TL;DR: The author explores how erotic dreams reveal sacred union with one’s Broader Perspective. These intense experiences aren’t about sex—they’re vibrational integrations between physical self and Source.
I’ve had enough erotic dreams to know they’re not “just dreams.” These aren’t wish fulfillment fantasies bubbling up from the subconscious. They’re something far more profound—vibrational events where my physical apparatus does its best to translate nonphysical communion into something familiar.
And what’s more familiar, more all-consuming, more undeniable than sex?
Sex in the dream state isn’t always about sex. It’s about union and alignment. It’s about ecstatic integration between parts of the self, or between self and Source. Sometimes it takes the form of a lover, a partner, a friend. Other times, it looks like me—my body turning in on itself, morphing into masculine and feminine as I make love with my own wholeness. And that? That’s divinity in action.
Sacred Mechanics of Nonphysical Integration
For example, one dream left me introspective for days. In it, I stood at the threshold of a dark room, separated from the presence inside it by a cracked door. I sensed her—a red-haired being, dormant but radiant. Later, she kissed me. First on the forehead. Then, after I responded, on the lips. Her kiss wasn’t just physical. It was an activation. A permission slip to merge.
We kissed again, deeper this time. As our mouths opened, something incredible happened. I didn’t just put my tongue in her mouth—I became my tongue entering her. I expanded into her and she into me. The sexual act dissolved into a full-bodied spiritual absorption. We weren’t two bodies anymore. We were one vibration, folding into itself over and over again.
This is the best language I have for describing what really happened. But it wasn’t physical sex. It was transdimensional union—a collapsing of apparent separation, expressed as pleasure, as flesh, as rhythm and intensity. Our climax wasn’t ejaculation. It was integration.
When the Self Is the Lover
Another dream brought the point home even more clearly. I found myself as both the lover and the beloved, equipped with both a penis and a vagina. I was knotting into myself, fluidly turning inside out and outside in. The boundaries between body and being, masculine and feminine, had disappeared.
This was dream logic not human logic. The entire act represented a divine, spiritual logic, dressed in sensual metaphor.
I woke with the most intense erection—deeply satisfied, pulsing with aliveness. My body tingled with arousal and awareness, and my soul felt rinsed in golden light. In the final moments of the dream, I placed a golden eagle upon my belly. Its talons rested gently against my skin, curled in reverence. Its beak touched my mouth, and I licked it—slowly, deliberately. That wasn’t a sensual act. Instead, it was ceremony. A ritual of completion. A sign that I had re-membered another piece of my divine self.
Dream Characters Are Dimensions Of Us
It’s easy to assume that people we meet in dreams—lovers, friends, coworkers—are actually those people. But they’re not. Not usually.
In most cases, the familiar face our brain maps onto that being is a stand-in. The dreamtime isn’t interested in casting accuracy — it’s interested in resonance accuracy. If someone in our physical reality has a trait that our inner being wants to highlight, they’ll be used as a symbolic avatar. Not as deception, but as a way to clue us in on what we’re wanting to know about ourselves.
So when I dream of someone like Tom G.—the senior most manager in charge of Intel Oregon chip-making fabrication facilities, someone I worked with in my time there —it’s not really him. It’s a version of my inner authority, expertise and knowledge, the part of me that organizes vast systems of creation. The part that’s leading edge. It’s me, playing dress-up in my own subconscious to show myself how far I’ve come.
Sex as Spiritual Calibration
When we have sex in dreams, our physical minds interpret it as erotic release. But what’s really happening is vibrational entrainment. It’s alignment with our Broader Perspective. With Source. The orgasmic experience symbolizes that merging. It’s the closest our biology can come to grasping what it feels like to become one with All That Is.
And it often follows or precedes powerful dream sequences involving technology, architecture, calculation, or creative output. No randomness in the imagery. Just lead up. A preparation for the tuning. And the sex? That’s the final integration, the system-wide software update, installing itself with ecstasy and grace.
In waking life, we’re conditioned to think about sex in limited, surface-level ways. But in dreamtime, we let go of those limitations. Sex as symbolism becomes the limitation. Because sex as an experience is the only thing in waking reality that comes close to direct alignment with All That Is. That alignment feels that good. Better, actually.
So erotic encounters in dreams are not just about desire—they’re about destiny. They’re vibrational confirmations that we’re meeting ourselves at new levels. We’re reclaiming sovereignty, becoming Whole.
Whether I’m making love to a radiant redhead, to my own spiraling form, or to a symbolic representation of my creative power, the message is always the same: I am loved, seen, blessed. I am That which I’ve been reaching for. So I don’t flinch when my dreams get erotic. Instead, I celebrate, interpret and revere. Because I know what’s happening.
Source is showing—in the language of flesh, sweat, pulse, and sigh—that I am aligned, that am becoming, that I am remembering Who I Really Am. And there’s nothing more delicious than that.
TL;DR: This post reveals how a client’s emotionally charged work assignment became the perfect backdrop for dream-state alchemy—and how that dream dissolved resistance and sparked powerful clarity and ease.The experience shows how dreams work in conjunction with waking reality, when one is Positively Focused.
When Marsha (not her real name) came into session this past week, she carried a storm of energy around an assignment given to her by a work colleague and friend, Janet (also a pseudonym). The assignment seemed simple on its surface, but for Marsha, it stirred a complex emotional brew: fear of exposure, anxiety around performance, and a deep, practiced belief that being emotionally transparent might somehow be unsafe.
I wrote about this in my last post. I’m going deeper in this post, to show how exactly the dream state works in conjunction with waking reality, thus making it a powerful Source of awareness.
It’s easy, when gripped by these emotional currents, to think the problem is the whatever we are facing. But in the Positively Focused practice, we know something deeper is always at work. And that’s where this session offered Marsha something stunning.
Marsha described the assignment as triggering a downward emotional spiral. Her words reflected the inner tangle so many experience: “The moment Janet [gave me the assignment] my stomach dropped and my anxiety was like blowing through my head,” She said. “It got so bad that afterwards, I was physically shaking. I was so, so very extraordinarily stressed out, and felt incredibly pressured.”
Marsha tried applying the Positively Focused process to calm herself, and she got some traction. But the resistance was persistent. Eventually, she let herself rest. She was tired. And rather than resist that tiredness, she did something quietly powerful: She allowed herself to slip into sleep.
What happened next is a beautiful demonstration of how dreams serve our waking evolution.
The Dream Wrapped in the Waking Life
I asked Marsha to share her dream. Understanding the power of the dream world requires that I share what she shared. So here it is, straight from our session transcript:
“I was thinking about [Janet] and the task before I went to sleep, and I felt like, in the dream, even though I was in the dream, it was almost like [the task] was on the outskirts. My worry of that specific thing was on the, like, physically around the frame of the dream that I was having, even though it had nothing to do with the dream.”
Unknown to Marsha at the time, the dream had everything to do with the task. I’ll break that down in a moment. Here’s how she described what happened next:
“My mom and I are in a hotel room, and then we go explore this town, and everything is like old and dusty, and unkempt. And then she goes back to the hotel room, and I go to a shop or something where there’s an ex firefighter who’s very attractive. He’s showing me some things, and I’m flirting with him, and he’s embarrassed. I leave him to go back to the hotel room where my mother is, and she is not in the room, but the kitchenette that’s in the hotel room has like a pot of tea or something that’s bursting and like flowing, and it’s dangerous.”
“So I turn it off, and I’m really mad about it. And then someone who’s my sister. I know this person to be my sister, even though, in real life I don’t actually have a sister, comes in, and I’m mad at my sister, who, oddly enough, looks a lot like me, not identical twins. I’m mad because she wasn’t there in the hotel room to make sure that something hazardous, like a boiling pot, wouldn’t occur to protect my mom, who was not in the room.”
Interpreting The Dream World
Dreams, in the Positively Focused framework, are vital, vibrational events. They are not just the mind replaying memories. They are orchestrations of our Broader Perspective, designed to help us integrate, soothe, and expand.
When we go into nonphysical, we leave our brain, as well as the rest of our bodies, behind. When we return to our bodies, the dream’s “echo”, or resonance of the dream in non-physical, returns with us. At that point, our brain takes that echo and tries to translate the nonphysical experience into a kind of waking experience. It’s the same function the brain plays in waking experience: it’s translating vibrations into our “reality”. So it tries to do the same thing with nonphysical vibrational experience.
As it does this, it uses imagery from our waking life to approximate as best it can what happens in our nonphysical “dream” experience. Since dreams are much more complex than physical reality, the brain doesn’t get it all. It does get enough, however, for someone trained in dream work to interpret the dream.
That’s what I did with Marsha.
I told her several things stood out about this dream. Some of those things indicated the powerful connection Marsha has to the dream world. Her dream was extremely vivid and detailed. Her recall was also astounding. Furthermore, Marsha’s dream occurred in a nonphysical container holding the waking life assignment and the emotional response Marsha had to it. That she perceived that was remarkable. But she still thought the dream had nothing to do with the assignment.
The dream had everything to do with the assignment, however. And, in the dream, Marsha worked through her fear and anxiety, which is why what happened when she came out of the dream was possible. Let’s look at the dream imagery to see the connections.
Marsha’s dream depicted by ChatGPT.
Dream Symbolism Offers Keys
The shopping mall and hotel imagery was not random. Marsha is a young, mixed race, beautiful woman. And she maintains that beauty with a passion. She also loves the finer things in life. Shopping malls are her happy place. Since nonphysical, for everyone, is a place of unmitigated joy, freedom and expansion, the closest imagery her brain could approximate that expansive experience to is shopping malls.
However, that environment was dusty and full of abandoned products. That indicated that Marsha no longer want’s that old way of being to be her main focus. That is reflected in her waking life, evidenced by her willingness to work with Janet on a fledgling business and her decision to become a Positively Focused client. She’s ready for expansion, in other words.
Hotels in dreams are often transitory locations as hotels typically are in waking life. So the dream takes place in a transitory state, the transition being from the “what-is” of Marsha’s anxiety and fear (which are vibrations), to a different vibrational frequency, which Marsha intends to move to in the dream.
The firefighter experience is Marsha’s Broader Perspective showing up as capable, competent and with a lot of experience (retired) dealing with what I described as Marsha’s “4-alarm fire” that was the assignment.
“He’s a demonstration of you, to yourself,” I told her. “Of your ability to handle what you consider to be a conflagration, the fire raging in you.”
While I explained this, Marsha got more interested and energetic in her vibrational stance. She leaned into the computer. I could tell what I shared was landing.
Evidence she’s capable
The firefighter represented the fact that Marsha’s got this whole situation under control. Marsha’s brain interpreting her as flirting with the firefighter was an attempt to approximate the intense connection and love Marsha has. Not for firefighters, but for the connection she has with her Broader Perspective, which is what the fireman represented.
The next important image was the kettle in the kitchenette. It was about to explode. I probed Marsha about this important image: “What kind of kettle is it?” I asked. “Is it like an ancient Japanese iron kettle, or is it like a modern pot?”
Marsha said it was a traditional Japanese iron kettle.
“That’s not surprising,” I said. Then I explained how the transient or liminal space represented by the hotel was a place of expansion. Her mother not being there showed that in nonphysical, Marsha is expanding into her own sovereignty. Her mother plays a dominant role in her life right now. That role isn’t negative. They’re good friends as well as mother/daughter.
However, Marsha is a freedom-seeking, powerful expanding being. And because of choices her mother made, her mother is all about tradition and conservatism. The ancient Japanese tea kettle bursting with steam, bubbling over, I said, is representative of Marsha’s sovereign, creative energy wanting to expand beyond limiting tradition and conservation beliefs.
The you that wants freedom and expansion, I told her, “It’s bubbling over, out of this cauldron that you’ve wrapped around it to try and contain it. And no, it’s not going to be contained.”
Sibling As Broader Perspective
Then we touched on the wonderful interplay of Marsha with herself in the context of her mother’s influence. The sister Marsha doesn’t have, looked like Marsha. That’s because this “sister” is actually Marsha’s expanded self, who already has moved past her mother’s influence. And the argument Marsha has with her was about Marsha coming into alignment with that expanded version of her.
The expansion represented by all this imagery happened in the dream state, in part, to spur Marsha’s movement forward in wake state. It was movement forward, which was why, when she woke from this dream, not only did she feel better, resistance she had about the assignment and other tasks disappeared.
Sleep state is powerful. In the dream state we process tremendous energies all to our benefit. Consciously benefitting from that experience, however, requires we know it’s going on. And it requires us fostering the processing. How? By moving forward from the dreams.
What do I mean by that? Well, most people don’t realize they’re dreaming. Many who do don’t know what dreams really are. Or they forget them the moment they wake. In doing so, they pick right back up whatever they were thinking about before they went to sleep. So they just re-amplify whatever momentum they had from the previous day.
The key to benefitting from dreams is to wake up in a “fresh-start” frame of mind. Sleep state resets us to our expansion. Recognizing this and leveraging it makes a huge difference, as Marsha found.
Integration Through Symbolism From Resistance to Inspiration
To recap: Every symbol in Marsha’s dream was an echo of her waking concerns:
The boiling kettle reflected her suppressed, expansive, creative and emotional energy.
The hotel symbolized a temporary space of identity—she hadn’t yet claimed her sovereignty in that assignment.
The flirtation with the fireman showed her inner fire seeking expression in playful, unstructured ways.
The absence of her mother underscored the detachment from external authority; she wasn’t looking for approval anymore.
These weren’t intellectual metaphors. They were felt, emotional realities in the dream. And, they had her wake up different. When she came out of sleep, she wasn’t just rested. She was clear. She felt different. Lighter. No longer bogged down by the invisible weight of the assignment. And what followed was surprising to her:
“I woke up, and the anxiety had dissipated.” She said.
Marsha’s dream allowed her to release a ton of resistance which made her much more effective.
The dream had done the heavy lifting. But her Broader Perspective and the Universe weren’t done with her yet. Moreover, what happened next tied the whole manifestation together perfectly.
A girlfriend who lives in London texted Marsha after this dream event. It’s someone Marsha doesn’t talk with often, which explains why she thought this text was “random”.
It was anything but random though. Attached was an Instagram meme, “talking about how today is the luckiest day of the year, the luckiest day.” Marsha said. Marsha was stunned by the meme’s beauty, she said. It just really stood out in her mind.
“Okay, it’s supposed to be the luckiest day,” Marsha recounted. “This is a really big deal. So everything should just go really well today, and I shouldn’t be feeling bad anymore. That’s how I felt when I saw the message.”
“Right after that,” Marsha said. “My other girlfriend sent me another screenshot which I just need to read to you. And so I was wondering if this was my Broader Perspective communicating to me via universe. It has Taurus on it, and then it goes: “Once she became comfortable with being uncomfortable, she was free to grow.”
Free to grow
“It resonated so hard!” Marsha exclaimed.
Indeed. It was the perfect capstone to a brilliant unfolding. A perfect orchestration looping in her Broader Perspective, the Universe and two friends’ Broader Perspectives which inspired them to send messages at the perfect time.
After receiving them, Marsha said, “…I instantly felt better.” Of course. She fully embodied, right then, that expanded self she met in the dream.
Now, Marsha’s story is not unique. Me and all my clients experience our versions of exactly the same sequence of events. This story is inspiring. But it’s also more than inspiring. It’s instructional. It shows how dreams can:
Help us process emotional energy too overwhelming to resolve in wake state.
Use symbolic language tailored to our personality and preferences.
Release resistance in ways we don’t have to consciously understand.
Prepare us to receive inspiration and act from alignment, not pressure.
And if we CAN bring conscious awareness to the process, our appreciation – of ourselves, of our expanded nature, of life in general, grows.
Most importantly, it shows that waking life and dream life are not separate. They are part of the same vibrational conversation.
The Relationship That Makes It All Possible
Marsha didn’t get lucky and these events weren’t random. She got receptive and then manifested what some would call a miracle. Her willingness to trust the process, rest when tired, and explore her dreams made the difference.
That willingness is what we cultivate in the Positively Focused practice. By “cultivate” I don’t mean working hard at it, but by nurturing the one relationship that makes everything else make sense: Our relationship with our Inner Being. That relationship is the source of every insight, every dream, and every inspired action. And it’s available to everyone.
We don’t have to wrestle our way through resistance, we can rest our way into clarity. We can dream our way into power, freedom and our sovereignty. And we can become people who feel good first, and let life match that frequency.
TLDR: A series of vivid, emotional dreams led to a deeply cathartic experience, resolving internal struggles with a sense of homecoming and fulfillment. This transformative journey left the writer feeling great and eager for more extraordinary living.
Wow. It’s 0736. I just woke feeling wonder. There’s a massive smile on my face. Happiness flows through me as well as a sense of powerful worthiness.
Worthiness is an important feeling. All my clients start out far from feeling worthy. A lack of worthiness plagues all of humanity. It’s complicated, but that unworthiness feeling explains all the drama humans create as a species and as individuals.
For me, however, my worthiness is growing by leaps and bounds. This morning offered yet another expansion of it. An expansion I am conscious of. And that consciousness, that awareness, is why I’m feeling wonder.
Here’s what happened.
Unpleasant is communication
Over the last few weeks, I noticed decisions I’ve made that resulted in less than desirable results. I won’t describe what the decisions were. That’s because I’d rather amplify vibrations associated with what’s having me feel wonder and worthiness. And focusing on the decisions will amplify that old momentum.
Suffice it to say the decisions were ones I noticed brought me unpleasant manifestations. Looking from the outside, you might describe these manifestations as extremely minor. Not like my newest client, who yesterday got T-boned while driving her cat in her Tesla to the Vet. No, my unpleasant manifestations these days are minuscule compared to that.
But like all unpleasant manifestations, they came in a cluster. A cluster of increasingly intense events. That intensity cluster was good. It caught my attention. And in that, I could do something about what was unfolding. If we don’t see what’s happening, we can’t do anything about it. I’m so glad I can see what’s happening.
So last night, I made a different decision. I decided I wanted to change my trajectory.
That’s what happened. But how it happened was extraordinary.
Leverage found in sleep
What happened all happened in dream state. While everyone dreams, hardly anyone understands what happens in that state. Even those who interpret dreams and those who do “dream therapy” likely don’t understand dreams. What’s happening in dreams is far more sophisticated than we know. And far more powerful.
What humans call dreams actually exist on many planes. These planes or dimensions are so numerous, the human brain can’t comprehend what’s happening. But our Broader Perspective, that larger part of us, understands it fully. What’s more, that part of us guides dream activity.
What we do while awake informs that activity. But dreams influence our waking experience in return. When a human can directly, deliberately use dream influence, life gets really interesting. For then we can use that influence to improve life experience.
That’s what happened last night.
It feels like it happened for me, instead of me making it happen. And that’s the yumminess of worthiness. Because everything that happens happens for us. In other words, we’re not making anything happen. We set our focus, then the Universe coordinates outcomes. Outcomes best fitting our focus or intention.
I got a direct experience of that last night. And, frankly, it feels AH-mazing seeing it unfold!
The “topography” of last night’s dream experience.
Proficiency produces powerful dream experience
I had three “segments” of dreams. The first came before my mid-night meditation. The second happened after that mediation. The third immediately followed the second. Several dreams comprised each segment. In total, I dreamed at least 15 dreams. All were extremely vivid and real, just like being awake. But the emotional “tone” or “flavor” of them was far more intense than waking reality.
Seth talks about senses we use in the dream state. Some correspond with our waking senses; seeing, hearing, etc. But some senses don’t correspond to waking senses. Perceiving through emotion is one of those. I can attest to the power of this sense. It feels absolutely intense. And whether it’s unpleasant emotion or pleasant emotion, it is that way…intense.
Which is why nightmares frighten us so.
In the first segment, I found myself in several different realities. I was in a suburb with houses, streets, sidewalks. But the place was nothing like waking reality. Where I was probably doesn’t even exist on this plane.
These first dreams all featured me making choices. While making them, I felt confused. I couldn’t decide what to choose. For example, I was in someone’s home. I was trying to choose a ball. The homeowner offered a variety from which to choose. There were many kinds of balls – basketballs, dodgeballs, etc. Some were old. Others were new. But, for some reason, I couldn’t choose.
On the way to that person’s home, I drove on a highway. While following traffic, I noticed I needed to follow the highway to the right. I didn’t do that though. Instead, I curved left. But I knew I wanted to go right!
Both of these are examples of me making decisions that resulted in unpleasant outcomes. You can see that they mimicked what I did while awake.
The set up continues
In the second segment, I walked through a dance club. To get there, I had to drive through an unfamiliar city at night. I parked my vehicle in the parking lot, then went inside. Inside, I met several unseemly youths. After those encounters, I decided to leave. But when I got outside, I noticed my vehicle was gone. I had just bought it. But then I realized my bad purchase decision: I bought a truck that was easy to steal.
Coaxing the youths to tell me who took it didn’t work. They took it, I knew, but they weren’t admitting it. At this point in the dream series I tried mightily to fix my decisions. Doing so got me feeling really intense negative emotion. Emotion that also was highly disempowering. It felt like despair, a wanting to give up. Highly uncharacteristic of me!
And this is another value of dream reality. It’s like a testing ground. It gives us experiences we won’t want in real life. There, we can experiment with them, and learn from them without having to live the dream “for real”.
I remember waking from the first segment feeling really clear those dreams were about my recent choices in waking reality. Waking from this second segment, it was clear how choices in the dream aligned with beliefs I have. Beliefs I’m wanting to change.
After that I went into the third segment. What happened next prompted this post.
Non sequiturs create resolution
In the third segment, I realized the purpose of this whole process. And the feeling I felt associated with that was extraordinary.
The dreams involved me being in the company of a beautiful being. I felt great comfort in their company. “Comfort” doesn’t do the feeling justice. Words can’t describe the power and pleasure of what I felt. We sat with others who watched a sporting event on television. I felt I belonged among these beings.
One of them, a female, stood before me. She had a beautiful body. Tattoos covered every inch of it. She said, without using any words, that she wanted to remove them. And that’s what she did. She peeled them away one by one with her fingers. As she did this, I felt something…a kind of release….
Then I was in an open area of low-lying buildings. My older brother stood beside me. Beneath our feet was a hand-woven rug of Middle Eastern origin. These fantastic planes flew above us. One after another passed over us and, as they did, I spoke to my brother in Farsi about how we can make use of this “campaign” to resolve differences between our country and others…
I know that doesn’t sound at all like the resolution I asked for. But you had to be there!
I’m including the major dreams only. Otherwise this post would be a TLDR experience. Suffice it to say, each one flowed one into the other with perfect cohesion. Still, I get they sound like non-sequiturs.
A perfect compendium of catharsis
The last dream I experienced before waking was the kicker. I stood in a shower. The shower wasn’t mine. Outside the shower window I heard children playing happily. Beside me, in the shower was a beautiful small-breasted woman. Her body was….nothing short of extraordinary. The water ran down both our bodies and all I remember besides what you just read was a feeling of HOME. It was a feeling of all being well, of release after climax, of ecstasy or completion.
Then a series of dreams happened that took this experience to a new level. It’s hard to describe exactly what happened. That’s because language doesn’t align with what happens in nonphysical. And the dream state happens in nonphysical.
Nevertheless the series involved me experiencing situations in which I “paused”. And in the pause, I did something that translated as resolving the process or beliefs or momentum that had me make decisions producing dissatisfying results. I knew that’s what happened, but it’s hard to make direct connection between what I saw and experienced in the dream and my translation of it.
All I can say is it was extremely cathartic. Especially after the climactic dream I experienced before that.
This entire process was such a fulfilling experience! When I woke it was just before 0730 and I knew, I just knew, what I asked for had been resolved on my behalf.
How did I know?
The joyful catharsis I felt directly stemmed from my dream experience. (Photo by Omid Armin on Unsplash)
Emotions: Indications of expansion
Because I felt GREAT. But that’s not all. I also felt FOR SURE that what you just read happened. I recalled ALL OF IT. Including the emotions, the associations with wake state experience prior to going to bed…all of it.
Before I started writing this, I amplified everything you’re reading by affirming how great it feels. I affirmed this new day. A new day unburdened by old belief. I expressed appreciation for, and felt joy in the expressing, my expanded awareness. I also expressed how blessed I felt by my cadre — the innumerable beings in nonphysical that support every desire I create as a result of being human.
Re-reading all this, I’m in awe. It’s this kind of experience that gradually becomes available to all my advanced practice clients. I feel blessed to lead the way. The way to extraordinary living. It certainly feels extraordinary. And I’m eager for more.
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