
TL;DR: This reflective post explores a real-life interaction highlighting the limits of “healing” narratives. It illustrates how emotional contrast serves expansion through vibrational clarity, not trauma recovery.
There’s a common belief in many spiritual and New Age communities that emotional wounds must be healed, processed, and purged before one can move forward. The language of trauma, shadow work, and inner child healing often dominates these spaces. And while those interpretations can offer temporary comfort or a sense of meaning, from a Positively Focused perspective, none of them are necessary. In fact, they often reinforce the very frequency that keeps people locked in painful cycles.
This is the story of “Kellie”—a woman I met synchronistically—and how her journey with me became a living example of the difference between those two worldviews.
The Meeting: A Manifestation
We met at Gigi’s, a charming breakfast spot. I had gone there with the intention of having a joyful experience, maybe even meeting someone stimulating.
That’s exactly what happened. Kellie appeared as a delightful new acquaintance. We sparked a conversation rooted in spiritual curiosity. She shared her journey: a former software engineer with time spent in well-known software engineering corporations, now in a transitional space after escaping both high-tech burnout and a controlling Christian cult. Kellie was recalibrating her life.
She shared that she was deeply spiritual—into lucid dreaming, astrology, and alternate timeline work. We began spending time together casually, often sharing perspectives on spiritual topics. From the start, I recognized her as a manifestation. That’s why I never felt resistance to our dynamic. But I also never mistook her for a client. So I didn’t share the full depth of being Positively Focused.
Over time, however, I noticed a pattern. On at least three occasions, Kellie had intense negative emotional experience while in my presence. Something would trigger her—a memory, a comment, or even an impulse—and she would spiral. Each time, our conversation had to end because she was inconsolable.
Still, I stayed open. I saw her emotional responses not as problems, but as data. Kellie was calibrating. Just not consciously.
Better timelines?
Then, during one of our coffee shop conversations, she brought up her ability to perceive timelines. She always spoke of them as dark or painful, especially those involving her mother.
So I asked a simple, high-vibration question: If you can perceive other timelines, why are the ones you access always negative? What if there are joyful timelines you could feel into? Ones where your mother loved you well, or where your tech career was fulfilling?
That question opened the door.
Later, Sarah texted me, thanking me for what I shared. She said it helped her remember that she could access positive timelines too. That she was on a grand adventure.

I responded, offering a broader perspective: that nothing comes “unbidden”, that her Belief Momentum instead was drawing specific versions of reality to her, and that cleaning up those beliefs would align her with timelines she prefers. I even gently suggested her distrust of corporations might be limiting her.
I added that her beliefs about being “banned” from ChatGPT (which she had shared with me) might also be evidence of her vibrational focus. Maybe her beliefs about malevolent systems were recreating experiences that seemed like censorship or exclusion I told her.

I offered this not as critique, but as a mirror. From a high vibration. She had asked for my insight after all. So I gave it.
The Reaction
Days later, she wrote back, saying my message hit like a “gut punch”. It exposed a “gaping wound” Kellie said. She thanked me, but also said she needed several days to recover. She interpreted what I said as harsh, even though she acknowledged it came from love.

She said she was still processing and needed compassion. That she felt blocked from experiencing more positive timelines, and maybe that blockage was necessary for her growth. Kellie even said the more Positively Focused timelines were “blocked” by design.
Recognizing Kellie wasn’t in a good place, I offered what I knew before hand, but didn’t heed, that the accuracy of my client framework can be hard to hear if the listener doesn’t have some context to receive it in:

Then I sought clarification. Some of what she said perplexed me:

Kellie responded saying she felt attacked. Then corrected herself: she now saw that wasn’t true. Still, she said, she didn’t want to pursue the conversation further.

From the Positively Focused Perspective
This exchange clarified something I already knew: what I offer is sacred. And it’s best offered within the container of client relationships. Because unless someone has done some calibrating, the perspective I bring can feel destabilizing.
Kellie’s response reflects a common misunderstanding: the belief that there are emotional “wounds” which must be “healed”. That someone else can “expose” those wounds. That life happens to us, and we must recover from it. But from a Positively Focused perspective, there are no “wounds”. There is only vibrational momentum.
What feels like a wound is just the contrast between a deeply practiced belief and the perspective of our Inner Being. The bigger the contrast between those two, the more it hurts. But that pain isn’t an indication that something went wrong. It’s evidence that something is ready to change.
What’s more, the idea that we need to “heal” implies something is broken. That something bad happened that we didn’t ask for. It implies that we are victims of circumstance. But that’s never the case.
Everything that happens is an answer to our vibration. And every experience—even the painful ones—are invitations…into greater clarity, alignment, and freedom. That’s why I never use the language of “healing” or “wounding.” Such language disempowers. It locks people into a linear process of “recovery” rather than an expansive, upward spiral, quantum path of calibration.
Kellie wasn’t wounded. She was experiencing the emotional signal of Belief Momentum that no longer serves her. But she can’t hear that.
What She Reflected Back to Me
I’m grateful to Kellie. She reminded me that Positively Focused isn’t for everyone. It requires readiness, willingness and devotion. It definitely demands a certain level of vibrational stability.
Kellie also showed me how easy it is to interpret feedback through the lens of pain. Her belief that I “attacked” her wasn’t about me. It was about how her Belief Momentum filtered my words.
I honor that. But I don’t take it on.
Instead, I use it as a reminder that the practice I offer works best when someone is asking, deliberately and consistently, for what I offer.
After our final exchange, I sent her a message of closure. One rooted in appreciation, clarity, and forward movement. Here it is:
Final Thoughts
Not everyone is a client. And not every spiritual “seeker” is ready to release the “wound/healing” paradigm and become a “finder”. That’s ok. But I’ll continue to offer what I offer: a path of deliberate, joyful calibration, where nothing is broken, nothing went wrong, and everything—yes, even ChatGPT bans and gut punches—is an invitation.
To those ready to live from that knowing, I say: welcome home.
There’s so much joy in the world. There’s so much joy in our lives. And there’s so much joy in us. Tapping into that joy can be exhilarating and leads to a tremendous sense of worthiness. It’s exhilarating and addictive: once someone discovers Positively Focused as a way of being, they hardly ever go back to living they way they did before.
That’s because everyone’s Broader Perspective wants them to embody, live and express that joy. Some, however, aren’t ready for that. Some still must move through disempowering momentum. That’s ok too. I’m happy with the world as it is. And, I’m joyful for those who encounter Positively Focused, then become clients.
It’s so fun being Positively Focused. But it’s even funner when like-minded others join in on that fun.





















