Value is something you can’t help but give. Have you noticed?
No matter what you’re doing, you’re offering value to some one or some thing. It’s part of what you come into the world naturally doing.
But happiness…that’s another story.
Perhaps your happiness is fleeting. Perhaps happiness to you is as capricious, and as impermanent, as any other emotion. So trying to think of it as something you can perpetually enjoy, as a steady life state, seems stupid to expect.
Especially when there is so much to witness that isn’t happy to look at. No wonder you shift your desire to usefulness or value over being happy.
But you come into the world to enjoy the adventure of being of value. And the enjoyment, i.e. the “happy factor” was supposed to be something akin to your body: just as your body has grown and become more as you have become older, so to was your level of happiness supposed to become more and more.
Likely that’s not the case, is it.
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People ask: “How can we be happy with all the suffering going on in the world?”
The rub in that question is, until you figure out how to be perpetually happy, you can’t understand the answer to the question you’re asking.
You become happy first. Then you discover the suffering you see isn’t what you think it is.
To understand the perpetual nature of happiness requires understanding something else that is the subject of great debate: your inherent free will.
Your free will is the nexus between value, your life experience and your happiness. Here’s how:
You cannot help but create value for self and others because this whole thing called life experience is a massive collaboration the purpose of which is eternal expansion predisposed towards “better”. And that’s what you inherently are: life experience getting better.
You can not help but exist here because that was (and continues to be) your intent. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here. No one else is forcing you into your body, making sure you stay in your body, on earth, against your will. You’re doing it. And you’re doing it because you want to be here.
Then we’re going to back up and try to describe it in a way that it makes sense (at least to us 🙂 ).
Ready? Here we go:
What it is: The moment of becoming is the decision point which stands outside of time and space, where you as an enduring personality essence, deliberately choose events you want to experience in your ongoing life experience.
If you got that, you are now looking through a doorway of awesome potential.
Now let’s try to flesh it out a bit.
Life experience: what it’s made of
Two “places” comprise experience. You’re very familiar with one.
You probably call it “reality”. It is the world around you; the physical world, which includes thoughts and ideas as they exist in your brain and the brains of others.
The physical world, therefore, is composed of matter.
Matter comes in many forms, including events, communication you are most familiar with (electronic, verbal, physical, visual etc.), particles of all kinds, and forces you take for granted, can’t see, but nonetheless experience the effect of, such as wind, gravity and heat.
Anything you can experience with your physical sense organs is part of physical “reality”.
That’s the first “place”.
Now for the second.
The vast majority of humanity speculates about, says it “believes in”, or claims to “know” about this.
And yet people rarely if ever experience it. So they don’t really know about it. If they did, they’d not only be perpetually happy, they would have all they want, living their dream lives.
Clearly that’s not happening for most people.
Physical senses can not perceive this second place, so it is difficult to describe in physical terms. But it is no less real.
Gravity can’t be perceived with physical sense organs either. Only the effect of gravity can. Certain sounds and colors also are examples of unseen yet no less real phenomena. These exist outside the narrow band of sound and color physical sense organs can perceive.
So something existing as real, but imperceptible via physical senses should be a familiar idea. Yes?
Words fall short in describing this second place.
So, let’s call it by what it isn’t.
Let’s call it “non-physical.” It is “anything that exists outside of physical reality.”
We’re not going into any detail on non-physical. We’re describing what the moment of becoming is, not non-physical.
But we do need a context within which to describe that. The context is “non-physical”.
The moment of becoming is the “space” “between” these two “places”; physical and non-physical. It is the “intersection” – so to speak – the catalyzing “event moment” through which that which is in non-physical becomes physical.
An excellent, easy to understand real-life example of this catalyzing moment is how a human comes into the physical world. Science hasn’t figured this out yet.
A personality essence, the enduring, fundamental basis of what you are, emerges from non-physical into physical, presumably, through birth.
Humans focus on the “birth” moment as the main event. That’s why they ask “when you were born?” instead of say, “when were you conceived?” or “when did you decide to come into physical reality?”
Never the less, the following should be easy to understand.
There are many, many processes, events and collaborations that had to occur so that your birth was possible. Right? An endless stream of connections, activities, thoughts, and interactions stretching back through time and space, involving many, many people are responsible for your birth.
Your parents and their parents and their parents, etc., all had to be conceived, born, grow up, meet, date, develop affection, grow intimate, have sex…
You get the point? That’s a no-brainer, right?
All these events were coordinated. They seemingly occurred well before your birth. Let’s go with that.
Because of this, you can trace an unending stream of activity in the physical world making your birth possible.
At some point, however, you had to choose.
You had to choose to take that defining moment to “insert” your personality essence into this endless activity stream. (We’re making a separation of events here that actually doesn’t exist, but must be manufactured for clarity.)
In the context of the process culminating in you getting here, in your body through birth, the decision to focus who you are at your essence into physical reality is analogous to the moment of becoming.
That event, your focusing of yourself into the process of your birth, happened “before” you were born. And you made the decision.
You made the decision because you knew the experience you would have here would be a delightful, rambunctious, risk free, unlimited experience representing a wondrous adventure.
And so now, you’re here, having that adventure.
“Some adventure,” you may say.
With Trump and the alt-right, Rachel Maddow and the alt-left, environmental destruction or any other experience you interpret as “bad” “dangerous” or “too painful to bear”…you might find it difficult to see life experience as “risk free” or an “adventure”.
But when you mistake a rope coiled in the corner to be a snake, the rope is still a rope.
So here’s the explanation again: The moment of becoming is the decision point which stands outside of time and space, where you as an enduring personality essence, choose events that comprise your ongoing life experience.
It is a decision point.
It is outside of time and space.
In it you choose what you want to experience in your life experience.
And you ongoingly have access to it.
Now, because the moment of becoming literally catalyzes the existence of matter along the lines of what you’re wanting to experience, it is very powerful.
This is why it is the seat of life mastery.
A person who chronically focuses her attention there has the ability to shape matter and events here, in the physical world.
Life mastery results when a person deliberately and predominantly focuses attention in the moment of becoming rather than IN-deliberately and predominantly focusing attention in physical reality.
Now, your physical sense organs compel a chronic focus on physical reality. “Why” is irrelevant for the purpose of this writing. But the compelling nature of your senses is not absolute.
When you learn to shift your attention consistently enough, your life experience will astound you as it demonstrates that you want to experience to the exclusion of that you don’t.
This is why the moment of becoming is so vital. Life mastery is awareness of the moment of becoming and knowingly using it to create your life experience.
If you can create your life experience, and you can, then aren’t you invincible?
If you’re like most people, you’re paying way too much attention to the world around you.
Seems like an asinine statement, right? Like, where else should I pay attention?
To the moment of becoming if you want life mastery
A life master once said “The only difference between a common mortal and a Buddha is that one knows he is a Buddha, the other does not.”
Those are the words of “the original Buddha” written by his hand in a treatise about enlightenment. He wrote those words to inspire human beings to aspire to life mastery aka Buddhahood, aka enlightenment.
We’ve quoted this sentence a lot because it reveals a lot.
Life mastery is nothing other than being able to create a life which exceeds one’s deepest desires.
Looking around the world of what is, you see most humans in one of three states:
Trying to realize a few rather humble dreams because the person has been shown (by the world) that their big dreams are impossible (they’re not). Or…
Living a minuscule fraction of their potential because they’re no longer able to dream big because dreaming is either uncomfortable (it brings up feelings of unworthiness, lack of efficacy or both) or seen as a waste of time, which is a different dimension of feeling unworthy.
Living some really big dreams (such as immense wealth) while simultaneously experiencing impoverishment in other parts of their lives
Life mastery is about getting all you want. And more.
In every sense.
Mastery doesn’t only include the intangibles such as spiritual fulfillment, happiness, or emotional stability at or near constant joy/love. It also is getting all you want materially.
THE WORLD IS BIG ENOUGH FOR EVERYONE TO HAVE EVERYTHING THEY WANT.
But if you’re ignoring that one place where everything you want comes from, you’re not only not likely to get what you want, you also won’t believe getting what you want is even possible.
Or, you believe getting what you want is somehow wrong, immoral, unjust or must come at the expense of others or personal sacrifice.
Getting all you want and more is the success indicator of life mastery.
NOT getting what you want is a symptom. It indicates a condition where a person is spending too much time looking at the world around them.
“Looking at” also means “listening to.”
Chronically looking at the world around you will cause you to shrink. It will cause your dreams to shrink. It will train you into unworthiness.
Until it doesn’t.
It doesn’t when you pay more attention to your seat of power, the only place you have total control of your life experience. That power place is the moment of becoming.