The power of being Positively Focused is undeniable. That’s why all my clients are in various stages of seeing evidence of their lives getting better and better, and more fun.
Here, a client fulfills a long-held desire: a wonderful experience with her daughter, the wonder of which even her daughter acknowledged. That acknowledgment surprised and delighted my client.
Not only that, but her grandchildren too got in on the act. They said “We wish you could stay with us all the time.”
How dear. 🥲
After months of struggle with her daughter, the client realizes the struggle is unnecessary. When she does, the struggle disappears. Where did the struggle come from? Where did it go?
It wasn’t always this way
Beliefs create reality. It’s undeniable. Not knowing this, people look out into physical reality, seeing their created reality as something objective, separate from them. They then draw conclusions about what they see.
These conclusions we call “thoughts”. Thought enough times, those thoughts become beliefs. In time, beliefs create realities consistent with them, then fade into the background. Beliefs are forgotten, yet they still exist in physical form, before our eyes as our personal, subjective reality. It’s the only reality a person has access to.
Everyone adopts beliefs from childhood onward. They do this while not knowing such beliefs create realities consistent with them. Before they realize it, a trajectory gets created where beliefs create realities continuously.
My client had entire belief constellations about her daughter formed in exactly this way. The constellation included beliefs adopted from her childhood, her experiences with her grandparents and parents, beliefs that created a version of her daughter consistent with them.
In only nine sessions this client transformed her relationship with her daughter. The struggle? Replaced with joy. You can see her happiness in her face, hear it in her tone and in her words. She ends the video with a statement that gets to the meat of the matter.
You create your reality. Learning how, then deliberately using that process makes everything possible. Including new relationships transformed from the toughest family situations.
Addendum: When I showed the clip and asked permission to use it from the client, she said: “Almost made me cry. You have my permission to use this. I hope someone might gain insight from my experience.”
I know my stories and beliefs about the world create the world. I also know my stories and beliefs are right there, in the forefront of my conscious mind. So it’s easy to see what my future is going to be. I only need to think about what I’m thinking, and believing. And saying.
Soothing thoughts creating realities I don’t want is precious. It’s precious because that’s how I create desired reality.
For example, I know it’s not a given that certain conversations about things have to be tough. There are infinite versions of such conversations in nonphysical representing probable and alternate versions of said conversations.
The conversation has already happened. The question is, which version am I drawing into my experience?
There are versions where such conversations turn into arguments. Versions where they become fist-fights. And there are versions where they’re pleasant, easy and productive too.
The conversation can be hard. But it can be easy too. And fun!
That’s how I want them to be. Pleasant, easy, productive.
The key to creating realities I want instead of ones I don’t is understanding the “Moment of Becoming” (MOB). Then drawing the desired reality I want through that so it becomes my life experience.
Every event, every thing, every interaction began first as a thought. The vast majority of events, things and interactions happen with little conscious attention to how they become.
That’s because Humans aren’t aware of what you’re reading. They’re literally overcome with “reality stimulation”.
So they create their individual and collective life experiences without their conscious participation. Which is why so many get the life experiences they have.
I know it is possible to create events, things and interactions on purpose. The way I want them to happen. I know I can create people the same way. That’s what I want. That’s what I’m learning more how to do.
I know, and you know, reality can be created on purpose. Things like inventions, art and such happen like so. Especially things we buy. Creators of those things go through a creation process not too dissimilar from the one creating reality. Those creations are reality.
I know the same process works for my personal life experience. Everything else too. This personal experience is how I’m practicing making “creating” a regular part of my life experience in this time-space reality. While at the same time refining my creative prowess in other dimensions. Including nonphysical.
Imagine what life can be like when I’m creating on purpose and it unfolds as I’ve intended! It’s happening more and more already.
That’s why I’m excited about life more and more. And more Positively Focused too. The more Positively Focused I am the more life creates according to my purpose.
The more that happens the more thrilled I get. I want to have more. So I get even MORE Positively Focused. Then life gets MORE like how I want it. So I want even more…
It’s the best positive feedback loop ever!
Ok…Back to conversations…it’s a great example of how to be Positively Focused.
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Last night my housemates came home well after 10 p.m. Ten begins the “quiet hours” of the day here at the house.
But they weren’t quiet. They had been out drinking and were loud. I had gone to bed at 11 p.m. I woke to their noise. At first I was irritated and annoyed.
My first thoughts were negative about the experience. They’re what I call Thought-Reactions.
Ugh, they’re so loud
I hope this isn’t going to be a normal thing
Don’t they know it’s the quiet hour?
I’m going to have to talk with them about this.
Ugh, I bet that conversation will not go well
But then I noticed the emotions “irritation” and “annoyance” for what they are.
I knew those emotions meant I wasn’t seeing this experience the way I see it from my Broader Consciousness. Another way of putting that: I was seeing this situation through my old beliefs/stories, rather than beliefs/stories supporting my desired future reality. Emotions I felt were telling me my focus was creating not on purpose.
So I sat in bed, and started thinking different thoughts. I literally made them up, which is what creation is.
I thought thoughts consistent with future experiences I want to have with my housemates.
All future experiences exist right now, alongside the present moment, in the Moment of Becoming as all things do, including probable and alternate pasts, presents and futures. So having them become my reality is a simple process of aligning my thoughts and beliefs so they’re consistent with the reality I want to have.
Here’s how I did that.
First, I thought thoughts that soothed old thoughts I had about my housemates. I could be brief because I caught the momentum early:
I can tell hey had a good time
I’m glad they enjoyed themselves
They’re not always this way…
Then I turned my attention to thoughts about me and what I want:
This is a great opportunity
I’m glad I’m having this experience
It’s giving me an opportunity to practice what I preach 😌
I enjoy seeing that this is actually a positive experience
Without this experience, I wouldn’t have had the opportunity to practice!
I love practicing creating reality!
I love seeing this practice create positive results!
This is a great opportunity I’m giving myself!
Pay attention to what you’re feeling as you read each statement set. As you do, maybe you’ll feel the subtle but real energetic difference between the thoughts. Which thoughts feel better?
Thoughts draw to themselves thoughts like them. All thoughts want to express the fullest version of themselves…right into physical reality. That’s why inventors, artists, writers, etc., get inspiration. An idea “grows” in nonphysical. It’s seeking its full spiritual expression which is physical expression. When it gets to a certain point, it draws to it physical circumstances most likely matching its desire.
Voila! A great invention, work of art or masterpiece! Or a conversation aligned with the creator’s intent.
It’s how reality happens! An accumulation of “thought” energy sufficient enough to move that energy “forward” into physical expression.
So I know this work at 1 a.m. last night was valuable work.
And doesn’t that mean that my housemates arrival and loudness also was valuable?
Similar past experiences in which I created that first set of negative Thought-Reactions.
It would be easy as I write this to think of past experiences like this one where I felt annoyed and irritated.
Instead of thinking about them now, I’m thinking about that probable future.
The future that I’m creating. The future I want. Where I have a conversation with them that’s light, fun, happy and productive.
And I’m adjusting thoughts and beliefs about that conversation. How it’s going to go. More important: How I’ll feel in it.
Then I’m focusing on those emotions: vibrant, alive, eager, happy, positive, influential, encouraging… As I do, new thoughts come to mind. Images too.
Thoughts and images about how to communicate with them, what the conversation looks like. How fun it will be. How we’ll joke and laugh about it all.
I know that when I’m creating reality, the right combination of thinking (telling stories), beliefs (stories with a lot of momentum behind them) and emotion is key.Editing stories and beliefs, which means catching myself when thinking beliefs that create my reality, then changing them by creating preferred stories/thoughts/beliefs that will create my desired reality, is the first step. Sometimes it’s easier pinning the emotion. Beliefs sometimes seem hidden.
I’ll get to that.
Next, turning my attention to emotions which come up as I tell the new stories focuses/amplifies the inexhaustible energy that is what I am. It puts that energy into motion.
That forward motion draws energy like it. In time, so long as I’m aligned with that energy, what I desire must be.
Because all ideas seek their fullest expression. And their fullest expression in this-time space reality is physical.
This is the way a reality creator creates.
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Consider the movie business. A movie producer/director begins first with the idea. Then imagines it expanding into more. Then she writes it down. She creates a script or screenplay. Then she assembles her team and equipment to make it.
The tangibles – the team, the actors, the equipment, and the actual ready-to-view movie, come after the idea is well under way.
She doesn’t start with a finished physical movie, then try to adjust the characters, the scenery, give crew direction, write the script, the camera angles the lighting, etc., after the movie is already made!
That’s what Humans do though. Instead of working with that which creates their reality (their thoughts and beliefs) they try changing the movie itself (the reality they experience).
A producer starts first with an idea.
In the same way, I know I create my reality. I’m most effective when I plan my moments in advance.
My tangibles are thoughts/beliefs/emotions. They are my connection to my Broader Consciousness flowing in nonphysical and always focused on orchestrating what I’m wanting.
My Broader Consciousness delivers what I want in wonderful ways. It is my production crew. And it’s top notch. There’s no movie it can’t create for me. Just look at my dreams!
My Broader Consciousness is me. My Broader Consciousness is my extended self. Too big to fit in physical reality and yet always there focused on me because it is me! And it loves what I’m doing here. Always!
In the same way a movie producer begins with an idea, I know I create reality the same way.
I start first with an idea. Energizing it with thought momentum combined with the powerful energy of my emotions. Then I wait for the right inspiration to act.
Acting or actions aren’t the way things happen. The “happen” has already happened. Acts are the path through which I rendezvous with that which has happened.
⬆️⬆️ That paragraph is worth re-reading. ⬆️⬆️
Beliefs/stories are always available in consciousness. They are not buried in some “subconscious” or “ego” or some other hidden place as psychology would advise.
Beliefs/stories only look invisible when they’ve become so active they do two things: 1. They stop being in my awareness because they have become “true” for me. 2. They’ve moved so far forward into expression that they stop being beliefs and show up as my reality!
In other words they ARE true for me. So true I can see them, touch them, feel them. Hear them. Experience them.
By focusing on how I feel in any given moment, I’m aware of the reality I’m creating. Emotions will lead to beliefs which seem hidden but aren’t.
Creating reality is fun now that I know how it happens. All creators get aid from the best positive feedback loop ever.
But what’s really fun is diving into the process, playing with the tangibles and seeing my movie unfold before my eyes.
Follow up: two nights ago, I had that conversation with my housemates. It was the best creation ever! It started with us just chatting about the day. They happened to all be sitting in the living room so I joined them after pre-paving my reality. After some fun and laughter about our days and life in general, I got the intuition to say the perfect thing which lead to a wonderful outcome about that night that prompted this post.
Our newest housemate just broke up with his girlfriend. He was heartbroken. So my other two housemates took him out for solace. Getting drunk is what some people do to forget for a time. 🙄
My new housemate apologized as did the others. Then we went right on chatting about all kinds of topics including spirituality, wealth, entrepreneurship and more.
It was the best conversation ever. Just as I had intended.