why do people fear death? - Positively Focused

TL;DR: The author asserts that the Positively Focused dream work reveals dreams as profound nonphysical experiences offering guidance, transformation, and connection with transitioned loved ones. Clients awaken to their expansive nature, unlocking joy, clarity, and boundless potential.

Our dreams come packed with extremely helpful information and crucial relational connections. Information and connections that, if we’re aware of them, and we integrate them, they benefit us significantly. This includes connections with relatives who have “died”.

But if we don’t believe we dream, or worse, if we don’t think dreams mean anything, then we not only not benefit from them, something else happens that is totally unnecessary: at death we enter the next phase of our journeys unprepared.

This explains why dream work is a big part of the Positively Focused Advance Practice. In the advanced practice, clients learn about dreams, how to interpret them and how to benefit from that interpretation.

The deeper clients dive into the dream work, the better they get at both dreaming and interpreting their dreams. As that happens, their personalities change. They expand, meaning clients realize they are far more than their physical bodies, and that they exist in far more places than this time-space reality. The Positively Focused dream work therefore offers so many benefits it’s a wonder sometimes why some clients dismiss this part of the practice.

Let’s look at a client’s recent dream experience as an example of what’s available while our bodies sleep.

His astounding dream

Cain is a 36-week Positively Focused client (“Cain” is pronounced “Kayeen”, not “Kane”). Early on, he experienced something remarkable as a beginning client: twice at night he found himself face-to-face with beings not of this reality. One instance scared him, but the next he was ready for. So he handled it much better.

Not long after those experiences, Cain began progressing quickly through early stages of the practice. So much so that he joined his wife among the advanced cohort of clients.

That’s right, his wife is also a client.

Since then, Cain has had a number of dreams, all of which have been outstanding. Only one of those prior dreams, however, was as powerful as the one you’re about to hear.

You’re about to hear it because Cain gave me permission to share the segment of our 1:1 session in which he shares what happened. Since he tells the whole story better than I could, I won’t recap it. Instead, listen to him tell it. It’s about 15 minutes long and worth every minute.

Journeys into nonphysical

Maybe now you can see, dear reader, how powerful dreams can be. Can you see the peace and understanding in Cain’s demeanor? His is an astounding example of how important nonphysical experiences people commonly call “dreams” are.

But they aren’t just dreams. They are journeys into nonphysical, happening while our bodies sleep.

Typically, this is the kind of experience a person has in what people call Near-Death Experiences (NDEs). These also are exactly the kinds of experiences that happen when we transition into nonphysical after death. Our loved ones join us as well as representatives on which we overlay the image of loved ones. They come to us in love, to comfort us and give us information we need to move forward.

None of that needs to wait until we die. And, for sure, we don’t need to wait until we die to experience joyful reunions with “dead” loved ones (they’re not dead).

But most people will have to wait until they “die” to do so because they, 1) have a ton of resistance keeping them from those reunions while they are in a physical body, and, 2) they don’t believe that what people call “dreams” hold any value.

But what people call “dreams” hold tremendous value. That value can be accessed through a simple process. The very same process Cain here is benefiting from. Indeed, my experiences while the body sleeps are so rich, empowering, confirming and powerful, I look forward to going to sleep every night. I’m eager, joyful even. And when I wake up the next morning, I usually wake in deep love and understanding that I am cherished by All That Is.

You are cherished too.

But you can’t know this if you can’t experience nonphysical the way Cain did. Oh, you can think you are cherished. You can believe you are. But until you have the actual experience, standing in the depths of the love of All That Is, you really don’t know it with unshakable conviction.

Dreams are powerful

That unshakable conviction is what moves clients in directions that others think are crazy. People try to encourage clients to be “realistic” about life. Realistic, usually means “pessimistic”. I encourage clients to become positively deranged. There, in that state, is everything we want. And it all comes effortlessly.

When a person discovers that state, there is everything to be optimistic about. Optimistic because physical reality is our creation, meaning, we can make it anything we want. We can make it anything we want because we are gods in human form.

Dreams are powerful. Nearly everyone grieves “losing” their loved ones. But that’s only because the grief-stricken “surviving” relative refuses to look where their loved ones are. THEY’RE STILL HERE. They haven’t gone anywhere.

But we must look where they are, not where they aren’t. We feel grief because we can’t see them because we’re not looking where they are. Look where they are though, and the loved one will greet you…then your grief of “losing” them goes away.

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Imagine we’re existing in an eternal state. We’re everything, everywhere, all at once. Here, whatever we want happens, instantly. So we’re deliberate about our focus. Because our focus instantly creates that which we focus on.

We exist in bliss. Those around us do too. We experience a full sense of our immortality, our oneness, and yet maintain our individuality. Our past and our futures stretch out before us, available to us all at once. Infinite dimensions unfold from our consciousness too. We are gods becoming more.

Then, we decide we want to take this existence thing up a notch. We want to expand our consciousness. We want to become more than what we are. Looking for somewhere to do that, we notice beings of immense capability springing forth from this time-space reality, in a corner of All That Is, centered in a dimension known by its inhabitants as “Earth”. We decide then, that we want what those springing from that dimension have. So we focus ourselves to join them.

Being born is no laughing matter

Generally speaking, what I wrote above describes “life” prior to Earthly existence. Everyone on the planet starts as an infinite being of immense capability. A capability possessing tremendous capacity for more. Recognizing that, we choose earthy existence as a way of becoming more.

But getting here is not easy. Not only is it not easy, it’s highly traumatic.

Think about it. You start as an infinite being. You exist in an eternal state, totally aware and enlightened. Then you push yourself through your focus into fragments. Fragments capable of existing in a state of confinement unlike anything you knew before, aka human form.

It’s illusory, but you must convince yourself it is real. So in pushing yourself there, you forget everything you knew before you arrived. At first, your arrival is an approximation of your home. It’s comforting, warm, love-filled. But soon you’re thrust into three dimensional time and space through birth. Then, the first thing you immediately recognize is mortality.You’re instantly insecure. You’re tiny, with your existence dependent on these larger beings surrounding you. Strangers all, in a strange world. Beings who you perceive as an emotional mix. You pick up their hopes and fears, insecurities, worries, wonder and doubt. Often their behaviors don’t match their words…They claim to love, but often act unloving.

In nonphysical such obfuscation doesn’t exist. There, you’re instantly aware what others think and how they be. It’s pure transparency. But here, on Earth, your cognition is greatly diminished. It causes anxiety in you. Right alongside that fear born of insecurity. You’re mortal now. Human.

Welcome to life.

Is it any wonder we all cry when we take our first breath?

A common refrain

I remember many times as a child, looking to the night sky begging to return “home”. I sensed I didn’t belong here. The pain I felt was terrific. My certainty clear. I knew I came from somewhere far better than this earthly plane. And I wanted to go back.

Every one of my advance clients recalls similar childhood experiences. They recall emotional pain, depression, a yearning for where they came from, even though they couldn’t fully remember that place. Several remember thinking about killing themselves as a way of “going back.”

Those of us with a predisposition for spiritual realization retain faint memories of our origin. The forgetting doesn’t take. The memory of where we came from leaks through. And the bliss of that experience calls to us like a siren.

The good news of all this is those memories can be realized, in full, to the degree possible while in a body. Being fully aware of all we are AND being human is the best of both worlds.

Having such an experience is easier for some than others. The process of remembering not only returns us to that blissful awareness, it also makes clear why we chose to come here. It transforms earthly experience, in other words, into what we knew it could be when we chose to come here.

For we knew earthly existence would be joyful, highly immersive, expansion-inducing and full of opportunities to grow. With our awareness restored and expanded, we can then focus deliberately on realizing everything earthly existence offers. And we can do that with joy.

Death, a joyful return

Most people fear death because they don’t remember a time before their birth. For many, the “sacred forgetting” holds completely. So they believe death brings annihilation. Not liberation. They fear what they don’t remember. And that fear colors all their decisions while human.

Death actually brings a release of our earthly focus. We return to that eternal state, the state that is our original expanded consciousness. It’s why religions describe life after death as “heaven”. Of course we retain awareness of our earthly experience. But we’re renewed. We have expanded. We become more than we were before. So death is a gloriousexperience. A triumph, far less traumatic than birth.

Both processes can be joyful experiences. In absolute reality they are exactly that. They are book ends of a mystical experience. An experience cloaked in mortality, all the while being nothing more than a really, really vivid dream. One where we create all our experience with eagerness and joy.

As a child, I had only glimmerings of what I now remember. Back then, I forgot that I wanted to come. Now looking at the world with new eyes, I see how I knew this experience offered fantastic opportunity. My clients are beginning to see the same thing.

And in that awareness, I’m also seeing how my death, when it comes, will be the grand finale. The ultimate test of my growth. And my return to all that I am.

Death is nothing compared to the shock of birth. It needn’t be feared. It’s to be eagerly anticipated, while enjoying every moment of life until then.

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