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How Life Confirms I’m Becoming a Shapeshifter

TL;DR: The author describes how a client seeking a shapeshifting instructor reflects two years of sustained alignment, illustrating how physical reality gradually confirms inner transformation through practical, leading-edge manifestations.

Earlier this week, I received a surprising phone call. A woman called me to learn more about what I do with clients. She had watched my YouTube videos and spoke with genuine enthusiasm about the depth, clarity, and care she felt coming through them. She described my explanations of All That Is and the nature of the Universe as “masterful,” and she was especially struck by the way I relate to people—how grounded and personal the work feels.

After we talked for a while, she told me she wanted to become a client. I rarely do what happened next because it doesn’t matter to me how people find me. I know it’s always through the process of vibrational resonance (attraction).

This time, however, my Broader Perspective encouraged the question. So, I asked how she had found my channel. I don’t run ads or conduct deliberate marketing campaigns. I don’t optimize aggressively for search. Her answer came as a massive confirmation:

“I was searching for a shapeshifting instructor.”

I actually laughed when I heard that. Of all the possible searches she could have typed into a search bar, that was the one that led her to me? No other explanation could suffice for why this person found me. She was a manifestation, a confirmation of my own focus on becoming a shapeshifter.

Physical Reality as a Lagging Indicator

The person on the other end of the line, a seventy-nine year old, deeply mystical, highly perceptive, person obviously devoted to living consciously, was particularly drawn to the two videos I posted about the Ant and the Grasshopper fable. She said she, sensed something in them that spoke to a deeper mechanics of reality rather than surface-level motivation. She noted – correctly – that I have only one real video about shapeshifting. I pointed her to my blog where I’m developing a series of written posts on my shapeshifting adventure, which includes this one.

A core principle of the Positively Focused framework is that physical reality doesn’t provide instantaneous feedback on our manifestation desires. Instead, physical reality is a lagging indicator. What shows up around us today, reflects vibrational harmony we’ve already been holding, often for quite some time.

When we truly align with a desire, the Universe doesn’t usually respond with the final form right away. Instead, it offers evidence along a gradient. First comes internal validation, initially as a thought or active belief, then as emotional response to that thought or belief. After that come less subtle confirmations; more thoughts like the initial ones, stronger emotional responses. Then, increasingly, tangible reflections that say, “Yes, this direction is correct.” start showing up in physical reality. These show up as reflections of our increasing alignment.

Alignment to what?

Alignment to the probable future reality which has within it the full-blown manifested desire. The woman on the phone fit that pattern perfectly.

The Gradual Unfolding is a Co-Creation

She didn’t arrive as proof that shapeshifting is complete or finished. She arrived as evidence that alignment is well underway. That distinction matters. Completion is static. Alignment is continual and unfolding. The more I expand, there more there is to expand into. So we never get “there” because there’s always more “there” to experience.

What struck me most about this connection, however, was how unnecessary this manifestation was for survival, income, or validation. Just twenty-four hours earlier, I set an intention to manifest another client as part of my roster. I was practicing the feeling place of the fulfillment of that manifestation. In other words, at my level in the Positively Focused practice I tune to the vibrational frequency of that which I desire as done. I no longer see the feeling of “manifesting” or “receiving”. There’s a big difference in that distinction.

So I wasn’t seeking clients for shapeshifting instruction. I wasn’t positioning myself as a teacher in that arena. And yet, here was someone who not only showed up as a manifestation of my desire (another client) but also someone looking for something so specific it HAD to pertain only to me. By the way, two other people wrote me on Medium.com asking me to teach them. I hadn’t heard back from them.

This person showing up represented an expansion from that previous point where I received interest but not engagement. Perhaps that was because I wasn’t all that interested in receiving another client.

Interestingly, since that call with that woman, I’ve held steady the vibrational frequency of expecting more clients. I’ve done that just as an experiment to see what happens. In just five days, two more people have expressed interest in becoming clients.

That’s how I know something is real. When life reflects a trajectory in such specific detail, I can’t miss it!

Two Years of Holding the Frequency

I began consciously working with shapeshifting as a lived practice in 2023. I wanted to show myself how far I could take Abraham’s words about anything being possible. What awaited me was proving to myself what consciousness can do when it’s allowed to move beyond inherited constraints.

This message really got my interest in becoming a shapeshifter into gear.

Over the past two years, the signals in my body have been consistent and unmistakable. I’ve felt sustained activity along the spine, particularly in regions associated with integration and perception. Sensations in the cerebellum and what many refer to as the third-eye region have come and amplified in waves, often accompanied by deep calm rather than drama.

At times, I’ve experienced clear energetic impressions of the body preparing to reorganize, as if receiving new instructions it already understands how to follow. None of this has felt forced. And it has happened gradually, in a timing allowing me to let go of resistance I have to the experience of my body changing shape. As a result of that 2-year dedication, my dominant feeling has turned from inquiry and excitement to calm readiness.

What has also become clear is that physical readiness does not override belief readiness. The body may be willing, but Belief Constellations still matter. Mental momentum, cultural conditioning, and long-held assumptions about what is possible all carry energetic weight.

That’s where the real work has been. Soothing resistance gently and honestly, allowing various Belief Constellations to give way in favor of a new set of beliefs. Beliefs more aligned with my desire.

The Caller as a Leading-Edge Manifestation

This caller embodies something important. She is not a mirror of who I have been, but of who I am becoming. That distinction is subtle, but profound.

In our second conversation, she shared that she felt she knew me from a previous life, one that took place roughly six hundred years ago in Greece. I didn’t need to validate or dismiss that perception. What mattered was the clarity with which she navigates non-physical reality and the ease with which she recognizes energetic continuity.

Like several of my clients, she identifies as being on the spectrum. Her perception is unfiltered in a way that feels precise rather than diffuse. She isn’t reaching for meaning. She’s recognizing patterns she already understands. That offers tremendous potential for her with the Positively Focused practice. It’s this type of person I’m eager to work with.

What makes her arrival so significant is not just that she wants to learn about shapeshifting, but that she acted on that desire. As I wrote above, earlier signs had already appeared. In 2023, after I published A Practical Guide to Becoming a Shapeshifter, two people commented asking me to teach them what I was exploring.

Those were early echoes. This caller represents expansion. The same signal, amplified. Interest turned to engagement. Curiosity now is commitment. That’s how manifestations grow.

The blog that got it all rolling…

How Major Manifestations Actually Arrive

There’s a persistent myth in spiritual spaces that big desires arrive suddenly and dramatically, as if the Universe flips a switch and Voila! It’s there. In reality, meaningful manifestations tend to unfold the same way living systems do: gradually, intelligently, and with feedback along the way.

Often, teachers like me find ourselves teaching what we are still integrating. When the momentum is clean, guidance flows naturally outward even as embodiment continues inward. I believe the caller felt this in my videos.

Again, her presence in my life doesn’t mean I’ve “arrived.” It means the path is unmistakably real. It means the frequency I’ve been holding has crossed a threshold where physical reality, that lagging indicator, confirms my thought on this subject is becoming a thing: the subject.

That’s the same principle illustrated in the Ant and the Grasshopper story when it’s told accurately. Alignment creates ease. Ease creates momentum. Momentum creates evidence humans call “reality”.

Gratitude Without Grasping

What I feel most strongly about this experience is appreciation without attachment. There’s no need to hurry anything. There’s no urge to capitalize, brand, or define.

Instead, there’s trust.

The caller’s arrival is not a destination. It’s a signpost. It’s a gentle, practical confirmation that alignment precedes manifestation, and that life faithfully reflects what we are willing to become.

Two years ago, this was an internal exploration. Today, it has a footprint in physical reality. And evidence such as this, when received calmly, is one of the most grounding gifts there is.

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How One Old Fable Hides the Truth About Abundance

TL;DR: The author reexamines Aesop’s famous fable through a spiritual lens, revealing how both diligence and joy arise naturally when aligned with one’s Broader Perspective—culminating in a liberating, heart-opening rewrite of the tale.

For centuries, Aesop’s fable The Ant and the Grasshopper has shaped our cultural mindset about productivity, planning, and what it means to live a good life. You probably know the story:

A diligent ant spends the summer storing food and preparing for winter. Meanwhile, a carefree grasshopper sings and dances in the sun. When winter comes, the grasshopper finds himself cold and hungry, and the ant—well-stocked and warm—scolds him for his laziness. The moral? Work hard today or suffer tomorrow.

But what if that moral is false? What if it’s not even close to how the Universe—or nature—actually works?

And what if that fable, passed down generation after generation, is one of the most well-worn distortions keeping us from trusting joy, spontaneity, and the natural abundance we’re born into?

Let’s take a look through a Positively Focused lens.

A Story Written by the Intellect

The entire structure of the fable rests on a fundamental assumption: that survival is scarce, and only through toil, planning, and resistance to the ease inherent in the now can we secure the future. The ant is praised for “working hard,” while the grasshopper is dismissed for “doing nothing.”

But here’s the truth: in real life, ants don’t know they’re “preparing for winter.” They follow their internal cues. Just as the grasshopper does. Neither is projecting fear into the future. Neither is planning in the way humans do. None of them are working hard. They are both moving as they are designed to move: in tune with the larger intelligence that orchestrates everything from tides to cloud formations to galaxies.

And humans? We’ve overwritten that natural wisdom within us with fear-based beliefs.

The fable upholds a distorted version of value: that worthiness is earned through struggle. That the present moment is a trap unless you’re using it to prepare for the next one. Indeed, indulging in joy, spontaneity, and trusting life will lead to punishment.

This is exactly the kind of thinking that the Positively Focused practice helps us unravel.

The Trap of “Working Hard”

So many of my clients — beautiful, gifted people — come to me carrying this exact programming. I once did too. It shows up in our relationship to money, our creative work, our ability to rest, our relationship to the now, even our self-worth.

Nearly all of us have internalized the idea that ease is irresponsible and joy is unearned. That any expression not tethered to utility or “the grind” is frivolous. And what’s more? We often judge ourselves for wanting to follow our bliss.

But that desire for joy isn’t laziness. It’s guidance.

The desire to bask in the sun, to play a song, to take a nap, to follow an impulse with no “productive” outcome—that’s not a failure of discipline. It’s our Broader Perspective calling us back to our natural alignment. The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to vibration.

Which means: the better we feel, the more the Universe can give us what we ask for.

Joy Is Not Optional—It’s the Signal

The fable pits joy and responsibility against one another. But in reality, they’re inseparable. When we’re aligned, when we’re feeling good, when we’re trusting the unfolding—everything gets taken care of. Including “winter.”

Our Broader Perspective is always guiding us toward the version of our lives where our needs are met, our desires fulfilled, and our expression fully supported. Not through spreadsheets and strain, but through resonance, clarity, and inspired action.

And when contrast shows up—as it did for me recently in the form of forgotten financial fears or a friend’s gloomy worldview—I use it not as a reason to panic, but as an invitation to realign.

When I do that, reality literally shifts. Money shows up on the ground. Clients confirm they’re staying. Opportunities fall into place. My YouTube momentum picks up.

And I didn’t plan for any of it. I allowed it. That’s what the fable misses entirely.

The Grasshopper, Reframed

In this light, the grasshopper isn’t a cautionary tale. He’s a symbol of non-resistance. He holds trust that summer is here to be savored. He’s letting the Universe do the heavy lifting. And the winter? Maybe it never even arrives. But only for him. Because he doesn’t plan for a winter. He aligns to constant abundance.

I know that sounds radical. But I’ve experienced it. So have my clients.

The more aligned we are, the more time and space shift around us. Apparent “deadlines” extend. Unexpected windfalls appear. People bend over backwards to support us. It’s not fantasy. It’s the physics of focus.

So rather than teach the next generation to be afraid of “winter”, what if we taught them to trust their inner song, follow their delight? To move with nature rather than brace against it?

That’s the version of the story I want to tell. And maybe next time, when the ant passes the grasshopper in late autumn, he doesn’t sneer. Maybe he sits down. Listens. And hears a melody that melts the frost of his fears.

The Ant and the Grasshopper: A Story of Alignment

Once upon a summer’s morning, the Earth hummed with golden light. In a quiet clearing, two small beings went about their lives.

One was an Ant. Tireless. Methodical. She moved in lines—back and forth from her colony—gathering bits of grain, storing them deep beneath the soil. Her legs ticked like a clock. Her eyes stayed fixed on the horizon, where winter loomed in her mind like a shadow.

The other was a Grasshopper. Luminous. Iridescent. He leapt through tall stalks of grass, chirping melodies that rose with the breeze. Sunned himself on warm stones. He ate when he was hungry. Slept when he was tired. And sang because it pleased him.

The Ant watched him with a kind of pity.

“Why do you waste time like this?” she called. “You should be working. Winter is coming. You’ll starve.”

The Grasshopper paused. “I trust the Earth,” he replied. “Right now, it’s summer. So I sing.”

The Ant shook her head. “You’ll regret this.”

The Grasshopper didn’t answer. A breeze moved through the field, and he leapt joyfully into it.

Seasons Shift, But Alignment Endures

As days passed, the meadow ripened. The sun stretched long and low. The Ant, now deep in her work, had gathered piles of food, stacked in careful rows. Her back ached. Her mind was restless. Though her pantry was full, her heart was not.

The Grasshopper?

He followed a pathless path. One day he discovered a patch of ripe blackberries. Another day, he encountered a stream with minnows glinting like coins. At night, he curled under leaves and listened to the stars.

He met a turtle who gave him shade. Then a robin who shared her song. And also child who left breadcrumbs from her picnic. He never lacked.

One afternoon, a heavy cloud rolled in. A chill swept the meadow. The Ant hurried home, burdened by fear. But the Grasshopper felt only stillness. He found a hollow log, warm and dry. He rested there. And dreamed.

The Reunion

Months passed. Spring returned. The Earth sighed green again. The Grasshopper stretched in the light. He felt no need to recount the past. Only to leap forward into joy. But as he passed near the Ant’s hill, he saw her—hunched and tired, sorting a new pile of grain. Her eyes darted, already planning for winter.

He approached gently. “Hello again,” he said.

She looked up, startled. “You survived?”

He smiled. “I did more than survive. I lived.”

She frowned. “But you had no food. No shelter. No plan.”

“I had presence,” he said. “And it brought everything I needed.”

She shook her head slowly. “That’s not how life works.”

He tilted his head. “Then whose life have you been living?”

The Moral

The Ant and the Grasshopper parted ways. But that night, as the Ant returned to her tasks, she paused. She thought of his song. The way his eyes shimmered with ease. The calm in his voice. And for the first time, she wondered: what if she had it backwards?

What if all her striving didn’t guarantee safety—but only delayed joy? Might the Grasshopper’s freedom not be luck… but alignment? What if the Universe wasn’t a test to pass… but a partner with whom to dance?

And then—just for a moment—she let herself rest…

And so, dear reader: The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to resonance. Prepare if you feel inspired. Work if it delights you. But above all—listen to your song. Because the grass isn’t greener. It’s alive. And it’s waiting for you to leap.

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How One Man Found Love’s Clarity in a Safeway

TL;DR: The author shares how a client’s emotional spiral after a brief romantic encounter revealed limiting beliefs. Through the Positively Focused process, he transformed the moment into a stepping stone toward true relationship alignment.

The Universe never makes mistakes. And yet, when things don’t go the way we think they should—especially in love—it’s easy to believe it did. That’s what happened to Dale, a dear client of mine, in an encounter that was as divinely orchestrated as any I’ve seen. Only he couldn’t see it. Not at first.

It started innocently enough. Dale was running errands at Walmart with his ex-wife, Athena. They had just come back from a gig and gone into the store separately. As Dale strolled through one of the aisles, he noticed a woman. Something about her shirt caught his attention—it had a Wiccan vibe, something Dale had explored in his past. They struck up a conversation. And just like that, a spark ignited. Not fireworks, but something even more powerful: resonance.

This wasn’t the kind of attraction born of physical lust or surface chatter. Dale and this woman began talking about life philosophies, spiritual perspectives, the big stuff. She even complimented Athena, not knowing the relationship. That felt meaningful to Dale. And then she asked for his number. Later that evening, she followed up with a text: “Do you like sushi?” And another: “How about Lady Gaga?”

Dale responded honestly. Sushi wasn’t his thing, and as for Lady Gaga, he didn’t think about her much—although he had appreciated her acting once. Still, the topics rubbed him the wrong way. He’d hoped their conversation would stay in that soulful, philosophical space. To him, these light questions felt like a departure, even a regression.

And then it happened.

Every manifestation carries contrast

A few days later, Dale ran into her again—this time at Safeway. He lit up at the coincidence, but her energy was different. Guarded. She told him she was working and quickly disengaged.

That was it.

That moment—the turn—triggered Dale hard. He plummeted into intense negative momentum. All-or-nothing thinking kicked in. “This is why I can’t trust people.” “This is why relationships don’t work.” “Why did she even ask for my number?” The mental spiral was swift and brutal.

And this is where the real value of the session began.

What Dale couldn’t yet see was that this was no failed encounter. This was a perfect co-creation, lovingly engineered by the Universe to show him something essential. He had, in fact, manifested precisely what he’d been asking for—a spontaneous connection with someone who met him at a high vibrational level. He’d been high-vibing on the subject of relationships for some time, and this woman appeared right on cue. It was a sign that his signal was working.

But every manifestation carries contrast. That’s how we grow.

This woman, without intending to, revealed Dale’s unresolved momentum around women, courtesy, rejection, and unspoken expectations. His judgments—about her makeup, her food choices, her pop culture interests—weren’t really about her. They were mirrors, reflecting beliefs he still carried: that people owe him politeness, that being ghosted is betrayal, that women who express themselves a certain way are immature or unworthy.

These beliefs had to come to the surface. Not to punish him, but to be soothed.

Dale stood at a crossroads about what he was manifesting….what happened next was important.

Tell a better-feeling story

Because here’s the truth: you cannot attract the relationship you want until you become a match to it. The Universe will keep sending stepping stones—beautiful, complex, sometimes painful interactions—that shine light on your inner vibration. If you meet these moments with curiosity, you’ll elevate. If you double down on your negative stories, you’ll stall.

And Dale stalled hard.

He went into a kind of emotional lockdown. “Maybe I’m not cut out for relationships,” he said at one point. “Maybe I should just stop trying.”

He wasn’t joking. The pain had twisted his thinking so tightly that one uncomfortable rendezvous made him question everything. But that, too, was perfect. Because it made the negative beliefs undeniable. And once something is seen clearly, it can be soothed.

I gently helped him unpack it. I reminded him: the Universe doesn’t respond to what’s “true”—it responds to belief. Every experience you have is confirmation, not contradiction. That’s why it’s so important to notice your judgments and soothe them—not suppress them, but transmute them. You do that by telling a better-feeling story.

In Dale’s case, the better-feeling story went something like this:

“Wow. Look at that! I manifested a woman out of nowhere who shared my values—at least at first glance—and asked for my number. She followed up. That was confirmation that my signal is active. Then, in the next phase, she brought up things that rubbed me the wrong way… but even that was helpful. She helped me see what beliefs I still carry that aren’t a match to the relationship I ultimately want. She wasn’t a mistake—she was a message.”

Attract by becoming

From that frame, Dale could start to feel empowered again. Not because she “should’ve” behaved differently, but because she behaved exactly as she needed to—so he could calibrate his vibration.

She was doing the same thing Dale was doing: looking for resonance. And when she sensed it wasn’t a match, she gracefully backed away. She was choosing herself. That wasn’t ghosting. That was clarity.

This is the power of contrast when met with consciousness. This is the beauty of vibrational refinement. You don’t attract what you want by demanding it from others. You attract it by becoming it. And you become it by soothing the parts of you that aren’t aligned.

The next time someone triggers us, let’s ask: “What is this showing me about me?” The answer might sting at first, but it’s the key to becoming a match to what we want. Dale’s encounter wasn’t a failure. It was a perfect stepping stone. And now he’s closer than ever.

Because the real relationship he’s cultivating… is with himself.

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The Real Reason You’re Still Not Feeling Better

TL;DR: In this, Part Three of the Four-Part series about Steven losing his keys, the author shares how they guided Steven through the emotional fallout of losing his keys. Doing so helped Steven discover that the contrast revealed his readiness—and how realignment begins when we stop performing and start feeling the process.

Steven sat across from me in-session online, his voice quiet, his energy low. I knew immediately he was in a very low vibrational state. The emotional turbulence of the past week lingered: the lost keys, his boss’s reaction, and most importantly, the stories he had been telling himself had him really low.

What made this session particularly rich was what it revealed—not just about Steven, but about how deep this practice really goes when applied in the midst of real-world contrast.

The session became a masterclass in vibrational leverage. Not because it resolved everything in a single sitting, or because I did anything special. It was a masterclass because it revealed how even seasoned practitioners can get caught in the swirl of their own stories… and how beautiful it is when they begin to emerge from that swirl.

Steven tried to apply one of the foundational Positively Focused processes. The process works every time, which is why it’s part of the basic practice framework. He tried applying it on his own. And to his credit, he didn’t just mentally revisit the steps. He truly attempted to walk himself through acknowledgment, acceptance, recognizing what his experience told him, and finally, amplification of the shift that happens naturally in step three.

Something wasn’t landing, however.

When the Practice Is Real

He described how he had tried to say the words aloud, to walk through the steps and feel some relief.

“I did the process,” he said. “But it didn’t really shift anything.”

But the practice does create a shift. So we had to troubleshoot. That’s when we uncovered the subtle but crucial gap: he had performed the process mechanically, without the presence that makes it effective.

That’s not uncommon. When the contrast is hot—when keys are missing, a boss is disappointed, and inner narratives are spiraling—it’s easy to rush the process instead of resting in it. That’s what Steven had done. He didn’t skip the steps, but he skipped over the alignment that makes them work.

So we slowed everything down. Together, we walked back through each stage—not as a checklist, but as a vibrational recalibration.

We began at the beginning: acknowledgment. That meant naming all the stories that were active in Steven’s consciousness giving rise to his negative emotions. The process is not about acknowledging them as facts, or the truth. It’s about acknowledging their presence within him. Stories like: “If I lose something, I’m irresponsible.” “I can’t be trusted.” And “Now I’ve ruined my chances at a promotion.”

Coming into acceptance

These weren’t new beliefs. They were old ones. Echoes of childhood moments, especially those involving his mother, where he felt criticized or held to unexpressed standards. His current boss, Richard, had become a mirror. Not because Richard was behaving badly, but because Steven’s vibration had summoned a version of him that matched old patterns.

This wasn’t failure. This was graduation.

The contrast had intensified not because Steven was off-track, but because he was ready to move beyond these stories he created long ago. As I reminded him gently, “You wouldn’t be experiencing this level of contrast if you weren’t ready for it.”

The next step was accepting the beliefs are there. This second step is different from the first. It’s about letting go of resistance and instead welcoming the old beliefs back into us. Resisting, not accepting a belief is what creates resistance. And resistance amplifies that which we resist. For Steven, this wasn’t about accepting fault, accepting fault would amplify resistance. That’s because there’s no such thing as blame or fault. Instead, he needed to accept what was.

Acceptance is not about blame.

What “was” was, He didn’t have his keys. His boss was disappointed. His momentum had taken him into a tailspin. But none of that was wrong. Thinking it wrong creates resistance. These things are simply what had occurred. By making peace with the moment—not as a judgment, but as a reflection—Steven began to find his footing.

Only then could we move to Step Three, the vibrational pivot.

Amplifying higher vibrations.

Here, I asked Steven to consider what his Broader Perspective was feeling. Was it shaming him? No. Was it blaming him? Certainly not. His Broader Perspective was seeing the wholeness of the moment. The opportunity. The expansion. A perfection so exquisite, created between him and his reflected reality. A perfection that could lead to more empowerment.

Steven’s eyes welled up when he saw that.

“I’ve been so afraid I ruined everything,” he said, voice quiet. “But now I get it. This isn’t about the keys.”

No, it wasn’t. It was about more alignment, expansion and empowerment. That clarity of awareness indicated Steve felt better. At least, at the very least, he felt relief, which is improved vibration. Now we entered the amplification phase.

This part isn’t about affirmations or hype. It’s about tuning in to the new emotional frequency and letting it fill the space. We do that through our imagination. We use our imagination to create new beliefs, new thoughts about what happened that stand in for old ones as the old ones soothe.

For Steven, that meant resting in a new truth: That he is not defined by mistakes. Trustworthiness isn’t earned—it’s embodied. That this moment, painful as it seemed, was sacred.

By the end of the session, Steven felt significantly better. The relief wasn’t euphoric, but it was stabilizing. He still wasn’t sure how things would unfold at work the next day. He still had concerns about how Richard would treat him. But he was no longer a victim of that perceived uncertainty.

He was still floating, still alive. He had reclaimed his oars. And from that place, even uncertain waters felt navigable.

Takeaway: Mastery Isn’t About Avoiding Contrast

The Four-Step Process outlined above doesn’t promise immediate resolution to external conditions. This is not magic. Neither is the rest of the Positively Focused framework. But it does offer something better: vibrational clarity and alignment with one’s Broader Perspective. And clarity is what allows new versions of reality to emerge.

New versions emerge as we walk into them. We can’t walk into them, however, if we don’t know where they are. Alignment with our Broader Perspective shows us where the doorways are and inspires us to walk through them into the new reality.

Steven hadn’t yet found his keys. He didn’t know what would happen tomorrow. But he was no longer at the mercy of momentum. He had re-entered his power—not as a performer or pleaser, but as a conscious creator. Contrast didn’t defeat him. It refined him. And in that, he was already victorious.

Read the final chapter tomorrow.

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Why Younger Leaders Make the Best Alignment Teachers

TL;DR: In this, Part 4, of a six-part series, the author shares how client Sally turned a firing into confirmation from the Universe, demonstrating the clarity and leadership that emerge when younger generations align with their broader perspective.

When I got on the call with Sally that evening, I wasn’t worried. I knew what kind of vibrational environment we had built together. But still—when I heard her voice, I felt deep satisfaction. She was calm. Clear. Even… radiant.

Sally had just been fired. But instead of spiraling, she immediately started receiving. A text from a woman she respected—her dance instructor—landed just minutes after the call. “You’re such a light,” it read. “I’m so glad to call you my friend.” Sally was floored. The timing was divine. And the message? Unmistakable.

Then, in the elevator of her building, a stranger looked at her with admiration and offered a spontaneous compliment on her beauty. Another confirmation. Another wink from the Universe.

None of this was coincidence. This was the Universe showing her: “You’re okay. In fact, you’re better than okay.”

A practice that delivers

I’ve long said younger generations are not here to be taught—they’re here to teach. Sally is at least 12 years younger than Jane, and that’s no accident. She’s fluid, adaptable, and, because she’s younger, less burdened by societal conditioning. A lot of Jane’s resistance comes from just having lived longer. Sally, on the other hand, flows easily with energy. It’s not that Jane is “wrong.” She’s just older. She’s here to build a foundation. Sally? She’s here to leap from it.

Let’s be clear: Sally still struggles with her own resistance. She’s getting better at that struggle every week, however. That’s because Sally is devoted to this practice. When I told Sally this, she smiled. She got it instantly. Not intellectually, but vibrationally. She felt the truth of her place in this unfolding.

Then Sally did something most people wouldn’t.

She said: “I want to continue the Positively Focused practice. Even if I have to pay for it myself. Are you willing?” Are you kidding me? Of course, I’m willing I told her. This is a woman who had just lost her job. But instead of retreating, she expanded. Instead of pulling back, she leaned in. That’s sovereignty.

And here’s the part that gives me chills because it shows how devoted she is to this practice: Sally had already dropped her therapist a few weeks earlier. Not because of dissatisfaction, but because the Positively Focused framework, she said, works better for her. She wanted deeper alignment, not traditional analysis. And now? The practice had proven itself in the real world. In the sharp contrast of a termination, it had delivered peace, clarity, and confirmation.

Leaping Into Her Own Leadership

Nearly all my clients create similar results for themselves. That includes Jane. After all, Jane was the client who manifested a diamond. And all my clients who once had therapists agree: Therapy just can’t match alignment to All That Is. That alignment not only is the leverage everyone’s looking for. It also feels tremendously good. And how could it not? It taps us into our sovereignty. There’s no better feeling than that. No healing required. Just clarity.

With her job at Jane’s company winding down, Sally saw what I had always seen: she’s not meant to be an employee. She’s meant to lead. To create in her unique way. To bring talents to the world no one has seen before.

And now, she’s getting ready to do it. She doesn’t see that potential fully enough to embrace it. But everyone is expanding. Everyone’s also eternal. So there’s no rush to get it all done right now. We couldn’t even if we wanted to.

I’m positive she’ll use the practice as her compass. I’ll be there as her coach as well. And the Universe? The Universe is already clearing the path.

Two more fabulous installments to this story that delivered manifestation after manifestation. We’ll resume with those last two installments beginning this Wednesday.

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When A Violent Attack Became A Great Gift

TL;DR: After years of misanthropic momentum, a client manifested a violent encounter—but responded with clarity and non-reaction. His experience shows how even violence can catalyze spiritual mastery and empowered sovereignty.

April was a banner month for Positively Focused clients. Nearly all clients enjoyed amazing manifestations. One manifested a free 1-Carat diamond. Another, effortlessly manifested a repeat music gig. These creations made April unusually invigorating. Their manifestations rivaled my own, including one in which I gifted to myself the power of precognition, and another where I effortlessly manifested a rendezvous with a person of interest.

But one advanced client’s manifestation stood out.

He took this Positively Focused practice to an entirely new level by demonstrating mastery well beyond previous awareness. His mastery proved the power of Jesus’ admonition to “turn the other cheek”. In doing so he completely diffused a violent situation in the midst of the violence.

This client’s Positively Focused practice began many years ago. Being trans-attracted brought him to the practice through my other offering, The Transamorous Network. I write about this client often, because he creates such powerful manifestations. They demonstrate how, even though his life seemed in shambles, he’s a powerful creator. One with enormous potential.

So when a stranger assaulted him, I wasn’t surprised he was up for the challenge. To understand how this unfolded, we must look at this client’s past. That way we can see how he was a perfect match to the violence he created.

The background for context

The client’s past includes a lot of negative experiences. Those experiences came after he focused on those experiences in a way which amplified their momentum. Back then, the client didn’t understand this YCYOR business. So he was powerless to do anything other than what he did.

One thing he developed along the way was a strong hatred of women. Alongside that hatred was a strong dislike/hatred of people in general. Both his misogyny and his misanthropy made him a match to experiences consistent with those vibrational frequencies.

Women almost always rejected his advances. They often found him revolting. The client often gets into disagreements with them. And, of course, because of all this he’s had precious little experience with relationships with women.

The same holds true for his experiences with people in general. More often than not, the client believes people disregard his feelings, disrespect him or under-appreciate him. One woman accused him of stalking her. Men would get angry at him or the client would say something crass or insulting thereby burning bridges. Even his siblings revile him.

And, the more of these kinds of things happened, the stronger his negative beliefs about women, specifically, and people, in general, grew thereby amplifying his belief-momentum.

Changing focus

It took a while before he opened the door to becoming aware of all this. I pointed it out after offering a specific Positively Focused process. In that process it’s natural to express appreciation for others. This client never did that though. Even when I tried directing him to the subject of the millions of people who benefit him, he would not focus on appreciating those people.

That’s when I introduced the possibility that he held misanthropic beliefs. At first, he accepted the assertion. Shortly after, however, he resisted it. He even claimed I was creating a misanthropic version of him! How’s that for using the practice against me LOL!

Of course, I told him that’s not what’s happening. And, again, of course, the Universe agreed, which is exactly why what happened next was so perfect.

I tell all clients people’s Broader Perspective always guides them to their highest purposes. Most people, however, are no where near the vicinity of their Broader Perspective’s vibrational frequency, so they can’t feel the guidance. That explains why such people experience negative, even tragic, events. Such events are not negative or tragic. They represent the Universe trying to get people’s attention so they change their focus. Change their focus and come in-line with their Broader Perspective.

Punctuating clarity

Contrary to what people think about reality, things don’t happen randomly or by coincidence. They come into our lives – are attracted to us – because of our focus. This attraction dynamic is relentless, meaning, if our focus dominantly resides in lower frequencies, we will attract matching experiences.

Humans describe those as “negative”. But they usually don’t begin with tragedies or strongly negative experiences. They always start out mild. Like tripping on the sidewalk, banging a knee or a bird poops on us!

If we don’t take the hint, so to speak, the Universe turns up the volume. Such experiences will increase in intensity until they reach a stage where they’re full-blown tragedies. All these events potentially clarify for us where we are on our path. They’re meant to help us course-correct.

But they also can punctuate clarity a person already has received. Such manifestations and their timing come with such clarity, it’s impossible to ignore the unfolding pattern. Especially with some Positively Focused practice under our belts. And this is where this client stood: with lots of the practice under his belt, and yet resisting the clarity he received so far.

That set up this perfect unfolding.

A dismissal

The client was out one night after not being able to sleep. He walked the streets, moving through the bar district. One location called him, so he stopped in. He sidled up to the bar and when he put his hand on the bar, he “accidentally” cut his pinky on a glass shard.

This happened just a couple days after our session in which I revealed his misanthropic momentum. The client asked the female bartender for a bandaid and rubbing alcohol. She didn’t have rubbing alcohol. According to the client, she “dismissed” his distress and tossed him a bandaid. His interpretation of her “dismissiveness” indicated his powerful resonance with creating women matching his misogynistic beliefs.

Miffed, the client went to the bathroom. There he washed the cut with soap and water, which I’m sure offered not only relief from the cut, but also allowed him to re-align with his higher vibrations. So when he returned to the bar, he rendezvoused with a better version of the bar-maid. One that had found and offered a tube of Neosporin instead of rubbing alcohol.

Unfortunately, the client didn’t maintain his relief. His dominant negative momentum, generally, on the subject of women, and specifically, on the subject of THIS woman, collapsed him right back into negative vibrations and feelings about her. He ignored the tube, didn’t even thank her for it and, instead, left the bar.

“Say one more word…”

I know you’re probably thinking “what an asshole”. But name calling does nothing other than amplify our own negative belief-momentum. What really was happening was this client was serving himself powerfully. He was setting up a series of events that made it undeniable that he stands in very strong negative belief-momentum about men and women.

He’s not an “asshole”. He’s just unconscious about what’s going on in himself and how to change that. So his reality reflects back to him a life experience matching his inner state, whether he gets it or not. That’s happening with every person.

The client left that bar. He grabbed a seat at another bar not far away. There, minding his own business, the client noticed a black man approaching. At first, as the client explains it, the guy seemed ordinary. But when the guy saw the client, he started shouting at him. The client can’t remember what the guy was angry about. He said the black guy literally got in his face, shouting angry words at him.

Then, out of nowhere, the guy hit the client with an open hand across his face. An assault! The guy hit the client in the face so hard, the client told me, his glasses went flying. Everyone around was shocked into speechlessness.

Not the client. He knew exactly what was happening. “This guy was an angel, reflecting back to me my own misanthropic beliefs in the most obvious way,” He said in-session. He told me he didn’t get angry or defensive. All he could think of was “I created this.”

My client sharing what happened.

As the guy walked away, my client said something like “I didn’t even do anything to you! That was uncalled for.” And with that, the guy came bounding back. “Say one more word MOTHERFUCKER!” he said. My client put his dukes up, but said it was merely a gesture of protection. He didn’t want a physical confrontation.

“You wanna die today?”

What the client did here is masterful. He literally diffused the situation through non-reaction in the physical sense. That’s because he understood this was a reality HE created, born of his beliefs, in order to see those beliefs manifested, then do something about them. Fighting back would have just amplified momentum inherent in his misanthropic beliefs. Not reacting was exactly the right thing to do. Something most people won’t even have in their reaction toolbox.

This client’s act of real bravery reminds me of a similar experience from my life. One day, a stranger, down on his luck, encountered me on a light rail platform. We made eye contact and I smiled at him. Apparently he didn’t like that.

“What you looking at faggot,” he said menacingly. “You wanna die today?”

“Do you?” I said without missing a beat. The words flowed from my mouth before I had a moment to think of a response. I had no intention of harming this black guy let alone killing him.

The stranger looked down at his feet as he kept walking. “Yes,” he said.

As he walked away, he kept looking back with a “WTF just happened?” look on his face.

Responses such as my client’s, such as mine, are natural states of being. They reflect what Jesus said about turning the other cheek. They also show the power of Abraham’s admonition to nations that experience their versions of what my client and I experienced:

Our sovereign power

It’s not that you turn away and invite the next strike. It’s that you offer a vibration so high you’re no longer in the time line in which a next strike can happen. In what happened to me, which I described above, I offered a vibration so high it literally moved the offender into a higher vibration. A vibration from which he was confronted with his own negative belief constellations as the Source of his pain.

Admittedly, these are high-order skills, much like precognitive abilities I wrote about recently. But such skills are available to us all. Accessing them requires devotion. A devotion to a certain path. Not the path of nonviolence, but the path of unwavering positivity. The path where we see only the best the world has to offer.

There, in that high vibration, we come into our sovereignty. We discover our invulnerability. Then we find that the world is our creation, malleable to our thoughts and beliefs. Just as it always has been. Just as it always will be.

Let’s talk about how you can enjoy a life similarly empowered in your sovereignty. Book your free session today. You too can enjoy abilities my clients and I are realizing. Abilities aligned with the Charmed Life. Where all you want happens effortlessly.

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What Happens When a Customer No-Show Makes Magic

Most people would’ve called it a failure, a waste of time. Proof that the customer was flaky and unreliable.

But that’s not what my clients saw.

What unfolded, last Friday, for both my clients “Maya” and her employee “Talia”, wasn’t a mistake — it was masterful orchestration. A stunning example of how contrast, when met with awareness, becomes expansion. And how apparent disappointment can reveal a deeper harmony, the revealing of which couldn’t have been scripted better.

Here’s what happened.

The Setup

Maya had been feeling frustrated about a particular customer — let’s call her “Sabrina.” She’d talked about her in our sessions before. To Maya, Sabrina was the kind of customer who never seemed to honor the schedule. Always late. Often rescheduling at the last minute. Sometimes, not showing up at all. And when she did, using way too many words to get a point across.

Naturally, Maya interpreted that behavior as a reflection of Sabrina’s flakiness. But what she didn’t see — at first — was that Sabrina was actually reflecting something else. Something vibrational. Something deeper.

She was mirroring Maya’s own resistance embodied in Maya’s negative beliefs about her customer.

That resistance also included beliefs Maya had about her business not being where she thought it “should” be; resistance about not doing enough. Resistance about not being enough. These coupled with the subtle belief that, because her partner is funding the business, she has to “prove” herself by pushing harder, performing more, and showing constant effort.

So when she saw Sabrina showing up inconsistently, Maya didn’t recognize her as reflections. She saw her as a problem.

But then came Friday.

The “Failed” Appointment

Maya had an appointment with Sabrina that day. Sabrina’s office is across town — a long haul from where Maya lives. Still, Maya got ready, even though she felt off. Her stomach wasn’t right. Her body was signaling discomfort.

In that moment, her Broader Perspective was whispering, You don’t need to go.

But Maya — like many of us — has old momentum. The kind that says “Push through.” She believes real leaders show up no matter what. So she discounts intuitive nudges in favor of obligation.

That’s what had her get in the car and start driving. Along the way, her discomfort increased. So much so that she thought she might pass out. She pulled over, tried to ground herself with food — a burger and fries — but it only made things worse. So, she pressed on.

And when she finally arrived at the nonprofit’s office? Sabrina looked confused. She gave Maya a “Why are you here?” look.

It turns out: Sabrina hadn’t even put the appointment on her calendar. She had no idea they were supposed to meet. And she had to cancel — on the spot, despite everything Maya had just pushed through to get there.

Now pause here. This is the moment where most people would snap. Maya didn’t though.

Most people would snap had this happened to them. Not Maya though. Talia didn’t either.

The Realization

Instead, she caught herself. And in catching herself she saw the perfection. If she had honored her initial nudge — if she’d followed the discomfort in her body and chosen rest over effort — she would’ve been in sync with what her Broader Perspective already knew: that the appointment wasn’t real.

She would’ve matched Sabrina’s energy without needing to live the contrast. She would’ve flowed instead of pushed. And Maya got that, after the fact, right there in the lobby.

Maya then she called Talia. Talia, who was set to attend the appointment remotely, was back home in Houston when Maya called. And the moment she heard the story, she interrupted with: “This is contrast.” This is because Talia, too, is a client. She understands the value contrast represents, just as Maya sometimes does.

And just like that, they were both in it — in the joy of revelation. What looked like a mishap was actually a mirror. A reflection of Maya’s old momentum: the belief in obligation over intuition, control over flow. Together, Maya and Talia celebrated the realization.

They saw that Sabrina was playing a role — not just for Maya, but for everyone involved.

Because Talia had something else going on that day too: a friend had shown up unannounced, hoping to spend time with her. But because of the appointment, Talia felt she had to prioritize work — and her friend had to adjust.

If Maya had canceled, Talia would’ve had the space to be with her friend. Had she canceled, her body would’ve rested. If Maya had canceled, no one would’ve been out of sync. In other words, the only thing “off” was ignoring the nudge.

That’s not a failure. That’s feedback. It’s contrast serving us, clarifying our path forward.

The Integration

By the end of the call, Maya and Talia had already changed their process framework. They decided to implement new appointment protocols — confirmations two days in advance, and again the day before. Not from fear, but from alignment. From trust. From learning.

Oh, and also heeding nudges/impulses from their Broader Perspective!

They also changed the way they saw Sabrina. She wasn’t flaky. She was an angel. A precise vibrational actor, playing her role in a scene designed to help Maya release old beliefs. The belief that she had to push. Beliefs that she must prove. A belief that this customer was misaligned and irresponsible. When in fact, her customers are always reflecting Maya’s vibration — and giving her the perfect material for expansion. Just like the rest of her wake-scape.

What I love most about this story is that Maya didn’t double down. She didn’t villainize Sabrina, nor did she snap. She saw the unfolding, and so did Talia. And in that seeing, everything changed.

This is what it looks like when you live from the Positively Focused perspective. Not because life never brings you surprises — but because you recognize that every surprise is alignment, in motion.

Even the ones that come disguised as a last minute, on-the-spot cancellation.

Want some of this action? Become a client and let’s get on it!

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The Powerful Truth About Why Her Business Feels Stuck

Not every client session ends with a breakthrough. Sometimes, what emerges is a mirror so clearly reflective, it can only be received in layers. That’s what happened with one of my clients this week—let’s call her Madison—as she wrestled with tension in her business and growing frustration with both her employee and her small number of customers.

Madison runs an emerging, but very real, small business. She has four paying clients, and more showing interest. From where I sit, it’s happening. The momentum is building. But from where Madison stood in our recent session, all she could see was how much wasn’t happening.

She felt burdened. Not just by the challenges of running the business, but by the belief that she had to do more to make it succeed. She thought she needed her employee— Jane (whose experience I wrote about previously) — to match that “doing” energy. More outreach. More follow-through. Increased visible hustle. But Jane wasn’t responding to those cues. And Madison was taking it personally.

She was also taking it out on her customers—grumbling about their quirks, dismissing their contributions, struggling to feel grateful for the very signs that her dream was taking root.

Pushing doesn’t help

At the heart of it all was pressure. Not pressure from her partner Tim, who’s funding the business. But from the version of Tim Madison carries in her. No one exists in our reality but us. Everyone else who seems to be there are versions of those people we create. We create them through thoughts and beliefs we have about that person.

This is something I share with clients over and over. It’s hard to get, until the client receives Universal evidence proving it’s accurate. Then the game changes. But for Madison, she hasn’t fully let that accuracy sink in. So she’s not trying to change her beliefs about her partner.

I know Tim isn’t hovering over her, demanding performance. I know this because he’s a client too and we’ve spoken many times about this. But Madison’s version of Tim is demanding. That internalized voice keeps saying: “You need to prove this is working. You need to get bigger, faster. You need to do more. It’s MY money after all!”

So she pushes. And when the business didn’t respond to the push, she got angry. Not just at the business, not just at Jane, but at herself as well.

Our session wasn’t about resolving that anger. It was about revealing it. Naming it. Making space for what was really going on.

Feeling stuck

“There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with your business. There’s nothing wrong with Jane,” I told her. “It’s just a bunch of distortion that you’re telling yourself, and then you’re feeling shitty because you’re in the distortion.”

She heard that. Not with ease, but with recognition. Her head nodded even as her body resisted and remained stiff. Because deep down, she knows what’s so: She’s not failing. She’s just running with her old belief momentum. The one that says success comes from effort, not alignment. From force, not flow, not letting go.

But the business she’s building can’t be grown from that energy. It’s asking her to trust. To appreciate. To be, not just do. And Jane—by not cooperating with the push—is reflecting that truth beautifully. Not out of defiance. But out of resonance. She’s mirroring back exactly where Madeline is stuck: in the doing.

“You’re in a good place,” I told Madison. “…we can talk about this next week and the week after, if you want to. If that’s what it’s gonna take to get you to let go of the doing and lean into the being — and also lean into the appreciation of the four customers you have and the revenue they’ve provided, no matter how small.”

Madeline left that session still feeling stuck. Still frustrated. But with something new: a clearer view of what was really going on. And that clarity, even if uncomfortable, was the invitation.

It’s no surprise then when one of the four customers she had disparaged for “ghosting” her, actually showed up eager to take the next steps because they need exactly what Madeline is offering!

Letting go

This is how real transformation often unfolds—not in grand moments of release, but in quiet reckonings. In honest reflections. In the willingness to stay with ourselves even when we don’t feel resolved.

So if you’re pushing and nothing’s moving…If you’re trying to “make it happen” and the universe seems to be ignoring you…Pause.

What if the stuckness is sacred? What if the resistance is your business—or your life—asking you to be with it, not bulldoze it?

The Positively Focused path isn’t about doing more. It’s about aligning more deeply, letting go, then letting inspired action emerge naturally. That’s not always easy. But it’s always true.

Madeline is learning that. And if you’re here, maybe you are too.

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How Poor Attitudes Keep Our Great Life Hidden

This week included so many definite client testimonies showing the effectiveness, the power of being Positively Focused. My experience too this week amplified how being positive truly creates the best life possible. Truly, it’s the Charmed Life. My clients lives reflect it, my life reflects it.

In this post, I’ll share one example, from one client. I’ll share more tomorrow and the weekend. This client I’ve written about before. He’s the one who defied Donald Trump, Elon Musk and the Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE). His return to work after DOGE fired so many of his colleagues, himself included was astonishing. And when he came back everyone welcomed him as essential to the agency’s mission.

But not only that, they loved him. They recognized him, his positive personality and his positive perspective as instrumental earlier this year when so many were scared and insecure.

As a result of who he was being during that time, someone in the agency nominated him to win the prestigious Transmission Employee of the Year Award. My client felt stoked and excited for the recognition. But, as I always tell my clients; with every moment of expansion comes along with it more contrast. Contrast giving birth to the next level of expansion.

We never stay in one spot, in other words. Not for long. We are in a constant state of expansion. And when we don’t keep up with that, we lose sight of how blessed we are moment by moment.

That’s exactly what happened with this client. He lost sight and needed a reminder. Thankfully, he has weekly sessions to help him.

Raving about work?

This week he came to his session feeling “content”. That’s not a terrible place, vibrationally. However, I encourage clients maintain energy states consistent with at least passion, enthusiasm and happiness. So when he shared his vibrational frequency, I dug in.

One of this client’s passions is racing motorcycles. Last weekend, he spent a wonderful two days in beautiful weather on his bike on the track. Friends and colleagues joined him. So it was a special time for him. Returning to work then felt like a let down comparatively. My guess is by Sunday evening, he already was feeling negative about going back to work. So by Wednesday, the day of his session, he wasn’t flying very high.

“All I do is look at a computer screen all day,” He said.

That was a phenomenally great place for the client to be. And that’s because it offered him such a tremendous opportunity. He wasn’t super negative, but it’s obvious that someone says this about his job they’re not feeling very passionate, enthusiastic or happy about their work.

What’s ironic is, in the last session, the client raved about his work as much as he raved about being at the track in this session! He loved the accolades he was getting. His colleagues constantly looked to him because of how well he did his work. Even his supervisors loved him, especially his humor. And, let’s not forget, this client makes bank at his job. That’s something he really enjoys about his work too. It literally funds his racing hobby.

Fantastic manifestations

After reminding him about all this, the client totally changed. He became a completely different person right before my eyes. I also felt the shift in his vibration. He moved out of contentment and into interest, which is right above optimism vibrationally. Then he talked about what happened this week at work, things he was completely oblivious to just moments ago.

One of those was the annual award nomination. Here’s how it read:

“Through adversity and change, this employee navigated the world transitioning from being a contractor to a full-time employee. All the while, expertly guiding and training a new team member. It takes a special type of person to not only accept their own obligations and priorities but those of others as well. This employee demonstrates the utmost professionalism in a lighthearted, easy to get along with manner. His knowledge of the organization and its personnel are invaluable, and he uses that knowledge to achieve organizational goals. His loyalty and faith in the organization has never waivered, even through very dark times. I owe my humble thanks and therefore recommend him as one of the organization’s most exemplary employees.”

Then, he remembered things from the last seven days that got him even more positive about the last week. In addition to racing, the client also is a musician. He busks at the local farmers market and aspires to having a musical career. This past week, two people approached him asking if he would teach them to play guitar. Another person, who belongs to a band, invited him to be the band’s front man and lead singer. And another person, a blues singer of some local repute, asked him if he’d enjoy writing songs together with her.

None of these things the client recalled. All of them were fantastic manifestations of his desires.

Positivity’s powerful filter

But after he did recall them, his demeanor changed even more. I think what struck him most was how, just moments before, none of what you just read was in his awareness. It’s not like they didn’t happen, however. They did. But the client had no access to them.

And this is the thing with life: everyone’s life is going great. But when we’re focused on things going not-great, that’s how we feel: not great. Feeling “not great” is a vibration. It’s an indicator of a vibrational frequency. And when we dwell in that frequency, everything that doesn’t match that frequency gets screened out.

This is why I advocate for being Positively Focused. Positively Focused is a vibrational frequency. When we maintain that frequency, then our life matches that. Because everything else gets screened out. Those other things still happen. They just don’t happen in the lives of those who are Positively Focused.

I’m overjoyed this client gave himself this powerful example of how important our vibration is. It literally shapes life experience. Maybe you’re ready to deliberately shape your own? If so, consider becoming a client today.

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What Are Friends For? The Spiritual Truth About Friendship

What if friendships aren’t for support? What if friendships aren’t meant to soothe our loneliness or our troubles? These questions made up part of a conversation I enjoyed with a client this week. They questioned the purpose of friendships altogether given what they learned up to this point in the Positively Focused Advanced Practice.

They’re good questions. Questions about a subject most of us take for granted. A subject we just assume we understand, or just accept what we’ve seen from the world around us. But it’s a good idea to look at what we think friends are for. That’s because, looking at what we think could create a whole new reality around such relationships.

I want to keep this post short, so I’m not going to go into a lot of detail. I’ll just offer that friendships offer an excellent peek into the workings of All That Is. But to get the peek we must view our friendships from a fresh, new perspective.

If we are each in our own reality (and we are), and no one else is in that reality (accurate again), then what is a friendship? And what purpose do they serve? What if they served no purpose other than as opportunities to revel in the fun of having chosen to come into physical reality in the first place?

Insecurity: When it feels normal

That’s a question worth asking. Because when we use friendships for anything other than what they’re really for, we’re missing the point of what they are. Using them for support diminishes our self-reliance, our sovereignty. Doing so is relying on something outside ourselves to soothe low vibration energies (negative emotion) and reestablish high vibration energies (feeling good). When we do that, we amplify and reinforce several things.

First, doing so tells us that we aren’t the powerful, creative sovereign beings we are. Second, doing so causes the friend to feel the same way. And when they listen to our sob stories, they further amplify our disempowerment because when they subsequently try to make us feel better, that act, tells us “I see you can’t maintain your steady high vibration, so I’m going to do it for you”. That powerful statement further anchors within us insecurity, because it makes us reliant on something outside ourselves to feel better. That’s always a recipe for trouble.

Third, relying on friendships for support, because doing so reinforces insecurity in us, aligns us with future probable realities in which we’ll need that support again. When the friend again lends support, that act lines up up once again for more of the same.

Because of this dynamic, many, many people end up in a rut. They gain soothing support from friends. They feel good as a result, even though they’re in a state of disempowered insecurity, and therefore conclude this is what friendships are for (among other things). People can’t feel the insecurity and disempowerment, however. That’s because they’ve been there for so long, those energies just feel normal.

Eternal relationships

But should a friend ghost them, then those feelings get amplified in the friend’s absence. If the friend stops supporting them, then, again, those negative feelings get amplified.

Most people (including a couple clients who had this happen) don’t have the vibrational stability needed to bear this. Nor do they understand what the appropriate response to such events is. So they blame the person who ghosted or stop supporting them instead, rather than looking inward.

So what are friendships for? What are friends for? To understand the answers, we must understand what friends are.

Friends are cooperative components, members of our cadre, traveling with us on this wonderful journey of expansion and joy. They, like us, are eternal beings. They show up in physical as friends because they chose, as we did, to incarnate in the same era, knowing doing so was going to be fun, expansive and joyful. Friendships, therefore, are divine, eternal relationships between divine eternal beings, beings whose core values vibrationally match throughout time.

The purpose of friendships, therefore, is to amplify our joyful expansion as we revel in the contrast of daily life. They aren’t for support. We do that for ourselves. And when one sovereign friend gets this, then treats the friendship for what it’s really about – fun – then that friend offers their friend a powerful, transformational opportunity.

Friendships are spiritual relationships based on joy, fun and expansion. Seeing them as anything else can, and usually does, diminish life experience for everyone involved.