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How Progressives Helped Trump Win The White House

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TL;DR: Many progressives are struggling with the 2024 election outcome. In this story, the author shows how progressives helped Trump win the 2024 election. Then they show what progressives can do next to benefit from what happened on Nov. 5.

I’m pretty thrilled with what happened last Tuesday. Although I must admit, I didn’t feel that way last Wednesday. That’s because my Broader Perspective assured me one candidate would prevail over the other.

That’s not what happened. Trump handily won. And it may be that the Senate and the House will fall to GOP majorities too. At the time of this writing, that’s unclear.

What is clear though is half of America is thrilled. The other half is flip-flopping through rage, depression, disbelief, terror and more.

I didn’t vote for Trump. But I’m glad he’s going to be president. Not for reasons you may think though, dear reader. In this post, I’ll lay out why I’m thrilled instead of terror-struck about the election results and why you should/could be as well.

Let’s get to it!

A brilliant manifester

Those who haven’t regularly read my blog will struggle with what they’re about to read. I invite comments and questions, just try to keep them civil. Those who have regularly read my blog will find this post consistent with everything else I write. In fact, earlier this year, I wrote about Trump and his seeming amazing ability to thwart what some might call justice.

No two ways about it: Trump is a brilliant manifester. He focuses on what he wants and he doesn’t care about things like facts, the truth or what others think about him. As a result of his pure focus, he usually gets what he wants.

Discovering Trump’s massive increase in his personal fortune, thanks largely to Truth Social, astounded me. All those silly things he sold to his followers, coins, custom Bibles, shoes…all those things are evident of his powerful manifestation momentum. Especially when it comes to money. But Truth Social really took the cake. Until now.

Now, I don’t agree with anything he is about. And yet, I must admire his ability to focus. His ability to focus on what he wants…and manifest it.

Willing participants

Not so much with progressives. We all are points of consciousness, existing in a vibrational reality of All That Is. Out thoughts determine what we create as our life experience. That includes politics. There’s no evidence disputing this.

So when a person focuses on something they want and they don’t resist it they will realize that thing in their lives at some point. Again, resistance is key. If they focus a little on what they want, and a lot on what they don’t, that conflicting focus slows down and can even prevent them getting what they want. Indeed, that conflicting focus can actually produce in their lives exactly what they don’t want.

And that’s exactly what nearly every progressive person was doing, including myself, leading up to Nov. 5. Yes, I wanted Harris to win. But was my focus purely on that outcome? Nope. I dabbled in resisting Trump. And doing so, I added momentum to all the others wanting him to win, including Trump himself. That’s right, every progressive focusing intently on what Trump was doing vibrationally aligned themselves with the GOP, Trump and MAGA.

And that’s why Trump prevailed in the election. All those progressive points of consciousness became cooperative components of Trump’s desire to be president.

How it really works

So when I say everyone got what they wanted, that’s what happened. By “got what they wanted” I mean, they got what they predominantly focused on. This is an important aspect of this “you create your reality” business. We don’t get what we say we want. We don’t even get what we think we want. What we get is the physical match to the dominant vibration we’re emanating. And we emanate through our focus.

When we focus on something we don’t want, if we keep doing that, that’s what’s going to manifest. Life experience is a reflection. It constantly reflects back to us what we’re emanating. Having our focus become visible, life experience helps us understand what we’re emanating, even if we can’t feel the vibration.

This explains why it’s important to not focus on the now so much, especially when it contains what we don’t want. Because when we do that, we are focusing our emanate-or on the reflection of past focus or vibration. Doing that, we create again what we’ve already created in our reflection. That’s how “reality” persists; many points of consciousness are focused on what is, thereby perpetuating it.

To get what we really want, we use our reflection to know where we are – what we’re emanating – and if where we are is not what we want to create, we shift our focus or emanation.

Most people don’t know that, so when something shows up that they don’t want, they keep focusing on that. They complain about it, or push against it. And in doing that they create more of it.

That’s how progressives helped Trump win. And yet, there’s a really good outcome inherent in getting what we don’t want. Let’s look at that next.

Setting up the prerequisite

Anyone can use physical reality to figure out what they’re creating. Indeed, that’s what it’s there for. However, people can develop sensitivity sufficient to perceive how they’re vibrating. They also can listen to thoughts they think on the regular. Thoughts are more-manifested vibration, after all. So if our sensitivity to vibration isn’t very keen, we can pay attention to our thinking. If that’s too much work we can simply observe what shows up in our lives.

Nearly everyone not in a practice such as the Positively Focused practice I show clients how to use has insufficient sensitivity to perceive their vibratory emanations. The same amount of people don’t bother thinking about how they’re thinking. They think thinking is just an automatic process. Not something subject to their control.

So for all those people, it’s easiest to watch what shows up in their lives as a way of knowing what they’re emanating. Since we’re all eternal, we have all the time in the world to use that method, to create what we want. So it’s all good.

But some people fear their physical reality. They think, for example, that now that Trump is president they must flee the US. Or, those outside the US must fear the US. That’s flawed thinking because it’s based on a premise that will bite people in the ass if they don’t realize it’s a flaw. We’ll get to the good outcome I alluded to above. Let’s first look at this flawed premise as a prerequisite. It’s important.

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Beliefs create lack of control

I’ve shared this over and over: each of us exists in our own, individually-created reality. People in our reality are there as reflections. They reflect what we are thinking about the people they represent: strangers, letter carriers, loved ones, family members, coworkers, etc. So no one shares their reality with another. The Positively Focused practice makes this absolutely clear by pointing practitioners to evidence proving this the case. If you don’t believe this, then just assume it’s true for now.

Since we’re all in our own reality, and since we’re each the creator of that reality, nothing and no one can create something for us. Only we can. But if we think/believe that someone or something can create our reality, then our reality will reflect that back to us. How? In the form of a reality seemingly being created by others. It will also include events seeming to randomly happen, usually against our will. Again, it’s not that someone else is creating it or that what’s happening is random or accidental. We’re creating that experience from the belief (the vibration emanation) that draws that experience to us.

Many beliefs can do that. Here are examples and all of them exist fairly prevalent in human consciousness:

  • Life is an accident of random processes
  • God is real and his will supersedes mine
  • Accidents happen
  • Bad luck happens
  • Good luck happens
  • Bad things happen to good people
  • Life is dangerous
  • Life is random
  • We never know when our time is up

Many more similar beliefs exist. But these should give us an idea of what beliefs create realities wherein it looks like others shape our experience.

Where reality comes from

The problem with such beliefs doesn’t end with the fact that they create realities that look like others can control what happens in our experience. Such beliefs, if believed, means that the person holding them must contend with such a reality!

So if we believe the world is going to hell because Trump is now president, we must leave the country, or even the world, if possible, because that belief will create experience consistent with it. So I wouldn’t tell someone contemplating moving to Canada to stay in the US. If they believe staying in the US is dangerous to them, they will perceive evidence proving this true. And eventually, they will attract to themselves experiences confirming the perceived danger.

But here’s the thing: another person, with the exact same conditions minus the belief about Trump will not see that evidence. And if they believe their reality springs from their empowering beliefs, it doesn’t matter that Trump is president. Because the president has no ability to force conditions to play out in our lives. Nor does anyone else. Unless we believe they do.

Beliefs create reality. Focus creates reality. Thoughts create reality. All three of these are the only Source of reality as it exists for each person. It’s important then, to cultivate beliefs consistent with the reality one wants.

But even if we don’t, the Universe and All That Is will help us do so. How? Well, now it’s time to visit that good outcome I mentioned above.

A matter of choice

A hallmark of the Positively Focused practice describes the instantaneous creation of our ongoing reality experience. Part of that process includes our physical reality as a reflector. Here’s how that works. Here’s also how Trump winning the election is a good thing, especially for progressives.

Since our reality is a reflection, whether we’re conscious of it or not, we immediately know two things in the moment we experience the reflection: we know what we don’t want and we know what we do want.

In the case of negative reflections, the “not wanted” is front and center. Our emotions, thoughts and even our bodies sometimes reflect the “unwanted” aspect of an unpleasant experience. For nearly all progressives, Nov. 6 was an “unwanted” reality.

MAGA won with the help of progressives.

But in that same instant, progressives knew what they wanted. No, they didn’t want Tump to not be president. That’s still a focus on Trump, which leads to him being president. Some progressives wanted freedom to be. Some wanted empowerment in their lives or the lives of people they know. Others wanted a country that, in their mind, cares for others. Many wanted all these things and more.

And in that moment of realization, in knowing what they wanted and what they didn’t want, they had a choice – a crucial choice. They could vibrationally focus on what they wanted. Or they could vibrationally focus on what they didn’t want.

I would bet nearly every single progressive in America focused, on Nov 6, on what they didn’t want. And they did that with very strong emotional intent. That’s a problem.

It must be

It’s a problem because all those progressives, while not knowing it, amplified Tump becoming president by focusing on that not wanted situation and through their focus and emotions added more momentum to what they already focused into existence on Nov 5. It’s exactly what I described above about looking at what is and thereby creating more of that.

But some progressives (myself included) did something different. We expressed curiosity about what happened instead of fear or insecurity. We wondered how this happened. Then, getting an answer (what you’re reading here, dear reader) we decided to focus on what we want. In that focus, held no matter the evidence of the current reflection, we felt better. And in that better-feeling place, we emanate a more positive vibration.

That positive vibration must create a reflection in our lives consistent with that emanation. And it doesn’t matter that Trump won. But any progressive trying to do this who believes Trump’s victory does matter has the same problem progressives focusing on what’s not wanted have: they’re creating a reality for themselves that includes Trump controlling their life experience.

So the good news is, out of a negative experience, we know what we want and what we don’t. Line up with what we want and we will eventually get what we are lined up with. This is how the Universe works, so it MUST BE.

More and more GOP

A lot of progressives worry about other people. They worry about the poor. Some worry about LGBTQ people or other “disadvantaged” people such as BiPOC folks. The problem with that worry is, it doesn’t help.

If everything you just read is accurate (and it is) then those beliefs about those people create a reality for those believers in which those people are disadvantaged. If progressives really want to help others, their best bet is think the most empowering, positive and loving thoughts they can about everyone. Including their enemies (the GOP).

Because the hate or fear or worry progressives hold does nothing but disadvantage the very progressives holding such views. That holds doubly true for hate. Hating conservatives doesn’t make conservatives go away. Have you noticed? They haven’t gone anywhere. Indeed, we could say the conservative movement has grown, become meaner and more effective. Thanks progressives!

Maybe it’s time we progressives take a different approach. One that nearly every spiritual leader suggests: love your enemies as yourself. I know that the more progressives that do that, the more those progressives’ lives will improve. But those progressives can’t do anything to help another progressive’s life improve. Remember, we all create our own reality. Each progressive must do it for themselves. And many aren’t ready to do that.

No worry. We’re all eternal. And the world will keep reflecting back to such people a progressively awful life, until they surrender to the only power they have: the power of their Broader Perspective. And when they do, they’ll find everything they want is there.

No matter who is in the White House.

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What The Best, Most Powerful Relationships Look, Feel Like

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TL;DR: The author argues for being selfish as the way to create a happy life for everyone. They share a client’s experience in creating happiness to illustrate and support his argument.

Let’s talk about relationships. There’s a lot to talk about here. Mainly because humans feel relationships are one of the most, if not the most, important things. After all, we are told, we need relationships to be happy. Everything we do, need and want, it seems, comes through relationships. It is relationships with others that create community. Such relationships also create safety, belonging and a whole lot more.

And, if we’re honest with ourselves, relationships also offer the worst in humanity. Relationships with others are the framework through which some of humanity’s worst traits surface. Greed, conflict, psychopathy and violence all would be meaningless were it not for relationships.

So relationships aren’t all rainbows and butterflies, as the saying goes. We all know this. Just ask Israelis and the Palestinians. Relationships can suck. And yet, a lot about what we seem to be (human) seems to compel us toward relationships. Especially relationships with other humans.

There’s a far more satisfying and powerful relationship, however, one through which everything we want comes. It’s so all-encompassing, we literally can’t survive without it. And when we prioritize that relationship above all else, we can live our wildest dreams.

That relationship is what I’m writing about today.

Let’s dive in.

Over all else

The relationship I’m referring to has nothing to do with a god, especially the Christian god or Jesus. But this relationship does tap into the power Christians ascribe to their god.

The trouble with this relationship is, it’s as plain as the nose on our faces, and yet, we invariably prioritize other relationships ahead of it. And that out-of-whack prioritization creates all the troubles we have in other relationships. That’s because that which we could enjoy a relationship with wants our undivided attention. When we put our attention there, un-dividedly, everything else in life flows easily.

What relationship could I possibly be referring to?

The relationship with ourselves.

That’s right, there’s no better, no more powerful relationship than the relationship with ourselves. The reason why is because everything we see “out there” in the world springs from this relationship. So when we get this relationship where it should be – as our number one priority – then everything “out there” falls in line.

It doesn’t happen in an instant. That would be magic and magic isn’t a thing. But when a person prioritizes themselves over all else, then gradually, all else reflects the improvement inherent in prioritizing a relationship with themselves over all else!

Selfishness: a virtue

That seems like circular logic, but, as I’ve written before, the Universe and All That Is functions in a circular logic way. All That Is exists to joyfully know itself. The paradox of that is, the more it seeks to know itself, the more of itself it creates. This process makes All That Is – and you and me – eternal. So the more All That Is seeks to know itself, it creates more of itself to know. That’s the glorious circular process often described in ancient teachings.

Now, some might argue that prioritizing one’s self over others leads to selfishness. I completely agree. But I know selfishness is not bad. In fact, it’s the best way to be – oriented solely to self. Because when one lives that way, they discover everything else, including other people, are able to take care of themselves, leaving the person free to be, enjoy and lavish their life.

Indeed, when we put ourself first in all things, we stop trying to change circumstances over which we have no control. Letting go of such tasks feels better and better. And when we feel better, the world around us reflects that better mood back to us. It reflects it in ever-improving life experiences.

So, really, we have control of all of our experience because experience reflects back to us our inner state. And when we prioritize our inner state – our relationship with ourselves – then our life experiences reflect that improved inner state.

We also emanate love and other higher emotions. That’s because when we seek to know ourselves, which is aligned with what the Universe does always, we can’t help but feel the eternal joy that is Universal consciousness.

Put it to the test

That previous section may sound like a bunch of “New Age” hooey. But when practiced, over time, it proves accurate. Abraham says “Words don’t teach. Life experience does”. That means I can write forever about how powerful what you’re reading is. But nothing compares to evidence produced by your lived experience.

So if you’re having trouble believing this stuff, I suggest you prove it to yourself. Become the evidence you wish to see, as Eckart Tolle puts it.

So how do we prioritize the relationship with ourselves? It doesn’t seem easy when the entire outside world encourages prioritizing others over ourselves. So it takes practice. It helps to know that a “self” exists in us worthy of our undivided attention. That “self” is the “god in human form” I write about in this blog. Discovering its existence is easy.

The best way to do that is by testing Positively Focused premises, which are summed up in the phrase “you create your reality”. As a person tests these premises, they create or manifest, experiences, people and things, that come in surprising, seemingly coincidental ways.

But when so many of such manifestations happen over and over, the person must acknowledge something other than “coincidence” is at work. That acknowledgement is just like acknowledging there is a self worthy of having a relationship with. Paradoxically, the person testing these premises, once they start seeing things happen, will want more things to happen. As more happens, they also get more bold: they want bigger things to happen.

As their desires grow in scale or magnitude, their trust grows. Their trust in themselves and in this self they are building a relationship with.

Betrayal births bitterness

Growing that relationship brings a necessary letting go of beliefs keeping us all prioritizing others over ourselves. As we let go of them, we might have to face hard-seeming choices. Sometimes that looks like cutting off certain people, including family members. Sometimes it looks like making pretty sweeping career changes.

For example, a client recently faced having to cut off her daughter. Her daughter, the epitome of a hellion, raked the client over all kinds of emotional coals throughout their 20-year relationship. The client believed she had to be there for her daughter, despite the poor treatment, because that’s “what parents should do”.

Little did she know she created the belief “that’s what parents should do” after her parents did something the client considered unconscionable.

Throughout her youth, her parents promised her they’d save for and pay for her college. But when the client was 16, the parents reneged on their promise. The client had to pay her own way. Because of this she felt her parents betrayed her. She bitterly resented their decision and that bitterness festered within her.

Prioritizing ourselves sometimes requires hard-seeming choices. (Photo by Courtney Kammers on Unsplash)

An angel disguised as a hellion

The betrayal was personal for her. So, when she had a child out of wedlock, something she didn’t want in the first place, the client swore to “make things right” by not doing to her daughter what her parents did to her.

The problem with all of that is the Universe has an amusing way of showing us all how such beliefs aren’t in our best interest. In the clients case, the Universe gave her a hellion. And boy, did this young person torture my client in so many ways!

She was making the client miserable. Little did the client realize, her daughter was an angel the client sent herself. The angel’s mission: to teach the client she has everything she needs within her, to stop blaming her parents, and to put herself first.

After weeks of learning to prioritize herself through the Positively Focused Way, the client, after one particularly harrowing conversation with her daughter, decided to put herself first. She cut her daughter off.

The relief she felt was immediate. And, as days went by, her relief grew.

Doubling down

Thirty days in, she was feeling great. But then, her old created reality, born of her belief “that’s what parents should do” reasserted itself. Her daughter reached out. The client felt pulled by her belief to reconnect. Which is what she did. This is not unusual.

Typically, when this kind of thing happens, a client will have an epiphany making their life much better. But then, old belief momentum draws them back into their old way of being, the way of being they left behind. This dynamic always shows the client why they would have been better off not letting that happen.

But there’s no way clients can get it wrong. For these kinds of “set backs” actually amplify their commitment to put themselves first. Which is exactly what happened with this client.

That reconnection was horrible. And it reminded the client what had been absent for 30 days. It also put those past 30 days of relief, peace and ease in proper perspective. She wanted more of that. So she doubled down on cutting her daughter off.

The way to relief

Two weeks after her recommitment her husband said something remarkable over dinner.

“You seem really happy,” the client said her husband said. The client told her husband she did feel happy, happier than she had in decades. The husband credited that return to happiness to his wife cutting her daughter off. But the client knew it was primarily because she was putting herself first and that caused her to make a choice she otherwise would not have been able to do.

A week later, her husband once again noticed.

“It’s so good seeing you so happy,” he said. The client replied that she was returning to the self she knew before her daughter “happened”.

Now, it’s not that the client dislikes her daughter. She loves her and wants the best for her. But she realizes that, to be happy, she must put herself first. And when she does that, she thrives. And as she thrives, eventually, so will her daughter. That must happen because the client’s experience and everything in it, including her daughter, reflects back to her her inner state. Her daughter’s behavior was reflecting turmoil within the client. Turmoil born of expecting her parents to have put her first, when, obviously, they couldn’t.

Their decision not to pay for their child’s college was the right thing: they had to put themselves first. The client was making them wrong for doing what they knew was right. And so, the Universe, through her daughter, was showing the client the way to relief.

It’s all choice

And that’s the thing about realizing what comes from putting ourselves first. We realize no one is responsible for our happiness but us. And, no one can make us happy but us. Any other happiness source is fleeting, capricious and fickle. As such, such happiness sources are not in our best interest to put before the one relationship that really matters.

Meanwhile, as I mentioned before, everything in our experience improves when we do this. And so, the client’s daughter’s life must also improve, as she learns what her mother did: That she must put herself first and stop relying on her mother for her happiness…or anything else, including tuition, food and rent.

Relationships, from the Positively Focused Practice perspective, are not about people coming together, planning together, working out problems, coming up with solutions together, compromising, and investing in and extracting from each other what they need, all while claiming to love one another. Rather, each person is 100 percent responsible as a creator for creating the best version of their life and any relationship for THEMSELVES.

When they do that, the whole world improves, but only for that person. In the meantime, those choosing a different life way fade out of that person’s experience. Then those reflecting the person’s choice show up as reflections of that made choice.

This explains why so much variety in life experience exists. It’s not luck. Nor is it fate. What it is is people choosing, either deliberately or not, then the world reflecting the nature of that choice.

It’s all about unconditional love

This means, first cultivating a strong relationship with one’s self is paramount. When that happens, life reflects back to the person only the best things in life, because that’s just what happens when one puts themselves first.

Then, and only then, can a person create better versions of life AND better versions of people in their lives. They create versions of people by coming into the presence of another with their relationship with themselves so secure, that that other person has no choice but to reflect back to the creator a version of them matching what’s going on in the creator.

And when the creator achieves that, sees the person exhibiting the version of themselves the creator envisioned, and then revels in that, the manifestation of evidence of their creation, then that person being created feels that reveling as unconditional love for them. And that changes that person irreparably.

That’s why selfishness is so important. It can literally change human relationships. It does that through love, which is what ourselves have in abundance for us.

And that’s how we can influence others in the best way. “Influence” happens whether we know we’re doing it or not. Unfortunately, for most of us, we’re using that influence by recreating versions of people we don’t like, by complaining about their behavior, wishing they were someone that they’re not, or complaining in general.

Meanwhile the one relationship that empowers us to have a different experience of all we experience awaits us. That relationship is all unconditional love. And when we prioritize that relationship, we become that: Unconditional love.

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This Skill Is Key For Creating Money From Nothing

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TL;DR: The author offers a life example proving his mastery of a key skill for creating reality through thought alone. Their experience as well as their clients’ experiences, they say, show how processes they advocate for can create the best life possible.

An enjoyable manifestation involving another person totally turned me on recently. It happened about two weeks ago. What happened proves I’m on the way to great financial fortune.

It’s proof because the only thing standing between us and having a lot of money is our beliefs. After all, a lot of people enjoy wealth. And though it seems many of those people became wealthy by the working hard, nose-to-the-grindstone approach, many others got their wealth easily.

They won it in a lottery, or through gambling. Or they inherited it. Maybe they invested in the right market opportunity at the perfect time. Or, they happened to take a job with stock options, where those stock options gained immense value over time.

The point is, while most would argue it takes hard work to make a lot of money, something other than hard work is responsible for that result. So many are doing it in different ways, with some making a lot of money with no effort, the common denominator certainly can’t be “hard work”.

Of course, I know that common denominator is vibrational focus. We create our reality. And what people call “wishful thinking” is what lines people up with lots of money. Nothing else is more important.

That’s why it’s so important people understand this. For there are lots of people working hard and making hardly ANY money let alone lots of it.

Today, I’m writing about a key skill needed to create lots of money. Let’s take a look at that skill. But first, a little more background.

It’s simple, but not easy

When I write “lining up” I’m referring to specific processes which make a person a match to lots of money. They’re the same processes for making one’s self a match to anything. Whether it’s relationships, opportunity or money, the processes are all about tuning one’s vibration to the frequency that attracts what it is one wants in their experience.

These processes are simple, but their purpose – soothing resistance – is not easy. It’s not easy because soothing resistance means stopping vibrational momentum that’s matching us to conditions we don’t want, or that are incompatible with what we do want.

It’s momentum that catalyzes vibration into physical reality. Momentum is, therefore, powerful. Once it gets underway, stopping it is impossible. Continued focus will always amplify the momentum until that which is focused on becomes real. Even if we try to not focus on it, by virtue of defining what we’re doing by the momentum “not focus on the momentum” we are focusing on it and thus amplifying it. Same goes with resisting momentum. It’s why the phrase “what you resist, persists” exists. Any focus on momentum amplifies it.

That’s why we’re not really talking about stopping momentum but soothing it.

We soothe it by focusing on something other than the momentum we’ve created. And that’s not always easy. Especially if we have a lot of momentum, which all of us do on some subjects. That’s why we’re surrounded by a physical reality. It’s momentum making thoughts “real”.

Momentum makes thoughts real. All reality springs from thought. (Photo by Rhett Wesley)

Belief confrontations and their benefit

When we soothe momentum, life will show us where we have beliefs and their associated momentum in other areas, areas we also must soothe. That’s right, just because we start soothing our beliefs about money doesn’t mean we’re making progress, even though we are. We must also soothe all the other beliefs contributing to momentum which blocks money from coming.

For example, a black person in the United States likely has beliefs which block their being a match to lots of money. Believing in racism, for example, does that. So does, believe it or not, believing in “Black Lives Matter.” I’ll write a post one day about black people and resistance. But for now, know that any belief which causes us to believe something outside of us has more power than we do will keep us from being a match to what we want, including lots of money.

And by lots of money I mean Fuck You money. I mean hundreds of millions to billions of dollars.

Now, if you’re like some folks, the idea called “billionaire” makes them squirm. And that’s because when they think about such people, they experience belief confrontations. Belief confrontations happen when a person has very strong beliefs and life throws at them experiences at odds with that momentum. The juxtaposition of those two — the experience and the belief — is what has the person say things like “there should be no billionaires” or “kill billionaires”. It’s what moves people to spray paint billionaire-owned corporate jets and super yachts.

Their belief confrontations are so strong they’re moved to action. But that action is insignificant in the extreme. Especially with regard to the billionaire. Those people’s lives are hardly scratched by such actions. Such actions do, however, amplify momentum in the actors thus making them even less a match to that much money.

Desires are there to be fulfilled

This explains why life throws our way experiences that can seem “out of the blue”. They’re actually “in” the blue. It’s life showing us what stands between us and what we want: our beliefs that aren’t matches to our desires.

We all have desires. Many of our biggest ones we kick to the curb in our desperation to feel good. We can’t enjoy life if we have desires we believe we can’t fulfill.

For example, a lot of people will say they don’t want millions of dollars. They’ll point to disadvantages of having all that money. Or they’ll talk about the immorality of that much money. But many of those people also play the lottery. It’s my guess that if someone offered them millions of dollars with no strings attached, they’d accept the offer!

But their beliefs running counter to having that happen are so strong and the belief confrontation so uncomfortable, rather than soothing their resistance, they instead, make their desire immoral, or wrong or they justify not having their desire as a virtue.

But all desires are born within us to be fulfilled! The only thing standing between us and fulfilled versions of our desires are our beliefs. That’s why the Universe reflects our beliefs back to us: so we can do something about them and become matches to our desires.

Which brings me elegantly back to what happened and the key skill needed to actualize creating huge amounts of money from nothing but desire.

A marvelous rendezvous

Whenever I get a new client, I take myself out as a celebration of that client. Two weeks ago, I took myself to breakfast. Prior to heading out, I pre-paved the outing, meaning, I set an intention in a specific way so that I amplified the probable future I desired over all other probable futures.

I arrived at the restaurant, but there was a long line. No matter, I planned to eat at the bar, so I got a seat immediately. To my right, two stools over, sat a woman. She was near-finished with her breakfast.

I ordered and the woman to my right asked how I was.

“Fabulous!” I said.

“Great!” She said.

“Are you saying it’s great I’m fabulous,” I asked. “Or is your day going great?”

“Both!” She laughed.

That began a two hour conversation that extended to a day-long friends date the next day, then lunch the day after.

But I’m getting ahead of myself.

It so happens Sarah is a “dream worker”. She works with people to help them better interpret their dreams. Our conversation, which was MARVELOUS, was about all kinds of things we had in common. Particularly our understanding of how the Universe works.

Responding to my reflection

At one point, while still at the breakfast place, I told Sarah that even though I love working with my clients, I would prefer to have all my days totally free. And so I was intending to create a life where I enjoy freedom from trading time for money.

She thought a moment, started to say something then paused, which I appreciated because I knew she knew she was talking to someone who needs no guidance. Her doing that was remarkable. It showed she possessed an awareness few have. I enjoyed seeing that in her.

Then she said “I know you know this, but you could create a reality where all the things you need are covered, like your rent and food, are just taken care of for you. Why do you need to focus on money?”

No desire is bad or wrong, including a desire for money. (Photo by Rob on Unsplash)

When she asked that question, I thought for just a moment about whether to share what I was feeling at that moment. Like Sarah, I’m quite aware what’s happening in me at any given moment. At that moment, I wondered what will happen when I share what I was about to.

So I said “I appreciate you saying that because right this moment you are the Universe reflecting back to me that I still have resistance about money in my vibration. It’s very subtle, but it’s obviously still there and I know this because you said what you said.”

See what I did there?

It’s all reflection

I could have resisted her expression. I could have responded by defending my desire. But I didn’t.

Instead, responding this way when someone says something to us is critical as we line up with what we’re wanting. Especially if what we want is present in our awareness at the moment the person’s speaking. My clients struggle with this, so I don’t expect you, dear reader, to get it either: everyone in our experience are reflections of our beliefs. Beliefs about all kinds of subjects. Other people are not actually in our reality. What we interact with are versions of those people, versions of those people we hold in ourselves, constructed by our beliefs about that person.

So when those people speak to us, how they say what they say and what they say are reflecting back to us our own beliefs. This is always the case, but some cases are more obvious than others. With practice, this idea that people in our experience are not real becomes obvious. And even though my clients struggle with this, they are proving to themselves how accurate this is.

Here’s why this is important: We can’t line up if we’re oblivious about beliefs we have blocking what we want. And if we react to the universe showing us what those beliefs are, by getting defensive or otherwise not acknowledging what’s happening, then we just delay our lining up. Resisting the reflection adds more resistance!

The Universe loves me

Recognizing what physical reality is telling us as a reflection therefore is a crucial skill. So is responding correctly when it does that. In this case the Universe was telling me through Sarah I still have resistance on the subject of money. Her words were exactly as I saw them: reflections of my thoughts. So I went with the reflection and expressed appreciation.

When I did, Sarah gave me a big smile and said “I love you so much!” The words burst out of her as though she was not expecting to say that. I know that expression wasn’t about her actually loving me. Instead, she was acknowledging, as an emissary of the Universe, that my statement was so unconventional but totally in alignment with what she and I and the Universe know about how the Universe works. Her reflex to say she loved me was another reflection of my thoughts: my Broader Perspective appreciating that I have mastered this crucial skill.

So we don’t need to be in the dark about what’s happening with our vibration. If we’re tuned in, we can see all kinds of indicators showing us where we are vis-a-vis our desires. They show up in how animals respond to us. People reflect it back to us. Events also reveal to us what’s happening in us.

All the while the Universe lovingly guides us towards greater and greater alignment. For many, that can take lifetimes. But for some, it can happen in a single lifetime.

The charmed life unfolds

After that mystical exchange, I thought to myself how appreciative I was to be able to do what I’m able to do. I’ve significantly soothed a lot of negative thoughts and beliefs I once had about money. And I’m enjoying faster and faster momentum growing within me telling me I’m on the way to the large amount of money I’ve already created.

That’s right, I’ve already created it. That pile of money assembles even as I write this, even as I continue lining up with it, so that, in divine timing, I will rendezvous with it, it with me and in that joyous rendezvous come into the fullness of that manifestation.

This trajectory started with me soothing a lot of beliefs I once had about “new age mumbo jumbo”. It’s true: I once had one foot in two different camps. One camp wanted to believe this “you create your reality business” was real. The other camp totally disbelieved all of it.

These days, however, I’ve created so much evidence that this business is real. And I’ve amplified my belief into knowing by writing about it here in this blog, following the processes I wrote about in the beginning of this story, and creating an income for myself through sharing what I know with clients. Those clients came to me in surprising and delightful ways. Just like everything else I’ve manifested up to now.

Indeed, I’ve mastered the process of deliberate creation. Skills needed to create anything I desire, including large amounts of money from nothing but thought are now mine. As a result, I’ve discovered a rare form of freedom.

Freedom as the basis for the life of my dreams. The Charmed Life.

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How “Wishful Thinking” Actually Creates Results People Love

(Photo by Dayne Topkin and Mohamed B. on Unsplash)

TL;DR: The author offers another example of a client proving to himself that “wishful thinking” actually works.

I recently started a short series of stories – testimonials really – of how clients used “wishful thinking” to create magnificent manifestations. I’m using the term “wishful thinking” because that’s how people describe this “you create your reality business” when they have no clue about it; how it works, why it works or why EVERYTHING in physical reality happens through that seemingly simple phrase.

Those who know that this “business” is the basis of the Universe call it something other than “wishful thinking”. Abraham calls it “Law of Attraction”. Seth says “you create your reality”. Neville Campbell says “reality springs from your wonderful imagination”.

How ever those who know describe it, it’s inevitable, meaning, there’s no way to avoid the accuracy of these statements. That’s because it IS how the Universe works. And those who tap into that awareness become powerful creators; while the rest of us bump around creating reality unconsciously. That explains why so much suffering and tragedy exists in the world today.

In the last post I talked about “Kevin”, a comedian now living his dream. This time, let’s look at a client “Jake”, and his example.

It’s not magic

Now Jake’s story will be different from Kevin’s because Jake’s experience shows an important aspect of this “you create your reality” business. It shows that even when one creates their reality deliberately, it’s not magic.

In other words, things don’t just instantly pop into reality as though reality manifests on a blank slate. No, we all instantly begin creating the moment we’re born – well before that actually – and as we do that, our reality springs into our awareness. When that happens, we all tend to focus on that physical manifestation, which then amplifies and makes it more “real”. Momentum ensues and soon, to us, it seems reality comes first, then we say that reality is “how it is”. And that reinforces realities we see, thus creating more of what we’re observing.

It’s no wonder then why we begin thinking or believing what we see is “true”. But it’s not “true”. It’s just what’s been created. When we want to create something new, however, we must first sooth away the prior momentum that’s creating our “how it is”. Because of this, it can take some time before our new reality emerges from our “how it is” — our past creations — which we interpret as present reality.

So we must be patient with our new manifestations. Or, we can look for evidence of their emergence where evidence first exists. That’s right, evidence our new manifestations are happening shows up immediately. But we must know where to look to see that evidence.

Most don’t know where to look so they don’t see it. Then they conclude this “you create your reality” business doesn’t work. But it does work. Every time.

“Wishful thinking” works. But only if you know how it works (Photo by Dayne Topkin)

Our beliefs create our world

Like Kevin, Jake is an artist. Jake is multi-disciplinary though. He writes novels and short stories. He composes music and also performs on piano too.

But Jake, like Kevin, also harbored extreme negative beliefs about his life, mostly stemming from his childhood. I cannot over state how negative his beliefs were. Those early-stage beliefs, again, reflected back to him in a unique-to-Jake way: Jake could never get people to take his artistic expression seriously. Every time he would put out something – music or words – he’d get crickets in return.

He also struggled to keep a job and therefore a steady income. And his relationship with women was poor…at best.

In time, his frustration about all this and more tumbled into blame. He blamed everything, not only about his life, but about the world itself, primarily on capitalism and how, in his words, it forces people to earn a living thereby giving no one a chance to express their authentic, artistic selves. Nevermind that there are literally thousands if not hundreds of thousands of people doing that worldwide, with many of those people earning quite good incomes! Especially in capitalism.

But that’s the thing about being human. We can’t experience a world outside our beliefs, beliefs that create the world we experience. Our beliefs literally blind us to experiences not fitting our beliefs. So Jake couldn’t see evidence proving his beliefs as not-necessarily-true.

Frustration turns to bitterness

So when Jake first came to me almost five years ago, he was in a strong, bitter, blaming state. His marriage was ending. He was having an affair and he was broke.

None of those are impediments to the Universe giving us what we want, however. In a short time, after lining up with our Broader Perspective, we can turn even the most dire circumstances around. That’s what Jake did.

Again, it took him a while. That’s because Jake, like many people, for a long time used “doing” and trying to “make it happen” to get “success”. He believed “doing” was what would bring him what he wants. That doesn’t work though, when our beliefs run counter to what we want. In other words, doing isn’t powerful enough to overcome beliefs drawing to us what we believe. And if we believe we aren’t worthy enough to deserve what we want, no amount of doing will give that to us.

That’s why so many people, especially many artists, don’t succeed. It’s not because their art isn’t good or that there are a lot of other artists or that they don’t have the right connections.

They don’t succeed because they don’t believe they deserve success. In other words they feel unworthy, like many, many people. The right connections and the people who will appreciate one’s art come easily when we line up with the success that already is ours. We “line up” by seeing our lives the way our Broader Perspectives do. That’s what Jake learned over those five years.

Now, mind you, Jake is over 63. So he’d been practicing disempowering beliefs around his art for five plus decades. Compartively, five years is no time at all. And it took that little time for him to create what happened next.

The turnaround begins

After giving up doing and instead focusing on being aligned with his Broader Perspective, Jake gradually let go of trying to “make it happen”. He stopped trying to make people or demand that people appreciate his artistic expression. Jake gave up trying to find a publisher for his books too, as well as trying to find someone who would play his compositions.

In giving all that up, Jake allowed the Universe to do all that work. He relaxed into enjoying his creative expression for the sake of the expression rather than seeing it as the path to financial fortune. As he did that, his creative juices flowed and his output increased dramatically.

Doing that also got Jake out of the way. That’s when he started seeing signs the Universe was on his side, which it always was.

One day, the local newspaper called Jake. The reporter wanted to do an article on a composition he was going to perform at a concert in town. To Jake this came “out of the blue”. But this small form of notoriety resulted from Jake soothing his negative momentum.

But wait, there’s more!

Instead of just reporting on the concert, the reporter did a complete story about Jake…and all the creative things he’s up to including his books. Jake had never had that kind of publicity.

But then it got even better.

About a month later, a music teacher at the local college reached out to tell Jake he was teaching one of Jake’s scores in his class. Jake doesn’t remember how the teacher got the music piece. He called me one day in his car outside the college. Jake was taking a break from hearing the practice. Weeks later, the class performed the piece in concert:

“Jake’s” piece performed.

Tides turning?

The orchestra also played several pieces from other local composers, but members of the audience told Jake they liked his best. Of course, Jake was over the moon. But this is just what happens when people relax and line up with their Broader Perspective. More and more of what they want comes, in effortless, delightful and surprising ways. Then even more stuff starts happening.

And that’s exactly what happened with Jake. That’s when the really big thing happened. Or at least it seemed that way.

Jake has paid hundreds of dollars in trying to get his writing published. Many unscrupulous purveyors of publishing scams have taken his money as a result. That’s just what happens when our beliefs tell us the world is unfair: we create those experiences as reflections of our thoughts.

These things happen so we can see what we’re creating, then use those as vibrational, navigational aids to chart a better-feeling course. By this time, Jake had given up on trying to make his writing successful. Months passed without him mentioning trying to get publicity for his work, which I presumed meant he wasn’t doing anything about his writing other than enjoying writing.

Then, again, seemingly out of the blue, Jake got an email.

The email was from a literary agency. It begins with “[We] would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to you on receiving a commendation for your book [title of one of Jake’s books] from our Book Scouts.” It goes on to explain how the agency works and inviting Jake to a conversation about the agency representing his literary work. Best of all, the email explains the agency is a commission-based firm.

It is law

For Jake’s that was big. That’s because in all his attempts at doing or trying to make it happen, he believed he always had to pay people to represent him. I knew this is not the standard way agents work. Real agents take a commission on jobs they land for those they represent. But Jake’s beliefs didn’t allow him to rendezvous with such agents. Why? Because he didn’t believe he deserved such representation. He has a LOT of momentum behind that belief.

Jake expressing shock that it’s really happening with no effort on his part.

Notice he didn’t have to “work” at “deserving representation”, nor do ANY of us need to work at deserving what we desire. The moment we desire something IT’S OURS.

PERIOD.

What we do have to do, however, is line up with the receiving of our desire. How? By relaxing, enjoying life the best we can and appreciating what is. Then, in time, we must receive that which we desire. As Abraham says: “It’s Law”.

The agent email came early last week [at the time of writing this]. Later in the week something happened that shows an important element of this “you create your reality business.” Let’s take a look at that because it causes many people to miss out on the full-blown manifestation of their desire.

A temporary “SNAFU”

The agent set a phone appointment that same week. As the day approached, Jake was excited. I didn’t hear from him until after the day of the call. Here’s what he wrote:

Notice a couple things about this message. The phone service going down on this exact day was no coincidence. His dominant existing momentum of beliefs and his still strong sense of unworthiness about his creative expression caused the phone service to go down. This was a crucial moment. A moment for Jake to double-down on the joy of rendezvousing with an agent. It was not the time to get all poopy about this seeming communication mishap. That’s because it’s not a communication mishap. It’s an opportunity to double-down on what he wants!

Notice also the doubt he expresses about this being real or not. This also is his dominant belief, stemming from so many times where he got scammed. It’s also key to what happened next. So this is how I replied. It’s a gentle admonishment that landed as I intended:

Thankfully, Jake trusts what I offer, which he should after five years! Here’s his response, wherein he comes up with better-feeling explanations for the disconnect:

As you read, they’ve rescheduled.

Due diligence uncovers something important.

In the next week, more happened showing Jake exactly where he is relative to his desires and his creations. The agent and Jake talked live via phone call. But something bothered Jake. Something, he said, wasn’t right.

So he started doing, in his words, “my due diligence”. He looked into details of the company, the website and the agency location. What he found wasn’t encouraging. Many of the links on the website went nowhere. The company wasn’t listed (by that name) on any New York registries.

Then, in a follow-up conversation, the agent stipulated that Jake would need to pay a large sum of money as a retainer to move forward. By then Jake had a strong sense this wasn’t what it appeared to be.

But his response was excellent. He recognized that his beliefs, expressed in the text above, that this wasn’t real, pointed to something he wanted to know. Not that this was not a real deal, but that his dominant beliefs remain on “I’m not worthy of getting what I want”.

When Jake realized this, he wasn’t disappointed. In fact, he was proud of how positive he was about all this. “In the past something like this would have sent me into a rage,” he said. “But I’m feeling pretty good that I did my due diligence.”

Indeed, all successful people have, as a part of their professional tool box, the ability to do their due diligence. This wasn’t a set back. It was an opportunity for Jake to develop important skills, so when the real offer comes, he’ll be able to appreciate it.

But most important, Jake is continuing to soothe his disbelief. And in the wake of that soothing, he’s discovering a gradual, steady stream of manifestations, manifestations he’s been wanting for a while.

It comes gradually

Jake’s story is not an isolated incident. All my clients are discovering they are blessed, that the Universe showers them with reflections of what they emanate, and that getting what they want is easy. All they need to do is align their “emanation” – their vibration – with what they’re wanting instead of what they’re not.

When they do that, gradually, life tunes to that new emanation. Then their experience of life gradually includes everything they want. It doesn’t come all at once. That would be overwhelming. Instead, it happens in a wonderful cadence, one in which we can revel, savor and enjoy the unfolding.

I wrote before about Kevin’s wonderful coming into his comedic dream. Jake’s trajectory is no different. Both are long-term clients who started with really strong, super-negative belief momentum. And in a relatively short time, they both are now living their creative dreams.

I still have two more stories to tell. But they must wait for the next installment!

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Why Client Results Are So Powerful And Life Changing

TLDR: The author explains why every client gets the same life-changing results by practicing positivity; through the power of their improved thoughts, they prompt All That Is to reflect back to them improved lives. Then the evidently-improved lives convince them to practice more, triggering a “virtuous spiral” of life-changing improvement. The author argues every person inherently possesses the ability to create the life they desire.

A powerful reason explains why every client eventually gets near identical, consistent results through the Positively Focused practice. It’s because the practice is based on how the Universe actually works.

It’s based on how the Universe actually works and how humans interpret being in it. Essentially what the practice does is lessen influence coming from beliefs contrary to how the Universe works. When that happens, the results promised show up automatically.

That’s because they’re already there, happening automatically. But contrary beliefs will conceal them. Or they cause the automatic function to create experience confirming those beliefs. When that happens, people get confused about what’s happening.

And when that happens, people become hopelessly inured to believing the physical world is separate from them.

Interpreting through he best narratives possible

They’ll think the Universe is separate from them and a random collection of events. Some will believe this life is all we have. Still others may believe they can’t have what they want because the world is random and beyond their control. The’ll see only evil people getting what they want; often at the expense of others. So they’ll conclude life is not fair.

Underlying all those inaccurate beliefs operates a highly consistent system comprising All That Is. That system is biased towards great abundance, positivity and joy. And it will deliver anything a point of consciousness focuses on because of that. Even if that consciousness— a human for example — consistently focuses on what it doesn’t want, that’s what the All That Is will deliver.

Which argues for interpreting this reality in the most positive narratives possible.

In the Positively Focused practice we show people how to do that, among other things. As they master this, they uncover their divinity: their powerful ability to create reality then comes under their conscious control. Then they realize that, no, reality is NOT separate from them, nor is it random.

From there everything is possible.

Questions holding people back

This process can be diagrammed. In graphic form it appears very simple. At mastery levels, it sure looks simple. But in practice, that simplicity only comes with consistent, determined practice. It’s not “hard work”. But it does take applying one’s in self every moment.

The diagram below shows the trajectory common to all clients. It starts with accepting that one has many vibrational frequencies serving to dampen one’s natural high speed vibration. Along or associated with this dampening effect are thoughts common to nearly all beginners.

They come out as questions and objections, usually about topics beginners aren’t ready to fully understand. They ask, for example, how is it that a human would choose to be born with a life-shortening disease. Or, why would someone choose to be born in war-torn countries. Clients usually also hold disempowering thoughts about money, thoughts that bind them to the working world; because they believe money only comes from jobs, and that they must trade their time or intelligence in a job to get money.

These questions and disempowering beliefs nearly everyone holds. But beginning Positively Focused clients, when they start looking at life through the practice, begin questioning those assumptions. When they do, interesting things start happening.

(1) Clients start in a status quo life. This life contains some of what they want and some of what they don’t want. But their dreams, those things they really want, remain elusive. (2) Then they start the Positively Focused practice. From there, (3) evidence is almost immediate. That evidence triggers improved moods, which trigger more evidence of improved lives (4). Along this point (5) life begins dramatically improving, and that improvement is never ending, nor does it have an upper limit. Here also is where clients begin soothing their fear of death (6). Evidence is overwhelming that they are eternal. Life gets better and better, and dreams they had once given up on become realized. Gradually, clients’ lives take on the magical quality I call the Charmed Life (9).

The fear of death

The biggest challenge is people’s fear of death. That fear expresses itself in many forms. Someone who believes time is running out for them fears death. A woman who at 42 believes she’s getting too old to find a partner fears time running out. Another who believes he’s too old to follow his dreams also fears running out of time, or, dying before he can “make it”.

But death is not real. Death is a moment in the endless eternity we all are. It’s no different than walking from inside a home, out into the bright light of the day. But philosophers, religions our friends and families and civilization at large convince us death is something worth fearing. All the while, we don’t realize that fear tells us something that, if we knew that thing, we wouldn’t fear that death at all.

Almost immediately, once attention is brought to these thought distortions, the client manifests for themselves highly convincing evidence proving these distortions as distortions. Since it happens in their daily life, the evidence can’t be denied. Maybe one or two experiences can be explained away as coincidence.

But when these experiences come in plentiful numbers, the client must then start examining what they really believe. Even a small shift in one’s vibration will trigger this experience. That’s because All That Is wants us knowing what we really are. It wants us knowing what this reality is really made of (thoughts turned into things).

So that evidence begins cracking the shell of disbelief. Disbelief that once created “truths” consistent with it. The more that happens, the higher frequency the client starts vibing to. Soon they get to a point where their life gets so good, they begin (emphasis on “begin”) to relax. This state of relaxation is crucial.

Who wouldn’t want a better life?

But when they reach that crucial stage, life reflects more and more their improved vibration. In time, their life gets WAY better than before. Friends and family members start noticing. They may even want to become clients.

And as life reflects more and more their improved vibration, clients then want even more. So they practice more. That’s the virtuous cycle inherent in the practice. It’s the same virtuous cycle that is inherent in All That Is, which is why All That Is is biased towards great abundance, positivity and joy. The more of that that happens, the more of that happens.

By the time clients see evidence all around them that this is how the Universe is, they have made their reality consistent with their improved beliefs. What really happened is the same thing that was happening before starting the practice, only it was happening in-deliberately back then: They formed beliefs, then held those beliefs long enough for reality to prove the beliefs “true”.

If you understood that last sentence, then you can see that every person is capable of creating any reality they want. It starts with their thoughts. From there, life starts “life-ing”; all that is begins moving in the direction of the trajectory initiated with those thoughts. The more that person holds those thoughts, the more energy flows, until those thoughts must turn to things.

That’s a powerful outcome. It’s an outcome that changes lives. It’s an outcome that can literally change people we interact with. And that’s why clients’ results are so powerful and life changing. They literally change lives for the better.

And who wouldn’t want a better life?

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An Ode To The Awesome Joy Clients Experience

TLDR: The author tells the story of two new Positively Focused Clients who vividly express their joy about their lives after having begun their Positively Focused practice. The two became clients after witnessing dramatic changes in a relative. The author further asserts that this is a natural result when a person taps into their Broader Perspective. It’s also part of the joyful journey underlying all life experience.

Two recently new clients and their reactions to the Positively Focused Way are leaving me in awesome appreciation. They both show how effective the practice is.

Of course, my own experience shows this too, as does other client experiences. But these two are so emotionally expressive, I just loved hearing from them. Even when they were struggling.

That’s right. Every client starts with struggle. That’s because all new clients start the practice by first realizing that their beliefs prevent a tremendous amount of joy that’s otherwise available. But in short order, they start figuring out how to soothe those beliefs. And when that happens, joy shows up in abundance.

Which is exactly what happened with these two clients. What happened after that was really satisfying. Satisfying for them, and for me. It’s also a testimonial about how powerful we all are as gods in human form.

Let’s check out what happened. But first some background.

Ripples run deep

The two new clients are married. The husband is the brother of a more seasoned client. Both new clients became clients after seeing shifts in the sister. Those same shifts caused the sister’s husband to become a client too.

This happens often. And, it’s a testament to the power of people when they tap into their Broader Perspective. Positive change — what I call expansion — shows up so powerfully, others in the clients’ lives can’t help but notice. Especially family members. Then those people want what the client is getting.

Ripples of expansion…I love that result!

It’s one thing to evangelize or proselytize. But that can only go so far and ultimately doesn’t work that well. The real test of a life way is how people respond to changes they see in the person. And people respond very well to changes in Positively Focused clients. Which explains why so many clients’ family members become clients too. They become clients because their relatives produce astounding results. So clients don’t need to say anything. They need only be.

And that’s the thing; being speaks more powerfully than words. So when clients change, it’s no wonder their husbands, wives, siblings and friends become clients too.

Ripples from the Positively Focused Way run deep. Rather than reaching a lot of people in society — going wide, in other words — it affects society at the smallest level: individuals. But then it goes deep. It penetrates entire families too. And families are the Source from which society emerges. It makes sense then that the Positively Focused Way transforms society by transforming individuals who then transform their family.

Which brings us back to the couple in question.

The power of positive vibration

The husband, who I’ll unimaginatively call Jon, started practicing after he contemplated suicide. Jon becoming a client was a direct manifestation of his sister (the seasoned client) creating her reality.

That’s right, clients not only learn how they create their reality, but they also learn how they create people in their reality too. The sister dreaded Jon taking his life. Rather than trying to do something to stop that, I suggested she “be” different about it. As a result, Jon came to his senses, then became a client.

The details of how that happened require knowing how the Universe works. But in shorthand, as I describe it to clients, Jon collapsed into his sister’s powerful vibrational focus in exactly the same way as photons do in the famous physics experiment where photons collapse into waves or particles depending on how an observer focuses their attention.

The Universe is consistent from top to bottom. Every part of it follows basic principles. “Every part of it” includes relationships between people. In every exchange with another, we’re either collapsing into the other’s vibrational momentum, or they’re collapsing into ours. Which outcome shows up depends on whose focus has the most momentum. And whose focus is more aligned with fast moving vibration. The fastest-moving vibration is always positive. And positive vibration enjoys inherently more powerful momentum.

Positive vibration so powerful, it can change another human being. This is what Jesus did when he cured the sick. His powerful focus only saw well versions of those people. And his focus was so dominant, the unwell person’s vibration had no choice but to collapse into Jesus’ more powerful focus of well being.

This is exactly what happened between Jon and his sister.

Jesus “curing” a leper. He cured the sick by causing a collapse of vibration. (By Unknown author – photo taken by Sibeaster, Public Domain)

Abundance is a given

Jon dramatically changed after becoming a client. So much so, his wife became a client too. Now these two people are extremely powerful. Together, when aligned, they are unstoppable. But when they focus that power on disempowering stores about themselves or each other, that power turns their lives into hell.

That’s what happened recently when I got a text from the wife, who I’ll more imaginatively call Alley.

In her text Alley complained bitterly about wanting to bail from society. She felt overworked, tired and tired of hearing everyone’s complaints. Little did she realize this is how someone feels when they don’t keep up with their abundance.

Abundance is the order of the Universe. Everything in it expresses itself along those lines. And since humans are powerful creators, no matter what they’re doing, in a little while what they’re doing will generate abundance.

“Doing” includes working a job. So when people complain about having too much to do at work, I often respond by asking “how does it feel being unable to keep up with your abundance?” For that’s what’s happening; the person focused so much on work, they’ve created abundance that looks like being overworked.

Rather than appreciating that, however, the vast majority of people are conditioned to complain about it. When they do that, they create even more abundance that looks like being overworked.

Then they need a vacation!

Holy Shit!

After a quick check-in via text message, Alley found her alignment. I don’t know what happened next. Presumably her husband found his alignment too. I presume that because in rapid succession I received a text from Alley, then one from Jon:

My response to Alley in that first exchange is important. In a little while, clients discover how “dark moments” signify an impending shift. They signify a moment just before a vibrational leap forward happens. Once a number of these happen, clients learn to appreciate rather than dread them, or feel they’re a struggle while in them.

That’s an important shift. Because when that happens, clients discover those special moments are HUGELY POSITIVE. They tell the client that they are on track, that all is going well, that their expansion is happening.

Most people, however, won’t interpret these moments this way. So they don’t make the connection between such experiences and experiences they’re wanting.

We don’t need long, intense negative experiences to enjoy hugely positive ones though. We can enjoy the latter from just a niggle of the former. That takes practice though. But the time put into practicing it is worth it, obviously.

Joy borne of eternity

Both Jon and Alley experienced what it’s like for every client who assiduously practices the Positively Focused Way. It doesn’t take long. Jon’s only got 11 weeks under his belt. Alley’s been at it for nine.

So it doesn’t take long before clients produce evidence the practice works. That’s why I offer a guarantee. Nearly every client gets results after the first session. The more they practice, the more profound and more abundant the evidence gets. Before long, clients start challenging long-held-limiting beliefs. Beliefs that had them to give up on their dreams and instead become “realistic”.

Then clients want to actualize their rediscovered dreams. That doesn’t happen over night though. But that’s no problem either because we’re all eternal. We have all the time in the world. And besides, fulfilled dreams aren’t the goal, although that’s what happens.

What is the goal is the joyful journey on the way to the fulfilled dreams. There will always be more dreams to fulfill than dreams that get fulfilled. We are eternal after all. And since our very existence gives birth to new desires/dreams, we’ll never ever get all those dreams fulfilled. That’s why the journey, the joyful journey, is the goal.

I like knowing that. So do my clients when they get it. It’s the awesome joy that burst forth from Jon and Alley. And I’m appreciating being a witness to their joyful expression.

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How To Bend The Government To Your Will

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TLDR: The author uses their personal experience using the power of deliberate creation to influence their government to suggest that everyone can do the same. The example shows how individuals hold the ultimate power. Not governments.

The power of government, like the power of everything, lies within you. You can shape the government to your desires. Doing so, however, requires high-level alignment to All That Is. That is, you cannot push against the tide of All That Is. And All That Is is progressive.

All That Is is constantly expanding into more. It voraciously moves in the direction of the undiscovered. All That Is seeks that which is new, that which has never been done before. So if you’re trying to thwart something you think is unfair, immoral or “against nature” or even “against god”, then you push against the tide of All That Is.

Humans have a way of thinking they understand what All That Is is about. They’ve written books about their thinking and called those books “the will of god”. But the god they think is god isn’t that. Sure, there’s wisdom in those books. After all, humans are god in human form.

But because of the nature of “human” a lot of distortion lies in those books too. The trick of getting at the wisdom is knowing the difference between the wisdom and the distortion.

This story details an unfolding thrilling me these last few days. It’s evident of everything you just read. You are the creator of your reality. All of it. That means your government too. Here’s an example of how you can shape it to your will.

Let’s dive in.

Shaping your government flows from your focus

First we must realize the government we experience is uniquely ours. It’s not the same government others experience.

That’s because every point of consciousness exists in its own reality. And that reality emerges from and reflects back to it, the consciousness experiencing it.

This explains again why trying to force others to accept your version of what you want brings difficulty and resistance. People inherently know they create their own reality. So they’ll naturally resist something that isn’t their creation.

And yet, those who don’t know what you just read are willing stooges. Others can easily dupe them into following a “leader” because those people live mainly in a subtle, yet pervasive sense of insecurity. An insecurity that has them reaching for relief from that insecurity through a source external to them. This is what we see with both major political parties and politicians in general. Politicians are happy to be that external source. But politicians also are insecure, which explains why so much churn exists in politics.

But you don’t need involve yourself in any of that to enjoy a government that supports what you desire. You only need to focus on what you want. Focus on what you want purely and with a delicate form of nonchalance, and the government will bend to your desire. It won’t happen instantly, but it must happen if you hold your focus.

That’s what happened with me over the last three years.

Many think god will line up against their enemies. They claim that being is on their side. They couldn’t be more wrong.

Deliberate creation springs from one’s emotions

Back in 2021 then president-elect Biden ran on a platform which included forgiving student loan debt. He wasn’t the only one. Several other progressives at the time argued for doing the same. Existing provisions in federal law offered paths to student loan debt forgiveness. But Biden wanted to expand that.

As a holder of student debt myself, I was all for it. The moment candidates began talking about this, I was on board. Indeed, I had a strong sense my student debt would be forgiven. So I held lightly the idea and doing so pleased me. So did the idea. This is a positive sign.

Nearly every new client, when asked the purpose of emotions, gets the answer wrong. Which tells me people don’t understand emotions’ purpose. But this is a crucial bit of information! Without it, humans literally are adrift on a sea of emotions, bobbing around on waves with no control, no rudder, no way to steer a course. Without course selection ability, they remain buffeted by the waves. Waves coming in the form of the latest “breaking” news, or the latest “leader” trying to get their attention, their vote, their money or all of the above.

But those who understand emotions’ purpose enjoy tremendous influence. Not influence over others, although that happens, but influence over their reality. They can literally shape their reality to their desires, thereby becoming deliberate creators.

That’s what I was doing by noticing how pleased I felt while entertaining the idea of the government forgiving my student loan debt.

Biden expressing his intents on student loan forgiveness back in 2020.

The soft focus creates manifestation

Now, emotions don’t create reality. Reality emerges as vibration energy assembles about itself along frequencies matching the core vibration. All that happening doesn’t feel like much at first.

Not long after momentum ensues, however, vibration becomes thought. And our brains are designed to interpret evolved or expanded vibration that is thought into thought form. That’s what happens in the process humans call “thinking”.

Our job as humans is to hold that focus on that evolved or expanded vibration. Doing that, we add our own momentum to the unfolding. In time, that focus must move that vibrational expansion into a manifestation; a manifestation our senses interpret as “physical reality”.

So as I felt pleasure thinking this idea of the government forgiving my debt, I focused on the pleasure and the idea. Not with a rigid death grip on the idea, but a soft focus similar to what martial artists practice at advanced levels. Doing that, I could feel momentum increase. What happened next was part of the unfolding.

The following year I had a dream. In the dream I stood in line with others who all were getting their student loan debt forgiven. Here’s my journal entry recording the experience.

A dream where I am fulfilling my desire!

Dreams are an important aspect of deliberate creation. Knowing their role adds confidence to the whole process. So the fact I had a dream about having my student loan paid off helped bolster my belief in what was happening.

Nothing can resist momentum

Of course, most republicans were not OK with democrats proposing what they were proposing. In fact, many right wingers even now oppose the idea. Those who claim people should “pull their own weight” and “pay their debts” have no idea what’s happening in All That Is. They’re literally clueless.

I wonder, what did conservatives who think people should “earn their living and pay their debts” do to “earn” their place in reality? How did they earn their being born into the world? How are they earning the air they breathe, or the energy of the sun that warms them and the planet for their benefit? I often wonder how they earned the results of all those who came before them; who dedicated their lives and energy to creating the future; the things and ideas that these people today enjoy?

If conservatives really looked at what’s happening in physical reality, they would see they earn none of what matters most in their lives. Indeed, these things flow to everyone equally in a state of massive abundance. An abundance that is constantly becoming more.

So when republicans started trying to put the kibosh on Biden’s plans to forgive student loan debt, even when their efforts got to the Supreme Court, and those nitwits ruled Biden’s first attempt unconstitutional, I held my focus. I knew this was evidence of “what is” pushing back against what is becoming. And so I stood my vibrational ground, knowing all would unfold as I desired.

Nothing can withstand new momentum once it gets underway. Including momentum of what is. Indeed, because of this, the deliberate creator can experience the “push back” inherent in “what is” not as resistance, but as a sign of things going their way.

How physical matter works

What is, the state of reality in physical, is vibrational momentum at a state actualized into reality. Humans think this state — what is — is the now, the present. But it’s not the present. What is, is the past. It has manifestED. What’s manifestINGis the present moment, the now. And that always trumps “what is” eventually because All That Is ALWAYS wants more.

But what is, the energy inherent in it, enjoys its own momentum. So it kind of pushes back on that which is becoming. That’s a natural part of how physical matter works: it will resist somewhat that which emerges from it. That’s right, what’s becoming ALWAYS emerges from what is. This state of emergence is the contrast Abraham refers to so often.

The problem with human perception is we amplify what is by focusing on it. We also amplify it by reacting to it. Amplification causes what is to persist.

The key to having anything improve is not focusing on physical reality therefore. When we instead focus on what we desire as an emerging reality, we add momentum to and amplify that. Then that happens faster and easier.

That’s what I did when the SCOTUS ruled against Biden’s plans. I knew even the “highest court in the land” can’t stand against that which I create.

The SCOTUS ruling was just last year. More than two years had gone by. I was determined in my focus. I know how reality happens. So I didn’t allow myself to feel daunted by the SCOTUS ruling. Instead, I felt even more committed that my debt would be forgiven.

What happened next convinced me even more.

It’s always about the journey

After the Supreme Court ruling, Biden took a different tack. He found a way around the ruling, thus forgiving some $48B in student debt the same year the court struck down his earlier attempt.

I knew this was a positive sign. Momentum ensued further and by February this year the administration had forgiven over $138B in student loan debt. By this time, I knew the government would forgive my own debt soon.

And that’s exactly what happened.

The best indicator showing that your desired reality is flowing into your experience is that you aren’t thinking about it hardly at all. And when it happens, it just feels like an “of course”. This is especially true for those big manifestations we’re wanting.

That’s because by the time momentum has built to the point of manifestation, you just know it’s happening. After all, this manifesting business isn’t about the manifestations. It’s really about the journey to the manifestation.

Manifestations’ value lie in their unfolding. When we hold a desire, we summon life force through us. That feeling of life force flowing is what puts the eternal in eternity. So the more desires we have, the more we contribute to All That Is. This explains why people have so many desires!

The problem for many people is they don’t know what you’re reading. So they don’t know how to line up and receive what they’re creating. And that explains why things often take a long time to improve: people aren’t lining up with their desire. So they die without real-izing their desires. Meanwhile, future generations get to experience them. So it’s all good!

Feeling great feels great

All the while, as the administration forgave people’s loans, they said eligible people would get an email from the Department of Education. So on Friday, when I received my email, I wasn’t surprised at all. Instead, I just felt really, really pleased. Pleased and confident that “I did this.”

My email from the Department of Education.

It was an “of course” when I saw it in my inbox. But it also indicated something else. With the doubling of my clients, and the increase in the rate I’m charging clients, I’m doing very, very well in manifesting money in my life. Indeed, I’m on track to enjoying a six-figure income from my client practice.

In addition to that, I have other manifestations in the works regarding money. Really big, exciting manifestations. And I know this student loan forgiveness manifestation is a stepping stone along that path to financial abundance.

With this forgiveness I’m officially debt-free. That feels great. My plans for my financial future are HUGE. And thinking about them, like I thought about this student loan forgiveness manifestation, means they, too, are unfolding…all in perfect timing.

But what really feels great is the feeing of feeling great. It is the epitome of life experience. The Charmed Life I write about is the feeling I’m describing here. Sure, the manifestations are fantastic. But what really feels great is the ongoing feeling of improved mood. A feeling of joy, of confidence, of clarity.

Clarity that I am a deliberate creator. One who creates their reality deliberately. There’s nothing better than that.

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What Happens When I Share Advice Of My Eternal Being

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TLDR: The author’s experience with their higher consciousness results in a transformative outcome for their client who struggles with not wanting to be seen as a “cry-baby”.

Wisdom flowing from my Broader Perspective delights everyone who hears it. Clients often talk about “golden nuggets” I share during sessions. These nuggets represent peals of wisdom coming from All That Is. All That Is being expressed by my Broader Perspective.

This happens, of course, because now I’m chronically tuned to my Broader Perspective. That’s the aspect of All That Is that is the larger part of me — That part of me that remained in nonphysical while another part of me incarnated in this body.

By allowing that Broader Perspective connection as a dominant aspect of my consciousness, I can feel its communication. That communication feels deeply satisfying. And when I receive communication, accompanying it is a strong urge to express it.

That expression is what sounds like “golden nuggets”. Sharing such a nugget is what happened recently, to the delight of a newer client. Let’s take a look at what happened.

Some background

This client, like many people, came into the world through a family of “no nonsense people”. Her mother, and her mother’s mother…and so on through past generations…believed crying to be a sign of weakness. Compounded upon that belief are stories about what it means to be a woman.

So this client, as many clients do, came to her beginning sessions with a lot of resistance about letting go of resistance. One natural way we let go of resistance is through crying. Crying represents a manifested form of abundance. It’s what happens when variation inherent in life experience is so abundant, and our focus on that so acute, we go into a state of overwhelm.

Now my clients recognize the value of the emotion “overwhelm”. All emotions give us crucial information. But the majority of people don’t know this, which explains why so many people think crying makes someone a “cry-baby”.

If that natural expression doesn’t happen, emotional build up within the human body can get so strong, it can cause other physical and mental manifestations. Manifestations like disease, for example. Or anxiety.

In fact, most “disease” results from this. Medical science is beginning to recognize that fact. In a later post, I’ll write about discoveries science is finding. Discoveries confirming what spiritual adepts like me have known since ancient times: That our bodies are manifestations of our beliefs.

In short, it’s important to release resistance. Doing so serves many goals. For one, it contributes to physical well being. Secondly, it allows us to live lives where things we want happen with little effort on our part. Other reasons support releasing resistance. But these are two big ones; at least as far as humans are concerned.

Ok, back to this client.

A beautiful communication

So this client expressed strong knee-jerk reactions to my suggestion that she should let her tears flow. “Andersons [not her real surname] don’t cry” she kept saying. It was a mantra for her, even while we spoke about her father’s passing, a subject over which she had a lot of resistance. Indeed, as if in spite of this mantra, tears began flowing down her face. What a juxtaposition of manifestations!

This conversation would continue into the next session. Meanwhile, the next morning, I came out of the dream world with communication from my Broader Perspective on this topic. The communication came fully-formed. Along with it came a strong impulse to share it. So I made myself a reminder to send the client a text after my morning rituals.

When my reminder popped up, I sent the message. It was a while before the client responded, but I knew the message hit its mark. It was from my Broader Perspective after all. And my Broader Perspective’s wisdom is unerring. Here’s what I sent. The client’s response follows:

Resurrect your wisdom

When I received the “download”, as many new agers call this communication, its beauty astounded me as well. After writing it, I too, like my client, read it and re-read it. It does flow with amazing clarity and grace. It’s almost poetic.

This is the kind of thing that’s available to all of us. We are eternal beings experiencing human conditions as a way of expanding what we are. In doing so we also expand All That Is, including humanity and this world.

Most humans live through this experience as humans. But some come into the world with strong enough clarity to want more. They know this is not all there is. And in that knowing, they spark within themselves a rebirth, usually after some time spent as an ordinary human. This process is what Neville Goddard referred to as “the resurrection.”

I like that way of putting it.

Resurrection is a glorious experience. All that follows that experience fills one with such delight, words can’t get close to describing the expeirence. I encourage anyone with an iota of interest in the spiritual, anyone who sees themselves as a seeker, to pursue their interest; to become a finder. Tap into your Broader Perspective communication, receive delightful messages of beauty and wisdom. Then see your life transform.

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Is Relationship Anarchy The Way To Better Love?

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TLDR: Relationship Anarchy (RA) challenges traditional relationship norms by advocating for love without entitlement and relationships defined by personal values. However, the term’s negative connotations and anarchist affiliations have created misunderstandings. Despite RA’s merits, it cannot eclipse the ultimate relationship with one’s Broader Perspective, which provides unconditional love and fulfillment beyond what any human partnership can offer.

A relatively new relationship dynamic is emerging. More people find it a satisfying way to express themselves romantically and intimately while finding companionship. It’s called Relationship Anarchy (RA).

In this post we’re going to look at this new dynamic relationship model. Instead of getting into it deeply, we will compare it to what we recommend regarding relationships. That’s because, it’s a definite improvement on humanity’s past “success” with relationships. But it still falls short of the ultimate relationship: that one relationship that gives us everything we want. Including satisfying relationships.

So let’s take a look at Relationship Anarchy. Then let’s contrast that against the ultimate relationship. The only one through which we get everything we want.

What is RA?

Andie Nordgren coined the phrase Relationship Anarchy in 2006. Her English manifesto on the matter, written in 2012, gives broad strokes on what it looks like. The way Andie describes it, RA sounds great!

Among the broad strokes is the assertion that love is abundant. RA says entitlement runs rampant in traditional relationships and that entitlement should be replaced with love and respect. Andie recommends that people define their values, then use frequent communication to infuse their relationship with those values, alongside a partner who shares them.

The biggest shift from traditional relationships is Andie’s suggestion to “customize” one’s relationship and commitment. Rather than relying on social norms, Andie says, we should define our relationship on our own terms while ignoring society’s expectations.

It’s no wonder then that Wikipedia includes RA in its non-monogamy
and polyamory series.

Anarchist affiliations…not good

And while Andie describes it optimistically without comparing it to something else, Wikipedia takes a different tack. And this is where problems start to show up.

That’s because the word “anarchy” itself is problematic. It brings a lot of bad interpretations to the table. Further, most people familiar with the term see anarchy as destructive. Even though anarchists claim the concept to be quite constructive. Historically, the movement has not been constructive, however.

The result is anarchy is seen predominantly as “anti-“. It’s also often associated with violence.

We can’t be “anti” something without enflaming that thing we’re against. Which explains why anarchists have made virtually no progress in creating society based on its merits.

And that brings us back to RA. And Wikipedia.

The anti relationship

The Wikipedia entry on RA describes its principles as pretty much anti-everything. At least when it comes to relationships. I would argue Andie doesn’t see RA that way. Andie’s characterization is fresh, positive and encouraging. But the Wikipedia entry. Well, see for yourself:

Indeed, this article, featuring two people in an RA relationship, speak in similar language. They contrast and define their relationship by what it’s not, comparing it to existing, undesirable relationships (according to them).

Now it could be the Wikipedia contributor who wrote the article is biased. He could interpret “anarchy” as “anti”. But the article linked in the above paragraph also characterizes RA as a “political” take on relationships. One trying to redefine what relationships look like. One also striving to “fix” power dynamics some RA believers think are bad.

But can we really define something based on what it is not? I think Andie does a better job describing the concept. It seems, however, many took the concept in a different direction.

The best relationship

Which brings me to the point of this piece. RA is great. It’s offers a fresh view of relationships. It certainly offers better options. Better options for those who feel uncomfortable with amatonormative edicts. It’s therefore not surprising the couple in this article includes both a trans person and a queer woman.

And yet, all relationships with other people fall short when compared to the one relationship that gives us everything we want. That is, our relationship with our Broader Perspective. While it’s nice finding love in another’s eyes, that love will nearly always be conditional.

Even in an RA relationship.

For even there, a person must find connections with people who have similar values. That makes sense. But even then, people will sometimes end up in conflict. What the couple does in that case depends a lot on how stable they are within themselves. And there’s no better stability than that found in our Broader Perspective.

Besides, our relationship with our Broader Perspective opens us to a love causing other loves to pale in comparison. It’s strong. It’s lasting. Our Broader Perspective’s love literally overwhelms us in its depths. And it feels freaking great!

Furthermore, through our Broader Perspective, everything is possible. Including finding the perfect partner. That is, if one wants that. This relationship is the best relationship out there. In so many ways it offers what human ones cannot.

When we put our Broader Perspective relationship first, others happen easily. (Photo by Oziel Gomez on Unsplash)

Literally everything we want..including freedom from death

Our Broader Perspective relationship is here to lead us to everything we want. All our desires get fulfilled through it. Our Broader Perspective constantly showers us with that which we’re wanting. When we put that relationship up front, those things flow easily into our reality.

Human partners can help us get things. They can connect us with jobs. They may even connect us with financial opportunity. But those too often come through filters, filters that often aren’t in synch with what we really want.

In other words, our Broader Perspective knows us best. It knows what will thrill us. It knows the best path to everything we want. Whether that be a material thing, or something else.

But the biggest thing that relationship offers is something no human can touch. It offers freedom from the fear of death. I know, that sounds crazy. After all, so many of us are too busy living. Too busy living to think about death.

Well, it seems that way.

But most people’s fear of death is front and center in their lives. It’s one reason people worry about time running out. Their fear of getting old has its basis in death. So does their fear of being single.

Fear of death takes many forms

The fear of death is pervasive in the world. It doesn’t feel like it’s about death though. That’s because the fear hides behind other fears.

What kind of fears? Fears of being cast out of a group, for example. The fear of losing one’s job is another. The fear of being unable to support one’s family is yet another. As is the fear of one’s human partner betraying us. There are plenty more.

These fears mimic the ultimate fear, which is the fear of dying.

And so people respond to all these fears in predictable ways. They’re impatient. They’re demanding. They are desperate. And in that, they cut themselves off from the one thing that can relieve them of all these fears and more: their Broader Perspective.

The fear of ending up here can take many forms. (Photo by davide ragusa on Unsplash)

Now I’m not saying don’t have human partners. What I am saying is, first, ground ourselves in the one partnership giving us everything we want. Including the beating of our hearts and the breath we take.

And when one finds that, there’s little “need” for anything else. Because everything else naturally flows from there. Including human love.

I’m in favor of RA. I wish it had a different name. RA is closer to the Broader Perspective love I’ve described in this post than many of the other relationships humans form. Including parent-child relationships. There’s still a ways to go though.

The better it gets the better it gets

And isn’t that the great thing about life experience? There is always a ways more to go. Because life is eternal. We never get to the end. We’re never perfect. But in the perfection of the now, we are perfect. Not perfect as in “complete”. Not perfect as in “done”. But perfect in our becoming more.

Standing there, I see this RA concept fitting what I want in partnership. With my stability rooted in my Broader Perspective, I know what I’m wanting is on the way. I’m eager to see it unfold. I’ve had tastes of it. And I’m patient for further unfolding.

Andie’s onto something. I’m eager to learn more about RA. But I’m clear something better exists. I enjoy that something now. Which allows me to feel excitement. Excitement and joy about those finding satisfaction in RA.

Good partnerships elude many. That’s because many look there for something that’s not there. Something that only comes from a relationship with themselves. I write this blog to show people how to “know thyself”. And in doing that, find happiness from within. Instead of looking for it outside themselves.

My clients consistently find that happiness. Along the way, they get more of what they want too. Their examples fill me with eagerness. They also amplify my own happiness. A happiness that gets better and better.

Maybe you’re ready for your version of that? If you are, contact me. Let’s get you started. Let’s find out how “better” life can get.

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When A Scam Is An Awesome Gift Of Love

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I suppose most people think being scammed is a bad thing. But a scammer taking advantage of you tells you something really good.

No, it doesn’t tell you you’re stupid. Or that you should be more aware…although you probably should. What it is telling you is that there is something happening inside you that makes you a match to that experience.

Yes, the scam “victim” draws that experience into their life. Being scammed isn’t a random event. No event is. Instead, it’s a reflection of an inner state, a vibrational state. The event vibrationally matches that inner state, so it shows up in the scammed person’s experience as manifested reality.

This is exactly what happened with a client recently, although she caught it early enough to avoid being scammed. Just like I did before.

I wrote about what most people would say was the positive side of this experience last week. But this week I’m going to share another positive side. A side most would probably think was “negative”.

But it’s not. It’s very, very positive.

Desperation: a great money maker

As I wrote last week, this client finds herself attached to a certain guy. This guy waffles in his affection for her. The client knows she deserves better. But because of beliefs causing her attachment, she can’t pull herself away from the guy. I mean, she could, but she feels compelled not to.

As a result, she wants him to change. But he won’t change. That’s because her focus remains on his waffling behavior. She doesn’t like that behavior. But because she fixates on it, it persists.

Not only that. It’s getting stronger.

And as it does, her desire for it to change gets stronger too. So the two amplify each other. That amplification leaves my client feeling desperate. And desperation is what the vibration feels like that makes one a match to scammers.

Especially scammers who use the potential of finding love as their leverage.

No where are people more desperate than in their pursuit of love. They’re willing to spend thousands to get it. They’re also willing to kiss a lot of frogs.

Meanwhile, the endearing, unconditional love they seek in the world around them exists closer than they think. It’s right there inside them. It’s the connection between them and their Broader Perspective. And when a person connects to that, love from another human pales in comparison.

The irony is, when a person has this inner relationship front-and-center, human relationships get better. And love one wants from another human gets better too.

Conditional love or unconditional love?

The client in question doesn’t have this Broader Perspective relationship front-and-center though. Instead, she’s allowed her relationship with Mr. Waffle to displace that relationship. And this is why she feels desperate. Because love from another human always comes with conditions. Broader Perspective love, however, is unconditional.

Displace that unconditional love with conditional love and the immediate feeling is insecurity. Keep it there long enough and insecurity turns to worry, concern, fear, jealousy and even hatred. These emotions happen when that unconditional love another human brings to the table bears out as unconditional: when they get mad at us for not meeting their expectations. Or for doing something they don’t like.

Our Broader Perspective has no conditions we can’t meet. It doesn’t get mad at us. We don’t irritate it. It just loves us, period.

A person trying to rely on conditional love can develop feelings of desperation when everything they try fails to coax their partner into behaving the way they want. That’s what was happening with this client. And that’s why she was feeling desperation.

Finding her way

So last week when those four new perfectly-matched dating options showed up, the client was overjoyed, at first. As she explored one of them more deeply, however, he turned out to be a scammer. A scammer preying on people desperate for love.

This revelation had the client feeling angry, then sad. But what was happening wasn’t sad. It didn’t have to be anger-inducing either. That’s because the experience showed my client exactly where she was vibrationally. And if she didn’t know where she was vibrationally standing, she couldn’t do anything about it.

Thankfully, the client’s Broader Perspective got her attention well enough to trigger skepticism about this person. She looked into it a bit more, then discovered the plot.

She’s still struggling though. She hasn’t yet found her way through disempowering stories on various subjects. Stories that have her feeling vibrationally low. And creating circumstances, events…and men, projecting that low vibration back to her.

And yet, improvement is on the horizon. So long as one persists in their focus, their desire to improve their vibration, that will happen. Then the world must reflect that improved vibration back to her in the form an improving life experience.

In the meantime, this client already has created enough evidence on other subjects proving the Positively Focused Way works. So she’s going to persist. Which means she’s eventually going to get everything she desires. Including a satisfying relationship.