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How One Client Turned Misery Into A Joyous Mystery

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TL;DR: The author uses a client’s surprising example to show how astonishing life can be, they say, when one realizes thoughts and beliefs create reality and puts that realization into action.

I shouldn’t be astonished when clients produce mysterious-seeming joy in their lives. But every time it happens, I am astonished. That’s because how it happens is aways astonishing. It confirms how resourceful the Universe is in giving us what we want.

A client this week experienced something truly astonishing. He proved to himself how he creates his reality with help from a vast array of nonphysical beings. Beings focused on making his life a joyful journey.

What happened left him speechless. It also left him feeling deep wonder. What happened engaged nearly every aspect of the Positively Focused Way. He created which reflected back to him extremely disempowering beliefs about an important subject. In response to that, he then created an astonishing manifestation in a grocery store. Then, a series of dreams he had brought home an extremely powerful message; one the client couldn’t miss. In getting the message, the client soared to new, until-now unattained heights of fascination.

How this all happened reflects the power inherent in all of us. We are all gods in human form, folks. We’re here experiencing a human experience for the joy of it. The joy and satisfaction inherent in expanding All That Is is our birthright. There’s infinite power, pleasure and possibility in that. That power, pleasure and possibility also is within us. And when we choose expressing those three things deliberately, like this client did, then our lives reflect the miraculous inherent in the entire Universe.

Let’s look more at what happened.

Getting unstuck

This client once struggled with strong suicidal thoughts. Those thoughts came from extremely disempowering interpretations of his early life experiences. None of those past experiences were bad. Experience never is. Instead, they clued him in on aspects of himself he hadn’t known before. Aspects that would later bring him into alignment with the joyful life he knew was his.

Back then, though, the client, who I’ll call John, didn’t interpret those experiences this way. Instead he interpreted them as extremely negative. Over time, those negative interpretations built momentum within him. John made all those negative interpretations about himself. As a result, he hated himself. In time, those interpretations became beliefs about himself, which is why he wanted to kill himself.

Wanting to kill one’s self is a natural thing. It happens when someone builds up negative momentum born of negative interpretations that eventually become negative beliefs. Those beliefs then create real world experiences proving them “true”. When that happens, those experiences become more and more one’s reality. This process happens on any subject.

When a person finds themselves stuck in extremely strong, negative beliefs, especially about themselves, wanting to end it all often is the best outcome. Especially if the person can’t find a way out of that torment. And many can’t.

Even so, everyone can get unstuck. They came into human form for a reason. That reason didn’t include checking out early, even though some do. John was someone who found his way out. He happened to do so through the Positively Focused Way.

But we’re getting ahead of ourselves…

Projection is common

Like many people stuck in self-hatred, John projected his self-hatred out into the world. Projection happens a lot in humanity. It makes sense if you think about it. Very few people realize where their external reality comes from. They don’t know the external reality they see comes from their inner state of being. It makes sense then that if a person doesn’t know their external reality springs from their inner state – thoughts and beliefs – then rather than doing something about their thoughts and beliefs, they’ll blame their external reality for their troubles.

That often includes blaming other people. But people, like everything else in our lives, are reflections too. Versions of people we meet reflect back to us what’s going on in us. So if we meet a lot of angry people, for example, we must have anger in us. Meet a lot of loving, cuddly dogs? There’s love in us. Yes, it’s that simple.

The target of John’s projection was obvious: women. He blamed a lot of what he didn’t like on the fact that women wouldn’t give him attention. John didn’t realize women spurning him was happening because he spurned himself. So he blamed women. He projected his self-hatred on women, in other words.

It’s vibration, momentum and attraction…not effort

While projecting his hatred onto women, John also wanted women. More directly, he wanted sex. But his approach to women reflected the mixture of his beliefs and desires. He wanted sex. And he believed the kind of sex he wanted came from women. But he hated women as a projection of hating himself. So every time he tried to woo women’s attention, they would, in his words, reject him.

No wonder! The women were reflecting all of John’s self-rejection back to him. It’s also no wonder that John started paying (a lot) for coaching on the subject of “the art of seduction”. A particularly popular offerer of that content caught his attention. Before long, John was thousands of dollars into this approach.

But it never worked for him. Women kept spurning him.

I tell clients many things over and over. So much so I sound like a broken record, I know. But as one client said recently “Perry, sometimes it takes time for what you tell us to move from our heads to our hearts.” I totally get that because I was once in my clients’ shoes. So when you read what you’re about to read, I get that it won’t likely sink in. Ready? Here it comes:

Taking action doesn’t make ANYTHING happen. Everything happening is a result of vibration, momentum and attraction.

This explains why John’s indulgence in “seduction coaching” wasn’t working. All the action in the world, all the money in the world, can’t overcome negative momentum. Abraham puts it plainly:

Misogyny: projected self hatred

It’s no wonder John’s inability to get what he wanted through “seduction coaching” deepened his self-hatred. It seemed the more he tried, the worse he got rejected. At his wits end, he discovered Positively Focused.

It took a while, but John discovered several things about himself. One thing he realized was he had turned into a misogynist. He doesn’t like admitting this, but it’s accurate. In fact, I’d argue most misogynists have some self hatred going on. They’re projecting that hatred onto women and that makes them hate women.

But that’s another story.

One day, John expressed wanting to go out with a woman. This was after a long period of focusing on other priorities through the Positively Focused Way. I suggested he do so as a way of seeing how he was doing soothing his old beliefs. I told him the woman he would meet would be a perfect match to where he was now in soothing his self hatred. He’d learn a lot too, I told him.

He did learn a lot

The woman he met, let’s call her Meg, was quite a bit older than John. They decided to go on a hike. John was super clear with Meg about his disinterest in dating or even a relationship. He was, he said, exploring and really looking for a casual hook-up. Meg told him she was open to that, but she wasn’t ready just yet.

The hike went well. At the end of the day though, Meg hadn’t contacted John. When John reached out, Meg said in a text that she liked her time with him but didn’t think they were a match.

As you can imagine, this sent John into a tail spin. It triggered all his past beliefs about himself and, through projection, about women. Over four days, John doubled down on these old beliefs making himself more and more miserable in the process. As far as John was concerned, Meg was, in his words, a crazy bitch, a cunt and liar and more. All the while John felt more and more unwanted, rejected and miserable.

What John had trouble understanding over those days was the following. John wasn’t miserable because of what Meg did or didn’t do. John was miserable and angry, for sure. But those emotions told John something he really wanted to know. They told him beliefs he held about himself and women are not the same beliefs his Broader Perspective knows about those subjects.

This is an important bit of information and I’ll dive a bit deeper next because it’s important to understand. Knowing this information also helps us appreciate what happened next.

The valuable message of our emotions

Physical reality is, as I wrote above, a reflection. But a lot of people don’t know this. They also don’t know they come equipped with a hugely beneficial tool to help them move through this reflection towards a reflection full of everything they want. That tool is their emotions.

Every human is, of course, more than human. We are all eternal beings. We’re also much more than can fit into a single human body. So when we become human, we put a portion of us into the human body. Meanwhile the vast majority of what we are remains in nonphysical; the place from which we come.

When we sort of split ourselves up like that, that part of us remaining outside our bodies enjoys a birds eye view of our lives. That part of us can see all the choices we might, will and will not make. It sees the alternate probable future realities flowing from all those choices. Yes, even the ones we will not make. All of these futures fulfill our main purpose for being, which is expanding All That Is and ourselves in the process. So our Broader Perspective is keenly, always, seeing what’s happening as uber positive.

It also delights in wherever we are in the moment because it can see how where we are is the perfect place for us at that moment. So it always sees our present moment in the most positive light. When we don’t see our present moment that way, we feel negative emotion.

So emotions help us integrate the part of us in our bodies with the part of us that remains where we come from. I’ll share why that integration is important next.

It’s all about inspired action

Because our Broader Perspective enjoys that birds eye view, and because it knows what we want at all times, it constantly sends us messages – clues or gut feelings – which will lead us to what we want. But to receive those messages, we must open ourselves to perceiving them. We do that by integrating ourselves, matching our perspective of life in our physical bodies to the perspective of our life our Broader Perspective has. Do that and we can “hear” the messages.

Follow the messages and our life unfolds in a seeming magical way. Everything we want comes easily, often with no effort. Remember what you read above about action? Action doesn’t make things happen. What action does do is, when we take it, that action positions us in the reality coordinates of time and space where the final unfolding of what we want appears.

Inspired action is action taken as a result of hearing our Broader Perspective’s messages. When we get a message and we follow it immediately, we rendezvous with a delightful unfolding. But All That Is is always in motion. So if we delay, if we hesitate when we get a message, then we miss the rendezvous. Taking inspired action immediately then, is key.

So emotions, are guides. They help us know, at any given moment, how aligned we are with our Broader Perspective. That tells us whether we can hear messages we send ourselves. And, when we hear the message and take the inspired action, we rendezvous with the ongoing Charmed Life I write about here. The life where everything happens with very little effort.

Let’s turn back to John’s story now.

A huge gift given to himself

It took a long time for John to understand what I was telling him when I told him, in response to his vitriol, that Meg was actually an angel he created for himself to see how his beliefs are making himself miserable. And that his misery, which is an emotion, was also a huge gift he was sending himself.

Can you see how it was a huge gift?

And for sure, Meg was an angel. Another way of putting it is, Meg was a reality John created for himself as a reflection, so that he can do something about his beliefs. She was, what we call a cooperative component to John getting what he wants. For he can’t get what he wants if he’s not integrated with his Broader Perspective. And “misery” tells him he’s not integrated!

So his experience with Meg was a huge gift.

As I told him before, Meg was also a perfect match to John. She was unsure of what she wanted as much as he was. She reflected his self-rejection back to him by expressing no future interest in him. Again, it wasn’t something John wanted to hear. I’m so glad therefore that the Universe stepped in and offered John an experience that brought that message home. What happened next was astonishing.

An astonishing unfolding

John felt a bit better after our talk. It took a while, but we’re all eternal, so how long it takes doesn’t matter. One day he got the inspired action to go to Whole Foods. He didn’t realize this was inspired action though. He just thought he was running an errand. That perspective was about to completely change.

While shopping, a little girl came up to John and, as he describes it, started a delightful conversation with him. John described her as “sweet” in a text he sent me just after the encounter.

But what really surprised me was what John texted next. Mind you, he was feeling much better after venting his vitriol at someone (me) who could channel that energy to his benefit rather than amplify it. Here’s his interpretation of that Whole Foods rendezvous:

Isn’t that an astonishing interpretation? Of course, when John shared that he couldn’t help but feel extremely positive emotion about himself, about the girl and about the experience. That’s because this interpretation was spot on. It also was exactly why the Universe brought him and the child together: so that he could further soothe his bogus beliefs. Beliefs about women and about himself.

John said he didn’t have words to express how delightful that experience was. He felt a shift happen in him, something that he hadn’t felt before. And he couldn’t believe it happened the way it did; through an experience with a child.

What happened next surprised John even more.

Dreams are critical

Over the next several nights, John had a series of dreams. These dreams took him to new heights of wonder and amazement.

Dream work is a big part of the Positively Focused Practice. That’s because dreams are a big part of life. Ninety-five percent of what’s necessary for us to have what we want happens in nonphysical. “Dream state” is another way of describing nonphysical. When we dream, we leave our bodies in bed. We join all the cooperative components in nonphysical. There we witness and interact with those components as they assemble everything needed – people, events, resources – so our desires unfold.

The reason I include dream work in the Positively Focused Practice is because conscious awareness of what’s happening when we sleep builds confidence and trust that all we want is happening on our behalf. Conscious awareness of dream activity is also extremely satisfying.

Another reason dream work is important is because it makes us aware that we are far more than our physical bodies. We become acquainted with all the other dimensions, the alternate and probable realities, in which we are active, just as we are active here in this reality.

Acquainting ourselves with our broader activities also lessens our fear of death and increases our belief that we are eternal. So dream work is a critical part of the practice.

John’s crucible

I ask clients that they record their dreams so we can interpret them together. This helps clients become more familiar with the dream world. It also softens their resistance to perceiving dreams.

Everyone dreams, but for important reasons, most people don’t know they dream. Many who do often forget them the moment they wake.

John fits in this category. Even so, he realized over several dreams in the ensuing days that he was sending himself an important message as evidenced in his text:

In our next session John and I marveled over these dreams. They were cluing him in on the process he’s going through, which very much feels to him like a crucible. Interestingly, John had never heard of the word before this. A crucible is something, usually a process something or someone goes through, that includes a severe trial. And through that trial a purification process happens.

So John realized these dreams were about soothing himself around the idea that he’s doing the work. Doing the work and benefitting from the work he’s doing. John was stunned in how applicable his dreams were. And he marveled the whole session about how well he was doing.

The unfolding in totality

I would love to end this story here, but that would be disingenuous. For as much as this experience moved John, he’s still struggling with reality as created by him, according to his still dominant negative belief momentum.

To understand what happened next, we have to recap what happened over the week I’m sharing about. John took my advice to test out his current vibrational state on the subject of his self-hatred and projecting that self-hatred onto women, by going out with one. That experience matched him with a person perfectly matching his vibration, Meg, who reflected perfectly back to John where he currently is.

John struggled over the next few days, but was able to finally soothe some of his negative momentum on the subject of himself and women. Soothing himself, he came into alignment with his Broader Perspective, which nudged him into Whole Foods where he rendezvoused with a fabulous amplification of the ongoing learning, which came in the form of a child.

Meanwhile, John further soothed himself in dreams in which he realized he was moving through a crucible.

But the Universe and his Broader Perspective weren’t done. In the marvelous, astonishing experience with that child, John integrated even more with his Broader Perspective. And so, the Universe brought him another gift.

A sick thrill

As we expand, the Universe will deliver more opportunity to expand even further. This is the never-ending process of expansion for ourselves and All That Is. It can’t be stated strongly enough: this is a NEVER-ENDING PROCESS. It’s that process of never-ending expansion that gives birth to our eternity.

John was in a strong post-expansion state of awareness in his realization of how profound his Whole Foods rendezvous was. So, John, the Universe and his Broader Perspective served up another opportunity for expansion. What that looked like was a surfacing of a series of old beliefs John has which also must be soothed for continued expansion.

These beliefs involved two subjects John has a lot of negative momentum around. One has to do with friends who, in John’s telling “rejected”, “disrespected” and “marginalized” him during what he would say was a time of need in his life. The other has to do with how he felt, again, disrespected, used and marginalized, by a transgender woman for whom he has extremely strong positive feelings.

But John didn’t see the surfacing of these beliefs, and their associated negative emotion, as an expansion opportunity. Instead, he let these beliefs trigger even more powerful, negative emotions. Until he found himself in the depths of powerlessness, grief and, again, self-hatred:

John sent the text above two days our session in which we talked about his dreams and after doing exactly what his text described over those two days.

It’s good we’re eternal

Many clients struggle with this. This “you create your reality” business is serious. It can be fun too, thrilling even, when you see everything you want happening with no effort on your part.

But until one builds evidence of that happening, it can be a real slog.

We can’t create a new reality without soothing the reality we’ve created. And if that created reality is extremely negative, then it’s going to take a while to soothe it. And, that reality will keep asserting itself, not as punishment, but because of momentum. Which is why it’s a good idea to see it reasserting itself as a positive thing.

This is another reason why it’s a good thing we’re eternal. There’s no rush to John soothing his hold momentum, wherein he’s numbing himself and feeling suicidal. He has all of eternity to do it. And he is doing it.

The empowering news is, he’s the only one who can do it. No one else will or can stand in his way and prevent the work from happening. No one but him. For just as he’s the only one who can do it, he’s also the only one who can keep himself from doing it. That applies to every client. It also applies to every person.

No one prevents any of us from having what we want. We all do that to ourselves. That’s why it’s so important to get that our reality springs from our thoughts and beliefs. Armed with that knowledge, we can create any reality we want. We can literally turn misery into a joyous mystery.

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An Excellent Example Of Why I Trust Spiritual Guidance

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TL;DR: The author shares how they developed a connection with their inner self that they use to create happier life experiences, by following guidance they get from their “Broader Perspective”, a nonphysical component of their total being.

Yesterday, my Broader Perspective encouraged me to not eat when I got home. I love my body. I love it looking a particular way and feeling a particular way as well. My Broader Perspective knows this, of course.

So when I went for my walk, they encouraged me through their “still silent voice” to not have another meal when I returned home. I argued a little bit, asking whether a light snack, like popcorn, or maybe a hotdog, would be OK. But in either case I got no response: When I feel goose bumps or shivers in my body, that’s them saying “yes”. When I get no response, that’s them saying “no”.

I was a little poopy about their “no”, but decided to follow their guidance.

Then, this morning, when I did my morning routine, which includes measuring my weight and body composition, I was delighted to discover that I hit my target weight.

This may seem like an insignificant achievement. And yet, seemingly insignificant achievements, comprise the vast amount of data, results or manifestations, proving we can trust spiritual guidance. It is this trust built on insignificant achievements that then allows us to trust guidance on more significant, desired achievements. Achievements like shapeshifting, teleporting, astral travel and manifesting huge piles of money.

Enjoying our expansion

I love knowing this. And I have a vast treasure trove of “insignificant achievements” which has me deeply trusting guidance I get from the spiritual realm, spearheaded by my Broader Perspective. That’s why I aspire to these impossible-seeming achievements. Like shapeshifting, for example.

Developing strong connections with our Broader Perspective, our spiritual guidance, inspires very lofty goals. And that’s exactly what we’re here to experience. We’re here, on this planet, in this physical reality, to enjoy our expansion. Our expansion happens whether we want it or not. But our experiences of that expansion are up to us.

Look around. Many of us aren’t enjoying that experience. When I ask people what emotions they routinely experience in their life, almost everyone says they range between eight and below on this scale of emotions:

Most people when asked rarely experience life at five or higher on this scale.

Rarely do people experience life in the range of five and higher. And yet, that kind of daily experience, that kind of moment-by-moment happiness, can be everyone’s experience. It just requires practice, then seeing proof proving the practice works. When a person sees that proof, they want more proof, bigger proof. In a short while, the body of proof becomes overwhelming.

Part of that overwhelming body of proof includes building a relationship with one’s Broader Perspective. A relationship in which the person hears their Broader Perspective’s guidance. This is an important part of the practice I offer clients. Nothing beats receiving spiritual guidance, following it, and seeing the guidance prove accurate.

A spiritual assistant

Trusting spiritual guidance takes away life’s uncertainty. We don’t need to feel doubt or worry. Life becomes rich and full. Before long, our confidence grows. Then we start feeling, more and more, the upper range of emotions on that scale above. We feel them more frequently. Until they become our natural state.

That’s how we create happy lives. And that’s what our Broader Perspectives want for us. That’s because that’s their experience of our lives. So why shouldn’t we experience what they experience?

My Broader Perspective always suggests things they know I’ll experience the most satisfaction through. Every morning, when I wake, I receive a message from them. They offer something I should do. Doing that thing, I always feel fulfilled.

Long ago, I used to carry a Franklin Planner. It was a miniature 3-ring binder. The Franklin company sold inserts which turned the binder into a kind of personal assistant. Palm Pilots, Blackberry devices and iPhones replaced those paper assistants. But back in the day, I used that thing like it was going out of style. I kept all kinds of to-do lists. I wrote short and long term goals and kept notes about what I was doing.

These days, I rarely use to-do lists. Instead, I let my Broader Perspective guide me, moment by moment, along my daily journey. Following its guidance, I can relax and let it lead me through life. I find it extremely assuring knowing I have this spiritual assistant leading me to everything I want. Everything that will increase my joy.

Trusting the assistance

To be clear, Broader Perspective isn’t something outside of me. My Broader Perspective, and yours, is me and you. It’s the larger part of us that’s too big to fit in a physical body.

We shunt ourselves into two parts when we become human. One part of us “fills” our bodies and lives our lives. The other part remains in nonphysical. It enjoys a bird’s eye view of our life trajectory.

From there, it can see all the probable future realities available to us. As such, it can see which paths offer the most joy, the most fun, and the most direct path to what we want. What we want is a direct contribution to All That Is’ expansion. So our Broader Perspective always guides us to paths which fulfill our wants, paths with the greatest satisfaction.

Our Broader Perspective constantly sends us these messages. I’m sure you’ve felt them. But maybe you misinterpreted them. Or realized after not heeding the message that you indeed had a “gut feeling” or an “intuition”. Imagine always realizing that communication moment-by-moment, following it immediately, then seeing how doing that works out every time. Can you see how much you would grow to trust it?

That’s my experience now, after over a decade of learning to hear, then heed the guidance.

Again, our Broader Perspective constantly guides us to ALL our desires. Even those we may think are unworthy desires for All That Is to focus on. All That Is doesn’t judge our desires. It just leads us to all of them. Again, fulfilled desires are the process through which All That Is expands.

So our Broader Perspective also leads us to things like that new car, house, lover or big pile of money as well as fulfillment, joy and “spiritual enlightenment”.

A happy life and something more

There’s nothing like knowing I have a part of me guiding me to everything I want. It’s even cooler seeing it unerringly doing that, so that I can trust its guidance. This morning’s insignificant-seeming manifestation, therefore, isn’t insignificant at all. It’s one more piece of evidence contributing to the growing trust I’m putting in my Broader Perspective; that part of me guiding me to everything I want.

Again, everyone has this part of them guiding them. But we all have free will, so we must choose to hear then heed messages we get. My clients and I are learning to trust such messages even more because doing so leads to a happy life. One where everything we want happens easily and in perfect timing.

There’s nothing like a happy life. Except a happy life full of fulfilled desires!

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The World Just Gets Better and Better

TL;DR: The author shares an example of a client who created so much evidence “Wishful Thinking” works, the client moved into greater trust and belief that “you create your reality” is accurate. The author then asserts everyone can experience their Charmed Life: a life where they create any experience they want, through the Positively Focused Way.

Every time a client texts me with wonderful manifestation results, I delight in the receipt. That’s because I know when they send me such messages, they’re having the time of their lives. It’s also delightful because their manifestations amplify my own trust in this “you create your reality” business, aka (by some) “Wishful Thinking”.

When some people use that “Wishful Thinking” moniker, they’re being pejorative. They don’t believe this “you create your reality” business is real. They believe that because this “you create your reality” business is working for them. It’s just reflecting back to them the manifestation of their belief: that this “you create your reality” business doesn’t work, is pseudoscience or new age quackery.

The jokes on them though because this “you create your reality” business is working, just like it does for me and all my clients. I love that!

But I love more when clients text me with their wonder. That’s what I’m writing about today.

Beliefs defending themselves

This past week a client finds himself as wonder-filled as I am. Except, he’s finding himself so dumbfounded by his manifestation results, he sometimes slips into disbelief.

I love when that happens too because it means that client finds himself in a Belief Confrontation. A Belief Confrontation is when All That Is shows us something at odds with our beliefs. When that happens, the juxtaposition of our belief, and the reality we’re experiencing at that moment, is so jarring, our belief “defends” itself.

Our belief doesn’t put up its dukes and get into a fist-fight with the reality. It’s not human after all. But the energy and momentum comprising our belief is strong. And that strong momentum, when confronted with another momentum of energy or vibration, experiences a kind of polarity push. Kind of like when you try putting two magnets together and they resist one another.

When that polarity push happens in a human, the human feels an emotion. Typically the emotion is negative. That negative emotion comes on instantaneously and can feel so strong it can compel the human into a psychologically defensive stance. They’ll resist that which doesn’t accord with their beliefs. Or they might willfully ignore it.

Our civilization is full of examples illustrating this process underway. And it’s underway all the time, everywhere.

It really works

After clients get some of the Positively Focused Way practice under their belt, force accompanying Belief Confrontations ease, allowing the client to feel the force without it taking them over. That’s what happened with this client. He deserves some praise because he’s significantly soothed his Belief Confrontations around the fact that he’s in the driver’s seat of his life, no one else, and that he can create any life he wants.

So when he texted me, he briefly expressed some disbelief, but followed that up with a string of evidence showing this “you create your reality” business works. And that balance — between the brief disbelief and the litany of evidence — amplified within him his growing momentum aligning with the belief that “this “you create your reality” business really works!”

Here’s what he texted me:

A client amplifying his belief in this “you create your reality” business by sharing his powerful results.

There’s no evidence proving this “you create your reality” business doesn’t work. Even for those who think it doesn’t work, it’s working. Again, it’s working by showing those people a reality in which their belief “‘you create your reality business’ doesn’t work”, doesn’t work. Because that’s what they believe!

But for those willing to soften that belief, those people’s worlds will increasingly show them that this “you create your reality” business does work. And as that evidence grows, the person will come into their own power. The power they knew they had when they first incarnated as human.

The Charmed Life

We all came here in our human experiences to enjoy our creative power. We all are incipient gods becoming more in a framework we create as a part of the consciousness of All That Is. That sure sounds like a circular statement. But that’s only because All That Is is circular in its awareness and purpose.

All That Is is all about one thing: knowing itself through expanding its awareness of itself. That’s its purpose. And it joyfully prosecutes that purpose. We are physical expressions of All That Is seeking to expand its self-awareness. As such, we too can joyfully create our experiences as we move through our human lives.

We don’t have a choice about the expansion or the experience. But we do have a choice in how that experience happens, what’s included in it and what’s not, and how much we enjoy that experience. That’s our innate gift we give ourselves.

And when we choose to deliberately create experiences which bring us joy, then our human experience just gets better and better. Just as my clients are seeing in their lives…and I’m seeing in mine. It’s the Charmed Life. And it’s available to everyone.

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This Skill Is Key For Creating Money From Nothing

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TL;DR: The author offers a life example proving his mastery of a key skill for creating reality through thought alone. Their experience as well as their clients’ experiences, they say, show how processes they advocate for can create the best life possible.

An enjoyable manifestation involving another person totally turned me on recently. It happened about two weeks ago. What happened proves I’m on the way to great financial fortune.

It’s proof because the only thing standing between us and having a lot of money is our beliefs. After all, a lot of people enjoy wealth. And though it seems many of those people became wealthy by the working hard, nose-to-the-grindstone approach, many others got their wealth easily.

They won it in a lottery, or through gambling. Or they inherited it. Maybe they invested in the right market opportunity at the perfect time. Or, they happened to take a job with stock options, where those stock options gained immense value over time.

The point is, while most would argue it takes hard work to make a lot of money, something other than hard work is responsible for that result. So many are doing it in different ways, with some making a lot of money with no effort, the common denominator certainly can’t be “hard work”.

Of course, I know that common denominator is vibrational focus. We create our reality. And what people call “wishful thinking” is what lines people up with lots of money. Nothing else is more important.

That’s why it’s so important people understand this. For there are lots of people working hard and making hardly ANY money let alone lots of it.

Today, I’m writing about a key skill needed to create lots of money. Let’s take a look at that skill. But first, a little more background.

It’s simple, but not easy

When I write “lining up” I’m referring to specific processes which make a person a match to lots of money. They’re the same processes for making one’s self a match to anything. Whether it’s relationships, opportunity or money, the processes are all about tuning one’s vibration to the frequency that attracts what it is one wants in their experience.

These processes are simple, but their purpose – soothing resistance – is not easy. It’s not easy because soothing resistance means stopping vibrational momentum that’s matching us to conditions we don’t want, or that are incompatible with what we do want.

It’s momentum that catalyzes vibration into physical reality. Momentum is, therefore, powerful. Once it gets underway, stopping it is impossible. Continued focus will always amplify the momentum until that which is focused on becomes real. Even if we try to not focus on it, by virtue of defining what we’re doing by the momentum “not focus on the momentum” we are focusing on it and thus amplifying it. Same goes with resisting momentum. It’s why the phrase “what you resist, persists” exists. Any focus on momentum amplifies it.

That’s why we’re not really talking about stopping momentum but soothing it.

We soothe it by focusing on something other than the momentum we’ve created. And that’s not always easy. Especially if we have a lot of momentum, which all of us do on some subjects. That’s why we’re surrounded by a physical reality. It’s momentum making thoughts “real”.

Momentum makes thoughts real. All reality springs from thought. (Photo by Rhett Wesley)

Belief confrontations and their benefit

When we soothe momentum, life will show us where we have beliefs and their associated momentum in other areas, areas we also must soothe. That’s right, just because we start soothing our beliefs about money doesn’t mean we’re making progress, even though we are. We must also soothe all the other beliefs contributing to momentum which blocks money from coming.

For example, a black person in the United States likely has beliefs which block their being a match to lots of money. Believing in racism, for example, does that. So does, believe it or not, believing in “Black Lives Matter.” I’ll write a post one day about black people and resistance. But for now, know that any belief which causes us to believe something outside of us has more power than we do will keep us from being a match to what we want, including lots of money.

And by lots of money I mean Fuck You money. I mean hundreds of millions to billions of dollars.

Now, if you’re like some folks, the idea called “billionaire” makes them squirm. And that’s because when they think about such people, they experience belief confrontations. Belief confrontations happen when a person has very strong beliefs and life throws at them experiences at odds with that momentum. The juxtaposition of those two — the experience and the belief — is what has the person say things like “there should be no billionaires” or “kill billionaires”. It’s what moves people to spray paint billionaire-owned corporate jets and super yachts.

Their belief confrontations are so strong they’re moved to action. But that action is insignificant in the extreme. Especially with regard to the billionaire. Those people’s lives are hardly scratched by such actions. Such actions do, however, amplify momentum in the actors thus making them even less a match to that much money.

Desires are there to be fulfilled

This explains why life throws our way experiences that can seem “out of the blue”. They’re actually “in” the blue. It’s life showing us what stands between us and what we want: our beliefs that aren’t matches to our desires.

We all have desires. Many of our biggest ones we kick to the curb in our desperation to feel good. We can’t enjoy life if we have desires we believe we can’t fulfill.

For example, a lot of people will say they don’t want millions of dollars. They’ll point to disadvantages of having all that money. Or they’ll talk about the immorality of that much money. But many of those people also play the lottery. It’s my guess that if someone offered them millions of dollars with no strings attached, they’d accept the offer!

But their beliefs running counter to having that happen are so strong and the belief confrontation so uncomfortable, rather than soothing their resistance, they instead, make their desire immoral, or wrong or they justify not having their desire as a virtue.

But all desires are born within us to be fulfilled! The only thing standing between us and fulfilled versions of our desires are our beliefs. That’s why the Universe reflects our beliefs back to us: so we can do something about them and become matches to our desires.

Which brings me elegantly back to what happened and the key skill needed to actualize creating huge amounts of money from nothing but desire.

A marvelous rendezvous

Whenever I get a new client, I take myself out as a celebration of that client. Two weeks ago, I took myself to breakfast. Prior to heading out, I pre-paved the outing, meaning, I set an intention in a specific way so that I amplified the probable future I desired over all other probable futures.

I arrived at the restaurant, but there was a long line. No matter, I planned to eat at the bar, so I got a seat immediately. To my right, two stools over, sat a woman. She was near-finished with her breakfast.

I ordered and the woman to my right asked how I was.

“Fabulous!” I said.

“Great!” She said.

“Are you saying it’s great I’m fabulous,” I asked. “Or is your day going great?”

“Both!” She laughed.

That began a two hour conversation that extended to a day-long friends date the next day, then lunch the day after.

But I’m getting ahead of myself.

It so happens Sarah is a “dream worker”. She works with people to help them better interpret their dreams. Our conversation, which was MARVELOUS, was about all kinds of things we had in common. Particularly our understanding of how the Universe works.

Responding to my reflection

At one point, while still at the breakfast place, I told Sarah that even though I love working with my clients, I would prefer to have all my days totally free. And so I was intending to create a life where I enjoy freedom from trading time for money.

She thought a moment, started to say something then paused, which I appreciated because I knew she knew she was talking to someone who needs no guidance. Her doing that was remarkable. It showed she possessed an awareness few have. I enjoyed seeing that in her.

Then she said “I know you know this, but you could create a reality where all the things you need are covered, like your rent and food, are just taken care of for you. Why do you need to focus on money?”

No desire is bad or wrong, including a desire for money. (Photo by Rob on Unsplash)

When she asked that question, I thought for just a moment about whether to share what I was feeling at that moment. Like Sarah, I’m quite aware what’s happening in me at any given moment. At that moment, I wondered what will happen when I share what I was about to.

So I said “I appreciate you saying that because right this moment you are the Universe reflecting back to me that I still have resistance about money in my vibration. It’s very subtle, but it’s obviously still there and I know this because you said what you said.”

See what I did there?

It’s all reflection

I could have resisted her expression. I could have responded by defending my desire. But I didn’t.

Instead, responding this way when someone says something to us is critical as we line up with what we’re wanting. Especially if what we want is present in our awareness at the moment the person’s speaking. My clients struggle with this, so I don’t expect you, dear reader, to get it either: everyone in our experience are reflections of our beliefs. Beliefs about all kinds of subjects. Other people are not actually in our reality. What we interact with are versions of those people, versions of those people we hold in ourselves, constructed by our beliefs about that person.

So when those people speak to us, how they say what they say and what they say are reflecting back to us our own beliefs. This is always the case, but some cases are more obvious than others. With practice, this idea that people in our experience are not real becomes obvious. And even though my clients struggle with this, they are proving to themselves how accurate this is.

Here’s why this is important: We can’t line up if we’re oblivious about beliefs we have blocking what we want. And if we react to the universe showing us what those beliefs are, by getting defensive or otherwise not acknowledging what’s happening, then we just delay our lining up. Resisting the reflection adds more resistance!

The Universe loves me

Recognizing what physical reality is telling us as a reflection therefore is a crucial skill. So is responding correctly when it does that. In this case the Universe was telling me through Sarah I still have resistance on the subject of money. Her words were exactly as I saw them: reflections of my thoughts. So I went with the reflection and expressed appreciation.

When I did, Sarah gave me a big smile and said “I love you so much!” The words burst out of her as though she was not expecting to say that. I know that expression wasn’t about her actually loving me. Instead, she was acknowledging, as an emissary of the Universe, that my statement was so unconventional but totally in alignment with what she and I and the Universe know about how the Universe works. Her reflex to say she loved me was another reflection of my thoughts: my Broader Perspective appreciating that I have mastered this crucial skill.

So we don’t need to be in the dark about what’s happening with our vibration. If we’re tuned in, we can see all kinds of indicators showing us where we are vis-a-vis our desires. They show up in how animals respond to us. People reflect it back to us. Events also reveal to us what’s happening in us.

All the while the Universe lovingly guides us towards greater and greater alignment. For many, that can take lifetimes. But for some, it can happen in a single lifetime.

The charmed life unfolds

After that mystical exchange, I thought to myself how appreciative I was to be able to do what I’m able to do. I’ve significantly soothed a lot of negative thoughts and beliefs I once had about money. And I’m enjoying faster and faster momentum growing within me telling me I’m on the way to the large amount of money I’ve already created.

That’s right, I’ve already created it. That pile of money assembles even as I write this, even as I continue lining up with it, so that, in divine timing, I will rendezvous with it, it with me and in that joyous rendezvous come into the fullness of that manifestation.

This trajectory started with me soothing a lot of beliefs I once had about “new age mumbo jumbo”. It’s true: I once had one foot in two different camps. One camp wanted to believe this “you create your reality business” was real. The other camp totally disbelieved all of it.

These days, however, I’ve created so much evidence that this business is real. And I’ve amplified my belief into knowing by writing about it here in this blog, following the processes I wrote about in the beginning of this story, and creating an income for myself through sharing what I know with clients. Those clients came to me in surprising and delightful ways. Just like everything else I’ve manifested up to now.

Indeed, I’ve mastered the process of deliberate creation. Skills needed to create anything I desire, including large amounts of money from nothing but thought are now mine. As a result, I’ve discovered a rare form of freedom.

Freedom as the basis for the life of my dreams. The Charmed Life.

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“Truth” Enslaves All People, But Slavery Can Feel Like Joy

Photo by Michael Carruth on Unsplash

TL;DR: The author asserts that “truths” people limit human potential. Then the author offers a way out of those limitations: by seeing “truth” in a whole new way.

“Truth enslaves people…” That’s a provocative headline. It’s not click bait though. Instead, it is a representation of what underlies human experience. That representation explains why churn often characterizes human civilization, especially in the realm of politics and culture. “Truth” creates many of our problems, in other words.

For example, it’s “true” that what other people think of us matters. That statement is true for nearly every human. So is the “truth” that “other people’s opinion matters because we must all get along”.

But both statements, while true, also cause a lot of suffering. Especially for people who come into the world expressly intending to march to the beat of their own drum. Like transgender people, for example. And here’s the thing: every human comes for that purpose.

But if we believe other people’s opinion of us matters, and we’re not expressing ourselves in ways others accept, then we’re in trouble. We feel bad about ourselves. We second guess who we are. Worry becomes our go-to emotion, then anxiety and insecurity. Before we know it, we’re bound by truths we cannot seem to escape and our lives become severely limited.

Today, let’s look at “truth”, unpack it, understand it and therefore find libration, joy and freedom from it instead of enslavement, anxiety and insecurity. Every person reading this has the ability to free themselves from all negative emotion and unhappy experiences. But to do so they must first find liberation from “truth”.

Let’s dive in.

How I know this is for real

For those people new to my writings, I’m queer and trans-attracted and a person of color. Over the last ten years or more I’ve found the liberation I described above. I’ve helped a lot of people find that too, including people like me. So I know what I’m talking about and I have the results to prove it.

The most powerful results, however, are those we create for ourselves. No amount of words can convince as powerfully as evidence we create for ourselves proving that this “you create your reality” business is real. A new client’s experience shows this.

This client is a Chief Technology Officer of a major multinational manufacturer. As you can imagine, he’s serious, realistic, believes in science and, therefore, is not at all into “woo”. He reminds me of some decrying what I offer as “circular logic” and “new age mumbo jumbo”. Like them, he was ignorant about what I offer.

His wife, however, is into “woo” and became a client almost a year ago. Since then, changes in her way of being were so profound, the husband/CTO thought she had joined a cult. So he went to the source – me – to get some answers.

What he learned in that one call was enough for him to become a client. Once I answered his questions, which showed beyond doubt that what I offer is not a cult, he had to acknowledge evidence his wife is producing was impressive. So much so he wanted his version of her results.

A startling, life-changing experience

Thirty weeks after that call, the CTO had what he called a “startling” experience. Someone poking him on the shoulder one night roused him from sleep. But when he woke, no one was there. He looked around the darkened room and saw no one (he and his wife sleep in separate rooms). So he went back to sleep.

Before drifting off, however, he heard, in his words, “as clear as if someone were right beside [him]” a woman say “Jason, wake up!”. He sat bolt upright in his bed, turned on the lights and walked the entire second floor of his home. He knew it wasn’t his wife calling because, he said, the voice was not hers.

Eventually he did return to sleep. But the whole experience unnerved him. He had never had such an experience before. Yet it was so real. Of course, it absolutely was a real “occult” experience.

Today, this client is as committed to this practice as his wife. In part because of this “occult” experience, but also because, in the 30 weeks since he started, he’s produced a tremendous amount of more prosaic, practical evidence proving this “you create your reality” business works.

So if you say this is “new age mumbo jumbo”, and you haven’t tested it yourself, under the tutelage of someone who knows what they’re doing, then you literally have NO IDEA what you’re talking about.

Which brings me right back to the point of this story.

I’m literally writing this post at a local park…at 9:38 am on a Thursday. I can do this because I know this “You create your reality” business works. It has enabled me to create income without a job. Where’s your evidence proving it doesn’t work? Oh, right. You don’t have any.

Truth: it’s enslavement, not freedom

The “truth” will not set you free, as the saying claims. Instead, if you align to a “truth” that doesn’t serve you, then “truth” will enslave you.

That’s right. There are many truths, not just one. There are as many truths as there are points of consciousness, making “truth” as diverse as the rest of All That Is.

For example, every Far Right Christian Nationalist who believes the world is against them experiences the enslavement I described above. So do all liberals who think Far Right Christian Nationalists are trying to turn their country into a dictatorship. Every Republican who believes the world is going wrong is equally enslaved. All these groups are enslaved to nearly the same truth, generalized by the statement “What other people think is important” and “they must think like I do.”

Like actual enslavement, getting out of truth’s enslavement isn’t easy. But it’s so worth doing! In doing so one literally can choose ANY truth. After all, ALL TRUTHS ENSLAVE. So it makes sense to pick ones whose enslavement serves us.

To better understand this, let’s look closely at what “truth” actually is. We’ll do that in the next section.

So what is truth?

It starts with vibration

Let’s use physics to figure that out. We’re not going to use science’s version of physics though. That will tell us nothing. Instead, let’s use the physics of spirituality.

I know, some readers will balk at this. But the problem is, science is based on the “truth” that an objective physical reality exists separate from us and is thus objectively observable by us, which is why science itself is enslaved, like many humans, in the bogus truth limiting all science seeks to understand. So let’s instead use the unlimited nature of spiritual physics, which is based on how the Universe actually works.

All “truth” begins as an idea. An idea is a thought. All thought is vibration. This should be obvious to everyone, so I won’t spend a lot of words trying to flesh that out. If you want to flesh it out, let’s do so in the comments.

What differentiates a thought that is “true” from one that is something other than that is the amount of attention points of consciousness give to the thought. Points of consciousness, of course, include more than human consciousness, but let’s just focus on the human type for now.

Human consciousness is purposefully very powerful. It’s also the source of nearly all our truths. Including many, many limiting ones.

The more attention we give to any thought, the more “true” it will become. That’s because giving attention to a thought adds manifesting momentum to that thought. That thought, plus the momentum, evolves that thought into further forward manifestation, until that manifestation becomes observably physical. When that happens, humans call that thought “true”.

So that’s how “truths” become so. And when truths become so, they impose limits on what’s possible. But only for those believing the truth.

A 4-minute mile? Impossible!

For example. Prior to 1954 very few humans thought it possible to run a mile in less than four minutes, even though many had done it “unofficially”. By “unofficially”, I mean the cis-white-het hegemony wouldn’t acknowledge those who had done it before, including a Pawnee called Big Hawk Chief who did so as early as 1876.

Indeed, one bastion of the cis-het world, The Harvard Business Review, tells the story of the 4-minute-mile “barrier” as a daunting limit…until it was surpassed, “for the first time” by white guy Roger Bannister in 1954. Indeed, the author describes how “experts” thought they knew the “truth”. Their collective opinions — their attention on the “truth” that the 4-minute mile threshold was indeed insurmountable — said that truth could only be breached under the right circumstances (another truth), circumstances prescribed by the very same experts:

“The experts believed they knew the precise conditions under which the mark would fall. It would have to be in perfect weather — 68 degrees and no wind. On a particular kind of track — hard, dry clay — and in front of a huge, boisterous crowd urging the runner on to his best-ever performance.”

Never mind that Big Hawk Chief had none of that. Nor did several others claimed to have ran faster miles before. Even Bannister’s accomplishment happened in conditions other than those experts prescribed.

The point is, “truth” is literally in the eye of the consciousness thinking the thought. And the more attention brought to that thought, the more true…and limiting…that truth will be.

“Truths” establish limits within which we live.

So pick truths that serve

And once that “truth” becomes true or observably physical, it’s exceedingly hard for those believing it to accept another idea. You can test this by trying to convince any MAGA enthusiast that “MAGA” is bullshit. For such people “MAGA” is true.

The North Carolinian who took an assault rifle to a pizza restaurant in Washington D.C. was convinced the “pizzagate” conspiracy theory was true. So true, he saw himself as a hero attempting to save children suffering under a criminal pedophilia ring. That “truth”, that thought became his reality. It enslaved him. So much so, he took action. Action that could have resulted in many deaths.

Every school shooter is enslaved by truth. So is every freedom fighter. We’re all enslaved by truths. The question then, is, what truth are we allowing to enslave us?

Which brings me to you, dear reader. What truth we allow to enslave us will either feel like bondage or liberation. It will make us feel fear and insecurity, or joyful freedom. We therefore must choose our truths with discernment.

We can’t be free of truth. That’s the paradox. We can only choose truths that make us free. Truths that serve us in other words.

Abraham laying it out plain.

Feeling bad is a sign

That sounds like circular logic, but many statements in the realm of spiritual physics sound that way because that’s how All That Is is. All That Is is self-referential!

You are a point of consciousness, here to express your unique perspective and in doing so create more of All That Is. You do that through creating truths: you attract vibrations resonant with what you are. Those vibrations become thoughts to you, which, when you put your attention/focus on them, you cause those thoughts to evolve into things, i.e. physical reality.

But if/when we accept other people’s opinions, which are their truths, not ours, then we become enslaved in those truths. We know when that happens because when it does we always feel bad.

That’s because we’re not here to enslave ourselves to others’ opinions, we’re here to create our own reality, one aligned with our truths. And in doing that, paradoxically, we give room for others to do the same. And when they take that room, the world and All That Is expands.

So suffering and struggle and worry and such are purposeful. They show us where we’re doing something we shouldn’t be doing. Something that doesn’t serve us. What we should do when that suffering happens, is look at what truth we’ve aligned with and give it up…in favor of our own.

How we do that is a subject I write about every week.

We not different

Now, I get how hard this can be. After all, we’re all needing money. We need housing, medical care. We all live in a nation of laws. Most of us believe money comes from jobs and to get one of those, we must please other people. But, believe it or not, all of that meta stuff is subject to our truths!

I’m queer and trans-attracted and a POC. I live in a nation of laws. Like you I require certain things. But all those things come to me with ease. I don’t have a job anymore and yet money comes to me in a fun, life-expanding way. I’m no different from you. IOW, you can create for yourself your version of what I enjoy. It’s not easy, at first, but you CAN do it.

If you ask me, it’s a way better life. And it’s a life that is in your best interest. Because when you create it, all your interests will be served with no effort on your part. My clients are discovering this. Including that CTO.

All That Is wants you to live your truths. That’s why when you live others’ truths you suffer. Suffering doesn’t have to feel like physical pain. It can feel like anxiety, depression, fear, insecurity and even anger or rage. None of those emotions feel good, which is why people use alcohol, weed, tobacco and other methods to soothe those feelings.

But appreciation, empowerment, hopefulness, joy and happiness do feel good. Very good. And when a person realizes and aligns with their truths, not others’, especially other people’s truths about money, religion and culture, then their life reflects all those positive emotions and then some. Their life also includes everything that person wants.

If you ask me, there’s no better life than that.

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Amazing: I Made The Market Do What I Want –– Again!

TLDR: The author asserts they caused the market price of a financial asset to increase solely through their thoughts about the asset. This being the second time they’ve done such a thing, the author says this validates his trust in a positive mindset. Especially when it comes to manifesting money. They compare their experience to F1 race winners explaining that while manifesting money may seem coincidental, it’s not.

It’s so fun watching my abilities improve as a deliberate creator. Abraham assures us all that anything we can imagine, we can experience as a reality. I’m living proof of that. My clients are too, but my results are astonishing. I’m even able to move markets apparently.

That’s right. A few weeks ago, I wrote about how I focused my intention so that a financial market would do what I want. Well, a week or so after I did that, I did it again! That’s what this story is about. It’s a followup offering even more proof that we can create any reality we want. We only need focus ourselves into a world of positive thinking.

The Positively Focused Way creates that kind of focus. In time, anyone can realize they create their reality. Once enough evidence piles up, they not only get that it’s true they create their reality, but they get more bold about creating the reality they want.

Then they can do literally anything. Including move financial markets.

Let’s dive in and see how I did it myself…again.

Some background

In that previous experience, I wanted a deeper position on a financial asset I owned. But the current price didn’t allow me to take the position for the price I wanted. So I set an intention that the price would drop to the point where I could take the position for the amount I wanted to spend.

That’s what happened, of course. I wouldn’t be writing this post or the previous one if it didn’t happen! As soon as I took my deeper position, the price when right back up. It was uncanny!

The last time I moved the market. The arrow points to the massive drop I created so I could deepen my position. Then the rebound happened right after I did so.

After that happened, I wanted a couple more things. One, I wanted to see if I could do it again. I also wanted an even deeper position, one just a little deeper than where I was. So that’s what started all this amazingness.

The preparation

The only thing with this even deeper position was, I didn’t want to put ANY money into the deal. Now, many of my clients, when they first start out with the Positively Focused Practice, they’re stuck in figuring out how what they want to happen will happen. That’s a problem.

It’s a problem because the “how” is not our job! Our job in the universe, as a leading edge instance of All That Is, is to set our intention, then align with that intention’s results. In between those to vibrational acts, the universe goes to work. It marshals the cooperative components necessary to actualize the intention.

As we line up with all that nonphysical assembly, we get impulses to act. We also can receive impulses that sound like messages. That’s what happened to me.

One day after thinking about rounding my position out, I received a message. It wasn’t a voice or a burning bush or anything like that. It was instead a subtle “nudge” that then I interpreted as a thought. The thought was “You already have [a small position on] another asset. Intend that asset will go up, then use the gain to swap into the asset you want.”

When I got that message I perked up. I tell all my clients that such messages come in as though we didn’t think the thought. It seems like it comes out of the blue. That’s not what’s happening, but it does feel that way.

When it happens, I tell my clients, pay attention. Pay attention and take action! That’s what I did.

It happens!

The moment I got that impulse/message, I took action. Now, if you were near me at that time, you wouldn’t have thought I took action. That’s because I didn’t move an arm nor a leg. The action I took was purely vibrational. I causally, very lightly, thought about how nice it would be if the price of that other asset went up.

Then I opened my phone and set an alert on my app. A couple days later I went out on a bike ride. While enjoying the ride, I got an alert on my phone. The price went exactly where I wanted it!

My app alert clueing me in.

I stopped riding, opened my trading app. Holy moly! It went up a LOT!

The market moves according to my desire.

Then I went to my trading platform and planned out the swap. The price had gone so high there was plenty of room to make the swap and still have enough of the asset to go forward. I was stoked!

Of course I swapped the assets!

Knowing what I don’t know

Now, here’s something interesting. During all of this, something was happening with the asset I didn’t know about. I found out about it after this whole affair wound up. What happened was federal regulators were considering creating a framework around this asset that would make it easier for everyday people to trade it. Asset proponents knew if the government approved the framework that would be very good for the asset. So people with large positions on it were betting the feds would approve the framework.

That’s what they did. And that’s probably why, experts will say, the asset’s value went up.

I was totally unaware of this though. Obviously, however, in my Broader Perspective, I was aware, which explains why my Broader Perspective suggested what it did.

Now, some may say this federal decision was happening anyway and the price was bound to go up. But no, the federal decision was not a done deal. Furthermore, I knew nothing about the pending ruling.

Still, I thought about the coincidental nature of the impulse and the fed’s timing. But then another thought came up. It was about Formula One.

It’s a win regardless

I love the Netflix series Formula One: Drive To Survive. It gives a thrilling character-driven tale about how F1 happens every season. In addition to it being plain fun to watch, it’s also a great look behind the scenes.

One thing I noticed season after season is, sometimes the race winner wins because of situations not in their control. Other drivers crash, they pit at the wrong time or their team may choose to not put on fresh tires at the right time. Another thing that happens sometimes is the rules governing the race can create situations inadvertently favoring certain drivers over others.

But in all these cases, when the race ends, there’s always a winner. Does it matter how the win happened?

That’s the conclusion I came to about the fed decision and my lack of awareness of it. Yes, the fed decision was happening. But I didn’t know that when I got the message from my Broader Perspective, nor when I set the intention and the alert. I didn’t even look at the asset before I did all that.

So while some may scream “that’s just a fucking coincidence! You didn’t move the market!” I say, yeah, and the F1 winner won not because he’s a great driver, but because that other guy chose to crash at the perfect time!

The fact is: he still won. And I still got what I wanted: a deeper position without spending ANY OF MY OWN MONEY TO GET IT! LOL

Making markets do what I want

I love seeing these things happen. It’s so fun realizing my desires. But it’s even more fun participating in divine timing coming from an awareness of all that’s happening, so that when that awareness communicates to me, I can take action then enjoy the world I want.

That’s so fun. And it’s so empowering. I mean, think about it: I am now nurturing the ability to create money! That’s freaking amazing.

But why is it amazing? Money is no different than any other form of energy. And energy is subject to focus and attraction. Since I’m a focusing being of pure energy, I should be able to focus any amount of money into my experience I want.

And that’s what I’m seeing happen. It doesn’t happen overnight because I, like most people, once held very strong negative stories about many subjects. Stories which create a limited reality on the subject of money.

Money is something we all think we need. So human consciousness contains many disempowering beliefs about money. That I’ve overcome those beliefs is what’s amazing.

Those beliefs, and therefore reality, are yielding to my new beliefs and reality. I love seeing that. And that new reality includes making markets do what I want.

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I Love When Entire Families Find Their True Power

TL;DR: The author describes how their spiritual client practice ripples through families, thereby creating stronger family bonds as it also creates empowered individuals. They credit Law of Attraction for creating a life where they and their clients find their true power. The same power, the author asserts, that is inherent in All That Is.

Something continuing to fascinate me as I serve clients each week is where new ones come from. Hardly any new clients come from this blog or my other social media activity. Instead, they come in a way which confirms how effective the Positively Focused Way is.

As a result of the unique way in which they come, I’m inspired; as are existing clients. That’s because evidence existing clients create for themselves are so life-changing. And when my clients’ lives change, new clients inevitably result from that.

Let’s look deeper at what I mean.

Whole families moving the same way: uncommon

Over 80 percent of my new clients are coming as a result of seeing positive changes in their family members. Family members who were clients before them. I think this is rather unusual, because family members often are those with stubborn opinions of each other. And usually those opinions aren’t always favorable.

So when one family member chooses a different path, other family members typically see such choices cynically. Family members think the choice is a fad. Or they may even think the family member is getting involved in a cult.

That’s understandable. Many such choices often fall by the wayside. Or they’re replaced by the next new, shiny path. Some family members DO join cults. So I get that family members, seeing their sibling or partner make a radical, life-altering choice, sometimes roll their eyes.

Especially if a family member latches on the laters fad or “movement”.

Now, of course, for some who make life-altering choices, many such choices stick. And for those choosing, that can be a very good thing. I don’t think it’s common, however, that other family members will see what their relative did then choose the same path. They usually stick with family tradition. Or what they’ve been told to follow by some other authority.

One person is all it takes

And this explains my fascination. Because nearly all my new clients come to me as siblings or partners of my existingclients.

For example, one client, a self-acknowledged “matriarch” of her family, started her practice with me several years ago. Changes she realized by becoming more Positively Focused were profound. I knew it and she knew it.

But what’s interesting is, her daughter saw it too. Their relationship was pretty good. But it was tinted with past baggage both carried. Baggage which flared from time to time, reigniting animosity between the two.

I won’t go into details. Suffice it to say, the daughter blamed her mother for much of what she went through, and what she’s going through today.

Changes her mother made, however, were so profound, it caused the daughter to release a lot of the blame she put at her mother’s feet. Then she wanted to know what it was her mother was doing. So she became a client.

That was a year ago. The daughter is a client. And, as a result of changes she made in her life since then, her brother and his wife both became clients. Then the daughter’s husband became a client!

The matriarch in a recent session marveled at all this. She told me what she wanted more than anything was to see her children happy. Through the practice, she’s manifested that. And, indeed, her children are much happier. That happiness is growing more and more each week.

It only takes one person to change the world. When that person becomes the change they want to see, then their world changes. That’s what happened with the matriarch. Now, those most important to her are getting what she’s getting.

Even the realistic find something

This isn’t the only example. Here’s another one: one of my clients is an entrepreneur, but was letting her limiting beliefs keep her from starting her dream business. After she became a client, that all changed. What’s more, she became happier and more thrilled about her life. Then she had a car accident that totaled her car. Then she got laid off from work.

Through these experiences her husband watched as his wife saw these things not as tragic, but perfect manifestations leading to a more powerful life for her. She became so positive, her husband thought she joined a cult. So he scheduled a free 1:1 with me. He wanted to understand what his wife got herself into.

The husband is the CTO of a major medical company. So he’s very rational and “realistic”. Successful too. Nevertheless, after that first session he decided to become a client too. That was six months ago. Today, he’s made the Positively Focused Way his own. He finds what he’s learning gives him much more empowerment around his work life, his interaction with peers and subordinates and around decisions made in the organization he thinks aren’t the best.

What’s interesting is, this guy who thought his wife joined a cult, last week told me in his 22d session that he suggested one of his long-time friends and direct reports consider becoming a client! Meanwhile, his wife’s transformation was so profound, one of her best friends also became a client. That person is now exploring the power of the dream world as well as how to leverage the power of the Universe to create a life where she’s living a major dream of hers.

A new client is exploring the power of dreams after seeing positive changes in her friend. (Photo by Egor Vikhrev)

A life of play

So one person’s life becoming the Charmed Life I promise all my clients sparked the transformation of her husband and a friend. I believe we’ll see more transformation from that person, the entrepreneur. That’s because the company she’s creating will employ a lot of people and serve even more. And while she grows the company, she wants to plug in what she’s learning through Positively Focused into the company culture. Yes, lots more people are going to discover the power of being Positively Focused.

These kinds of ripples have all happened in the last two years. As a result, my client roster is full. I’m no longer accepting new clients. It’s wonderful working with families, spouses, friends and siblings and see their lives and relationships dramatically improve.

All this happened without me spending a dime on advertising or marketing. I relied instead on the power of the Law of Attraction. I’ve sent out a desire to enjoy a life where money comes into it without me having to “work”. And believe me, what I do with clients isn’t work. It’s more like play. Play around a subject I love talking about: my spiritual practice, which amplifies my awareness that life is a spiritual act. A spiritual act at the heart of All That Is and its desire to know itself more.

I love knowing I’m a part of that expansion. And I love that I’ve attracted people who resonate with this practice and, as a result, are creating their joyful versions of what I’ve created for me.

Nothing compares to finding one’s true power. Except maybe when your family members do too.

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Vulnerability Is A Myth, We’re Better Off Without It.

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TL:DR: The author asserts that vulnerability isn’t key to relationships as many mental health and relationship experts claim. Rather, it’s actually a problem the author says. They then explain why it’s better to focus on one’s thoughts and beliefs in order to create better relationships. In doing so, people get everything they want: better relationships and freedom from fear that comes with trying to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability. Mental health and relationship “experts” claim it’s something special. They say it’s something we all should practice in order to thrive in relationship. But is vulnerability really the key to happiness, relationship success and more? Or is something afoot here that can disempower us?

In this post, let’s explore why vulnerability is a myth and how dispelling the myth can help us live more joyfully. Along the way we may just also discover the key to everything else we want.

Why humans vaunt vulnerability

Vulnerability is both feared and praised. We fear it because it implies possible rejection. We praise it because we’re told to. Being vulnerable can also feel good because we’re putting ourselves out there honestly. And doing that can feel good. For most though, it can be terrifying.

But what is “vulnerability” exactly? The definition doesn’t seem to imply something praise-worthy:

So it would seem, based on the definition, that being vulnerable is a bad thing. So why do people vaunt it so much? One source suggests being susceptible to physical or emotional attack or harm increases intimacy and trust. Not being vulnerable, it says, can lead to emotional distance, disconnection and resentment.

It would seem being vulnerable then is essential to good relationships. But is that really the case?

Rejection inherent in vulnerability

The trouble with saying it improves relationships is that being vulnerable usually requires a quid-pro-quo situation. I would suggest everyone would be vulnerable in a relationship….if their partner were equally vulnerable. That’s the trouble. No one really wants to subject themselves to physical or emotional attack. It seems extremely logical to me, then, that no one wants to be vulnerable in a relationship either. Which explains why people aren’t.

But there’s something about this vulnerability thing that runs afoul of what’s really happening in physical reality. It’s that being vulnerable is based on something that isn’t happening in reality at all. Well, it IS happening. But only because people believe it’s happening. And that belief is what perpetuates fear associated with being vulnerable.

In other words, the myth of vulnerability is what keeps people from being vulnerable in the first place. Replace the word “vulnerable” with a different word, for example, and the whole calculus changes.

What word do we suggest? How about authenticity.

That’s right. If instead of thinking about being vulnerable, we think of being authentic, then we go a long way to easing fear that comes with being vulnerable. The problem remains however, with the essence of what both words conjure: the risk of being harmed. And in most relationship cases, that “harm” looks like “rejection.”

So let’s unpack that.

Our thoughts make it so

In order to be vulnerable, a condition must first exist. That condition is risk. In other words, the person considering being vulnerable or authentic must first believe there is something they may be rejected over. Rejection can feel bad, but a simple reframing of the story we tell when “rejection” is experienced can cause that bad feeling to turn into appreciation.

What if, for example, someone rejects us because we share something intimate about us? Does that mean anything? What does it mean about us? It means nothing really. We shared authentically. That person chose something else. In this situation, both parties are better off. We’re free to connect with someone who accepts us. The other party is free now to connect with someone they connect with.

Where’s the harm in that? But when we think the rejection means something about us, then we feel bad.

We can see, then, the act of rejection isn’t bad, instead it’s what we think of it that makes it bad. The same is true for being vulnerable. It’s the thought about being vulnerable that makes it so scary. Our thoughts about it make being vulnerable a vaunted thing as well.

As we say all day every day here at Positively Focused, our thoughts make everything. Including the need to be, and the fear of being, vulnerable.

Preferring rejection

Being vulnerable means having to take a risk. Hardly anyone wants to take risks. But if there is no risk in being authentic, if instead there’s everything to gain by being that way, I would suggest many more people would be authentic.

Again, the problem is the thoughts people have about rejection and what they think that means.

Vulnerability then, isn’t the problem. Making it into a venerated way of being is. Because doing so makes it seem doing something we’re scared to do is something worth doing. It’s not. Instead, it’s better to develop a new set of thoughts around authenticity so that acting authentic is preferable to not acting that way.

That’s easy to do. And it’s not scary. When we do it, the vaunted idea of being vulnerable becomes meaningless. And when that happens we’re free; free to be who we are. Whether people take that or leave that is up to them. It’s not our problem.

So there’s nothing special about being vulnerable. And, with a little tweaking of our thoughts, we can eliminate that concept from our minds, thereby freeing us to be. Now let’s turn up the woo a bit and see what we find.

Some would rather have this happen than be vulnerable. But there’s a better approach to vulnerability. (Photo by Hasan Almasi on Unsplash)

Finding power in changed belief

Believing vulnerability is a thing presupposes there’s something that can happen to us that’s beyond our control. Usually, that something is bad: rejection. From the Positively Focused perspective, however, nothing can happen to us that is beyond our control. We invite everything that happens to us through our thoughts and beliefs.

If that’s true, we can see how vulnerability would be a problem. That’s because it presupposes risk. Belief that there’s risk is a belief. That belief will create reality consistent with it. And that explains why so many fear being vulnerable. It also explains why it feels scary.

Rejection is similar. There are many thoughts and beliefs around “rejection”. Those thoughts and beliefs, like those behind “vulnerability”, create reality consistent with them. That’s why hardly anyone wants to feel rejected.

Change those beliefs though and the experience changes. This explains why very successful sales people, for example, don’t experience “no” as rejection. They think different thoughts and beliefs around the word “no”. This also proves it’s possible to change our beliefs around things like “vulnerability” and “rejection”. Doing so makes one much more powerful.

Beliefs matter…a lot

So if we invite our experience through our thoughts and beliefs about them, that means something important. It means that being vulnerable isn’t the key to anything. Instead, our thoughts and beliefs are. Indeed, thoughts and beliefs are everything. They literally create the world around us.

The better beliefs we hold, the better our life gets. My clients are discovering this. The more they change their beliefs to positive, empowering ones, the better their lives get. My experience is similar. The more I’ve changed how I think and what I believe, the more my life has improved. So much so, hardly anything “bad” happens to me. And those “bad” things that do happen are so insignificant, I don’t consider them “bad”. They just are.

In a short while, a person can create an ideal life, what I call the Charmed Life. This is true for relationships too. We don’t need to experience risk in relationship. But getting there requires something: not being vulnerable. Being vulnerable is a myth. Instead, what’s needed is a new way of thinking. One that invites only good. Including good relationships, ones matching what we’re wanting.

And if that relationship matches what we want, is risk needed? I don’t think so.

Rather than experience risk and fear at being vulnerable, I suggest we give up this myth. Let’s replace it with something better. Something like knowing we create our reality. And the more true we are to who we are, the better realities we create, including relationships.

By “true” I mean being positive, happy and easy. Easy with ourselves and easy with others, so that we create an easy life. One in which we can be ourselves. An in doing that have everything we want.

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More Kids Are Remembering Their Past Lives

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TL:DR The author says that the phenomenon of more children remembering their past lives indicates human expansion. Children, they say, are helping humanity evolve beyond limiting beliefs and in so doing, they help usher in a new reality for all humans. One where humans are more than human.

Kids remembering their past lives isn’t a surprise to my clients or to me. We are, after all, eternal beings with tremendous potential. We even enjoy the potential to recall our past lives as easily as we recall dreams.

But when a client recently shared an example of a young boy remembering being here before, it had me write this post. That’s because the more such stories we hear, the more likely we might try tapping into our own power to perceive what we really are.

There’s a reason more young people are coming in clearer. It’s the same reason so many kids are coming into the world as transgender. We’re going to look at this alongside why it is so many of us don’t remember our past lives. Not remembering our past lives should be the rarity. Not kids remembering being here before.

So why is the opposite true? Why is it so rare for people to remember their past lives? And what’s causing more kids to remember being here before?

Let’s take a look.

Giving up our deeper awareness

The reason nearly all of us don’t remember our past lives is because it’s just not that important to us. Or so we think.

Past life memories, like dreams, can provide a LOT of value. They can, for example, explain why certain things seem to happen over and over in this life. Past life memories can also help us understand why we must work through certain things we are working through in this life.

Of course, such memories, again, like dreams, can help us realize we’re eternal; that there’s more to life than this one life. And finally, past life memories can help free us from the fear of death.

Freeing ourselves from the fear of death is HUGE.

Nearly all of us, however, are talked out of the awareness of such an expanded consciousness early on. That’s right, we all have such an expanded consciousness when we first get here. As children, we’re deeply connected to the place from where we came.

But in short order, the intensity of life experience — physical reality — is so intense it demands our full attention. Physical reality can be all-encompassing and drive our focus away from our connections to nonphysical, the Source of us all, and the experience making physical life possible.

Parents, peers and teachers also talk us out of our connections. We’re told to wise up, grow up, be realistic and stop day dreaming. Such admonitions cause us to trade that broader awareness for a more focused one. One focused on this time-space reality. And so we give up our deeper awareness.

The ego gets in on it too

The ego is another factor allowing either awareness of our past life experiences…or the lack thereof.

Many new age gurus claim subduing or killing off the ego is key to awakening. But the ego is an extremely important function. That’s right, it IS a FUNCTION, a process going on in our consciousness. The ego is not us. It is, again, a function or process. This function’s function is to create the illusion of duality. It helps us distinguish ourselves from our surroundings and other people. Otherwise, we would only experience the non-duality behind the illusion of objective reality.

If this sounds preposterous, I recommend watching the Netflix documentary “How to Change Your Mind”. In it a noted journalist goes on an adventure. He decides to try all kinds of psychedelic substances, beginning with tobacco, but also LSD, Shrooms and MDA among others. The documentary also features people participating in trials hoping these substances have lasting and profound therapeutic benefits (they do).

Each test subject, when recounting their experience with the psychedelic they take, tells of extreme states of bliss they experience inside this oneness state I described above. This non-dual state is real. Psychedelics temporarily allow perception beyond the ego, which allows one to experience this oneness directly. It’s a profoundly blissful experience. But we’re not here to experience it so directly. Thus the ego’s function.

The feeling of deep connection

That ego function is “softer” in early childhood, which explains why children have “imaginary” friends, dream more, play more and are so much more care free. Such friends may be imaginary to adults. Adults may not appreciate their child playing and being care free. But those experiences are supposed to be there. They can be maintained too, throughout life. And maintaining such experiences makes life joyful and care free.

But, as I said, we’re often talked out of this state. That’s too bad. Because life lived from there can be so fun! Not to worry though, we eventually return to that state after we transition. And for many, that happens before they transition.

Many elderly people, as they approach the time of their transition, often talk about seeing family members and other beings comforting them in their transition process. A recent New York Times article tells of hundreds of such people seeing into nonphysical. Some research shows that some 80 percent of people experience such states.

So this state of being isn’t unusual. Most of us lose conscious connection with this state early on. And that’s why so few of us in our adult years enjoy the joy youngsters’ enjoy. Which brings me to the example my client shared.

Children remembering

The example comes from a Reddit thread. The thread features a tweet from a woman talking about something extraordinary about her child, who is six:

The first person mentioning a conversation had with their child.

As you can see it got a lot of engagement. But in the Reddit thread someone posted her own experience with her son, who is four. This young person talks about how he was here before as a father. Then he finds himself back here again, seemingly that being something he didn’t want:

The reply adding another anecdote to the conversation.

The thing is, we all experience similar things early on. But, again, we give them up as our ego kicks in, in full. With practice though, a person can, in their adult years, redevelop the ability to perceive things such as past lives and other experiences in nonphysical such as dreams.

Later in the Positively Focused Way, dreamwork and meditation, two potent ways to consciously reconnect with our origins, are included in the practice. Both are simple processes, but putting them into practice isn’t easy. Which is why I work with clients weekly.

In time, though, rediscovering the wonder of past lives and nonphysical experiences surfaces. And those experiences can greatly influence our physical, waking lives.

Why are they remembering now?

So why are kids coming into the world remembering past lives? Is there something afoot here? Something that wasn’t happening before?

I think there is. I believe the human experience is expanding through a great leap. We’ve had such leaps before. This one is prompting us to cast away our old limiting beliefs. And as we wrestle with the expansion in the physical, some beings incarnate with their connections in tact, then use those connections to inspire others.

That’s what’s happening with these two kids. It’s the same thing happening with transgender kids. All this is the divine unfolding of humanity moving forward and it’s a great thing. Our kids are not here for us to teach them. They’re here to teach us, to help us remember what we are.

I’m eager for more of these kinds of things happening. They foretell an exciting future. One where our past life recollections may be as easy to recall as our last meal or our last date with a loved one. And when more people can remember their past lives, I won’t be surprised when our entire civilization suddenly changes because of it.

Or maybe I will be.

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Life Can Be Filled Only With Great, Awesome Things

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TLDR: The author asserts that brainwashing is a good thing. Ridding the brain of negative beliefs creates a corresponding increase in positive experiences, says the author, until life becomes an ongoing, ever-getting-better experience.

“In every life a little rain must fall.”

“Life isn’t all rainbows and butterflies.”

“We must take the good with the bad.”

Certainly these “pearls of wisdom” sound familiar. For sure we can think of many others. They all convince people that they must accept the facts: There will always be experiences they won’t like.

What’s curious is, those who don’t accept these beliefs don’t experience experiences they don’t like.

That’s right. Some, to use another pearl of wisdom “have their head in the cloud.” Doing that, they discover what I’m writing about today: that in their life, only good shows up.

Yep. That’s right. Life needn’t contain a SINGLE negative thing. Hard to believe but it’s 100 percent true. I should know: I’m living that life. My clients are increasingly doing the same.

So how can this be? Are people who live like I live brainwashed? Are their heads in the sand? Or is something else more profound happening?

Let’s take a look.

Brainwashing: A good thing

For sure things that seem inherently bad happen. When they happen, though, are they really bad? And how do people living similar to me and my clients interpret such happenings? These are good questions.

To answer them, let’s take a look at “brainwashing”. At first is sounds like a bad thing. But, like bad things happening, maybe there’s a different way to look at that concept. Maybe there’s a more empowering way to look at “brainwashing”.

First, the word itself. “Washing” the “brain” sounds like a great thing. Is washing our bodies a bad thing? Of course not. When we bathe we’re removing dirt and grime. We’re removing old skin cells and other material from our bodies. We’re removing things we no longer want on us. After a bath or shower, we often feel refreshed. So we typically want to bathe or wash frequently.

The same can be true for washing the brain. In washing the brain, we’re removing things we don’t want in us. So what do we not want in us? Well, those who’ve shown themselves enough evidence that thoughts create reality don’t want in them thoughts creating realities they don’t want. Washing the brain, therefore, is a great thing. And, just as with bathing our bodies, after the brain is washed of those unwanted things, we feel refreshed. We feel refreshed mostly because, when thoughts creating realities we don’t want are washed away, our reality reflects that pure, clean inner state back to us. That reflection is one including only great, awesome things.

So brainwashing is a great thing. It gets a bad rap though because of the word’s common context: when an authority does it to a hapless victim.

It’s in our best interest to wash our brains. (Photo by David Maltos)

Context matters

What’s interesting though is, this common context is humans’ everyday experience. They’re constantly subjected to authorities conditioning their inner state with thoughts. Thoughts that, if they thought about them, they wouldn’t want in there.

By “authorities” I’m not only talking about bosses and politicians, teachers and parents and church leaders. I’m also referring to the media, commercial marketing, and society in general, what I call “the peanut gallery.”

I’m sure you’re familiar with most of those “authoritative” sources. But let me give you an example of how “the peanut gallery” can exert powerful influence on people’s inner state.

Two of my clients recently experienced different negative situations. While both situations are different, the origin of those situations was the same. The first client was experiencing extreme mental and emotional abuse from her daughter. I won’t give details, but, believe me, the daughter’s treatment of her mother was horrendous…by human standards. The second client struggled with his self-torment. He believed he must suffer in his marriage rather than create one that works for him. He suffered so much he contemplated killing himself. But the same origin of his suffering kept him from doing that. I’ll clarify that in a moment.

First, however, let’s look at the client with a hellion of a daughter.

A hellion of a daughter

Extremely positive reasons are responsible for my client birthing a child-devil. I won’t get into those reasons though because that’s not the point of this post. After years of this young lady savagely abusing my client, my client finally had had enough. Of course, anyone who loves themselves would have ended that relationship decades ago and handed the imp to her father.

What kept my client sticking to all this abuse? The Peanut Gallery, aka other people’s opinions. Beliefs like “A good mother never deserts her child” and “Mothers should love their children no matter what” and “You can’t leave your daughter, that would make you a bad mother” and “What kind of mother would do that?”

Now read this carefully: what’s really interesting was other people in my client’s life were telling her she should cut ties with the daughter. So where were “other people’s opinions” coming from? That’s right! They were all in my client’s head! Her own beliefs, in other words.

But they aren’t really “hers”. Well, they are, but that’s not where they came from. She allowed herself to believe these beliefs as a result of living life and allowing herself to “take in” or conclude beliefs based on her experience. Her experience with all those other authorities I mentioned above including a not-so-good upbringing from similar-minded parents.

So “the peanut gallery” typically isn’t actual people telling us what to do or not do, although it can be. It usually is, however, our own thoughts we use to judge ourselves in advance for behavior we’re inspired to take. We’re inspired to take that action because it will make life better for us. But we often talk ourselves out of taking that action.

Let’s look now at the second client.

Frozen to the point of suicide

He too, has a Peanut Gallery going on and on in his head. What he really wanted at the time was a different marriage. He considered divorce, but his Peanut Gallery wouldn’t allow that. “I have to stick it out” and “I’d be a bad person to divorce her” and “what kind of husband deserts his wife, especially one who doesn’t work and is ill?” all racked his brain.

The problem was as he stayed in the marriage, thinking thoughts amplifying his negative experience, he got to thinking about ending it all. But even there, the Peanut Gallery stopped him. Thoughts like “What would people think if I did that?” and “What would my wife do? She’d be devastated” froze him in his tracks.

Now, suicide is not a bad thing. It’s like the death penalty, which isn’t bad either. When a person dies, whether at their own hands or the hands of another, they return to nonphysical, are instantly removed from their suffering and return to a state of sublime bliss. So it makes total sense a person in deep despair, pain or other intense suffering would make that choice.

There are other ways to relieve such suffering, however, which my client now is realizing. He’s no longer thinking about leaving his marriage or killing himself. But what’s really interesting is, as he washes his brain free of his Peanut Gallery, he’s finding an interesting experience: happiness and empowerment. Even with his marriage not changing a bit.

Empowerment is intoxicating

The first client too got a glimpse of that extremely liberating state that is empowerment. After she washed her brain free of disempowering beliefs, I asked her “how would you feel after cutting ties with your daughter?”

She immediately answered with one word: “Relief”.

Now relief isn’t the greatest, but it’s a start. And after amplifying her awareness of how much better her life could be without her daughter in it, she too found herself empowered. Empowered enough to take the action.

She’s still getting ready to take that action. But more than ever before, she’s seeing not only the wisdom of that new thought, she’s also feeling more and more the empowerment that will be increasingly hers after she takes it.

Empowerment is so intoxicating. It’s rarely felt by humans. But it’s supposed to be our natural state as we move through life experience.That partly explains its intoxicating nature; it feels so good because it’s so rarely felt. Even when it’s felt for a while though, it can become addicting: once one gets a taste no other life condition will do.

And when a person lives in that state for a while, life must reflect that state back to them in the form of ever improving life situations. Is must, because that’s what life is: a reflection of our inner state.

Everything is good

And that’s why I assert that life can only contain good things. That and because I’m living the experience. My clients are living that experience too, increasingly. It all happens when we wash our brains of thoughts life reflects back to us making us see the bad things happening.

Now there are two things to note about this phenomena: one, bad things do happen. We see them every day. But those things needn’t be interpreted as bad. Being able to see them as good is possible.

For example, if you know what you’ve read here, we could say such things, when they happen, happen because the person they happen to is figuring out through life feedback how to think better. Two, just because they happen to others doesn’t mean they must happen to us. In other words, this time-space reality is filled with VARIETY. Variety of EVERYTHING. Including life experience.

Abraham sharing their wisdom.

And that’s another way we can wash our brains, thus enabling us to see only good: by recognizing that that variety is a great thing. Not only does it act as feedback for us, but it also allows us to select from the variety experiences we want to have.

Now, it takes a while to produce such a life because others have trained us into accepting that “In every life a little rain must fall” and “Life isn’t all rainbows and butterflies” and “We must take the good with the bad.” But once we wash our brains of those thoughts, we discover a new world dawning. And in that bright light of dawn we find our bliss. The bliss of empowerment.