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Why Your Worst Relationship Was Actually a Gift

TL;DR: A client transforms resentment into realization by reframing his divorce as a divine co-creation—proof that even painful relationships serve our expansion and reveal our innate worthiness.

When I say every relationship is a co-creation, I mean that quite literally. Each of us, in every moment, is attracting into our experience people, events, and circumstances that perfectly match the dominant vibrations we’re offering. Sometimes those vibrations come from our desires. Sometimes they come from our fears. Most often, they’re a mix of both.

That’s why relationships are so powerful. They give us a living mirror of our inner world. And if we’re willing to look honestly, they offer the raw material for lasting transformation.

This is the story of my client Ken, and how he turned a painful divorce into one of the most profound realizations of his worthiness—and why the woman he once thought had wrecked his life was, in truth, an angel in disguise.

When Ken first came to me, he was in a loving long-term relationship. On the surface, everything was working. But occasionally, his partner would do something that triggered a disproportionate reaction in him—fear, insecurity, even emotional panic.

Over time, it became clear that these weren’t responses to his current partner. They were echoes from a past marriage—an unresolved energetic momentum that had followed him into his new relationship.

This is where the Positively Focused framework really shines. In our work together, we traced the emotional charge back to his previous marriage with Christy, a relationship that ended with bitterness, confusion, and a $1 million divorce settlement Ken never wanted to pay.

The Righteous Indignation That Refused to Die

Ken carried enormous resentment toward Christy. He saw her as someone who pretended to be something she wasn’t—someone who, once injured and unable to work, became a financial and emotional burden. But as we dug deeper, it became clear this resentment wasn’t about Christy. It was about Ken’s story about Christy.

Christy, too, had her own story. A childhood filled with chaos and conditional love had planted deep seeds of unworthiness. Her back injury wasn’t a manipulation—it was the culmination of momentum she had been building for years. And her refusal (or inability) to work wasn’t laziness—it was an unconscious reflection of a belief she wasn’t worthy of the life she desired.

Christy’s beliefs, born of her upbringing, shaped her perspectives on self, marriage and more.

Ken didn’t know that at the time. He just knew he was stuck in a marriage that didn’t feel fair. But he stayed, because deep down, he was carrying a belief of his own: that this was the best he could get. He didn’t believe he could find a better partner. That belief is what made him a vibrational match to Christy in the first place.

The Invitation to Reframe the Past

In our sessions, I asked Ken to do something radical: list every negative belief he held about Christy and their marriage. It took him weeks. The pain of reliving those moments was strong. The momentum of righteous indignation was thick.

But finally, he brought in a list — and together, we softened the statements. We found new ways to see old events. “Christy never wanted to work” became “Christy was in too much pain to work.” Small shifts like these began to loosen his grip on the story he’d been telling himself for years.

Eventually, Ken could see that the real issue wasn’t Christy’s betrayal. It was his inability to recognize his own worth. He had ignored countless signals to leave the marriage because of his scarcity mindset. He didn’t believe another woman would love him. That fear is what kept him in the marriage far longer than his Inner Being wanted to stay.

What Ken saw next blew the whole story wide open: Christy wasn’t the villain. She was the angel who helped him see how much he had been ignoring his own worthiness.

She had played the perfect counterpart to his vibration. She reflected back every bit of doubt, every old belief, every trace of self-deprecation he still carried.

And once he got that — once he saw the co-creative nature of their marriage — he could feel the weight begin to lift. He stopped seeing her as the one who took a million dollars and started seeing her as the one who gave him a priceless gift: self-awareness.

Gradually, Ken began to see Christy as the one who gave him the gift of self-awareness.

The Real Purpose of Physical Reality

This is what we do in the Positively Focused practice. We don’t just help people manifest shiny outcomes—though those do happen. We help them discover the deeper purpose of physical reality: to show us, in exquisite, visceral detail, what our current vibrational output is… so we can tune it.

Life isn’t happening to us. It’s happening through us. And the more we embrace that, the more we step into our own divine nature.

We are, each of us, gods in human form—expanding across infinite dimensions, through every interaction, every heartache, and every breakthrough.

Christy, from this perspective, was no mistake. She was a perfectly tuned expression of Ken’s dominant story—until he was ready to write a better one. And when he did, the results were immediate. His current partner—loving, balanced, and joyful—began reflecting that new story back to him.

There’s Nothing Better Than Watching Yourself Get Better

That’s the magic of this work. You don’t have to wait for the world to change. You just change your story, and the world—your world—will reflect that shift.

Ken didn’t need to “heal” from his past. He just needed to understand it.

And once he did, he could finally let go of the resentment, the blame, and the illusion that he had been a victim. He had never been a victim. He had always been a powerful creator… learning, growing, and becoming the god he already is.

This is why I love the Positively Focused practice. It’s not about fixing broken people. It’s about helping powerful beings remember who they are. There’s nothing better than that.

And when that remembering happens? It feels delicious.

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What Happens When the Mirror Gets This Powerful

TL;DR: Over four intense days, Marcus’s life reflected his vibrational focus with stunning precision. From social scrolls to sacred hugs, each event revealed the truth: life doesn’t punish us—it mirrors us, perfectly and compassionately.

Sometimes, life gives you experiences that are both memorable and multidimensional. Experiences where every moment, every encounter, and every emotional charge reveals exactly what you’re practicing vibrationally. And if you’re paying attention, it becomes the perfect mirror. That’s what happened for a client of mine — let’s call him Marcus — over the course of four days.

The contrast was rich. The orchestration was precise. Marcus’ expansion was unmistakable. And it all began with scrolling on social media.

The Algorithm That Read His Vibration

Marcus hadn’t planned on going deep. He was just passing time. But as he began scrolling through Instagram and Facebook, the algorithm tuned in — and it knew exactly what to deliver. Gaza. Israel. Racism. LGBTQ+ discrimination. Corruption. Division. Outrage.

His scrolling revealed more than political news — it was emotional architecture. Every post added another brick to the structure of fear, injustice, and helplessness Marcus didn’t realize he was building. Instead, he thought he was “staying informed.”

But his body told the truth: He was doomscrolling. He felt drained. His nervous system became frayed. The lightness he normally carried dimmed. He couldn’t see it yet, but he saturated his vibrational field — and life was preparing to reflect it all back.

The Party, the Couple, and the Hug That Meant Everything

Later that day, Marcus went to a pumpkin carving party. The party represented something simple, something creative. Marcus thought he’d have fun. And he did. But he also met himself.

Two men — a gay couple — were there. One white, one Lebanese. The Lebanese partner, whose name happened to be Seth, shared his deep uneasiness living in the U.S. in the current climate. As a gay man of Middle Eastern descent, he didn’t feel safe — not just emotionally, but existentially.

Marcus listened with full presence. Their conversation was honest, layered, and emotionally resonant. And when it ended, they hugged. Seth and his partner then left the party.

But a moment later, Seth returned. He asked Marcus for another hug. Something in the first hug wasn’t finished. So they hugged again — slower this time. More grounded. More knowing. That hug represented more than affection. It was recognition, a soul-level confirmation that Marcus had called in this encounter vibrationally. He called it in so he could see the reflection embodied in his reality. Seth was a living reflection of the very themes Marcus had been engaging with online. But instead of outrage, Marcus met it with love.

This was the first mirror. And it was beautiful.

The Friend That Didn’t Show, and the Feeling That Did

After the party, Marcus got in his car. There he noticed for the first time several texts from his wife. She was worried where he was. When Marcus returned home, she didn’t conceal how she felt. She had a friend who planned to visit, but cancelled at the last minute. So Marcus’ wife was left alone.

Marcus returning home after he said he would, left his wife worried, but also, she excluded. At first, Marcus was confused. He hadn’t intentionally excluded her. They hadn’t made plans after all. But the deeper truth was this: his wife was reflecting Marcus’ beliefs precisely.

Marcus had spent the day consuming content about marginalized people. People being left out of systems, rights, safety, belonging. And now his wife — someone he adores — was expressing that very vibration in real time.

Good thing Marcus caught it. He didn’t defend himself or spiral. He opened. He withdrew from the story — not from her, but from the version of himself who believed he had done something wrong. And in that stillness, something shifted.

The Open Mic and the Rule That No One Followed

The next night, Marcus attended a local open mic. He brought his instrument and signed up early. But he never got to play.

The people who did perform didn’t follow the house rules. They didn’t respect the list or share the space. These people weren’t being malicious, instead they followed their passions and got caught up in the excitement. At first glance, this might seem like bad luck. But vibrationally, it was exact. Following their passions indulgently offered yet another reflection of Marcus’ inner momentum.

They reflected the very societal disorder Marcus had been digesting through his feeds — people not following the rules, not being inclusive, not leaving space for others. The macro showed up in the micro.

It was yet another gift reality shone on Marcus. Life as mirror never misses. It’s always precise.

Your life experience is the same. Life for all of us is a mirror. It’s also a gift. It faithfully reflects our inner state. Why does it do that? So we can know ourselves better. So we can tune into the Source of our life experience: our inner reality. Do something constructive about that inner reality and the mirror — our life experience — must reflect that constructive improvement.

That’s the result all my clients receive once they get good at interpreting what they see in their mirrors.

Marcus had more in store given the momentum he created doomscrolling. Let’s get back to his story.

The Pregnant Woman and the Gentle Realignment

After all this, Marcus did something subtle but powerful. He didn’t push through. He didn’t collapse. Instead, as he sat at the bar, he paused. He meditated inconspicuously — lightly, sincerely. He let go of fixing. He turned toward better-feeling thoughts.

And the next day, his world began responding differently. A miscommunication with his wife resolved into softness and mutual understanding. Arriving at work, he shared an intimate moment with a pregnant coworker. He offered reassurance and calm to her worry about being a new mother. Soothed and thankful, she offered him a surprising career opportunity — seemingly out of nowhere, but perfectly timed.

After all the soothing Marcus did, allowing his doomscrolling momentum to subside, Marcus’ Broader Perspective confirmed he had done the work. The confirmation came in the form of this career opportunity. It was his Broader Perspective winking: you’re back in alignment.

In The Seth Material, there’s a passage I often return to:

“Before you can be allowed into systems of reality that are more extensive and open, you must first learn to handle energy and see, through physical materialization, the concrete result of thought and emotion.”

This is exactly what Marcus experienced. He recognized what happened had nothing to do with being punished. He was training himself. Training himself into being able to perceive the transformation of thought-into-form, the materialization of belief into lived experience.

“As a child forms mud pies from dirt, so you form your civilizations out of thoughts and emotions, and then see what you have created.”

Marcus saw what he had created. And instead of reacting, he chose to recalibrate.

This planet — this dimension — is a training system. A dream-school. A mirror of emotional energy turned physical. And Marcus, like all of us, is here to master the art of turning thoughts into things.

The Dreamer Within the Dream

Marcus had a weekend full of contrast. But he didn’t get stuck in the mud pie. He saw it for what it was — a reflection of what he was ready to integrate.

Marcus practiced power — not force. He used awareness not reaction. Then he practiced love — not as an idea, but as action. He practiced sovereignty — not changing others, but changing where he placed his attention.

“The dreamer dreams, and the dreamer within the dream dreams.”

And in the dream he created, the dream responded.

That’s how this works. The gift that’s physical reality is the ability to see exteriorized our inner state. It’s the greatest gift ever. One that’s always memorable and always multidimensional.

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AI, Worthiness, and the Fable That Fooled Us All

TL;DR: The Aesops fable, Ant and the Grasshopper, taught us to fear rest and revere work. But AI is dissolving that illusion. Your worth was never earned — it’s inherent. The future is calling you back to who you’ve always been.

We’ve all heard the story: the ant toils all summer storing food while the grasshopper plays in the sun. Winter comes, and the ant thrives while the grasshopper suffers.

The moral? Work hard. Prepare. Don’t play too much — or we’ll pay the price. This ancient fable, often read to children, sounds like wisdom. But it hides a distortion so deep it’s shaped generations. It whispers: “Your value depends on your effort. You must earn your survival.”

That fable a lie.

And now, as we enter the AI age, that lie is unraveling fast.

AI Is Revealing the Real Crisis — And It’s Spiritual

For centuries, we’ve tied our worth to our output. We’ve built entire economies — and identities — around the idea that to receive, we must toil.

But artificial intelligence is disrupting that belief at the root. It’s poised to replace jobs of all kinds; white collar, blue collar, even creative work. And here’s the thing: the crisis coming is not going to be about labor. It’s going to be more existential. Because the crisis will be about worthiness.

We’re not afraid of robots doing our jobs. We’re afraid of realizing we were never defined by those jobs to begin with, which is why political leaders and those who recently signed an anti-AI ban are so up in arms. We’re afraid of facing the truth that we are inherently worthy — and always have been.

Elon Musk once said the real existential threat isn’t AI destroying humanity. It’s humanity not knowing who they are when their jobs no longer define them. That’s the moment we’re in.

You Were Always Worthy. Now You’re Just Seeing It.

Worthiness isn’t something we achieve. It’s something we remember. It emerges when we see — again and again — that the Universe gives us what we want in divine timing, without hustle, strain, or burnout. It gives us what we want effortlessly in other words.

We don’t have to prove anything. We don’t have to “deserve” our desires. All we need to do is align with them. Then they manifest.

That’s why stories like The Ant and the Grasshopper are so harmful. They train us to associate rest with laziness, joy with danger and play with punishment.

But the truth is, the Universe is a reflection of our inner state — not our output. And when we align with our worth, the world aligns with us.

Real Stories of Effortless Manifestation

This isn’t just philosophy. It’s real. It’s happening in my life, and in the lives of my clients.

Over the last year, I’ve materialize a brand-new, magnificent apartment space. It’s a gorgeous top-floor unit in a brand-new building — for the same price I’m paying now in a 1950s studio.

I didn’t chase it. I didn’t hustle. The entire orchestration involved thousands of people, all moving in unseen coordination. And all I had to do was follow the impulse — and say yes.

One of my clients had a similar experience. She received an inspired nudge to enter a raffle. She knew she’d win — and she did. A one-carat diamond, dropped into her lap by alignment, not action.

My client and the one carat diamond she manifested.

These are not anomalies. They are what life becomes when we live from the inside out.

The Time to Recalibrate Is Now

This moment — this very one — is our opportunity to remember what’s always been true: We don’t need to hustle to be worthy. Nor do we need to grind to be supported. We also don’t need to earn what is already yours.

And this is more than just a personal insight — it’s a collective invitation. As AI dissolves the old systems of productivity and labor, we’re being called inward. We’re being asked to re-source our value not from what we do, but from who we are.

The AI age isn’t destroying jobs. It’s destroying illusions.

And that’s a very good thing.

It’s Time to Let the Grasshopper Lead

Aesop had it backward.

The grasshopper wasn’t lazy. She was aligned. She trusted the sun, followed her joy. She danced in rhythm with a Universe that knows how to deliver exactly what is needed — exactly when it’s needed.

We were never meant to earn our worth. We were meant to embody it. And as we do, we’ll find that the “winter” we feared was never coming. It was just a story. A distorted lens. A tale designed to keep us working, even when we were already free.

So let it go.

Let the ant rest. Let the grasshopper sing. Let your alignment bring you everything you’ve ever wanted — and more.

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How One Man Found Love’s Clarity in a Safeway

TL;DR: The author shares how a client’s emotional spiral after a brief romantic encounter revealed limiting beliefs. Through the Positively Focused process, he transformed the moment into a stepping stone toward true relationship alignment.

The Universe never makes mistakes. And yet, when things don’t go the way we think they should—especially in love—it’s easy to believe it did. That’s what happened to Dale, a dear client of mine, in an encounter that was as divinely orchestrated as any I’ve seen. Only he couldn’t see it. Not at first.

It started innocently enough. Dale was running errands at Walmart with his ex-wife, Athena. They had just come back from a gig and gone into the store separately. As Dale strolled through one of the aisles, he noticed a woman. Something about her shirt caught his attention—it had a Wiccan vibe, something Dale had explored in his past. They struck up a conversation. And just like that, a spark ignited. Not fireworks, but something even more powerful: resonance.

This wasn’t the kind of attraction born of physical lust or surface chatter. Dale and this woman began talking about life philosophies, spiritual perspectives, the big stuff. She even complimented Athena, not knowing the relationship. That felt meaningful to Dale. And then she asked for his number. Later that evening, she followed up with a text: “Do you like sushi?” And another: “How about Lady Gaga?”

Dale responded honestly. Sushi wasn’t his thing, and as for Lady Gaga, he didn’t think about her much—although he had appreciated her acting once. Still, the topics rubbed him the wrong way. He’d hoped their conversation would stay in that soulful, philosophical space. To him, these light questions felt like a departure, even a regression.

And then it happened.

Every manifestation carries contrast

A few days later, Dale ran into her again—this time at Safeway. He lit up at the coincidence, but her energy was different. Guarded. She told him she was working and quickly disengaged.

That was it.

That moment—the turn—triggered Dale hard. He plummeted into intense negative momentum. All-or-nothing thinking kicked in. “This is why I can’t trust people.” “This is why relationships don’t work.” “Why did she even ask for my number?” The mental spiral was swift and brutal.

And this is where the real value of the session began.

What Dale couldn’t yet see was that this was no failed encounter. This was a perfect co-creation, lovingly engineered by the Universe to show him something essential. He had, in fact, manifested precisely what he’d been asking for—a spontaneous connection with someone who met him at a high vibrational level. He’d been high-vibing on the subject of relationships for some time, and this woman appeared right on cue. It was a sign that his signal was working.

But every manifestation carries contrast. That’s how we grow.

This woman, without intending to, revealed Dale’s unresolved momentum around women, courtesy, rejection, and unspoken expectations. His judgments—about her makeup, her food choices, her pop culture interests—weren’t really about her. They were mirrors, reflecting beliefs he still carried: that people owe him politeness, that being ghosted is betrayal, that women who express themselves a certain way are immature or unworthy.

These beliefs had to come to the surface. Not to punish him, but to be soothed.

Dale stood at a crossroads about what he was manifesting….what happened next was important.

Tell a better-feeling story

Because here’s the truth: you cannot attract the relationship you want until you become a match to it. The Universe will keep sending stepping stones—beautiful, complex, sometimes painful interactions—that shine light on your inner vibration. If you meet these moments with curiosity, you’ll elevate. If you double down on your negative stories, you’ll stall.

And Dale stalled hard.

He went into a kind of emotional lockdown. “Maybe I’m not cut out for relationships,” he said at one point. “Maybe I should just stop trying.”

He wasn’t joking. The pain had twisted his thinking so tightly that one uncomfortable rendezvous made him question everything. But that, too, was perfect. Because it made the negative beliefs undeniable. And once something is seen clearly, it can be soothed.

I gently helped him unpack it. I reminded him: the Universe doesn’t respond to what’s “true”—it responds to belief. Every experience you have is confirmation, not contradiction. That’s why it’s so important to notice your judgments and soothe them—not suppress them, but transmute them. You do that by telling a better-feeling story.

In Dale’s case, the better-feeling story went something like this:

“Wow. Look at that! I manifested a woman out of nowhere who shared my values—at least at first glance—and asked for my number. She followed up. That was confirmation that my signal is active. Then, in the next phase, she brought up things that rubbed me the wrong way… but even that was helpful. She helped me see what beliefs I still carry that aren’t a match to the relationship I ultimately want. She wasn’t a mistake—she was a message.”

Attract by becoming

From that frame, Dale could start to feel empowered again. Not because she “should’ve” behaved differently, but because she behaved exactly as she needed to—so he could calibrate his vibration.

She was doing the same thing Dale was doing: looking for resonance. And when she sensed it wasn’t a match, she gracefully backed away. She was choosing herself. That wasn’t ghosting. That was clarity.

This is the power of contrast when met with consciousness. This is the beauty of vibrational refinement. You don’t attract what you want by demanding it from others. You attract it by becoming it. And you become it by soothing the parts of you that aren’t aligned.

The next time someone triggers us, let’s ask: “What is this showing me about me?” The answer might sting at first, but it’s the key to becoming a match to what we want. Dale’s encounter wasn’t a failure. It was a perfect stepping stone. And now he’s closer than ever.

Because the real relationship he’s cultivating… is with himself.

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Why Younger Leaders Make the Best Alignment Teachers

TL;DR: In this, Part 4, of a six-part series, the author shares how client Sally turned a firing into confirmation from the Universe, demonstrating the clarity and leadership that emerge when younger generations align with their broader perspective.

When I got on the call with Sally that evening, I wasn’t worried. I knew what kind of vibrational environment we had built together. But still—when I heard her voice, I felt deep satisfaction. She was calm. Clear. Even… radiant.

Sally had just been fired. But instead of spiraling, she immediately started receiving. A text from a woman she respected—her dance instructor—landed just minutes after the call. “You’re such a light,” it read. “I’m so glad to call you my friend.” Sally was floored. The timing was divine. And the message? Unmistakable.

Then, in the elevator of her building, a stranger looked at her with admiration and offered a spontaneous compliment on her beauty. Another confirmation. Another wink from the Universe.

None of this was coincidence. This was the Universe showing her: “You’re okay. In fact, you’re better than okay.”

A practice that delivers

I’ve long said younger generations are not here to be taught—they’re here to teach. Sally is at least 12 years younger than Jane, and that’s no accident. She’s fluid, adaptable, and, because she’s younger, less burdened by societal conditioning. A lot of Jane’s resistance comes from just having lived longer. Sally, on the other hand, flows easily with energy. It’s not that Jane is “wrong.” She’s just older. She’s here to build a foundation. Sally? She’s here to leap from it.

Let’s be clear: Sally still struggles with her own resistance. She’s getting better at that struggle every week, however. That’s because Sally is devoted to this practice. When I told Sally this, she smiled. She got it instantly. Not intellectually, but vibrationally. She felt the truth of her place in this unfolding.

Then Sally did something most people wouldn’t.

She said: “I want to continue the Positively Focused practice. Even if I have to pay for it myself. Are you willing?” Are you kidding me? Of course, I’m willing I told her. This is a woman who had just lost her job. But instead of retreating, she expanded. Instead of pulling back, she leaned in. That’s sovereignty.

And here’s the part that gives me chills because it shows how devoted she is to this practice: Sally had already dropped her therapist a few weeks earlier. Not because of dissatisfaction, but because the Positively Focused framework, she said, works better for her. She wanted deeper alignment, not traditional analysis. And now? The practice had proven itself in the real world. In the sharp contrast of a termination, it had delivered peace, clarity, and confirmation.

Leaping Into Her Own Leadership

Nearly all my clients create similar results for themselves. That includes Jane. After all, Jane was the client who manifested a diamond. And all my clients who once had therapists agree: Therapy just can’t match alignment to All That Is. That alignment not only is the leverage everyone’s looking for. It also feels tremendously good. And how could it not? It taps us into our sovereignty. There’s no better feeling than that. No healing required. Just clarity.

With her job at Jane’s company winding down, Sally saw what I had always seen: she’s not meant to be an employee. She’s meant to lead. To create in her unique way. To bring talents to the world no one has seen before.

And now, she’s getting ready to do it. She doesn’t see that potential fully enough to embrace it. But everyone is expanding. Everyone’s also eternal. So there’s no rush to get it all done right now. We couldn’t even if we wanted to.

I’m positive she’ll use the practice as her compass. I’ll be there as her coach as well. And the Universe? The Universe is already clearing the path.

Two more fabulous installments to this story that delivered manifestation after manifestation. We’ll resume with those last two installments beginning this Wednesday.

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What Happens When Getting Fired Is Actually an Upgrade

TL;DR: The author recounts how client Sally transformed a sudden firing into unexpected confirmation from the Universe—turning perceived rejection into a launchpad for independence, clarity, and personal empowerment. This is part 2 of a 3-part story.

Sally’s phone rang. On the other end, her employer and friend Jane delivered news she didn’t see coming: her employment contract would not be renewed. No warning, review or improvement plan. No space to explain. Just a sudden end to the role she’d been performing, in her mind, with care, creativity, and dedication.

Now, Sally had trouble performing. But that’s because the company mission and organization changed drastically and Sally joined expecting something the company no longer was. She tried to adapt. But her efforts weren’t good enough.

Jane’s rationale for letting Sally go? On the surface it was Jane’s perspective that Sally added no value to the company. Evidence she gave was a task Jane believed Sally failed to complete. But that rationale was a mask. In truth, Sally had completed it—beautifully. Not only had she followed the assignment to break Jane’s blog content into repurposable chunks for social media, she’d gone a step further. She created a powerful, scalable content database, custom built from scratch with the help of ChatGPT.

It was smart. Strategic. Future-facing. But Jane couldn’t see it. And that is the crux of this story: the moment when a person’s active belief system filters out any reality inconsistent with it. Jane believed Sally wasn’t adding value. So, even when Sally delivered value, Jane literally couldn’t see it. This is the power—and the peril—of our dominant narratives.

Beliefs Create Blind Spots

This moment is more than a misunderstanding. It’s a living demonstration of a core Positively Focused truth: We don’t see “reality.” We see our beliefs projected into form. And Jane’s beliefs were loud: Sally isn’t contributing value. She doesn’t understand what I need. She’s wasting time. And she’s wasting my money.

When those beliefs are dominant, the Universe must deliver a version of reality, including people in that reality, proving the beliefs true—no matter what’s actually happening.

Immersed in those beliefs, Jane looked at a blank database and saw wasted effort, not innovation. She heard an explanation and felt frustration, not partnership. She concluded that this was the final straw, not the beginning of a breakthrough.

And Sally? Sally found herself abruptly fired—not because of her performance, but because her employer’s vibration had reached a tipping point. But the story doesn’t end here. Not even close. Because the Universe doesn’t work in straight lines. It works in spirals of expansion. And this firing was merely a pivot point. A stepping stone. The launching pad for something greater.

Jane couldn’t see the value Sally offered because she couldn’t see around her persistent belief momentum.

Sally’s Response: A Masterclass in Alignment

When I connected with Sally later that day, I was curious. Not worried—curious. Because I knew three things: One, Sally had been living the Positively Focused practice. Two, I had held steady in my own vibration around this outcome. And three, the Universe always delivers in our favor when we allow it.

So I wasn’t surprised when Sally told me she felt… good. Not shaken. Not devastated. Just calm. Clear. Receptive. That’s because, as soon as she hung up with Jane, the Universe swooped in with confirmation:

  • A text from a woman she deeply admired, a dance instructor she respected but had never called a friend. The message read: “I really believe we have a lot in common and I’m happy to call you my friend. You’re so positive and uplifting and I appreciate you.”
  • A chance encounter in the elevator with a stranger who offered warm, spontaneous appreciation for Sally’s physical beauty—another clear signal from the Universe: “We see you. You are loved.”
  • And the biggest moment of all: Sally realized she wanted to keep working with me—even if it meant paying out of pocket. Because this practice had given her more than any therapy session ever had.

She had just been fired… and yet she was feeling more empowered, more sovereign, and more certain of her path forward than ever before. She also knew Jane firing her had nothing to do with her. Now that’s alignment. That’s sovereignty.

Futures as Bright as the Morning Sun

Sally took an aptitude battery early in her employment with Jane. The battery returned what I already felt in Sally’s vibration. Sally is a leader, it said. She’s here to pioneer new pathways, not follow in the footsteps of others.

Sally isn’t quite at that vibrational frequency to realize this herself. She found the battery results at odds with her thinking. But that’s because her thinking still carries old beliefs of inadequacy, need and a bit of unworthiness.

And that’s why I enjoy guiding people through this practice. I’ve honed my awareness so that it is a sharp perceiver of what lies at the core of people. I can see their brightest future. Furthermore, I’ve built a structure that can have people end up living that future.

It requires dedication. It requires some letting go of old selves. The results, however, are so worth it. Everyone’s future can brighten like the morning sun, dispelling all distortion and revealing the joyful reflection of one’s eternal, divine inner state. I’m here to help those ready for such futures walk into them.

Perhaps you’re one such person. Let’s find out.

Meantime, we continue with this story tomorrow. We’re not even half-way through the amazing manifestations flowing from this one interaction. In case you missed it, here’s Part 1.

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How to Manifest Abundance by Aligning with Worthiness

TL;DR: The author demonstrates how aligning with inherent worthiness leads to manifested abundance. By gathering evidence of personal value, they assert, a self-sustaining loop of vibrational alignment and prosperity ensues.

Worthiness. It’s a word we often hear, especially in spiritual and personal development circles. But what does it really mean to be worthy? And how does one cultivate that sense of worthiness in their own life?

In my recent YouTube video, I dove deep into this very subject from the Positively Focused perspective. What I shared there mirrors what I’ve come to realize over the years in my own journey. It’s a central part of the work I do with clients.

Worthiness is not something we “do” to earn, but a state of being that unfolds naturally when we are in alignment with All That Is. It comes from recognizing and appreciating the ways the Universe has already delivered what we want—and realizing that the Universe is continually working in harmony with all our desires.

We have all experienced this. Think back to times when something you deeply wanted showed up for you, seemingly out of nowhere. That’s the Universe’s love and support in action. It’s the evidence that you are worthy, that the Universe is working with you, for you, giving you everything you want in every way it knows how.

That’s how worthiness starts to show up. It’s the process of collecting evidence—real, tangible, undeniable evidence—that you are worthy of receiving what you desire.

Building the Basket of Evidence

To explain this process, I often use the metaphor of a “basket of evidence.” Imagine that each manifestation you experience—whether it’s a small, pleasant surprise or a big, life-changing event—goes into your basket. Each time you receive something aligned with your desires, your basket fills up, showing you that the Universe not only supports you, but wants you to have everything you ask for.

The more we gather evidence of this the more we become aligned with the state of worthiness. Worthiness just can’t help but flow from within us. Then, the more worthiness we experience, the more naturally our alignment strengthens, and the more manifestations we attract.

Worthiness, therefore, isn’t a destination—it’s a process. As we continue adding to our basket of evidence, our belief in our inherent worth strengthens. And as our worthiness grows, we move further into a state of allowing, where everything we want moves effortlessly toward us. Then we begin noticing more evidence, and that evidence strengthens our belief. It’s a self-perpetuating upward spiral.

And once we reach this state of worthiness, we crave more of it. We want more evidence, more manifestations, more expansion. We start seeing the natural abundance the Universe always provides, and we become deeply aligned with that flow. The more we practice and embody our worthiness, the more the Universe showers us with everything we desire.

Filling a basket with evidence of the Universe loving you is the key to feeling worthy.

I’m Living Proof

This process isn’t just theoretical for me; it’s something I live daily. My life is a testament to the power of aligning with worthiness, and the manifestations that flow from it. The positive, abundance-filled experiences I have in my everyday life, including a growing client base, is living proof that when we tune into worthiness, the Universe meets us there.

I’ve also seen it in my clients’ lives. They’re creating their own baskets of evidence every day, just as I am. Whether it’s a successful career shift, improved relationships, or unexpected dates, they’re proving to themselves that they, too, are worthy of their desires.

This blog, my YouTube channel, my work with clients—it’s all about demonstrating how accurately this is to myself and to others. It’s about showing that the Universe always works in alignment with us. And through the Positively Focused practice, we are all learning to recognize that, and allow it to flow into our lives more freely, effortlessly, and abundantly.

But here’s the thing: It’s not enough to simply talk about worthiness. We must see evidence of it in our own life. If we want to become more aligned with our desires, we need to collect that evidence by focusing on the positive manifestations happening around us—no matter how big or small. Whether it’s a compliment, an unexpected check in the mail, or a surprise encounter with a person we needed to meet, those are all pieces of evidence that the Universe is supporting us.

Worthiness and the Charmed Life

As I’ve worked with my clients, I’ve seen them begin to gather their own evidence. Each small manifestation builds on the last, creating a snowball effect that leads to even more abundance, more alignment, and more joy. And this is the key: the more evidence we gather, the more we realize that we are the creator of our reality, and worthiness is our natural state.

The concept of worthiness is at the heart of the Positively Focused practice. It’s what leads to a Charmed Life—a life that is in constant flow with the Universe, where everything we effortlessly flows to us. And the beauty of it is that anyone can experience this. All it takes is the willingness to shift our beliefs, align with our worthiness, and allow the Universe to do the rest.

So, what’s in your basket of evidence? What are you gathering every day to prove to yourself that you are worthy? If you’re struggling to find that evidence, start small. Look for the little things. The Universe is always providing. You just have to be willing to see it.

Because when you do, you’ll begin to see how truly worthy you are. And from there, everything changes.

If you want help seeing the evidence that’s there, I can help.

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Why Letting The Universe “Do” Is Always Best

TL;DR: The author shares about a client, who, seeking love, experiences an effortless manifestation after releasing control. His story proves how trusting the Universe leads to joy, ease, and the unfolding of the Charmed Life.

The most satisfying and delightful, the most joyous way of getting what we want is by letting the Universe take care of the “doing”.

My latest new client recently discovered this. It’s very early in his Positively Focused practice – only his second session. And yet, he, like almost every client, showed himself the power of positive focus.

Whenever a new client starts the practice, they always produce evidence like what you’re about to read. There are two reasons for that. One, what we talk about in-session is exactly how the Universe works. So when clients open themselves to tuning in, the Universe confirms what they heard in-session. It delivers proof as a way of saying “See? It’s accurate.”

Second, the Universe and the client’s Broader Perspective want the client to embrace the practice. Not for the practice’s or for my sake, but because through the practice the person expands into more. So those two – the Universe and the client’s Broader Perspective – will orchestrate unmistakable proof they’re on the right track.

What happened then was meant to happen for these reasons. And, what happened not only showed the client how fun it is to align with All That Is, it gave the client a direct, visceral, delightful experience showing he can create his reality.

Let’s look at what happened.

Manifesting “organically”

This client came through my Transamorous Network offering. I told the story of how that happened in this post. How this client became a client is, itself, a wonderful manifestational argument for letting the Universe handle the doing.

Anyhow, this client came wanting help finding a transgender partner. Unlike other Transamorous Network clients, he already embraces his trans attraction. Like those other clients, however, this client believes finding quality transgender women is near-impossible. He’s tried online dating – to scant success – but he wants better experiences.

I don’t recommend online dating for many reasons. You can read about them here. Instead of online dating, I suggested to my client, that he would enjoy meeting his match “organically”. The client used the word “organically” in place of my phrase, which was “manifest her”.

In talking about “manifesting her”, I painted a scenario. I suggested that, through this practice, he might learn how to listen to his intuition. His intuition might, for example, tell him to go to a convenience store. Should he follow that intuition, when he goes to the store, he’ll run into a trans woman. A trans woman who his Broader Perspective (intuition) knew was there. His Broader Perspective would orchestrate the rendezvous.

And, when he sees her, when he’s dialed into the Positively Focused approach, the perfect words will flow from his mouth. Next thing he knows, I said, he and she will enjoy a date together.

That’s the story I painted. But that’s not what happened. What did happen was no less amazing, however.

Effortless dating

I told the story above in our first session. When the client arrived at the second session, he had a lot to share. He had many updates about his online dating forays, which were hilarious and horrible at the same time. Interspersed with those updates, and almost as an aside, he offered something that alerted my spidey senses.

He attended a work conference two days after we had our first session, he said. The client explained that the conference brings together people at the company he works at that he doesn’t see often or at all. At the conference, he said, he noticed a trans woman. Just like I told him, he found himself going up to this fellow employee and striking up a conversation with the perfect words.

The client described the encounter as “surprising”. He hadn’t expected a trans woman worked in his company, let alone that he would meet her. And while he and this girl didn’t go on a date (she represented a stepping stone on his journey, not the destination) he recognized the divine timing, the connection between what we talked about in our first session and this unfolding.

I asked him, then, directly: Which experience do you prefer, which is more fun: online dating and the perils of that, or meeting your match organically?

Of course, he agreed that the latter is much more fun and much easier. It’s actually effortless.

It’s always more fun meeting someone through manifestation.

The Charmed Life is everyone’s life

This is how everything can happen in our lives. The Universe is constantly delivering what we want to us. It’s happening effortlessly. But when we’re all bunged up in the doing, trying to make it happen our way, then we almost always run counter to the delightful way what we want can happen.

When we allow the Universe to handle the doing, however, life gets really easy. It’s the way I prefer it. I’d argue it’s the way we all prefer it. That is, if we knew it was available to us. A lot of us humans get bogged down in distorted beliefs, however. And so we end up doing “it” like everyone else who’s mired in distorted beliefs are doing it.

We needn’t be copies of those people. When we live differently, we become the beacon drawing others to their own, empowered, enlightened, easy life. The Charmed Life I write about every week.

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Seeing The Good Life Through The Lens Of Imagination

Late last week I wrote a post about science and love. I highlighted a client experience showing how disempowering scientific interpretations of reality can be. In this post, I want to point out another gift that conversation brought. One that shows how all of us humans are divine, naturally connected to All That Is and therefore predisposed to the Charmed Life.

If that’s the case, if we are predisposed to the Charmed Life, why do so many humans not live that? The answer lies in the text conversation this client and I had. More specifically, what he texted after I showed him a more imaginative way to look at his “lovesickness” than through scientific lenses. Here’s what he wrote. Let’s look at it again:

The client writes about his ability to “see outside of a reductionist scientific view” of the world. He talks about seeing the Universe as it is: “a conscious one made of love and beauty.”

That’s a beautiful way to put it. It’s also accurate in the extreme. When this client sees the world that way, I’m sure he feels empowerment, joy, connection and what humans call love. Seeing the world that way is a guaranteed outcome of the Positively Focused practice and a hallmark of the Charmed Life. The practice makes that way of seeing habitual or chronic. Through that lens, one can see the world unfolding perfectly, with one’s desires fulfilling themselves right before one’s eyes.

That’s such an empowering place from which to live. So why does this client choose scientific lenses rather than lenses of empowerment?

It’s generational

The same reason most humans do it. In a word: “habituation”.

Each successive generation comes into the world through the generation before it. Those previous generations think their job is to teach the young how to move through the world.

It’s not their job to do that though. But they act as though it is.

Previous generations invariably get caught up in disempowerment’s momentum. The beliefs they form disconnect them from the beauty and love that is reality’s natural state. From there, all they see is disappointment, discouragement, boredom, bondage, fear and insecurity. Oh, they have fleeting glimpses of positive expectation or happiness, but most of their life doesn’t show up that way. The way their life does show up comes from habituation they learned from the generations coming before them.

It’s from there that previous generations entrain the next one. And THAT’S why people double-down on “being realistic”, and “facing the facts”. It’s why they argue against being “pollyanna”; why they believe in “confirmation bias”. It explains why “wishful thinking” as a pejorative describing being Positively Focused is a thing. And so, previous generations pass to the next one a fact-based, realistic lens.

That’s why people end up being realistic instead of imaginative.

We remember

The in-coming generation knows this is going to happen before they come in. So it’s not like they’re a victim of the previous generation. They know what they’re doing deep down. Still, a few come in remembering all this. And it’s those few who offer clarity to the rest.

They’re the visionaries. It’s people like them who move humanity forward. Others come to remind those who’ve forgotten so they may live lives charmed.

My job as one of the latter is to attract those few, remind them what they know and help them recover their sovereignty, their imagination. That’s what is happening with this client. It’s what happens with every client. And that’s why clients’ lives change for the better in dramatic fashion.

My “job” is an expression of love. It’s based on the beauty and love inherent in All That Is. Not science. It is an act of eternal imagination. And its reverberations span all dimensions.

Every person possesses this divine, natural connection to All That Is. The only difference between them and me and my clients is: we remember.

Maybe it’s time you remember too. Book a session, let’s find out.

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Why Clients Find The Positive Life So Powerful

Clients always prove to themselves how effective a Positively Focused orientation is. This usually happens between the first and second session. So it’s an easy “sell” getting clients bought in to being positive. I have a story cued up offering a real-life example of exactly this kind of thing. It features a client who manifested a result he previously thought impossible.

It will publish later in June.

Why does this always happen? Because the Universe is on our side. When we release beliefs blocking that fact, the Universe’s powerful, positive momentum shines through. When it does as a manifested reality matched to our desires, it literally becomes undeniable that this YCYOR business is real.

That one experience is so powerful, it hooks clients. Even if they can’t feel it yet (because their conscious sensitivity isn’t subtle enough to catch it) their Broader Perspective and the inner parts of their consciousness feel it. And that gets us rolling into more powerful levels of the practice.

In time, their sensitivity increases, as does their conscious awareness that something powerful is happening. Their lives change right before their eyes.

It starts from the inside out. They feel better. They can’t put a finger on why. Many think it’s me, but it’s not. It’s them. Then they start seeing their world match how they’re feeling. The world improves. But only for them.

By then, their interest grows so strong, a positive focus gradually becomes what they want more than anything. It’s not straightforward though. Clients go back and forth between eagerness for what they’re experiencing and falling back into old, distorted beliefs. The more evidence they show themselves, however, with help from me showing where that evidence exists, the more they lean into their Positively Focused orientation.

The clients who let their lives do the talking, become highly influential to others. This is especially true with family members, which explains why so many of my clients are sisters, brothers and spouses of early clients. Those closest to us get front-row seats to how much we change when we become positive, powerful people.

Some clients get really excited about their new lives. Those clients try convincing others with their mouths about how great the practice is. That hardly ever works, because words don’t really convince other people. What convinces them is witnessing with their own eyes the change happening in another. Words just get in the way.

And that’s why the Universe gets in on the act early. Because new clients, when they see, or even better, when they feel the evidence, they can’t deny it: Living Positively Focused is the way to go.