This You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) Business is really simple. Line up with what we want until we become a match to it and it will happen, guaranteed. Sounds simple and it is.
But, unlike what the movie The Secret tells us, becoming a match to our desires is not easy. Especially because we can’t create around our current beliefs. Current beliefs is our reality. The world around us LITERALLY is our beliefs made real. That reality has a lot of momentum behind it. And since we can’t create around our current beliefs, in the process of becoming a match to desire, we must also soothe existing belief momentum.
The challenge with that, as some clients can attest, is, that’s not easy. One reason is because current reality is so present. It’s right THERE. We’re subsumed in it. Just being in our manifested beliefs literally amplifies the “what is” of those very beliefs. One client’s experience illustrated this yesterday. Her “what is” (she called it her “truth”) weighs so much in her mind it’s hard for her to NOT think about it.
And yet, moments later, she did a FABULOUS job leaning into thoughts more aligned with her desired reality than her existing one. It helps that this client is a natural at the practice. And yet, even as she did so, her current reality still was there pressing on her awareness.
It’s moment-by-moment sometimes
It can be hard to ignore “what is” in favor of what’s becoming. What’s becoming seems so not-real. But that is the practice. That’s what this YCYOR business looks like. It’s how it’s practiced. And that practice must become, not second nature…it must come FIRST nature. Otherwise “what is’” pervasiveness will dominate one’s awareness. When that happens, and that doesn’t feel good, that tells us we’re creating more of what we already have.
So this YCYOR business sometimes must be a moment-by-moment practice. Good news: the closer the practice gets to becoming first nature, the easier it gets to practice. Getting there takes a while, however, which explains why many of my clients, after years of being clients, still are clients.
Their lives have gotten far better than before. They’re getting what they want. And if you ask them, they’ll probably agree: it seems simple. Sure, they’ll say, getting where they are may not have been easy, but it certainly was worth it.
The reason I think most people are unable or unwilling to create the reality they want is because most of us are too saddled with “what is” or, as one client recently put it “the truth” of our lives. So they don’t know they can create any reality they want.
Make no mistake: Life is FOR REAL. Step into oncoming traffic and you’ll see. So our lives, the “truth” of them, can seem oppressive in their real-ness. Especially if our lives aren’t giving us what we want.
That’s why this You Create Your Own Reality Business (YCYOR) is serious business. It’s not all fun and games. At least not in the beginning.
The legacy of those who came before us
Because most of us, me included before finding out about this YCYOR Business, most of us are living our lives unconsciously creating from thoughts and beliefs that perpetuate the world around us. We work jobs we tolerate, numb ourselves with substances and do our best to make the best of situations we think are “just life”.
Many of those thoughts we inherit from our families. They are so a part of us, we’re oblivious to them. Yet we see them all around us, while not realizing the physical reality we see are our thoughts MADE MANIFEST. Made real.
Once thoughts become real, a lot of momentum exists in them. That means it takes a while for someone who meets this YCYOR Business to build a new momentum behind new thoughts that will create new realities. That delay, therefore, can be hard to move through. Especially if the client comes from really “trauma”-ladened past as many of my clients do.
So it takes a while to move from unsatisfying lives to better ones.
And yet, life is fun and games. We all knew it as that before we chose to come into our life experience. The trick of the Positively Focused practice is to return to that realization then live from that in real time. I applaud my clients because, from a certain perspective, it’s an act of bravery to take on our “what is”, our “truth”, and deliberately create something different. Especially with the “what is” pushing so hard against what we’re wanting, our new reality that gives us so much hope and eagerness.
I appreciate the brave ones willing to take on this practice. Life can be fun and games. But getting there is serious business. It’s not for the feint of heart.
TL;DR: The author tells how a client, who is a musician, relaxed in the face of a cancelled gig and, as a result of that relaxation, created a surprising and delightful outcome. The author also says “wishful thinking” is real, and can be used to create extraordinary lives, but only for those who know how it works.
Holy smokes. I might as well turn this series into a permanent thing. So many clients are getting happy results from their “wishful thinking”.
“Wishful thinking”, of course, is not what I call it. I call it the Positively Focused Way. “Wishful thinking” is what people who don’t know anything about what they’re talking about call this “you create your reality business.”
They’ve never tried it. Or if they have, they’ve done so under shoddy conditions, conditions which were bound to have them fail. Or they’ve tried it without someone helping them figure out how the “business” works, so they missed it actually working.
Meanwhile, lots of people, under the right circumstances and under a someone who knows this “business” are finding happy lives and happy life results putting this “wishful thinking” to work.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve written about two examples. You can read those stories here and here. I still have two more to share. This one is short but really sweet.
Let’s get to it.
In disbelief dreams are uncomfortable
This client I’ll call “Gus”. He’s been practicing this “you create your reality business” for 14 weeks. Through weekly sessions and the homework, he’s learning that the Positively Focused Way produces astonishing outcomes, just like I promise. Just like Abraham, Seth, Neville Goddard and many others promise also.
Gus is a musician. He performs covers at his local famers’ market. Like many musicians, he dreams about becoming successful and playing before thousands. However, Gus’ beliefs, like many, many artists of all kinds, block that success. Even though he’s already created that success for himself — that success awaits Gus in a probable future reality — which can be his future as soon as he lines up with it.
But 15 weeks ago, Gus didn’t realize any of this. That’s why he avoided his dreams. Thinking about them was too uncomfortable. Whenever he fantasized about being famous, his old beliefs would say “get real!” “be realistic!” and “grow up!” Then he’d imagine the thousands of artists, maybe hundreds of thousands, that aren’t successful at their art.
That lack of success he saw as his future. No wonder his dreams made him uncomfortable. He didn’t believe they’re possible.
Our itches will lead to joy
It’s true, of course, thatmany, many artists aren’t successful, if you measure success by how much income they get from their art. Yet, even by that measure, there are plenty who are successful. The only thing differentiating the latter from the former are the two groups’ beliefs.
That’s right. It’s not talent, contacts, “lucky breaks” or any other factor keeping a person from whatever success they want. The only thing doing that is what the person thinks and believes about being successful.
For example, Gus can not fathom how he could replace his current six-figure salary he gets working at a utility company. The reason why he can’t fathom it is because it’s not Gus’ job to figure out how that happens. That’s the Universe’s job. Gus’ job is to line up with his desire, feel good in doing that, which tells him something really important, then watch as the Universe delivers the probable future in which he swaps his utility salary for a performing one.
In the meantime, Gus hits farmers’ markets and the occasional spot gig to scratch the itch. Yes, it’s an itch. We know we have desires because those things catch our attention from time to time. They’re our Broader Perspective encouraging us in the direction of our joy.
But most of us will ignore those itches. Or worse; we’ll talk ourselves out of them in favor of living in “the real world” as one reader of my stories calls it.
Life just gets better and better
The thing is, there IS NO REAL WORLD out there. The only world we exist in is the world reflecting back to us our thoughts and beliefs. And if we believe that that world is full of disappointment and things we must confront and struggle against…well that is the world we see and experience.
Meanwhile, there are a ton of people living in other worlds. Worlds where life is easy. Where life is good. Worlds where people are happy and joyful. And in their happiness and joy, they’re getting everything they want effortlessly.
Gus is figuring out how to turn his current world into the world you just read about. It all starts with “wishful thinking”. When a person starts thinking wishful, their world instantly starts changing. Actually, what’s really happening is, the person begins phasing out of their current probable now, and phasing into an adjacent probable now. One aligned with all their desires. One where probable futures connected to that probable now contain all they desire. So the person’s life gradually gets better and better.
It doesn’t happen over night because this “you create your reality” business isn’t magic. But consistency and application of easy processes makes the phasing happen effortlessly.
The wife creates a better Gus
Gus started using those processes 14 weeks ago. In doing so, the Universe showed him all the beliefs he holds which keeps him in the reality he currently is reflecting back to himself. I won’t go into those details, but suffice it to say it was a life he didn’t want. It was so unsatisfying, he left his wife and considered killing himself.
Meanwhile, his wife, a 65-week client, used this “you create your reality business” to create a better version of Gus. As a result of her focus and intention, Gus changed his mind about killing himself, moved back into his marriage and is seeing that marriage blossom.
In fact, it was evidence his wife was producing in her way of being that had Gus try the Positively Focused Way in the first place. And she became a client because she saw her mother radically transform. Her mother is a 174-week client. The mom’s son also is a client. In fact, her mother’s intention and focus was that her children would begin practicing too. That’s happened.
So this “wishful thinking” stuff is powerful. It delivers everything one wants. Including ideal versions of people we interact with.
Ok, back to Gus.
As Gus’ wife’s experience shows, there’s something behind this “you create your reality” business. (Photo by Frank Leuderalbert on Unsplash)
Vibration attracts
He sent me an audio recording last week. It was two days after our session. He was super-stoked about what happened and wanted to share “the cool experience” he just had.
Gus said he had a gig scheduled at a local bar. But the owner called him to tell him they needed to cancel.
“They didn’t have enough patronage to cover what me playing there would incur for them,” he said in his message. Gus described how he used the Positively Focused Way to manage his emotions about this message. That’s crucial if one wants to have what one wants.
That’s because emotions act like a compass. They tell us in what direction we’re headed relative to our goals. Negative emotions tell us we’re heading in the opposite direction, generally speaking. Positive ones do the opposite. Emotions happen as a result of thoughts we think. Most people don’t understand this. They think emotions happen as a result of something that happens outside us.
That’s not what’s happening.
Emotions are physical manifestations of vibrational focus.
We are all energy that is aware. Like all energy, we vibrate and our vibration attracts. We set our vibration through focus and that focus creates thought, which is a forward evolution of vibration. Hold that thought long enough and it will manifest as an emotion. Keep holding that thought and the thought will manifest as physical reality becoming the reflection of the vibration we’re holding “in” us.
When it does that, most people will see the physical manifestation and think it happened randomly or coincidentally. That’s because they don’t know what you just read.
Events are not random nor coincidental.
The “fuck yeah” manifestation happens
All physical manifestation happens from our focus. And when we focus on what we don’t want, that’s what shows up in physical reality – which again is just a reflection of our inner vibrational state.
Ok, back to Gus’ message:
“I didn’t react [negatively],” he continues. “I was just like ‘hey, that makes sense, I’ll see you on the next one. It’s all good! I wasn’t feeling disappointed at all. It would have been cool to play and have engagement with those folks, but it will happen again.”
Not being upset, again, was critical. Gus did well here. It’s no surprise then what happened next.
The next day, Gus gets a text from someone who also plays at the farmers market. Gus describes what they said:
“[The message said], I have this person that wants me to play music for a private party but I can’t do it the day they’re looking for. Are you available and interested?” Gus explained.
Gus continued: “Long story short, I am going to play this gig for these people, and it’s going to be for more than [what I would make at the cancelled gig], for less time, and it’s amazing and I just wanted to share that all of this shit is so good; my feeling about [negative energy] and just like, vibrational alignment and stuff, I’m just watching all these things that are coming back to me…and it’s just like you said about thinking about [reality] like a game. It’s all free flowing, there are always other opportunities…Fuck yeah!”
It’s all a happy game
Gus’ experience is typical of all my clients. The world of “wishful thinking” is the world everyone wants to live. It creates “fuck yeah!” experiences all the time. But if we think “wishful thinking” is stupid, or that it’s “not a life strategy” like many, many people do, including that person who commented on my previous post, then such people live in lives that, in her words, suck.
I’m happy I don’t live in that world. My clients are finding new, happier worlds than that one exist too. One by one, they’re finding this “you create your reality business” not only results in happy worlds and happy lives, they allow one to live in any world one wants to live in.
That’s because we all are divine, eternal beings enjoying a human existence. One we tailor ongoingly to our desires through vibrational focus. For many, their existence comes filled with some of what they want and a lot of what they don’t want.
But that’s because they aren’t using the “you create your reality business” deliberately. Instead, they’re doing it unconsciously. So they don’t get what they want; they get what they focus on. And a lot of people focus more on what they don’t want than what they want.
When they start doing the latter though….wow. For those people, the world becomes, in Gus’ words a happy “fuck yeah!” game.
My Advanced clients are so inspiring. Even when they struggle, they create for themselves the Charmed Life. Being Positively Focused Advanced clients, most of them catch when they do this. Still, it can feel like a painful struggle. That’s only because they need more practice. More practice that solidifies their Positively Focused foundations.
An Advanced client today shared a story prompting this post. She’s progressing nicely. Her biggest desire for now is manifesting her lover. But she has many disempowering beliefs in the way. So her path to the lover is really bumpy.
And yet, today she shared a story indicating her progress. Even though she told her story through tears. Now, tears aren’t what people think they are. Tears are manifestations. They represent release of resistance. So crying isn’t a bad thing. Nor is it sad. It’s actually good. It only feels sad because we’re taught that it is sad.
As she told her story, she felt much better. That’s no surprise. Being sad is impossible when one stands in witness to their unfolding Charmed Life.
Here’s the story she told.
A fabulous experience of inner awareness
She’s currently getting to know a guy I’ll call “David”. David has a child from a previous marriage. He and my client, I’ll call “Jill”, were texting. Today is Jill’s birthday and it isn’t a good one according to her. That’s because she perceives herself as alone (she’s not). And she think she’s getting older, which, for her is a terrible thing. It’s terrible because the older she gets, she thinks the less time she has to find and enjoy her lover. In such beliefs, Jill can’t possibly feel happy and optimistic.
Which is why sometimes she’s not happy and optimistic.
Jill didn’t remember the wonderful nature of her sadness. That sadness is telling her something important. As we talked about that, naturally, Jill’s mood improved. Again, a human can’t be sad while standing in appreciation or empowerment, and as we talked that’s where I lead her.
Once getting there, she remembered what happened between her and David. Remembering this story in itself was a manifestation. She wouldn’t have recalled it had her mood not improved. So the story returning to her memory told her something important too. That’s another story though.
David is very busy. Not only does he have a child, he also works a lot. And, this weekend, the weekend of Jill’s birthday, he’s moving. So he’s doubly busy. David asked Jill if he could see a photo of her. She suggested they swap candid shots. So Jill, who was at a coffee drive-through, pulled out of the drive-through. She drove down the road then pulled over. There she snapped a couple pics. Then she sent them to David.
If you believe it long enough it becomes true
As is typical with text apps, Jill saw that David got her pics. Then she saw that familiar three dots at the bottom of the chat indicating that David was writing something. But he never sent that message. Here’s what happened next in Jill’s own words:
“At that moment,” She said. “I knew there were good reasons why he didn’t reply to my pics. But I made up really negative, really bad reasons why he didn’t. Reasons having to do with my appearance.”
“He didn’t like how I looked, I thought,” She said. “He thought I was fat. Or thought I looked too masculine.”
As Jill thought these thoughts, she said, her mood got more and more negative. Before long, she was angry and sad.
“I totally believed what I was thinking,” She said. “I just knew what I was thinking was true.”
Jill’s persistent negative talk has been around a while. So there’s a lot of momentum behind those beliefs. She knew what she was thinking wasn’t necessarily true. And yet, she thought she knew for a fact that they were true. In other words, her reality was confirming her persistent beliefs. After all, she had been in situations like this before. Situations where men ghosted her after she sent a pic.
In those situations, though, she never found out the real reason why they disappeared. So getting no explanation, she made up her own. This she repeated over and over, in situation after situation. Until her explanations became “truth” for her.
Anything we believe will prove true. Believe it long enough and, eventually, we’ll manifest evidence confirming the belief.
Creating deliberately
This is why I advise clients not to look at what’s true. Especially if what’s true isn’t what’s wanted. Instead I encourage them to look towards what they want. That’s because, for most of us, what’s true is inconsistent with our desires. So looking at what’s true causes that which is inconsistent with our desires to persist. Getting what we want, therefore, requires looking where our desires are. That place I call nonphysical.
Perceiving nonphysical is crucial to manifesting what we want. That’s why I spend so much time teaching how to do that in Positively Focused sessions. We can’t see nonphysical with our eyes though. We must learn to “see” it differently. When we do, we have our hands on powerful levers. Levers allowing us to create reality deliberately.
Jill knew what she was doing. Though convinced her beliefs were true, she said she was aware that she was creating a reality she didn’t want. Which is why when David finally did text her, she was not surprised: David had been busy, apologized for his delay and complimented her on her pics.
Jill said this was a powerful lesson for her. “I have to learn to rewire my thoughts so they’re more positive,” She said. I agree.
In every case, the love we want that hasn’t shown up hasn’t because beliefs we hold keep it away. (Photo Photo by Oziel Gómez on Unsplash)
Transforming the future
Being aware of what we’re doing when we’re creating unwanted is another crucial skill. Developing it first requires understanding how reality becomes reality. Then we use our awareness to interrupt that process. Then we learn to direct the process deliberately. That’s what Jill described.
That she knew what she was doing was awesome. That she used that awareness to improve herself was the cool gift the Universe gave her. Had she not had the experience and awareness, the gift would have slipped through her fingers.
We talked about different stories she could tell in place of automatic beliefs activated by habit. We can literally make up any story that feels better. It doesn’t have to be true. It just needs to feel better. In time, it will become true.
He lost his phone.
Someone stole his phone.
The phone got run over.
He’s just busy right now.
These four stories feel better than those Jill told herself. The third made Jill laugh. That was a great sign. All of them are not true. Except the last one. Yet they all had Jill feeling better. And that’s the goal.
By practicing this skill on any topic we automatically think negative thoughts about, we transform our future. We make the future compliant with out desires. Do that often enough and we’ll find the future including more of what we want.
What we want therefore becomes a foregone conclusion. They must manifest. That’s just how the Universe works.
Words aren’t as convincing as creating results in your own life that prove this. Maybe you’re ready to do that. Contact meand let’s get you on that path. Life is constantly gifting us. The only question is: are you receiving the gifts?
I’ve experienced strange phenomena in past weeks. Before now, I didn’t understand what they were. In a past post, I described them as “murmurations”. Now I know they represent divine energy that is part of me. They are manifestations indicating an impending spiritual liberation. A liberation born of the “Serpent”.
The “Serpent” is also known as “Kundalini energy”. “Kundalini” is an ancient word describing the body’s energy system. This energy system facilitates the physical body’s ongoing presence. Sensations I experienced recently, tell me I’ve unlocked a higher level of spiritual capability. So says research I undertook in hopes of understanding what was happening.
Triggering Kundalini experiences takes time and dedication according to my research. It usually happens through meditation or yoga under a Guru’s tutelage. My experience differs in that I’ve triggered my Kundalini energy practicing solo. I don’t care much about what that says about me.
What I do know is, my experience isn’t unique. And yet, it is special. Both the experiences themselves and my research confirm my Positively Focused approach works. I currently use no other approach.
So what happens when Kundalini tells me I’m progressing? I get excited, that’s what happens! Here’s more about this phenomenal experience.
More about Kundalini
Sources say Kundalini represents an energy pool of Divine Feminine Energy. That resonates because I perceive myself as mostly energetically feminine. This energy sits at the base of the spine. The energy usually lies dormant. Under the right conditions, however, it activates. When it does, it acts as a catalyst. It transforms the body’s nervous system. The energy “rewires” the body, preparing it for something special. That something special is an ascension into higher vibrational states.
Everyone’s Kundalini experience is unique. This post says it offers a complete list of symptoms. But if symptoms are individually unique, no list could really be complete, could it? I don’t think so.
As the energy moves up the spine, the body must react to the increased flow. Thus the symptoms. Meanwhile, people experiencing these symptoms become acquainted with their subtle body. The subtle body is the pure energy counterpart of our physical or “gross” body. People actually become aware of three different aspects of what they are. Their “gross” or physical body. Their more subtle, energy form. And, finally, their formless self.
This formless self is the “I AM” nature of what we all are. Awareness of the three aspects supports spiritual expansion. Expansion leading to supreme detachment from camouflage phenomena, which then allows a person greater leverage and power in their lives.
Here’s a great, basic description of what Kundalini is:
A wonderful overview of Kundalini energy
My experience
Symptoms I’ve had are included in that “complete” list above. However, I must add something important. During my entire spiritual journey, I have never experienced any significant negative or painful effects. Even during the many ayahuasca experiences I enjoyed, never once did I experience physical pain, nausea or vomiting. The point is, it’s not necessarily so that everyone experiences painful or negative effects of spiritual awakening.
The most prevalent symptoms I enjoy in my experience, include the following:
Crushing of the skull: A feeling of intense painless pressure buildup. It feels like my skull is collapsing from the outside in.
Body undulations: beautiful, blissful, involuntary fluidic flowing of my body, centered along my spine.
Body expansion: a feeling that my physical body becomes larger than it physically is.
Levitation sensations: a feeling that my body is preparing to rise off the bed.
Out of body preparation: sensing my subtle body preparing to separate from my gross body.
There are other experiences that happen too, including projections of my consciousness. These projections so far typically involve “landing” in random-seeming locations. Like this:
A projection of consciousness that happened on Apr. 9.
All of these experiences I document in my spiritual journal. Recording such experiences is an important part of my journey. That way I can compare my experience with my clients’ as they progress too.
All these experiences tell me I’m progressing. My research now also confirms this. So does my many, many dream experiences. Clarity and vividness of my dreams is now off the charts. So is the duration of dream experiences I enjoy.
I know these all must have practical, everyday value. Already, I experience delightful epiphanies and manifestations. That value is beginning to show itself more and more through manifestations I experience.
The journey: More important that getting there
But I know the most important thing is the journey. Enjoying the journey and signposts along that journey. That’s what I consider these Kundalini experiences. They are signposts, not the destination. I’m not trying to get anywhere. After all, I’m eternal. There’s no “there” to get to. So instead, I’m learning more and more to soothe my impatience.
That’s because when I consider these remarkable experiences, I get excited about future ones. Seriously, if I can experience Kundalini phenomena, other seemingly “supernatural” experiences must be out there. Out there readying themselves. Readying themselves to reveal themselves to me.
I get eager thinking about those. Sometimes, that eagerness turns to impatience. I mean really, wouldn’t you get impatient to do things like levitate, astral travel and teleport? I would. And I do.
But it’s better that I stay focused on progress I’ve made. And feel blessed where I am. Rather than getting impatient about where I’m going. That way, I remain joyful of the journey, rather than feeling impatient. Impatience, after all, introduces resistance. And resistance slows everything down.
Unlocking my Kundalini energy is a pretty cool signpost. I’m looking forward to more signposts along my journey that is my spiritual progress.
It’s wonderful watching clients get the Charmed Life I write about. It doesn’t happen all at once. But every client eventually gets it. I find joy watching clients create such experiences for themselves.
When such clients write me offering me high praise for how I helped them, it just adds more joy to my experience. After all, this kind of impact is why I do this. I know the more people living their charmed life, the better the world gets.
So when people write telling me I significantly influenced their life experience, it tells me I’m creating the better world I intended when I came here. At the beginning of the year, A client I hadn’t seen in six months wrote to tell me how much his life changed since adopting a Positively Focused perspective. Take a look:
Everyone can enjoy the life promised through being Positively Focused. Such a life is what we all knew we’d enjoy before we chose to become human. It’s the Charmed Life. In it, everything we want, happens.
The “shock and awe”
But it’s easy to get off track. That’s because life experience, from the moment we’re born, is the embodiment of “shock and awe”. The feeling of being limited in a fleshy body is so diametrically opposed to freedom we all knew in nonphysical, we kind of all just freak out.
Insecurity and fear immediately force us into the state of “human”. The vast majority of us forget what we really are. From there, that almost always creates a divergence from the path we intended.
But even that divergence represents the path. For in our disappointments and fears and actions we take from there, we create more of what we want. That waits for us until we eventually regain our eternal awareness.
Becoming Positively Focused, clients regain their eternal awareness. When that happens, they regain their empowerment. Empowerment to follow whatever dream they prefer.
All lives can be a charmed life. If yours doesn’t, and you want it to, contact me. I can help.
This isn’t actually the second, but it is the most significant OBE since my first. What’s significant about it relates to my ego’s calibration to the experience. The whole experience confirms my progress. I’m realizing more my eternal nature.
Humans are more than human. We are aware-ized energy. We are that creative energy, creating more of ourselves. Then we expand ourselves into that more. We do that to explore ourselves. We do that to know who and what we are.
While they seem rare, everyone experiences OBEs. Usually, we don’t notice them. That’s because our ego blocks such experiences. But we leave our bodies constantly.
Most common OBEs happen during sleep. We call them “dreams”. But that word cheapens what really happens. There we explore the myriad creations we create. Meanwhile our bodies get left behind.
Each of us exist simultaneously in infinite dimensions. Dimensions outside time and space. Places we create as part of our voracious desire for self-awareness and expansion.
Even those who think they don’t dream do this. The only reason they don’t remember such experiences is because they don’t believe they have them. Advanced Positively Focused clients reacquaint themselves with these experiences. The more they recall, the more becomes possible. Including OBEs.
Being outside: amazing
My second experience happened the afternoon of January 25. My “spiritual body” gently rose out of my physical one. Then it happened. Here’s how I described it in my practice journal:
My “second” OBE as described in my journal
As you read, I’m new at this. My waking consciousness gets out of whack when I return to “reality”. The conscious part of me experiencing the OBE is not my waking consciousness. Yet, when I “return”, that part of me must integrate the experience. When that happens disorientation shows up. That means I’m just starting to get my “sea legs” about this OBE stuff.
In reality, I’m not learning to leave my body. That happens all the time. What I’m learning is how to be aware of my depatures. And, how to integrate them on return. Integrate them so I remember the experience.
Joyful expansion
I’ve had many other OBEs. Many of them happen in sleep. Because of what I know, I have extremely good recall and retention of these experiences. Keeping a record of these amplifies my retention. Today, my records contain well over 2,000 such experiences. But when these happen, my waking consciousness isn’t with me. I experience them as actual places, but when I wake, the experience doesn’t feel as real.
Eventually, I want to leave my body at will. Seth assures us such experiences are, indeed, in the realm of possibility for us. I’m finding his words accurate.
Sometime I’ll write about the ego and its function. Humanity doesn’t understand it very well. Regarding OBEs, the ego needs grace. It must adjust to an unusual experience from its perspective. Our egos aren’t ordinarily happy experiencing OBEs. That’s because such experiences take it outside its speciality, which is physical reality. This explains why most people don’t consciously know they’re having OBEs. Their ego focuses them exclusively on the illusion that is physical reality.
If you’re intrigued with my experience and want your own, you might consider becoming a client. All my clients attest the price is a bargain for benefits they receive.
Western culture worships a false idol. It’s called hard work. Look around. So many people on average spend upwards of half or more of their time awake working. Some dedicate far more of their waking hours to working hard.
Americans in particular are known for their workaholism. A client of mine on vacation in Spain talked with someone, a Spaniard, who described her opulent and leisure lifestyle. In doing so, she said “Americans live to work. We Spaniards work to live.“
There’s no honor in Americans venerating working hard. If we knew more about how life works, our work life preoccupation would dramatically decrease, with no corresponding decrease in production, believe it or not.
Indeed, the easy life carries far more productivity potential. That’s because when one takes it easy, following both intuition and passion instead of doing what others expect of them, remarkable things happen. And they happen because them happening expresses nature’s grace for all living things.
Runaway success is natural
Take a look at the paradox described by “working hard“. Many people work very hard in their lives and barely get anywhere. The working poor are a great example. But so are many of the middle class. Many people in the middle class struggle mightily working hard and just barely cover their means. Or they get far enough to amass material pleasures. But since many middle class people finance such things, they end up working even harder to pay off credit cards, big mortgages and car loan debt.
Others enjoy a smattering of success evidenced by promotions, vanity titles or a real supervisory role. But those “successes“ usually lead to more work as well.
And when it comes to runaway success, an even greater paradox exists. Some of the most successful put in hardly any work at all and find success near immediately, while others work very hard in the same field and get comparatively nowhere.
Take the case of Sir Lewis Hamilton, the first brown-skinned Formula One driver. He is described as a “prodigy“ race car driver. From a very early age, his parents saw his instinctual attraction to racing. Everyone saw it. So everyone supported him as he rose far beyond others. Others working equally hard, and some working even harder.
Racing prodigy Sir Lewis Hamilton owes his racing prowess to something more than hard work. Indeed, people marvel at his avant-garde approach, which includes forays into music, fashion and enjoying life instead of working hard like others in the sport. (Photo By Morio)
Hamilton could easily do behind the steering wheel what others rarely or never could do. Indeed, his “hard work“ was more about further developing his natural gifts, his passions, not struggling to achieve “success “ or accomplish anything.
Something else must be happening
I was just about to write “not to diminish the effort Hamilton put into becoming a skillful driver”. But my desire to write that evidences my own indoctrination into our collective distortion; the distortion that “hard work” is the key to success. If it were the key to success, if it were instrumental in things going the way we want, why are so many working so hard not successful?
Which leads me to the following. Something else must be happening that allows some people to succeed with little effort and others, despite lots of hard work, hardly ever get anywhere. This is the case for something larger having more influence on one’s success than how much effort or action one dedicates toward that goal.
Why is it some people who work so hard achieve comparatively little?
I assert the answer has nothing to do with their hard work. Instead, it has far more to do with their attitude.
But even that is too superficial. It’s less about “attitude“ and more about resonance, or lack thereof, one feels for whatever it is one decides is “success“. One’s image of oneself, what one believes is possible, and what one chooses to do from those perspectives shapes everything.
Action of any kind means comparatively little.
The easy life for all
That resonance giving rise to inevitable success feels a certain way. And that feeling indicates a gradually emerging life that, initially, feels better than what it feels like when working 40 or more hours a week. It feels like freedom, adventure, positive expectation and empowerment on a consistent basis.
Most people experience such feelings infrequently or not at all. Such experiences explain why so many struggle or live mediocre lives or lives of compromise. Such people haven’t cultivated a resonance atmosphere within which success comes easy. They’re too busy trying to get there by copying what others do: trying to get there through action and hard work. They won’t slow down and get in touch with that which will make their life easy. They think the easy life is being lazy. So the Charmed Life I describe eludes them.
We all enjoy free will. All That Is wants us focusing our time and action living the easy life. That’s because doing so adds to or fulfills that which we each as individuals came to fulfill. And in that fulfillment, All That Is becomes more.
People who struggle contribute to more too. But how many of those people – were they in their right mind instead of the mind that has them indoctrinated into hard work – how many of those people would trade what they have for the easy life? I would argue that, in their right mind, everyone would make that trade.
The easy life creates a path filled with joy ease and fun. It’s a life wherein you can leave hard work behind. (My artwork)
That’s because everyone knew that’s the life they would live before coming into the world. That easy life. The life Jesus proclaimed in his sermon on the mount. I wrote about this two posts ago.
Nature wants you happy
Instead, so many of us choose lives of struggle. We all have free will, as I’ve said. We are all also eternal. So eventually, each of us, as individuals, learn to give up the hard life for the easy one. For many, that takes several lifetimes.
But for a select few, it can happen in this lifetime. By “select few“ I don’t mean to imply that someone else, like some god, blesses the lucky ones. The select few select themselves. They are those who connect with paths such as the one offered here at Positively Focused.
And when those people plug-in, their life becomes the easy life. In time, they leave hard work behind.
Many of the struggles we see in the world stem from people working hard and in doing so becoming discouraged and bitter. They’re disconnected from who they knew themselves to be. I suggest we give up all of that. And when we do so, we will realize a global society based on the Charmed Life I advocate.
When that happens we can give up worshipping the false idol that is hard work. Then get on with living lives we came to live.
A transgender client from our sister site The Transamorous Network recently came to her session feeling ecstatic. I immediately became so too. That’s because I knew, even before she described what happened, what happened. She scored her dream career.
How? Solely by thinking positive thoughts. I’m sharing this successful manifestation from my sister site (I do this often) because it offers proof that “manifesting” works, every time.
I know many will say this was a series of coincidences. But me and this client know what happened directly resulted from her learning to see the world Positively Focused. As a result, she easily came into her dream job with absolutely no effort on her part. Instead she had fun, fun, fun.
“I told my mom,” she said. “Getting work this way is 1,000 times more satisfying than going through the grind everyone else is doing.”
Indeed. All during this time, her mom forwarded my client job openings from Indeed.com, hoping her daughter would apply. But my client wanted to prove to herself a positive focus works better. I’m glad she wanted to test it, because the results were stunning. As they always are.
Here’s what happened.
Becoming a match to what’s wanted
Clare (not her real name) is on her 123rd session. It took her a while to start believing, but evidence she produced along the way roused dramatic behavioral changes. For one, she gave up online dating. She finally agreed it created more negative experiences than positive ones and those negative experiences too easily translated into negative beliefs about men. Negative beliefs about herself too. Those beliefs exacerbated her negative online experiences. That got her realizing trying to find a partner through online dating wasn’t worth it.
Then she gave up trying to “find” a guy altogether. Instead, she decided to focus on herself. She decided rather than meeting men who matched who she’s being now, she would become the “best version of herself” and, doing that, meet men who are a match to that.
It’s a standard result of the approach advocated at The Transamorous Network and here too at Positively Focused. Every experience comes as a manifestation of what the experiencer emanates. That emanation happens through thoughts and beliefs people hold about experiences had in the past, or experiences they want to have. The best way to meet the perfect partner involves first becoming a match to that. One does that by thinking positive thoughts and cultivating positive belief about a host of subjects. Those gradually change emanations one’s putting out about those subjects.
In time, one becomes a match to what they want, rather than being a match to what they don’t want. This process happens effortlessly. With enough practice, the process then happens automatically. Delight, surprise, life enjoyment and an ever-increasing desire for more of that mark “success” with the process. Oh, one also gets everything they want too!
How reality really works.
The sucky job hunt
As Clare focused on herself, a lot of resistance she held for many subjects started giving way. In the wake of all that, she discovered more peace and satisfaction with the way her life currently was. For many years, for example, Clare harbored impatience, frustration and annoyance about living with her parents on a farm in rural America.
But through the practice, she learned how to appreciate this situation. Indeed, living with her parents offered exactly what she wanted. The biggest thing was time. Her parents love her, provide for her. Even though they want her to get on with living – get a job, find a place to live on her own and make a life for herself – they also aren’t pressuring her to do those things.
I encouraged Clare see value in all that support. But Clare focused too much on what she thought her parents thought about her living there. As a result, Clare felt pressure, anxiety and impatience. Those emotions motivated her to look for a job.
But looking for a job sucks! It’s tedious, there’s a lot of rejection, and, depending on one’s self-image, it can be demoralizing. Especially when one sees how many jobs one doesn’t qualify for. In many ways, job hunting closely resembles online dating! 😂
Clare wavered between frustration and annoyance, then disappointment and anger as she sent out resume after resume to crickets and rejection.
All the while I encouraged her to give up job hunting and learn to create the job she wants. How? By telling positive stories about what she wants, instead of trying to find a “job”.
Would you jump off a cliff?
I know everyone, or at least most people, look for jobs exactly the way Clare was. And, many of those people find work that way. But it sucks doing it that way! Yes, people find satisfaction working for good companies and for good people. Good pay too. The opposite also holds up. In other words, just because everyone does something a certain way, doesn’t make it the way. Or the only way. Or the best way.
Besides, spiritual beings don’t come into a body to copy experiences everyone else experiences. Each comes to live their special, unique paradigm-busting life experience. One that would transform the world while offering immense personal satisfaction.
I explained all this to Clare, many, many times before she actually believed it enough to apply this approach to attracting work. By this time Starbucks hired her as a barista, which was great because their insurance plan paid for surgeries she wanted. She liked the job, at first. She enjoyed who she worked with and customers she served. Beyond that, insurance and a paycheck though, it offered little satisfaction.
It took about six months before Clare was over Starbucks. She wanted work in her field. Something creative. Something more consistent with her aspirations.
Week after week, dissatisfaction increased. Finally, she decided to try the Positively Focused approach.
Getting stories straight
It took her a while to find pleasing beliefs. Subjects she had beliefs about that impacted “getting a job” were many and varied. They included beliefs about work, obviously, but also about many other things.
About work, Clare needed to sooth old beliefs about her not being good enough to have her dream job. She believed such jobs were scarce. You need to know someone in order to get such a job, she thought. She also thought a person needed to live in an urban center, where creatives lived. None of these are true. They aren’t false either. But such stories create a reality that excludes getting the job Clare wanted.
Other beliefs she needed to address were about living at home, about her parents and what they thought, about why she wanted work, about the timeframe in which she “should” start working and more. As I said above, beliefs about lots of subjects affect success in any outcome. Beliefs about what’s wanted, for example, contribute only partially to what one gets or doesn’t get. Often, beliefs hindering one’s ability to get what they want have more to do with beliefs the person has about themselves. Those hinder the vast majority of people.
So Clare had her work set out for her. The main thing I encouraged Clare do was enjoy her now. Have fun, I told her. Find things she liked doing and forget about finding a job. Enjoy the fact that her parents lovingly support her. Enjoy the fact that she doesn’t really need a job.
That’s what Clare started doing.
Getting stories straight means adjusting what I say about life so that my life reflects my adjusted stories back to me. The Universe works no other way. Harness this and the world becomes yours.
Getting bored doing nothing
In essence, I told Clare “stop doing and be more”. That’s a problem for many, many people because most of us think and believe things happen as a result of “doing”.
That’s never the case though, even though it looks that way. But the way things look is an illusion. Things happen as a result of what a person thinks and believes and expects. Action is what happens at the last moment. Action, or doing, puts a person at coordinates in space and time where the desired manifestation happens.
But again, this is really, really difficult for people to get. Especially parents. They think doing nothing is doing nothing. It’s lazy, mooching, being irresponsible.
None of that is true. Doing nothing is doing something. When a person does nothing, they’re soothing negative story momentum. Stories that keep them in “doing mode”, the doing of which keeps them thinking their doing creates results.
Clare had a really hard time with this at first. She quickly got bored. Video games no longer held her interest. Movies got old. She got impatient, frustrated. We talked about these feelings and beliefs they sprang from and, in time, created new ones for Clare about those things. Those new ones allowed Clare greater ease and satisfaction with things she once liked doing.
It took awhile, but Clare found more satisfaction and pleasure in pastimes once she let go of judgement about those things, judgement, representing beliefs she inherited from her parents and society in general. Especially conservative society which harshly condemns idle hands.
Then things get interesting
One day after weeks enjoying her life, Clare came to her session feeling inspired. She had cruised Instagram this week, something she really enjoys, and her feed served up an invitation to a panel presentation on something like “How to manage production sets in a time of COVID”.
Now’s a good time to include that Clare’s field of choice, where her creative passions point her, involves working on creative production sets. Photo shoots and movie sets are where Clare feels most inspired and engaged. So when this invitation showed up, she knew it was the result of the practice.
“I knew this wasn’t coincidence,” She told me in session. “So I wanted to share it with you. I’m really excited this happened.”
I was too. It was exactly the manifestation Clare wanted. Furthermore, I knew, I just knew, this was the beginning of a series of manifestations leading to Clare getting everything she wants.
We talked about the best way to attend the event. I encouraged her, if she was so inspired, to write down every panel participant’s name and what they say. Then later, followup with each of them with an inspiring message over Instagram. I suggested she highlight something each person said that resonated with her. That resonance, I told her, offered a clue that would unfold in a delightful way.
So notice this: Clare relaxed into her life. She learned to enjoy more and more her day-to-day. She learned to stop telling negative stories about everything about her life. Then, the universe served up the perfect invitation: the opportunity to participate in this discussion.
It was perfect. But more stood ready.
Life happens easy when one takes it easy.
Momentum ensues
The next session, Clare was super excited. She reached out to all the panelists. Nearly all of them replied. Three of them invited her to an in person conversation. Long story short, one of these conversations happened on a photo set in a small company owned and run by a lesbian couple.
Clare’s manifestation was unfolding…
Clare said she could tell she impressed them. She was high flying in relating how the conversation went. She added the other conversations thrilled her too, but this one was the most thrilling.
“Go with that feeling,” I told her. And she did.
She continued corresponding with those panel members who responded to her most actively. Then, one day, seemingly out of the blue, Clare got a voice message from someone she didn’t know.
The voice message told her a corporate gig was coming up and, if she was available, the voice said, they’d love to have her join the team running the shoot.
Clare just got an employment offer!
Manifestation…happens
That same day, she put the details together with the caller. By the time we had our session that afternoon, the opportunity was hers. It came together literally an hour before our session began.
Needless to say, Clare was over the moon. She told me her mother and father both expressed pride in her getting her first paid gig, in her field of choice, with lots of opportunities to leverage this experience into future gigs.
But Clare and I both know the only leverage she needs is the leverage inherent in her power as a deliberate creator, exercised through her powerful story telling.
“I told my mom,” she said. “Getting work this way is 1,000 times more satisfying than going through Indeed.com.”
Indeed. When a person creates opportunity, it’s always more satisfying than going hunting for one. It’s much more fun seeing what one wants come to you rather than you having to go out and find it.
Whether it’s work, income, a lover, better health or happiness, nothing lies out of the realm of the possible. Unless one’s beliefs say something is impossible, nothing is.
If you’re someone lonely and longing for love, or you want better work, more money or something else you think will make you happy, there’s no better Source for any of that than the beliefs you tell yourself.
YOU are the genie in the bottle standing ready to fulfill your every wish! If you’re ready to tell better stories about your life so that your life improves, and would like some help with that, I’m here.
A delightful post script:
I finished writing this post and the next week, had a session with Clare. She came to the session overflowing with excitement. That’s because after doing the gig described above, “out of the blue” three other people called her. They all offered additional gigs, at rates 21 percent higher than the first one! One of the newer gigs is a 4-5 day shoot, meaning Clare will receive over $1400 for 4 days work!
“This sure beats my Starbucks job!” She said. “I used to make maybe $50 a day there.”
Indeed. Once a person gets in the grove telling positive stories, the flood gates open, revealing that the Universe, for sure, is pouring down everything one wants. Clare’s experience is a perfect example of that!
Every Positively Focused client gets the clarity and power and joy promised through the Positively Focused practice. It’s guaranteed or they get their money back. No one asks for their money back though because everyone gets great results.
I love it when clients rave about their results. Their experiences amplify and confirm my own, which is a great fringe benefit supporting my own Positively Focused practice.
Case in point: recently a band-new client expressed pleasure with results he received from a process I offer in client sessions. What’s really cool about his experience is, this happened after only one session.
A client raves about results he got this week…
This is why I guarantee the practice works. It’s also why clients tend to stick with me once they start. The practice works. It delivers exactly what I say it does. And so, it’s no surprise clients send texts like the one above.
…results consistent with my Positively Focused guarantee.
Gradually they discover life on their side. They also discover they stand at the center of the Universe. Then their life improves. It becomes the Charmed Life they knew it would be when they decided to come into a body.
From that point forward, their life fills with self-fulfilling desires. The more that happens, the more fun the person experiences. Then something really cool happens.
They stop being human and become the super human they were before they forgot who and what they are.
I love helping people rediscover their creative power and joy. It brings me joy. And it amplifies what I know about myself.
