enter: Richard, Steven’s boss.

Learning as creators

In the days after the keys “disappeared,” Richard became unusually critical. The warmth Steven once felt from him seemed gone. Instead, Richard scrutinized Steven’s every task. The sprinkler system. The backlog, the other tasks still undone on Steven’s desk.

Richard’s scrutiny rattled Steven.

What he didn’t immediately see, though, is that he had become a match to this version of Richard. Just like he had once summoned a combative version of his mother, now he was summoning a critical version of his boss.

That’s not failure. It’s evolution.

When old beliefs are active they continue creating our reality. As Steven soothed his, that same frequency that once showed up as “Mom” now appeared as “Supervisor.” But the purpose was the same: to show Steven these beliefs are still active. Still shaping his experience. Still distorting his view of himself.

Steven’s experience is evolving him into the god he is.

Some call this process transference. But that’s too close to the psychological concept of projection. What’s happening is not projection. What is it? Ascension. It’s vibrational navigation through and into expansion. Think about it. Dealing with a mother within the confines of family is one thing. Your livelihood and social/working reputation on the line? That’s a completely different level. A higher level.

Ultimately, we’re all evolving to become the gods we are. Beyond our human experience lies tremendous responsibility. We are the creator of worlds. And we are learning to create, ultimately, in an environment where no resistance exists.

That means wherever we put our attention, what we focus on grows immediately, and exponentially. That’s how powerful we are. This physical reality, therefore, is a sandbox for us to play, explore, refine. That’s what Steven’s doing…at ever increasingly significant levels.

Keys as Evidence of Alignment (or Not)

The most powerful part of this story isn’t just what happened after the keys became lost. It’s what those keys represented all along.

Steven was on the cusp of a major promotion—to locksmith. Those very keys were tied to that promotion. Those keys were literally one of very few sets of its kind. Also, some keys in that set were master keys. They open ANY door on the college campus. They therefore were symbols of trust, capability, and responsibility. Losing them, in Steven’s eyes, felt like losing his future. In Richard’s eyes, according to Steven, they were a test: Can Steven shoulder the responsibility?

But what Steven didn’t see at first was that those keys also simply mirrored his vibration. When he felt unsure, they disappeared. As he judged himself, they became even more lost. When he doubted his worth, the Universe gave him a reality that matched: a world in which he didn’t have the tools, wasn’t trusted, and couldn’t move forward.

Again, that’s not punishment. It was reflection. Precise, perfect, loving reflection. That’s because physical reality is never fixed. It’s vibrationally curated and constantly flowing into something more.

Let’s say, for example, upon noticing the keys not where they should be Steven relaxed into a feeling of HAVING the keys, instead of collapsing into the state of them being lost, and then amplifying that reality with intense emotions (fear, fright, worry, etc.). Had he done so, the key would have (seemingly) appeared somewhere. This has happened to me DOZENS of times. I’ve written about two instances before. Here, and here.

But Steven didn’t do that. Instead, he collapsed. And then amplified the reality he collapsed into: Lost keys.

The Bigger Pattern: From Proof to Permission

Here’s the most overlooked thing about Steven’s story: the keys didn’t disappear because he was out of alignment. They disappeared so that he could find stronger, more stable alignment. Let’s say that again: Contrast is not evidence of failure. It’s evidence of readiness.

The moment Stevens keys went missing, he wasn’t being tested (only humans test each other). He was being invited. Invited to stand where he hadn’t stood before. Where he could see himself differently. Then choose a new story. A story where he’s not the person trying to prove himself worthy of the promotion. Worthy of the promotion or his mother’s love.

By the end of our session, Steven was steadier. Not euphoric. Not fully turned around. But steadier, clearer and more open to possibility. And with that openness, a choice began to emerge: Will he continue to tell the story of a man who lost his chance? Or will he tell a new story… one where the keys were never the point?

Keys can’t unlock doors like alignment can. Which means Steven could go back to work tomorrow and find those keys tucked in a place he never thought to look. Or… a completely new solution might show. Perhaps the promotion still pops into his reality. Or it doesn’t.

But either way, the real reward is who Steven is becoming.

The Takeaway: The Kingdom Was Never Outside Him:

The Universe doesn’t care about metal keys or job titles. It cares about the vibration we hold—and who we become by aligning with that vibration. Steven’s keys were never lost. Not really. They simply retreated from view until he becomes a match to their presence. That’s how all reality works. And now, Steven stands on a threshold.

Not an employment threshold, but an embodiment threshold. Will he lean into what he knows? Will he trust that this isn’t a setback, but a setup? The door is already ajar. All that’s left… is for Steven to walk through.

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The Real Reason You’re Still Not Feeling Better

TL;DR: In this, Part Three of the Four-Part series about Steven losing his keys, the author shares how they guided Steven through the emotional fallout of losing his keys. Doing so helped Steven discover that the contrast revealed his readiness—and how realignment begins when we stop performing and start feeling the process.

Steven sat across from me in-session online, his voice quiet, his energy low. I knew immediately he was in a very low vibrational state. The emotional turbulence of the past week lingered: the lost keys, his boss’s reaction, and most importantly, the stories he had been telling himself had him really low.

What made this session particularly rich was what it revealed—not just about Steven, but about how deep this practice really goes when applied in the midst of real-world contrast.

The session became a masterclass in vibrational leverage. Not because it resolved everything in a single sitting, or because I did anything special. It was a masterclass because it revealed how even seasoned practitioners can get caught in the swirl of their own stories… and how beautiful it is when they begin to emerge from that swirl.

Steven tried to apply one of the foundational Positively Focused processes. The process works every time, which is why it’s part of the basic practice framework. He tried applying it on his own. And to his credit, he didn’t just mentally revisit the steps. He truly attempted to walk himself through acknowledgment, acceptance, recognizing what his experience told him, and finally, amplification of the shift that happens naturally in step three.

Something wasn’t landing, however.

When the Practice Is Real

He described how he had tried to say the words aloud, to walk through the steps and feel some relief.

“I did the process,” he said. “But it didn’t really shift anything.”

But the practice does create a shift. So we had to troubleshoot. That’s when we uncovered the subtle but crucial gap: he had performed the process mechanically, without the presence that makes it effective.

That’s not uncommon. When the contrast is hot—when keys are missing, a boss is disappointed, and inner narratives are spiraling—it’s easy to rush the process instead of resting in it. That’s what Steven had done. He didn’t skip the steps, but he skipped over the alignment that makes them work.

So we slowed everything down. Together, we walked back through each stage—not as a checklist, but as a vibrational recalibration.

We began at the beginning: acknowledgment. That meant naming all the stories that were active in Steven’s consciousness giving rise to his negative emotions. The process is not about acknowledging them as facts, or the truth. It’s about acknowledging their presence within him. Stories like: “If I lose something, I’m irresponsible.” “I can’t be trusted.” And “Now I’ve ruined my chances at a promotion.”

Coming into acceptance

These weren’t new beliefs. They were old ones. Echoes of childhood moments, especially those involving his mother, where he felt criticized or held to unexpressed standards. His current boss, Richard, had become a mirror. Not because Richard was behaving badly, but because Steven’s vibration had summoned a version of him that matched old patterns.

This wasn’t failure. This was graduation.

The contrast had intensified not because Steven was off-track, but because he was ready to move beyond these stories he created long ago. As I reminded him gently, “You wouldn’t be experiencing this level of contrast if you weren’t ready for it.”

The next step was accepting the beliefs are there. This second step is different from the first. It’s about letting go of resistance and instead welcoming the old beliefs back into us. Resisting, not accepting a belief is what creates resistance. And resistance amplifies that which we resist. For Steven, this wasn’t about accepting fault, accepting fault would amplify resistance. That’s because there’s no such thing as blame or fault. Instead, he needed to accept what was.

Acceptance is not about blame.

What “was” was, He didn’t have his keys. His boss was disappointed. His momentum had taken him into a tailspin. But none of that was wrong. Thinking it wrong creates resistance. These things are simply what had occurred. By making peace with the moment—not as a judgment, but as a reflection—Steven began to find his footing.

Only then could we move to Step Three, the vibrational pivot.

Amplifying higher vibrations.

Here, I asked Steven to consider what his Broader Perspective was feeling. Was it shaming him? No. Was it blaming him? Certainly not. His Broader Perspective was seeing the wholeness of the moment. The opportunity. The expansion. A perfection so exquisite, created between him and his reflected reality. A perfection that could lead to more empowerment.

Steven’s eyes welled up when he saw that.

“I’ve been so afraid I ruined everything,” he said, voice quiet. “But now I get it. This isn’t about the keys.”

No, it wasn’t. It was about more alignment, expansion and empowerment. That clarity of awareness indicated Steve felt better. At least, at the very least, he felt relief, which is improved vibration. Now we entered the amplification phase.

This part isn’t about affirmations or hype. It’s about tuning in to the new emotional frequency and letting it fill the space. We do that through our imagination. We use our imagination to create new beliefs, new thoughts about what happened that stand in for old ones as the old ones soothe.

For Steven, that meant resting in a new truth: That he is not defined by mistakes. Trustworthiness isn’t earned—it’s embodied. That this moment, painful as it seemed, was sacred.

By the end of the session, Steven felt significantly better. The relief wasn’t euphoric, but it was stabilizing. He still wasn’t sure how things would unfold at work the next day. He still had concerns about how Richard would treat him. But he was no longer a victim of that perceived uncertainty.

He was still floating, still alive. He had reclaimed his oars. And from that place, even uncertain waters felt navigable.

Takeaway: Mastery Isn’t About Avoiding Contrast

The Four-Step Process outlined above doesn’t promise immediate resolution to external conditions. This is not magic. Neither is the rest of the Positively Focused framework. But it does offer something better: vibrational clarity and alignment with one’s Broader Perspective. And clarity is what allows new versions of reality to emerge.

New versions emerge as we walk into them. We can’t walk into them, however, if we don’t know where they are. Alignment with our Broader Perspective shows us where the doorways are and inspires us to walk through them into the new reality.

Steven hadn’t yet found his keys. He didn’t know what would happen tomorrow. But he was no longer at the mercy of momentum. He had re-entered his power—not as a performer or pleaser, but as a conscious creator. Contrast didn’t defeat him. It refined him. And in that, he was already victorious.

Read the final chapter tomorrow.

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Why Losing Keys Was Steven’s Greatest Spiritual Gift

TL;DR: The author explores how a lost set of keys led client “Steven” into a vibrational tailspin, revealing old belief patterns and offering a powerful opportunity for realignment and expansion. This is part 2 of Steven’s story.

Steven was already off balance. He’d ignored his Broader Perspective’s gentle invitation to stay home—a nudge his wife had unwittingly overridden. He’d also hit a baby deer the night before. That was a jarring event. But it still reverberated through his body the next morning. He hadn’t slept well. And even though he showed up to work as scheduled, something inside him knew: he wasn’t calibrated.

That matters. Because when you’re not calibrated, when you’re not aligned, the Universe doesn’t punish you. But it will offer a mirror so accurate, so refined, that if you’re paying attention, you’ll see exactly what stories you’re still telling—whether you like them or not.

For Steven, that’s exactly what was about to happen.

Steven could have avoided all this had he listened to the gentle whisper. The whisper from his Broader Perspective to stay home. Not avoiding it, however, introduced a wonderful unfolding. Although Steven would see it that way for many days.

When Keys Vanish, Beliefs Speak

It started simply. A moment that could have gone unnoticed. As Steven performed his usual rounds on the college campus where he worked, he had just used a lockbox key—one of many keys specifically assigned to him as part of his facilities management role. These keys weren’t just tools. They were symbols. The keys were tangible representations of the next level of his career: campus locksmith. The locksmith job promised higher salary, better hours, more freedom and more recognition. It was a promotion Steven looked forward to.

One moment while using the keys at the lockbox, Steven had the keys. The next moment, however, they were gone. Steven’s heart sank. He looked everywhere. He retraced his steps. Steven checked every pocket, every surface.

The keys were simply not there. Not in a metaphorical “they’ll turn up later” kind of way. But in that physical-reality-has-shifted kind of way. A loss so precise it almost felt orchestrated.

Because it was.

And yet, Steven’s boss, Richard, wasn’t pleased. “That’s not going to look good for your locksmith promotion,” Richard said shaking his head. “A locksmith who loses his keys?”

And with that, Steven’s vibration—already shaky—collapsed into a tailspin.

“Lost” is a vibrational reality

For most people, losing something like keys is common. I’ve written several stories about my experience losing things. Here’s one. Here’s another. When something goes lost, the best thing to do, if possible, is forget about trying to find it. Instead, if we just go about our business, we’ll be led back into the reality where the item is present.

But most people, myself included sometimes, instantly start looking for the item. Doing that, we amplify the reality in which the thing is “lost”. Moreover, the more we try to find it, we amplify its lost state even more. So losing things, especially minor things, is a great way to prove to ourselves that we constantly move from one dimension to another. Losing something gives us a chance to play with alternate realities.

Sometimes, however, we lose something significant. When that happens, we’re not likely to just forget about it. In those cases, the lost item represents a more important movement of dimensional reality. For Steven, losing his keys was part of an ongoing series of manifestations. Manifestations that began with a wonderful visit to his sister’s house.

Killing that dear was part of that unfolding. So was being unable to sleep. Indeed, I’m sure, in the dream state, Steven soothed a lot of what he had stepped into. But he didn’t allow the momentum to soothe further. That’s why his Broader Perspective wanted him to take the day off.

He didn’t though. And everything changed. The intensity of his disconnection increased. As it did, more benefit unfolded for him.

From Whispers to Storms

Suddenly, everything Steven hadn’t done yet became a spotlight of failure. There was the broken sprinkler system. The backlog of requests. His own perfectionism kicked in, too — frantically reviewing all the ways he might have prevented losing his keys. Richard’s comments, the increased scrutiny he laid on Steven, the backlog of requests — all these things represented increased intensity.

But the real storm raging wasn’t Richard or anything outside Steven. It was the internal narrative Steven summoned in response. Richard, who had previously been mentoring Steven for the locksmith role, now seemed like a different person. He showed up as critical, cold and suspicious. Steven felt judged, watched, scrutinized and criticized. This new version Steven created had him feeling completely disempowered. And his lost keys left him feeling helpless to do anything about the situation.

Steven’s vibration changed. So everything around him did too, including Richard.

All that didn’t happen because Richard suddenly changed. It happened because Steven’s vibration changed. In his state of fear, he rendezvoused with a version of Richard that reflected exactly what he feared most: rejection, disappointment, and lost trust.

That’s how manifestation works. It doesn’t just hand us things. It reveals the shape of our beliefs so we can do something about them. Do something and we become a match to better alternate realities. But if we don’t, the shape of our beliefs, projected outward as a physical reality, gets more intense. It gets more intense because our Broader Perspective and All That Is wants us to align with that which we desire.

It’s the only way we can have what we want. So the Universe and our Broader Perspective cooperates in nudging us in the direction of what we want by giving us cues. They start as whispers. However, if we ignore them, they can turn into storms.

Mother becomes the boss

So the intensity of Steven’s reaction wasn’t about keys. It wasn’t about promotions. It was about something deeper. Something older. Something Steven had felt before.

The feelings—of being misunderstood, scrutinized, punished unfairly—were eerily familiar. They echoed memories of his relationship with his mother. Back then, he often felt like he couldn’t do anything right. No matter how hard he tried, she’d find something wrong. Her love and trust were conditional, easily withdrawn at the first sign of what she perceived as “failure.” Another way of describing “failure” is “any time Steven didn’t meet her expectations.”

Now here he was again. Different setting. Different authority figure. Same emotional response. That’s the gift of manifestation. It’s never random. It brings the unsoothed pattern back to us—but dressed in new clothes. This time it wasn’t “Mom.” It was Richard. And instead of a scolding at home, it was pressure at work. The stakes were higher, for sure. But vibrationally, the match was perfect. And the situation? Exactly the same.

All this wasn’t bad, though. It reflected Steven’s upgraded status as a vibrational being. The stakes were higher. His job was potentially on the line, or so Steven believed. His boss was furious with him, he thought.

What I knew was this whole experience was a higher-level opportunity to soothe his old beliefs. Beliefs still creating realities in his life that revealed where he is relative to his desires.

Steven is doing great. In other words, he’s progressing and progressing fast. It seems like these kinds of situations shouldn’t happen for someone advanced as Steven. And yet, these kinds of things do happen in the early stages of the advanced practice. That’s because they act as clearing gateways to brighter, better alternate futures.

Beliefs Hide in Plain Sight—Until They Don’t

Steven didn’t notice the parallel at first. Nor did he recognize how perfect all this was.

It wasn’t until our session, as we slowed everything down, that he saw it. The shame. The fear. Impulses to over perform in order to prove his worth. The sense of being “on trial.” All of it tracked back to a belief constellation first activated in childhood — and still quietly vibrating in his present-day experience.

Again, the lost keys didn’t cause this vibration. They revealed it.

That’s why the Positively Focused practice is so powerful. It shows us nothing ever “goes wrong.” Even a lost object is a portal into deeper knowing—if we’re willing to look. Not with blame. Not with urgency. But with curiosity and compassion.

And Steven did just that…eventually. It took him a week. In the days leading up to our session, he struggled. When he came to the session, he was deep in negative emotion. Despair. Helplessness.

By the end of our session, however, he saw what was unfolding—not as punishment or setback—but as a tailor-made invitation to liberate old beliefs from their hiding places. He didn’t just lose keys. He found himself.

Takeaway: When something’s lost, something deeper reveals itself.

See you tomorrow for Part 3.

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What Happens When Animals Confirm Our Powerful Alignment

TL;DR: The author reflects on divinely-timed animal encounters—especially dogs—as living proof of vibrational alignment, showing how nature responds to high frequency with loving, unmistakable confirmation.

This afternoon (at the time of starting this post), I basked in the afterglow of a particularly delicious client session — one of those conversations where the energy flows like warm honey and every word feels like divine transmission. The client felt it too, which is why he asked for a copy of the session. He wanted to listen to it again. While the recording processed, I took my usual walk to the park, letting the joy of the session simmer in my cells. The sky was open, the grass alive, and I was in no hurry. I rarely am these days.

As I made my way into the open space, I saw a man ahead of me, walking with one of those curved dog-ball throwers. But strangely, I saw no dog with him. Curious, I asked him, “Where’s your dog?” He smiled and gestured down the way, saying, “She’s over there.” And like clockwork, as if on cue, a Springer Spaniel popped her head out from under the bushes—perky, alert, focused.

That moment felt like a wink.

The Dog Wasn’t Lost—She Was Led

I continued toward my usual place beneath the trees, pulled out my phone, and began dictating my client session notes. And that’s when it happened: I looked up, and that same dog came bounding across the park toward me. Full gallop. Tennis ball in mouth. Zero hesitation. She dropped the ball right at my feet. And I laughed out loud.

I knew exactly what this was. This wasn’t just a dog wanting to play fetch. This was a delivery. A divine gift wrapped in fur and slobber. My alignment had magnetized this moment—this joyful, beautiful interaction that felt more like ceremony than coincidence.

You see, this kind of thing happens to me all the time. Especially with animals. It’s always a little different, but the message is the same: You’re on the path, you’re seen. You’re loved.

Just last week, an elderly man walked into the same park with his wire-haired terrier. As he approached, he warned me that his dog was blind. But the moment I reached out my hand, that dog walked straight into it. Like a compass finding north. The man blinked and said: “You have very positive vibes. He can tell.”

He wasn’t wrong. His dog wasn’t either.

Wild Confirmations

It’s not just domestic animals, either. Hawks, owls, otters, falcons, seals — they all find me. Months ago, while walking along the Willamette river, I spied a river otter emerging from the water. It look directly at me then disappeared again beneath the surface.

Another time, while walking along the same river, a seal poked its head above the waves just as I looked in that direction. It stared at me for a long moment, then blinked and vanished.

An owl I spied spying me while on a walk. Usually, I don’t get a photo because such encounters are so spontaneous.

And once, while navigating a period of intense inner clarity, I looked up from a trail and locked eyes with a barn owl perched in broad daylight. We stared at each other for what felt like forever. I didn’t dare move. It was too sacred.

When we’re aligned—truly, deeply aligned—nature responds. Wild animals are not distracted by emails, deadlines, or stories about their past. Their attention isn’t distorted by chronic negative thinking. They don’t care what car you drive or how many followers you have. They feel resonance. Period.

They respond to presence.

A wonderful encounter with a Nutria. Totally unscripted….this is part of a longer video I made of a bike ride I took.

So when a creature we didn’t call walks (or swims or flies) directly into our path… that’s not just a “cool moment.” That’s a message. A mirror. A perfect rendezvous arranged by our Broader Perspective. A falcon sighting? That’s not just luck. That’s the Universe whispering: “You’re flying higher now.” A doe pausing to meet your eyes on a forest path? That’s Source saying: “I trust you with the sacred.”

And a dog galloping across a park, ignoring every other person in favor of dropping a ball at our feet? That’s a thunderous confirmation: “Keep going. You’re radiating.”

The Universe Uses Every Messenger

Some people wait for signs in numbers, or synchronicities in conversation — and those are wonderful. But the natural world has its own language. Animals aren’t just passive observers. They’re participants in the vibrational symphony we’re conducting every time we choose alignment. When we’re tuned in, turned on, and tapped into the frequency of love, clarity, and joy — birds will fly closer. Butterflies will linger. Dogs will drop tennis balls at our feet.

And when they do? Throw the ball. Honor the visit. Smile and say thanks.

It’s easy to overlook these moments. To think, “Oh, the dog was just playful,” or “I happened to be in the right place.” But the truth is, we’re always in the right place when we’re vibrationally aligned. What looks like happenstance is actually choreography.

The more I live this practice, the more obvious it becomes: alignment creates access. Access to beauty, to love. Access to nonverbal communication with the entire natural world. So when that dog dropped the ball at my feet, it wasn’t random. It was evidence. It was a nod from All That Is. A gentle, slobbery, joyful confirmation: “You’re walking with Me.”

And isn’t that what every animal encounter really is? A nudge, a mirror. A little miracle, perfectly timed. Just like us.

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What Happens When Everyone Wins Through Alignment

TL;DR: In this, the final part of a six-part story, the author reflects on the multidimensional manifestation they shared where everyone—Jane, Sally, Alba, and even the author themselves—thrived through vibrational alignment, not effort. It’s the Charmed Life in action.

Now that the dust has settled, I want to paint the full picture of this manifestation between Jane and Sally. Alba too. Because this wasn’t just a firing. It wasn’t just a contract negotiation. It was a multidimensional, multi-human manifestation—a divinely orchestrated expansion with no losers.

Everyone won, including me. Including Alba. For Alba, the prize was re-emerging into the pure, positive perspective of All That Is, while still maintaining her individual consciousness, now expanded. No resistance, just joy.

Let’s recap the other wins:

  • Sally got clarity, confirmation, and a launchpad for her own venture.
  • Jane got a new $10,000 client she didn’t lift a finger to attract.
  • The customer organization got a more aligned, responsive partner.
  • I got to keep Sally as a client and witness another miracle from the practice unfolding as this story.

This is what alignment does. Alignment doesn’t play favorites. It uplifts all parties. It calibrates life to match our becoming. But seeing that happen requires a particular focus.

Reframing the “Hard Work” Myth

When Jane’s friends heard about her new $10K contract, they rushed to credit her performance. “You earned it,” they said. “You’re so good at what you do.”

But they missed the magic. Jane hadn’t done anything extraordinary—yet. The value hadn’t even been delivered. The increase came because of alignment, not action.

This is how deeply the “hard work equals success” myth runs. We reflexively celebrate the doing and ignore the being. But it was Jane’s shift in vibration—despite all the contrast—that opened the floodgates. And Sally? She hadn’t “earned” her sovereign launch through labor either. Instead, Sally aligned. Then she received the more she allowed.

Also, let’s not forget I had my own calibration moment in this story. When Jane told me she might fire Sally, and another client contemplated downgrading their session frequency (that other client decided not to), I felt a flicker of scarcity.

But I knew what to do. I went into the park and soothed the belief. I remembered: My income comes through clients, not from them. And the Universe always makes up the difference—with interest. Sure enough, that alignment gave me everything: My income didn’t dip. Both clients stayed. And my trust deepened.

No One Left Behind

The most extraordinary part of this entire story? No one got left out. Not even Alba.

The customer got an upgraded contract, the contractor found greater alignment and a new version of her business. The fired employee is on a new journey. Even the coach benefited. As did you, dear reader. Wasn’t this a lovely story?

This is what I call the Charmed Life. The version of reality where everyone wins.

And the only way to get there? Through alignment. It’s available to everyone. We could even say everyone is living it, they just can’t see it subsumed in negative momentum born of negative beliefs.

But my clients and I see it. And we revel in it as much as we can. That’s because we know the more we do that, the more of the Charmed Life we get.

So if you’re facing contrast right now, remember: it’s not punishment or failure. The contrast instead is the Universe reorganizing itself around your expansion. Stay aligned. Stay open. Keep a positive focus.

Then watch the miracles unfold.

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What Happens When You Finally See The Crown

TL;DR: In this fifth part of a six-part series, the author recounts how a funeral cracked open a deeper truth for his business-owner client: our judgments blind us to others’ divinity—until alignment lets us finally see what was always there.

Jane wasn’t prepared for what she walked into.

She had driven to the funeral of Alba—the representative of one of her customer organizations—with little expectation other than to show respect. After all, Alba had recently passed, and throughout their working relationship, Jane had long felt a measure of frustration toward her.

Alba was, to Jane, unreliable. She canceled meetings often. Alba spoke in ways Jane found circuitous and unfocused. She had become one of Jane’s most challenging clients—not because of what she asked for, but because of what Jane thought she represented: disorganization, distraction, a time-consumer.

And then came the funeral.

It was held in a Black church. Jane, who is white and was raised attending traditional white congregations, immediately noticed something different. There was music, joy, laughter. There were tears too—but the tears flowed alongside testimonies and praise. The pews were filled—300 people strong. And at the front of the sanctuary, the body of Alba rested peacefully…with a crown placed gently upon her head.

It took Jane’s breath away.

This funeral wasn’t about grief. This was a coronation. A recognition of the royal life Alba lived. And Jane could feel it—viscerally, undeniably. The room pulsed with love, gratitude, reverence. Here Jane witnessed a version of Alba she had never allowed herself to see. A revelation began. And with it came a reckoning.

The Version We See Is Always Ours

Here’s the great paradox of physical reality: we never interact with “the person” we’re interacting with. Instead, we interact with our version of that person. A version filtered through our active beliefs, biases, expectations, and emotional momentum. That’s true for clients, coworkers, lovers, friends—and yes, even for funeral guests. When Jane was alive in her stories about Alba, she couldn’t see the woman who had:

  • Served time in prison
  • Lost her children during incarceration
  • Rebuilt her life and reclaimed her family
  • Founded an entire organization to help formerly incarcerated women do the same

She couldn’t see the god in Alba, the angel, the founder, the force. But the version of Alba celebrated at that funeral was undeniable. That version shattered Jane’s perceptual filter. It wasn’t that Alba had changed. It was that Jane’s vibrational relationship to her had.

The crown on Alba’s head wasn’t just a tribute. It was a mirror. A powerful, public display of what Jane hadn’t allowed herself to see in life—but could now finally acknowledge in Alba’s transition.

The Hidden Grace in Every Human

This is the real culmination of the six-part story we’ve been sharing. It hasn’t been only about Jane and Sally, or about customers and contracts—it’s been about the sacred truth behind everyone we interact with: Every person is divine: Every person is on a path.

And every person reflects back to us our own energetic state. If we meet someone in frustration, resentment, or judgment, that’s what we get. We don’t see the fullness of who they are because we’re too busy projecting who we think they are. But when the filters fall away—whether through expansion or, in this case, grief—we see something else entirely. We see Source.

This is true of Alba. It’s also true of Sally.

Because Jane couldn’t see Sally’s value, she saw waste. She saw a blank database instead of a robust content strategy. She saw misalignment instead of leadership. But all of that was Jane’s story—not Sally’s.

The same way Alba’s story was far grander than Jane’s story could contain.

When Jane called me after the funeral, she was in tears—but not of sadness. These were tears of revelation, and awe. She told me everything—how beautiful the service was, how inspired she felt. And I just listened. I felt no need to emphasize what Jane discovered. Not then.

But I will next session because this is a crucial moment for Jane.

The Sacred Reminder: Alignment First, Clarity Follows

That’s because Jane’s experience shows how powerful the Positively Focused practice is. It’s not about controlling others or highlighting their flaws as though those flaws are all they are. It’s about aligning with the broader awareness of who others are so that we can be a match to it.

When we’re aligned, our filters change. We perceive more clearly. We receive more graciously. Then we soften. We soften our view of the world and those in it. And the people become radiant reflections of the love and clarity we’ve cultivated within.

That’s what Jane touched in that church. It’s exactly why I want to solidify that in her awareness next session. And it’s exactly what Sally was offering Jane, right up to her “termination.” An opportunity to shift perspective. And that’s the fundamental beauty of what this entire six-part journey reveals.

The final gift of this story is simple, but profound: Every single human you meet wears a crown. It’s not always on their head. Sometimes it’s in their actions. Other times it’s in their perseverance. Sometimes it’s in the way they reflect back to us what we still can’t see in ourselves. But it’s always there.

And if we let the stories fall away… if we pause long enough to shift our vibration… if we open our eyes from alignment, rather than resistance… we’ll see it. And when we do, life becomes a coronation. Not just of others, but of ourselves. Because the crown we see on another’s head?

It’s our crown, too.