TL;DR: A client transforms resentment into realization by reframing his divorce as a divine co-creation—proof that even painful relationships serve our expansion and reveal our innate worthiness.
When I say every relationship is a co-creation, I mean that quite literally. Each of us, in every moment, is attracting into our experience people, events, and circumstances that perfectly match the dominant vibrations we’re offering. Sometimes those vibrations come from our desires. Sometimes they come from our fears. Most often, they’re a mix of both.
That’s why relationships are so powerful. They give us a living mirror of our inner world. And if we’re willing to look honestly, they offer the raw material for lasting transformation.
This is the story of my client Ken, and how he turned a painful divorce into one of the most profound realizations of his worthiness—and why the woman he once thought had wrecked his life was, in truth, an angel in disguise.
When Ken first came to me, he was in a loving long-term relationship. On the surface, everything was working. But occasionally, his partner would do something that triggered a disproportionate reaction in him—fear, insecurity, even emotional panic.
Over time, it became clear that these weren’t responses to his current partner. They were echoes from a past marriage—an unresolved energetic momentum that had followed him into his new relationship.
This is where the Positively Focused framework really shines. In our work together, we traced the emotional charge back to his previous marriage with Christy, a relationship that ended with bitterness, confusion, and a $1 million divorce settlement Ken never wanted to pay.
The Righteous Indignation That Refused to Die
Ken carried enormous resentment toward Christy. He saw her as someone who pretended to be something she wasn’t—someone who, once injured and unable to work, became a financial and emotional burden. But as we dug deeper, it became clear this resentment wasn’t about Christy. It was about Ken’s story about Christy.
Christy, too, had her own story. A childhood filled with chaos and conditional love had planted deep seeds of unworthiness. Her back injury wasn’t a manipulation—it was the culmination of momentum she had been building for years. And her refusal (or inability) to work wasn’t laziness—it was an unconscious reflection of a belief she wasn’t worthy of the life she desired.
Ken didn’t know that at the time. He just knew he was stuck in a marriage that didn’t feel fair. But he stayed, because deep down, he was carrying a belief of his own: that this was the best he could get. He didn’t believe he could find a better partner. That belief is what made him a vibrational match to Christy in the first place.
The Invitation to Reframe the Past
In our sessions, I asked Ken to do something radical: list every negative belief he held about Christy and their marriage. It took him weeks. The pain of reliving those moments was strong. The momentum of righteous indignation was thick.
But finally, he brought in a list — and together, we softened the statements. We found new ways to see old events. “Christy never wanted to work” became “Christy was in too much pain to work.” Small shifts like these began to loosen his grip on the story he’d been telling himself for years.
Eventually, Ken could see that the real issue wasn’t Christy’s betrayal. It was his inability to recognize his own worth. He had ignored countless signals to leave the marriage because of his scarcity mindset. He didn’t believe another woman would love him. That fear is what kept him in the marriage far longer than his Inner Being wanted to stay.
What Ken saw next blew the whole story wide open: Christy wasn’t the villain. She was the angel who helped him see how much he had been ignoring his own worthiness.
She had played the perfect counterpart to his vibration. She reflected back every bit of doubt, every old belief, every trace of self-deprecation he still carried.
And once he got that — once he saw the co-creative nature of their marriage — he could feel the weight begin to lift. He stopped seeing her as the one who took a million dollars and started seeing her as the one who gave him a priceless gift: self-awareness.
The Real Purpose of Physical Reality
This is what we do in the Positively Focused practice. We don’t just help people manifest shiny outcomes—though those do happen. We help them discover the deeper purpose of physical reality: to show us, in exquisite, visceral detail, what our current vibrational output is… so we can tune it.
Life isn’t happening to us. It’s happening through us. And the more we embrace that, the more we step into our own divine nature.
We are, each of us, gods in human form—expanding across infinite dimensions, through every interaction, every heartache, and every breakthrough.
Christy, from this perspective, was no mistake. She was a perfectly tuned expression of Ken’s dominant story—until he was ready to write a better one. And when he did, the results were immediate. His current partner—loving, balanced, and joyful—began reflecting that new story back to him.
There’s Nothing Better Than Watching Yourself Get Better
That’s the magic of this work. You don’t have to wait for the world to change. You just change your story, and the world—your world—will reflect that shift.
Ken didn’t need to “heal” from his past. He just needed to understand it.
And once he did, he could finally let go of the resentment, the blame, and the illusion that he had been a victim. He had never been a victim. He had always been a powerful creator… learning, growing, and becoming the god he already is.
This is why I love the Positively Focused practice. It’s not about fixing broken people. It’s about helping powerful beings remember who they are. There’s nothing better than that.
And when that remembering happens? It feels delicious.
