Why Your Worst Relationship Was Actually a Gift

TL;DR: A client transforms resentment into realization by reframing his divorce as a divine co-creation—proof that even painful relationships serve our expansion and reveal our innate worthiness.

When I say every relationship is a co-creation, I mean that quite literally. Each of us, in every moment, is attracting into our experience people, events, and circumstances that perfectly match the dominant vibrations we’re offering. Sometimes those vibrations come from our desires. Sometimes they come from our fears. Most often, they’re a mix of both.

That’s why relationships are so powerful. They give us a living mirror of our inner world. And if we’re willing to look honestly, they offer the raw material for lasting transformation.

This is the story of my client Ken, and how he turned a painful divorce into one of the most profound realizations of his worthiness—and why the woman he once thought had wrecked his life was, in truth, an angel in disguise.

When Ken first came to me, he was in a loving long-term relationship. On the surface, everything was working. But occasionally, his partner would do something that triggered a disproportionate reaction in him—fear, insecurity, even emotional panic.

Over time, it became clear that these weren’t responses to his current partner. They were echoes from a past marriage—an unresolved energetic momentum that had followed him into his new relationship.

This is where the Positively Focused framework really shines. In our work together, we traced the emotional charge back to his previous marriage with Christy, a relationship that ended with bitterness, confusion, and a $1 million divorce settlement Ken never wanted to pay.

The Righteous Indignation That Refused to Die

Ken carried enormous resentment toward Christy. He saw her as someone who pretended to be something she wasn’t—someone who, once injured and unable to work, became a financial and emotional burden. But as we dug deeper, it became clear this resentment wasn’t about Christy. It was about Ken’s story about Christy.

Christy, too, had her own story. A childhood filled with chaos and conditional love had planted deep seeds of unworthiness. Her back injury wasn’t a manipulation—it was the culmination of momentum she had been building for years. And her refusal (or inability) to work wasn’t laziness—it was an unconscious reflection of a belief she wasn’t worthy of the life she desired.

Christy’s beliefs, born of her upbringing, shaped her perspectives on self, marriage and more.

Ken didn’t know that at the time. He just knew he was stuck in a marriage that didn’t feel fair. But he stayed, because deep down, he was carrying a belief of his own: that this was the best he could get. He didn’t believe he could find a better partner. That belief is what made him a vibrational match to Christy in the first place.

The Invitation to Reframe the Past

In our sessions, I asked Ken to do something radical: list every negative belief he held about Christy and their marriage. It took him weeks. The pain of reliving those moments was strong. The momentum of righteous indignation was thick.

But finally, he brought in a list — and together, we softened the statements. We found new ways to see old events. “Christy never wanted to work” became “Christy was in too much pain to work.” Small shifts like these began to loosen his grip on the story he’d been telling himself for years.

Eventually, Ken could see that the real issue wasn’t Christy’s betrayal. It was his inability to recognize his own worth. He had ignored countless signals to leave the marriage because of his scarcity mindset. He didn’t believe another woman would love him. That fear is what kept him in the marriage far longer than his Inner Being wanted to stay.

What Ken saw next blew the whole story wide open: Christy wasn’t the villain. She was the angel who helped him see how much he had been ignoring his own worthiness.

She had played the perfect counterpart to his vibration. She reflected back every bit of doubt, every old belief, every trace of self-deprecation he still carried.

And once he got that — once he saw the co-creative nature of their marriage — he could feel the weight begin to lift. He stopped seeing her as the one who took a million dollars and started seeing her as the one who gave him a priceless gift: self-awareness.

Gradually, Ken began to see Christy as the one who gave him the gift of self-awareness.

The Real Purpose of Physical Reality

This is what we do in the Positively Focused practice. We don’t just help people manifest shiny outcomes—though those do happen. We help them discover the deeper purpose of physical reality: to show us, in exquisite, visceral detail, what our current vibrational output is… so we can tune it.

Life isn’t happening to us. It’s happening through us. And the more we embrace that, the more we step into our own divine nature.

We are, each of us, gods in human form—expanding across infinite dimensions, through every interaction, every heartache, and every breakthrough.

Christy, from this perspective, was no mistake. She was a perfectly tuned expression of Ken’s dominant story—until he was ready to write a better one. And when he did, the results were immediate. His current partner—loving, balanced, and joyful—began reflecting that new story back to him.

There’s Nothing Better Than Watching Yourself Get Better

That’s the magic of this work. You don’t have to wait for the world to change. You just change your story, and the world—your world—will reflect that shift.

Ken didn’t need to “heal” from his past. He just needed to understand it.

And once he did, he could finally let go of the resentment, the blame, and the illusion that he had been a victim. He had never been a victim. He had always been a powerful creator… learning, growing, and becoming the god he already is.

This is why I love the Positively Focused practice. It’s not about fixing broken people. It’s about helping powerful beings remember who they are. There’s nothing better than that.

And when that remembering happens? It feels delicious.

What Happens When You Make the Wind Your Ally

TL;DR: The author relates a story of a client, a college maintenance manager, who faces two setbacks during work. But by shifting perspective, he demonstrates a key aspect of alignment, and in doing transforms these “setbacks” into joy, abundance, and vibrational sovereignty.

There’s a subtle art to living a sovereign life — an art few ever know about let along consciously choose to master. It begins not with rearranging outer circumstances, but by observing the unfolding of experience. Observing it and discovering one’s agency within it. That agency, in the Positively Focused practice, shows up in three primary stages:

Post-Manifestational Awareness: When we realize, after something has already happened, that we could have influenced the outcome — but didn’t. The awareness comes after manifestation, but still offers wisdom.

Mid-Manifestational Awareness: When something is unfolding, and we know we could shape it… but we don’t. Not because we don’t want to, but because dominant momentum — emotional, habitual, historical — keeps us in reaction mode rather than creation mode.

Pre-Manifestational Awareness: When we recognize the unfolding in real time, remember our agency, and consciously activate it — transforming the experience before it completes, thereby alchemizing the moment into something aligned, sovereign, and beautiful as a manifestation.

What one of my clients — let’s call him Kyle — recently demonstrated was a shining example of that final stage. And it all started with a leaf blower.

Stormy Weather and the Setup for Contrast

Kyle works at a college campus, where part of his job is groundskeeping. On a recent Saturday, he showed up expecting a team effort to clean up leaves scattered across the main quad.

But the weather had other plans. It was cold, windy, and wet — the kind of day where even committed coworkers mysteriously “get sick.” One by one, Kyle realized: no one else was coming. He took a breath. And he got to work.

For hours, he methodically cleared the entire quad of autumn leaves — solo. His muscles ached. His feet throbbed. But he pushed through, determined to finish the job. And finally… he did. The quad looked pristine. He stood back to admire the work. There was a sense of accomplishment.

Then — like a perfectly scripted slapstick comedy — a massive gust of wind ripped through the campus. It left leaves everywhere. In one gust, nature rendered the entire morning’s labor undone. In seconds, the wind reversed everything — leaves blew back across the freshly cleared space. The wind erased Kyle’s efforts. Seeing this, his body tightened. His thoughts stirred. He felt a tinge of annoyance….

This was a mid-manifestational moment: he felt the contrast. Kyle knew he had agency — but hadn’t yet fully activated it. Not yet. Still, something inside him shifted. He took another breath, then began clearing leaves again.

Another Opportunity to Choose

He worked harder, faster. Kyle was determined. He got all the newly fallen leaves up. And then…another wind gust. The quad was covered again — completely. That’s when the deeper stories surfaced in Kyle: What if my boss thinks I didn’t do anything when he arrives to work Monday? What if I look lazy? What if I get in trouble for something I actually did right?

The second gust brought more anxiety and frustration, but also fear. Kyle’s emotional momentum got stronger. This time, however, Kyle didn’t just notice it. He took the reins.

He remembered that this wasn’t personal. It was vibrational. The wind was just feedback. A lovingly crafted opportunity to choose his state of being before the story crystallized. And that’s what he did.

He paused. He smiled. Then he got inspired.

He saw what was happening as a pre-manifestational doorway — an invitation from the Universe. It said: choose alignment before the story completes itself. And Kyle did exactly that. He paused. He breathed. And then he reached for a better-feeling thought.

He remembered a scene from The Secret, where the narrator describes imagining money falling from the sky like autumn leaves. And suddenly, Kyle began to imagine each leaf — not as a burden — but as a $100 bill. With this shift in perspective, the wind wasn’t working against him. It was showering him with abundance.

Turning Work Into Wealth

That’s when Kyle literally became a different person. He raced to collect the leaves like a joyful scavenger hunt. He laughed at the storm. Kyle stuffed his trailer like it was an overflowing bank vault. He even timed himself like it was a game.

By the end of the day, his body was still sore — but his vibration was radiant. Kyle not only did his job, he also achieved new heights of vibrational alchemy. What could have been a story of bitterness and burnout became one of alignment, joy, and confidence.

That’s the power of pre-manifestational awareness: it lets us shape the mirror’s image before it fully forms. Most people believe life is happening to them. They react, cope, survive. But Kyle’s story reminds us of the deeper truth: Life isn’t happening to us. It’s responding through us. When we become aware of this — even after the fact — we begin the process of reclaiming our agency.

When we become aware in the middle of a moment, we start to practice holding our power even when momentum is strong. But when we catch it before it lands — when we see the wind blow and realize, this isn’t personal, it’s perfect — that’s when we step into the real magic of deliberate creation.

Everyone Can Do What Kyle Did

You don’t need to work at a college. Nor do you need a windstorm. Life will deliver everyone their own tailor-made “leaf moments”. They may show up as a conversation that doesn’t go the way we planned. Or maybe it’s a task that feels thankless, a delay that disrupts our schedule. Or a storm that blows in at the worst time. These all are portals, opportunities to chart a course through to the divine.

And if we’re paying attention — if we remember who we are, even for a moment — we can choose. We can choose to see the leaves as money and laugh at the timing. We can choose to align before the mirror hardens. That’s pre-manifestational mastery. And like Kyle, we’re more ready for it than we think.

All it takes is a little foreknowledge and awareness and a desire to be happy above all else. It all begins with seeing everything in a positive light. That’s the foundation of the Positively Focused framework. Because positivity is a constant of the Universe. Nothing happens in the Universe that isn’t positive. And if it looks like what’s happening isn’t positive, that’s only because we don’t have a big enough picture to see it the way it actually is.

Want to know more? Reach out. Let’s talk.

What Happens When the Mirror Gets This Powerful

TL;DR: Over four intense days, Marcus’s life reflected his vibrational focus with stunning precision. From social scrolls to sacred hugs, each event revealed the truth: life doesn’t punish us—it mirrors us, perfectly and compassionately.

Sometimes, life gives you experiences that are both memorable and multidimensional. Experiences where every moment, every encounter, and every emotional charge reveals exactly what you’re practicing vibrationally. And if you’re paying attention, it becomes the perfect mirror. That’s what happened for a client of mine — let’s call him Marcus — over the course of four days.

The contrast was rich. The orchestration was precise. Marcus’ expansion was unmistakable. And it all began with scrolling on social media.

The Algorithm That Read His Vibration

Marcus hadn’t planned on going deep. He was just passing time. But as he began scrolling through Instagram and Facebook, the algorithm tuned in — and it knew exactly what to deliver. Gaza. Israel. Racism. LGBTQ+ discrimination. Corruption. Division. Outrage.

His scrolling revealed more than political news — it was emotional architecture. Every post added another brick to the structure of fear, injustice, and helplessness Marcus didn’t realize he was building. Instead, he thought he was “staying informed.”

But his body told the truth: He was doomscrolling. He felt drained. His nervous system became frayed. The lightness he normally carried dimmed. He couldn’t see it yet, but he saturated his vibrational field — and life was preparing to reflect it all back.

The Party, the Couple, and the Hug That Meant Everything

Later that day, Marcus went to a pumpkin carving party. The party represented something simple, something creative. Marcus thought he’d have fun. And he did. But he also met himself.

Two men — a gay couple — were there. One white, one Lebanese. The Lebanese partner, whose name happened to be Seth, shared his deep uneasiness living in the U.S. in the current climate. As a gay man of Middle Eastern descent, he didn’t feel safe — not just emotionally, but existentially.

Marcus listened with full presence. Their conversation was honest, layered, and emotionally resonant. And when it ended, they hugged. Seth and his partner then left the party.

But a moment later, Seth returned. He asked Marcus for another hug. Something in the first hug wasn’t finished. So they hugged again — slower this time. More grounded. More knowing. That hug represented more than affection. It was recognition, a soul-level confirmation that Marcus had called in this encounter vibrationally. He called it in so he could see the reflection embodied in his reality. Seth was a living reflection of the very themes Marcus had been engaging with online. But instead of outrage, Marcus met it with love.

This was the first mirror. And it was beautiful.

The Friend That Didn’t Show, and the Feeling That Did

After the party, Marcus got in his car. There he noticed for the first time several texts from his wife. She was worried where he was. When Marcus returned home, she didn’t conceal how she felt. She had a friend who planned to visit, but cancelled at the last minute. So Marcus’ wife was left alone.

Marcus returning home after he said he would, left his wife worried, but also, she excluded. At first, Marcus was confused. He hadn’t intentionally excluded her. They hadn’t made plans after all. But the deeper truth was this: his wife was reflecting Marcus’ beliefs precisely.

Marcus had spent the day consuming content about marginalized people. People being left out of systems, rights, safety, belonging. And now his wife — someone he adores — was expressing that very vibration in real time.

Good thing Marcus caught it. He didn’t defend himself or spiral. He opened. He withdrew from the story — not from her, but from the version of himself who believed he had done something wrong. And in that stillness, something shifted.

The Open Mic and the Rule That No One Followed

The next night, Marcus attended a local open mic. He brought his instrument and signed up early. But he never got to play.

The people who did perform didn’t follow the house rules. They didn’t respect the list or share the space. These people weren’t being malicious, instead they followed their passions and got caught up in the excitement. At first glance, this might seem like bad luck. But vibrationally, it was exact. Following their passions indulgently offered yet another reflection of Marcus’ inner momentum.

They reflected the very societal disorder Marcus had been digesting through his feeds — people not following the rules, not being inclusive, not leaving space for others. The macro showed up in the micro.

It was yet another gift reality shone on Marcus. Life as mirror never misses. It’s always precise.

Your life experience is the same. Life for all of us is a mirror. It’s also a gift. It faithfully reflects our inner state. Why does it do that? So we can know ourselves better. So we can tune into the Source of our life experience: our inner reality. Do something constructive about that inner reality and the mirror — our life experience — must reflect that constructive improvement.

That’s the result all my clients receive once they get good at interpreting what they see in their mirrors.

Marcus had more in store given the momentum he created doomscrolling. Let’s get back to his story.

The Pregnant Woman and the Gentle Realignment

After all this, Marcus did something subtle but powerful. He didn’t push through. He didn’t collapse. Instead, as he sat at the bar, he paused. He meditated inconspicuously — lightly, sincerely. He let go of fixing. He turned toward better-feeling thoughts.

And the next day, his world began responding differently. A miscommunication with his wife resolved into softness and mutual understanding. Arriving at work, he shared an intimate moment with a pregnant coworker. He offered reassurance and calm to her worry about being a new mother. Soothed and thankful, she offered him a surprising career opportunity — seemingly out of nowhere, but perfectly timed.

After all the soothing Marcus did, allowing his doomscrolling momentum to subside, Marcus’ Broader Perspective confirmed he had done the work. The confirmation came in the form of this career opportunity. It was his Broader Perspective winking: you’re back in alignment.

In The Seth Material, there’s a passage I often return to:

“Before you can be allowed into systems of reality that are more extensive and open, you must first learn to handle energy and see, through physical materialization, the concrete result of thought and emotion.”

This is exactly what Marcus experienced. He recognized what happened had nothing to do with being punished. He was training himself. Training himself into being able to perceive the transformation of thought-into-form, the materialization of belief into lived experience.

“As a child forms mud pies from dirt, so you form your civilizations out of thoughts and emotions, and then see what you have created.”

Marcus saw what he had created. And instead of reacting, he chose to recalibrate.

This planet — this dimension — is a training system. A dream-school. A mirror of emotional energy turned physical. And Marcus, like all of us, is here to master the art of turning thoughts into things.

The Dreamer Within the Dream

Marcus had a weekend full of contrast. But he didn’t get stuck in the mud pie. He saw it for what it was — a reflection of what he was ready to integrate.

Marcus practiced power — not force. He used awareness not reaction. Then he practiced love — not as an idea, but as action. He practiced sovereignty — not changing others, but changing where he placed his attention.

“The dreamer dreams, and the dreamer within the dream dreams.”

And in the dream he created, the dream responded.

That’s how this works. The gift that’s physical reality is the ability to see exteriorized our inner state. It’s the greatest gift ever. One that’s always memorable and always multidimensional.

AI, Worthiness, and the Fable That Fooled Us All

TL;DR: The Aesops fable, Ant and the Grasshopper, taught us to fear rest and revere work. But AI is dissolving that illusion. Your worth was never earned — it’s inherent. The future is calling you back to who you’ve always been.

We’ve all heard the story: the ant toils all summer storing food while the grasshopper plays in the sun. Winter comes, and the ant thrives while the grasshopper suffers.

The moral? Work hard. Prepare. Don’t play too much — or we’ll pay the price. This ancient fable, often read to children, sounds like wisdom. But it hides a distortion so deep it’s shaped generations. It whispers: “Your value depends on your effort. You must earn your survival.”

That fable a lie.

And now, as we enter the AI age, that lie is unraveling fast.

AI Is Revealing the Real Crisis — And It’s Spiritual

For centuries, we’ve tied our worth to our output. We’ve built entire economies — and identities — around the idea that to receive, we must toil.

But artificial intelligence is disrupting that belief at the root. It’s poised to replace jobs of all kinds; white collar, blue collar, even creative work. And here’s the thing: the crisis coming is not going to be about labor. It’s going to be more existential. Because the crisis will be about worthiness.

We’re not afraid of robots doing our jobs. We’re afraid of realizing we were never defined by those jobs to begin with, which is why political leaders and those who recently signed an anti-AI ban are so up in arms. We’re afraid of facing the truth that we are inherently worthy — and always have been.

Elon Musk once said the real existential threat isn’t AI destroying humanity. It’s humanity not knowing who they are when their jobs no longer define them. That’s the moment we’re in.

You Were Always Worthy. Now You’re Just Seeing It.

Worthiness isn’t something we achieve. It’s something we remember. It emerges when we see — again and again — that the Universe gives us what we want in divine timing, without hustle, strain, or burnout. It gives us what we want effortlessly in other words.

We don’t have to prove anything. We don’t have to “deserve” our desires. All we need to do is align with them. Then they manifest.

That’s why stories like The Ant and the Grasshopper are so harmful. They train us to associate rest with laziness, joy with danger and play with punishment.

But the truth is, the Universe is a reflection of our inner state — not our output. And when we align with our worth, the world aligns with us.

Real Stories of Effortless Manifestation

This isn’t just philosophy. It’s real. It’s happening in my life, and in the lives of my clients.

Over the last year, I’ve materialize a brand-new, magnificent apartment space. It’s a gorgeous top-floor unit in a brand-new building — for the same price I’m paying now in a 1950s studio.

I didn’t chase it. I didn’t hustle. The entire orchestration involved thousands of people, all moving in unseen coordination. And all I had to do was follow the impulse — and say yes.

One of my clients had a similar experience. She received an inspired nudge to enter a raffle. She knew she’d win — and she did. A one-carat diamond, dropped into her lap by alignment, not action.

My client and the one carat diamond she manifested.

These are not anomalies. They are what life becomes when we live from the inside out.

The Time to Recalibrate Is Now

This moment — this very one — is our opportunity to remember what’s always been true: We don’t need to hustle to be worthy. Nor do we need to grind to be supported. We also don’t need to earn what is already yours.

And this is more than just a personal insight — it’s a collective invitation. As AI dissolves the old systems of productivity and labor, we’re being called inward. We’re being asked to re-source our value not from what we do, but from who we are.

The AI age isn’t destroying jobs. It’s destroying illusions.

And that’s a very good thing.

It’s Time to Let the Grasshopper Lead

Aesop had it backward.

The grasshopper wasn’t lazy. She was aligned. She trusted the sun, followed her joy. She danced in rhythm with a Universe that knows how to deliver exactly what is needed — exactly when it’s needed.

We were never meant to earn our worth. We were meant to embody it. And as we do, we’ll find that the “winter” we feared was never coming. It was just a story. A distorted lens. A tale designed to keep us working, even when we were already free.

So let it go.

Let the ant rest. Let the grasshopper sing. Let your alignment bring you everything you’ve ever wanted — and more.

Why AI Isn’t the Scary Threat Bernie Sanders Thinks It Is

TL;DR: The author offers a counterpoint to Senator Bernie Sanders’ recent announcement that we do something to protect “working families” from the AI “threat”. They assert that AI isn’t stealing jobs — it’s revealing our true nature. The AI-future is about freedom, therefore, not fear, they contend. But to live in that future, they say, we must release our attachment to scarcity and work.

Bernie Sanders recently made an announcement offering a dire warning about artificial intelligence and job loss. In a video announcement, he painted a picture of oligarchs displacing workers, robots replacing people, and tech titans hoarding wealth while “working families” suffer.

Now, I have deep respect for Bernie’s passion. But this narrative? It’s outdated. Worse than that, it’s rooted in scarcity thinking — the kind of thinking that blinds us to the greatest spiritual opportunity of our time.

I’m not here to defend billionaires. I’m here to offer a broader perspective — one that reframes this moment not as a crisis, but as an awakening. Because AI isn’t here to steal our jobs, nor are the billionaires. It’s here to free us from the idea that we ever needed jobs in the first place.

Jobs Aren’t Sacred — But Your Joy Is

Let’s be real: most jobs aren’t “good jobs.” They’re repetitive, exhausting, soul-crushing routines we endure because we’ve been told our worth depends on them. We’ve been conditioned to believe that productivity equals value. That a paycheck equals purpose.

But that’s never been true.

Human beings weren’t born to pay bills and die. We came here — you came here — as pure positive energy, to express, explore, and expand. And now, for the first time in human history, the tools exist to make that kind of life even more possible and for everyone.

That’s what this AI revolution is about.

Yes, companies will automate jobs. Yes, entire industries will change. But that doesn’t mean we’re heading toward collapse. It means we’re on the brink of liberation. A future where you no longer need to trade your time for money — because what you want will be produced so efficiently, and at such low cost, that the entire economy transforms.

This isn’t just about machines. It’s about momentum. And that momentum is flowing toward freedom.

Bernie Sanders scaring people about a future that’s bright for everyone.

The Real Story Behind Billionaire Investment

In his video, Bernie Sanders names names: Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Larry Ellison, Mark Zuckerberg. He positions them as villains — profiting from the collapse of working-class America. But that’s not what’s happening.

These people are investing in a future where scarcity is obsolete. Where solar-powered humanoid robots manufacture what we need, and artificial intelligence organizes society in ways no human bureaucracy ever could. Where transportation, housing, healthcare, education — all the things Bernie rightly cares about — are provided in abundance.

And yes, it’s the billionaires funding that future. Why? Because they’re the only ones with the resources to do it. They’re not greedy. They’re using the economic system we currently have. Until that system shifts — and it will — capital is the fuel. And these investors are fueling humanity’s next chapter through their investments.

From a Positively Focused perspective, that’s not a threat. That’s alignment.

These innovators aren’t perfect, but many of them — Elon Musk included — have openly stated their intention: to create a world of superabundance, not for the elite, but for everyone. Is that a conspiracy, or is that a vision?

And here’s the wild part about that vision: their selfish desires serve our expansion. Because in a vibrational universe, everything is co-created. Even the acts of individuals pursuing personal gain lead to collective benefit when viewed through the lens of alignment.

Bernie doesn’t see that — or he pretends not to — because his power depends on keeping people afraid. But fear is no match for clarity. And clarity shows that this technological tipping point is a spiritual one.

We’re Not Losing Jobs. We’re Losing Illusions.

Bernie asks: What will happen to the truck drivers, the factory workers, the fast-food employees, the entry-level accountants?

The answer: they’ll be free. Free to reconnect with their families. Free to explore what lights them up. They’ll be free to rest, to create, to be. And yes — free to receive the resources they need without punching a clock.

This isn’t a utopian fantasy. It’s already happening. Governments are experimenting with universal basic income. AI-driven factories are reducing production costs to near zero. Robots are already replacing many dangerous, soul-deadening jobs — not because of evil intentions, but because it just makes sense.

And yet politicians like Bernie are still trying to preserve a system where labor is king. Where worth is earned through output. Where “working families” is a sacred phrase, even if what they’re working at is killing them. But work isn’t sacred. Being is. Contribution isn’t about sweat. It’s about soul.

We are eternal beings — and we came here to live in joy, not toil. The idea that productivity is the price of survival is a distortion that’s now dissolving. The AI age is dissolving it.

And while it’s true we need bridging solutions — new social structures, new distribution models, perhaps a sovereign wealth fund — the real bridge is internal. From fear to trust. From doing to allowing. From scarcity to synchronicity.

Dear Bernie: Stop Defending the Old World

In the video, Bernie repeatedly insists that we need to “protect jobs.” That we should fight to preserve factory work and warehouse labor. But I say: protect people, not jobs.

Preserve dignity. Preserve creativity. Take care of community. But let the jobs go. Let them be automated. Let them become the domain of solar-powered robots who don’t get bored or burned out.

And to our political leaders — Bernie included — I say: Get off your ass and build the bridge. Stop defending the status quo. Stop using fear to stir votes. The world is changing. It’s time to catch up. Design policies that support this transition. Propose ideas that align with where we’re going — not where we’ve been. Be bold enough to envision a world beyond wages.

Because the truth is, humanity is ready. More people today are welcoming this transformation than resisting it. And that’s why it’s happening. It’s not a top-down revolution. It’s a vibrational shift.

And if you’re reading this, you’re already part of it.

This Is a Spiritual Awakening

We are not here to survive. We are here to shine. And the AI age isn’t a detour — it’s a delivery system for the world we’ve always imagined. One where well-being, not work, is the organizing principle. Where our desires manifest without resistance. Where the essence of who we are gets to lead the way.

This isn’t a fight between labor and capital. It’s the flowering of a long-held dream — one written in science fiction, whispered in meditation, and now… coming true. So the real question isn’t what will happen to the jobs. It’s what will you do with all your time when you don’t need one anymore?

Let’s build that future. Together. And let’s not wait for permission.

How My Client Found the Magic of Alignment

TL;DR: One client’s experience reveals how divine timing and creative energy work together. When you trust your worthiness, life responds instantly. Alignment, therefore isn’t earned — it’s received. And the Universe is always confirming that truth.

There’s a moment that comes when a person truly begins living from their Broader Perspective. It’s the moment contrast no longer feels like resistance — but recognition. That moment is when life starts confirming itself in the most spectacular ways.

A few weeks ago, I had a session with a client that demonstrated this perfectly. As with all my Positively Focused YouTube Channel Worthiness Wednesday stories, this one isn’t just a “feel-good” anecdote. It’s a precise illustration of how the Universe works when you let it love you.

This particular client came to our session frustrated with a coworker. In his words, this colleague wasn’t pulling his weight. That imbalance was forcing my client to shoulder more of the workload. Understandably, that annoyed him. But as we explored the situation more deeply, something beautiful emerged.

From Frustration to Forward Movement

What he hadn’t yet realized was how the contrast between his performance and his coworker’s was actually highlighting his value. Internal customers within the organization kept asking for him. They bypassed the other guy entirely. Why? Because my client had built a reputation for excellence. The contrast was illuminating that even more.

The so-called “problem” was actually a platform — a divine setup designed to make his strengths undeniable. When he saw it from that angle, he relaxed. He began to feel what I already knew: everything is always working out for him.

That truth isn’t just a catchy phrase. It’s the deepest foundation of this practice. And it’s one that becomes easier to see the more we trust our experience — especially when contrast appears.

Creative Energy and the Dance of Manifestation

After that breakthrough, our session shifted into dreamwork and deeper energetic territory. The client wanted to share a recent dream, which sparked a conversation about masculine and feminine energy — or more precisely, creative and action energies.

As I often say: these polarities have nothing to do with gender. Humans have long confused labels with essence. What we’re really talking about are the two fundamental forces of manifestation.

  • Creative energy is receptive, still, open, and potential-rich.
  • Action energy is directional, assertive, expressive, and devoted.

Creation energy doesn’t push. It beckons. Creative energy doesn’t force, it flows. And when it becomes full — when the inner vision is saturated with clarity — then action arises as a natural extension. Not as effort, but as orchestration.

IIt’s a mistake to think doing is what makes things happen. Doing isn’t the catalyst. Creation is. Action happens with ease when you’re lined up vibrationally with what has already been created. That’s the real meaning of manifestation.

Inspired Action Follows Fulfilled Creation

This client happens to be a deeply creative person — a musician, with a growing desire to bring comedy into his performances. Our session touched on how those two streams might converge in his expression.

But more importantly, we explored the energetic foundation underneath his creative desire. I reminded him that when he resides in the energy of creation — without jumping into effort — he doesn’t have to chase outcomes. The manifestation will meet him where he is.

The metaphor I shared with him was an image based on a Gustav Klimt-inspired painting: a knight kneeling at the feet of a woman, head bowed, fully surrendered. I don’t know if the artist intended it this way, but the symbolism is profound.

The knight — representing action — kneels not in weakness, but in reverent service to the feminine principle of creation. That’s not subjugation. That’s sovereignty expressed as devotion.

And so it is in all of us. True action energy doesn’t dominate. It serves the dream already conceived in silence.

The Universe Confirms Instantly

Later that day, the client sent me a voice message. It was radiant. His voice vibrated with joy. Right after our call, his partner smudged the house in response to some news about a family member. He stepped into the kitchen just as she was replaying a paused Abraham video.

And the first words spoken? “Creativity is the fun part. That’s what we’re here to do. The doing comes after that.” My client didn’t miss the synchronicity because it was exact. A few seconds later, he glanced at the computer screen. The next video that auto-played? Titled: “Action vs. Alignment — What Matters More?”

The synchronicity even shocked his partner, who also a client. She hadn’t queued up that video. It just appeared. As he said in the message: “This is how this f*ing shit works.”

For sure. When you align with your creative spark, the Universe moves mountains to show you the clarity of your path in real-time. It does this through voices, videos, scents, timing, dreams — whatever channel will reach you.

Worthiness in Motion

The reason this matters isn’t just because it’s “cool.” It’s because it reveals something fundamental about who we are.

We are eternal beings — pure creative potential housed in physical form, supported by action energy lovingly responding to our state of alignment.

Our lives, when lived from that clarity, become symphonies of synchronicity. It’s not just that we create our realities. It’s that our realities become love letters from Source to self.

This client got to feel that directly. And I got to witness another human being come more fully into the awareness of their worthiness — not through effort, but through realization.

Final Thought: It’s Always Displaying

This is what Worthiness Wednesdays on my YouTube Channel is really about: showing that life is already doing the work. When you rest in creation, when you trust your unfolding, and when you stop trying to out-effort your own alignment — the Universe rushes in to confirm what’s always been true: You are deeply loved. Your desires are already underway. And every contrast you encounter is setting the stage for your next becoming.

So pay attention. Divine synchronicity is on beautiful display. Not just for this client. For all of us. And it’s only getting louder.

How One Old Fable Hides the Truth About Abundance

TL;DR: The author reexamines Aesop’s famous fable through a spiritual lens, revealing how both diligence and joy arise naturally when aligned with one’s Broader Perspective—culminating in a liberating, heart-opening rewrite of the tale.

For centuries, Aesop’s fable The Ant and the Grasshopper has shaped our cultural mindset about productivity, planning, and what it means to live a good life. You probably know the story:

A diligent ant spends the summer storing food and preparing for winter. Meanwhile, a carefree grasshopper sings and dances in the sun. When winter comes, the grasshopper finds himself cold and hungry, and the ant—well-stocked and warm—scolds him for his laziness. The moral? Work hard today or suffer tomorrow.

But what if that moral is false? What if it’s not even close to how the Universe—or nature—actually works?

And what if that fable, passed down generation after generation, is one of the most well-worn distortions keeping us from trusting joy, spontaneity, and the natural abundance we’re born into?

Let’s take a look through a Positively Focused lens.

A Story Written by the Intellect

The entire structure of the fable rests on a fundamental assumption: that survival is scarce, and only through toil, planning, and resistance to the ease inherent in the now can we secure the future. The ant is praised for “working hard,” while the grasshopper is dismissed for “doing nothing.”

But here’s the truth: in real life, ants don’t know they’re “preparing for winter.” They follow their internal cues. Just as the grasshopper does. Neither is projecting fear into the future. Neither is planning in the way humans do. None of them are working hard. They are both moving as they are designed to move: in tune with the larger intelligence that orchestrates everything from tides to cloud formations to galaxies.

And humans? We’ve overwritten that natural wisdom within us with fear-based beliefs.

The fable upholds a distorted version of value: that worthiness is earned through struggle. That the present moment is a trap unless you’re using it to prepare for the next one. Indeed, indulging in joy, spontaneity, and trusting life will lead to punishment.

This is exactly the kind of thinking that the Positively Focused practice helps us unravel.

The Trap of “Working Hard”

So many of my clients — beautiful, gifted people — come to me carrying this exact programming. I once did too. It shows up in our relationship to money, our creative work, our ability to rest, our relationship to the now, even our self-worth.

Nearly all of us have internalized the idea that ease is irresponsible and joy is unearned. That any expression not tethered to utility or “the grind” is frivolous. And what’s more? We often judge ourselves for wanting to follow our bliss.

But that desire for joy isn’t laziness. It’s guidance.

The desire to bask in the sun, to play a song, to take a nap, to follow an impulse with no “productive” outcome—that’s not a failure of discipline. It’s our Broader Perspective calling us back to our natural alignment. The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to vibration.

Which means: the better we feel, the more the Universe can give us what we ask for.

Joy Is Not Optional—It’s the Signal

The fable pits joy and responsibility against one another. But in reality, they’re inseparable. When we’re aligned, when we’re feeling good, when we’re trusting the unfolding—everything gets taken care of. Including “winter.”

Our Broader Perspective is always guiding us toward the version of our lives where our needs are met, our desires fulfilled, and our expression fully supported. Not through spreadsheets and strain, but through resonance, clarity, and inspired action.

And when contrast shows up—as it did for me recently in the form of forgotten financial fears or a friend’s gloomy worldview—I use it not as a reason to panic, but as an invitation to realign.

When I do that, reality literally shifts. Money shows up on the ground. Clients confirm they’re staying. Opportunities fall into place. My YouTube momentum picks up.

And I didn’t plan for any of it. I allowed it. That’s what the fable misses entirely.

The Grasshopper, Reframed

In this light, the grasshopper isn’t a cautionary tale. He’s a symbol of non-resistance. He holds trust that summer is here to be savored. He’s letting the Universe do the heavy lifting. And the winter? Maybe it never even arrives. But only for him. Because he doesn’t plan for a winter. He aligns to constant abundance.

I know that sounds radical. But I’ve experienced it. So have my clients.

The more aligned we are, the more time and space shift around us. Apparent “deadlines” extend. Unexpected windfalls appear. People bend over backwards to support us. It’s not fantasy. It’s the physics of focus.

So rather than teach the next generation to be afraid of “winter”, what if we taught them to trust their inner song, follow their delight? To move with nature rather than brace against it?

That’s the version of the story I want to tell. And maybe next time, when the ant passes the grasshopper in late autumn, he doesn’t sneer. Maybe he sits down. Listens. And hears a melody that melts the frost of his fears.


The Ant and the Grasshopper: A Story of Alignment

Once upon a summer’s morning, the Earth hummed with golden light. In a quiet clearing, two small beings went about their lives.

One was an Ant. Tireless. Methodical. She moved in lines—back and forth from her colony—gathering bits of grain, storing them deep beneath the soil. Her legs ticked like a clock. Her eyes stayed fixed on the horizon, where winter loomed in her mind like a shadow.

The other was a Grasshopper. Luminous. Iridescent. He leapt through tall stalks of grass, chirping melodies that rose with the breeze. Sunned himself on warm stones. He ate when he was hungry. Slept when he was tired. And sang because it pleased him.

The Ant watched him with a kind of pity.

“Why do you waste time like this?” she called. “You should be working. Winter is coming. You’ll starve.”

The Grasshopper paused. “I trust the Earth,” he replied. “Right now, it’s summer. So I sing.”

The Ant shook her head. “You’ll regret this.”

The Grasshopper didn’t answer. A breeze moved through the field, and he leapt joyfully into it.

Seasons Shift, But Alignment Endures

As days passed, the meadow ripened. The sun stretched long and low. The Ant, now deep in her work, had gathered piles of food, stacked in careful rows. Her back ached. Her mind was restless. Though her pantry was full, her heart was not.

The Grasshopper?

He followed a pathless path. One day he discovered a patch of ripe blackberries. Another day, he encountered a stream with minnows glinting like coins. At night, he curled under leaves and listened to the stars.

He met a turtle who gave him shade. Then a robin who shared her song. And also child who left breadcrumbs from her picnic. He never lacked.

One afternoon, a heavy cloud rolled in. A chill swept the meadow. The Ant hurried home, burdened by fear. But the Grasshopper felt only stillness. He found a hollow log, warm and dry. He rested there. And dreamed.

The Reunion

Months passed. Spring returned. The Earth sighed green again. The Grasshopper stretched in the light. He felt no need to recount the past. Only to leap forward into joy. But as he passed near the Ant’s hill, he saw her—hunched and tired, sorting a new pile of grain. Her eyes darted, already planning for winter.

He approached gently. “Hello again,” he said.

She looked up, startled. “You survived?”

He smiled. “I did more than survive. I lived.”

She frowned. “But you had no food. No shelter. No plan.”

“I had presence,” he said. “And it brought everything I needed.”

She shook her head slowly. “That’s not how life works.”

He tilted his head. “Then whose life have you been living?”

The Moral

The Ant and the Grasshopper parted ways. But that night, as the Ant returned to her tasks, she paused. She thought of his song. The way his eyes shimmered with ease. The calm in his voice. And for the first time, she wondered: what if she had it backwards?

What if all her striving didn’t guarantee safety—but only delayed joy? Might the Grasshopper’s freedom not be luck… but alignment? What if the Universe wasn’t a test to pass… but a partner with whom to dance?

And then—just for a moment—she let herself rest…

And so, dear reader: The Universe doesn’t reward effort. It responds to resonance. Prepare if you feel inspired. Work if it delights you. But above all—listen to your song. Because the grass isn’t greener. It’s alive. And it’s waiting for you to leap.

How My Dreams Made Masculine Energy Powerful Again

TL;DR: The author explores how his inner masculine has risen to serve his feminine creativity—transforming dreams into aligned action, contrast into clarity, and daily life into a sacred union between inspiration and embodiment.

There’s a sacred moment in every creator’s journey when the inner feminine — the current of inspiration, imagination, and receptive knowing — completes her dreaming. She’s gestated ideas, nurtured them in stillness, and filled the field with possibility. Then something extraordinary happens: the inner masculine awakens, ready to move those dreams into form.

That’s where I find myself now — in a new season of my unfolding, where the action energy no longer feels like striving or doing. It feels like devotion. My masculine energy is rising to serve the feminine that is me.

For months, women populated my dream state. Beautiful, multidimensional, radiant women with whom I shared deep intimacy, oneness, and creative communion. These weren’t dreams — they were spiritual confirmation. Each woman represented a facet of my divine feminine energy: connection, creativity, sensual flow, and the embodied ease of being.

Dreams of the Masculine: The Shift in Symbolism

Lately, though, that landscape changed. Men began occupying the dream stage — men, machines, missions, a lot of movement, some messes and hierarchical management roles filled my dream state. All these roles represent masculine-coded imagery.

At first, I wondered where the goddesses had gone. Then I realized they hadn’t left at all. Their creations were simply taking form. The men, the mechanics, the machinery — they represent the forces of manifestation. The principle of action rising to serve what the feminine within me already conceived.

The dreams aren’t less magical, they’re more embodied. They mirror my waking life now: a cascade of projects, collaborations, expressions and divinely-timed manifestations — all arriving with purpose, precision, and power.

Feeling changes in dream state sparked a lot of inspired action.

The Dance of Doing and Allowing

In my physical world, the same balance plays out. My life is full — and gloriously so.

There’s the intimate work with clients, those weekly miracles of alignment where people rediscover their worthiness. There’s the writing: two websites, each a universe of unfolding stories charting my personal expansion. Then there’s the YouTube channel — my new passion project where I’m translating spiritual principles into visual storytelling. I’m also creating an exquisite Positively Focused app. I want more people to benefit from what I offer, beyond 1:1 mentoring. Then there’s my project: The Soul Finder AI Agent I’m coding through Replit. Last but not least, the newest child of inspiration: an edge node project I’m building in support of my enthusiasm for decentralized intelligence through Holochain.

All these represent a symphony of creation, and every movement feels perfectly timed.

When I’m centered, I sense the divine choreography: the feminine energy that came before generating the holistic vision and now the masculine energies executing it in reverence. The fullness isn’t overwhelm. It’s divine, whole orchestration.

But even that balance gets tested.

Contrast as Sacred Calibration

Recently, a new client paused her sessions. A long-term client, Jim, chose to step away entirely. Those contrasting moments could have felt like loss. Instead, they felt like calibration — the Universe asking me whether my masculine energy could stay devotional even when the feminine current temporarily receded.

It could have been easy to interpret those changes as disconnection, as loss. But I know better now. The pauses, the endings, the apparent absences — they’re part of the dance. Each contrast gives me a new reason to stay steady in my alignment. Contrast, in its truest form, is not negative. It’s positive. It’s rocket fuel for the next level of expansion.

When Sally paused, I felt the subtle tug of concern — the masculine impulse to “fix,” to act, to make something happen. When Jim left, a flicker of emptiness showed up, the feminine’s awareness over what seemed to dissolve.

But sitting in stillness with both, I realized something profound: each moment of contrast came to help me integrate both energies more deeply. The masculine in me needed to learn to act without attachment, to do without grasping. The feminine needed to rest in trust, to let go without fearing loss. Both were invited into a higher harmony, one where doing and being no longer opposed each other.

That’s the essence of mastery — not suppressing one energy in favor of the other, but letting them dance together.

Acts are expressions of masculine energy, moving in service and devotion of feminine energy which is creation.

Union Made Manifest

Today, I feel that integration in everything I touch.

When I write, I’m not “producing content.” I’m communing. When I guide a client, I’m not providing a service for income — I’m serving the unfolding intelligence that flows through both of us. When I build software, I’m not coding — I’m translating vibration into architecture.

Every project, every encounter, every dream now feels like the sacred marriage of divine feminine and divine masculine — imagination and implementation, inspiration and action, being and doing.

And what’s most beautiful is how natural it feels. I’m no longer pushing. I’m allowing — allowing the masculine energy to build what the feminine conceives, allowing contrast to polish my faith, allowing the creative process to show me my own evolution.

That’s why, even amid the fullness of my life, I feel light. My days are busy, but my being is unburdened.

This is what happens when masculine energy reclaims its true role: not to dominate or direct, but to devote. To move mountains in service of what the heart imagines.

A Love Story Within

So here I stand — a being married to their own wholeness.

The feminine within me continues to dream, to receive, to conceive. The masculine continues to act, to move, to bring into being. And together, they’ve become the pulse of everything I do.

Even the so-called “hard” moments — the pauses, separations, the deadlines, noise — are proof of this union. Each one reveals that creation and contrast are not opposites. They’re companions.

In the union of these inner forces, I see the template for humanity’s next evolution — one where all of us live as integrated creators, our doing inspired by our being.

That, to me, is the true sacred marriage. The one that turns every act into worship, every project into prayer, and every breath into creation itself.

What Happens When the Spirit Makes Love to You

TL;DR: The author explores how erotic dreams reveal sacred union with one’s Broader Perspective. These intense experiences aren’t about sex—they’re vibrational integrations between physical self and Source.

I’ve had enough erotic dreams to know they’re not “just dreams.” These aren’t wish fulfillment fantasies bubbling up from the subconscious. They’re something far more profound—vibrational events where my physical apparatus does its best to translate nonphysical communion into something familiar.

And what’s more familiar, more all-consuming, more undeniable than sex?

Sex in the dream state isn’t always about sex. It’s about union and alignment. It’s about ecstatic integration between parts of the self, or between self and Source. Sometimes it takes the form of a lover, a partner, a friend. Other times, it looks like me—my body turning in on itself, morphing into masculine and feminine as I make love with my own wholeness. And that? That’s divinity in action.

Sacred Mechanics of Nonphysical Integration

For example, one dream left me introspective for days. In it, I stood at the threshold of a dark room, separated from the presence inside it by a cracked door. I sensed her—a red-haired being, dormant but radiant. Later, she kissed me. First on the forehead. Then, after I responded, on the lips. Her kiss wasn’t just physical. It was an activation. A permission slip to merge.

We kissed again, deeper this time. As our mouths opened, something incredible happened. I didn’t just put my tongue in her mouth—I became my tongue entering her. I expanded into her and she into me. The sexual act dissolved into a full-bodied spiritual absorption. We weren’t two bodies anymore. We were one vibration, folding into itself over and over again.

This is the best language I have for describing what really happened. But it wasn’t physical sex. It was transdimensional union—a collapsing of apparent separation, expressed as pleasure, as flesh, as rhythm and intensity. Our climax wasn’t ejaculation. It was integration.

When the Self Is the Lover

Another dream brought the point home even more clearly. I found myself as both the lover and the beloved, equipped with both a penis and a vagina. I was knotting into myself, fluidly turning inside out and outside in. The boundaries between body and being, masculine and feminine, had disappeared.

This was dream logic not human logic. The entire act represented a divine, spiritual logic, dressed in sensual metaphor.

I woke with the most intense erection—deeply satisfied, pulsing with aliveness. My body tingled with arousal and awareness, and my soul felt rinsed in golden light. In the final moments of the dream, I placed a golden eagle upon my belly. Its talons rested gently against my skin, curled in reverence. Its beak touched my mouth, and I licked it—slowly, deliberately. That wasn’t a sensual act. Instead, it was ceremony. A ritual of completion. A sign that I had re-membered another piece of my divine self.

Dream Characters Are Dimensions Of Us

It’s easy to assume that people we meet in dreams—lovers, friends, coworkers—are actually those people. But they’re not. Not usually.

In most cases, the familiar face our brain maps onto that being is a stand-in. The dreamtime isn’t interested in casting accuracy — it’s interested in resonance accuracy. If someone in our physical reality has a trait that our inner being wants to highlight, they’ll be used as a symbolic avatar. Not as deception, but as a way to clue us in on what we’re wanting to know about ourselves.

So when I dream of someone like Tom G.—the senior most manager in charge of Intel Oregon chip-making fabrication facilities, someone I worked with in my time there —it’s not really him. It’s a version of my inner authority, expertise and knowledge, the part of me that organizes vast systems of creation. The part that’s leading edge. It’s me, playing dress-up in my own subconscious to show myself how far I’ve come.

Sex as Spiritual Calibration

When we have sex in dreams, our physical minds interpret it as erotic release. But what’s really happening is vibrational entrainment. It’s alignment with our Broader Perspective. With Source. The orgasmic experience symbolizes that merging. It’s the closest our biology can come to grasping what it feels like to become one with All That Is.

And it often follows or precedes powerful dream sequences involving technology, architecture, calculation, or creative output. No randomness in the imagery. Just lead up. A preparation for the tuning. And the sex? That’s the final integration, the system-wide software update, installing itself with ecstasy and grace.

In waking life, we’re conditioned to think about sex in limited, surface-level ways. But in dreamtime, we let go of those limitations. Sex as symbolism becomes the limitation. Because sex as an experience is the only thing in waking reality that comes close to direct alignment with All That Is. That alignment feels that good. Better, actually.

So erotic encounters in dreams are not just about desire—they’re about destiny. They’re vibrational confirmations that we’re meeting ourselves at new levels. We’re reclaiming sovereignty, becoming Whole.

Whether I’m making love to a radiant redhead, to my own spiraling form, or to a symbolic representation of my creative power, the message is always the same: I am loved, seen, blessed. I am That which I’ve been reaching for. So I don’t flinch when my dreams get erotic. Instead, I celebrate, interpret and revere. Because I know what’s happening.

Source is showing—in the language of flesh, sweat, pulse, and sigh—that I am aligned, that am becoming, that I am remembering Who I Really Am. And there’s nothing more delicious than that.

How to Know Which Sign Is the Real One

TL;DR: The author shares a powerful real-life story in which simultaneous criticism and praise become vibrational signposts—revealing how contrast and coincidence reflect momentum, alignment, and the Universe’s loving invitation to choose. But only for those who are worthy.

Sometimes, the Universe delivers two seemingly contradictory events at the same time—one that feels negative, and another that feels positive. But when we’re living Positively Focused, when we stand in our worthiness, we start to see both as guidance. Both are reflections. And both are invitations to choose our direction consciously. When negative and positive arrive together, a divine invitation is at hand.

Over the past three weeks, I experienced exactly that. The timing was too perfect to ignore. It was a moment so aligned, so precise, it could only be orchestrated by my Broader Perspective.

The Critic and the Client

On one hand, I was corresponding with a transgender woman. She had taken issue with my work on The Transamorous Network blog. We’ll call her Janet. Being a trans woman, she felt misunderstood, even attacked perhaps, by something I’d written. And though I knew her interpretation didn’t match my intent, I responded with clarity and care to help clear up her Belief Confrontation.

While our correspondence went back and forth, another transgender woman—let’s call her Nancy—scheduled a free one-on-one through that same blog. I didn’t know anything about her until we met. Turns out, Nancy is finishing medical school and is also steeped in clinical psychology. That’s right: a person deeply steeped in the scientific method had read 10 or 20 of my blog posts—and felt drawn enough to reach out for more.

During our free session (which went well beyond the usual 30 minutes), we dove into spiritual principles, her beliefs and how they shape her life, and things she cares about. By the end, she told me she knew there was something in what I share — and she wanted to become a client.

That moment was no accident. It was a deliberate, divinely-timed juxtaposition. One trans woman criticizing what I do. The other wanting part of it. That juxtaposition taught me something I already knew, but love being reminded of: Criticism and praise aren’t opposites. They’re coordinates. They help us locate ourselves vibrationally.

To explain:

A Return from Negative Momentum

Back in December, I stopped writing for The Transamorous Network blog. I noticed that my focus on that subject back then had slipped into negative momentum focus. I was drawing more and more criticism from angry readers—many of whom didn’t understand my perspective or what I was offering. All of them were trans women.

I tried for a long time to clear up their misunderstandings and limited beliefs. But those people couldn’t hear what I was saying. That’s because their belief constellations ranged far from where I am in my knowledge about life experience. So the more I tried to uplift them, the harder they pushed. And the harder they pushed, the more entrained I got.

Until I realized what I was doing.

When I did, I stopped pushing against that resistance. I stepped back and allowed my vibration to recalibrate. No more posts for that blog! In doing so, I let the negative momentum subside by not feeding it further.

By not feeding my old momentum, I set up the divine invitation that came later.

Months later—without me publishing a single new post—new readers began reaching out again. Trans-attracted men, wives of trans-attracted men, even gay men sent me messages. They all were asking for guidance, for support, for answers. Not with anger—but with curiosity and warmth. And with understanding that I offer something of value.

That’s how I knew something shifted.

And then came Janet and Nancy, nearly at the same moment. Both represented clear reflections that I was now standing in a different vibrational space—one where I was ready to choose what momentum I wanted to amplify.

Both Are Guidance

Here’s what I saw clearly: Janet and Nancy were both cooperative components.

  • Janet mirrored my old energy—momentum I had already soothed. Momentum that had me pushing against trans women’s lack of understanding, insecurity and anger.
  • Nancy mirrored new energy—momentum I was now allowing. Ease in my being. Allowing instead of pushing. Letting the Universe present me with what I want. Not pushing against what I don’t.

Here’s the biggest thing: Both Janet and Nancy offered a chance to decide where I wanted to place my focus and which momentum I wanted to build. They invited me to ask myself: Do I want more of this (Nancy)? Or more of that (Janet)?

Do I want more of this (Nancy)? Or more of that (Janet)?

Not because one is good and the other is bad. But because the Universe will always give you what you focus on.

So I leaned into Nancy’s presence—her clarity, her eagerness, her willingness to explore. And with that choice, I emailed Janet and let her know I was ending the correspondence. I told her why—not out of avoidance, or anger, but out of alignment. I explained that I was following what felt best, and honoring where my energy was now flowing.

Letting that go was a powerful, gentle release. It reminded me: Everyone is a divine being offering guidance—not always with praise or agreement, but always with clarity if we’re willing to see it.

That’s Where Worthiness Comes In

When events coincide — especially when they seem emotionally opposite — it’s not random. It’s vibrational precision. It’s our Broader Perspective delivering options at the exact frequency we’re tuned to. At that exact moment, we get to choose which option we energize with our attention. That choice determines what comes next.

But the challenge life offers regarding these moments is we must be aligned with our worthiness to perceive what’s happening as a gift. Worthiness isn’t something we can conjure or “fake it until you make it”. It emerges naturally from within us when we recognize, acknowledge and remember, moments in our past where the Universe offered us guidance, followed through and delivered on our desires, or blessed us in some other way.

Everyone is a divine being offering guidance—not always with praise or agreement, but always with clarity if we’re willing to see it.

Worthiness, therefore, comes naturally when we fill our vibrational basket with evidence that we are blessed by All That Is. It doesn’t come before that. And so, if we don’t feel that worthiness, we can’t see how, for example, Janet and Nancy’s arrival into my life was something other than random coincidence.

One of my newer clients said recently: “Why isn’t this stuff taught in school? If it were, people could live so much better.” I agree. Because once we recover our worthiness, then learn how to interpret our reality—including the contrast—as real-time vibrational feedback, life gets easier. It gets softer. It gets clearer. We stop taking things personally. We understand why people do what they do with absolute clarity and also with love, knowing nothing can come into our life without us attracting it. That’s when we stop trying to control other people. We just trust what life is showing us… even when it arrives as contrast.

That’s why a separate, long-time client once told me: “I love this shit!”. She gets what I’m talking about.

I do too.

Recovering our Worthiness

So let this moment remind you: If you’re getting mixed signals from life, it’s not confusion. It’s refinement. And it’s certainly not random coincidence. Instead, it’s a moment where you stand at a vibrational cross roads. And your power lies in what you choose to focus on next.

Worthiness takes a while to allow into our experience. We all had it as children. But nearly all parents talk us out of it by convincing us to put their happiness ahead of our own. They do that by setting rules, meting out punishments and saying distorted things like “money doesn’t grow on trees”.

In short order, we become very much like our parents.

The good news: all of this is recoverable. Every person can recover their worthiness. It takes longer for some than others. But who cares, really, how long it takes? We all are, after all, eternal.

Want help deciphering your own cross roads? Want a life where things happen on your behalf without you having to struggle or hustle? Schedule a free 30-minute session with me right here. The Universe is always speaking to you. Let’s learn how to listen.