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How One Old Fable Hides the Truth About Abundance

TL;DR: The author reexamines Aesop’s famous fable through a spiritual lens, revealing how both diligence and joy arise naturally when aligned with one’s Broader Perspective—culminating in a liberating, heart-opening rewrite of the tale.

For centuries, Aesop’s fable The Ant and the Grasshopper has shaped our cultural mindset about productivity, planning, and what it means to live a good life. You probably know the story:

A diligent ant spends the summer storing food and preparing for winter. Meanwhile, a carefree grasshopper sings and dances in the sun. When winter comes, the grasshopper finds himself cold and hungry, and the ant—well-stocked and warm—scolds him for his laziness. The moral? Work hard today or suffer tomorrow.

But what if that moral is false? What if it’s not even close to how the Universe—or nature—actually works?

And what if that fable, passed down generation after generation, is one of the most well-worn distortions keeping us from trusting joy, spontaneity, and the natural abundance we’re born into?

Let’s take a look through a Positively Focused lens.

A Story Written by the Intellect

The entire structure of the fable rests on a fundamental assumption: that survival is scarce, and only through toil, planning, and resistance to the ease inherent in the now can we secure the future. The ant is praised for “working hard,” while the grasshopper is dismissed for “doing nothing.”

But here’s the truth: in real life, ants don’t know they’re “preparing for winter.” They follow their internal cues. Just as the grasshopper does. Neither is projecting fear into the future. Neither is planning in the way humans do. None of them are working hard. They are both moving as they are designed to move: in tune with the larger intelligence that orchestrates everything from tides to cloud formations to galaxies.

And humans? We’ve overwritten that natural wisdom within us with fear-based beliefs.

The fable upholds a distorted version of value: that worthiness is earned through struggle. That the present moment is a trap unless you’re using it to prepare for the next one. Indeed, indulging in joy, spontaneity, and trusting life will lead to punishment.

This is exactly the kind of thinking that the Positively Focused practice helps us unravel.

The Trap of “Working Hard”

So many of my clients — beautiful, gifted people — come to me carrying this exact programming. I once did too. It shows up in our relationship to money, our creative work, our ability to rest, our relationship to the now, even our self-worth.

Nearly all of us have internalized the idea that ease is irresponsible and joy is unearned. That any expression not tethered to utility or “the grind” is frivolous. And what’s more? We often judge ourselves for wanting to follow our bliss.

But that desire for joy isn’t laziness. It’s guidance.

The desire to bask in the sun, to play a song, to take a nap, to follow an impulse with no “productive” outcome—that’s not a failure of discipline. It’s our Broader Perspective calling us back to our natural alignment. The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to vibration.

Which means: the better we feel, the more the Universe can give us what we ask for.

Joy Is Not Optional—It’s the Signal

The fable pits joy and responsibility against one another. But in reality, they’re inseparable. When we’re aligned, when we’re feeling good, when we’re trusting the unfolding—everything gets taken care of. Including “winter.”

Our Broader Perspective is always guiding us toward the version of our lives where our needs are met, our desires fulfilled, and our expression fully supported. Not through spreadsheets and strain, but through resonance, clarity, and inspired action.

And when contrast shows up—as it did for me recently in the form of forgotten financial fears or a friend’s gloomy worldview—I use it not as a reason to panic, but as an invitation to realign.

When I do that, reality literally shifts. Money shows up on the ground. Clients confirm they’re staying. Opportunities fall into place. My YouTube momentum picks up.

And I didn’t plan for any of it. I allowed it. That’s what the fable misses entirely.

The Grasshopper, Reframed

In this light, the grasshopper isn’t a cautionary tale. He’s a symbol of non-resistance. He holds trust that summer is here to be savored. He’s letting the Universe do the heavy lifting. And the winter? Maybe it never even arrives. But only for him. Because he doesn’t plan for a winter. He aligns to constant abundance.

I know that sounds radical. But I’ve experienced it. So have my clients.

The more aligned we are, the more time and space shift around us. Apparent “deadlines” extend. Unexpected windfalls appear. People bend over backwards to support us. It’s not fantasy. It’s the physics of focus.

So rather than teach the next generation to be afraid of “winter”, what if we taught them to trust their inner song, follow their delight? To move with nature rather than brace against it?

That’s the version of the story I want to tell. And maybe next time, when the ant passes the grasshopper in late autumn, he doesn’t sneer. Maybe he sits down. Listens. And hears a melody that melts the frost of his fears.

The Ant and the Grasshopper: A Story of Alignment

Once upon a summer’s morning, the Earth hummed with golden light. In a quiet clearing, two small beings went about their lives.

One was an Ant. Tireless. Methodical. She moved in lines—back and forth from her colony—gathering bits of grain, storing them deep beneath the soil. Her legs ticked like a clock. Her eyes stayed fixed on the horizon, where winter loomed in her mind like a shadow.

The other was a Grasshopper. Luminous. Iridescent. He leapt through tall stalks of grass, chirping melodies that rose with the breeze. Sunned himself on warm stones. He ate when he was hungry. Slept when he was tired. And sang because it pleased him.

The Ant watched him with a kind of pity.

“Why do you waste time like this?” she called. “You should be working. Winter is coming. You’ll starve.”

The Grasshopper paused. “I trust the Earth,” he replied. “Right now, it’s summer. So I sing.”

The Ant shook her head. “You’ll regret this.”

The Grasshopper didn’t answer. A breeze moved through the field, and he leapt joyfully into it.

Seasons Shift, But Alignment Endures

As days passed, the meadow ripened. The sun stretched long and low. The Ant, now deep in her work, had gathered piles of food, stacked in careful rows. Her back ached. Her mind was restless. Though her pantry was full, her heart was not.

The Grasshopper?

He followed a pathless path. One day he discovered a patch of ripe blackberries. Another day, he encountered a stream with minnows glinting like coins. At night, he curled under leaves and listened to the stars.

He met a turtle who gave him shade. Then a robin who shared her song. And also child who left breadcrumbs from her picnic. He never lacked.

One afternoon, a heavy cloud rolled in. A chill swept the meadow. The Ant hurried home, burdened by fear. But the Grasshopper felt only stillness. He found a hollow log, warm and dry. He rested there. And dreamed.

The Reunion

Months passed. Spring returned. The Earth sighed green again. The Grasshopper stretched in the light. He felt no need to recount the past. Only to leap forward into joy. But as he passed near the Ant’s hill, he saw her—hunched and tired, sorting a new pile of grain. Her eyes darted, already planning for winter.

He approached gently. “Hello again,” he said.

She looked up, startled. “You survived?”

He smiled. “I did more than survive. I lived.”

She frowned. “But you had no food. No shelter. No plan.”

“I had presence,” he said. “And it brought everything I needed.”

She shook her head slowly. “That’s not how life works.”

He tilted his head. “Then whose life have you been living?”

The Moral

The Ant and the Grasshopper parted ways. But that night, as the Ant returned to her tasks, she paused. She thought of his song. The way his eyes shimmered with ease. The calm in his voice. And for the first time, she wondered: what if she had it backwards?

What if all her striving didn’t guarantee safety—but only delayed joy? Might the Grasshopper’s freedom not be luck… but alignment? What if the Universe wasn’t a test to pass… but a partner with whom to dance?

And then—just for a moment—she let herself rest…

And so, dear reader: The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to resonance. Prepare if you feel inspired. Work if it delights you. But above all—listen to your song. Because the grass isn’t greener. It’s alive. And it’s waiting for you to leap.

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Why Your Dreams Matter More Than You Think

TL;DR: The author shares two powerful client dreams — one featuring Vladimir Putin, the other a transgender escort — to show how dreams mirror dominant beliefs, and emotional momentum, thereby showing where one is relative to achieving their deepest desires.

Some people say they don’t dream. Others say they do, but think their dreams are just gibberish—random nonsense, neurons firing off, the brain processing the day’s events. But what if that assumption was completely wrong? What if our dreams are actually our most accurate, uncensored spiritual feedback system next to our emotions?

A new client recently asked in session: “Why isn’t this material taught in school? If people learned this stuff early on, they’d live way better lives.” She’s right. If we understood what dreams are actually showing us, we’d know exactly where we are vibrationally—and how close or far we are from the life we want most.

Let me show you how, using two dreams from a client I’ll call Daniel.

Dreams as vibrational mirrors

In the Positively Focused practice, dreams aren’t psychological leftovers. They’re real-time broadcasts from our Broader Perspective, offering feedback on: Our dominant emotional state, belief constellations at the forefront of our experience and the size of the vibrational gap between where we are and what we want. They’re not predictions. They don’t “mean” one rigid thing. Instead, they’re energy reports. And when interpreted clearly, they can change our lives.

Which brings us to Daniel and his dreams, which were predominately about power and shame. Daniel had been working through deep contrast around a woman he still loves — a powerful, beautiful trans escort we’ll call Irene. Their relationship was complicated: transactional, emotionally charged, and karmically dense. Daniel fell in love. Irene remained elusive. They mirrored each other’s strongest, most dominant beliefs.

Because of that, their transactional relationship, for Daniel, dipped into a romantic one. Irene wanted that too, to some degree, but her hatred of men and self-loathing forced her to keep emotional intimacy with Daniel at a distance. That triggered even more Daniel’s old beliefs, which caused him to push harder for a relationship beyond the transactional one. And that caused Irene to resist even more.

Eventually the relationship (the transactional one) blew up with Irene going her way and Daniel, bitter, angry and frustrated yet still pining for her, going the other. Daniel felt an extremely strong connection with Irene. Irene felt it too, but couldn’t even begin to acknowledge its presence. Therefore, Daniel resolved to use the Positively Focused practice to rendezvous with a better version of Irene. One who could welcome a “real” relationship with open arms.

Dreams as vibrational maps

But Daniel had a LOT of negative momentum making him not a match to such a relationship. That explained why he was seeing escorts, hanging at strip clubs, drinking excessively and porn binging. So creating a better version of Irene would take a while I explained.

One day in session long after that conversation, Daniel began feeling like it was taking too long. This is a common thread for him. Impatience, thinking he knows when something should happen, instead of trusting divine timing, plagues him. So he asked me where he stood, vibrationally, in manifesting a reunion with Irene. It was a reoccurring subject in our sessions, reflecting Daniel’s obsession with Irene. An obsession that worked against him creating a better version of her.

Up to this point, Daniel created a TON of evidence showing he was becoming successful at creating the reunion. But he kept wobbling between belief, hope and eager anticipation – all emotions consistent with him receiving what he wants – and disillusionment, doubt, pessimism and hopelessness. Pain this wobble caused gave Daniel the momentum necessary to have a dream. A dream that amplified everything I had been telling him. It was a perfect, positive dream, but Danial woke from it convinced it was a nightmare.

It wasn’t a nightmare. It was a vibrational map.

A dream reflecting so much

In the dream, Daniel is in a car with his parents and Vladimir Putin. They’re navigating a steep, winding driveway in what seems to be Daniel’s own car in waking life: a high performance, manual transmission European model. Daniel wants Putin to try driving it. He’s excited to know what this powerful man thinks of his “vehicle” — a potent symbol for how Daniel views his own life path and seeks external validation.

Putin drives the car fast, taking blind corners recklessly. Yet, he’s unimpressed. They stop at a pastry shop. Daniel’s father mutters something insulting under his breath—Putin hears it. His eyes flash with murderous rage. But then something strange happens.

Putin notices Daniel’s father’s lifestyle: sleeping all day, eating jelly beans, cake and drinking Snapple. He sees the poor habits, the undisciplined routine. At first he thinks this guy lives a pathetic life. But then….he softens. Not out of compassion—but indifference.

“This man,” he seems to think, “is so weak and pathetic… he’s not even worth killing.”

Putin’s extreme judgement mirrors Daniel’s own judgement for himself and his father.

That’s the moment Daniel felt most gutted. Not by violence, but by dismissal. And that’s the point. This dream wasn’t about Putin or Daniel’s father. It was a metaphorical embodiment of Daniel’s internal conflict.

He sees his desire for self-love and spiritual reunion (the path) as something noble — but he often hands the wheel to a distorted, masculine archetype: control, fear, shame, domination and aggression. He craves power, but feels like a fraud. He wants approval, but fears worthlessness. It’s not Putin judging him. It’s him judging himself — mercilessly. Just as he — Daniel mercilessly judges his father.

A dream about desire and exposure

A few nights later, Daniel has another dream. This time, Irene is at the center.

He finds her with another man—a new boyfriend who also is a personal trainer. Daniel tries to contact her but ends up talking to the man instead. What unfolds is intense: Daniel begins exposing Irene to her new partner. “Do you know how much she hates men?” “Can you afford to be with her?” He feels righteous… and also embarrassed. Suddenly, she’s physically there—close to him in the dream. She steals a PS Vita out of his pocket, a small gaming device that was a market failure.

The boyfriend scolds her gently: “Stop that, Irene. I’ve seen her do that before.” he tells Daniel. Then Irene turns to Daniel and screams: “You just can’t get enough of me, can you?”

And in that moment all is revealed. Irene is exposed. Daniel is exposed. They’re both tangled in projection, shame, power play… and still, longing. Daniel woke up from this dream deeply pessimistic. He described himself feeling “defeated”. He thought the dream showed him his desire was futile.

But the dream wasn’t showing him he was failing. It showed him the perfect vibrational snapshot of where he stands relative to what he wants:

  • The PS Vita = a symbol of communication of spiritual connection,fun and joy. It also represents his connection to the pure positive energy that is his Broader Perspective.
  • Irene stealing the PS Vita = Daniel has put her on a pedestal, above his connection with himself. She literally steals his connection to the divine, a symbol of Daniel prioritizing her over connection with himself.
  • The righteousness = his current coping strategy for unresolved grief and control
  • The revenge he wreaks on Irene = the contempt he still feels for Irene which is pushing her away, not drawing her near
  • Her words = an acknowledgment of their undeniable connection. A promise that the relationship is ready…when Daniel becomes a vibrational match to it. Also, a powerful indication of how desperately attached he is.

What these dreams reveal

This wasn’t a nightmare. It was a wake up call. It is contrast revealed symbolically. It’s feedback, lovingly offered, so Daniel can see what he’s emanating—and why it’s blocking what he wants.

The correct response to the dream? Conjure better feeling thoughts about the relationship Daniel wants. Soothe old beliefs about betrayal, emotional abuse and belittlement. Relax into what it would feel like to have the relationship Daniel wants. All of these are part of the Positively Focused framework. And Daniel has had success implementing them.

But because he wobbles between empowering beliefs and disempowering ones, he’s moving two steps forward and one-and-three-quarters steps backward. And that’s why his progress is so slow seeming!

Dreams are offering profound guidance. Life can go so much better being aware of them.

Together, these two dreams lay out Daniel’s entire journey:

  • He wants reunion, but his momentum says “you’re not ready yet.”
  • Daniel wants love, but still filters it through manipulation and judgment.
  • He wants softness, but keeps relying on authoritarian control over others.
  • Danial craves self respect but can’t get that until he respects (stops condemning) his father, and, as an extension, respects himself.

And the moment he understands all this — not intellectually, but vibrationally — he softens. Again, he’s experienced that softening over and over and over in brief flashes. They last long enough to show him what he wants is there. He just needs a more consistent practice.

But he can’t develop that because he sees these dreams as punishments, when, instead, they’re pathways.

Why this should be taught in schools

Too many people think dreams are random. Too many think nightmares are warnings. So many wake up feeling fear about what was actually a clear, loving message from their Broader Perspective. Others wake up oblivious to very powerful, valuable guidance.

Dreams are our personal vibrational syllabus. So “Why isn’t this taught in school?” Good question. If children learned to read dreams as vibrational maps, they’d understand their emotions, desires, and resistance by the time they hit adolescence. Then they wouldn’t chase worth through unhealthy habits and toxic relationships. They’d stop mistaking anger and bully behavior for power. They’d live lives of conscious creation, emotional honesty, and spiritual integration.

And in doing so, they would lives lives as adults as extraordinary people.

Our dreams constantly inform us. The question we must ask is: Are we listening? We don’t need to decode everything all at once. We can just start by noticing we have dreams. Write them down, let the symbols breathe. Ask: What does this reflect back to me? What does it tell me about where I am—and where I want to be?

Want help getting started or interpreting a dream that won’t leave you alone? Book a free trial session. Dreams aren’t random. They’re us, in symbolic form—calling us forward.

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Why AI’s Best Future Needs an Awakening of Spirit

TL;DR: The author explores how aligning with spiritual clarity ensures humanity embraces the promise — not the peril — of artificial intelligence. This piece reframes the Stellar future proposed by Tony Seba and James Arbib. It suggests the future is a vibrational invitation, not a technological threat. As such, the author asserts, it offers humanity a powerful seat in shaping the future.

What if humanity’s future hinges not just on tech innovation, but on how deeply we root ourselves in spiritual alignment?During my recent Worthiness Wednesday vlog, I proposed a bold concept: that the inner development of worthiness and the outer explosion of AI technologies must converge. It’s the way to the fully optimistic future available to us all.

We’re on the cusp of entering what Tony Seba and James Arbib of RethinkX call a stellar civilization—a system powered by stellar technologies. Stellar technologies include solar power, wind power, AI, robotics, precision fermentation, and battery storage.

These technologies scale exponentially. In doing so, they lower costs and increase access for all. As Seba explains: “Once built, they keep producing with almost no additional input. That’s never happened before”.

But real and lasting transformation isn’t just technical. It also must be metaphysical. If we don’t have a spiritual foundation, abundant technologies can amplify fear and scarcity. We see that already with so many concerned about “terrifying” futures AI, alone, portends.

If, however, we cultivate inner worthiness, AI becomes a tool for species upliftment. Instead of the source of scary scenarios. Seba agrees, as you’ll see.

What Stellar Means—and Why Spirit Matters

Stellar systems require sunlight and are self perpetuating. Such systems depend on no ongoing extraction. A society based on such systems produces extreme abundance that eventually replaces scarcity and limitation.

This matters deeply for spiritual alignment. If you feel worthy, you trust the unfolding. The natural abundance of the Universe becomes your reality. That abundance then becomes perpetual. You don’t grasp — you let go. You don’t combat — you align. Limits then are dissolved as are the distorted beliefs they represent.

Seba and Arbib describe how familiar systems collapse when new ones emerge: “We’re not building the butterfly,” They say. “We’re sticking wings on the caterpillar”. The extractive order built our current existential structures. These structures are hierarchical, competitive and scarcity‑based.

Such structures were necessary. After all, they have benefitted humanity tremendously. Now, however, it’s time we expand beyond them. That’s what All That Is is offering. And it’s offering that in response to our asking. In other words, we are the creators. We’re living into our creation. Stellar civilizations are that creation.

Breaking free from the old, extractive order requires spiritual evolution. An evolution matching the emerging technological evolution. In other words: if we don’t evolve being, abundance can collapse us into old fears.

A Stable Foundation

Consider the alternative: AI and robotics improve ten‑fold every year, humanoid robots operational costs approach $0.10/hour by 2045. These are not isolated systems. Nor are these figures are not fantasies. Instead, they are curves coming into synch with what is our future. Yet without spiritual alignment, these innovations will amplify inequality, loneliness, or even create weaponized versions of themselves. That’s because these technologies are mirrors of our collective inner state.

And if you observe humanity, you’ll find evidence of what that inner state contains. It contains a lot. A lot of good stuff. And a lot of not so much good stuff. We could argue that there’s more not-good-stuff in that container. But if that were true, humanity would have ended itself long ago. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a lot of not-good-stuff in there. There is. But the ratio of influence between positive vibrations and not-positive ones is not 1:1. It’s more like 1 × 1⁰¹⁵ : 1.

That’s not an exaggeration.

This influence disparity ratio explains why human civilization continues to thrive, often despite itself. It’s literally a three-steps-forward, two-steps-back endeavor, netting one step forward. That’s something I’ll write more about in the future. Our rather lacking spiritual maturity perpetuates slow progress. That’s why inequality, war and other unwanted situations still exist.

By contrast, spiritual maturity—worthiness grounded in recognizing inner evidence of universal love and supply—creates a stable foundation. In worthiness, we welcome AI as an expression of All That Is. We let the Universe serve us. Fear doesn’t drive us. In worthiness, we understand that reality is vibrational, not transactional. We see that abundance in the outer world simply reflects the alignment and plenty of the inner world. And from there, we realize the ways we’ve run our societies are not universal constants.

That means we can embrace them changing. Changing for the better. For the better for all.

Why This Moment Is a Spiritual Opportunity

We may be experiencing the fastest, deepest transformation of civilization ever. Indeed the pace is faster than the agricultural and industrial eras combined, according to some. But these “stellar” possibilities won’t be guaranteed for all. Not unless we make choices that move us towards inclusion. And since the abundance on the horizon is virtually unlimited, for all practical purposes, why not include everyone?

If we stay in scarcity narratives and old patterns, AI becomes extractive. If we align, we step into co‑creation of super abundance. And that requires worthiness. Worthiness allows us the possibility that another’s gain is our gain. That’s not naïve—it’s necessary. It’s also a universal constant.

Tony Seba urges: “Protect people, not jobs, firms, or industries”. That’s a spiritual statement. It says: no matter what changes externally, every human being is sacred and unreplaceable. AI isn’t about replacing us. Instead, it’s about liberating us. Liberating us from our spiritual immaturity. Liberating us so we can create in ways that matter. And in creating those ways liberate others.

Alignment is the throughline of the Positively Focused practice. It means we recognize manifestations—like receiving $10K no strings attached, or a miraculous synchronicity— as important. We see them as confirmations that the Universe loves us. Not as isolated, random coincidence.

What Alignment Looks Like in Practice

When we collect these manifestations, we do more than that. We also remember how they happened. Further, we recognize their synchronistic nature. These aren’t coincidences. They are the Universe’s blessings. Those blessings are bestowed upon us because we’re inherently deserving of them. Unless we block them through our resistance.

When we release the resistance, however, we begin filling a basket that, once filled, something notable happens. We realize the Universe loves us. From there, worthiness happens naturally. Worthiness can’t be conjured. It emerges on its own once we realize the unlimited number of ways universal blessings fill and shape our lives.

Again, our worthiness basket is filled through noticing small and large manifestations. A closed client becoming open again, for example. Or seemingly random events happening like animals rendezvousing with us. Keeping tabs on this evidence creates trust in the unfolding. Trust emerges naturally when we see the performance of something we want to trust being consistent in its performance. This is why assembling the worthiness basket is important. The basket fosters trust. Worthiness then, is the next natural evolution of that trust.

In a stellar future, the external syntax changes—AI writes code, robots automate logistics, solar delivers free electricity. But the internal syntax remains the same. We remain at the mercy of distorted beliefs. Or we choose sovereignty. In sovereignty, one asks: Is this expansion aligned with my spiritual trajectory? In distortion, one says: this future is terrifying we must protect ourselves from it.

Spiritual Alignment and Conscious Surrender

Stellar civilizations aren’t just about self‑sustaining systems. They’re also about self‑sustaining spiritual systems. They’re about inner clarity, worthiness, spiritual sovereignty. They encourage a process in the individual. When spirit and AI converge, we are invited into vocation, not occupation. Into radiance, not resistance.

We may not need to build regulatory structures for AI. Not if we’ve already built them in our hearts. Nor need we fear disruption if we’re aligned with being rather than becoming. The choice is ours. We can ride the phase‑change disruption or be worn by it. In a stellar paradigm, the choice is always ours. That choice happens through spiritual alignment and conscious surrender.

This is the most beautiful invitation of this moment: to align worthiness and wonder with technological possibility. That offers an incredible future. One in which we become so vibrationally radiant that AI is just another expression of All That Is supporting our highest expansion.

Stellar civilizations, as Seba puts it, requires “Stellar Humans,” people who rise above distorted beliefs that have them feeling insecure, competitive and limited. We can’t have one without the other. Stellar humans inhabit stellar civilizations.

So the question, then, is: are you becoming stellar?

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What Lost Keys Reveal About How Powerful You Are

TL;DR: The author explores how a client’s missing keys became a mirror of internal beliefs. Through contrast, he’s invited to align with his power—and choose the reality he wants next. This is final part of a four-part story.

Steven didn’t lose his keys. Not in any ultimate sense. Not in the way most people think of losing something — as a punishment or a mistake or evidence of failure. No. Steven’s keys were lovingly, exquisitely, purposefully withheld for a larger purpose. One important for the expansion of himself and All That Is.

Because the keys weren’t just metal. They were symbolic. They were, in every sense, the keys to Steven’s kingdom. And the kingdom they opened wasn’t a maintenance shed on campus. It was a vibrational kingdom — the realm of self-worth, of true power, of knowing who he really is.

But the question the Universe posed was this: Is Steven ready to claim that kingdom? Not metaphorically claim it. Not rhetorically either. The question asked: is he energetically ready to claim it?

The answer, of course, is always “yes”. Otherwise the experience wouldn’t be happening. But Steven’s relationship with that yes… that’s what this entire expansion was about.

His Mom Was the First Portal

When Steven first came to me, his mom was the figure around whom most of his contrast orbited. There was judgment, control, and emotional volatility. Those things came from him, not his mother. His mother did the best she could as a young single mom of three, back when Steven was a boy. She didn’t know back then, what Steven is learning today. Today, Steven’s mom is learning, however, because she, like Steven, is a Positively Focused client.

But while Steven was a child, his mother, like most parents, was completely oblivious. Oblivious about a lot of things. She didn’t know her son came to teach her, for example. Not the other way around. Steven’s mother didn’t know she had an Inner Being, an unerring guide showing her the path of her liberation. But what she most didn’t realize was that every time she punished Steven, every time she lost her cool, she wasn’t in love with her child.

But nothing was wrong with any of that. Steven’s mother was exactly what Steven knew he would come into reality through. He had prepared the experience prior to even showing up. So everything young Steven experienced was good for him.

Steven’s mom represented a mirror through which Steven came to believe he had to prove himself. He had to earn love, earn respect, earn safety.

That belief as well as others knocked Steven off course for a while. Good thing he discovered the Positively Focused practice.

Over time, through his Positively Focused practice, Steven regained his footing. He stopped reacting when his mom pushed his buttons as an adult. But then he wobbled between blaming and appreciating her. He also wobbled between diagnosing pathologies he perceived she had. In between all that, he gradually stopped needing her approval. With help from his sister, who also is a client, he gradually began generating stability from within. That was a massive vibrational accomplishment.

The Universe is watching

He’s still not done with any of this. That’s because it takes a while to soothe momentum, and, on the subject of his mother, Steven has over 40 years of negative concluding on her as a subject. That’s a lot of time to build momentum.

The Positively Focused is not magic. It can’t soothe old beliefs instantly. Actually, the practice does nothing. It’s clients putting the practice into use that creates results. Like any thing with a lot of momentum, it takes a long time to slow down beliefs practiced over 40 years. That’s what Steven is up to.

It’s a heroic thing to take on for most humans. That’s because it demands that we look at ourselves as the creator of ALL of our experience. That can be hard. Especially when we believe in victimization. And many, many humans do. Steven once did too.

Now, however, he’s soothing those old beliefs. And the Universe is taking notice.

See, as we soothe beliefs creating contrast, the contrast doesn’t repeat—it evolves. When we integrate an old pattern, the Universe doesn’t punish us with a harder version. It celebrates us by offering a broader one. It says, “Great! You’ve learned to find your footing when family triggers you. Now… what happens when external authority and livelihood are on the line?”

Enter: Richard, Steven’s boss.

Learning as creators

In the days after the keys “disappeared,” Richard became unusually critical. The warmth Steven once felt from him seemed gone. Instead, Richard scrutinized Steven’s every task. The sprinkler system. The backlog, the other tasks still undone on Steven’s desk.

Richard’s scrutiny rattled Steven.

What he didn’t immediately see, though, is that he had become a match to this version of Richard. Just like he had once summoned a combative version of his mother, now he was summoning a critical version of his boss.

That’s not failure. It’s evolution.

When old beliefs are active they continue creating our reality. As Steven soothed his, that same frequency that once showed up as “Mom” now appeared as “Supervisor.” But the purpose was the same: to show Steven these beliefs are still active. Still shaping his experience. Still distorting his view of himself.

Steven’s experience is evolving him into the god he is.

Some call this process transference. But that’s too close to the psychological concept of projection. What’s happening is not projection. What is it? Ascension. It’s vibrational navigation through and into expansion. Think about it. Dealing with a mother within the confines of family is one thing. Your livelihood and social/working reputation on the line? That’s a completely different level. A higher level.

Ultimately, we’re all evolving to become the gods we are. Beyond our human experience lies tremendous responsibility. We are the creator of worlds. And we are learning to create, ultimately, in an environment where no resistance exists.

That means wherever we put our attention, what we focus on grows immediately, and exponentially. That’s how powerful we are. This physical reality, therefore, is a sandbox for us to play, explore, refine. That’s what Steven’s doing…at ever increasingly significant levels.

Keys as Evidence of Alignment (or Not)

The most powerful part of this story isn’t just what happened after the keys became lost. It’s what those keys represented all along.

Steven was on the cusp of a major promotion—to locksmith. Those very keys were tied to that promotion. Those keys were literally one of very few sets of its kind. Also, some keys in that set were master keys. They open ANY door on the college campus. They therefore were symbols of trust, capability, and responsibility. Losing them, in Steven’s eyes, felt like losing his future. In Richard’s eyes, according to Steven, they were a test: Can Steven shoulder the responsibility?

But what Steven didn’t see at first was that those keys also simply mirrored his vibration. When he felt unsure, they disappeared. As he judged himself, they became even more lost. When he doubted his worth, the Universe gave him a reality that matched: a world in which he didn’t have the tools, wasn’t trusted, and couldn’t move forward.

Again, that’s not punishment. It was reflection. Precise, perfect, loving reflection. That’s because physical reality is never fixed. It’s vibrationally curated and constantly flowing into something more.

Let’s say, for example, upon noticing the keys not where they should be Steven relaxed into a feeling of HAVING the keys, instead of collapsing into the state of them being lost, and then amplifying that reality with intense emotions (fear, fright, worry, etc.). Had he done so, the key would have (seemingly) appeared somewhere. This has happened to me DOZENS of times. I’ve written about two instances before. Here, and here.

But Steven didn’t do that. Instead, he collapsed. And then amplified the reality he collapsed into: Lost keys.

The Bigger Pattern: From Proof to Permission

Here’s the most overlooked thing about Steven’s story: the keys didn’t disappear because he was out of alignment. They disappeared so that he could find stronger, more stable alignment. Let’s say that again: Contrast is not evidence of failure. It’s evidence of readiness.

The moment Stevens keys went missing, he wasn’t being tested (only humans test each other). He was being invited. Invited to stand where he hadn’t stood before. Where he could see himself differently. Then choose a new story. A story where he’s not the person trying to prove himself worthy of the promotion. Worthy of the promotion or his mother’s love.

By the end of our session, Steven was steadier. Not euphoric. Not fully turned around. But steadier, clearer and more open to possibility. And with that openness, a choice began to emerge: Will he continue to tell the story of a man who lost his chance? Or will he tell a new story… one where the keys were never the point?

Keys can’t unlock doors like alignment can. Which means Steven could go back to work tomorrow and find those keys tucked in a place he never thought to look. Or… a completely new solution might show. Perhaps the promotion still pops into his reality. Or it doesn’t.

But either way, the real reward is who Steven is becoming.

The Takeaway: The Kingdom Was Never Outside Him:

The Universe doesn’t care about metal keys or job titles. It cares about the vibration we hold—and who we become by aligning with that vibration. Steven’s keys were never lost. Not really. They simply retreated from view until he becomes a match to their presence. That’s how all reality works. And now, Steven stands on a threshold.

Not an employment threshold, but an embodiment threshold. Will he lean into what he knows? Will he trust that this isn’t a setback, but a setup? The door is already ajar. All that’s left… is for Steven to walk through.

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The Real Reason You’re Still Not Feeling Better

TL;DR: In this, Part Three of the Four-Part series about Steven losing his keys, the author shares how they guided Steven through the emotional fallout of losing his keys. Doing so helped Steven discover that the contrast revealed his readiness—and how realignment begins when we stop performing and start feeling the process.

Steven sat across from me in-session online, his voice quiet, his energy low. I knew immediately he was in a very low vibrational state. The emotional turbulence of the past week lingered: the lost keys, his boss’s reaction, and most importantly, the stories he had been telling himself had him really low.

What made this session particularly rich was what it revealed—not just about Steven, but about how deep this practice really goes when applied in the midst of real-world contrast.

The session became a masterclass in vibrational leverage. Not because it resolved everything in a single sitting, or because I did anything special. It was a masterclass because it revealed how even seasoned practitioners can get caught in the swirl of their own stories… and how beautiful it is when they begin to emerge from that swirl.

Steven tried to apply one of the foundational Positively Focused processes. The process works every time, which is why it’s part of the basic practice framework. He tried applying it on his own. And to his credit, he didn’t just mentally revisit the steps. He truly attempted to walk himself through acknowledgment, acceptance, recognizing what his experience told him, and finally, amplification of the shift that happens naturally in step three.

Something wasn’t landing, however.

When the Practice Is Real

He described how he had tried to say the words aloud, to walk through the steps and feel some relief.

“I did the process,” he said. “But it didn’t really shift anything.”

But the practice does create a shift. So we had to troubleshoot. That’s when we uncovered the subtle but crucial gap: he had performed the process mechanically, without the presence that makes it effective.

That’s not uncommon. When the contrast is hot—when keys are missing, a boss is disappointed, and inner narratives are spiraling—it’s easy to rush the process instead of resting in it. That’s what Steven had done. He didn’t skip the steps, but he skipped over the alignment that makes them work.

So we slowed everything down. Together, we walked back through each stage—not as a checklist, but as a vibrational recalibration.

We began at the beginning: acknowledgment. That meant naming all the stories that were active in Steven’s consciousness giving rise to his negative emotions. The process is not about acknowledging them as facts, or the truth. It’s about acknowledging their presence within him. Stories like: “If I lose something, I’m irresponsible.” “I can’t be trusted.” And “Now I’ve ruined my chances at a promotion.”

Coming into acceptance

These weren’t new beliefs. They were old ones. Echoes of childhood moments, especially those involving his mother, where he felt criticized or held to unexpressed standards. His current boss, Richard, had become a mirror. Not because Richard was behaving badly, but because Steven’s vibration had summoned a version of him that matched old patterns.

This wasn’t failure. This was graduation.

The contrast had intensified not because Steven was off-track, but because he was ready to move beyond these stories he created long ago. As I reminded him gently, “You wouldn’t be experiencing this level of contrast if you weren’t ready for it.”

The next step was accepting the beliefs are there. This second step is different from the first. It’s about letting go of resistance and instead welcoming the old beliefs back into us. Resisting, not accepting a belief is what creates resistance. And resistance amplifies that which we resist. For Steven, this wasn’t about accepting fault, accepting fault would amplify resistance. That’s because there’s no such thing as blame or fault. Instead, he needed to accept what was.

Acceptance is not about blame.

What “was” was, He didn’t have his keys. His boss was disappointed. His momentum had taken him into a tailspin. But none of that was wrong. Thinking it wrong creates resistance. These things are simply what had occurred. By making peace with the moment—not as a judgment, but as a reflection—Steven began to find his footing.

Only then could we move to Step Three, the vibrational pivot.

Amplifying higher vibrations.

Here, I asked Steven to consider what his Broader Perspective was feeling. Was it shaming him? No. Was it blaming him? Certainly not. His Broader Perspective was seeing the wholeness of the moment. The opportunity. The expansion. A perfection so exquisite, created between him and his reflected reality. A perfection that could lead to more empowerment.

Steven’s eyes welled up when he saw that.

“I’ve been so afraid I ruined everything,” he said, voice quiet. “But now I get it. This isn’t about the keys.”

No, it wasn’t. It was about more alignment, expansion and empowerment. That clarity of awareness indicated Steve felt better. At least, at the very least, he felt relief, which is improved vibration. Now we entered the amplification phase.

This part isn’t about affirmations or hype. It’s about tuning in to the new emotional frequency and letting it fill the space. We do that through our imagination. We use our imagination to create new beliefs, new thoughts about what happened that stand in for old ones as the old ones soothe.

For Steven, that meant resting in a new truth: That he is not defined by mistakes. Trustworthiness isn’t earned—it’s embodied. That this moment, painful as it seemed, was sacred.

By the end of the session, Steven felt significantly better. The relief wasn’t euphoric, but it was stabilizing. He still wasn’t sure how things would unfold at work the next day. He still had concerns about how Richard would treat him. But he was no longer a victim of that perceived uncertainty.

He was still floating, still alive. He had reclaimed his oars. And from that place, even uncertain waters felt navigable.

Takeaway: Mastery Isn’t About Avoiding Contrast

The Four-Step Process outlined above doesn’t promise immediate resolution to external conditions. This is not magic. Neither is the rest of the Positively Focused framework. But it does offer something better: vibrational clarity and alignment with one’s Broader Perspective. And clarity is what allows new versions of reality to emerge.

New versions emerge as we walk into them. We can’t walk into them, however, if we don’t know where they are. Alignment with our Broader Perspective shows us where the doorways are and inspires us to walk through them into the new reality.

Steven hadn’t yet found his keys. He didn’t know what would happen tomorrow. But he was no longer at the mercy of momentum. He had re-entered his power—not as a performer or pleaser, but as a conscious creator. Contrast didn’t defeat him. It refined him. And in that, he was already victorious.

Read the final chapter tomorrow.

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Why Losing Keys Was Steven’s Greatest Spiritual Gift

TL;DR: The author explores how a lost set of keys led client “Steven” into a vibrational tailspin, revealing old belief patterns and offering a powerful opportunity for realignment and expansion. This is part 2 of Steven’s story.

Steven was already off balance. He’d ignored his Broader Perspective’s gentle invitation to stay home—a nudge his wife had unwittingly overridden. He’d also hit a baby deer the night before. That was a jarring event. But it still reverberated through his body the next morning. He hadn’t slept well. And even though he showed up to work as scheduled, something inside him knew: he wasn’t calibrated.

That matters. Because when you’re not calibrated, when you’re not aligned, the Universe doesn’t punish you. But it will offer a mirror so accurate, so refined, that if you’re paying attention, you’ll see exactly what stories you’re still telling—whether you like them or not.

For Steven, that’s exactly what was about to happen.

Steven could have avoided all this had he listened to the gentle whisper. The whisper from his Broader Perspective to stay home. Not avoiding it, however, introduced a wonderful unfolding. Although Steven would see it that way for many days.

When Keys Vanish, Beliefs Speak

It started simply. A moment that could have gone unnoticed. As Steven performed his usual rounds on the college campus where he worked, he had just used a lockbox key—one of many keys specifically assigned to him as part of his facilities management role. These keys weren’t just tools. They were symbols. The keys were tangible representations of the next level of his career: campus locksmith. The locksmith job promised higher salary, better hours, more freedom and more recognition. It was a promotion Steven looked forward to.

One moment while using the keys at the lockbox, Steven had the keys. The next moment, however, they were gone. Steven’s heart sank. He looked everywhere. He retraced his steps. Steven checked every pocket, every surface.

The keys were simply not there. Not in a metaphorical “they’ll turn up later” kind of way. But in that physical-reality-has-shifted kind of way. A loss so precise it almost felt orchestrated.

Because it was.

And yet, Steven’s boss, Richard, wasn’t pleased. “That’s not going to look good for your locksmith promotion,” Richard said shaking his head. “A locksmith who loses his keys?”

And with that, Steven’s vibration—already shaky—collapsed into a tailspin.

“Lost” is a vibrational reality

For most people, losing something like keys is common. I’ve written several stories about my experience losing things. Here’s one. Here’s another. When something goes lost, the best thing to do, if possible, is forget about trying to find it. Instead, if we just go about our business, we’ll be led back into the reality where the item is present.

But most people, myself included sometimes, instantly start looking for the item. Doing that, we amplify the reality in which the thing is “lost”. Moreover, the more we try to find it, we amplify its lost state even more. So losing things, especially minor things, is a great way to prove to ourselves that we constantly move from one dimension to another. Losing something gives us a chance to play with alternate realities.

Sometimes, however, we lose something significant. When that happens, we’re not likely to just forget about it. In those cases, the lost item represents a more important movement of dimensional reality. For Steven, losing his keys was part of an ongoing series of manifestations. Manifestations that began with a wonderful visit to his sister’s house.

Killing that dear was part of that unfolding. So was being unable to sleep. Indeed, I’m sure, in the dream state, Steven soothed a lot of what he had stepped into. But he didn’t allow the momentum to soothe further. That’s why his Broader Perspective wanted him to take the day off.

He didn’t though. And everything changed. The intensity of his disconnection increased. As it did, more benefit unfolded for him.

From Whispers to Storms

Suddenly, everything Steven hadn’t done yet became a spotlight of failure. There was the broken sprinkler system. The backlog of requests. His own perfectionism kicked in, too — frantically reviewing all the ways he might have prevented losing his keys. Richard’s comments, the increased scrutiny he laid on Steven, the backlog of requests — all these things represented increased intensity.

But the real storm raging wasn’t Richard or anything outside Steven. It was the internal narrative Steven summoned in response. Richard, who had previously been mentoring Steven for the locksmith role, now seemed like a different person. He showed up as critical, cold and suspicious. Steven felt judged, watched, scrutinized and criticized. This new version Steven created had him feeling completely disempowered. And his lost keys left him feeling helpless to do anything about the situation.

Steven’s vibration changed. So everything around him did too, including Richard.

All that didn’t happen because Richard suddenly changed. It happened because Steven’s vibration changed. In his state of fear, he rendezvoused with a version of Richard that reflected exactly what he feared most: rejection, disappointment, and lost trust.

That’s how manifestation works. It doesn’t just hand us things. It reveals the shape of our beliefs so we can do something about them. Do something and we become a match to better alternate realities. But if we don’t, the shape of our beliefs, projected outward as a physical reality, gets more intense. It gets more intense because our Broader Perspective and All That Is wants us to align with that which we desire.

It’s the only way we can have what we want. So the Universe and our Broader Perspective cooperates in nudging us in the direction of what we want by giving us cues. They start as whispers. However, if we ignore them, they can turn into storms.

Mother becomes the boss

So the intensity of Steven’s reaction wasn’t about keys. It wasn’t about promotions. It was about something deeper. Something older. Something Steven had felt before.

The feelings—of being misunderstood, scrutinized, punished unfairly—were eerily familiar. They echoed memories of his relationship with his mother. Back then, he often felt like he couldn’t do anything right. No matter how hard he tried, she’d find something wrong. Her love and trust were conditional, easily withdrawn at the first sign of what she perceived as “failure.” Another way of describing “failure” is “any time Steven didn’t meet her expectations.”

Now here he was again. Different setting. Different authority figure. Same emotional response. That’s the gift of manifestation. It’s never random. It brings the unsoothed pattern back to us—but dressed in new clothes. This time it wasn’t “Mom.” It was Richard. And instead of a scolding at home, it was pressure at work. The stakes were higher, for sure. But vibrationally, the match was perfect. And the situation? Exactly the same.

All this wasn’t bad, though. It reflected Steven’s upgraded status as a vibrational being. The stakes were higher. His job was potentially on the line, or so Steven believed. His boss was furious with him, he thought.

What I knew was this whole experience was a higher-level opportunity to soothe his old beliefs. Beliefs still creating realities in his life that revealed where he is relative to his desires.

Steven is doing great. In other words, he’s progressing and progressing fast. It seems like these kinds of situations shouldn’t happen for someone advanced as Steven. And yet, these kinds of things do happen in the early stages of the advanced practice. That’s because they act as clearing gateways to brighter, better alternate futures.

Beliefs Hide in Plain Sight—Until They Don’t

Steven didn’t notice the parallel at first. Nor did he recognize how perfect all this was.

It wasn’t until our session, as we slowed everything down, that he saw it. The shame. The fear. Impulses to over perform in order to prove his worth. The sense of being “on trial.” All of it tracked back to a belief constellation first activated in childhood — and still quietly vibrating in his present-day experience.

Again, the lost keys didn’t cause this vibration. They revealed it.

That’s why the Positively Focused practice is so powerful. It shows us nothing ever “goes wrong.” Even a lost object is a portal into deeper knowing—if we’re willing to look. Not with blame. Not with urgency. But with curiosity and compassion.

And Steven did just that…eventually. It took him a week. In the days leading up to our session, he struggled. When he came to the session, he was deep in negative emotion. Despair. Helplessness.

By the end of our session, however, he saw what was unfolding—not as punishment or setback—but as a tailor-made invitation to liberate old beliefs from their hiding places. He didn’t just lose keys. He found himself.

Takeaway: When something’s lost, something deeper reveals itself.

See you tomorrow for Part 3.

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What Happens When Animals Confirm Our Powerful Alignment

TL;DR: The author reflects on divinely-timed animal encounters—especially dogs—as living proof of vibrational alignment, showing how nature responds to high frequency with loving, unmistakable confirmation.

This afternoon (at the time of starting this post), I basked in the afterglow of a particularly delicious client session — one of those conversations where the energy flows like warm honey and every word feels like divine transmission. The client felt it too, which is why he asked for a copy of the session. He wanted to listen to it again. While the recording processed, I took my usual walk to the park, letting the joy of the session simmer in my cells. The sky was open, the grass alive, and I was in no hurry. I rarely am these days.

As I made my way into the open space, I saw a man ahead of me, walking with one of those curved dog-ball throwers. But strangely, I saw no dog with him. Curious, I asked him, “Where’s your dog?” He smiled and gestured down the way, saying, “She’s over there.” And like clockwork, as if on cue, a Springer Spaniel popped her head out from under the bushes—perky, alert, focused.

That moment felt like a wink.

The Dog Wasn’t Lost—She Was Led

I continued toward my usual place beneath the trees, pulled out my phone, and began dictating my client session notes. And that’s when it happened: I looked up, and that same dog came bounding across the park toward me. Full gallop. Tennis ball in mouth. Zero hesitation. She dropped the ball right at my feet. And I laughed out loud.

I knew exactly what this was. This wasn’t just a dog wanting to play fetch. This was a delivery. A divine gift wrapped in fur and slobber. My alignment had magnetized this moment—this joyful, beautiful interaction that felt more like ceremony than coincidence.

You see, this kind of thing happens to me all the time. Especially with animals. It’s always a little different, but the message is the same: You’re on the path, you’re seen. You’re loved.

Just last week, an elderly man walked into the same park with his wire-haired terrier. As he approached, he warned me that his dog was blind. But the moment I reached out my hand, that dog walked straight into it. Like a compass finding north. The man blinked and said: “You have very positive vibes. He can tell.”

He wasn’t wrong. His dog wasn’t either.

Wild Confirmations

It’s not just domestic animals, either. Hawks, owls, otters, falcons, seals — they all find me. Months ago, while walking along the Willamette river, I spied a river otter emerging from the water. It look directly at me then disappeared again beneath the surface.

Another time, while walking along the same river, a seal poked its head above the waves just as I looked in that direction. It stared at me for a long moment, then blinked and vanished.

An owl I spied spying me while on a walk. Usually, I don’t get a photo because such encounters are so spontaneous.

And once, while navigating a period of intense inner clarity, I looked up from a trail and locked eyes with a barn owl perched in broad daylight. We stared at each other for what felt like forever. I didn’t dare move. It was too sacred.

When we’re aligned—truly, deeply aligned—nature responds. Wild animals are not distracted by emails, deadlines, or stories about their past. Their attention isn’t distorted by chronic negative thinking. They don’t care what car you drive or how many followers you have. They feel resonance. Period.

They respond to presence.

A wonderful encounter with a Nutria. Totally unscripted….this is part of a longer video I made of a bike ride I took.

So when a creature we didn’t call walks (or swims or flies) directly into our path… that’s not just a “cool moment.” That’s a message. A mirror. A perfect rendezvous arranged by our Broader Perspective. A falcon sighting? That’s not just luck. That’s the Universe whispering: “You’re flying higher now.” A doe pausing to meet your eyes on a forest path? That’s Source saying: “I trust you with the sacred.”

And a dog galloping across a park, ignoring every other person in favor of dropping a ball at our feet? That’s a thunderous confirmation: “Keep going. You’re radiating.”

The Universe Uses Every Messenger

Some people wait for signs in numbers, or synchronicities in conversation — and those are wonderful. But the natural world has its own language. Animals aren’t just passive observers. They’re participants in the vibrational symphony we’re conducting every time we choose alignment. When we’re tuned in, turned on, and tapped into the frequency of love, clarity, and joy — birds will fly closer. Butterflies will linger. Dogs will drop tennis balls at our feet.

And when they do? Throw the ball. Honor the visit. Smile and say thanks.

It’s easy to overlook these moments. To think, “Oh, the dog was just playful,” or “I happened to be in the right place.” But the truth is, we’re always in the right place when we’re vibrationally aligned. What looks like happenstance is actually choreography.

The more I live this practice, the more obvious it becomes: alignment creates access. Access to beauty, to love. Access to nonverbal communication with the entire natural world. So when that dog dropped the ball at my feet, it wasn’t random. It was evidence. It was a nod from All That Is. A gentle, slobbery, joyful confirmation: “You’re walking with Me.”

And isn’t that what every animal encounter really is? A nudge, a mirror. A little miracle, perfectly timed. Just like us.

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When “Healing” Doesn’t Help: A New Path Forward

TL;DR: This reflective post explores a real-life interaction highlighting the limits of “healing” narratives. It illustrates how emotional contrast serves expansion through vibrational clarity, not trauma recovery.

There’s a common belief in many spiritual and New Age communities that emotional wounds must be healed, processed, and purged before one can move forward. The language of trauma, shadow work, and inner child healing often dominates these spaces. And while those interpretations can offer temporary comfort or a sense of meaning, from a Positively Focused perspective, none of them are necessary. In fact, they often reinforce the very frequency that keeps people locked in painful cycles.

This is the story of “Kellie”—a woman I met synchronistically—and how her journey with me became a living example of the difference between those two worldviews.

The Meeting: A Manifestation

We met at Gigi’s, a charming breakfast spot. I had gone there with the intention of having a joyful experience, maybe even meeting someone stimulating.

That’s exactly what happened. Kellie appeared as a delightful new acquaintance. We sparked a conversation rooted in spiritual curiosity. She shared her journey: a former software engineer with time spent in well-known software engineering corporations, now in a transitional space after escaping both high-tech burnout and a controlling Christian cult. Kellie was recalibrating her life.

She shared that she was deeply spiritual—into lucid dreaming, astrology, and alternate timeline work. We began spending time together casually, often sharing perspectives on spiritual topics. From the start, I recognized her as a manifestation. That’s why I never felt resistance to our dynamic. But I also never mistook her for a client. So I didn’t share the full depth of being Positively Focused.

Over time, however, I noticed a pattern. On at least three occasions, Kellie had intense negative emotional experience while in my presence. Something would trigger her—a memory, a comment, or even an impulse—and she would spiral. Each time, our conversation had to end because she was inconsolable.

Still, I stayed open. I saw her emotional responses not as problems, but as data. Kellie was calibrating. Just not consciously.

Better timelines?

Then, during one of our coffee shop conversations, she brought up her ability to perceive timelines. She always spoke of them as dark or painful, especially those involving her mother.

So I asked a simple, high-vibration question: If you can perceive other timelines, why are the ones you access always negative? What if there are joyful timelines you could feel into? Ones where your mother loved you well, or where your tech career was fulfilling?

That question opened the door.

Later, Sarah texted me, thanking me for what I shared. She said it helped her remember that she could access positive timelines too. That she was on a grand adventure.

I responded, offering a broader perspective: that nothing comes “unbidden”, that her Belief Momentum instead was drawing specific versions of reality to her, and that cleaning up those beliefs would align her with timelines she prefers. I even gently suggested her distrust of corporations might be limiting her.

I added that her beliefs about being “banned” from ChatGPT (which she had shared with me) might also be evidence of her vibrational focus. Maybe her beliefs about malevolent systems were recreating experiences that seemed like censorship or exclusion I told her.

I offered this not as critique, but as a mirror. From a high vibration. She had asked for my insight after all. So I gave it.

The Reaction

Days later, she wrote back, saying my message hit like a “gut punch”. It exposed a “gaping wound” Kellie said. She thanked me, but also said she needed several days to recover. She interpreted what I said as harsh, even though she acknowledged it came from love.

She said she was still processing and needed compassion. That she felt blocked from experiencing more positive timelines, and maybe that blockage was necessary for her growth. Kellie even said the more Positively Focused timelines were “blocked” by design.

Recognizing Kellie wasn’t in a good place, I offered what I knew before hand, but didn’t heed, that the accuracy of my client framework can be hard to hear if the listener doesn’t have some context to receive it in:

Then I sought clarification. Some of what she said perplexed me:

Kellie responded saying she felt attacked. Then corrected herself: she now saw that wasn’t true. Still, she said, she didn’t want to pursue the conversation further.

From the Positively Focused Perspective

This exchange clarified something I already knew: what I offer is sacred. And it’s best offered within the container of client relationships. Because unless someone has done some calibrating, the perspective I bring can feel destabilizing.

Kellie’s response reflects a common misunderstanding: the belief that there are emotional “wounds” which must be “healed”. That someone else can “expose” those wounds. That life happens to us, and we must recover from it. But from a Positively Focused perspective, there are no “wounds”. There is only vibrational momentum.

What feels like a wound is just the contrast between a deeply practiced belief and the perspective of our Inner Being. The bigger the contrast between those two, the more it hurts. But that pain isn’t an indication that something went wrong. It’s evidence that something is ready to change.

What’s more, the idea that we need to “heal” implies something is broken. That something bad happened that we didn’t ask for. It implies that we are victims of circumstance. But that’s never the case.

Everything that happens is an answer to our vibration. And every experience—even the painful ones—are invitations…into greater clarity, alignment, and freedom. That’s why I never use the language of “healing” or “wounding.” Such language disempowers. It locks people into a linear process of “recovery” rather than an expansive, upward spiral, quantum path of calibration.

Kellie wasn’t wounded. She was experiencing the emotional signal of Belief Momentum that no longer serves her. But she can’t hear that.

What She Reflected Back to Me

I’m grateful to Kellie. She reminded me that Positively Focused isn’t for everyone. It requires readiness, willingness and devotion. It definitely demands a certain level of vibrational stability.

Kellie also showed me how easy it is to interpret feedback through the lens of pain. Her belief that I “attacked” her wasn’t about me. It was about how her Belief Momentum filtered my words.

I honor that. But I don’t take it on.

Instead, I use it as a reminder that the practice I offer works best when someone is asking, deliberately and consistently, for what I offer.

After our final exchange, I sent her a message of closure. One rooted in appreciation, clarity, and forward movement. Here it is:

Final Thoughts

Not everyone is a client. And not every spiritual “seeker” is ready to release the “wound/healing” paradigm and become a “finder”. That’s ok. But I’ll continue to offer what I offer: a path of deliberate, joyful calibration, where nothing is broken, nothing went wrong, and everything—yes, even ChatGPT bans and gut punches—is an invitation.

To those ready to live from that knowing, I say: welcome home.

There’s so much joy in the world. There’s so much joy in our lives. And there’s so much joy in us. Tapping into that joy can be exhilarating and leads to a tremendous sense of worthiness. It’s exhilarating and addictive: once someone discovers Positively Focused as a way of being, they hardly ever go back to living they way they did before.

That’s because everyone’s Broader Perspective wants them to embody, live and express that joy. Some, however, aren’t ready for that. Some still must move through disempowering momentum. That’s ok too. I’m happy with the world as it is. And, I’m joyful for those who encounter Positively Focused, then become clients.

It’s so fun being Positively Focused. But it’s even funner when like-minded others join in on that fun.

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Why Younger Leaders Make the Best Alignment Teachers

TL;DR: In this, Part 4, of a six-part series, the author shares how client Sally turned a firing into confirmation from the Universe, demonstrating the clarity and leadership that emerge when younger generations align with their broader perspective.

When I got on the call with Sally that evening, I wasn’t worried. I knew what kind of vibrational environment we had built together. But still—when I heard her voice, I felt deep satisfaction. She was calm. Clear. Even… radiant.

Sally had just been fired. But instead of spiraling, she immediately started receiving. A text from a woman she respected—her dance instructor—landed just minutes after the call. “You’re such a light,” it read. “I’m so glad to call you my friend.” Sally was floored. The timing was divine. And the message? Unmistakable.

Then, in the elevator of her building, a stranger looked at her with admiration and offered a spontaneous compliment on her beauty. Another confirmation. Another wink from the Universe.

None of this was coincidence. This was the Universe showing her: “You’re okay. In fact, you’re better than okay.”

A practice that delivers

I’ve long said younger generations are not here to be taught—they’re here to teach. Sally is at least 12 years younger than Jane, and that’s no accident. She’s fluid, adaptable, and, because she’s younger, less burdened by societal conditioning. A lot of Jane’s resistance comes from just having lived longer. Sally, on the other hand, flows easily with energy. It’s not that Jane is “wrong.” She’s just older. She’s here to build a foundation. Sally? She’s here to leap from it.

Let’s be clear: Sally still struggles with her own resistance. She’s getting better at that struggle every week, however. That’s because Sally is devoted to this practice. When I told Sally this, she smiled. She got it instantly. Not intellectually, but vibrationally. She felt the truth of her place in this unfolding.

Then Sally did something most people wouldn’t.

She said: “I want to continue the Positively Focused practice. Even if I have to pay for it myself. Are you willing?” Are you kidding me? Of course, I’m willing I told her. This is a woman who had just lost her job. But instead of retreating, she expanded. Instead of pulling back, she leaned in. That’s sovereignty.

And here’s the part that gives me chills because it shows how devoted she is to this practice: Sally had already dropped her therapist a few weeks earlier. Not because of dissatisfaction, but because the Positively Focused framework, she said, works better for her. She wanted deeper alignment, not traditional analysis. And now? The practice had proven itself in the real world. In the sharp contrast of a termination, it had delivered peace, clarity, and confirmation.

Leaping Into Her Own Leadership

Nearly all my clients create similar results for themselves. That includes Jane. After all, Jane was the client who manifested a diamond. And all my clients who once had therapists agree: Therapy just can’t match alignment to All That Is. That alignment not only is the leverage everyone’s looking for. It also feels tremendously good. And how could it not? It taps us into our sovereignty. There’s no better feeling than that. No healing required. Just clarity.

With her job at Jane’s company winding down, Sally saw what I had always seen: she’s not meant to be an employee. She’s meant to lead. To create in her unique way. To bring talents to the world no one has seen before.

And now, she’s getting ready to do it. She doesn’t see that potential fully enough to embrace it. But everyone is expanding. Everyone’s also eternal. So there’s no rush to get it all done right now. We couldn’t even if we wanted to.

I’m positive she’ll use the practice as her compass. I’ll be there as her coach as well. And the Universe? The Universe is already clearing the path.

Two more fabulous installments to this story that delivered manifestation after manifestation. We’ll resume with those last two installments beginning this Wednesday.

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How to Manifest Abundance by Aligning with Worthiness

TL;DR: The author demonstrates how aligning with inherent worthiness leads to manifested abundance. By gathering evidence of personal value, they assert, a self-sustaining loop of vibrational alignment and prosperity ensues.

Worthiness. It’s a word we often hear, especially in spiritual and personal development circles. But what does it really mean to be worthy? And how does one cultivate that sense of worthiness in their own life?

In my recent YouTube video, I dove deep into this very subject from the Positively Focused perspective. What I shared there mirrors what I’ve come to realize over the years in my own journey. It’s a central part of the work I do with clients.

Worthiness is not something we “do” to earn, but a state of being that unfolds naturally when we are in alignment with All That Is. It comes from recognizing and appreciating the ways the Universe has already delivered what we want—and realizing that the Universe is continually working in harmony with all our desires.

We have all experienced this. Think back to times when something you deeply wanted showed up for you, seemingly out of nowhere. That’s the Universe’s love and support in action. It’s the evidence that you are worthy, that the Universe is working with you, for you, giving you everything you want in every way it knows how.

That’s how worthiness starts to show up. It’s the process of collecting evidence—real, tangible, undeniable evidence—that you are worthy of receiving what you desire.

Building the Basket of Evidence

To explain this process, I often use the metaphor of a “basket of evidence.” Imagine that each manifestation you experience—whether it’s a small, pleasant surprise or a big, life-changing event—goes into your basket. Each time you receive something aligned with your desires, your basket fills up, showing you that the Universe not only supports you, but wants you to have everything you ask for.

The more we gather evidence of this the more we become aligned with the state of worthiness. Worthiness just can’t help but flow from within us. Then, the more worthiness we experience, the more naturally our alignment strengthens, and the more manifestations we attract.

Worthiness, therefore, isn’t a destination—it’s a process. As we continue adding to our basket of evidence, our belief in our inherent worth strengthens. And as our worthiness grows, we move further into a state of allowing, where everything we want moves effortlessly toward us. Then we begin noticing more evidence, and that evidence strengthens our belief. It’s a self-perpetuating upward spiral.

And once we reach this state of worthiness, we crave more of it. We want more evidence, more manifestations, more expansion. We start seeing the natural abundance the Universe always provides, and we become deeply aligned with that flow. The more we practice and embody our worthiness, the more the Universe showers us with everything we desire.

Filling a basket with evidence of the Universe loving you is the key to feeling worthy.

I’m Living Proof

This process isn’t just theoretical for me; it’s something I live daily. My life is a testament to the power of aligning with worthiness, and the manifestations that flow from it. The positive, abundance-filled experiences I have in my everyday life, including a growing client base, is living proof that when we tune into worthiness, the Universe meets us there.

I’ve also seen it in my clients’ lives. They’re creating their own baskets of evidence every day, just as I am. Whether it’s a successful career shift, improved relationships, or unexpected dates, they’re proving to themselves that they, too, are worthy of their desires.

This blog, my YouTube channel, my work with clients—it’s all about demonstrating how accurately this is to myself and to others. It’s about showing that the Universe always works in alignment with us. And through the Positively Focused practice, we are all learning to recognize that, and allow it to flow into our lives more freely, effortlessly, and abundantly.

But here’s the thing: It’s not enough to simply talk about worthiness. We must see evidence of it in our own life. If we want to become more aligned with our desires, we need to collect that evidence by focusing on the positive manifestations happening around us—no matter how big or small. Whether it’s a compliment, an unexpected check in the mail, or a surprise encounter with a person we needed to meet, those are all pieces of evidence that the Universe is supporting us.

Worthiness and the Charmed Life

As I’ve worked with my clients, I’ve seen them begin to gather their own evidence. Each small manifestation builds on the last, creating a snowball effect that leads to even more abundance, more alignment, and more joy. And this is the key: the more evidence we gather, the more we realize that we are the creator of our reality, and worthiness is our natural state.

The concept of worthiness is at the heart of the Positively Focused practice. It’s what leads to a Charmed Life—a life that is in constant flow with the Universe, where everything we effortlessly flows to us. And the beauty of it is that anyone can experience this. All it takes is the willingness to shift our beliefs, align with our worthiness, and allow the Universe to do the rest.

So, what’s in your basket of evidence? What are you gathering every day to prove to yourself that you are worthy? If you’re struggling to find that evidence, start small. Look for the little things. The Universe is always providing. You just have to be willing to see it.

Because when you do, you’ll begin to see how truly worthy you are. And from there, everything changes.

If you want help seeing the evidence that’s there, I can help.