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What Happens When I Follow God’s Advice (My Inner Guidance)

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I’m thrilled about writing this post. I’m thrilled because I’m sharing what signifies a big improvement in my vibration. An improvement on a subject showing I am reaching into the “leading edge” of what it means to be human.

Many life goals I have include expressing that “leading edge” life. What do I mean by “leading edge”? I mean living life in ways humans think impossible, and in doing so, expanding what it means to be human. And what’s possible for humanity.

Life for me has been about understanding the human experience through my personal experience, then living in ways that expand on that. While doing that, I’ve lived an interesting life. A diverse life. A life providing all kinds of enlightening experiences. Experiences giving me insight into the human condition.

But at the core of all I am, I am not human. You aren’t human either, dear reader. After all, when this life is over, you and I will continue existing. We won’t be human though. Instead, we’ll cast of this “mortal coil” in favor of our eternal, expanded beingness.

I love the sound of that.

But I really love experiencing that. Experiencing that expanded beingness, right here, in the mortal coil. And that’s why I’m thrilled to write this post. Because I’m experiencing that expanded state, even while I live as human. It’s the best of all worlds.

The power of limiting beliefs

The thrilling thing I experienced happened in late September. I schedule posts in advance. So by the time you read them, what you read happened a while ago. Still, this experience shows it’s worth learning to deliberately create reality through manifesting.

We can literally create any reality we want. Nothing is off limits. But doing that requires diligence. I think most people aren’t ready to take that on. For those who are, however, life gets really fun. Life becomes heavenly. But only for those who can see the possibility. Seeing that, however, first requires believing it’s possible.

That means letting go of beliefs humans accept as “true”. There are many such beliefs. Some contain far more sticking power than others. By “sticking power”, I mean momentum. Momentum we collectively add to these beliefs by accepting and believing in them. One such belief, for example, is “humans can’t regrow limbs.” It’s an interesting paradox.

Because humans CAN’T grow limbs. It’s not because the potential to do so isn’t there, however. Rather, it’s because no one believes it can be done. So no one tries.

Doesn’t this remind you of the story about the baby elephant tied to a stake? Humans are like elephants tied to stakes as babies. Our stakes are our limiting beliefs.

Abraham describing why some things are impossible.

History is replete with things once thought impossible becoming possible. Maybe you can think of some. In any case, the leading edge of humanity lies on that boundary between what people believe and what’s actually possible. I live my life on that edge. So I do things most people think are crazy. That includes choosing to leave lucrative careers, giving up “earning a living” and leaping into the unknown, expecting the Universe will catch me.

And catch me it has!

The perfect unfolding

I chose a life path wherein I want enormous amounts of money to flow into my life. And, I want it to flow in ways that leave me free to live my life. In other words, I want money coming in with me doing as little as possible about that. That way, I can live my life loving life, playful and engaged in what I enjoy.

These days my desires have more sway over my life than fear, obligation or “common sense”. That means I’m living more boldly than ever. I’m no longer willing to accept beliefs we humans commonly hold. I decided some time ago, therefore, to prove to myself that this “you create your reality” business is real.

Unlike others doing what I’m doing, I went “all in”. I gave up jobs, let my marriage dissolve and struck out in pursuit of the extraordinary. Doing that, I confronted and am confronting these common beliefs.

Many such beliefs revolve around money. Money is a big subject. One that needs a lot of cleaning up in my Belief Constellation. That process is not always without fear though. And that’s what I’m writing about today. There’s a lot to share and will likely need to be shared over several posts. But here’s what happened in late September.

Money as a manifested idea enjoys a lot of momentum. Many beliefs about it limit what’s possible around money. (Photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash)

Living the Charmed Life

In January, my rent is going up. I thought it was going up a lot. But I soothed that belief and it turned out I was wrong: The rent did go up, but not nearly as much as I feared. Still, because I’m bold, and because I’m cleaning up beliefs about money I no longer want active in my vibration, my income is quite low. It’s just enough to cover my living expenses. That’s because my current beliefs about money, income and working for income still hold sway.

But momentum from those beliefs is soothing. I know this because, today, I don’t work for income. Rather, I play with clients, showing them how to do what I have done and am doing. They pay me for this. However, it doesn’t feel at all like work. It feels, instead, as an extension of my spiritual practice. You could say then, I’m being paid to pursue everything I’m writing about here. That’s the joy of the Positively Focused Way: the Charmed Life I write about in this blog.

I’ve enjoyed living this way for several years now. It’s been an interesting adventure that’s only just getting started. But with that rent increase looming, I realized I would need more money. Because I know what I know, and because of a long string of manifestations on other subjects, I resolved to manifest the money I needed.

I realized I could take a job instead. But that’s not the path I’m on. I’m committed to manifesting a life on my terms. That includes manifesting money on my terms too!

It began with a post card

So one day in September, I got a post card. It was from the United Sates Postal Service. They were hosting a “Career Day” at my local post office. This card came with interesting timing. Thinking about taking a job occured to me in the same week. And here is this card showing up. So this was an opportunity to test my connection to my Broader Perspective. I also wanted its opinion on the opportunity. Also, I wanted guidance on what to do too. I mean, I knew what I wanted to do (ignore the card). Yet I felt a twinge of fear-induced impulses saying “go to the career day.”

Our Broader Perspective is the larger consciousness that is us, outside our physical bodies. We are far too big to fit in this human form. So we squeeze a part of us “here”. Meanwhile, the larger part of all that we are remains in nonphysical. That larger part is not the “God” most religions talk about. It is US, experiencing all experiences we’re having across infinite dimensions. That perspective exists outside of space and time.

So it can “see” a lot more than we can. It literally sees all probable futures, choices we have made, can make and will make. And it sees how all those choices always work out. It therefore, is a fantastic source of guidance. This is why the Positively Focused Way primarily focuses on strengthening a conscious awareness of our relationship with our Broader Perspective. Do that and we can receive vivid, clear and accurate guidance.

So, I held the card in my hand. Looking at it, I said aloud “should I go to this career event?”

Nothing happened.

Being a letter carrier. Was that really my path? (Photo by Trinity Nguyen on Unsplash)

Contrast begets manifestation

Then I offered an alternative: “Should I stay the course?” I asked.

“YES!” my Broader Perspective instantly “said”.

Now, when my Broader Perspective gives guidance, it’s not in the form of words. I don’t hear a voice. Instead, it communicates kinesthetically. I feel its communication. In this instance, what I felt was a “thrilling”. Massive waves of pleasurable tingles and shivers ran through my body and scalp. I’ve used this communication process so many times. After following the communication, I’ve always received positive results. So I know I can trust it.

And trust it I did.

I put the card on my desk. Then I focused on statements affirming my desire. That’s when I realized that post card was intentional. I put it in my reality to prompt exactly what I was doing: amplifying my alignment with the outcome existing in nonphysical. The one representing the full-blown manifestation of what I want: enough income to cover my rent increase.

A week later, more contrast showed up. I got an email from a digital rights law firm. I inadvertently violated copyright protections of a photo owned by someone else. The law firm said I owed $250!

At first I was shocked. I didn’t have $250! Well, I did, in savings. But that was reserved for other expenses. That’s when I realized this was not a bad thing. This bill was more evidence showing me I was on my path. Use it correctly, I knew, and I would have what I was manifesting.

So I wrote and told them I didn’t have that much money. They replied by reducing their fee by 40 percent, demanding instead $150. Not the best outcome, but it was one I could live with.

Getting off course? Maybe not

Getting that bill triggered more fear and worry. When I got it, my attention drifted to the Post Office’s post card laying on my desk. I picked it up. Remembering what my Broader Perspective suggested, I thought about the career event. Would it hurt to just go?, I thought.

But I knew that question stemmed from FEAR. That’s not a good place from which to act. I knew if I took a job at the post office, the job would just show me why I should have stayed the course. After all, my Broader Perspective wanted me to do that: Stay the course.

But in a moment of weakness, I decided, I’ll just go. I’ll just check it out and see. I knew I was acting out of fear. I acknowledged that, dressed and went to the event.

Representatives there told me about openings available. I wasn’t thrilled about them, but I was curious. They all paid a wage equaling about half of what I make per client hour. But because I would be working many more hours, I’d make more money.

I thanked the reps, took some information and went home. By the time I got there, I was clear: I wasn’t going to work for the post office! That’s going backwards!

The biggest factor driving that decision was that I’d have to stop working with clients. I wouldn’t have time. That was a deal killer. Plus I really enjoyed my current lifestyle. One where I spend nearly all my time practicing my Positively Focused Way and seeing clients less than three days a week.

So the experience of going to the event actually amplified my commitment to stay the course. Interesting!

I can be stubborn tho…

Still I wallowed a bit. I weighed the option of working at the post office a bit more. Then I got the impulse to Google “What’s it like to work at the post office?” Most of the information I read confirmed my original conclusion: working at the post office was a massive divergence from my chosen path. I decided then to give up the post office idea completely. Instead, I thought, I’m staying the course. I’m trusting my Broader Perspective!

That’s when my dream reality entered the picture. In it my Broader Perspective reiterated that I should stay the course. I had a dream the details of which are unimportant. But what is important is the download I got when waking from it. The download was “Don’t pay that $150 from savings. Use your credit card.”

This is why dream state is another thing I eventually get clients to become aware of. Dreams are soooo freaking valuable! When we dream, we return to the fullness of our Broader Perspective. There, we CAN experience nonphysical consciously and vividly. But most people don’t believe they dream. Those who do, think dreams are something they’re not. So they miss the massive value dreams bring.

Dreams are an excellent Source of inner knowing. (Photo by Egor Vikhrev on Unsplash)

In dreams, we CAN hear our Broader Perspective speak to us in words we can understand. But again, it requires training. Not really training…it requires soothing resistance acting as an opaque shield between us and the dream state. Do that and dreams become very easy to perceive, experience and understand. As does our ability to hear our Broader Perspective while in dream state.

That download was my Broader Perspective guiding me. So I woke and put that $150 on my card.

Staying the course…lead to something awesome

Then I focused on trusting and relaxing into the now. Past experience proved doing so would bring what I want more quickly. Everything you just read also amplified my desire to focus.

That focus felt good. I felt myself tuning in. Tuning into the probable reality where the money I want is!

Less than a week later, I woke one morning feeling really great. I checked my phone. There on the screen was a notification that a new client registered for a one-time Positively Focused session!

I looked at the confirmation email and the name looked familiar. But the photo of the person on Facebook was unfamiliar.

The new client and the PayPal notification.

When I sent them a reply email, the reply I got astounded me:

“Hi,” She said. “I’ve had that fake profile on Facebook for years. Last week I checked it and in my recommendations was a link to Positively Focused. I knew that was the universe telling me to sign up for sessions.”

How cool is that?!

After our first session, the client signed up for weekly sessions for a total monthly session rate equal to 30 times my rent increase scheduled to begin in January! And, it’s more than enough to pay off the $150 I put on my credit card!

Manifesting requires staying the course

What did I learn from all this? Well, by October 1 I felt absolute confidence the Universe moves to support my desires. Several other manifestations happened in September. Adding this one to those vastly boosted my knowing. Namely:

  • My desire to create money coming into my life with no effort on my part is working!
  • That relaxing and trusting makes what I want to happen, happen faster.
  • I can manifest something I desire in perfect divine timing.
  • I can trust my Broader Perspective!
  • By lightly holding in my mind what I want, I prime the Universe to deliver.
  • When something seems to go wrong, that usually means I’m close to the full-blown manifestation. See things “going wrong” as actually going right!
  • Try not to take action too soon. But if I do, I know the Universe will work around my early action and deliver what I want!
  • Finally, by staying the course towards what I want, what I want WILL HAPPEN. When it does it will be in divine timing. And if it hasn’t happened (yet) that’s only because the timing isn’t right (yet).

All this inspires even bolder action. I know now that everything I’m asking for is happening. So I can enjoy my life on the leading edge of what it means to be human. And, I can eagerly anticipate the day when outrageous fortune flows into my experience.

I love following my inner guidance!

By now you may be inspired to learn to hear your inner guidance. If you are, I’m here. Join my clients experiencing their own versions of what I’m experiencing. Contact me, let’s get you started!

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Here’s Definite Proof Manifestation Is A Thing

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We are literally surrounded by evidence proving manifesting is a thing. Why so many think it’s not real astounds me.

Every man-made object first started as vibration which turned into an “idea”. An idea is a thought. Such ideas usually come in a burst of inspiration. “Inspiration” is communication from one’s Broader Perspective.

Then a person acts to make the idea real. These actions come from impulses to act. Impulses come from one’s Broader Perspective.

After a time, the object is “manifest”. It becomes real.

It’s the same in nature. Things manifest first as vibration. The consciousness in nature translates that to a thought. Then it acts on its impulses until manifestation happens.

Our entire physical world is manifested evidence that thoughts turn to things. Why people deny it baffles…

….Then again, beliefs create reality. So if one believes manifestation is fake, the Universe will create circumstances proving that belief “true”. Meanwhile, it’s proving other beliefs “true” too.

In fact, there’s so much room in the Universe, any belief held long enough will assemble cooperative components proving it true. That’s how the universe expands: vibration becomes thoughts. Those thoughts become things.

So a person claiming “you create your reality” is false proves it true. They create a reality for themselves wherein the universe gives them proof that they don’t create their reality!

But your reality needn’t be theirs…

Beliefs create experience

It’s no wonder then when a client talked about her sister, we discovered more “truth”. The client, who I’ll call Mary, has a sister I’ll call Jane. Jane celebrated the birth of her child recently. That’s cool. But what’s even cooler was Mary’s experience.

According to Mary, Jane is kind of a worry-wart. She believes in preparing for all contingencies. When it came to having her child, therefore, Jane believed it a better choice to give birth in a hospital. When she did give birth, complications resulted which necessitated a cesarean intervention.

A week after the birth, Jane re-admitted herself to the hospital with post-birth complications. She’s been in the hospital for a week now.

In our session, Mary asked if all this resulted from Jane’s belief in preparing for the worst. Yes, I told her. But also, it represented a manifestation of Mary’s beliefs about Jane. How else could Mary have had the experience of seeing Jane go through this?

We all create our realities. We do that through our beliefs about reality. That includes beliefs about ourselves and beliefs about others. However, something very important plays a role too. That is the dynamic of co-creation.

Collapsing into another’s momentum

Each person experiences others they meet as versions they create. No two people experience a third in the same way, just as no two people experience the same reality. Even when two people experience the same situation, they each have their version of that situation. There is no shared reality.

That’s true for people in our lives too.

When it comes to experiencing others, belief momentum is everything. Whether you experience someone the way they experience themselves or the way you experience them depends on this belief momentum. For example, Mary and Jane are related and Jane is older. Mary’s experience of Jane is almost entirely the result of Jane’s momentum. In other words, Mary’s beliefs about Jane largely come based on her observation of her. That seems normal, right?

After all, we all get to know people based on what we observe, then conclude based on those observations. But we can also create versions of others independent of our observations. In the same way we can create whole new realities independent of what we observe of reality. In that same way, we also can create whole new versions of other people.

Usually however, we “collapse into the momentum” of another’s belief momentum. We allow ourselves to accept the emanation of thoughts and beliefs people have about themselves. That’s what happened between Mary and Jane.

These days, Mary is questioning all her beliefs. That’s having her see things she hadn’t before. Such as realizing that her sibling’s birth complications weren’t random situations. Instead, they sprang from her beliefs. Mary’s beliefs too.

The purpose of life

This offered Mary tremendous evidence supporting her Positively Focused practice. Evidence proving for Mary that she is literally surrounded by things made real by her through her beliefs.

How else could it be? Who else is creating her reality? No one else is creating your reality either, other than you.

What that means is, we all possess tremendous potential. Potential to create really daring and satisfying realities. Realities offering whole new experiences. For us, for the world and for the Universe.

That’s the reason we come into the world in the first place. We come to participate in universal expansion. Doing so, we expand too. And, through our example, we encourage expansion in others.

It’s the Great Game that is life experience. Expansion, joy and growth is its purpose. What could be a better purpose than that?

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There’s No Perfect, Powerful Method To Manifest

Positively Focused Q-A
Positively Focused Q-A

Question: I have a question about the “369 manifestation” method. Am I able to do it all at once or preferably 3 times in the morning, 6 times in the afternoon and 9 times in the night? Or can I just write it down all at once?

Answer: Manifestation doesn’t work this way. People come up with all kinds of “processes” purported to be effective. But manifesting is much simpler than this.

The difficulty with manifesting what anyone wants lies in our beliefs about what’s wanted. Resistance we have about what we want slows the manifestation. The timing is important too. By this I mean, we manifest something we want when the timing is right.

That means on some subjects, particularly ones we have a lot of resistance about, it takes longer than others. In fact, on some subjects we feel a lot of impatience. Understanding impatience is important. Such emotions tell us our vibration contradicts our desire. It also tells us we’re slowing down its becoming “real”.

On other subjects, the timing isn’t right. Now, no one is “out there” judging when the timing is right or not. We’re making the call from our Broader Perspective vantage point. It seems the “right” timing is “now”, usually because we feel bad about not having what we want to manifest. That bad feeling is both a sign and the Source of resistance, as I described in the previous paragraph.

Abraham making the process of manifestation plain.

Creation happens automatically. Deliberate creation is tricky

Manifesting a desire is simple. But it’s not easy. It’s not easy because it requires patience. It also requires soothing existing contrary vibration. Most people struggle with this. So they look for “processes” to help them.

We’re manifesting all the time. That’s what reality is. Reality is a manifestation. It’s coming out from us. We shape it with our beliefs. And we do this automatically. Doing it consciously simply requires conjuring how it will feel to have what one wants. You feel the emotion of having it. Then drop it.

We don’t need special processes. We don’t need to think about it many times. In fact, thinking about it many times often amplifies resistance we have on the subject, thus slowing the manifestation down. Even using affirmations will more likely create resistance rather than alignment.

How?

Because often people speak affirmations while thinking about the absence of what they’re trying to manifest. It’s tricky in other words. We gotta know what’s dominant in our awareness to affirm correctly. That’s why dropping it is better, easier and quicker.

Look. The Universe already knows what we want. Whether we’re clear about it or not, we’ve already made the choice and the Universe already holds what we want for us. The only real question is: when are we going to become a match to that?

And the answer to that question has nothing to do with this 369 method. It ONLY has to do with us finding the vibrational frequency that lets it in. And the best way to do that is to RELAX, ENJOY LIFE and stop doing things that put resistance on the trail….like trying to understand someone else’s manifestation “method”.

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What Happens When Life Delivered a Cool Gift

My Advanced clients are so inspiring. Even when they struggle, they create for themselves the Charmed Life. Being Positively Focused Advanced clients, most of them catch when they do this. Still, it can feel like a painful struggle. That’s only because they need more practice. More practice that solidifies their Positively Focused foundations.

An Advanced client today shared a story prompting this post. She’s progressing nicely. Her biggest desire for now is manifesting her lover. But she has many disempowering beliefs in the way. So her path to the lover is really bumpy.

And yet, today she shared a story indicating her progress. Even though she told her story through tears. Now, tears aren’t what people think they are. Tears are manifestations. They represent release of resistance. So crying isn’t a bad thing. Nor is it sad. It’s actually good. It only feels sad because we’re taught that it is sad.

As she told her story, she felt much better. That’s no surprise. Being sad is impossible when one stands in witness to their unfolding Charmed Life.

Here’s the story she told.

A fabulous experience of inner awareness

She’s currently getting to know a guy I’ll call “David”. David has a child from a previous marriage. He and my client, I’ll call “Jill”, were texting. Today is Jill’s birthday and it isn’t a good one according to her. That’s because she perceives herself as alone (she’s not). And she think she’s getting older, which, for her is a terrible thing. It’s terrible because the older she gets, she thinks the less time she has to find and enjoy her lover. In such beliefs, Jill can’t possibly feel happy and optimistic.

Which is why sometimes she’s not happy and optimistic.

Jill didn’t remember the wonderful nature of her sadness. That sadness is telling her something important. As we talked about that, naturally, Jill’s mood improved. Again, a human can’t be sad while standing in appreciation or empowerment, and as we talked that’s where I lead her.

Once getting there, she remembered what happened between her and David. Remembering this story in itself was a manifestation. She wouldn’t have recalled it had her mood not improved. So the story returning to her memory told her something important too. That’s another story though.

David is very busy. Not only does he have a child, he also works a lot. And, this weekend, the weekend of Jill’s birthday, he’s moving. So he’s doubly busy. David asked Jill if he could see a photo of her. She suggested they swap candid shots. So Jill, who was at a coffee drive-through, pulled out of the drive-through. She drove down the road then pulled over. There she snapped a couple pics. Then she sent them to David.

If you believe it long enough it becomes true

As is typical with text apps, Jill saw that David got her pics. Then she saw that familiar three dots at the bottom of the chat indicating that David was writing something. But he never sent that message. Here’s what happened next in Jill’s own words:

“At that moment,” She said. “I knew there were good reasons why he didn’t reply to my pics. But I made up really negative, really bad reasons why he didn’t. Reasons having to do with my appearance.”

“He didn’t like how I looked, I thought,” She said. “He thought I was fat. Or thought I looked too masculine.”

As Jill thought these thoughts, she said, her mood got more and more negative. Before long, she was angry and sad.

“I totally believed what I was thinking,” She said. “I just knew what I was thinking was true.”

Jill’s persistent negative talk has been around a while. So there’s a lot of momentum behind those beliefs. She knew what she was thinking wasn’t necessarily true. And yet, she thought she knew for a fact that they were true. In other words, her reality was confirming her persistent beliefs. After all, she had been in situations like this before. Situations where men ghosted her after she sent a pic.

In those situations, though, she never found out the real reason why they disappeared. So getting no explanation, she made up her own. This she repeated over and over, in situation after situation. Until her explanations became “truth” for her.

Anything we believe will prove true. Believe it long enough and, eventually, we’ll manifest evidence confirming the belief.

Creating deliberately

This is why I advise clients not to look at what’s true. Especially if what’s true isn’t what’s wanted. Instead I encourage them to look towards what they want. That’s because, for most of us, what’s true is inconsistent with our desires. So looking at what’s true causes that which is inconsistent with our desires to persist. Getting what we want, therefore, requires looking where our desires are. That place I call nonphysical.

Perceiving nonphysical is crucial to manifesting what we want. That’s why I spend so much time teaching how to do that in Positively Focused sessions. We can’t see nonphysical with our eyes though. We must learn to “see” it differently. When we do, we have our hands on powerful levers. Levers allowing us to create reality deliberately.

Jill knew what she was doing. Though convinced her beliefs were true, she said she was aware that she was creating a reality she didn’t want. Which is why when David finally did text her, she was not surprised: David had been busy, apologized for his delay and complimented her on her pics.

Jill said this was a powerful lesson for her. “I have to learn to rewire my thoughts so they’re more positive,” She said. I agree.

In every case, the love we want that hasn’t shown up hasn’t because beliefs we hold keep it away. (Photo Photo by Oziel Gómez on Unsplash)

Transforming the future

Being aware of what we’re doing when we’re creating unwanted is another crucial skill. Developing it first requires understanding how reality becomes reality. Then we use our awareness to interrupt that process. Then we learn to direct the process deliberately. That’s what Jill described.

That she knew what she was doing was awesome. That she used that awareness to improve herself was the cool gift the Universe gave her. Had she not had the experience and awareness, the gift would have slipped through her fingers.

We talked about different stories she could tell in place of automatic beliefs activated by habit. We can literally make up any story that feels better. It doesn’t have to be true. It just needs to feel better. In time, it will become true.

  • He lost his phone.
  • Someone stole his phone.
  • The phone got run over.
  • He’s just busy right now.

These four stories feel better than those Jill told herself. The third made Jill laugh. That was a great sign. All of them are not true. Except the last one. Yet they all had Jill feeling better. And that’s the goal.

By practicing this skill on any topic we automatically think negative thoughts about, we transform our future. We make the future compliant with out desires. Do that often enough and we’ll find the future including more of what we want.

What we want therefore becomes a foregone conclusion. They must manifest. That’s just how the Universe works.

Words aren’t as convincing as creating results in your own life that prove this. Maybe you’re ready to do that. Contact meand let’s get you on that path. Life is constantly gifting us. The only question is: are you receiving the gifts?

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A Great Result Made My Client Do Something Awesome

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What I do is not therapy. Which is why I can guarantee my results. When those results happen, clients are surprised. At first.

But then they come to expect the extraordinary. Even so, some results still blow clients away. Which is why, this week, a client gave me a $100 tip. The money isn’t important. What is, is the gesture shows how remarkable the Positively Focused practice is.

This client came to the session distraught. Her younger brother confided in her something scary: He was contemplating suicide.

Like any human who isn’t a Positively Focused client, my client worried about her brother taking his life. The problem with doing that, however, is two-fold. One, the emotion “worry” tells us we’re using our creative energy to create a reality we won’t like when it comes. That impending reality includes versions of people in our lives. Including siblings and other family members. Two, “worry” can align us with another person’s negative intentions, thereby making it more likely the person will go that negative direction.

We’re more powerful than we know

Most people struggle believing we create our reality. Fewer still believe we create the people we meet. And yet, that’s what’s happening. We actually have far more influence on others than we think. That’s why I tell clients to think the best thoughts about everyone they care about.

I did the same with this client. In thinking empowering thoughts about her sibling, she would offer strong influence on not only her brother’s thoughts, but his behavior too. She could actually change his trajectory, I told her, assuming he wanted that.

Indeed, many confiding in others about suicidal ideation do so as a cry for help. They want to take a different trajectory, in other words. So there was a great chance my client could benefit her brother.

It didn’t take long her to find more empowering thoughts within her. Feeling better, she could also come up with words she felt could positively influence her brother. I assured her those words would be influencing. But only if she could maintain seeing her brother in an empowered state. It’s not the words that would do it, I told her. How she’s being will speak more powerfully than anything coming out of her mouth. She got this.

Our happiness depends on no external situation. (Photo by Jacqueline Munguía on Unsplash)

The Charmed Life emerges from the practice

Of course, suicide isn’t as bad as we make it. For many really struggling with their created reality, it’s often the best way to get relief from intense awful experience.

We’re all powerful creators. But since most of us don’t know this, we tend to create realities of intense negativity. In such circumstances, suicide can be the logical best choice.

Once that choice happens, though, nothing bad comes to the person taking their life. They receive support in nonphysical, then they get to try life again. They get a do-over in other words.

So for the person taking their life, taking their life isn’t a big deal. It’s much bigger a deal for “survivors” though, which is another story.

Thinking empowering thoughts about her brother moved my client into a very positive place. From there she had a great conversation with her mother. Together they amplified each other’s positive thoughts about the relative in question.

My client then felt so good after this, she gifted me the tip. It was a total surprise. She said she went from feeling a dreadful powerlessness all the way to feeling empowered and not worried about her brother.

My client tips me for helping her feel awesome.

Of course, this is something every client experiences in their Positively Focused practice on one subject or another. It is, in fact the purpose of the practice. It’s about learning to improve our moods. Which equals improving our vibration.

When that happens, our lives improve too. So much so, they become the Charmed Life I write about in this blog.

Healing another: it’s no miracle

We constantly create versions of everyone we meet. Everything in physical reality reflects our inner state. People are no exception. It is how the Universe shows up: as a reflection of “god’s” inner state. And we all are gods.

Of course, the person we focus on is a god also. So they’re creating a version of themselves too. As a result, everyone exists as multiple versions of themselves. Those others elicit from us, and the one we create ourselves. The versions others create of us can influence our own self-creation. Especially when the image they are creating aligns with something essential about us. Or when we allow that other person to influence us.

This is how Jesus healed people. He saw everyone as their divine self only. That’s the essential aspect of us all. As a result of his powerful focus, dis-ease withered in his attention. His attention literally caused those people’s self concept to collapse into his high vibration version of those people.

Maybe you think this is crazy talk. If so, then I encourage you to create evidence that will convince you that you do create versions of people you interact with. We’re all doing it. Most of us just aren’t aware that we’re doing it.

Becoming aware that we’re god in human form isn’t hard. But most people benefit from a little help in the process. That’s why I’m here. The benefit of this awareness is literally boundless.

Perhaps you’re ready to live your boundless life. What I call the Charmed Life. Contact me. Let’s get started.

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How The Hidden Power Of Words Destroys The Daring Life

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Not long ago, a client offered an excellent metaphor. They were curious about something we talked about in our session. Curiosity is a great place to be. Curiosity will take one very close to the Charmed Life I write about.

Fascination is better. So is amazement. But those emotions naturally show up as clients create more and more evidence. More and more evidence validating everything I tell them in their Positively Focused sessions. Before they know it, the evidence piles up so high, they find themselves in fascination and amazement. Fascination and amazement turn to wonder not long after that. That’s because when one realizes they are worthy of all they desire, and they see those desires happening, wonder becomes the lens through which they experience life.

But I digress. Let’s get back to that client’s metaphor. It’s really instructive.

Clarity in a metaphor

Here’s what they wrote:

“Just want to make sure I understood…if we think of the barrier between conscious and subconscious as the surface of the ocean with the air being conscious thought and water being subconscious thought, then these little doubts and fears that briefly surface in the conscious mind are like icebergs, with the little bit on top one perceives and the huge mass of it (i.e., the momentum) still lurking below, even after one thinks they got a handle on it. Is this a more-or-less apt metaphor?”

The ice berg metaphor gets used often in describing consciousness. Same goes for oceans. So my client’s metaphor was unsurprising. The metaphor itself is mostly accurate.

But we humans over exaggerate what’s going on in life. We also bring that tendency to examining nonphysical, which “consciousness” is. Often, when we do over exaggerate, we do so in a negative direction. In other words, we catastrophize life.

Language often contributes to the catastrophization. Language is powerful. Words we choose literally shape our experience. You’ll see what I mean by taking a deeper look at my client’s metaphor.

Limits put on the limitless

The words “conscious” and “subconscious”, taken together, offer an example of how language can limit experience. When people use these words, they create two things out of something that actually is one thing. It seems there’s a “conscious” part of us. It’s that part of our awareness we’re aware of it. We’re conscious of it. Then there’s the “subconscious” part. We’re aware we have it. But we apparently can’t consciously access it.

So there’s a part of us we can access. And there’s a part we can’t. Between those two, apparently, a barrier exists. Our consciousness cannot pierce that barrier, which is what keeps the “sub” in subconscious.

The words we use have great power. They literally create our limits. (Photo by Glen Carrie on Unsplash)

But there is no actual separation between what people call “conscious” and “subconscious”. There is no barrier between the two. And there really isn’t even “two”. What does exist is our ability perceive all of what’s there, or not. Inability to perceive doesn’t necessarily mean a barrier blocks our ability to perceive. Inability to perceive only means we can’t perceive. We’re not able to. That’s not the same as “cannot”.

In Positively Focused sessions, clients learn to reunite their “conscious” and “subconscious”. Again, they were never separate to begin with. But our beliefs impose a division that’s not there. In doing so those beliefs limit what’s possible.

In our sessions, clients gradually realize everything is possible. Self-imposed limitations relax then. When that happens, one’s human awareness allows more and more, deeper, conscious awareness. This is why a Positively Focused practice includes dreamwork. We train our awareness to expand through to deeper levels of that awareness.

The results are profound.

Making life more serious than it is

Of course, expanding, deepening awareness takes place in physical too. It’s what causes clients to become more bold about life. We become more daring. More authentic. Which is something our Broader Perspective wants. Because of that, we feel a tremendous sense of adventure about life. Adventure and joy, pleasure and fun richly colors our life.

Self-imposed limits can block deeper self-awareness. After all, something existing in the “subconscious” implies we can’t access it. But nothing exists beyond our access. If we can ask the question, we can know the answer. That opens profound implications for self-awareness.

The other interesting thing about my client’s metaphor is it introduces drama and ominousness to the affair. That “huge mass” lurking beyond our perceptions stands ready to upend our plans. And we can’t access it so what do we do?

The reality is, nothing like that is happening. Seriousness, drama, and dire consequences are human constructs. Nothing “serious” happens in our lives. Even when it looks like it is, that’s our interpretation. And any interpretation can change. That’s what clients learn. And when they do, their life gets way better.

That’s why I use “Belief Constellation” instead of common metaphors explaining consciousness. For, as with constellations in the sky, our consciousness and everything in it is all visible…if we’re willing to connect the dots between feelings and thoughts, then other thoughts connected to that, and then other thoughts connected to that, then other thoughts connected…etc. Nothing is hidden from us. It’s all available to see, revel in, then create more of what we want.

But enjoying that means learning how to do it deliberately and consciously. Including how we speak about our experience.

Want to know more? Let’s talk.

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The Magic Of Putting Belief Into Affirmations

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Affirmations work, but understanding how they work makes them work. Just repeating words and phrases doesn’t work. Especially if we don’t believe what we’re saying. Or worse: if our thoughts contradict what we’re saying.

Which is why I don’t start with affirming in my client work. That’s an advanced practice. Instead, I help clients first understand who and what they are. We talk about that a lot.

It’s only after a lot of that basic stuff that I introduce more complex ideas. Belief Constellations, for example. Meanwhile, life experience validates the basics. With enough evidence supporting the basics, I then introduce homework. The homework further confirms the basics. Only after all that do we talk about affirmations.

That’s because affirmations only work when we understand why they work. The why boosts belief. It also connects that belief to a powerful source. The source from which all affirmations draw their power.

The power of self-love

For many people, affirmations don’t work, even though they’ll say they believe they work. Why is that? Because few people know whether their belief is authentic. That’s a problem. Hope can feel like belief. But it’s not belief. Which is why beginning Positively Focused clients learn how to tell the two apart. If the affirmation feels inauthentic, that’s something we want to know. But we can’t know if we can’t discern how we feel.

One client, for example, described “feeling phony” when trying to affirm. That’s excellent awareness. Because if we feel phony while affirming, the affirmation won’t work.

And yet, some affirmations work because the subject affirmed upon has little resistance. It’s easy affirming and creating a parking spot, for example. It’s quite a different matter affirming ourselves into a loving relationship, great job, or financial windfall. The goal isn’t the matter. It’s whether we believe it’s possible.

For many humans, the hardest subject upon which to affirm is the most intimate. It also is where affirmations’ powers come from. That subject is affirming our worthiness. Knowing our worthiness is key. Living a Charmed Life necessitates loving ourselves. Self-love is knowing we are worthy.

We don’t need to fully love ourselves before the Charmed Life begins emerging, however. But a lack of self-love often acts as the main hindrance to our already-existing Charmed Life. The Charmed Life is there. But our disempowering lack of self-love blinds us to it.

Which is why, ultimately, a Positively Focused practice is about loving oneself unconditionally. For in that state, our Charmed Life reveals itself to us. And that super-charges our affirming.

Becoming open to Spirit

Self love is analogous to seeing ourselves as the spiritual beings we are. We are literally love. We’re flowing through, to and all around All That Is. Love, of course, is inherently positive and joyful. Living Positively Focused calibrates one to this joyous, love-full way of being. And in doing so, we find self-love. It’s a lovely upward spiral.

From there clients figure out what makes affirmations work. The universe loves us. It’s constantly showering us with what we want. Effective affirmation doesn’t create anything, therefore. It just matches us up with what the Universe already gives us.

All this means by the time I introduce affirming to clients, its foundation is in place.

Here’s an example of a self-love affirmation string. Used correctly, with the correct mindset and attitude, these statements, intentionally made, create an inner state aligned with one’s Charmed Life.

This affirmation string creates an inner state aligned with one’s Charmed Life. But if repeated with no belief behind it, they’re simply words.

We are amazing power, incarnate

With enough focus, one need only recite this string once. After that, the nuanced practice begins. That practice involves maintaining an open awareness allowing one to witness evidence of the affirmation working. In that maintained awareness the single recitation amplifies. In that amplification, life transforms right before one’s eyes.

Again, most people don’t know how to “maintain an open awareness”. It’s a nuance. So, usually, a practice is required. A practice that allows one to gradually develop that open awareness. An awareness recognizing unlimited potential of Spirit showing up everywhere as it always does. It’s the unlimited potential that is all of us…and All That Is. It’s subtle. Which is why a mentor, coach, someone like me, is helpful.

This lovely affirming string filled me one morning with profound spiritual awareness. I took it direct from my journal and turned it into this meme so you, dear readers, might feel what I felt when I used it to enter the love of All That Is.

Come join me in a Positively Focused practice to learn your truly amazing power through the nuance of positive focus. The nuanced power of creative energy flowing to you and through you is you. And me. Contact me, let’s enjoy this practice together.

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The Spectacular Nature Of Our Dream Reality

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What is happening when we dream? Some think dreams are the mind making sense of immediate past experience. There are a lot of other theories about dreaming too, but none of that is what’s happening.

Dreams are alternate dimensional experiences. When we dream, we leave our body. While the body refreshes itself, we move through a series of alternate realities among other various activities. These realities we create ongoingly as the aware-ized energy that we are. The realities are as real as this one. And we experience them through dreams.

Lots of people enjoy lucid dreams. Some even come awake in their dreams. Doing so, they travel fantastic landscapes. Landscapes in what seems like the past, or worlds that appear from the future. Of course, these are not “past” or “future”. Outside of this reality’s time and space conventions, everything happens everywhere all at once.

But our brains want to overlay their linear-time framework over these experiences. So certain dreams feel as happening in a “past” or “future” after we wake.

Everyone can enjoy what lucid dreamers enjoy during these very real experiences we call dreams. But most folks won’t take time to develop such enjoyments. That’s because our society places little importance on them, even though, historically, dreams once played prominent roles in life. They still do in some cultures and societies.

And even in ours, dreams still have tremendous influence. While science doesn’t officially understand our dreams’ purpose, and many people, including some influential folks, claim dreams are something we don’t need to pay attention to, dreams are crucial for life.

Meanwhile, for those who do pay attention to them, dreams become an enormously valuable experience. They literally open us up to all that we are. They help us see ourselves as god in human form.

Developing the skill: So worth it

Like any skill, experiencing conscious dreaming takes practice. And, just as we all potentially can exhibit “supernatural” abilities, we all dream. Even those who claim they don’t dream. So it’s not a matter of “developing” conscious dreaming ability. Instead, we learn to uncover what we’re already doing so that we can consciously experience and remember doing it.

I’ve been doing that for some time now. As a result, I regularly enjoy quite detailed, highly vivid, thrilling and emotionally fulfilling experiences while my body sleeps. In fact, a dream I had this morning prompted this post. It was so satisfying, the details so splendid, I felt compelled to share it.

I’ll share the dream itself, then offer an explanation for why I dreamed it. It should be added here that dreams are beyond our human understanding. We can only grok portions of them. Here’s why.

Conscious dream awareness can be developed, like any other skill.

Dreams take place in nonphysical. In nonphysical, everything happens all at once. That includes various incarnations of ourselves interacting with ourselves. Our various incarnations share information and knowledge from their realities, as we share ours with them. Each one also immerses themselves in each others’ experiences.

Our Broader Perspective also gets in on the act. It coordinates activities each of our incarnations experience. It also moves with other aspects of All That Is. In doing so, it arranges the fulfillment each of our incarnation’s desires. Fulfillment which expands the incarnations’ experience and All That Is as a whole.

In other words, a lot is happening in “dreams”. Much more than our brains can register. While in a human body, therefore, it’s impossible to know fully the dream reality.

But it’s a great place to begin. That’s because our dreams represent the closest nonphysical, alternate dimensional reality to this physical reality. We can therefore use dream reality to discover more about ourselves. Ourselves and the realm I call nonphysical.

Each dreamer dreams alone

I should add one other thing. Each dreamer creates their dream reality. No two dreamers dream alike. Books on dream symbols and interpretation exist in the marketplace. A lot of websites claim to help people understand their dreams. But it’s very difficult to match your dreams to such guides in any accurate way. Instead, people wanting to discover more about their dreams are better off learning to trust their Broader Perspective to guide them.

Again, dream reality is highly complex. In every dream, what actually happens and what we remember often diverge greatly. Again, the brain isn’t equipped to process dream activity. It does its best though. What we bring back to conscious awareness, therefore, is not what actually happened. Instead, the brain translates the experience using familiar imagery from daily life. At best then, what we remember is an approximation. Not what really happened.

Some think dreams are tricks of the brain. But they’re far more than that. And each dreamer’s experience is unique. (Photo by David Matos on Unsplash)

That’s why a book or website can’t really help a person understand their dreams. But our intuition can help. Through our intuition, we can develop a native ability to consciously know our dreams. However, it’s important to know that even if we don’t consciously understand them, we do receive the communication at more subtle levels of our consciousness. And we often take action in daily life because of them.

Meanwhile, like the act of recalling dreams, we can uncover that natural skill of conscious comprehension. It’s there, right under waking consciousness. It awaits our discovery. A Positively Focused approach naturally brings that consciousness to the surface. But other approaches work too.

The dream world offers a ton of value. On the surface they seem full of superfluous nonsense. If only people knew…

Let’s now look at my latest dream.

A fulfilling example

Again, I’m sharing the dream as I experienced it. In the next section, I’ll offer my intuition’s interpretation. Here we go!

I’m riding a BMX bike, but it’s an adult size. I’m riding among huge boulders. My skills are apparent. I’m super good. I easily negotiate twists and turns, jumps and slides among these boulders. My focus is on reveling in my skill and I’m shredding this experience. I feel unparalleled competence and I’m enjoying feeling that.

Evening time comes then and I want to ride the same trail again. But I’m stunned by the Golden Hour beauty, sunlight hitting the boulders just so, casting shadows and painting their surfaces in artistic splendor. I look at the really large ones, medium ones and small ones, and I’m struck with wonder at it all.

Deciding I’ll ride the trail again, I begin to do so. But then, after passing one curve, I realize evening time is when animals, predators especially, are most active. This brings up a thought of mountain lions, which is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately in waking hours. I stop riding then and think about whether I want to continue riding.

Meanwhile, cars drive by me on a nearby road which also winds through the boulders. One more passes. I look back along the twisted trail from where I came. That’s when I see, nestled in a crag between two large rocks, a mountain lion, its eyes fixed upon me.

I’m surprised, but not scared at all. Instead, fascination wells up as the lion struggles to its feet. Even in struggle, it’s graceful and powerful looking. Her beauty in my mind is unparalleled. I marvel that I’m seeing this because most people never get a chance to see this. She moves across the boulders dragging her back right leg. At times, as she walks away from me, she grabs what is obviously now an injured paw with her front paws. She licks that rear paw, then looks over to me. Then she moves off the large boulder onto the bike path.

Fascinated, I follow her. As she walks, the path turns into steep ramp. This ramp leads into what feels like a corridor of a concourse. The concourse is super futuristic, with really smooth walls and floors which seamlessly transform into one another. The mountain lion lays down in the middle of the corridor.

There are barely any people in the corridor. I walk up the ramp with a feeling I belong in this place. I approach the lion to get a closer look at her injury. Intense love for her and her for me wells up within me. It is that intense love that draws me to her. As I approach, she begins slowly changing into a human. I see her pelt transform into human skin, a rich, beautiful golden color that reminds me of the actress Zendaya from Dune and Euphoria.

I’m right up to her now as she lays on the floor holding her right leg. Looking at the leg, I notice a huge gum print. It’s embossed in the skin of the paw’s underside. There also are four puncture marks on either side of the ankle. That’s when the lion/girl talks to me. She says a bear attacked her some days ago. It bit her on the foot, but she was able to escape. I ask if I can take her to the clinic. I point down the corridor to my left. She turns her head and we both see doctors doing something in the clinic’s open entrance. But she turns back and emphatically says no.

I look to the right down the corridor. The atmosphere in the corridor is very calm, its surfaces colored a bluish grey. At the end I see a sign indicating a bathroom. I suggest we go there and perhaps I can help her with what is now her foot. She agrees.

At that moment, a man about my age approaches. He sees us and offers help, but doesn’t do anything. Instead, he asks if I’m a journalist. Yes, I say, then help the lion/girl to the bathroom. I believe the man follows us.

Once inside I find first aid supplies. I examine her foot. As clear as day I see the imprint of the inside gums of a mouth. I think about how hard that bear must have chomped down on that foot to create that impression, such that that impression is still there. I examine the rest of her body for other injuries. Doing so I notice a large tattoo of circles tied together along a straight line on the side of her rib cage.

Right at that moment, a woman appears in the room with us. She wears a stethoscope. I recognize her as a healthcare worker of some kind and telepathically request her help. The lion/girl doesn’t resist, so the woman begins administering aid.

I wake from this dream feeling intense emotions and extremely clear recall of everything that happened, including the ride, my skillful maneuvers, the fun I had riding, my concern about encountering a mountain lion, and this rendezvous, which transformed my concern into love for the creatures….

The interpretation…perhaps not what you think

All my dreams these days are this vivid, detailed and lengthly. Most of the time I wake from these with extreme fascination and revelry. This dream was no exception.

So what does all this mean? As I wrote above, it’s impossible for the brain to get all the messaging happening. However, here are general interpretations based on what my intuition told me after reading the dream over a few times:

  • My skill at life: The bike portion, including reveling among the open countryside, especially during the Golden Hour, is me recognizing my eagerness and resonance about exploring physical reality. It’s a resonance I’ve enjoyed since childhood. And it’s something I’ve reveled in all my life. It also reassures me of my competence with reality/life. This portion reminds me how deft I am at being physical. It’s encouragement.
  • Processing fears into love: While awake in this reality, I think sometimes about taking walks in the wild alone. While doing so I worry sometimes about encountering apex predators. Such encounters I’ve had before. Once with a cougar. Once with a black bear. In both cases nothing remarkable or scary happened. This dream is me in nonphysical reminding myself of my connection to All That Is which includes apex predators. And because I’m so connected I have nothing to fear.
  • Encountering the mountain lion: This is a complex set of experiences. This segment amplifies everything above. It also reminds me of the oneness I share with all living beings, as the lion transforms into a woman. Me fascinated with the lion indicates my love and interest in perpetuating All That Is through my physical experience. Me assisting with the lion’s paw is an expression of my all-pervasive intention to be of service to All That Is. This is super-evident these days as I am always offering help to passersby, including this morning when I helped a woman change a flat on her car. The lion’s transformation is also a nod to my intent at manifesting shape-shifting abilities in my life, one of several “supernatural” abilities I’m exploring.
  • Zendaya connection: I have a crush on what Zendaya represents to me. That the lion transforms into a female with Zendaya characteristics further amplifies my love and connection with All That Is, recognizes my unfolding desires and affirms my nature as constantly expanding.
  • The futuristic facility/corridor: This segment represents again, my desire to be of service, but also my passion for expansion, the future and becoming more. The guy asking about my journalism is a nod to my vocation/passion for words. And, in this life I was a journalist for a city newspaper. Before that I was a Marine journalist. Journalism, the capturing of news and information for dissemination, is something I still am passionate about. This blog represents a spin-off of that passion.
  • The female doctor and tattoo: The doctor is my resonance with highly intelligent people, particularly females. She may also represent an interplay between “me” (the dreamer) and another incarnation of me, who is female and practicing medicine in that reality. Families of consciousness are organized around intentions or foci. It’s likely I experienced that incarnation of me as my intentions creating this dream attracted that incarnation of me as we share the same intentions. The tattoo may have had something to do with the future experience where I watched C-Span coverage of the UFO/UAP Congressional hearing. I’m not too certain about that.

Summing it up

Dream experiences are multidimensional, highly complex and can sometimes be mind boggling. Particularly for those lacking a knack for recalling them. Actual interpretations of such experiences have value. As you can see, this dream was an encouraging experience which amplified things I was processing in waking awareness. It also offered connections with broader portions of my being.

For me though, the far more valuable aspect of this dream, and others I have, is the emotional content, the vividness of the experience, and the clarity of awareness I have upon waking. These all show me I am developing in ways I’m wanting to. I’m gaining clearer awareness of my nonphysical existence through these experiences.

It’s happening gradually and seems to be taking forever. But that’s the nature of expansion. We choose to put ourselves into a limited earthly experience, in these relatively fragile bodies, to viscerally participate in that expansion. Doing so, we forget we are eternal, eternally joyful and eternally free. So it taking forever isn’t a problem. We’re eternal after all.

Directly experiencing our eternal natures is part of the dreamwork included in the Positively Focused practice. That work can be a thrilling experience and contributes to the Charmed Life I write about.

Re-discover your eternal nature through dreams and more. Let’s talk.

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Birth Sucks Worse Than Death. Here’s Why.

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Imagine we’re existing in an eternal state. We’re everything, everywhere, all at once. Here, whatever we want happens, instantly. So we’re deliberate about our focus. Because our focus instantly creates that which we focus on.

We exist in bliss. Those around us do too. We experience a full sense of our immortality, our oneness, and yet maintain our individuality. Our past and our futures stretch out before us, available to us all at once. Infinite dimensions unfold from our consciousness too. We are gods becoming more.

Then, we decide we want to take this existence thing up a notch. We want to expand our consciousness. We want to become more than what we are. Looking for somewhere to do that, we notice beings of immense capability springing forth from this time-space reality, in a corner of All That Is, centered in a dimension known by its inhabitants as “Earth”. We decide then, that we want what those springing from that dimension have. So we focus ourselves to join them.

Being born is no laughing matter

Generally speaking, what I wrote above describes “life” prior to Earthly existence. Everyone on the planet starts as an infinite being of immense capability. A capability possessing tremendous capacity for more. Recognizing that, we choose earthy existence as a way of becoming more.

But getting here is not easy. Not only is it not easy, it’s highly traumatic.

Think about it. You start as an infinite being. You exist in an eternal state, totally aware and enlightened. Then you push yourself through your focus into fragments. Fragments capable of existing in a state of confinement unlike anything you knew before, aka human form.

It’s illusory, but you must convince yourself it is real. So in pushing yourself there, you forget everything you knew before you arrived. At first, your arrival is an approximation of your home. It’s comforting, warm, love-filled. But soon you’re thrust into three dimensional time and space through birth. Then, the first thing you immediately recognize is mortality.You’re instantly insecure. You’re tiny, with your existence dependent on these larger beings surrounding you. Strangers all, in a strange world. Beings who you perceive as an emotional mix. You pick up their hopes and fears, insecurities, worries, wonder and doubt. Often their behaviors don’t match their words…They claim to love, but often act unloving.

In nonphysical such obfuscation doesn’t exist. There, you’re instantly aware what others think and how they be. It’s pure transparency. But here, on Earth, your cognition is greatly diminished. It causes anxiety in you. Right alongside that fear born of insecurity. You’re mortal now. Human.

Welcome to life.

Is it any wonder we all cry when we take our first breath?

A common refrain

I remember many times as a child, looking to the night sky begging to return “home”. I sensed I didn’t belong here. The pain I felt was terrific. My certainty clear. I knew I came from somewhere far better than this earthly plane. And I wanted to go back.

Every one of my advance clients recalls similar childhood experiences. They recall emotional pain, depression, a yearning for where they came from, even though they couldn’t fully remember that place. Several remember thinking about killing themselves as a way of “going back.”

Those of us with a predisposition for spiritual realization retain faint memories of our origin. The forgetting doesn’t take. The memory of where we came from leaks through. And the bliss of that experience calls to us like a siren.

The good news of all this is those memories can be realized, in full, to the degree possible while in a body. Being fully aware of all we are AND being human is the best of both worlds.

Having such an experience is easier for some than others. The process of remembering not only returns us to that blissful awareness, it also makes clear why we chose to come here. It transforms earthly experience, in other words, into what we knew it could be when we chose to come here.

For we knew earthly existence would be joyful, highly immersive, expansion-inducing and full of opportunities to grow. With our awareness restored and expanded, we can then focus deliberately on realizing everything earthly existence offers. And we can do that with joy.

Death, a joyful return

Most people fear death because they don’t remember a time before their birth. For many, the “sacred forgetting” holds completely. So they believe death brings annihilation. Not liberation. They fear what they don’t remember. And that fear colors all their decisions while human.

Death actually brings a release of our earthly focus. We return to that eternal state, the state that is our original expanded consciousness. It’s why religions describe life after death as “heaven”. Of course we retain awareness of our earthly experience. But we’re renewed. We have expanded. We become more than we were before. So death is a gloriousexperience. A triumph, far less traumatic than birth.

Both processes can be joyful experiences. In absolute reality they are exactly that. They are book ends of a mystical experience. An experience cloaked in mortality, all the while being nothing more than a really, really vivid dream. One where we create all our experience with eagerness and joy.

As a child, I had only glimmerings of what I now remember. Back then, I forgot that I wanted to come. Now looking at the world with new eyes, I see how I knew this experience offered fantastic opportunity. My clients are beginning to see the same thing.

And in that awareness, I’m also seeing how my death, when it comes, will be the grand finale. The ultimate test of my growth. And my return to all that I am.

Death is nothing compared to the shock of birth. It needn’t be feared. It’s to be eagerly anticipated, while enjoying every moment of life until then.

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Forgive. Most People Don’t Know What They’re Doing

I read a couple articles recently. They talked about cities in general and San Francisco specifically. Progressives once heralded the Bay Area as an example of liberal success. But lately, conservatives point to cities like San Francisco and Portland as heralding progressive failure. Some progressive San Franscicans do too, apparently.

Indeed, there’s a lot of seeming evidence pointing towards failure. Both Portland, the liberal bastion where I live, and San Francisco, currently seem overrun by drug addicts, and homeless people overcrowding sidewalks and parks. Graffiti covers nearly every public surface. Commercial offices in Portland are only at 67 percent occupancy. In San Francisco it’s not that much better. Both numbers resulted from the pandemic. Meanwhile, residents of both cities have had enough. Crime is going up. People don’t feel safe.

At the same time, both city governments appear devoid of solutions to these problems.

But are conservatives right? Are these cities really failing? Or is something else important happening?

Bellwether cities attesting to something important

Everything is always working out on planet Earth. So something else must be happening. Despite conservative criticisms, these two cities must be helping in some way. What might that be?

I suggest a radical notion. Perhaps these two cities are helping people see something important. Perhaps people in these cities, those living on the streets and the drug-addicted, are too. The Graffiti could be sending an important message. All these eyesores could suggest that our civilization needs an overhaul.

It’s true. Portland and San Francisco are extreme cases. Los Angeles may be close, but few cities face as much of what these two cities face. Maybe the progressive approach is better at showing how much better we can do to support our fellow humans. So rather than failures, these two cities may be bellwether cities. Cities showing clearly how our approach fails so many individual humans.

Here in Portland, graffiti is everywhere.

There but for the grace of…

A person on social media said something important about this. I mentioned dreadful economic conditions which spur someone to turn to drugs:

And the guy replied with a valid point:

Many people face economic hardship. Hardship they keep facing without drugs. Although if we include alcohol, tobacco and weed, we’d have a different picture. In fact, almost half of us are one paycheck away from losing our homes. And many of us cope with LEGAL alternatives: food, sex, streaming and gaming. So many are blessed by the grace of God that they never turn to meth. Or lost their home. But they’re not scot free from the stress of living in today’s reality.

Remember, we’re all God in human form. That fact doesn’t prevent someone making debilitating choices. That’s because we also have free will. Including the freedom to choose bondage, as Abraham says.

They know not what they do

Which brings me back to my conversation. I experienced pretty harrowing economic conditions myself once. I didn’t turn to drugs either. It’s a common refrain. “I didn’t do it. These people don’t need to either.”

But every person’s experience is unique. So comparing them to us is kinda irrelevant. Instead, we could look at “why” they chose what they chose. Then we ask why again. And keep asking until we discover something we haven’t before.

This is certain: were we in the shoes of the graffiti tagger, the person living on the street, that dopesick dude suffering on the sidewalk with his ass hanging out, we would make the same decisions. Not if “we” were in their situation. But if “we” were “THEM“, facing THEIR experiences. Experiences that had them make such choices. We would make the EXACT same choices. Blaming individuals, therefore, is largely irrelevant.

Jesus said of his tormentors “Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.” Applied to our civilization, we can bring a big dose of forgiveness in every direction. Towards our politicians, our political “enemies”, and towards those seemingly making our cities unsafe.

IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT. The circumstances under which they live evoke that from them as they interpret such situations in the worst possible way. That tendency to negatively interpret is the fault. That’s the learned behavior. Behavior most of us fall into at one time or another. Behavior conservatives fall into when claiming progressive cities as failures.

Portland’s woes may be changing, a recent poll shows. Visitor impressions are improving, yet residents still express reservations. San Francisco’s future remains unclear.

Meanwhile a more permanent change can happen. It must start with individuals, willing to look beyond knee-jerk explanations. People with capacity to forgive rather than judge.

Maybe you’re ready?