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How Apple TV’s Dark Matter Nails Alternate Realities

Photo by Eliška Motisová on Unsplash

TL;DR: The author shares their admiration for the Apple TV series and compares it to experiences they have had with alternate dimension travel.

There’s a lot to like about Apple TV’s mind-bending series Dark Matter. Indeed, a lot of people are raving about the show. It enjoys a solid 83 percent on Rotten tomatoes and IMDB rates it at a very near 8 on its user-review scale.

Admittedly, I’m only at the first season’s fourth episode. Still, the story is well-grounded in excellence. The writing and acting are great. I’m enjoying the storytelling too. But what’s blowing my mind so far is how Dark Matter’s creators have nailed the process of visiting infinite dimensions comprising what they call the Multiverse.

And while the series’ story, acting, writing and technical aspects merit accolades, I believe the series’ success rests largely in another aspect of the show. That is, Dark Matter resonates with deep knowledge humanity possesses. Its creators, consciously or not, are urging humanity to expand beyond its limiting beliefs.

There’s a lot to explore here. Let’s jump in.

What is Dark Matter (the show)

Before we get to the fun stuff, I realize some may not have seen Dark Matter yet. It first aired on May 8 this year, so even I’m late to the party. I didn’t know about it until a client raved about its premise.

Like me, the show surprised her. That’s because the show’s “technical” details of alternate dimension travels accord very much with what she’s learning in her Positively Focused practice.

She said I should watch it. I just started watching this month. So if you don’t know about the show, here’s a brief, non-spoiler explanation. At least as far as I know it.

Dark Matter is about a science teacher in our present dimension. An alternate version of him succeeded in traveling through alternate dimensions through an invention the science teacher imagined, but didn’t follow through on. When the teacher chose not to follow through, physical reality forked to where a version of him did follow through, thus creating the breakthrough in an alternate reality.

But the version of the teacher who made the breakthrough is unhappy. He regrets decisions he made. So he travels to the science teacher’s dimension and abducts him with plans to replace him in our dimension. He leaves the teacher in his reality, bewildered and alone and surrounded by people demanding his genius.

That’s all I know so far.

Evidence proves it accurate

What you just read already reveals how accurate this series is. For indeed, every move we make in this reality creates multidimensional forks in “time”.

From that fork, infinite versions of what happens next come into being. Each of those versions include choice(s) we didn’t make, thereby allowing All That Is to explore all possible versions of reality.

Now, I know, it’s hard to accept what you just read as actually happening without evidence that it’s happening. That’s why, in the Positively Focused practice advanced sessions, we introduce meditation and dream work. Through meditation and dream work, we’re introduced to all these alternate versions of ourselves. We get to experience those alternate dimensions forking from our actions. With practice, we can visit those dimensions at will.

Doing so requires pretty heroic focus. It takes an unusual desire to get this far in the practice. Several clients are at the beginning stages of that level and what they’re finding is astonishing them.

What I’ve found astonishes me still. But that’s another story.

A deeply satisfying adventure

Dark Matter astonishes me too. It’s astonishing to me because it puts out there, right in the open, an invitation for human beings to expand beyond what they are. I write about this all the time and tell my clients the same.

Those ready to receive the invitation don’t see the show the same way those not ready to receive it do. The latter group just finds the show an engaging escape, an entertaining sci-fi drama that delivers. For the former group however, they find themselves inexplicably moved. Some of the moved ones will dismiss what’s happening.

But a small number of those might question what they’re experiencing. They might go so far as to try out for themselves perceiving their alternate lives. When they do, they begin a path that is irreversible. Irreversible and deeply satisfying should they continue.

And I believe this is the deeper message behind all good art. Artists offer themselves as conduits for All That Is. And their art communicates deeply accurate messages about reality, the Universe and ourselves. Moving pictures are some of the most powerful art.

Dark Matter offers a highly accurate communication. Its premises are real. As are the possibilities. But like all communication, distortions exist in the show. I want to look at those next.

They’re not fatal

Remember, I’ve only seen four episodes. So there’s probably more in store for my experience. Still the distortions, once understood, can be dispensed with. Do that and the message becomes far more accurate.

Many distortions in film, for example, involve good intentions of the creators. They’re making entertainment after all. So they often overly complicate the story to keep it engaging. They also include a lot of violence that’s not as reflective as what’s really happening. Another thing they do is include random acts that don’t make sense in the context of what’s really happening in the world outside of the show.

For example, it wouldn’t be possible for an alternate version of me to come into my reality, abduct me and take me back to his reality. Many reasons explain why this is so.

Firstly, subatomic particles comprising our bodies are the same ones comprising our alternate versions. Such particles not only vibrate, but also blink “on” and “off” in our reality. When they’re “off” here, they are “on” in our alternate realities. And when they’re “off” in those realities, they’re “on” here.

So it wouldn’t be possible for an alternate me and me to exist physically in the same reality. And that’s where things get really….interesting.

Alternate dimension travel gets real…interesting. (Photo by Eliška Motisová on Unsplash)

We are conscious energy

It gets interesting because if that’s the case then the alternate reality in which I meet myself must not exist, which means not all alternate realities happen.

But hold on, partner. That reality does exist. It just doesn’t exist in such a way that we can do what the Dark Matter characters do in the series.

[So I’m getting more and more exited writing about this because doing so is opening so many avenues to explore. I realize I must keep this post as short as possible, so I’m doing my best not to get too excited!]

We are not our bodies. We are what Seth calls the “Gestalt consciousness” that rides in, among and through the collective consciousness that is our bodies. That collective includes subatomic particles in our bodies, each of which enjoys consciousness as well.

It has to be true that we’re not our bodies, because at death, we continue existing even though the body deconstructs.

TThis is obvious in what humans call dreaming. There, we can see, hear, taste, communicate and even think and move around. We’re obviously doing all that outside our bodies. For as we engage in what we call the dream, our bodies are back under the covers in our beds!

What we are is conscious energy. We are vibration beings living a much bigger and more interesting experience than the ones we put ourselves into through these bodies.

In the dream state then, and in other altered consciousness experiences, we can visit our alternate selves. We do that every night when we dream. And Positively Focused clients are also learning to do that consciously, while awake.

But there’s even more happening. Something that also makes the Dark Matter plot fall apart. Let’s look at that next.

Nesting doll reality of All That Is

Each of our selves, living in each of these dimensions, live there while simultaneously connected to every other self. Not only that, each of those selves are constantly communicating and influencing one another. That makes sense when we consider the nature of our Broader Perspective.

Our Broader Perspective is that part of us that gave birth to us from a fork in its experience. It is that larger part of us remaining in nonphysical and guiding us through our human experience. It is us, as we are us in our bodies. It’s just a broader part of us.

That broader part of us also has a Broader Perspective. Like Russian nesting dolls, this lineage of Broader Perspectives run incessantly, all the way “back” to the original being that got all this All That Is started. Of course, there was no beginning. All That Is has been and always will be.

The point of all this is that there’s no need for one of our selves to come take over another of ourselves. That’s because each of us experiences viscerally in the dream state and other consciousness levels all that the other selves experience. We literally can feel their experiences. And that’s why living positively in this experience has such huge ramifications.

How we be in this life affects every other “life” that is ours in these other dimensions. And when we live this life positively, not only do we enjoy positive experiences as reflections of that inner state, we also influence all our other selves in their dimensions. Indeed, they affect us too, which is why sometimes we might find ourselves inexplicably sad, or pensive…or happy.

Our Broader Perspective relationship resembles Russian Nesting Dolls. (Photo by Didssph on Unsplash)

Thoughts are powerful, but momentum more so

There’s another distortion that happens I’m almost sure was because the show creators wanted to make the show exciting. In another part of the show, the teacher and a mental health practitioner begin exploring alternate dimensions through the device the other version of the teacher created. Their travels are chaotic and harrowing. Every alternate reality they find is a post-apocalyptic rendition of Earth.

The characters realize at one point that their thoughts just before opening a door are what causes them to enter said renditions. This is hogwash. To understand why, we must consider momentum.

Momentum is the basis of thoughts turning to things. That includes any kind of thought about experiencing supernatural abilities. Everyone naturally understands momentum. We talk about how it takes a long distance to stop a freight train, or how a cargo ship can’t “turn on a dime”. In other words, the more momentum an object has, the less likely that object will change direction.

The same is true with thoughts.

Since every human is first a pure, positive energy being, each enjoys an extremely strong momentum of positive orientation. This especially holds when considering most of us have lived very large numbers of previous lives. Our thoughts and intentions have a lot of momentum therefore.

This includes beliefs about whether it’s even possible to visit another dimension. Most of us don’t believe that’s possible. That explains why most don’t recognize having such experiences.

So a blithe thought one moment isn’t going to have enough momentum to move someone into another reality, especially one that is frightening, like a post-apocalyptic alternate reality.

But there’s a caveat.

Thoughts and momentum work together

In nonphysical, where alternate realities intertwine, very little resistance exists. As a result, it is very easy to get momentum going within the relatively small resistance levels there. But even then, it would take more than a passing thought, while in that altered state, to manifest or draw to us a harrowing alternate experience.

We can experience such experiences, but they usually happen after we’ve focused a bit on an unpleasant scenario. Another way such an experience can easily happen is if a lot of negative momentum exists around dominant negative thoughts and beliefs. This explains why in our practice we strive to live as positively as possible. Because when we do transition, whatever thought-momentum we possess we take with us in our return to nonphysical. That can be a problem.

For example, a Christian who fears going to hell and is unsure whether they lived a godly life will experience the content of their focus: hellish conditions. Someone who believes strongly that there is no afterlife, that life just ends and we blink out of existence when we die, will experience that too. They will have no experience of an afterlife.

The good news is, this is temporary. After a time guides will come to assist such people out of their torment and beyond their limiting beliefs.

The point is, it’s not possible to visit a hellscape version of reality off the bat. Unless the explorer already has a lot of thought-momentum about such realities. Thoughts alone can’t buck our existing momentum. And both characters seem to be somewhat positive people.

A gift All That Is inspired

As you’ve read, there’s no reason for one of our selves to take over another self’s life. Even if it wanted to, which it doesn’t, it can’t. But it sure makes for an engaging show!

Each self enjoys an intimate, visceral experience of every other self. Those selves also are in communication. That’s right, even though we don’t usually have conscious experience of this communication, it’s happening constantly.

In the Positively Focused advanced practices we learn how to hear this communication. With practice and tests, we can come to trust such communication. Indeed, it’s that communication that has me living the life I currently live, free from working for a living and enjoying the spiritual life I enjoy as a spiritual “teacher”.

Thoughts, beliefs and momentum are, in a sense, the basic building blocks of All That Is. We enjoy this reality because of them. But there’s so much more we can explore!

There are many other distortions we can talk about in Dark Matter. But I think it’s more important to enjoy the show for entertainment’s sake while paying attention to any cues one might have urging one to lean in the direction of exploring alternate realities. Those cues are not only important, they can be an immense source of deep, profound satisfaction.

Dark Matter is a gift inspired by All That Is consciousness. It gets a lot right about what’s really going on in the multiverse.

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The World Just Gets Better and Better

TL;DR: The author shares an example of a client who created so much evidence “Wishful Thinking” works, the client moved into greater trust and belief that “you create your reality” is accurate. The author then asserts everyone can experience their Charmed Life: a life where they create any experience they want, through the Positively Focused Way.

Every time a client texts me with wonderful manifestation results, I delight in the receipt. That’s because I know when they send me such messages, they’re having the time of their lives. It’s also delightful because their manifestations amplify my own trust in this “you create your reality” business, aka (by some) “Wishful Thinking”.

When some people use that “Wishful Thinking” moniker, they’re being pejorative. They don’t believe this “you create your reality” business is real. They believe that because this “you create your reality” business is working for them. It’s just reflecting back to them the manifestation of their belief: that this “you create your reality” business doesn’t work, is pseudoscience or new age quackery.

The jokes on them though because this “you create your reality” business is working, just like it does for me and all my clients. I love that!

But I love more when clients text me with their wonder. That’s what I’m writing about today.

Beliefs defending themselves

This past week a client finds himself as wonder-filled as I am. Except, he’s finding himself so dumbfounded by his manifestation results, he sometimes slips into disbelief.

I love when that happens too because it means that client finds himself in a Belief Confrontation. A Belief Confrontation is when All That Is shows us something at odds with our beliefs. When that happens, the juxtaposition of our belief, and the reality we’re experiencing at that moment, is so jarring, our belief “defends” itself.

Our belief doesn’t put up its dukes and get into a fist-fight with the reality. It’s not human after all. But the energy and momentum comprising our belief is strong. And that strong momentum, when confronted with another momentum of energy or vibration, experiences a kind of polarity push. Kind of like when you try putting two magnets together and they resist one another.

When that polarity push happens in a human, the human feels an emotion. Typically the emotion is negative. That negative emotion comes on instantaneously and can feel so strong it can compel the human into a psychologically defensive stance. They’ll resist that which doesn’t accord with their beliefs. Or they might willfully ignore it.

Our civilization is full of examples illustrating this process underway. And it’s underway all the time, everywhere.

It really works

After clients get some of the Positively Focused Way practice under their belt, force accompanying Belief Confrontations ease, allowing the client to feel the force without it taking them over. That’s what happened with this client. He deserves some praise because he’s significantly soothed his Belief Confrontations around the fact that he’s in the driver’s seat of his life, no one else, and that he can create any life he wants.

So when he texted me, he briefly expressed some disbelief, but followed that up with a string of evidence showing this “you create your reality” business works. And that balance — between the brief disbelief and the litany of evidence — amplified within him his growing momentum aligning with the belief that “this “you create your reality” business really works!”

Here’s what he texted me:

A client amplifying his belief in this “you create your reality” business by sharing his powerful results.

There’s no evidence proving this “you create your reality” business doesn’t work. Even for those who think it doesn’t work, it’s working. Again, it’s working by showing those people a reality in which their belief “‘you create your reality business’ doesn’t work”, doesn’t work. Because that’s what they believe!

But for those willing to soften that belief, those people’s worlds will increasingly show them that this “you create your reality” business does work. And as that evidence grows, the person will come into their own power. The power they knew they had when they first incarnated as human.

The Charmed Life

We all came here in our human experiences to enjoy our creative power. We all are incipient gods becoming more in a framework we create as a part of the consciousness of All That Is. That sure sounds like a circular statement. But that’s only because All That Is is circular in its awareness and purpose.

All That Is is all about one thing: knowing itself through expanding its awareness of itself. That’s its purpose. And it joyfully prosecutes that purpose. We are physical expressions of All That Is seeking to expand its self-awareness. As such, we too can joyfully create our experiences as we move through our human lives.

We don’t have a choice about the expansion or the experience. But we do have a choice in how that experience happens, what’s included in it and what’s not, and how much we enjoy that experience. That’s our innate gift we give ourselves.

And when we choose to deliberately create experiences which bring us joy, then our human experience just gets better and better. Just as my clients are seeing in their lives…and I’m seeing in mine. It’s the Charmed Life. And it’s available to everyone.

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How “Wishful Thinking” Creates “Fuck Yeah!” Results

Photo by Frank Leuderalbert on Unsplash

TL;DR: The author tells how a client, who is a musician, relaxed in the face of a cancelled gig and, as a result of that relaxation, created a surprising and delightful outcome. The author also says “wishful thinking” is real, and can be used to create extraordinary lives, but only for those who know how it works.

Holy smokes. I might as well turn this series into a permanent thing. So many clients are getting happy results from their “wishful thinking”.

“Wishful thinking”, of course, is not what I call it. I call it the Positively Focused Way. “Wishful thinking” is what people who don’t know anything about what they’re talking about call this “you create your reality business.”

They’ve never tried it. Or if they have, they’ve done so under shoddy conditions, conditions which were bound to have them fail. Or they’ve tried it without someone helping them figure out how the “business” works, so they missed it actually working.

Meanwhile, lots of people, under the right circumstances and under a someone who knows this “business” are finding happy lives and happy life results putting this “wishful thinking” to work.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve written about two examples. You can read those stories here and here. I still have two more to share. This one is short but really sweet.

Let’s get to it.

In disbelief dreams are uncomfortable

This client I’ll call “Gus”. He’s been practicing this “you create your reality business” for 14 weeks. Through weekly sessions and the homework, he’s learning that the Positively Focused Way produces astonishing outcomes, just like I promise. Just like Abraham, Seth, Neville Goddard and many others promise also.

Gus is a musician. He performs covers at his local famers’ market. Like many musicians, he dreams about becoming successful and playing before thousands. However, Gus’ beliefs, like many, many artists of all kinds, block that success. Even though he’s already created that success for himself —  that success awaits Gus in a probable future reality —  which can be his future as soon as he lines up with it.

But 15 weeks ago, Gus didn’t realize any of this. That’s why he avoided his dreams. Thinking about them was too uncomfortable. Whenever he fantasized about being famous, his old beliefs would say “get real!” “be realistic!” and “grow up!” Then he’d imagine the thousands of artists, maybe hundreds of thousands, that aren’t successful at their art.

That lack of success he saw as his future. No wonder his dreams made him uncomfortable. He didn’t believe they’re possible.

Our itches will lead to joy

It’s true, of course, that many, many artists aren’t successful, if you measure success by how much income they get from their art. Yet, even by that measure, there are plenty who are successful. The only thing differentiating the latter from the former are the two groups’ beliefs.

That’s right. It’s not talent, contacts, “lucky breaks” or any other factor keeping a person from whatever success they want. The only thing doing that is what the person thinks and believes about being successful.

For example, Gus can not fathom how he could replace his current six-figure salary he gets working at a utility company. The reason why he can’t fathom it is because it’s not Gus’ job to figure out how that happens. That’s the Universe’s job. Gus’ job is to line up with his desire, feel good in doing that, which tells him something really important, then watch as the Universe delivers the probable future in which he swaps his utility salary for a performing one.

In the meantime, Gus hits farmers’ markets and the occasional spot gig to scratch the itch. Yes, it’s an itch. We know we have desires because those things catch our attention from time to time. They’re our Broader Perspective encouraging us in the direction of our joy.

But most of us will ignore those itches. Or worse; we’ll talk ourselves out of them in favor of living in “the real world” as one reader of my stories calls it.

Life just gets better and better

The thing is, there IS NO REAL WORLD out there. The only world we exist in is the world reflecting back to us our thoughts and beliefs. And if we believe that that world is full of disappointment and things we must confront and struggle against…well that is the world we see and experience.

Meanwhile, there are a ton of people living in other worlds. Worlds where life is easy. Where life is good. Worlds where people are happy and joyful. And in their happiness and joy, they’re getting everything they want effortlessly.

Gus is figuring out how to turn his current world into the world you just read about. It all starts with “wishful thinking”. When a person starts thinking wishful, their world instantly starts changing. Actually, what’s really happening is, the person begins phasing out of their current probable now, and phasing into an adjacent probable now. One aligned with all their desires. One where probable futures connected to that probable now contain all they desire. So the person’s life gradually gets better and better.

It doesn’t happen over night because this “you create your reality” business isn’t magic. But consistency and application of easy processes makes the phasing happen effortlessly.

The wife creates a better Gus

Gus started using those processes 14 weeks ago. In doing so, the Universe showed him all the beliefs he holds which keeps him in the reality he currently is reflecting back to himself. I won’t go into those details, but suffice it to say it was a life he didn’t want. It was so unsatisfying, he left his wife and considered killing himself.

Meanwhile, his wife, a 65-week client, used this “you create your reality business” to create a better version of Gus. As a result of her focus and intention, Gus changed his mind about killing himself, moved back into his marriage and is seeing that marriage blossom.

In fact, it was evidence his wife was producing in her way of being that had Gus try the Positively Focused Way in the first place. And she became a client because she saw her mother radically transform. Her mother is a 174-week client. The mom’s son also is a client. In fact, her mother’s intention and focus was that her children would begin practicing too. That’s happened.

So this “wishful thinking” stuff is powerful. It delivers everything one wants. Including ideal versions of people we interact with.

Ok, back to Gus.

As Gus’ wife’s experience shows, there’s something behind this “you create your reality” business. (Photo by Frank Leuderalbert on Unsplash)

Vibration attracts

He sent me an audio recording last week. It was two days after our session. He was super-stoked about what happened and wanted to share “the cool experience” he just had.

Gus said he had a gig scheduled at a local bar. But the owner called him to tell him they needed to cancel.

“They didn’t have enough patronage to cover what me playing there would incur for them,” he said in his message. Gus described how he used the Positively Focused Way to manage his emotions about this message. That’s crucial if one wants to have what one wants.

That’s because emotions act like a compass. They tell us in what direction we’re headed relative to our goals. Negative emotions tell us we’re heading in the opposite direction, generally speaking. Positive ones do the opposite. Emotions happen as a result of thoughts we think. Most people don’t understand this. They think emotions happen as a result of something that happens outside us.

That’s not what’s happening.

Emotions are physical manifestations of vibrational focus.

We are all energy that is aware. Like all energy, we vibrate and our vibration attracts. We set our vibration through focus and that focus creates thought, which is a forward evolution of vibration. Hold that thought long enough and it will manifest as an emotion. Keep holding that thought and the thought will manifest as physical reality becoming the reflection of the vibration we’re holding “in” us.

When it does that, most people will see the physical manifestation and think it happened randomly or coincidentally. That’s because they don’t know what you just read.

Events are not random nor coincidental.

The “fuck yeah” manifestation happens

All physical manifestation happens from our focus. And when we focus on what we don’t want, that’s what shows up in physical reality – which again is just a reflection of our inner vibrational state.

Ok, back to Gus’ message:

“I didn’t react [negatively],” he continues. “I was just like ‘hey, that makes sense, I’ll see you on the next one. It’s all good! I wasn’t feeling disappointed at all. It would have been cool to play and have engagement with those folks, but it will happen again.”

Not being upset, again, was critical. Gus did well here. It’s no surprise then what happened next.

The next day, Gus gets a text from someone who also plays at the farmers market. Gus describes what they said:

“[The message said], I have this person that wants me to play music for a private party but I can’t do it the day they’re looking for. Are you available and interested?” Gus explained.

Gus continued: “Long story short, I am going to play this gig for these people, and it’s going to be for more than [what I would make at the cancelled gig], for less time, and it’s amazing and I just wanted to share that all of this shit is so good; my feeling about [negative energy] and just like, vibrational alignment and stuff, I’m just watching all these things that are coming back to me…and it’s just like you said about thinking about [reality] like a game. It’s all free flowing, there are always other opportunities…Fuck yeah!”

It’s all a happy game

Gus’ experience is typical of all my clients. The world of “wishful thinking” is the world everyone wants to live. It creates “fuck yeah!” experiences all the time. But if we think “wishful thinking” is stupid, or that it’s “not a life strategy” like many, many people do, including that person who commented on my previous post, then such people live in lives that, in her words, suck.

I’m happy I don’t live in that world. My clients are finding new, happier worlds than that one exist too. One by one, they’re finding this “you create your reality business” not only results in happy worlds and happy lives, they allow one to live in any world one wants to live in.

That’s because we all are divine, eternal beings enjoying a human existence. One we tailor ongoingly to our desires through vibrational focus. For many, their existence comes filled with some of what they want and a lot of what they don’t want.

But that’s because they aren’t using the “you create your reality business” deliberately. Instead, they’re doing it unconsciously. So they don’t get what they want; they get what they focus on. And a lot of people focus more on what they don’t want than what they want.

When they start doing the latter though….wow. For those people, the world becomes, in Gus’ words a happy “fuck yeah!” game.

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How “Wishful Thinking” Actually Creates Results People Love

(Photo by Dayne Topkin and Mohamed B. on Unsplash)

TL;DR: The author offers another example of a client proving to himself that “wishful thinking” actually works.

I recently started a short series of stories – testimonials really – of how clients used “wishful thinking” to create magnificent manifestations. I’m using the term “wishful thinking” because that’s how people describe this “you create your reality business” when they have no clue about it; how it works, why it works or why EVERYTHING in physical reality happens through that seemingly simple phrase.

Those who know that this “business” is the basis of the Universe call it something other than “wishful thinking”. Abraham calls it “Law of Attraction”. Seth says “you create your reality”. Neville Campbell says “reality springs from your wonderful imagination”.

How ever those who know describe it, it’s inevitable, meaning, there’s no way to avoid the accuracy of these statements. That’s because it IS how the Universe works. And those who tap into that awareness become powerful creators; while the rest of us bump around creating reality unconsciously. That explains why so much suffering and tragedy exists in the world today.

In the last post I talked about “Kevin”, a comedian now living his dream. This time, let’s look at a client “Jake”, and his example.

It’s not magic

Now Jake’s story will be different from Kevin’s because Jake’s experience shows an important aspect of this “you create your reality” business. It shows that even when one creates their reality deliberately, it’s not magic.

In other words, things don’t just instantly pop into reality as though reality manifests on a blank slate. No, we all instantly begin creating the moment we’re born – well before that actually – and as we do that, our reality springs into our awareness. When that happens, we all tend to focus on that physical manifestation, which then amplifies and makes it more “real”. Momentum ensues and soon, to us, it seems reality comes first, then we say that reality is “how it is”. And that reinforces realities we see, thus creating more of what we’re observing.

It’s no wonder then why we begin thinking or believing what we see is “true”. But it’s not “true”. It’s just what’s been created. When we want to create something new, however, we must first sooth away the prior momentum that’s creating our “how it is”. Because of this, it can take some time before our new reality emerges from our “how it is” — our past creations — which we interpret as present reality.

So we must be patient with our new manifestations. Or, we can look for evidence of their emergence where evidence first exists. That’s right, evidence our new manifestations are happening shows up immediately. But we must know where to look to see that evidence.

Most don’t know where to look so they don’t see it. Then they conclude this “you create your reality” business doesn’t work. But it does work. Every time.

“Wishful thinking” works. But only if you know how it works (Photo by Dayne Topkin)

Our beliefs create our world

Like Kevin, Jake is an artist. Jake is multi-disciplinary though. He writes novels and short stories. He composes music and also performs on piano too.

But Jake, like Kevin, also harbored extreme negative beliefs about his life, mostly stemming from his childhood. I cannot over state how negative his beliefs were. Those early-stage beliefs, again, reflected back to him in a unique-to-Jake way: Jake could never get people to take his artistic expression seriously. Every time he would put out something – music or words – he’d get crickets in return.

He also struggled to keep a job and therefore a steady income. And his relationship with women was poor…at best.

In time, his frustration about all this and more tumbled into blame. He blamed everything, not only about his life, but about the world itself, primarily on capitalism and how, in his words, it forces people to earn a living thereby giving no one a chance to express their authentic, artistic selves. Nevermind that there are literally thousands if not hundreds of thousands of people doing that worldwide, with many of those people earning quite good incomes! Especially in capitalism.

But that’s the thing about being human. We can’t experience a world outside our beliefs, beliefs that create the world we experience. Our beliefs literally blind us to experiences not fitting our beliefs. So Jake couldn’t see evidence proving his beliefs as not-necessarily-true.

Frustration turns to bitterness

So when Jake first came to me almost five years ago, he was in a strong, bitter, blaming state. His marriage was ending. He was having an affair and he was broke.

None of those are impediments to the Universe giving us what we want, however. In a short time, after lining up with our Broader Perspective, we can turn even the most dire circumstances around. That’s what Jake did.

Again, it took him a while. That’s because Jake, like many people, for a long time used “doing” and trying to “make it happen” to get “success”. He believed “doing” was what would bring him what he wants. That doesn’t work though, when our beliefs run counter to what we want. In other words, doing isn’t powerful enough to overcome beliefs drawing to us what we believe. And if we believe we aren’t worthy enough to deserve what we want, no amount of doing will give that to us.

That’s why so many people, especially many artists, don’t succeed. It’s not because their art isn’t good or that there are a lot of other artists or that they don’t have the right connections.

They don’t succeed because they don’t believe they deserve success. In other words they feel unworthy, like many, many people. The right connections and the people who will appreciate one’s art come easily when we line up with the success that already is ours. We “line up” by seeing our lives the way our Broader Perspectives do. That’s what Jake learned over those five years.

Now, mind you, Jake is over 63. So he’d been practicing disempowering beliefs around his art for five plus decades. Compartively, five years is no time at all. And it took that little time for him to create what happened next.

The turnaround begins

After giving up doing and instead focusing on being aligned with his Broader Perspective, Jake gradually let go of trying to “make it happen”. He stopped trying to make people or demand that people appreciate his artistic expression. Jake gave up trying to find a publisher for his books too, as well as trying to find someone who would play his compositions.

In giving all that up, Jake allowed the Universe to do all that work. He relaxed into enjoying his creative expression for the sake of the expression rather than seeing it as the path to financial fortune. As he did that, his creative juices flowed and his output increased dramatically.

Doing that also got Jake out of the way. That’s when he started seeing signs the Universe was on his side, which it always was.

One day, the local newspaper called Jake. The reporter wanted to do an article on a composition he was going to perform at a concert in town. To Jake this came “out of the blue”. But this small form of notoriety resulted from Jake soothing his negative momentum.

But wait, there’s more!

Instead of just reporting on the concert, the reporter did a complete story about Jake…and all the creative things he’s up to including his books. Jake had never had that kind of publicity.

But then it got even better.

About a month later, a music teacher at the local college reached out to tell Jake he was teaching one of Jake’s scores in his class. Jake doesn’t remember how the teacher got the music piece. He called me one day in his car outside the college. Jake was taking a break from hearing the practice. Weeks later, the class performed the piece in concert:

“Jake’s” piece performed.

Tides turning?

The orchestra also played several pieces from other local composers, but members of the audience told Jake they liked his best. Of course, Jake was over the moon. But this is just what happens when people relax and line up with their Broader Perspective. More and more of what they want comes, in effortless, delightful and surprising ways. Then even more stuff starts happening.

And that’s exactly what happened with Jake. That’s when the really big thing happened. Or at least it seemed that way.

Jake has paid hundreds of dollars in trying to get his writing published. Many unscrupulous purveyors of publishing scams have taken his money as a result. That’s just what happens when our beliefs tell us the world is unfair: we create those experiences as reflections of our thoughts.

These things happen so we can see what we’re creating, then use those as vibrational, navigational aids to chart a better-feeling course. By this time, Jake had given up on trying to make his writing successful. Months passed without him mentioning trying to get publicity for his work, which I presumed meant he wasn’t doing anything about his writing other than enjoying writing.

Then, again, seemingly out of the blue, Jake got an email.

The email was from a literary agency. It begins with “[We] would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to you on receiving a commendation for your book [title of one of Jake’s books] from our Book Scouts.” It goes on to explain how the agency works and inviting Jake to a conversation about the agency representing his literary work. Best of all, the email explains the agency is a commission-based firm.

It is law

For Jake’s that was big. That’s because in all his attempts at doing or trying to make it happen, he believed he always had to pay people to represent him. I knew this is not the standard way agents work. Real agents take a commission on jobs they land for those they represent. But Jake’s beliefs didn’t allow him to rendezvous with such agents. Why? Because he didn’t believe he deserved such representation. He has a LOT of momentum behind that belief.

Jake expressing shock that it’s really happening with no effort on his part.

Notice he didn’t have to “work” at “deserving representation”, nor do ANY of us need to work at deserving what we desire. The moment we desire something IT’S OURS.

PERIOD.

What we do have to do, however, is line up with the receiving of our desire. How? By relaxing, enjoying life the best we can and appreciating what is. Then, in time, we must receive that which we desire. As Abraham says: “It’s Law”.

The agent email came early last week [at the time of writing this]. Later in the week something happened that shows an important element of this “you create your reality business.” Let’s take a look at that because it causes many people to miss out on the full-blown manifestation of their desire.

A temporary “SNAFU”

The agent set a phone appointment that same week. As the day approached, Jake was excited. I didn’t hear from him until after the day of the call. Here’s what he wrote:

Notice a couple things about this message. The phone service going down on this exact day was no coincidence. His dominant existing momentum of beliefs and his still strong sense of unworthiness about his creative expression caused the phone service to go down. This was a crucial moment. A moment for Jake to double-down on the joy of rendezvousing with an agent. It was not the time to get all poopy about this seeming communication mishap. That’s because it’s not a communication mishap. It’s an opportunity to double-down on what he wants!

Notice also the doubt he expresses about this being real or not. This also is his dominant belief, stemming from so many times where he got scammed. It’s also key to what happened next. So this is how I replied. It’s a gentle admonishment that landed as I intended:

Thankfully, Jake trusts what I offer, which he should after five years! Here’s his response, wherein he comes up with better-feeling explanations for the disconnect:

As you read, they’ve rescheduled.

Due diligence uncovers something important.

In the next week, more happened showing Jake exactly where he is relative to his desires and his creations. The agent and Jake talked live via phone call. But something bothered Jake. Something, he said, wasn’t right.

So he started doing, in his words, “my due diligence”. He looked into details of the company, the website and the agency location. What he found wasn’t encouraging. Many of the links on the website went nowhere. The company wasn’t listed (by that name) on any New York registries.

Then, in a follow-up conversation, the agent stipulated that Jake would need to pay a large sum of money as a retainer to move forward. By then Jake had a strong sense this wasn’t what it appeared to be.

But his response was excellent. He recognized that his beliefs, expressed in the text above, that this wasn’t real, pointed to something he wanted to know. Not that this was not a real deal, but that his dominant beliefs remain on “I’m not worthy of getting what I want”.

When Jake realized this, he wasn’t disappointed. In fact, he was proud of how positive he was about all this. “In the past something like this would have sent me into a rage,” he said. “But I’m feeling pretty good that I did my due diligence.”

Indeed, all successful people have, as a part of their professional tool box, the ability to do their due diligence. This wasn’t a set back. It was an opportunity for Jake to develop important skills, so when the real offer comes, he’ll be able to appreciate it.

But most important, Jake is continuing to soothe his disbelief. And in the wake of that soothing, he’s discovering a gradual, steady stream of manifestations, manifestations he’s been wanting for a while.

It comes gradually

Jake’s story is not an isolated incident. All my clients are discovering they are blessed, that the Universe showers them with reflections of what they emanate, and that getting what they want is easy. All they need to do is align their “emanation” – their vibration – with what they’re wanting instead of what they’re not.

When they do that, gradually, life tunes to that new emanation. Then their experience of life gradually includes everything they want. It doesn’t come all at once. That would be overwhelming. Instead, it happens in a wonderful cadence, one in which we can revel, savor and enjoy the unfolding.

I wrote before about Kevin’s wonderful coming into his comedic dream. Jake’s trajectory is no different. Both are long-term clients who started with really strong, super-negative belief momentum. And in a relatively short time, they both are now living their creative dreams.

I still have two more stories to tell. But they must wait for the next installment!

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“Truth” Enslaves All People, But Slavery Can Feel Like Joy

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TL;DR: The author asserts that “truths” people limit human potential. Then the author offers a way out of those limitations: by seeing “truth” in a whole new way.

“Truth enslaves people…” That’s a provocative headline. It’s not click bait though. Instead, it is a representation of what underlies human experience. That representation explains why churn often characterizes human civilization, especially in the realm of politics and culture. “Truth” creates many of our problems, in other words.

For example, it’s “true” that what other people think of us matters. That statement is true for nearly every human. So is the “truth” that “other people’s opinion matters because we must all get along”.

But both statements, while true, also cause a lot of suffering. Especially for people who come into the world expressly intending to march to the beat of their own drum. Like transgender people, for example. And here’s the thing: every human comes for that purpose.

But if we believe other people’s opinion of us matters, and we’re not expressing ourselves in ways others accept, then we’re in trouble. We feel bad about ourselves. We second guess who we are. Worry becomes our go-to emotion, then anxiety and insecurity. Before we know it, we’re bound by truths we cannot seem to escape and our lives become severely limited.

Today, let’s look at “truth”, unpack it, understand it and therefore find libration, joy and freedom from it instead of enslavement, anxiety and insecurity. Every person reading this has the ability to free themselves from all negative emotion and unhappy experiences. But to do so they must first find liberation from “truth”.

Let’s dive in.

How I know this is for real

For those people new to my writings, I’m queer and trans-attracted and a person of color. Over the last ten years or more I’ve found the liberation I described above. I’ve helped a lot of people find that too, including people like me. So I know what I’m talking about and I have the results to prove it.

The most powerful results, however, are those we create for ourselves. No amount of words can convince as powerfully as evidence we create for ourselves proving that this “you create your reality” business is real. A new client’s experience shows this.

This client is a Chief Technology Officer of a major multinational manufacturer. As you can imagine, he’s serious, realistic, believes in science and, therefore, is not at all into “woo”. He reminds me of some decrying what I offer as “circular logic” and “new age mumbo jumbo”. Like them, he was ignorant about what I offer.

His wife, however, is into “woo” and became a client almost a year ago. Since then, changes in her way of being were so profound, the husband/CTO thought she had joined a cult. So he went to the source – me – to get some answers.

What he learned in that one call was enough for him to become a client. Once I answered his questions, which showed beyond doubt that what I offer is not a cult, he had to acknowledge evidence his wife is producing was impressive. So much so he wanted his version of her results.

A startling, life-changing experience

Thirty weeks after that call, the CTO had what he called a “startling” experience. Someone poking him on the shoulder one night roused him from sleep. But when he woke, no one was there. He looked around the darkened room and saw no one (he and his wife sleep in separate rooms). So he went back to sleep.

Before drifting off, however, he heard, in his words, “as clear as if someone were right beside [him]” a woman say “Jason, wake up!”. He sat bolt upright in his bed, turned on the lights and walked the entire second floor of his home. He knew it wasn’t his wife calling because, he said, the voice was not hers.

Eventually he did return to sleep. But the whole experience unnerved him. He had never had such an experience before. Yet it was so real. Of course, it absolutely was a real “occult” experience.

Today, this client is as committed to this practice as his wife. In part because of this “occult” experience, but also because, in the 30 weeks since he started, he’s produced a tremendous amount of more prosaic, practical evidence proving this “you create your reality” business works.

So if you say this is “new age mumbo jumbo”, and you haven’t tested it yourself, under the tutelage of someone who knows what they’re doing, then you literally have NO IDEA what you’re talking about.

Which brings me right back to the point of this story.

I’m literally writing this post at a local park…at 9:38 am on a Thursday. I can do this because I know this “You create your reality” business works. It has enabled me to create income without a job. Where’s your evidence proving it doesn’t work? Oh, right. You don’t have any.

Truth: it’s enslavement, not freedom

The “truth” will not set you free, as the saying claims. Instead, if you align to a “truth” that doesn’t serve you, then “truth” will enslave you.

That’s right. There are many truths, not just one. There are as many truths as there are points of consciousness, making “truth” as diverse as the rest of All That Is.

For example, every Far Right Christian Nationalist who believes the world is against them experiences the enslavement I described above. So do all liberals who think Far Right Christian Nationalists are trying to turn their country into a dictatorship. Every Republican who believes the world is going wrong is equally enslaved. All these groups are enslaved to nearly the same truth, generalized by the statement “What other people think is important” and “they must think like I do.”

Like actual enslavement, getting out of truth’s enslavement isn’t easy. But it’s so worth doing! In doing so one literally can choose ANY truth. After all, ALL TRUTHS ENSLAVE. So it makes sense to pick ones whose enslavement serves us.

To better understand this, let’s look closely at what “truth” actually is. We’ll do that in the next section.

So what is truth?

It starts with vibration

Let’s use physics to figure that out. We’re not going to use science’s version of physics though. That will tell us nothing. Instead, let’s use the physics of spirituality.

I know, some readers will balk at this. But the problem is, science is based on the “truth” that an objective physical reality exists separate from us and is thus objectively observable by us, which is why science itself is enslaved, like many humans, in the bogus truth limiting all science seeks to understand. So let’s instead use the unlimited nature of spiritual physics, which is based on how the Universe actually works.

All “truth” begins as an idea. An idea is a thought. All thought is vibration. This should be obvious to everyone, so I won’t spend a lot of words trying to flesh that out. If you want to flesh it out, let’s do so in the comments.

What differentiates a thought that is “true” from one that is something other than that is the amount of attention points of consciousness give to the thought. Points of consciousness, of course, include more than human consciousness, but let’s just focus on the human type for now.

Human consciousness is purposefully very powerful. It’s also the source of nearly all our truths. Including many, many limiting ones.

The more attention we give to any thought, the more “true” it will become. That’s because giving attention to a thought adds manifesting momentum to that thought. That thought, plus the momentum, evolves that thought into further forward manifestation, until that manifestation becomes observably physical. When that happens, humans call that thought “true”.

So that’s how “truths” become so. And when truths become so, they impose limits on what’s possible. But only for those believing the truth.

A 4-minute mile? Impossible!

For example. Prior to 1954 very few humans thought it possible to run a mile in less than four minutes, even though many had done it “unofficially”. By “unofficially”, I mean the cis-white-het hegemony wouldn’t acknowledge those who had done it before, including a Pawnee called Big Hawk Chief who did so as early as 1876.

Indeed, one bastion of the cis-het world, The Harvard Business Review, tells the story of the 4-minute-mile “barrier” as a daunting limit…until it was surpassed, “for the first time” by white guy Roger Bannister in 1954. Indeed, the author describes how “experts” thought they knew the “truth”. Their collective opinions — their attention on the “truth” that the 4-minute mile threshold was indeed insurmountable — said that truth could only be breached under the right circumstances (another truth), circumstances prescribed by the very same experts:

“The experts believed they knew the precise conditions under which the mark would fall. It would have to be in perfect weather — 68 degrees and no wind. On a particular kind of track — hard, dry clay — and in front of a huge, boisterous crowd urging the runner on to his best-ever performance.”

Never mind that Big Hawk Chief had none of that. Nor did several others claimed to have ran faster miles before. Even Bannister’s accomplishment happened in conditions other than those experts prescribed.

The point is, “truth” is literally in the eye of the consciousness thinking the thought. And the more attention brought to that thought, the more true…and limiting…that truth will be.

“Truths” establish limits within which we live.

So pick truths that serve

And once that “truth” becomes true or observably physical, it’s exceedingly hard for those believing it to accept another idea. You can test this by trying to convince any MAGA enthusiast that “MAGA” is bullshit. For such people “MAGA” is true.

The North Carolinian who took an assault rifle to a pizza restaurant in Washington D.C. was convinced the “pizzagate” conspiracy theory was true. So true, he saw himself as a hero attempting to save children suffering under a criminal pedophilia ring. That “truth”, that thought became his reality. It enslaved him. So much so, he took action. Action that could have resulted in many deaths.

Every school shooter is enslaved by truth. So is every freedom fighter. We’re all enslaved by truths. The question then, is, what truth are we allowing to enslave us?

Which brings me to you, dear reader. What truth we allow to enslave us will either feel like bondage or liberation. It will make us feel fear and insecurity, or joyful freedom. We therefore must choose our truths with discernment.

We can’t be free of truth. That’s the paradox. We can only choose truths that make us free. Truths that serve us in other words.

Abraham laying it out plain.

Feeling bad is a sign

That sounds like circular logic, but many statements in the realm of spiritual physics sound that way because that’s how All That Is is. All That Is is self-referential!

You are a point of consciousness, here to express your unique perspective and in doing so create more of All That Is. You do that through creating truths: you attract vibrations resonant with what you are. Those vibrations become thoughts to you, which, when you put your attention/focus on them, you cause those thoughts to evolve into things, i.e. physical reality.

But if/when we accept other people’s opinions, which are their truths, not ours, then we become enslaved in those truths. We know when that happens because when it does we always feel bad.

That’s because we’re not here to enslave ourselves to others’ opinions, we’re here to create our own reality, one aligned with our truths. And in doing that, paradoxically, we give room for others to do the same. And when they take that room, the world and All That Is expands.

So suffering and struggle and worry and such are purposeful. They show us where we’re doing something we shouldn’t be doing. Something that doesn’t serve us. What we should do when that suffering happens, is look at what truth we’ve aligned with and give it up…in favor of our own.

How we do that is a subject I write about every week.

We not different

Now, I get how hard this can be. After all, we’re all needing money. We need housing, medical care. We all live in a nation of laws. Most of us believe money comes from jobs and to get one of those, we must please other people. But, believe it or not, all of that meta stuff is subject to our truths!

I’m queer and trans-attracted and a POC. I live in a nation of laws. Like you I require certain things. But all those things come to me with ease. I don’t have a job anymore and yet money comes to me in a fun, life-expanding way. I’m no different from you. IOW, you can create for yourself your version of what I enjoy. It’s not easy, at first, but you CAN do it.

If you ask me, it’s a way better life. And it’s a life that is in your best interest. Because when you create it, all your interests will be served with no effort on your part. My clients are discovering this. Including that CTO.

All That Is wants you to live your truths. That’s why when you live others’ truths you suffer. Suffering doesn’t have to feel like physical pain. It can feel like anxiety, depression, fear, insecurity and even anger or rage. None of those emotions feel good, which is why people use alcohol, weed, tobacco and other methods to soothe those feelings.

But appreciation, empowerment, hopefulness, joy and happiness do feel good. Very good. And when a person realizes and aligns with their truths, not others’, especially other people’s truths about money, religion and culture, then their life reflects all those positive emotions and then some. Their life also includes everything that person wants.

If you ask me, there’s no better life than that.

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This Is How “Wishful Thinking” Really Works

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TL;DR: The author asserts that the concept of “wishful thinking” is the basis of how the Universe works. They give an example of a client’s experience, someone who once considered killing themselves, but now is living a life they love. The author then suggests readers reconsider what they think “wishful thinking” is.

A lot of people call what I teach “wishful thinking”. They’re not being complimentary when they call it that.

I take it as a compliment though. I know “wishful thinking” works. When people use that phrase, they don’t really know what they’re talking about. Usually that’s because such people have never tried out this “You create your reality” business. Or, they have, but sabotaged the test. So they think this “business” doesn’t work.

But it does work 100 percent of the time. That’s why I’m stoked this week. I’m stoked because my clients are stoked. So many produced amazing (to them) manifestations showing them they create their realities. As a result all are amazed their “wishful thinking” produced exactly what they wished for.

Of course, I’m not amazed. This is just how the Universe works for each and every one of us.

But to see it working that way, we must believe that’s what’s happening. Otherwise we get what we see. That’s why “I believe it when I see it” cuts so many people off from a wonderful life. Being realistic, being serious, growing up and being an adult creates sucky lives. It’s better to “see it because I believe it”, like a child does. Then, we open the door and all we wish for flows into our lives.

Let’s take a look at the wonderful things clients produced this week and why I’m so stoked with their results. In this first of several posts, I’ll share Kevin’s story and how he went from wanting to kill himself to living his dreams.

Curmudgeon creates suck

Interestingly, all but one of these clients are long-timers. Two are going on their fourth year as clients. The third is on her second year. What’s also interesting is, the long-timers both started with extremely negative world-views. As a result, they had extremely negative lives.

And that’s just how it works. We can’t enjoy happy lives while being a curmudgeon about life. Negative beliefs about life create corresponding life experiences. The negativity needn’t be that strong either. Pessimism about life in general or a vague sense of annoyance about life or things in it – people, our political leaders, the climate – will give us lives that suck.

Of course, for most people that sucky life will just feel normal. That’s because such people grow accustomed to such a life. They don’t realize life is supposed to be fun and joyful, with everything we’re wanting happening in our lives all the time. Instead, they come to expect that things going wrong sometimes, is just normal. It’s not.

And, the longer we hold to that idea, the more momentum that focus gains. It’s no wonder then that many in old age face debilitating diseases and chronic pains. These aren’t the result of old age. They are the result of a long time suffering negative world views. I’m preparing a whole separate blog about the connection between thoughts and physical illnesses, a connection which science is [finally] acknowledging exists. Illness doesn’t come from no where. Our thoughts create them. Just like they create everything else we experience.

It’s not magic

Changing those negative world views and their corresponding momentum requires persistence and commitment. Creating our reality isn’t magic. We don’t go from unsatisfying life to joyful life in an instant. We first must soothe that negative momentum created from years of persistent negative thinking and believing. The good news is, soothing that old momentum doesn’t take as long as it took to create it. Forty or fifty years of chronic negative thinking can turn around quickly. But it doesn’t happen overnight. As I said, this “you create your reality” business isn’t magic.

That’s what these advanced clients are finding. And though it’s not magic, results they’re getting sure seem magical. It seems that way because none of these clients did ANYTHING in the world of action to create what you’re about to read. Instead, the Universe did it all for them. It did that as an expression of how worthy each of these clients are.

You are just as worthy. And since the Universe has unlimited creative capacity, you can enjoy any life you want. All that’s required is you lining up with it. Just like these clients did.

Now let’s take a look at the first client’s experience.

From suicide to stage

The first client I’m going to call Kevin. Kevin’s been a client more than four years. About three years in, he let his ego get the best of him and quit the practice in anger. He thought he could do the practice better without a guide. And while some can, most people cannot. Which explains why so many who try to prove to themselves this practice doesn’t work, get that result. Guidance from someone who knows how the practice works is essential.

(Above) “Kevin” realizing having guidance is essential. (Below) Kevin reacting to a session we had shortly after his return. This practice is powerful. It puts us in the driver’s seat of our lives better than anything I know.

When he first came to me, he struggled with suicidal ideation. That came from interpreting his childhood experiences in really negative ways, ways that had him hating himself. That caused all kinds of follow-on life experiences which reflected back to him his self-loathing. So much so, Kevin wanted to end it all.

But Kevin also came into the world to express leading edge human experience. His particular expression is on-stage performance. As an early-stage emerging comedian, he feels alive and invigorated. But his disempowering beliefs about his past and his doubling-down on negative interpretations of the follow-on life experiences had him instead indulging in drinking, whoring, pornography and angrily confronting and blaming friends and family until he found himself pretty much alone.

All the while he never developed a comedy routine.

Kevin’s destiny is being on stage. But first he had to create a better life-experience, which means thinking better-feeling thoughts. (Photo by Felix Mooneeram on Unsplash)

Transformed right before my eyes

All that started changing in the first part of our time to gather. But in the second half, Kevin was really ready. Changes came quite quick. Before long, my Broader Perspective told me he was ready to get on stage as a comedian for the first time. A little encouragement from me had him start preparing a five minute routine.

Some false starts ensued as his old negative momentum asserted itself. That happening is just part of the path. Old momentum asserting itself can act as booster rockets propelling us toward our desire. Most people don’t understand this though, so when old momentum asserts itself, most people will double-down on that, thus creating futures consistent with that old momentum.

For example, Kevin worried what people would think about his comedy. He worried about his mother’s criticism of him being a comedian. She told him he should stop dreaming and get a real job. These worries had Kevin doubt his path and believe his mother, which made him feel like shit, because he’s not meant to work a “real job”. With some help, Kevin figured this out.

So instead of collapsing into his old momentum and giving up on his dream, Kevin leaned in to his dream. By our next session, he read me a two minute version and….OMG…it was spectacular! It was funny, insightful, and relevant. Most of all it was hilarious. But what was really remarkable was how Kevin’s demeanor shifted as he read the routine. He became a totally different person! He was invigorated, excited, animated. His confidence poured out of him. After reading the routine, he couldn’t stand still. He paced around his apartment full of himself.

This is exactly what it feels like being in tune with our Broader Perspective. We are literally so full of ourselves, sitting still is impossible. We want to move, express, revel and bask. That’s what Kevin did the rest of our session.

Everything is possible for everyone

In the days that followed, Kevin sent me texts about how high-flying he was. It was a remarkable shift between how he expressed himself before. Instead of spending hours at the bar or watching porn as he used to, Kevin literally poured himself into his comedy routine, extending it to five minutes. The more he worked on it, the more confident he got. Here are some texts offering progress reports:

Kevin raving about his routine.

Kevin is for sure on the path to his deepest desire. And his artistic expression shows it. But even more evident is how he’s feeling. There’s nothing better than the feeling of joy and empowerment. They are the pinnacle of what’s possible for humans. From there, everything is possible.

I’m stoked at what Kevin has done. He’s literally gone from wanting to kill himself, to now being eager to get on stage and deliver his routine. I know he’s going to knock them dead…figuratively speaking of course!

Remember, none of this is special. Kevin’s experience can be anyone’s. It is everyone’s experience, even for those wanting to kill themselves. That’s because the Universe is ALWAYS reflecting back to us what we’re creating. And it’s “wishful thinking” that gets that ball rolling.

“Wishful thinking” is justice

A reader of my stories once said this “you create your reality” business is totally unjust. They couldn’t understand how people could experience such pain and struggle she sees around her as their created reality. I told her nothing is more just than getting exactly what you’re emanating. And when one tunes their emanations such that they match their desires, they get lives full of that — their desires. Nothing can be more just than that.

People just need to realize they’re at the center of their lives, creating it as they go along, either by default or deliberately. Most are doing it by default. But everyone can do it deliberately.

Next week, we’ll look at another awesome story of another client, this one also an artist, who used “wishful thinking” in a way that the Universe delighted them.

In the meantime consider rethinking what “wishful thinking” is for you. Doing so could create a life for you that you once thought impossible.

Because everything is possible for every one of us. Including you.

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I Love When Entire Families Find Their True Power

TL;DR: The author describes how their spiritual client practice ripples through families, thereby creating stronger family bonds as it also creates empowered individuals. They credit Law of Attraction for creating a life where they and their clients find their true power. The same power, the author asserts, that is inherent in All That Is.

Something continuing to fascinate me as I serve clients each week is where new ones come from. Hardly any new clients come from this blog or my other social media activity. Instead, they come in a way which confirms how effective the Positively Focused Way is.

As a result of the unique way in which they come, I’m inspired; as are existing clients. That’s because evidence existing clients create for themselves are so life-changing. And when my clients’ lives change, new clients inevitably result from that.

Let’s look deeper at what I mean.

Whole families moving the same way: uncommon

Over 80 percent of my new clients are coming as a result of seeing positive changes in their family members. Family members who were clients before them. I think this is rather unusual, because family members often are those with stubborn opinions of each other. And usually those opinions aren’t always favorable.

So when one family member chooses a different path, other family members typically see such choices cynically. Family members think the choice is a fad. Or they may even think the family member is getting involved in a cult.

That’s understandable. Many such choices often fall by the wayside. Or they’re replaced by the next new, shiny path. Some family members DO join cults. So I get that family members, seeing their sibling or partner make a radical, life-altering choice, sometimes roll their eyes.

Especially if a family member latches on the laters fad or “movement”.

Now, of course, for some who make life-altering choices, many such choices stick. And for those choosing, that can be a very good thing. I don’t think it’s common, however, that other family members will see what their relative did then choose the same path. They usually stick with family tradition. Or what they’ve been told to follow by some other authority.

One person is all it takes

And this explains my fascination. Because nearly all my new clients come to me as siblings or partners of my existingclients.

For example, one client, a self-acknowledged “matriarch” of her family, started her practice with me several years ago. Changes she realized by becoming more Positively Focused were profound. I knew it and she knew it.

But what’s interesting is, her daughter saw it too. Their relationship was pretty good. But it was tinted with past baggage both carried. Baggage which flared from time to time, reigniting animosity between the two.

I won’t go into details. Suffice it to say, the daughter blamed her mother for much of what she went through, and what she’s going through today.

Changes her mother made, however, were so profound, it caused the daughter to release a lot of the blame she put at her mother’s feet. Then she wanted to know what it was her mother was doing. So she became a client.

That was a year ago. The daughter is a client. And, as a result of changes she made in her life since then, her brother and his wife both became clients. Then the daughter’s husband became a client!

The matriarch in a recent session marveled at all this. She told me what she wanted more than anything was to see her children happy. Through the practice, she’s manifested that. And, indeed, her children are much happier. That happiness is growing more and more each week.

It only takes one person to change the world. When that person becomes the change they want to see, then their world changes. That’s what happened with the matriarch. Now, those most important to her are getting what she’s getting.

Even the realistic find something

This isn’t the only example. Here’s another one: one of my clients is an entrepreneur, but was letting her limiting beliefs keep her from starting her dream business. After she became a client, that all changed. What’s more, she became happier and more thrilled about her life. Then she had a car accident that totaled her car. Then she got laid off from work.

Through these experiences her husband watched as his wife saw these things not as tragic, but perfect manifestations leading to a more powerful life for her. She became so positive, her husband thought she joined a cult. So he scheduled a free 1:1 with me. He wanted to understand what his wife got herself into.

The husband is the CTO of a major medical company. So he’s very rational and “realistic”. Successful too. Nevertheless, after that first session he decided to become a client too. That was six months ago. Today, he’s made the Positively Focused Way his own. He finds what he’s learning gives him much more empowerment around his work life, his interaction with peers and subordinates and around decisions made in the organization he thinks aren’t the best.

What’s interesting is, this guy who thought his wife joined a cult, last week told me in his 22d session that he suggested one of his long-time friends and direct reports consider becoming a client! Meanwhile, his wife’s transformation was so profound, one of her best friends also became a client. That person is now exploring the power of the dream world as well as how to leverage the power of the Universe to create a life where she’s living a major dream of hers.

A new client is exploring the power of dreams after seeing positive changes in her friend. (Photo by Egor Vikhrev)

A life of play

So one person’s life becoming the Charmed Life I promise all my clients sparked the transformation of her husband and a friend. I believe we’ll see more transformation from that person, the entrepreneur. That’s because the company she’s creating will employ a lot of people and serve even more. And while she grows the company, she wants to plug in what she’s learning through Positively Focused into the company culture. Yes, lots more people are going to discover the power of being Positively Focused.

These kinds of ripples have all happened in the last two years. As a result, my client roster is full. I’m no longer accepting new clients. It’s wonderful working with families, spouses, friends and siblings and see their lives and relationships dramatically improve.

All this happened without me spending a dime on advertising or marketing. I relied instead on the power of the Law of Attraction. I’ve sent out a desire to enjoy a life where money comes into it without me having to “work”. And believe me, what I do with clients isn’t work. It’s more like play. Play around a subject I love talking about: my spiritual practice, which amplifies my awareness that life is a spiritual act. A spiritual act at the heart of All That Is and its desire to know itself more.

I love knowing I’m a part of that expansion. And I love that I’ve attracted people who resonate with this practice and, as a result, are creating their joyful versions of what I’ve created for me.

Nothing compares to finding one’s true power. Except maybe when your family members do too.

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Vulnerability Is A Myth, We’re Better Off Without It.

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TL:DR: The author asserts that vulnerability isn’t key to relationships as many mental health and relationship experts claim. Rather, it’s actually a problem the author says. They then explain why it’s better to focus on one’s thoughts and beliefs in order to create better relationships. In doing so, people get everything they want: better relationships and freedom from fear that comes with trying to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability. Mental health and relationship “experts” claim it’s something special. They say it’s something we all should practice in order to thrive in relationship. But is vulnerability really the key to happiness, relationship success and more? Or is something afoot here that can disempower us?

In this post, let’s explore why vulnerability is a myth and how dispelling the myth can help us live more joyfully. Along the way we may just also discover the key to everything else we want.

Why humans vaunt vulnerability

Vulnerability is both feared and praised. We fear it because it implies possible rejection. We praise it because we’re told to. Being vulnerable can also feel good because we’re putting ourselves out there honestly. And doing that can feel good. For most though, it can be terrifying.

But what is “vulnerability” exactly? The definition doesn’t seem to imply something praise-worthy:

So it would seem, based on the definition, that being vulnerable is a bad thing. So why do people vaunt it so much? One source suggests being susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm increases intimacy and trust. Not being vulnerable, it says, can lead to emotional distance, disconnection and resentment.

It would seem being vulnerable then is essential to good relationships. But is that really the case?

Rejection inherent in vulnerability

The trouble with saying it improves relationships is that being vulnerable usually requires a quid-pro-quo situation. I would suggest everyone would be vulnerable in a relationship….if their partner were equally vulnerable. That’s the trouble. No one really wants to subject themselves to physical or emotional attack. It seems extremely logical to me, then, that no one wants to be vulnerable in a relationship either. Which explains why people aren’t.

But there’s something about this vulnerability thing that runs afoul of what’s really happening in physical reality. It’s that being vulnerable is based on something that isn’t happening in reality at all. Well, it IS happening. But only because people believe it’s happening. And that belief is what perpetuates fear associated with being vulnerable.

In other words, the myth of vulnerability is what keeps people from being vulnerable in the first place. Replace the word “vulnerable” with a different word, for example, and the whole calculus changes.

What word do we suggest? How about authenticity.

That’s right. If instead of thinking about being vulnerable, we think of being authentic, then we go a long way to easing fear that comes with being vulnerable. The problem remains however, with the essence of what both words conjure: the risk of being harmed. And in most relationship cases, that “harm” looks like “rejection.”

So let’s unpack that.

Our thoughts make it so

In order to be vulnerable, a condition must first exist. That condition is risk. In other words, the person considering being vulnerable or authentic must first believe there is something they may be rejected over. Rejection can feel bad, but a simple reframing of the story we tell when “rejection” is experienced can cause that bad feeling to turn into appreciation.

What if, for example, someone rejects us because we share something intimate about us? Does that mean anything? What does it mean about us? It means nothing really. We shared authentically. That person chose something else. In this situation, both parties are better off. We’re free to connect with someone who accepts us. The other party is free now to connect with someone they connect with.

Where’s the harm in that? But when we think the rejection means something about us, then we feel bad.

We can see, then, the act of rejection isn’t bad, instead it’s what we think of it that makes it bad. The same is true for being vulnerable. It’s the thought about being vulnerable that makes it so scary. Our thoughts about it make being vulnerable a vaunted thing as well.

As we say all day every day here at Positively Focused, our thoughts make everything. Including the need to be, and the fear of being, vulnerable.

Preferring rejection

Being vulnerable means having to take a risk. Hardly anyone wants to take risks. But if there is no risk in being authentic, if instead there’s everything to gain by being that way, I would suggest many more people would be authentic.

Again, the problem is the thoughts people have about rejection and what they think that means.

Vulnerability then, isn’t the problem. Making it into a venerated way of being is. Because doing so makes it seem doing something we’re scared to do is something worth doing. It’s not. Instead, it’s better to develop a new set of thoughts around authenticity so that acting authentic is preferable to not acting that way.

That’s easy to do. And it’s not scary. When we do it, the vaunted idea of being vulnerable becomes meaningless. And when that happens we’re free; free to be who we are. Whether people take that or leave that is up to them. It’s not our problem.

So there’s nothing special about being vulnerable. And, with a little tweaking of our thoughts, we can eliminate that concept from our minds, thereby freeing us to be. Now let’s turn up the woo a bit and see what we find.

Some would rather have this happen than be vulnerable. But there’s a better approach to vulnerability. (Photo by Hasan Almasi on Unsplash)

Finding power in changed belief

Believing vulnerability is a thing presupposes there’s something that can happen to us that’s beyond our control. Usually, that something is bad: rejection. From the Positively Focused perspective, however, nothing can happen to us that is beyond our control. We invite everything that happens to us through our thoughts and beliefs.

If that’s true, we can see how vulnerability would be a problem. That’s because it presupposes risk. Belief that there’s risk is a belief. That belief will create reality consistent with it. And that explains why so many fear being vulnerable. It also explains why it feels scary.

Rejection is similar. There are many thoughts and beliefs around “rejection”. Those thoughts and beliefs, like those behind “vulnerability”, create reality consistent with them. That’s why hardly anyone wants to feel rejected.

Change those beliefs though and the experience changes. This explains why very successful sales people, for example, don’t experience “no” as rejection. They think different thoughts and beliefs around the word “no”. This also proves it’s possible to change our beliefs around things like “vulnerability” and “rejection”. Doing so makes one much more powerful.

Beliefs matter…a lot

So if we invite our experience through our thoughts and beliefs about them, that means something important. It means that being vulnerable isn’t the key to anything. Instead, our thoughts and beliefs are. Indeed, thoughts and beliefs are everything. They literally create the world around us.

The better beliefs we hold, the better our life gets. My clients are discovering this. The more they change their beliefs to positive, empowering ones, the better their lives get. My experience is similar. The more I’ve changed how I think and what I believe, the more my life has improved. So much so, hardly anything “bad” happens to me. And those “bad” things that do happen are so insignificant, I don’t consider them “bad”. They just are.

In a short while, a person can create an ideal life, what I call the Charmed Life. This is true for relationships too. We don’t need to experience risk in relationship. But getting there requires something: not being vulnerable. Being vulnerable is a myth. Instead, what’s needed is a new way of thinking. One that invites only good. Including good relationships, ones matching what we’re wanting.

And if that relationship matches what we want, is risk needed? I don’t think so.

Rather than experience risk and fear at being vulnerable, I suggest we give up this myth. Let’s replace it with something better. Something like knowing we create our reality. And the more true we are to who we are, the better realities we create, including relationships.

By “true” I mean being positive, happy and easy. Easy with ourselves and easy with others, so that we create an easy life. One in which we can be ourselves. An in doing that have everything we want.

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More Kids Are Remembering Their Past Lives

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TL:DR The author says that the phenomenon of more children remembering their past lives indicates human expansion. Children, they say, are helping humanity evolve beyond limiting beliefs and in so doing, they help usher in a new reality for all humans. One where humans are more than human.

Kids remembering their past lives isn’t a surprise to my clients or to me. We are, after all, eternal beings with tremendous potential. We even enjoy the potential to recall our past lives as easily as we recall dreams.

But when a client recently shared an example of a young boy remembering being here before, it had me write this post. That’s because the more such stories we hear, the more likely we might try tapping into our own power to perceive what we really are.

There’s a reason more young people are coming in clearer. It’s the same reason so many kids are coming into the world as transgender. We’re going to look at this alongside why it is so many of us don’t remember our past lives. Not remembering our past lives should be the rarity. Not kids remembering being here before.

So why is the opposite true? Why is it so rare for people to remember their past lives? And what’s causing more kids to remember being here before?

Let’s take a look.

Giving up our deeper awareness

The reason nearly all of us don’t remember our past lives is because it’s just not that important to us. Or so we think.

Past life memories, like dreams, can provide a LOT of value. They can, for example, explain why certain things seem to happen over and over in this life. Past life memories can also help us understand why we must work through certain things we are working through in this life.

Of course, such memories, again, like dreams, can help us realize we’re eternal; that there’s more to life than this one life. And finally, past life memories can help free us from the fear of death.

Freeing ourselves from the fear of death is HUGE.

Nearly all of us, however, are talked out of the awareness of such an expanded consciousness early on. That’s right, we all have such an expanded consciousness when we first get here. As children, we’re deeply connected to the place from where we came.

But in short order, the intensity of life experience — physical reality — is so intense it demands our full attention. Physical reality can be all-encompassing and drive our focus away from our connections to nonphysical, the Source of us all, and the experience making physical life possible.

Parents, peers and teachers also talk us out of our connections. We’re told to wise up, grow up, be realistic and stop day dreaming. Such admonitions cause us to trade that broader awareness for a more focused one. One focused on this time-space reality. And so we give up our deeper awareness.

The ego gets in on it too

The ego is another factor allowing either awareness of our past life experiences…or the lack thereof.

Many new age gurus claim subduing or killing off the ego is key to awakening. But the ego is an extremely important function. That’s right, it IS a FUNCTION, a process going on in our consciousness. The ego is not us. It is, again, a function or process. This function’s function is to create the illusion of duality. It helps us distinguish ourselves from our surroundings and other people. Otherwise, we would only experience the non-duality behind the illusion of objective reality.

If this sounds preposterous, I recommend watching the Netflix documentary “How to Change Your Mind”. In it a noted journalist goes on an adventure. He decides to try all kinds of psychedelic substances, beginning with tobacco, but also LSD, Shrooms and MDA among others. The documentary also features people participating in trials hoping these substances have lasting and profound therapeutic benefits (they do).

Each test subject, when recounting their experience with the psychedelic they take, tells of extreme states of bliss they experience inside this oneness state I described above. This non-dual state is real. Psychedelics temporarily allow perception beyond the ego, which allows one to experience this oneness directly. It’s a profoundly blissful experience. But we’re not here to experience it so directly. Thus the ego’s function.

The feeling of deep connection

That ego function is “softer” in early childhood, which explains why children have “imaginary” friends, dream more, play more and are so much more care free. Such friends may be imaginary to adults. Adults may not appreciate their child playing and being care free. But those experiences are supposed to be there. They can be maintained too, throughout life. And maintaining such experiences makes life joyful and care free.

But, as I said, we’re often talked out of this state. That’s too bad. Because life lived from there can be so fun! Not to worry though, we eventually return to that state after we transition. And for many, that happens before they transition.

Many elderly people, as they approach the time of their transition, often talk about seeing family members and other beings comforting them in their transition process. A recent New York Times article tells of hundreds of such people seeing into nonphysical. Some research shows that some 80 percent of people experience such states.

So this state of being isn’t unusual. Most of us lose conscious connection with this state early on. And that’s why so few of us in our adult years enjoy the joy youngsters’ enjoy. Which brings me to the example my client shared.

Children remembering

The example comes from a Reddit thread. The thread features a tweet from a woman talking about something extraordinary about her child, who is six:

The first person mentioning a conversation had with their child.

As you can see it got a lot of engagement. But in the Reddit thread someone posted her own experience with her son, who is four. This young person talks about how he was here before as a father. Then he finds himself back here again, seemingly that being something he didn’t want:

The reply adding another anecdote to the conversation.

The thing is, we all experience similar things early on. But, again, we give them up as our ego kicks in, in full. With practice though, a person can, in their adult years, redevelop the ability to perceive things such as past lives and other experiences in nonphysical such as dreams.

Later in the Positively Focused Way, dreamwork and meditation, two potent ways to consciously reconnect with our origins, are included in the practice. Both are simple processes, but putting them into practice isn’t easy. Which is why I work with clients weekly.

In time, though, rediscovering the wonder of past lives and nonphysical experiences surfaces. And those experiences can greatly influence our physical, waking lives.

Why are they remembering now?

So why are kids coming into the world remembering past lives? Is there something afoot here? Something that wasn’t happening before?

I think there is. I believe the human experience is expanding through a great leap. We’ve had such leaps before. This one is prompting us to cast away our old limiting beliefs. And as we wrestle with the expansion in the physical, some beings incarnate with their connections in tact, then use those connections to inspire others.

That’s what’s happening with these two kids. It’s the same thing happening with transgender kids. All this is the divine unfolding of humanity moving forward and it’s a great thing. Our kids are not here for us to teach them. They’re here to teach us, to help us remember what we are.

I’m eager for more of these kinds of things happening. They foretell an exciting future. One where our past life recollections may be as easy to recall as our last meal or our last date with a loved one. And when more people can remember their past lives, I won’t be surprised when our entire civilization suddenly changes because of it.

Or maybe I will be.

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Life Can Be Filled Only With Great, Awesome Things

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TLDR: The author asserts that brainwashing is a good thing. Ridding the brain of negative beliefs creates a corresponding increase in positive experiences, says the author, until life becomes an ongoing, ever-getting-better experience.

“In every life a little rain must fall.”

“Life isn’t all rainbows and butterflies.”

“We must take the good with the bad.”

Certainly these “pearls of wisdom” sound familiar. For sure we can think of many others. They all convince people that they must accept the facts: There will always be experiences they won’t like.

What’s curious is, those who don’t accept these beliefs don’t experience experiences they don’t like.

That’s right. Some, to use another pearl of wisdom “have their head in the cloud.” Doing that, they discover what I’m writing about today: that in their life, only good shows up.

Yep. That’s right. Life needn’t contain a SINGLE negative thing. Hard to believe but it’s 100 percent true. I should know: I’m living that life. My clients are increasingly doing the same.

So how can this be? Are people who live like I live brainwashed? Are their heads in the sand? Or is something else more profound happening?

Let’s take a look.

Brainwashing: A good thing

For sure things that seem inherently bad happen. When they happen, though, are they really bad? And how do people living similar to me and my clients interpret such happenings? These are good questions.

To answer them, let’s take a look at “brainwashing”. At first is sounds like a bad thing. But, like bad things happening, maybe there’s a different way to look at that concept. Maybe there’s a more empowering way to look at “brainwashing”.

First, the word itself. “Washing” the “brain” sounds like a great thing. Is washing our bodies a bad thing? Of course not. When we bathe we’re removing dirt and grime. We’re removing old skin cells and other material from our bodies. We’re removing things we no longer want on us. After a bath or shower, we often feel refreshed. So we typically want to bathe or wash frequently.

The same can be true for washing the brain. In washing the brain, we’re removing things we don’t want in us. So what do we not want in us? Well, those who’ve shown themselves enough evidence that thoughts create reality don’t want in them thoughts creating realities they don’t want. Washing the brain, therefore, is a great thing. And, just as with bathing our bodies, after the brain is washed of those unwanted things, we feel refreshed. We feel refreshed mostly because, when thoughts creating realities we don’t want are washed away, our reality reflects that pure, clean inner state back to us. That reflection is one including only great, awesome things.

So brainwashing is a great thing. It gets a bad rap though because of the word’s common context: when an authority does it to a hapless victim.

It’s in our best interest to wash our brains. (Photo by David Maltos)

Context matters

What’s interesting though is, this common context is humans’ everyday experience. They’re constantly subjected to authorities conditioning their inner state with thoughts. Thoughts that, if they thought about them, they wouldn’t want in there.

By “authorities” I’m not only talking about bosses and politicians, teachers and parents and church leaders. I’m also referring to the media, commercial marketing, and society in general, what I call “the peanut gallery.”

I’m sure you’re familiar with most of those “authoritative” sources. But let me give you an example of how “the peanut gallery” can exert powerful influence on people’s inner state.

Two of my clients recently experienced different negative situations. While both situations are different, the origin of those situations was the same. The first client was experiencing extreme mental and emotional abuse from her daughter. I won’t give details, but, believe me, the daughter’s treatment of her mother was horrendous…by human standards. The second client struggled with his self-torment. He believed he must suffer in his marriage rather than create one that works for him. He suffered so much he contemplated killing himself. But the same origin of his suffering kept him from doing that. I’ll clarify that in a moment.

First, however, let’s look at the client with a hellion of a daughter.

A hellion of a daughter

Extremely positive reasons are responsible for my client birthing a child-devil. I won’t get into those reasons though because that’s not the point of this post. After years of this young lady savagely abusing my client, my client finally had had enough. Of course, anyone who loves themselves would have ended that relationship decades ago and handed the imp to her father.

What kept my client sticking to all this abuse? The Peanut Gallery, aka other people’s opinions. Beliefs like “A good mother never deserts her child” and “Mothers should love their children no matter what” and “You can’t leave your daughter, that would make you a bad mother” and “What kind of mother would do that?”

Now read this carefully: what’s really interesting was other people in my client’s life were telling her she should cut ties with the daughter. So where were “other people’s opinions” coming from? That’s right! They were all in my client’s head! Her own beliefs, in other words.

But they aren’t really “hers”. Well, they are, but that’s not where they came from. She allowed herself to believe these beliefs as a result of living life and allowing herself to “take in” or conclude beliefs based on her experience. Her experience with all those other authorities I mentioned above including a not-so-good upbringing from similar-minded parents.

So “the peanut gallery” typically isn’t actual people telling us what to do or not do, although it can be. It usually is, however, our own thoughts we use to judge ourselves in advance for behavior we’re inspired to take. We’re inspired to take that action because it will make life better for us. But we often talk ourselves out of taking that action.

Let’s look now at the second client.

Frozen to the point of suicide

He too, has a Peanut Gallery going on and on in his head. What he really wanted at the time was a different marriage. He considered divorce, but his Peanut Gallery wouldn’t allow that. “I have to stick it out” and “I’d be a bad person to divorce her” and “what kind of husband deserts his wife, especially one who doesn’t work and is ill?” all racked his brain.

The problem was as he stayed in the marriage, thinking thoughts amplifying his negative experience, he got to thinking about ending it all. But even there, the Peanut Gallery stopped him. Thoughts like “What would people think if I did that?” and “What would my wife do? She’d be devastated” froze him in his tracks.

Now, suicide is not a bad thing. It’s like the death penalty, which isn’t bad either. When a person dies, whether at their own hands or the hands of another, they return to nonphysical, are instantly removed from their suffering and return to a state of sublime bliss. So it makes total sense a person in deep despair, pain or other intense suffering would make that choice.

There are other ways to relieve such suffering, however, which my client now is realizing. He’s no longer thinking about leaving his marriage or killing himself. But what’s really interesting is, as he washes his brain free of his Peanut Gallery, he’s finding an interesting experience: happiness and empowerment. Even with his marriage not changing a bit.

Empowerment is intoxicating

The first client too got a glimpse of that extremely liberating state that is empowerment. After she washed her brain free of disempowering beliefs, I asked her “how would you feel after cutting ties with your daughter?”

She immediately answered with one word: “Relief”.

Now relief isn’t the greatest, but it’s a start. And after amplifying her awareness of how much better her life could be without her daughter in it, she too found herself empowered. Empowered enough to take the action.

She’s still getting ready to take that action. But more than ever before, she’s seeing not only the wisdom of that new thought, she’s also feeling more and more the empowerment that will be increasingly hers after she takes it.

Empowerment is so intoxicating. It’s rarely felt by humans. But it’s supposed to be our natural state as we move through life experience.That partly explains its intoxicating nature; it feels so good because it’s so rarely felt. Even when it’s felt for a while though, it can become addicting: once one gets a taste no other life condition will do.

And when a person lives in that state for a while, life must reflect that state back to them in the form of ever improving life situations. Is must, because that’s what life is: a reflection of our inner state.

Everything is good

And that’s why I assert that life can only contain good things. That and because I’m living the experience. My clients are living that experience too, increasingly. It all happens when we wash our brains of thoughts life reflects back to us making us see the bad things happening.

Now there are two things to note about this phenomena: one, bad things do happen. We see them every day. But those things needn’t be interpreted as bad. Being able to see them as good is possible.

For example, if you know what you’ve read here, we could say such things, when they happen, happen because the person they happen to is figuring out through life feedback how to think better. Two, just because they happen to others doesn’t mean they must happen to us. In other words, this time-space reality is filled with VARIETY. Variety of EVERYTHING. Including life experience.

Abraham sharing their wisdom.

And that’s another way we can wash our brains, thus enabling us to see only good: by recognizing that that variety is a great thing. Not only does it act as feedback for us, but it also allows us to select from the variety experiences we want to have.

Now, it takes a while to produce such a life because others have trained us into accepting that “In every life a little rain must fall” and “Life isn’t all rainbows and butterflies” and “We must take the good with the bad.” But once we wash our brains of those thoughts, we discover a new world dawning. And in that bright light of dawn we find our bliss. The bliss of empowerment.