Category: Broader Perspective

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How to Know Which Sign Is the Real One

TL;DR: The author shares a powerful real-life story in which simultaneous criticism and praise become vibrational signposts—revealing how contrast and coincidence reflect momentum, alignment, and the Universe’s loving invitation to choose. But only for those who are worthy.

Sometimes, the Universe delivers two seemingly contradictory events at the same time—one that feels negative, and another that feels positive. But when we’re living Positively Focused, when we stand in our worthiness, we start to see both as guidance. Both are reflections. And both are invitations to choose our direction consciously. When negative and positive arrive together, a divine invitation is at hand.

Over the past three weeks, I experienced exactly that. The timing was too perfect to ignore. It was a moment so aligned, so precise, it could only be orchestrated by my Broader Perspective.

The Critic and the Client

On one hand, I was corresponding with a transgender woman. She had taken issue with my work on The Transamorous Network blog. We’ll call her Janet. Being a trans woman, she felt misunderstood, even attacked perhaps, by something I’d written. And though I knew her interpretation didn’t match my intent, I responded with clarity and care to help clear up her Belief Confrontation.

While our correspondence went back and forth, another transgender woman—let’s call her Nancy—scheduled a free one-on-one through that same blog. I didn’t know anything about her until we met. Turns out, Nancy is finishing medical school and is also steeped in clinical psychology. That’s right: a person deeply steeped in the scientific method had read 10 or 20 of my blog posts—and felt drawn enough to reach out for more.

During our free session (which went well beyond the usual 30 minutes), we dove into spiritual principles, her beliefs and how they shape her life, and things she cares about. By the end, she told me she knew there was something in what I share — and she wanted to become a client.

That moment was no accident. It was a deliberate, divinely-timed juxtaposition. One trans woman criticizing what I do. The other wanting part of it. That juxtaposition taught me something I already knew, but love being reminded of: Criticism and praise aren’t opposites. They’re coordinates. They help us locate ourselves vibrationally.

To explain:

A Return from Negative Momentum

Back in December, I stopped writing for The Transamorous Network blog. I noticed that my focus on that subject back then had slipped into negative momentum focus. I was drawing more and more criticism from angry readers—many of whom didn’t understand my perspective or what I was offering. All of them were trans women.

I tried for a long time to clear up their misunderstandings and limited beliefs. But those people couldn’t hear what I was saying. That’s because their belief constellations ranged far from where I am in my knowledge about life experience. So the more I tried to uplift them, the harder they pushed. And the harder they pushed, the more entrained I got.

Until I realized what I was doing.

When I did, I stopped pushing against that resistance. I stepped back and allowed my vibration to recalibrate. No more posts for that blog! In doing so, I let the negative momentum subside by not feeding it further.

By not feeding my old momentum, I set up the divine invitation that came later.

Months later—without me publishing a single new post—new readers began reaching out again. Trans-attracted men, wives of trans-attracted men, even gay men sent me messages. They all were asking for guidance, for support, for answers. Not with anger—but with curiosity and warmth. And with understanding that I offer something of value.

That’s how I knew something shifted.

And then came Janet and Nancy, nearly at the same moment. Both represented clear reflections that I was now standing in a different vibrational space—one where I was ready to choose what momentum I wanted to amplify.

Both Are Guidance

Here’s what I saw clearly: Janet and Nancy were both cooperative components.

  • Janet mirrored my old energy—momentum I had already soothed. Momentum that had me pushing against trans women’s lack of understanding, insecurity and anger.
  • Nancy mirrored new energy—momentum I was now allowing. Ease in my being. Allowing instead of pushing. Letting the Universe present me with what I want. Not pushing against what I don’t.

Here’s the biggest thing: Both Janet and Nancy offered a chance to decide where I wanted to place my focus and which momentum I wanted to build. They invited me to ask myself: Do I want more of this (Nancy)? Or more of that (Janet)?

Do I want more of this (Nancy)? Or more of that (Janet)?

Not because one is good and the other is bad. But because the Universe will always give you what you focus on.

So I leaned into Nancy’s presence—her clarity, her eagerness, her willingness to explore. And with that choice, I emailed Janet and let her know I was ending the correspondence. I told her why—not out of avoidance, or anger, but out of alignment. I explained that I was following what felt best, and honoring where my energy was now flowing.

Letting that go was a powerful, gentle release. It reminded me: Everyone is a divine being offering guidance—not always with praise or agreement, but always with clarity if we’re willing to see it.

That’s Where Worthiness Comes In

When events coincide — especially when they seem emotionally opposite — it’s not random. It’s vibrational precision. It’s our Broader Perspective delivering options at the exact frequency we’re tuned to. At that exact moment, we get to choose which option we energize with our attention. That choice determines what comes next.

But the challenge life offers regarding these moments is we must be aligned with our worthiness to perceive what’s happening as a gift. Worthiness isn’t something we can conjure or “fake it until you make it”. It emerges naturally from within us when we recognize, acknowledge and remember, moments in our past where the Universe offered us guidance, followed through and delivered on our desires, or blessed us in some other way.

Everyone is a divine being offering guidance—not always with praise or agreement, but always with clarity if we’re willing to see it.

Worthiness, therefore, comes naturally when we fill our vibrational basket with evidence that we are blessed by All That Is. It doesn’t come before that. And so, if we don’t feel that worthiness, we can’t see how, for example, Janet and Nancy’s arrival into my life was something other than random coincidence.

One of my newer clients said recently: “Why isn’t this stuff taught in school? If it were, people could live so much better.” I agree. Because once we recover our worthiness, then learn how to interpret our reality—including the contrast—as real-time vibrational feedback, life gets easier. It gets softer. It gets clearer. We stop taking things personally. We understand why people do what they do with absolute clarity and also with love, knowing nothing can come into our life without us attracting it. That’s when we stop trying to control other people. We just trust what life is showing us… even when it arrives as contrast.

That’s why a separate, long-time client once told me: “I love this shit!”. She gets what I’m talking about.

I do too.

Recovering our Worthiness

So let this moment remind you: If you’re getting mixed signals from life, it’s not confusion. It’s refinement. And it’s certainly not random coincidence. Instead, it’s a moment where you stand at a vibrational cross roads. And your power lies in what you choose to focus on next.

Worthiness takes a while to allow into our experience. We all had it as children. But nearly all parents talk us out of it by convincing us to put their happiness ahead of our own. They do that by setting rules, meting out punishments and saying distorted things like “money doesn’t grow on trees”.

In short order, we become very much like our parents.

The good news: all of this is recoverable. Every person can recover their worthiness. It takes longer for some than others. But who cares, really, how long it takes? We all are, after all, eternal.

Want help deciphering your own cross roads? Want a life where things happen on your behalf without you having to struggle or hustle? Schedule a free 30-minute session with me right here. The Universe is always speaking to you. Let’s learn how to listen.

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What Lost Keys Reveal About How Powerful You Are

TL;DR: The author explores how a client’s missing keys became a mirror of internal beliefs. Through contrast, he’s invited to align with his power—and choose the reality he wants next. This is final part of a four-part story.

Steven didn’t lose his keys. Not in any ultimate sense. Not in the way most people think of losing something — as a punishment or a mistake or evidence of failure. No. Steven’s keys were lovingly, exquisitely, purposefully withheld for a larger purpose. One important for the expansion of himself and All That Is.

Because the keys weren’t just metal. They were symbolic. They were, in every sense, the keys to Steven’s kingdom. And the kingdom they opened wasn’t a maintenance shed on campus. It was a vibrational kingdom — the realm of self-worth, of true power, of knowing who he really is.

But the question the Universe posed was this: Is Steven ready to claim that kingdom? Not metaphorically claim it. Not rhetorically either. The question asked: is he energetically ready to claim it?

The answer, of course, is always “yes”. Otherwise the experience wouldn’t be happening. But Steven’s relationship with that yes… that’s what this entire expansion was about.

His Mom Was the First Portal

When Steven first came to me, his mom was the figure around whom most of his contrast orbited. There was judgment, control, and emotional volatility. Those things came from him, not his mother. His mother did the best she could as a young single mom of three, back when Steven was a boy. She didn’t know back then, what Steven is learning today. Today, Steven’s mom is learning, however, because she, like Steven, is a Positively Focused client.

But while Steven was a child, his mother, like most parents, was completely oblivious. Oblivious about a lot of things. She didn’t know her son came to teach her, for example. Not the other way around. Steven’s mother didn’t know she had an Inner Being, an unerring guide showing her the path of her liberation. But what she most didn’t realize was that every time she punished Steven, every time she lost her cool, she wasn’t in love with her child.

But nothing was wrong with any of that. Steven’s mother was exactly what Steven knew he would come into reality through. He had prepared the experience prior to even showing up. So everything young Steven experienced was good for him.

Steven’s mom represented a mirror through which Steven came to believe he had to prove himself. He had to earn love, earn respect, earn safety.

That belief as well as others knocked Steven off course for a while. Good thing he discovered the Positively Focused practice.

Over time, through his Positively Focused practice, Steven regained his footing. He stopped reacting when his mom pushed his buttons as an adult. But then he wobbled between blaming and appreciating her. He also wobbled between diagnosing pathologies he perceived she had. In between all that, he gradually stopped needing her approval. With help from his sister, who also is a client, he gradually began generating stability from within. That was a massive vibrational accomplishment.

The Universe is watching

He’s still not done with any of this. That’s because it takes a while to soothe momentum, and, on the subject of his mother, Steven has over 40 years of negative concluding on her as a subject. That’s a lot of time to build momentum.

The Positively Focused is not magic. It can’t soothe old beliefs instantly. Actually, the practice does nothing. It’s clients putting the practice into use that creates results. Like any thing with a lot of momentum, it takes a long time to slow down beliefs practiced over 40 years. That’s what Steven is up to.

It’s a heroic thing to take on for most humans. That’s because it demands that we look at ourselves as the creator of ALL of our experience. That can be hard. Especially when we believe in victimization. And many, many humans do. Steven once did too.

Now, however, he’s soothing those old beliefs. And the Universe is taking notice.

See, as we soothe beliefs creating contrast, the contrast doesn’t repeat—it evolves. When we integrate an old pattern, the Universe doesn’t punish us with a harder version. It celebrates us by offering a broader one. It says, “Great! You’ve learned to find your footing when family triggers you. Now… what happens when external authority and livelihood are on the line?”

Enter: Richard, Steven’s boss.

Learning as creators

In the days after the keys “disappeared,” Richard became unusually critical. The warmth Steven once felt from him seemed gone. Instead, Richard scrutinized Steven’s every task. The sprinkler system. The backlog, the other tasks still undone on Steven’s desk.

Richard’s scrutiny rattled Steven.

What he didn’t immediately see, though, is that he had become a match to this version of Richard. Just like he had once summoned a combative version of his mother, now he was summoning a critical version of his boss.

That’s not failure. It’s evolution.

When old beliefs are active they continue creating our reality. As Steven soothed his, that same frequency that once showed up as “Mom” now appeared as “Supervisor.” But the purpose was the same: to show Steven these beliefs are still active. Still shaping his experience. Still distorting his view of himself.

Steven’s experience is evolving him into the god he is.

Some call this process transference. But that’s too close to the psychological concept of projection. What’s happening is not projection. What is it? Ascension. It’s vibrational navigation through and into expansion. Think about it. Dealing with a mother within the confines of family is one thing. Your livelihood and social/working reputation on the line? That’s a completely different level. A higher level.

Ultimately, we’re all evolving to become the gods we are. Beyond our human experience lies tremendous responsibility. We are the creator of worlds. And we are learning to create, ultimately, in an environment where no resistance exists.

That means wherever we put our attention, what we focus on grows immediately, and exponentially. That’s how powerful we are. This physical reality, therefore, is a sandbox for us to play, explore, refine. That’s what Steven’s doing…at ever increasingly significant levels.

Keys as Evidence of Alignment (or Not)

The most powerful part of this story isn’t just what happened after the keys became lost. It’s what those keys represented all along.

Steven was on the cusp of a major promotion—to locksmith. Those very keys were tied to that promotion. Those keys were literally one of very few sets of its kind. Also, some keys in that set were master keys. They open ANY door on the college campus. They therefore were symbols of trust, capability, and responsibility. Losing them, in Steven’s eyes, felt like losing his future. In Richard’s eyes, according to Steven, they were a test: Can Steven shoulder the responsibility?

But what Steven didn’t see at first was that those keys also simply mirrored his vibration. When he felt unsure, they disappeared. As he judged himself, they became even more lost. When he doubted his worth, the Universe gave him a reality that matched: a world in which he didn’t have the tools, wasn’t trusted, and couldn’t move forward.

Again, that’s not punishment. It was reflection. Precise, perfect, loving reflection. That’s because physical reality is never fixed. It’s vibrationally curated and constantly flowing into something more.

Let’s say, for example, upon noticing the keys not where they should be Steven relaxed into a feeling of HAVING the keys, instead of collapsing into the state of them being lost, and then amplifying that reality with intense emotions (fear, fright, worry, etc.). Had he done so, the key would have (seemingly) appeared somewhere. This has happened to me DOZENS of times. I’ve written about two instances before. Here, and here.

But Steven didn’t do that. Instead, he collapsed. And then amplified the reality he collapsed into: Lost keys.

The Bigger Pattern: From Proof to Permission

Here’s the most overlooked thing about Steven’s story: the keys didn’t disappear because he was out of alignment. They disappeared so that he could find stronger, more stable alignment. Let’s say that again: Contrast is not evidence of failure. It’s evidence of readiness.

The moment Stevens keys went missing, he wasn’t being tested (only humans test each other). He was being invited. Invited to stand where he hadn’t stood before. Where he could see himself differently. Then choose a new story. A story where he’s not the person trying to prove himself worthy of the promotion. Worthy of the promotion or his mother’s love.

By the end of our session, Steven was steadier. Not euphoric. Not fully turned around. But steadier, clearer and more open to possibility. And with that openness, a choice began to emerge: Will he continue to tell the story of a man who lost his chance? Or will he tell a new story… one where the keys were never the point?

Keys can’t unlock doors like alignment can. Which means Steven could go back to work tomorrow and find those keys tucked in a place he never thought to look. Or… a completely new solution might show. Perhaps the promotion still pops into his reality. Or it doesn’t.

But either way, the real reward is who Steven is becoming.

The Takeaway: The Kingdom Was Never Outside Him:

The Universe doesn’t care about metal keys or job titles. It cares about the vibration we hold—and who we become by aligning with that vibration. Steven’s keys were never lost. Not really. They simply retreated from view until he becomes a match to their presence. That’s how all reality works. And now, Steven stands on a threshold.

Not an employment threshold, but an embodiment threshold. Will he lean into what he knows? Will he trust that this isn’t a setback, but a setup? The door is already ajar. All that’s left… is for Steven to walk through.

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Why Ignoring Spirit Guidance Makes Life Feel Harder

TL;DR: In this four-part series, the author explores how a client’s decision to override inner guidance set contrast in motion, showing that every opportunity begins as a soft whisper. But ignoring the whisper just makes the message louder and more painful. The author asserts that either way, no experience is ever misaligned.

The Universe said to a client last week “stay home.” It was a soft whisper that could have changed everything. When “Steven” woke up that morning, he already knew what to do. Or rather what not to do.

It wasn’t logic. No checklist appeared. It wasn’t a physical symptom either, like a scratchy throat.

Nevertheless, deep in his being, Steven felt it: Today was not a day to go to work. It was a Broader Perspective nudge—the kind he’d become increasingly familiar with as a Positively Focused client. The nudge came as a quiet, calm, inner voice. “Pause. Don’t push. Stay home.”

But Steven didn’t stay home. Instead, he shared that feeling with his wife. And she disagreed. “You should go,” she said. “Just get through it.”

Steven said her tone was kind but firm. And yet, that wasn’t what made Steven agree with her. Instead, it was a set of beliefs making up a large Belief Constellation. A constellation Steven couldn’t argue with. And in that moment, Steven did what most of us do far too often: He trusted external authority over inner knowing.

And that is where this story begins.

The foreshadowing

The story doesn’t begin the moment Steven’s keys went missing. Nor when his boss started strongly criticizing Steven for losing his keys. No, it started here, with Steven ignoring his knowing. In the moment Steven said “yes” to someone else’s voice, and “no” to his own. Because every bit of contrast—big or small—starts long before the event. It usually starts with a tiny departure from alignment. Like putting someone else’s opinion before our Broader Perspective’s opinion, for example.

The day before this, Steven had a beautiful moment with his sister — who’s also a Positively Focused client. They were connecting, growing, aligning together. It was a peak moment, that day. And the Universe? It responded accordingly. Which meant… the next level of expansion was coming.

Of course, every new level of expansion carries within it a new level of contrast. Contrast we’re not prepared for before the expansionary movement. Contrast that then sets the stage for the next step in our expansion. What unfolded next represented, therefore, a gift. Steven didn’t see it that way, however.

That night, driving home from that joyful experience with his sister, Steven struck a baby deer. The collision wasn’t violent. There was no injury to him or his vehicle. It killed the deer, however. And that, emotionally, hit Steven hard. He couldn’t sleep. His mind raced. He questioned himself. What did it mean? Was it a sign? Was it his fault?

He dipped into strong negative emotions that night. And he’d forgotten his practice. He forgot negative emotions, like contrast, are seeds of expansion. In his emotional turmoil, he also didn’t realize that the deer encounter was not a punishment. It wasn’t karma. It wasn’t even misfortune or an accident. What it was, was a perfect foreshadowing. The encounter foreshadowed a need for Steven to soothe.

A fork in timelines

The deer, then, served as a messenger. The messenger, the young mammal, was ready to return to nonphysical. Like all points of consciousness, it chose the circumstances of its transition. In doing so, it also chose to serve as the messenger it was.

Its message was not one of doom, but of misalignment. An indicator that the frequency Steven was on no longer matched the old timeline he was living in. The path he was taking was ready to shift. The deer marked the fork.

So the next morning, when Steven’s Broader Perspective said “stay home,” it wasn’t random. It was part of a larger orchestration. Again, Steven needed to soothe.

But here’s where things get fascinating: Steven didn’t ignore the nudge. He noticed it, he named it. He even voiced it. That matters, because many people never get to that step. They plow ahead, unaware of inner signals. Steven, however, was aware. He just chose, in this case, to listen to someone else.

Even that wasn’t “wrong.” But that choice created a cascade. A timeline fork—one that included lost keys, criticism from his boss, and the resurfacing of old, powerful emotional patterns Steven would have to work through.

Would that timeline have manifested if he’d stayed home? Unlikely. But this is where the Positively Focused practice shines: it doesn’t teach avoidance. It teaches awareness. Awareness and alignment. Because contrast is not the enemy—it’s the invitation.

Steven just RSVP’d the hard way.

Resistance Isn’t What You Think It Is

We often think resistance shows up as panic, chaos, a full-blown breakdown. But that’s the final expression of resistance. The beginning of resistance is so soft, it’s practically inaudible. It’s a subtle push against the stream. A decision that seems small. A moment of “I should” instead of “I want.”

When Aaron said “yes” to work that day, it wasn’t because he didn’t care about his alignment. It was because his old stories—the ones about responsibility, about being a good husband, about pushing through—had more momentum than his trust in the inner voice.

That’s not failure. That’s just contrast.

And contrast is a mirror. Here’s the twist: None of this should be interpreted as a mistake. The deer. The keys that would go lost. The upcoming confrontation with his boss. Even Steven’s fear about his promotion. All of it was divine.

Because Steven’s vibration was already changing. He was becoming someone new. And when that happens, life must respond with new experiences—experiences reflecting where we’ve been and where we’re going. So yes, Steven “should’ve stayed home.” But not because that would’ve been “better.” Only because that path would’ve been smoother.

This path? It was more bumpy. But also more illuminating. Because sometimes, the fastest way to growth is friction. And Steven was ready for growth.

Takeaway: Every contrast begins with a soft whisper from within. The question is: Are we listening? And if we’re not—can we appreciate the journey anyway?

Thanks for reading. Part 2 goes live tomorrow.

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How To Make The World Better–Through Belief Alone

TL;DR: The author reflects further on a striking encounter with a friend to illustrate how beliefs shape physical reality, showing that inner alignment—not outer conditions—determines the world we each experience.

In my last post, I shared a 24-hour journey from negative momentum to alignment, sparked by a conversation with my friend, Mark. It was a powerful moment of returning to my sovereignty, which you can read here.

But there’s a deeper thread that continued to unfold—the stark difference between my reality and Mark’s, even though we live in the same city. That contrast revealed something remarkable.

It’s often said that “we see what we want to see.” But what if it’s even deeper than that? What if we don’t just see through the lens of our beliefs… we live through them? What if every detail of our physical experience—what happens to us, what we witness, what we remember—is shaped not by the world “out there” but by the vibration we’re broadcasting?

Mark and I both live in Portland, Oregon. I live near downtown; Mark lives in the suburbs. Last Thursday, during lunch, Mark described two recent events that deeply disturbed him. Both happened downtown. Both involved violence. And both served, for him, as evidence of the country’s collapse.

Let’s take a look at them.

Chaos, danger and decline

In the first incident, Mark tried to visit the main branch of the Multnomah County Library around 9 a.m. only to find it closed. He immediately linked this to Trump-era budget cuts. Later that day, when he returned to the library around noon, the building had been cordoned off by police. A shooting had occurred on the steps.

But here’s the thing: the library wasn’t closed due to budget cuts. Multnomah County Library standardized hours in December 2024 to offer a balance of morning and evening access. Now, the downtown branch opens at noon on Tuesdays and Wednesdays to accommodate both working people and families. It’s about consistency and predictability for patrons—not politics or scarcity.

Still, Mark filtered the change through his vibrational lens. Saturated in narratives of political and social decay, he couldn’t help but interpret it as another sign of America’s downfall. His thoughts and beliefs tuned him to a version of Portland filled with chaos, danger, and decline. And that’s exactly what he found.

The second incident, which happened earlier, involved a gathering of unhoused individuals. An argument broke out, and Mark watched one person knock another to the ground and begin kicking them. Again, he took this as evidence that America—and particularly Portland—was unraveling.

Meanwhile, I’ve cultivated a completely different vibrational lens.

Vibrational Contagion Works

When I walk through Portland, people smile at me. I’m greeted warmly by strangers. I get compliments from passersby. Even unhoused people feel like part of the landscape, not a threat. I’ve held the belief that they’re harmless, and so they are. Recently, while dining out, a staff member passed by me and said, “You’re really good-looking.” I agreed. I know I look good because I feel good. I vibrate at a high frequency.

That’s not vanity. That’s alignment.

Last Thursday, Mark suggested I move to a country like Vietnam or Thailand, where my Social Security income along with my client revenue might stretch further. In his view, the U.S. is on a downward spiral. But I’ve recently manifested an affordable housing opportunity right here in Portland—Albina One—that feels like a perfect vibrational match for me at this moment. I’ve also received powerful dream downloads encouraging me to relaunch my YouTube channel.

The world around us reflects our vibration. Make it a beautiful one.

None of that came up during our lunch. Why? Because I collapsed into Mark’s Belief Momentum. I saw what Mark saw: limitation. Diminished possibility. Fearful retreat.
That’s how quickly—and how powerfully—vibrational contagion works.

And when I collapsed, my vibrational lens changed. I actually considered leaving the country. I saw my future as limited, uncertain, bleak. That’s the power of alignment—whatever you align to, you see. I literally forgot all the incredible manifestations that had recently unfolded for me. Manifestations telling me my future is secure. Right here in the US.

When the Universe responds to our vibration, it doesn’t respond to the “truth.” It responds to belief. And then it produces what looks like truth—but it’s actually confirmation. That’s the kicker: What we think is “objective reality” is just our vibration made visible.

How We Change…Everything

But the beauty of this practice is, I noticed it. I caught the momentum then paused. I didn’t push forward from that lower vibration. Instead, I tuned inward. Then I shared my experience with my clients to demonstrate how even I, a seasoned practitioner, moved through contrast. I also did it to amplify my clarity.

And when I returned to alignment, everything came back into focus.

This is why Mark’s experiences and mine differ so radically—even when we occupy the same town. It’s why he was moved to suggest I leave the country… while I’m actively manifesting a bright, abundant future right here in Portland.

It’s why, when I aligned again with my Broader Perspective, I remembered the truth of my trajectory — my dream-driven YouTube guidance, my apartment, my unfolding financial stability. And it’s why, when I re-centered myself the next day, using my Positively Focused practice, I felt radiant again. Because I stopped interpreting life through his lens, and returned to my own. That’s how powerful this is.

This experience reaffirmed what I know to be true: our reality is not “out there”. It’s in here, in us all. Our thoughts, our beliefs, our vibration filter All That Is into the only version of reality we can see.

We don’t have to leave our country to find peace. Nor do we have to move to a different economy to feel secure. We just have to shift the signal we’re broadcasting—and then our world shifts around us. This isn’t theory. It’s not metaphor. It’s real.

I’m living proof.

Mark’s Portland is violent, failing, and hopeless. My Portland is promising, vibrant, and full of connection. Same city. Two worlds. Each perfectly matching our internal state.

But this isn’t just about Portland. It’s about how we each create our own external reality from the reality that is in us. Once we realize that, we stop trying to fix external reality. Instead we start tuning our vibration. Because that’s where our power lives.

And from there, everything changes.

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Why Letting The Universe “Do” Is Always Best

TL;DR: The author shares about a client, who, seeking love, experiences an effortless manifestation after releasing control. His story proves how trusting the Universe leads to joy, ease, and the unfolding of the Charmed Life.

The most satisfying and delightful, the most joyous way of getting what we want is by letting the Universe take care of the “doing”.

My latest new client recently discovered this. It’s very early in his Positively Focused practice – only his second session. And yet, he, like almost every client, showed himself the power of positive focus.

Whenever a new client starts the practice, they always produce evidence like what you’re about to read. There are two reasons for that. One, what we talk about in-session is exactly how the Universe works. So when clients open themselves to tuning in, the Universe confirms what they heard in-session. It delivers proof as a way of saying “See? It’s accurate.”

Second, the Universe and the client’s Broader Perspective want the client to embrace the practice. Not for the practice’s or for my sake, but because through the practice the person expands into more. So those two – the Universe and the client’s Broader Perspective – will orchestrate unmistakable proof they’re on the right track.

What happened then was meant to happen for these reasons. And, what happened not only showed the client how fun it is to align with All That Is, it gave the client a direct, visceral, delightful experience showing he can create his reality.

Let’s look at what happened.

Manifesting “organically”

This client came through my Transamorous Network offering. I told the story of how that happened in this post. How this client became a client is, itself, a wonderful manifestational argument for letting the Universe handle the doing.

Anyhow, this client came wanting help finding a transgender partner. Unlike other Transamorous Network clients, he already embraces his trans attraction. Like those other clients, however, this client believes finding quality transgender women is near-impossible. He’s tried online dating – to scant success – but he wants better experiences.

I don’t recommend online dating for many reasons. You can read about them here. Instead of online dating, I suggested to my client, that he would enjoy meeting his match “organically”. The client used the word “organically” in place of my phrase, which was “manifest her”.

In talking about “manifesting her”, I painted a scenario. I suggested that, through this practice, he might learn how to listen to his intuition. His intuition might, for example, tell him to go to a convenience store. Should he follow that intuition, when he goes to the store, he’ll run into a trans woman. A trans woman who his Broader Perspective (intuition) knew was there. His Broader Perspective would orchestrate the rendezvous.

And, when he sees her, when he’s dialed into the Positively Focused approach, the perfect words will flow from his mouth. Next thing he knows, I said, he and she will enjoy a date together.

That’s the story I painted. But that’s not what happened. What did happen was no less amazing, however.

Effortless dating

I told the story above in our first session. When the client arrived at the second session, he had a lot to share. He had many updates about his online dating forays, which were hilarious and horrible at the same time. Interspersed with those updates, and almost as an aside, he offered something that alerted my spidey senses.

He attended a work conference two days after we had our first session, he said. The client explained that the conference brings together people at the company he works at that he doesn’t see often or at all. At the conference, he said, he noticed a trans woman. Just like I told him, he found himself going up to this fellow employee and striking up a conversation with the perfect words.

The client described the encounter as “surprising”. He hadn’t expected a trans woman worked in his company, let alone that he would meet her. And while he and this girl didn’t go on a date (she represented a stepping stone on his journey, not the destination) he recognized the divine timing, the connection between what we talked about in our first session and this unfolding.

I asked him, then, directly: Which experience do you prefer, which is more fun: online dating and the perils of that, or meeting your match organically?

Of course, he agreed that the latter is much more fun and much easier. It’s actually effortless.

It’s always more fun meeting someone through manifestation.

The Charmed Life is everyone’s life

This is how everything can happen in our lives. The Universe is constantly delivering what we want to us. It’s happening effortlessly. But when we’re all bunged up in the doing, trying to make it happen our way, then we almost always run counter to the delightful way what we want can happen.

When we allow the Universe to handle the doing, however, life gets really easy. It’s the way I prefer it. I’d argue it’s the way we all prefer it. That is, if we knew it was available to us. A lot of us humans get bogged down in distorted beliefs, however. And so we end up doing “it” like everyone else who’s mired in distorted beliefs are doing it.

We needn’t be copies of those people. When we live differently, we become the beacon drawing others to their own, empowered, enlightened, easy life. The Charmed Life I write about every week.

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How One Client Found Her Way to Powerful Results

TL;DR The author recounts a session this week in which the client’s journey shows how powerful the dream state can be when paired with vibrational alignment—and how nurturing your Inner Being leads to inspired, effortless breakthroughs in life and work.

When I spoke with “Marsha”, a newer client, this week, she was in the thick of it. The assignment she’d received from her collaborator and spiritual partner, whom we’ll call “Janice”, had stirred up something deep. Not because the assignment was unreasonable. But because it touched an old wound—one that said: “You’re not safe to express. If you speak up, express fear…if you’re seen, something bad will happen.”

This was no small ripple. This was a wave of paralyzing fear that locked her out of clarity and into self-doubt. But what unfolded next wasn’t just a turning point in Marsha’s relatively new Positively Focused practice. It was a revelation.

At first, Marsha tried to push through her resistance, telling Janic sure, she can do the assignment. But fear of failure gripped her and wouldn’t let go. Marsha knew this was an opportunity to apply the practice. So, despite her fears, she turned to the Positively Focused process we’ve been cultivating in our work together.

And she did apply it. But it didn’t immediately produce the ease she hoped for.

Because sometimes, the momentum is still too strong. Sometimes, our beliefs are too practiced. And when that’s the case, the best thing we can do is not force alignment… but pause, soften, and allow. That’s exactly what Marsha did.

From Collapse To Consciousness

After trying the process, Marsha felt a nudge. It felt like fatigue. It overcame her. Rather than push through that signal, she took that as a sign that her Broader Perspective wanted her in nonphysical. So she heeded the call. She lay down, hoping to meditate or rest. But what came next was something more powerful than either. She dreamed.

In this dream, Marsha faced the same emotional landscape she had in waking life: extreme fear, constriction in her body, performance anxiety, and a sense that being her full self was unacceptable. But in the dreamscape, her Broader Perspective had more room to work.

Symbol after symbol appeared, each one softening the density she’d been carrying. Marsha felt her freedom return. She felt her joy light up. She felt the truth: Her voice is not a threat. Her creativity is not dangerous. Her sensitivity is not a liability. It is her genius. But she also saw in her dream imagery confirming contrast between those positive things and the repression, the urge to conform, and the fear that being fully self expressive was a problem.

When she awoke from the dream, something remarkable happened. The assignment no longer looked like a burden. In fact, her mind began overflowing with ideas—not just about that one task, but about others she’d been postponing. Inspiration arrived in waves. Energy returned. What felt impossible just hours earlier, before her dream now felt obvious, even joyful.

Softening our resistance we rediscover the joy buried underneath.

The Value of the Dream State

In a short time, Marsha got a lot of her tasks done. Not by efforting, but by allowing. The rest she left to the Universe. That was an interesting choice because the deadline Marsha thought was hard and fast was actually something more pliable. Janice, who also is a client who meets with me before I meet with Marsha, said there was no deadline. And if Marsha couldn’t complete the assignment, it was ok, Janice said. The assignment was a stretch goal.

In-session, Marsha and I explored her side of the experience. She shared the dream, the before-and-after of it, the vibrational shift. Marsha wasn’t just reporting on tasks completed. She was describing a vibrational recalibration. One that aligned her with ease, clarity, and flow.

Of course, the power of the session wasn’t in what we solved. It was in what we remembered together: That every human being has access to this power. Many people think the dream state is just the brain’s way of organizing memory. But in the Positively Focused framework, we know dreams are so much more.

Dreams are calibrations. They are communications. They are environments where little resistance occurs. So we have a greater ability to resolve vibrational conflicts from our waking experience. Such vibrational resolutions often work faster than conscious effort. In dream state, resolutions are instant. Because when the waking mind rests, our Broader Perspective can slip past the guards of belief and touch the heart directly.

Most people wake from dreams and pick up their resistance right where they left off when they went to sleep. So they don’t get this benefit.

Breakdowns: Always Launchpads for Breakthroughs

Not. Marsha. What’s more—her dream proved that Marsha is never alone. Her Inner Being is always assisting her. But she must slow down enough to let it. She must open up to a higher order function. Her nonphysical wisdom.

The journey Marsha took over those few days is one many clients experience in this practice:

  • A trigger ignites old momentum.
  • Resistance sets in.
  • The practice is applied, but feels shaky.
  • A new impulse (like rest) is honored.
  • In sleep or stillness, resistance dissolves.
  • Resolution happens.
  • Inspiration flows.
  • Action follows effortlessly.

This cycle is not unique to Marsha. It’s the natural rhythm of alignment. The more clients lean into it, the more they discover just how brilliant both their Inner Being and the Universe are at organizing everything for success—not just external success, but vibrational success. The kind that changes your inner world and your waking life results.

Marsha’s transformation wasn’t about getting the assignment done. It was about deepening her relationship with the one being who has never doubted her: Her Broader Perspective.

So many people chase external validation, thinking that’s where value comes from. But true stability, confidence, and joy come from nurturing the relationship that exists beyond thought, beyond fear, beyond ego. That relationship is always available. Always ready. Always loving.

And when you tune to it, like Marsha did, life becomes unimaginably rich. That’s what clients in the Positively Focused practice are discovering every day. And you can too.

Become a client. We got your back. Always.

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Why We Feel Wrong––And Why It’s Never The Truth

TL;DR: The author shares a client session describing how feeling wrong is inherited, not innate—and how reconnecting with our Broader Perspective returns us to the sovereign joy we came here to live.

It happened during a client session this week involving a client I’ll call Cliff. We were talking about family—a common theme in-session—when I noticed something subtle. While Cliff shared about a recent visit with his sister, who also is a client, I could feel the tone shift. His words tightened. His energy grew heavier. He began justifying his actions, defending his emotional response to things I said in response to him explaining why things went the way they had.

And in that moment, I knew what was happening: not in Cliff’s mind, but in his vibration.

He was feeling wrong.

Of course, it wasn’t me who made him feel that way. I wasn’t judging him after all. But something in our conversation activated a familiar internal program—the one nearly every human inherits. And so I changed course, not to avoid the discomfort, but to gently address the source of it.

Where “Wrongness” Starts

I told Cliff something I wish every human could remember: No one is born feeling wrong. No baby arrives on Earth thinking they are bad, broken, or flawed. We come in as sovereign, freedom-seeking beings—extensions of Source Energy—aligned with the joy of exploring contrast, creating lives, and expanding reality itself.

So where does this learned wrongness come from?

It comes from the people around us, often our parents, who were taught the same distorted beliefs. Parents don’t mean to do harm. They’re doing the best they can, after all, with the beliefs their parents gave them. But when they experience something their child does and interpret it through their own lens of fear, powerlessness, or shame, they often project that onto the child.

“That’s not okay.”
“What were you thinking?”
“You’re being too much.”

These statements don’t just correct behavior, however. They shape beliefs. And over time, the child internalizes those very distorted beliefs: I must be bad. I must be wrong.

Cliff, like so many others, myself included at one time, learned to carry that momentum. He didn’t call it that. He just described feeling misunderstood, or overly sensitive, or like he must defend himself anytime someone questioned his perspective.

But beneath that? There stood a powerful being simply holding on to a learned belief. And the beauty of the Positively Focused practice is this: when clients see that belief for what it is, they eventually let it go.

We Are Sovereign Beings

Cliff thanked me in the moment I pointed this out. Not because I gave him advice, however, but because I reminded him of something his Inner Being already knew: he is not wrong. He never was.

We’re never born wrong. But we are conditioned to believe that.

Every human arrives in this life with sovereignty built in. Freedom is our baseline. Expansion is our purpose. The only reason we forget this is because we try to fit into systems that forgot too. When people act from the pain of feeling wrong, they often create more pain. That’s why the world looks the way it does. Wars, prejudice, self-sabotage, addiction—it all traces back to a fundamental misunderstanding of identity. People believing they are broken and trying to prove otherwise through control, domination, rebellion, or withdrawal.

But what if none of that is necessary? What if nothing ever went wrong?

What if what we’re all really craving is reconnecting with our Broader Perspective—the eternal, loving intelligence that never sees us as anything other than magnificent?

That’s the turning point Cliff found himself on. He didn’t need to fix anything, nor did he need to perform worthiness. He simply needed to remember he already is worthy.

Seeing Through the Eyes of Source

When we learn to connect to our Broader Perspective, everything changes. The inner critic dissolves. Defensiveness softens. Meanwhile, our relationships transform, not because others change, but because we no longer project our parents’ interpretations onto the present moment.

In Positively Focused, we don’t dig up “trauma” to “heal” it. We don’t analyze emotional “wounds” to justify why we hurt. Instead, we tune into alignment. We calibrate to clarity. And in that process, we naturally drop beliefs that don’t serve us—beliefs like; we are bad, or wrong, or not enough.

Cliff discovered this firsthand in this week’s session. Every client does eventually. The more they connect with their sovereignty, the more they experience the Charmed Life I talk about so often—a life where joy leads, clarity emerges, and manifestation becomes inevitable. Inevitable and effortless.

Living one’s Charmed Life doesn’t happen through effort or making it happen. It happens through allowing.

You Are Not Wrong. You Are Expanding.

If you’ve ever caught yourself feeling defensive, misunderstood, or suddenly small in the face of someone’s words or tone, ask yourself: What belief just got activated? Is it really about what they said? Or is it about something much older?

That question isn’t meant to lead you down a rabbit hole of intellectual analysis though. It’s meant to point you back to your sovereignty. Because you don’t need to fix your past. You only need to align with who you already are now.

Cliff is doing that. Many others are too. The results? Radiant. Precise. Joyful.

You can do it too. If you’re ready to release the story of being wrong—and replace it with a deeper knowing of your sovereignty, your power, and your connection to the Source that adores you—I invite you to take the next step.

Become a client. We got your back. Always.

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How A Client Quitting Manifested A New, Better One

TL;DR: The author shares how a client’s exit sparked the effortless arrival of a better, higher-paying one—demonstrating how vibrational alignment, not forced action, brings ideal outcomes in perfect timing. No magical spending required.

Earlier this year, a client decided to quit the practice.

She’s an artist who creates beautiful handwoven pieces from recycled fabric. Of course, one of my roles in client sessions is to perceive the alternate future reality in which the client’s dreams lay manifest, then inspire the client towards that reality. For this client, that dream is owning a business based on her artistic expressions. One that would replace income she gets from her day job.

When she showed me one of her creations, I felt inspired by my Broader Perspective to buy it as a gift for another client—someone I knew would appreciate the artistry and meaning behind it. The price wasn’t firm yet, nor was the shipping cost known, but I trusted the inspiration and paid what the artist quoted.

Later, after she finished the piece and shipped it, she came back to ask for more money—the shipping cost was almost as much as the item itself. I told her I’d cover it, but not until after tax season. I had underestimated my tax bill this year due to a surprising (and delightful!) increase in client income—proof in itself that my practice is thriving.

She didn’t take that well, however.

The fun begins

In our final conversation, she told me I wasn’t truly living the Positively Focused practice. I should “just pay what you owe me,” she said, and “trust the money will show up.”

But here’s how I responded: That’s not how this practice works. It’s not about reckless spending wrapped in spiritual platitudes, I told her. It’s about inspired alignment, trusting timing, and honoring your clarity.

My response moved me so much, I wrote a blog about it: The Myth of Magical Spending. But my response didn’t move her. She didn’t like what I told her. After our next session, she left the practice. That meant a $150/month client was gone.

And that’s where the fun began.

The fun began there because I knew the Universe would handle this. I knew the timeline I’m aligned with always brings me what fits. It’s happened over and over. When one client leaves, a new one replaces them. And not just any replacement—but one that’s better, cleaner, more in tune with who I am now.

Fast forward to the last week of April.

I didn’t worry or chase. I knew.

A new person booked a free 1:1 through my Transamorous Network website. Because he’s a trans-attracted man (and those clients often ghost), I required a $25 refundable deposit as part of the free 1:1 booking process. He paid it. That told me he was serious.

But then he rescheduled his session for late June. Now, I could have fretted. I could have worried this guy was a flake like so many others. But I didn’t do that. I stayed chill, detached. You could even say I remained indifferent to what would happen next. I wasn’t grasping, needing a new client. Insecurity found no match in me. I just remained open.

Then, just days later, I got a new booking…from the same guy. We hadn’t even had the free 1:1 yet and here he was booking a full client package at $200/month.

Later he told me he couldn’t wait for June. And he didn’t want to wait for a trial. He knew what I offered offered value for him, he said. In other words, this new client said YES to himself — and to me — before the original session ever happened. That’s divine orchestration!

The new client not only is willing to pay me more, he’s a better match to what I offer.

Here’s What That Means

Not only did the Universe replace the departing client, it replaced her with one willing to pay $50 more. What’s more, he started his sessions in May, meaning there was no income gap at all. Further, our connection was energetically clean – no drama, no demands, just a client ready, willing, and eager for the transformation I offer. That became clear after our first two sessions. Especially when he said, after session one, “I’m so glad to have met you.”

The Universe didn’t just patch the income leak, in other words, the Universe upgraded the income plumbing.

This proves to me that we don’t have to chase money. Make our intentions known to the Universe and relax into the knowing that it’s done and the Universe will do the rest. Again this isn’t the first time this happened. As far as I’m concerned, it’s happened so often I’m convinced this is reality.

The challenge is, we can’t just go from disbelieving to knowing it’s possible, to having what we desire. Practical evidence nurtures knowing. Producing that practical, nurturing evidence takes a while and it’s not intuitive. Not at first. That’s why it’s helpful to have a framework such as the Positively Focused approach and someone like me who knows the path.

No magical spending required

The path is the same on any subject. It works every time, but does require clients’ compliance and devotion. Clearly, the client who quit wasn’t ready to go the distance. And yet, this experience is a crystal-clear example of how this practice works, and what she could have walked into:

  • Act when inspired
  • Honor your boundaries without guilt even in the face of others’ doubt
  • Trust divine timing instead of forcing outcomes
  • Know that the Universe has your intention in mind always
  • Then watch as reality rearranges itself to reflect that knowing

It’s not about magical spending. It’s about vibrational integrity. And when you hold that? The manifestations flow in—better than before.

Want help aligning your life with this kind of precision and ease? Book a session and let’s show you how effortless reality can become when you live from your Broader Perspective.

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How To Find The Gift In Toxic Work Relationships

Every so often, this practice reveals something so elegantly orchestrated, it takes my breath away.

This past week, two separate clients—each at very different stages of their Positively Focused journey—experienced the same situation from very different perspectives. Each showed up carrying the weight of several difficult interpersonal dynamics going on between them. Both were feeling triggered, off-balance, unsure of themselves.

One is a founder and business owner. I call her Madison. I wrote about her personal experience earlier this week. The other is her employee. I call her Jane. I wrote about her individual experience too. This post seems like it might be a repeat of those previous two posts.

It’s not though.

Instead, this post reveals the sacred opportunities showing up when family members, or, in this case, co-workers, are Positively Focused clients. We get to see the sacred process from two sides; we get a rare glimpse at how two people co-create the larger expansion process happening between us all. Where we each serve as transformation/transmutation angels for one another.

Perfect mirrors and manifestations

From their individual perspectives neither Jane nor Madison knew what was happening for the other person. Neither knew what stirred inside each of them was part of the same vibrational story playing out in perfect divine symmetry in the other.

But I knew.

Madison came to her session feeling frustrated and confused. She believed her employee wasn’t showing up the way she hoped — there was resistance, emotional unpredictability and apparent unwillingness to complete assignments. All that left Madison disappointed, frustrated and angry. She wasn’t sure if she was failing as a leader or simply outgrowing a version of herself that still felt responsible for everyone’s well-being. She also felt she was not get anything in return for what she’s paying Jane.

Jane, two days later, showed up with her own agitation. Something gnawed at her — an emotional static she couldn’t shake. She felt misunderstood. She also felt fear. Her fear was about letting Madison down by failing at assignments Madison gave her.

Jane didn’t want to be a failure in her own eyes either. But Madison’s assignments were vague or unclear. That’s because it’s not only Madison’s first time being a business owner, it’s also her first time being a boss. So she too is insecure in herposition. She, like Jane, also fears failure. But Madison suffers from a double-whammy: potentially seeing herself as a failure and her partner Tom seeing her that way too.

Unbeknownst to Madison, she was getting exactly what she focused on, which is what her fear was calling her attention to. So was Jane. Jane didn’t want to fail in Madison’s eyes. But her fear of failure prompted inaction on vague assignments. She also feared asking clarifying questions because that triggered Madison’s fear which surfaced as frustration in the past.

Isn’t it ironic?

Jane, acting out of her fear, or, rather, not acting, was the perfect reflection of Madison’s fears. Madison’s fears, meanwhile reflected back to Jane her fears. Both women were getting exactly what they were creating; frustrated versions of one another. And both were pointing the finger at the other person!

Conflict invites letting go

And here’s where it becomes divine: Both Madison and Jane were each feeling the same frequency…from opposite sides of the mirror: Fear and insecurity. They were a perfect match, in other words.

Madison was wrestling with the idea that to be a “good” manager — she had never been a manager before — she needed to present a picture of flawlessness. Jane wrestled with the idea that to stay employed, she had to suppress her authenticity. One was over-functioning. The other was under-expressing. Both were reacting to the same energetic pattern: the fear that authenticity isn’t safe.

In their own way, however, each showed up ready to release that distorted belief.

In Madison’s session, she saw how “I must show that I know it all” was an echo from long ago — an old strategy to survive in corporate culture. The strategy wasn’t wrong. It was wise when she worked in the corporate world. It doesn’t work in the small business world though.

What’s more, she’s learning to lead from alignment, not control. But old echos resisted that. So she created a version of Jane reflecting what Madison was doing so Madison could let those old beliefs go.

Ah-ha moments from intensity

In Jane’s session, she saw that her agitation wasn’t dysfunction. It was guidance. A signal that her own expansion was arriving. Not through rebellion, but also through letting go and opening up, softening.

She feared something she couldn’t possibly do: letting herself down and letting Madison down. She needed to trust the version of herself that wanted this opportunity instead of fearing Madison’s reactions as an indication of something bad about her. This fear pointed the way to expansion through authentic expression (asking questions). That version is what Madison needed most. Not a “yes-person”.

A lot more than this was happening in the interpersonal dynamic. But what you just read highlights the main event. As a result, neither woman “fixed” the relationship in our sessions. Instead, they needed an extra session. One in which both attended. We held it shortly after Jane’s. It was intense, as fear is an intense emotion.

But it offered many ah-ha moments for both women. That call wasn’t easy for either of them. But they’re both better now, as is their working relationship, for having it. Both stepped more fully into clarity of who they are becoming…as individuals, as business partners, as employee and employer.

Other people are gifts

They also offered each other a sacred gift: the opportunity to evolve in real-time through authentic, shared contrast. Each was a reflection of the other’s edge. And both navigated it not by hardening, but by softening. Not by demanding change from the other, although both probably wanted that initially, but by each becoming the version of themselves that no longer needed the old patterns.

This is what makes the Positively Focused journey so profound. We begin seeing how nothing is random. How every difficult interaction is divine orchestration. How life isn’t punishing us — it’s partnering with us. Offering mirrored experiences that reflect the exact vibration ready to be released. Often that mirror is other people.

Madison and Jane never planned this coordination. But their Broader Perspective’s did. And in honoring their own unfolding, they became co-creators in each other’s expansion — each woman rising through her own contrast into a new level of sovereignty, understanding, and empowerment.

If you’ve been in a tangled work relationship dynamic lately, pause before blaming or fixing. There’s a mirror waiting to be seen. And often, what looks like conflict is actually harmony in progress — a symphony of expansion tuning itself through two instruments, you and the other person, learning to resonate at a higher frequency.

That’s what I witnessed this week. And it was stunning.

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What Happens When a Boss Triggers an Old Pattern

This week, one of my clients—let’s call her Jane —brought something to our session many people can relate to: growing frustration with her employer.

On the surface, it looked like a straightforward situation. Several tense conversations. Feelings of insecurity and uncertainty. Interpretations that had her feeling dismissed, unseen, and emotionally tangled for days. She described a kind of internal agitation — something wasn’t sitting right, but she couldn’t tell if she was overreacting or if her intuition was trying to warn her of something.

And here’s where it got interesting.

As we followed the threads deeper, Jane realized this wasn’t just about her current employer. It wasn’t even about the comment she was interpreting. It was about much older momentum surfacing through the lens of this moment — an ingrained belief that said: “To stay safe, you must remain agreeable. To be respected, can’t be authentic.”

It was the classic conflict between authenticity and survival. Between speaking in ways aligned with what she felt and believed and keeping the peace. Between honoring her intuitive knowing and fearing the fallout of rocking the boat.

Tears to laughter

As we continued, she began to see the real source of her discomfort: not her boss, but the internalized authority figure she carried inside. The one that mirrored every boss, teacher, parent, or partner who’d ever told her—explicitly or energetically—that her voice was too much, her insight inconvenient, or her sensitivity a liability.

The moment she saw that, her energy shifted. Her struggles remained, but they softened.

What she felt wasn’t wrong. She wasn’t being “too sensitive.” Instead past momentum was resurfacing to be soothed. It’s belief momentum that had once served her, but now only blocks the flow of her sovereignty and expansion.

And here’s the beauty: Soothing that momentum didn’t require confronting her boss. She didn’t need to demand validation or placate her. Her increasing clarity wasn’t about being right in the external world — it was about reclaiming her right to feel sovereign in her being. And therefore, to be able to express herself fully, authentically.

When I described what “reclaiming” looked like, she softened. Jane’s energy shifted more and tears turned to a little laughter. What had felt like emotional blockage revealed itself as expansion in the moment — a calibration to a new version of herself. One that no longer needs to dim in order to stay safe. One that doesn’t mistake tension for danger.

The leader is waiting

What I love most about this kind of session is that the breakthrough doesn’t come from pushing against the external world. It comes from remembering who and what we are.

That’s what the Positively Focused practice is all about. We don’t fix the world by wrestling with it. After all, the world doesn’t need fixing. It’s not broken. Nor are we. We’re not broken, nor do we need fixing. Instead, by realigning with our Broader Perspective the world reflects that alignment back to us.

But sometimes, nearly always actually, finding that alignment means letting life’s contrast serve us. Not as a warning, but as an invitation.

If you’ve had a moment recently where someone rubbed you the wrong way, consider that maybe it wasn’t about them at all. Maybe they were the perfect mirror, showing you in that moment where your expansion is ready to come through. And maybe that discomfort is also serving. It’s not that something has gone wrong, rather, your Broader Perspective is inviting you to expand.

If that’s where you are, and you’d like support in making sense of it all without collapsing into it, I’d love to show you what’s possible when you meet contrast from clarity, not fear.

Sometimes the boss is just a stand-in. The real leader is waiting to be you.