The Less You Do, The Better Life Gets

The best way to create a better, happy life starts with learning how to do nothing. When people discover the power of doing nothing, life really starts taking off. In a short time, it not only gets better, life feels happier.

Most people instead get caught up in the “doing disease”. They think happy, better lives come from doing things that will, supposedly, make them happy. But what they find is, all that doing leads to a whole lot more doing. And rarely does the doing make the person happy.

Before they know it, the person’s at the end of their life, regretting they spent so much time doing as well as not doing what they could have done. Doing is the dis-ease that can rob one of life.

So many think all we need “to do” is do more of what others are doing and we’ll find happiness. So that’s what we do. We work hard, sacrifice, put off joy now for joy later…

I know that path personally. I worked almost 30 years before I realized the secret to happiness was doing less.

Doing is drudgery

Before that realization, doing had me doing what everyone else did. It worked. Sometimes. Looking back, though, all that hard-earned money, lofty positions that looked good on paper but took their toll on my personal life satisfaction, wasn’t worth the happiness I enjoy now, doing a lot of nothing besides attending to my spiritual happiness.

It’s really crazy how so many people, especially Americans, tie their happiness to work. While it’s true work can be fulfilling, that fulfillment depends on landing work that feels fulfilling. Maybe that’s why 50-80 percent of people hate their work. So what’s the answer? Where does happiness happen?

I suggest it lies in the heart and mind, not in an external situation. Which means, of course, the difference between those fulfilled at work, doing, and those hating what they’re doing lies in what they’re thinking about what they’re doing.

The best way to change how one thinks first comes with understanding how one currently thinks. That’s where becoming Positively Focused starts.

Until a person figures out their thinking patterns and habits, it’s too easy to stay trapped in the doing the disease, trying to create a different result by doing the same things.

I’m glad I found the way out of all that. The way out being doing nothing. It seems crazy, but it’s true. Here’s why.

So many people tire themselves out by trying to get what they want through action. But doing nothing begins a path where things happen far more easily. No struggle required. (Photo by Adrian Swancar)

You match what you’re getting

First, the reason so many seek happiness through doing, yet fail to find it, is because they’re trying to get something they don’t believe they can have. Or they’re looking for it in the wrong place. I talk about this with every client. A person can’t find something they think they can’t find. That’s the case for keys, lost gloves and, frankly, a happy life.

If someone thinks life isn’t fun and easy, they can’t experience the fun and ease of life. No matter how hard they try creating that, it will evade them. A person just can’t create outside of their existing beliefs. And what a person believes often lies hidden in thoughts they’re thinking so often, they can’t consciously perceive the thoughts when they think them.

Insecurities proceed us all

The fact is, if a person thinks life is a struggle, people are out to get them (or don’t care about them), or that their life has no meaning or other similar thoughts, the insecurity or anxiety such thoughts trigger tells the thinker what they’re thinking about life, people or the meaning of life is inconsistent with how life actually is.

What’s more, those thoughts will create life experiences consistent with them. Life will occur as a constant struggle, people will be predatory and life will feel meaningless. And once such thoughts create life experience consistent with them, momentum behind those thoughts is so great, those thoughts continue creating life experience on their own. Until the thinker generates momentum in a different direction.

This is why life seems “the way it is”, like some objective reality. Instead of the subjective reality life really is. Life is a subjective reality under direct control of the person experiencing the reality.

Instead of taking control though, people become victims of that auto-created life. Which means becoming victims of their uncontrolled thinking processes. They try harder. They do more, push, struggle more, thinking if they do all that, they’ll finally get what they want.

It doesn’t work that way. Life gives what you think about. Not what you want.

Finding happiness is easy when you give up the struggle. (Photo by Juliette F on Unsplash)

Doing it different?

Doing nothing begins an important process. That process reverses momentum created when a person keeps doing the same thing over and over, while expecting different results. When someone calms themselves, relaxes and focuses inward, powerful processes get underway even though it seems like nothing happens.

And the more that person relaxes into doing nothing, the more effective they get. That’s because every person receives guidance through their intuition, their Inner Being or Broader Perspective. Doing nothing tunes one into all that timeless wisdom.

What really happens is, by doing nothing, the person calms down noise in their head. That way they start hearing clear signals their intuition sends all day, every day.

In time, the person realizes some profound insights. Like this client:

Uncovering such insights takes a while. And this is the challenge. So many people in our lives tell us doing nothing is lazy and time wasting. But it’s not that. It’s a profound state of being which tunes one back into their deeper knowing.

But if you listen to society, parents, educators and all those loud mouths in the peanut gallery, you’ll hear “stop being lazy”, “work harder”, “success is in the struggle”.

It works but it’s tough

Such approaches work. But do you really want to struggle through life? I don’t. I’d rather enjoy life while seeing my life bringing me everything I want with little effort.

People who struggle claim it’s worth the struggle. They look at and display scars they “earned” on the way to their success. I say give that approach up, especially when it comes to finding happiness.

Instead, figure out how to instantly become a match to the happiness so often sought but not found. When it shows up, you will be a match to it because the instant you create it, you ARE a match to it. You’re happy. Stay in that and a happy life becomes yours.

A better way exists. It starts with doing nothing, which really is doing a lot. Learning to do nothing transforms life. My clients know this. It’s time for you to know it too.

What Happens When She Found Her Manifestation Powers

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It’s so fun helping clients discover they create their reality. I love participating in that unfolding. When such people discover their manifestation power, they realize they can create what they thought was impossible. Then their lives get really fun.

Of course, everything is possible. The only things keeping some things impossible are beliefs we hold. “That’s impossible” is a self-fulfilling prophesy.

Things change though when someone discovers they stand at the center of the Universe. There they realize they create everything around them. Including all the lovers they want…or the lack thereof. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Stories are powerful

One client’s personal experience showed how powerful, or disempowering, beliefs can be. She started practicing with me 36 sessions ago. Last week, something happened that amazed her.

During those 36 weeks, Jennifer (not her real name) uncovered many disempowering beliefs. They included beliefs about dating, about men, about men’s intentions. But they also included beliefs about Jennifer herself. These included beliefs like the following:

  • I’m not good enough to get what I want
  • I’m too fat to get the guy I want
  • Men only want me for sex
  • I’m too old
  • Time’s running out for me to find a guy
  • I never can find the right guy I want

Taken together these beliefs created Jennifer’s reality. What did that reality look like? One where men she met wanted her for sex only. Several often called her, but only when drunk. They demanded sexually explicit texts, wouldn’t talk on the phone, and when Jennifer pushed the issue, they would ghost her. Others made promises to meet in person, only to disappear later.

No wonder Jennifer, who happens to be transgender, formed negative beliefs about dating, about men and about men’s intentions.

It’s not that her beliefs weren’t true. After all, she formed many of them from past experience. But if Jennifer wants what she wants, she can’t expect to get it while holding beliefs about what she doesn’t want, no matter how true they are.

Beliefs are powerful. They can create more of the same. Or they can create what you want.

Abraham puts it plain. You get what you look at because what you look at forms your beliefs.

Choose: get what you want or be right

Jennifer had a choice. She could talk about what’s true and be right. Or she could create beliefs and talk about what she wants and get that.

For example, one belief she had about men was “I’ll never meet a nice guy locally”. Every guy she had met, she met through OKCupid. Desperation had her using online dating. No matter how many times I told her online dating works terribly, she kept using it.

That’s because she also believed it was the only way she met men. See how beliefs create reality? Her’s about not meeting local guys had her believing she could only meet men online. So that’s how she met them. And, the men she met there showed up consistent with her other beliefs. Especially beliefs about herself as a transgender woman.

The online experience only amplified her frustration, which in turn reinforced her beliefs. Again, Jennifer can’t entertain beliefs about her past and get what she wants. Instead, she must focus on what she wants. That’s what we focused on in the ensuing 36 sessions.

It’s amazing how many people prefer being right than get what they want, which is why they end up on medications, lonely or unhappy in life. (Photo by Molnar Balint)

Evidence starts proving it works

Over time, Jennifer’s new, empowering beliefs started creating realities consistent with themselves. It was rough going at first. Often Jennifer reinforced her old ones more than energizing new, more empowering ones.

However, there’s something cool about telling positive stories. Such stories enjoy enormous creative potential. You see, the Universe wants everyone to enjoy what they want, no exceptions. So when someone lines up with what they want by telling positive stories about it, they become a match to that. Then, that person gradually starts seeing evidence of what they want showing up everywhere.

That’s what happened with Jennifer. For example, men started waving at her as she walked down the street. Every time it happened, she said, she looked behind her to see if the guys were waving at someone else. Nope, they waved at her.

Or the male barista at the drive up kiosk would chat Jennifer up, where before he would ignore her. Another time a gas station attendant complimented her nails. And another time, a male restaurant sever paid particular attention to her as he attended the table she sat at with friends.

Ordinary people chalk these examples up to “coincidence” or some other logical explanation. But there’s no such thing as coincidence and logic has nothing to do with it! Everything happens on purpose. The purpose is reflecting back beliefs one tells about what’s happening.

The more Jennifer got this, the more such things happened.

Evidence grows more insistent

Until one day while walking her dog at the local dog park, a man who also had his dog approached her. He said hi and Jennifer returned the greeting. They enjoyed a nice conversation while their dogs played. Afterward, the guy said “Oh, dude, I gotta go. I’m late.”

Now Jennifer interpreted that as the guy misgendering her. We don’t know what his intentions really were, but I told her telling such a story was not in her best interest.

“It’s better to make up a story that you feel better about,” I said.

“Like what?” She asked.

“Like ‘the guy was using “dude” like some people do. It’s just a figure of speech, like an exclamation”,” I replied.

At first, Jennifer didn’t like that new story. But after some cajoling she admitted it felt better than the knee-jerk story she wanted to tell.

I told her telling such stories would create the next evidence that would knock Jennifer’s socks off.

And that’s exactly what happened next.

Every one can enjoy a relationship that knocks their socks off. Unless their beliefs run contrary to having that enjoyment. (Photo by Jeremy Bishop)

It bowls you over

Jennifer had other beliefs not related to men and dating. These needed attention too. The combination of beliefs, what I call a Belief Constellation, creates everyone’s reality. Jennifer’s constellation included many negative beliefs about her work and her manager. Those beliefs kept Jennifer on edge, defensive and feeling like a victim.

Feeling on edge, defensive and victimhood makes one a match to situations that exacerbate feeling those ways. And not just work situations, dating situations too. That’s why we needed to soothe Jennifer’s work beliefs too.

That took a while, but the better Jennifer felt, the more she wanted to do the practice. In time, evidence at work convinced her more and more her new beliefs were working.

Her boss complimented her more and more. She gave Jennifer more responsibilities. When Jennifer announced she was looking for openings in other departments, her manager offered to reclassify her job so she could get more pay. Finally, her manager came out and told Jennifer how much she valued her and how much she wanted Jennifer to stay.

Evidence at work was bowling Jennifer over. It amazed her that simply telling positive stories could literally change her relationship with her boss!

Then one day Jennifer texted me from work telling me how a process I taught her – called PRE-PAVING – helped change her work experience. In the text, she misspells it as “preparing”:

Then it happened

Riding on that positive momentum created what happened next. Jennifer felt good about changes happening at work. So much so, she softened on the idea that she couldn’t meet men in person. She started acknowledging evidence showing she was meeting men. It’s just that she hadn’t soothed negative beliefs enough to have such men approach her in person.

That all changed rather suddenly.

A few days after a remarkably powerful session, Jennifer sent me a text. It was awesome:

Many layers prove how powerful this experience was for Jennifer. For one, she didn’t have to do ANYTHING to meet this LOCAL, GORGEOUS guy other than follow her intuition to take Rocco out for walk. Second, there’s NO WAY ON EARTH she could have deliberately sought out this guy. It could only happen this way, a perfect orchestration of her unfolding reality.

Third, the guy did all the work. He approached her and initiated a conversation. But most of all, what’s super awesome about this rendezvous, is through it, Jennifer realized yet another belief she needs to clean up:

“He’s out of my league.”

However, even though that happened, she still had an experience totally contrary to EVERY experience she had in the past.

Every encounter a stepping stone

It’s really important at the point of receiving this experience that Jennifer enjoy the experience. Negatively judging herself does no good. Neither does harsh self-criticism about not doing something she thought she should have done. Everything worked perfectly here because this rendezvous wasn’t meant to be the perfect match or the perfect lover.

What it was, was an experience clarifying for Jennifer where she is on the path to becoming the perfect match to her perfect lover. How else will she know what disempowering beliefs remain in her constellation, if she doesn’t get to see her constellation in action? This experience worked perfectly.

It encouraged her. It created more desire in her. The fact that it happened gladdened her, inspiring her to the possibility that more such experiences can happen. It was a local connection! Something she thought impossible. And it showed that gorgeous men show interest in her.

So many disempowering beliefs got a dose of positivity just through this one experience. And so long as she remains in all these powerfully positive interpretations, Jennifer makes herself a match to more such experiences in the future.

Every client gets it

I love it when these kinds of things happen for my clients. Every client enjoys this kind of progression on their way to the love, the life, their greatest desires.

Everything is possible. Including having a relationship matching one’s wildest dreams. Nothing stands in the way of whatever anyone wants other than beliefs a person tells that are contrary to what’s wanted.

Clean those beliefs up though and watch how remarkable life gets.

Life is a wish-granting jewel. No matter what one wishes for, one can have it. One only need become a match to it, then draw that which is wished for to them as they hold themselves as a match to it.

I show clients how to do that. It’s easy, it’s fun and it works. Every time. You ready for your true love, your version of the Charmed Life Jennifer’s creating? I can help.

How Wonderful Results Spring From Vibrational Mastery

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There’s great power in managing vibration so that one stands in a high flying state. Doing so, one can literally shape others’ experiences. One can also shape other people. A powerful example of that happened this week with a client.

This client finds himself profoundly affected by his Positively Focused practice, which spanned some four months. But this week, like many clients, he came having had a rough few days. So when he showed up to the session, he wasn’t ready for what happened.

When I help clients attain vibrational mastery, I create a vibrational bubble in which I hold the session. Every session feels the same because of this. The high vibrational state I create then hold during the session “pulls” clients from wherever they are, to where I am. That’s why, unlike traditional therapy or counseling, every client enjoys extremely satisfying sessions containing powerful insights and breakthroughs.

A compelling offer

This time, however, I brought a lot more vibrational mastery to the table than usual. That’s because I meditated prior to the session, using a process which increases one’s vibrational focus. I also used another process because I wanted to amplify the great feeling I felt after meditation.

By the time I came to the session, I was bouncing off the walls with intense, positivity, appreciation and joy. So much so, the client’s socks got blown off.

The disparity between where he was and where I was was so great, he had to join me. He literally had no choice because my mastery was so strong.

So when the client came into my bubble, his negative vibration had no place to go but outta here! 😂.

Which is why, after the session, he sent this:

Creating people on demand

When it comes to relationships, most people try to manipulate, convince, “love” (it’s not really that), bribe, blackmail or blame their partners into being someone they can be happy with. That hardly ever works. Indeed, the whole idea of “love languages” is part of the problem with relationships. Expecting someone to be a certain way so you feel better is a recipe for disaster. It’s also not loving.

Loving is unconditional. That means, no matter how a person might be, you still love them. That’s hard when vibrational mastery eludes you.

But with vibrational mastery, not only can you love a person no matter how they are, when you do, THEY CHANGE.

The best way to change someone is to come into alignment with the version of the person you want to experience. Then the person you’re with changes into that person. Vibrational mastery makes that possible.

Trying to change people through action or words hardly ever works. When it does work, it rarely lasts. It often also creates resentment. But using vibration, you can make any change you want permanent. And people love you for it.

It’s just like what my client experienced. And I wasn’t even trying!

Want a powerful relationship with those you love, those you work with and those you care about? Stop trying to change them. Attain vibrational mastery and watch how much power you have to produce wonderful results. Including creating versions of people who match your every desire.

Want to know how? I can help!

Why Some People Get No Results From “Manifesting”

Positively Focused Q-A

Question: What is the best method of the Law of Attraction? Why Do these methods work for some and do not work for others?

I’ve already answered the first question here and here. I want to focus on your second question. It’s more important.

Law of Attraction works in every case. If it worked for some and not for others, it wouldn’t be what the word “Law” implies. BTW, Law of Attraction is not really a “law”. That word suggests someone created this process by which all things must comply. No one did that. It’s always been, just like you and me.

Since Law of Attraction does apply to everyone and everything, it must be “working” for everyone and every thing (which it does). So why do some get what they want and others don’t?

Everyone gets what they focus on

It’s an extremely important question. The answer is, everyone IS getting what they want. But you must understand what “what they want” means in order to understand why everyone’s getting what they want, even those who think they aren’t getting what they want, or thinking Law of Attraction isn’t working.

The Universe doesn’t care about what a person wants. All it’s doing is fulfilling desire. It seems like those two things, desire and getting what you want, are the same.

But from the universe’s perspective, they are not.

Desire from universal perspective, is energy, focused. Getting what you want is a choice. Desire is what summons life force. “Getting what you want” is the result of channelled desire. So desire supersedes getting what you want. It is a larger concept. Getting what you want expresses a focus of desire turning into a result. Does that make sense?

Having made that important distinction, it’s easy to see why Law of Attraction seems not to work for some people. Law of Attraction is fulfilling desire. But it’s also responding to resistance, which is a kind of blocking force humans add to the process of getting what they want through beliefs that are contrary to what they want.

When Law of Attraction kicks into gear, it “knows” what a person is focusing on, and going to work to coordinate that into reality. But if a person is focused more on what they don’t want, or if they’re focused in a way that creates resistance against what they want, then they’re going to get what they’re focusing on: lackluster, or no results at all, or so it seems.

It works who don’t believe

So what one focuses on is what one gets. Not what they want. Unless they focus purely on what they want. For example, someone who believes Law of Attraction doesn’t work, and so tries to make Law of Attraction work as a way of proving it won’t work, will get results proving it won’t work because that’s what they’re focusing on. Even if they try to get what they want, but their predominant beliefs say “Law of Attraction doesn’t work”, they won’t get what they want because their beliefs put resistance in the way, which keeps them from getting what they want.

Those who refuse to test it, and just believe “it doesn’t work”, will see all around them evidence of it not working. They’ll also rendezvous with people with similar results, as Law of Attraction is drawing to them what they’re focused on.

The same is true for someone who, for example, wants a boyfriend, but doesn’t believe they are attractive enough, or smart enough, or successful enough.

Or they might not believe such a boyfriend exists, or that he exists in their local area, or if he does, that person won’t find them interesting. Thoughts matter, in other words.

Negative results are positive

When someone uses Law of Attraction and they don’t get what they want, that’s Law of Attraction giving that person pertinent information.

How does someone know where their focus is, if it’s off, and they can’t tell that it’s off? The answer: They can’t.

So this is another scenario in which Law of Attraction is working, even when people think it’s not. In this case, it’s showing the manifest-er where their dominant focus is, which is very important, isn’t it? That way, they can do something about their faulty “aim” so to speak.

So there’s no evidence Law of Attraction works for some and not others. It works for everyone. If someone thinks it’s not working, they should look at what they’re thinking and focusing on.

Law of Attraction is working. It’s just giving them what they’re focusing on. That’s not necessarily what they want.

But it is, in a way, because by getting what they don’t want, at least they know what they need to do next: focus on what they want better than they have up to now.

The Best Evidence Your Spirituality Is Powerful

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I love it when clients get results so inspiring, they confirm what I know about the power of the Positively Focused approach.

Recently, a client came to his session feeling strong self-reproach, self-judgement and frustration. He had a university exam due Friday – it was Monday – and, instead of preparing, he spent several hours binging Star Trek Discovery while also binging on snack food.

Seems like little things, don’t they? But such little things pack a punch when they’re repeated over and over. That’s how life gets out of hand for so many.

In other words, it’s a little thing – a negative thought – thought over and over that eventually creates realities consistent with it. Then life sucks.

My client couldn’t shake his negative thoughts on his own. So we practiced a process that transforms such thoughts into more positive and uplifting ones. By the end, he no longer felt bad about his choices.

Instead, he felt joy at having binged the show. Indeed, when he moved from his negative thoughts into more positive ones, he realized how perfect binging that show was. The main character’s life, he said, mimicked his own. Through the character’s life he saw aspects of his life he could improve.

Other profound realizations came too. He got, for instance, that the same judgement he had for himself about binging, he also had for his mother and his housemate. Both spend a lot of time on the couch consuming streaming media. Both also have poor eating habits and bodies consistent with those habits. My client judged them both harshly. That judgement he also directed towards himself, producing very disempowering results.

No coincidences anywhere

We used the same process to clean up those thoughts about his housemate and mother too, which produced even more euphoria in my client. After all, underneath every person’s negative mindset exists the God in Human Form they really are. Tapping into that feels euphoric.

But negative mindsets block all that. With those things blocked, one cuts oneself off from their divinity. There, they can’t see the beautiful nature of their created life experience.

Instead they see a random world where coincidences happen. Life comes with great risk. It’s scary and unpredictable and so they must protect themself and what they have. Cultivating a Positively Focused mindset clears all that away, then it reveals that everything in life stems from the thoughts you think.

Another client realizing when she deliberately chooses positive thoughts in the morning, the rest of her day reflects that positivity back to her. Life just gets better when one cultivates a positive focus.

Coincidences don’t exist. Everything happening happens for good reasons. People can know what those reasons are. When they do, life turns into a fabulous experience wherein life reflects back to the experiencer wonderful insights and epiphanies.

The good news is, life wants everyone experiencing its wonders. That’s what the Charmed Life offers: a life where every moment contains delights and joys. When a person discovers that life, they recover their power. Then they can use that power to create even better life experiences.

Lovely evidence abounds

By the end of our session, my client felt much better about what he did. Not only did he get epiphanies I described above, he also realized he had plenty of time still to complete the exam. That’s something he couldn’t see while standing in his negative thoughts.

Standing in his negative thoughts he created a living hell where not only was he a bad person for spending hours on the couch, eating junk food, he also feared time to take the exam ran out. He was on the way to that self-fulfilling prophecy. Until he came to the session.

After the session the client felt so much better, he texted me. When the client’s text arrived, it didn’t surprise me. Instead, I basked in the acknowledgment it communicated as a reflection of my own inner state:

Then he followed that message up with this:

Proof in the pudding

A lot of spiritual paths exist. Which offer powerful approaches to connecting with the divine? I prefer relying on Nichiren Buddhism’s Three Proofs doctrine. As the name implies, it suggest a three-step verification process. With it, you can tell whether any spiritual path offers a valid way to spiritual awakening.

The first test is, does the spirituality’s teachings (translating loosely) accord with Universal Laws? Second, the test asks, does the teaching line up with reason and logic? Finally the test says, does the teaching bear out when put to the test? In other words, when you do what the teaching says, do you get the results the teaching says you’ll get?

Speaking about the Three Proofs, the founder of Nichiren Buddhism had this to say:

In judging the relative merit of [any spiritual path], I, Nichiren, believe that the best standards are those of reason and documentary proof. And even more valuable than reason and documentary proof is the proof of actual fact”

I agree. The most valuable evidence determining whether a spiritual path has any power lies in whether or not it does what it says it will do when you put it into action. I know the Positively Focused approach passes all three tests. My clients do too. After all, they’re getting great results!

But the result I love the most is the actual, factual proof I produce in my life, which gets confirmed when my clients produce similar results in theirs.

Theirs, like mine inspire. That inspiration is power. The power to create a happy life. A life I call the Charmed Life.

Ready for yours?

My Great Results Prove All People Are Super Human

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I always thought about precognition, the ability to know in advance, information about the future, often in a paranormal way, as something worth having. Back in the day, I enjoyed imagining such things as real. But honestly, I didn’t think them possible. That was before my Positively Focused practice.

Now my belief turned to knowing as I proved my own super human ability. And since I possess this ability, I know everyone, anyone else can too.

As time passes and my Positively Focused practice matures, things I once thought impossible increasingly happen. Now they happen more frequently. The more frequent they happen, the more knowing replaces disbelief. Today I’m much more open to what’s possible.

I believe we all can be superhuman because that’s what we are. Only our thinking keeping us from that experience.

So when I experienced first-hand, evidence of knowing the future before the future was known, it surprised me in a way.

Writing this, I’m still surprised how it happened. I’m not surprised it happened though. This result was inevitable though my Positively Focused practice. As I improve, I’m finding everything possible. In the process, old, contrary beliefs fall by the wayside. Their soothing reveals powers usually attributed to God.

And why not? We’re all god in human form.

Ok, on to the story.

Those things we ascribe to gods are our powers. We’ve only forgotten they are ours.

Knowing without knowing

A client and I several sessions ago marveled over how well his Positively Focused practice was working for him. This client wanted a relationship. But his experiences had him create beliefs that left him single for decades. The last girl he tried to befriend ended up being more trouble than she was worth. Eventually, she told him “you’re not ready for a relationship with me” and left him.

That’s when he and I started working together.

Thirty weeks later, not only has he created an amazing relationship in a way that blew both of our socks off, he also fulfilled another strong desire: fatherhood.

That’s right, a baby now grows in the girl he created and dated for about six months.

So during our recent-most session, we celebrated his creations. Then we talked about what becoming a father looks like from a Positively Focused perspective. Talking about that, I kept referring to his child, who is still in-utero, as “she”.

Four times I mentioned his “daughter”. Each time I did, internally, I questioned why I was saying that. A couple of those times I corrected myself out loud by using neutral pronouns. My client didn’t seem to notice though.

At session end, I voiced my puzzlement as to why I was calling his child “she”.

Surprise and delight unveiled

Several days later, my client sent a text message accompanied by a photo. He and his partner returned from the hospital where they had the obligatory ultrasound examination. The photo showed the results. I couldn’t tell what I was seeing, but his second text clued me in. My client was having a girl.

Male or female? How can they tell from these things? My client’s daughter in-utero.

Needless to say, I felt far more surprised than congratulatory. While calling her “she” I felt no doubt using that word. But I also didn’t feel it was “me” selecting that word.

Rather, it felt as though it was given to me. Like something else knew and informed me during the session so that I could enjoy this moment in the future.

In other words, my Broader Perspective knew I stood ready for this new, next step in my own expansion. The power of precognition. And it showed me I was ready by filling my mouth with “she” and “daughter”.

My client and I reveling in the post-manifestation.

Surprise or no surprise?

Lately, things happening indicate rapid expansion into deeper and broader possibilities. I’m more convinced now than ever, that anything can happen. While this was surprising in one sense, it really isn’t.

That’s because everyone possesses these capabilities. But if the possessor doesn’t believe they posses them, then it occurs as though they don’t. So many other deeply satisfying “occult” experiences happen these days, this experience doesn’t stand out that much.

But it does confirm everything Abraham says about reality: we all create our own versions of reality. Nothing lies off limits. Everything wanted can happen. In other words, we are all Gods in human form. Superhumans, creating reality.

I’m super excited about things emerging from within me. Knowing this as a possibility thrills me. But seeing it happen takes it to a whole new level.

Great Manifestations Result When People Forget How, When

Positively Focused Q-A

The “Q/A” series answers questions I get through the internets. I share those answers in this blog as they may inspire people into greater connection with the God they are.

Question: Can I manifest something 10 years before I want it to happen?

The short answer is yes. You may not perceive it as having happened though on that time scale for various reasons I’ll offer below.

Manifestation takes a while

The way “thoughts become things” is, the moment someone desires something, all the cooperative components needed to actualize that desire, assemble. But this all happens in “nonphysical”, the place from which all “things” spring. The desire-er or the manifest-er, usually shows up as the last component. Every desire that manifests only becomes “manifest” when an observer realizes it.

Resistance doesn’t exist in nonphysical to any significant degree. That’s why when something gets expressed, such as a desire, that expression “becomes” immediately there.

But because of resistance in physical reality, it takes a while for that immediate manifestation to emerge. All the cooperative components are on it. But coordinating through to physical reality creates an apparent interval between “desire” and “manifestation”. We humans call that interval “time”. All manifestation is immediate, but time offers an apparent delay. That delay is on purpose. Why it’s on purpose goes beyond the scope of this question.

It doesn’t matter if someone wants something to happen now or ten years from now. The moment one expresses it, it happens. Then, many routes open all leading to the full-blown manifestation.

The manifest-er plays a role

Another couple reasons explain why manifest-ers don’t experience immediate manifestation, in addition to apparent time. One is the manifest-er’s inherent resistance to what’s wanted. The other is the time it takes for the manifest-er to line up with it.

The manifest-er’s resistance plays a major role. Most people don’t believe, let alone understand, what you’re reading, nor do they know how to implement what you’re reading. So it usually takes quite a while before desires manifest in the eyes of the manifest-er.

It’s also why some desires seem to never manifest. People think Law of Attraction doesn’t work because of this. Most people offer so much resistance, they rarely, if ever, happen (for them). Or, when they do, paltry versions of the full-blown desire happen.

“How”, “when”: not your job

Lining up with the desire can take a while too. Part of that has to do with resistance. But even if resistance is relatively low, one still must become a match to the desire to experience it. That may be why the questioner thinks they want something 10 years from now.

The problem with thinking they know the best timing in which something should happen is, Universe knows better. The Divine Timing Of The Unfolding Of One’s Desire is given. In that sense, the question is unusual. Most people err on the impatient side of timing. They think their desire should manifest sooner than it actually will (in divine timing). Look at life. It almost always works this way. Usually, what a person wants unfolds out of synch with when they thought it should happen. The same will be true with the expectation that “it” (whatever it is) should happen in 10 years.

So thinking about the “when” is not productive. Thinking about “how” isn’t a good idea either. It’s going to unfold in divine timing. And it will unfold in a way that surprises and delights all involved.

How Powerful Results Result From Doing Nothing

The Universe stands ready to deliver on every desire. It’s happening already all the time. But powerful manifestation results best show up when a person understands the role “doing” plays in manifestation.

In the future I’ll share how my relationship with Abraham came into being. In the meantime, as part of the Positively Focused features series, I’ll write brief posts on emails I receive from Abraham, which offer insight from them on particular topics.

What I find interesting about these emails is, in addition to their solid content, they often come with perfect timing. They tie directly to or remind me and encourage me about something going on in my life. So I find these emails great additions to my Positively Focused routine. Sign up to receive these emails at this link on Esther’s website.

So here’s the first of this new feature series.

Anything can happen

Here’s the first email:

When I talk with clients, they often miss the message. They hear what I say, but they don’t understand how profound or important what I’ve said is. For example, I’ll point out something they said as evidence of the Positively Focused practice working. Clients early on are always looking for proof. But they don’t know where to look for early stage proof. So I show them.

But when I point it out, it often goes unregistered. Which is why some clients take a while before they start producing really solid results and why I often repeat myself 😂. I think the same thing holds true for what Abraham says. People let it wash over their ears or eyes while not really taking it in.

In this email for example, Abraham offers unequivocal assertions about how the universe works. They’re saying whatever you want you can have it. Anything.

But having it requires a certain attitude. I often tell clients they must be a match to what they want. Another, easier, way is if they can hold no resistance about what it is they want…it must happen. Holding no resistance is easier because often when someone focuses on trying to become a match to what they want, they inadvertently activate built up resistance. This often looks like putting attention on the absence of what’s wanted. And clients do this while unaware that’s what they’re doing.

Manifest effortlessly

So when Abraham says “get out of the way” it’s another way of saying “allowing” it to happen. That means introducing no resistance. “Relaxing” means turning attention to something other than what is wanted, so you forget about what you want. With your attention off it, it will come. Effortlessly.

Most of us don’t like that because we’ve all been trained that “doing” is the way to make things happen. That’s a trap though. Taking action is never meant as the way things happen. Action represents the final cooperative components coming into place. One final cooperative component often is the desire-er. So action or doing doesn’t make anything happen. Instead, it brings the desire-er to the “coordinates” in time and space where they receive, perceive or witness their manifestation’s full-blown unfolding.

Everyone moving around the world taking action think action makes things happen. And, when one believes that, that becomes true, as any belief will because beliefs create reality reflecting their content. But that kind of reality can be hard, arduous and disappointing.

The trouble with “manifesting”, is many don’t culture the patience required to allow their resistance to sooth sufficiently enough so they can see evidence of the unfolding. That combined with “doing indoctrination” trips people up on the way to their manifestation. They look for it too soon. Not seeing it, they feel doubt, which indicates resistance in place.

So many think this “manifesting business” doesn’t work for this reason. But it does work. A person just needs to know HOW it works. That’s what I help people know.

Better Results Always Get Greater

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I love knowing that life always gets better. I knew that when I decided to come into physical life, but, boy, seeing it, feeling when it happens…nothing beats that. It’s what makes the Positively Focused Charmed Life such a wonderful life.

There’s never a need for “the other shoe to drop”. Unless, of course, you expect that. What a person expects, happens. So when I respond to questions about why Law of Attraction isn’t working for someone, on Quora, for example, I always say Law of Attraction always works.

The reason why people think it doesn’t is because they don’t understand what’s happening when what they expect, doesn’t happen. Often a person will think they’re focusing on what they want. But actually, they’re doing the exact opposite. As one client recently described here on our sister YouTube Channel:

A client totally nails it…

So a person might think they’re expecting what they want, but aren’t. Then when what they want doesn’t happen, they’re oblivious as to why.

The power of momentum

Momentum creates everything. But one must understand which direction their momentum builds. Momentum can happen in the direction of what someone doesn’t want. But, when a person maintains chronic positive focus, that focus creates momentum which ensures future manifestations better than those preceding it. My housemate situation illustrated this perfectly.

For the last year, I’ve enjoyed two housemates matching perfectly my positive focus. A third moved in at the beginning of the year who started off looking like a match. But in short order they proved how unmatched they were.

So instead of focusing on those things not matching what I wanted, I instead did as I did before with previous mis-match housemate situations: I focused on what it would be like not having them there.

It was no wonder then this past summer this person announced they made other living arrangements. I knew that meant my housing situation would improve. So instead of thinking about how wonderful it was that this person soon would be gone, I focused on the next person and how great of a match – a better match – they would be.

My landlord reflects me perfectly

Since living here so long, I enjoy a great relationship with my landlords. We’ve seen renters come and go and we work well together screening potential applicants.

I can’t help infusing that process with my positive focus, which sometimes kind of gets on my landlord’s nerves, because it can look like I’m rather passive with screening applicants in a timely manner.

I know scarcity consciousness drives much behavior which looks like “responsiveness”. After all, if something offered to me is mine, it doesn’t matter how timely or not I respond. It’s mine. I bring this same approach to screening potential housemates: the right housemate in no way can be deterred from moving in. Law of Attraction and being Positively Focused drives what happens in my life. Not “responsiveness”.

But my landlord doesn’t know this. She believes “doing” makes all the difference. Including being responsive.

I love when my environment reflects back to me how I focus in the world. One day my landlord and I had an exchange over text that perfectly illustrated this. We differed on our approaches to filling the vacancy.

My landlord telling me how it is…and me, soothing her concerns.

Of course I didn’t want to further inflame differences between us, so while saying I’d defer to her approach, I kept up with my predominant focus on my focus rather than any action I take. 🤣

All beliefs proven “true”

When a person lives in the world of “doing”, that reality confirms their beliefs. For example, my landlord believes her attention to detail, prompt comms and quick scheduling of viewings makes all the difference. But I know all that action pales in comparison to holding true to the knowing that the Universe handles all this and my action means very little in my life unfolding.

But if a person (like my landlord) believes action makes all the difference, that person’s life will confirm such beliefs as “true”. And in that truth, one better take prompt action or else.

Any belief believed long enough will produce corresponding realities proving that belief true. The problem with belief in actions as being predominant factors for desires becoming things is, when it comes to desires where you feel powerless to act, such desires seem impossible.

If I want to be rich, for example, or I want a partner, and I don’t know what action to take to realize either, the powerlessness I might feel indicates I have belief preventing me from getting what I want. “Action makes all the difference” could be (and often is) one such belief.

Soothing such beliefs creates a life proving what my landlord says I know; that the Universe delivers. I trust in that because that’s what my beliefs have created a life full of. So I KNOW this to be.

My landlord doesn’t and that’s ok.

The uncanny proving itself

But then my landlord sent the following story which totally confirmed what she knew about me: the universe will orchestrate people out of the path who are not a match to what I want:

And yet….she does believe!

I know our views, my landlord and mine, are more similar that she thinks. But her upbringing has her kind of focusing more in the “doing space” than me. That’s ok. Because days and several bad fits later, she sent another text:

A perfect unfolding

Unstoppable coordination

It was a perfect unfolding. Joe first connected with my landlord for a room she had in her house, but the timing/match delayed that consummation so the unfolding would continue such that he became my housemate!

Right around the same time, one of my other housemates gave notice. She’s horny. 😂 And she needs privacy and room to…uh…entertain. So she’s finding a place where she can live alone.

Instead of being upset about that, I knew her moving out, as great a housemate as she was/is, means the next person is going to be even better. That has me feeling extremely positive about her moving out.

And that’s the key to everything. I could be disappointed and feeling loss at having a good fit moving out. I could also feel worried the next person won’t be as good.

But what good do such thoughts do? They only set up circumstances to coordinate such that I get what I think about. So doesn’t it make sense to think about what I want, not what I fear?

I think so.

Having done that consistently enough through the years shows me, not only does it make sense, it always turns great results in to greater results. Just like I prefer it. And by the way, Joe moved in last Wednesday. He’s great!

How Being Positively Focused Creates Results You’ll Love

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My clients love it when they create convincing results. I love it too because I also delight in the evidence. With many clients these days, all practicing being positively focused, my own evidence, my knowing, gets doubly confirmed with client evidence.

Seven months ago, K.J. said he missed performing piano before live audiences. He especially enjoyed performing in supper clubs. COVID-19 put the kibosh on that.

He also lost his blogging job and old beliefs told him he had to “earn a living“ at a “real job” instead of enjoying playing music. Those beliefs created fear, discomfort and insecurity as he used up his savings. So, like any non-Positively Focused person, he believed his doing – job hunting – took priority over enjoying life.

Getting fired leads to better life approaches.

Just starting out back then, K.J. owned many negative beliefs about most things, which kept many of his desires from him. I can’t go into more detail than that for privacy reasons, but K.J. was extremely frustrated about his life.

Still, when a person has desire, that desire fulfills itself whether the desire-er experiences its fulfillment or not. That meant in a probable future, K.J. already performs in front of a live audience at a supper club. He also enjoys steady income from many fulfilling avenues.

When the desire-er gets out of the way, then desire fulfillment shows itself as part of the desire-er’s reality. For K.J., experiencing a joyful life springing out of his unhappy one, meant him getting out of the way. That, of course, meant becoming Positively Focused.

For a while, K.J.‘s beliefs forced him into job hunting. The problem was as an over-fifty unemployed male, beliefs K.J. had made that road very rough. “Earning a living“ again and “getting a real job“ was going to be a long, tough row to hoe.

Fuel for that unsatisfying fire came as long-held held beliefs K.J.’s father drilled into his head. He told his son regularly “you’ll never make a living as a musician“ and “get a REAL job!”

As you likely know, dear reader, plenty of people make good livings as musicians, but K.J., steeped in his father’s beliefs, his own miserable life experiences and his seemingly unfulfilled desires, couldn’t see these numerous exceptions.

Losing one’s job can be a very good thing (Photo by Yawer Waani on Unsplash)

Family heirlooms of thought

Everybody at some point struggles with beliefs they unwittingly adopt while children. Those formative years create strong reality-creating ripples through life. As children, we naturally understand universal laws, but parents – sometimes – literally beat such understanding out of us.

So parents pass to children limiting beliefs like heirlooms passed from generation to generation. Such “thought heirlooms” keep fulfilled desires at bay until (ideally) we realign with them as adults. That’s usually what’s behind “mid-life crises”.

The easiest way alignment to fulfilled desires happens, happens through reducing resistance created by such heirloom beliefs. That’s what being Positively Focused is all about.

Steady improvement starts immediately

Over the next seven months K.J. and I exposed many beliefs no longer serving him. He saw how they create realities inconsistent with what he wants. At the same time we created new beliefs more aligned with what he wants.

I knew the work was working because K.J. showed up over those seven months increasingly happier, lighter and less worried about getting a job, income and things in his life he hated. He spoke more about what he wanted rather than what was. When he did talk about what was, he found more and more positive aspects in those things.

As he complained less about things, they improved. He realized he had enough saved, so money wasn’t as dire an issue as originally thought. The more he relaxed, the better he felt. Feeling better, he saw more improvement in his life. The more that happened, the more he turned to his passions. Such as playing piano and writing.

Step two shows the earliest manifestation evidence that your desires are fulfilling themselves. In other words, your feelings tell you everything you need to know.

Feeling better is a sign

K.J. knew his life improved long before physical evidence showed itself. That’s because he felt better. He knew this meant physical improvement would follow. Patience was all that was needed.

Improvement evidence showed itself not long after as he indulged in writing projects and music. He spent more time doing these things instead of complaining and job hunting. Then he stopped looking for a job altogether, gave up worrying about money and focused nearly all his waking time on having fun. That relieved a lot of resistance about things he wanted.

One of the beliefs in the way was his creative work wasn’t worth sharing. He believed his creative expression had value only in its perfect form. We worked a lot on this. Over time, he started “busking”, performing for free on the waterfront for passersby at a local restaurant.

K.J. out busking on the waterfront.

As K.J. performed, his comfort grew. With increasing comfort came greater ease and confidence at the keys. His music improved and people began filling his tip jar. He took more and more money home each weekend. People would stop and tell them how much they appreciated him being there.

That confidence spilled over to his writing. He started sharing excerpts of his novels online. As he did, gradually more and more people expressed appreciation for his sharing.

Manifestation came from around a blind corner

Recently, he turned to doing Facebook live stream musical performances. The first couple of times no one joined him. The third time one or two people showed up. K. J. kept at it, intending that, no matter how many or how few showed, he’d find enjoyment in sharing.

No one showed up for the next live stream. But the time after that, several people attended and commented copiously about his performance.

A supper club owner was one of those people. The next morning, K.J. found a text message on his phone from the supper club owner. Here’s what it said:

K.J. shouted (to himself) in jubilance. He did not realize the connection between what he asked for seven months ago, what he created when he expressed a desire to perform in front of live audiences again, and the text message.

Once I reminded him, he got it. And when he did, we both amplified the recognition.

Charmed Lives await everyone

When one understands how reality springs from thoughts, it’s fun seeing desires fulfill themselves before one’s eyes. It needn’t take seven months, but good reasons explain why sometimes it takes a long time…or sometimes never happens.

If someone does not understand how reality creation happens, reality still plays out right before their eyes, but what they get instead of what they want is whatever they believe.

This is why being positively focused is important, if a person wants a Charmed Life. When a person is positively focused, understanding how reality is created, they gradually see all desires fulfilling themselves. Desires big and small.

What thrills me most about K.J.‘s manifestation is both the confirmation and his joy. In his joy I see my own, as my own manifestations reveal themselves to me in the same way his reveal themselves to him.

And isn’t this co-creation at its best? Sharing and reveling together with someone who knows what you know, thereby joyfully co-creating an experience where both parties get the joy and the fun?

It’s fun being a deliberate creator. Even more fun is when the deliberate creation happens in the company of another.

I’d say it doesn’t get any better than this. But I know life always gets better. That is, when one is positively focused.