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Why Letting The Universe “Do” Is Always Best

TL;DR: The author shares about a client, who, seeking love, experiences an effortless manifestation after releasing control. His story proves how trusting the Universe leads to joy, ease, and the unfolding of the Charmed Life.

The most satisfying and delightful, the most joyous way of getting what we want is by letting the Universe take care of the “doing”.

My latest new client recently discovered this. It’s very early in his Positively Focused practice – only his second session. And yet, he, like almost every client, showed himself the power of positive focus.

Whenever a new client starts the practice, they always produce evidence like what you’re about to read. There are two reasons for that. One, what we talk about in-session is exactly how the Universe works. So when clients open themselves to tuning in, the Universe confirms what they heard in-session. It delivers proof as a way of saying “See? It’s accurate.”

Second, the Universe and the client’s Broader Perspective want the client to embrace the practice. Not for the practice’s or for my sake, but because through the practice the person expands into more. So those two – the Universe and the client’s Broader Perspective – will orchestrate unmistakable proof they’re on the right track.

What happened then was meant to happen for these reasons. And, what happened not only showed the client how fun it is to align with All That Is, it gave the client a direct, visceral, delightful experience showing he can create his reality.

Let’s look at what happened.

Manifesting “organically”

This client came through my Transamorous Network offering. I told the story of how that happened in this post. How this client became a client is, itself, a wonderful manifestational argument for letting the Universe handle the doing.

Anyhow, this client came wanting help finding a transgender partner. Unlike other Transamorous Network clients, he already embraces his trans attraction. Like those other clients, however, this client believes finding quality transgender women is near-impossible. He’s tried online dating – to scant success – but he wants better experiences.

I don’t recommend online dating for many reasons. You can read about them here. Instead of online dating, I suggested to my client, that he would enjoy meeting his match “organically”. The client used the word “organically” in place of my phrase, which was “manifest her”.

In talking about “manifesting her”, I painted a scenario. I suggested that, through this practice, he might learn how to listen to his intuition. His intuition might, for example, tell him to go to a convenience store. Should he follow that intuition, when he goes to the store, he’ll run into a trans woman. A trans woman who his Broader Perspective (intuition) knew was there. His Broader Perspective would orchestrate the rendezvous.

And, when he sees her, when he’s dialed into the Positively Focused approach, the perfect words will flow from his mouth. Next thing he knows, I said, he and she will enjoy a date together.

That’s the story I painted. But that’s not what happened. What did happen was no less amazing, however.

Effortless dating

I told the story above in our first session. When the client arrived at the second session, he had a lot to share. He had many updates about his online dating forays, which were hilarious and horrible at the same time. Interspersed with those updates, and almost as an aside, he offered something that alerted my spidey senses.

He attended a work conference two days after we had our first session, he said. The client explained that the conference brings together people at the company he works at that he doesn’t see often or at all. At the conference, he said, he noticed a trans woman. Just like I told him, he found himself going up to this fellow employee and striking up a conversation with the perfect words.

The client described the encounter as “surprising”. He hadn’t expected a trans woman worked in his company, let alone that he would meet her. And while he and this girl didn’t go on a date (she represented a stepping stone on his journey, not the destination) he recognized the divine timing, the connection between what we talked about in our first session and this unfolding.

I asked him, then, directly: Which experience do you prefer, which is more fun: online dating and the perils of that, or meeting your match organically?

Of course, he agreed that the latter is much more fun and much easier. It’s actually effortless.

It’s always more fun meeting someone through manifestation.

The Charmed Life is everyone’s life

This is how everything can happen in our lives. The Universe is constantly delivering what we want to us. It’s happening effortlessly. But when we’re all bunged up in the doing, trying to make it happen our way, then we almost always run counter to the delightful way what we want can happen.

When we allow the Universe to handle the doing, however, life gets really easy. It’s the way I prefer it. I’d argue it’s the way we all prefer it. That is, if we knew it was available to us. A lot of us humans get bogged down in distorted beliefs, however. And so we end up doing “it” like everyone else who’s mired in distorted beliefs are doing it.

We needn’t be copies of those people. When we live differently, we become the beacon drawing others to their own, empowered, enlightened, easy life. The Charmed Life I write about every week.

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Seeing The Good Life Through The Lens Of Imagination

Late last week I wrote a post about science and love. I highlighted a client experience showing how disempowering scientific interpretations of reality can be. In this post, I want to point out another gift that conversation brought. One that shows how all of us humans are divine, naturally connected to All That Is and therefore predisposed to the Charmed Life.

If that’s the case, if we are predisposed to the Charmed Life, why do so many humans not live that? The answer lies in the text conversation this client and I had. More specifically, what he texted after I showed him a more imaginative way to look at his “lovesickness” than through scientific lenses. Here’s what he wrote. Let’s look at it again:

The client writes about his ability to “see outside of a reductionist scientific view” of the world. He talks about seeing the Universe as it is: “a conscious one made of love and beauty.”

That’s a beautiful way to put it. It’s also accurate in the extreme. When this client sees the world that way, I’m sure he feels empowerment, joy, connection and what humans call love. Seeing the world that way is a guaranteed outcome of the Positively Focused practice and a hallmark of the Charmed Life. The practice makes that way of seeing habitual or chronic. Through that lens, one can see the world unfolding perfectly, with one’s desires fulfilling themselves right before one’s eyes.

That’s such an empowering place from which to live. So why does this client choose scientific lenses rather than lenses of empowerment?

It’s generational

The same reason most humans do it. In a word: “habituation”.

Each successive generation comes into the world through the generation before it. Those previous generations think their job is to teach the young how to move through the world.

It’s not their job to do that though. But they act as though it is.

Previous generations invariably get caught up in disempowerment’s momentum. The beliefs they form disconnect them from the beauty and love that is reality’s natural state. From there, all they see is disappointment, discouragement, boredom, bondage, fear and insecurity. Oh, they have fleeting glimpses of positive expectation or happiness, but most of their life doesn’t show up that way. The way their life does show up comes from habituation they learned from the generations coming before them.

It’s from there that previous generations entrain the next one. And THAT’S why people double-down on “being realistic”, and “facing the facts”. It’s why they argue against being “pollyanna”; why they believe in “confirmation bias”. It explains why “wishful thinking” as a pejorative describing being Positively Focused is a thing. And so, previous generations pass to the next one a fact-based, realistic lens.

That’s why people end up being realistic instead of imaginative.

We remember

The in-coming generation knows this is going to happen before they come in. So it’s not like they’re a victim of the previous generation. They know what they’re doing deep down. Still, a few come in remembering all this. And it’s those few who offer clarity to the rest.

They’re the visionaries. It’s people like them who move humanity forward. Others come to remind those who’ve forgotten so they may live lives charmed.

My job as one of the latter is to attract those few, remind them what they know and help them recover their sovereignty, their imagination. That’s what is happening with this client. It’s what happens with every client. And that’s why clients’ lives change for the better in dramatic fashion.

My “job” is an expression of love. It’s based on the beauty and love inherent in All That Is. Not science. It is an act of eternal imagination. And its reverberations span all dimensions.

Every person possesses this divine, natural connection to All That Is. The only difference between them and me and my clients is: we remember.

Maybe it’s time you remember too. Book a session, let’s find out.

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Why Clients Find The Positive Life So Powerful

Clients always prove to themselves how effective a Positively Focused orientation is. This usually happens between the first and second session. So it’s an easy “sell” getting clients bought in to being positive. I have a story cued up offering a real-life example of exactly this kind of thing. It features a client who manifested a result he previously thought impossible.

It will publish later in June.

Why does this always happen? Because the Universe is on our side. When we release beliefs blocking that fact, the Universe’s powerful, positive momentum shines through. When it does as a manifested reality matched to our desires, it literally becomes undeniable that this YCYOR business is real.

That one experience is so powerful, it hooks clients. Even if they can’t feel it yet (because their conscious sensitivity isn’t subtle enough to catch it) their Broader Perspective and the inner parts of their consciousness feel it. And that gets us rolling into more powerful levels of the practice.

In time, their sensitivity increases, as does their conscious awareness that something powerful is happening. Their lives change right before their eyes.

It starts from the inside out. They feel better. They can’t put a finger on why. Many think it’s me, but it’s not. It’s them. Then they start seeing their world match how they’re feeling. The world improves. But only for them.

By then, their interest grows so strong, a positive focus gradually becomes what they want more than anything. It’s not straightforward though. Clients go back and forth between eagerness for what they’re experiencing and falling back into old, distorted beliefs. The more evidence they show themselves, however, with help from me showing where that evidence exists, the more they lean into their Positively Focused orientation.

The clients who let their lives do the talking, become highly influential to others. This is especially true with family members, which explains why so many of my clients are sisters, brothers and spouses of early clients. Those closest to us get front-row seats to how much we change when we become positive, powerful people.

Some clients get really excited about their new lives. Those clients try convincing others with their mouths about how great the practice is. That hardly ever works, because words don’t really convince other people. What convinces them is witnessing with their own eyes the change happening in another. Words just get in the way.

And that’s why the Universe gets in on the act early. Because new clients, when they see, or even better, when they feel the evidence, they can’t deny it: Living Positively Focused is the way to go.

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How To Start A Business With No Experience…Effortlessly

TL;DR: A client became a life coach effortlessly—not by training or chasing clients, but by aligning with the version of themselves who already is one. By soothing limiting beliefs and embracing their natural gifts, they began attracting ideal reflections. This story shows how manifestation unfolds through vibrational alignment and trust.

A client wants to be a life coach. It’s going to be an awesome practice. They are a natural at helping people find their empowerment and they’ve been doing that for a while. But only with friends. Not with clients. And not for hire. Becoming a “life coach” is something they’ve always wanted. And so that’s the main reason for them becoming a Positively Focused client. That and settling some old relationship momentum.

This client is a natural coach because they’re predisposed to this You Create Your Own Reality (YCYOR) business. Some might call them gifted. Others might call them Wiccan. Both would be accurate. Because of that, this client is not here to build a practice through “doing”, like others build companies. And because of that, their path has been long. They’ve held for a long time a lot of negative beliefs, thereby building a lot of momentum for themselves over decades.

Ironically, a lot of things about this client set them up perfectly for the path they’re on, including their old beliefs and belief momentum. In this post I want to focus on how this client is building their business and how that’s happening effortlessly.

The latest indicator of success

When I wrote “effortlessly”, I meant that. It’s taken a while for this client to settle in on this way of growing their practice, but settle in they have. Part of the reason why they’ve settled in comes from trust they have after seeing so many amazing things, other than their practice, manifest effortlessly.

But their most recent manifestation brought this client a “chef’s kiss” experience relative to that coaching practice.

While on vacation with their husband, the client luxuriated on balmy Caribbean beaches. Visiting that part of the world was part of a Law of Attraction Caribbean cruise they booked. Most of that time on vacation put the client in a high-vibration state of mind. The couple enjoys vacations, cruising and Law of Attraction. So the combination offered a lot of positivity.

It’s no wonder then, what happened happened the way it did. During one part of the cruise, the client started up a conversation with a stranger. As it goes during get-to-know-yous, the stranger asked the client “What do you do?”

“I’m a life coach,” they said.

“Really? I could use one of those.” the man replied. Then he shared personal details about his life. People usually share their personal stories with this client.

That’s because – duh – they’re a natural coach! After sharing his personal details, the man had a question:

“How long have you been a life coach?” The man asked.

“All my life,” the client said.

The client found resonance with the vibrational version of themselves; the vibrational version that already is a coach.

Becoming a match NOW

Now, that response my client gave was ground breaking. That’s because they had a belief about being a coach (among other beliefs) that prevented them from becoming one. That belief was, “unless you have paying clients, you’re not a coach.” Another belief holding the client back was: “To be a coach, I must learn something I don’t know.”

Those two beliefs, in the past, would have kept the client from saying what they said. They would have felt like an imposter or a fraud or, worse, a liar.

Not any more though. Together we worked through both of those beliefs, among others. Doing so allowed the client to express themselves AS A COACH, NOW, with no relation to the client’s present reality. Instead, the client found resonance with the vibrational version of themselves; the vibrational version that already is a coach. Doing that, they became a match to a person who would want what they offer. Which is exactly what this guy expressed.

This client has no “training” in being a coach. Nor do I, however. Yet I’m thriving in my practice. How? By allowing my natural leadership and my natural gifts to shine. This client is learning to do the same. As they do that, they become a match to manifestations like what happened on their vacation.

It doesn’t matter if this guy they met becomes a client or not. That wasn’t the point of meet up. The point was it acted as a bread crumb showing the client they’re on the path to becoming fully what they already are.

It works 100 percent of the time

And that’s how everything works in this YCYOR business. The client is becoming more and more of a match to what they want. Meanwhile, the world around them increasingly reflects that back to them, as they soothe beliefs making them not a match.

That process takes some time. That’s why such a thing as “divine timing” exists. It also explains why many who think Law of Attraction doesn’t work fail at making it work. Same with those who believe Law of Attraction works, but doesn’t work for things they really want. It fails to work, or seems to not work on things we really want, because we usually think things we want should come to us on our expected time line.

Usually, divine timing is never synched with our expectations. Divine timing nearly ALWAYS significantly lags behind our expectations as to when something should happen. That’s why it’s so important to cultivate appreciation I call “on the way to”. The lag built into manifestations exists so that we can use that time to true up or calibrate to the desire we hold.

Many, however, get impatient in that gap. When they do that, they widen the gap. The lag gets longer because their impatience makes them not a match.

One value I bring to clients is highlighting this important aspect of manifesting and many other aspects of a practice most people don’t understand.

Manifestation is how the Universe works. It’s 100 percent effective. But we must be 100 percent aligned with how it works to have it work deliberately for us. Want to know more? Consider becoming a client. I’ve created a new, more affordable way to do that. Check out my Cohort sessions here.

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Why Spiritual Growth Feels Hard (And How to Make It Easier)

Spiritual growth is a flame we feed with focus. The light we seek waits not in grace bestowed, but in daily devotion — where each breath becomes a match to our divine becoming.

A client over the weekend realized this, although not so poetically. He claimed he was either “lazy” or “bad at the [Positively Focused] practice” because he felt so negatively. I begged to differ. “How can you be lazy or bad at the practice when you’re not doing the practice?” I asked.

Now this client, a veteran of the practice for many years, has a LOT of negative momentum born of pretty intense past experiences. And, he’s made TREMENDOUS progress in expanding out of really negative beliefs, and their corresponding negative emotions, into a more chronic, happy state.

But times do occur where he still feels really bad. Those feelings and associated old beliefs surface, then he succumbs. The reason he succumbs, and I told him this, is because he doesn’t do the practice.

So what is “the practice”?

We must do the homework

In addition to attending sessions wherein I offer guidance, clients are given a series of “homework assignments”, practices or processes. These processes help them connect with their Broader Perspective. But they also establish a foundation of vibrational alignment by developing habits of focus. Without doing these assignments, clients become an untethered sail in the midst of a vibrational mistral.

That was this client’s experience and explained why he felt lazy or bad at the practice. The problem wasn’t laziness or poor performance. It’s that he hadn’t been doing the practice at all. So he’s been like an untethered sail.

And yet, he keeps coming to sessions. Why?

Because in session I hold a very high vibration. One that makes people feel good when they collapse into it. That exposure alone can create enough positive momentum in a person’s life to see positive results. But the real results show up when people do the homework.

And this is why spiritual growth feels hard. It’s because the aspirant must devote themselves to the practice daily. The Positively Focused homework makes spiritual growth easier.

We all enjoy free will. That means we don’t have to do anything, even when our experience of life is near always awful. No one will bestow spiritual growth upon us, or a better life upon us. We must do it ourselves through a daily devotion, a daily practice.

And for many, “devotion” can feel hard. It’s not, but it can feel that way. That’s why people like me exist. People who can light the way for others to follow, to accompany them through their storms. To tether their sail to our stable vibrational halyard, when focus wavers under strong vibrational winds.

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How To See The Bright Future Hidden In Plain Sight

TL;DR: The author argues that media-driven fear distorts reality, but embracing positivity reveals a bright, promising future. Shifting perspective, they say reduces stress, fosters clarity, and aligns with evidence of humanity’s ongoing positive evolution beyond mainstream narratives.

A lot of media-fueled panic is happening. Especially with Liberals. I’m a progressive, just so you know.

But it’s interesting to see how much people on both sides of the spectrum, particularly the extreme edges, have in common.

People on the left are going as bat-shit crazy as those on the right when Obama and then Biden were in office. The only difference is, with the current administration, an EXTREME level of goodness is unfolding. Not because of what Trump is doing, but because of what he triggered.

Without the bigger picture, however, it’s really easy for people to lose themselves in the weeds, feel powerless and, thus, cut themselves off from the joy right in front of them.

And there’s a lot of joy there. I feel it. My clients are increasingly feeling it.

We have two options: One, stop being realistic, which keeps people glued to bad news stories, and embrace positivity. Or two, keep being realistic, which keeps us hooked like a fish to fear, and get cut us off from the joy I assert is there. Embracing positivity, we see the bigger picture. Staying in fear, we lose sight of the promise.

Either option is going to get us to the glorious future I see. The only question is, will we as individuals travel that journey in fear, anger and hate, or in joy, empowerment and eager anticipation?

I choose the latter. Here’s why.

One: It feels better

In seeing the bigger picture I can relax. I don’t, for example, succumb to irrational fears. We’ve seen so many such fears perpetuated by experts. It’s no wonder the right strongly critiques such people. Nuclear annihilation, acid rain, all the bees dying, peak oil, an impermeable ozone layer choking the planet to death…these are some past claims our experts said would doom humanity.

Today, the right has their experts saying Biden and Obama before him would ruin America. Now we have experts on the left saying the same thing about Trump. How long will people keep listening to such people?

I stopped listening to them decades ago. Instead I focus on what I know about where physical reality comes from. Because of that, I feel optimistic about the future. Not simply because I know where reality comes from, but, because I embrace positivity, I can see the bigger picture.

That bigger picture tells me what has always been true: that humanity is eternal, all is well, and the future is bright. Bright in the extreme. Yes, even with Trump doing everything he’s doing.

If you don’t agree with this then fine. You are just like those who thought the world was flat.

Change perspective and see clearly

But when a person chooses positivity they can see the world for what it is. Just like those who discovered that the world was round. Even though humanity thought the world was flat, there was a TON of evidence showing it was not flat. It wasn’t until someone decided to look that humanity saw the bigger picture.

The same is true for what’s happening today. All it takes is lightly changing one’s perspective. Change perspective and suddenly an enormous amount of evidence will prove to you that the world is getting way better than it seems when you’re plunged into the mainstream media. It doesn’t matter if you’re listening to the left wing media or the right. You’re not getting the bigger picture.

For example: Vice President JD Vance recently made the bold face lie that Artificial Intelligence is NOT going to take anyone’s job. He should know better because many people advising President Trump know good and well AI is going to destroy the job-based global economy.

But for those who believe every word said by right wing leaders on media outlets, those people are in for a rude awakening. Because evidence already shows that AI is taking jobs. And AI is getting better every week too. So its path is clear. Jobs are over.

Distorted opinions

Left wing leaders and the media are no better. Last January, the New York Times Podcast, doing a show on the Bitcoin phenomenon, declared a US Federal Bitcoin Reserve to be a “Crypto Bro Pipe Dream.”

First of all, that kind of opinion-ating is not journalism. More important though, opininating has a HUGE influence on how moderates and progressives that read the New York Times and listen to the podcast think about the future and important technologies such as cryptocurrencies.

Cryptocurrencies are far more than just digital money. They underwrite huge projects offering tremendous advantages to us all. Ones that are taking humanity into a future where people don’t have to rely on centralized organizations such as governments, banks and more. Crypto is revolutionizing the world right alongside humanoid robots and AI. It’s not just making some people rich and others broke.

And, by the way, the president did actually create the Federal Bitcoin Reserve through an Executive Order.

But if you swallow mainstream media characterizations like the New York Times’, you come away with opinions like Jody here:

A former friend unfriending me on Facebook after making this hugely distorted comment which shows how little she knows about crypto, me…and death.

Feeling chill is best

Another benefit of seeing the picture, aka embracing a positive perspective, is you not only feel better about what’s happening, it also allows you to relax. Getting angry and stressed over a future that isn’t even going to happen has serious implications for your health. It also makes you very unpleasant to be around. A client during COVID can attest to this.

He was a rabid anti-government, anti-vaxer. He also believed it his mission to save Americans from the poisons in COVID vaccines. Of course, he consumed all that doom and gloom information offered by fringe online personalities. This was well before he discovered that he creates his reality and that nothing can harm him, or anyone else, unless one is a vibrational match to the harm.

The more stressed he got about people taking vaccines, an interesting thing happened: he became more and more isolated. People stopped wanting to be around him. Then his business started failing. Then he started getting depressed. It’s no surprise he seriously considered suicide and that’s when he turned to Positively Focused for help. That was after he saw his older sister, who also is a client, turn her life around.

The best emotional place to be in today’s world is in a place where you feel chill. In that chilled place you will, just by chilling, draw to you evidence of exactly what I’m talking about in this post. But you have to be sensitive to the evidence so when it shows up, you can see it.

I help people sensitize themselves to seeing the amazing future that’s coming to us. Want to see what I see? Become a client. I offer 1:1 sessions and also a new, affordable approach, with Cohort 001 open now.

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Fear: A Great Way To Get Better Life Results

Despite significant differences, nearly all spiritual paths acknowledge and assert the Universe’s predisposition to respond to our thoughts and intentions. It is just how the Universe works. And, that way it works is the nature of how the Universe, and All That Is, expands.

It makes sense then, that we, as thinkers, participate directly in that expansion. In fact, we are a crucial element in that expansion. Through desires born from life experience, born through the contrast life offers, we express thought. All That Is responds instantly to every one.

So our lives could comprise an ongoing series of self-fulfilling desires. And they are. What keeps our lives from looking that way?

Well, fear is one answer. Fear tells us, any time we feel it, that we forgot the Universe responds to all our thoughts. Not knowing this, however, we use fear to double down on perspectives which keep us from becoming matches to our desires and thereby seeing them unfold.

Abraham reminding us that fear is unnecessary.

Fear is good. Joy is better.

When we remember what fear is for, then think thoughts deliberately, the fear goes away. The fear goes away and we become a match to that which we desire. Then, in time, fulfilled desires flow easily into our life experience. I’m enjoying this process as are many of my clients. Some struggle though because hearing, believing, trusting, then, knowing what you’re reading takes time.

Fear is a really good thing. It helps us remember. Remember what though? Remember that we are gods in human form, participating in the sacred expansion of ourselves, and All That Is. Fear, therefore, is a great way get better life results.

It’s not necessary to feel fear as a reminder of what we are or to get better life results. But for most, since they don’t know what we talk about in the Positively Focused practice, fear often is a great alternative.

Too bad so many people mistake that experience – fear – for something else and then let themselves and their lives to become limited by that experience.

You don’t have to be one of those people. Fear does lead to great results eventually. But it’s better, and more fun, to live in joy instead. Find out how to do that by becoming a client today.

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Life: It’s Not All Fun And Games, Until It Is

The reason I think most people are unable or unwilling to create the reality they want is because most of us are too saddled with “what is” or, as one client recently put it “the truth” of our lives. So they don’t know they can create any reality they want.

Make no mistake: Life is FOR REAL. Step into oncoming traffic and you’ll see. So our lives, the “truth” of them, can seem oppressive in their real-ness. Especially if our lives aren’t giving us what we want.

That’s why this You Create Your Own Reality Business (YCYOR) is serious business. It’s not all fun and games. At least not in the beginning.

The legacy of those who came before us

Because most of us, me included before finding out about this YCYOR Business, most of us are living our lives unconsciously creating from thoughts and beliefs that perpetuate the world around us. We work jobs we tolerate, numb ourselves with substances and do our best to make the best of situations we think are “just life”.

Many of those thoughts we inherit from our families. They are so a part of us, we’re oblivious to them. Yet we see them all around us, while not realizing the physical reality we see are our thoughts MADE MANIFEST. Made real.

Once thoughts become real, a lot of momentum exists in them. That means it takes a while for someone who meets this YCYOR Business to build a new momentum behind new thoughts that will create new realities. That delay, therefore, can be hard to move through. Especially if the client comes from really “trauma”-ladened past as many of my clients do.

So it takes a while to move from unsatisfying lives to better ones.

And yet, life is fun and games. We all knew it as that before we chose to come into our life experience. The trick of the Positively Focused practice is to return to that realization then live from that in real time. I applaud my clients because, from a certain perspective, it’s an act of bravery to take on our “what is”, our “truth”, and deliberately create something different. Especially with the “what is” pushing so hard against what we’re wanting, our new reality that gives us so much hope and eagerness.

I appreciate the brave ones willing to take on this practice. Life can be fun and games. But getting there is serious business. It’s not for the feint of heart.

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How One Woman Transformed Her Life by Changing Her Beliefs

TL;DR: Aligning with positivity transforms relationships and reality. By shifting beliefs, one client transformed her life, reclaiming happiness and creating a more loving version of her daughter in the process through intentional focus.

The power of positivity knows no bounds. That’s because the entirety of All That Is leans positively. So when a person begins lining up with the positive focus that is All That Is, that person literally embraces the boundless power of the Universe.

The power is so boundless, it creates all things. Including people. And when a person becomes one with that power, then that person can create versions of people that align with their desires.

That’s what happened over a couple years with one client. After a series of experiences born of their negative focus, they came to Positively Focused. They missed the happiness they once enjoyed, they said. And they wanted that happiness back.

That happiness is exactly what they got and then some. But it took focus. Let’s look at why.

The angel that was the devil

“Dara” came to the Positively Focused Practice distraught over her relationship with her daughter. The daughter was a hellion. She emotionally and verbally abused her mother constantly. She made demands of her mother that most people would think unreasonable in the extreme. But mostly, it was the emotional and verbal abuse, gaslighting, blame, and guilt the daughter used to tear her mother down, which usually ended with the daughter getting what she wanted, every time.

It’s no wonder the daughter, according to Dara, was a splitting image of her father. Dara described him as a narcissist, psychopath and extremely intelligent, all of which makes him an excellent trial lawyer. Those characteristics don’t work very well in relationship though. And so Dara’s relationship with this man always veered into emotional abuse and torment for Dara.

That relationship ended in massive upheaval, leaving Dara to contend with an apple that didn’t fall far from the tree: Her daughter was a splitting image of the daughter’s emotionally-abusive father. And, at 16, she wielded her inherited behaviors with the skill of a neurosurgeon.

Dara came to Positively Focused at her wits’ end. She had lost her joy for life and was desperate for any solution. Examining her Belief Constellations, we discovered the source of this reality that had her at the end of her rope. That’s where we started.

Beliefs create our experience

Our beliefs create our reality. “Reality” includes other people. People we create in our experiences are there for the same reason the rest of our realities exist: they show us what’s in our vibrational mix so we can do something about that and, in doing that, create an inner state of joy.

Do that and our external reality must reflect that improvement back to us in the form of an improved physical life experience. That includes better versions of the people we are creating.

That’s right, people in our experience, therefore, are angels we send to ourselves to prod us (or drag us kicking and screaming) to the better realities we desire. Especially those people who push our buttons.

Dara’s Belief Constellations included the belief “Parents should be there for their children no matter what”. Now that sounds like a morally “true” way to be and most people would agree with it. But it’s also extremely limiting. Especially if you’re here in physical reality for the joy of expansion. Especially too if you’re here to live your own life and your parents, believing this, shelter you from the contrast of life experience –– the very thing that gives birth to your desires.

“Parents should be there for their children no matter what” was a belief Dara created after a formative experience she had at the hands of her parents. Dara’s parents promised they’d pay for Dara’s college. But when the time came, her parents told their daughter they were not going to be able to keep their promise.

The eternity of All That Is

That may not sound like an affront to us. But that decision devastated teenage Dara. The intense emotion she brought to the experience and the conclusion “my parents betrayed me” was strong enough to create a reality — a future — Dara was now living as her present.

Life is an unending series of unfolding events, born of our focus. Those events happen across infinite dimensions in which we exist. Positively Focused practitioners confirm this through the Positively Focused practice’s advanced levels. We use these unfolding series of events to expand ourselves while at the same time getting to know more and more about ourselves. The entire purpose of All That Is, in fact, is increasing self-knowledge.

But self knowledge as a purpose never ends because as we gain more and more self knowledge, we simultaneously create more and more of ourselves. Our existence is therefore a paradox; the more we strive to know ourselves the more of ourselves we create to know. This dynamic gives rise to our eternal natures.

All particles of All That Is participate in this eternal dynamic. And, each particle of All That Is cooperates joyously with every other particle in a mutual self-discovery. In other words, people in our lives are here to assist in our individual expansion into greater self-awareness and we do the same for them. Dara’s experience with her daughter reflected this mutual self-awareness process happening in real time.

Our relationships are reflectors helping us become more. For Dara, her hellion daughter was an angel offering Dara an opportunity to expand.

A hard decision

In other words, her daughter arrived to help Dara let go of her limiting belief about what parents “should” do (among other beliefs). More important, she arrived to help Dara soothe really strong negative momentum perpetuating that belief.

It took Dara a while to accept all of this. Giving up blaming her parents was very difficult. It was also hard for her to understand that she was creating a version of her college-age daughter, the one that treats her abusively, specifically to free herself from blaming her parents for their “betrayal”.

It was very, very hard for her to next do what she knew she must because it meant going against the strong momentum of beliefs she had about her parents’ action. But she had to do it.

She had to cut her daughter off.

After doing so, her daughter turned up the volume of abuse towards her mom. This is normal. Existing reality will always confront and push against an emerging, new reality. The daughter’s behavior essentially asked Dara “just how far are you willing to go in creating a reality you want?”

Thankfully, Dara said “all the way”. Mainly because of how she felt after 30-days of cutting her daughter off.

“I feel a tremendous sense of relief,” Dara said in a session a little over a month after cutting her daughter off. “It’s as though I was in a hostage situation and that situation is over.”

Getting her happiness back

About three months later, Dara came to her session all smiles.

“(My husband) said this past week ‘Honey, you’re so much happier these days’,” she said. “He thought it was because I was no longer in contact with (my daughter). That was part of it, but the bigger part of it is that I’ve been working with you. So I told him ‘It’s because I work with Perry!’”

What’s really cool is, as Dara soothed resistance she had about her daughter, a new version of her daughter began emerging. It started with the daughter no longing leaving berating voicemails on Dara’s phone.

But then, a big shift happened.

“I got a voicemail from [my daughter],” she explained in a tone clearly indicating she knew what was happening. “She said she’s ready to have a new relationship with me. One that’s based on us being kind to each other. I can see how this is me creating a better version of her. But the best thing about all of this is, I’m the happy version of myself that I used to be.”

This was a remarkable shift for Dara. But it’s just what happens when someone creates reality at the source from which their reality emerges: their beliefs. Do that and everything in life changes. Including other people.

You can enjoy your version of what Dara is enjoying today. With the world around us, it’s more important than ever to cultivate a relationship with the positive energy at the basis of All That Is. Becoming a Positively Focused client is easy. And now it’s even more affordable. I’ve created new Cohort sessions that include up to a 60 percent discount on 1:1 session rates. Click here to learn more and start your journey to the Charmed Life my clients are discovering.

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How Everything We Want Thrills Us With Perfect Timing

TL;DR: The author recounts a week of experiences, highlighting the importance of alignment with one’s Broader Perspective. Despite initial plans falling through, the author’s willingness to go with the flow led to a solo trip to the Oregon coast, filled with unexpected joys and breathtaking beauty. This experience serves as a reminder that the Universe delivers what we want, often in unexpected and more satisfying ways.

Yesterday, Thursday, something remarkable happened. Although I’m not that surprised because my alignment to All That Is is producing so many remarkable experiences I find myself barely able to keep up with it all.

What happened Thursday is worth sharing though because it offers so many learning opportunities. Especially for those just beginning, following Law of Attraction, working with the Seth material or other similar practices. What happened also shows how everything we want results from us being aligned. And, that “result” comes as a result of being able to hear; hearing and then immediately following our Broader Perspective guidance.

Let’s dive in.

Soothing destabilization

I’m writing this on Friday, the day after what happened. But the story begins almost exactly one week ago. Last week, I wanted to go to the Oregon coast. I thought it would be a great time to go with a friend of mine. I’ll call her Grace. Grace is pretty spiritually aware. A big aspect of her spiritual orientation is dream work. Her spiritual orientation allows her and I to enjoy our time together.

But Grace also has a past. Like many of us, myself included, she lived her life in contrast: “negative” experiences offering clarity. Clarity she would only realize after the fact. For example, she was part a Christian cult for many years. She met and married her “wasband” in that cult. She also worked many years in a private company I won’t mention that subjected her to a lot of experiences not aligned with who she now knows herself to be.

All that contrast she’s still working through today. From time-to-time a past belief will pop up and destabilize her. Most times, her response to them is admirable. She catches it, soothes herself, then goes on. Sometimes it takes only moments. But sometimes it’s days or weeks.

In the latter instances I won’t hear from her, but I can feel her energy calibrating…

It’s never wrong

So on Tuesday last week I called Grace. I suggested we head to the coast Thursday. She was all in and told me to expect her at my apartment at 10 am Thursday morning.

Thursday morning at 9:30 she texted me. She’d be 20 minutes late, she said. No biggie, I thought, although her being late seems to be developing into a pattern. She arrived 10 minutes earlier than she expected, still 11 minutes late.

When I met her at her car, I could tell something was up. I asked what was happening and tears started flowing down her face. Grace explained that she had a tough morning that involved struggling with technology then wrestling with thoughts and beliefs about always being late, being hard on herself and more. She even worried that I would be mad at her if she arrived late.

I wasn’t mad in that moment. I was more curious. But I did feel some annoyance that she was late.

“Who cares if I get mad?” I asked. “It doesn’t really matter.”

Of course it doesn’t matter. When a person is feeling any emotion, especially negative ones, that emotion has nothing to do with anything happening outside that person. A Positively Focused practice makes this obvious.

But people often take other peoples’ emotional state as indicating they did something wrong. That’s never the case, but we’re all taught at an early age that we can make people feel different things. Again, this is not accurate.

Communication from angels

Eventually it was clear Grace was in no shape to head to the coast. I suggested she head back home and relax instead. I told her I would be totally ok with that. Soothed a bit more, Grace agreed. I got out of her car and she drove off.

I would have enjoyed heading to the coast, but obviously today wasn’t the day. Relaxing myself, I then went back up to my apartment and focused on getting some things done and enjoying my day off. Friday and the weekend came and went.

Tuesday the following week, I wanted to go on a run. The weather wasn’t cooperating though. It started raining although the forecast showed it wouldn’t rain until five hours later. I felt frustrated about that. In that moment I saw 1313 on my phone. I keep my phone on military time, so “1313” is the same as 1:13 p.m. The military time version however is what’s called an “Angel Number” in New Age Circles.

According to experts, 1313 often appears during moments of change, challenge, or shifting emotions, offering reassurance and guidance to help us navigate these experiences with grace. So I knew this Angel Number signified my frustration and an opportunity to navigate that feeling into a better-feeling one. I did so, and shortly after, received the number 1331 on my phone which also is an Angel Number.

1331 is the mirror of 1313. 1331 emphasizes growth through challenges and creatively navigating disruptions. It encourages forward momentum and trust in the process. It also reflects harmony between the inner self and outer circumstances. Seeing 1331 after seeing 1313 indicates a shift into alignment.

I did feel better. But what happened later in the week I know happened because of this inner shift I made.

Going with the flow

Every morning I typically meditate at least once for an hour. Usually I meditate twice, once in the very early morning and again after waking up for the day. On Thursday, none of that happened. I slept through the night Wednesday night. When I woke Thursday, my Broader Perspective spoke to me as clear as someone right next to me.

They said “Go to the Oregon coast today.”

Of course when my Broader Perspective tells me to do something, I usually snap to it. This was no different. It would require renting a car because I don’t have one. I checked the weather and…holy smokes…it was going to be perfect all day. Sunny skies and 55 degrees, both in the city and out on the Oregon coast!

I Googled “rental cars” and got a booking website. The first offering for the date and time I selected was for a Fiat sports car for only $36 a day! What a deal! I checked the details and booked the car. Arriving at the rental center, a friendly counter agent greeted me. I asked if I would get that Fiat and he said no, those cars are reserved at the airport only.

I was slightly disappointed, but remembered the message inherent in 1313. This was an adventure and I was going to go with the flow of it!

Instead of a Fiat, I got a Chevy Malibu, which was actually a comfortable car. What I liked most about it was Apple CarPlay which allowed me to play my music through the car’s excellent speakers.

But the best part was the cost: less than $100 for a 2-day car rental! Insurance included!

A spectacular adventure

My drive to the coast was nothing short of spectacular. Having no responsibility and no job, I took my time, stopping at places and stretching, admiring the views, basically enjoying the whole trip. It was nice traveling the speed limit rather than trying to rush to the destination. I had no destination after all. It was a pure, joyful, solitary adventure.

I planned to head to Cannon Beach or Manzanita, two of my favorite Oregon coast spots. But my Broader Perspective had other plans. After heading through Astoria and admiring that coastal city, my Broader Perspective encouraged me to explore someplace I hadn’t before: a small hamlet called Gearhart.

O.M.G.

Gearhart featured a near-deserted beach stretching at least 10 miles! It was totally flat, the tide was out, and the only others out there besides me were clam hunters. What’s more, the temperature was near 60 degrees! That’s unheard of in December. Usually also in winter the winds pick up on the beach. Not today. The winds barely blew. So I was toasty as I walked up and down the beach for about four hours.

As the sun began setting I got ready to head back to the Malibu. But again, my Broader Perspective had other plans. It encouraged me to wait and enjoy the sunset. There was still an hour before the sun would go down so I grabbed a spot on a really beautiful weatherworn bench and read from my reading device. Then, as the sun set, the sky included a dappling of clouds that arrived in perfect timing.

The glorious sunset at Gearhart, Oregon.

Delivering what we want

As the sun went down it played with earth’s atmosphere to create what I swear was an oil painting in the sky. It was absolutely gorgeous. And, as the sun set I felt warm, magical and blessed as I marveled at how, just a week ago I wanted to visit the beach. And here I was, me and my Broader Perspective, witnessing and appreciating and reveling in an age-old pursuit: enjoying the sun setting.

What great guidance! It was one of the best sunsets I’ve ever seen. After the sun went down, I walked back to the Malibu, then enjoyed a peaceful, easy drive back to my apartment. Of course, I got perfect parking, then reveled in my home.

I reveled in how I held no resistance to not being able to go to the beach last week. In doing so, I lined up with my Broader Perspective which must have known that going on my own would be much more thrilling, much more satisfying.

It sure was! And the weather was perfect, which was not the case last week. Last week was grey and cold.

And this is the thing with All That Is. It delivers what we want. Every time. But sometimes, it delivers things in ways we can’t expect. And if we’re open to it, that unexpected way can be more satisfying than the way we want it to happen.

Often the way we want it to happen includes it happening on the schedule we expect. But if we are willing to go with the flow instead, give up thinking we know the best time for something to happen, or the best way it’s supposed to happen, we’ll be more than pleasantly surprised.

We’ll be thrilled.

Speaking of going with the flow, you’re invited to a 90-minute online event on March 1 at 10 a.m. Pacific Time called Belief Constellations: Politics, Relationships And Our MAGNIFICENT Future. I’ll give a deep dive into what Belief Constellations are and how to use them to align with the fabulous future on the horizon. It’s only $15. Grab a spot, or, if you’re a MeetUp member, go here.