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What The Best, Most Powerful Relationships Look, Feel Like

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TL;DR: The author argues for being selfish as the way to create a happy life for everyone. They share a client’s experience in creating happiness to illustrate and support his argument.

Let’s talk about relationships. There’s a lot to talk about here. Mainly because humans feel relationships are one of the most, if not the most, important things. After all, we are told, we need relationships to be happy. Everything we do, need and want, it seems, comes through relationships. It is relationships with others that create community. Such relationships also create safety, belonging and a whole lot more.

And, if we’re honest with ourselves, relationships also offer the worst in humanity. Relationships with others are the framework through which some of humanity’s worst traits surface. Greed, conflict, psychopathy and violence all would be meaningless were it not for relationships.

So relationships aren’t all rainbows and butterflies, as the saying goes. We all know this. Just ask Israelis and the Palestinians. Relationships can suck. And yet, a lot about what we seem to be (human) seems to compel us toward relationships. Especially relationships with other humans.

There’s a far more satisfying and powerful relationship, however, one through which everything we want comes. It’s so all-encompassing, we literally can’t survive without it. And when we prioritize that relationship above all else, we can live our wildest dreams.

That relationship is what I’m writing about today.

Let’s dive in.

Over all else

The relationship I’m referring to has nothing to do with a god, especially the Christian god or Jesus. But this relationship does tap into the power Christians ascribe to their god.

The trouble with this relationship is, it’s as plain as the nose on our faces, and yet, we invariably prioritize other relationships ahead of it. And that out-of-whack prioritization creates all the troubles we have in other relationships. That’s because that which we could enjoy a relationship with wants our undivided attention. When we put our attention there, un-dividedly, everything else in life flows easily.

What relationship could I possibly be referring to?

The relationship with ourselves.

That’s right, there’s no better, no more powerful relationship than the relationship with ourselves. The reason why is because everything we see “out there” in the world springs from this relationship. So when we get this relationship where it should be – as our number one priority – then everything “out there” falls in line.

It doesn’t happen in an instant. That would be magic and magic isn’t a thing. But when a person prioritizes themselves over all else, then gradually, all else reflects the improvement inherent in prioritizing a relationship with themselves over all else!

Selfishness: a virtue

That seems like circular logic, but, as I’ve written before, the Universe and All That Is functions in a circular logic way. All That Is exists to joyfully know itself. The paradox of that is, the more it seeks to know itself, the more of itself it creates. This process makes All That Is – and you and me – eternal. So the more All That Is seeks to know itself, it creates more of itself to know. That’s the glorious circular process often described in ancient teachings.

Now, some might argue that prioritizing one’s self over others leads to selfishness. I completely agree. But I know selfishness is not bad. In fact, it’s the best way to be – oriented solely to self. Because when one lives that way, they discover everything else, including other people, are able to take care of themselves, leaving the person free to be, enjoy and lavish their life.

Indeed, when we put ourself first in all things, we stop trying to change circumstances over which we have no control. Letting go of such tasks feels better and better. And when we feel better, the world around us reflects that better mood back to us. It reflects it in ever-improving life experiences.

So, really, we have control of all of our experience because experience reflects back to us our inner state. And when we prioritize our inner state – our relationship with ourselves – then our life experiences reflect that improved inner state.

We also emanate love and other higher emotions. That’s because when we seek to know ourselves, which is aligned with what the Universe does always, we can’t help but feel the eternal joy that is Universal consciousness.

Put it to the test

That previous section may sound like a bunch of “New Age” hooey. But when practiced, over time, it proves accurate. Abraham says “Words don’t teach. Life experience does”. That means I can write forever about how powerful what you’re reading is. But nothing compares to evidence produced by your lived experience.

So if you’re having trouble believing this stuff, I suggest you prove it to yourself. Become the evidence you wish to see, as Eckart Tolle puts it.

So how do we prioritize the relationship with ourselves? It doesn’t seem easy when the entire outside world encourages prioritizing others over ourselves. So it takes practice. It helps to know that a “self” exists in us worthy of our undivided attention. That “self” is the “god in human form” I write about in this blog. Discovering its existence is easy.

The best way to do that is by testing Positively Focused premises, which are summed up in the phrase “you create your reality”. As a person tests these premises, they create or manifest, experiences, people and things, that come in surprising, seemingly coincidental ways.

But when so many of such manifestations happen over and over, the person must acknowledge something other than “coincidence” is at work. That acknowledgement is just like acknowledging there is a self worthy of having a relationship with. Paradoxically, the person testing these premises, once they start seeing things happen, will want more things to happen. As more happens, they also get more bold: they want bigger things to happen.

As their desires grow in scale or magnitude, their trust grows. Their trust in themselves and in this self they are building a relationship with.

Betrayal births bitterness

Growing that relationship brings a necessary letting go of beliefs keeping us all prioritizing others over ourselves. As we let go of them, we might have to face hard-seeming choices. Sometimes that looks like cutting off certain people, including family members. Sometimes it looks like making pretty sweeping career changes.

For example, a client recently faced having to cut off her daughter. Her daughter, the epitome of a hellion, raked the client over all kinds of emotional coals throughout their 20-year relationship. The client believed she had to be there for her daughter, despite the poor treatment, because that’s “what parents should do”.

Little did she know she created the belief “that’s what parents should do” after her parents did something the client considered unconscionable.

Throughout her youth, her parents promised her they’d save for and pay for her college. But when the client was 16, the parents reneged on their promise. The client had to pay her own way. Because of this she felt her parents betrayed her. She bitterly resented their decision and that bitterness festered within her.

Prioritizing ourselves sometimes requires hard-seeming choices. (Photo by Courtney Kammers on Unsplash)

An angel disguised as a hellion

The betrayal was personal for her. So, when she had a child out of wedlock, something she didn’t want in the first place, the client swore to “make things right” by not doing to her daughter what her parents did to her.

The problem with all of that is the Universe has an amusing way of showing us all how such beliefs aren’t in our best interest. In the clients case, the Universe gave her a hellion. And boy, did this young person torture my client in so many ways!

She was making the client miserable. Little did the client realize, her daughter was an angel the client sent herself. The angel’s mission: to teach the client she has everything she needs within her, to stop blaming her parents, and to put herself first.

After weeks of learning to prioritize herself through the Positively Focused Way, the client, after one particularly harrowing conversation with her daughter, decided to put herself first. She cut her daughter off.

The relief she felt was immediate. And, as days went by, her relief grew.

Doubling down

Thirty days in, she was feeling great. But then, her old created reality, born of her belief “that’s what parents should do” reasserted itself. Her daughter reached out. The client felt pulled by her belief to reconnect. Which is what she did. This is not unusual.

Typically, when this kind of thing happens, a client will have an epiphany making their life much better. But then, old belief momentum draws them back into their old way of being, the way of being they left behind. This dynamic always shows the client why they would have been better off not letting that happen.

But there’s no way clients can get it wrong. For these kinds of “set backs” actually amplify their commitment to put themselves first. Which is exactly what happened with this client.

That reconnection was horrible. And it reminded the client what had been absent for 30 days. It also put those past 30 days of relief, peace and ease in proper perspective. She wanted more of that. So she doubled down on cutting her daughter off.

The way to relief

Two weeks after her recommitment her husband said something remarkable over dinner.

“You seem really happy,” the client said her husband said. The client told her husband she did feel happy, happier than she had in decades. The husband credited that return to happiness to his wife cutting her daughter off. But the client knew it was primarily because she was putting herself first and that caused her to make a choice she otherwise would not have been able to do.

A week later, her husband once again noticed.

“It’s so good seeing you so happy,” he said. The client replied that she was returning to the self she knew before her daughter “happened”.

Now, it’s not that the client dislikes her daughter. She loves her and wants the best for her. But she realizes that, to be happy, she must put herself first. And when she does that, she thrives. And as she thrives, eventually, so will her daughter. That must happen because the client’s experience and everything in it, including her daughter, reflects back to her her inner state. Her daughter’s behavior was reflecting turmoil within the client. Turmoil born of expecting her parents to have put her first, when, obviously, they couldn’t.

Their decision not to pay for their child’s college was the right thing: they had to put themselves first. The client was making them wrong for doing what they knew was right. And so, the Universe, through her daughter, was showing the client the way to relief.

It’s all choice

And that’s the thing about realizing what comes from putting ourselves first. We realize no one is responsible for our happiness but us. And, no one can make us happy but us. Any other happiness source is fleeting, capricious and fickle. As such, such happiness sources are not in our best interest to put before the one relationship that really matters.

Meanwhile, as I mentioned before, everything in our experience improves when we do this. And so, the client’s daughter’s life must also improve, as she learns what her mother did: That she must put herself first and stop relying on her mother for her happiness…or anything else, including tuition, food and rent.

Relationships, from the Positively Focused Practice perspective, are not about people coming together, planning together, working out problems, coming up with solutions together, compromising, and investing in and extracting from each other what they need, all while claiming to love one another. Rather, each person is 100 percent responsible as a creator for creating the best version of their life and any relationship for THEMSELVES.

When they do that, the whole world improves, but only for that person. In the meantime, those choosing a different life way fade out of that person’s experience. Then those reflecting the person’s choice show up as reflections of that made choice.

This explains why so much variety in life experience exists. It’s not luck. Nor is it fate. What it is is people choosing, either deliberately or not, then the world reflecting the nature of that choice.

It’s all about unconditional love

This means, first cultivating a strong relationship with one’s self is paramount. When that happens, life reflects back to the person only the best things in life, because that’s just what happens when one puts themselves first.

Then, and only then, can a person create better versions of life AND better versions of people in their lives. They create versions of people by coming into the presence of another with their relationship with themselves so secure, that that other person has no choice but to reflect back to the creator a version of them matching what’s going on in the creator.

And when the creator achieves that, sees the person exhibiting the version of themselves the creator envisioned, and then revels in that, the manifestation of evidence of their creation, then that person being created feels that reveling as unconditional love for them. And that changes that person irreparably.

That’s why selfishness is so important. It can literally change human relationships. It does that through love, which is what ourselves have in abundance for us.

And that’s how we can influence others in the best way. “Influence” happens whether we know we’re doing it or not. Unfortunately, for most of us, we’re using that influence by recreating versions of people we don’t like, by complaining about their behavior, wishing they were someone that they’re not, or complaining in general.

Meanwhile the one relationship that empowers us to have a different experience of all we experience awaits us. That relationship is all unconditional love. And when we prioritize that relationship, we become that: Unconditional love.

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How Your Behavior Reveals Practical, But Hidden Life Hacks

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TLDR: A man, recently laid off despite positive job feedback, doesn’t realize his negative beliefs attract such experiences. His subsequent “adult tantrum” reveals deeper insight into why he keeps losing his jobs. And shows the rest of us how to benefit from an important life hack.

A client had a disappointing experience: he got laid off. It wasn’t something he was expecting. In fact, when the boss told him, it shocked him because, up to then, the boss said the client was doing a great job. In reality, he should have expected it because he was expecting it.

But he wasn’t aware he was expecting it because he didn’t have access to the hidden, practical hack life had been offering him for decades. A life hack that could dramatically alter his success.

Of course, the layoff wasn’t about the client. The boss, who also is the business owner, had to make personnel cuts. The business wasn’t supporting itself. And in most businesses, employees represent the largest business costs. So someone had to go. Our client had the least amount of students. It made sense the boss would let him go.

But my client didn’t see it that way. He played it cool in the moment, when his boss broke the news. But when he got home, his thoughts and behavior changed, a lot.

This story is about gifts hidden amidst our actions. Physical reality, including our actions, offer great clues about what we’re creating. Understanding this can dramatically change our lives for the better. That understanding, however, comes with practice.

Let’s see what happened next with this client so we can understand how what happened next offered him wonderful hacks that could dramatically improve his life.

An adult tantrum

The client said that upon arriving home he went straight into his tool shed. There, he “kicked the hell out a bucket for a good ten minutes.” While doing that, he cursed his former boss, the business and his “luck” for being the one to lose a job “AGAIN.”

Now, the fact that he mentioned losing another job “again” wasn’t surprising. This phrase indicated two things: one, that he has very strong negative momentum creating persistent experiences of losing jobs. Two, his awareness of the fact that he keeps losing jobs is perpetuating that momentum. I told him this, but at the moment, he was too embittered to hear it.

So I shifted the focus.

I said to him that his “adult tantrum” in the shed offered him a wonderful gift. That caught his attention. I don’t think he expected that. I then explained how our acts in physical reality are manifestations. Just like our desires turning into things, our actions are manifestations reflecting beliefs we hold about the world around us. Furthermore, if we can read what those acts are saying, we can transform our lives.

He wanted to know more. So I told him what his tantrum was telling him.

Actions like tantrums hide within them important clues about what we’re creating (Photo by Dmitry Vechorko on Unsplash).

A steady diet turns to hate

All of us create our reality through our thoughts. Persistently held thoughts turn to beliefs. Thoughts that become beliefs have gathered enough momentum to complete the process of turning into things. Persist in that belief and that belief will turn into physical reality. Then reality will reflect the essence of that belief back to us. At that point, our belief becomes “true”. When it does, the belief recedes into the background of our awareness. Meanwhile, the belief gets “confirmed” in our experience as “the way life is.”

For this client, “the way life is” is that he can’t keep a job. But that’s not the whole story. For decades, this client fostered a steady diet of anger and frustration about capitalism, money and earning a living. He sees these things as scourges on humanity and the planet. The client resents having to earn a living. He dislikes doing work he doesn’t enjoy. And he doesn’t like needing money to get his basic necessities.

These beliefs took up residence in his vibration many years ago. Jobs he manifested since then showed him more evidence of his distasteful economic reality: those jobs he got paid little. His managers always belittled him. And, of course, they laid him off. One job he kept for some time wasn’t helpful either. He wrote copy for a blog. A blog that critiqued capitalism and the money system.

But you can see how the client was a perfect match to that job. In that job, he amplified his anger and frustration about capitalism, money and earning a living into hate for those things. That is, until owners of that company laid him off too…

Success eluding him

By this time, the client found himself at wits end. His hate over capitalism, money and earning a living overflowed. Finally, he turned to gig work. He delivered meals for a time before going onto social security. That soothed some of his negative momentum, which allowed him to get the last job. The one in which he, again, got laid off.

I told this client his actions in the tool shed told him something important. “Here you are taking out your frustration on something having nothing to do with what happened” I said, referring to the bucket. “The bucket didn’t lay you off.”

In fact, the boss didn’t either. If “you create your reality” is accurate (and it is) then this client laid himself off. The boss only did what was a reflection of the client’s dominant intent. He was a cooperative component to my client’s unfolding understanding, in other words. The intent wasn’t to get laid off. The intent was to reflect to the client where his beliefs were in conflict with his desires.

Despite extremely negative interpretations of the world around him, this client wants a life that’s easy. He even wants money. He’s a musician and writer and one of his great desires is to receive generous compensation as recognition of his talents. Of course, he wouldn’t put it that way. He would say “I DESERVE recognition because of the blood, sweat and tears I’ve put into my art!”

But that way of expressing it creates resistance. It’s more aligned with his hatred of the money system. Which explains why that success continues eluding him.

Putting blame outside ourselves

I told the client this is what his tantrum offers: an opportunity for him to see what he’s doing. He’s literally blaming everyone and everything for his troubles. He’s also blaming “the system” and “money” for his troubles. All the while, he’s ignoring the only Source of power he has…and the only Source from which his experience springs: himself.

“You beating up that bucket,” I told him. “Is showing you how, in your powerless state, you’re projecting your power onto things and people that have no responsibility for your created reality. And in doing that, you feel tremendous pain. Because that pain tells you that your Broader Perspective knows different.”

Our Broader Perspective is clear that we create our reality. No one else does that for us. We do, and only we do. When we blame circumstances or others for an experience, that shitty feeling we experience while doing that is an indicator telling us something important. It tells us our thoughts and behaviors are at loggerheads with what our Broader Perspective knows.

That’s important because if we heed that message, we can dramatically change our lives for the better. And it’s to our advantage to do so. Because no one else will do it for us. That’s because no one else is in our reality other than us.

When beliefs change, life changes

But this manifestation business is not magic. We can’t create around our persistent beliefs. This client has 40+ years of negative momentum he’s going to need to unravel. So for this client, it may be a while before he really understands what’s happening. Before he understands well enough to take productive action.

Every action we take in life is a manifestation. They reflect back to us a belief we hold. Decipher that reflection and we get a clear sense of what we believe. And what we believe creates our life experience.

That means, if we change our beliefs, our life experience must also change. Isn’t that a great thing to know? I think it is. But it’s even better experiencing this in one’s personal experience. Because nothing teaches better than personal experience.

All this means changing our lives is as easy as changing our beliefs. And our actions constantly shower us with clues to beliefs creating our life.

What a cool hack! Examine beliefs and we change life. Tapping into that hack is a powerful resource. The challenge is, understanding what hack tells us about what beliefs we hold can be tricky. It helps to know how to interpret them accurately. Let me show you how.

Postscript

A wonderful followup needs to be added here. I wrote this story weeks ago. Two weeks after this happened, the client, after I held his feet to the fire about what he was doing, decided to re-commit to the Positively Focused Practice. What happened after a week of rededication is remarkable. But also it’s just what happens when one becomes positively focused.

That pending newspaper interview is a direct manifestation of his desire to gain notoriety for his artistic expression. Is it a coincidence it came to him after rededicating himself to the practice? My clients know the answer to that question is “NO!”.

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My Longest Most Detailed Out Of Body Experience Yet!

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Photo by Loren Cutler on Unsplash

I experienced the most dramatic Out of Body Experience (OBE) in the last few weeks. It was extremely long and detailed. And when I came out of it, I felt thrilled with the experience, particularly because I remembered so much of it.

Previous such experiences were fleeting. They came in flashes I could barely remember. However, as I practiced, these flashes gradually increased in duration. Still, they weren’t long-lasting. But they did come in increasing numbers.

We all enjoy such experiences. But our physical senses distort what’s really happening. What’s really happening is we all exist in infinite dimensions. They all happen at the same time. Our awareness moves among all these, even though waking consciousness doesn’t experience that.

The only reason waking consciousness doesn’t is because we train it to focus here. We train it to focus only in this dimension. Meanwhile, other “parts” of us flow easily between all our multi-dimensional experience.

Consciously becoming aware of that flowing is an OBE.

Everyone does it

Since all consciousness flows this way, anyone can do what I’m doing. It just takes practice. A Positively Focused practice soothes rigid attention to this dimension. It softens our focus so we can experience more of what we are. As that happens, signs show us our progress. OBEs are one such sign.

Here are examples of fleeting OBEs I recently experienced. I keep meticulous notes on my process. As a result I can share my experiences with clients. In one sitting, on April 18 this year, I experienced seven separate projections out of my body in 30-minutes. Here’s a description of that sitting. I’ve redacted personal information.

Brief “flashes” of my consciousness projected outside my body.

Earlier projections were more brief than these; literally just flashes. But just five days later, I enjoyed a stable, long-form experience. An experience as real as this one wherein I’m typing these words.

Again, everyone experiences such moments beneath waking focused consciousness. We just block those experiences thinking they’re of no value. But they’re of immense value. That’s because these experiences represent something powerful. They represent us coming back into the fullness of all that we are. That I AM that is our true nature.

Living waking experience from that awareness, literally everything becomes possible. Now, everything already is possible. But rigid focus on physical reality limits us. That’s because infinite possibilities happen in nonphysical, that place where we all originate including events, circumstances and other people.

When we focus less in physical reality, we tune back into that broader awareness. Then we can leverage that. We can bring it back here, in physical reality. Then we can use it to do more. We can do more with far less effort. And far more joy.

Everything is possible

That’s why I’m eager to expand my self-awareness. I want to prove to myself everything is possible. The prospect of that thrills me. And it inspires greater desire to experience more of what’s possible. Which is everything.

As I said before, OBEs are evidence. They’re signs of progress. My latest experience is a great sign. The length and extreme detail I experienced tells me I’ve significantly soothed my rigid focus. I’m more able to focus in this reality and others at the same time.

So here’s the experience I had on April 23:

From my detailed journal: The longest OBE I’ve experienced so far.

If you’re inspired to have similar experiences, I promise, it’s worthy stoking that inspiration. I find my satisfaction in life has expanded tenfold. My confidence and joy is increasing too. As is my awareness of what’s really possible.

I encourage every person so inspired to not pass up the chance to learn more about yourself! It’s so worth it. If you don’t know where to start, I can help. Contact me.

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More Evidence My Advice Changes Lives

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It’s wonderful watching clients get the Charmed Life I write about. It doesn’t happen all at once. But every client eventually gets it. I find joy watching clients create such experiences for themselves.

When such clients write me offering me high praise for how I helped them, it just adds more joy to my experience. After all, this kind of impact is why I do this. I know the more people living their charmed life, the better the world gets.

So when people write telling me I significantly influenced their life experience, it tells me I’m creating the better world I intended when I came here. At the beginning of the year, A client I hadn’t seen in six months wrote to tell me how much his life changed since adopting a Positively Focused perspective. Take a look:

Everyone can enjoy the life promised through being Positively Focused. Such a life is what we all knew we’d enjoy before we chose to become human. It’s the Charmed Life. In it, everything we want, happens.

The “shock and awe”

But it’s easy to get off track. That’s because life experience, from the moment we’re born, is the embodiment of “shock and awe”. The feeling of being limited in a fleshy body is so diametrically opposed to freedom we all knew in nonphysical, we kind of all just freak out.

Insecurity and fear immediately force us into the state of “human”. The vast majority of us forget what we really are. From there, that almost always creates a divergence from the path we intended.

But even that divergence represents the path. For in our disappointments and fears and actions we take from there, we create more of what we want. That waits for us until we eventually regain our eternal awareness.

Becoming Positively Focused, clients regain their eternal awareness. When that happens, they regain their empowerment. Empowerment to follow whatever dream they prefer.

All lives can be a charmed life. If yours doesn’t, and you want it to, contact me. I can help.

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Magic Happens When People Follow Divine Advice

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The perfect unfolding is the unfolding that keeps unfolding. Manifestations never stop manifesting. Everything is becoming more. On the way to that “more-ness” a human being can experience extreme delight. That delight needn’t be a one-time thing.

I tell all my clients, and anyone else who will listen, that people can have everything they want. But they can’t have something others have a say in if others don’t want that. For example, someone I spoke with recently strongly argued for “Civil Rights”. She is a minority and has many experiences with discrimination. So her strident call for “Civil Rights” comes stained with painful interpretations of her past experience.

That’s why, when she clamors for “Civil Rights” extreme duress accompanies her clamor. Her painful experiences are so present, they create a reality opposite what she wants. While her words argue for Civil Rights, in other words, her much more powerful vibrational emanation argues for oppression.

In that alignment, she aligns with those who find satisfaction in oppression. And, she, perpetuates what she doesn’t want.

The good life

Meanwhile my clients who align themselves with their desires experience something different. They practice telling better stories about their past. And doing that, they find liberation from painful experiences in the past. Indeed, they actually change the past. They turn it from something painful to something that served them. Then they learn to follow their impulses. That’s when they step into the Charmed Life I write about. Like this client:

A client changes his past…right before his eyes…Then finds delight in the present moment unfolding.

Life is magical. Those not experiencing that will dispute that assertion. But that’s because, for them, life ISN’T magical. And that’s because they put too much attention on what they don’t want. Doing that, they create more of what they don’t want.

But life is still magical for those people too. Their lives, like my clients, reflect back to them what they put their attention on. If only they’d put their attention on what they want, then they’d get more of that. Then they’d see the magic. The good life.

Impulses always lead to magic

But when someone focuses on what they don’t want, their impulses will run them. They’ll take action and that action will rendezvous them with more unwanted. Just like magic. Meanwhile, those who take charge of the process experience something different. The process is exactly the same. They still act on impulses. They still have the rendezvous.

The difference is, because they focus positively, they rendezvous with magical wanted experiences. Experiences that don’t bring oppression, but joy. Like the client above.

It’s no wonder so many life ho-hum lives. They don’t know what they’re doing. Not consciously anyway. Meanwhile, those who make the process conscious, then master it, discover how good life can get.

Are you ready for the good life?

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How Can One Easily Explain Manifestation?

Positively Focused Q-A
Positively Focused Q-A

Question: Can you easily explain manifestation?

Answer: Explaining manifestation is easy. Understanding it? Not so much.

“Manifestation” is the perceived real-ization of desire as it becomes ongoingly fulfilled. “Fulfillment” is an ongoing electromagnetic process. In that process, energy — often a thought form — becomes “more” (fulfilled). It does so on the way to its full-blown becoming-ness. That thought is conscious and aware. It also has its own intent. Its main intent is reaching its full potential. That intent leads to its self-awareness.

Intention alone will push any aware-ized energy towards self-awareness. “Manifestation” is that becoming-ness happening while a perceiver watches. Observation amplifies that becoming-ness. Attention, focus and desire are all synonyms with “observation”. As words they describe the inexhaustible, constantly mobile nature of the energy that is All That Is.

In that becoming-ness, the incipient manifestation, becomes more and more tangible. It becomes more and more perceivable by the perceiver too. All this happens instantaneously. But, in order for All That Is to know itself, perceptive consciousness slows the becoming way down. Slowing it down also allows participation by observers in the unfolding. The process of manifestation therefore assists in self-awareness and self-actualization of All That Is. Humans included.

The unwanted is wanted

Manifestation includes things someone wouldn’t ordinarily want. The thing is, ANYTHING someone puts their attention on long enough will manifest. Observation amplifies. All energy intends fulfillment. These two work together amplifying one another. So it’s really important to observe only things one would prefer become bigger. And minimize attention to unwanted things.

But even unwanted things serve beneficial purposes. They too help clarify self-awareness. After all, a person experiencing what they don’t want, knows more clearly what they do want. So even unwanted things clarify self-awareness. Self-awarness represents the ultimate desire.

All That Is craves self-awareness. Manifestations exist so beings like ourselves can know themselves. In knowing themselves, they become more of themselves. They’re becoming more helps All That Is become more. This is what’s going on on this planet and everywhere else.

Manifestation therefore, is the key element in the self-discovery of All That Is. A self-discovery in which you’re playing a key part. Your desires contribute to All That Is knowing itself. That means all desires are good. No matter the outcome, fulfilled desire facilitates greater knowing.

That doesn’t mean we mustn’t minimize negative outcomes. We must. The desire to improve the world is a worthy desire too. Manifestation represents a sacred process. A process leading ultimately to the expansion of All That Is.

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The Best Of What Life Offers Is Ours To Enjoy. Here’s How

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Here’s another reason people think Law of Attraction doesn’t work: they use it to keep creating the same experiences over and over. So it looks like nothing’s changing.

But things are changing. They just keep changing into the same thing over and over. That’s why the Positively Focused practice examines belief constellations. For it is our constellations of beliefs that create our reality. Not what we want. Changing what’s in the constellations changes realities we create.

Abraham echoing what my clients discover. The discovery sparks mystery and joyful revelations too. Who doesn’t want that?

This belief constellation analysis is easier said than done. Which explains the benefit of someone who knows how to do the analysis. Often our most dominant thoughts, those with the most creative power, run under our conscious radar. So it can be hard to see what’s going on in our minds.

But uncovering what’s happening in our minds opens whole new worlds of possibilities, mysteries and joyful discoveries. It literally makes every dream available. And that makes the effort worth putting in.

That’s why Positively Focused clients feel so inspired. Once they see what they want showing up everywhere, inspiration takes over. After a while, they become more bold in their aspirations.

It’s waiting for us all

My own aspirations now lie far above what most believe possible. Yet, I already see evidence they are manifesting. Anything is possible. Only belief limits that.

And that’s why I really enjoy this practice. Practicing it with others amplifies my own joy. It’s the best of the best of worlds. Being a deliberate creator and helping others become one too. Then seeing the world improve, one person at a time.

The best of what life offers is ours. All we need do is believe it is. Then it becomes that. Then that becomes our life. The delicious Charmed Life I write about.

Ready for yours?

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My Second Great Out Of Body Experience

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This isn’t actually the second, but it is the most significant OBE since my first. What’s significant about it relates to my ego’s calibration to the experience. The whole experience confirms my progress. I’m realizing more my eternal nature.

Humans are more than human. We are aware-ized energy. We are that creative energy, creating more of ourselves. Then we expand ourselves into that more. We do that to explore ourselves. We do that to know who and what we are.

While they seem rare, everyone experiences OBEs. Usually, we don’t notice them. That’s because our ego blocks such experiences. But we leave our bodies constantly.

Most common OBEs happen during sleep. We call them “dreams”. But that word cheapens what really happens. There we explore the myriad creations we create. Meanwhile our bodies get left behind.

Each of us exist simultaneously in infinite dimensions. Dimensions outside time and space. Places we create as part of our voracious desire for self-awareness and expansion.

Even those who think they don’t dream do this. The only reason they don’t remember such experiences is because they don’t believe they have them. Advanced Positively Focused clients reacquaint themselves with these experiences. The more they recall, the more becomes possible. Including OBEs.

Being outside: amazing

My second experience happened the afternoon of January 25. My “spiritual body” gently rose out of my physical one. Then it happened. Here’s how I described it in my practice journal:

My “second” OBE as described in my journal

As you read, I’m new at this. My waking consciousness gets out of whack when I return to “reality”. The conscious part of me experiencing the OBE is not my waking consciousness. Yet, when I “return”, that part of me must integrate the experience. When that happens disorientation shows up. That means I’m just starting to get my “sea legs” about this OBE stuff.

In reality, I’m not learning to leave my body. That happens all the time. What I’m learning is how to be aware of my depatures. And, how to integrate them on return. Integrate them so I remember the experience.

Joyful expansion

I’ve had many other OBEs. Many of them happen in sleep. Because of what I know, I have extremely good recall and retention of these experiences. Keeping a record of these amplifies my retention. Today, my records contain well over 2,000 such experiences. But when these happen, my waking consciousness isn’t with me. I experience them as actual places, but when I wake, the experience doesn’t feel as real.

Eventually, I want to leave my body at will. Seth assures us such experiences are, indeed, in the realm of possibility for us. I’m finding his words accurate.

Sometime I’ll write about the ego and its function. Humanity doesn’t understand it very well. Regarding OBEs, the ego needs grace. It must adjust to an unusual experience from its perspective. Our egos aren’t ordinarily happy experiencing OBEs. That’s because such experiences take it outside its speciality, which is physical reality. This explains why most people don’t consciously know they’re having OBEs. Their ego focuses them exclusively on the illusion that is physical reality.

If you’re intrigued with my experience and want your own, you might consider becoming a client. All my clients attest the price is a bargain for benefits they receive.

Indeed, the Charmed Life is priceless. Ready for yours?

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What Real Supernatural Gifts Look Like

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Coming on the heels of several remarkable supernatural developments in my personal practice, today I’ll share some interesting experiences I’ve had in my life. They show me everyone can develop superhuman abilities.

That’s right. I’ve enjoyed what people would call “supernatural abilities”. They emerged as part of my Positively Focused practice. It’s only now that even more impressive abilities are emerging. That’s because my belief in such things is increasing every day. And, as I assert here always, belief creates reality.

As I wrote before, everyone possesses these abilities. Expressing them, however, is another matter. Especially abilities such as astral travel, teleportation and perceiving past and future. But all these and more are possible for all of us. That’s because we are not human. We are more than human.

Seemingly superhuman capabilities mark the Mastery Level of the Positively Focused practice. They also come after a persistent expression of the Charmed Life I write about. None of my clients are at this level. But some are getting close.

So what kind of abilities have happened in my life?

Divine guidance on command

On an educational tour of China some time ago, I found myself in the middle of Shanghai, a massive Chinese city. In a park I met a gaggle of girls selling tea. They roped me in, then took me on a meandering path through the city by foot. The city was massive and DENSE with grey concrete buildings. Other than the park I saw, it was concrete, glass and steel, everywhere.

They eventually lead me through an equally massive shopping mall. It must have been three to seven levels. Shops were crammed in there as densely as buildings in the city. I had no idea where I was. Then we came to a tea shop. The owner greeted me. Long story short, I walked out with a bunch of tea. After rejoining my group, the group leader informed me I’d been scammed. Apparently this happens to a lot of people.

Shanghai, China. To my western eyes, every block looked identical (Photo by Rafael Banha on Unsplash)

Incensed, I wanted to confront the proprietor. But I had NO IDEA how to find that shop again. Then I calmed myself. I tapped into my Broader Perspective and said “lead me to that tea shop.” Then started walking. I turned whenever my intuition said so.

You can imagine the tea shop owner’s surprise when I showed up at his shop! We had words and I walked away whole. Afterward, I marveled at how I found that place. It was a needle in a massive number of concrete haystacks!

Jedi-like reflexes

While in the Marines a while ago, I carried my wallet in my hand. I preferred not having it in my pocket. One day, while walking down the street, I got the distinct impression that I needed to look behind me. I had my wallet in my left hand. To look behind me, I pivoted to the right. Just as I did so, I saw a guy running at me on my left. He was going after my wallet! I looked him right in the eye as I lifted my left hand over my head, making it impossible to grab my wallet. He kept running.

Another similar instance happened years later. As I walked to my office downtown, I passed a group of four homeless youths. One held a skateboard. As I passed around them, my senses picked up hostility coming from behind me. Then my Broader Perspective encouraged me to turn around.

Good thing I did. The guy with the skateboard had wound up with the board over his head to hit me. I possess a third degree black belt certification in nine different martial arts. So my sixth sense, cultivated from that training, took over. I moved in exact flow with his movements. I wasn’t moving. My Broader Perspective was moving me. I think it was clear to the guy and his fellows that he had bit off more than he could chew. He and his fellows turned a corner and ran the other way before things escalated.

Skateboarding and violence can get you hurt! (Photo by Daria Tumanova on Unsplash)

Alternate dimensional perception

Then there are experiences I’m having today. In my Positively Focused Advanced Practice Meditations, I’m visiting alternate dimensions and bringing back such experiences with remarkable clarity. My consciousness literally leaves my body and I find myself in other “places”.

These began as brief flashes. But these days, they’re happening in much longer duration and detail. Like this one:

An example from my journal of a series of departures during one Advanced Practice session.

These experiences are just the beginning. As I wrote before, evidence of more powerful abilities are emerging from within me. These are happening as natural byproducts of aligning to All That Is consciousness.

Such abilities are available to us all. Some can realize them on their own. Others benefit from a guide. If you want to experience your superhuman capability, but don’t know where to start, I’m available.

The benefit of such practices isn’t the abilities themselves. It’s the discovery of our eternal nature. A nature that exists in many dimensions simultaneously. That awareness not only triggers or activates supernatural abilities. It also enables one to create whatever life they desire.

A life which includes ultimate states of unshakable happiness. To me, such a life is worth cultivating. If you think so too and want to know how to cultivate your charmed superhuman life contact me.

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How To Beat Anxiety And Get Off Meds

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A lot of people find anxiety relief through medications. Nearly all those people don’t realize they don’t need medication to rid themselves from anxiety.

That’s because anxiety is a blessing. Left unchecked though, it can become a curse. It can enslave one in discomfort. So much discomfort the only choice that person thinks they have is relief through a pill.

The medical profession is only too quick to oblige people who suffer from anxiety. That’s why almost 20 percent of Americans find themselves with anxiety “disorders”.

But anxiety gets labeled a “disorder” needing “treatment” because so many don’t understand the benefit anxiety brings to those with it. Now, I already can hear the rebuttal:

“Easy for you to say,” some anonymous reader may offer. “You don’t struggle with anxiety.”

Well, I respond, listening to me might be a good idea then. Because you’re right, I don’t. Or if not me, take the example of a client who just today instantly caused their anxiety to disappear.

How emotions benefit

She came to her session complaining about sleeping poorly the night before. We explored the reasons and the main one was a “general anxiety.” I explained why anxiety shows up for her and suggested she could benefit from the benefits her anxiety offered.

We talked about that briefly, then we dove into an exercise which brought her near instant relief. I’m sharing that exercise here. But first, here’s why anxiety is beneficial.

Anxiety, like any emotion, tells humans something they must know. If they want fulfilling, happy lives, the must know what emotions tell them. But if you ask ten random strangers (or strange friends 😊) why we have emotions, i.e. what their purpose is, you won’t get good answers. Most people don’t know why emotions exist.

Emotions give us clues about how to get everything we want. I talk about this and how to use the clues with clients every week. It takes convincing, of course. That’s because other people convince us they know better than our emotions about what’s right for us.

But for those who use their emotions correctly, charting a path to happiness is inevitable. That’s why emotions – including anxiety – exist. They help us discover our happiness. They also light up the path to everything we want.

Negative emotions such as anxiety offer far more benefit than positive ones. But when used incorrectly or not at all, they can spell trouble. And when people mask them with drugs, their benefits get masked too.

How to get the benefit

The key to unlocking those benefits looks like using emotions for their intended purpose. That means using negative, or unwanted, emotions to chart a course to more positive, better feeling ones. That’s the purpose of the exercise I gave my client.

It worked near instantly. And, she could tell it worked that fast. Looking at her face and reactions, it was obvious.

The exercise involves a series of statements that begin with acknowledging the unwanted emotion then moving through that into better feeling emotions. Statements made are declarative, succinct and include increasing levels of emotion as those emotions show up.

My client asked that I make a recording as an aid for her so she can use the recording to practice. Once I did it, I realized readers of this blog could benefit too. So, here it is free of charge. Simply click on this link. It will direct you to a google drive where you can download it to your computer or phone.

The first minute or so offers instructions, then the remaining eight minutes offer the exercise.

Don’t be fooled

As simple as this may sound recorded, the exercise contains great power. Used alone, anyone suffering from occasional or mild anxiety can eliminate such experiences from daily life. Used in conjunction with other practices I offer in my Positively Focused sessions, even those with chronic, medicated anxiety can find so much relief over time, they can eventually get off their medication.

It’s hard when so many people give so much advice about things while not really understanding the purpose and origins of such things. Emotions are one such thing. Without understanding them, doctors, psychologists and psychiatrists do people a disservice.

I realize they’re doing their best and many sincerely want to help.

Of course, there are severe conditions existing where putting people on medications provides needed relief. And from there, a person can eventually perhaps discover ways to better manage chronic anxiety and other unwanted emotions, such as depression.

But for the vast majority of anxiety and depression sufferers, there are very good reasons why such experiences happen. They don’t have to happen. But unless one understands why they happen, finding the way out remains elusive.

Don’t be fooled. Anxiety needn’t be a constant companion. Discover your own inherent, natural relief from anxiety. Then use it for its intended purpose.

Then you’ll find yourself appreciating anxiety for what it is: a blessing. Not a curse. Want to know more? I can help.