suicide - Positively Focused

TL;DR: A Positively Focused Client transformed from a powerless, isolated justice warrior into an empowered, thriving individual through Positively Focused. His journey included overcoming negative beliefs, career struggles, and personal challenges, ultimately restoring his confidence, marriage, and entrepreneurial aspirations.

Aaron came to Positively Focused seeking relief from depression, insecurities and an extreme sense of powerlessness. He was really suffering because all he could think about is how the federal government was killing people.

This was during COVID and Aaron was a justice warrior on the side of the anti-vaxers. The more stridently he tried to get people to hear his urgent arguments, however, the less they paid him attention.

Before long, Aaron’s justice warrior-ship had him pretty much alone. Except for his wife.

Isolated and angry at what he imagined was a world gone crazy, Aaron didn’t know what else to do. He had no hope. He felt powerless. Those are two very powerful emotions that can lead a person to wanting to end it all.

Finding Positively Focused

Not many years after COVID, Aaron further struggled with three different startups. His struggles also included tensions in his marriage. Everything was unraveling and Aaron blamed everyone about that but himself. Little did he know it was his beliefs that were the problem, not the world around him.

His sister, however, changed all that. Aaron’s sister by this time had been a Positively Focused client for about a year or two. In that time, Aaron saw how his sister, prone to extreme anxiety, had turned into a new person. No longer was anxiety the boogie man. She lived largely anxiety-free. His sister credited the change to her Positively Focused Practice and that was enough for Aaron to give it a try.

In just a year, Aaron found his power again. It wasn’t easy. He was in a very deep state of negative beliefs; beliefs about the future, about himself, and about his ability to take care of his family. In time, however, he gradually improved.

So much so he made it to the Positively Focused Advanced practice. And here is where you meet him. The video below is a segment from our actual 1:1 session. In it he…well listen for yourself. It’s pretty powerful. More about his story below the video.

More about Aaron

Aaron is an entrepreneur and his wife is a doctor. Together they’ve created two start-ups in the healthcare field. I’m not sure if Aaron ever worked a job in his life. That’s how powerful of a creator he’s been around money.

During COVID, however, something in him changed. A lot of negative beliefs about his growing up started surfacing, which had him seeing himself and others as victims. That’s where his advocacy came from. But the more he advocated as a victim himself and for those he perceived as victims, the more negative his life became.

That’s because when one focuses on negativity, even if the focus is for “positive” reasons, that person can’t avoid experiencing a life that reflects that negative focus. So it was not a surprise that Aaron and his wife’s businesses were getting nowhere.

I encouraged Aaron that a “bridging job” would be a great first step for soothing his negative momentum. Momentum that was creating businesses that went nowhere. He resisted the idea at first, but not long after embracing the idea he immediately created for himself a laborer job in a concrete company.

One job leads to better

He didn’t like that job much, but it was a job that best matched his current vibration, which included his desire for money and his resistance about working for others. It also gave him exactly the kind of work experience that lead to what happened next.

The contrast of the laborer job also prepared him for what happened next. There were things about laying concrete he didn’t like. Also, the way the boss treated his employees grated on Aaron too.

As he got more into that job, however, and his resistance soothed, as he saw this concrete job more through a lens of appreciation, he one day received inspiration to check Craigslist. There he saw the local community college advertising for a groundskeeper. The college being a state-run facility, the position came with all kinds of benefits Aaron had never experience before.

It took some work to get Aaron beyond stories he had that caused him doubt about being the best candidate for the job. He doubted he would even get an interview. But I knew the way the job came to him indicated it was his.

Sure enough, he got that job! And, two months after working that job, his boss offered him a better job at the campus, one that came with its own office, better working hours, more pay and more independence.

Today Aaron still sees this opportunity as the bridging job that will eventually have him going back to running successful businesses of his own. In the meantime, he’s thoroughly enjoying the new opportunities coming, opportunities that have not only changed his life, changed his perspective on him being a victim, but also have dramatically improved his marriage as he describes in this segment of the same 1:1 session referenced above:

It doesn’t have to be the end

If you’re struggling with suicidal ideation or a feeling of powerlessness, which can, itself lead to wanting to kill yourself, perhaps you should check out Positively Focused. Every one of my clients who came to Positively Focused wanting to kill themselves is now on the path to discovering permanent happiness.

You can too. I offer two ways to become a client. Check them out here.

I once contemplated suicide. In high school, I dated one of the prettiest, most popular girls. One day, she quit dating me. Her parents didn’t approve apparently. Drawings I made of her and I engaged in sexual acts, which her parents found, didn’t help my case…

So much did her parents disapprove that they dropped the bomb, in person…on my mom. They showed up at my home one day and, in no uncertain terms, told mom I wouldn’t see their daughter any more.

My adolescent heart broke. Not knowing what I know now, I thought my youthful world ended right there. What was the point of living without her?

Obviously, I didn’t take my life. It was a momentary blip. The next day, the experience past, I moved on. So did my ex, apparently.

That’s why I understand the dismal place people find themselves where suicide seems logical. Getting to the place where suicide makes sense sucks. But it needn’t suck. Nor need it be fatal.

Instead, it can be the best launching pad to a better life.

Emotions as divining rods

Suicidal thoughts feel scary. Especially when they sneak up on you. But do they though? Are people contemplating suicide happy one moment, then, voila!, they want to die?

Of course not. Suicidal thoughts usually come to ordinary folk after a long period of gradual, increasingly negative thoughts. As such, suicidal thoughts resemble any other thought and their associated momentum.

Thoughts trigger emotions. Nothing else does that. Anyone can figure this out by watching where their emotions come from. The common refrain that “X made me” sad, or angry or jealous is a lie we tell ourselves constantly. No one makes someone else feel anything. How someone feels depends on thoughts that person thinks about what they’re thinking about. That’s the only source of emotions.

And yet, emotions are crucial. They help tell us many important things about every choice we make. Some of the most powerful thoughts humans think happen underneath human awareness. It’s not that they’re “unconscious”. It’s just that the thinker is oblivious to how they’re choosing to think about what they’re thinking about. Emotions, therefore, act as an immediate feedback mechanism for our thought-choices. Not just those we choose “unconsciously”, but ones we consciously choose too.

Emotions also tell a person what’s coming in the future. Yes, they’re a kind of divining rod, accurately and constantly predicting the future before the future comes.

But since most people don’t know this, they end up feeling chronically anxious, worried, doubtful, insecure and depressed. Then they’re frightened when suicidal thoughts show up. Thoughts they could avoid completely had they used their emotions, humans’ natural divining rod, appropriately.

Most people don’t understand emotions’ purpose. So they can’t fully benefit from their emotions. (Photo by K. Mitch Hodge on Unsplash)

Negative thoughts start it

Negative thoughts, and their associated emotions, essentially tell the thinker “stop how you’re thinking or you won’t like what comes next!”

Suicidal thoughts do the same, but at volume 10. They say “Dude! Wake the fuck up! You’re heading somewhere you’re not going to like!” That’s why thoughts about killing one’s self feel awful. If someone thinking about suicide looks back across their “thinking” history, they will find a succession of increasingly negative conclusions about life, themselves or some situation. They’ve been thinking thoughts on a variety of subjects that are grossly inaccurate. And they’ve felt increasingly awful-feeling emotions along the way.

So suicidal thoughts usually indicate a strong momentum of negative thinking (long held beliefs) leading to feeling unworthy, powerless, hopeless and depressed; all emotions signaling immediate action is needed.

People generally panic or they double down when such thoughts happen because they don’t know how they happened or where they come from. So they don’t know what to do when they show up (that’s powerlessness), which exacerbates their feeling out of control (that’s helplessness). That triggers more fear and powerlessness and lack of control. See how that momentum builds up?

But such thoughts can be reversed with very little effort.

A client who had suicidal ideation found near-complete relief from such thoughts after one session.

What happens after the act

A hopeless or depressed person who kills themselves ends up where everyone else who dies ends up. They return to where they came, a place I call “nonphysical”. There, they remember everything they forgot when they became human. They remember they are an eternal being. Their awareness expands back into the Broader Perspective that tried guiding them while in a physical body. They realize there’s far more to what they are than life on earth.

They also return to the pure positive, joyful energy being that is their natural state. In that state they also realize something else. They get that their exit from the life trajectory they chose was premature. They also see that, like a bad dream, experiences they feared were of their own making. A path they created that, had they kept walking, would have improved.

Human life experience offers so much rich and satisfying opportunity. It literally changes the being experiencing it in profound ways. It does the same for everyone involved.

The experience offers such profound opportunity, a being standing in nonphysical finds it irresistible. That’s one reason why so many humans and other living creatures incarnate.

Post-suicide, these realizations deeply move the person. They remember the profound reason they chose human existence. That reason compels them so completely, they find themselves drawn right back into another body to resume the process they began. The process leading to profound transformation and elevation.

This doesn’t happen against their will. The happening happens because the being, the eternal being, knows what this experience offers. And it wants that.

Life offers profound transformation and elevation. (Photo by Liam Pozz on Unsplash)

A temporary fix at best

So suicide offers at best a temporary respite from a chronic series of interpretations that ran counter to what really happened. Instead of seeing their life unfolding in a beautiful, perfect, divinely-timed unfolding designed by them, they saw it as an awful experience over which they had no control.

Such distorted interpretations usually don’t lead to suicide. Otherwise far more people would kill themselves than do. Suicide happens less frequently because, most of the time, human consciousness, guided by its Broader Perspective enjoys an underlying propensity towards “good”. Inner guidance steps in well before the train gets near careening off its track.

Killing one’s self looks bad and wrong and scary. But it’s none of these things. At worse, it’s a temporary detour. At best, it offers a reset for the eternal individual. A chance to recover that awesome awareness state from which the human journey began.

In the midst of suicidal thoughts, killing one’s self seems like a good idea. But it only prolongs the inevitable. (Photo by Kristina Tripkovic on Unsplash)

Suicidal thinking’s great potential

Ultimately, all paths lead to fulfilled desire and expansion of All That Is. No one need experience emotions leading to suicide. Such thoughts usually resolve themselves with just a little attention paid to creating other thoughts aligned with one’s Broader Perspective.

People thinking about killing themselves possess tremendous energy. Such people can transform then channel that energy towards their desires. In other words, a person contemplating suicide enjoys tremendous potential.

I help people learn to channel that energy and potential. I show them how to improve their thinking. After that anything becomes possible. That’s what life holds for everyone. Unlimited possibilities available to all. That makes life so worth living.

I think anyone would enjoy that. Why wouldn’t they? Because most people don’t realize how good life can be. I love helping folks realize life’s goodness. A perspective born from realizing they are, as I am. God in human form.

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