Why Negative Manifestations Offer The Best Gift

Last week I wrote about a Positively Focused advanced client. I shared her experience with a negative thought, one she worried would turn into a negative manifestation.

Because she’s an advanced practitioner, however, she understood something important. She understood her dominant positive focus would overwhelm any negative thoughts passing through her awareness.

That’s a really good place to be. A very empowering place too. From there, it’s easy to see the practical value of “negative” thoughts. They can amplify one’s positive momentum. If used correctly.

They also offer another important value. Those that turn into manifestations, give us information we really want. They tell us what is dominantly vibrating within us. I explained this in the previous post. That makes all “negative” manifestations actually positive ones.

And that means anything happening in our lives is positive. Either we’re getting what we want (positive manifestation) or we’re getting feedback on how to get what we want (“negative” manifestation). It’s an important distinction. Something every advanced client learns.

Using “negative” manifestation

Instead of “negative”, Abraham often calls these manifestations “unwanted”. But even that word lays negative value on such experiences. It’s instead important to see such manifestations as “wanted”. Without them, how do we know what’s going on in our vibration?

One way is to become sensitive enough to feel vibration. That takes practice. Developing that sensitivity is a hallmark of a Positively Focused practice. Two other ways help us understand what our vibration is too. One is how we feel. The other is what shows up, or doesn’t yet, in our lives.

Once we take the “negative” value judgement off of these manifestations, we can start playing with them. We can use them to see how consistent the Universe really is. Realizing that consistency can bolster our confidence and belief in the Universe. It can prove that we are blessed. That the Universe has our back and is literally at our command.

I enjoyed an experience recently proving this. It reminded me exactly what I wrote above: that the Universe responds to my thoughts. And the more consistently I think them, the more likely I will experience the content of them.

The experience involved a game I played. I did it kind of unconsciously. I knew what I was doing, but didn’t feel the need to really do anything about it. Wanting to see how it would play out, I let the experience unfold. Right up to the “unwanted/wanted” manifestation.

Here’s what happened:

You get what you think about wanted or not

I take long walks every day pretty much. Over the last several months, I had the thought of hitting my watch against a railing as I walked. I saw myself in my mind grazing my watch on an overpass guard rail, the safety rail along the Steel Bridge walkway, or posts along the waterfront. The thought, when it first came, wasn’t accompanied by any worry. In fact I just let the thought happen.

Then, however, that thought kept coming into my awareness. It wasn’t accompanied by any worry or concern, nor any strong interest in it happening. But there was a “wondering” if the crystal on my watch (it’s an Apple Watch) would scratch if I did graze it.

Well, one day, after about three months of entertaining this thought again and again, I was walking across an overpass and, sure enough, I got really close to the guard rail. When I did, I scraped my watch against the galvanized stanchion. Right on the edge of the watch face.

The second it happened I said “I did that!” because I HAD as a manifestation! I remembered how, over and over, I thought that thought about scraping my watch. And sure enough, it happened! Here’s a picture of the damage:

The blemish on my Apple Watch.

The Universe DOES respond to my thoughts

What’s really interesting is the mark I made was mostly cosmetic. I was able to get most of it off with a buff board. There’s still a blemish, but it doesn’t feel like a scratch when I rub my fingernail against it. It’s barely noticeable. But it does catch my attention. Why? Because I built up a lot of momentum over this manifestation over the past three months. How? By thinking I was going to create this.

Recently, I’ve been getting an impulse to go to the Apple Store. I think that’s because they may be able to get this blemish out. But the blemish is kind of cool. It reminds me that I do create my reality with my thoughts. Everything in my experience shows up because of what’s happening inside me. So I see this blemish as a cool reminder that the Universe does, indeed, respond to my thoughts.

The moral of this story is: a passing negative thought isn’t something to worry about. Especially if we already enjoy consistent positive momentum. “Worrying” about the thought manifesting will amplify it. As does thinking the thought repeatedly. But it will take some weeks or even months of focus (deliberate or otherwise) before the subject becomes reality. So we always have lots of time to adjust our thoughts.

If such a manifestation does happen though, it’s a nice reminder showing us where our reality comes from: The deep recesses of our being. Vibration, in other words.

Want to know more or are interested in the Positively Focused practice? Contact me.

The Hidden Value Of Negative Manifestations

Many people practicing Law of Attraction worry about “negative manifestations”. They think a negative thought, then immediately try to cancel it. That’s because they fear that thought will turn into a negative experience.

Of course, every experience is positive. Even “negative” ones. Negative ones tell us something important. So when they happen, it’s important to see them as that: positive.

But will every negative thought manifest? Do we need to worry about negative thoughts we think for fear that they might show up for real?

Let’s take a look.

Castles or buttons, it doesn’t matter

A client texted me about this very thing. She’s an advanced group practitioner. Yes, even advanced folks experience fears. In fact, a Positively Focused practice remains consistent no matter how advanced one gets. We still work on the same things, including soothing resistance.

As one advances, however, we become bolder in our desires. They get bigger, in other words. It’s that change that indicates progress. Bigger desires bring more disbelief though and disbelief is resistance.

That makes sense, right? Say a person believes they can get a choice parking spot downtown. Manifesting that spot, therefore, introduces little resistance. But say that person wants to win the lottery and she doesn’t believe that’s possible. Or she believes lotteries are taxes on the poor. In this case, her resistance about winning the lottery is a lot stronger than manifesting a parking lot. So there’s more resistance to soothe on the subject of lotteries for this person, than manifesting parking spots.

But whether it’s a parking spot or the lottery, the manifestation process is the same. She doesn’t need more “effort” to real-ize the lottery win compared to the parking space. It seems so only because she has more resistant belief in the former than the latter.

Abraham refers to these two —lottery wins and parking spaces — as “castles” and “buttons” respectively. Big things — castles — are just as easy to create as little ones — buttons — they say:

Abraham making it plain.

The same holds true for what we don’t want. We typically call such experiences “negative”. Negative experience manifests the same way “positive” ones do. If we understand how that “way” happens, there’s no need to freak out about entertaining a “negative” thought.

My advanced client realized this.

Back to my client

She sent me a text expressing her clarity, which I loved. It shows how she’s really getting the practice. That’s no surprise to me. She’s really good at creating her Charmed Life. And she’s seeing evidence of it everywhere.

Lisa getting it.

Indeed. Lisa has enjoyed a long string of positive manifestations. They include better relationships with her children, a literal deluge of men wanting to get with her and big shifts in more personal matters.

And she’s right. We needn’t fear negative manifestations. If we’re maintaining very high vibrations, passing negative thoughts will not overcome that positive high momentum. Remember too that when/if “negative” manifestations do happen, they’re not negative. “Negative” manifestations are positive. They help us know what our dominant vibrational focus is.

Dominant vibrations are those creating our experiences. Often, we don’t clearly know what our dominant vibration is. That’s because “vibrations” are subtle. With practice, it’s easy to feel them. But most folks don’t enjoy such ability. So isn’t it nice that physical reality reflects back to us what our dominant vibration is?

That makes “negative” manifestations something we want to experience, right? They tell us what we’re doing vibrationally. This explains why all life experiences are positive. No matter what label we put on them, they always show us where we are vibrationally so we can do something about it..

Of course, we don’t need negative manifestations to do that. Not when we cultivate sensitivity refined enough to feel vibrations. Such sensitivity, as I wrote above, comes with practice. It’s one of the many benefits of being Positively Focused.

Wanting to know more about creating your own Charmed Life, feeling vibration, or getting results my client Lisa is getting? Contact me. Let’s get you underway.

How Can One Easily Explain Manifestation?

Positively Focused Q-A
Positively Focused Q-A

Question: Can you easily explain manifestation?

Answer: Explaining manifestation is easy. Understanding it? Not so much.

“Manifestation” is the perceived real-ization of desire as it becomes ongoingly fulfilled. “Fulfillment” is an ongoing electromagnetic process. In that process, energy — often a thought form — becomes “more” (fulfilled). It does so on the way to its full-blown becoming-ness. That thought is conscious and aware. It also has its own intent. Its main intent is reaching its full potential. That intent leads to its self-awareness.

Intention alone will push any aware-ized energy towards self-awareness. “Manifestation” is that becoming-ness happening while a perceiver watches. Observation amplifies that becoming-ness. Attention, focus and desire are all synonyms with “observation”. As words they describe the inexhaustible, constantly mobile nature of the energy that is All That Is.

In that becoming-ness, the incipient manifestation, becomes more and more tangible. It becomes more and more perceivable by the perceiver too. All this happens instantaneously. But, in order for All That Is to know itself, perceptive consciousness slows the becoming way down. Slowing it down also allows participation by observers in the unfolding. The process of manifestation therefore assists in self-awareness and self-actualization of All That Is. Humans included.

The unwanted is wanted

Manifestation includes things someone wouldn’t ordinarily want. The thing is, ANYTHING someone puts their attention on long enough will manifest. Observation amplifies. All energy intends fulfillment. These two work together amplifying one another. So it’s really important to observe only things one would prefer become bigger. And minimize attention to unwanted things.

But even unwanted things serve beneficial purposes. They too help clarify self-awareness. After all, a person experiencing what they don’t want, knows more clearly what they do want. So even unwanted things clarify self-awareness. Self-awarness represents the ultimate desire.

All That Is craves self-awareness. Manifestations exist so beings like ourselves can know themselves. In knowing themselves, they become more of themselves. They’re becoming more helps All That Is become more. This is what’s going on on this planet and everywhere else.

Manifestation therefore, is the key element in the self-discovery of All That Is. A self-discovery in which you’re playing a key part. Your desires contribute to All That Is knowing itself. That means all desires are good. No matter the outcome, fulfilled desire facilitates greater knowing.

That doesn’t mean we mustn’t minimize negative outcomes. We must. The desire to improve the world is a worthy desire too. Manifestation represents a sacred process. A process leading ultimately to the expansion of All That Is.

The Best Evidence Your Spirituality Is Powerful

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I love it when clients get results so inspiring, they confirm what I know about the power of the Positively Focused approach.

Recently, a client came to his session feeling strong self-reproach, self-judgement and frustration. He had a university exam due Friday – it was Monday – and, instead of preparing, he spent several hours binging Star Trek Discovery while also binging on snack food.

Seems like little things, don’t they? But such little things pack a punch when they’re repeated over and over. That’s how life gets out of hand for so many.

In other words, it’s a little thing – a negative thought – thought over and over that eventually creates realities consistent with it. Then life sucks.

My client couldn’t shake his negative thoughts on his own. So we practiced a process that transforms such thoughts into more positive and uplifting ones. By the end, he no longer felt bad about his choices.

Instead, he felt joy at having binged the show. Indeed, when he moved from his negative thoughts into more positive ones, he realized how perfect binging that show was. The main character’s life, he said, mimicked his own. Through the character’s life he saw aspects of his life he could improve.

Other profound realizations came too. He got, for instance, that the same judgement he had for himself about binging, he also had for his mother and his housemate. Both spend a lot of time on the couch consuming streaming media. Both also have poor eating habits and bodies consistent with those habits. My client judged them both harshly. That judgement he also directed towards himself, producing very disempowering results.

No coincidences anywhere

We used the same process to clean up those thoughts about his housemate and mother too, which produced even more euphoria in my client. After all, underneath every person’s negative mindset exists the God in Human Form they really are. Tapping into that feels euphoric.

But negative mindsets block all that. With those things blocked, one cuts oneself off from their divinity. There, they can’t see the beautiful nature of their created life experience.

Instead they see a random world where coincidences happen. Life comes with great risk. It’s scary and unpredictable and so they must protect themself and what they have. Cultivating a Positively Focused mindset clears all that away, then it reveals that everything in life stems from the thoughts you think.

Another client realizing when she deliberately chooses positive thoughts in the morning, the rest of her day reflects that positivity back to her. Life just gets better when one cultivates a positive focus.

Coincidences don’t exist. Everything happening happens for good reasons. People can know what those reasons are. When they do, life turns into a fabulous experience wherein life reflects back to the experiencer wonderful insights and epiphanies.

The good news is, life wants everyone experiencing its wonders. That’s what the Charmed Life offers: a life where every moment contains delights and joys. When a person discovers that life, they recover their power. Then they can use that power to create even better life experiences.

Lovely evidence abounds

By the end of our session, my client felt much better about what he did. Not only did he get epiphanies I described above, he also realized he had plenty of time still to complete the exam. That’s something he couldn’t see while standing in his negative thoughts.

Standing in his negative thoughts he created a living hell where not only was he a bad person for spending hours on the couch, eating junk food, he also feared time to take the exam ran out. He was on the way to that self-fulfilling prophecy. Until he came to the session.

After the session the client felt so much better, he texted me. When the client’s text arrived, it didn’t surprise me. Instead, I basked in the acknowledgment it communicated as a reflection of my own inner state:

Then he followed that message up with this:

Proof in the pudding

A lot of spiritual paths exist. Which offer powerful approaches to connecting with the divine? I prefer relying on Nichiren Buddhism’s Three Proofs doctrine. As the name implies, it suggest a three-step verification process. With it, you can tell whether any spiritual path offers a valid way to spiritual awakening.

The first test is, does the spirituality’s teachings (translating loosely) accord with Universal Laws? Second, the test asks, does the teaching line up with reason and logic? Finally the test says, does the teaching bear out when put to the test? In other words, when you do what the teaching says, do you get the results the teaching says you’ll get?

Speaking about the Three Proofs, the founder of Nichiren Buddhism had this to say:

In judging the relative merit of [any spiritual path], I, Nichiren, believe that the best standards are those of reason and documentary proof. And even more valuable than reason and documentary proof is the proof of actual fact”

I agree. The most valuable evidence determining whether a spiritual path has any power lies in whether or not it does what it says it will do when you put it into action. I know the Positively Focused approach passes all three tests. My clients do too. After all, they’re getting great results!

But the result I love the most is the actual, factual proof I produce in my life, which gets confirmed when my clients produce similar results in theirs.

Theirs, like mine inspire. That inspiration is power. The power to create a happy life. A life I call the Charmed Life.

Ready for yours?

How A Car Theft Results In Great Good

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Clients increasingly find their Charmed Life popping up right from their existing life. The more they live Positively Focused, the more their existing life shows them it’s a Charmed Life.

Everyone lives a Charmed Life. But when a person chronically entertains thoughts that don’t feel good, those beliefs turn the Charmed Life into something else. Such stories make life blasé, boring, ho hum, kill-me-know kinds of lives.

But the Charmed Life makes even negative-appearing situations turn out fantastic. I write about many situations from my life experience. Read a couple here and here. Today’s post perfectly illustrates how Charmed Lives turn bad situations into blessings. This one comes from a client we’ll call Natalie.

Evidence in unlikely places

Since beginning her practice, Natalie immediately saw powerful evidence proving a Positively Focused practice works. So she immediately doubled-down. She wanted even more evidence positive stories create reality and wasted no time getting that. Natalie refused to tell any stories that didn’t feel good. As a result, she moved through her world as if on cloud nine.

In the midst of another manifestation I’ll write about later, Natalie created yet another extraordinary manifestation of abundance and surprise.

One evening she went to her favorite bar. There she met a young man with whom she connected. She felt strong resonance for this person. Why, Natalie didn’t know. She also didn’t know this person brought with him an excellent experience to practice being Positively Focused.

Natalie and this young man, let’s call him Rocco the Rascal, for reasons you’ll understand in a bit, hit it off immediately. At some point the two hit it off so well, Natalie felt she wanted to take this young man under her wing. She felt like Rocco was a long lost cousin or something, she said.

They spent the rest of the evening at the bar chatting and connecting. Then, as the barkeep started closing the place, Rocco asked Natalie if he could borrow her car, a late model Mercedes. He wanted to buy some weed, he said.

I’m not sure I would have done it…(Photo by Albert Vincent Wu on Unsplash)

Positive story prevails…or does it?

By this point, Natalie was super high-flying in her vibration. She felt happy, at ease and joyful, she said. Nothing indicated anything bad on the horizon. So when Rocco made his request, Natalie thought “sure!”

Then she had a brief negative thought: “I shouldn’t let this guy borrow my Mercedes. I don’t really know him!” But she brushed it off with a more positive story, whipped out and handed over her keys.

Rocco never came back to the bar. That was a Saturday.

The following Tuesday, Natalie came to her session extraordinarily happy. She had a great week, she said. Then she hesitated just a bit before introducing what happened Saturday.

“Perry, I feel kind of stupid about what I’m about to tell you,” she said.

“Well that’s not an empowering story to tell, is it,” I said.

“You’re right”, Natalie said. Then she told me the story. But when she told me the story, her mood changed. She went right back to a high-flying, powerful place. She was excited about how she felt, what she did, and, even though it was Tuesday and she still had not heard from The Rascal, she was eager to see how this would result in something really positive.

To be honest, I was quite taken by her positivity. Here she was with no car for three days, and she still found positive stories to tell about what happened.

Crime reveals abundance

Then Natalie changed the subject. She told me about the mechanic she takes her cars to. She described him as having a penchant for finding great deals on cars. Natalie said she talked to him about what happened, after filing a police report. Natalie told her mechanic she needed another car, but didn’t care what kind, so long as it got her from a to b.

“Girl!” Her mechanic said. “You belong in a Mercedes. I’m going to get you another one. Don’t you worry about it.”

The following Tuesday Natalie and I met in session. I was high flying as usual and Natalie was over the moon, bursting at the seams to tell me what happened.

Turned our her mechanic delivered on his promise. He found her a late model Mercedes at a reasonable price that Natalie actually liked better than the one Rocco took. She was so pleased with how this turned out.

Then, later that same week, Natalie called me with an update. The police recovered her other Mercedes and it was in fine shape. Now Natalie had two cars. More than she needed. She marveled about how this worked out perfectly for her. Now she could sell her older Mercedes and keep the newer one, which she loved.

Even though Natalie felt great at how this all turned out, she still couldn’t believe how it turned out. She got everything she wanted, including more evidence she asked for, in this crazy cool way showing the Universe always works out in her best interest.

Seriously, how many stolen cars get recovered? Some sources say the chances of getting a stolen car back are less than 50 percent!

When you tell positive stories consistently, life becomes the Charmed Life making everything in life all good!

Pick thoughts that feel good

For Natalie, what ordinarily might look like a terrible thing turned out amazing. And, she showed herself that when she follows her Broader Perspective, which communicates with her constantly, she needn’t worry about the results because the results will always come out great.

The Charmed Life is there always. But when one learns how to see it, it shows up in abundance. And the more one remains Positively Focused, the better life gets. Everyone on the planet today came here expecting that. But it’s easy getting knocked off track.

The key to staying on track is choosing a focus that includes only those things that feel good to look at. That includes thoughts you think. Do that and the world becomes your oyster. And you – and only you – get to say what the pearl inside looks like.

What’s your version of abundance look like? That’s the Charmed Life. Where the world bends to your will, life is fun and abundance is normal.

My Great Results Prove All People Are Super Human

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I always thought about precognition, the ability to know in advance, information about the future, often in a paranormal way, as something worth having. Back in the day, I enjoyed imagining such things as real. But honestly, I didn’t think them possible. That was before my Positively Focused practice.

Now my belief turned to knowing as I proved my own super human ability. And since I possess this ability, I know everyone, anyone else can too.

As time passes and my Positively Focused practice matures, things I once thought impossible increasingly happen. Now they happen more frequently. The more frequent they happen, the more knowing replaces disbelief. Today I’m much more open to what’s possible.

I believe we all can be superhuman because that’s what we are. Only our thinking keeping us from that experience.

So when I experienced first-hand, evidence of knowing the future before the future was known, it surprised me in a way.

Writing this, I’m still surprised how it happened. I’m not surprised it happened though. This result was inevitable though my Positively Focused practice. As I improve, I’m finding everything possible. In the process, old, contrary beliefs fall by the wayside. Their soothing reveals powers usually attributed to God.

And why not? We’re all god in human form.

Ok, on to the story.

Those things we ascribe to gods are our powers. We’ve only forgotten they are ours.

Knowing without knowing

A client and I several sessions ago marveled over how well his Positively Focused practice was working for him. This client wanted a relationship. But his experiences had him create beliefs that left him single for decades. The last girl he tried to befriend ended up being more trouble than she was worth. Eventually, she told him “you’re not ready for a relationship with me” and left him.

That’s when he and I started working together.

Thirty weeks later, not only has he created an amazing relationship in a way that blew both of our socks off, he also fulfilled another strong desire: fatherhood.

That’s right, a baby now grows in the girl he created and dated for about six months.

So during our recent-most session, we celebrated his creations. Then we talked about what becoming a father looks like from a Positively Focused perspective. Talking about that, I kept referring to his child, who is still in-utero, as “she”.

Four times I mentioned his “daughter”. Each time I did, internally, I questioned why I was saying that. A couple of those times I corrected myself out loud by using neutral pronouns. My client didn’t seem to notice though.

At session end, I voiced my puzzlement as to why I was calling his child “she”.

Surprise and delight unveiled

Several days later, my client sent a text message accompanied by a photo. He and his partner returned from the hospital where they had the obligatory ultrasound examination. The photo showed the results. I couldn’t tell what I was seeing, but his second text clued me in. My client was having a girl.

Male or female? How can they tell from these things? My client’s daughter in-utero.

Needless to say, I felt far more surprised than congratulatory. While calling her “she” I felt no doubt using that word. But I also didn’t feel it was “me” selecting that word.

Rather, it felt as though it was given to me. Like something else knew and informed me during the session so that I could enjoy this moment in the future.

In other words, my Broader Perspective knew I stood ready for this new, next step in my own expansion. The power of precognition. And it showed me I was ready by filling my mouth with “she” and “daughter”.

My client and I reveling in the post-manifestation.

Surprise or no surprise?

Lately, things happening indicate rapid expansion into deeper and broader possibilities. I’m more convinced now than ever, that anything can happen. While this was surprising in one sense, it really isn’t.

That’s because everyone possesses these capabilities. But if the possessor doesn’t believe they posses them, then it occurs as though they don’t. So many other deeply satisfying “occult” experiences happen these days, this experience doesn’t stand out that much.

But it does confirm everything Abraham says about reality: we all create our own versions of reality. Nothing lies off limits. Everything wanted can happen. In other words, we are all Gods in human form. Superhumans, creating reality.

I’m super excited about things emerging from within me. Knowing this as a possibility thrills me. But seeing it happen takes it to a whole new level.

Great Manifestations Result When People Forget How, When

Positively Focused Q-A
Positively Focused Q-A

The “Q/A” series answers questions I get through the internets. I share those answers in this blog as they may inspire people into greater connection with the God they are.

Question: Can I manifest something 10 years before I want it to happen?

The short answer is yes. You may not perceive it as having happened though on that time scale for various reasons I’ll offer below.

Manifestation takes a while

The way “thoughts become things” is, the moment someone desires something, all the cooperative components needed to actualize that desire, assemble. But this all happens in “nonphysical”, the place from which all “things” spring. The desire-er or the manifest-er, usually shows up as the last component. Every desire that manifests only becomes “manifest” when an observer realizes it.

Resistance doesn’t exist in nonphysical to any significant degree. That’s why when something gets expressed, such as a desire, that expression “becomes” immediately there.

But because of resistance in physical reality, it takes a while for that immediate manifestation to emerge. All the cooperative components are on it. But coordinating through to physical reality creates an apparent interval between “desire” and “manifestation”. We humans call that interval “time”. All manifestation is immediate, but time offers an apparent delay. That delay is on purpose. Why it’s on purpose goes beyond the scope of this question.

It doesn’t matter if someone wants something to happen now or ten years from now. The moment one expresses it, it happens. Then, many routes open all leading to the full-blown manifestation.

The manifest-er plays a role

Another couple reasons explain why manifest-ers don’t experience immediate manifestation, in addition to apparent time. One is the manifest-er’s inherent resistance to what’s wanted. The other is the time it takes for the manifest-er to line up with it.

The manifest-er’s resistance plays a major role. Most people don’t believe, let alone understand, what you’re reading, nor do they know how to implement what you’re reading. So it usually takes quite a while before desires manifest in the eyes of the manifest-er.

It’s also why some desires seem to never manifest. People think Law of Attraction doesn’t work because of this. Most people offer so much resistance, they rarely, if ever, happen (for them). Or, when they do, paltry versions of the full-blown desire happen.

“How”, “when”: not your job

Lining up with the desire can take a while too. Part of that has to do with resistance. But even if resistance is relatively low, one still must become a match to the desire to experience it. That may be why the questioner thinks they want something 10 years from now.

The problem with thinking they know the best timing in which something should happen is, Universe knows better. The Divine Timing Of The Unfolding Of One’s Desire is given. In that sense, the question is unusual. Most people err on the impatient side of timing. They think their desire should manifest sooner than it actually will (in divine timing). Look at life. It almost always works this way. Usually, what a person wants unfolds out of synch with when they thought it should happen. The same will be true with the expectation that “it” (whatever it is) should happen in 10 years.

So thinking about the “when” is not productive. Thinking about “how” isn’t a good idea either. It’s going to unfold in divine timing. And it will unfold in a way that surprises and delights all involved.