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How to Make Life Better by Returning to Eden

TL;DR: The author explores why reconnecting with our Broader Perspective can feel difficult at first—and how the Positively Focused practice gently guides us back to our natural state of ease, alignment, and worthiness. They do so by examining the story of Adam and Eve’s “fall from Eden” and interpreting the story in a new way.

The Positively Focused practice is, at its core, stunningly simple. It asks nothing more than that we cultivate alignment with our Broader Perspective—our eternal, nonphysical self—and allow manifestations to unfold from that vibration. And yet, for some, this proves to be the most difficult thing they’ve ever attempted.

Over the years, I’ve worked with dozens of brilliant, deeply sincere clients who came to me wanting lives full of ease, clarity, love, wealth, and purpose. Some of them get it—quickly. Others struggle, flounder, or resist the very practice they sought out. But it’s not because they’re not ready. It’s because the very mindset they’re bringing to the work is the mindset that’s keeping them from Eden.

Let me explain.

The Fall from Alignment: A New Interpretation of Eden

The story of Eden is not just a biblical allegory. It’s a vibrational map of humanity’s shift from spiritual knowing to intellectual survival.

Before “the fall,” Adam and Eve walked with God in the garden. They lived in ease, joy, and a natural connection with their Source. This is the Charmed Life I speak of in the Positively Focused practice. It’s the state of full receptivity—where desires are fulfilled even before we act, often before we know we have a desire, where the Universe anticipates and delivers joy before we can articulate it.

Then came the Tree of Knowledge. Not the tree of wisdom. The tree of knowledge—of facts, reasoning, and dualities. “Good and evil.” “Right and wrong.” “Cause and effect.”

In biting the fruit, humanity shifted from intuitive alignment with Source to a state of mind-based knowing. From vibrational attunement to cognitive calculation. That shift—that was the fall. Not sin. Not punishment. Just an orientation that pulled us out of the Now and into the intellect.

Ever since, most humans have been trying to “think their way” back to Eden. But you can’t get to the garden through the mind. You have to feel your way there. As the legendary rap group Outkast puts it: you must “free your(self from your) mind and the ass will follow”.

The Intellect as a Distraction From Source

I’ve had two recent clients—let’s call them Kelly and Carl—who are textbook examples of this Eden exile. Both are deeply thoughtful, educated, and introspective people. They devour information, stay up on current affairs, and explore the world around them with an intellectual passion. They “understand” the Positively Focused framework. I would say they even resonate with it. And yet, they resist doing the actual practice.

Why?

Because doing the practice would mean letting go of the very faculty they’ve learned to rely on for everything. That aspect of themselves they’re so proud of: their minds.

Instead of meditating daily to establish connection with their Broader Perspective, they over-analyze their contrast. Instead of practicing soothing thought to generate high vibrational states, they try to outsmart their negative beliefs. They treat their transformation like a riddle they’re trying to solve, not a frequency they’re tuning to.

This is incredibly common. We’ve been trained to believe that the mind is the highest authority. That if we can just intellectually “figure it out,” we’ll finally get what we want.

But the Universe doesn’t respond to logic. It doesn’t reward intellectual analysis. It responds to vibration. And that’s the kicker: when you’re trying to make sense of your reality with the same beliefs that created it, you can only ever rearrange the furniture in your prison cell.

You Can’t Fake Belief—But You Can Realign

Here’s the paradox: people don’t come to me when things are going great. They come when they’re in deep contrast—financially, relationally, emotionally. That contrast makes them ready. But they often try to resolve the contrast using the same tools that generated it: effort, willpower, discipline, mental inquiry.

The Positively Focused practice requires none of those things. It asks you to:

  • Meditate to quiet the mind
  • Practice soothing thought to align with better-feeling probable realities
  • Celebrate manifestations that prove your alignment
  • And gradually become a match to the life you want by calibrating to how you want to feel

But for the intellect-bound, these actions feel too passive. Too “woo.” Too easy. So they try to improve their lives through deeper analysis, self-criticism, or by “fixing” themselves.

That never works.

You don’t get to the Charmed Life by becoming “better.” Instead, you get there by remembering who you already are: a sovereign extension of Source, endlessly worthy, fully supported, and already living the life you want—just on a frequency you haven’t yet matched.

We never left Eden. It’s still there. Most are just not tuned to it so they can’t see it.

You Are the Garden You Never Left.

Here’s what I tell clients like Carl and Kelly when I see them spinning in mental overdrive: You’re not “becoming” worthy, you’re not “earning” ease. You’re not “healing” your way to success. You’re remembering.

The garden was never destroyed. We never actually leave it. Instead, we simply turn our gaze away from it. We believed someone else’s story—our parents’, our school’s, our church’s, our culture’s—that said, “Life is hard. You have to earn your worth. Nothing comes without struggle.”

So now, when we try to meditate, we get fidgety. When we try to feel appreciation, it feels fake. When we try to do the practice, it feels silly.

That’s not failure. It’s just resistance meeting its match. It’s our old momentum pushing back as our true orientation starts to return. Stick with it. The garden is still here.

The Charmed Life Begins With One Realization

The Positively Focused blog is full of stories—mine and my clients’—that prove this. I’ve shared how money has literally appeared on the street after I soothed a scarcity belief. How dream sequences showed me future relationships. How clients began loving their spouses in ways they hadn’t in years, or saw evidence of their artistic expression becoming possible, or found themselves believing they could have the love they once bitterly forsook — after they did the practice as prescribed.

Not because they became more intelligent. But because they became more attuned.

The Charmed Life doesn’t come from mental effort. It comes from vibrational alignment. That’s not a metaphor. It’s physics, reality. That’s Eden.

And here’s the best part: once we start to feel the garden again—through a well-timed manifestation, a deep meditation in which we have an out of body experience, a random compliment from a stranger—we want more. We want to do the practice because we’re seeing the results. That’s when worthiness kicks in. Not as a thought. But as a state of being.

Final Words for the Intellectually Inclined

If you’re reading this and feeling defensive—or intrigued—or deeply called into something you can’t quite name—that’s your Broader Perspective stirring. You don’t have to throw away your mind. The intellect has its place. But it’s not the pilot. It’s the co-pilot.

Your intuition, your alignment, your joy—that’s what’s flying the plane. So if the Positively Focused practice feels “too simple,” or “too emotional,” or “not intellectual enough,” consider this: That’s probably your sign to lean in.

Because the garden didn’t go anywhere. You’re standing in it right now. All you have to do… is look. Book a free session. Let’s get you into Eden.

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Why AI’s Best Future Needs an Awakening of Spirit

TL;DR: The author explores how aligning with spiritual clarity ensures humanity embraces the promise — not the peril — of artificial intelligence. This piece reframes the Stellar future proposed by Tony Seba and James Arbib. It suggests the future is a vibrational invitation, not a technological threat. As such, the author asserts, it offers humanity a powerful seat in shaping the future.

What if humanity’s future hinges not just on tech innovation, but on how deeply we root ourselves in spiritual alignment?During my recent Worthiness Wednesday vlog, I proposed a bold concept: that the inner development of worthiness and the outer explosion of AI technologies must converge. It’s the way to the fully optimistic future available to us all.

We’re on the cusp of entering what Tony Seba and James Arbib of RethinkX call a stellar civilization—a system powered by stellar technologies. Stellar technologies include solar power, wind power, AI, robotics, precision fermentation, and battery storage.

These technologies scale exponentially. In doing so, they lower costs and increase access for all. As Seba explains: “Once built, they keep producing with almost no additional input. That’s never happened before”.

But real and lasting transformation isn’t just technical. It also must be metaphysical. If we don’t have a spiritual foundation, abundant technologies can amplify fear and scarcity. We see that already with so many concerned about “terrifying” futures AI, alone, portends.

If, however, we cultivate inner worthiness, AI becomes a tool for species upliftment. Instead of the source of scary scenarios. Seba agrees, as you’ll see.

What Stellar Means—and Why Spirit Matters

Stellar systems require sunlight and are self perpetuating. Such systems depend on no ongoing extraction. A society based on such systems produces extreme abundance that eventually replaces scarcity and limitation.

This matters deeply for spiritual alignment. If you feel worthy, you trust the unfolding. The natural abundance of the Universe becomes your reality. That abundance then becomes perpetual. You don’t grasp — you let go. You don’t combat — you align. Limits then are dissolved as are the distorted beliefs they represent.

Seba and Arbib describe how familiar systems collapse when new ones emerge: “We’re not building the butterfly,” They say. “We’re sticking wings on the caterpillar”. The extractive order built our current existential structures. These structures are hierarchical, competitive and scarcity‑based.

Such structures were necessary. After all, they have benefitted humanity tremendously. Now, however, it’s time we expand beyond them. That’s what All That Is is offering. And it’s offering that in response to our asking. In other words, we are the creators. We’re living into our creation. Stellar civilizations are that creation.

Breaking free from the old, extractive order requires spiritual evolution. An evolution matching the emerging technological evolution. In other words: if we don’t evolve being, abundance can collapse us into old fears.

A Stable Foundation

Consider the alternative: AI and robotics improve ten‑fold every year, humanoid robots operational costs approach $0.10/hour by 2045. These are not isolated systems. Nor are these figures are not fantasies. Instead, they are curves coming into synch with what is our future. Yet without spiritual alignment, these innovations will amplify inequality, loneliness, or even create weaponized versions of themselves. That’s because these technologies are mirrors of our collective inner state.

And if you observe humanity, you’ll find evidence of what that inner state contains. It contains a lot. A lot of good stuff. And a lot of not so much good stuff. We could argue that there’s more not-good-stuff in that container. But if that were true, humanity would have ended itself long ago. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of not-good-stuff in there. There is. But the ratio of influence between positive vibrations and not-positive ones is not 1:1. It’s more like 1 × 1⁰¹⁵ : 1.

That’s not an exaggeration.

This influence disparity ratio explains why human civilization continues to thrive, often despite itself. It’s literally a three-steps-forward, two-steps-back endeavor, netting one step forward. That’s something I’ll write more about in the future. Our rather lacking spiritual maturity perpetuates slow progress. That’s why inequality, war and other unwanted situations still exist.

By contrast, spiritual maturity—worthiness grounded in recognizing inner evidence of universal love and supply—creates a stable foundation. In worthiness, we welcome AI as an expression of All That Is. We let the Universe serve us. Fear doesn’t drive us. In worthiness, we understand that reality is vibrational, not transactional. We see that abundance in the outer world simply reflects the alignment and plenty of the inner world. And from there, we realize the ways we’ve run our societies are not universal constants.

That means we can embrace them changing. Changing for the better. For the better for all.

Why This Moment Is a Spiritual Opportunity

We may be experiencing the fastest, deepest transformation of civilization ever. Indeed the pace is faster than the agricultural and industrial eras combined, according to some. But these “stellar” possibilities won’t be guaranteed for all. Not unless we make choices that move us towards inclusion. And since the abundance on the horizon is virtually unlimited, for all practical purposes, why not include everyone?

If we stay in scarcity narratives and old patterns, AI becomes extractive. If we align, we step into co‑creation of super abundance. And that requires worthiness. Worthiness allows us the possibility that another’s gain is our gain. That’s not naïve—it’s necessary. It’s also a universal constant.

Tony Seba urges: “Protect people, not jobs, firms, or industries”. That’s a spiritual statement. It says: no matter what changes externally, every human being is sacred and unreplaceable. AI isn’t about replacing us. Instead, it’s about liberating us. Liberating us from our spiritual immaturity. Liberating us so we can create in ways that matter. And in creating those ways liberate others.

Alignment is the throughline of the Positively Focused practice. It means we recognize manifestations—like receiving $10K no strings attached, or a miraculous synchronicity— as important. We see them as confirmations that the Universe loves us. Not as isolated, random coincidence.

What Alignment Looks Like in Practice

When we collect these manifestations, we do more than that. We also remember how they happened. Further, we recognize their synchronistic nature. These aren’t coincidences. They are the Universe’s blessings. Those blessings are bestowed upon us because we’re inherently deserving of them. Unless we block them through our resistance.

When we release the resistance, however, we begin filling a basket that, once filled, something notable happens. We realize the Universe loves us. From there, worthiness happens naturally. Worthiness can’t be conjured. It emerges on its own once we realize the unlimited number of ways universal blessings fill and shape our lives.

Again, our worthiness basket is filled through noticing small and large manifestations. A closed client becoming open again, for example. Or seemingly random events happening like animals rendezvousing with us. Keeping tabs on this evidence creates trust in the unfolding. Trust emerges naturally when we see the performance of something we want to trust being consistent in its performance. This is why assembling the worthiness basket is important. The basket fosters trust. Worthiness then, is the next natural evolution of that trust.

In a stellar future, the external syntax changes—AI writes code, robots automate logistics, solar delivers free electricity. But the internal syntax remains the same. We remain at the mercy of distorted beliefs. Or we choose sovereignty. In sovereignty, one asks: Is this expansion aligned with my spiritual trajectory? In distortion, one says: this future is terrifying we must protect ourselves from it.

Spiritual Alignment and Conscious Surrender

Stellar civilizations aren’t just about self‑sustaining systems. They’re also about self‑sustaining spiritual systems. They’re about inner clarity, worthiness, spiritual sovereignty. They encourage a process in the individual. When spirit and AI converge, we are invited into vocation, not occupation. Into radiance, not resistance.

We may not need to build regulatory structures for AI. Not if we’ve already built them in our hearts. Nor need we fear disruption if we’re aligned with being rather than becoming. The choice is ours. We can ride the phase‑change disruption or be worn by it. In a stellar paradigm, the choice is always ours. That choice happens through spiritual alignment and conscious surrender.

This is the most beautiful invitation of this moment: to align worthiness and wonder with technological possibility. That offers an incredible future. One in which we become so vibrationally radiant that AI is just another expression of All That Is supporting our highest expansion.

Stellar civilizations, as Seba puts it, requires “Stellar Humans,” people who rise above distorted beliefs that have them feeling insecure, competitive and limited. We can’t have one without the other. Stellar humans inhabit stellar civilizations.

So the question, then, is: are you becoming stellar?

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The Real Reason You’re Still Not Feeling Better

TL;DR: In this, Part Three of the Four-Part series about Steven losing his keys, the author shares how they guided Steven through the emotional fallout of losing his keys. Doing so helped Steven discover that the contrast revealed his readiness—and how realignment begins when we stop performing and start feeling the process.

Steven sat across from me in-session online, his voice quiet, his energy low. I knew immediately he was in a very low vibrational state. The emotional turbulence of the past week lingered: the lost keys, his boss’s reaction, and most importantly, the stories he had been telling himself had him really low.

What made this session particularly rich was what it revealed—not just about Steven, but about how deep this practice really goes when applied in the midst of real-world contrast.

The session became a masterclass in vibrational leverage. Not because it resolved everything in a single sitting, or because I did anything special. It was a masterclass because it revealed how even seasoned practitioners can get caught in the swirl of their own stories… and how beautiful it is when they begin to emerge from that swirl.

Steven tried to apply one of the foundational Positively Focused processes. The process works every time, which is why it’s part of the basic practice framework. He tried applying it on his own. And to his credit, he didn’t just mentally revisit the steps. He truly attempted to walk himself through acknowledgment, acceptance, recognizing what his experience told him, and finally, amplification of the shift that happens naturally in step three.

Something wasn’t landing, however.

When the Practice Is Real

He described how he had tried to say the words aloud, to walk through the steps and feel some relief.

“I did the process,” he said. “But it didn’t really shift anything.”

But the practice does create a shift. So we had to troubleshoot. That’s when we uncovered the subtle but crucial gap: he had performed the process mechanically, without the presence that makes it effective.

That’s not uncommon. When the contrast is hot—when keys are missing, a boss is disappointed, and inner narratives are spiraling—it’s easy to rush the process instead of resting in it. That’s what Steven had done. He didn’t skip the steps, but he skipped over the alignment that makes them work.

So we slowed everything down. Together, we walked back through each stage—not as a checklist, but as a vibrational recalibration.

We began at the beginning: acknowledgment. That meant naming all the stories that were active in Steven’s consciousness giving rise to his negative emotions. The process is not about acknowledging them as facts, or the truth. It’s about acknowledging their presence within him. Stories like: “If I lose something, I’m irresponsible.” “I can’t be trusted.” And “Now I’ve ruined my chances at a promotion.”

Coming into acceptance

These weren’t new beliefs. They were old ones. Echoes of childhood moments, especially those involving his mother, where he felt criticized or held to unexpressed standards. His current boss, Richard, had become a mirror. Not because Richard was behaving badly, but because Steven’s vibration had summoned a version of him that matched old patterns.

This wasn’t failure. This was graduation.

The contrast had intensified not because Steven was off-track, but because he was ready to move beyond these stories he created long ago. As I reminded him gently, “You wouldn’t be experiencing this level of contrast if you weren’t ready for it.”

The next step was accepting the beliefs are there. This second step is different from the first. It’s about letting go of resistance and instead welcoming the old beliefs back into us. Resisting, not accepting a belief is what creates resistance. And resistance amplifies that which we resist. For Steven, this wasn’t about accepting fault, accepting fault would amplify resistance. That’s because there’s no such thing as blame or fault. Instead, he needed to accept what was.

Acceptance is not about blame.

What “was” was, He didn’t have his keys. His boss was disappointed. His momentum had taken him into a tailspin. But none of that was wrong. Thinking it wrong creates resistance. These things are simply what had occurred. By making peace with the moment—not as a judgment, but as a reflection—Steven began to find his footing.

Only then could we move to Step Three, the vibrational pivot.

Amplifying higher vibrations.

Here, I asked Steven to consider what his Broader Perspective was feeling. Was it shaming him? No. Was it blaming him? Certainly not. His Broader Perspective was seeing the wholeness of the moment. The opportunity. The expansion. A perfection so exquisite, created between him and his reflected reality. A perfection that could lead to more empowerment.

Steven’s eyes welled up when he saw that.

“I’ve been so afraid I ruined everything,” he said, voice quiet. “But now I get it. This isn’t about the keys.”

No, it wasn’t. It was about more alignment, expansion and empowerment. That clarity of awareness indicated Steve felt better. At least, at the very least, he felt relief, which is improved vibration. Now we entered the amplification phase.

This part isn’t about affirmations or hype. It’s about tuning in to the new emotional frequency and letting it fill the space. We do that through our imagination. We use our imagination to create new beliefs, new thoughts about what happened that stand in for old ones as the old ones soothe.

For Steven, that meant resting in a new truth: That he is not defined by mistakes. Trustworthiness isn’t earned—it’s embodied. That this moment, painful as it seemed, was sacred.

By the end of the session, Steven felt significantly better. The relief wasn’t euphoric, but it was stabilizing. He still wasn’t sure how things would unfold at work the next day. He still had concerns about how Richard would treat him. But he was no longer a victim of that perceived uncertainty.

He was still floating, still alive. He had reclaimed his oars. And from that place, even uncertain waters felt navigable.

Takeaway: Mastery Isn’t About Avoiding Contrast

The Four-Step Process outlined above doesn’t promise immediate resolution to external conditions. This is not magic. Neither is the rest of the Positively Focused framework. But it does offer something better: vibrational clarity and alignment with one’s Broader Perspective. And clarity is what allows new versions of reality to emerge.

New versions emerge as we walk into them. We can’t walk into them, however, if we don’t know where they are. Alignment with our Broader Perspective shows us where the doorways are and inspires us to walk through them into the new reality.

Steven hadn’t yet found his keys. He didn’t know what would happen tomorrow. But he was no longer at the mercy of momentum. He had re-entered his power—not as a performer or pleaser, but as a conscious creator. Contrast didn’t defeat him. It refined him. And in that, he was already victorious.

Read the final chapter tomorrow.

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When “Healing” Doesn’t Help: A New Path Forward

TL;DR: This reflective post explores a real-life interaction highlighting the limits of “healing” narratives. It illustrates how emotional contrast serves expansion through vibrational clarity, not trauma recovery.

There’s a common belief in many spiritual and New Age communities that emotional wounds must be healed, processed, and purged before one can move forward. The language of trauma, shadow work, and inner child healing often dominates these spaces. And while those interpretations can offer temporary comfort or a sense of meaning, from a Positively Focused perspective, none of them are necessary. In fact, they often reinforce the very frequency that keeps people locked in painful cycles.

This is the story of “Kellie”—a woman I met synchronistically—and how her journey with me became a living example of the difference between those two worldviews.

The Meeting: A Manifestation

We met at Gigi’s, a charming breakfast spot. I had gone there with the intention of having a joyful experience, maybe even meeting someone stimulating.

That’s exactly what happened. Kellie appeared as a delightful new acquaintance. We sparked a conversation rooted in spiritual curiosity. She shared her journey: a former software engineer with time spent in well-known software engineering corporations, now in a transitional space after escaping both high-tech burnout and a controlling Christian cult. Kellie was recalibrating her life.

She shared that she was deeply spiritual—into lucid dreaming, astrology, and alternate timeline work. We began spending time together casually, often sharing perspectives on spiritual topics. From the start, I recognized her as a manifestation. That’s why I never felt resistance to our dynamic. But I also never mistook her for a client. So I didn’t share the full depth of being Positively Focused.

Over time, however, I noticed a pattern. On at least three occasions, Kellie had intense negative emotional experience while in my presence. Something would trigger her—a memory, a comment, or even an impulse—and she would spiral. Each time, our conversation had to end because she was inconsolable.

Still, I stayed open. I saw her emotional responses not as problems, but as data. Kellie was calibrating. Just not consciously.

Better timelines?

Then, during one of our coffee shop conversations, she brought up her ability to perceive timelines. She always spoke of them as dark or painful, especially those involving her mother.

So I asked a simple, high-vibration question: If you can perceive other timelines, why are the ones you access always negative? What if there are joyful timelines you could feel into? Ones where your mother loved you well, or where your tech career was fulfilling?

That question opened the door.

Later, Sarah texted me, thanking me for what I shared. She said it helped her remember that she could access positive timelines too. That she was on a grand adventure.

I responded, offering a broader perspective: that nothing comes “unbidden”, that her Belief Momentum instead was drawing specific versions of reality to her, and that cleaning up those beliefs would align her with timelines she prefers. I even gently suggested her distrust of corporations might be limiting her.

I added that her beliefs about being “banned” from ChatGPT (which she had shared with me) might also be evidence of her vibrational focus. Maybe her beliefs about malevolent systems were recreating experiences that seemed like censorship or exclusion I told her.

I offered this not as critique, but as a mirror. From a high vibration. She had asked for my insight after all. So I gave it.

The Reaction

Days later, she wrote back, saying my message hit like a “gut punch”. It exposed a “gaping wound” Kellie said. She thanked me, but also said she needed several days to recover. She interpreted what I said as harsh, even though she acknowledged it came from love.

She said she was still processing and needed compassion. That she felt blocked from experiencing more positive timelines, and maybe that blockage was necessary for her growth. Kellie even said the more Positively Focused timelines were “blocked” by design.

Recognizing Kellie wasn’t in a good place, I offered what I knew before hand, but didn’t heed, that the accuracy of my client framework can be hard to hear if the listener doesn’t have some context to receive it in:

Then I sought clarification. Some of what she said perplexed me:

Kellie responded saying she felt attacked. Then corrected herself: she now saw that wasn’t true. Still, she said, she didn’t want to pursue the conversation further.

From the Positively Focused Perspective

This exchange clarified something I already knew: what I offer is sacred. And it’s best offered within the container of client relationships. Because unless someone has done some calibrating, the perspective I bring can feel destabilizing.

Kellie’s response reflects a common misunderstanding: the belief that there are emotional “wounds” which must be “healed”. That someone else can “expose” those wounds. That life happens to us, and we must recover from it. But from a Positively Focused perspective, there are no “wounds”. There is only vibrational momentum.

What feels like a wound is just the contrast between a deeply practiced belief and the perspective of our Inner Being. The bigger the contrast between those two, the more it hurts. But that pain isn’t an indication that something went wrong. It’s evidence that something is ready to change.

What’s more, the idea that we need to “heal” implies something is broken. That something bad happened that we didn’t ask for. It implies that we are victims of circumstance. But that’s never the case.

Everything that happens is an answer to our vibration. And every experience—even the painful ones—are invitations…into greater clarity, alignment, and freedom. That’s why I never use the language of “healing” or “wounding.” Such language disempowers. It locks people into a linear process of “recovery” rather than an expansive, upward spiral, quantum path of calibration.

Kellie wasn’t wounded. She was experiencing the emotional signal of Belief Momentum that no longer serves her. But she can’t hear that.

What She Reflected Back to Me

I’m grateful to Kellie. She reminded me that Positively Focused isn’t for everyone. It requires readiness, willingness and devotion. It definitely demands a certain level of vibrational stability.

Kellie also showed me how easy it is to interpret feedback through the lens of pain. Her belief that I “attacked” her wasn’t about me. It was about how her Belief Momentum filtered my words.

I honor that. But I don’t take it on.

Instead, I use it as a reminder that the practice I offer works best when someone is asking, deliberately and consistently, for what I offer.

After our final exchange, I sent her a message of closure. One rooted in appreciation, clarity, and forward movement. Here it is:

Final Thoughts

Not everyone is a client. And not every spiritual “seeker” is ready to release the “wound/healing” paradigm and become a “finder”. That’s ok. But I’ll continue to offer what I offer: a path of deliberate, joyful calibration, where nothing is broken, nothing went wrong, and everything—yes, even ChatGPT bans and gut punches—is an invitation.

To those ready to live from that knowing, I say: welcome home.

There’s so much joy in the world. There’s so much joy in our lives. And there’s so much joy in us. Tapping into that joy can be exhilarating and leads to a tremendous sense of worthiness. It’s exhilarating and addictive: once someone discovers Positively Focused as a way of being, they hardly ever go back to living they way they did before.

That’s because everyone’s Broader Perspective wants them to embody, live and express that joy. Some, however, aren’t ready for that. Some still must move through disempowering momentum. That’s ok too. I’m happy with the world as it is. And, I’m joyful for those who encounter Positively Focused, then become clients.

It’s so fun being Positively Focused. But it’s even funner when like-minded others join in on that fun.

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Why Younger Leaders Make the Best Alignment Teachers

TL;DR: In this, Part 4, of a six-part series, the author shares how client Sally turned a firing into confirmation from the Universe, demonstrating the clarity and leadership that emerge when younger generations align with their broader perspective.

When I got on the call with Sally that evening, I wasn’t worried. I knew what kind of vibrational environment we had built together. But still—when I heard her voice, I felt deep satisfaction. She was calm. Clear. Even… radiant.

Sally had just been fired. But instead of spiraling, she immediately started receiving. A text from a woman she respected—her dance instructor—landed just minutes after the call. “You’re such a light,” it read. “I’m so glad to call you my friend.” Sally was floored. The timing was divine. And the message? Unmistakable.

Then, in the elevator of her building, a stranger looked at her with admiration and offered a spontaneous compliment on her beauty. Another confirmation. Another wink from the Universe.

None of this was coincidence. This was the Universe showing her: “You’re okay. In fact, you’re better than okay.”

A practice that delivers

I’ve long said younger generations are not here to be taught—they’re here to teach. Sally is at least 12 years younger than Jane, and that’s no accident. She’s fluid, adaptable, and, because she’s younger, less burdened by societal conditioning. A lot of Jane’s resistance comes from just having lived longer. Sally, on the other hand, flows easily with energy. It’s not that Jane is “wrong.” She’s just older. She’s here to build a foundation. Sally? She’s here to leap from it.

Let’s be clear: Sally still struggles with her own resistance. She’s getting better at that struggle every week, however. That’s because Sally is devoted to this practice. When I told Sally this, she smiled. She got it instantly. Not intellectually, but vibrationally. She felt the truth of her place in this unfolding.

Then Sally did something most people wouldn’t.

She said: “I want to continue the Positively Focused practice. Even if I have to pay for it myself. Are you willing?” Are you kidding me? Of course, I’m willing I told her. This is a woman who had just lost her job. But instead of retreating, she expanded. Instead of pulling back, she leaned in. That’s sovereignty.

And here’s the part that gives me chills because it shows how devoted she is to this practice: Sally had already dropped her therapist a few weeks earlier. Not because of dissatisfaction, but because the Positively Focused framework, she said, works better for her. She wanted deeper alignment, not traditional analysis. And now? The practice had proven itself in the real world. In the sharp contrast of a termination, it had delivered peace, clarity, and confirmation.

Leaping Into Her Own Leadership

Nearly all my clients create similar results for themselves. That includes Jane. After all, Jane was the client who manifested a diamond. And all my clients who once had therapists agree: Therapy just can’t match alignment to All That Is. That alignment not only is the leverage everyone’s looking for. It also feels tremendously good. And how could it not? It taps us into our sovereignty. There’s no better feeling than that. No healing required. Just clarity.

With her job at Jane’s company winding down, Sally saw what I had always seen: she’s not meant to be an employee. She’s meant to lead. To create in her unique way. To bring talents to the world no one has seen before.

And now, she’s getting ready to do it. She doesn’t see that potential fully enough to embrace it. But everyone is expanding. Everyone’s also eternal. So there’s no rush to get it all done right now. We couldn’t even if we wanted to.

I’m positive she’ll use the practice as her compass. I’ll be there as her coach as well. And the Universe? The Universe is already clearing the path.

Two more fabulous installments to this story that delivered manifestation after manifestation. We’ll resume with those last two installments beginning this Wednesday.

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How One Powerful Intention Brought a Beautiful Stranger Back

TL;DR: The author shares a real-life manifestation story showing how a light, trusting intention led to a wonderful reunion — proving once again that alignment, not effort, is the secret to beautiful results.

There’s tremendous power in lining up with how reality works. Especially when it comes to creating outcomes we want. This power causes trying to “make it happen” to pale in comparison. Indeed, all my clients who have experienced this say that creating what they want is far, far, far more satisfying than trying to “make it happen” through doing.

But it takes trust to rely on BEING as a way to have what we want. Trust comes from repeated evidence demonstrated over time. Evidence proving process you’re wanting to trust is trust-worthy. That’s why the Positively Focused practice is a practice. Yes, it’s difficult at first, as is learning anything new. But the other, more important reason for the practice is people need to build trust in their being. That comes from assembling a body of evidence proving their being is worthy of their trust.

What happened in my life over the last six months is yet another piece of evidence fortifying my trust in everything I share. What happened isn’t so special. These kinds of things happen for me all the time these days. But the way in which it happened is special. That’s because, as I just shared, it’s one more weight tipping the scale towards my knowing that reality, or Wake-Scape, bends to our intention set in our Reality of Origin through the Moment Of Becoming.

Let’s look at this wonderful manifestation in which I created a rendezvous with a beautiful stranger I met months before.

It begins

I didn’t realize it six months ago, but what unfolded since then became a perfect, living example of the Positively Focused practice — the kind of story I tell my clients to help them see how Wake Scape really works when we align into our Moment of Becoming and follow our Broader Perspective‘s impulses.

There’s a burger joint I used to frequent. It wasn’t the food that drew me in week after week — though I’m not going to say no to a good burger. No, what kept pulling me in was a trans woman who worked there. She was stunning. Magnetic. The first time she brought my food out to me, she took my breath away.

From that moment on, I was hooked. Not in a desperate way. But I was definitely showing up more frequently at this burger place and not just for the burgers and tater tots. Every week I’d head over, sit at the bar, and simply…watch. Watch her move, cook, smile.

We never spoke. I never approached her. But I knew she knew I was looking. And yet something in me respected the sacred space of her workplace. I didn’t force an introduction.

Weeks passed. Maybe two months. Then one day, she wasn’t there.

The next week? Still no sign of her.

And just like that, she was gone. I realized she no longer worked there. And that felt like a door closing — one I hadn’t even walked through. I never got her name. Never had a chance to chat her up or even say hello.

But here’s where the manifestation began.

“Go for a walk”

I remember thinking: “I’m going to see her again.”

And that’s all. No trying. No scheming. I didn’t launch a search party or dig around online. I just felt the desire, set it down gently in the space of my Reality of Origin, and let it go. Letting it go was easy because I knew my Broader Perspective and All That Is was on it. So I didn’t need to be. My Broader Perspective received my intention to see her again. It would therefore orchestrate events so that that would happen.

I went on with life. No resistance. No need to control it. Just trust.

Fast forward to a day in late May. I woke up to an impulse. One of those quiet nudges from my Broader Perspective — ones I’ve learned to listen to without questioning. It was already 70° outside and heading toward 85°. The nudge was simple: go for a walk.

So I did. I didn’t even think twice. After dressing I headed out into the warm morning air. I walked over to the community center where I workout and ended up having a lovely 10-minute conversation with a man I know named Apollo. And yes — he looks like an Apollo.

We caught up, shared some laughs, then parted ways. I continued walking. About ¾ of the way through my route, far from the burger joint, I came upon a breakfast place. And who do you think was sitting at an outside table?

That’s right. Her.

The trans woman from the burger place. Just…sitting there. Radiant as ever.

The rendezvous was very much exactly like this!

Let that sink in

My heart did a little flip. I knew this was the moment I’d asked for. My intention, dropped in months ago, had landed. And now it was right in front of me, delivered right through the Moment of Becoming into my Present Moment, my collection of manifestations.

At first, I hesitated. I felt a flicker of embarrassment — should I approach her? What if it’s awkward? But I’ve trained myself to move beyond those thoughts. I knew this was an invitation from the All That Is, perfectly timed and lovingly orchestrated.

After screwing up some gumption, I walked over, pulled out the chair across from her and sat down. She smiled and opened a conversation. A conversation that was delightful.

Her name is Bryn. She told me she left the burger joint because the management had done something unethical. She now works for the post office — and here’s the kicker: the branch she works at is less than half a mile from my home.

Not only that, she knows my next-door neighbor, who also is a letter carrier, and works with him at that very branch.

Now let that sink in.

A woman I admired from afar disappeared. Then reappeared — not just randomly, but in my neighborhood, woven into my everyday reality, my Present Moment. Not by accident. But through my alignment. No effort. No trying to make it happen.

This is what manifestation really looks like.

What we want will show up

It’s not about forcing. Nor is it about chasing. It’s about being — being in alignment with what we want, then letting the Universe do the rest.

I didn’t “make” this happen. There was no manipulation of events or trying to control outcomes. I simply followed joy, listened to the impulses, followed the nudge. And that nudge took me exactly where I needed to be, exactly when I needed to be there.

That’s the magic of this practice. But it’s not magic. It’s knowing what we really are, then living from that clarity.

Set our intention. Don’t worry about how. Don’t worry about when. Let everything go. Keep our vibration clear, our heart open, and our life in flow. And when the time is right, what we want will show up — often in ways more satisfying and more elegantly than we could ever plan.

Meeting Bryn again wasn’t just a sweet surprise. It was a confirmation. The Universe confirmed what I trust in: that I don’t need to hustle my way into getting what I want. I just need to listen, trust, allow then act when the impulse comes.

Next time that quiet desire arises — the kind that tugs at the heart without demanding attention — trust that it’s heard. Trust that it’s in motion. And trust that staying in joy will bring what you want faster than your action.

Just like Bryn came to me. And when it does, it will feel easy. Effortless. Natural.
Like walking outside on a sunny morning…And finding exactly what you wanted.

Want help with learning how? Book a free session. Let’s get you started.

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How To Make The World Better–Through Belief Alone

TL;DR: The author reflects further on a striking encounter with a friend to illustrate how beliefs shape physical reality, showing that inner alignment—not outer conditions—determines the world we each experience.

In my last post, I shared a 24-hour journey from negative momentum to alignment, sparked by a conversation with my friend, Mark. It was a powerful moment of returning to my sovereignty, which you can read here.

But there’s a deeper thread that continued to unfold—the stark difference between my reality and Mark’s, even though we live in the same city. That contrast revealed something remarkable.

It’s often said that “we see what we want to see.” But what if it’s even deeper than that? What if we don’t just see through the lens of our beliefs… we live through them? What if every detail of our physical experience—what happens to us, what we witness, what we remember—is shaped not by the world “out there” but by the vibration we’re broadcasting?

Mark and I both live in Portland, Oregon. I live near downtown; Mark lives in the suburbs. Last Thursday, during lunch, Mark described two recent events that deeply disturbed him. Both happened downtown. Both involved violence. And both served, for him, as evidence of the country’s collapse.

Let’s take a look at them.

Chaos, danger and decline

In the first incident, Mark tried to visit the main branch of the Multnomah County Library around 9 a.m. only to find it closed. He immediately linked this to Trump-era budget cuts. Later that day, when he returned to the library around noon, the building had been cordoned off by police. A shooting had occurred on the steps.

But here’s the thing: the library wasn’t closed due to budget cuts. Multnomah County Library standardized hours in December 2024 to offer a balance of morning and evening access. Now, the downtown branch opens at noon on Tuesdays and Wednesdays to accommodate both working people and families. It’s about consistency and predictability for patrons—not politics or scarcity.

Still, Mark filtered the change through his vibrational lens. Saturated in narratives of political and social decay, he couldn’t help but interpret it as another sign of America’s downfall. His thoughts and beliefs tuned him to a version of Portland filled with chaos, danger, and decline. And that’s exactly what he found.

The second incident, which happened earlier, involved a gathering of unhoused individuals. An argument broke out, and Mark watched one person knock another to the ground and begin kicking them. Again, he took this as evidence that America—and particularly Portland—was unraveling.

Meanwhile, I’ve cultivated a completely different vibrational lens.

Vibrational Contagion Works

When I walk through Portland, people smile at me. I’m greeted warmly by strangers. I get compliments from passersby. Even unhoused people feel like part of the landscape, not a threat. I’ve held the belief that they’re harmless, and so they are. Recently, while dining out, a staff member passed by me and said, “You’re really good-looking.” I agreed. I know I look good because I feel good. I vibrate at a high frequency.

That’s not vanity. That’s alignment.

Last Thursday, Mark suggested I move to a country like Vietnam or Thailand, where my Social Security income along with my client revenue might stretch further. In his view, the U.S. is on a downward spiral. But I’ve recently manifested an affordable housing opportunity right here in Portland—Albina One—that feels like a perfect vibrational match for me at this moment. I’ve also received powerful dream downloads encouraging me to relaunch my YouTube channel.

The world around us reflects our vibration. Make it a beautiful one.

None of that came up during our lunch. Why? Because I collapsed into Mark’s Belief Momentum. I saw what Mark saw: limitation. Diminished possibility. Fearful retreat.
That’s how quickly—and how powerfully—vibrational contagion works.

And when I collapsed, my vibrational lens changed. I actually considered leaving the country. I saw my future as limited, uncertain, bleak. That’s the power of alignment—whatever you align to, you see. I literally forgot all the incredible manifestations that had recently unfolded for me. Manifestations telling me my future is secure. Right here in the US.

When the Universe responds to our vibration, it doesn’t respond to the “truth.” It responds to belief. And then it produces what looks like truth—but it’s actually confirmation. That’s the kicker: What we think is “objective reality” is just our vibration made visible.

How We Change…Everything

But the beauty of this practice is, I noticed it. I caught the momentum then paused. I didn’t push forward from that lower vibration. Instead, I tuned inward. Then I shared my experience with my clients to demonstrate how even I, a seasoned practitioner, moved through contrast. I also did it to amplify my clarity.

And when I returned to alignment, everything came back into focus.

This is why Mark’s experiences and mine differ so radically—even when we occupy the same town. It’s why he was moved to suggest I leave the country… while I’m actively manifesting a bright, abundant future right here in Portland.

It’s why, when I aligned again with my Broader Perspective, I remembered the truth of my trajectory — my dream-driven YouTube guidance, my apartment, my unfolding financial stability. And it’s why, when I re-centered myself the next day, using my Positively Focused practice, I felt radiant again. Because I stopped interpreting life through his lens, and returned to my own. That’s how powerful this is.

This experience reaffirmed what I know to be true: our reality is not “out there”. It’s in here, in us all. Our thoughts, our beliefs, our vibration filter All That Is into the only version of reality we can see.

We don’t have to leave our country to find peace. Nor do we have to move to a different economy to feel secure. We just have to shift the signal we’re broadcasting—and then our world shifts around us. This isn’t theory. It’s not metaphor. It’s real.

I’m living proof.

Mark’s Portland is violent, failing, and hopeless. My Portland is promising, vibrant, and full of connection. Same city. Two worlds. Each perfectly matching our internal state.

But this isn’t just about Portland. It’s about how we each create our own external reality from the reality that is in us. Once we realize that, we stop trying to fix external reality. Instead we start tuning our vibration. Because that’s where our power lives.

And from there, everything changes.

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How To Make Life Better by Embracing Negative Emotion

TL;DR: The author recounts how, after collapsing into a friend’s negative momentum, they used the Positively Focused practice to reclaim clarity, joy, and purpose—demonstrating mastery in action and the power of emotional awareness.

It’s easy to feel aligned when everything is going well. But the real mastery — the transformation we’re all here for — shows up in moments of contrast. Moments like the one I experienced this past Thursday.

Let’s look at what happened.

It began with lunch. Just a simple Thai lunch with my best friend of nearly 25 years. We talked about life, the world, our perspectives. My friend—Mark—is deeply immersed in political news right now, particularly about Donald Trump’s return to the U.S. political stage. His views are firmly planted in a narrative of outrage, urgency, and fear. And the media outlets he follows only amplify those emotions.

Like many people, Mark consumes news that reflects his internal state. And during our lunch, that energy was present, heavy, and contagious. That’s when he made a suggestion: maybe I should consider leaving the U.S. entirely. Maybe I’d be better off in an emerging economy—Thailand, Vietnam—where my upcoming Social Security checks might stretch further. From Mark’s perspective, that was a helpful suggestion.

But energetically, it landed in me like a quiet collapse.

Pausing for space and clarity

I didn’t realize it in the moment, but I had tuned into his lens — his vibrational frequency of scarcity, of distrust in institutions, of resignation about the future. And for a few hours after that lunch, I found myself spiraling into thoughts of limitation. I forgot about my recent manifestation of Albina One — an affordable, beautiful apartment I’ll likely move into soon. I forgot about the clear, inspired “itinerary” I had received in dream state to refresh my Positively Focused YouTube channel. I forgot the joy I’d felt envisioning a future of creative expression and ease.

That’s what negative momentum does. It clouds, contracts. It narrows our vision until all we see are limitations.

Later that afternoon, I asked my AI partner, Sohl, about the number of subscribers I’d need to generate $60,000 per year from my YouTube content. We had a useful conversation — but from my diminished vibrational state, the insights felt disheartening. Not because they were discouraging in truth, but because I filtered them through doubt.

What’s really interesting about that conversation was, had I stood in a higher vibration, asking that question wouldn’t have occurred to me. I usually live in the Moment of Becoming. There, it doesn’t matter what others have done. It doesn’t matter what the odds or the statistics are. There, I create wholly new.

I wasn’t in my typical high vibration, however, which is why that question popped into my awareness. Thankfully, I’ve been doing this practice long enough to recognize that pattern.

The next morning, instead of pushing through, I paused. I gave myself space. Instead of taking action, I reached for alignment.

Appreciating resistance is key

That’s when I wrote a post in my Positively Focused Advanced Practitioner Facebook group—sharing my experience with doubt and how I was working through it in real time. In that post, I wrote:

“This resistance, therefore, is a good thing. It’s a launching pad—rocket fuel—for launching into the probable future reality wherein lies my desire fulfilled.”

I wasn’t bypassing the emotion. I was honoring it. I was interpreting it through the lens of my Broader Perspective. And as I did so, the cloud began to lift, allowing me to remember:

  • That this desire to refresh my YouTube channel was an inspired download from dreamstate.
  • That my Broader Perspective doesn’t hand me an itinerary unless I’m vibrationally ready to fulfill it.
  • That the old beliefs being triggered—stories about deservingness, effort, and money—are part of the ascension spiral, not indicators of failure.
  • And that action taken from misalignment only perpetuates the misalignment.

So I didn’t buy the $400 microphone I had planned to. I didn’t work on new videos. I stayed still. I soothed. I aligned. And I celebrated the shift.

“I feel so much better!” I wrote in my group post. “I appreciate my desire and, most importantly I appreciate my resistance!”

Empowerment results from embracing what we typically experience as contrast.

Whatever we look for…

That’s the real turning point. When resistance is no longer the enemy. When we see it as a clarifying signal. A breadcrumb on the trail to our next expansion.

This moment, simple as it may seem, wasn’t just about a mood swing. It was a powerful reminder of the Universal mechanics of creation:

  • If we’re not deliberate, we collapse into the momentum of others
  • We interpret our present through the lens of that momentum.
  • But by noticing the dip and honoring it, we gain back our power.
  • And when we return to alignment, we remember everything is unfolding for us.

In fact, one of the most profound teachings I share with my clients is this: “Whatever we look for in life, that’s what we’re going to see. So why not look for the positive aspects?”

[Note: In case you’re interested in the entire process I used and posted in the private Facebook group, I’ve added it as a screenshot at the end of this story.]

Mastery Looks Like This

Looking for the positive aspects what I’m doing right now with this very story. It’s what I did in the process I described above and shared in the Facebook group. What I’m doing is looking again through my own lens. And what I see is beautiful:

  • I see an inspired YouTube journey ahead, one perfectly timed to my expansion.
  • I see housing security, financial stability, and creative joy lining up around me.
  • In my world, I see my community growing, my desires manifesting, and my trust deepening.
  • And I see contrast serving me, not derailing me.

This is what mastery looks like. It’s not the absence of contrast — it’s the response to it. And it’s available to everyone.

We don’t have to be spiritual teachers to live this way. We don’t need perfect thoughts, perfect circumstances, or perfect execution. All we need is willingness. Presence. And a relationship with our Inner Being.

When you tune into that relationship — when you listen, soften, and mean it — everything else comes.

That’s why I share these moments. Not because I want to showcase perfection. But because I want to demonstrate devotion. I want to offer living evidence of what’s possible when we trust the unfolding.

So if you’re feeling off… pause.

Don’t act from it. Don’t resist it. Let it be. Let it speak. And then, when you’re ready, let yourself rise. That’s what I did. And that’s why today feels light, clear, and deeply aligned.

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How To Make Money And Easily Serve Your Customers

TL;DR: Debra’s $10K breakthrough wasn’t about building a website—it was about rewriting beliefs. Discover how letting go of hustle unlocked her worthiness and aligned her with true abundance.

It’s been a crazy good week for nearly every Positively Focused client. My week has been the same. I want to share all that happened, but there’s so much, I don’t think I can get it all in before next week comes.

So let’s start with this wonderful realization one client had around a new customer she got. I think it’s an experience everyone can relate to. Most people believe you have to work hard to earn money. And for this one client, Debra, that belief showed up loud and clear—just as she was about to receive a $10,000 payment.

Debra is a talented entrepreneur who recently signed a client for a $10,000 website build. The client was eager, ready, and willing to pay. The project would meet all their needs, and Debra already knew the simplest, most elegant way to deliver: by using Squarespace. But instead of feeling excited, Debra was feeling something else entirely—stress, guilt, and resistance.

“I’m feeling this anxiety,” she said in our session. “Like, this shouldn’t be so easy. I should be doing more for $10,000.”

That thought—so familiar to so many—was rooted in a powerful, deeply held belief: that money must be earned through hard work. Debra’s entire system, built from family dynamics and work culture, told her this project required sweat, struggle, and complexity. Squarespace? That felt like cheating.

Going deeper

Debra’s husband, Jim, had offered her practical advice. “He said, ‘They don’t care how you do it. They just want a website that works.'” But Jim’s words, while logical, didn’t land. Why? Because the discomfort wasn’t coming from the client’s expectations—it was coming from Debra’s beliefs.

In the Positively Focused practice, we say: There is no amount of effort that can overcome belief momentum. That means: if your beliefs say you have to suffer to be worthy of receiving, then suffering is what you’ll get—even if everything around you says otherwise.

That’s what was happening with Debra.

So we went deeper. I asked her to explore where that belief came from. She said, “It’s definitely from my upbringing. And my time in corporate. It’s always been: prove your value, grind, deliver more than expected.”

Let the Universe do the heaving lifting and life just gets better and more fun. Just the way it was meant to be.

And yet, her life now looks very different. She’s manifesting clients. Debra’s building a business rooted in her values. She’s in the process of unlearning that old belief system—but the old momentum is still active.

“The Universe doesn’t need your effort,” I reminded her. “It wants your alignment. The work is in tuning your beliefs so they match what you are: someone worthy of receiving.”

As we moved through the process together, something softened. She laughed. The tension in her voice began to dissolve.

Then she said, “Oh my god. This really isn’t about the client at all. It’s me. It’s all me.”

Exactly.

Giving ourselves permission

When we believe money comes through effort, we trap ourselves in a pattern where ease feels suspicious, even “lazy”. And yet, manifestations—including financial ones—don’t come from how much we do. They come from how much we align. Action doesn’t create outcomes; it places us at the coordinates where the outcome is already happening as a result of our alignment.

Debra had aligned with a $10,000 client. The evidence was already there and it came effortlessly. But her beliefs hadn’t caught up yet. That’s where the real work was. By the end of our session, she said:

“I feel so much better. That anxiety—it’s not there anymore. I can see how I was making it about the money, but it’s not. It’s about me giving myself permission to receive.”

That’s what the Positively Focused practice is all about. You don’t need to hustle harder to get what you want. You don’t need to manipulate the outer world. All that’s needed is tuning to your inner world.

Because it’s not the work that earns the money. It’s your alignment that opens the door to it. Debra’s journey is one all of us are on. We’ve been taught to glorify effort, to earn our worth, to doubt our ease. But there’s another way—a way that honors our inherent value, aligns us with joy, and makes room for the abundance that’s always trying to reach us.

That’s the work worth doing. And it begins not with effort, but with belief. Feel the joy of being in alignment with the abundance that is yours. Become a client. We always have your back.

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Why We Feel Wrong––And Why It’s Never The Truth

TL;DR: The author shares a client session describing how feeling wrong is inherited, not innate—and how reconnecting with our Broader Perspective returns us to the sovereign joy we came here to live.

It happened during a client session this week involving a client I’ll call Cliff. We were talking about family—a common theme in-session—when I noticed something subtle. While Cliff shared about a recent visit with his sister, who also is a client, I could feel the tone shift. His words tightened. His energy grew heavier. He began justifying his actions, defending his emotional response to things I said in response to him explaining why things went the way they had.

And in that moment, I knew what was happening: not in Cliff’s mind, but in his vibration.

He was feeling wrong.

Of course, it wasn’t me who made him feel that way. I wasn’t judging him after all. But something in our conversation activated a familiar internal program—the one nearly every human inherits. And so I changed course, not to avoid the discomfort, but to gently address the source of it.

Where “Wrongness” Starts

I told Cliff something I wish every human could remember: No one is born feeling wrong. No baby arrives on Earth thinking they are bad, broken, or flawed. We come in as sovereign, freedom-seeking beings—extensions of Source Energy—aligned with the joy of exploring contrast, creating lives, and expanding reality itself.

So where does this learned wrongness come from?

It comes from the people around us, often our parents, who were taught the same distorted beliefs. Parents don’t mean to do harm. They’re doing the best they can, after all, with the beliefs their parents gave them. But when they experience something their child does and interpret it through their own lens of fear, powerlessness, or shame, they often project that onto the child.

“That’s not okay.”
“What were you thinking?”
“You’re being too much.”

These statements don’t just correct behavior, however. They shape beliefs. And over time, the child internalizes those very distorted beliefs: I must be bad. I must be wrong.

Cliff, like so many others, myself included at one time, learned to carry that momentum. He didn’t call it that. He just described feeling misunderstood, or overly sensitive, or like he must defend himself anytime someone questioned his perspective.

But beneath that? There stood a powerful being simply holding on to a learned belief. And the beauty of the Positively Focused practice is this: when clients see that belief for what it is, they eventually let it go.

We Are Sovereign Beings

Cliff thanked me in the moment I pointed this out. Not because I gave him advice, however, but because I reminded him of something his Inner Being already knew: he is not wrong. He never was.

We’re never born wrong. But we are conditioned to believe that.

Every human arrives in this life with sovereignty built in. Freedom is our baseline. Expansion is our purpose. The only reason we forget this is because we try to fit into systems that forgot too. When people act from the pain of feeling wrong, they often create more pain. That’s why the world looks the way it does. Wars, prejudice, self-sabotage, addiction—it all traces back to a fundamental misunderstanding of identity. People believing they are broken and trying to prove otherwise through control, domination, rebellion, or withdrawal.

But what if none of that is necessary? What if nothing ever went wrong?

What if what we’re all really craving is reconnecting with our Broader Perspective—the eternal, loving intelligence that never sees us as anything other than magnificent?

That’s the turning point Cliff found himself on. He didn’t need to fix anything, nor did he need to perform worthiness. He simply needed to remember he already is worthy.

Seeing Through the Eyes of Source

When we learn to connect to our Broader Perspective, everything changes. The inner critic dissolves. Defensiveness softens. Meanwhile, our relationships transform, not because others change, but because we no longer project our parents’ interpretations onto the present moment.

In Positively Focused, we don’t dig up “trauma” to “heal” it. We don’t analyze emotional “wounds” to justify why we hurt. Instead, we tune into alignment. We calibrate to clarity. And in that process, we naturally drop beliefs that don’t serve us—beliefs like; we are bad, or wrong, or not enough.

Cliff discovered this firsthand in this week’s session. Every client does eventually. The more they connect with their sovereignty, the more they experience the Charmed Life I talk about so often—a life where joy leads, clarity emerges, and manifestation becomes inevitable. Inevitable and effortless.

Living one’s Charmed Life doesn’t happen through effort or making it happen. It happens through allowing.

You Are Not Wrong. You Are Expanding.

If you’ve ever caught yourself feeling defensive, misunderstood, or suddenly small in the face of someone’s words or tone, ask yourself: What belief just got activated? Is it really about what they said? Or is it about something much older?

That question isn’t meant to lead you down a rabbit hole of intellectual analysis though. It’s meant to point you back to your sovereignty. Because you don’t need to fix your past. You only need to align with who you already are now.

Cliff is doing that. Many others are too. The results? Radiant. Precise. Joyful.

You can do it too. If you’re ready to release the story of being wrong—and replace it with a deeper knowing of your sovereignty, your power, and your connection to the Source that adores you—I invite you to take the next step.

Become a client. We got your back. Always.